how I remain unbothered.
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STOP GIVING EXPLANATIONS IN 2020!
I feel like as women we are often told we need to make everyone comfortable and fill awkward situations with nice words. I’m working on this now and taking back my power with SILENCE. Thank you for sharing!
YES. 🦋✌🏼
I feel like a lot of us feel the same way. Personally, I’m working on this too. Sometimes it can get hard since it’s a habit that we were taught very young. I wish you the best on your journey. Life is going to be amazingly great once we realize it’s not our job to make anyone feel comfortable.
💯💯💯
YES!
PREACH GIRL ❣️
@Ickalocka boobooday no one said it was. It's just a sexism thing that mostly happens to women. Men are not stereotyped as "more maternal" "naturally comforting" or "instinctively nurturing" the way women are and that's just a simple fact. So when women "fail" to fulfill those expectations, they are punished.
How this queen remains unbothered-
1. shutting off social media
2. not expecting so much out of people
3. living to please yourself
4. talking less
Thanku so much❤
❤️
That's me and it bothers others so much but do i care no . I have one life and imma live it the way i want
Legit me, only media I have now is tik tok lmao. I’m so unbothered with life. Anything could get in my way but I couldn’t care less lmfaoo😭😭
Yass!
i feel like we all are mildly annoyed at humanity
right like we can launch a goddamn rocket into space yet we can’t figure out how to just be considerate and accepting of eachother 😔 smh
Not humanity but people and society
Mildly?
C.U.N.Tahiti my thoughts exactly. I’m extremely annoyed with humanity.
Lana Marie deeply.
Never attach your happiness to a person, you'll never be happy that way.
Woah thank you for that 😅
Unless that person is yourself of course 💙💙💙
Exactly be blessed everyone
@@yall955 yES PREACh
@@minfires7572 Thx lol
"it's not your job to make people realize that they are morons"- goddess kelly stamps
This! You need to realize that someone out there is gonna take care of that for you...
"it's not your job to make people realize that they're morons"
Quote of the week!
wish i heard this while i was with my ex LMAO
It's not my job because I do it for free
🤣great quote
YESSS!!! I was coming to the comments to see if anyone else picked up on this gem
i was laughing for straight 5 minutes XD
*Me still caring about an embarrassing incident that happened when I was 7: 👁👄👁*
So relatable
Relatee
I been doing that since this coronavirus and I’m not graceful so I have a lot of memories 🥴😑
YESS! like i'm a bothered kween 😩
Same! I wish there's a delete button for the memories.
Idk why introverts are made to feel like they are less human or something. You hit the nail of the head tbh, just be yourself, thats always enough.
Spill
Like 70% of the population is introverted...?
But ok
@@dc9067 idk if that’s true really, but as someone who used to be incredibly socially anxious, a teacher would literally say that being shy will get you no where in life! so yeah ppl are really mean to introverts
@@bunnygutz7884 there's a difference between shyness and introversion, though. I've met shy extroverts and very socially skilled introverts. It is true that being very shy can be a problem in certain areas of life, especially if you combine that shyness with a fear of confrontation (as I did). Introversion and extroversion are a whole different thing. Those just depend on whether you derive energy from being alone or being around people. It's got nothing to do with your level of social skill.
@@zetaforever4953 but introverts *are* looked down at.
If you can’t actively change a situation, do not put your energy into it. Put your energy into things you can actively change
You mean like the new world order? or the Great Reset? LOL
@@davemwangi05 No, she means our social situations, immediate surroundings and circumstances. Self care!
@@soniamo4139 can we change the great reset? Or we should just let it go, and not bother to put our energy into it?
She wants pasta! This is how she fulfills her desire for her pasta-coitus or something. Her verbatim not mine.
@@nathanboyer7739 she was joking
Kinda reminds me of stoicism. You can’t control the world but you can control how you react to it...
I was literally going to comment this but you beat me to it
But very stressful.
@@ajl2232 in its essence it shouldn't be stressful cause you shouldn't worry about things that are inevitable
I love the stoics good people.
That's what I was thinking
The fact that I wasn’t even questioning her holding a spatula this entire video
Shhhhh, the spatula is the real instrument she uses to remain unbothered
Ah, you are on your way! Lol
Didn't even notice til I read this comment lmao
me too 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
I didn’t even notice until I read your comment 😭😂
"I have my masters degree in dissociating" yeah
I laughed for a good while with that!! 😆😆😆
eyyyy samehere
I deleted my social media around May, this was after my ex broke up with me. I didn't want to be seen anywhere, stalked, looked at haha I just wanted to fall off the face of the earth. I did just that :) Those people who hurt me and betrayed will see me and hear about me one day. I am loving the quiet life without social media. I am in the process of finding myself, not pleasing anybody anymore and standing in my power. so glad I FOUND YOUR CHANNEL YOU ARE FUCKING AWESOME! I am going to start to take your advice, I am pushing myself to be outgoing/extrovert again because I miss that me but at the same time I know that I do not really have much to say to people. :)
Omg, literally same! We got this! 💪🏾 👑
It has been quite a journey but going off social media has helped me so much! Hope you are doing well and hell yeah we do got this! :D
@@krissyleigh8885 I officially deleted Instagram yesterday after months of on & off "relationship" with it...and I already feel so much better! It's truly feels like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders. It's crazy to realize how addicted I was to social media but
I'm finally starting to focus on myself and personal growth...good luck to all of us on our personal journeys. 🙌🏾❤
THANK YOU KRISSY
Same! It’s refreshing not having to see what the world is trying to keep up with.
“It’s not your job to make people realize that they are morons” this quote made me subscribe
I need this in my life. Thank you
you still need that morons to get shit done for you...
I'm actually putting this sentence on a shirt
@@campkira true, what if they are everywhere around you 😩
What if those people verbally and physically harass you?
*"You don't need to be the loudest person in the room to come across as the smartest"*
This is officially my life's new mantra
Me too
100% 🎯🎯🎯
I love that!!! 😍
this was such a good quote. it's only the people who think they're the smartest that are the loudest lol
So true! My parents would always say "the emptiest drums make the loudest noise"
the 4 t i p s are:
1. shutting off social media
2. lowering expectations of other people
3. living to please yourself and only yourself
4. talking less
The key to happiness is not trying to please everyone, not trying to make everyone understand you. Not everyone likes peanut butter. Not everyone is going to understand you. Don't waste energy on things / people that don't serve you.
Kelly I love your content. It's REAL. Keep it up girl, you rock!
I wanna serve you. will you waste energy on me?
That sounds antisocial… but more power to you
Learn to be OK with not invited, included or considered.
How about when you're truly ok with it but people make a deal of it and then you're indirectly feeling not included when that wasn't your initial feeling...??
@@cherrellbovain9138 if you truly dgaf, nothing anyone says can make you feel no type of way! 💅🏽
@@cherrellbovain9138 confront them, if they don't budge cut them off.
This is the hardest thing, especially when you invite, include and consider everyone. But it needs to be done.
This is so hard tho
shes so confident in herself that I didn't even realize she was holding a spatula the whole video. because she held it with confidence. lmfaooo I want that kind of confidence.
Lacey Carter maybe until she read the comments
First thing that stood out, tbh.
you want spatula holding confidence, lol
Oh, she knew. She just didn't care.
My confidence and self esteem is getting better.
Since i deleted my insta account, i feel so much better, 'cause we live in a world of constant comparison with others (at least in industrial countries), which is lethal. Just find yourself and be yourself!
No desire to go back onto it! Being fully present is amazing! It’s so easy and effortless to not even think about going back onto it!
I got rid of social media. Got sick of peoples pointless crazy egotistical approval needing comments
Samee
But you are here.. LMMFAO 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂🙌🙌😸🐣
@@TheKonga88 RUclips isn’t really classed as a social media though, he obviously means like Instagram, Facebook, Twitter so on
@@colz5203 ( a little rant about social media, sorry )
idk, but twitter makes me feel WAY better than instagram or facebook. When i open facebook or instagram i have the feeling of fear that im gonna regret it, and im always right. But on the other side, when i open twitter, i just see what I want to see, nobody there even responds to my comments ( strangely) which is even better because nobody will ,,criticize,, my opinion or expressions. And i always find people who i relate to there. Idk, but twitter and youtube make me happier than ever .. maybe its because i dont go on twitter often, but still.. i like the atmosphere there while the atmosphere ESPECIALLY in insta is making me kinda cry before even opening that app because of the trauma i bear from that app.
@@Teo-eu9cn omg you put it in words! ive been wondering why i don't like instagram these past couple of months and you just spoke my mind. im gonna take a sc of this comment to show anyone who asks for an explanation haha. thank you so much! appreciate it.
“Masters degree in dissociating, even during sex” I am ... also,
I subscribed after that comment...
“You don’t have to be the loudest person in the room to come across as the smartest” YES!
ok i love that line
My life’s mantra 💁♀️✨
wHY DO YOU ASSUME YOU RE THE SMARTEST IN THE ROOM
holy shit that's been my problem, i'm so insecure I gotta prove myself somewhere somehow. especially when i'm drunk lol
Absolutely yes
“don’t you think that it’s boring how people talk? let em’ talk.” -Lorde
@Ummm same
@Ummm
it just means to leave people who always give meaningless chatters. Let them talk and just do what you gotta do. 🤩
😂😂😂😂
I LOVE YOU HAHAHA
Ouiiiiii
Update: Wow this got a lot of views y'all better subscribe and join the stampede. *If I knew this many people would watch I would've brushed my hair a lil bit.*
Kelly Stamps your awesome 💛⚡️
I love you girl. Haven’t watched the whole video (cuz it went like 45 seconds ago lol)
But you’re so worthy of all the love your getting you’re encouraging so many to become creators and sharing the hope the black community needs! I’m so proud to have found your work! And I also did the same two weeks ago. I deleted all the apps off my phone 2 weeks ago. And I’m so thankful for the focus I have. Yes! Great work!
@@MelitaRichardson whew girl I forgot how to function without constantly checking instagram and citizen, how sad. I feel like a new person!
Love your content kelly!!
All of your videos deserve all the ads!😁👍❤
“Talk less and strangers are less likely to give their unsolicited advice”
Yeah I learned to do this with overbearing classmates as well. Not giving anyone anything to work with. Made my days easier.
@@a.h.5555 I agree, you're generally left alone.
However, people still notice you and will probably gossip behind your back, but I don't lose any sleep over it.
Read that right as she said it lol
👏👏 Amen
@@spikey0034 I decided that i am ok with people gossiping behind my back, that means they are wasting their time, it's not productive. I want to use my time in a more productive way.
If Daria the cartoon character was a real person, she'd be Kelly Stamps. We just LOVE her so much!
From MTV hahaha
I swear I always think this when watching her videos
“Black, sassy, and skinny” 😂 Girl, I cannot with you! You’re hilarious! 💯❤️
“I have my master’s degree in dissociation”...if that ain’t my forever mood then I don’t know what is! Keeps me level headed!
Me too.
Literally a forever mood
🎯🎯🎯
this comment --- I am glad it was made ^_^
I literally laughed. Keep at it girl!
My advice? Realize that you’re not famous enough for people to be constantly thinking about you or judging you, you start caring way less and actually get more confident with yourself.
I need this
Just get smart, rich,help out your friends(people who you feel are worthy) and don't give a shit about anything else
"You'd care alot less about what people think about you when you realise how seldom they do"
Феликс Хазарский, tell me how does one just get smart
Thanks David So
“What am I going to eat for pasta later” honestly same
Literally me. 🤣
I read the thumbnail as: "Stop Overthinking, Stop Caring, Stop Living"
Those are the words to follow lmao
Truer words have never been spoken
s t o p l i v i n g
😂😂😂
“It’s not your job to make people realize that they are morons”
I think I’m going to get that put on a
T-shirt 🤣🤣🤣
😭😭😭 DO IT 👏🏾👏🏾
I'd buy that tbh
i like that too TT
I love it!
“Do not waste your time trying to convince people that you’re right. They’ve already made up their mind about you.” 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🖤
Easy to say, hard to put in practice =(
THIS!!!
That is so scary, seeing people everyday treating me as less than them...is terrifying to me
Wendy Yang stay strong cut everybody off and level up😤
Amen
"are we pokemon" hahaahaha, Stamps you have the BEST one liners
If we Pokemon I would be Corsola. Pink and pretty. Fragile but now and again I reflect things back.
She’s so amazing to be so young!!! It took me til my late 20’s to have this kind of strong attitude. She is very intuitive and smart.
On the thumbnail I literally read
"Stop overthinking"
"Stop caring"
"Stop living" oops
I died 💀
LMAOOO
Saame
Same I had to go back and reread.
I was like "I guess I'll just die then"
Same lmaoo
“I have my masters degree in disassociation” lemme tell you I hit subscribe
Me too!!!...As soon as she said that I hit subscribe 🤣💯🤣
Lmaoooo
THAT’S WHEN I HIT SUBSCRIBE 😭😭😭
Same. I thought i was the only person who was unbothered at this point
Same
I need some black sassy skinny friends to go to the park with. 🤣
Same 🥺 I need to meet girls like me
@@leticiaviera1151 she is black 🧍🏾♀️
@@kee7374 fr
Why do they have to be skinny though
@@BubbleGumBxtch They don't :) Just was repeating what she said :)
i love her personality, i can tell she’s independent 😌
please run for president. kelly stamps is a politician’s name don’t deny fate kelly
TRUE
Yes, Kelly should run for 2020.
A strangely convincing comment
IT REALLY IS AND HER VOICE SOUNDS LIKE IT WOULD SPEAK FOR SOME BOMB ASS LEGISLATION
I really don’t like humans and this...was what I needed.
Kenyatah Austin but you are a human...
Kenyatah Austin guess you're a plant then?
I dont like you too :>
so edgy and cool
@googlesucks ok anything for you babes 😚😉❤
I deleted Instagram too. Such a waste of time!
And waste of storage :)
I deleted my clown nose account, I just couldn't keep looking at lollipops anymore 🙌🙌🙌🙌🎅🎅🎄🎄🎤🏭🐸🐸🌙🌕🌜🌛🐦🌎👃👃🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭🍭
“It’s not your job to make people realize that they are morons” really hit home for me Lmfaoo also kelly is so damn stoic
“Stop expecting so much out of people”
this is gold
"I am what I am, and I do what I do. I accept everything and I expect nothing. And life is so much easier that way". Anthony Hopkins. A motto for Ataraxia.
No it's not
Easier said than done!
Kelly Stamps true😢 I’ll get there someday with practice...maybe
@@crystalliveslife Don't say maybe. Believe it
2 power tips to being an unbothered queen/king: Only speaking when necessary, not dwelling in what doesn't concern you.
Yo i have a story about that. So i was having a therapist right? Because i wanted a diagnosis for some medical issue i had. So i talked to her for a while but after a short while i realised she was kinda bad at her job so i put on my polite quietness thing and you know what happened? She completely ignored the issue i had and diagnosed me with some sort of avoidant personality disorder just cause i was distant to her because she annoyed me. So yeah that makes sense because i am totally not the exact opposite.
So yeah apparently you need to be your most extroverted self to therapist otherwise they'll diagnose personality traits as a disorder.
Xiahoud assalamu 3alaykom, is that from a hadith or in the quran? :)
I love your username, are you Somali?
Yessss ✌🌻
@@neotyppe4469 That's so shitty! ✌🌻 Hope you finally got good help 💜
I watched it twice. Now I'm pulling out my notebook to watch it again, this time taking notes. I mean, highlithters and all.
unrelated but what shoes is she wearing? its so pretty
www.jonak-paris.com/collection/shoes/flats-ballet-flats/mary-janes-with-square-heel/6647.html
@@KellyStamps are they comfy?
@@KellyStamps oh i was gonna say they look like my jonak shoes !
"If you took black people as seriously as you took your little selfies, we wouldn't be in this predicament. Sis was so shook, she shanked" This got me over the edge XD.... GENIUS
😭😭😭😭 HER READS BE LYFEEEEE 🔥🔥🔥🔥
@JamminJazzie Productions Sorry I'm slow 😂 Please explain. So I know what selfie's are. But does she want us to take our selfie's seriously, or people around us?
Saira Ailia I think what she was trying to say is that people who take selfies usually take great care in taking them, whether they take multiple, look for the best lighting, angle, etc. to get the best shot. Overall, there are some people who take selfies more serious than others and honestly, I take selfies keeping all those things in mind. Black people aren’t treated well in the USA to put it mildly but if people took them as seriously as they take their selfies, then there wouldn’t be this problem. I don’t speak for her but I think she wants people to care for black people at least as much as people care for how they take selfies.
The part that got me was the sis was so shook, she shanked part bc that was a hilarious play on words.
@abc defg you're watching someone who's black rn?
@abc defg uhhh 😐 why not
I've been practicing this for almost 2 years now, and I honestly couldn't care less about anything; I go to college I listen to my music and have few friends no boyfriend no social media no bullshit just a peaceful simple life.
Queeeeen!! or Kinggggg!!
I strive for this
@@eval3509 same, let's reach that level of tranquillity
THIS. this is it
How please?
"Are we Pokemon? If so, I wanna be Mudkip." guuuuurl lmao
Are we plastic ventriloquist dummies, if so I want to be a fish 🐠🐠🐟🐟🐟🐟🍭🍭🍭🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🐸🎄🎄🎄🐦🐦🏭🎅🎅🎅🐣😸😸🌃🌃🌕🌜🌛🐀🐁👽
One thing my mum said to me, in one of the most difficult times in my life, was : "It only matters as much as you make it matter"
And i love that. Have to remind myself that quite often when i get overwhelmed. But this is honestly life changing.
If I had your attitude, girl, I could’ve conquered the world by now.
Same !!! Instantly subbed.
you put my exact thoughts into words
Omar Abdi Abdulla that is very true!
As an introvert who often doesn't talk if I feel there's nothing worth saying, it was great to hear you validate talking less and to stop thinking about making others happy by changing and forcing myself to try to be extroverted. It's painful to try to talk to others a lot of the time, so why should I care if they think I should be talking?
yes!! Really made me realize how silly it is to force extroversion.
But is it bad that I want to force myself to be an extrovert because when I’m extroverted I feel excited and when I’m quite I don’t feel so good but at the same time talking does feel draining, I like talking to ppl who are just as excited and interested in the convo as me.
I’m an introvert and recently i decided to go out to my first party and everyone started talking about how much i have changed and how i am now a “clout chaser”💔but i just wanted to get out of my comfort zone. I feel so embarrassed and i regret going out because everyone’s talking about me and i can’t stop overthinking. I should have not went to that party and my life would been easier...any advice?
Kea Mashita Get new friends. Those people aren’t worth your time. And don’t try to be something you’re not. People can sense it and take it the wrong way.
Anaya same, I feel the same, like I like when I push myself a lil and talk to people and have fun but it’s soo hard and I get so anxious when I’m alone in class and have no one to talk to all I think about is having now one and every one thinks I’m a loser or loner whatever it might be, I want to be social but it’s hard:( I try each year and I get a little better but it’s still hard like I’ve said lol.. I do want to have my alone time aswell but that’s when I’m home or something but when I’m in social places like school I don’t want to be alone. I have this vision for myself to be a unbothered badass and lives life to be happy and feel good, I don’t want to feel stuck all the time anymore. Sometimes I can’t get words out and I feel like I might be looked down upon cause I’m quiet sometimes, I want to be the part of the day when people talk to me they feel better not worse. I dunno but I can go on and on about this vision so I hope I can stop being so shy sometimes. Also a step I’m gonna make is my fashion and I’m pretty lowkey about my fashion but in reality I love to style outfits and dress up so I might do that more. (I heard dressing up helps build your character, for awhile it’s like u wear a costume but then it becomes u) I hope dressing up helps me become more bold in my social actions aswell! Anyways this is my little story..
I just wanna say thank you. I’m having a bad period in my depression and this is so encouraging.
I deleted my social media too. I don't know why people post a lot of negativity
"I have a master's degree in dissociating"
I'm DEAD😂😂😂
Staying off social media has significantly improved my mental health. I was constantly on social media watching the violence that's going on. I wanted to be informed about what people were going through, but it got to a point where it was unhealthy. It's important to staying informed, but constantly watching violence isn't it.
I completely agree with you, I notice the same thing, that by being on social media and witnessing all these violent protesting going on it brings out these negative energy and thoughts , especially I suffer from mild anxiety, so I decided to get off social media except on youtube because I can control what I watch..only God can get us through this.
Me too!!!! I had to get off of Instagram and Facebook!! Omg!!!! What a choice I made for my mental health🙏🏽
I did the same too sis, I was done with social media because I wanted my mental health to be better
If you think watching it is unhealthy, you should try and experiencing it. Interesting how the black girls and the white girls are taking the same approach.
Shelby Wolf I get where you’re coming from. But I just don’t think it’s the best route to tell people what feels to me to essentially be, “oh your mental health is bad? Well black girls’ are worse right now so shut up and keep up.” Yes, a lot of white people are now becoming aware of the immense amount of trauma and pain we have as black women. Yes, us black women have been carrying this immense weight for all our lives. But white women who are just now realizing it and becoming aware and educating themselves (or those who were aware anyway but couldn’t make big changes on their own) are just getting their feet in and it’s hard. It’s really, really hard to enter this kind of awareness and stay hyperalert when you aren’t used to it. We’re all people. I think if white people are a little overwhelmed by this, it’s okay to let em take a break. As long as they remain committed and willing to continue to fight for justice, I don’t see an issue. Hell, I should probably take a break from all this mess too.
I can completely relate to the panic attacks in relation to all the "what if " thoughts omg.
Definitely agree with the talking less tip. I realized a short while ago that i don't need to explain or respond to everyone or everything and it has changed my life for the better.
This is amazing advice, especially reducing social media time. Mostly everyone posts their “best life” on social media. If you don’t have your mind right, you can be misled into believing everyone else’s life is better than yours.
Shout out to all the introverts!! 😉
I’m not even wondering why she’s holding a spatula. It just seems right.
we truly are her target audience
Fly swatting.
Ikr
I love u for that comment.... ❤❤❤
:)
Something I try to remember is "sometimes, people aren't out to get you, they are just making the best choice for them out of the options available at the time" like there are definitely times when people act to directly piss you off/attack you, but a lot of the time, people aren't out to get you bc they're too busy thinking about themselves and their decisions etc. If you take 5 mins to ask yourself; "is this directed at me, or is this an unintended consequence of a choice made w/no thought about me?" U get into a lot less drama lol
I like this! I tend to take things personal so I’ll ask myself this more often lol
@Polaris Star interesting point, but I have no idea how it's relevant lol 😅
🙌🙏👍🏼🙋♀️
thank you for this!!!
I’m one of those subscribers who are catching up on your old videos. I took a long hiatus with bingeing youtube and I’m so glad I found your page. You’re so mature and insightful. Keep up the good work!
I tested talking less at work. I used my earphones while working, so I could drown out the distractions of coworkers talking. I completed so much work!
"It never ceases to amaze me: we all love ourselves more than other people, but care more about their opinions than our own."
- Marcus Aurelius
True
“It’s harder loving yourself then loving others.”
-BTS
“Don’t be trapped in someone else’s dream”
-Min Yoongi
“Never mind it’s not easy but engrave it on your chest if you feel like your going to crash then accelerate more you idiot”
-Min Yoongi
“There is beauty in everything it’s just not everyone sees it.”
-Park Jimin
Some of my favourite quotes ever.
Stoicism 😌
That’s called narcissism right there :/
Beatrice Divina .....or a healthy sense of self esteem😂
RUclips is like the only one that doesn’t ruin my life
u (mostly) get to choose what u see i love youtube for that
It's for this reason I only kept youtube to connect with the world after deleting Twitter/Instagram.
ayare honestly
samee
Atheer ALmajrashi
Me too! 😂
IM REGERETTING WHY I ONLY SEE THIS 2021 AND NOT LAST YEAR 2020. NEVERTHELESS, YOU REALLY TAUGHT ME THINGS ABOUT LIFE AND THANK YOU FOR THAT.
Your channel has a low-key chaotic energy I wasn’t expecting. I’m into it.
(If you’re still ruminating over what job you should have, you should look into being a comedian because you’re hilarious)
Her dry humor just kidnapped me out of nowhere...took me to a remote location....undressed me of my dignity and forced me to click the subscribe button....🤣😂
SAME.
Oh my goodness your comment is GOLD 😂😂😂😂😂
Oh my goodness
Oh wow
Same, girl! Same.
It’s actually so annoying how brands now want to be inclusive, just for the sake of looking good or not getting “canceled”. It’s super performative, and I’ve definitely seen through these shallow behaviors. It shouldn’t take a national crisis for your brand to show some racial-inclusivity!!
Yes thank you!! It’s like on the one hand it’s great that there’s so much awareness now but like ... the police killing black people is not new. But now suddenly it’s “trendy” to be outraged. Where was the outrage after any of the other tons of killings ...
Exactly. It should be the time that they do things without advertising it, but they don't know how to do anything unless they turn it into a pr advantage. In a way it is a kind of progress but at the same time, you know that it's only that they're serving the temporary master of immediate profit: i.e., look at how Pride Parades have become advertising campaigns. I am wary of anyone who switches opinion immediately in a way that highlights themselves. Instead of admitting complicity and giving an assurance that they will do more, many brands put up a veiled public favour request all about them in a symbol that has as much depth as the frame of a 2-D square.
Ya because if they do they get shamed obviously looking to avoid that
You’re right, it shouldn’t. It is difficult to shake off a lifetime of learning something one way, but it shouldn’t be that way in the first place. The world really sucks 😞
@@nadineslimane122 there's a huge difference between getting cancelled/shamed and admitting fault but committing legitimately to a cause. The problem is that these brands aren't even admitting past fault but instead are acting as if they were always with black people which is just b.s. Is it still bad if they apoligize due to public pressure, yes, but it is worse to pretend to not be racist via an ad campaign when 40+ years of recent history state otherwise. That's the issue.
I'm rewatching this video for the second time and I really needed that reminder of living to please yourself and to not expect so much out of people, so thank you 💕
I just want to say Kelly Stamps... I am apart of the skinny committee and listening to your videos as I get ready to head for class gives me that extra boost of confidence that I’ve been searching my whole life to find. Thank you! 😄
talk less. smile more. don’t let them know what you’re against or what you’re for. 😉
spot on mr. burr
you can't be serious
Are you Aaron Burr, sir?
Rachael Maritim that depends. who’s asking ¿
@@kyliebroome7690 Oh, sure, sir. I'm Alexander Hamilton, I'm at your service, sir
Kelly Stamps is the type of person to be asked to give a talk on how to be rich, famous and successful at the university she dropped out of lol.
I actually gave a lecture (per request from an old professor) on how I make money on instagram before I started youtube. Most students were falling asleep and didn't care. 😂 Now he said I can give a influencer money making crash course on zoom to his class in fall!
@@KellyStamps LMAO, you go, girl!!!💯💯💯 good luck with your course! You'll do great!🔝🔝
@@KellyStamps you're my money making guru
@@KellyStamps Im shocked that they weren't interested considering the new generation seems to be all about working for themselves or making money online. Im a middle school teacher and i actually had a student put RUclipsr on his career interest inventory lol
Shelby Steele right lol
Honestly I found your channel last year and was impressed with how confident and unbothered you are and I’ve been working on that part of myself all year and appreciate you making this video cuz I always remind myself “WHO IS GONNA CHECK ME” if I do something considered “weird” and I love it thanks boo
I recently came to this realization the hard way but man am I happy that I finally truly learned this. It's painful, but freeing and grounding. Definitely easier said than done, and important to remember that we are all humans, so you might as well try to be a good one. Stay healthy and blessed, girl.
I uninstalled social medias for 4 months now, feels so much better guys.
My phone broke 2 weeks ago and to be honest i feel amazing without it, not planning on replacing it, i feel happier.
Tina Belcher but your using a phone right now? lmao
@@taehyungloever maybe they're using their computer? lol
@@milkymamio9285 maybe... They're telepathic.. :0
What social medias?
“Sis was so shook she was shanked” I’m using this now💀😭
Yes ma'am
don't say that in England please. They will seriously SHANK u :|
You’re an angel sent from heaven I needed this so bad
I needed to be reminded of this! I keep getting my feelings hurt by people not living up to my expectations..
I wish everyone was unbothered. The world would be a better place.
Mirrah B oh honey i can only dream
I’m 40 and I’m still struggling to find a happy medium. I expect people to act and react the way I would. Those people who I think have done wrong aren’t losing sleep over their actions, but I am...it’s not worth it.
If everyone was unbothered then I don’t think anyone would really care for each other
Amen!
nah actually. i love being stoic but if everyone was like that, the world wouldn’t function.
I’m so glad I found this channel
I have battled with low self esteem all this while 😓
Glad am finally living my life and loving myself regardless of whatever people think or say
The moment she said "shut off social media" I felt soooo uplifted because lmfao I shut mine off forever ago :)
AND GURL THANK YOU FOR THE REASSURANCE I FEEL LIKE IM ON THE RIGHT PATH AND WHEN I HAVE A SUCCESSFUL RUclips CHANNEL I OWE IT TO YOU MAN ;-; TYSM ❤️
The last advice is so true : talking less.
I feel that too, as an introverted person, I used to think that I should be more extroverted, and sometimes I did became more extroverted. But idk actually being extroverted is like giving the opportunity for people to ask or even take without asking your time. And you may not even notice it.
It's actually good to be ourselves and set healthy boundaries, talking to people if we want to, and don't if we don't want to.
I tried doing the extroverted thing and talk a lot more, even when I didn´t feel like it. I did this because I hated the fact that people would tell me how quiet and shy I am all the time. But I get the ´´u don´t talk a lot´´ comments to this day and I now just realized maybe I should stop caring about what other people think and just do what makes me happy.
I went through all that too. Not an extroverted person but forced myself to be extroverted and more because others said I should be... I should step out of my comfort zone, stretched myself. I get that, but I just was not myself and at the end of the day, it was forced and I have to say, quite draining for me. Not my happiest moments and so, still made for some awkward interactions with others. Didn't make them gravitate to me any more than when I was being my introverted self🤷. Oh well, I'll keep trying but for the most part, gotta stay true...
Misch A omg that’s exactly how I feel maybe one day I’ll get there.
I feel the same way, i feel like i am too introverted 😂 but say for example, my friends get into a fight, should i talk up and defend if they are right or should i just stay quiet?
sub if u want? Uhh idk lol my friends aren’t really fighters. So I never been in that predicament. If they get jump you should help or try to get some help. Maybe you are talking about verbal altercations well it honestly just depends on the situation. Do what you think is right at the moment. Also maybe have a conversation like this with your friend and see what they say, but if they are your real friend they should understand if you don’t want to do something that will take you out your comfort zone. I hope this is good advice because I never been in that situation, but I tried.
"not even brunettes... they don't like y'all either." LOL you're so right about those influencer pages, THE WORST.
A few months later and I had to come back to this specific videos. So much value, vulnerability and wisdom. I like you Stamps ❤️
still one of my faves, imagine just talking about something and be effortlessly entertaining
Even the Bible says a fool when silent, seems like a wise person. Talk less 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Amen🙏🏽
I was reading about this! It’s in the Proverbs. I love it
@@almondcroissonttt4852 I was just reading that too!! Omg are we...connected 😗💞🧚♀️✌🦋
wthxh.tayjaa yeahhh sis!! 😂
I just read this today 😳
This is gonna sound so stupid but I never even CONSIDERED just being myself on youtube or in life. I thought that you were supposed to try to fit in. That doesn't work though, people can always tell when you're faking.
not always
It's okay sister. We learn when we learn, not before then. Step 5 NEVER judge yourself!
It's not even about other people. It's about you, first and foremost! You can fake it and no one would know but then would you be happy and fulfilled? If you are only being/doing things cause you wanna fit it and be accepted (which is a normal thing to want) then you'd be missing out on your own gifts and self expression.
I am d opposite actually. I never thought i could be anything other than myself. Just never crossed my mind to act.
Briana Alisa I think that too
This is awesome!!! You are 100% correct about finding a peace once you master being unbothered. I'm pretty good at it, but once in awhile I slip up... Remaining unbothered gives you peace and thwarts the power of others over you. Thank you for a great video!
I can't stress enough how this video helped me this whole time. These tips for sure take a lot of time to grow and mature in your personality. After a year and a half rewatching and reclaiming my own peace of mind. Thank you
"Being psychologically abused by a parent and getting bullied for having a roller backpack will do that"
How you describe me so accurately
So glad this was in my recommended
so glad she touched on that. I'm kinda known for being "unbothered" or "not really giving a shit about anyone" in a good and bad way. I recognize and cut toxic people out so fast my friends can't even process it LOL. Then, when they ask, I always say "I have a PhD in mentally abusive gaslighting parents and psychologically toxic men. I have a finite amount of bullshit I'm going to take in life and that shit is not one of them."
Lol sorry for this virtue signaling kind of comment but it was cathartic so why not.
The bangs, the black Mary Janes with low heel, the denim... I love this French looking outfit.
*I was goin for a lil French look because I have an online quarantine husband based in Paris. I want his baguette once the travel ban lifts*
@@KellyStamps lol what
Great mental health tips, thank you! I quit IG & FB and my life has improved enormously. Now I spend more time on RUclips finding interesting and educational videos like this gem.
I've only just recently just found your channel I was at one of my lowest points in life recently. And I am loving your videos I'm already feeling pumped already writing down goals and feeling better. One of my ex best friends recently completely crushed my self confidence she was a pure narcissist and social media kinda made it worse. I have a problem where all the little things bother me and I feel horrible all of the time. But I'm working myself back up to live and enjoy life again without being scared to go in public. You're a good role model thanks queen. ✨
" talking less" YES I LIVE BY THAT E.V.E.R.Y.D.A.Y. work in silence, grind in silence 👏🏽
I really want to be sharing *everything* too. I only tell my best friend my business now!
Also smile in silence.😊
The art of being effortlessly entertaining.
I'm a very social kind of person but recently decided to stay away from anything negative or making me feel like it. Almost a month without social media and never felt better to be honest. You go girl! 💯
I love this. As I’m feeling shit atm I appreciate your fun ,carefree attitude x