Why Are My Kids So Entitled? || Mayim Bialik

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  • Опубликовано: 17 ноя 2024

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  • @MayimBialik
    @MayimBialik  5 лет назад +907

    Hey all, I know these last few videos have had sponsored content in them and I apologize that they've been released in a row like this. I'm sure it's annoying. With the vocal issues I've been having, I got behind and had to do what I could to meet the commitments I made. That means I did what I don't like doing, and doubling up on sponsored videos. :/ I promise there are videos being edited as we speak that are just fun, regular videos!! Coming very soon!!

    • @thegoldengames6658
      @thegoldengames6658 5 лет назад +5

      Hi mayim I Love your videos!👍❤️❤️

    • @CodeMasseur
      @CodeMasseur 5 лет назад +4

      Mayim, would you consider trying to see if Pluralsight would partner with you for sponsored content? I looked at Great Courses Plus through your affiliate link, and sadly, that's not as applicable to my needs. Of course, you probably want to focus on advertisers who are consistent with your content... But please consider it. And btw, great talk! -Dave in Atlanta, GA.

    • @dhoklidal
      @dhoklidal 5 лет назад +9

      I love you😍😘 u're amazin and I'm going to name my daughter after you.

    • @theconfusedvampire
      @theconfusedvampire 5 лет назад +17

      A part of their entitlement could be that you are considered a famous actress. You being their mom can make them feel superior to other people.

    • @RobKristjansson
      @RobKristjansson 5 лет назад +6

      All good!

  • @matthaegele
    @matthaegele 5 лет назад +503

    You forgot about on demand television. We knew as children if we missed a show, we just missed it. It taught us to be on time and to structure our day so we did not miss our show.

    • @brownskinbeauty
      @brownskinbeauty 5 лет назад +14

      I had a child hood friend that loved watching saved by the bell. She would not I mean absolutely not come outside until it went off. So we wait for her until the show came on and went off. So I clearly know all about that.

    • @2plus2by2
      @2plus2by2 5 лет назад +23

      On demand everything these days... My youngest kids can't understand why you have to wait for Christmas or birthdays to come around. You turn on Netflix and there are Christmas/ winter movies, you ask Google for a Christmas song in June... So why can't it be Christmas now? I look forward to the concept of time at least gelling with them.

    • @karaa7595
      @karaa7595 5 лет назад +11

      Matt Haegele and we had to wait a week to see the next episode!

    • @matthaegele
      @matthaegele 5 лет назад +14

      Kara A and if we missed it, we had to wait for the summer for the rerun

    • @LG123ABC
      @LG123ABC 5 лет назад +3

      It all started with VCR's when "time shifting" became a thing back in the 1970's.

  • @raeperonneau4941
    @raeperonneau4941 5 лет назад +90

    My Dad regularly used to remind me that “Nobody owes you anything, kid!” He also used to stress that “the older you get, the smarter I’ll seem.” He was right. ;-)

  • @brucestein988
    @brucestein988 5 лет назад +860

    “Don't handicap your children by making their lives easy.”
    ― Robert A. Heinlein

    • @paulinarittscher215
      @paulinarittscher215 5 лет назад +7

      GREAT advice!
      GOD bless you❣🙏

    • @jamiezebra23
      @jamiezebra23 5 лет назад +3

      I love this

    • @CrystalKat
      @CrystalKat 5 лет назад +4

      Amen!

    • @jedimaster0667
      @jedimaster0667 5 лет назад +14

      And alot of people think this means you have to actively make your kids lives hard by force feeding them trauma that they don't necessarily have to experience if you hadn't consciously inflict upon them such as screaming at them, slapping them, hitting them with various objects, and not just doing these things as a disciplinary measure but as a daily routine just to make sure your kid "doesn't have it easy."

    • @L-M-O-1
      @L-M-O-1 5 лет назад +4

      @@jedimaster0667 omg, you snowflake. Screaming is not a 'trauma' inflicted upon anybody. Weirdo.

  • @notoestoseehere
    @notoestoseehere 5 лет назад +285

    I’m entitled to a nap.....but my kids, cats and the universe all disagree with me. 🥺

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад +2

      lol, take your nap, girl!!

    • @eddev
      @eddev 5 лет назад +9

      WE DONT HAVE THE MONEY

    • @dustinp120
      @dustinp120 5 лет назад +4

      I have a teenager with severe ADHD, and a Toddler. You have my sympathy there just isnt a strong enough coffee.

    • @lunaryear9938
      @lunaryear9938 4 года назад +3

      I hear what you're saying, but the answer is no

    • @pipamac48
      @pipamac48 4 года назад +2

      Sometimes that nap wins!

  • @VashtiWood
    @VashtiWood 5 лет назад +165

    In our family, the maxim is: "Just because we CAN doesn't me we SHOULD!"
    Also: "is that a need or a want?"

    • @chodeshadar18
      @chodeshadar18 4 года назад +8

      Also I came up with this; "Is that a question or a tantrum?"

    • @illiecamarena8733
      @illiecamarena8733 3 года назад +2

      Both of you, very good ones!!!

    • @soumyaprakash3569
      @soumyaprakash3569 3 года назад +1

      Ohh the second one is soo baaaaddddd !

  • @sue7011
    @sue7011 5 лет назад +136

    I'm 53 and 99% of what you said about how you grew up is exactly how I did.
    So relatable!

  • @fairytaleviola
    @fairytaleviola 5 лет назад +746

    In Russia we say to kids "well, there is no harm in wanting something" 😂conversation over

    • @DeflatedPumpkin
      @DeflatedPumpkin 5 лет назад +7

      This is PERFECT

    • @mariel1766
      @mariel1766 5 лет назад +39

      In Chile we say/hear variations of "No se pierde nada con querer" which loosely translates to "You don't lose anything in wanting something" hahaha. Means the same thing!

    • @Jackie-fw9nu
      @Jackie-fw9nu 5 лет назад +12

      This is brilliant ! Whenever I used to say I fancied something, this or that, my Mum used to reply with "fancy you've had it". Never done me any arm - annoying at the time though !!

    • @getthesensation
      @getthesensation 5 лет назад

      Great line!

    • @shotgunblast28
      @shotgunblast28 5 лет назад

      fairytaleviola lol

  • @anthonyfalcone5605
    @anthonyfalcone5605 5 лет назад +573

    my wife said to tell you your hair looks cute.

    • @CryBlueofZ
      @CryBlueofZ 5 лет назад +24

      @Infinite Being maybe she doesn't have a RUclips account

    • @shotgunblast28
      @shotgunblast28 5 лет назад +7

      anthony falcone it does look cute

    • @elainehunt3264
      @elainehunt3264 5 лет назад +7

      Yes, I think overall (including her hair) she looks really cute.

    • @hmcloud8487
      @hmcloud8487 5 лет назад +3

      Aww, that is nice

    • @Lori_L
      @Lori_L 5 лет назад +7

      @Infinite Being - there could be lots of reasons. I do the same thing when my spouse is looking at her phone and tells me about something she is looking at

  • @jillianjacques4190
    @jillianjacques4190 5 лет назад +128

    When I asked my parents why they’d lie about not having money when I was younger they schooled my ass and said, “I’m not lying. We have money for a lot of things your excessive wardrobe is not one of them”
    Edit: I agree with them now dw.

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад +7

      Thst was actually a more balanced response than i was expecting. I thought they just wouldve went for the old standard: WE have money. YOU do not.

  • @lukpac
    @lukpac 5 лет назад +117

    The immortal words of Mick Jagger were drilled into my head as a small child:
    "You can't always get what you want"
    Money is certainly a big factor. As a kid, I never felt like we were poor, but money was limited. Maybe we went out to eat once a week, to a modest restaurant. Things like toys and music - "fun things" - were generally only for Christmas and birthdays, and maybe Easter if I was lucky. I clearly remember being at Toys R Us looking at video games (for the wish list) while another family was there picking one out. The dad said something like "we get a new video game every month". Or maybe it was every three months. Either way, it was a shock to my parents and me. We just didn't *do* that.
    Now, I'm in a much different situation financially than my parents were at my age. The line between "need" and "want" is often extremely fuzzy. And online shopping makes it *really* easy to pull the trigger on almost anything. We don't have kids, but I often think about how we might handle such things if we did.

    • @paulinarittscher215
      @paulinarittscher215 5 лет назад +5

      I think that you sound mature and wise enough to have perfectly educated kids. As long as you apply the same principles you were brought up with, I think you'll be OK.
      GOD bless you❣🙏

    • @cheechalker8430
      @cheechalker8430 5 лет назад +2

      I think Instagram/Snapchat is so damaging to kids because they think if they are not living a certain kind of lifestyle, they are missing out

    • @ClaudinneV
      @ClaudinneV 5 лет назад

      @@autoimmunediseasequeen beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it.

    • @rikwilder8838
      @rikwilder8838 5 лет назад

      You must come from my era! Your comment made me laugh, but remember: the song refers to England's heroin maintenance program through which heroin would be administered in just enough dose to prevent withdrawal, but not enough to satisfy the addict's desire. "You can't always get what you want, but if you try sometime, you'll find you get what you need."

  • @ZAmpedNZ
    @ZAmpedNZ 5 лет назад +12

    I always liked the quote “Give your kids enough to do something, but not so much that they do nothing”

  • @beckythecats
    @beckythecats 5 лет назад +24

    Hey Miyam, I “met” you while you were on Blossom - you were shopping at Bullocks in Sherman Oaks (I worked there) I remember how down to earth and well, normal you seemed despite being such a big star. I interacted with a lot of celebrities there and many were not that way. Keep up what you’re doing with your kids! You worked hard for your money and position; it wasn’t handed to you and you didn’t act entitled as a kid. Hang in there and thanks for the video!!

  • @nope1883_hahahhaa
    @nope1883_hahahhaa 5 лет назад +60

    My son gets really sick of hearing " if you want it , work for it ."
    I'm such a mean mom for teaching him responsibility. 😏

    • @courtneylin9352
      @courtneylin9352 4 года назад

      Wat

    • @vickyflores3557
      @vickyflores3557 4 года назад +1

      A great parent

    • @dddiaz-velez3630
      @dddiaz-velez3630 4 года назад +1

      good for you! make sure they earn it

    • @jackydooley6053
      @jackydooley6053 4 года назад +1

      They'll only TRULY appreciate it if they've EARNED it and/or saved up for it!!!!

    • @mrsmack5808
      @mrsmack5808 4 года назад +2

      For some reason this reminds me of my five year old learning to read. He always wants me to help him (meaning he wants me to read the words for him). I help him by reminding him to sound it out. Sometimes he then asks me to sound it out for him and I tell him I don't need to sound it out because I already know what it says. He gets mad and says "just tell me." I will correct a mispronunciation but will not tell him the word without him first putting in some effort. He's a decent reader and hasn't started school yet. If he gets frustrated, he is allowed to take a break and come back to it. And just thought I should clarify, I do still read him stories but he has to read some every day.

  • @plove523
    @plove523 5 лет назад +199

    Hmmmm. Seems simple to me. How did you get YOUR money? Was it just handed to you? No. I think you worked for it. Apply the same principle. If they want things, they can actually work for money. Your responsibility is to feed, clothe, shelter, protect and teach them how to to survive in their environment. They need to learn how to work for what they want. It’s a survival skill.

    • @Jayjoy94
      @Jayjoy94 5 лет назад +15

      Pam Love I agree! If children are more involved with everyday tasks it makes them also more independent and can boost their confidence. They need of course guidance in the beginning and it shouldn’t consist of any excessive hours. But at least every other day they should also do something small at home.
      When I was younger I used to bring the rubbish outside and was responsible that everything was sorted correctly. From that onwards I learned other things and I knew if I wanted something I could hustle for it - I could offer my help for some tasks and as a reward I got that one thing. But not all tasks gave me money. Regular, fast and easy chores, like bringing out rubbish, was one of the tasks for which I did not get rewards for - it was one of the things that was expected from me as part of the family.
      And that made me rly proud although these were such small things. Just because I knew I did something to help family.
      Will definitely take some of the parenting methods from my mom for my future children as well 😊

    • @paulinarittscher215
      @paulinarittscher215 5 лет назад +6

      I 100% agree with you. Real pleasure comes from knowing that whatever it is that I have I earned it with my hard work, whether it was physically or mentally speaking.
      GOD bless you❣🙏

    • @Godmershamgurl29
      @Godmershamgurl29 5 лет назад +3

      Amen pam. Let's all as parents Start doing this as early as possible!

    • @mirfir
      @mirfir 5 лет назад +1

      Absolutely

    • @ELCinWYO
      @ELCinWYO 5 лет назад +2

      A lot of kids still just would rather do without. When I was a kid we were willing to work really hard to get things we needed or wanted. We didn't necessarily want to work but we did. Today kids are willing to just go without if it takes work.

  • @neveroche
    @neveroche 5 лет назад +15

    On the contrary of many opinions here, I don't think the sin of entitled children is sloth. It is envy !
    In my experience as a saleswoman, many of the older generations behave in a very entitled way. They feel they deserve a certain material power because they "worked hard". Never mind the fact hardship doesn't necessarly end in social justice or that working hard doesn't always go together with working smart ( and the opposite is true too).
    Baseline : if you compare yourself to others you'll always find ways you're worse than some and that leads to shame. So to make you feel good, you'll find ways you're better than some and it often quickly shifts into "more deserving than some". Shame and envy leads to entitlement. If you enjoy what you have, there's no reason to want more. In order to fight entitlement, kids should learn to take the time to appreciate what they have without comparing it to what others have.

  • @darak4187
    @darak4187 5 лет назад +129

    It’s good for kids to want, to need, to desire. What good is it if we give them everything they want at all times? Great video thanks for sharing!

    • @ensabahnur7657
      @ensabahnur7657 5 лет назад

      PREACH!

    • @Franchise9920
      @Franchise9920 5 лет назад

      Really well said. A person without thirst will never know true accomplishment.

  • @rikalr
    @rikalr 5 лет назад +20

    All I can say is "You go girl!" You are doing a great job raising those kids of yours.

  • @janiceandthomas
    @janiceandthomas 5 лет назад +45

    I love hearing about your parenting experiences and how you try to deal with certain challenges. I'm sure it helps many other parents who are going through the same issues.

  • @imjustme0925
    @imjustme0925 5 лет назад +67

    You said “WE have money” ... you mean that YOU have money... your kids don’t , unless they earn their own somehow. Makes me think of the episode of the Cosby show when he tells Vanessa that he and Clair are rich and she is poor 😂

    • @monicareyna1532
      @monicareyna1532 4 года назад +8

      I believe it's about "what's mine is yours" thing. It's like when your kid wants what you're eating even if it's the same they're having. It's a good way to show your children how to be generous.

    • @ghostly7139
      @ghostly7139 4 года назад +2

      I think she meant her and her ex husband

  • @kathynolan1966
    @kathynolan1966 5 лет назад +343

    Hi from an Australian fan, I absolutely love your new hair do suits you

    • @keldakellie9164
      @keldakellie9164 5 лет назад +6

      If you are in Western Australia and I'm in Victoria we are up late. :)

    • @TheBex2787
      @TheBex2787 5 лет назад +4

      Hi folks. I'm in Queensland! Just getting up to turn the heater on and watch this video. It's dropped below 20C and I can't deal 😂😂😂

    • @stevefick3919
      @stevefick3919 5 лет назад +2

      Funny, that's the first thing I noticed as well. Looks good on ya, love.

    • @davidhenderson5051
      @davidhenderson5051 5 лет назад +1

      @Kathy- agree she looks hot. I think she is losing weight as well. I might marry her if she keeps this up..!

    • @markmonette7611
      @markmonette7611 5 лет назад

      @@davidhenderson5051 Would you still marry her if she did not have $25 million in the bank...thought so...js

  • @alynbeall
    @alynbeall 5 лет назад +13

    You're the best. Hands down. Love to see people with influence, intelligence, and beauty using that power to empower!

  • @Carjamrac
    @Carjamrac 5 лет назад +64

    We tend to want to give our children the things we didn’t/couldn’t have growing up.
    But we forget to give them the things we DID have ... riding bikes with friends, dinner together without interruption (today = smartphones), watching old movies and discussing them afterwards (e.g. Casablanca, Sunset Blvd, Sound of Music)
    basically having a parent there with you, not just in the same room.
    I miss those days growing up in the 60’s & 70’s.

  • @dianer8881
    @dianer8881 5 лет назад +50

    I raised 2 girls on less than $15,000 per year and no child support. We learned to live without.

  • @avalyn28
    @avalyn28 5 лет назад +56

    Over here, in Romania, we sometimes say "you have will!"
    "I want this!" "Good for you, you have will" 😂

  • @lilyduke669
    @lilyduke669 4 года назад +15

    Growing up in the 70s, if I wanted something I was told, "Sure, you can have it when you can pay for it." It was up to me to figure out how to find extra jobs or save my birthday money, for something I wanted.

  • @jackielinde7568
    @jackielinde7568 5 лет назад +76

    Mayim, I have frequently told my daughter "If I have to choose between being your father and your friend, I will always chose to be your father first. I would like to be both, but the job of Dad comes before all else." I told her this from the moment she could conceptualize the difference. And, just this week, I had to remind her of this. (Forgot what she was grumbling about.)
    Also, I'm a single parent. I make a decent living for being a single parent, but it also means I have less money when it comes to the stuff she sees other kids having. When I had to get her a cell phone, it was a Samsung, but it wasn't a top of the line Galaxy S model. (It was the A model.) She's seventeen, and she's asking for a car so she doesn't have to ride the city bus home. I've told her I can't afford to get her a car until next year, when I'm finished paying off the current car I have. She wants a Kia Optima, and probably fresh off the lot. I told her when we get a car, it's one we can afford, and she's going to drive whatever car I can afford to give her. (I've also had to "discuss" with my father, who wants to get her some cheap POS junker. I've lived through those days. She doesn't have the skills and knowledge I had, because I didn't go car repair at home when she was small. I don't want to drop that kind of problem on her when she goes off to college.)
    But, she's seeing some of the issues her friends are going through. Some of them aren't here legally, but they know no other life than that of a US citizen. For her, these kids are more than just some news article or story that Dad sometimes reads. She's been part of school and afterschool programs that teach her about other problems as well. I have to say, she's a good kid generally.
    BTW, the rule in my car is "The driver gets the final say on the radio, because it's the driver who can run the car off the road and kill us all". It's a moot point, because the in-dash radio is dead and I can't afford a new one till next year. Grr...

    • @MRRIntel
      @MRRIntel 5 лет назад +5

      Your daughter could get a part time job and buy a car herself..

    • @jackielinde7568
      @jackielinde7568 5 лет назад +9

      @@MRRIntel We both know this, and she has been looking for a job. The problem is, she is in a club (robotics) that fits what she'll major in college (mechanical and electrical engineering). So, it's been a choice between something that will benefit her education and something that will benefit her finances.

    • @su-rv2uq
      @su-rv2uq 5 лет назад +3

      @@jackielinde7568 learning to work for what she wants also will benefit her education, and life. Saying that you have to buy her a car because she is in a club is so lame. There are millions of people who have worked full time jobs while going to school. I am pretty sure that your kid could work part time to buy herself a car.

    • @L-M-O-1
      @L-M-O-1 5 лет назад +2

      @@su-rv2uq this is so true. All he's basically said is that he's fostering the basis & fundamentals of entitlement but thinks he should be able to gripe about it & make excuses

    • @thebidendotwin2926
      @thebidendotwin2926 4 года назад +1

      Anyone who buys their teenage kid a car is spoiling them rotten

  • @dalechapman3415
    @dalechapman3415 4 года назад +6

    "I'll give you something to cry about" totally resonated with me... it was an echo of my father.

  • @ankurchaudhary6367
    @ankurchaudhary6367 5 лет назад +12

    I didn't eat out ever as a kid for initial 15 years of my life...and it in someway inculcated such insecurities that sometimes are hard to do away with!!

    • @TessaAvonlea
      @TessaAvonlea 5 лет назад

      Totally relate to that!

    • @ankurchaudhary6367
      @ankurchaudhary6367 5 лет назад

      @@TessaAvonlea Neither did I travel...I started noticing people my age who had those things available as a kid... really didn't have a good time as an adult!!

  • @louisa274
    @louisa274 5 лет назад +4

    You sound like an amazing mum, i think your kiddies are super blessed to have you as their mama especially with the lessons you are trying to teach them.

  • @tinatyler8286
    @tinatyler8286 5 лет назад +49

    Your hair looks fantastic that length.

  • @jbuggy67
    @jbuggy67 4 года назад +3

    I had these issues with our boys (for some reason never my daughter) when they were growing up even when we didn't have the money. Teaching them gratitude was the best thing I could do for them. When tragedies strike, and they will, they were better prepared because of the ability to be able to express gratitude rather than feeling they were cheated by life because of a sense of self entitlement.

  • @jeff_725
    @jeff_725 5 лет назад +150

    Mayim, you're not doing it right. The speech goes like this:
    "When I was a child, I walked to school.....4 o'clock in the morning....with no shoes on.....uphill....BOTH WAYS....in FIVE FEET OF SNOW!!" :)
    In all seriousness, it's like Gandhi said, "Be the change you want to see in the world."

    • @petrmaly9087
      @petrmaly9087 5 лет назад +5

      No, no no, that is not the modern way, role models and being good example are outdated concepts, today parenting method is "Do as I say, not as I do!"

    • @MrsHum100
      @MrsHum100 5 лет назад +2

      My dad used to say that but he also added that all he had to keep him warm was a baked potato in his pocket that he got to eat for lunch.

    • @flee4342
      @flee4342 5 лет назад +1

      Petr Maly Then, after taking a huge bong hit and coughing for 3 minutes they then turn their half open, bloodshot eyes to their child and say “now go to your room”.

    • @georgekot6377
      @georgekot6377 5 лет назад +2

      Jeff725 ---> Sounds like we grew up in the same home. :)

    • @stitchinghaven6276
      @stitchinghaven6276 5 лет назад +5

      what is really funny. my cousin and I grew up on opposite sides of town. went to different schools. we both happened to live at the bottom of the hill on our streets. we both had to walk up hill to school. both schools were at the bottom of hill on it's street...… and since we lived in New York... yep snow. so when that saying comes up... we say "Well …… yes?!?! your point!?!?" lol

  • @tina.raines77
    @tina.raines77 4 года назад +12

    When I would ask for something and if my parents said "no" I would say "I know u have the money" and my dad's response was always " yes I have the money but it's my money "

  • @SpaceDave1337
    @SpaceDave1337 5 лет назад +142

    So you were raised like me
    Except I'm 14
    Still love my parents

    • @shelley6477
      @shelley6477 5 лет назад +3

      SpaceDave1337 did you mean “except?” Ask your English teacher for a refund -

    • @treegreen941
      @treegreen941 5 лет назад +29

      @@shelley6477 Did you mean to keep your mean spirited comment to yourself? Ask your parents for a refund.

    • @SpaceDave1337
      @SpaceDave1337 5 лет назад +15

      @@shelley6477 english isn't my first language and I only learned it through hearing. so no, I can't get a "refund"

    • @SpaceDave1337
      @SpaceDave1337 5 лет назад +11

      @@treegreen941 thank you, now I still have hope in humanity

    • @ironsnowflake1076
      @ironsnowflake1076 5 лет назад +12

      @@SpaceDave1337 your English is better than most of the so-called native speakers on RUclips :) well done, and *never* let some troll get you down for one hot second.

  • @CleverDoughKids
    @CleverDoughKids 5 лет назад +2

    Thank-you Mayim for your honesty as well as your lovable humour. It's greatly appreciated! You are right, our kids today have so many things that we didn't have growing up ourselves so how to do we make sure our kids grow up without that entitlement mentality. I think you are doing a great job with what you mentioned in your video. You mentioned how you would answer your boys when they would ask you to buy them something and that you can't use the "we don't have the money" option. You have found a great way around that. For other parents who are in the situation where they actually do not have the money to buy I have a few other options. You could say something like, "no sorry sweetie, that's not in our plan right now, we are choosing not to buy it." Showing that's not about scarcity and lack, creating a scarcity mentality of not being worthy in our children, but showing the empowerment side, it's not in our plan, it's not our choice right now. Another one is to put it back on your child and thereby create responsibility for achieving their own goals like, "Wow, what a cool thing, so how do you think you could earn the money to get that for yourself?" This one is my favourite for a few reasons: first it shows that they are actually in charge of their destiny. If they want something then they are being encouraged to find a way to get it. Great life skill to have! Secondly, our brains LOVE solving problems. Yes and no are too easy, but throw in a 'how can you' then their brains will automatically try to solve the issue and not put it back on you! Love that you home-school your kiddos, I used to home-school mine to and loved it so much! When my kids finally went to school, due to a bad divorce issue, my daughter was so sweet. She knew how much I was going to miss having them with me every day, so she said, "Know what I'm going to love most about school Mommy?" "What?" I asked with tears in my eyes. "'Homework!" "What?" I was a little shocked, I will not lie! ''Cause then you will get to home-school me again!" Yes, the tears did fun down my face and all over my poor daughter as I gave her the biggest bear hug! Love your video Mayim, love your personality and your genuineness. Hugs

    • @icecreamlover4992
      @icecreamlover4992 2 года назад

      This is a wonderful, empowering approach! I love it! That way the kids can also choose whether something is worth working for

  • @___Emily__
    @___Emily__ 5 лет назад +9

    It’s certainly a balancing act. On the one hand, you want your children to grow up feeling deserving of their dreams and desires, but on the other hand, you want them to understand the labor required to accomplish or acquire those dreams and desires. You‘d like for them to put forth all their efforts to get whatever it is they truly want with confidence, not expectancy. I definitely agree that gratitude is vital. So long as you raise your children with a sense of gratitude and confidence in their abilities, I think the entitlement and self-centered perspectives of their age and developmental stages will wane.

  • @Myeverydaywifelife
    @Myeverydaywifelife 4 года назад +68

    When my grand kids say I want this etc I start singing the song “you can’t always get what you want” they hate that lol

  • @1st1anarkissed
    @1st1anarkissed 5 лет назад +22

    Charity and courtesy are not humility. Good manners can mask a bloated ego too. Humility is not "there but for the grace of God..." Humility is "some of US are suffering. I must help. WE should all feel loved like I do." Humility is knowing that the hungry person is one of you, your hungry person. I am not personally there yet. I was taught the cult of ego too.

    • @charlesyan9006
      @charlesyan9006 5 лет назад +2

      Well said...

    • @Linsey2345
      @Linsey2345 5 лет назад +2

      No what your described is empathy. Mixed with compassion.
      Humity is very much there I go but for the grace of god. It’s absolutely the acknowledgment that it could all be gone as easy as it came.

  • @alma1530
    @alma1530 5 лет назад +3

    I'm 18 and not even sure if I want to have kids, but your parenting videos are EVERYTHING❤

  • @monicasofiaperez8556
    @monicasofiaperez8556 5 лет назад +13

    I talk soooooooooooo much with my children, that after explaining the unexplainable...I end up saying...Ok, now you have to this because I said so. There are no logic reasons to convince a six year old to wash her teeth that are falling out...so I resorted, wash your teeth, because I said so. 😩🤦🏾‍♀️. Mom, why do we shower...why with soap? .... why do I have to wash behind my ears? Why does it matter ? .... because this is how your mom is showing you how to shower...why? Because I said so. 😩🤦🏾‍♀️

  • @fredfred-kt9vw
    @fredfred-kt9vw 5 лет назад +1

    What I'm noticing as a teacher is that parents are trying to prevent their kids from having any kind of negative experience. I get it, everyone wants their kids to be happy; but a little frustration never hurt anyone.

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад +1

      I think alot of this kind of attitude is dangerously disempowwring kids tbh. A know a shocking number of parents with young kids who abhor the word "No". They just will not use it! As a result, the kids aren't learning how and when to use it. Which is a recipe for disaster. You want them to have the *power to say no* .

  • @meej33
    @meej33 5 лет назад +11

    "It's called being a child. It's all relaxation time."
    No. A thousand times no. I cannot believe that somebody who was once a child has forgotten that it is not so, not by a long mile. Children may have depression, and I mean clinical depression, anxiety problems, food disorders etc. The myth that kids have no issues ever and it's a happy time without a single cloud was destroyed decades ago. Not all kids, of course, but there are enough cases to stop blindly assuming that no kid can have issues just because they were born this decade.
    Learned that the hard way. Shouldn't be necessary to learn that the hard way.

  • @stellaconlon9957
    @stellaconlon9957 4 года назад +13

    The way Mayim was brought up is literally exactly how I have been brought up hahaha

  • @beckyfinley5069
    @beckyfinley5069 5 лет назад +15

    You are the most amazing human being. How fortunate we all are that you care enough about humanity to parent the way you do, campion worthy causes, and know that fame is fleeting and what really matters when all is said and done was the compassion a person showed to the hurting. Wow.

  • @lorrainedempsey3320
    @lorrainedempsey3320 Год назад

    Thank you 💓, for saying all the things that a lot of parents from your generation do not even think of, much less say to their children. I well remember, as a child, asking for things, like any child would. I got the same answer that you got as a child; but when birthdays or Christmas came around, my mother pulled out all the stops. She was amazing, considering she was buying for six children. My father passed away at a very young age, so my mother raised us, along with her mother, at a time when there was no government help, and sent us all to Catholic school, to boot. She was not a college graduate. God is blessing you now mom.🙏🙏🙏

  • @isaacthek
    @isaacthek 5 лет назад +5

    On the other hand, providing a sense of agency to your kid (especially in case of divorced families like myself and yours) is critical to healthy growth. In a world where kids feel out of control, giving them limited control and ownership within boundaries has been spectacular for my daughter.

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад +1

      Very well put! I think alot of people entirely miss the importance of this, whether divorce is a factor or not. This kind of necessary respect and consideration often gets lost to parents fears. Understandably, as it's such a huge responsibility, but sadly so often it seems like people are parenting an idea instead of their actual child. What you've expressed here is addressing real and crucial needs that are overlooked so much of the time.

    • @L-M-O-1
      @L-M-O-1 5 лет назад

      In other words, you let your kid call the shots & are optimistic that works out well in the end? Haha

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад +1

      @@L-M-O-1, the extent to which you've entirely missed the point of what the op said is kind of remarkable. Literally none of what you said applies to the scenario he gave. Smdh

  • @jamescoughlin8856
    @jamescoughlin8856 4 года назад

    When you spoke of doing service together as a family, it almost brought me to tears.

  • @LifeWithMikeandMJ
    @LifeWithMikeandMJ 5 лет назад +33

    If your kids are entitled because they know their mamas a big huge star. Love you. 😁

    • @lazyhomebody1356
      @lazyhomebody1356 5 лет назад +3

      When her kids' spoiled friends are on drugs later, her kids will be grateful for their 'hard upbringing'

  • @irmalindadesiderio6018
    @irmalindadesiderio6018 5 лет назад +1

    I couldn't agree with you more. I am much older than you, but I relate to your description of your parents' parenting skills, as my parents were the same way. Kids do have it easier today to a degree, but they also have it much tougher than I did when I was growing up.

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад

      I appreciate and admire that you can see both sides. Most people seem unable to. It's a rare and inspiring thing when someone can get out of their own head and ego enough to realise that many aspects *are* tougher from one generation to the next. It's always swings and roundabouts.

  • @vahnu3797
    @vahnu3797 5 лет назад +7

    I really like the way you raise your children. That gives me hope. And yeah, your hear looks great, and you're beautiful. Thank you for your videos.

  • @avidlyreads2254
    @avidlyreads2254 5 лет назад +2

    I thought I was alone with this situation. My daughter feels like this and I had the same realizations. Thanks for the support

  • @bigslyrosie
    @bigslyrosie 5 лет назад +23

    The best thing you can do for your kids is to teach them to get along without you.

    • @jedimaster0667
      @jedimaster0667 5 лет назад +1

      Black Panther:
      T'Challa "I am not ready to be without you".
      "T'chaka "a man who has not prepared his children. For his own death. Has failed has a father. Have I ever failed you?"

  • @jace2u556
    @jace2u556 4 года назад

    I'm 46 with only a niece and nephew but when I visit them I've seen this sense of entitlement. They along with my sister and brother in-law live in the suburbs of Chicago. It's a very different world than the country roads of Wisconsin where my sis and I grew up. She has done a lot of the same things you have suggested and I believe it's helped them a great deal. She gets the kids involved in charitable church activities and after some conversations I've had with the kids it seems they understand more now about being thankful for what you have.
    This was a great segment. Again I'm not a parent but I think the message you give is extremely important and helpful for other families, and the future of our society.

  • @shougarifi8336
    @shougarifi8336 5 лет назад +6

    Saying I love you is an understatement

  • @michellem9444
    @michellem9444 3 года назад

    It's good that you're teaching your kids how to handle disappointment now. It's so much easier to learn that when you're younger rather than older. And learning that you have to work hard to get what you want is ALWAYS a good lesson to learn. My teenager saved his money to buy his own cell phone, and he takes SUCH good care of it. Why? Because he learned intimately the exact value of that phone through all his hours of work to save the money for it. Hard work instills pride of accomplishment and a sense of purpose, two essential ingredients to overall happiness in life.

  • @playrisk5369
    @playrisk5369 5 лет назад +8

    Hey Mayim, I'm a College Student here in the Philippines.
    And as 1 of the Entitled child of my Parents, I think one of the Biggest reason (other than the internet and all the things you've discussed) is the people in our Environment.
    Like Friends or Relatives we often talk or chat with.
    Because the information we get from them is Real Life and most of the time, easy access, reachable, attainable.
    Which only means that we constantly have this thought
    "If they can have it, why not me?"
    And that's where Entitlement of most of us came from...

    • @melissaboyd151
      @melissaboyd151 4 года назад

      Kate Isagon as a mom of a Gen Z daughter, this is spot-on accurate!

  • @bloodsweatphilp4310
    @bloodsweatphilp4310 5 лет назад +1

    I love this!! Entitlement can be so harmful in adults. I thought, because RUclipsrs have this or that I should to. It destroyed my finances & now I struggle with everyday needs. If I had savings earlier in life I wouldn't be so helpless in getting medical help. I'm 31, on a benefit & my parents pay for a lot, if not my parents my Nana. My parents were like yours, 'We don't have the money', I wish I listened more. I hope when I have children one day, I can teach them what's important & what isn't. I hope they will listen & recall my mistakes as adults, so they won't make the same mistakes I have.

  • @LMFuqua
    @LMFuqua 5 лет назад +14

    We don't always say we don't have the money we also say things like hey yeah that would be great but there are other things to do. My kid doesn't always get to do what he wants but that is usually because we give him choices of options that help him do the logic. Yes you can have another switch game now but that means we won't be able to go to the observatory tomorrow. He almost always picks the observatory.

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад +5

      I like this perspective. Obviously it varies from kid to kid but I think this would probably work for more kids than people assume.
      To be honest, I'm very wary of making it all about the money all the time, or even making it about money at all in the ways Mayim referenced, so I like this as an alternative.
      There were a tonne of things we didn't have the money for growing up but I didn't know about it and i appreciate that because I would have worried about it. I have good financial sense, have always from childhood right through adulthood managed my money well, but I would have become fearful and taken on an inappropriate sense of responsibility and burden if I thought or knew my parents were in a precarious position financially. I like that it wasn't highlighted constantly.

    • @L-M-O-1
      @L-M-O-1 5 лет назад

      Or just say no. Kids actually need to be told no, flat out no, not some lengthy worded excuse or option. Just No. No discussion. You do not need to know why I'm saying no. Just understand the phrase No.

    • @LMFuqua
      @LMFuqua 5 лет назад

      @@L-M-O-1 except teaching kids reason and understanding is why you don't just say NO without explaining. Yes kids do need to understand reasons or how are they to know if it's a "not right now we are not capable or if it's just I don't want to do it for you. Sorry but good adults are raised to understand the reasons behind things. They are told hey yes we can do this but it will take away time or money or attention from this other thing you want. Seriously not trusting your kids to be raised in reasoning is why we have so many adults who can't seem to give good reasoned answers to questions.

  • @stellaconlon9957
    @stellaconlon9957 4 года назад +1

    My Dad always said to us “I’m not here to be your friend, I’m here to be your parent.” And I agree, while it’s important to have a good relationship with your kids, you need to have boundaries in order to raise them to be respectful and aware of the world around them.

  • @SpiralBreeze
    @SpiralBreeze 5 лет назад +148

    They googled how much is Mayim Bialik worth.

    • @bonnienash8585
      @bonnienash8585 5 лет назад +14

      I just did that 🤯 $25 million +

    • @shotgunblast28
      @shotgunblast28 5 лет назад +17

      Bonnie Nash hey she earned it. Playing Amy was hard. In my opinion. They work 15 hour days. It’s not easy

    • @davidfletcher3638
      @davidfletcher3638 5 лет назад +3

      @@shotgunblast28 and Blossom.

    • @RossM3838
      @RossM3838 5 лет назад +7

      @@bonnienash8585 how anyone knows is a mystery. Those numbers are made up by some algorithms. They are not based on any actual knowledge.

    • @ShantelleJade
      @ShantelleJade 5 лет назад +2

      It is not just from tbbt and blossom she is also a neurobiologist/neoroscientist in real life (as in not just in tbbt but license neurobiologist in real life). So imagine her net worth.

  • @kealey-louisesmith9571
    @kealey-louisesmith9571 5 лет назад +1

    I’m a 13 year old that does chores and I find them fun , I’m being brought up with the same rules as my mum did . I’m being brought up to appreciate what I have and to realise that if I want to achieve something I have to work hard for it and not expect it to be given too me . I loved you on. Big Bang theory and that has gotten me in to the sciences 💕

  • @MissAllaCinderella
    @MissAllaCinderella 5 лет назад +7

    You are the most genuine, kind, honest woman!
    I loved Amy Farrah Fowler, but my gosh, I love Mayim Bialik so much more!

  • @jokarelja4449
    @jokarelja4449 5 лет назад +1

    I absolutely love that you asked yourself the question and I love even more the answers you found and the solutions you are working with as a family.

  • @Procharged32
    @Procharged32 5 лет назад +17

    Your short hair looks heaps better, transforms you.

  • @stevefick3919
    @stevefick3919 5 лет назад +1

    You're certainly NOT the meanest mom in the world, you are a bright young woman who is doing what she feels is right for her children. Being concerned and active in your community is an awesome thing. Let your kids SEE what the world is like. Let them know how LUCKY they are.

  • @samwilson7107
    @samwilson7107 4 года назад +7

    When I was a kid, if I wanted something, my mom would tell me, “well, people in hell want ice water.” 😂

  • @apros181
    @apros181 4 года назад +1

    “I want them to see what it feels like when you make someone’s impossible day just a little bit more possible” 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 there’s nothing else to say. I admire you so much Mayim. As a vegan, as a woman and as a non-consumerist I see many of my feelings reflected in your words. THANK YOU♥️

  • @burkinfaso
    @burkinfaso 5 лет назад +7

    Absolutely LOVE your hair cut and color! It suits you so much and it looks great!❤️

  • @betsyrich
    @betsyrich 5 лет назад

    My son was stillborn in 2015 and my daughter was born healthy in 2016. I have a hard time with the "no"s for her wants because I am just so grateful to have her here with me.

  • @lrid3sc3nt
    @lrid3sc3nt 5 лет назад +5

    I agree with you. All your points. My kids act entitled too, I believe, for the reasons you state. I react very similar to you.

  • @vickymc9695
    @vickymc9695 5 лет назад +2

    I think all children start out as entitled, but growing up is leaning that they can't always have everything you're own way. You're doing great. :)

  • @sharathmuthuraj2424
    @sharathmuthuraj2424 5 лет назад +23

    I wish mayim and jim would do an episode together just like fun with flags on bbt 😁😁

  • @sofielinnea5869
    @sofielinnea5869 3 года назад +2

    I remember an older teacher I had growing up who told me that her generation “did the work and never asked for anything” which resulted in them getting exploited while my generation “don’t do the work but asks for everything” and I think this is very true.
    There is value in working hard but you also need to have enough entitlement to know your actual worth.

  • @skye_4960
    @skye_4960 5 лет назад +27

    Oh boy, I so wanted to be fluent in English and understand what you say 😖😖😖♥️

    • @bluebell1924
      @bluebell1924 5 лет назад +1

      Try if it helps using the automatic subtitles!

    • @skye_4960
      @skye_4960 5 лет назад

      @@bluebell1924 yes thanks, but have some words i don't know 😅

    • @sharpbends
      @sharpbends 5 лет назад +1

      @@skye_4960 Which ones ? We could try to help you understand :-)

  • @mellicb9681
    @mellicb9681 4 года назад +1

    I don't have kids yet. And I dont have a lot of money since I still go to university. Buuut when I think about having kids ( in a future where I have a well paid job that I enjoy) I always wonder how I would manage exactly that issue. Thanks for the video! It was really helpful

  • @danieleduchene-alessandrin6959
    @danieleduchene-alessandrin6959 5 лет назад +4

    We had the exact same upbringing. It feels like you're talking about my own parents. Looooove your talks. ❤🇫🇷

  • @theotheraccount2734
    @theotheraccount2734 5 лет назад

    Your the best example on defending ones self from bad situations with ppl they may already care about an laugh an associte with.

  • @michaelsegal3558
    @michaelsegal3558 5 лет назад +4

    My mom still says to me “because I said so” sometimes and I’m 34 years old

  • @xladyfayre
    @xladyfayre 5 лет назад

    The part you said about the homeless reminds me of a song by Mark Wills called 'Don't Laugh at Me'. It's basically about bullying and people who don't fit into the mold and how they shouldn't be treated differently. It has a part of it that spoke about homeless people.
    "I'm the cripple on the corner
    You pass me on the street
    I wouldn't be out here beggin'
    If I had enough to eat
    And don't think that I don't notice
    That our eyes never meet
    I lost my wife and little boy
    Someone crossed that yellow line
    The day we laid 'em in the ground
    Is the day I lost my mind
    Right now I'm down to holdin'
    This little cardboard sign
    So don't laugh at me, don't call me names
    Don't get your pleasure from my pain
    In God's eyes we're all the same
    Someday we'll all have perfect wings
    Don't laugh at me"
    I didn't want to post the whole thing, but I instantly thought of this song and that you may want to share it with your sons. I'm sure since it's country music that it's probably not popular anymore.

  • @strangekat2840
    @strangekat2840 5 лет назад +6

    When I was a kid, I always got to choose what I ate. That was simply because if I was forced to eat something I didn't like, I wouldn't eat.

    • @dikkybee4003
      @dikkybee4003 5 лет назад +1

      When I grew up I was told by my parents that they would not make me eat anything that would make me sick so everything that was put in front of me I would eat due to the fact I had respect for my parents.

    • @andie361
      @andie361 5 лет назад

      You’d have been fixing your own meals in my parents house (and mine for that matter, lol)

    • @strangekat2840
      @strangekat2840 5 лет назад +3

      @@andie361 I've had a problem with certain textures from birth. From being a toddler, I could not eat things like mushrooms. My mum just learned to work with me, not force stuff down my throat or starve me.
      Stressing out a picky child just doesn't help.

    • @lazyhomebody1356
      @lazyhomebody1356 5 лет назад

      My parents(and every parent I knew) would make the kid sit at the table for hours until they ate most of whatever food they had refused to eat. No tv, no bath, and by the time you ate the food (because you were so sleepy and just wanted to go to bed) it was disgusting!

    • @strangekat2840
      @strangekat2840 5 лет назад

      @@lazyhomebody1356 I think my gran tried that once. I didn't eat anything that night.

  • @sandranicol8945
    @sandranicol8945 4 года назад

    I agree, if your kids like you... you’re doing something wrong. I’m a 49 year old mom of 4(who are all adults now). As they were kids I heard, “I hate you” or “ I don’t like you” a lot. But NOW, they are(still my kids) my friends. They have all thanked me for teaching them to work for what they wanted, that life doesn’t hand you anything for free. I love you( your career) and your videos. Thank you.

  • @kaiakakos
    @kaiakakos 5 лет назад +6

    I thank you for making me laugh when I most needed in these last 10 years. I´m a fan from Portugal, and I can tell you there are little differences between your life and mine. We are all human, trying to do our best. Love you!

  • @saphirsteph
    @saphirsteph 5 лет назад +2

    I grew up the exact same with my brother in a single parent family! Your approach seems sound, nobody is perfect but let’s all do our best ❤️

    • @fe5018
      @fe5018 5 лет назад

      This is the best response I've seen tbh.

  • @squigglzysquigglzy8341
    @squigglzysquigglzy8341 5 лет назад +3

    You are actually so much like Amy that it blows my mind!
    Btw, love you so much on tbbt 💕

  • @StonyRC
    @StonyRC 5 лет назад

    You pretty much nailed it Mayim. Like you, I came from a pretty poor family where there was next to no spare money. No TV until I was 8, no car until I was 12, no telephone until I was 14. BUT, there was always food to eat, a roof over our heads and a proper family environment ... boringly conventional but true. I grew up believing that you cannot borrow money for material possessions and that hard work is the route to a secure life. I expected nothing that I did not achieve for myself.

  • @sanjanagothi6554
    @sanjanagothi6554 4 года назад +7

    Mayim talks about her mom like Amy talks about hers. LOL

  • @victorialynn6248
    @victorialynn6248 5 лет назад

    I truly appreciate this. I feel like (as a teacher) this is something that comes to school too. They expect to 'have fun' at school and that learning is a waste of time. I just had a PD about how to understand where kids are coming from to improve engagement.

  • @cpunykurde
    @cpunykurde 5 лет назад +7

    5:53 " *I* *know* *you* *want* *it* *but* *the* *answer* *is* *no* " - I think it's wonderful that you're teaching your children not to be entitled. But they do deserve an explanation *WHY* the answer is no. This gives them respect while you set the boundaries. And it may often make them more cooperative. Plus, they simply deserve some explanation.
    Unfortunately, no explanation behind such a boundary may send the wrong message. As you mentioned yourself, children are self-centered and its natural. It is part of their developmental psychology to blame adversities on themselves, thinking that the reason for sad/bad events is that something is wrong with them. Or they don't deserve the things they want, but their friend Joe gets his things, so he must deserve it more. If you don't give them explanation, they will come up with their own, and I hope you can see the danger in there.
    Another danger... Making children obey without giving an explanation teaches them that if people have authority over them, it means they are right or they don't need to/cannot be questioned.

    • @LilCraftyNook
      @LilCraftyNook 5 лет назад +2

      Why? I don’t understand the need to constantly explain things, specially to a really young child. They’re not going to understand anyway. Parents have rights too.

  • @elizabethpiveronus3359
    @elizabethpiveronus3359 4 года назад

    Hi Mayum You are an angel,and a super mom.Im 68 and Love Big Bang.I own many seasons.When I get down many times I put in BBT DVD.The kids friendship,love for each other just makes me feel better.Im married to a PhD historian and the Professors I've known in the past are so much like the characters on the show.No matter how many times I watch I laugh my head off.Thank You Mayam for making this old lady smile.Much Love to you and your family.😊

  • @michaelsegal3558
    @michaelsegal3558 4 года назад +5

    My mom still says to me sometimes “because I said so” and I’m going to be 35 next month

    • @flamsparksbiggestfan2931
      @flamsparksbiggestfan2931 4 года назад +1

      You are an adult. You are not legally obliged to obey her. You can move out and she cannot stop you. You are emancipated by law.

    • @michaelsegal3558
      @michaelsegal3558 4 года назад

      Flamsparks Biggest Fan you don’t know my situation my parents pay for my living space and everything and still play a big part in my financial life because I have Autism so yeah because of that I am legally obligated to obey her because if it wasn’t for her and my dad I would be homeless

    • @flamsparksbiggestfan2931
      @flamsparksbiggestfan2931 4 года назад +1

      @@michaelsegal3558 Get support and move out

    • @michaelsegal3558
      @michaelsegal3558 4 года назад +1

      Flamsparks Biggest Fan I have my own place it’s just that my parents pay for it

  • @jameskoch7190
    @jameskoch7190 5 лет назад

    Just caught your presentation. My parents worked, we had money for the necessities of a middle income family. Housing,food, clothes and college educations, also two week road trips in the summer. No Spring break trips, no Christmas vacations, just a tree, nice presents and turkey. Only got nice things then. Never got a present if it wasn’t a birthday or Christmas. But I had everything I ever wanted because of one rule my parents employed, and that is if you have the money you can buy it. Except a motorcycle, they been dead for 25 yrs now and I still cannot have one. I mowed lawns, baby sat, threw a morning paper for four years learned the value of things and how to save for them. I’m not the best adult out there, pretty close ,but close only counts in horseshoes,hand grenadines and atomic bombs. My parents raised me right,with an attitude if I want it I can have it just don’t expect someone else to give it to you. Enough said, I’m being charged by the letter,so in closing totally love TBBT.

  • @utahboxergirl11
    @utahboxergirl11 5 лет назад +11

    I finally have seen the last episode of BBT. Oh my, you looked so beautiful. !!! ♥

  • @charityfowler1767
    @charityfowler1767 5 лет назад

    Way to go!!! I love seeing a parent who says no!! All kids now have this problem and I completely agree with you!!! Just because you have money doesn’t mean they do. You are doing them a great justice by showing them they need to work to get a head fabulous job

  • @kevinpeter5725
    @kevinpeter5725 5 лет назад +27

    Mayim, I am huge fan from India !!
    Your super awesome, can I get a heart!.

  • @katielynch9740
    @katielynch9740 4 года назад +1

    My mums parents were relatively wealthy (especially back then) with a maid/cook and stuff. My mum asked for something and my grandad said no. When she said “but we have money” my grandad shut that shit down by saying “No, I have money, your mother has money- you’re a kid YOU don’t have money”. She stopped asking.

  • @lm0701
    @lm0701 5 лет назад +5

    You're an inspiration, Mayim! Sending love from the Philippines! ❤❤❤

    • @bazinga7376
      @bazinga7376 5 лет назад +1

      Happy MoMae fan din ako!!

    • @lm0701
      @lm0701 5 лет назад

      Nice! Ako din! ❤

  • @delphi24
    @delphi24 5 лет назад +2

    Oh, THANK you for this! I feel a tad less guilty now for being the meanest mommy in my town. I’m so big on volunteering, chores and phrases like “put it on your birthday list.” The entitlement is still there, but it’s a work in progress.

  • @BiteSizedCrafter
    @BiteSizedCrafter 4 года назад +4

    I bet she’s a sweet but stern mom. Her hair cut is cute af too.

  • @brendashelby5593
    @brendashelby5593 5 лет назад

    You are so right about entitlement and Bless you for teaching your children about helping others that have nothing or next to nothing saying no to your children is the hardest thing to do.