I've made a commitment to myself never to chase after anyone ever again in my life. I am real. And you need to be real if you want to be with me. I'm fed up of games. No more. I'd rather be alone. And thank you Coach Craig for all your help in getting me here.🙏
Right! Phenomenal Woman: that’s me and you know what I want. If you can’t deliver, get the f outta the way! 😸 that goes for ‘any’ friendship as well. 🎉❤🎉❤😉
Very well said! I can relate to this 100%. You reach a breaking point of how much more effort you can put in with an avoidant, only to receive breadcrumbs.
Be cautious when they make the "effort" and reach out. Just, because they miss the connection doesn't mean they got their s**t together and are ready to make it work by doing the work. Proceed with caution ⚠️
99% of avoidants they never self reflect and they don't put any work to fix themselfes. Its easier for them just to play a role of the victim and they can't find good partner
@rickyleon4622 Why can't you be man enough to tell her that her behavior wasn't working for you?! Pershaps she played games... but then again, so did you by Ghosting her! Two wrongs don't make One right!
Yup. Never knew what I did wrong. Always wondering. Always worrying. Always chasing. 40 years later I've accepted I was in love with an avoidant and he couldn't have cared less,how he hurt me. Life alone is no fun but certainly better than that never ending psycho drama of games.
I’ve Accepted What has happened, I’ve let go of what could of been, I’m continually applying the lessons I’m learning… Most Importantly, I Know My Worth. 🙏🏼💕😇
Yup they had allready someone on the backburner also. When they are quit they are somewhere else. Maybe they are the most co dependants 😂😂😂 They need attention so bad
She told me she wants to take a step back from us talking and is with someone new so, I really don’t think I’ll be hearing from her again. First time seeking out a therapist though. Yay for me.
@@Smoking_Lofi I’m not saying I agree or that I think it makes sense, I just know red flags for the future, I was ignorant and clueless because I had never dated anyone fucked up like her before.
The avoidant who starts to wonder is a narcissist and what makes them so special anyways, so just stop chasing someone who isn't worth your time . If someone is into you, you need to meet in the middle
I'm sooooo done with chasing, texting, calling, etc. I have a life to live & if they don't want to be a part of it o well.. that's there loss I'd rather be with people who want me around to love & Care about me. Not waste my time & play games use,hit,d.v. or etc. This also includes family and friends too.😣😩🤓😏
They will only come back if they truly love you. But other than that they won't care they would just want you to leave them alone. Over means over end Finish
Well said sir, makes sense for me. Life is too short to mess with anyone whom is mentally ill. Not my problem anymore thats the reason for all SILENCE, TAKE A HINT
Or, and hear me out… don’t respond at ALL, because you’re worth more than bread crumbs. Do not reward his crappy crumbs in any shape or form. Not even with your own crumbs. Now THAT is how you take your power back and show your worth. It’s actually really passive aggressive and it’s super obvious that is what you’re doing when you bread crumb back. Which screams “it bothers me that you did this and I can’t control my feelings so I’m gunna be passive aggressive instead”. Don’t give him that.
He's my actual twin flame. I never really chased but I made myself too available so I was de facto the chaser. And the feminine is always the chaser energy anyway. But I have been totally ghosting and blocking him many months now. The divine is keeping us apart while the divine works on us to transform us completely so we can be true divine counterparts. We have not been ready for each other yet, it will take more time. The divine told me and showed me that he will propose to me and we will have our happily ever after. You may think this all sounds crazy, and I would have too until I met him and began this forced spiritual awakening. The twin flame journey is unique and very different from anything else, including soul mates. Thank you for your insightful videos. You are adorable 😊😊
Sadly it seems these games are the new climate in dating these days. Whatever happened to two people just liking each other and just keep moving forward together? Does anyone do that anymore?
I know huh? Whatever happened to a guy asking a girl to wear his “friendship “ ring and “go steady?!!” Real Romance in my day…hard to find a good date! 🤔🥱🥴
@@hilo5901 hahaha I remember a guy giving me his friendship ring when I was in 10th grade and I got fed up with him within the first week because he never spoke (he was shy). I said "don't you ever talk?"and handed him back his ring...😄. Yes the good old days.
It isn’t supposed to be a game. Don’t stop chasing for the game- stop it because you have some dignity and self love. That’s the irony- when these folks start to love themselves, they stop WANTING to chase and the problem fixes itself lol
Life is too short for these kinda games, what is meant for you won’t run, and in this case if the person the runner decides to reach out, let them know you’ve moved on and are no longer interested rather your single or not.
They lovebomb you. I chased him after i broke up with him until i found out he was sexting two girls he knew from high school and now he's absolutely lovebombing me.
Not true always..my husband and I haven't spoken or sleepy in the same room in a year..it hurts so bad.I don't chase him and it doesn't bother him..He is fine with the TV and phone..I want to go dancing..I want to hold hands...somebody to keep my feet warm on these cold winter nights..I'm tired of it! It's cruel
I,myself,stopped chasing an absorbent... ...and the next day, the sun shone brighter in the place the Earth was SUPPOSED to be. dunt, dunt - duhhhhh!!!
Avoidants don't really change. They are phony fakers when they reach out to you. Great actors. Until the daily routine sets in and they resume playing their immature mind games. They don't miss you, they just miss the good things you gave them. There is a difference.
@CoachCraigKenneth Absolutely! I agree with you. It's a matter of the heart. The Truth of Love, if it's genuinely in the heart. Love is the word. It's God's greatest gift we can give and receive. Along with forgiveness, mercy, grace upon those who hurt us, because without it, we won't be forgiven for our wrong doings. An honest look at ourselves really matters. We all need to be fair minded. Do the right things. Acknowledge the truth. We all can learn and grow. Life is too good to be unhappy. :)
Thanks Craig. Is this also your advice for fearful avoidant older men? I started no contact in response to what I felt was a dismissive message (after similar constrained ones), & 19 days in, just learnt about attachment types and that he likely has an abandonment wound. What to do now??
Findings indicated that individuals with dismissive and fearful attachments had higher scores of both primary and secondary psychopathic traits in contrast to secure attached individuals who scored low on these traits. Basically don’t let a psychopath in or Back into your life.
I no longer chase people. Especially if i didnt do anything wrong. Communication is the key. If you feel like you cant come to me and tell me whats wrong, then i def dont need you in my life!
I txt him saying "look, your going through a lot right now and I'm going to give you space. i will reply if you contact me or if there is something important going on. I don't want to feel like I'm annoying you." (context, we broke up, remaining friends while he goes to therapy for his attachment issues while we both don't want to date others but from his side he is giving no reassurance and avoiding more and more.) he then sent me multiple messages overnight and youtube videos trying to be funny which was something he used to to when love bombing. i woke, didn't reply and got ready for work. then he txt asking if he did something wrong and am i ok? he was clearly upset to have the slightest taste of how he's been treating me for over a year. make it make sense.
And that time and gap in between it give us time to realize that we could be In a relationship with a narcissist. Which is what happened to me. I was with a narcissistic person, Diabolical.now it’s me running but to opposite side.
Those are some of the dumbest games ever. Those people are toxic. They will reach out once in a blue moon to see where you’re at, but they’re out dating and making promises to other people. They’ve just figured out that you’re a good source of validation for them. But if you notice, there’s nothing substantial when they reach out. It’s all to get some attention. They aren’t commit to meeting you with a time and place. If you do suggest that, you’ll get ghosted again. So save yourself the drama and let someone deal with crazy.
This was how it was for me over a 4 year period. I thought he was sincere and genuinely cared about getting to know me. Then when he hurt me he insisted it was a catastophic misunderstanding and nothing had to change. Why did it have to be all or nothing, he asked. So I stuck it out for 8 more months because he asked, “you can’t be friends if we’re not dating?” At the time I was hurting and I thought about the song lyrics, “how can we be lovers if we can’t be friends” so I thought maybe he just needs me to give him more time. Nope. All he did was downgrade me, sideline me with all his other social media crushes I’d the past, and go days without speaking. When we did talk he’d lecture me about my feelings, tell me “well we will never know how it could turn out because you won’t stop talking about it.” Always a cold response. Never any empathy. He said he wasn’t talking to anyone else but would be on Grindr each weekend. He would FaceTime with me while he drank heavily. I noticed over the years he just got more and more agitated which I tried to tell him it could be being brought on by the excessive drinking and smoking weed. He cut me off in May 2023 by blocking my phone number but remaining on my socials. He wouldn’t engage at all. So in September I had enough and posted a post restricted to him only. He called me in a drunk rant and ranted at me for 40 minutes. He was so worried about his reputation with people in my life (yet none of them saw the post), that he wouldn’t even listen. He ended the call with, “I’m going to ask one more question and then I’m blocking you again, how is Gracie?” Gracie is my 16 year old Dachshund, it was so manipulative and it showed me who he was. He only cares about his reputation and nothing else.
It’s still a cat and mouse game if you engage w someone who doesn’t have the capacity to be in a mutual, communicative relationship. We all have energy ebbs and flows and before you know it, us emotionally available types will be right back in the toxic dynamic again. ☠️
Thank you God for this brother message I needed this message praise God in Jesus name amen hallelujah glory to God in Jesus name amen hallelujah hallelujah amen amen
I was chasing this woman, she then blocked me. 2 months later she called me! We were recently pretty serious (going to buy a house) . She told me she wasn't quite ready. I'm not reaching out to her. I'm trying to give her space to figure herself out. Do you think this will work out the same way? Only asking because it's happened a couple times with her and it seems to be somewhat of a pattern. Basically I guess I'm asking if it works once do you think it'll work twice? She did tell me when she got back in touch with me that she was starting to learn that about me and I assumed that she was talking about how I was willing to give her space that she needed
I have an ex that I try to keep in touch with because his parents are dead and he has no family. Is that considered chasing or just being kind, caring and human?
So when she is overwhelmed by connection and says to remain friends because she has no feelings, and i use no contact, and then she reaches out again, what should i do? How to react? Answering but be cold? Or not answering at all?
I discuss attachment and dating/relationships in over 1400 of my RUclips videos. Check them out!
Gonna take a peek, thanks. x
Done chasing. Done responding. Done everything. I’m done being abused
Amen
Aman 🙌🏾
Me too.
I've made a commitment to myself never to chase after anyone ever again in my life. I am real. And you need to be real if you want to be with me. I'm fed up of games. No more. I'd rather be alone. And thank you Coach Craig for all your help in getting me here.🙏
Right! Phenomenal Woman: that’s me and you know what I want. If you can’t deliver, get the f outta the way! 😸 that goes for ‘any’ friendship as well. 🎉❤🎉❤😉
@@hilo5901 😁👍😊
Very well said! I can relate to this 100%. You reach a breaking point of how much more effort you can put in with an avoidant, only to receive breadcrumbs.
Same applies to me.
I feel the same way as you! Took me a couple years to get to that state of mind. Respect 👊🏼
Be cautious when they make the "effort" and reach out. Just, because they miss the connection doesn't mean they got their s**t together and are ready to make it work by doing the work. Proceed with caution ⚠️
Yep if they have not gone through therapy it’s like go and repeat the same issues again.
99% of avoidants they never self reflect and they don't put any work to fix themselfes. Its easier for them just to play a role of the victim and they can't find good partner
I don't want someone who does not want me.
Usually the person just wants the attention, but isn't seriously interested. I don't have the time or energy to chase or play games anymore.
Thats why I ghost her and her ego got distroyed. She's looking for me like an FBI agent. 😂
@@rickyleon4622 LOL 🤣
Correct.
@@rickyleon4622good for you!!! 💪
@rickyleon4622
Why can't you be man enough to tell her that her behavior wasn't working for you?! Pershaps she played games... but then again, so did you by Ghosting her! Two wrongs don't make One right!
They're frightened of emotional attachment.
More like Terrified!!! 😂
tired of the game go away now .
This is exactly what I did and it worked.All I wanted was open communication but he felt threatened.Such people need deep healing.😢🤗🤗
Yup. Never knew what I did wrong. Always wondering. Always worrying. Always chasing. 40 years later I've accepted I was in love with an avoidant and he couldn't have cared less,how he hurt me. Life alone is no fun but certainly better than that never ending psycho drama of games.
40 years 😮 damn
40 years?
Just leave them alone & never look back..
i couldnt think of one thing she did i liked lol
I’ve Accepted What has happened, I’ve let go of what could of been, I’m continually applying the lessons I’m learning… Most Importantly, I Know My Worth. 🙏🏼💕😇
Yes. Its true. I stopped chasing him.
I don't reach out to my ex anymore
It’s time to choose yourself! You got this😊
Good for you!!! 💪👏
Think about it… why would you want to date an (avoidant). It literally says (avoid) .Please avoid them all together they will have you feeling insane.
I'm not a chaser, I let men choose to be with me or not
Or they will also lose interest and they give up cos its in their avoidant nature
Im this scenario they had already given up and stopped caring
Yup they had allready someone on the backburner also.
When they are quit they are somewhere else.
Maybe they are the most co dependants 😂😂😂
They need attention so bad
Oh yeah 💯💯💯👍🏽 that’s true 🥹
Avoidants will never change and will never chase, why because they are born that way because of their parents
I regret chasing a man. Never again. I didn't love myself or even know how to.
That’s when you ignore the ex after they reach out to you and you choose you
She told me she wants to take a step back from us talking and is with someone new so, I really don’t think I’ll be hearing from her again. First time seeking out a therapist though. Yay for me.
Good for you putting yourself first! Talking it out with a professional will help you see yourself in a new light. The Possibilities are endless!🎉
Step back from us?? Bro she RUINED “you” as a couple.
@@Smoking_Lofi I’m not saying I agree or that I think it makes sense, I just know red flags for the future, I was ignorant and clueless because I had never dated anyone fucked up like her before.
I'm in therapy now as well.
@@kjshow4173 I hope it helps. I hope you get some healing. It’s helped me so much
Thank you coach. Exactly what i needed to hear
Very Good! I've Stopped Chasing Them, I Hope They Do Start To Miss Me, And They Reach Out To Me.
Just get on with your life The heartache isn't worth it, cause that sort of relationship won't last
@@jmw1683 That’s so true 💯💯💯👍🏽 thank you 🙏🏽
-Are we not playing anymore?
😂😂😂😂😂
We human beings!!😂
The avoidant who starts to wonder is a narcissist and what makes them so special anyways, so just stop chasing someone who isn't worth your time . If someone is into you, you need to meet in the middle
I'm sooooo done with chasing, texting, calling, etc. I have a life to live & if they don't want to be a part of it o well.. that's there loss I'd rather be with people who want me around to love & Care about me. Not waste my time & play games use,hit,d.v. or etc. This also includes family and friends too.😣😩🤓😏
who would want them back it's just to much to deal with I'm done.
I finally had the courage to block the avoidant...he no longer deserves my time.
Chasing never ends well, learnt it the hard way.. if he wants to he would! This is what I follow now… I’m seriously EXAUSTED
They will only come back if they truly love you. But other than that they won't care they would just want you to leave them alone. Over means over end Finish
Well said sir, makes sense for me. Life is too short to mess with anyone whom is mentally ill. Not my problem anymore thats the reason for all SILENCE, TAKE A HINT
This is absolutely true, but if they dont reach out after that, then i guess they never cared about you.
Yes, time to grow up !
I kept reaching up
Now I’ve stopped
Update??
I'm tired of mind games. I would rather be alone...getting too old for this.
I will never CHASE THEM.ANY MORE.
Thank you so much coach!❤❤❤
Good Advice . I'm Not Chasing Anymore . I'm Taking Days To Answer Back . Same Thing He's Doing To Me ...
It’s my time schedule now baby…out with the old…in with the NEW!!! ❤🎉❤🎉
Or, and hear me out… don’t respond at ALL, because you’re worth more than bread crumbs. Do not reward his crappy crumbs in any shape or form. Not even with your own crumbs. Now THAT is how you take your power back and show your worth. It’s actually really passive aggressive and it’s super obvious that is what you’re doing when you bread crumb back. Which screams “it bothers me that you did this and I can’t control my feelings so I’m gunna be passive aggressive instead”. Don’t give him that.
He's my actual twin flame. I never really chased but I made myself too available so I was de facto the chaser. And the feminine is always the chaser energy anyway. But I have been totally ghosting and blocking him many months now. The divine is keeping us apart while the divine works on us to transform us completely so we can be true divine counterparts. We have not been ready for each other yet, it will take more time. The divine told me and showed me that he will propose to me and we will have our happily ever after. You may think this all sounds crazy, and I would have too until I met him and began this forced spiritual awakening. The twin flame journey is unique and very different from anything else, including soul mates. Thank you for your insightful videos. You are adorable 😊😊
Great. Video. You have such a great perspective love it. ❤
They get on sex apps. Let’s stop pretending they are doing the work and reflecting on how they treated you.
Exactly!!!!!!! 😂
Yep
Then you have to play hard to get otherwise they will run again?
Sadly it seems these games are the new climate in dating these days. Whatever happened to two people just liking each other and just keep moving forward together? Does anyone do that anymore?
People are afraid of being hurt, can't or won't communicate their feelings.
I know huh? Whatever happened to a guy asking a girl to wear his “friendship “ ring and “go steady?!!” Real Romance in my day…hard to find a good date! 🤔🥱🥴
These days it’s hard to find a good date! 🤔🥱🥴 much less a commitment…🥱😴
@@hilo5901 hahaha I remember a guy giving me his friendship ring when I was in 10th grade and I got fed up with him within the first week because he never spoke (he was shy). I said "don't you ever talk?"and handed him back his ring...😄. Yes the good old days.
For real!
It's silly boring games. Don't have time for that 😂
It isn’t supposed to be a game. Don’t stop chasing for the game- stop it because you have some dignity and self love. That’s the irony- when these folks start to love themselves, they stop WANTING to chase and the problem fixes itself lol
Thanks coach! So encouraging & likable. 😀
Life is too short for these kinda games, what is meant for you won’t run, and in this case if the person the runner decides to reach out, let them know you’ve moved on and are no longer interested rather your single or not.
Well, you'll find someone and ur ex will also get involved with someone. Win win situation
Once his behavior changes so does mine. He’s blocked and discarded. 😊
thanks, Craig !
blessings!
merry new year !❤
They lovebomb you. I chased him after i broke up with him until i found out he was sexting two girls he knew from high school and now he's absolutely lovebombing me.
I agree! Thank you ♥️🌹
Thank you. Your re 1 of the best. Thanks for bringing clarity to my situation. ❤
One of? 🤣
Not true always..my husband and I haven't spoken or sleepy in the same room in a year..it hurts so bad.I don't chase him and it doesn't bother him..He is fine with the TV and phone..I want to go dancing..I want to hold hands...somebody to keep my feet warm on these cold winter nights..I'm tired of it! It's cruel
I,myself,stopped chasing an absorbent...
...and the next day, the sun shone brighter in the place the Earth was SUPPOSED to be.
dunt, dunt - duhhhhh!!!
Absorbing your precious time and energy…😲
Great analogy. ❤
I'm an avoidant...chasing a secure former partner...so now what???
let them feel the reality of losing you, ta ta, toodles, bon voyage
Yes, I claim this message ❤
Avoidants don't really change. They are phony fakers when they reach out to you. Great actors. Until the daily routine sets in and they resume playing their immature mind games. They don't miss you, they just miss the good things you gave them. There is a difference.
Anyone can change! They have to want to
@CoachCraigKenneth Absolutely! I agree with you. It's a matter of the heart. The Truth of Love, if it's genuinely in the heart. Love is the word. It's God's greatest gift we can give and receive. Along with forgiveness, mercy, grace upon those who hurt us, because without it, we won't be forgiven for our wrong doings. An honest look at ourselves really matters. We all need to be fair minded. Do the right things. Acknowledge the truth. We all can learn and grow. Life is too good to be unhappy. :)
Thanks for sharing this ❤️
Thanks. But at that point the ship has sailed & there’s no turning back!!!
Yes they come back and want another situationship. No interest in making a real relationship
This happen to me now. She reciprocates n reachout to me. Thank you
They love it so much and they know exactly what to do best that please good and they just want to feel it so deep within.
That is what I give to people who long for my chase, I just ignore them and relax, 😂😂see when they start chasing me
I Needed this
Amen . Confirmation
I'm not chasing him..the courts are now!
I agree with you on that 100 cent
It’s hard to get those feelings back when you stop chasing.
True words 💯
Yup you right I was think the same
I'M CHASING SOMEONE WHO WANTS ME!
Mines is out living his best life. Camping with his boys. Not thinking of me one bit.....
THANK YOU . 😊🌺
I stopped and haven't heard from mine since 😂😂 it's been a year .
In few words get your mental health together and keep walking until u find a heathg relationship.😅
Thanks Craig. Is this also your advice for fearful avoidant older men? I started no contact in response to what I felt was a dismissive message (after similar constrained ones), & 19 days in, just learnt about attachment types and that he likely has an abandonment wound. What to do now??
Very Good! I've Stopped Chasing My Boyfriend, I Hope They Start Missing Me, And They Reach Out To Me.
Findings indicated that individuals with dismissive and fearful attachments had higher scores of both primary and secondary psychopathic traits in contrast to secure attached individuals who scored low on these traits. Basically don’t let a psychopath in or Back into your life.
I no longer chase people. Especially if i didnt do anything wrong. Communication is the key. If you feel like you cant come to me and tell me whats wrong, then i def dont need you in my life!
They reach out for another ego stroke, not to “reconnect”
Wow.awesome
I txt him saying "look, your going through a lot right now and I'm going to give you space. i will reply if you contact me or if there is something important going on. I don't want to feel like I'm annoying you." (context, we broke up, remaining friends while he goes to therapy for his attachment issues while we both don't want to date others but from his side he is giving no reassurance and avoiding more and more.) he then sent me multiple messages overnight and youtube videos trying to be funny which was something he used to to when love bombing. i woke, didn't reply and got ready for work. then he txt asking if he did something wrong and am i ok? he was clearly upset to have the slightest taste of how he's been treating me for over a year. make it make sense.
And that time and gap in between it give us time to realize that we could be
In a relationship with a narcissist.
Which is what happened to me.
I was with a narcissistic person,
Diabolical.now it’s me running but to opposite side.
Those are some of the dumbest games ever. Those people are toxic. They will reach out once in a blue moon to see where you’re at, but they’re out dating and making promises to other people. They’ve just figured out that you’re a good source of validation for them. But if you notice, there’s nothing substantial when they reach out. It’s all to get some attention. They aren’t commit to meeting you with a time and place. If you do suggest that, you’ll get ghosted again. So save yourself the drama and let someone deal with crazy.
This was how it was for me over a 4 year period. I thought he was sincere and genuinely cared about getting to know me. Then when he hurt me he insisted it was a catastophic misunderstanding and nothing had to change. Why did it have to be all or nothing, he asked. So I stuck it out for 8 more months because he asked, “you can’t be friends if we’re not dating?” At the time I was hurting and I thought about the song lyrics, “how can we be lovers if we can’t be friends” so I thought maybe he just needs me to give him more time. Nope. All he did was downgrade me, sideline me with all his other social media crushes I’d the past, and go days without speaking. When we did talk he’d lecture me about my feelings, tell me “well we will never know how it could turn out because you won’t stop talking about it.” Always a cold response. Never any empathy. He said he wasn’t talking to anyone else but would be on Grindr each weekend. He would FaceTime with me while he drank heavily. I noticed over the years he just got more and more agitated which I tried to tell him it could be being brought on by the excessive drinking and smoking weed. He cut me off in May 2023 by blocking my phone number but remaining on my socials. He wouldn’t engage at all. So in September I had enough and posted a post restricted to him only. He called me in a drunk rant and ranted at me for 40 minutes. He was so worried about his reputation with people in my life (yet none of them saw the post), that he wouldn’t even listen. He ended the call with, “I’m going to ask one more question and then I’m blocking you again, how is Gracie?” Gracie is my 16 year old Dachshund, it was so manipulative and it showed me who he was. He only cares about his reputation and nothing else.
It’s still a cat and mouse game if you engage w someone who doesn’t have the capacity to be in a mutual, communicative relationship. We all have energy ebbs and flows and before you know it, us emotionally available types will be right back in the toxic dynamic again. ☠️
That goes for love too don’t chase love.
Does this goes for friends?
Or they think " Thank fuck" and move on with life greatful to never have to deal with you again.
I never chasing with them for what and waste my time for nothing
How you know you’re wasting your time?
Not even a kiss on the forehead!! 😂 facts.
Thank you God for this brother message I needed this message praise God in Jesus name amen hallelujah glory to God in Jesus name amen hallelujah hallelujah amen amen
Yes Amen 🙏 ❤🎉
Lol you’re praising god for getting dating advice? Seems weird but ok 👍🏼
This stuff works. She came back after a week.
I was chasing this woman, she then blocked me. 2 months later she called me! We were recently pretty serious (going to buy a house) . She told me she wasn't quite ready. I'm not reaching out to her. I'm trying to give her space to figure herself out. Do you think this will work out the same way? Only asking because it's happened a couple times with her and it seems to be somewhat of a pattern. Basically I guess I'm asking if it works once do you think it'll work twice?
She did tell me when she got back in touch with me that she was starting to learn that about me and I assumed that she was talking about how I was willing to give her space that she needed
I have an ex that I try to keep in touch with because his parents are dead and he has no family. Is that considered chasing or just being kind, caring and human?
Hahahaha the one am chasing said she will call police for me if I don’t stop
How do you change if your the avoidant?
So when she is overwhelmed by connection and says to remain friends because she has no feelings, and i use no contact, and then she reaches out again, what should i do? How to react? Answering but be cold? Or not answering at all?
If someone avoids you well they aren't worth your time anyway. Find someone that is actually interested
When I do that she also is not writing anymore and when I reach out after some days she says she is angry because I didn't text her for days 😂
Thank you🤍