I was 23 and married my wife at 33. Fyi i was a male model. My wife always took care of my needs and she never put on weight. (We both were professionals/top management ) Only when I lost her and did I started thinking about next steps as I am in my 50s. OMG I had no idea I was being hit on when I was married. My point is if you have a great foundation and both partners exceed at meeting their partner's needs, life is great! So balance meeting your needs and your parents needs while over communication is a recipe for success. Thank you for the video.
This dynamic happened to my parents where my dad aged more gracefully while my mom, after having my brother and me, struggled with her weight. This tormented my mother as she became racked with suspicion which made her a very unhappy and an angry person. This fueled the problem even more as my dad advanced in his career and was physically improving with age. I heard rumors off my dad having affairs but he still was a very stable provider and a family man. I could empathize with my dad and I don't blame him under the circumstances but I also felt very sorry for my mom. Whatever secrets my dad kept, I believe metastasized into cancer and he died after a long battle with the disease. My mom was plagued with insomnia, low self esteem and she developed dementia which I feel was a result of her mental anguish, she later died of sepsis from a UTI
Thank you for sharing this story. It sounds like both your parents experienced their fair share of challenges in life that others may not have fully appreciated. I hope they are both better place now and at peace.
I really like your energy and attitude in this video. You're speaking an uncomfortable truth from a place of empathy. A lot of other dating content tends to pit men and women as adversaries. 👌
I like the awareness you bring to these topics. All very well explained and logical. I would have liked to hear your opinion about solutions though. You brushed over women tending to neglect actively caring for their man's needs, and I think you might have a wealth of valuable knowledge to share about that. Things tend it seems to play out like, she stops engaging in eager and enthisiastic sexual affection & connection (why she loses genuine burning desire for him is a rich topic - both parties beliefs and behaviours play a role I think). He grows resentful. Resentment ripples out, and grows in her too. The relationship erodes and ends in a real sense or in the sense that both parties check out and stop asking for their needs to be met... and this leads to cheating too
Thank you so much for your comment! I'd like to make a video about solutions too like you mentioned, or at least how couples can mitigate risk. Stay tuned :)
A man who is 43 is stupid if he leaves for a 20 year old girl. He doesnt know if shes serious or just wants his money and dump him, or maybe her personality changes too much from 20 to 30. I wouldnt marry any wman under 30. Too much changes happen under 30
30 years is probably not quite right.. but there's definitely some truth here. I think it comes down to choosing your spouse wisely and ensuring you are both prioritising what's important to keep the marriage healthy and satisfying. Thanks for commenting :)
I have never attracted anyone my own age. Recently much to my surprise I attracted someone 24 years younger than me. I am 60, I have no car, no home and no assets, so definitely no gold digger.
The question isn't who files for divorce, but who failed initially and ongoingly at eagerly learning about and meeting the other persons needs. There's so much nuance here to why women pull the trigger but both men and women are to blame for the underlying reasons they ended up at divorce
In my view this is probably because women are put in positions where they feel like they have no other choice but to put an end to the marriage. They know it's not working and that both parties are unhappy. Wives may also strategically plan to file for divorce when the timing is right, after they've put their ducks in a row. Men often don't feel urgency to leave the marriage unless they have a new partner. They can get their physical needs met by having an affair, while still keeping things comfortable enough at home. Wives on the other hand may not feel they are getting their emotional needs met, which is quite important to most women. Thank you for your comment!
@@mariachiingles2348 where did this unbelievably rude comment come from? You must be hurting deeply to attack a random stranger behind your phone, you should be very proud, grade A ethics 🥳
@@MrsHHart That's a viewpoint divorced from reality. You're thinking about women 100 years ago, not now. Nowadays women neither communicate, nor try to make things work. They can leave even if the partners did everything right, just because there's a perceived better option or because they aren't feeling happy at the moment. I hope being a youtuber isn't a real job, you are clueless.
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I was 23 and married my wife at 33. Fyi i was a male model. My wife always took care of my needs and she never put on weight. (We both were professionals/top management ) Only when I lost her and did I started thinking about next steps as I am in my 50s. OMG I had no idea I was being hit on when I was married. My point is if you have a great foundation and both partners exceed at meeting their partner's needs, life is great! So balance meeting your needs and your parents needs while over communication is a recipe for success. Thank you for the video.
You are welcome and thank you so much for your comment
This dynamic happened to my parents where my dad aged more gracefully while my mom, after having my brother and me, struggled with her weight. This tormented my mother as she became racked with suspicion which made her a very unhappy and an angry person. This fueled the problem even more as my dad advanced in his career and was physically improving with age. I heard rumors off my dad having affairs but he still was a very stable provider and a family man. I could empathize with my dad and I don't blame him under the circumstances but I also felt very sorry for my mom. Whatever secrets my dad kept, I believe metastasized into cancer and he died after a long battle with the disease. My mom was plagued with insomnia, low self esteem and she developed dementia which I feel was a result of her mental anguish, she later died of sepsis from a UTI
Thank you for sharing this story. It sounds like both your parents experienced their fair share of challenges in life that others may not have fully appreciated. I hope they are both better place now and at peace.
Your poor mum. She probably had insulin resistance . Her hormones became completely skewed.
I really like your energy and attitude in this video. You're speaking an uncomfortable truth from a place of empathy. A lot of other dating content tends to pit men and women as adversaries. 👌
Thank you so much :)
You are so well spoken! Love this discussion and your insights
Even as a guy I can relate in terms of hair thinning, it's depressing.
I like the awareness you bring to these topics. All very well explained and logical. I would have liked to hear your opinion about solutions though. You brushed over women tending to neglect actively caring for their man's needs, and I think you might have a wealth of valuable knowledge to share about that.
Things tend it seems to play out like, she stops engaging in eager and enthisiastic sexual affection & connection (why she loses genuine burning desire for him is a rich topic - both parties beliefs and behaviours play a role I think). He grows resentful. Resentment ripples out, and grows in her too. The relationship erodes and ends in a real sense or in the sense that both parties check out and stop asking for their needs to be met... and this leads to cheating too
Thank you so much for your comment! I'd like to make a video about solutions too like you mentioned, or at least how couples can mitigate risk. Stay tuned :)
A man who is 43 is stupid if he leaves for a 20 year old girl. He doesnt know if shes serious or just wants his money and dump him, or maybe her personality changes too much from 20 to 30. I wouldnt marry any wman under 30. Too much changes happen under 30
Wise choice!
I never found my age group worthy or attractive. I never found them interesting. Maybe the odd man..
Yeah, Men should marry someone their age…IF they want to stop having sex about 30 years before they’re otherwise physically done having sex.
30 years is probably not quite right.. but there's definitely some truth here. I think it comes down to choosing your spouse wisely and ensuring you are both prioritising what's important to keep the marriage healthy and satisfying. Thanks for commenting :)
good luck
unfortunately, its the truth
I have never attracted anyone my own age. Recently much to my surprise I attracted someone 24 years younger than me. I am 60, I have no car, no home and no assets, so definitely no gold digger.
I think many women have personal/nuanced reasons for preferring older men. Thank you for your comment!
"They watch their husbands leave the marriage in pursuit of a new relationship". 70-80% of divorces are decided by women, not by men.
The question isn't who files for divorce, but who failed initially and ongoingly at eagerly learning about and meeting the other persons needs. There's so much nuance here to why women pull the trigger but both men and women are to blame for the underlying reasons they ended up at divorce
How’s being a pathetic simp working out for you?
In my view this is probably because women are put in positions where they feel like they have no other choice but to put an end to the marriage. They know it's not working and that both parties are unhappy. Wives may also strategically plan to file for divorce when the timing is right, after they've put their ducks in a row. Men often don't feel urgency to leave the marriage unless they have a new partner. They can get their physical needs met by having an affair, while still keeping things comfortable enough at home. Wives on the other hand may not feel they are getting their emotional needs met, which is quite important to most women. Thank you for your comment!
@@mariachiingles2348 where did this unbelievably rude comment come from? You must be hurting deeply to attack a random stranger behind your phone, you should be very proud, grade A ethics 🥳
@@MrsHHart That's a viewpoint divorced from reality. You're thinking about women 100 years ago, not now. Nowadays women neither communicate, nor try to make things work. They can leave even if the partners did everything right, just because there's a perceived better option or because they aren't feeling happy at the moment. I hope being a youtuber isn't a real job, you are clueless.