I wonder when job shaming is going to become a thing? "Wow. I bet you don't even love your job. You're just there for the money!" hahaha duh. Being with a broke man is the same thing as working at a job that never pays you.
Every woman I know that got a man living with them when I talk to them they always asking me am I at work no honey you got to work 8 days a week because you got a man living with you and you taking care of him LOL
That was a good point SheRa about calling your Mom or someone in your family if he's verbally abusing you. Abusers want the world to think they are a wonderful person and they don't want anyone to know they are really awful people.
I spent most of my life being pickmeisha to the WORLD. Family, friends, jobs, everything. Even when I went out to eat I would try to be the perfect customer; not ask for me, have a simple order, stack plates and clean table once, not ask for Togo bags, over tip. Boi I was pickmeisha to the highest degree...
@Lizzy Loca what you said “popular and miserable” was the most prolific comment of this entire thread. People don’t realize that the “benefit” of being a people pleaser is relatively minimal.
@@TASconfidential people pleasing is also very deceitful and manipulative. You're ONLY behaving a certain way to intact a specific response from others most of the time you wouldn't naturally behave like that if you didn't care to sway the opinion of others. Then you also lie to yourself about being the victim in the situation when in actuality no one forced you to people please. Living life believing you're the victim cripples you in sooo many ways because you relinquish all your power to actually self improve. Your life should be whatever you want it to be and you should know that you have the power to change.
I’ve known a lot of people-pleasing, pickmeishas all of my life… both female and male versions…. Basically suckers and walking doormats who allow themselves to be used and drained by others. I’ll tell you all this…. The only good thing that a pickmeisha gets is a packed funeral. All of the people who used you and drained you and took advantage of your kindness will speak of how “selfless” and caring you were and how you sacrificed your own life to benefit others. Just remember that they are still alive, and you won’t be at the funeral to see it!!!
I’m not trying to stay in a house with a verbally or physically abusive man. That is a very miserable situation to be in. I own my own home (mortgage paid off) and live in peace. It’s not worth it to live dependent on a man like this for some money I can get on my own. I’d rather be by myself
Shera, thankfully I am fresh out of pickmeshia mentality after watching your videos & other feminine channels. I would like to open a conversation about something very important as to why so many women are pickmeshias (on top of what you usually say). It has to do with romance novels, movies and TV shows. They ruined us women SO bad in almost every aspect of life. Looking back, I truly belive romance was invented to make women lower their guard and standards. What I mean by "romance" is sacrificing yourself, family, hobbies, friends, education, and health for a man. To let him dare sleep with you just becuase he said a few pretty words, and held the door for you while looking deeply in your eyes. These romance dramas programmed us women that the less we accept & the more we suffer for our man = the more geninue and pure our love is.. and vise versa. It taught us that accepting less is heroic and good. While wanting material things such as security and a good life is selfish, shallow and evil. Bob the builder girls are praised in these movies and they are always the "different girl" not the "basic b*tch" becuase she has such a nice pErSoNaLiTy while pretty girls that are kept are dumb and mean. Growing up with this media effs you up as a woman. There is another thing, that heros in movies are ALWAYS handsome men and villains are unattractive men. This subconsciously makes us associate handsome men = good providers, protective, heroic, not selfish, loyal, loving.. Etc because in movies, they have all those positive characteristics. And we can't deal with unattractive men because subconsciously we associate them with bad people/criminals. Don't even get me started on romantic music.. It's all pickmeshias ideology pumped out and it makes me want to puke listening to it. Lol "unconditional love" "ride or die" "Die for you"... HA! It's sick that our grandmothers knew most of the game, yet they didn't pass it down? It's okay to tell your daughter to have her own money & education. But it's NOT okay to encourage her to support her husband financially and to make her existence revolve around pleasing him. Anyways, modern dramas - specifically kdramas - that play to the female fantasy (you can be unkempt and STILL get the hottest & richest, young guy to fall for you and be loyal just cause your pErSoNaLiTy is great) are a load of misleading junk. Those male characters are written for what women fantaizes about, not for portraying how men actually are. Because if they did portray men accurately, they would go bankrupt. Lol. I was so brainwashed that I actually believed men approached women for "love" and not for sex. I thought men loved like how women love. Honestly, I feel scammed, hurt and betrayed... betrayed by the older women in my family, the media and society. I knew there was something untrue about the representation of men in romance, but I didn't know where or how. It's like I had hands covering my eyes and after the grace of God, you removed them Shera. I can't stand these romance dramas & music anymore. I swear I even witnessed older women that know the game, watch as younger women dig their own grave and say or do nothing about it. They are selfish and resentful that they figured out the game late, and don't want girls in their prime to know... I'm planning to tell my younger sister soon. So I hope we women give awareness to younger women, and specifically teenage girls that what they consume, isn't reality. Men use pretty words it to fish for young, naive women so they can use, abuse and discard them when they are older. P. S Courting a woman is NOT the same as romance. In romance, 99% of the time the woman sacrifices something in the name of "love". In courting, the woman *recieves* and doesn't sacrifice anything for the man except her relationship status. Thank you for reading until the end.
A man wrote a status the status said “The girls who spoil their man back be ugly as hell, we’ll pass… that was fucked up but it was eye opener for the pickmieshas they were in the comments seeking validation saying things like “I’m not ugly” or “I must be ugly than”Nobody was validating those comments instead they were putting laughing emoji under them that alone should tell woman to stop 🛑
Beware of these old fools too. They will start feeling themselves if you allow them to and becomd cranky and hella annoying. Most of them are old narcissists. Get their cash and go do you.
@@ninawestlake5005 I'd rather be with someone old and cranky who goes to bed at 8pm🤣 and provides than to be with someone "cute" and young with nothing to offer who expects you to throw it back for him every night for nothing. Someone young can't leave you a will as well. Because cash isn't enough it comes and goes
Chile - my cousin and his Bob the Builder are having a house warming next weekend. Been together approx five years, she helped him realize his dream of starting a successful business, now he finally bought a house and they moved in. Its HIS house, and she "only" pays a couple of the bills. They are mid 30s. It'll be interesting how this plays out. I was explaining to my mum your theories (she's a boomer widow). Me: He should pay ALL the bills Mum: Why, she uses electricity and water too Me: And he's using her......vagina Mum: I truly understand now! She's putting so much more on the line, than he is. For so many reasons. Thank you Shera!
Pisces here....and she's right. We are VICIOUS with our tongue if you try us. Don't let this sensitive nature fool you...our verbal lashings will have you curled up in a ball crying 🤣🤣🤣 just don't try us please. Lol
I'll warn every man that try to come into my life that don't think I'm the prize that try to treat me like I'm not cuz I got something in store for his ass better ask the last one who tried it
We all get busy and sometimes the nails get overlooked. But when she came with the entire Chanel collection😂 I love it!!! It’s the fact that she has the luxury to sit and make these videos during the day, in the comfort of her beautiful home, etc etc. Shera has the last laugh!
As cringeworthy as some of the stuff I hear on this channel is, I have to give respect where it's due. I'm an Engineering Lead. I've always been a high achiever, but when I met the woman I'm dating now (she's very good with her finances and does well herself), it pushed me to work harder, move smarter, and take more risks. I make *a lot* more money now than I did before I met her, even though I had already hit six-figures (in a LCOL area). If you're a high-quality women, you must put men through the ringer to see what he's made of, and that will let you know what kind of life you're about to have. You must understand what we as men think a high-quality woman is. A woman can truly bring the best out of a man, but it's usually that a man doesn't know what he's capable of until he's put under pressure to perform (or provide). It's also important that he's in an environment of upward mobility though, because working your life away with a laborious 2nd job just to bring in an extra $10/$20k a year is distressing and will likely result in resentment towards you. Happy hunting lades!
how do i inspire my partner to step up? when i had a good career, my ex husband resented me and became more lazy and entitled. now, i don't work and am on a sabbatical. i was hoping my 2 year boyfriend would step up and help me find a property and start a business...but he's busy with his low paying, dead end, but fun and entertaining job. so when i was a busy career woman, my ex didn't step up and now that i'm not working and asked my boyfriend to help me find a property for a business he also would not step up.
Your version of a “high quality woman” is a woman who slaves away cooking and cleaning, and paying half the bills just to prove how much of a good innocent wife she is to a man who doesn’t even value that. I’ll pass. I’ll take advice from a hypergamous woman before I take advice from any man.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 your boyfriend right now does not have any desire to level up. His job is fun so why would he leave if he doesn’t want to? He needs to find a job of equal level but higher pay within the year. If he doesn’t, leave him. He is clearly not providing you with what you want. Also, don’t do this “boyfriend” thing. You should only be exclusive when married.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 Women shouldn’t play ‘build a man’. It’s actually known that once a man levels up, he will go for someone else and cheat. Right now, he sees you at his equal level, because you are his “girlfriend”. You deserve better, a more provider, someone who can give you what you want without waiting for them to change.
You need to get married. They literally shouldn’t be coming to you for anything else. If they don’t want to marry and support you, why are they even here?! Thank you for the funeral story Shera!
I was watching Greenleaf for the millionth time and i was shocked again by the scene of Ophrah telling one of her male employees that he should stop seeing his girlfriend,cause she thought she was "trouble" for him helping her get a new car and financing her school. Ladies, you could not even pay me any amount of money to bash women like that. I guess a pickme is just that....a pickme. My younger brother's older girlfriend is a huge pickme as well. She takes care of him,bought him a brand new car and in return he cheats on her,abuses her, and she had a baby for him knowing damn well she'll be the mama and the dada. She hates my guts because i trigger her by being what i am naturally....a gorgeous,smart and hypergamous young woman.
Recently, I’ve become a fraction of myself for someone who made it clear to me he only cared enough to hurt me. I’m just sad that I’m still hurting, I wish I could let it go, especially after the disrespect. Yet here I am. Once I bounce back, I hope to never be this low again.
@S K I appreciate you so much for letting me know I’m not alone in this experience. There’s moments where everything is fine and then they crash again. Crazy thing is, I’ve been through ‘bigger’ pains in life. But I have an attachment to the lies, the deceit. Instead of empowering me it’s made me feel foolish, ran off on and small. I’m having a hard time forgiving me and feeling anything else but hurt. I do have this mustard seed of knowing that I’ll make it but it seems to vanish at times and I hate feeling weak for that.
I just had a man 41 and married claim he wanted to spoil me and provide for me but I had to give him sex first🤣🤣🤣 I think not….Indulged him with a few dates and he became obsessed wanting all my time, wanting to show me off to his friends but no money!!! He said I could ask him for anything I needed but when I ask for money or threw out scenarios nothing🙃 He would pay for dates out that I had to plan and sent the money to me to pay hmmm…. The last date we went on he sent extra 240 not on purpose. I finally cut things off and you know this ghetto man had the nerve to ask for the $240 back???? I have never been more disgusted🤣🤣🤣 He went on a whole rant about how could I do this to him☠️ Why would I take away my love from him😂😂😂 Pitiful
@@BubblySkittles14 you made me laugh though🤣🤣 "disgusted "! I had the similar experience recently. A dust asked me to go for a walk and get some ice cream. I froze and was in shock🤣🤣🤣🤣 a whole me???🤣🤣🤣 You wanna take me for a walk??? I still haven't recovered 🤣🤣🤣 I nearly went into Coma!
@@munix9351 they really have the audacity😭😭😭 that’s supposed to be his idea of a date??? no sir lmaooo the next man will resuscitate you with some money 🤑💸💸💸
SheRa, you are so right. Leveling up is going to be lonely. I am awoken and I laugh at love. I took your advice and kept that in the 20s. My birthday is next month in Hawaii. I ditched a pilot because he had a vasectomy. I would like marriage,kids, and the lifestyle. I am also going to open an online business so that I can stay at home. A former jealous pickmeisha tried to hex me by saying that my provider man will leave me nothing. I sent that hex back 🔙 .
SO MANY JEWELS DROPPED IN THIS VIDEO 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Thank you Queen. I’m equipped to deal with my new Wealthy Man lol 😂 I’ve been using the tips you gave and he’s already looking for rings and discussing marriage after two weeks.
Great advice! Especially about the dating apps. They are a waste of time & they teach women to communicate masculine way. Trying harder ..Thus, keeping women single & forever paying for the app.
I needed to hear this. Thank you Shera. I've been watching your videos for weeks and I really learned a lot. My long-distance dusty ex cheated on me for someone lesser than me and that woman never hesitated to always insult me in social media. He was her ex and they remained as friends for years so I was cool with that. However, she kept creating multiple dummy accounts to stalk me and I blocked them all. I just knew she's really insecure towards me because I'm much more beautiful, smarter, and fashionable than her. My ex probably used her for sex but it's not my business anymore, at least my v-card remains and I know I'm still valuable as a woman. I did not lose anything, aside from a draining man and a headache. Even after we broke up and last week, he kept on messaging me and I feel so disgusted. I told him that after a month we broke up, around 9 guys asked me for a date and he was surprised. I rejected those dates anyway because I followed your advice not to deal with non-established man. I won't waste my time. My dad treats me like a princess and I will never allow myself again to stoop so low for a man. I regret being too understanding because they had the guts to disrespect me. I never called his ex out. I'm not going to respond to her silly cat fight because it's not classy. I just permanently blocked them all in social media because all I feel right now is pure disgust. Luckily, I started to watch your videos while I'm still young. I'm 22 and studying at university.
I've watched a lot of Shera's level up videos. But this one right here? The timing?! Perfection ✨This is easily her best video, ton of gems dropped!!! Thank you for all the info you share, it is appreciated!!!! 👑
I want my little sister to watch your videos. I dont want her to make the same mistakes i made. I was pickmeisha barbara doormat pffff and didnt even realize it. But my power is know in my knowledge. Thank u shera you are my second mother. My mother would see me suffering for a disgusting dusty and wouldnt help me. I thank the lord for founding your channel and living my best life. My sister will be 14 in a couple of months. Is it too early for her to watch your channel?
There's a woman on RUclips who teaches manifestations and she let's her husband live in her own house just because he gives her coffee mugs 😂 He's not spending anything on her and yet she's head over heels for him and teaching others how to manifest specific person and real love 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
There’s a lot of these. I’m a coach, and there are a crazy number of female coaches (business coaches, manifestation coaches, even other dating coaches) who brag about being able to retire their husbands so he can stay at home while she works all day. Couldn’t be me.
This is true on the marriage thing. I learned this. Thankfully I had family on my side and he actually did what he said he would, he ❤'d me. Word to the wise, don't take chances, most stories aren't like mine.🤷🏾♀️
The ladies on the basketball wives reality tv are technically pick me chics because they use sex as a tool to get the players. These women have never been on a date but they are after the bag. The issue is they have no emotional connection to the men and the relationship is volatile and ends because of the lack of emotional maturity from both parties who agree to jump start a relationship because of sex. Sex based relationships are distracting and hinders people from getting to know each other and actually connecting to your potential partner while developing emotional maturity. These relationships fizzle out quickly! It’s kinda sad if you think about it. There’s nothing like courtships because they are about respect and getting to know someone which cost nothing. There’s nothing like love. Everyone wants to be loved.
Your advice is great. I domp the other guy because he couldn't take me out to Lucie's or the cheese cake factory and he was controlling my life I want to see you every morning. He was smotheri me I was tired of it thanks sheraven
it is not true that the law is on your side. it depends on where you are. where I live, common law is 3 years co-habitation....before that 3 year mark you can be kicked out with NO notice, as you are legally considered an unwelcome guest (unless your name is on the lease or deed etc)
I wish I could follow all your videos but I’m so busy with work and family I haven’t checked ur full videos for years. But trying to. People say we look alike
Shera do a video on undercover dustys I'm getting fooled lol an I'm a veteran here! dated captain (retired) I knew last year showered Me gift Christmas takin pics et. All under $20! My car was filled with junk and i messed bought him expensive shirt an pjs we know longer talk he's datein plain no makeup working "pick me sha"an is happy .
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Hello Shera
Can you do a vlog on how to handle emotional men please? Thank you.
Just purchased my book!!! Yes!!!
I love you big sis. Yes NO HOTEP WEDDINGS & get that paper/those papers. That’s right!
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Something real bad happened to me. And I learned my lesson. Baby I'm taking it to the grave.never be a pickmeisha ever again.
All of us have been there. I’m glad I wisened up.
You are not alone ❤
Shera said..."YOU are the prize because YOU think you are the prize. Get it together in your own mind first." ✨✨
That part‼️🗣🔥
Preach!
Yessa! Thats why you see those women who are not super attractive but they radiate confidence, and you have to notice them, its attractive ✨✨
Never coming off of my high horse 😭That’s the only thing that seperates girls anyway. Confidence.
Women need to start acting like a highly coveted prize because the majority act like the prize in the cereal box. Nobody wants that!
warning This channel is not politically correct lol 😎
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✨Shera, I'm on Phase 10, of the elixirs. Should I start over with Phase 1 again? Or go to the Silver and Gold Elixirs? Thank you!✨💫♥️
What are elixirs for??
If you’re working hard to keep a man he’s not the man for you👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
I wonder when job shaming is going to become a thing?
"Wow. I bet you don't even love your job. You're just there for the money!"
hahaha duh. Being with a broke man is the same thing as working at a job that never pays you.
Fawk a job jobs age you 🤮
Every woman I know that got a man living with them when I talk to them they always asking me am I at work no honey you got to work 8 days a week because you got a man living with you and you taking care of him LOL
That was a good point SheRa about calling your Mom or someone in your family if he's verbally abusing you. Abusers want the world to think they are a wonderful person and they don't want anyone to know they are really awful people.
If he doesnt wanna spend money on you, theres another rich man who will 👏
"Be his peace - why, so he can rev it up with a side piece?" Lol I love your channel
Right. While you're being his peace he's probably stressing you out.
I spent most of my life being pickmeisha to the WORLD. Family, friends, jobs, everything. Even when I went out to eat I would try to be the perfect customer; not ask for me, have a simple order, stack plates and clean table once, not ask for Togo bags, over tip. Boi I was pickmeisha to the highest degree...
Me too feel the same as you !
Glad you've reached where you are now x
@Lizzy Loca what you said “popular and miserable” was the most prolific comment of this entire thread.
People don’t realize that the “benefit” of being a people pleaser is relatively minimal.
@@TASconfidential people pleasing is also very deceitful and manipulative. You're ONLY behaving a certain way to intact a specific response from others most of the time you wouldn't naturally behave like that if you didn't care to sway the opinion of others. Then you also lie to yourself about being the victim in the situation when in actuality no one forced you to people please. Living life believing you're the victim cripples you in sooo many ways because you relinquish all your power to actually self improve. Your life should be whatever you want it to be and you should know that you have the power to change.
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I’ve known a lot of people-pleasing, pickmeishas all of my life… both female and male versions…. Basically suckers and walking doormats who allow themselves to be used and drained by others. I’ll tell you all this…. The only good thing that a pickmeisha gets is a packed funeral.
All of the people who used you and drained you and took advantage of your kindness will speak of how “selfless” and caring you were and how you sacrificed your own life to benefit others.
Just remember that they are still alive, and you won’t be at the funeral to see it!!!
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I’m not trying to stay in a house with a verbally or physically abusive man. That is a very miserable situation to be in. I own my own home (mortgage paid off) and live in peace. It’s not worth it to live dependent on a man like this for some money I can get on my own. I’d rather be by myself
the way you turn your haters to consumers and deal with trolls is inspiring
Shera, thankfully I am fresh out of pickmeshia mentality after watching your videos & other feminine channels. I would like to open a conversation about something very important as to why so many women are pickmeshias (on top of what you usually say). It has to do with romance novels, movies and TV shows. They ruined us women SO bad in almost every aspect of life.
Looking back, I truly belive romance was invented to make women lower their guard and standards. What I mean by "romance" is sacrificing yourself, family, hobbies, friends, education, and health for a man. To let him dare sleep with you just becuase he said a few pretty words, and held the door for you while looking deeply in your eyes.
These romance dramas programmed us women that the less we accept & the more we suffer for our man = the more geninue and pure our love is.. and vise versa.
It taught us that accepting less is heroic and good. While wanting material things such as security and a good life is selfish, shallow and evil.
Bob the builder girls are praised in these movies and they are always the "different girl" not the "basic b*tch" becuase she has such a nice pErSoNaLiTy while pretty girls that are kept are dumb and mean.
Growing up with this media effs you up as a woman. There is another thing, that heros in movies are ALWAYS handsome men and villains are unattractive men. This subconsciously makes us associate handsome men = good providers, protective, heroic, not selfish, loyal, loving.. Etc because in movies, they have all those positive characteristics. And we can't deal with unattractive men because subconsciously we associate them with bad people/criminals.
Don't even get me started on romantic music.. It's all pickmeshias ideology pumped out and it makes me want to puke listening to it. Lol "unconditional love" "ride or die" "Die for you"... HA!
It's sick that our grandmothers knew most of the game, yet they didn't pass it down? It's okay to tell your daughter to have her own money & education. But it's NOT okay to encourage her to support her husband financially and to make her existence revolve around pleasing him.
Anyways, modern dramas - specifically kdramas - that play to the female fantasy (you can be unkempt and STILL get the hottest & richest, young guy to fall for you and be loyal just cause your pErSoNaLiTy is great) are a load of misleading junk. Those male characters are written for what women fantaizes about, not for portraying how men actually are. Because if they did portray men accurately, they would go bankrupt. Lol.
I was so brainwashed that I actually believed men approached women for "love" and not for sex. I thought men loved like how women love.
Honestly, I feel scammed, hurt and betrayed... betrayed by the older women in my family, the media and society. I knew there was something untrue about the representation of men in romance, but I didn't know where or how. It's like I had hands covering my eyes and after the grace of God, you removed them Shera. I can't stand these romance dramas & music anymore.
I swear I even witnessed older women that know the game, watch as younger women dig their own grave and say or do nothing about it. They are selfish and resentful that they figured out the game late, and don't want girls in their prime to know... I'm planning to tell my younger sister soon. So I hope we women give awareness to younger women, and specifically teenage girls that what they consume, isn't reality. Men use pretty words it to fish for young, naive women so they can use, abuse and discard them when they are older.
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Courting a woman is NOT the same as romance. In romance, 99% of the time the woman sacrifices something in the name of "love". In courting, the woman *recieves* and doesn't sacrifice anything for the man except her relationship status.
Thank you for reading until the end.
Every word of this comment are my exact sentiments but I couldn’t state them as detailed and clearly as you did. Love it🙂
Say it louder for the idiots in the back 🤣, 200 percent correct. Love this.
Read your bible learn God way stop doing d work of d devil
THIS!💯💯💯
@@eulaprovo9786 🤣🤣
I’ve also realised pick mes never ever ever win in the game of love and at some point are discarded and thrown away
That's right. Unfortunately you have to make people respect you
"Not for nobody face, not for nobody's abs" 🤣
A man wrote a status the status said
“The girls who spoil their man back be ugly as hell, we’ll pass… that was fucked up but it was eye opener for the pickmieshas they were in the comments seeking validation saying things like “I’m not ugly” or “I must be ugly than”Nobody was validating those comments instead they were putting laughing emoji under them that alone should tell woman to stop 🛑
😂😂 That’s low key hilarious
omg wtf do they want then????
Pickmiesha and Dusty can marry each other!! 😁
And then Pickmeisha keeps making excuses on why her Dusty is broke
Ahahhhaha 😂😂😂 yeah 💯💯💯Facts!
We are also dating older🤑💕 so it saves us our youth and our time! I love that for us💃🏽"We are our own prize"
Periodttttt
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Beware of these old fools too. They will start feeling themselves if you allow them to and becomd cranky and hella annoying. Most of them are old narcissists. Get their cash and go do you.
@@ninawestlake5005 I'd rather be with someone old and cranky who goes to bed at 8pm🤣 and provides than to be with someone "cute" and young with nothing to offer who expects you to throw it back for him every night for nothing. Someone young can't leave you a will as well. Because cash isn't enough it comes and goes
There are some pickmeisha content creators who need to listen to you.
Chile - my cousin and his Bob the Builder are having a house warming next weekend. Been together approx five years, she helped him realize his dream of starting a successful business, now he finally bought a house and they moved in. Its HIS house, and she "only" pays a couple of the bills. They are mid 30s. It'll be interesting how this plays out.
I was explaining to my mum your theories (she's a boomer widow).
Me: He should pay ALL the bills
Mum: Why, she uses electricity and water too
Me: And he's using her......vagina
Mum:
I truly understand now! She's putting so much more on the line, than he is. For so many reasons. Thank you Shera!
how has it played out a year later?
I'm too lazy to be pickmesha. after my part-time job and baking a little dessert I'm exhausted.
I used to be so agreeable. I have learned a lot from listening to you. Thank you
I love myself too much to be a pickmeisha.
Pisces here....and she's right. We are VICIOUS with our tongue if you try us. Don't let this sensitive nature fool you...our verbal lashings will have you curled up in a ball crying 🤣🤣🤣 just don't try us please. Lol
I'll warn every man that try to come into my life that don't think I'm the prize that try to treat me like I'm not cuz I got something in store for his ass better ask the last one who tried it
We all get busy and sometimes the nails get overlooked. But when she came with the entire Chanel collection😂 I love it!!! It’s the fact that she has the luxury to sit and make these videos during the day, in the comfort of her beautiful home, etc etc. Shera has the last laugh!
I see a lot of content creatores copying Shera's videos!!! Shera is the queen!! 👑
And their followers are on here too. I see them commenting . Lol
As cringeworthy as some of the stuff I hear on this channel is, I have to give respect where it's due. I'm an Engineering Lead. I've always been a high achiever, but when I met the woman I'm dating now (she's very good with her finances and does well herself), it pushed me to work harder, move smarter, and take more risks. I make *a lot* more money now than I did before I met her, even though I had already hit six-figures (in a LCOL area). If you're a high-quality women, you must put men through the ringer to see what he's made of, and that will let you know what kind of life you're about to have. You must understand what we as men think a high-quality woman is. A woman can truly bring the best out of a man, but it's usually that a man doesn't know what he's capable of until he's put under pressure to perform (or provide). It's also important that he's in an environment of upward mobility though, because working your life away with a laborious 2nd job just to bring in an extra $10/$20k a year is distressing and will likely result in resentment towards you. Happy hunting lades!
how do i inspire my partner to step up? when i had a good career, my ex husband resented me and became more lazy and entitled. now, i don't work and am on a sabbatical. i was hoping my 2 year boyfriend would step up and help me find a property and start a business...but he's busy with his low paying, dead end, but fun and entertaining job. so when i was a busy career woman, my ex didn't step up and now that i'm not working and asked my boyfriend to help me find a property for a business he also would not step up.
Your version of a “high quality woman” is a woman who slaves away cooking and cleaning, and paying half the bills just to prove how much of a good innocent wife she is to a man who doesn’t even value that. I’ll pass.
I’ll take advice from a hypergamous woman before I take advice from any man.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 your boyfriend right now does not have any desire to level up. His job is fun so why would he leave if he doesn’t want to? He needs to find a job of equal level but higher pay within the year. If he doesn’t, leave him. He is clearly not providing you with what you want.
Also, don’t do this “boyfriend” thing. You should only be exclusive when married.
@@lunkee6972 he's a surf instructor. I thought it's phase. And yes I'm starting to feel resentful being a girlfriend he's not willing to change for.
@@taghazoutmoon5031 Women shouldn’t play ‘build a man’. It’s actually known that once a man levels up, he will go for someone else and cheat. Right now, he sees you at his equal level, because you are his “girlfriend”. You deserve better, a more provider, someone who can give you what you want without waiting for them to change.
Especially now that all the narcissistic personalities been revealed….self love is a movement 💕
If we could all not be pickme s then we raise the standard collectively …
You need to get married. They literally shouldn’t be coming to you for anything else. If they don’t want to marry and support you, why are they even here?! Thank you for the funeral story Shera!
I was watching Greenleaf for the millionth time and i was shocked again by the scene of Ophrah telling one of her male employees that he should stop seeing his girlfriend,cause she thought she was "trouble" for him helping her get a new car and financing her school. Ladies, you could not even pay me any amount of money to bash women like that. I guess a pickme is just that....a pickme. My younger brother's older girlfriend is a huge pickme as well. She takes care of him,bought him a brand new car and in return he cheats on her,abuses her, and she had a baby for him knowing damn well she'll be the mama and the dada. She hates my guts because i trigger her by being what i am naturally....a gorgeous,smart and hypergamous young woman.
True 😏
i feel bad for your brother's girlfriend. you never know if a guy will play you like that once you are attached and in love.
@taghazoutmoon5031 that's why she says don't get attached
Recently, I’ve become a fraction of myself for someone who made it clear to me he only cared enough to hurt me. I’m just sad that I’m still hurting, I wish I could let it go, especially after the disrespect. Yet here I am. Once I bounce back, I hope to never be this low again.
Pain is to creat pleasure, you know what pain is so now u should seek pleasure . get over it with pleasure
@@SheRaSeven1 Shera you are more than a force to be reckoned with. To better days!
@S K I appreciate you so much for letting me know I’m not alone in this experience. There’s moments where everything is fine and then they crash again. Crazy thing is, I’ve been through ‘bigger’ pains in life. But I have an attachment to the lies, the deceit. Instead of empowering me it’s made me feel foolish, ran off on and small. I’m having a hard time forgiving me and feeling anything else but hurt. I do have this mustard seed of knowing that I’ll make it but it seems to vanish at times and I hate feeling weak for that.
@S K NoW is the time for it to pass.
I just had a man 41 and married claim he wanted to spoil me and provide for me but I had to give him sex first🤣🤣🤣 I think not….Indulged him with a few dates and he became obsessed wanting all my time, wanting to show me off to his friends but no money!!! He said I could ask him for anything I needed but when I ask for money or threw out scenarios nothing🙃 He would pay for dates out that I had to plan and sent the money to me to pay hmmm…. The last date we went on he sent extra 240 not on purpose. I finally cut things off and you know this ghetto man had the nerve to ask for the $240 back???? I have never been more disgusted🤣🤣🤣 He went on a whole rant about how could I do this to him☠️ Why would I take away my love from him😂😂😂 Pitiful
lol that’s a mess , glad u ended that
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣.. "the ghetto"🤣🤣🤣 these men are audicious 🤣🤣🤣
@@munix9351 Girl so ghetto!!! It just kept getting worse😭😭😭 I couldn’t take it☠️
@@BubblySkittles14 you made me laugh though🤣🤣 "disgusted "! I had the similar experience recently. A dust asked me to go for a walk and get some ice cream. I froze and was in shock🤣🤣🤣🤣 a whole me???🤣🤣🤣 You wanna take me for a walk??? I still haven't recovered 🤣🤣🤣 I nearly went into Coma!
@@munix9351 they really have the audacity😭😭😭 that’s supposed to be his idea of a date??? no sir lmaooo the next man will resuscitate you with some money 🤑💸💸💸
SheRa, you are so right. Leveling up is going to be lonely. I am awoken and I laugh at love. I took your advice and kept that in the 20s. My birthday is next month in Hawaii. I ditched a pilot because he had a vasectomy. I would like marriage,kids, and the lifestyle. I am also going to open an online business so that I can stay at home. A former jealous pickmeisha tried to hex me by saying that my provider man will leave me nothing. I sent that hex back 🔙 .
Girl why did you get rid of the pilot? I would have at least kept him and waited until I got what I wanted out of him.
I’m cryinnng, she said “layin up in the bed hollerin wit you” I can’t with shera omg she right tho lmaoo 😭
Lmfao she is amazing
This video is so good. Especially the part about us over sharing our business. So true
Every video shera makes is amazing
Most businesses don't last..
don't do the dating apps. go out. women get killed off those apps.
I agree, plus it brings so many unwanted dusties in your dms. People can fake way better online. I learned my lesson lol 😆
@@AlmaMartinez-learned my lesson to 😅
SO MANY JEWELS DROPPED IN THIS VIDEO 🔥🔥🔥🔥 Thank you Queen. I’m equipped to deal with my new Wealthy Man lol 😂 I’ve been using the tips you gave and he’s already looking for rings and discussing marriage after two weeks.
Great advice! Especially about the dating apps. They are a waste of time & they teach women to communicate masculine way. Trying harder ..Thus, keeping women single & forever paying for the app.
“I am good enough!” said Shera. This is the best thing I’ve heard all day.
I needed to hear this. Thank you Shera. I've been watching your videos for weeks and I really learned a lot. My long-distance dusty ex cheated on me for someone lesser than me and that woman never hesitated to always insult me in social media. He was her ex and they remained as friends for years so I was cool with that. However, she kept creating multiple dummy accounts to stalk me and I blocked them all. I just knew she's really insecure towards me because I'm much more beautiful, smarter, and fashionable than her. My ex probably used her for sex but it's not my business anymore, at least my v-card remains and I know I'm still valuable as a woman. I did not lose anything, aside from a draining man and a headache. Even after we broke up and last week, he kept on messaging me and I feel so disgusted. I told him that after a month we broke up, around 9 guys asked me for a date and he was surprised. I rejected those dates anyway because I followed your advice not to deal with non-established man. I won't waste my time. My dad treats me like a princess and I will never allow myself again to stoop so low for a man.
I regret being too understanding because they had the guts to disrespect me. I never called his ex out. I'm not going to respond to her silly cat fight because it's not classy. I just permanently blocked them all in social media because all I feel right now is pure disgust. Luckily, I started to watch your videos while I'm still young. I'm 22 and studying at university.
Honey you re always going to be valuable as a woman, you bring value just by being a woman❤
Long live the Queen of the level up movement!!!!!! 🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍🤍💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯
“Call somebody’s mama”. 🤣🤣🤣🤣. Girl you’re funny!
I don’t want no dust on my phone again…. Omg the throwbacks 😂😂😂😂😂😂
behind every former pickmeisha is a back story that made us choose better
Sprinkle, Sprinkle ! The hair is 🔥. Thank you for the content you provide .
You are so right about men I absolutely love your videos. 💞💞
I listed to your new videos but had to come watch your old just to get the whole SheraSeven University experience!
How wonderful it is to keep up with you Shera! Love u from Ethiopia
You are genuinely blessed with rock solid confidence , intelligence, beauty, a great sense of humor and wit.. Beautiful to see that🌸🧚♂️
I've watched a lot of Shera's level up videos. But this one right here? The timing?! Perfection ✨This is easily her best video, ton of gems dropped!!! Thank you for all the info you share, it is appreciated!!!! 👑
Out of the pickmeisha identity was the most powerful move I’ve been doing in my life regarding dating. Thanks to you my dear shera!
Keep up ❤🎉
I want my little sister to watch your videos. I dont want her to make the same mistakes i made. I was pickmeisha barbara doormat pffff and didnt even realize it. But my power is know in my knowledge. Thank u shera you are my second mother. My mother would see me suffering for a disgusting dusty and wouldnt help me. I thank the lord for founding your channel and living my best life.
My sister will be 14 in a couple of months. Is it too early for her to watch your channel?
Once you get a dusty they are hard to get rid of they just leech off anyone they can.
Shera when u read about time that is so me. I love to relax n I used to hop outta bed when they ask me to come over. Thanks not no More
I love this wig on you !!!! You should keep your hair this color for a while!!!!
Wisdom I wish I received so much sooner but grateful for this now❤
There's a woman on RUclips who teaches manifestations and she let's her husband live in her own house just because he gives her coffee mugs 😂 He's not spending anything on her and yet she's head over heels for him and teaching others how to manifest specific person and real love 😂😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Oh hell no..if u manifesting a man at least let him be a provider. She has it all the way wrong
There’s a lot of these. I’m a coach, and there are a crazy number of female coaches (business coaches, manifestation coaches, even other dating coaches) who brag about being able to retire their husbands so he can stay at home while she works all day. Couldn’t be me.
Drop the name? Lol.
@KeshiaRice women like that feel that if they can keep the man up in the house he won't ever cheat or leave
This woman is the best ❤ thank you for all of your work on RUclips. You have been trending lately on tik tok lol
This is the perfect blonde on your skin tone.
Shera you're such a blessing. I'm happy for you and your new book! Looking forward to reading it.
11:31 This right Shera ❤
I can't love you anymore than I do Shera
SHeraa!!!! Your a trip! You got me laughing over here! You need your own show!!!!!! ASAP!
Sprinkle ✨ Sprinkle ✨
Shera soothes me🤌🏽
This is true on the marriage thing. I learned this. Thankfully I had family on my side and he actually did what he said he would, he ❤'d me. Word to the wise, don't take chances, most stories aren't like mine.🤷🏾♀️
The ladies on the basketball wives reality tv are technically pick me chics because they use sex as a tool to get the players. These women have never been on a date but they are after the bag. The issue is they have no emotional connection to the men and the relationship is volatile and ends because of the lack of emotional maturity from both parties who agree to jump start a relationship because of sex. Sex based relationships are distracting and hinders people from getting to know each other and actually connecting to your potential partner while developing emotional maturity. These relationships fizzle out quickly! It’s kinda sad if you think about it. There’s nothing like courtships because they are about respect and getting to know someone which cost nothing. There’s nothing like love. Everyone wants to be loved.
No real joint account 🤣🤣🤣 I just love you Shera 🚦
Love the hair! You’re so gorgeous!! 🥰🥰🥰
Simple, just DON'T...
I immediately loose interest if he gives me his number. At that point, you already know he’s not a pursuer and lacks confidence (33:05).
Your advice is great. I domp the other guy because he couldn't take me out to Lucie's or the cheese cake factory and he was controlling my life I want to see you every morning. He was smotheri me I was tired of it thanks sheraven
I just ordered my book on Amazon!! I got the hardback. I can't wait to get it!!!❤
Pickmeashas start saying that they have horoscopes birthday and signs they are wealthy and leveled up
You are always so right thank you for your kindness and advice 🥰
it is not true that the law is on your side. it depends on where you are. where I live, common law is 3 years co-habitation....before that 3 year mark you can be kicked out with NO notice, as you are legally considered an unwelcome guest (unless your name is on the lease or deed etc)
Love the new hair. Looks cute
Threats are challenges! 😂😂😂
Shera, you are so funny 🤣 the one liners and the humor are sooo on point 😂
Would you please do a level up capsule wardrobe? I think that would help a lot of us. Ty 🥰🥰🥰
Good idea 🙂
I think you have a soothing voice and should make an audio book.
You should be on cover of Time Magazine you are Something Else Woman is no joke.
"Call somebody momma" "whoever call somebody" 🤣🤣🤣
Ashera, they Hair is Gorgeous on You.. You Look So Beautiful 😍
It looks a mess.
@@lc-il6wr Ya Mama look a Mess!
I wish I could follow all your videos but I’m so busy with work and family I haven’t checked ur full videos for years. But trying to. People say we look alike
❤❤❤❤ Thank You Shera ❤❤❤❤!!!!!!
Loving this look God mom ❣️🦋✨
Beautiful book. I’ll be ordering.
Shera do a video on undercover dustys I'm getting fooled lol an I'm a veteran here! dated captain (retired) I knew last year showered Me gift Christmas takin pics et. All under $20! My car was filled with junk and i messed bought him expensive shirt an pjs we know longer talk he's datein plain no makeup working "pick me sha"an is happy .
Your first suit for your funeral .took me da fuq out 😂😂😂
I'm glad im not pickmiesha anymore
Love you so much Shera ❤️🇯🇲
That wig really suits you
It's awful!
lmao @ call somebody when he start verbally abusing
Love your new Look❤️🔥🔥🔥🔥💕
I was a pick me but now I’m miss I don’t want anybody anymore I’m miss single forever ♾️ now
Hooperin an hollering lol.lol