Beauty Standards Are Bullsh*t. [RANT]
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- Опубликовано: 26 апр 2021
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saggy boob advocates where u at
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Bold of you to assume i have boobs to begin with
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"Remember: It's all bullshit" can be applied to most things
Particularly if there's money to be made.
Covid?
@@GoodFunIndustries sickness and death arn't social constructs ... just trust me on that one
@@flrnGM Sorry for your loss. : (
@@GoodFunIndustries Sorry I didn't lose anyone, I was just sarcastic, as I thought it's pretty easy to draw a line between social constructs and things that exist completely independent of humans. I think I misunderstood what you said - sorry I thought you were implying Covid was a hoax.
Me: Idk I think I'm ugly
Meme Mom, kicking my door down in stylish Edwardian boots to lay down centuries worth of facts: WE LIVE IN A SOCIETY
👏🏻meme👏🏻mom👏🏻the👏🏻 MVP👏🏻
Where can I get those stylish Edwardian boots...?
@@Earnshawfully from American Duchess 👢
Hehehe
Animals are not ugly, we appreciate all of their unique and beautiful existences. Why can we not appreciate ourselves in such a light
Ehhh not always true we breed animals to fit our preferences and a lot of those are just for beauty. Take the smushed nose on some dogs, or the fluffy curly hair on others. But other than that yea I agree with you, just saying it's not always the case
Yeah like fat cats😊
I mean I agree with your message, but people absolutely think certain animals are ugly. Like that is definitely a thing people think. For example, I think the elephant seal is god's mistake.
@@esverker7018 it’s always funny to see what peoples’ first example is when they think “ugly animal”
That's not true... Have you ever been to a dog show? Or watched those "top 10 ugliest animals" things?
The first time she asked “so what is the ultimate beauty standard?” My brain automatically printed “they are all signifiers of wealth”
omg you’re so right
That is the true answer.
Exactly, you can also see that this is very prevalent in fashion. Let's take the 'typical fashion' of the 1920's. The short bop hair cut, the impractical shoes, long necklaces. All of them are impractical for work/hard to maintain all the time. This definitely showed that whoever was wearing that had the time and money to look like that.
I would say it’s health first, wealth second, status third. Now what do I mean by that? Well a lot of the base for a trend or style is something that is healthy or useful. Blackened teeth for example started to protect teeth and prevent tooth decay. Then the rich want to do it better than the poor people so make a lux version. Following this the leaders in fashion take it to the extreme. So the original concept is twisted to an unrecognizable degree. At some point the “health” part became less important and wealth and status took over. Like small feet were just that thing that existed, but it was seen as attractive. So naturally rich people started glorifying small feet. Then those trendsetters who wanted status started to bind children’s feet to make them artificially smaller, and the rest had to follow to not be “left out” and have marriageable daughters. And then it trickled down to the masses who wanted that status by emulating the upper classes. It could mean that their daughter was married by someone of higher status if she looked the part, and social mobility has almost been impossible historically without the chance to elevate your position by marriage. A pretty daughter could be a serious economic investment to some people. It’s basically beauty economics.
My answer was youth. It may not have been as important centuries ago, but even in most art, the subject was youthful, or at least appeared to be youthful.
Even glasses!! I was called the very original ‘four eyes’ for years and now people wear ‘fake’ glasses as cute accessories
Don't worry Chelsea I still hate glasses. Now I have to pick up my first pair from the optician later today. Very awesome
Oh yeah, I remember when these thick black glasses were all the rage (2010?) my friend told me she was jealous of me because she would have had to 'pretend she needs the glasses and wear fake ones and that cringy', so she won't wear it, BUT I had impaired eyesight so I could wear them 'because I need to' and that was apparently cool . I still remember it to this day and I hate it.
@@heinoustentacles5719 it's a life changer, they are a pain, but clarity is worth it lol
@@kyle18934 yeah I've been loving them.The constant feel on the bridge of my nose is a little annoying though lol
I actually loved glasses my whole life but my eyesight was decent as a kid. I my twenties it got a bit worse and I found out I actually have astigmatism and they told me I had to wear glasses all the time, and I was so happy!! I think they add something to any look without even trying. The optometrists always try to convince me to wear contacts but no thanks, I do hate those tiny evil things!
My mom stopped wearing makeup and dying her hair a few years after I was born. She raised me with the phrase: "your looks will go in and out of fashion, but you will always be beautiful"
My mom, who studied art when I was young child, would always observe people with wrinkles, freckles, blemishes and comment on their beauty. "Wow. Look at those wrinkles! What an expressive face! What a life they've lived - you can see it in their faces! Isn't it interesting?!".
Combined with my mother modeling a pretty relaxed attitude towards her own body has no doubt been the ballast that allowed me to shrug off many of these fads. I'm not immune of course, but I can say most of my issues have been more annoyances with the lack of available clothes that fit properly rather than my body it self. A life lesson I've endlessly grateful for.
didn't one of the famous fashion designers say "fashion is efemeral, style is forever"?
I stopped shaving when I was pregnant with my daughter. She is three now. I alwys liked my body hair and removed it only of social pressure. Now I'm confident enaugh to let it grow. I hope I can give some of this confidence to my daughter.
@david vane, yeah, moms love their kids. Guss even your mom thinks you are nice.
Okay I'm so stealing this for when I have kids. Please tell your mom that's awesome!
My nose isn't considered beautiful but it's an exact copy of my grandfather's nose and it helps me feel connected to him now that he's passed away. When my sister showed us her ultrasounds we could already tell that my nephew would have the same nose. When I saw how touched my grandma was that grandpa was still here with us in a way, it confirmed to me that no beauty standard could ever be more important than that.
that's the most beautiful wholesome thing I've read in a while 🥺🥹🥹
Same for me, but with my father's nose. As a teen and in my twenties I always thought it looked kind of bulbous and too masculine but now that he passed away (and I'm the only one out of my siblings that inherited his nose), it's become more beautiful and precious to me.
Exactly. People kept making fun of my big and flat nose but I was never bothered with it because it is the same nose that I got from my Dad. He passed away when I was young .The nose is one of the small parts of life that reminds me of him. It is easy to crave for compliments but you can never replace that with memories.
There is one beauty standard that never changes. Money.
Truer words have never been spoken😂
That’s cause it’s not beauty
I'd like to bring up that as a kid, I never realized the things that "made me ugly" until an ADULT brought it to my attention and made me feel like those traits were things that needed to be undone or fixed. Adults are teaching kids to be insecure and it's a problem.
THIS ^^ and getting bullied by other kids but a surprising amount came from adults, even family.
my mum did that for me a plenty.... all projection of her own insecurities
Toxic society and toxic parents
Amazing point.
In my neighborhood, it was driven by the kids. We all think we’re fairy princesses until we go to school and figure out real quick who the class considers pretty.
What I find so disturbing about modern beauty trends is that we are so used to filters and photoshop that what we find attractive is not actually physically achievable in real life.
Totally agree. I recently upload a selfie to my instragram's story making fun of a "Kardashian" filter because I thought I looked weird and everyone reacted with hearts and saying that I looked so beautiful, FRIENDS THAT I KNOW IRL, it was truly creepy and uncomfortable, like I'M NOT LIKE THIS, I DON'T LOOK LIKE THIS AND YOU KNOW IT, it was disburting indeed, I don't even wanna look like that ToT
Im happy in not used to filter. I immediatly see it when a filter is being used, and honestly i have a move of disgusts at time. Like when eyes are made bigger by a filter. And like all the friends are like "wow you so beautifuuul luv ya!" And over there feeling sick seing that. And they get encouraged by everyone to keep using filters because they are told they are pretty...
@@mairaaris8945 right?? It feels disgusting. I dont want people i know acting like that
Semi-related: a popular bra chain store in my country is quite bad at times for using photoshop. So while trying to figure out if the bra will be any good, i spend most of my time deconstructing the photoshop, how the clevage would actually look, how it would properly sit etc. It's exhausting trying to see past the photo editing
I find it oddly comforting to realize that photoshop-esque beauty standards aren't 100% new. Painters would paint more flattering depictions. Old photos were painted & doctored. There was never a time when idealized images of "the beautiful people" weren't manipulated.
I still remember when "[so and so] has a big butt" was still an insult (as a kid in the 00s). I was so confused when, by the time I hit adulthood, my flat butt was no longer attractive 😂
When I was younger a boy I liked told me I had a “forgetful face”. That stuck with me for years until I realized how dumb it was to be upset about it.
you still have a forgetful face
@@Danuxsy wdym?
@@catherineburgess4424 that she still has a forgetful face.
when I was younger like 10 girls told me how ugly I was. Why do videos like this, and most comments, act like women are the only creatures with problems? Weird thing is, Ugly girls can still get it, ugly guys are just effed.... so I don't even understand the whole thing.
You'd make a good spy
“Fashion is a form of ugliness so intolerable that we have to alter it every six months.”
-Oscar Wilde
Yesssss my boi Oscar Wilde knows what's up
He would have liked meme mum.....
Oscar Wilde is one of the wittiest and most intellectual persons ever existed. By the way, was he the one who wrote the novel/story Lady Chaterley's Lover?
@@mariavictoriasalita2908 No, that was D.H. Lawrence. However, Wilde did write "Lady Windermere's Fan". He was played to perfection by Peter Egan in the miniseries "Lillie".
@@AvatarYoda oh, thank you. I just miss reading books.
Oh yes I love this😄😄😊 boy was there peeking into the future, ahead of his time!!!
My therapist: Rapping Karolina isn't real, she can't hurt you.
Rapping Karolina: 1:17
This comment is making me laugh waaaay too much😂😂😂😂
She's too powerful to be contained. We must go back in time to stop her before it's too late.
I thought rapping Karolina was cute
How did you get the little picture in your username is that karolina
@@onebraincellleft2563 she must be a member
"painting dark circles under their eyes"
as a person who has been insecure about naturally having them since I was very young that just... wow.
I have them too! (it runs in my family) and I used to get comments about how I always look tired. I used to be so insecure about them. This video made me realize I should just wait until they come into style :')
@@oriannedueck7356 You should tell them that's because you ARE tired. Tired of hearing their nosy comments! Lol.
This made me realize what studying historical fashion can do for your self-esteem. You see beauty in every era of history and realize we are all beautiful in a unique way.
well said
I hate how women's bodies are seen as "fashion statements". My body isn't fashion, it's MY BODY.
Say it louder for the idiots in the back!
YEAH!! PREACH!!
This
YES
Lol my big ass nose is definitely a fashion statement /s
"I even saw a Tiktok trend of women painting dark circles under their eyes" OH COME ON!!!! I STAY UP ALL NIGHT FOR THAT LOOK!!!
even tho i’m slightly insecure about how my eyebags look, i’m glad it’s become “trendy”
mine are from a combination of not enough sleep and just how my face is built, but at least some ppl will like it even if i don’t. it makes dealing with it a bit less annoying
I used to be bullied about mine 😅 wow, stuff does change a lot
LMAO you got me cackling with that one!!! 😂😂😂
Lol you're a purest! 😂
Similar to to the "sad and sick" look from the xix century, i guess everything comes back
There is one thing that all beauty standards across all times and all cultures have in common:
They’re also a marker of class. Being a bit chubby was beautiful because it showers you were rich enough to eat. Now, it’s being fit and toned enough to show you have the mo eh and time to work out and eat healthily. Having pale skin was a marker of not having to work outside like the poor people, but having a tan became beautiful because it became associated with holidays in the sun.
It’s all about money and power, and always has been. It’s hot about what’s actually aesthetically pleasing, it’s about who has money and power. It’s about class.
you are right
This comment needs more attention because it's spot on!
Yep, we like to dream about upward mobility and our new capitalist society that doesn't have class - but that's bullshit too.
without a financial incentive, no one would make money. People don't care and like to profit off of misery - those're the worst.
Thank you for this comment. This is truly spot on.
I'm a man. I will play this video for my daughters when they become aware of beauty standards.
You sound like a lovely dad. They’ll greatly appreciate your awareness later in life, and they’ll love themselves without having to go through the struggle to get there:)
Ur an amazing dad wow
You will be/ are a hero :)
❣ insanely important
don't forget your sons too - what's with the sexism? If men don't know - they'll perpetuate sexism brought up on this very channel and is that what you want? Every time I see this - I know people leave out the main perpetrators - those who don't teach those who will perp (unintentionally). I'd show it to sons first!
Our genes don't change but our jeans definitely do
I changed my eye color
@@safamohammed9620 it can happen. I was born with blue eyes and black curly hair. By age 2 I have platinum blond hair and grey eyes. I now have strawberry brown hair and green eyes.
@@iciajay6891 whoa what kind of Pokémon are you 🤩
@@iciajay6891 my eyes were dark brown now they are golden amber
Thank God. Could you imagine a world where the low-rise skinny jeans continued to be the fashion? *barf*
the most sad thing is when a woman APOLOGIZES in the beginning of her videos or whatever for not wearing makeup and I feel like not only is it sad because these girls feel like they have to apologize for their normal faces, but they're also telling other young girls in their audience that a bare face is something that you need to apologize for
Or when a woman says she can't go out of the house because she isn't wearing makeup.
This!!!
Omg thats bad.
Because if you are not wearing makeup you are naked. This concept has made its way into the career world. If you show up to work without makeup you better have a damn good reason or else it's just lazy and unprofessional 🙄 But men? nah u guud! 👍🏻
I barely even noticed that before but you're so right...
I felt so cheated when large eyebrows became trendy after spending my early teens tweezing mine to be thin 🙃
Same to me wanting my lips to be thin and now having plump lips that I used to hate about me is now a beauty standard. Seriously, these "beauty standards" are just messing with us. So it's just better to be yourself.
They purposefully do this tbh. When ever it becomes common and accessible to people of all classes the rich have to change the standard again to not be associated with us
“Remember it’s all bullshit”
Now that’s the motivational quote I was looking for
"I dress how I want and I'm *occasionally* in style... about every 10 years" Best advice from a professor who never styled out of the grunge look.
Why is this trueeeee? :D I have clothes that I've had for well over a decade and recently I was like "huh...I guess this is actually cool again now!"
Lmao when I lived in western east Asia my skin color was considered "dirty" and "dark" and people kept pushing skin whiting products in my face but when I moved to America so many people were like "omg I love ur skin color its like a perfect bronze", and I feel like this itself shows that its impossible to fit into beauty standards and be "perfect".
ASCAB!
All Skin Colours Are Beautiful! :D
I’ve noticed that a lot. It’s like when a majority of people look the same, they see someone with different aspects such as different skin colors to be unique and therefore desirable in some way. I think it’s why a lot of white people try to tan and people with darker skin try to lighten it. Personally I think everyone’s skin is beautiful and unique
@@honeydew1917 yess so true!
On the opposite, when I lived in east Asia I thought I looked so pale and sick because I'm super white but so many told me I had beautiful skin and for me I thought it was so weird. I was given whitening cream samples at a beauty shop once and I held back telling the lady: I'll disappear if I apply this. Sorry you were told you were "dirty", can't say I haven't heard people around there make similar comments about darker skinned east Asians as well. The pandemic really make me wish I had a tan tho ^^;
Western east woah
"Turning beauty insecurities into trends tells people their insecurities will be accepted and then when the trend dies, society goes back to having the same unrealistic beauty standards it did before." - Peter DeVito
As someone who got bullied mercilessly in the 90s for being curvy, I quite enjoyed my body becoming trendy. But I also wish I'd known it was all bullshit much earlier.
Brunettes want to be blonde, blondes want to be brunettes, and redheads just want everyone who ever teased/bullied us to be barred from purchasing red hair dye 10 years later.
im a natural red head but i bleached it like a month ago
@@edith2821 I think it's so cool how diverse red hair really is! I thought all redheads looked basically like me (fair skinned, freckles) but the internet has taught me that red hair shows up naturally in folks with so many different skin colors and ethnicities. It's so awesome. I mean, the dyed stuff looks rad too, of course, no shade. I just got teased for my red hair and freckles growing up only to find people suddenly dyeing their hair red and painting on freckles. Like, could society at large not have decided this was cool years ago so I could have done without the bullying? 😅
@@aceofhearts3 nice! I dyed mine blue a few years back. I've always had hairdressers (and my mom) saying, "of course you'd never want to dye this, how could you possibly want it to be any other color?" 🙄 Like, yes, our natural color looks amazing, but we're allowed to change it up and have fun with it! Are you enjoying the blonde?
@@ladykarolyn1 yeah, my mom was the same way, she didn't even wanna touch my hair so i had to convince her for a while since she's a hairdresser and the one that does my hair. i am enjoying blonde a lot though.
@@aceofhearts3 oh no, the mom and the hairdresser rolled into one! 😆 I'm glad you're having fun and doing what you want with your appearance. Life's to short for boring hair! (And my definition of boring is anything that bores the hair-haver 😉)
You made such a good point about "my grandmother's nose" because when all these people who have had surgery have kids later in life, will they...even see themselves in their children? Will they see their old nose shape on their child's face and think "that's ugly"? It's a heck of a thought.
I was thinking the same thing, so sad:/
i suppose that's a good point for all the people that feel they "need" to birth children as opposed to adopting (if they have the means to do so) in order to keep their bloodline going.
if they think it is ugly and tell their children that, it may lower their self esteem
@UCHL8Au06TukVJEOCpkqv7GA i see what you mean.
(i don't know how it relates to my comment though lol)
That is one of the main reasons my mum didn’t get a nose job. And then none of us got her nose 😅 But she doesn’t regret it, she learned to accept it and it being unique.
Yes but I need one for my broken nose that hurts and every time I look in the mirror I see what he did to me and I cry
Thank you for mentioning Freckles!
I have freckles and was bullied relentlessly for them as a kid and teenager. Now those same people are drawing fake freckles on themselves, and if I get upset over it - then I'm once again publicly shamed and embarrassed by the same people saying that I shouldn't be bringing other girls down and that I'm making up the issues in my head
Like I just can't win can I?
For years I've suffered from the side effects of bleaching my freckles away on my cheeks because they were "ugly". Worse, it wasn't done under the supervision of a doctor or anyone qualified and it wrecked my skin! Only in the past 2-3 years, almost 20 years after the damage, has my redness and scaly skin/scarring cleared up some.
I felt exactly the same way when I first saw the drawn on freckle trend a few years back. I've kept quiet, but it really hurts to know we suffered for years only for society to change and suddenly what we were torn down for is desirable. It's not as easy as "I support fellow women in all they do". That underlying pain and torment was never addressed. I hope you are able to find some peace with it, I'm still searching, but things are improving the older I get and the fewer fucks I have left to give lol.
Oh yeah, the "yOUrE gAtEkEePing" mfers. No, Betty, it's not gatekeeping to shame other girls who shamed you FIRST.
I'm a redhead, was never made to hate my freckles, but I kind of feel the same way when I see people dying their hair ginger... On one hand, it's not that serious, it's just a hair colour. On the other hand, they are treating the reason I've been told a lot of things (you're soulless, you're a witch, you have a stinky pússy, does the carpet match the drapes?) like a fashion trend, and it does hurt a bit. It feels like they're impersonating my identity without having to deal with what I had to deal with.
But at the end of the day ginger hair dyes look kinda crap and you can always tell the real ones from the fakes. For some reason I find it comforting.
@@juliee593 It's the same with black hair - I've noticed the dyes for it usually have blueish undertones. My mum kept pushing me to dye my natural hair blonde though, lol.
I think the only beauty standard that is timeless and universal is youthfulness.
A dad with his little girl saw me in the grocery store and complimented my "style and aesthetic," because his little one "said you look cool." These are the kinds of compliments we should give each other. It made my whole week.
THOSE ARE THE GOOD COMPLIMENTS YESSS
YEEEEEEEEEEES, I have my hair halp pink, half black and a little girl that was waiting on the line in the grocery store said she loved my hair, omg i loved her
When I was in college, I gothed up one night and went to the all-night grocery store. (Yeah, it was a small town.) A little kid pointed at me and said, "That person is cool!"
The mom hissed, "Shut up!"
I always try to compliment at least one person when I actually leave my house, it makes the world a better place.
@@michimelody4036 That is amazing and I love you for it, please have some hugs of appreciation 🤗🤗🤗 I'm gonna try to do that too!
I used to have a gap in my front teeth and JUST when I got it closed it became seen as “cute” and “unique” instead of goofy and ugly. Yup. That’s beauty standards for you.
As someone with a gap in my teeth currently I still get made fun of for it.
I had a gap in my front teeth for a while when I was a pre-teen, when I used bracers, and I remember it being so critical I wrote a whole "rant" on my diary xD
There's been back and forth about the tooth gap for literally centuries. In Chaucer's Canterbury Tales, the Wife of Bath was described as having a gap in her teeth and that being an attractive trait.
ive always thought gaps were cute tbh
wait teeth gaps were considered ugly
I agree. I stopped following “beauty standards” after I realized I was never going to be satisfied if I chased it.
Stop following someone else’s idea of “beauty.”
Thank you for bringing up the accessibility of plastic surgery nowadays. The whole BBL movement is horrifying. People are traveling to other countries to get non-FDA approved surgeries that are going to be out of style in 10 years
Me, hearing dark circles are trying to make it as a beauty standard, emerges from the darkness...
“My time has come.”
Now we just have to get the grey hair and dark eye circles crews to join forces. Imagine all the hair dye and concealer I won't buy anymore. LOL
@@Luubelaar grey hair was trendy some years or decade ago. Girls and guys kept bleaching and dyeing their hair grey, and those who had a thing for youth were upset the hot girls willingly looked more like grannies. It was hilarious. Now after 2020 a lot of women are embracing their natural grey hairs, which is awesome.
Lol same
Yes!!! No amount of concealer helps my dark circles so I decided to embrace them by not using concealer or foundation sometimes (I’m to lazy for it anyway). And then I see this trend on TikTok... I’m confused but not against!
@@Call-me-Al - I know! I saw some of these young uns with grey hair and I just thought "why???" Just wait a few years and it'll turn grey all by itself! LOL.
Not against it. Just a bit confused as to why you'd want to look like a grandma when you're 20.
Apparently there’s a Japanese folklore that the face you are born with is the face you loved most in your past life. Which is fascinating on a number of levels, some of which being these constant changing beauty standards. Imagine loving a face so much in your previous life and hating it so much in your current.
Question is if you would hate your face if you grew up with this piece of folklore :)
@@ThePixiixiq waiting for Japanese people to answer
This makes me feel really good about my face :)
I could see that happening in my case, I love men who have similar features to mine.
Omg this just like blew my mind completely just the idea
In my country, being skinny/underweight or not having a big chest or butt is not good looking. So as an underweight person I always grew up being said to eat more cause I'm not pretty enough. It's honestly a horrible thing to say to a child that they're not pretty enough. And they wonder why I've always been so insecure like you're the one who always said I'm not pretty enough-
Whenever I feel like crap about something about my body, I think "well I got it from one of my ancestors and it got them laid so it can't be that bad".
As someone who was bullied during childhood for having freckles, foxy eyes and thick lips, I can say that there is nothing funnier than seeing how the tables have turned.
i found a note from class mates that were talking about me that said i had big lips, and look where we are now 🥸🥸
The fox eyed trend is extremely racist
@@stellabell8640 Fr
@@stellabell8640 What? Not only asians have almond-shaped eyes. All ethnics can have them. Like big lips. Or thick eyebrows. Or sharp jaws. Or round faces. Just because they are prevalent in certain regions doesn't mean they "own" them.
@@someonewithaphone3108
That is true,
But before these features have been thought as "ideal". Many people have been made fun of because of having one or all of these features, (ofcourse unfortunately it does target a specific group of people)
people be like "in the old days they use resprictive an oppressive corsets because they wanted to fit the beauty standard" and these days we get surgery, practice unhealthy dieting, and still qear restrictive undergarments like shapewear. I would imagine historical women would be horrified to hear we were getting surgeries rather than just wearing bum pads
Also, everyone knew you were just wearing a bum pad, it wasn’t like you would wear padding and corsets to make it appear as if your actual body looked like that! I feel like nowadays it’s more like, change your Body to fit the silhouette. Idk how to explain properly but I hope I’m making myself somewhat clear
My mom once said that a regular topic of conversation in her high school was what surgeries you would get if you could afford them... the most common one was that everyone wanted a boob job. And she remarked on how she found it sad, looking back, that none of the guys sitting at the table/in the group would ever speak up and offer a reassurance or contradiction...
And we call restrictive footbinding bad(it is), but then, nosejobs aren't? (playing with your respiratory apparatus) (bad or not, you deciiiiiideeeee). I heard of people getting their lowest costal bones cut out.... for a thinner waist..... ............ girl, you have no idea which organs are depending on the stability of that area! I mean......
@@ismata3274 afaik the rib removal surgery is very controversial and not many surgeons even want to do it, but still... it’s controversial for a reason. I think it’s fine if someone wants to have plastic surgery but I think when you see people getting it done all the time on the internet and tv it’s easy to forget that it’s actually a surgery and there’s always risks involved, even if many of them are very safe. I mean I’ve had plastic (gender reaffirming) surgery and I’m so so glad I did but it was kinda scary and it didn’t look perfect right out of the OR. Surgery is still surgery yknow.
@@alextheasparagus6675 agreed. there are times you will need plastic surgery. But surgery because there is a trend "now" and forget that as you said it's still a surgery.... And gender reaffirmation surgery might be a big surgery(they are), they are not like a surgery that's at the core of your skeletal system!!! and neighbouring the core/stalk of many an abdominal organs and/or their vessel/nerve trunks s spreading point! Such small return (tiny waist) if any, for such a risk. The two surgeries returns are miles apart. It's not a nosejob(though that has its functional risks too).
From my perspective as white teen girl, it is truly frightening and overwhelming to be constantly bombarded with this "ideal image" on social media and real life. Even from a young age, I began to scrutinize every facial feature i.e. comparing myself to the perfect face on the cover of the magazine at the drugstore. I quickly became insecure of my freckles, bigger lips, and thick eyebrows (traits which are praised now) all because it didn't meet the "beauty standard." I didn't start to feel secure in my image until I saw a picture of my great-grandmother who looks exactly like me! Now I feel proud that I have her traits and I don't care as much about the "ideal image."
Oh, I remember so vividly those who felt entitled to criticize women's looks in early 2000' and saying "Well, big butts and boobs might be considered as classical beauty in the past but now beauty standards are different and that won't change, so you have to if you want to be pretty" 🙄🙄🙄
you know what really got me? when you said that our genes are so ancient and we are trying to fit them into such a temporary thing as beauty standards.. that's just wow. we've been shaming our ancestors for decades lol
Nicely put!! 😂
Beauty standards suck. Someone once said to me "You have to be more curvy to get boys to like you" First of all, who said I'm not lesbian. Also, people are attracted to different things and have different preferences
not to mention you can't just "get more curvy" you can waist train and do squats all you want but you can't change your body to that degree without surgery and it's silly to insinuate that you can
Most lesbians I know rather fat girls than skinny ones.
i was told at the ripe age of 12 that i dont matter because i dont have curves💀 next year i was praised for being thin
Been there! Back in the day, my sister in law (huge breasts) said to me, "It's too bad you don't have boobs like mine. I bet S would really love them, his brother sure does!" I'd had enough by that time (long story), so I told her, "Actually, S thinks when your boobs are bigger than your head, they look pretty ridiculous...and mine won't sag to my knees by the time I'm 45."
She kept her mouth shut after that, and it's been 27 years now, guess who was correct? :D
@@escaramujo most wlw don't adhere to conventional beauty standards. What a straight man finds attractive is not always what a lesbian or a bisexual woman finds attractive.
It is interesting how you mention how beauty standards come “in and out of style.” I am in my early 40s and fortunately still have a youthful appearance which I am grateful for. What is interesting is how my look has been in and out of style over the last 4 decades. I remember being bullied for full lips and thick brows and my wavy hair. Then a few years later, everyone loved my lips and hair, but my brows were still too thick. Then, a few years after that my lips were to thick again and my brows were beautiful but my hair was too curly. I am just so glad I somehow was able to see how things were coming in and out of fashion and realized it was not me, but the industry and Hollywood. What helped me too was that I don’t own cable, dont’ watch a lot of mainstream shows anymore, never really was into fashion magazines and had a certain eclectic sense of style I enjoyed. In my adolescence because I was so bullied for not conforming, I found niches in music and arts and grew a thick skin. I learned to love being a misfit and I was not trying to be, but I just learned to be okay with that. It helped that my mom always pointed out that I had a classic look and as long as I was a “classy” and “elegant” and kind person, that was all that mattered. For now, I am “in style” again but what is trending is “glow ups”…sigh. Lol. Whatever. Kindness and beauty from within is what matters in the end.
The first time I learned about hip dips and thigh gaps being a thing I was utterly shocked. When I was a kid people called girls with a thigh gap “chicken legs”. Which is equally shitty…but when you put even announce of thought into it, you’re literally disapproving of someone’s BONES. Like your bone placement has a huge impact on hip dips and thigh gaps. What a weird thing to obsess about. It’s BONES
Everyone going from “oh my god your eyebrows are so big ew” to “oh my god your eyebrows are so big how did you get them like that” was SO funny to me. These ferrets have been here, y’all just decided you like em for ten minutes. RIP to everyone who overplucked years back.
YES EXACTLY it was the BIZZAREST experience having my big ol' bushies that I never messed with beyond shaving my unibrow cause it was too painful and time-consuming go from being DEFINITELY not desirable to being SUPER desirable, constantly complimented, and actually having people WISH TO HAVE THEM. Like, I remember episodes of Disney Channel shows where the Mean Girl would draw bushy eyebrows on the main character's picture to make her look ugly; how are they suddenly THE thing to have??
Right?? (Tbh I still prefer the look of thinner eyebrows due to YEARS of conditioning.) I laugh when I see eyebrow liner tutorials cuz I'm like bruh i could get that look permanently in 5 days of not plucking. No one thought it was cool in high school.
Same!! People mocked my eyes because as an Asian you should have small eyes or standard eyes. My eyes are "big" and almond. Now people admire my eyes
Fashion both opens eyes and makes us blind.
Sameee.. Also same with big lips
As Dr. Gail Dines said “If tomorrow, women woke up and decided they really liked their bodies, just think how many industries would go out of business.”
I always hated my big and crooked nose, but now I'm happy with it because not just that I inherited it from the best person in my life (my father), but also because I stopped caring about the beauty standards that keep changing almost every 5 minutes and make no sense. Love your vids
big noses are so beautiful, my friend expressed hating her side profile bc of her hooked nose but it’s the very thing that makes her so gorgeous bc of how it suits her face
This is why I think every single person on earth should take a figure drawing class. Seeing diverse bodies at all ages in all poses and finding the beauty in them can be so impactful- especially if those bodies look like yours.
I hate the fact that they are even called beauty "standards". It's like saying "this is how you have to look to be attractive."
I was gonna make a comment like this. I prefer to say beauty trend. Cuz gurl a standard for me is that you have a pulse and are alive lol.
@@stagnantfox3027 lol glad I'm not the only one. 😂
Even more then that, it's "this is how you have to look to be good enough"
It’s funny most look like a bunch of kardashian clones nothing new and nothing unique. Don’t get me wrong they are pretty but it just the community and all these people with so called standards are kidding themselves because they are not being unique they are more of a trend.
It's so enlightening to look at the broad view of all this and realize that what's actually happening is that the "viewer" who are evaluating people on beauty standards, are actually deciding to be dissatisfied with the majority of faces they're looking at. (Seriously--if you gather 100 models that match the current beauty standards, all of a sudden the comments section is finding the "prettiest" and picking the rest apart.) It's all made up. We can literally decide to enjoy looking at every face we see. So, if someone doesn't like your face, they're choosing to be unhappy, and that's not your problem.
People made fun of my “caterpillar” eyebrows when I was in middle school and now everyone is trying to “laminate” their brows to make them bushy. My mom started taking me to the salon to have them waxed when I was 10. TEN. Beauty standards are BS.
Same i got peered pressured into getting my eyebrows waxed when I was in middle school. I like the way they look now, but i wished i did it on my own accord rather than peer pressure.
I got so much criticism for my thick brows too 😭 And now big brows are "in" 🤦♀️ I don't love my appearance but I am learning to embrace it because changing my face, body, or skin to fit someone else's idea of beauty isn't worth the time and energy.
I remember when my brother was super young like probably elementary age and got called “dumbo” because his ears stuck out and it was so bad that my mom actually ended up taking him to get some of the cartilage behind his ears removed so they wouldn’t stick out as much
I think French brows. I love my catapilers.
Same here! I used to hate my eyebrows because they were very dark and thick. Now people fill in their eyebrows to make them fuller and darker.
I absolutely agree.
I was "lucky" enough at a young age to find out about the Chinese practice of foot binding. Be warned: don't go and research it unless you're prepared to feel a little sick in your soul. Finding out about it kind of temporarily broke my pre-pubescent brain and I never was able to take any level of beauty standard seriously. I will forever be thankful I was shown early what the most heartbreaking and painful beauty standards could look like.
My heart goes out to everyone who has ever suffered under any beauty standard - because they're all different levels of ridiculous.
Fantastic video
ikr, literral bullshit it is basically one of the worst beauty standards in my opinon like who binds the foot how creepy.
I think becoming a mother is so healing. You see your children, and it's like your eyes are opened to the great unique different precious beauty of each one of them.
Then you realize that you look like them....
It's almost a spiritual experience.
To see with the eyes of the Creator, one tiny sliver of humanity, realize the beaity we are blind to that is all around us.
I’m mixed race. When I was younger I felt insecure because I thought my lips were too full, now I feel insecure because I think they’re too thin... they’re the same lips
I'm mixed too and when i was a kid i wanted to be pale like my white friends, then later down the line i wanted to be brown like the other mixed girls, and then it went right back to being pale because I kept seeing whitewashed kpop idols. I never want what's mine.
I respect you because you're watching body positivity videos and you like the Beatles.
Right? I can't believe white women have thicker lips than me. I thought my lips may have shrunk over the years!
I'm also mixed sometimes i wish I was paler and other times I wish I was darker
@@lepidocrocitequartz4395 relatable.. i’m mixed and i’m extremely pale however my family on my dad’s side is extremely dark so i’ve always looked at them and thought that’s pretty i want a darker skin color like that.. because i just end up feeling like i’m a fake or something even though i’m not and in reality i should probably just go out more 😂
As a 90’s baby I was so shocked to see the 00’s trends are returning. I was just like ‘noooo all this body positivity was a LIE! We have to go back to being skinny fuuuck!’ Luckily I’m old enough to realize it’s a pattern and BS but it’s scary to see how quick it changes and how hard everyone follows it (inc myself)
Can we start to appreciate the way our bodies work more than how they look? Like I can walk for miles without my legs breaking or I can lift heavy objects, I can run and swim and scream and all sorts of weird and cool stuff. Let's appreciate all of those things!
ALSO the failing of body positivity is that it’s about “positivity”, what about just body neutrality? Hi I have a body. I use it for things. It is very cool.
Thats how i feel about "ur beautiful, they beautiful, everyones beautiful" first of all not true, second of all you make it sound like ita a necessity to be beautiful which is objectifying imo.
yes i like this type of thinking! its nice that body positivity is more thought about, but i think neutrality is just being okay with your body, and being cool with it. maybe you dont necessarily love it (though that would be awesome) but you appreciate it
Exactly. It's useful, it takes you places, it keeps you alive. It's a mech steered by electrical meat. What's not to like
Depends on how people define the word "positivity". To many it just means accepting oneself and being against body shaming.
this is my approach to myself. It's hard to be confident and own your "flaws". So I just... ignore them. I don't think about them. They're there, they're normal, they're not causing me pain. So be it.
When I was in high school I was chubby and pale with long red hair. There was this boy in my art class who always wanted to walk me to the bus stop after school. He'd talk about Botticelli a lot and how beautiful he thought the Botticelli angels were and how pretty their pale skin and curvyness was.
I was such an insecure kid I had NO IDEA that this guy was trying to tell me he liked me.
Omg how lucky😭😭 he sounds precious and ur beautiful girl❤️❤️
oh my god that’s so cute. I love love love your look
That's both sad and cute at the same time
Awww.. I hope the boy stays as wholesome forever and life did not changed him
Aww so cute !
Thank you, I needed to hear that. 💗Im 18 yo and in my school everybody has a 'pretty' nose, hair, clothes, and sometimes I feel like I dont fit there. I cannot avoid compare myself everytime I meet a new person. Its so frustating. Hope this change. Tysm for saying this 🥰
I totally relate to the 2000s vs 2020s thing. Back in 2000s, thick lips were NOT the thing but now it's everything. Regardless of the trends I still generally prefer men and women with thin lips, but I have a hard time finding friends with the same tastes, they're always talking about how to want to do over-lip makeup and getting fillers and I seem to be the only one who can't relate... Like I respect their tastes but it makes me question whether they would have that desire for alteration if today's beauty trends didn't exist and make them feel insecure
When one 14-minute video by meme mom manages to make you more confident than all of the body positive videos you've ever watched combined.
periodt
Here here!!
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why is that so true
@@kitt3526 Maybe bc some of them are full of empty "love yourself 🤗💕" kind of phrases, and meme mom's discourse together with the pictures show that it doesn't actually matter to follow beauty standards cause they will always change, you can actually realize that the norms to be "beautiful" will never satisfy everyone and not all people will fit in them and that process has been happening a loooong time ago, so worrying about fitting that standard becomes pointless
I think we're really just not used to seeing real faces anymore, so anyone who doesn't have glass-smooth skin is seen as "sickly."
People weren't any uglier 100 years ago, we're just much more obsessive.
exactly
This. Most of people look at women without make up and are like "is she sick ?".
@@sallys.2707 lmaoo
I always look at actresses from the silent film era and wonder how anyone could consider people from long ago ugly. They were so gorgeous, just as people are now. Look at Maude Fealy, for example, what a smokeshow
@@katm8128 they moved with elegance
Years ago, other women tried to drag me to the salon to get my eyebrows plucked, and it usually just made me stop hanging out with them. And now they’re drawing my eyebrows on their faces every day.
My belief is that beauty standards are influenced by the youth. They change the standard to not look like their parents and previous generations, but sometimes they also see something from the past that they want to bring back.
Ironic how we live in times where "love your body and yourself,accept and cherish your flaws and insecurities" is on the rise but also in times of a ridiculous increase of plastic surgery.
Society:"be yourself" ... Also society:"no, not like that"
That movement is a response to the rise in plastic surgery and strict beauty ideals over the decades. The movement needs to get bigger and reach the right people, I think. There is no money to be made when you love your body for the way it is. The popularity of social media has a huge (probably the biggest) part in the popularity of plastic surgery and specific procedures. There is nothing wrong with plastic surgery but some people do get it for the wrong reasons and in bad situations. It really becomes a problem when there is social pressure to get it. I just want everyone to do what is best for them personally, no matter what that is. Nobody should be shamed for their body with or without plastic surgery. Do what makes you happy and do it for you.
@Kurious. Totally agree on this, the louder a person is about self-acceptation the higher the chances it requires consensual "non conventional" modification like noticeable hair colors, piercing or tattoos to feel themself.
Well the "love your body and yourself,accept and cherish your flaws and insecurities" stuff is just virtue signalling. The reason why plastic surgery and mental health problems especially in young women is so high is largely because of social media and how young women uses social media as well as the degenerate state of the western culture overall.
Young women are insecure, especially those who grow up in a single mother household. They are rootless and often have no strong ethnic or cultural identity to root them. Women are also by nature more conformist than men so they are more vulnerable to influences, they are bombarded with all these thots like Kardashians etc. everywhere they look in media and social media.
Basically they subconciously register that as the standard for women, and think they have to acheive it. You cant do anything about women being conformist as thats biological, but we can do something about what types of women that are being promoted and also do things to improve womens self esteem. Though i doubt that will happen as it involves criticism of liberalism and feminism. More likely we will just get more empty or maladaptive virtue signalling while stuff continues to get worse.
@Kurious. Of coures, a lot will get triggered by it, im basically advicing them to do the opposite of what is the promoted norm and what they have been formed to think. One comment on youtube, regardless of how truthfull and logical, cant overcome such a thing. Especially if it promts a emotional reaction, feelings dont care about the facts so to say. Generally only more rational people are able to consider arguments or views that goes against their own.
I have several sisters and also many female friends who have suffered due to the things i described in my former comment. They almost all follow female influencers on instagram, women with tons of plastic surgery and edited photos. And not suprising they almost all have self esteem issues. Meanwhile me as a man, and the men i know, follow none and never had any urge to do it. Its obviously rooted in some biological diffrence between men and women. Men are more individualistic, more "lone wolf" type of character, which makes sense if you look at human evolution. Women through human history, especially the first primitive stages which makes up the majority of our existence, at that stage women were completly dependant on the tribe to survive. They had to fit in. And if their tribe got conquored by another tribe, the women would be spared and had to fit into the next tribe etc. This made women far more conformist. And also less suited to perceive dangers coming from the outside, but thats another story.
Anyway, the sad thing is that we cant really do anything to change any of it to a large degree. All we can do is trying to be a good influence on our daughters and wives and try to help those women are rational enough to be able to hear and consider drastically diffrent points of view from their own.
In the end its those who control the main stream aspects of the culture, i.e hollywood, big music industry, mainstream media, social media etc. who has to change if these things shall ever get drastically better.
There's so many things wrong with western culture these days it likely wont get any better soon.
Probably we will get even more misandry, degeneracy, self destructive neo-feminism, anti-white racism, rootlessness, single motherhood and so on untill it reaches a breaking point and it creates a backlash and things start improving. The question is how far does things have to deteroriate before it reaches that point.
This self esteem issue and body standard thing with women is just one small piece of a larger picture. Its a symptom of a civilization that has become degenerate and maladaptive. One can see the harm it does on men too, though in diffrent ways (like simps, incels, hikikomori, feminization).
Beauty standards are not even standards, they're unachievable.
I'm really glad that having a bigger tummy and things like square/round faces are not being treated as ugly anymore, but it's so stupid to slander people for that.
You're right, beauty ideals makes more sense
Yeah, they're not standards, but ideals. And treating them as standards is not something that has brought much good, if anything, just shaming and insecurity to those who don't "fit".
"I'm really glad that having a bigger tummy and things like square/round faces are not being treated as ugly anymore" Where is it so? I gained weight and have a tummy and a double chin and I hate myself for it. In Germany it is still considered ugly. I often feel that beeing fat is the worst that can happen to a woman. I'm always trying to make the best out of it by dressing nice and interesting but I'm so self conscious about my body. I wished I would have lived in older times when silhuette was more important than weight and there were corsets and pads and long dresses.
@@kittyp121 I think it's no longer considered ugly in the US to be curvy or have a square or round jawline. I was under the impression that braincells was talking about genetic bone structure for square or round faces. If it makes you feel better, I'll just announce my weight on the internet. I'm 195lbs. I'm starting to get nostalgic for my old appearance, that's true, but I consider myself lucky since I have almost died multiple times in the last four years. There is one sense of relief overweight people have that skinnier people will never get: we like the weight we once had and hated, and once we lose weight our life is uplifted. I'd like to be able to climb mountains and study abroad though so this has got to go.
@@kittyp121 Thanks for pointing it out, was just about to say the same. I was told about two years past by a therapist (! like, really?!) that if I just lost a bit of weight I wouldn't have to worry about being miserable anymore (! like, really!!!). In Germany being overweight or even just a little compact-chubby is still considered ugly. Where ever it's not - I wanna move there. :-D
When I was in elementary schools I was bullied harshly for my curly hair. It was so bad to the point where I would iron my hair and almost never wear my natural hair. Now everyone wants curly hair and all these girls on tik tok are perming their hair to be curly. I finally can wear my natural hair and feel beautiful and actually get compliments from others. I wish I knew that back then.
It bugs me how so many of these young women on TikTok, etc. all look the same. Everyone should learn to be confident in their own individuality, stop condoning blind conformity, and stop following trends. 🐑 Besides, true beauty is something that comes from the inside, and no plastic surgery or makeup can fake that. Anyway, thank you for coming out and saying what needs to be said.🙏❤️
since no one mentioned it... body hair. it's something completely normal, but somehow it's one of my biggest insecurities
Well, it's considered the most shameful thing. It's at the rank of hygiene. It's the most unfair and insidious beauty standard. I'm getting it more and more due to my PCOS, and I still listened to my mom and cousin talking about how they need or don't need to wax or shave the usual places, while I couldn't even tell them how I thought I have it on my shoulders and chest like they have on the parts of the legs and whole hands. And I am quite white, while my hair is totally black and strong.
My sister once shaved her legs and she hated it, I rarely shave and wear stockings and pants all the time. Problem solved
I absolutely refuse to shave my legs. And yes, I will wear shorts and skirts. I don't mean to be all "I'm not like other girls" but it genuinely takes courage because I have been judged for it.
I knew girls who would shave even their arms in middle school. Of course if you wanna shave your arms or legs that's fine, but they were children.
It somehow helps me to remember: Mammals have hair basically everywhere. Humans have hair literally everywhere except their palms and soles of their feet.
I have thin and light body so I have no need or wants to shave or wax
shave it if you want, anything can look ugly if you make yourself think it is
I also HATE how in order to "body accept" curvy people, many end up just body shame us naturally skinny girls :') like wtf...i cant gain weight/boobs/butt i dont call ppl fat so dont call me malnourished
pls i relate. i was always told i was "malnourished" and that i need to eat more too. i have the biggest appetite and can even eat two plates if its a favorite.
i've always just been naturally petite/skinny with fast metabolism. to top that though, idk im not a doctor, but i think having a history of amoebiasis and dengue virus probably affected my weight growing up. by not having a "normal looking" body and instead got a 14 yr old one despite being 21, ngl it makes me feel like im not normal and feel less of a "woman". 😔✊
I relate to this soooo much!!!! I was in middle school when the curvy look was going in style and that fucked me up because I was always a skinny girl. I always tried to look curvy and hated when I just wasn't big enough but now I feel more confident about my slim body
Malnourished is a bad term but fat shouldnt be a inslut because fat isn't ugly😌...and usually if you grow up with people praying skinny people your going to have a prejudice against them because it is what you were put against- doesn't make it ok just an explanation for you.
@@fairsuns Same dude!!! I'm 20 yet people confuse me for a middle schooler. I also felt that I just wasn't a woman because I didn't have big boobs/big butt/small waist but honestly fuck that yo!!!! I'm barely starting to appreciate my slim body and you should too. Plus look on the bright side, we'll always look younger lol
reminds me of someone tweeting a slimmer woman looked like “a child” in comparison to Megan Thee Stallion.
like... can we not compare a slim grown woman to a child when those two things are worlds apart???? especially since that woman was still curvy, just not as curvy as Megan.
My stomach is the main thing I'm insecure about. I'm midsize, but even looking at models that are bigger than me, it's rare that any of them have a bulging stomach unless you look at independent labels. And that's exactly why I'm sometimes so insecure about wearing pants or tighter fitting dresses or even my cosplays. Not to mention that clothing is designed with specific body proportions in mind that I'm not even close to, which means nothing fits me properly. I don't mind the size that I am, but the beauty and fashion industry has made it really hard to feel beautiful and confident with ill fitting clothing and models with flat stomachs.
Foot binding is literally the worst thing to be created.
Man I remember when I had a teacher who literally explained to me that each country has their own beauty standards which made me realize that there is no such thing as perfection. The only thing you need is to accept your self and see beauty in your self.
That sounds like an awesome teacher! 🥰 For sure there are some biologically-based similarities in what's seen as "attractive", but the trends vary INSANELY over time & distances. Teaching students to value themselves regardless of that is such a cool life lesson!!
Wonderful teacher. Kinda sad for me since I had to deal with a teacher who treated a girl better because she had blue eyes.
@@artdeco777 I had something similar happen to me-teachers treated me 100x better after I lost weight and I'm pretty sure it affected my grades as well :')
Well, that's true, there's no such thing as perfection. Still, there is aesthetics
It’s so weird hearing people say there’s no such thing a perfection when I literally exist. Like, I’m literally right here. How dare you say that? I’m offended
Tall girls want to be shorter, short girls want to be taller, blonde want to go brown, brown want to go blong curly wants to be straight straight wants to be curly. If I've learnt anything is that if you compare yourself to someone else you can never win
people just like to be different from what they already are i guess
True. “Comparison is the thief of joy” has never rung more true (IMO) than in the realm of beauty standards
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
And people who love you want you to stay true to yourself. But you never understand that and never allow yourself to chill.
never knew a blonde who wanted to be brown
FINALLY. SOMEONE FINALLY SAID WHAT I HAVE BEEN FEELING FOR LIKE 10 YEARS NOW. THANK YOU. THANK YOU FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO. YES, I AM YELLING BECAUSE I AM HAPPY, AND I LOVE YOU. THANK YOU!
P.S: Beauty Standards are bullshit, and my mom used to say that all the time. I didn't understand when I was young, but as I started growing up (me being curvy and growing up in 2k), I constantly felt bad about my body; that is until one day when I started looking up old Greek myths, art and statues (thank you, Percy Jackson) and realised that by that era's standard, I would have been considered beautiful. Then I learnt about whitewashing, colonisation and about my culture's beauty standards and watched old movies in my native language. I am beautiful according to my culture's beauty standard too! Awesome. Then I did more research, read research papers on beauty standard and body image and finally came to conclusion that yes, beauty standards are stupid and altering our body for that purpose is dumb (but you do you, no judgements). So this video makes me immensely happy because I have been saying to my classmates for ages and no one ever listens. Thanks @karolina zebrowska
I remember reading Kim Kardashian lamenting that she had laser hair removal on her baby hairs (the tiny hairs around the hairline) because she couldn't have the trendy hairstyle that was all the rage. Really brought home to me how dumb it is to permanently change something about your body all because of a temporary beauty trend.
Edit: but i understand how difficult it is to stop obsessing over how you do/don't fit the ever changing beauty standard/trend of the time. I'm almost 32 years old and it's taken me this long to even begin to feel good about how I look compared to others. It's hard
i'm asian american and nothing makes you confused/stressed about your body like having two opposite ends of the beauty standard spectrum enforced on you at the same time 😗✌️
Oh no! That *does* seem like a yikes. Good luck
ooh yes! american standards tell me that I'm curvy and beautiful, that my huge nose is pretty, but my Pakistani roots say that slimmer is better and that I have a huge nose. It's hard to embrace and love yourself when you're torn between two cultures and counteries
@@shi_. wait but pakistani women usually have big noses? and americans dont like big noses? did u mean it the other way around?
@@toshix6001 well the standard for being considered 'beautiful' is fair skin, slim figure, big eyes, small nose, long hair, strong eyebrows, small boobs, no butt, big lips.. ironically, I only have strong eyebrows and big lips out of them!
duude y e s
Omg thank you for speaking about the “fox eye trend”. As an Asian woman I’m so infuriated when ppl just dismiss it as a trend. So many of us had the same white kids pull their eyes to mock us like not even a decade ago
Yes!! Pulling back the eyes while doing the "accent" or speaking fake 'chinese' T_T I don't know how people think they're some comedian when they do that...
I was thinking about it and the weird thing is I got stuff like that and I'm not even Asian. Apparently I had Asian looking eyes.
And the audacity of people to say we should be thankful that people are “popularizing” and using this “look” and that we should shut up. They “appreciate” these features only when it’s convenient for them.
"white kids pulling their eyes then going on to do fox eye makeup," and its sequels, "white kids making fun of Japanese accents and then watching anime and calling themself otakus," "white kids calling cuvid 'China virus' and then enjoying the '雪花飘飘被封小小' (please correct me on the characters if i messed it up) meme," and "white people ftishizing Japanese people, then bullying every other Asian person"
@@blightedroses2423 a lot of people with eastern european in their ancestry have "asian eyes" but are white maybe that is you
Also remember that we don't exist to be "pretty". We deserve to live full lives without having our worth intrinsically tied to our appearance.
I grew up with a lot of Bollywood which is so great because as a brown girl, it was just really something that made me feel good not only because of their mostly brown skin and hair but also because the bodys are just more "realistic".
But I was still focusing on beauty standards, not on germanys beauty standards but on beauty standards in country's like india so country's where most of the people have brown skin etc.
What is making me a lil disappointed is that I felt the need to fit into a beauty standard no matter which one it was.
Friends, please remember that so many of these “beauty standards” exist solely to sell you something (plastic surgery, specific clothing items to accentuate certain body parts/give the appearance of a different body shape, certain cosmetic products, etc.)
Exactly.
These trends don't just emerge unbidden from the ether. They're manufactured by someone trying to make a buck.
The larger trends that everyone knows are just the successful ventures. Everyone forgets all of the failed trends that never made it beyond a regional market.
Exactly
Aksjdighdidhfk capitalism
I dont know. I need that cream to get rid of my knee dimples. I just realized how ugly those are
Yep! And they cycle! So we might as well ignore!
*Me, who got called "spotty face" as a kid for having a naturally freckly af face, seeing all these tik tok teens drawing freckles on:* MY, HOW THE TURNTABLES
This!!! I got teased mercilessly for my abundant freckles only to see silly people doing fake freckles in "fashionable cute" locations across their noses.... that's not how freckles work. They turn up everywhere all over the face and body.
Yeah, the fake freckles trend annoys me
@@picklelover2939 i hit the motherload... glasses, freckles and dimples...
I feel very uncomfortable when people draw on freckles. They can say it's harmless all they want, but they are still accessorising with something that other people got bullied for. It makes me cringe.
Freckles are pretty. I love freckles I find them very attractive and mesmerising. Ive always wanted em
I remember back when harry potter was the shit
we were so fascinated with ginger hair, we nearly idolised it
it didn't even cross our mind that literally 5 years before that ginger were bullied
Smooth skin doesn’t mean “no cellulite”. It just means no skin blemishes or acne. I think that actually might be the one constant
I think you're right. Fashion may go in cycles, but if there's a phase where all the cool people are putting fake pimples and wrinkles on their faces, I'm think that cycle has a *very* long period...
I’m watching this as a 13 year old and my new motto is “ don’t follow the standards, be the standard in ten years “ lol 😂
Or having oily but clear skin in high school and being made fun of for being “shiny” but now we use products to make us look “glowy”
THIS THE ONE. I've always been told I have great skin but it's so oily and I live in California and LA is really hot most of the year. In high school I was so aware of how oily my skin was. Now people ask what I use for my "glow" lmao In high school matte makeup was the biggest thing and people with dry skin work better with matte products.
@@Lill2895 i have really oily skin but it makes my acne really bad :(
@@magk2524 same. I assume these women with oily but clear skin are witches.
THANK YOU! I got make fun for my oily clean skin and NOW they are using products that create the effect of oily skin
lterally got an ad for glowly sun cream before this video
It really is kinda funny that beauty standards used to be curvy because it meant you were rich enough to eat plenty and not work. And now beauty standards are such that the only people who can afford the surgeries, special diets, stylists, personal trainers, products, etc. are still the rich. Funny how that works
That's the beauty standard that's never changed, really. Wealth.
The roles have reversed
@@Myurr yeah i thought that too. What stayed the same are "wealth" and "youth".
exactly, also junk food is more affordable and faster to eat for people who work all day and have to commute (at least in America) than healthy food, which is expensive in certain areas and takes hours to prepare
In the past, white women tried to stay as white as possible as a sign that they didn’t have to work in the fields, indicating their higher status. Now, white women tan since it’s a sign of having enough wealth to have time to lay in the sun, not working.
Without the following...
there is no beauty standard
I was a teen in the late 60s and it was the same then: you had to know exactly what was wrong with your body. That was what being a woman is all about. It was so sick.
"we look at the mirror and all we see is hip dips, muffin tops, double chins, fat ankles, cellulite, stretch marks, and we feel like; 'it all shouldn't be there...' even though it's all completely natural."
I actually didn't even know that not everyone has hip dips until a few years ago. I have hip dips and I didn't know it's bad until social media told me
It all comes to the male gaze.
My mom was the reason I became severely self conscious of my body to the point I was plastic wrapping my boobs and duct taping my stomach to make myself smaller, she would always tell me and complain to me when she would get “fat” aka have a slight pooch because of has or constipation. And when I would tell her how it was making me feel she would brush me off and say I was small and didn’t need to feel that way. She says we are built the same, no we are not, she is wider than me so her organs sit more in her, im more narrow that her so mine stick out more and in my mind that was all fat that I needed to loose but even when I was little my stomach looked the same. I get out of the state of mind when im at my grandparents because my Nana doesn’t worry about it and just focuses on being healthy, and when I go back to my parents house I feel that way again and I try not to think about it but it’s hard. She also got pregnant again even though the last 3 pregnancies she said was her last which I don’t even believe anymore, she constantly complains how “fat” she is and gets sad when she gains weight. If she didn’t like how her uterus expands to hold her growing baby she shouldn’t get pregnant anymore but she doesn’t care it’s just the attention she gets from it.
Exactly. if it wasnt natural we wouldnt have them. But we do have them and it’s completely fine. I hate the fact we have to even remind people of this
@@therealsabey5142 what, no! Hip dips are really cute! ^^
The fact that beauty standards change so much over the course of just a single decade makes the push for people to permanently alter their bodies via surgery extra worrying
Yes so true! And I love your videos Sarah! ❤️
I kind of want to get laser hair removal but I also know if armpit hair makes a big comeback I will be sad af.
Yes! It makes me SO upset to see 16 year olds with work done. First off, their bodies are changing so much, and some day the surgeries they’ve had will no longer be in fashion.
@@LaceyMyriah do people really get surgery to be in style or rather to be a better versions of themselves? I never wanted a fashionable nose, just a better one,but then again, that was before social media were a thing..
it's economic, fashion needs money especially with the Global Financial Crisis and now pandemic
Thanks for making this video. I have suffered from body dysmorphia for as long as I can remember, and body acceptance is something I've been working towards. This cheered me up so thank you
Beauty standards are like a bull in a closet. If you allow it to enter into your life, it's going to cause damage.
“What is life? What is beauty? What is society?”
-My last two quarantine brain cells at 2:30 am
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As someone who was a teen in the mid to late 00s, I was called fat constantly. Guess whose body is now in and considered hot? Yeah, exactly. And I still feel fat because of the thoughts put in my head when I was 13.
this is so saddening...beauty standards really are nonsense
same
I feel this. I'm curvy because that's how my bones were built. Everything else makes it good to look at. Still want to loose a little, but not to look like them. I want to be my best me.
the opposite happened to me, i literally have the desired body type of the late 00's and i used to be constantly bullied and shamed for being too skinny/flat. 😭
As opposed to skinny People, you will look good in a Victorian corset😉
I’m so glad you have millions of people watching you. Just found you today. And I’m already feeling better about myself. Thank you! 🙏🏼❤️
nailed it! Ive experienced this myself. I was bullied when i was a teenager for not plucking my eyebrows, for having 'wild and unruly' eyebrows, so i felt insecure about them. Then suddenly my eyebrows came into fashion and i was getting lots of compliments on them which felt really weird lol That was when i knew that beauty standards are fake.