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  • Опубликовано: 10 мар 2022
  • Following the search for adoptive parents for a two year old boy and a three and seven year old brother and sister. With the added challenges of having slightly older children, siblings and a child with possible health issues to place, the task for social workers Annette and Jackie is a massive one.
    With the future of these children in their hands and recently set government targets to meet, they struggle not to become too emotionally involved as they strive to find adopters before time runs out.
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  • @marlenerobertson585
    @marlenerobertson585 Год назад +143

    It’s interesting. We have been foster parents for over 27 years now and have had quite a few kiddos adopted from our home. And everyone of them has been older. Several 12 year olds, a 13 year old a sister set of 10 and 12, an 11 year old girl and more. And everyone has been successful. Matter of fact, our one girl who was adopted at 11 invited us to her wedding a few years back. Lots of success stories. So don’t give up. There are awesome families out there who want older kids.

    • @pattymelt-go3fv
      @pattymelt-go3fv 2 месяца назад +1

      @marlenerobertson585.
      Wherever you are?
      Thank you much for your service to the next generation and society as a whole.
      Well done and THANK YOU!!!
      If there isn't an National Foster Parents Day in your country...there should be one.
      With out parents like you....the world would be sadder poorer place.

  • @MrZzToOoFlyY
    @MrZzToOoFlyY 2 года назад +429

    To bad all social workers aren’t this amazing, you can tell she genuinely wants to see all these children in safe and loving homes and they are willing to fight and try their hardest to make this happen. It unfortunately doesn’t happen this way in so many cases, at least here in the US, but most workers are well overworked.

    • @shandispace651
      @shandispace651 2 года назад +19

      I can say most workers overworked as they are care that much....you hear of the bad ones...the ones that stay..foster care workers are a special bunch...I was a cpi and it was tough..the investigation is far shorter in most cases..but these workers care sometimes for years.

    • @maddoxhegedus2506
      @maddoxhegedus2506 2 года назад +4

      It's very hard dealing with so many emotional people in hard places. I lost my son when my husband passed away. I just couldn't pull it together fast enough for the social worker. But I have kept a strong relationship with my son and had some great worker but lots of bad ones. It's a hard line of work.

  • @cpaige1194
    @cpaige1194 2 года назад +549

    This really breaks my heart. I’m pregnant right now. My fiancé and I have always talked about adopting one day when we have a bigger house. We plan to adopt an older child because we know that they are the ones who usually get turned down. It just makes me so sad. One day I will be able to help.

    • @joandeigan7826
      @joandeigan7826 2 года назад +17

      God bless you. You have a kind heart.

    • @naelyneurkopfen9741
      @naelyneurkopfen9741 2 года назад +7

      Cart before the horse, eh? It seems you're not good at making appropriate, moral decisions. Leave other people's children out of your mess.

    • @spidercherry108
      @spidercherry108 2 года назад +20

      @@naelyneurkopfen9741 how many kids have you adopted(

    • @cpaige1194
      @cpaige1194 2 года назад +37

      @@naelyneurkopfen9741 Yeah well our last house got destroyed in a hurricane so we are living in a tiny home while saving for our forever home. I am perfectly fine with having my cart and waiting for the horse 💚

    • @kristinfrostlazerbeams
      @kristinfrostlazerbeams 2 года назад +29

      @@naelyneurkopfen9741 a mess? You act like you know this person directly. Why so mean? There's no need to be. Seriously why so much frustration? I'd like to know because you can have your opinions but can you back them up with something so I can figure it out? Lol

  • @stephanieamerson9321
    @stephanieamerson9321 Год назад +43

    That older couple that had Tommy just melts my heart they are truly angels on earth 🥰

  • @AinuLaire
    @AinuLaire 2 года назад +216

    My parents adopted my younger sister 15 years ago (as of Feb 26). Did she have "issues"? Yes, like every kid does. But it's the most enriching experience of our family's life. If you're serious about having children, highly recommend looking into adopting. It's as much a gamble as having your own, but so rewarding.

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 3 месяца назад

      Adopting is as much of a gamble as your own it’s MUCH MORE of a gamble and most people want their own children not someone else’s. That’s the reality of it and that’s the truth. As far as it being rewarding that’s an opinion not a fact.

  • @janicewatts4444
    @janicewatts4444 2 года назад +145

    Went through the foster care system. No exactly how these kids feel. Was never adopted out. Always have felt insecure. I am so thankful that you found faster homes and adoptive homes for these children. God bless you

    • @shadowkyber2510
      @shadowkyber2510 2 года назад +4

      What happens when you turn 18? Do they kinda just kick you out and hope you can fend for yourself or are you allowed to stay for a bit longer til you get settled?

  • @RDSimpson
    @RDSimpson 2 года назад +56

    I went through the system in the UK back in the 1950s. I owe my life to mothers that came to the orphanage to breast feed the kids like me. To the foster parents that had me for a time. It's very easy for orphans to go off the tracks when they hit teen age times, but, those adults who take time to show the kids a better way, make a big difference in the outcome of that child. Thank you to all those social workers.

  • @rebeccaschroeder8891
    @rebeccaschroeder8891 2 года назад +258

    If I had the money I would adopt them❤❤ No matter there age. Age doesnt mean anything to me. How precious are these beautiful blessings

    • @NebulaBull
      @NebulaBull 2 года назад +15

      As a former foster child that aged out of the system I'm happy to hear your heart has good intentions and will but from experience best intentions and great hearts aren't always in it for a lifetime.

    • @JelaniSJ
      @JelaniSJ 2 года назад +3

      You can always look into resources for adopting in your own country! Children are in need everywhere.

    • @ambertheangel31
      @ambertheangel31 2 года назад +6

      If I could adopt I would I dont have the money. But I would adopt any age kids.

    • @margaretboyle8719
      @margaretboyle8719 2 года назад +1

      @@ambertheangel31 Virtue-signaling doesn't help anyone but you.

    • @ambertheangel31
      @ambertheangel31 2 года назад +5

      @@margaretboyle8719 okay one why do you feel the need to signal me out when I would do the something as the author of the original comment. Two I would adopt in a heart beat if the encomy didn't suck I have many friends who were adopted and they are still my best friends till this day

  • @Kloetenhenne
    @Kloetenhenne 2 года назад +24

    Wasn't Tommy's "yes, pease" the most adorable thing ever?

  • @meri7766
    @meri7766 2 года назад +224

    I’m 19 + already preparing to get financially and mentally ready to adopt / foster a bit later in life. I might not be a perfect choice ever, but i’m better than nothing. You don’t need to be ’special’ to foster or adopt, parenting any kid is challenging. If we can help a child, why not do it. I was in the system once too. Having a good stable fosterfamily can change your life.

    • @merileehanson8434
      @merileehanson8434 2 года назад +8

      Meri...you can be a Guardian Ad Litem now! You will get experienced in the court systems...invaluable! I've had 4 cases, 3 adoptions!

    • @San-eh8do
      @San-eh8do 2 года назад +5

      I hope you can afford it in your country. Here in Germany you have to got a separete room and bathroom for one foster child. If you have already one child you must build another bathroom for the foster child. So if you want to fosrer 2 children you must have two bathrooms extra, besides the bathroom you already have.

    • @merileehanson8434
      @merileehanson8434 2 года назад

      Guardian ad Litem is not a Foster Parent. Look it up...

    • @kaieastty8948
      @kaieastty8948 2 года назад +8

      @@San-eh8do that’s ridiculous. My sister and I shared a bathroom and no problem. I understand the bedroom part but not the bathroom. My sister and I were not adopted or dealt with the foster care system. I do plan to foster and adopt when I have a place to myself and I plan to get specialized license and teenagers because they are the ones that need the most help.

    • @San-eh8do
      @San-eh8do 2 года назад +4

      @@kaieastty8948 I wanted to foster here in Germany, and that's what they said to me. If you have your own children it does'nt care, but if you want to foster, these are the rules here.

  • @janesmith4h
    @janesmith4h 2 года назад +52

    This is so heartbreaking. When we were kids, my Mom became a Foster. We failed...TWICE! My sisters are now 30 & 32.
    My husband and I are now taking classes to get certified. We have the space and the love!

  • @juliannatunde3756
    @juliannatunde3756 2 года назад +41

    But in Tomy’s case, the fostercarers can just stay in the picture as grandparents, and that would be so nice 🥰

    • @HerMuffiness
      @HerMuffiness Год назад +2

      Wouldn’t that be just lovely!🙏😃

  • @nikkilynn559
    @nikkilynn559 Год назад +32

    Awe tommy saying 2 mommies brought tears to my eyes. So sweet!! But my heart broke for his foster parents 💔 😢 😔 Annette is a wonderful social worker!!

    • @HerMuffiness
      @HerMuffiness Год назад +3

      I agree!
      Annette seems to genuinely care about these children. It is a very emotionally charged job and she must be emotionally drained by end of week.
      Bless her and the other social workers who work so hard for these kiddos.

    • @Laoriginal718
      @Laoriginal718 3 месяца назад

      No. He doesn’t have two moms. He has one. Homosexuals should NOT be allowed to adopt. That boy needs a father.

  • @marie.naturallysims2179
    @marie.naturallysims2179 2 года назад +80

    Damn, the Lauren and Liam story is heartbreaking. If I had the money and a place in England, I'd adopt them or any child/siblings that needed forever homes. Hopefully they find a forever loving home with loving parents.
    Edit -watched the ending. So glad all three kids found families to take them in.

  • @9400lilly
    @9400lilly 2 года назад +24

    What a lovely couple. At that age they still have the will to foster. Wonderful people that make the difference.

  • @alainadacosta1222
    @alainadacosta1222 2 года назад +49

    I had tears in my eyes when she was talking about the family wanting to adopt Lauren and Liam. I hope to adopt some day and have been thinking about it for years now. This video was a great reminder to also consider adopting from foster care. I'm so so happy they all found loving families

  • @KEENDARLING
    @KEENDARLING 2 года назад +19

    I love how he calls them the 2 mommies
    So cute
    The foster couple who had Tommy was so sweet

  • @growmance2191
    @growmance2191 2 года назад +18

    I started tearing up hearing the good news Laura and Liam got a new home and won’t have to be in foster care until their 18 and feel unwanted. Congrats

  • @rochellephillips2180
    @rochellephillips2180 2 года назад +40

    Such a wonderful ending but my heartaches for the Foster parents that truly had these children to long and had made these children a part of their families, homes,and hearts.......Ty for giving them a lot of love, understanding,and stability, so they had a shot!!

  • @kitwoo2w491
    @kitwoo2w491 2 года назад +38

    I would be very happy to give them a permanent loving home. I pray that they are never separated. (Lauren & Liam)

    • @PurdueAlum01
      @PurdueAlum01 2 года назад +2

      Watch the 3rd episode of this show on this channel search Origin 15,000...3 episodes total...this is 2nd.
      Its about a family with 3 older boys ready to add these 2 to their family...worth finding!

  • @gordonramsey6738
    @gordonramsey6738 2 года назад +27

    I feel so happy for Thommy and Lauren and Liam!
    Those kids deserve to have a loving family like any child!!
    All they want is to be loved!

  • @emo7636
    @emo7636 2 года назад +53

    As someone who struggled to have a child, I can say I honestly understand why most people prefer 'younger' children. I think it's because they want the experience of babyhood from the beginning, and you feel like it would break your heart to never experience that. With that being said, I think it's probably crucial to have an open mind about ages, but I'd imagine it's difficult to put one's own feelings aside and focus solely on adopting an older child.

    • @shaunanacole
      @shaunanacole Год назад +3

      I understand wanting to experience "babyhood" but mist people adopt because they are unable to have their own. So they don't get to experience pregnancy or childbirth, so if you really want a child I don't think that should matter AT ALL.

    • @yesimemoin0935
      @yesimemoin0935 Год назад +11

      The concern is that older children will have a harder time adapting to their new family, due to neglect, trauma or strong attachments to their birth family. A toddler won't remember any parent but you.

    • @junbh2
      @junbh2 11 месяцев назад +3

      @@yesimemoin0935 Yes, I think a lot of it is just fear. Especially since so many adopters are first time parents. Even the 'easiest' new parent experience can be overwhelming, so to think of your first experience as a parent being responsible for a child with serious trauma, who sees you as a complete stranger - it's extremely intimidating.

    • @betsybabf748
      @betsybabf748 9 месяцев назад +1

      As a mom to many birth children and foster children, as well as formerly being a parenting educator, raising a child is not about our experience as the adults, but about providing a child's needs. Those who are more concerned with their own experience don't get what parenting is or what it is all about, which is concerning when choosing adoptive parents. That's a definite warning sign as those are the people not cut out for parenthood.

  • @petitehippie7064
    @petitehippie7064 2 года назад +85

    I love Tommy's foster parents. What a wonderful couple. His adoptive mums are lovely too. My heart is so happy all these children found their forever home. It definitely made my day today. Just fabulous! 💕

  • @Mrsh3n1
    @Mrsh3n1 2 года назад +11

    Who else was crying? Oh my gosh I wish I could adopt. Bless all these wonderful people may God find homes for these kids.

  • @Cicada11011
    @Cicada11011 2 года назад +34

    I’ll never understand why people don’t want kids 5 and older. When I get older I’m 100% planing on adopting a kid at least 5 years old, you’re taking a kid out of a sad and depressing situation. when they’re older than 4 that’s when they start to realize the position they’re in. I want to take a kid out of that situation and give them the best life I possibly can!

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 4 месяца назад +1

      Same. Everyone just wants babies because they think it's easier. I wanna adopt older kids as well.

    • @vivianne6161
      @vivianne6161 2 месяца назад

      @@waffles3629how are babies easier?? It’s obv about the bond n people wanting to experience “it all” meaning all stages in their children’s life

    • @waffles3629
      @waffles3629 2 месяца назад

      @@vivianne6161 I have no idea why some people think babies are easier, I just know that some people think that. And yeah, some people only want the "full experience".

  • @Cynthea_Lee
    @Cynthea_Lee 2 года назад +8

    "Can I just knock on doors?" My heart broke.

  • @glassie6733
    @glassie6733 9 месяцев назад +3

    There's something about these two little ones that just breaks my heart but at the same time they make me smile...Hats off to their foster parents, they've done an awesome job...😚❤️ & Annette's worth her weight in gold 💛💖🇦🇺

  • @mgoskay
    @mgoskay 2 года назад +8

    That older couple are true angels on earth.

  • @paigestatham6363
    @paigestatham6363 2 года назад +70

    Tommy’s foster dad was a little unsure about his potential match because being a lesbian couple wasn’t something culturally acceptable when Brian was going up but I love how open he was and how he was still excited and happy for Tommy finding a forever home.

    • @agnesfrompoland3354
      @agnesfrompoland3354 2 года назад +12

      I feel sorry for Tomy, he deserves to have a father..😪

    • @lindalund9621
      @lindalund9621 2 года назад +44

      @@agnesfrompoland3354 better two moms that Nobody

    • @Kloetenhenne
      @Kloetenhenne 2 года назад +21

      @@agnesfrompoland3354 wtf?

    • @Ari_Days
      @Ari_Days 2 года назад +27

      @@agnesfrompoland3354 say that to all ppl who lived with single mom. Cus fathers are rare.
      He's in a better position, he has two moms

    • @KEENDARLING
      @KEENDARLING 2 года назад +1

      I know probably after he met the new parents he stated to feel better about t

  • @Sandstar942
    @Sandstar942 Год назад +5

    I didnt grow up in fostercare, but we were low income and split households so by the time I graduated highschool i'd lived in close to 30 different houses, between my parents and family i lived with. Even with the love of a well-meaning family, i struggle with ever feeling settled or at home. Its traumatic to have such a constantly shifting environment, regardless of if they have parents with them or not. I feel for the 'difficult' kids, who are undergoing trauma with every move and change in caregivers. We knew a live-in foster worker and the stories behind the kids were always that they struggled with the change of environment as they were passed down the chain. What a hard life it is for our kids in care.

  • @deborahfoss904
    @deborahfoss904 2 года назад +18

    So much admiration for these social workers such a difficult job and an emotional rollacoaster. I am so pleased Lauren and Liam found their adoptive parent xxxx

  • @brandyb2931
    @brandyb2931 2 года назад +7

    When Lauren's foster dad said Lauren years for a mom, that made me cry.

  • @mylastduchess9998
    @mylastduchess9998 2 года назад +44

    It's a shame Tommy's fosterers can't stay in his life as extra grandparents. That has to be so hard for them. I wish I could foster. Unfortunately, I'm not medically able. It would break my heart to let them go but it would be worth it.

    • @last-chance_
      @last-chance_ 2 года назад +3

      Them being in Tommy's life after would only confuse him. He would want to go back to them constantly.

  • @judymay4469
    @judymay4469 2 года назад +23

    If I was younger, richer I'd take all them in.i was adopted at 28 months. Had a blessed happy life. I pray they all find beautiful families, love and happy great life's. Bless their hearts, God bless them all

  • @McCreaFamilyHomestead
    @McCreaFamilyHomestead 2 года назад +19

    My brother and I were 5&7 and considered hard to adopt back in 1980. It’s sad how many older children are in foster care cause people only want babies.

    • @franny5295
      @franny5295 2 года назад +1

      I actually think elementary age would be ideal to adopt. Their personalities have emerged and you kind of know who you're getting. That's messed up to talk about people that way but it's true. Young enough to assimilate into a new family but old enough to know your personalities won't clash and you won't get any surprise, expensive, developmental concerns of you know you can't deal with that. And everybody can't. Better to face that head on than "rehome" them.

    • @McCreaFamilyHomestead
      @McCreaFamilyHomestead 2 года назад +2

      @@franny5295 actually that’s not true. A child will be o their best behavior in the beginning and you think you got a great child but once the child feels comfortable they can flip and become a demon.. ( yep that’s how I was)

    • @msch7620
      @msch7620 4 месяца назад

      @@McCreaFamilyHomesteadHoneymoon is a thing. But usually these kids have had follow ups and you know what you get into.

  • @betsybabf748
    @betsybabf748 9 месяцев назад +2

    We fostered, raising two girls from separate families and they were older. When they came to us, one was 11 and one was 14.

  • @MissNikkiDawson
    @MissNikkiDawson 8 месяцев назад +1

    Omg the older foster sister of Tommy when she was saying goodbye and crying... damn. That got me.

  • @samanthagrace8874
    @samanthagrace8874 Год назад +3

    Are so hope the children see this show as they get older. To see the people behind the scenes, who they might not even remember, that cared about them so much

  • @nicolelipscombe6335
    @nicolelipscombe6335 2 года назад +64

    Wow, I'm surprised at how open the foster system is in the UK...here in Australia, foster children are not allowed to me named or shown on any social media platforms, for their own protection!

    • @last-chance_
      @last-chance_ 2 года назад +9

      Same in the US if you post a foster child on social media they take the child from the foster.

    • @karina_martinez420
      @karina_martinez420 2 года назад +1

      Yeah and here in the us your not even allowed to take them to like disney land

    • @Ida-Adriana
      @Ida-Adriana 2 года назад

      the UK is sick, they use these children as a money making scheme, they take them and keep them in foster care where people get paid and refuse nice people who want to adopt because of arbitrary reasons, they've refused white people who wanted to adopt and were matched with a black child, they were refused, and many other ridiculous stories.

    • @colleenzwiebel6074
      @colleenzwiebel6074 2 года назад +12

      I wonder if it’s because they were all adopted, so those parents could sign some sort of waiver. Maybe the stories of other foster children were videoed/recorded, but we aren’t seeing it.

    • @andygal2864
      @andygal2864 2 года назад +2

      In Mexico we do not have anything like foster care, it’s just the adoption. It’s very expensive and they do not have kids for adoption, most of them have parents who are in like drugs or something, so the government prefers to keep them in the system.

  • @leahc9723
    @leahc9723 2 года назад +11

    I live in the states, but I'd so adopt them. I plan on adopting school aged children as soon as we get settled in our new home. We will have a spare room

  • @kristinfrostlazerbeams
    @kristinfrostlazerbeams 2 года назад +46

    As a mom I can absolutely say my favorite time was when my son was around 4 to 8. He started showing his true personality and was not helpless like a baby anymore. You really start to see the person developing. Not to mention he could do certain things and was not in that diaper wearing stage which to me is very over-rated. Lol
    Perhaps it would take parents who have been through all that baby stage stuff to understand and appreciate the joys of an older child?
    Maybe I am odd but each year my kid gets older it is like more treasure is built up in him. Not sure that means what I intend it to, but that's how I personally feel.
    To any looking at adopting, the older ones who are tiny humans who know more about themselves is so rewarding. Babies are destructive pooping and crying machines who won't remember that time. If you're worried about imprinting or whatever it's called, an older child does the same with much more vigor since they are aware of life around them.
    Just my opinion which is probably weird to some but some I'm sure know what I'm talking about. 😁
    Edit: To people fostering and working with these kids I send heartfelt ❤❤❤.

    • @starrochelle5234
      @starrochelle5234 2 года назад +4

      Couldn’t have said it better. As a mother of 4 girls ranging from 26yrs- 9yrs old I’m so pass the baby stage.

    • @kelseysreborns
      @kelseysreborns 2 года назад +10

      I don't have children however I was never interested in the infant phase . They don't start getting fun untill you can take them places, do crafts etc build memories lol. My ideal ages are 7-11 . At 7 they are aware but still like to do all the "kid stuff "

    • @kristinfrostlazerbeams
      @kristinfrostlazerbeams 2 года назад +3

      @@kelseysreborns you know what I am talking about. 🤗 The fun stages are way after infancy.

    • @msch7620
      @msch7620 4 месяца назад +1

      I work at a preschool/daycare. Babies are cute but it gets boring. Toddlers are wild. I like the 3/4/5 year old. You can teach them so much and it’s so interesting. My kids are 4 and 7 and I love being past the diaper, stroller stage, that I can play games with them and they can tell me about their days. A little 7 year old girl has a whole world of her own and is so cute.

  • @cheyennebranscom7765
    @cheyennebranscom7765 Год назад +2

    the two year old little boy broke my heart.. he sees and knows those people as HIS people. he is going to be so confused i came even imagine. why can’t parents be parents. no child should have to go through this at all.

  • @erin9110
    @erin9110 2 года назад +3

    I teared up as Tommy went to his new family and seeing the foster family say goodbye.

  • @katslmt1276
    @katslmt1276 2 года назад +14

    Oh my goodness I wish I could. I'd take them all. Difficult children means learning to love in a new way. I don't think I could be a social worker; I'd try to adopt all of them.

    • @HerMuffiness
      @HerMuffiness Год назад +1

      “Difficult children means learning to love in a new way”.
      What a beautiful sentiment🙏❤️

  • @kevinthepigeon2828
    @kevinthepigeon2828 11 месяцев назад +2

    My little brother was adopted at birth. So glad he never had to feel like no one ever wanted him. I hope to adopt kids in the future. No kid deserves to go through this.

  • @Tamingsouls
    @Tamingsouls 2 месяца назад

    The foster care employees are grown-up Angels and soldiers! Working with every inch of their big hearts to save their little angels. What a beautiful and meaningful job ^^

  • @cN-xv7ju
    @cN-xv7ju 2 года назад +7

    How could anyone not want to Lauren an Liam they are so sweet ❣️

  • @Lassieandfriends2019
    @Lassieandfriends2019 Год назад +4

    It is soul crushing that a 7yo is seen as too old to adopt! I’d take that sweet little Angel in a heartbeat! I hate that people see it that way. I understand wanting a baby to have them from word go, but surely there are so many amazing adoptive parents who would love having a gorgeous little girl and her sweet little brother. It makes absolutely no sense whatsoever to me. If you truly want to be a parent, wouldn’t you really want to just love a child who needs love? I wish I could just wrap them up in my arms and never let them go!

  • @katielainedesigns
    @katielainedesigns Год назад +2

    Tommy’s foster parents are just amazing! ❤❤

  • @ronnastefan543
    @ronnastefan543 Год назад +1

    Lauren is such a sweetheart. She is smart, she loves to read, she thinks about things.

  • @nitachiquita9988
    @nitachiquita9988 11 месяцев назад +2

    This broke my heart and has me wishing I wasn’t a 60+ single person so I could adopt Lauren and Liam. God bless all of you who give so selflessly for these darling little ones. Good bless you all ❤

  • @ginao6810
    @ginao6810 2 года назад +4

    I’ve wanted to be a foster parent for almost 15 years. It’s part of my life plan to be able to be a foster parent in the next 7 years. It’s inbuilt in all my plans going forward.

  • @sammi_norris
    @sammi_norris 2 года назад +7

    Literally sobbing with joy to see the successful adoptions!! ❤️

  • @shanabenjamin8945
    @shanabenjamin8945 2 года назад +2

    Love to every kiddy around the world who spend their time helping others

  • @waffles3629
    @waffles3629 4 месяца назад +1

    Giving up at finding adoptive placements at 8 years old is heartbreaking.

  • @susannecurtis9724
    @susannecurtis9724 2 года назад +3

    Bless them for all that they do for these children!

  • @lauragoode5298
    @lauragoode5298 2 года назад +9

    I hate that these children have to go into foster care and get attached and then ha e to leave heart breaking

  • @sylviagerritsen7975
    @sylviagerritsen7975 2 года назад +54

    Foster care is the same, people want young kids that have no problems. I fostered for eleven years and I specialised in teens and pre teens and high trauma, the ones nobody will take. Personally I think that potential adopter who wouldn’t take a child with any issues shouldn’t have a child, I don’t think they would cope with any child, just a disaster waiting to happen. I do understand a young couple would prefer a younger child but other than that I would be willing to take any child that needed to be loved.

    • @anhingasnakebird9947
      @anhingasnakebird9947 2 года назад +25

      No, I think it’s good that they’re allowed to say they can’t handle certain conditions or developmental issues. All parents are not right for all kids and it would only cause problems to force children upon parents who know they can’t handle a certain issue.

    • @LBCGriffin
      @LBCGriffin 2 года назад +7

      Adopters also have to take their other children into account. If they have a small child or a child with disabilities, a child with violent outbursts could put the other child in danger.

    • @junbh2
      @junbh2 2 года назад

      I can understand it. Even when everything is as 'simple' as it can be, to be a new parent is overwhelming and exhausting and people may wonder if they can do it. With an older child - who by definition has at least gone through loss and trauma - they may honestly not be sure if they have what it takes. And if they do have other children then they have to consider the well being of their existing children too. An older child who has experienced abuse or neglect may have behaviour that's harmful.

    • @last-chance_
      @last-chance_ 2 года назад

      I had 4 healthy kids with no medical problems and everyone made it too 18 with no pregnancies and no criminal records. But I always knew I wasn't a person who would have raised a child with medical problems that made them dependent on me. I'm always baffled when parents keep children in the home forcing siblings to take care of the disabled one. Given how many children are being murdered at the hands of parents I'm going with knowing your own limitations is probably saving lives.

  • @mawutojineku
    @mawutojineku 2 года назад +16

    I wish I could adopt all of them

  • @aprilsmith3683
    @aprilsmith3683 2 года назад +2

    Breaks a person apart...
    Beautiful souls...
    🇿🇦

  • @raleighamelia7895
    @raleighamelia7895 2 года назад +9

    It’s sad that some of these people who are considering adopting are so picky with who they choose. Not willing to deal with challenging behaviors? All children have challenging behaviors. Maybe it’s because I work in early childhood so I might have some bias but dang. When I get older I want to adopt

  • @chronicallycassandra8907
    @chronicallycassandra8907 7 месяцев назад +1

    THIS SOCIAL WORKER MADE THIS HAPPEN! It was her birthday wish! I just know it! Deep in her heart she was praying for this and her birthday wish was answered! Incredible! I don't believe in 'God' in the traditional sense but experiencing miracles like this myself and in the world has made me KNOW in my heart and soul that there IS some sort of universal higher power that DOES make dreams come true at the most perfect times. Wonderful. A true testament to this ladies hard work AND the divine workings of the universe and world 🌎 🧡

  • @comickillers74
    @comickillers74 2 года назад +24

    Some of these couples looking to adopt and not willing to take children with any issues is something I don't understand ,if they had a biological child and the child has learning issues or an accident that maimed them ,what would they do. There's joy raising all types of children and by saying no to children who aren't perfect is just so sad.

    • @junbh2
      @junbh2 2 года назад +1

      It's true that people can often handle a lot more than they believe they can handle. I don't think it's about being perfect or imperfect but about feeling overwhelmed by the idea of a child with needs you don't think you're capable of meeting.

    • @laurenanderson7330
      @laurenanderson7330 3 месяца назад

      But nobody would willing choose for their child to have problems. I don’t think we can judge.

  • @X-Gen-001
    @X-Gen-001 7 месяцев назад +1

    I'm very lucky, I was adopted when I was only a couple weeks old. I hope there's support available for social workers and foster carers in the interests of their mental health. I reckon they should be allowed if they choose to and if the adoptive parents are ok with it of course, to visit the kids at some point in the future just to see the fruits of all their hard work for a sense of closure and accomplishment. Clearly these people like Annette care a great deal about the children, it's not just a job to them.

  • @janedoe805
    @janedoe805 2 года назад +5

    I would love to adopt Lauren and William even though I’m 61 and widowed. Unfortunately, l have TNBC Stage IV, I’m already living on borrowed time. This is so heartbreaking to watch these sweet adorable children who feel so unwanted. I don’t know about the UK but, in US parents/people get paid to be foster parents! There’s no “Paycheck” if they adopt these children. Unfortunately, there are so many people in the US, who foster children JUST TO GET A PAYCHECK! Also, way too much of of these children are physically, mentally or sexually abused!
    I sincerely hope and wish these little cuties get adopted!

  • @babycakes8434
    @babycakes8434 4 месяца назад

    The foster parents in this documentary are so sweet and loving.

  • @callummarks2080
    @callummarks2080 Год назад +1

    I almost couldn't watch this as it really pulls on your heart strings.. I really can't understand anyone who would give up their kids / baby's into foster care etc.. Really feel sorry for the baby's / kids, hope they don't grow up screwed up! I pray to God they will be blessed, and I pray hopefully they can have some sort of life whatever that may be.. Amen!

  • @elisaduarte3604
    @elisaduarte3604 Год назад +3

    So happy for Tommy and his mothers!!

  • @davidcaudill7779
    @davidcaudill7779 11 месяцев назад +1

    This is really sad to me to watch reported Daddy and me to watch this this is just it's just heartbreaking inside 😭 😭😭😭😭 it literally makes you want to go over to Britain adopt every last one of those precious little baby

  • @lucyluna3361
    @lucyluna3361 11 месяцев назад +1

    I was so happy for little Tommy but seeing them so sad made me cry 😢... They loved him dearly ❤

  • @ophelia3401
    @ophelia3401 2 года назад +1

    They are exactly the match we are waiting for. He's a little young, but could manage. Maddening. I can't believe they are having trouble placing them. Families would be fighting over them where I live. They are darling.

  • @thehangmansdaughter1120
    @thehangmansdaughter1120 2 года назад +1

    Those poor kids. It broke my heart to hear that little girl say no-one wants her. No kid should have think like that.

  • @patriciaanndemello4652
    @patriciaanndemello4652 Месяц назад

    Taking a child( Tommy ) that's been with a foster family since birth and is now going on 3 is going to be traumatic for the child. His foster family is all he knows. Breaks my heart.

  • @fettersofdromi
    @fettersofdromi 2 года назад +4

    It's so sad that older kids or kids with disabilities in this situation are basically denied a future. I'm lucky that my own parents were good because I would have grown up in an institution.

  • @Aaronski89
    @Aaronski89 2 года назад +1

    I’m half in and I’m hoping so hard that all these kids get that forever home.

  • @alisaheard5235
    @alisaheard5235 11 месяцев назад +1

    Holy moly. I’d take those siblings in a heartbeat. Their ages are the most amazing 😢 I so want to adopt when my babies are older

  • @rachaelworley590
    @rachaelworley590 2 года назад +10

    I grew up in state care, I was taken away from my mom when I was 11 going on 12. I was told that I was unadoptable but my sisters were able to get adopted so we couldn't be together anymore. I went down hill fast. I still have issues with things.

    • @kerrynight3271
      @kerrynight3271 2 года назад +1

      I'm so sorry, Rachael. I hope you can make a happy life for yourself. Life is hard even when you grew up in a more or less happy family. It must be so much harder for you. I wish you the best.

    • @namuganyidamalie4594
      @namuganyidamalie4594 2 года назад

      Sorry about your situation. Why were you taken away from your mum?!!!

    • @rachaelworley590
      @rachaelworley590 2 года назад +1

      @@namuganyidamalie4594 she was on drugs.

    • @KYhomes4u
      @KYhomes4u Год назад

      I’m so sorry that happened to you! That had to be such a nightmare. I pray you have reunited with your siblings.

    • @rachaelworley590
      @rachaelworley590 Год назад +1

      @@KYhomes4u I was now that we are all adults. I'm close with my baby sister, my middle sister has asperger syndrome so she stays to herself and lives with their adopted mom

  • @Kalani_Saiko
    @Kalani_Saiko 2 года назад +3

    Tommy's foster parents seemed wonderful.
    Same for his adoptive parents.

  • @joandeigan7826
    @joandeigan7826 2 года назад +16

    I would love to adopt one of these kids if I was younger. I wouldn't care how old they are or if they had problems. After all nobody's perfect 🥰.

  • @paulabrown6840
    @paulabrown6840 2 года назад +7

    When the insist on younger children...imo it’s more about them... than helping children needing a forever home. 🥺

    • @shinigami7997
      @shinigami7997 2 года назад +1

      it really breaks my heart

    • @phadenswandemil4345
      @phadenswandemil4345 Год назад

      I think there are reasons why prospective parents might want to adopt younger children. If the couple is quite young, let's say in their early 20s, I'd imagine adopting a teen would be very intimidating because of how close they are in age. And well, perhaps the parents just want to be there for their kid's developmental years.

    • @laurenanderson7330
      @laurenanderson7330 3 месяца назад

      I don’t think we can judge

  • @amor4dior169
    @amor4dior169 Год назад +1

    When I become (a lot) older, I’d like to get financially stable and adopt an older kid. I think everyone deserves to feel loved

  • @michellemiller3753
    @michellemiller3753 2 года назад +13

    I would adopt Lauren and Liam in a heartbeat if I had the means

  • @TheTechnofu
    @TheTechnofu 11 месяцев назад +2

    as long as adoption is based on matches and what other people think, as opposed to a child living with people successfully, that will be a huge flaw in the system. The system is so worried about committing people, that they don't give the child a nd parents just the time to learn if they get along

  • @rachelmartin3631
    @rachelmartin3631 2 года назад +4

    I'm a former foster child, and a cynical one at that. What happens when the cameras are gone? Are they the same loving people, or was that just for show?

  • @ericaschannel2599
    @ericaschannel2599 2 года назад +3

    It’s so heart breaking to take these poor kids from the only family they know like little tommy taking him from the people he calls mama and dada like idk how tf these people do it you get attached and are easing them two years just keep them

  • @brittneyherrington8981
    @brittneyherrington8981 6 месяцев назад

    When tommy said "It my two mommies" i cried like a baby!!!

  • @finnsnow2495
    @finnsnow2495 6 месяцев назад

    It's actually a sign of secure attachment that Tommy doesn't immedatly run into their arms. It can be a bad thing when children are too clingy and hurried to any random person they meet. Being shy and warming up is a clear sign the child is very secure in attachment so kudos to the foster carers.

  • @natty4761
    @natty4761 2 года назад +2

    My aunt and her husband adopted a little girl very young and I truly thought she loved her but in reality she was just using her as a trophy. Meaning she didn't really cared for her she never hugged her and always yelled at her but never yelled or got after her boys.....

  • @ingeborg-anne
    @ingeborg-anne 9 месяцев назад +1

    Crazy to me that once a child gets up to the tender age of five or six they become hard to adopt out. If I ever adopt (I plan to foster) I will make a commitment to these "older" children.

  • @adkaromatherapy
    @adkaromatherapy 2 года назад +4

    How opposite from the US foster adopt system where the process is dragged out for so long it is rare to find a child as young as 7 available to adopt.

  • @debrastiffler3389
    @debrastiffler3389 2 года назад

    Breaks my heart! God I pray that they can find a family🙏🙏🙏

  • @PoliteTia
    @PoliteTia 2 года назад +3

    In both cases, these children were victims of alcohol destroying their birth homes. How wonderful they all found homes

  • @vicaria119
    @vicaria119 2 года назад +9

    The older kids will appreciate being adopted more than the babies because they know how bad it could have been, babies don't know how good they have it aka rebellion later. People are to set on the idea that a child cannot be "fixed" after 7.

    • @laurenanderson7330
      @laurenanderson7330 3 месяца назад

      That’s not universally true. Many will have emotional problems.

  • @kimmyfenn6313
    @kimmyfenn6313 2 года назад +2

    Heartbreaking 💔 COMPLETELY HEARTBREAKING 💔.

  • @sunnyhill5119
    @sunnyhill5119 Год назад +1

    Heartbreaking. God please give them loving parents.

  • @thatonethisone5904
    @thatonethisone5904 8 месяцев назад

    Lauren is a star! What a character…

  • @jennifertselentis4755
    @jennifertselentis4755 2 года назад +2

    Almost impossible to adopt a child in Britain. Friend was told they were too educated and wealthy as they match socio economic markers for matches. Eventually friend adopted a Russian child.

  • @valeriemoran842
    @valeriemoran842 2 года назад +1

    What beautiful and sweet children. I would take them in a second. I hope they find a loving home.

  • @michelleclawsey9565
    @michelleclawsey9565 2 года назад +11

    I would adopt siblings

  • @stevekerr7040
    @stevekerr7040 3 месяца назад

    If you ever feel yourself losing faith in humanity, watch this video. There are some incredible, warm, kind people out there.