Kenneth with his phone really pissed me off! If I’m in a honeymoon phase with somebody and moving in, and they tell me to make dinner, and then enjoy eating it with me and then go on their phone I am asking him what he’s gonna make me for dinner! That expectation from him and disrespect was so out of line! really upsetting!
Yeah, him saying you make dinner is really only acceptable IMO if he was joking and was making dinner (or helping to) or something. That took me aback too. I think I was more forgiving on the phone use, knowing his profession, but not that its a healthy thing. Just from the understanding that his job allows no boundaries
I have to disagree with you about Clay. Yes he acknowledged that he has issues, but I feel like he's expecting AD to fix those issues for him instead of him actually doing the work and going to actual therapy. It's also not good for AD because she's once again fallen back into the pattern of trying to fix a broken man which clearly hasn't worked out for her. I think that Clay telling AD that about his father's infidelity and having no good role models when it comes to faithful men is basically him confessing that he's most likely going to end up cheating on AD. I don't think either of them should be in a relationship with anybody at this point. They should be in therapy working through their issues and trying to heal past traumas separately so they can stop ignoring red flags and make better decisions about who they allow in their life.
I think similarly, him sharing that was very vulnerable and admirable and I want to believe him that he genuinely is just anxious, but it could also be him trying to preemptively excuse his actions so that if he does end up cheating on her he can be like ah well, I did tell you this was such a big hurdle for me because of everything I've been through so you can't actually be mad at me because it'd be invalidating my history
I agree with you completely! It's great that Clay is opening up about these problematic things, but it's a long journey before he's ready for any commitment. He needs time to heal, then he can consider a realtionship. Whereas as you said AD needs to work on breaking out of that pattern. I know from experience what it's like to always want to help fix my partner to be what I preceive as the best versions of themselves! It not only doesn't work, but it broke me in the process every single time. It's a hard pattern to break and she won't be in a healthy relationship (yet alone a marriage) until she does break that pattern.
I definitely hear that on the preempt. I want to see the good side of everything but it could be a ‘I couldnt help it AD look at what Im working with”. And I agree with OP. As much as I want him to change he isnt in 21 days.
Hey! I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your content. You both are such intelligent, empathic, delightful people and I really appreciate hearing your thoughts on everything. Thanks for uploading and keep up the great work!
It's extremely harmful for Clay to be perpetuating the dangerous stereotype that all black men are unfaithful. I get that it's what he watched his father do, but the fact that he's like "I don't know if I can be faithful because I've never seen a black man be faithful" made me really sad. He can't really believe that, can he? I REALLY hope not.
I totally agree with you about Laura. I'm actually surprised that no one's holding her accountable, especially since everyone apologized to AD; they clearly know it was wrong. Remembering how badly Irina was dragged for giggling when someone was crying, I really hope the public holds her accountable.
Clay's speech about everyone around him cheating and his "fear" of letting her down is him setting up his excuse for when he does cheat in the future. I've heard it before and I've used it before when I was younger. It's fine if he's not ready for marriage but don't go on a show where the goal is marriage. If he needs therapy he needs to do that and spend some time working on himself before considering such a serious commitment.
People are contemplating Trevor and AD which could be a great couple. They’re both confident enough that they won’t be threatened by other people, they’re into fitness, they’re very interested in the care of their partners and both really attractive.
I am so with you on Jimmy so far. I think he is going to be bad again but right now I think the bad one in the relationship is Chelsea, her insecurities coming through verbally and through her actions can actually teeter towards toxic even though I understand why she feels that way. My prediction is Trevor and her will get together in the end since they will meet again and hopefully she will be happy. The common theme here is that all these contestants need therapy LOL
Clay is terrifying to me. Sweet, attentive, emotioanlly volatile. Silly but highly intelligent. I would not risk my heart on a man like that. The type that will cheat on you but you forgive them cause they have all the right words to make you laugh cry and try to make it work with them cause you know how hard they're working, what they've been through, and how sweet they can be 😅
For a couple who's not had a lot of experience in relationships (assuming, bc 20 yrs together), you're doing great making these calls based on your intuition and other means. I love that you say when something makes you uncomfortable even though you don't yet know why. Those are the best calls and so authentic. When people speak about those gut feelings it helps everyone else learn to connect to their own, perhaps lost intuition. Thank you for that. I give you permission for all my comments. The biggest red flag I think you might be missing (the severity of) and stands out to me is Chelsea's insecure attachment and lack of self-esteem. You have noticed it more lately, but I believe it's a very serious case and very destructive. Although I'm not a fan of Jimmy's, this is not something he's causing, nor something he could heal. His behavior leaves a lot to be desired, but even if he was as attentive as she would want him to be, the problem this poor woman suffers from would still find a way to wreak havoc. This complex is behind all the weird moves she's made and is making her hide her true intentions, makes her unable to be honest, or state her needs directly and uses passive aggressive moves and tiny manipulations to feel secure. Unfortunately those tactics don't work and she'll perpetuate this cycle until she get's real with herself and gets help for it. The irony is that when you have insecure attachment you are not attracted to seemingly secure connections (Trevor), but to testy ones (Jimmy) because your picker is screwed up by developmental trauma. I feel deeply for her. I was her when I was her age and much longer. But help is possible.
Im hearing this about Chelsea more and more. I think we both see the insecurity but like you said, dont grasp the severity of. We’re definitely going to be bringing this up
You guys are so great! Always make me smile! Speaking about Clay, I am of thought when someone tells you who they are, listen. Whether he is good intentioned or not, he is not ready for marriage or to be with one person. To me, he's setting the groundwork, so when he cheats he'll say I told you that's who I am. It may not be conscious on his part, but he's giving himself wiggle room. I don't think he's necessarily a bad guy, but not marriage material...yet :)
Why was the "bean dip" only done to AD? Then why would you ask someone else to single out AD again? To sexually touch/embarass her? I don't throw around racist labels but feel like Laura has some problems with AD whether she's fully aware of why. I also feel like Chelsea calling out ADs butt when Jimmy only said it to her was sus too. AD is too good for these ppl. Jimmys body language/actions don't match his words, that's why Chelsea is paranoid (her own fault for the Megan Fox reference) and acting needy because she knows he's not attracted to her.
I hear you on the Laura thing. Hearing from a few others on here, whether she meant it or not, Laura’s actions do probably have some latent racist tendency, and it at least follows a tradition of the way black women are treated in the US. This is what Ive seen others say and it jives with my understanding and interpretation
Another part of me thinks Clay is telling her everything so if/when he does something he will say see I told you i was this way so..... why are you mad.
This is exactly what it seems like. Clay is gross to me. I don’t have sympathy for him at all. If you know this is a problem for you then why are you on Love Is Blind trying to get married
I just found your channel and loved your review. I do have a different take on Clay. I felt like the way he told his father’s story to AD was almost manipulative like an excuse in case he cheats. Him saying that no men in his entourage is faithful just shows how poorly he chooses the people he surrounds himself with (excluding the dad of course).
@@Rachelle-cl6mnClearly, you have no idea what coping mechanisms are. Educate yourself so you don’t sound so detached and lacking compassion. Your mindset scares women like her & I.
@@nomihagan was it coping when she stood up and showed clay her goodies the first time they met? Lol I’m just not opposed to holding women accountable and seeing it for what it is. She loves that attention which is fine but y’all making it like this girl is some victim. Y’all always want women to be a victim lol she even said herself she doesn’t feel she deserves love and any woman who will say that has major insecurity issues and will tend to use sexualiity to fill that. Sorry that hurts 🤷🏽♀️
@@Rachelle-cl6mn both of these points are not mutually exclusive. Just because a woman is ok with being flirty and reveling in the attention does not mean that she cannot also be objectified.
@@Lexichi22 it’s not about flirting I never mentioned flirting I mentioned her showing off her goodies and clearly loving the attention that her body gets her (which is great she worked hard for it) it’s just how everyone talking about objectifying her. No one has done anything to her lol they are giving her the compliments and attention she likes. The only thing that was weird was the bean dip thing but think that was just a weird joke but she’s not some victim y’all want to make her out to be lol
I knew y’all were gonna hate the way the Jeramey/Laura convo went down. Was the way he brought it up needlessly ham-handed and hurting everyone for no reason? Probably! Was she awful for 1. any of it ever happening in the first place, and 2. the way she handled it throughout? Definitely!
Dude is doing the old " even if she did it all, ill fix it by apologizing." Naw I think we're past that, Laura is a b. That whole interaction with her family said they see it all but haven't reigned her in.
I think there’s more confusion watching this season because the editing is different. For example we never saw Amber talking to Matthew in the pods, even when Amber talked to AD they never even showed a flashback scene. I was also confused about why Jeramy was apologizing to Laura. 😂
I was diagnosed with deslexia I know that is misspelled 😂but no people always say they are and I’m like me too but they are just playing 🤪love listening to y’all ❤
Laura, 100% agreed. How are people not challenging her on her behavior I don't understand. Clay is a pleasant surprise to me because he's getting more and more vulnerable, inspired by AD. But I'm a bit tired of women having to do a lot of work to carry men's potential and continously push them to open up. I want to see what he will do to take responsibility for his growth, regardless of AD. So far so good, but we'll see if he's ready or just has the potential to be in a relationship like this later in life. AD has that red flag of feeling not deserving of love and father wound (Again, I feel for her, I can relate to that). She is so impressive though, so I'm hoping she will continue to work on that and find healing in this or another relationship.
Def worked with people like Laura. For some reason prople in their life skate through with her by not challenging the bear. I've told someone like that not to talk to me and the reaction I got was dumbfounded surprise. They've never been called out on!
Going back to the Laura/Jessica situation mentioned about 11 minutes in, I don't think that's as problematic as other people do. I think Laura had good intentions at first with wanting to protect Jessica while keeping Chelsea's confidence. However, it was impossible to do both in that situation which is why it didn't go well. That being said, just about everything else she says/does annoys me. She is controlling, knit-picky, and seems to have a need to always be right regardless of how wrong she is.
I love you all's grounded perspective and couple energy so much. Thank you for that. You're so refreshing to see and hear. 😊 I would like to honestly remind everyone that Kenneth was not the type of guy who dated white women and he's 25! And even though AD's intentions were good, they triggered his feelings of being outside of his comfort zone. And that's ok. Every person in every race is not going to be able to do interracial relationships. I don't think Brittany deserved the way he broke it off. He is defintely emotionally distant in relationships. I hope she finds the right black guy that will give her what she will thrive in, since that's her norm. Poor Jeremy just caved to Laura's madness. She's definitely the mean girl this season. I really wish AD would talk about herself more. She just lets Clay go way into his own feelings and thinking but she gives zero self expression. smh Regarding your comments about Jeremy apologizing to AD, you all are amazing in your ability to see and know the true issue in that cringey moment. TY Even though Jimmy "seems" as if he's trying to make it work with Chelsea, I absolutely have no doubt that he will lower the boom as soon as he sees Jessica in person. Like, he seems like the type of guy who will lie to you just to get an emotional moment to end. And with Chelsea's neediness, there's no other way for him to go, honestly. subscribed! 😊😊
love you guys, absolutely love watching your reactions. ashley, you probably get this comment all the time, but you sound exactly like jenna marbles and i'm obsessed with you (in a healthy, fan-like way)
All of that oohing and awwwing over Kenneth getting a chair for Brittany and look where they are now. I skipped past them after the pods until now because I thought they were solid, but Kenneth showed himself. As a man of the cloth, 👀 he dealt with Brittany unfairly and insincerly. He knew he wasn't attracted to her at the reveal. Yes AD and him did have a quick convo about kids, but a man who is in love and faithful wouldn't have been deterred by a stranger expressing their concerns about the future. If that's the case, any stranger in Walmart could tell him the same thing and we would get the same results. Whatever the reason, he wasn't into her. I hate how he shut down, froze her out, and then play it out like everything was all in Brittany's head and all her fault. Brittany seemed to be open, thoughtful, considerate, and patient and all Kenneth had was silence, phone staring, and go make me dinner. I can't feel sad for either Jimmy or Chelsea because they both choose this. It doesn't matter what Jimmy does because she will always live in fear of Jessica and that Megan Fox bait and Jimmy knows he choose shallowly, but I think by episode 7, he was trying to make it work and Chelsea was drowning in insecurity. Chelsea does zero self-reflection or admit to her own flaws. Everything is Jimmy's fault and the ghost of Jessica is always around. Chelsea's anxiety issues is the kind of thing that can make someone go crazy. I think Jimmy should run right now. Laura is a mean girl.
@@membriash I’m so sorry, I think it does too. I just got off of a recap for episode 7, but they bleed into another episode just like I did. I’m so sorry about that
Dont be sorry! I just caught up on 8 and 9 and I dont think I can find a single fault in your reasoning. The way Kenneth handled that felt like a principal in every way to me. He took her saying “we dont have a connection that id expect” and made it into “you dont like me I guess” and then bounced. It felt like he didnt own any of his shit while acting above it all. It was pretty frustrating and I feel like she had a bad go there. It wasnt horrible as a breakup goes but definitely not fair to Brittany imo
@@membriash I agree and I didn’t realize it until someone told me that Kenneth never unpacked his bags. He already knew. I hate how he Jedi mind tricked her and the thought that Brittany might have spent hours, days, weeks, or any time at all trying to figure SHE went wrong when that man really wasn’t her. Not with the way he handled it. It’s crazy!
Why do you guys talk about cultural things every time that a black person on the show does something stupid, like they are from another country. Everyone is american on that show no matter the race. Jesus! Clay just doesn't have manners on the table(period). Is not a class thing, too. His family is middle class, and he does have money.
I wasnt aware wed done this multiple times but Ill look out for it if it comes up again. Culture is a lot more than just “American”, like there are regional and household differences. I was specifically talking about my discomfort with “messy eating habits” and why I dont care when someone is deemed a messy eater, which I stand by my statement on. I could see he might be considered a messy eater by some, but I just wasnt really blown away. Maybe we are messy eaters too. I get how it might seem like I was attributing ‘culture’ to Clay’s mannerisms but it was meant as context for why I dont care about almost anyones habits, hence the noodle reference.
Kenneth wants a woman who can make herself happy so he doesn't have to talk or do any emotional work. Sad for Brittany man
Totally. Brittany did not deserve that.
Kenneth with his phone really pissed me off! If I’m in a honeymoon phase with somebody and moving in, and they tell me to make dinner, and then enjoy eating it with me and then go on their phone
I am asking him what he’s gonna make me for dinner! That expectation from him and disrespect was so out of line! really upsetting!
Yeah, him saying you make dinner is really only acceptable IMO if he was joking and was making dinner (or helping to) or something. That took me aback too. I think I was more forgiving on the phone use, knowing his profession, but not that its a healthy thing. Just from the understanding that his job allows no boundaries
I have to disagree with you about Clay. Yes he acknowledged that he has issues, but I feel like he's expecting AD to fix those issues for him instead of him actually doing the work and going to actual therapy. It's also not good for AD because she's once again fallen back into the pattern of trying to fix a broken man which clearly hasn't worked out for her. I think that Clay telling AD that about his father's infidelity and having no good role models when it comes to faithful men is basically him confessing that he's most likely going to end up cheating on AD.
I don't think either of them should be in a relationship with anybody at this point. They should be in therapy working through their issues and trying to heal past traumas separately so they can stop ignoring red flags and make better decisions about who they allow in their life.
I think similarly, him sharing that was very vulnerable and admirable and I want to believe him that he genuinely is just anxious, but it could also be him trying to preemptively excuse his actions so that if he does end up cheating on her he can be like ah well, I did tell you this was such a big hurdle for me because of everything I've been through so you can't actually be mad at me because it'd be invalidating my history
I agree with you completely! It's great that Clay is opening up about these problematic things, but it's a long journey before he's ready for any commitment. He needs time to heal, then he can consider a realtionship.
Whereas as you said AD needs to work on breaking out of that pattern. I know from experience what it's like to always want to help fix my partner to be what I preceive as the best versions of themselves! It not only doesn't work, but it broke me in the process every single time. It's a hard pattern to break and she won't be in a healthy relationship (yet alone a marriage) until she does break that pattern.
I definitely hear that on the preempt. I want to see the good side of everything but it could be a ‘I couldnt help it AD look at what Im working with”. And I agree with OP. As much as I want him to change he isnt in 21 days.
Hey! I just wanted to tell you how much I enjoy your content. You both are such intelligent, empathic, delightful people and I really appreciate hearing your thoughts on everything. Thanks for uploading and keep up the great work!
Those are very kind words, thank you
It's extremely harmful for Clay to be perpetuating the dangerous stereotype that all black men are unfaithful. I get that it's what he watched his father do, but the fact that he's like "I don't know if I can be faithful because I've never seen a black man be faithful" made me really sad. He can't really believe that, can he? I REALLY hope not.
I totally agree with you about Laura. I'm actually surprised that no one's holding her accountable, especially since everyone apologized to AD; they clearly know it was wrong. Remembering how badly Irina was dragged for giggling when someone was crying, I really hope the public holds her accountable.
I would hate to work with her. She was concerned what her coworkers would think, now Im over here wondering
Clay's speech about everyone around him cheating and his "fear" of letting her down is him setting up his excuse for when he does cheat in the future. I've heard it before and I've used it before when I was younger. It's fine if he's not ready for marriage but don't go on a show where the goal is marriage. If he needs therapy he needs to do that and spend some time working on himself before considering such a serious commitment.
Definitely agree here. It is baffling why he would even be on this show with his view on marriage
People are contemplating Trevor and AD which could be a great couple. They’re both confident enough that they won’t be threatened by other people, they’re into fitness, they’re very interested in the care of their partners and both really attractive.
Trevor is hitting on Jessica on IG
I never thought about that but I am loving the idea. I am not rooting for the Trevor & Chelsea anymore because he deserves better.
I am so with you on Jimmy so far. I think he is going to be bad again but right now I think the bad one in the relationship is Chelsea, her insecurities coming through verbally and through her actions can actually teeter towards toxic even though I understand why she feels that way. My prediction is Trevor and her will get together in the end since they will meet again and hopefully she will be happy. The common theme here is that all these contestants need therapy LOL
Clay is terrifying to me. Sweet, attentive, emotioanlly volatile. Silly but highly intelligent. I would not risk my heart on a man like that. The type that will cheat on you but you forgive them cause they have all the right words to make you laugh cry and try to make it work with them cause you know how hard they're working, what they've been through, and how sweet they can be 😅
I love how every video Ashley has new frames
For a couple who's not had a lot of experience in relationships (assuming, bc 20 yrs together), you're doing great making these calls based on your intuition and other means. I love that you say when something makes you uncomfortable even though you don't yet know why. Those are the best calls and so authentic. When people speak about those gut feelings it helps everyone else learn to connect to their own, perhaps lost intuition. Thank you for that.
I give you permission for all my comments.
The biggest red flag I think you might be missing (the severity of) and stands out to me is Chelsea's insecure attachment and lack of self-esteem. You have noticed it more lately, but I believe it's a very serious case and very destructive. Although I'm not a fan of Jimmy's, this is not something he's causing, nor something he could heal. His behavior leaves a lot to be desired, but even if he was as attentive as she would want him to be, the problem this poor woman suffers from would still find a way to wreak havoc. This complex is behind all the weird moves she's made and is making her hide her true intentions, makes her unable to be honest, or state her needs directly and uses passive aggressive moves and tiny manipulations to feel secure. Unfortunately those tactics don't work and she'll perpetuate this cycle until she get's real with herself and gets help for it.
The irony is that when you have insecure attachment you are not attracted to seemingly secure connections (Trevor), but to testy ones (Jimmy) because your picker is screwed up by developmental trauma.
I feel deeply for her. I was her when I was her age and much longer. But help is possible.
Im hearing this about Chelsea more and more. I think we both see the insecurity but like you said, dont grasp the severity of. We’re definitely going to be bringing this up
You guys are so great! Always make me smile!
Speaking about Clay, I am of thought when someone tells you who they are, listen. Whether he is good intentioned or not, he is not ready for marriage or to be with one person. To me, he's setting the groundwork, so when he cheats he'll say I told you that's who I am. It may not be conscious on his part, but he's giving himself wiggle room.
I don't think he's necessarily a bad guy, but not marriage material...yet :)
I really look forward on ya’ll’s thoughts on the last two.
It will take Clay a long time to unlearn those behaviors he was taught. AD will be a long suffering wife
I really appreciate the dialogue you guys are having about real-life issues,m
Thank you!
Why was the "bean dip" only done to AD? Then why would you ask someone else to single out AD again? To sexually touch/embarass her? I don't throw around racist labels but feel like Laura has some problems with AD whether she's fully aware of why. I also feel like Chelsea calling out ADs butt when Jimmy only said it to her was sus too. AD is too good for these ppl.
Jimmys body language/actions don't match his words, that's why Chelsea is paranoid (her own fault for the Megan Fox reference) and acting needy because she knows he's not attracted to her.
I hear you on the Laura thing. Hearing from a few others on here, whether she meant it or not, Laura’s actions do probably have some latent racist tendency, and it at least follows a tradition of the way black women are treated in the US. This is what Ive seen others say and it jives with my understanding and interpretation
I have never heard of bean dip in this way. No one touched me at random during school 😂
Another part of me thinks Clay is telling her everything so if/when he does something he will say see I told you i was this way so..... why are you mad.
This is exactly what it seems like. Clay is gross to me. I don’t have sympathy for him at all. If you know this is a problem for you then why are you on Love Is Blind trying to get married
@@Istandinthesun943 Don't get a wife get therapy. He is also silently promoting his business
I just found your channel and loved your review. I do have a different take on Clay. I felt like the way he told his father’s story to AD was almost manipulative like an excuse in case he cheats. Him saying that no men in his entourage is faithful just shows how poorly he chooses the people he surrounds himself with (excluding the dad of course).
Thank you! Ive been hearing this alot and can see that being the case. Were doing a follow up video soon, sharing peoples comments to talk about this
I love this, episode six was triggering the objectification of AD was wild I’m glad you will dedicate a video about this super thoughtful
Y’all keep saying this like she isn’t calling for that attention. Y’all are more offended than her lol she loves it
@@Rachelle-cl6mnClearly, you have no idea what coping mechanisms are. Educate yourself so you don’t sound so detached and lacking compassion. Your mindset scares women like her & I.
@@nomihagan was it coping when she stood up and showed clay her goodies the first time they met? Lol I’m just not opposed to holding women accountable and seeing it for what it is. She loves that attention which is fine but y’all making it like this girl is some victim. Y’all always want women to be a victim lol she even said herself she doesn’t feel she deserves love and any woman who will say that has major insecurity issues and will tend to use sexualiity to fill that. Sorry that hurts 🤷🏽♀️
@@Rachelle-cl6mn both of these points are not mutually exclusive. Just because a woman is ok with being flirty and reveling in the attention does not mean that she cannot also be objectified.
@@Lexichi22 it’s not about flirting I never mentioned flirting I mentioned her showing off her goodies and clearly loving the attention that her body gets her (which is great she worked hard for it) it’s just how everyone talking about objectifying her. No one has done anything to her lol they are giving her the compliments and attention she likes. The only thing that was weird was the bean dip thing but think that was just a weird joke but she’s not some victim y’all want to make her out to be lol
I knew y’all were gonna hate the way the Jeramey/Laura convo went down. Was the way he brought it up needlessly ham-handed and hurting everyone for no reason? Probably! Was she awful for 1. any of it ever happening in the first place, and 2. the way she handled it throughout? Definitely!
Laura got away with everything she feels like a bully to me and is clearly oblivious to how she makes other people feel
Dude is doing the old " even if she did it all, ill fix it by apologizing." Naw I think we're past that, Laura is a b. That whole interaction with her family said they see it all but haven't reigned her in.
I think there’s more confusion watching this season because the editing is different. For example we never saw Amber talking to Matthew in the pods, even when Amber talked to AD they never even showed a flashback scene.
I was also confused about why Jeramy was apologizing to Laura. 😂
I was diagnosed with deslexia I know that is misspelled 😂but no people always say they are and I’m like me too but they are just playing 🤪love listening to y’all ❤
Gonna watch this tomorrow. You guys are absolutely lovely and hilarious! Glad I found y’all
Laura, 100% agreed. How are people not challenging her on her behavior I don't understand.
Clay is a pleasant surprise to me because he's getting more and more vulnerable, inspired by AD. But I'm a bit tired of women having to do a lot of work to carry men's potential and continously push them to open up. I want to see what he will do to take responsibility for his growth, regardless of AD. So far so good, but we'll see if he's ready or just has the potential to be in a relationship like this later in life.
AD has that red flag of feeling not deserving of love and father wound (Again, I feel for her, I can relate to that). She is so impressive though, so I'm hoping she will continue to work on that and find healing in this or another relationship.
Def worked with people like Laura. For some reason prople in their life skate through with her by not challenging the bear. I've told someone like that not to talk to me and the reaction I got was dumbfounded surprise. They've never been called out on!
Going back to the Laura/Jessica situation mentioned about 11 minutes in, I don't think that's as problematic as other people do. I think Laura had good intentions at first with wanting to protect Jessica while keeping Chelsea's confidence. However, it was impossible to do both in that situation which is why it didn't go well. That being said, just about everything else she says/does annoys me. She is controlling, knit-picky, and seems to have a need to always be right regardless of how wrong she is.
I agree with your Laura Jessica dynamic not being that bad. In isolation I moved past it pretty quick for the reason you stated
I love you all's grounded perspective and couple energy so much. Thank you for that. You're so refreshing to see and hear. 😊 I would like to honestly remind everyone that Kenneth was not the type of guy who dated white women and he's 25! And even though AD's intentions were good, they triggered his feelings of being outside of his comfort zone. And that's ok. Every person in every race is not going to be able to do interracial relationships. I don't think Brittany deserved the way he broke it off. He is defintely emotionally distant in relationships. I hope she finds the right black guy that will give her what she will thrive in, since that's her norm. Poor Jeremy just caved to Laura's madness. She's definitely the mean girl this season. I really wish AD would talk about herself more. She just lets Clay go way into his own feelings and thinking but she gives zero self expression. smh Regarding your comments about Jeremy apologizing to AD, you all are amazing in your ability to see and know the true issue in that cringey moment. TY Even though Jimmy "seems" as if he's trying to make it work with Chelsea, I absolutely have no doubt that he will lower the boom as soon as he sees Jessica in person. Like, he seems like the type of guy who will lie to you just to get an emotional moment to end. And with Chelsea's neediness, there's no other way for him to go, honestly. subscribed! 😊😊
Thank you!
I came back to this after watching 8 and 9 cause I think there was a Kenneth/Brittany spoiler but I love your perspective. Thank you for sharing
@@membriash 🩷
love you guys, absolutely love watching your reactions. ashley, you probably get this comment all the time, but you sound exactly like jenna marbles and i'm obsessed with you (in a healthy, fan-like way)
This is actually the second time today, and ever, and for Ashley that is the nicest thing ever. Like S tier comparison
All of that oohing and awwwing over Kenneth getting a chair for Brittany and look where they are now. I skipped past them after the pods until now because I thought they were solid, but Kenneth showed himself. As a man of the cloth, 👀 he dealt with Brittany unfairly and insincerly. He knew he wasn't attracted to her at the reveal. Yes AD and him did have a quick convo about kids, but a man who is in love and faithful wouldn't have been deterred by a stranger expressing their concerns about the future. If that's the case, any stranger in Walmart could tell him the same thing and we would get the same results. Whatever the reason, he wasn't into her. I hate how he shut down, froze her out, and then play it out like everything was all in Brittany's head and all her fault. Brittany seemed to be open, thoughtful, considerate, and patient and all Kenneth had was silence, phone staring, and go make me dinner.
I can't feel sad for either Jimmy or Chelsea because they both choose this. It doesn't matter what Jimmy does because she will always live in fear of Jessica and that Megan Fox bait and Jimmy knows he choose shallowly, but I think by episode 7, he was trying to make it work and Chelsea was drowning in insecurity. Chelsea does zero self-reflection or admit to her own flaws. Everything is Jimmy's fault and the ghost of Jessica is always around. Chelsea's anxiety issues is the kind of thing that can make someone go crazy. I think Jimmy should run right now.
Laura is a mean girl.
Ima come back to this after we get through an episode or two cause I think there might be spoilers but thank you for thoughtfully commenting
@@membriash I’m so sorry, I think it does too. I just got off of a recap for episode 7, but they bleed into another episode just like I did. I’m so sorry about that
Dont be sorry! I just caught up on 8 and 9 and I dont think I can find a single fault in your reasoning. The way Kenneth handled that felt like a principal in every way to me. He took her saying “we dont have a connection that id expect” and made it into “you dont like me I guess” and then bounced. It felt like he didnt own any of his shit while acting above it all. It was pretty frustrating and I feel like she had a bad go there. It wasnt horrible as a breakup goes but definitely not fair to Brittany imo
@@membriash I agree and I didn’t realize it until someone told me that Kenneth never unpacked his bags. He already knew. I hate how he Jedi mind tricked her and the thought that Brittany might have spent hours, days, weeks, or any time at all trying to figure SHE went wrong when that man really wasn’t her. Not with the way he handled it. It’s crazy!
Brittany said she wanted to be a submissive wife
Why do you guys talk about cultural things every time that a black person on the show does something stupid, like they are from another country. Everyone is american on that show no matter the race. Jesus!
Clay just doesn't have manners on the table(period). Is not a class thing, too. His family is middle class, and he does have money.
I wasnt aware wed done this multiple times but Ill look out for it if it comes up again. Culture is a lot more than just “American”, like there are regional and household differences. I was specifically talking about my discomfort with “messy eating habits” and why I dont care when someone is deemed a messy eater, which I stand by my statement on. I could see he might be considered a messy eater by some, but I just wasnt really blown away. Maybe we are messy eaters too. I get how it might seem like I was attributing ‘culture’ to Clay’s mannerisms but it was meant as context for why I dont care about almost anyones habits, hence the noodle reference.