8 Signs Your Personality Might Be Intimidating to Others
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- Опубликовано: 25 сен 2023
- Do you ever wonder if your personality has an unintentional "intimidating" vibe? We will be talking about 8 key signs that might suggest your personality is sending off intimidating signals, even if that's not your intention. Understanding these signs can help you build stronger connections and communication with those around you.
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yes, I am terrifying
Oh yes
Indeed
*shakes in boots scaredly*
Well I'm hiding now you scare me 😂
Same. lol xD
1. You’re snappy and reactive
2. You think with your head
3. You’re persistent
4. People seem to tiptoe around you
5. You tend to dominate conversations
6. You speak in an aggressive tone
7. You’re critical of others
8. You are straightforward
Me and my boyfriend😂
♌🦁 GRRR
Persistence
That's why no one will hire me
#5😂
Thank you for the summary!
At this point in my life I am aware that I intimidate people and I no longer have the energy to care. It feels like if I’ve made someone uncomfortable, even accidentally, it no longer matters what I do next. Even if I adjust my energy around that person later they seem to be constantly on edge. I spent a lot of time fixating on how to change this and I’ve now concluded that at this point it’s on them.
Get what your saying, sometimes easier to think i rather you hate me for what i am than love me for what im not
@@yavb472 more or less this. It can apply to first impressions or people I am more interested in.
Precisely. If someone has a problem with your genuine and honest self, it's on them, not on you. Their infantile insecurities are not yours to solve. And you learn whom to avoid whenever possible.
I'm very much a lone-wolf and introverted. Loud and aggressive people are surface-level intimidating, but being silent, observant and not following the status quo seems to intimidate people on a deeper level. I'm actually a very friendly and engaging person, I just don't have the energy, or will, to 'join in' for the sake of fitting in.
Same bro same
My mom even begs me to make friends at school cuz it's not "normal" for me to not have friends
r/im14andthisisdeep
@@AizestuYmezstuif you are still at school then you have not had time to develop a 'lone wolf' personality so no you are Not a lone wolf! Now go get your homework done pest! 🐺
r/youngkidsyoutube @@de341f6
I feel like this is one of those things that you can only understand if you are like this yourself (otherwise people think you’re like bragging). I relate to what you’re saying a lot. I am a fairly accomplished person in a lot of aspects in my life and I am extremely perfectionistic which I feel like Can come off as being judgemental. I watch videos like this because I feel like people see me as an ideal or as a concept but not really as a human being with actual thoughts and emotions (I’m not sure if that makes sense). I find it strange that when some people want to come off as intimidating. While I do want people to respect me, I don’t want them to be walking on eggshells around me.
I don't usually write comments like this but I just like to say that watching your videos had inspired me to do a presentation about social anxiety and how to overcome it for a mental health project at school, It was displayed throughout the whole school (about 650 students) and won second place. In order to do this project I had to come over my social anxiety and your videos helped me with that. So I'd just like to say thank you for helping me and inspiring me to help others
You probably have help alot of your fellow students good job 👍
GREAT JOB! I am so proud of you!! This id amazing!! ^^
Good on you! Wish I had seen your presentation when growing up ✨😊
Props to you mate, it must have taken a lot of courage for you to come out of your comfort zone and make such a presentation, that is very commendable and I hope you’re proud of yourself for that ;)
Good job! I have social anxiety, and I sure wish I had learned about it in school.
If you are calm, no matter what happens, this is actually a lot more unnerving to most people. It shows that you are the one controlling the situation, meanwhile getting angry shows the opposite, you are being controlled, which is a sign of weakness. A robot like calmness and showing others that you really don’t give a damn about their opinions will make them avoid you. Strangely enough, having a strong will and determination scares people as well, while that’s exactly what I look for when I am looking for a partner or friends. A strong will is needed to succeed and survive in a harsh and bloody world
yes I've noticed this at work. I stay calm cool and collected and I notice people seem to tip toe around me too. I think it's because I'm very straightforward and when I'm working I don't ever smile and that seems to cause people to get on edge.
This came out at an interesting time, I've been told I'm intimidating twice in the last two weeks. Which is quite odd since I'm a very kind person.
What were the reasons why you've been called "intimidating"? Did they tell you their reasons?
@@Psych2go The answers I got from them were that I was smart, or that I was pretty and it made people afraid to talk to me. I think it is very possible they just were not very confident and it made them afraid to mess up something when talking to me. Which makes me sad to see, because I would never be mean to them over something so small.
I've had strangers and friends outright tell me I'm intimidating but it never made much sense to me. I'm not shy, but I'm not exactly in the habit of casually chatting or being outspoken, and usually I just go about my own business.
I think it's important to be able to recognize these things too, it isn't always a bad thing. I believe I share some of these intimidating traits and it has made people on edge, and while I work to counteract that, I am very persistent, straightforward, and occasionally dominating in conversation. They are personality traits, particularly due to me being on the spectrum, and they are positive in many ways, but I have learned to tone it back when it isn't needed.
Just try not to overthink and mistakenly tone it down when it is actually needed at full force. Strive to be your genuine self whenever possible, don't deny yourself over some insecure normies. This won't end well for your mental health, and not just mental. That is certainly not worth it.
0:00 intro
0:46 you gafare snappy or reactive
1:22 you think with your head
1:46 you're persistent
2:16 people seem to tiptoe around you
2:40 you tend to dominate conversations
3:21 you speak in an aggressive tone
4:03 you're critical of others
4:36 you are straightforward
4:57 outro
5:23 AD
Thank you for taking the time to make the time stamps for everyone!
😁@@Psych2go
I definitely "gafare" snappy or reactive.
6 out of 8. I always seemed to stratal the line between intimidating and approachable and I get now why that is.
@@fernandomachado1728sarcastic much 😂
I’m taking drama class this year, I’ve noticed I’ve become more energetic, a bit more social and happier. I’m glad I took drama because I’ve always had trouble with anxiety and connecting with people. This year I actually enjoy talking to my teachers and like to interact in the lecture. Now I’m so glad I can finally be happy again ^^
Good 4 u. Wish u to be happy
I’ve been told I was intimidating and/or arrogant before because I do think with my head a lot and I am rather straightforward. That doesn’t mean I don’t have feelings or aren’t compassionate, of course; it just means it takes a while for me to warm to people and show them more of my inner workings. While I didn’t necessarily strive for good grades or academic achievements at university, I always strove-and still strive-to gain a deeper understanding of whatever I’m studying. To some, being knowledgable of certain topics seems to come across as arrogant. I also had conversations with people who told me they thought it was pretty cool, though.
I just think that anyone who is confident, happy, outgoing and passionate scares people. They don't like that you outshine them and highlight their inner insecurities.
What a relief, with this video alone I can't tell I didn't become the horrible person I thought I could. Back in 2017 I made a commitment to be a more compassionate and less uptight person, I'm glad to see that I've succeeded.
That's good to hear! Why did you make a commitment in 2017 to become a more compassionate person?
@@Psych2go because I was not feeling good about the way my relationships were, it was like I was putting this big brick wall to isolate myself from the world.
Whenever I hear someone said in a certain manner, I tend to react. I also think with my head because I observe on what’s going on around the environment and in my mind.
Not by the whole class but most of my classmates perceived me as someone who is intimidating. I don't have so much traits other than being straight forward, thinking through my mind and being critical.
Intimidating is a bad label for other people but for me, it's not. It's a positive thing for me and therefore, a compliment because the very same people who thinks I'm intimidating thinks that I'm kind, a good listener, and fun to be with.
I also admit to myself that I am intimidating but it is when I needed to. The greatest think about it is that I can manage it
I’m none of these things except the tone, but I can still be known to scare and intimidate people regularly
I asked my friend what his impression of me was, he said "you're kind but snappy". I think his perspective of me completely changed after he didn't help with a school project and I scolded him.
To be fair we had a huge amount of important projects due that month and stress was consuming me, but I wish I wasn't harsh with him back then.
I have people told me that I’m intimidating, but I think it’s because I am very secure with myself, and I don’t need any outside validation and I’m very aware of myself and my surroundings and I think sometimes that really does bother people. However, I noticed that it only bothers people that are insecure people that are jealous or people that aren’t transparent or honest with themselves and others around them. I was realizing this because I am very open and I’m very willing to just share my emotions and be vulnerable around people and most people like to put on a mask or like to pretend to be something that they’re not but I have no problem just telling people straight to their face how I’m feeling..
How about how to know if you got stronger or broken from a past trauma (ex. someone might come out of a life or death situation more focused and aware whereas another might let his vulnerability get to his head)
This could be an interesting topic. Do you personally have experience with this?
@@Psych2go sadly I can only speak for myself getting a lite Flow State from driving in a big city with drivers of…varying skill levels
I think there should be one more trait.. Being quiet and speak only what is needed.
I don't really criticize others but I critically analyze the situation.. Then again, people see me as intimidating at times..
I don't talk in aggressive manner, but instead I prefer an energetic manner.
i keep getting into little arguments with my friend i've know for years lately, it's really upsetting me. he often likes to say things are "cringe" or when i make jokes about transphobes he gets upset because he doesn't want to hear about bad things. i tell him "it's my struggle, i'm making it into a joke." if i point out anything slightly negative about something, example: "santa claus was basically just invented for parents to tell their kids what to do." he tells me to stop. i don't want our friendship to be this way. i don't want it to end, either. he's a good person. i just don't know how to respond to something in a way that isn't defending myself. every conversation i have with him is awkward now.
THIS WAS 33 SECS AGO
You ain’t even done watching the video😂
HOW DOES IT SAY 6D AGO WHEN THIS VID WAS ONLY POSTED 2 MIN AGO 😭
Some videos are unlisted and somehow people find them lol
A time travelling tranny
People say my demeanor and walk is noticed. I've had multiple people in multiple places say I look like I'm always on a mission.
You are welcome psych2go 😊 what a fantastic video we support you and your channel
I have a hard time with making myself more approachable, because so often being approachable means being more conventional of personality, and hiding your light under a bushel. I hate feeling like I have to make myself smaller so that others will like me and choose me... so that their approval hopefully ends up allowing me to be bigger.
It feels like a bad "Step 3: Profit!" game.
I may seem intimidating, because of my frustration sometimes.
I believe that Aikido has helped me a lot with this/these issue/s.
Overall I think Aikido helps with many issues that come from poor socialization. This is because Aikido is a form of meditation, very much like a Japanese tea ceremony.
However it uses the language of combat to articulate the value of society and the importance social mindfulness. It also often helps broadly with various forms of anxiety. Through these strategies I feel like it is able to constructively communicate positive social values to people with an otherwise antisocial mindset. =)
I am not very good, but Judo/Jijustu is a form meditation for me. Even if it's only pratice dummy.
I've noticed that people who fancy themselves as dominant expect me to look down on myself or bow in their presence, and when it doesn't go their way, they desperately try to take my power away from me. They act that way with anyone who makes them feel threatened. I also noticed that the more confidence I exude, the more threatened they seem to be. They really can't take the fact that I have the level of confidence that I have, and it leads them to act petty. I'm not certain, but I don't think they even realize that they're showing their weakness. This is all generally the behavior of a weak person trying to come off as strong, and they frequently exhibit narcissistic traits / characteristics.
Lovely video ❤️ I find that people may find me intimidating if I am not afraid to hold eye contact
Yasssss!!! This is so me I have been told this many of times I thought this was bad but I guess not always ❤
I'd add being quiet and taking time to observe before joining in, being confident, and using a wider vocabulary than usual. All those things can be intimidating to people.
I'm an INTJ. It took me few years to realize and accept that I am intimidating no matter what. I call it b*** aura. It's good to reflect on yourself, being tactful and show interest in what others have to say is important for good relationships. But make sure you haven't become a people pleaser.
ISTP here and yep, people will always assume I'm mean without even talking to me.
I guess we just give off that kind of energy 🤷♀️
@@littlelady9801 I think it's also because we are women (or at least that's what I assume from your nickname). People expect us to be more approachable I guess. I know few ISTP males and people around see them as smart guys with dark sense of humor. They laugh at their absurd jokes, saying how quirky those guys are. It's annoying...
The art style improved!
I'm far from intimidating but i know alot of people that are
Same I feel like I have to walk on eggshells sometimes
@@lay1735 I got to a point with certain people I cut them out of my life because they love to make you feel bad about your self you sound a
Lovely person
@@Keiron-pw6sl thank you I think that's what I should do perhaps I'm too nice 😞
@@lay1735 I can tell you'd be an amazing friend to anyone your so relatable because I'm just like you I think
Also, this reminds me of someone in my private life. Just as said in the end you, the reader, know what did I do.
Useful to self-check ur own emotions
I scrolled and saw this and laughed like a menace.😀😄😈
Before watching this I just want to say I AM a selfish people pleaser: meaning I want to please others but If I don’t get the attention that I want/need I WILL act out. I can be VERY direct when it comes to communication. “Like what is this? A K-drama!?”😂😒🙄
But I’m also very friendly, social, empathetic, too loyal, and just plain innocent for life.😭😩✋🏾😅💓
Seems like I may be intimidating, according to this video. Another great video
Me: I'm a charismatic funny guy
My aura in public: I'll murderize you
😂 Why do you think your aura is so different from who you actually are?
Thanks, I developed a fairly extroverted and assertive social mask because of my autism and this helps me keep track of the downs of my social temperament.
As a nice and kind person who is mostly calm,I'm just suggesting you that, don't make me mad/pissed. It won't end well for,you.
I have this problem, I know that if I do something it'll make people mad, but it's like I can't control myself and I do whatever makes them mad then I get upset cause they don't want to be around me
That sounds like a you problem.
For spooky season, this is good advice. 😂 👻
👻 Halloween coming up soon! For you personally, do people tell you that you have a scary personality?
I've told many times over the years that I am intimidating i also keep being told that I have the don't talk to and don't piss me off look as well
No, in conversation I'm too scared to be intimidating. I can relate to most of these signs, but only as intimidated, not as intimidating and this mainly depends not on who I'm talking to, but only on the topic being discussed
Yes I relate and don't mean to. You're right, a lot of it is anxiety. Conversing is not my strongest point . Ty
+1 sign: I am told I am scary at work.
Mostly said by colleagues, who after getting used to me join me for lunch, and then tell new team members not to be intimidated by my personality.
this video described me precisely.
Now this explains a lot
Alot of people tell me I'm quiet but intimidating, most of them tell me it's my "aura" so I don't quite understand what they mean. But after getting to know me they say that their 1st impression is the same but I'm much less intimidating. Most of the points stated here doesn't seem to apply to me since I'm mostly the listen and observe kind of guy but I still intimidate people and I don't actually know why.
People see quietness as intimidating because they believe that you are judging them. I also fall into the "you are kind of intimidating" personality, I'm straightforward and am very direct. I'm also very quiet I choose when I want to talk and converse. I work night shift and as such I'm usually very tired half way through a work week and out emotions aside to focus. But people take these things as intimidating because they are afraid that they are being judged or that they are doing something wrong. I work with younger women (early 20s) I'm on my late 20s and come from a more traditional family upbringing where hard work was valued and my father is a very assertive man who didn't make much time for emotions so that's been instilled into me. So I hope that makes sense.
Yes I am told this all the time and I do notice people tip toe around me all the time.
Associating those eight traits with the Mtbi personalities is a really useful study in how to deal with others, establish a positive mind relationship and at the end take care of your mental health. Sometimes small changes in how to express yourself or being tactile when doing so is enough to achieve better results dealing with others
Waiting a week for your content feels like 7 days 🧠
I think persistence might be my intimidating trait. Hopefully there's a way around it 😅
Showing little fear, being delibrate with actions and appearing to be extremely confident also intimidates people.
My personality shouldn't be so scary. I know I'm a *quiet kid* but come on, man. I might as well befriend my nerf guns 🔫.
Do people tell you that you're scary?
@@Psych2go no lol. I was joking. A lot of people think I am very easy to be around.
Oh my God, this describes me perfectly.
I am quite reserved in my disposition & have been told that I can come off as being arrogant if not simply intimidating. This is something I would consider to be passive, as I am making no direct effort to influence or impact others (even if I happen to do so anyway). I wonder if passive is the most appropriate term to define it, or if there are other examples of passive behaviors that may be considered intimidating. Thanks for sharing
That sounds like my work persona 😂 Now I understand a lot more about the last 4 years.
I don't think its intimidating to be direct. It's just a straightforward demeanor. 😊
I sometimes tend to speak a bit to loud but thats because im excited i dont wanna hurt anyone from it and sometimes i feel like im being mean or annoying to someone and i dont wanna be like that way sometimes and my friend actually got me into this channel becuase they have been going through some stuff and theres some stuff in this channel thats actually helping me.
So good traits , but also need to midgate nd judge yourself as quickly as other with staying present. ...
#2,#7,#8 relate to me I'm in the head alot, I am critical of others and myself, I'm Respectfully blunt
My ISTP booty has already accepted the fact people will always assume I'm mean spirited and hostile just because of my lack of facial expressions alone (it doesn't come naturally to me) and that's fine.
If they want to misinterpret every breath I take as a personal attack on them there's nothing I can do that will change their minds...
This is all one of my managers, he isnt angry but i always feel like hes done with my and everyone elses sh!t. Thats just the vibe he gives even when hes smiling and joking with other coworkers.
+Psych2GoTv *Thanks for the list of symptoms:*
0:48 *1. Snappy and/or reactive state*
1:22 *2. Head think*
1:48 *3. Persistence*
2:18 *4. Others' "walk on eggshells"*
2:41 *5. Tendency to dominate conversations*
3:22 *6. Aggressive speech*
4:05 *7. Criticality for others*
4:37 *8. Straightforward attitude*
Thank you☘️💖
You are so welcome
@Psych2Go Hey! Thanks for these videos, they're amazing. I just wanted to ask, does Psi have a plushie?
I love it idol❤❤❤❤
This video was too good for me not to comment. Hit me with every one of those lmao 😂
My personality is not frightening. I interact with humans only in a manner that a client may interact with a service provider or merchant. I terminated all interpersonal, social, interactions the 8th of August 2000 at 18:34. It was a hot Tuesday night. After that night, I speak minimally. It took an extent of time. But, today, nobody knows me.
There's a reason for that, the environment and people I grew up with made me intimidating and that's dominance! I love it. So if you want a piece of me think twice cause I'll end it.😊
What were some things they did to make you feel like you had to be intimidating?
@Psych2go oh I didn't do it cause they made me become who I am. I did it for myself to show my strength, fury, and dominance. Idc what they think or say if they have a problem they are welcome to do something about it but I'm not going to play around with them. I had my fair share being loving and nice, It became a bad habit so I decided to love and care for myself and do what I think it's right and should be done.
I think showing strength is very important, especially because if we don't, people tend to overstep our boundaries. In that sense, I think you're way ahead a lot of people who don't know how to set up boundaries properly.
@@Psych2goyeah having an intimidating personality is a double edged sword, people you want to talk with tip toe around you but people who'd often mess with you aren't so keen to do so cause they don't want to test the waters lol.
I'm so intimidated that people are scared of me. I just do my same old thing.
Ive been tood that I have an intimidating walk, though, I can see why as I'm extremely introverted while being big and tall.
I do feel that way but I try to control it
Hi psych2go your channel is great ☺ people think I'm crazy and going crazy based on mu personality and emotions I'm a teenager and a lot of people tell me there's something wrong with me please debunk this thanks
Can you do a video for what you do when you meet someone that scares you? Like those that you meet may seem scary on the outside, but are actually very kind on the inside. Like Tabbes, for example.
Sometimes I tend to be hard on myself on some of those things (when I failed to avoid that even knowing) and ruminate the past at times, like wishing time machine due to how much of a perfectionist I feel like.
When i went to university some girls were a bit like scared from me and i can't realase why, it made me cry sometimes because i really didin't do anything, but now i know why, but i am who i am and that won't change, thanks anyways.
I relate to most of these signs
thx
Im roughly 2 or 3 of these things.
Ppl find me approachable only after knowing me. From what I've learned by asking others and friends, I appear to be serious, which sometimes intimidate others
While there is nothing wrong with people who naturally inherit these traits, in my personal experience I’ve noticed it’s often people who lack spatial awareness & harbor an aggressive personality rooted in ego I’d much rather protect my peace from. It’s not about me feeling intimidated, I just don’t care for any of that in my space. Their Persistence is an admirable trait until it has something to do with you then it just becomes non-stop pressure, bordering on manipulative, until you relent or they give up which takes quite awhile. Their straightforwardness and domineering attitude is powerful until they pop off with some awful critical takes at the wrong time around the wrong people. Folks tiptoe and agree because opposing them for a hot second means they’ll be snappy & reactive in their aggressive tone, being the biggest headache until they have their way.
There’s intimidation and then there’s THREATENING and to someone who’s been through trauma the latter is often perceived and can make a lot of people feel unsafe.
I’ve learned that if you follow you’re heart you also get hated by others I’m either way too easy going or childish or way too serious and logical it sucks
Wow- Why am I so glad that I don’t relate to all of these signs? I’m quiet & reserved and I have a small circle of friends. And I am a bit of a perfectionist- (Well when it comes to school I am) and stoic. I’m pretty glad that others don’t see me as an intimidating person and see me in a good light. And I’m also funny in a way as well lol (I also think with my heart, not with my brain cuz you know the quote “Follow your heart”)
I think I’m somewhat intimidating. I’m persistent, critical, and straightforward. When it comes my goals, I’m quite self motivated. I may be critical of others, but I’m my own worst critic. With family and friends, I try to be tactful. However, I’m usually straightforward with strangers and acquaintances.
Ya, ive ask my friend before "are you...scared of me...?" And he said "ya sometimes" that broke me. After that i tried to be much more careful with my words, and when others make mistakes like breaking my things T-T, i smile and tell them its fine.
to me these animations are so scary T^T
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GOOD TO KNOW IM THE OPPOSITE OF INTIMIDATING MWAHAHAHAHAH
I'm persistent and straightforward
Nice
The points made were salient, but I remain unconcerned with how my traits are perceived. When personal force is used efficiently, it becomes a desirable trait. Getting along with the group is not meant for those who are looking to effect change.
Yes right here
The last two is me in a nutshell.
This is so me.
I am hardly anything but intimidating and no one has ever been considered intimidating by anyone.
For the most part I am often nervous shy passive or passive aggressive.
can you share a video on how to stop judging people or doing character analysis?
When I first got together with my ex a few years ago, I asked why he didn't ask me out in high school and he said I was intimidating. When I mentioned this to some classmates at our reunion recently, they were incredulous at the concept. I presume his claim has something to do with him being an emotionally abusive narcissist and I'm glad I broke up with him a few years ago.
I was diagnosed with autism and Asperger's when I was about 10 and I noticed that I do a few things mentioned in this video and I'm not sure if it's because of my diagnosis or not but it could be interesting to see if there might be a connection
Yep, I'm all ready for spooky season I guess.