Frank could you make a video about introvert (or INFJ) who thought that he deleted a dumb video… then later, he realized that he didn’t or it hasn’t done successfully :( I’ll remember views number forever 🥲
Extroverts watching this: - (Panic) Introverts watching this: - “Totally normal, he’s a healthy introvert” Ambiverts watching this: - “It is kinda understandable but there is a lot of comedic exaggerations… Right? Right?!”
" *My memory is a strange thing. I won't remember your name 5 minutes after you tell me but I'll remember that I didn't remember your name for the rest of my life.* " I gotta say, that one really spoke to me.
Yes It's strange, our memory is very selective. I remember the negatives situations I lived that impacted me emotionally/mentally, but I don't really remember the good ones, why ? That's so sad 😿 As if we don't remember the facts, but remember our feelings ?
Me having inside jokes with myself in my head and having long conversations with myself or imaginary people in my head instead of interacting with other humans..
I don't really talk to myself. I talk as if I am explaining everything to someone only their is no one actually listening. When I know I am arguing with a person who will never grasp what I am saying I just start saying witty comebacks mainly just for myself because I get a little bit of joy from that.
As someone who is an introvert who usually talks to myself better than other people, this is quite accurate, including the one that I love going to a room where all lights are shut and begins to imagine, talk, smile, and laugh secretly all by myself about fantasies and hobbies. And then being irritated when someone barged in into my room and caught me grinning and laughing at myself, I return immediately to "beast mode" and plans for countermeasures against "hostile extroverts" who is ruining my own world.
John, I couldn't agree more. It's like you just read my mind. Except my need to be alone in silence in a dark room is fighting with my Nictophobia, so I'll need to have a dim light, that is not straight on my face, to show some light into the room. Otherwise, I agree completely
"I talked to myself more than I talk to other people" is literally the source of my problems in group assignments. Someone has to slap me in my face to make me realize about that :")) *Jokes aside, the lighting in this video is da besstt 😍
Life Pro Tip: talk to a cat or other pet, you can practice speaking, it feels less weird, and sometimes they'll even acknowledge what you said. Warning: if you're out of practice, start with a dog, preferably a fluffy one. Most are just happy to have your attention. *whispers* Cats can be bad listeners, and when they do listen, they can be pretty judgey. I once squealed with excitement at a show i was watching, the look my cat gave me. 😾
@Shelton Matthews Cats are actually great! You just have to learn how to understand their body language better. They’re like introverts in that they prefer to be around calm people, only socialize when they choose to, and have just a few people they tolerate. I’ve grown up with my cat and after 18 years together I can easily understand what she’s asking for and meet her needs.
The relief and freedom from cancelled plans is almost indescribable. It’s one of the greatest gifts someone can give. “YAY! I‘m free to do absolutely nothing!” The end “I kinda get why.”😉
But when the plans get cancelled last minute, next to being relieved you actually forced yourself to get up, get dressed, and prepare for all the small talk.... like: I did all that hard work for nothing? 😅
“In an extroverted society, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent.” ― Criss Jami, Venus in Arms
@@otterinaballgown3703 I get why extroverts would have trouble with the concept. If you love others so much, why not be around them all the time, yada yada. My answer is, pasta may be my favorite food, but if I had it for every meal it wouldn't stay in my good graces for very long.
@@SplashBeor I feel like if I had just that much more reason to be angstier than I already was in my formative teen years I could've swung that way permanently. So I get it. I guess I'm not like that because I may think the most obnoxious among us broadcast their voices the most loudly, sure, but there are countless people who are doing no harm anonymously, or even doing good without recognition so of course we wouldn't know about it. I'd rather them form my opinion about the human race, rather than let irritation worthy people win.
It's funny how i feel under the weather whenever a social gathering is approaching and I'll feel immediately better as soon as i know i can't make it in time anymore 😂
The day I hate the most is my birthday. My mom wants to invite my friends over or plan a party and I hate having to tell them "oh come over" or "do you wanna go bowling for my birthday?" I'm like just let me go out normally with my few friends for a walk and they'll wish me happy birthday and that's it. That's the perfect birthday.
My Mam threw me a surprise 21st birthday party, but I don't have many friends so almost everyone there were neighbour's and my mothers friends. It was awful. Then she complained to me that I didn't have enough friends over and the neighbours thought that was weird. Like brah... I was totally ok with going for lunch with friends. I didn't need a huge party where I'm forced to smile at people I don't really know for 4 hours.
I feel basically the same way. The first thing I do on my birthday is shut my phone off. If it’s the middle of the week, I go to work and I don’t let anyone know. If it’s on the weekend, I travel out of state and go camping far away from civilization. It’s a time I want absolutely no attention
My happiest moments are when I wake up in the morning, and I think: "What are my plans today?" And the answer is: "Nothing!" Genuine joy, and I instantly come up with thousends of things to do by myself. During lockdown, I thought this would eventually become a bit boring, but no, everday I woke up, realised I should stay at home, meeting noone, and felt even happier then the day before. There was no limit. My mental health is better then ever. I thought mayby I would come crushing down in depression when the lockdown was over, but I have no problems meeting people again, I just love being alone!
Talking to the dog and ignoring the human. Yes! My daughter watched this video with me tonight and called me out on it. So there you go, it has been confirmed by a third party. ❤🐶
@@maravertin Very unrelated but I'm like that with cars. Family will tell me their name, run through their entire family history and I'll sit there blankly. 'They drive the dark blue Volkswagen Jetta', then it clicks with me instantly (face to the car). There are neighbours I don't know the names of but I can tell you every car on their drive and for some people I can recite their vehicle history better than they can. :) If I went to a populated area often enough where people walked their dogs then I'd probably be the same for them too, although I'm usually too awkward to great the dog properly when they approach and the owners end up apologising for their dog trying to be friendly when I'm perfectly fine with it.
Celebrating canceled plans for sure. And I just recently found myself in an elevator in Vegas desperately pushing the "close" button as loud drunk people rushed to get in 🤣
Okay, so I'm not alone in the "talking to myself" thing. Phew! 😅 I have conversations about character analysis and societal moral conundrums through the generations.
i am sending this to my intj friend , he literally said to me that he appreciates people from a distance when I asked him why he doesn't socialize much 😂 😂
I remember when I was in fifth grade, a girl tried to introduce herself to me. I couldn't get her name even after she repeated it several times and ended up pretending I got it. I called her "you" for two years until finally noticing her name in her notebook. It has been many years since then but the memory still haunts me.
Best way to get out of doing something without actually lying: Say: Sorry I can't make it, I already have plans. They don't need to know that your "plans" consist of sitting at home reading and drinking tea 😂This works best in a texting situation... less likely to have a lot of follow up questions. And if there is one, you have some time to think of an answer lol
@@UpInthenightsky Yeah the follow up questions are the one possible issue that I haven't quite figured out 😂 It's like dude, I don't want to lie to you, but I also don't want to hurt your feelings, and you're making that really difficult! Lol
No. They always ask. Precise questions. What plans? Can't you make them off? WHY? Who is it about that you can't, can't you decide for yourself? (Well - the last one is actually true.)
@@Izabela-ek5nh Ugh that would drive me crazy! I guess most of the people I know don't ask (via text that is). I would never try this in person, though. Hmmmm I guess at that point you could specify dinner plans? Or plans to go see a movie. Maybe by being more specific they will assume you have plans with other ppl? I don't know. I hate lying a lot, but it's so hard when ppl are pushy. You can always say it's personal/private and don't really want to share. People aren't entitled to knowing everything about our lives. No is a complete sentence
“I hate all of you.” It doesn’t matter how many times I’ve desperately wanted to say that, I haven’f ever because it’ll sound like I’m being egotistic to people. Oh wait. Another thing to hate everyone for.
I feel like I’m crazy bc when I talk to myself, I pretend like someone I know is asking me the questions and I’m answering like an extrovert. It’s weird but it’s like I make up these scenarios in my head and I get to unleash all these emotions.
@@SirusStarTV Ah, nice to know I’m not alone. I have the same thoughts. I’ll daydream of myself meeting someone I’m interested and flirting or being back in high school and speaking out. Super weird but it’s fun to do.
Exactly, same here! Would you happen to be an INFJ? I hear that specific kind of talking to yourself is a trait of INFJs, though I could be remembering wrong.
I must confess, I thought everyone is watching SpongeBob because of Squidwards. I must confess, cancelling plans is my favorite hobby. I must confess, I'd rather climb 16 flights of stairs than being in an elevator with talking humans. I must confess, I still have friends and I don't know why. 👀
What sucks is when you choose to take the stairs to avoid the elevator with 1 person in it and then the floor you need to access is only accessible with a passkey. So you have to find the closest unlocked door, which leads you through a group of strangers wondering why you walked through their door...all of them asking if they can help you. Then you can get on the elevator you were avoiding and now instead of having 1 person, it's packed.
And then there's also a person using the stairs o-o My mind: Just keep walking don't make any eye contact keep your head down, yep a totally normal person passing through, peace ✌🏻
@@janalunadottir Sounds about right haha. Helps me understand myself a lot IMO, but man do I wish I could trade some of those for a little better memory
@@NateHatak Well, I use emotions to memorize stuff. Like putting facts into a funny story, or drawing math equations in colours, reading poems I need to learn with funny voices and so on. Maybe my ENFP personlity helps with coming up with weird sh*t. It definitely helped in school/college :D (I am not able to learn in a normal way, it is so boring, it hurts my brain)
@@janalunadottir That's really cool! Glad to see that you have found better ways to learn. Still trying to figure out how I learn best, someday I might get there :)
The story about the kindergarten actually happened to me, except one kid agreed to be my friend. We had been best friends for 12 years since then. Until we weren’t. Now we don’t even talk to each other…
I had a friendship like that. We were friends for years, and suddenly for no reason we stop being friends. And now it's like we don't even want to acknowledge that we are acquaintances. It's awkward. I don't know what happened, but now I guess it was for the best.
It’s like your speaking to my soul 🤣 I was so happy when I found your channel because it’s so nice to know that there are others that have these same thoughts and it’s totally normal. Love your videos!
I can totally relate to this video, especially the part where Frank mentions talking to a dog while blatantly ignoring the owner. That is SO me. I say hi to animals, but when a human stranger approaches, I avoid eye contact and hope it goes away 🤣
My additional confession, I wear headphones in public and half the time I'm only listening to my thoughts on shuffle. The headphones allow me to ignore people without feeling too bad after.
As an extravert I have a confession. I actually really hate interaction some days. I just got good at faking like I love it and plan things so people don't figure it out. But some days I would rather nap. I also say YES to everything and then cry because I don't get to be alone. But when I'm alone I worry that people hate me.
When I first glanced at the title I thought this was going to be a video about how an introvert purposely tries to get cancelled so people will leave him alone.
2:14 XD I saw you ! You laughed. I love to see these facial expressions. I can guess how you feel and think :"Don't laugh Frank, don't laugh, or I will have to re-film the scene" "Oh no, I laughed" "They will not see it" "Or maybe they will see it, and laugh too". After re-watch it : I love the effects between each scene when you disappear like a ghost (Oh that's sad), and on the last scene you disappear like an human XD. Oh all the scene was memories, but the last one is the reality. (Maybe I should stop to analyse, fed up of myself) Great job, simple things are the best ! Nice acting. Take care of yourself 💚 Continue to share and make us laughed.
I would eat my lunch in the school library, I knew the librarian by name and was in there so often that I was given special access and was allowed in even when it was closed. I loved it, not many people would visit and it was so quiet. The librarian was my only true close friend. She would fix my books if they got worn out from being read so much and even hold books she knew I liked when they were being given out to keep.
Cancelled plans is the best, the elevator thing I do almost every day, I’ve never asked anyone to be my friend so can’t relate lol, but I’ve legit hid from people that’s sad to say but I’ll straight up run away. Lol 😂
“When introverts are in conflict with each other...it may require a map in order to follow all the silences, nonverbal cues and passive-aggressive behaviors!” ― Adam S. McHugh
Thank God I'm an autistic person who only associates with autistic people (though still rarely as I am an introvert), almost none of us buy into all that "unspoken rules" bullshit. Social interaction is so exhausting because of all of the random nonsensical rules you have to follow and how everyone never says what they mean, so it makes no sense to make a point of exhausting everyone else. Honestly, y'all neurotypicals are so illogical when it comes to that. It should be said that it's allistic people who have difficulties interacting with people, not autistic people, we're not the ones making up random rules under the delusion that everyone knows exactly what they mean while they so very obviously never do.
My first memory is at kindergarten. I remember staying in line, being in a classroom with a lot of noise but I also remember seeing kids sitting together at lunch time and me walking to them and apparently they ignored me. I ate luch alone since that day to 3rd grade.
I was transferred out of Kindergarten because I didn’t know how to play and I could read. That book, called “a everything I needed to know I learned in Kindergarten “ doesn’t seem to apply to us
I have a personal experience with way too many of these scenarios. Your videos are amazing and are helping me to understand more about myself. Thank you for making them.
A few weeks ago I was walking home from the grocery store and saw a really cute large white fluffy dog and proceeded to tell my parents about him after a got home, but than they asked me about the person walking the dog and I couldn’t remember a thing about them, like I know there was a human being there, I just didn’t find them important enough to take note of compared to the dog..
"I hate all of you." Very relatable indeed lol, especially when paired with not having friends. Sometimes I'd be like "I wish I wasn't single," and then I'd look around at the boys I know and be like "nevermind" lol
You forgot to mention the best thing about canceled plans: the guild-free free time. "I know I could do the thing, but I haven't done it right now if the plans were not canceled. So time for Video Games!"
So funny and relatable! But honestly, all I can focus on are the ways FJ fades out of each scene... especially the last one! That was some kind of matrix-level limbo exit! How did he bend so far back without falling?!
It would be interesting to see how extroverts think about some of the confessions Frank addresses in this video. Are some of these confessions totally insane? Are any of these confessions relatable? Do any of these confessions trigger a response like: "There's no way anyone would do that!".
Frank, you are just breath-takingly cute… just in case you weren’t aware. Also, very much appreciate the Myers-Briggs but love and miss the monologues.
I relate to this so much! 😂 Especially the canceled plans and taking to myself. I have more inside jokes with myself than I have with any of my friends or family.
The forgetting the person's name is painfully relatable. I was volunteering at a local music festival about 10 years ago and ended up meeting the drummer of a band I'd never listened to before but would soon become one of my all time favorite bands (RIP, Loftland 😭💔). Before the conversation was even over, I realized I'd forgot his name but was too embarrassed to admit it to him. 🥴
When i was in high school, i had to help during the orientation day, and i had to do greet the middle school kids with another girl. I asked her her name but i forgot it immediately. When my mom went to pick me up we started talking, and she asked: What was that girl's name? My brain: homer's brain monkey Me: ....olive...olivia...something like that
Frank, I have a question about RUclips growing pains. I’d post on your “College” channel, but I don’t know if you’d see it. Do you have any tips on how to stay true to yourself and your channel once people in your real life become aware of it? Someone I care about has a channel and recently found out a few family members and casual acquaintances have seen it. She is proud that her channel is growing, but now she has stopped posting videos for the past 1 1/2 weeks. She says she’s embarrassed and finds herself either over-editing until she deletes the whole thing, or she starts being inauthentic and deletes it. She’s shown me a few of them before and after over-editing, and there is a marked difference. The relatability and endearing quality that probably helped her gain traction is now gone. She no longer feels comfortable being vulnerable. In your early videos, you were so open, honest, and vulnerable. There had to be a point where you realised people from your private life had watched. How did you stay true to yourself and to your original format? Of course, at some point it altered and became less personal. It had to happen, but it seems to have happened much later. Anyway, I think you know what I’m asking. Do you have any suggestions or experiences you feel comfortable sharing? Also, you have a video on haters, but how do you handle it when your channel starts to become successful and you begin to be a target for other people’s channels? I guess you can’t really answer that without becoming more of a target. I assume you just innately know that they are jealous and don’t have to do anything. Still, it stings her pretty badly, though.
@@Carol_65 maybe it would help if she heard from you (or someone that she trusts/respects) that it's okay to falter every now and again. Like a phoenix she can reemerge and reshape or tweak her channel and content.
@@lisarodriguez6966 Thank you, Lisa. She's going to call again tomorrow. I'll pass this on to her. In the end, she'll have to make a decision to either keep doing what she's doing or change. Either way, whether it's armor or callus, she'll have to develop a tougher skin if she want to deal with the public--or, in this case, family/acquantances. I also think it's one of those times in life where you realize who your true friend(s) and supporters are. Happens from time to time. I was wondering if it would be easier to "announce" it at the next get-together to get it over with or to let them find it on their own. It's a shame that, in so many areas in life, the people that should be happy for your success tend to be critical and jealous. As I'm typing this, I'm wondering if I'm doing this to someone else. 🤔
Awww, OMG, THIS IS ABSOLUTELY TRUEE !! WHAT THE FUCK , THIS FELT LIKE A PERSONAL ATTACK !! I CAN RELATE TO THIS SOO MUCH !! WHY ARE YOU EXPOSING US LIKE THIS DUDE !! ❤️❤️😭🥺✨
Yesss, the part about when someone tries to squeeze in the elevator doors & u press the door close button and pretend to wonder why the doors aren't opening...🤣🤣🤣 Yep, I've done that before!😮
Actually totally agree , and I’m an ambivert that leans more to the introversion side , so totally get it .. Your Videos are spot on , deep and comedic at the same time ! plus they’re genuine , really respect that .. keep up doing what you’re doing , it’s inspiring
Stay tuned for next week’s riveting episode: “Deep Thoughts With Jack Ha… Frank James.” 😆🙌 “If an introvert screams in the forest, will she still be invisible?” “When you talk to yourself, you’re not crazy. When you answer yourself, it’s time for committal.”
But... I'm not talking to myself, I'm talking to the entities in my head, and outside people rarely have good answers or know how to properly have discussions, so...
@@5idi Imagine being an extravert and not having like 5 different personalities of yourself in your head to have a chat or an advice whenever you need one. My favourite self-clones to speak to are "The Always Disagreeing One" and the "Remember That Pleasant Moment One". The first guy automatically disagrees with anything I say, and can create hours of arguements, all within my head! Fun for the whole family! The last one is kind of basic, I know, he just keeps and saves the moments when I felt good, and is able to replay those moments for a short periods of time. Which head-dwelling personas are your favourites?
“I started running; not because of the health benefits, but because it’s a way of getting out of the house and moving too fast for strangers to talk to you.” I don’t think I’ve ever related to a video as much as this one. ♥️
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Ok. I’m not an introvert. I’m just scared of certain things, like really loud talking people. 😂😂😂
Next video" the 16 different personalities at a football match.
All of your Introvert videos are very accurate, it's so accurate it scares me. It's like you're in my mind.
Frank could you make a video about introvert (or INFJ) who thought that he deleted a dumb video… then later, he realized that he didn’t or it hasn’t done successfully :(
I’ll remember views number forever 🥲
"I talked to myself more than I talk to other people."
That described me the most.
I'm an introvert but I never talk to myself and I don't see the point in it either 🤷♂️
@@simianto9957 Are you sure that u are an introvert??
@@Sneha-vk5jr Yeah definitely lmao
After wearing a mask for so long, I forget people can see my mouth moving while I talk to myself without one.
@@DarkbutNotsinister the only reason I like putting the mask on is bc ppl can't see me talking to myself
Frank James should write a book called “Confessions Of An Introvert” or “The Mind Of An Introvert.” That would be a great idea!
That's the best idea I've heard in a long time, or at least since Washington was president
Bro your name 😂
Great video,
Great idea,
Great name espeically!
Then "Confessions as an Extrovert".
Up
Extroverts watching this:
- (Panic)
Introverts watching this:
- “Totally normal, he’s a healthy introvert”
Ambiverts watching this:
- “It is kinda understandable but there is a lot of comedic exaggerations… Right? Right?!”
this all seemed traumatising. 😂
Ambivert here and yeah thats super accurate
😂 Introvert approves it's correctness
Wait.. this isn't exaggerated? 😯
@@lithasunset not in the slightest
" *My memory is a strange thing. I won't remember your name 5 minutes after you tell me but I'll remember that I didn't remember your name for the rest of my life.* "
I gotta say, that one really spoke to me.
Yes It's strange, our memory is very selective. I remember the negatives situations I lived that impacted me emotionally/mentally, but I don't really remember the good ones, why ? That's so sad 😿
As if we don't remember the facts, but remember our feelings ?
@@ElodieN_INTJ_Typology_Insights Yeah. I don't like that about brains.
Others isn't good at remembering your name either, i need to say again and again my name for someone to remember
Yeah it sucks sometimes.
Yes. Then I'll spend a trying to recall the name for no reason
Chatty Neighbor: “Howdy! Flying for business or pleasure?”
Me: “Uh… ¿Qué?”
Chatty Neighbor: “¡Maravilloso! ¿Hablas español tambien?”
Me: * blank stare * “Uh… Nein…” * slowly raises magazine *
lol
RBF solves that problem in advance.
Oh boy. Sinkhole NOW!! LoL
It's a nightmare!
My first pretend native language would actually be French, but German is my back-up, so this is still pretty accurate.
''Usually it takes the form of interviewing myself about amazing things I'll never actually accomplish''
That was real
Hit way too close to home
I feel super attacked
I was not expecting him to mention it but I'm happy to did.
Me neither
Frank - "I talk to myself more than I talk to other people"
Me - "that's not normal?"
I have just thought the same thing! I'm really chatty but only in my mind
@@StellaMarina01 ikr. I can actually chat for hours - so long as it’s with myself and in my head and no one else is around me
Me having inside jokes with myself in my head and having long conversations with myself or imaginary people in my head instead of interacting with other humans..
Yeah. Out of the best conversations with myself, I have discovered several "Lucifer" moments, AKA discoveries.
I don't really talk to myself. I talk as if I am explaining everything to someone only their is no one actually listening. When I know I am arguing with a person who will never grasp what I am saying I just start saying witty comebacks mainly just for myself because I get a little bit of joy from that.
As someone who is an introvert who usually talks to myself better than other people, this is quite accurate, including the one that I love going to a room where all lights are shut and begins to imagine, talk, smile, and laugh secretly all by myself about fantasies and hobbies. And then being irritated when someone barged in into my room and caught me grinning and laughing at myself, I return immediately to "beast mode" and plans for countermeasures against "hostile extroverts" who is ruining my own world.
But is that right? what if one day we need a real person and can't find him, we can't live our whole life in our minds. 🙁
@@Fatima-bl7cb Not to worry. Extroverts will notice the introvert and adopt it as it's friend.
Is that a thing introverts do for real?
It really is 😆
John, I couldn't agree more. It's like you just read my mind. Except my need to be alone in silence in a dark room is fighting with my Nictophobia, so I'll need to have a dim light, that is not straight on my face, to show some light into the room. Otherwise, I agree completely
"I talked to myself more than I talk to other people" is literally the source of my problems in group assignments. Someone has to slap me in my face to make me realize about that :"))
*Jokes aside, the lighting in this video is da besstt 😍
Lol
Life Pro Tip: talk to a cat or other pet, you can practice speaking, it feels less weird, and sometimes they'll even acknowledge what you said.
Warning: if you're out of practice, start with a dog, preferably a fluffy one. Most are just happy to have your attention. *whispers* Cats can be bad listeners, and when they do listen, they can be pretty judgey.
I once squealed with excitement at a show i was watching, the look my cat gave me. 😾
@Shelton Matthews
Cats are actually great! You just have to learn how to understand their body language better. They’re like introverts in that they prefer to be around calm people, only socialize when they choose to, and have just a few people they tolerate. I’ve grown up with my cat and after 18 years together I can easily understand what she’s asking for and meet her needs.
@@mechengr1731 That's a good idea! Pets can also help us to reduce stress, right? And yeah, I'm a dog person 😅
@@julietteferrars3097 don't get me wrong, my cat can be loving when she chooses to be. But she also knows she's running the show.
The relief and freedom from cancelled plans is almost indescribable. It’s one of the greatest gifts someone can give. “YAY! I‘m free to do absolutely nothing!”
The end “I kinda get why.”😉
So true!!
When you call somebody and they dont pick up....the relief, the joy....
But when the plans get cancelled last minute, next to being relieved you actually forced yourself to get up, get dressed, and prepare for all the small talk.... like: I did all that hard work for nothing? 😅
@@anushkaguptaa when someone suddenly asks you to pickup a call : PANIC
“In an extroverted society, the difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that an introvert is often unconsciously deemed guilty until proven innocent.”
― Criss Jami, Venus in Arms
wow I loved it.... ❤
@@divishatewari7612 me too!
Ouch, that sounds about right.
So true!
Have always felt this without being able to sum it up so well...It's really true, but not fair.
The introvert is being so brave and transparent. Inspiring
Today i said "I don't like talking" when X guy said why he (me) don't enter the conversation
My confession: I'm no misanthrope, I love people. *From a distance.*
👍💙.. same
@@otterinaballgown3703 I get why extroverts would have trouble with the concept. If you love others so much, why not be around them all the time, yada yada. My answer is, pasta may be my favorite food, but if I had it for every meal it wouldn't stay in my good graces for very long.
I generally feel irritated by most people…at any distance.
@@SplashBeor I feel like if I had just that much more reason to be angstier than I already was in my formative teen years I could've swung that way permanently. So I get it. I guess I'm not like that because I may think the most obnoxious among us broadcast their voices the most loudly, sure, but there are countless people who are doing no harm anonymously, or even doing good without recognition so of course we wouldn't know about it. I'd rather them form my opinion about the human race, rather than let irritation worthy people win.
It's funny how i feel under the weather whenever a social gathering is approaching and I'll feel immediately better as soon as i know i can't make it in time anymore 😂
Yes like physical discomfort begins and I'm like, nah I'm feeling sick. Shortly after I'm good again. Love how my body pushes me to cancel everything😂
I'm never lying when I say I'm under the weather. The dread of going out of the house to deal with people makes me physically nauseous.
Well, everyone's under some kind of weather.
The day I hate the most is my birthday. My mom wants to invite my friends over or plan a party and I hate having to tell them "oh come over" or "do you wanna go bowling for my birthday?" I'm like just let me go out normally with my few friends for a walk and they'll wish me happy birthday and that's it. That's the perfect birthday.
My Mam threw me a surprise 21st birthday party, but I don't have many friends so almost everyone there were neighbour's and my mothers friends. It was awful. Then she complained to me that I didn't have enough friends over and the neighbours thought that was weird. Like brah... I was totally ok with going for lunch with friends. I didn't need a huge party where I'm forced to smile at people I don't really know for 4 hours.
@@arandomcheese I feel your discomfort.
A surprise birthday party would be one of my worst nightmares coming true.
I feel basically the same way. The first thing I do on my birthday is shut my phone off. If it’s the middle of the week, I go to work and I don’t let anyone know. If it’s on the weekend, I travel out of state and go camping far away from civilization. It’s a time I want absolutely no attention
@@arandomcheese haha sounds like fun :)
“In terms of instant relief, cancelling plans is like heroin.” -John Mulaney
We love a John Mulaney reference 😂
My happiest moments are when I wake up in the morning, and I think: "What are my plans today?" And the answer is: "Nothing!" Genuine joy, and I instantly come up with thousends of things to do by myself. During lockdown, I thought this would eventually become a bit boring, but no, everday I woke up, realised I should stay at home, meeting noone, and felt even happier then the day before. There was no limit. My mental health is better then ever. I thought mayby I would come crushing down in depression when the lockdown was over, but I have no problems meeting people again, I just love being alone!
Staying home alone, with the peace of knowing everyone else was, too. The extroverts were not out having more fun and better lives.
Talking to the dog and ignoring the human. Yes! My daughter watched this video with me tonight and called me out on it. So there you go, it has been confirmed by a third party. ❤🐶
👍😂 That's so scientific!
@@StephanieJeanne 🤣 I didn't think of it that way, but you're right! 👩🔬🔬
Well the dog is *infinitely* better than the human and *far* more important so they deserve to be talked to *way* more than the human does
I’ve done that buy I’m not sure how to pet the dog, so i just walk away
@@maravertin Very unrelated but I'm like that with cars. Family will tell me their name, run through their entire family history and I'll sit there blankly. 'They drive the dark blue Volkswagen Jetta', then it clicks with me instantly (face to the car). There are neighbours I don't know the names of but I can tell you every car on their drive and for some people I can recite their vehicle history better than they can. :)
If I went to a populated area often enough where people walked their dogs then I'd probably be the same for them too, although I'm usually too awkward to great the dog properly when they approach and the owners end up apologising for their dog trying to be friendly when I'm perfectly fine with it.
Introverts really be like "I love parties, unless I actually have to go to one"
2020 canceled a lakeside camping/kayaking/horseback riding, etc., family reunion I never wanted to attend. Happy happy tears! 🥲🥲🥲
Celebrating canceled plans for sure. And I just recently found myself in an elevator in Vegas desperately pushing the "close" button as loud drunk people rushed to get in 🤣
Okay, so I'm not alone in the "talking to myself" thing. Phew! 😅 I have conversations about character analysis and societal moral conundrums through the generations.
Are you me? This is me after consuming any kind of media and the way I go off tangent during these 'conversations' lmao
i am sending this to my intj friend , he literally said to me that he appreciates people from a distance when I asked him why he doesn't socialize much 😂 😂
Good description
I remember when I was in fifth grade, a girl tried to introduce herself to me. I couldn't get her name even after she repeated it several times and ended up pretending I got it. I called her "you" for two years until finally noticing her name in her notebook. It has been many years since then but the memory still haunts me.
You just needed to write it down once. I’m the same.
Instead of having any human interaction I have been binge watching all of your vedios being an introvert they gives me peace of my mind 😌
When i try for example to make eye contact, after doing it I'm like "nah, I'm done with socialising"
Plans being cancelled is music to my ears🎵
Best way to get out of doing something without actually lying: Say: Sorry I can't make it, I already have plans. They don't need to know that your "plans" consist of sitting at home reading and drinking tea 😂This works best in a texting situation... less likely to have a lot of follow up questions. And if there is one, you have some time to think of an answer lol
When I say this I still get follow up questions like what have you planned etc.. so getting on my nerves
Lol great thanks I’ll keep that in mind in case anyone actually ever asks me to do something 😆
@@UpInthenightsky Yeah the follow up questions are the one possible issue that I haven't quite figured out 😂 It's like dude, I don't want to lie to you, but I also don't want to hurt your feelings, and you're making that really difficult! Lol
No. They always ask. Precise questions. What plans? Can't you make them off? WHY? Who is it about that you can't, can't you decide for yourself? (Well - the last one is actually true.)
@@Izabela-ek5nh Ugh that would drive me crazy! I guess most of the people I know don't ask (via text that is). I would never try this in person, though. Hmmmm I guess at that point you could specify dinner plans? Or plans to go see a movie. Maybe by being more specific they will assume you have plans with other ppl? I don't know. I hate lying a lot, but it's so hard when ppl are pushy. You can always say it's personal/private and don't really want to share. People aren't entitled to knowing everything about our lives. No is a complete sentence
i feel comfortble after watching this..now i know that i am not alone
“I hate all of you.”
It doesn’t matter how many times I’ve desperately wanted to say that, I haven’f ever because it’ll sound like I’m being egotistic to people.
Oh wait.
Another thing to hate everyone for.
I read that "888 years ago "
And I was like what?!
But I realized after
I do hate everyone
I feel like I’m crazy bc when I talk to myself, I pretend like someone I know is asking me the questions and I’m answering like an extrovert. It’s weird but it’s like I make up these scenarios in my head and I get to unleash all these emotions.
In my dreams I'm more extroverted than I'm in real life, like I make jokes in a school class, i didn't do that when i was in school...
@@SirusStarTV Ah, nice to know I’m not alone. I have the same thoughts. I’ll daydream of myself meeting someone I’m interested and flirting or being back in high school and speaking out. Super weird but it’s fun to do.
Exactly, same here! Would you happen to be an INFJ? I hear that specific kind of talking to yourself is a trait of INFJs, though I could be remembering wrong.
I must confess, I thought everyone is watching SpongeBob because of Squidwards.
I must confess, cancelling plans is my favorite hobby.
I must confess, I'd rather climb 16 flights of stairs than being in an elevator with talking humans.
I must confess, I still have friends and I don't know why. 👀
Lol yep, spongebob will be so boring without squidward
What sucks is when you choose to take the stairs to avoid the elevator with 1 person in it and then the floor you need to access is only accessible with a passkey. So you have to find the closest unlocked door, which leads you through a group of strangers wondering why you walked through their door...all of them asking if they can help you. Then you can get on the elevator you were avoiding and now instead of having 1 person, it's packed.
@@Kharizmah omg!😭🙌
And then there's also a person using the stairs o-o
My mind: Just keep walking don't make any eye contact keep your head down, yep a totally normal person passing through, peace ✌🏻
Your friends are probably all extroverts. They love you because you are such a good listener.
The dramatic irony here is all those things make sense
Squidward!🤣That was so simultaneously sad and hilarious! I love the format!
🙌 💜
"... , but I will remember not being able to remember for the rest of my life." WHY IS THIS TRUE?! WHY DOES MY BRAIN WORK IN THIS WAY?? WHYYYYY
Your memory loves emotions. And embarrassment (damn it, i forgot the name) beats disinterest ("my name is blahblahblah").
@@janalunadottir Sounds about right haha. Helps me understand myself a lot IMO, but man do I wish I could trade some of those for a little better memory
@@NateHatak Well, I use emotions to memorize stuff. Like putting facts into a funny story, or drawing math equations in colours, reading poems I need to learn with funny voices and so on. Maybe my ENFP personlity helps with coming up with weird sh*t. It definitely helped in school/college :D (I am not able to learn in a normal way, it is so boring, it hurts my brain)
@@janalunadottir That's really cool! Glad to see that you have found better ways to learn. Still trying to figure out how I learn best, someday I might get there :)
I work at Walmart and I say hi to almost every dog I pass by, but I completely ignore the owner(s) in most cases. So yeah, I can relate to that.
“But I’ll remember that I didn’t remember, for the rest of my life”
Me too, sir
😂😂😂 talking to dog is reasonable
And also the squidward is Basically meee.. totally relatableeee
I love how it sounds like a murder documentary
The amount I relate to this is simultaneously comforting and scary
The story about the kindergarten actually happened to me, except one kid agreed to be my friend. We had been best friends for 12 years since then. Until we weren’t. Now we don’t even talk to each other…
I had a friendship like that. We were friends for years, and suddenly for no reason we stop being friends. And now it's like we don't even want to acknowledge that we are acquaintances. It's awkward. I don't know what happened, but now I guess it was for the best.
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@@alexeysaranchev6118 lol that's savage
Other "friends" maybe changed him and he feel less introverted, so he don't want to talk with you. He's different specie now.
It can be very painful but this sort of things happen indeed...people taking different life paths is often the reason.
It’s like your speaking to my soul 🤣 I was so happy when I found your channel because it’s so nice to know that there are others that have these same thoughts and it’s totally normal. Love your videos!
I swear a river is coming out of my eyes! 😂
Good times. Good memories. Good talks.
I can totally relate to this video, especially the part where Frank mentions talking to a dog while blatantly ignoring the owner. That is SO me. I say hi to animals, but when a human stranger approaches, I avoid eye contact and hope it goes away 🤣
One evening i was hanging out with a friend and some other guys, and i literally walked away from then to see a shiba inu
The English word that makes me the happiest is raincheck. All the nervousness and stress just vanish and it's the best feeling.
My additional confession, I wear headphones in public and half the time I'm only listening to my thoughts on shuffle. The headphones allow me to ignore people without feeling too bad after.
That's a Good idea!
Oh, that’s not very good.
My struggle is that I want to do things sometimes, so I make plans to do things, and then I decide at the last minute I dont want to do it.
Like a kid hesitating at the edge of a pool, afraid to jump in.
"I talk to myself more than I talk to other people."
Me: Hahaha, that's true.
Also me: Hahaha, yes! We always do that.
"I talk to myself more than other people"... this is soooooo me..😀😀
Omg I am not the only one who interview myself?! I feel so good about my sanity now
All of your Introvert videos are very accurate, it's so accurate it scares me. It's like you're in my mind.
We aren't nature mistake afterall, as extroverts want us to believe.
My friend who I haven't seen in 4 years had to cancel my visit with her today and I was so happy! I feel a little guilty though--guilty pleasure.
I’m happy being an introvert. Just the thought of being an extrovert exhausts me. I’m happy in my little world.
Plans getting canceled is awesome...I thought it was just me 👏🏽
Wow didn’t expect to feel like a therapist
As an extravert I have a confession. I actually really hate interaction some days. I just got good at faking like I love it and plan things so people don't figure it out. But some days I would rather nap. I also say YES to everything and then cry because I don't get to be alone. But when I'm alone I worry that people hate me.
Are you sure you aren’t an ambivert? Cause some of those seem like much more introverted tendencies to me
💙.. thanks for the share .. sending solidarity vibes 😎💚
When I first glanced at the title I thought this was going to be a video about how an introvert purposely tries to get cancelled so people will leave him alone.
2:14 XD I saw you ! You laughed.
I love to see these facial expressions. I can guess how you feel and think :"Don't laugh Frank, don't laugh, or I will have to re-film the scene" "Oh no, I laughed" "They will not see it" "Or maybe they will see it, and laugh too".
After re-watch it : I love the effects between each scene when you disappear like a ghost (Oh that's sad), and on the last scene you disappear like an human XD. Oh all the scene was memories, but the last one is the reality. (Maybe I should stop to analyse, fed up of myself)
Great job, simple things are the best ! Nice acting.
Take care of yourself 💚 Continue to share and make us laughed.
LOL, I totally greet the animal and ignore the person!!!! -INFP
Pretending to not speak English, wow!! That is some serious introversion there lol 😆
😂💯💯💯 Great acting, great lighting...just wonderful.
If you write a book, you can bet that I'm buying it the first day. You're relatable as fuck.
I would eat my lunch in the school library, I knew the librarian by name and was in there so often that I was given special access and was allowed in even when it was closed. I loved it, not many people would visit and it was so quiet. The librarian was my only true close friend. She would fix my books if they got worn out from being read so much and even hold books she knew I liked when they were being given out to keep.
Cancelled plans is the best, the elevator thing I do almost every day, I’ve never asked anyone to be my friend so can’t relate lol, but I’ve legit hid from people that’s sad to say but I’ll straight up run away. Lol 😂
Introvert cannot ask like that for friends
@@dilipsachan8669 But little kids’ parents tell them to. It’s all wrong! 😂
“When introverts are in conflict with each other...it may require a map in order to follow all the silences, nonverbal cues and passive-aggressive behaviors!”
― Adam S. McHugh
Who said this? It's geniusly accurate
I accept this!!!
Thank God I'm an autistic person who only associates with autistic people (though still rarely as I am an introvert), almost none of us buy into all that "unspoken rules" bullshit. Social interaction is so exhausting because of all of the random nonsensical rules you have to follow and how everyone never says what they mean, so it makes no sense to make a point of exhausting everyone else.
Honestly, y'all neurotypicals are so illogical when it comes to that. It should be said that it's allistic people who have difficulties interacting with people, not autistic people, we're not the ones making up random rules under the delusion that everyone knows exactly what they mean while they so very obviously never do.
My first memory is at kindergarten. I remember staying in line, being in a classroom with a lot of noise but I also remember seeing kids sitting together at lunch time and me walking to them and apparently they ignored me. I ate luch alone since that day to 3rd grade.
I was transferred out of Kindergarten because I didn’t know how to play and I could read.
That book, called “a everything I needed to know I learned in Kindergarten “ doesn’t seem to apply to us
I don't hate people. I can even like them. From a distance.
Highly relatable! 😂😂😂
Feel like your videos are getting more humorous... I really love them. 😊
I have a personal experience with way too many of these scenarios. Your videos are amazing and are helping me to understand more about myself. Thank you for making them.
A few weeks ago I was walking home from the grocery store and saw a really cute large white fluffy dog and proceeded to tell my parents about him after a got home, but than they asked me about the person walking the dog and I couldn’t remember a thing about them, like I know there was a human being there, I just didn’t find them important enough to take note of compared to the dog..
These are keeping me going at the moment - thanks dude.
"I hate all of you." Very relatable indeed lol, especially when paired with not having friends. Sometimes I'd be like "I wish I wasn't single," and then I'd look around at the boys I know and be like "nevermind" lol
This isn't a video , this is real footage of my brain at 3 am.
You forgot to mention the best thing about canceled plans: the guild-free free time.
"I know I could do the thing, but I haven't done it right now if the plans were not canceled. So time for Video Games!"
So funny and relatable! But honestly, all I can focus on are the ways FJ fades out of each scene... especially the last one! That was some kind of matrix-level limbo exit! How did he bend so far back without falling?!
It would be interesting to see how extroverts think about some of the confessions Frank addresses in this video. Are some of these confessions totally insane? Are any of these confessions relatable? Do any of these confessions trigger a response like: "There's no way anyone would do that!".
Pretended not to speak English on the plane?! That's genious! Gonna do that next time I fly👍🏻👏🏻
Perfectly accurate, nothing exaggerated ❤️❤️
Frank, you are just breath-takingly cute… just in case you weren’t aware. Also, very much appreciate the Myers-Briggs but love and miss the monologues.
He’s gorgeous. He’s also cute - his sweetness comes through. 💗
I relate to this so much! 😂 Especially the canceled plans and taking to myself. I have more inside jokes with myself than I have with any of my friends or family.
I get pissed off everytime plans get canceled at the very last moment (when I'm done preparing)
The forgetting the person's name is painfully relatable. I was volunteering at a local music festival about 10 years ago and ended up meeting the drummer of a band I'd never listened to before but would soon become one of my all time favorite bands (RIP, Loftland 😭💔). Before the conversation was even over, I realized I'd forgot his name but was too embarrassed to admit it to him. 🥴
When i was in high school, i had to help during the orientation day, and i had to do greet the middle school kids with another girl. I asked her her name but i forgot it immediately. When my mom went to pick me up we started talking, and she asked: What was that girl's name?
My brain: homer's brain monkey
Me: ....olive...olivia...something like that
Frank, I have a question about RUclips growing pains. I’d post on your “College” channel, but I don’t know if you’d see it. Do you have any tips on how to stay true to yourself and your channel once people in your real life become aware of it?
Someone I care about has a channel and recently found out a few family members and casual acquaintances have seen it. She is proud that her channel is growing, but now she has stopped posting videos for the past 1 1/2 weeks. She says she’s embarrassed and finds herself either over-editing until she deletes the whole thing, or she starts being inauthentic and deletes it. She’s shown me a few of them before and after over-editing, and there is a marked difference. The relatability and endearing quality that probably helped her gain traction is now gone. She no longer feels comfortable being vulnerable.
In your early videos, you were so open, honest, and vulnerable. There had to be a point where you realised people from your private life had watched. How did you stay true to yourself and to your original format? Of course, at some point it altered and became less personal. It had to happen, but it seems to have happened much later. Anyway, I think you know what I’m asking. Do you have any suggestions or experiences you feel comfortable sharing?
Also, you have a video on haters, but how do you handle it when your channel starts to become successful and you begin to be a target for other people’s channels? I guess you can’t really answer that without becoming more of a target. I assume you just innately know that they are jealous and don’t have to do anything. Still, it stings her pretty badly, though.
unfortunately, there is no trick. she just needs to post what she wants to post and deal with discomfort
👍🙂 Thank you for replying.
@@Carol_65 maybe it would help if she heard from you (or someone that she trusts/respects) that it's okay to falter every now and again. Like a phoenix she can reemerge and reshape or tweak her channel and content.
@@lisarodriguez6966 Thank you, Lisa. She's going to call again tomorrow. I'll pass this on to her. In the end, she'll have to make a decision to either keep doing what she's doing or change. Either way, whether it's armor or callus, she'll have to develop a tougher skin if she want to deal with the public--or, in this case, family/acquantances. I also think it's one of those times in life where you realize who your true friend(s) and supporters are. Happens from time to time. I was wondering if it would be easier to "announce" it at the next get-together to get it over with or to let them find it on their own. It's a shame that, in so many areas in life, the people that should be happy for your success tend to be critical and jealous. As I'm typing this, I'm wondering if I'm doing this to someone else. 🤔
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Awww, OMG, THIS IS ABSOLUTELY TRUEE !! WHAT THE FUCK , THIS FELT LIKE A PERSONAL ATTACK !! I CAN RELATE TO THIS SOO MUCH !! WHY ARE YOU EXPOSING US LIKE THIS DUDE !! ❤️❤️😭🥺✨
"Squidward is basically me"
I mean, I can relate 😂
Yesss, the part about when someone tries to squeeze in the elevator doors & u press the door close button and pretend to wonder why the doors aren't opening...🤣🤣🤣 Yep, I've done that before!😮
I actually hate conversations so much that I don't even talk to myself :D
Actually totally agree , and I’m an ambivert that leans more to the introversion side , so totally get it ..
Your Videos are spot on , deep and comedic at the same time !
plus they’re genuine , really respect that ..
keep up doing what you’re doing , it’s inspiring
Stay tuned for next week’s riveting episode: “Deep Thoughts With Jack Ha… Frank James.” 😆🙌 “If an introvert screams in the forest, will she still be invisible?” “When you talk to yourself, you’re not crazy. When you answer yourself, it’s time for committal.”
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Deep thoughts with Jack Handy.🙌😂🤣 As long as he doesn't start doing Mr. Bill.😆
But... I'm not talking to myself, I'm talking to the entities in my head, and outside people rarely have good answers or know how to properly have discussions, so...
@@5idi Exactly!
@@5idi Imagine being an extravert and not having like 5 different personalities of yourself in your head to have a chat or an advice whenever you need one. My favourite self-clones to speak to are "The Always Disagreeing One" and the "Remember That Pleasant Moment One". The first guy automatically disagrees with anything I say, and can create hours of arguements, all within my head! Fun for the whole family!
The last one is kind of basic, I know, he just keeps and saves the moments when I felt good, and is able to replay those moments for a short periods of time.
Which head-dwelling personas are your favourites?
Please do more of this type of video, FJ!! 🤣🤣
Love the atmosphere in this 😄 the lighting is wonderful lol …some of the music feels like I'm walking into an eerie part in a video game lol
Nice...
every introvert will speak this in heart.
i love this pandemic lockdown (quarantine is the best day ever)
We are... Squidward. 🦑
😭👍
“I started running; not because of the health benefits, but because it’s a way of getting out of the house and moving too fast for strangers to talk to you.”
I don’t think I’ve ever related to a video as much as this one. ♥️
God he’s good...
I relate to this so much…..especially the elevator door close button 🤣🤣🙄
0:21 Don't be calling me out like that, like I'm actually hurt :'/
Hahahaha this one! Coming out of my social anxiety from being stuck at home during this pandemic really got me like this 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Me using "My mom don't/won't allow me to go out" card because I suddenly hate human beings including myself but I am 24 :
My friends :
Me : *shrug*
"My idea of fun is going to Starbuck for 4 hours and reading a book about people actually having fun"
Masterpiece!