If a Man Can date a Cute Pick me Why Does He go after Gold Diggers

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  • Опубликовано: 24 ноя 2024

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  • @jking2586
    @jking2586 4 года назад +1213

    My step mom told me that rich men cheat, I said all men cheat, I’ll take my chances with a rich one

    • @nicegurly456
      @nicegurly456 3 года назад +50

      Lmao period

    • @autumnrose6370
      @autumnrose6370 3 года назад +14

      Indeed 👸💋❣❣

    • @vstarr888
      @vstarr888 3 года назад +125

      Right. I won't say all men cheat but you can have a rich man that treats you nice or a poor man that treats you nice. Get a rich man.

    • @kjkjkj360
      @kjkjkj360 3 года назад +11

      Damn, lol 👏🏾

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 2 года назад +16

      Sprinkle Sprinkle ✨

  • @foyerfelin
    @foyerfelin 6 лет назад +1447

    I was a very cute pick-me and only got abuse and neglect from everyone until i found Shera at 50 ! Dust repellant works wonders !

    • @fuschiapink40
      @fuschiapink40 6 лет назад +32

      💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕💕

    • @listen4511
      @listen4511 6 лет назад +28

      Michelle Compton 50? What you doing with your life

    • @TheArizonaprincess
      @TheArizonaprincess 6 лет назад +40

      Dust repellant 😂😂😂👍

    • @theSpiritofTamzin
      @theSpiritofTamzin 5 лет назад +147

      I'm 51 and found Shera recently! So glad I did. If only someone like her had been around when I started dating... Would have saved me years and years of heartache and wasted time...

    • @umsiee
      @umsiee 5 лет назад +5

      Wooooooooooooooooh

  • @Mrs.704
    @Mrs.704 6 лет назад +1562

    Do ya notice pick me’s love bragging about what they can do for a man vs what a man can do for them. It’s like they love going up and beyond for the same men who would leave them at the drop of the dime for the chick he has to move mountains for.

    • @UrbanAlchemystic
      @UrbanAlchemystic 6 лет назад +150

      Ms Jackson so true! They are so bothered because they know deep down it's the truth. Otherwise they wouldn't be here stalking this woman.

    • @nkreseknowledge2241
      @nkreseknowledge2241 6 лет назад +100

      Yes, it's so pathetic! They really think that shit is normal.

    • @Mrs.704
      @Mrs.704 6 лет назад +8

      Belizean Bad&Bruja lmao pretty much!

    • @Mrs.704
      @Mrs.704 6 лет назад +141

      nkreseknowledge Lol maybe it’s me but bragging on what you can do for a man just attracts users, manipulators and of course duties. Women now a days don’t make men work for much. Just giving away the goods hoping he’ll pick her when he really wants to get his funds together and pick the high class chick.

    • @truthiswealth1074
      @truthiswealth1074 6 лет назад +37

      Yes...I used to think that way lol 😂 Never too late to change !

  • @LadyAngela678
    @LadyAngela678 4 года назад +645

    Its a red flag when a man says “Let’s build together”. That means he was too weak to make it on his own.

    • @janiemaebeauty
      @janiemaebeauty 3 года назад +26

      💯💯

    • @nj2791
      @nj2791 3 года назад +77

      And he has nothin to offer you 🤣🤣

    • @calmcalm6203
      @calmcalm6203 2 года назад +34

      Ew build together lol?

    • @Exoticbarbie.
      @Exoticbarbie. Год назад +27

      Exactly. I met a 43 year old man with 3 kids telling me he wants us to build together. In my mind im thinking shouldnt you have built already

    • @heatherjean2323
      @heatherjean2323 3 месяца назад

      Quote of the day

  • @tiffanyjohnson172
    @tiffanyjohnson172 5 лет назад +544

    Real men take pride in caring for their family 😘

  • @BlkMedusa
    @BlkMedusa 5 лет назад +731

    pick mes accept whatever a man gives. and it makes them confortable. a "gold digger" makes him uncomfortable and he has to better himself to keep up

    • @nataliesuki
      @nataliesuki 4 года назад +103

      I used to do this because I was taught to be grateful for what I was given.... What a waste of my years 😑

    • @white2925
      @white2925 4 года назад +117

      It is also the reason why men get bored and cheat. I am talking in this way because I noticed that most of the men who tried to approach me on social media are married to Pickme women. Once I ask them why they want to cheat or leave their wives, the answer is always the same: she works but she let herself go, she is lazy with her appearance, we don't get along well (meaning that they don't have sex at all) I am fed up. Bottom line: they want 50/50 pickmeishas to get help at building them but as time goes by they get bored especially if the woman loses her looks and sexual interest due to stress and overwork. So going 50/50 with any man is pointless.

    • @mrmillennium2697
      @mrmillennium2697 3 года назад +2

      Every man knows there is a billion women in this world....looks wise we all know that none of you actually standout....there is someone always younger y'all forget that

    • @JUDALATION
      @JUDALATION 3 года назад

      keep up? lolgold giggers are a concept.... they don't exist in real life

    • @nj2791
      @nj2791 3 года назад +32

      @@mrmillennium2697 there’s also a million men and men will always approach and offer things even if they are 80 years old in a wheelchair 🦼 or married to 3 hours

  • @toosweet0303
    @toosweet0303 6 лет назад +439

    Skincare is so important

  • @MrBlackretreat
    @MrBlackretreat 5 лет назад +587

    I’m a gay man .. and all your advice works on these so call alpha males

    • @gg6162
      @gg6162 5 лет назад +125

      Yes! Me too, I'm a gay guy whose the "woman" in relationships and this works on the masculine gay guys

    • @leeslyrose
      @leeslyrose 5 лет назад +65

      G G yes baby. You have to be the feminine one and you will attract the masculine ones 😘

    • @lunad7984
      @lunad7984 4 года назад +6

      foxylady246 LMAO

    • @LadyAngela678
      @LadyAngela678 4 года назад

      foxylady246 Really?! That goes without saying. 😂

    • @misssincere5762
      @misssincere5762 3 года назад +5

      DAMN! 😳

  • @rizzybone964
    @rizzybone964 6 лет назад +968

    "After a certain age you ain't a pimp no more, you're just a loser." That should be a Proverb 😂😂
    Love you Shera💕

    • @truthiswealth1074
      @truthiswealth1074 6 лет назад +50

      MajesticMerisa It is a proverb , it's in the book of Ashera Chapter 2:7 If thou art an old man with a picketh me , thou art not a pimp sayeth the Lordt .

    • @madamsophia1503
      @madamsophia1503 6 лет назад +8

      BLISSFUL ABUNDANCE: LOL!

    • @dcr1837
      @dcr1837 6 лет назад +11

      Hi, I've seen some of your older videos and I'm so intrigued that I've subscribed and now watch you regularly. (It was one of those situations where you just "fell" on my streams/just came across you) You are funny, you are authentic (most important) So I keep watching and I've learned more about you-- you're a Pisces (I am too) and you're in Houston (I'm in San Antonio but my family is in Houston) ---long story short, I understand you, I agree with you, I feel connected with you. My story is quite different than yours but you bring me coaching, clarity, amusement and understanding for where I am in my life and, Shera, I am Grateful for you. Keep doing what you're mission is---don't doubt. You keep going. I've seen you evolve and strengthen and I LOVE it. BE YOU. You will keep empowering others if so. Much love to you and THANK YOU

  • @Trailblazers323
    @Trailblazers323 6 лет назад +814

    They go for the high class, expensive women the same reason they spend on the expensive watch, car, grass fed steak, pricey bottle of champagne, the expensive tailored suit, etc, etc, etc. Its so basic to understand, yet again, men have no clue what a man is anymore. They have internal conflict going on. They are confused as hell and are taking it out on women. Its called a trophy wife for a reason. She is the cherry on top of your success. She runs the house while you are working. She multiplies every single thing a man presents her with. Guys these days have no clue! Don’t they see that the most successful men in the world always have a wife? Morons! Accomplished men at the firm, company etc are sizing single men up at the conferences like, “Dude, where’s your wife? You haven’t gotten anyone yet? HAHA!” It’s next level accomplishment for real men.

    • @TeflonBarbie
      @TeflonBarbie 6 лет назад +17

      omg yasssssss

    • @redroselace9545
      @redroselace9545 6 лет назад +57

      Vanessa I've screen shot your comment it is gold I will forever keep it and quote it at dusties

    • @sophiemoreau3049
      @sophiemoreau3049 6 лет назад +7

      Yes

    • @Simplyhowiseeit
      @Simplyhowiseeit 6 лет назад +22

      Vanessa: you’re right. I’ve made the same observation .

    • @TJ-sr7dd
      @TJ-sr7dd 6 лет назад +26

      I know a professional Man well off business man who is a senior now still taking care of his wife even in her sickness. He has grown children and grandchildren.
      This man is on the DL for the course of their marriage . He and his colleagues have a private club for men like him who can't afford too lose the life they built. This was a white guy I thought he is deceitful, when he spoke about his wife health challenges and all he does for her he genuinely care about her over the marriage journey taking care of her and his family he said no ones known his truth in his family ect.
      The social group meeting of different type of people straight, gay,Bisexual,transgender I am learning so much about people experiences and no judgements zone conversations.
      I know personally another married blk man who is a hidden Bi sexual Business man $$$$$$ figures.
      Business Trips lodging in High end hotels or Resorts. He also has the beautiful wife and family, College alumnus leadership role in his fraternity.
      All I am trying too convey that everything isn't Golden.
      What does it profit a man too gain the whole world and lose their soul.
      Yes, choose your mate carefully do not be unequally yoked.
      Bible Scripture states.
      Lead not too your own understanding but acknowledge him in all thy ways and he shall direct your path.
      I depise liars in this narcissistic world that we live in.
      A man that finds a wife is a good thing.
      An Godly wife woman of faith is the backbone of the family in my oppinion.
      Everyone will not be rich and that is a fact.

  • @continuousself-improvement1879
    @continuousself-improvement1879 6 лет назад +272

    Your weightloss is inspiring.

  • @JadeHeartLove
    @JadeHeartLove Год назад +92

    Men want a status symbol and if you’re paying you’re NOT. 💥💥💥

  • @YourFavoriteRealEstateAgent
    @YourFavoriteRealEstateAgent 2 года назад +268

    My own sister told me that my husband would be better off with an ugly woman who works as hard or harder than he does, rather than stay married to my gorgeous self who is ALWAYS asking for more. I just LAUGHED! Ha!
    I told her I will give him a divorce today if he wants a Barbara the Builder. I have told him the same; he told me to stop playing and let’s go ride by these $700k houses like the one we are about to build, and we will go shopping afterwards 😆😆😆 I really love you Shera girl you speak nothing but FACTS! 💯💯💯💯🙏🏾🙏🏾

    • @ennvee1989
      @ennvee1989 2 года назад +12

      😍😂

    • @fooflaffy9021
      @fooflaffy9021 Год назад +77

      your sister is JEALOUS you are living life girl

    • @natashadickson4819
      @natashadickson4819 Год назад +16

      I'm glad you laughed. It tells me that you are secure and you are in your feminine energy.

  •  5 лет назад +122

    I was a never a pick me. But I did go through a Bob the builder stage. I was told I was wrong to play with men's feelings for money and it would come back on me blah, blah, blah. And back in the day that independent woman bs was big. I wasn't really into the independent thing if I'm with a dude but I thought 50/50 was fair. They don't respect you with that bs and all you're doing is giving them extra money to cheat with. That's why they holler you need to bring something to the table. They say that because when they get tired of looking at you. They can wine and dine the next fool. I learned that I was right all along about men and stopped listening to ppl when it comes to that.

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist 4 года назад +5

      Facts

    • @EmpressofChrist
      @EmpressofChrist 4 года назад +10

      All you're doing is giving them $$$ to cheat! Exactly!!

    • @vixenxiiiv
      @vixenxiiiv 4 года назад +3

      Yep, same I believed all the bob the builder chicks around me... luckily I dropped all those friends/family and surrounding myself with women who think more like me, the mental level up is just as necessary as physical

  • @loveself6396
    @loveself6396 2 года назад +180

    These videos hit way harder after my spiritual awakening. Lol. I rem I showed these videos to my OLD pick me friends two years ago and they all hated on you. They’re STILL stagnant and I’m leveled up and thriving. The game of life is crazy.

  • @chilloften
    @chilloften 5 лет назад +350

    Men must maintain that ability to keep the woman respecting him.
    If she loses it, by paying bills and is not provided for, it's over. Respect gone. End of relationship.

    • @olgachafeeva2828
      @olgachafeeva2828 4 года назад +50

      Precisely. I was a shameless pick-me. Paid for everything. And now, I have absolutely zero respect for him. How can I respect a grown-ass man who depends on me??? I can't and I won't.

    • @calmcalm6203
      @calmcalm6203 2 года назад +1

      Yes respect is so much to do with attraction and romance.
      U don't wanna feel like his mum cause I think a mother's teaching their young children sons would feel a whole different way lol.

    • @hillsideonly
      @hillsideonly Год назад

      There's bare men providing for their families for decades, yet they are disrespected or they get chewed out by their wives in the divorce court because "she's not happy" and it's Chad/Tyrone that'll make her happy. The jig is up.

    • @hillsideonly
      @hillsideonly Год назад

      @@calmcalm6203 none of y'all respect your targets from the way you talk about them, and I'm sure in due time those men would realise too, you see them as fool's to fleece and manipulate, I just hope it don't get you hurt and y'all can save well(as Ashera teaches y'all). Peace.

  • @oogunde31
    @oogunde31 5 лет назад +328

    So happy I found your channel. You saved me from ruining my life

  • @Bouboune509
    @Bouboune509 6 лет назад +342

    I play this video on loud speaker for my 11 year old to hear. Planting some seeds.

    • @secret-garden
      @secret-garden 4 года назад +55

      It definitely works. My teenaged son has picked up subliminals from me listening to SheRa and my level up.

    • @honeybadgernasty
      @honeybadgernasty 4 года назад +18

      You're a good parent! 👍👍

    • @helena3631
      @helena3631 4 года назад +46

      Lol right my 6 ur old daughter already knows people are supposed to treat her with respect and manners

    • @LadyAngela678
      @LadyAngela678 4 года назад +1

      Thats horrible. Teaching your kid how to be a beggar.

    • @honeybadgernasty
      @honeybadgernasty 4 года назад +67

      @@LadyAngela678 no, it's teaching your kids to have high standards and not settle for mediocre.

  • @emnasomrani4140
    @emnasomrani4140 6 лет назад +574

    My mom is a bob the builder and yes she looks like she's taking care of my dad.
    I'm a Gold digger and my mom shames me for it, lmao
    If she had access to this knowledge when she was my age, she wouldn't be living this life.

    • @coachzaynab355
      @coachzaynab355 5 лет назад +28

      Same.

    • @alexfullwood4560
      @alexfullwood4560 5 лет назад +15

      I like gold diggers but never meet one just saying

    • @debbyluxe
      @debbyluxe 5 лет назад +3

      Emna Somrani Yes my mum is just like this!

    • @krrbrr7057
      @krrbrr7057 5 лет назад +35

      Alex Fullwood because you dont have gold

    • @olgachafeeva2828
      @olgachafeeva2828 4 года назад +1

      well then, your mom sounds dum-dum. sorry to say XD

  • @lademonhunter
    @lademonhunter 3 года назад +155

    Thanks to you just got $500 worth off shopping after our dinner date. He enjoyed seeing all of my outfits and he wanted me to get them all. I added more bikinis and things. Idk why it took this long to say what I want. Men have no problem insisting on getting in between our legs. I want to shop. Period. Thank you Shera. I was blessing you as he was cashing out. I’m so thankful. 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

    • @lc-il6wr
      @lc-il6wr Год назад

      What could u be buying for $500..worth of shopping...

    • @belle-vie395
      @belle-vie395 Год назад +5

      ​@@lc-il6wrwhat do you mean ? Is it à small amont of money for you ?

  • @ashylaratliff1254
    @ashylaratliff1254 Год назад +203

    Knowledge is power! I'm 22 so before i started watching her videos. I was a pick-me, I would cook, clean, give away my money, and pay for dates. With not much in return. I let the "caring", "consideration", and “love” get too far. I was so masculine and proud of it😂 but after this past month of binge watching everything I broke up with my dusty! I always knew there was something off he was a dusty/too Feminine of a man that wanted me to build with him even tho I’m more established than him🫤 and he’s 28.

    • @incognito3599
      @incognito3599 Год назад +39

      Yuck! No girl you deserve to be spoiled and taken care of like a princess, Women and men are built differently, You can have your own business and side hustle.But you shouldn't be slaving away like men or continuously giving to them, it literally deteriorates our health much faster than men and we end up aging and dying sooner. Cheers to the soft life💅🏽✨

    • @kittysage2475
      @kittysage2475 Год назад +9

      I'm currently a pic-misha and I'm learning to break free. Leveling up 💅🏾✨

    • @LatashaWashington-vt7xj
      @LatashaWashington-vt7xj 6 месяцев назад +1

      I never know I was a pickmish but not anymore after learing her videos help me understand I don't gotta be with these broke wanna be slack lack and no ambitious type of mind.

  • @monicdavis6150
    @monicdavis6150 5 лет назад +211

    I am in my late 40s and I always looked at my mom like a gold digger. She worked for several years straight and got laid off. That was it. Meanwhile my father stressed to me to be independent. I am an only child and I didn’t realize how spoiled I was. I never wanted a man for money. Now! I have seen the light! Hallelujah! and Amen SheRa! 😂😂😂😂I was so wrong. It’s too late for me, but I’m good. I’ll never be used again. Pick me no more!!!

    • @food4thought692
      @food4thought692 2 года назад +53

      It’s never too late. My friends cute moms still bag providers in their 50s. Just take care of yourself and get back out there.

  • @heymisswest
    @heymisswest 5 лет назад +192

    That's a word!!!! When a woman works she WILL tell her story and tell how much she did!!!!

    • @munix9351
      @munix9351 5 лет назад +16

      I.e instagram 🤣🤣 all of them shouting from the rooftop 🤣🤣🤣🤣

  • @jking2586
    @jking2586 4 года назад +228

    My step mom is 13 years younger than my dad, and put the down payment for the house. And she tried to make me feel bad for wanting a man with money. These pickmishas get so aggressive

    • @incognito3599
      @incognito3599 Год назад +16

      I am so sorry hun🌺😞 At least now you know, what to avoid

  • @kyracoach
    @kyracoach 6 лет назад +340

    All good, but 1:41:22 Megan clearly "bagged" Harry, because she acted like she didn't need him...she wasn't intimidated, she acted like she was the prize, not him. She joked with him a lot, kept him on his toes.

    • @Haterzarefans
      @Haterzarefans 5 лет назад +17

      She balanced it I think

    • @October3074
      @October3074 5 лет назад +31

      All "royal" marriages are arranged. It ain't that deep.

    • @Torihappyness
      @Torihappyness 5 лет назад +5

      @@October3074 exactly

    • @lionsimba723
      @lionsimba723 5 лет назад +8

      October....that’s true. They plan it all out

    • @dch1421
      @dch1421 3 года назад +5

      @Kalu V Megan and Harry are distant cousins. Do your research. Their marriage was arranged just like all the "royals.

  • @tawanawilliams9618
    @tawanawilliams9618 5 лет назад +166

    You told that lady right sis. A child will love you more than any man and my kids gave me purpose at times when I felt like life was dark and I was unhappy.

  • @celenagostavo8207
    @celenagostavo8207 4 года назад +255

    feminime women attract masculine men. masculine women attract feminime men.

    • @lakeyshadarmanie9951
      @lakeyshadarmanie9951 4 года назад +22

      Exactly!!!!

    • @calmcalm6203
      @calmcalm6203 2 года назад

      A feminine woman has to kno her worth alot or else she woild attract a toxic man

  • @Hijabibti925
    @Hijabibti925 2 года назад +81

    My X mother in law was a barbra the builder and I was so harshly judged by her for choosing to stay at home with my kids. I would see her time and time again get mistreated by her husband and on top of that she had so many reconstructive shoulder and knee surgeries from her job. He would cheat on her and would always diminish her contribution to the household. I was like why would I want to follow your advise? Needless to say I am not in that family anymore.

  • @Helloo_oo
    @Helloo_oo 4 года назад +152

    20 minutes in and I'm so glad I got to find this. It now makes sense bc the real thing is you "help a guy come up" and later he leaves you for another woman. This psychology makes sense now. Ladies we need to raise our standards. There's no pride walking around all beat up and tired bc you are busy building people!

  • @toosweet0303
    @toosweet0303 6 лет назад +417

    Also take care of your teeth

    • @thecaprikid1329
      @thecaprikid1329 6 лет назад +14

      Akhela Guiseppi-Noel say it again!

    • @entrepreneurking8162
      @entrepreneurking8162 6 лет назад +2

      You take care of yours

    • @olliasilvaollia9389
      @olliasilvaollia9389 6 лет назад +5

      i dont get it u talking about sheras teeth😯

    • @ThePhoenix3712
      @ThePhoenix3712 6 лет назад +5

      @@entrepreneurking8162 for that non black man

    • @bravesoul7777
      @bravesoul7777 6 лет назад +83

      u r not gonna believe but this 50 50 guy had 1 tooth missing and he was tellin me how its 2018 and he wants a woman pursue him lmfao i told him to fix that missing tooth lmfao

  • @kimberlyboyd5150
    @kimberlyboyd5150 5 лет назад +153

    I love this video. You sound like my grandma and her sister. I make money but dont want to be Boss Chick...I want a man that makes way more than me so my money seem little to him...then he can take care of me.

    • @lilin8187
      @lilin8187 3 года назад +17

      yes, “my money seem little to him” indeed we should not be over-earning our partners

    • @chrisharris2367
      @chrisharris2367 3 года назад +1

      same

    • @calmcalm6203
      @calmcalm6203 2 года назад +4

      Yes being taken care of to feel like a princess 💓

  • @lucifersdevoted5610
    @lucifersdevoted5610 4 года назад +183

    The natural order of things is that men give and women take. Because Pick Mes give too much and will accept anything, there is no clear structure in the relationship and the guy has no direction as to what he should do. With nothing to do, he receives insufficient mental stimulation and becomes bored as his daylight hours have no meaning. Over time, this creates resentment. If a woman digs gold, then what she wants is clear, and he can go find it, provide it, and receive positive feedback and a sense of accomplishment. Positive stimulation, if you will. Pick Mes provide negative or neutral stimulation only, as everything is muddled in neutral and cloudy emotions. It's passionless. I've tried to tell other women this, but they just call me crazy. Going 50/50 will cost you tenfold.

    • @gratefullypositive5143
      @gratefullypositive5143 3 года назад +28

      One of the best explanations I’ve read.

    • @rainacherienne1010
      @rainacherienne1010 Год назад +4

      @@gratefullypositive5143 Agreed.

    • @meganodonnell3382
      @meganodonnell3382 Год назад +3

      NO don’t blame this on women lmao. If a man is an alpha HE WILL NATURALLY BE ONE AND WILL NOT BE ANY OTHER WAY EVEN IF THE WOMAN PUSHES HIM TO BE A BETA HE JUST WONT BE

  • @DR---
    @DR--- Год назад +100

    Men love gold diggers because men have evolved to be protectors and providers. A man's sex drive depends on his women demanding more than sex from him. (Note this is a man telling you this).

  • @truthiswealth1074
    @truthiswealth1074 6 лет назад +245

    Lol...im enjoying this entire process . I get up every day looking better and feeling better ! For me im just looking to date more worthy men who will spoil me . Just leveling up alone makes your life better ! Keep motivating Ashera 😚 Thank you ! Thank goodness you stay at home and don't work a traditional job . We wouldn't get these video's 😢😢😢😭😭😭 haha !

  • @VriendaGanguly
    @VriendaGanguly 4 года назад +202

    1:30 19:06 32:15 : gold digger
    8:27 24:16 27:35 : men
    10:40 : priorities
    12:08 16:10 41:16 : 🎁💅
    22:49 : pick me chick
    26:30 40:20 : housewife
    37:00 : independent woman
    41:33 : polygamy
    43:12 47:00 : tricks 😂
    44:00 : backup 💰
    46:44 : kids with old men

    • @D_devil_tail
      @D_devil_tail 3 года назад +32

      I dont think anyone told you thank you for this. but thank you.

    • @TheHalalGolddiger
      @TheHalalGolddiger 3 года назад +9

      Thanks so much

    • @daniellegates1354
      @daniellegates1354 3 года назад +7

      Thank you

    • @marla79
      @marla79 2 года назад +4

      Doing the Lord’s work with the Goddess Shera!

    • @nieshagrn
      @nieshagrn Год назад +1

      Thanks a bunch!!

  • @dwaynebrown4535
    @dwaynebrown4535 6 лет назад +240

    33:15 to 34:15 a pick me favorite qoute "Im not about to be competing against other women for no man....." if he's a Dusty you're right to feel like you don't have to compete for him.but if he's not a Dusty..... LEVEL UP OR GET LOOKED OVER!!!

  • @jmcampbell05
    @jmcampbell05 6 лет назад +101

    You are so friggin' sassy and it's hilarious-- love the sound effects of contempt!

  • @vanaphill2454
    @vanaphill2454 5 лет назад +199

    Men get in their feelings when their woman earns more.

    • @brianb7059
      @brianb7059 4 года назад +4

      This is funny! I have to screen shot this!🤣

    • @AMoore-jm3md
      @AMoore-jm3md 3 года назад +69

      They so do. When my mum got a job, my father started to get sulky and to pout and didn't like her any more. Dusties are super emotional.

    • @oddgoddess5576
      @oddgoddess5576 3 года назад +28

      They think they’ll be ok with it...til it actually happens...

    • @anapinky
      @anapinky 3 года назад +2

      @@brianb7059 you’re a brokie, that why you dream your woman makes more lol 😂

    • @Luxiouriousprettyme
      @Luxiouriousprettyme 3 года назад +3

      Nd jealous

  • @barbiefab7317
    @barbiefab7317 3 года назад +39

    All of what Shera is saying is TRUE my man is in I.T and he thanked me for wanting to be better and do more.

  • @elisaromero1238
    @elisaromero1238 4 года назад +48

    i am 63 and i wish i heard you when i was younger.

  • @browndiamond2061
    @browndiamond2061 6 лет назад +180

    I don’t think that labels make you. You are a beautiful woman and could wear something from Target and make it it look good. I myself have everything from low end to high end...most people can’t even tell the low end items I wear.

    • @SheRaSeven1
      @SheRaSeven1  6 лет назад +70

      Brown Diamond I like it all as well I just can’t do leggings as a regular item

    • @entrepreneurking8162
      @entrepreneurking8162 6 лет назад +1

      If you shop at Target you a broke bitch

    • @healed2011
      @healed2011 6 лет назад +49

      hustlermindset, Michelle Obama and Beyoncé shop at Target. You cannot be serious.

    • @theSpiritofTamzin
      @theSpiritofTamzin 5 лет назад +38

      @@entrepreneurking8162 Dusty alert, lol!!!...

    • @entrepreneurking8162
      @entrepreneurking8162 5 лет назад +4

      @@healed2011 they do not shop at no damn target you asshole they shop at Saks fifth Ave

  • @MarciaRain
    @MarciaRain 4 года назад +30

    The gems in the first half an hour ALONE is absolutely insane. Nothing but fax, no printa 🗣

  • @cocomocha
    @cocomocha 5 лет назад +62

    I gave too much in my relationship now I’m distancing myself and talk to a dudes on the side who gives and doesn’t take

  • @havegrace9111
    @havegrace9111 6 лет назад +115

    Love this sleek look Shera, us Pisces know how to look good !!

  • @jmcampbell05
    @jmcampbell05 6 лет назад +76

    You are a riot! You make anything interesting!

  • @IamKarryanne
    @IamKarryanne 6 лет назад +201

    I am getting a notebook just for all these tips..

    • @kolakane9228
      @kolakane9228 6 лет назад +9

      IamKarryanne my girl💕

    • @emnasomrani4140
      @emnasomrani4140 6 лет назад +16

      This is exactly what i did
      I'm 21, broke up with a dusty and now building my life

    • @chamomiletea906
      @chamomiletea906 3 года назад

      @@emnasomrani4140 How has it been going? I'm 20 and curious if you're succeeding 💎

    • @emnasomrani4140
      @emnasomrani4140 3 года назад +10

      @@chamomiletea906 just turned 24, and let me tell you, my self esteem and knowing my worth went hiiigh up ! ⬆️⬆️⬆️ Been leveling up ever since. I haven't been dating for a while as I have been more focused on school & achieving personal goals, but all of her tips have definitely saved me. All of this made me extremely selective about the people I allow in my circle, wouldn't give 1 second of my time to any dusty or anyone that's trying to play around and waste my time. Met many high caliber men in the process

    • @chamomiletea906
      @chamomiletea906 3 года назад +1

      @@emnasomrani4140 Wow that's so impressive, I'm so happy for you!!! Shera is a true gift. Wishing you lots of happiness, health and success on your journey!

  • @WacoBeautyQueen
    @WacoBeautyQueen Год назад +21

    It’s funny how I’m 25 now and I definitely understand. I was highkey a pickme but only in my first relationship, splitting 50/50 on certain stuff. That man was cheap even though I knew he had more than others in savings and he was in his last year of studying engineering. The bum didn’t even ever give me a decent bouquet of flowers. I refuse to date only black men, men without degrees and/or doesn’t own businesses. Bums and cheapos and even insecure ugly men (because let’s be honest, ugly and medium ugly men aren’t always the answer) give you scraps and try to plant seeds of insecurity in you. Rich men are generous when it comes to worthy women.

  • @cleocatra1242
    @cleocatra1242 5 лет назад +104

    I like you, Shera. Your my kind of lady, and I just subbed. Thank you, and mad respect for what you do to empower women.

  • @candacetyndall1345
    @candacetyndall1345 3 года назад +32

    Even better as a lawyer I say " I am a lawyer by trade but now I stay home full time with the kids and I have a nanny to help out". BOOM!

  • @andreaschulman3274
    @andreaschulman3274 2 месяца назад +3

    This channel is my favorite guilty pleasure. Thanks for the hours and hours of entertainment, education and empowerment! ❤️

  • @sherryanndambrose574
    @sherryanndambrose574 6 лет назад +38

    Gurl I was sound asleep as I had left your video on. Don't you know I woke up out of my sleep hearing you say your Mom's mantra "don't you bring no babies home". I woke up laughing in my sleep!
    I have a list of favorite videos of yours, I just have to keep adding them on you so good!

  • @abc78920
    @abc78920 6 лет назад +131

    34:10 Shera is hitting the nail on the head!!! If anyone remembers the old Showtime series: The Tudors Henry the VIII's 5th wife ; Catherine Howard was around 17 when they married. Jonathon Rhys-Myers who played Henry said " Catherine Howard was the Tudor equivalent to a Red Ferrari" All the men in the court wanted her!
    Kanye West said the same thing about Kim. He believes he has the prettiest women in the game! He is able to go around other men and stick his chest out a little bit, because she brings him status!!
    Shera is telling the TRUTH!! When that man comes up; he WILL be w/the woman the next man CAN'T HAVE !!

  • @lalopez7394
    @lalopez7394 6 лет назад +63

    I get hated cuz I feel the say you do, everyones like oh you should work, im like no im a stay at home mom.

    • @littlelam3691
      @littlelam3691 4 года назад +9

      They’re jealous! I’m jealous! Lol but not hating! Good for you!

  • @awokumassah1940
    @awokumassah1940 Год назад +7

    I’ve been listening to your RUclips videos religiously like two a day and this is hands-down my favorite one I’m literally getting goosebumps.

  • @DanielleStarr
    @DanielleStarr 2 года назад +13

    Ashera started this whole level up, relationship coach ish... Giving this queen her flowers 🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @Torihappyness
    @Torihappyness 5 лет назад +47

    "I am taken care of...full ride" love that response to pick me chicks👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

  • @softpearls21
    @softpearls21 5 лет назад +50

    This chat had me Dying laughing..You're so funny Shera..But hey thanks to you. Now at 46 No MORE DUSTIES...I leveled up...I learned alot from you and never saw it from your point of view..Now I am much happier girl...

    • @schnioula
      @schnioula 5 лет назад +6

      Rachel.(AkA Pebbles) Better late than never gurl! 🥰

  • @marlenecalderon5830
    @marlenecalderon5830 3 года назад +22

    Wow I love this woman, and her message can save the new generation

  • @habibtiz4335
    @habibtiz4335 3 года назад +13

    Watching this while I’m on the treadmill - shera helping us reach our highest form

  • @YourMotivationPage
    @YourMotivationPage 5 лет назад +37

    1.) When you are 50/50 your not wife.
    2.) You have to be creative
    3.) The list goes on.... watched till the end ❤️

  • @polkadotmeface
    @polkadotmeface 5 лет назад +112

    She stating real facts!!!! 💯 Reasons why Travis left billionaire Kylie.

    • @Torihappyness
      @Torihappyness 4 года назад +70

      And why cardi b is having trouble keeping her man away from other women.

    • @Hebrewesss
      @Hebrewesss 3 года назад +2

      No its bc hes born sheep year shes an ox those are enemies in chinese astrology

    • @pennysunshine5261
      @pennysunshine5261 Год назад +2

      @TheArielrbthey ain’t together

    • @YourFavDieselTech
      @YourFavDieselTech 10 месяцев назад

      @UnpredictableAriYour comment didn’t age well cuz Cardi is on FB live yelling at us bout sumn her man did.

  • @awokumassah1940
    @awokumassah1940 Год назад +35

    There was a guy I was dealing with a while back he just recently finished law school and I told him until he can take care of me. We will not be together or even see each other. I bet my top dollar when he gets his money right after a few cases he’s going to leave the pickmesha that’s been helping him & find his way right back to me 🤣💚

    • @awokumassah1940
      @awokumassah1940 Год назад +17

      Last summer we went to dinner and I dressed really nice so he did too, and the waitress found him on Instagram (from his credit card) and asked him on a date🤣 that was when I realized I’m destined to be a trophy wife. Bc baby before this no one even looked at you.

    • @theeladyj
      @theeladyj Год назад +1

      Im about to tell this lawyer the same thing loo

  • @memelife8
    @memelife8 6 лет назад +140

    "What if the rich man's sex is bad". Lmao, I swear you got your work cut out for you these women know nothing about priorities.

    • @DD_MENEN
      @DD_MENEN 4 года назад +59

      Get another man for sex and spoils too... dont get caught ever

    • @farrahforever0210
      @farrahforever0210 2 года назад +19

      Fake it 😅

    • @keya2714
      @keya2714 3 месяца назад

      The poor mans sex is bad

  • @DJ-ij2sy
    @DJ-ij2sy 6 лет назад +53

    High maitance for high maitance equal exchange

  • @Jahleesa400
    @Jahleesa400 5 лет назад +41

    Found Shera at 23 thank you, Asha C and Love your Natural I’m so glad I learned this now

  • @thepathlesstraveled659
    @thepathlesstraveled659 5 лет назад +62

    Now, this is a an analogy I came up with ladies and gentlemen. In the Garden of Eden, God told the man, Adam, take care of the garden. Which meant God wanted Adam to work. Now God saw that Adam was not working as hard and smart as he was suppose to, which is, he was not using all the talent God gave him. So God said there is no one here who is suitable enough to boost Adam's confidence, therefore I will make him someone suitable for him. God took a rib from Adam, and formed the woman. Now the rib to which God Almighty took was a kind of rib that whenever is in action, it boost the confidence of a man. So the moment God brought the woman to Adam, the bible specifically for the first time wrote down every word Adam said because those words were not just words they were creativity, spiritual and enlightenment. Adam named all the animals and everything on earth he gave name to it, but nowhere was his words written as the moment he saw the woman. And she didn't have to do anything to get such accolades and praise, her presence alone opened a part of the man's mind that made him to use his words creatively, when at first he was just naming but now he did not have to put a label on the woman, he had to describe what he was seeing before his eyes. He did not care that he had lost a rib. My point being, a woman is not suppose to lift a finger for the man to be successful, our presence alone should be enough to enable the man to go out there and bring home all the good things he can find by working smarter. And all the believers shall say AMEN!!!!

  • @archanabhardwaj6348
    @archanabhardwaj6348 6 лет назад +42

    All of your tricks work like magic n m happy I got ya videos.. thank you !! U r helping all women ❤️❤️

  • @Speechiegirl1
    @Speechiegirl1 4 года назад +16

    This video is nothing but straight truth! If you look good, he looks good!

  • @marcedwards2464
    @marcedwards2464 4 года назад +50

    Your priorities are to stay beautiful and desirable

  • @auroramothergoddess
    @auroramothergoddess 3 года назад +40

    I don’t practice religion anymore I practice Sheraseven

  • @Dashboard901
    @Dashboard901 6 лет назад +65

    I see no lies where told here

  • @MrSnowleopard4u
    @MrSnowleopard4u 5 лет назад +14

    You are so pretty! Ashanti vibes! She is one of my favorites.

  • @PhyllisMoore7
    @PhyllisMoore7 6 лет назад +16

    I am a Glam mother I stay in the gym single enjoying your instructions!

  • @jamescnc2374
    @jamescnc2374 4 года назад +7

    As a man, definitely learning a lot from your videos. 🧐. Thank you and much love.

  • @DrLesiaThePreachasBarracoon
    @DrLesiaThePreachasBarracoon 2 года назад +34

    My recent ex-hubby learned the hard way, and I never had a job really 🤣
    He decided to divorce me after 25 yrs, I dared him with my active leveling-up flashing in his stubborn face - alimony is a beautiful life 💅🏾

    • @DrLesiaThePreachasBarracoon
      @DrLesiaThePreachasBarracoon 2 года назад +1

      Loyal is sold to the world, though NEVER respected 🤷🏽‍♀️
      So when expensive hoes dominate, the world falls apart - per God’s point 🤷🏽‍♀️
      Gold digging ratchet hoes SAVE the world ever time 🕊

    • @joeroot9142
      @joeroot9142 2 года назад +2

      💥

    • @omolevincentia3447
      @omolevincentia3447 2 года назад +2

      you go girl

  • @IamKarryanne
    @IamKarryanne 6 лет назад +37

    "I'm going to attack you on the East side at 2:30 see you there 🤣🤣" I swear...I use to be like This, telling all my business..smdh

  • @ph6106
    @ph6106 6 лет назад +53

    Ok, it was ok listening to you while I was mall walking and people seeing me laugh. But I was laughing out loud listening to u at the gym. People musta thought I was laughing at them. :) Everything u say is so true!

    • @calmcalm6203
      @calmcalm6203 2 года назад +1

      Lol 😂

    • @YourFavDieselTech
      @YourFavDieselTech 10 месяцев назад

      I’m sitting at happy hour listening to this in my AirPod cracking tf uppppp 😂😂

  • @Metaphysicalmindspace777
    @Metaphysicalmindspace777 5 лет назад +16

    I love your videos. #Trurh. Women are in denial about what you say and I was in denial until a year ago. Bless you, for sharing.

  • @lovejune22
    @lovejune22 6 лет назад +29

    Shera has done it Again!! I nodded and agreed the whole time, then added to my favorites 😜
    Especially on why James chose her and the part about how a lot of women are needy n need validation when u can get that from yourself, your kids etc.... That’s winning.
    But this topic tho omg I just had this convo with a guy who is trying to date me since I would notice certain things that turned me off so I was going to pass him to 1 of my pick me friends. Showed him her picture and profile and said how great of a catch she is, how much better/more perfect of a match she is for him... chile he only came on to me STONGER SMH !! I said um no she is for you. Trust me. He kept saying but “I can see You with me”. I was confused like but why you see what I’m used to. U know we won’t work. Long story short Shera broke it down for me. This vid found me right on time. Sorry so long guys. I just heart me some Shera!! She’s so dope n real with it. Reminds me of a nba wife bestie I have.

  • @nishamack586
    @nishamack586 6 лет назад +37

    My last ex knew some Heavy hitters in our metropolitan area. The husband was very powerful, during the times we spent with this couple the husband never asked what I did. The wife cut those eyes and asked what did i do! I couldn't figure out why her hubby was in the paper with the Governor & she literally baby sat people kids for "hobby "🤔 when they came to visit us she would jump to clean, while I kicked back and drank wine. 😂 Now my ex was white. They we're too ( just fyi) she had dog hair all over her clothes& I was always dressed to impress. My ex was showing me off to them. The husband liked me. She was super jelli! Lol

  • @dasani6055
    @dasani6055 6 лет назад +47

    Relationships are a cat and mouse game am good

    • @DreandMoni
      @DreandMoni 5 лет назад

      Dasani605 yes indeed🙄

  • @Simplyhowiseeit
    @Simplyhowiseeit 6 лет назад +30

    I love you!!! You’re hilarious and I can tell you have a sweet good heart.
    I’m learning so much from you and it’s made my life richer and for the most part has repelled the dusties/ men who aren’t the ones I’m targeting and has helped me meet more ideal men. I’m glad. I don’t feel like I have to run ragged proving myself and paying for what a man needs who isn’t doing anything for me.
    Thank you.

  • @safsoufa2823
    @safsoufa2823 4 года назад +14

    I discover your channel and I love it ! I have a similar mindset. In my country (France) women really have a pick me culture it's 1000 time worse than USA

    • @lunalu552
      @lunalu552 2 года назад +6

      West southern europe in general.

    • @rainacherienne1010
      @rainacherienne1010 Год назад +11

      I’m from Europe and when I go there for vacation I still act trophy and guys give me everything. They KNOW, just local girls don’t expect anything of them.

  • @diouranke
    @diouranke 5 лет назад +23

    I know à pick me and I want to forward this to her but it would hurt her prob, she pays the rent n bills bcs she doesn't trust him w money , she paid to have his teeth done,she has tried to leave him several times.. she is in control but has no peace, working nine to 5, watching him,raising a child. I don't know what his role is exactly

  • @lalopez7394
    @lalopez7394 6 лет назад +14

    I live in Canada, Toronto, all these pick me chicks, I saw the light years ago, i dont want ta be no bob the builder. I went through it. Its just i hot my incone streams, i dont work, im workin on this guy, he acts like he wants me to work...im like nah, bye, hes we need to talk bout tha future, what do you see? Im like me gettin what I want, raisin my kids, and being happy. I really think imma bout ta get him how i need it. Its all these other pick mes hating like they wanna run me outta etobicoke because they so mad i sint workin and im lookin sexy doin what i want, only a few chicks are positioning themselves to copy me. Now Im fillin in some more blanks forc myself from yourc teaching so thank you, its so refreshing i love tha ho esty and the strategy, your a real master of youre destiny.

  • @AlexisMaria
    @AlexisMaria 6 лет назад +119

    Ive been sugaring and husting since 18. Learned so much on my own and made a lot but there is always more to learn and more wisdom to gain! Girl!! You opened up a whole new level to this!!!!! THANK YOU! xoxoxxo much love from NYC
    Edit: When do you boradcast live? Would love to join the convo and see your vids asap :D Besos

    • @pinkbistro1635
      @pinkbistro1635 6 лет назад +11

      Alexis Maria hey I live in nyc too! I'm 21 and I'm starting to learn how to sugar. Happy sugaring to you!

    • @AlexisMaria
      @AlexisMaria 6 лет назад +1

      Akpo Ukpong haha Msg me!

    • @TeflonBarbie
      @TeflonBarbie 6 лет назад

      yaaaaaaaasssssssssssssssssssssssss

    • @diablabeauty4585
      @diablabeauty4585 6 лет назад +4

      Alexis Maria I’m in NY too 23 soon to start sugaring

    • @alanpapashow1926
      @alanpapashow1926 5 лет назад

      @IslandBeauty you broke too bitch that's why you're here 🤣🤣🤣...

  • @alikasaranghae
    @alikasaranghae 6 лет назад +22

    Yes you have absolutely answered all those women who are to controlling over there men an demanding while Belitting them bragging they go half or they done that (let a .an shine )

  • @ambrosia1917
    @ambrosia1917 5 лет назад +17

    you've lost weight since 2017 and you look amazing!!!! also love the wigs

  • @bluebirdofrock
    @bluebirdofrock 6 лет назад +36

    This is so informative & well articulated. I am absorbing this beautiful wisdom you teaching here.. It's time for me to start living life to it's fullest. Thank you so much SheRa. Blessings to you & your beautiful family.

  • @tyd8077
    @tyd8077 3 года назад +7

    Watching all your old videos from around this time. Shera your energy during this era is a Mood for 2021⚡

  • @pogogogo9002
    @pogogogo9002 2 года назад +35

    This is straight up talk. How do I know because I was a pick me. Made my husband a millionaire at 30 and multimillionaire by 40. What happened? He frauded all our assets and found himself a gold digger. 28yrs of.marriage I got a phone call from him when he moved left with her. It's not going to end well for her though because she controls him and takes credit for his success.

    • @Armelleee
      @Armelleee Год назад +10

      Sounds like she smart his lost and yours dummy. Get his money too

    • @im26c4u5
      @im26c4u5 Год назад +14

      That's exactly why it's going to work out for her.

    • @mariaaaa1128
      @mariaaaa1128 3 месяца назад

      Pogo what are the signs that uve noticed before he started looking for another woman? Like was he coming late or

  • @AizaV333
    @AizaV333 5 лет назад +12

    I loved it ;..) ‘ I am not a man I’m a wife !’

  • @TakeItEasy857
    @TakeItEasy857 5 лет назад +24

    Omg! You are awesome! I'm learning so much! It's late in the game for me I'm 50 but oh well better late than never. Any tips for us 50 plus who look young for their age?

  • @SaraFJones
    @SaraFJones 4 года назад +20

    Yeah, a friend is spending Xmas alone because the baddie wife of three years wants to spend time with her family a few states away and he will be left at the house without his son for over a month!
    Yep, he is complaining about it but happy to be married to a baddie!

  • @quoteme.goddess9891
    @quoteme.goddess9891 6 лет назад +19

    You are definitely describing Houston, and Chicago men.

    • @SFBay69
      @SFBay69 6 лет назад +4

      Houston is a complete shthole....looks like mexico

    • @mcruz7500
      @mcruz7500 5 лет назад

      And Atlanta,and Louisiana,and Memphis,and the whole world....lol...You must never travel...Or do you have different men in each city?If not shut up...A fools mouth is his or her destruction...God bless u sis

    • @kassandra21590
      @kassandra21590 5 лет назад +1

      You might have been in the ghetto area of Houston but Houston is not a shithole

    • @tamarastone141
      @tamarastone141 5 лет назад +2

      Ummm..
      Where were you looking?? On the South side of Chicago?? U might wanna travel around the city and the burbs cause i know PLENTY of qualified men hunty!! I'm married to one. As a matter of fact, he was raised on the South side but he leveled up after college....ijs

  • @remshjgh2245
    @remshjgh2245 4 года назад +13

    You are amazing in the way that you give us lessons. I just wish that the videos were shorter but, besides that, you are doing good work! I love the way you break it down for all of us.

  • @MargaretteLemon_ThoDao
    @MargaretteLemon_ThoDao 6 лет назад +15

    Love you 😍 You done changed my life. Thank You💋

  • @dmitriagnes
    @dmitriagnes 6 лет назад +9

    Baby, that long hair is IT. 🔥🔥 Yasss.

  • @Regine_Andre_Charles
    @Regine_Andre_Charles 5 лет назад +16

    I love your southern accent ❤️

  • @kiawas1
    @kiawas1 4 года назад +12

    ♥️♥️♥️🔥🔥🔥🔥 code I live by,never let the right hand know what the left is doing, let em' do all the talking, notice something you don't like, keep a tab and start planning, I'm still a work in progress. But deep down,
    I know what I want.