The best hair of my life was during the pandemic. I washed it every 3 days, let it air dry and used no heat or highlights. It grew like a weed and I didn’t have one single split end in sight!
Same here 😂 my over processed dyed hair was never happier! I think that’s the first time in my life after the 8th grade that I rocked an air dried hairstyle in public
I’ve done that for the past 5 years and idk if I’m comparing to those w better genetics but mine just keeps getting split ends 😞 following this channel now to help out with this😅
I’m in my keep it simple phase. I stopped highlighting after 40 year and I have a full head of 15inch salt and pepper hair that gets more compliments than my blonde ever got!
I have silver/platinum bleached blonde hair (done at a salon of course), so breakage and damage is inevitable for me. Though I find that a lot of the tips and product recs you have given has still helped sooo much! My hair has never been this long and 'healthy' during my 4 years as a platinum blonde! Thank you! ❤
How do you deal with breakage? Any tips? I’ve had copper hair for about a year now and I have a lot of breakage but I’m unsure which product to buy (olaplex 3 didn’t help at all)
I love a clarifying shampoo. I went years without one, then used one and followed with a good hair mask was life changing. My hair hadn't felt that soft and looked so good in years. But I also applaud your comments about product overload! I have wavy to curly hair and cannot tolerate the amount of product that most RUclipsrs say we should use. It's unbelievable. I watched a woman with long hair use four pumps of a product for her curls, and then another woman with hair just touching her shoulders used six or seven of the same product, then used a towel to scrunch out the "excess" product. Gee, if only there was something she could do to not put in too much product 🤔
Oh my goodness that last tip though 😂 It’s too relatable. After my grandma passed, you better believe I went to the salon with my naturally black hair and asked for Kim K’s icy blonde with black root look. 8 hours later, I’m still at the salon and exhausted and I say to my stylist “gosh, how does she have the time for this all the time??” And my stylist laughed and said “you know it’s a wig right?” Anyways here we are 5 years later and I’m still coping with the damage it caused. But at least my research led to me to this channel! 😂 ❤
Abbey, I have changed how I do my hair so much since watching you. About six years ago the texture of my hair changed dramatically. Thanks to menopause I went from really straight hair to wavy/curly. When my hair was straight I washed it every night, went to bed wet and brushed it out in the morning. Strangely, my hair stayed in pretty good shape. Once my hair was curly I went down the whole curly hair rabbit hole. I stopped using sulfates and silicones and the whole thing. However, even using heavy conditioners and leave ins, my hair didn't look or feel great. I have now added back sulfates for clarifying and using silicones again (amodimethicone anyone?) and my hair is doing much better. I have also starting using hair oil especially on my ends as a pre-treatment. Thank you so much for all you do.
I can so relate to the changes in hair texture from menopause! I have let my natural gray come in and while I love it, I also hate it because it's so different than my stick straight brown hair I was born with. Now it's wavy and the frizz! My God!
@@Jess-Rabbit Didn't bother me a bit. I just laid it out on my pillow and in the morning it was dry. I love washing my hair but hate styling it. If I could get away with not styling it now w/o it looking like a Lion King audition, I would.
I LITERALLY had to stop and look at your name to make sure that I didn't write this 😂 I for real thought I'd done lost it!! Everything you said sounds EXACTLY like my story for the last couple of years or so!!! 🙂
Lots of good tips. Just to say make sure you learn from your own hair journey. I have a different hair type, mine is wavy, not particularly frizzy but thick and coarse. My hair brushes super easy when soaking wet, particularly when I’ve just sprayed leave in conditioner, a comb or wet brush literally glides through. If I don’t brush when wet and try to brush when mostly dry, the knots dry in and are significantly more difficult to brush through
I have pretty straight hair but the routine I've come up with is 1) brush before I shower. So much easier to start with detangled hair before shampooing 2) after the shower brush it 100% soaking wet. Like very first thing, I toweled my hair, the brush is dripping water on my bath mat with every pass through my hair kind of soaking wet. Then leave aside from products just leavey hair alone until completely dry
So helpful! Curious if you’d want to do an update on your fave ways to heatless style your hair? Whether it’s for a wavy or straight look. And also if you have recommendations for hair that goes frizzy when letting it air dry. Thanks for sharing your tips!
Minerals in the water can dull your color or make it brassy (but it’s also the ashy toner washing out each time you wash revealing the natural state of your stripped hair straight after bleaching and before toner was applied). Ever since my hair is bleached lighter past the orange stage and more towards that pale yellow (inside of the banana color0 I don’t fight brass as hard as I used to anymore. Purple shampoos when overused can actually dull and darken your hair, because each time you use it it’s just depositing ashy pigments onto your hair and this can build up. Also, old school purple shampoo used to be drying and now they make nicer formulas that are not drying. I find you get the best results if you use a really good chelating shampoo first then use the purple shampoo afterwards so that you remove mineral deposits and then put on the ashy deposit. Another route is using a chelating shampoo first then using a purple conditioner (or making your own by mixing a semi-permanent dye into conditioner). You can’t just dump it on your head; it’s better to apply evenly in sections and if you’re mixing your own you have to formulate the color carefully. If the purple has too much blue in it and your hair is yellow, you will get green hair.
Looks like I found a sister of mine today 😂 I’ve been a hair freak since on my 16 ( I’m 31 now ) I’d watch and listen every person that have to say something informative about hair growth & care , couse there is always something to learn . Thank you for your time and hello to all my hair freak sisters 😂❤️💋!
i’m experiencing tons of shedding from stress, and what i believe is coupled with some harsh treatment of my hair. i bleached the underside too much the last few years, i wasn’t as gentle as I should’ve been, and went from one extreme to the next. For 7 years, I didn’t shampoo correctly at all, I fell down that whole “skip washes, use all natural, no sulfates) and my hair was so greasy! I didn’t pick up sulfates again until 2021! but then I wouldn’t condition every day, I’d sleep on wet hair constantly, and don’t have satin pillowcases, brushing roughly, and poor diet. I found your channel this morning because i was at such a loss of what to do. I have some things from Walmart in my cart right now. The Dove Dermacare Scalp health shampoo and conditioner, L’Oréal bond repair, a cleansing shampoo (V08) and the coconut oil you talked about! I’m going to be extremely thorough in how gentle I am, and also try the filter for the shower, if it’s apartment safe. I’ll update in a month! Wish me luck guys ❤
I feel like my hair want to compete with a lemon when I don’t use purple shampoo for a while 😅 but since my scalp is very sensitive and I struggle with purple shampoo I use a purple conditioner every two weeks. It works way better for me. I just wanted to comment that in case someone doesn’t know purple conditioner also exists.
Oooooh, fellow Twin Cities girlie here! Thank you so much for all your tips on hair. I’ve been watching your stuff pretty regularly since I discovered your channel and purchased your hair guide. It’s really helped my super fine, blonde hair!
I am doing pretty much everything you have suggested and my hair is slowly improving. My next move will be to stop lightening my hair and just start adding the dark back. I feel like it thinned out a lot after I started highlighting it. And I will take your advice and let my hair dry 80% before combing through it. Totally doable.
the reason i started using sulfate free shampoo a year ago is because i started dyeing my hair purple and using mild shampoos helps maintain the color (since it inevitably washes out due to the fact all hair colors are only semi permanent). it also helped bring out my naturally wavy texture even more. i do struggle with dry scalp and flakiness tho 😅
Lol at that last tip. While I don't personally follow the Kardashians this can be applied to basically all celebrities and pictures in general we saw online. I really like my hairdresser since she's very blunt about things and whenever I bring her a picture of what I want my hair to look like she will always point out things like "Ok I can dye it that colour but you should know that that is a wig/they're wearing extensions/the lighting gives it that shine" etc. She's always very upfront about what the result will actually look like on my hair which I appreciate a lot. She also told me I shouldn't come with dirty hair if I want highlights or colour put in. She said its a very annoying misconception but that colour actually takes much better on clean hair. I was so shocked since I ALWAYS came with dirty hair to every hair appointment haha.
After I started really looking into how to keep care of my hair, what my hair needs and found your channel, I've had MUCH more success with health AND growth! Especially your suggestion to use a coconut based oil before washing! Thank you!! ❤ I am obsessed with using a leave in conditioner too! Also JAW CLIPS ARE ELITE!
Great video. Learning about your hair is so important. I only recently learned about porosity and that I have low porosity hair. I changed all of my hair products and my hair is the best it has felt in years.
About the last thing: do not ever ever let conditioner dry in your hair & go to sleep. For some reason letting large amounts of regular conditioner dry in your hair creates horrific tangles. There's an upper limit to how much conditioner is actually detangling
Abbey! Would you consider doing a video of all your hard water hair recommendations? I know you've mentioned the shower filter before, but maybe the nitry gritty on chelating shampoos? Or any other tips and tricks you've developed. Or any other filters you think are worthwhile. I'm aure that one is great, the 165$ pricetag is just a bit steep
Yup I used to wear my hair in really high tight ponytail everyday and I used to brush my hair wet thinking of more damaging things I used to do to my hair makes me so sad 😭 Because if you I have bought a shower filter it helped my hair alot I also use coconut miracle oil on my lengths and ends before washing I take really good care of my hair now before bed I brush it out carefully and wear it in a twist.I just can’t tell you enough how much you have helped me with my hair! ❤
I would love if you could talk more about hair color and clarifying shampoos. Do these newer formulations still strip the color? If so using one every shampoo would leave me with no color after a couple weeks.😊
Ooh Abbey, u should try Amika’s Reset Shampoo. It’s their clarifying shampoo and it sprays out in a can like a mouse but it’s a clear shampoo. I love it!
I have been watching your videos for almost a year now and my hair is so long a fabulous!! Thank you so much! ❤ I used to do all the wrong things and my hair was so broken (and I never color my hair) that it wouldn’t grow past a certain length. You changed my hair life! 🥰
Your videos motivates me to take more care of my hair thank u❤, Could you please create a video sharing all the advice you have learned about growing hair, starting from washing to maintaining cleanliness and health? It would be helpful if you could include information on establishing a hair care routine, such as when to use oil, apply a moisturizing mask, serums, and hair creams.
im so on the edge with sulfates.. cause when i use shampoos with sulfates they usually dry out my scalp in the long run but when i used sulfate free shampoos i felt like it didnt cleanse my hair enough.. im so lost
I feel like sulfate free shampoo doesn't keep my hair clean as long nor does it clean my hair as good as sulfate shampoo. Your supposed to wait till your hair is like 70% dry before using the revlon one step. Otherwise you'd be there drying it alot longer.
I’ve been using your tips for over a year and the results are amazing!!! Now if only i could get my family members to stop being so harsh on their hair…the bleach damage is REAL
most things I agree with. The never brushing ur hair wet thing kinda throws me off (curly girls might know why) and the letting ur hair air dry till 80% dry. I‘ve seen trichologists talking about how that is actually not healthy for ur hair and can cause permanent damage to it. The explanation in short was: water makes the hair cuticles swell and leaving them damp for to long causes exactly what people try to avoid while air drying. Dull and weakened hair. So yeah. Talking about to much contradictory information out there.
I think we just need to take the advice whilst keeping in mind that this is what works for someone with straight hair, so a few things will not work for us.
I’m a curly girl too and I NEVER comb my hair dry. Ever. Always comb it wet, with a wet brush, and with a product in it, like a leave in or curl cream.
I was under the impression that sulfates aren’t necessarily bad for hair…. It’s just that they aren’t exactly healthy in general. Many people with skin conditions (e.g., eczema) should avoid them because they can tend to irritate already-dry skin.
I have highlights in my super long healthy hair and I've been getting them for over 30 years now, once a year. I have fine, but beautiful healthy hair, hardly any breakage. I've been following my hairdressers's advice to not wash my hair for at least 5 days before the highlighting procedure for decades now. This makes a lot of sense since the hair is protected by it's natural oils during the procedure and that's the reason why my hair is still long and healthy. Natural hair oils will not cause uneven colour distribution as you mentioned in your video. What can cause uneven colour distribution though is a silicone build up on hair!
I made the mistake of going sulfate free for 7 years. The end result was a diagnosis of female pattern baldness because my lab tests came back normal. Since nobody is bald in my family, I decided to look around. I started with my routine and realized the day I used sulfate after coloring my hair copper my hair didn't fall. Short story, I went back to sulfate/silicones I used for 38 y before going no poo. It recovered mostly, althought it ain't curling from the roots anymore.
@Willowy13 What sulfate-containing products do you use now? I've been looking for a good sulfate-containing shampoo but don't know what to try. I'm tired of the sulfate-free stuff.
I have extremely hard water and used a lot of conditioner which made my hair limp and static prone. Since switching to a shampoo bar that is very natural and conditioning my hair has totally healed and all I need is a spray on leave in conditioner on the ends and a little booster spray. I love my hair now and it’s long and strong!
Honestly your recommendations has changed the texture of my hair and made it so shiny. But my hair doesn’t grow long past chest area for some reason. Any recommendations?
Hi Abby, do you have any tips to avoid mechanic breakage when you go to the salon to get your hair highlighted? they’re always so rough when brushing wet bleached hair I start to cry on the inside 😓
Your doggos are the cutest! My hair has recovered from extreme hairloss while I was anemic. I am SO gentle with it now. Your tips have helped my hair. Thank you💕
I'm 43(44 in a month). I'never dyed my hair except once when I was 20 and I used one of those dyes that wash off in six showers or something. I wash my hair every 3 days unless it is summer and very hot, than it may be every day or every other day. I do not style my hair, I blow dry my hair only when it is cold but in a loose way. After washing it I squeeze the water, wrap it in a towel for some minutes and than I do some headbanging back and forth and it is amazing for separating the strands and get rid of the excess water and than I comb it. once a week I use a pre shampoo and during the hot months I only shower with fresh water, no hot water. And that's it. I love my hair.
Some comments on the color stuff. Purple shampoo is meant to add pigment to cancel out yellow/gold tones in the hair, which can have a "brightening" effect because the hair is a cooler tone (even though it's not actually lighter). As far as highlights go - going in with super dirty hair is fine if your highlights are done with bleach, but if you are using a permanent color to highlight, then you don't want to have super dirty hair because (theoretically) it could interfere with the color deposit
Since you say your hair is frizzy and poofy if you don't apply a leave in conditioner after so long, I'd love to see you try styling your hair wavy curly! If I recall correctly you also said your sister has wavy hair forever ago. Love your videos!
I think she does that in order to prevent too much buildup accumulating on the scalp between washes. When a lot of dirt and oil builds up and is not removed in a timely manner, it can clog hair follicles and impede hair growth.
Yeah now that my hair is short if I want it “up” which of course isn’t really possible, headbands are my thing. I have those super bendy headbands everywhere in my house that I can always get my hair out of my face if/when it’s bothering me. 👍🏾
Ive done the ponytail thing too, Ouch! Now i add alittle ogx oil after showering put my hair in a microfiber towel, let it dry about 80% then dry with my revlon dryer or let it air dry. I use the revlon on the low setting, and it works with no frizz. Thanks for your videos, ive learned alot about not doing certain things.
Okay, so I have curly long hair. I never understood the method of combing your hair wet with a conditioner. I get the idea of the conditioner making it smoother but... Just brush your hair before washing and don't tangle it while washing. Combing wet hair is very damaging, even if it's done with a conditioner.
Thank you so much for all the work you put in, I really appreciate you! I hope that one day you might do a dedicated video about how to treat thin fine hair. I follow your routine, but tbh I'm not sure I need a clarifying shampoo as my scalp is normal and I don't use leave-in products other than conditioner mid-length to ends. Speaking of which, since I need so little leave-in conditioner for my three hairs 🤣, would it be okay to add water to it to make application easier? Also, I've tried volumizing products and they all make my hair feel sticky or like straw. Any recommendations?
I just don't know what else to do if I'm not round brushing my hair. I have short, fine, frizzy hair. I guess I'll try to do air drying as much as I can. I don't use a styling tool- just a round brush and hair dryer that I use on really low setting. Any other tips would be great though!
I really struggle with clarifying shampoos (and I mean something more gentle like Oaui detox shampoo) because I have coarse hair. I want to make sure I'm removing any product buildup ideally every time I wash my hair, but I notice my hair is definitely frizzier when I use them, even if I add a mask, leave-in and styling cream. Would you say for coarser hair types, it's recommended to use clarifying shampoos less often? Or do I just need to look for better conditioning products?
I tried the DP Hue Apple cider vinegar rinse and also the Inkey List salicylic acid scalp tx. I like the rinse better than clarifying shampoo. I have thick coarse hair.
I only use a clarifying shampoo twice a month. I use Ouai. I have thick coarse hair mixed with fine. I also use a deep conditioner hair mask (Colleen Rothschild) when I use a clarifying shampoo.
I don’t do any of these things expect maybe a tight bun for time to time, but I also only do about 10% of what you do to care for your hair. I WANT MY HAIR TO BE BETTER, just with minimum effort
Can you look into the science of air drying your hair vs blow drying? I've heard some hair scientists quote studies that air drying is more damaging than holding your blow dryer inches away from your head.
Thank you for the great tips!! I had been using the Revlon brush hairdryer and thought it was the answer to all my prayers... UNTIL I felt how scalding hot it gets! That's when I saw a video from you talking about it, and I was finished. I, too, have very fine hair and can not afford to torture it with such high heat and pulling.
Same. The dryer brush is a great styler. But it got so much hotter than my regular dryer, the damage was painfully onvious after three months of using it. Never again.
I am going easy on my hair, treating it like silk as I get a grasp of what I need to do for the interim of growing out my natural hair. I believe SLS and the other one are banned in Europe for hair and body products so don’t have to pick a side there. My ex’s aunt was a hairdresser in the 70’d and she always said not to wash you hair for a week if you can stand it before going in for color because your natural oil would protect your hair better from the aggressive stuff she would use on it for coloring. Now I’m confused but don’t care as I shall not be coloring my hair again.
I was told by my hair stylist to not clean my hair before the highlighting as long as possible. I was told many things :). Now I do it all by myself and am happy. (...and if I don't listen to hairstylists anymore, I definitely wouldn't listen Kardashians - who's that anyway? :D )
Hey Abbey! First of all, thanks so much for all these useful videos! I learned so much from you. ❤️ My question is: since you mentioned rarely using the Dyson AirWrap, as it has a brush that pulls onto your hair, do you think you would avoid the AirStrait as well? That has been my go-to tool lately. I wonder if I’m damaging my hair by pulling on it with the AirStrait.
I wish I could wait until my hair was 80% dry to brush and detangle my curly hair. I can’t even use a leave in conditioner. I have to use regular conditioner and the apply my gel from root to tip. I really wish I could wear my hair straight more often but I have to wash it so often it would lead to too much heat damage. Anyway I have learned a lot from you so thank you for sharing with all of us.
DON’T: 1. 🚫Wear your hair in the same style everyday 2. 🚫Avoid deep cleaning/sulfate based shampoos 3. 🚫Apply more product in hopes of getting better results 4. 🚫Use a blow dry brush every time you brush your hair 5. 🚫Buy a product because of the claimed benefits 6. 🚫Brush your hair when it’s soaking wet 7. 🚫Use purple shampoo every week 8. 🚫Go to the salon for highlights with filthy hair 9. 🚫Be rough with your hair 10. 🚫Trust the Kardashians as a source or truth for hair trends
About 2 years ago I fell close to a bonfire and burnt a lot of my already bleached hair. I did everything to "repair" it. Leaving it alone and cutting it every month was the best thing.
Thank you Abbey! I have picked up a bunch of your tips for healthier hair. But, Thank you for bringing tip #10 up!!!! 😂 I am surprised as how many people fallow advises of people who are not experts or barely know a thing or two about a subject
I am mortified at all the damage I've done to my hair. Putting up the same way daily, drying my hair aggressively, applying products poorly, and based on their packaging details. I'm doing my best to repair. I'm going to take all your advice in this video. I have type 1B hair. Would you think that a silk or satin bonnet at night would be a good idea? Also, I'm a welder fabricator. What's the best material to wear to protect my hair from the gear that I wear? Thank you!
I’m just starting my dedication to growing long fuller looking hair nand I’m overwhelmed with the amounts of products / types of products. Hair oiling. Etc 🥴
I have been told that using sulfates, silicones, etc and then using heat basically burns the silicones into your hair like wax and builds up and sufficates your hair. Is this true?
I have been following your instructors for a few years now Abbey and i can not thank you enough as i have fine blonde/bleached hair but shit loads of it and it can get snarly but its improved vastly since joining your channel years ago! ❤❤❤❤
I struggle with the advices such as "This shampoo once a week, this one once every 2 weeks" I wash my hair once a week (every 5days more so), how am I supposed to use them ? Once out of 2 shampoos ? Out of 3 ?
Hi Abbey! I have to wash my hair every day because I have an exceptionally oily scalp - How can I style my hair if I don't use a styling tool? I always dry my hair about 80% before I use my dryer brush. But I use it every day because of the every day washing. And I think this is where I am getting stuck in my hair care journey.
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Nothing about the Kardashian-Jenners is real... I'm so incredibly sick of them.
Think most people are.....I hope
@filukkasunivers2389 sadly not enough people.. since they're still talked about and still earn money from their money grab companies.
@@elin_right? I keep getting commercials of chris giving christmas presents to friends that are just her face.
The fakeness is real! 😉
@@therealmouseymousebro wtf 😭
The best hair of my life was during the pandemic. I washed it every 3 days, let it air dry and used no heat or highlights. It grew like a weed and I didn’t have one single split end in sight!
Same here 😂 my over processed dyed hair was never happier! I think that’s the first time in my life after the 8th grade that I rocked an air dried hairstyle in public
Same here my hair was soo long and nice during covid.
Saaaame, it's sad and funny and at the same time! My hair was so healthy , my tips thick and I had long hair during the lockdown...
I’ve done that for the past 5 years and idk if I’m comparing to those w better genetics but mine just keeps getting split ends 😞 following this channel now to help out with this😅
Now realizing it’s probably related to the stress of being back to work and school😂
I’m in my keep it simple phase. I stopped highlighting after 40 year and I have a full head of 15inch salt and pepper hair that gets more compliments than my blonde ever got!
Me too!
I have silver/platinum bleached blonde hair (done at a salon of course), so breakage and damage is inevitable for me. Though I find that a lot of the tips and product recs you have given has still helped sooo much! My hair has never been this long and 'healthy' during my 4 years as a platinum blonde! Thank you! ❤
How do you deal with breakage? Any tips? I’ve had copper hair for about a year now and I have a lot of breakage but I’m unsure which product to buy (olaplex 3 didn’t help at all)
I love a clarifying shampoo. I went years without one, then used one and followed with a good hair mask was life changing. My hair hadn't felt that soft and looked so good in years. But I also applaud your comments about product overload! I have wavy to curly hair and cannot tolerate the amount of product that most RUclipsrs say we should use. It's unbelievable. I watched a woman with long hair use four pumps of a product for her curls, and then another woman with hair just touching her shoulders used six or seven of the same product, then used a towel to scrunch out the "excess" product. Gee, if only there was something she could do to not put in too much product 🤔
Please could you recommend am affordable clarifying shampoo and hair mask?
Every shampoo I use dries out my hair
Oh my goodness that last tip though 😂 It’s too relatable. After my grandma passed, you better believe I went to the salon with my naturally black hair and asked for Kim K’s icy blonde with black root look. 8 hours later, I’m still at the salon and exhausted and I say to my stylist “gosh, how does she have the time for this all the time??” And my stylist laughed and said “you know it’s a wig right?” Anyways here we are 5 years later and I’m still coping with the damage it caused. But at least my research led to me to this channel! 😂 ❤
omgggg stop that's so terrible! I'd be distraught lol. BUT I'm so glad you're here xoox
OMG. Your stylist should have revealed that little bombshell *before* they even touched your hair! 😬😖
That's so funny
@@AbbeyYungyou’re very pretty with blonde hair
@@AbbeyYungI really like you Abbey you’re my best friend ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Abbey, I have changed how I do my hair so much since watching you. About six years ago the texture of my hair changed dramatically. Thanks to menopause I went from really straight hair to wavy/curly. When my hair was straight I washed it every night, went to bed wet and brushed it out in the morning. Strangely, my hair stayed in pretty good shape. Once my hair was curly I went down the whole curly hair rabbit hole. I stopped using sulfates and silicones and the whole thing. However, even using heavy conditioners and leave ins, my hair didn't look or feel great. I have now added back sulfates for clarifying and using silicones again (amodimethicone anyone?) and my hair is doing much better. I have also starting using hair oil especially on my ends as a pre-treatment. Thank you so much for all you do.
I'm so so glad to hear that!! My mom also had really similar changes to her hair due to menopause... so interesting how hormones impact our hair.
I can so relate to the changes in hair texture from menopause! I have let my natural gray come in and while I love it, I also hate it because it's so different than my stick straight brown hair I was born with. Now it's wavy and the frizz! My God!
Who wants to go to bed with wet hair.... gross
@@Jess-Rabbit Didn't bother me a bit. I just laid it out on my pillow and in the morning it was dry. I love washing my hair but hate styling it. If I could get away with not styling it now w/o it looking like a Lion King audition, I would.
I LITERALLY had to stop and look at your name to make sure that I didn't write this 😂 I for real thought I'd done lost it!!
Everything you said sounds EXACTLY like my story for the last couple of years or so!!! 🙂
Lots of good tips.
Just to say make sure you learn from your own hair journey. I have a different hair type, mine is wavy, not particularly frizzy but thick and coarse. My hair brushes super easy when soaking wet, particularly when I’ve just sprayed leave in conditioner, a comb or wet brush literally glides through. If I don’t brush when wet and try to brush when mostly dry, the knots dry in and are significantly more difficult to brush through
Same here, and same hair type as you. I never have issues brushing my hair wet when using the right products.
I saw an interesting video on this exact thing on Lab Muffins channel she talked all about coily hair brushes with less friction when wet. Cool!
Absolutely! I always want everyone to do what works best for them
I have pretty straight hair but the routine I've come up with is
1) brush before I shower. So much easier to start with detangled hair before shampooing
2) after the shower brush it 100% soaking wet. Like very first thing, I toweled my hair, the brush is dripping water on my bath mat with every pass through my hair kind of soaking wet. Then leave aside from products just leavey hair alone until completely dry
So helpful! Curious if you’d want to do an update on your fave ways to heatless style your hair? Whether it’s for a wavy or straight look. And also if you have recommendations for hair that goes frizzy when letting it air dry. Thanks for sharing your tips!
Minerals in the water can dull your color or make it brassy (but it’s also the ashy toner washing out each time you wash revealing the natural state of your stripped hair straight after bleaching and before toner was applied). Ever since my hair is bleached lighter past the orange stage and more towards that pale yellow (inside of the banana color0 I don’t fight brass as hard as I used to anymore. Purple shampoos when overused can actually dull and darken your hair, because each time you use it it’s just depositing ashy pigments onto your hair and this can build up. Also, old school purple shampoo used to be drying and now they make nicer formulas that are not drying. I find you get the best results if you use a really good chelating shampoo first then use the purple shampoo afterwards so that you remove mineral deposits and then put on the ashy deposit. Another route is using a chelating shampoo first then using a purple conditioner (or making your own by mixing a semi-permanent dye into conditioner). You can’t just dump it on your head; it’s better to apply evenly in sections and if you’re mixing your own you have to formulate the color carefully. If the purple has too much blue in it and your hair is yellow, you will get green hair.
Looks like I found a sister of mine today 😂 I’ve been a hair freak since on my 16 ( I’m 31 now ) I’d watch and listen every person that have to say something informative about hair growth & care , couse there is always something to learn . Thank you for your time and hello to all my hair freak sisters 😂❤️💋!
i’m experiencing tons of shedding from stress, and what i believe is coupled with some harsh treatment of my hair. i bleached the underside too much the last few years, i wasn’t as gentle as I should’ve been, and went from one extreme to the next. For 7 years, I didn’t shampoo correctly at all, I fell down that whole “skip washes, use all natural, no sulfates) and my hair was so greasy! I didn’t pick up sulfates again until 2021! but then I wouldn’t condition every day, I’d sleep on wet hair constantly, and don’t have satin pillowcases, brushing roughly, and poor diet. I found your channel this morning because i was at such a loss of what to do. I have some things from Walmart in my cart right now. The Dove Dermacare Scalp health shampoo and conditioner, L’Oréal bond repair, a cleansing shampoo (V08) and the coconut oil you talked about! I’m going to be extremely thorough in how gentle I am, and also try the filter for the shower, if it’s apartment safe. I’ll update in a month! Wish me luck guys ❤
We need an update on your sister’s hair! Would love to see how it’s going!
I feel like my hair want to compete with a lemon when I don’t use purple shampoo for a while 😅 but since my scalp is very sensitive and I struggle with purple shampoo I use a purple conditioner every two weeks. It works way better for me. I just wanted to comment that in case someone doesn’t know purple conditioner also exists.
If you don’t heat style after air drying how does your look so silky? How do you style it after 80-90% air dry?
What’s the healthiest best hair dryer to use that doesn’t cost $800?
Oooooh, fellow Twin Cities girlie here! Thank you so much for all your tips on hair. I’ve been watching your stuff pretty regularly since I discovered your channel and purchased your hair guide. It’s really helped my super fine, blonde hair!
Yay! Twin Cities love. And so glad xoxo
I am doing pretty much everything you have suggested and my hair is slowly improving. My next move will be to stop lightening my hair and just start adding the dark back. I feel like it thinned out a lot after I started highlighting it. And I will take your advice and let my hair dry 80% before combing through it. Totally doable.
I'm so glad to hear that! Being patient is the hardest part... hair takes so long to fully transform but you'll get there!
We need a hair gloss show down!
the reason i started using sulfate free shampoo a year ago is because i started dyeing my hair purple and using mild shampoos helps maintain the color (since it inevitably washes out due to the fact all hair colors are only semi permanent). it also helped bring out my naturally wavy texture even more. i do struggle with dry scalp and flakiness tho 😅
Lol at that last tip. While I don't personally follow the Kardashians this can be applied to basically all celebrities and pictures in general we saw online. I really like my hairdresser since she's very blunt about things and whenever I bring her a picture of what I want my hair to look like she will always point out things like "Ok I can dye it that colour but you should know that that is a wig/they're wearing extensions/the lighting gives it that shine" etc. She's always very upfront about what the result will actually look like on my hair which I appreciate a lot. She also told me I shouldn't come with dirty hair if I want highlights or colour put in. She said its a very annoying misconception but that colour actually takes much better on clean hair. I was so shocked since I ALWAYS came with dirty hair to every hair appointment haha.
After I started really looking into how to keep care of my hair, what my hair needs and found your channel, I've had MUCH more success with health AND growth! Especially your suggestion to use a coconut based oil before washing! Thank you!! ❤ I am obsessed with using a leave in conditioner too! Also JAW CLIPS ARE ELITE!
Yayyy this is amazing!!
What’s the gospel on jaw clips?
@@makeupnmedicine Better for hair health instead of using a hair tye! Silk scrunchies and claw clips are the best for avoiding breakage!
Great video. Learning about your hair is so important. I only recently learned about porosity and that I have low porosity hair. I changed all of my hair products and my hair is the best it has felt in years.
About the last thing: do not ever ever let conditioner dry in your hair & go to sleep. For some reason letting large amounts of regular conditioner dry in your hair creates horrific tangles. There's an upper limit to how much conditioner is actually detangling
Truth I did this once because I forgot to rinse out conditioner (shows you how exhausted I was lol) and my hair felt HORRIBLE
Been there! I figured out it's because conditioners also have some "cleansers" in them so that the conditioner rinses out of the hair.
Abbey! Would you consider doing a video of all your hard water hair recommendations? I know you've mentioned the shower filter before, but maybe the nitry gritty on chelating shampoos? Or any other tips and tricks you've developed. Or any other filters you think are worthwhile. I'm aure that one is great, the 165$ pricetag is just a bit steep
L'Oréal Professionnel Metal Detox shampoo is a great option if you have hard water.
Yup I used to wear my hair in really high tight ponytail everyday and I used to brush my hair wet thinking of more damaging things I used to do to my hair makes me so sad 😭
Because if you I have bought a shower filter it helped my hair alot I also use coconut miracle oil on my lengths and ends before washing I take really good care of my hair now before bed I brush it out carefully and wear it in a twist.I just can’t tell you enough how much you have helped me with my hair! ❤
I would love if you could talk more about hair color and clarifying shampoos. Do these newer formulations still strip the color? If so using one every shampoo would leave me with no color after a couple weeks.😊
Ooh Abbey, u should try Amika’s Reset Shampoo. It’s their clarifying shampoo and it sprays out in a can like a mouse but it’s a clear shampoo. I love it!
I have been watching your videos for almost a year now and my hair is so long a fabulous!! Thank you so much! ❤ I used to do all the wrong things and my hair was so broken (and I never color my hair) that it wouldn’t grow past a certain length. You changed my hair life! 🥰
YAY I'm so so happy to hear this xoxo
Your videos motivates me to take more care of my hair thank u❤, Could you please create a video sharing all the advice you have learned about growing hair, starting from washing to maintaining cleanliness and health? It would be helpful if you could include information on establishing a hair care routine, such as when to use oil, apply a moisturizing mask, serums, and hair creams.
im so on the edge with sulfates.. cause when i use shampoos with sulfates they usually dry out my scalp in the long run but when i used sulfate free shampoos i felt like it didnt cleanse my hair enough.. im so lost
Sulfate free clarifying shampoo
Use both interchangeably then. Sulfate free most washes and sulfate one for extra clarifying 1-2 times a week.
I feel like sulfate free shampoo doesn't keep my hair clean as long nor does it clean my hair as good as sulfate shampoo. Your supposed to wait till your hair is like 70% dry before using the revlon one step. Otherwise you'd be there drying it alot longer.
My hair has never looked better since finding your channel. Your advice makes a difference and I appreciate it. ❤
YAY!
I’ve been using your tips for over a year and the results are amazing!!! Now if only i could get my family members to stop being so harsh on their hair…the bleach damage is REAL
They did not trend rice water 🫤. They dont trend nothing that has to do with hair .
most things I agree with. The never brushing ur hair wet thing kinda throws me off (curly girls might know why) and the letting ur hair air dry till 80% dry. I‘ve seen trichologists talking about how that is actually not healthy for ur hair and can cause permanent damage to it. The explanation in short was: water makes the hair cuticles swell and leaving them
damp for to long causes exactly what people try to avoid while air drying. Dull and weakened hair. So yeah. Talking about to much contradictory information out there.
I think we just need to take the advice whilst keeping in mind that this is what works for someone with straight hair, so a few things will not work for us.
I’m a curly girl too and I NEVER comb my hair dry. Ever. Always comb it wet, with a wet brush, and with a product in it, like a leave in or curl cream.
I was under the impression that sulfates aren’t necessarily bad for hair…. It’s just that they aren’t exactly healthy in general. Many people with skin conditions (e.g., eczema) should avoid them because they can tend to irritate already-dry skin.
I have highlights in my super long healthy hair and I've been getting them for over 30 years now, once a year.
I have fine, but beautiful healthy hair, hardly any breakage. I've been following my hairdressers's advice to not wash my hair for at least 5 days before the highlighting procedure for decades now. This makes a lot of sense since the hair is protected by it's natural oils during the procedure and that's the reason why my hair is still long and healthy. Natural hair oils will not cause uneven colour distribution as you mentioned in your video.
What can cause uneven colour distribution though is a silicone build up on hair!
I made the mistake of going sulfate free for 7 years. The end result was a diagnosis of female pattern baldness because my lab tests came back normal. Since nobody is bald in my family, I decided to look around.
I started with my routine and realized the day I used sulfate after coloring my hair copper my hair didn't fall. Short story, I went back to sulfate/silicones I used for 38 y before going no poo. It recovered mostly, althought it ain't curling from the roots anymore.
@Willowy13 What sulfate-containing products do you use now? I've been looking for a good sulfate-containing shampoo but don't know what to try. I'm tired of the sulfate-free stuff.
I use products with silicones in them. But sulfate products make my hair really frizzy for some reason? I don't know what to do.
Can you please do a video about products you recommend for heat protection and hair styling?
We need more drugstore shampoo and condish vids!
Usual brands you can find anywhere (Pantene, Tresseme etc)
Excessive oily or excess product can affect color. It’s unlikely but I have seen oil push color away from where you intended it to be
I have extremely hard water and used a lot of conditioner which made my hair limp and static prone. Since switching to a shampoo bar that is very natural and conditioning my hair has totally healed and all I need is a spray on leave in conditioner on the ends and a little booster spray. I love my hair now and it’s long and strong!
Yes! That was FANTASTIC! Thank you for everything!
Honestly your recommendations has changed the texture of my hair and made it so shiny. But my hair doesn’t grow long past chest area for some reason. Any recommendations?
Hi Abby, do you have any tips to avoid mechanic breakage when you go to the salon to get your hair highlighted? they’re always so rough when brushing wet bleached hair I start to cry on the inside 😓
Yes, that’s the main reason I avoid getting my hair professionally done! 😢
Having it highlighted is the worst thing you can do to it, other than just bleaching all of it at once.
Coming from a hairdresser…. Offer to brush your own hair out. I cringe at this Myself but no one can brush your hair out bette than yourself
Your doggos are the cutest! My hair has recovered from extreme hairloss while I was anemic. I am SO gentle with it now. Your tips have helped my hair. Thank you💕
I'm 43(44 in a month). I'never dyed my hair except once when I was 20 and I used one of those dyes that wash off in six showers or something. I wash my hair every 3 days unless it is summer and very hot, than it may be every day or every other day. I do not style my hair, I blow dry my hair only when it is cold but in a loose way. After washing it I squeeze the water, wrap it in a towel for some minutes and than I do some headbanging back and forth and it is amazing for separating the strands and get rid of the excess water and than I comb it. once a week I use a pre shampoo and during the hot months I only shower with fresh water, no hot water. And that's it. I love my hair.
Some comments on the color stuff. Purple shampoo is meant to add pigment to cancel out yellow/gold tones in the hair, which can have a "brightening" effect because the hair is a cooler tone (even though it's not actually lighter). As far as highlights go - going in with super dirty hair is fine if your highlights are done with bleach, but if you are using a permanent color to highlight, then you don't want to have super dirty hair because (theoretically) it could interfere with the color deposit
Add a moisture balm with Olaplex
Can you tell me the best hair dryer under $100. I would love to buy the Dyson or the shark air dry but can’t afford them !
BaByliss Pro
Since you say your hair is frizzy and poofy if you don't apply a leave in conditioner after so long, I'd love to see you try styling your hair wavy curly! If I recall correctly you also said your sister has wavy hair forever ago. Love your videos!
What made you start washing your hair twice a week instead of once?
I think she does that in order to prevent too much buildup accumulating on the scalp between washes. When a lot of dirt and oil builds up and is not removed in a timely manner, it can clog hair follicles and impede hair growth.
My question exactly....wait, what??! I thought she washed her hair every 7 days
It’s the current trend. That’s why.
Yeah now that my hair is short if I want it “up” which of course isn’t really possible, headbands are my thing. I have those super bendy headbands everywhere in my house that I can always get my hair out of my face if/when it’s bothering me. 👍🏾
Ive done the ponytail thing too, Ouch! Now i add alittle ogx oil after showering put my hair in a microfiber towel, let it dry about 80% then dry with my revlon dryer or let it air dry. I use the revlon on the low setting, and it works with no frizz. Thanks for your videos, ive learned alot about not doing certain things.
How you are not in a hair comercial ???? You can definitely get a contract with any beauty line. Beautiful and beautiful hair 🎉❤
Okay, so I have curly long hair. I never understood the method of combing your hair wet with a conditioner. I get the idea of the conditioner making it smoother but... Just brush your hair before washing and don't tangle it while washing. Combing wet hair is very damaging, even if it's done with a conditioner.
Thank you Abbey! 🤍
Thank you so much for all the work you put in, I really appreciate you!
I hope that one day you might do a dedicated video about how to treat thin fine hair. I follow your routine, but tbh I'm not sure I need a clarifying shampoo as my scalp is normal and I don't use leave-in products other than conditioner mid-length to ends. Speaking of which, since I need so little leave-in conditioner for my three hairs 🤣, would it be okay to add water to it to make application easier? Also, I've tried volumizing products and they all make my hair feel sticky or like straw. Any recommendations?
I just don't know what else to do if I'm not round brushing my hair. I have short, fine, frizzy hair. I guess I'll try to do air drying as much as I can. I don't use a styling tool- just a round brush and hair dryer that I use on really low setting. Any other tips would be great though!
I always let my hair air dry because I'm scared to use heat/ hairdryer
I really struggle with clarifying shampoos (and I mean something more gentle like Oaui detox shampoo) because I have coarse hair. I want to make sure I'm removing any product buildup ideally every time I wash my hair, but I notice my hair is definitely frizzier when I use them, even if I add a mask, leave-in and styling cream. Would you say for coarser hair types, it's recommended to use clarifying shampoos less often? Or do I just need to look for better conditioning products?
I tried the DP Hue Apple cider vinegar rinse and also the Inkey List salicylic acid scalp tx. I like the rinse better than clarifying shampoo. I have thick coarse hair.
@@queenofmckean2278 thank you! I'll definitely give it a try!
I only use a clarifying shampoo twice a month. I use Ouai. I have thick coarse hair mixed with fine. I also use a deep conditioner hair mask (Colleen Rothschild) when I use a clarifying shampoo.
Use a clarifying shampoo first then your regular shampoo after . Might help . Instead of using the clarifying for 1st and 2nd wash
Ouai has so many toxic crap. 0/100 on Yuki for most products
I don’t do any of these things expect maybe a tight bun for time to time, but I also only do about 10% of what you do to care for your hair. I WANT MY HAIR TO BE BETTER, just with minimum effort
You've got "the hair" it's fabulous 😍
"Am I OK??" Girl I freaking Cackled!! Thanks for keeping it as entertaining as it is informative
I really can’t avoid brushing my hair when it’s wet because it takes 4 hours to dry and I don’t have that time to get ready
Can you look into the science of air drying your hair vs blow drying? I've heard some hair scientists quote studies that air drying is more damaging than holding your blow dryer inches away from your head.
This was one of the most informative and helpful videos on hair that I have EVER watched, thank you! Subscribed! 😊😊😊
What does letting your hair dry 80% mean exactly ? How do you measure that? How do you know?
Thank you for the great tips!! I had been using the Revlon brush hairdryer and thought it was the answer to all my prayers... UNTIL I felt how scalding hot it gets! That's when I saw a video from you talking about it, and I was finished. I, too, have very fine hair and can not afford to torture it with such high heat and pulling.
I can't see much difference between that and blow drying with a round brush
Same. The dryer brush is a great styler. But it got so much hotter than my regular dryer, the damage was painfully onvious after three months of using it. Never again.
@@kristabel71 The revlon one has a cold setting.
Happy October, Abbey!❤
I am going easy on my hair, treating it like silk as I get a grasp of what I need to do for the interim of growing out my natural hair. I believe SLS and the other one are banned in Europe for hair and body products so don’t have to pick a side there. My ex’s aunt was a hairdresser in the 70’d and she always said not to wash you hair for a week if you can stand it before going in for color because your natural oil would protect your hair better from the aggressive stuff she would use on it for coloring. Now I’m confused but don’t care as I shall not be coloring my hair again.
Kourtney recently dyed her hair bleach blonde and the internet hated it lol
My Quincy boy!!! 🥹🥹🥹
I was told by my hair stylist to not clean my hair before the highlighting as long as possible. I was told many things :). Now I do it all by myself and am happy. (...and if I don't listen to hairstylists anymore, I definitely wouldn't listen Kardashians - who's that anyway? :D )
Hey Abbey! First of all, thanks so much for all these useful videos! I learned so much from you. ❤️ My question is: since you mentioned rarely using the Dyson AirWrap, as it has a brush that pulls onto your hair, do you think you would avoid the AirStrait as well? That has been my go-to tool lately. I wonder if I’m damaging my hair by pulling on it with the AirStrait.
I wish I could wait until my hair was 80% dry to brush and detangle my curly hair. I can’t even use a leave in conditioner. I have to use regular conditioner and the apply my gel from root to tip.
I really wish I could wear my hair straight more often but I have to wash it so often it would lead to too much heat damage.
Anyway I have learned a lot from you so thank you for sharing with all of us.
Hey Abbey, I love the new setup and I am also from MN! Thanks for always sharing so much information and your reasoning behind your decisions
Pleaseee make a video about the new loreal molecular repair products❤️❤️
Such a great video Abbey! Trying to grow my hair out / heal it as it currently just snaps off when I run my fingers between it 🫠
Your hair is really pretty!
DON’T:
1. 🚫Wear your hair in the same style everyday
2. 🚫Avoid deep cleaning/sulfate based shampoos
3. 🚫Apply more product in hopes of getting better results
4. 🚫Use a blow dry brush every time you brush your hair
5. 🚫Buy a product because of the claimed benefits
6. 🚫Brush your hair when it’s soaking wet
7. 🚫Use purple shampoo every week
8. 🚫Go to the salon for highlights with filthy hair
9. 🚫Be rough with your hair
10. 🚫Trust the Kardashians as a source or truth for hair trends
Watching her awesome videos as you apply OGX coconut oil in your hair before washing it
About 2 years ago I fell close to a bonfire and burnt a lot of my already bleached hair. I did everything to "repair" it. Leaving it alone and cutting it every month was the best thing.
What about using purple shampoo on naturally gray hair? I find if I don’t use it my hair looks brassy after a week.
I found your content almost a year ago on tik tok and have been watching your RUclips. Your content is so real and you have great advice! Thanks💜🙂
With 3a/b hair I cannot wait until the hair is 80% dry before brushing. This would cause more tangles and breakage.
Thank you Abbey! I have picked up a bunch of your tips for healthier hair. But, Thank you for bringing tip #10 up!!!! 😂 I am surprised as how many people fallow advises of people who are not experts or barely know a thing or two about a subject
I am mortified at all the damage I've done to my hair. Putting up the same way daily, drying my hair aggressively, applying products poorly, and based on their packaging details. I'm doing my best to repair. I'm going to take all your advice in this video. I have type 1B hair. Would you think that a silk or satin bonnet at night would be a good idea? Also, I'm a welder fabricator. What's the best material to wear to protect my hair from the gear that I wear? Thank you!
I’m just starting my dedication to growing long fuller looking hair nand I’m overwhelmed with the amounts of products / types of products. Hair oiling. Etc 🥴
I have been told that using sulfates, silicones, etc and then using heat basically burns the silicones into your hair like wax and builds up and sufficates your hair. Is this true?
I have been following your instructors for a few years now Abbey and i can not thank you enough as i have fine blonde/bleached hair but shit loads of it and it can get snarly but its improved vastly since joining your channel years ago!
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Yay!!! so glad xoxo
Do you use the ogx coconut oil? How is not too heavy for your fine hair? @itstia552
I have a lot of red pigment in my hair for going blonde. So some people need more bleach
Great tips, but it’s a shame that you didn’t mention about PEH (protein, emollient, humectant) conditioner/mask and not using shampoo with silicones.
Hey Abbey! thanks so much for this video! Can you please tell us how you keep your lashes healthy? I would appreciate that!
At somepoint you should do a video to help people with short hair on growing their hair out
I struggle with the advices such as "This shampoo once a week, this one once every 2 weeks" I wash my hair once a week (every 5days more so), how am I supposed to use them ? Once out of 2 shampoos ? Out of 3 ?
How do you style your hair to look so perfect , without damaging it ?
Hi Abbey! I have to wash my hair every day because I have an exceptionally oily scalp - How can I style my hair if I don't use a styling tool? I always dry my hair about 80% before I use my dryer brush. But I use it every day because of the every day washing. And I think this is where I am getting stuck in my hair care journey.
Elsie is sooo cute! Thanks for the tips!
Rice water was amazing for my hair, i just made sure to wash it off after about 20 min. It's got a lot of protein, so too much is not good.😊