It is dangerous but useful to find yourself and appreciate life how its meant. Makes you realize relationships are what you make them and most people who give good relationship advice were ok with being alone before that chapter in their lives. Reflected and grew then pursued
Woah I needed this realization right now. I always wondered why my ex-friend never liked to be alone to the point where he would be miserable if he didn’t have some type of interaction. Like geeze. It made me so confused
A common misconception we talk about in psychology is that being alone doesn’t equate to loneliness and being surrounded by people doesn’t equate to fulfillment. Xx
Literally everyone talks about “loving yourself” but nobody wants to face the reality that we need to love solitude. That’s the line people won’t cross because it’s seen as “sad” and “lonely”.. that mentality is SAD, if you don’t enjoy your own company I don’t think you can ever truly love yourself
Ayeee 🔥dope to see BlackySpeakz is part of the stampede. So if being alone "aint bad at all" Blacky, what is your insight on being a "lone wolf" upcoming artist; how are supposed to build a following being to yourself? how do you network?
LAURA LORA I’d say don’t socialize more than needed, skip going to the functions, the parties, & industry kick backs *if they don’t serve a purpose* a.k.a - aren’t contributing to networking with people who you actually see yourself working w/ long term. Ain’t nothing wrong with having fun, but continuous & meaningless socializing drains us introverts. I’m like this myself, and that’s why I think saving your “socializing energy” should be saved for actually taking care of business rather than unnecessary amount socializing that’ll take away from actual networking anyway. Important to use whatever energy you have for no.1, your art (music) // and number 2. connecting w/ potential collaborators. It’s a whole different ball game if you’re an introvert so you gotta be smart with your energy 💫
I have to admit I’m a loner but sometimes it’s very painful not to have friends. But I do agree that it is better to be alone than hang out with people who make you feel you don’t exist.
I agree Maria. I think what Kelly is explaining and experiencing is COMPLETELY different from the experience of not having friends. I personally don't thing someone like her (who has 4 friends) can even began to understand what it it means to have NO friends & NO social life
I hate when people say “you’ve changed” it’s like no shit I’ve changed, I’m changing and learning and growing everyday!! It so closed minded for people to assume I’m going to be exactly the same person I was a couple years ago. I’m starting to realize people saying you’ve changed is just an attempt to put me down and keep me in the same place as they are 🙄
Tbh, "you've changed" has the same negative energy as "it's just a phase" like? Show me a permanent state of self! Every damn person is in a constant state of flux + evolution, that's how society progresses!
I think what people really mean by this, is they hate that the bond has changed. Of course people are going to evolve, but sometimes that can break the connection you once had with that person..
People call me weird cos i eat, go out and travel alone. They didn’t know the happiness i get with being just by myself. Being in a group overwhelms me, or hanging out with a friend sometimes end up arguing for having different opinions.
I do this too until I realized that I get targeted. No I need to recover from my anxiety and fear of being targeted by psychos because it's happened before. People who live in solitude are just perfect victims.
I relate too everything you said. I hate arguing with people or just disagreeing. I had to cut off a friend because she wouldn’t let me say what I want and didn’t respect my boundaries. Now I spend so much time and alone and I love it. I’ll draw or do whatever I want and it’s so peaceful. I’m really not a people person so it’s easy for me to be alone.
@@charlottebottin5051 same but you have to learn to control your mind as in let your thoughts go. I really struggled with my mind and thought I needed to be around people to ease it. I was shocked however, when months later, I realized that I could heal and find peace just by being my myself.
The biggest irony of having "too many friends" is how much they hold you back from being adventurous and doing what you actually want to do. Like, it amazes me how people choose to not do something just simply for the fact that no one wants to go with them, it sounds more lonely than actually being alone. Most (extroverted) people are pretty boring and exhausting and yet for some reason they are so narcissistic too. Having fun in your own company is the best gift that someone can give to themselves, the world is way more open for you to just enjoy it.
I have a good number of friends, like ten, and if I really want to do something and they don't then I just go by myself, sometimes I just go do things alone without inviting anyone too. So uhm I don't think have friends is a bad thing lmfao, only if you let them control your life, which just sounds like a follower problem.
@@Prince_the_One Same? lol. Nobody is saying that friends are a bad thing and 10 friends is not what I'd consider "too many friends" but to each their own! Whatever works!
I don't consider myself an introvert by nature, I am enfp on the myers-briggs test, still I enjoy doing most things alone (including travelling, eating out and going to the movies) just as much as (and sometimes more than) doing them in company. It's a skill I've really gotten good at in my adult life.
I dine alone on my birthday (it’s on Valentine’s Day, so none of my friends/family are ever available). And I love it! I’ve gotten used to it and dress up really fancy and bring my Bible and people look at me like I’m crazy.
Robin Williams said: I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
I've learned that negative friends are usually jealous snakes who probably wish for you to fail. As a loner myself I find most people are jealous of my independence and try to exploit me more than help me in any way. My best friends are other loners who I see once a month lol. Watch out for unsolicited advice from so called friends. Most advice from friends will lead to your downfall. At least that's been my experience.
The difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that the introvert loses energy interacting with others (and gains energy when left alone) and the extrovert loses energy when he's alone but gains it back when interacting with others
That's true for me, an introvert. 30 minutes of being alone during a busy work day (at a large hospital) is all that I need to recharge and get back in there.
Being alone is such a gift and somehow people have turned it into this thing that we should avoid or be embarrassed of. There’s nothing wrong with spending time alone...
I hate when people tell me I can’t / shouldn’t do something just because I’m black. Don’t let your race keep you in a box ! Do what you want ! Listen to your heart not society !
Why would anyone else say that? That’s ridiculous, anyone is capable of following their dreams if they are dedicated enough, race has nothing to do with that, whoever said that to you is totally wrong, everyone believe in yourselves!
And you don’t have to pay for anyone except for yourself! I’ve had so many awkward situations going out where I order one thing and the other person orders several drinks and I am expected to split 😂
I’m an empath but hate people. I love humanity but not humans. I’m probably not of this planet or universe tbh. I’m so used to my own company. I hate drama. I’m not people’s personal therapist. I’ve had enough of people using me for benefits and not focusing on myself.
Wow just WOW... thanks for sharing!! I was on the phone with a person, that ALWAYS dumps on me, has thee same drama for years... I was overwhelmed & exhausted by the time I, got off that call... no more, won't always answer, and will drastically shorten those calls!!! I choose Me!!!💯😊
That screenshot about figure skating from your "friend" is ridiculous. There can be no progress if everybody had that "stay in your lane" mindset -- women wouldn't even have the vote for example. Live your life how you want to, and if that means creating your own path rather than following in somebody else's footsteps, then so be it -- others will soon be following you.
You can’t compare women wanting the right to vote to a black peer being concerned about another black person engaging in a white sport. Women were prevented from voting from the dominant group, men. Kelly’s friend is a marginalized person trying to protect her marginalized friend. It’s reductive, yes, but entirely different. Her friend isn’t saying “stay in your lane” as in “this is something you are incapable of doing or handling” like women were told when wanting to vote. Her friend is saying “white people don’t want blacks in figure skating”. And there’s truth in that. Sports like gymnastics, figure skating, tennis, etc have had incredibly racist histories and exclusionary practices. Should Kelly figure skate if she wants to? Absolutely! But her friend being wary of it is precisely because she exists in a marginalized status and understands the implications.
DM there were also women begging other women to stop trying to get them the rights to vote because men would never change or see them differently. This kind of message is unhelpful and unproductive
I’m a loner. Always have been. Never had more than 2 good friends at a time. I’m used to doing things by myself and prefer it that way sometimes, as I do enjoy my solitude. But I’m not going to pretend like certain things aren’t more fun with a friend. I’ll go out to eat alone, but it’s much more fun when you can do it with a good friend.
A milestone that people never tell us about is the art of accepting your own company and loving it. My dad always told me you can’t pick what people say or do, but you can pick who you want around you. Having relationships start with yourself 💯
Yeah that's something I've learned in recent years. I'm actually living with someone like that and... it's hard. I've been there so I can relate but at the same time, now being on the other side and having gone through lots of self-growth, having to experience someone else's constant negativity and plain nihilism is taking a toll on me. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
I’m actually glad I’m not close with any family because like you said they could still be haters! Family reunions are so awkward in the south. I haven’t been to one in ages. “So have you gotten your Masters yet?“ - well I haven’t gotten my bachelors LOL “Are you still with that little skinny boy?” - 👁👄👁
I got zero friends, I inherited ADHD as a kid. I've always been misunderstood by the people around me. I don't have the energy to make someone understand me. If you try, I'll try. But I'm not going to go out of my way to get you to understand me. So I just stay in my own lane.
i am not shy, but i will never have the courage cause im from fnkg brazil, guys see me taking selfies and ask "do u want me to take a picture of u" and i say a harsh "NO THANKS"
Insecure friends are so toxic. I have experienced it a lot in school and my early 20s. Now I am 29 and I realized I only kept people in my life that are curious, excited to learn new things and supportive. I like the energy
My mother calls me anti social because I like being alone. I’m at my happiest when I’m alone but I’m called these degrading things. I prefer to be alone and don’t understand why it’s seen as a negative thing to like
Same. I'm always the bud of the joke b.c I'm the odd one out. I hate that were forced to make connections. I just prefer being alone. Also, there is some toxic friendships; mixed with the eroding trust I have for the human race sprinkled in there
“If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” ― Jean-Paul Sartre. I'm a creative person. I like my own company. I'm a loner too. Thanks Kelly Stamps.
I feel what i like to call 'introverts guilt' the feeling that I am missing out on something or that I am not living life right due to not socialising 'enough'. I suppose the journey here is not finding i love being alone but acceptance in that it's okey to love being alone. Because I do enjoy being alone, wandering London alone, dining alone, going to events alone and spending time in my room so the insecurity lies in self acceptance in my introvertedness and natural gravitation to solitude. I have seen that natural gravitation as a defect in me for a long while, it's about time it is let go and a new more self accepting belief bloom a new.
@@theplantainchiplover Yay mutual feelings! That's wonderful, I'm trying to be a better friend too, I used to keep friends by people pleasing I thought that's how you maintain friendships, I'm now realising and trying to keep friends because I enjoy who they are.
You should be proud of yourself, you know why? Because you are living your life and doing whatever you fancy, meanwhile, most people will never go through the same experiences and most likely be “jealous”. Example, I travelled alone to Bali when I was 22. Do you have any idea people expressions and the awe they show on their face when I mention that experience? And why? Because they either haven’t traveled because they think they need someone to do so and are too afraid of going on their own or they actually went travelling with people and did not have fun because, let’s be honest, most likely they couldn’t agree on where to go or what to do, causing frustration etc. So, congratulations. You are winning at life!
@@rainbowofbeauty Hey thats sick, solo traveling! Thanks for making me feel empowered! It's funny how it goes two ways, some extroverts may envy the introverts qualities, and some introverts envy extrovert qualities. The world by average does praise extroverted qualities more so it seems, which makes it easy for introverts to feel a little sub par at least in my experience. But we so are not sub par!
I've been happily with my husband / best friend and the love of my life for 6 years....but nothing refuels me like spending time alone. I regularly take solo date days (eating out at restaurants, going to the cinema, reading at the park) and take intentional 1-week solo trips every year to be alone and spiritually connect inwards with my soul. I love my partner, and I also love myself. I recommend everyone try it :)
She is correct to a point u enter and leave this world alone, even being a triplet u entered alone because the three did not come the exact time, it comes minutes apart, never at the same minute.
By that logic, people who die in mass murder, war etc don't die alone because another person died near them. What she means is you still couldn't mind read your triplet siblings, even in the womb, in that sense we are all alone and we all die alone. We are all alone in our minds and only operate with the rest of the world using our trust, beliefs and communication which can all be flawed.
i love eating out alone. i didn't know it wasn't a ""normal"" thing until a while after i got really used to it. that and going to movies alone. its so much more fun tbh
Yeah I love movies alone bc no one to talk and make eating noises next to you during the movie or make you feel awkward when you cry at the sad parts 😂😅
I tend to talk a lot during movies. So I purposely wait until the movie has been shown for so long that no one buys tickets. And I have the theater to myself, so I can fully express whatever emotion I’m feeling during the movie 😁
Sounds pretty sad miss. Expand your movements so you can meet more people and learn how to make friends. Its not cool having no friends at 50. its a very very boring long life. we cant use social media to supplement this emptiness which what i see alot of young people doing.
@Blake Danforth looooooll bro you actually said it! I couldn't have said it better. The fact people have mobile phones is why they believe in this logic
The moment I stopped accepting unsolicited “advice” from “friends” was when I started accepting myself and loving myself more. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders! I worked in a call center in my early 20’s and one of the older ladies told me “Live alone for at least a year.” And I’m glad I did it. Didn’t have roommates or a live-in-boyfriend. Learned a lot about myself.
I found myself being alone because all of my friends had never grew up. They basically stopped growing after high school, also because they don't fu***ing read.
I found myself also in same situation, but for the opposite reason most of my friends did grow up but are caught up in the rat race of work or live for their kids; when I run into them I see the life sucked out of them like they are on auto pilot
Yes. Most people are draining. Esp when your energies are needed because of work, family, and just trying to survive. Stress kills, and I believe it. In the space I am in now everything is peaceful. If one can’t be in my life to ADD happiness to it please stay away.
Used to be excluded from everything growing up, i was a really awkward person. Got used to be alone and focused on hobbies and passions i can do alone and now i wouldn't have it any other way.
I am one of those too 🙋♂️ Can't really say I dislike people though. Growing up I learned that people must be taken in small doses, like most good food. Then they're enjoyable and stay good for your health.
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 Yup! Lol That's the point. A lot of us are quite anal and like doing things a certain way, so it may interrupt our natural flow and make us unnecessarily uncomfortable. We aren't always alone, we just don't allow people to penetrate our sacred world.
Umm...they didn’t want us playing basketball either. Now it’s mostly black, I’m black, and I don’t watch it. I guess I should huh. Help me with my guilt and tell me to start watching.
I had those friends. They’re still haters, but not in my circle anymore. Go be miserable somewhere else! I’ve felt pressured to make more friends but Kelly is giving me confidence to be alone more often
@@kristacousins9502 Give them a disposable camera for photos, which I believe Kelly did in the video. Not sure what you'd do about wanting someone to record a video of you...
I’m a loner, too. I have a couple of close friends. Anytime I’ve mistakenly been in a group of friends, I’ve had to pull myself out because all my life, I’ve been burned by “friendships” and realized it’s just people in general that I just can’t be around anymore. I mentally cannot handle it. Any circle of girls I’ve been involved with has been full of cliquey behavior, jealousy and competitiveness. I’m happier alone.
How did you get so friggin insightful so young ? I’m 57 and it’s taken me my whole life to discover some of the things you spoke about . You are an amazing young woman . And I’ve learned from you . No matter where you go or what you do in life you are a true success and one of a kind . Thanks for sharing these wonderful thoughts of yours with the world .
transitioning my mindset from dreading being alone, to choosing solitude when necessary quite literally changed my entire life... like imagine not being able to be comfortable with yourself alone, when you're stuck with yourself till you die...?
I thought there was something wrong with me but you made me feel normal about prefering being on my own to wasting time and energy on pointless friendships. Thank you Kelly
I enjoy being alone. I've learned that I am my best friend. I'm not going to intentionally upset myself. I've gone out to eat by myself numerous times, to the movies, to the nail salon, vacation getaway, and etc.
@Queen Bby it's like a breath of fresh air. Being able to do what you want. When you want to. Nobody telling you I'm bored and I'm ready to go home. You leave when you feel like leaving.
"if you get a knot feeling in your stomach when you're about to tell your friend about this new thing you wanna do, that's probably not your friend" I felt that oh so deeply in my chest and that is the gospel truth. It's crazy how our body tells us when something just ain't right.
I grew up as an only child and my daughter is also an only child. I love being alone, I enjoy my own company. It is so much more relaxing and peaceful than being in a problematic relationship
who else here is super introverted and has already mastered the art of being alone lol. thank you kelly for always providing great content and inspiring so many small youtubers like myself!
"A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom, for it is only when he is alone that he is really free."
Im a "loner" too, but over the years I've learned one thing...where never alone cuz God and his angels are always guiding and helping us. And evil spirits always trying to attack us.
“I’d rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.” Read that again bc that was a word I will be attending Kelly’s next sermon😭
The biggest facts on facts since racks on racks
AMEN lol 😂 Pastor was preachin' preachin' today
hahaha. Solitude and time without distractions from technology or people is important.
This is just me🙌🙌.
Exactly
"Being alone for a while is dangerous. It’s addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don’t want to deal with people anymore"
Soooooooooo True !!!!!
@@chinneynz7861 yeahh, I can relate to this so hard, especially after quarantine
Absolutely true, I have learned how to appreciate being alone and I'am loving it. I'm protecting my peace ✌
@ymarrero23 OMG I am the same way now it is unsane .I really enjoy too much being alone I guess .
It is dangerous but useful to find yourself and appreciate life how its meant. Makes you realize relationships are what you make them and most people who give good relationship advice were ok with being alone before that chapter in their lives. Reflected and grew then pursued
Being alone is a power that very few people can handle.
Agrreeeed
Most def my siblings never alone my sister always be on face time
Absolutely 🔥 and I'm glad I wake up each day with that power inborn ❤️
Sad but true. So many people do not appreciate their own company.
@@bunnyboo6295 As long as the interactions you force yourself to have serve you well, it's all good!
A friend told me if you don’t like being by yourself then you’re the bad company.
Oh my god. That.
Deep
Now I’m self assessing....🥴
@@mariaager1924 sameee 😭
Woah I needed this realization right now. I always wondered why my ex-friend never liked to be alone to the point where he would be miserable if he didn’t have some type of interaction. Like geeze. It made me so confused
A common misconception we talk about in psychology is that being alone doesn’t equate to loneliness and being surrounded by people doesn’t equate to fulfillment. Xx
Period
Oh yeah!! You can definitely feel alone in a TOXIC crowd.
YEEESS!!
Wisdom right here
Literally everyone talks about “loving yourself” but nobody wants to face the reality that we need to love solitude. That’s the line people won’t cross because it’s seen as “sad” and “lonely”.. that mentality is SAD, if you don’t enjoy your own company I don’t think you can ever truly love yourself
This is so true Nicole! Couldn’t of said it better 🧡
Thank you for that. Worded beautifully.
that's true. sometimes it gets to me. Minding my own business, then somebody judges me for being by myself 😐 or asks me if I'm okay.....
You are spot on correct!
Well put
being alone ain’t bad at all, you just gotta find the right things to do.. (you actually enjoy doing alone) 💫
Agree!
Ayeee 🔥dope to see BlackySpeakz is part of the stampede. So if being alone "aint bad at all" Blacky, what is your insight on being a "lone wolf" upcoming artist; how are supposed to build a following being to yourself? how do you network?
LAURA LORA I’d say don’t socialize more than needed, skip going to the functions, the parties, & industry kick backs *if they don’t serve a purpose* a.k.a - aren’t contributing to networking with people who you actually see yourself working w/ long term. Ain’t nothing wrong with having fun, but continuous & meaningless socializing drains us introverts. I’m like this myself, and that’s why I think saving your “socializing energy” should be saved for actually taking care of business rather than unnecessary amount socializing that’ll take away from actual networking anyway. Important to use whatever energy you have for no.1, your art (music) // and number 2. connecting w/ potential collaborators. It’s a whole different ball game if you’re an introvert so you gotta be smart with your energy 💫
Who would’ve thought BlackySpeakyz watched Kelly Stamps 😮
Wait I love making and editing videos.. is that something enjoyable? 😭
I have to admit I’m a loner but sometimes it’s very painful not to have friends. But I do agree that it is better to be alone than hang out with people who make you feel you don’t exist.
I agree Maria. I think what Kelly is explaining and experiencing is COMPLETELY different from the experience of not having friends. I personally don't thing someone like her (who has 4 friends) can even began to understand what it it means to have NO friends & NO social life
Thank you for the feed back, Godbless you all. Jesus Christ loves you🥰
Yes.. sometimes it's really painful 😔😔.. not having friends
Words to live by!!!
@@13579hee Friends can come and go. You must become your own friend first and create a social life of your own. We all do!
Shout out to all the people who’s best friend is themselves!
The only one who had my back.
The one and only who loves me is me! I got stabbed in the back so many times, I am done! Thanks for the comment.
And my stuffed animals
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APTTMHGOI and my puppy Coco
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I hate when people say “you’ve changed” it’s like no shit I’ve changed, I’m changing and learning and growing everyday!! It so closed minded for people to assume I’m going to be exactly the same person I was a couple years ago. I’m starting to realize people saying you’ve changed is just an attempt to put me down and keep me in the same place as they are 🙄
Tbh, "you've changed" has the same negative energy as "it's just a phase" like?
Show me a permanent state of self!
Every damn person is in a constant state of flux + evolution, that's how society progresses!
I agree
Yes.
I think what people really mean by this, is they hate that the bond has changed. Of course people are going to evolve, but sometimes that can break the connection you once had with that person..
“You’ve changed” is such a compliment to me. Whyyyyyy thhhhhank you 🙌🏼
People call me weird cos i eat, go out and travel alone. They didn’t know the happiness i get with being just by myself. Being in a group overwhelms me, or hanging out with a friend sometimes end up arguing for having different opinions.
I do this too until I realized that I get targeted. No I need to recover from my anxiety and fear of being targeted by psychos because it's happened before. People who live in solitude are just perfect victims.
I love traveling alone and going out to eat alone when I do! It’s overwhelming and stressful when you do it with others
So true, people just don't understand when you make decisions that different from what the world call normal.
I understand perfectly what you mean
I relate too everything you said. I hate arguing with people or just disagreeing. I had to cut off a friend because she wouldn’t let me say what I want and didn’t respect my boundaries. Now I spend so much time and alone and I love it. I’ll draw or do whatever I want and it’s so peaceful. I’m really not a people person so it’s easy for me to be alone.
I prefer calling it “ being with myself “ . Saying I’m alone makes me feel like I’m isolated.
hah I like that! It sounds better
Yes isolation is merely a state of mind.
Yes much better term!
Yes, that's what I say and what I prefer.
i like that too
Being alone gives you time to think instead of listening to other people's gossip.
Also gives me time to overthink 😂
@@charlottebottin5051 same but you have to learn to control your mind as in let your thoughts go. I really struggled with my mind and thought I needed to be around people to ease it. I was shocked however, when months later, I realized that I could heal and find peace just by being my myself.
@@skatergrl13 thank you for your advice !!
@X0 Love lmfaoooo
Exactly and no distortion about your personal choices and next steps in life.
The biggest irony of having "too many friends" is how much they hold you back from being adventurous and doing what you actually want to do. Like, it amazes me how people choose to not do something just simply for the fact that no one wants to go with them, it sounds more lonely than actually being alone. Most (extroverted) people are pretty boring and exhausting and yet for some reason they are so narcissistic too. Having fun in your own company is the best gift that someone can give to themselves, the world is way more open for you to just enjoy it.
No lies detected! This was a word and a half and I completely agree! Sometimes it can be quite limiting
That's so true.
I have a good number of friends, like ten, and if I really want to do something and they don't then I just go by myself, sometimes I just go do things alone without inviting anyone too. So uhm I don't think have friends is a bad thing lmfao, only if you let them control your life, which just sounds like a follower problem.
@@Prince_the_One Same? lol. Nobody is saying that friends are a bad thing and 10 friends is not what I'd consider "too many friends" but to each their own! Whatever works!
And when you branch out on your own, you attract and meet new people, whether you want to or not 😂
Kelly: "I don't need anybody."
Camera Man: "Right, who does?"
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finding your channel feels like a religious experience to us introverts😂.
as a recovering extrovert i agree
Yaaaaas😂😂😂
@@windflowerrainstorm6497 😄 😄😄😂😂
I don't consider myself an introvert by nature, I am enfp on the myers-briggs test, still I enjoy doing most things alone (including travelling, eating out and going to the movies) just as much as (and sometimes more than) doing them in company. It's a skill I've really gotten good at in my adult life.
@@IvanoForgione that's cool too, but its mainly an introvert characteristic.
Being comfortable with eating at restaurants by yourself is golden!
Yep, last year I went to the cinema by myself 😧 like what? but yh I jus love my own company 🙂
And going to the movies!
Still working on it 😌
I dine alone on my birthday (it’s on Valentine’s Day, so none of my friends/family are ever available). And I love it! I’ve gotten used to it and dress up really fancy and bring my Bible and people look at me like I’m crazy.
Love it
Okay that is really powerful and I love it.
Beautiful birthday
@@wildfleurgirl it is!
@Kira I’m the day before Valentine’s Day! Aww wish we could be friends 🥰
Robin Williams said: I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
this chick has guts...she's saying what everyone honestly thinks, but would never reveal to the world.
I've learned that negative friends are usually jealous snakes who probably wish for you to fail. As a loner myself I find most people are jealous of my independence and try to exploit me more than help me in any way. My best friends are other loners who I see once a month lol. Watch out for unsolicited advice from so called friends. Most advice from friends will lead to your downfall. At least that's been my experience.
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thank you! especially those who see you being happy and successful, always try to be sneaky.
@@80sbrunnette Someone once told me.. if you want to have lots of friends don't ever try to better yourself.
@@PaulClipMaster I really felt this...
Who else just loves the fact that this girl exists?
Me
I doooo!!!!😭
She doesn't even know how she's rescuing my 2020.
“Enter this world alone” Ma’am I was born a triplet
Oh my god I love this comment so much you win
HA
DYING... As I stare at my twin sons who can't be apart too long lol
@@ShannonTheDesigner haha😂
Same
I hate when people see a woman also especially men, they automatically assume she needs company 🙄 like dude am trying to be alone
And they never believe....
And they make us feel like we have to pretend we have a boyfriend just to get them to leave us alone.
Yes I was often told ' yeah a woman alone'.
As if you are a sad creature.
And it starts in your thirties they begin to nag about you being alone.
This is fake news. The right guy comes you will erase this post
@@Alex-jr1zs he came to me recently trust me and I loved it 🔥😂😂😂😂
“Adult relationships are just an agreement to be each other’s sounding boards” truth speaker
This really blew my mind because it's so true!
frfr I never really thought of it like that that's kinda overheads...
Right, so true!
She dropped that casually too. It’s so true, it hurts 🥴😭
That is so true...people only call to vent out their problems.
The difference between an introvert and an extrovert is that the introvert loses energy interacting with others (and gains energy when left alone) and the extrovert loses energy when he's alone but gains it back when interacting with others
That's true for me, an introvert. 30 minutes of being alone during a busy work day (at a large hospital) is all that I need to recharge and get back in there.
This is true! It’s funny because while I am definitely an introvert I enjoy being on stage. I think some of the best performers are introverts.
@@KellyStamps that's true! Introverts rule the world ;)
@@KellyStamps Jup! A lot of performers also have severe social anxiety but being on stage/acting as someone else helps them with it!:)
@@KellyStamps well then Kelly, i think you're an Ambivert like me
Being alone is such a gift and somehow people have turned it into this thing that we should avoid or be embarrassed of. There’s nothing wrong with spending time alone...
💯 totally agree!!! 🌸💜
Exactly!
True, love spending time with myself lool
I agree
strongly agree ❤ being alone has its benefits
"When I see my friends it's not because I need them, it's because I like their company". That's true friendship and partnership. Bravo.
"Dont be afraid of the solitude that comes with raising your standards, for in the silence you might hear ypur own thoughts."
All introverts fell in love with this video, including me . 😂
LESS PPL=LESS DRAMA😊
You'd better believe it. 😀
yes!!!!
REALIST
Facts it’s peaceful and no outrageous expectations. I say and do what I want respectfully and can recognize other free people.
When she said “ I prefer a loner lifestyle because I don’t like being a free therapist,” I felt that in my spirit😂
"Most adult friendships are just agreements to be each other's sounding board" SO TRUE!!! I'd rather be alone.
Kelly Stamps is the Hero Introverts Need, not the Hero we Deserve.
@cray Smith honestly though i'm so glad i found her in 2020
😂😂
Nah just you
Not Kelly Stamps hearting my comment 6 months later 😭
I hate when people tell me I can’t / shouldn’t do something just because I’m black. Don’t let your race keep you in a box ! Do what you want ! Listen to your heart not society !
Please expound .
“You shouldn’t travel there cause you’re black” no thank you sweetie I live life for myself and god no one else 💯
Why would anyone else say that? That’s ridiculous, anyone is capable of following their dreams if they are dedicated enough, race has nothing to do with that, whoever said that to you is totally wrong, everyone believe in yourselves!
Well you definitely can't vote for Trump so there's that....
its so ignorant
She has beautiful beautiful hands! Y’all see her hands?!? She’s so beautiful but her hands are so elegant and soft looking.
She needs to tell us her hand routine
I want to reply with an honest answer on what I do with my hand but it is hilarious and nashty so I will keep it to myself. 💀
Ooo thank you
@@KellyStamps no girl, say it LOL
you could use ketchup, it’s a great moisturizer
People like to control me. That is why i find freedom in being alone. No drama.
“Whosoever is delighted in solitude, is either a wild beast or a god.”
― Aristotle
id like to think im a god hahaha
I’m a goddess for sure🧜🏽♀️
Wow that’s a great quote.
Both
@@WowDaniX it is
I genuinely adore my time being alone. No worries no bothers.
So off topic, you are beautiful 🌺
And you don’t have to pay for anyone except for yourself! I’ve had so many awkward situations going out where I order one thing and the other person orders several drinks and I am expected to split 😂
@@jasDhj1 you are such a sweetheart 😭 you are beautiful too ! I can tell you have a kind spirit 💖
Kendal Blake likewise 🥺 I appreciate it!
Kelly Stamps I’ve always felt obligated to pay for my “friends” NOW, I don’t have any and my pockets have been happy lol
I dont need friends, they dissapoint me
great video LOL
Actually if you look at Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs....
@@ihateyouall7026 it's a vine / meme
Can't forget the iconic pose: 💃
Elisha L I know.
I’m an empath but hate people. I love humanity but not humans. I’m probably not of this planet or universe tbh. I’m so used to my own company. I hate drama. I’m not people’s personal therapist. I’ve had enough of people using me for benefits and not focusing on myself.
Sameee.. I feel the sameee❤️❤️
You are not the only one mate
Wow just WOW... thanks for sharing!! I was on the phone with a person, that ALWAYS dumps on me, has thee same drama for years... I was overwhelmed & exhausted by the time I, got off that call... no more, won't always answer, and will drastically shorten those calls!!! I choose Me!!!💯😊
@@LGnLA protect your energy!
I wish I met more peopke like you lol. Friends shouldn't bring your energy down.
That screenshot about figure skating from your "friend" is ridiculous. There can be no progress if everybody had that "stay in your lane" mindset -- women wouldn't even have the vote for example. Live your life how you want to, and if that means creating your own path rather than following in somebody else's footsteps, then so be it -- others will soon be following you.
Johnathan Taylor This comment is everything!!😘
Absolutely!
Serena Williams look watching that segment: 😒
You can’t compare women wanting the right to vote to a black peer being concerned about another black person engaging in a white sport. Women were prevented from voting from the dominant group, men. Kelly’s friend is a marginalized person trying to protect her marginalized friend. It’s reductive, yes, but entirely different. Her friend isn’t saying “stay in your lane” as in “this is something you are incapable of doing or handling” like women were told when wanting to vote. Her friend is saying “white people don’t want blacks in figure skating”. And there’s truth in that. Sports like gymnastics, figure skating, tennis, etc have had incredibly racist histories and exclusionary practices. Should Kelly figure skate if she wants to? Absolutely! But her friend being wary of it is precisely because she exists in a marginalized status and understands the implications.
DM there were also women begging other women to stop trying to get them the rights to vote because men would never change or see them differently. This kind of message is unhelpful and unproductive
I’m a loner. Always have been. Never had more than 2 good friends at a time. I’m used to doing things by myself and prefer it that way sometimes, as I do enjoy my solitude. But I’m not going to pretend like certain things aren’t more fun with a friend. I’ll go out to eat alone, but it’s much more fun when you can do it with a good friend.
I agree with you@ Brianna
Yep you're right some things are better with people like vacations. But there a equal things that are awesome on your'e own.
“Just being, is exhausting.” FELT THAT
Fact: I don't miss or regret leaving any of the friendship circles I was " a part of", where they made me feel like an object of convenience
“He who understands humanity seeks solitude” - Ali ibn Abi Talib
True!
Wow Powerful 🥰
"If you feel uncomfortable around your friends, you need to do a friends cleanse." So true 100%
i def removed all my toxic friends from my life
A milestone that people never tell us about is the art of accepting your own company and loving it.
My dad always told me you can’t pick what people say or do, but you can pick who you want around you.
Having relationships start with yourself 💯
True
Sometimes I'd rather be alone then being around people who are negative toxic and are not going anywhere with there lives.
Amen
@@lashondaward2924 yeah
Yeah that's something I've learned in recent years. I'm actually living with someone like that and... it's hard. I've been there so I can relate but at the same time, now being on the other side and having gone through lots of self-growth, having to experience someone else's constant negativity and plain nihilism is taking a toll on me. You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves.
@@Mariooo57 very true
this!
Attending today's lecture at the Stampede University
Let’s get that stampede degree 📜
Topic: Why we need to be alone
Big note: “People are too egotistical to admit feelings of envy” “They’re too scared to make decisions for themselves”
Ahem *Stampford*
It's even worse when it's your own family that puts u down from your dreams and goals, that's why I keep my mouth shut about anything in my life.
I feel that.. that's why I hide my vision board 😅 keep pursuing your dreams!
I’m actually glad I’m not close with any family because like you said they could still be haters! Family reunions are so awkward in the south. I haven’t been to one in ages.
“So have you gotten your Masters yet?“
- well I haven’t gotten my bachelors LOL
“Are you still with that little skinny boy?”
- 👁👄👁
@@KellyStamps Exactly 💪🏾
This. This is so true. ty for this comment
Kelly Stamps is the epitome of “I don’t need friends, they disappoint me 💃”
I got zero friends, I inherited ADHD as a kid. I've always been misunderstood by the people around me. I don't have the energy to make someone understand me. If you try, I'll try. But I'm not going to go out of my way to get you to understand me. So I just stay in my own lane.
Same here.
Same here!
I will never stop being impressed by Kelly’s trust in random guys with her camera.
Maybe I’ll pluck up the courage to hand mine off to a Parisian 😅
That's always my first thought too! 😏
A camera... To a parisian...
I will never have the balls to do that
i am not shy, but i will never have the courage cause im from fnkg brazil, guys see me taking selfies and ask "do u want me to take a picture of u" and i say a harsh "NO THANKS"
Debralee Perrin I know! One day there’ll be a vid of Kelly chasing down a runaway camera Taken-style
He sounded old so i doubt he could run away with it
Insecure friends are so toxic. I have experienced it a lot in school and my early 20s. Now I am 29 and I realized I only kept people in my life that are curious, excited to learn new things and supportive. I like the energy
I agree. They take our their shit on you and ugh
Same im 28 and will wait for one good soul my entire life b4 settling for trash again
Same
im an insecure person :c
People think I'm strange. But I enjoy my time alone. I talk to God and pray. Best company ever.
:)
I love that
I love being alone too.. people think I'm weird 😕. I have had so many bad experiences with people, I don't see the point of social interaction.
Same. I feel like it's bad I enjoy my own company so much, like lately I would rather be alone all the time than around anyone.
People are sooo exhausting
Same
Can't blame you!
It's peaceful on your own, you can focus on your own shit and you don't need to deal with people's energy sucking drama!
"To enjoy your own company is to make yourself at home in your own heart."
- Bina Brown
😍
I like 😁
❤️🥺
All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone," French philosopher, Blaise Pascal
My mother calls me anti social because I like being alone. I’m at my happiest when I’m alone but I’m called these degrading things. I prefer to be alone and don’t understand why it’s seen as a negative thing to like
Same here
Same. I'm always the bud of the joke b.c I'm the odd one out. I hate that were forced to make connections. I just prefer being alone.
Also, there is some toxic friendships; mixed with the eroding trust I have for the human race sprinkled in there
Same but I don’t really have the same personality as people so it clashes so I just like my own company.
Me too most people are so annoying to me
Same, don’t worry people just don’t get it, buts it’s like a higher power 😎
“If you're lonely when you're alone, you're in bad company.” ― Jean-Paul Sartre. I'm a creative person. I like my own company. I'm a loner too. Thanks Kelly Stamps.
I feel what i like to call 'introverts guilt' the feeling that I am missing out on something or that I am not living life right due to not socialising 'enough'. I suppose the journey here is not finding i love being alone but acceptance in that it's okey to love being alone. Because I do enjoy being alone, wandering London alone, dining alone, going to events alone and spending time in my room so the insecurity lies in self acceptance in my introvertedness and natural gravitation to solitude. I have seen that natural gravitation as a defect in me for a long while, it's about time it is let go and a new more self accepting belief bloom a new.
I so feel this! I love hanging out alone! I’m also learning to be a better friend and strengthen the relationships I already have.
@@theplantainchiplover Yay mutual feelings! That's wonderful, I'm trying to be a better friend too, I used to keep friends by people pleasing I thought that's how you maintain friendships, I'm now realising and trying to keep friends because I enjoy who they are.
You should be proud of yourself, you know why? Because you are living your life and doing whatever you fancy, meanwhile, most people will never go through the same experiences and most likely be “jealous”. Example, I travelled alone to Bali when I was 22. Do you have any idea people expressions and the awe they show on their face when I mention that experience? And why? Because they either haven’t traveled because they think they need someone to do so and are too afraid of going on their own or they actually went travelling with people and did not have fun because, let’s be honest, most likely they couldn’t agree on where to go or what to do, causing frustration etc. So, congratulations. You are winning at life!
@@rainbowofbeauty Hey thats sick, solo traveling! Thanks for making me feel empowered! It's funny how it goes two ways, some extroverts may envy the introverts qualities, and some introverts envy extrovert qualities. The world by average does praise extroverted qualities more so it seems, which makes it easy for introverts to feel a little sub par at least in my experience. But we so are not sub par!
I've been happily with my husband / best friend and the love of my life for 6 years....but nothing refuels me like spending time alone. I regularly take solo date days (eating out at restaurants, going to the cinema, reading at the park) and take intentional 1-week solo trips every year to be alone and spiritually connect inwards with my soul. I love my partner, and I also love myself. I recommend everyone try it :)
That is beautiful
"If you feel uncomfortable around your own 'friends' that's a sign that maybe you should do some cleansing"
Have truer words even been uttered? 🙌🏾
“The power of privacy”
This hit me hard 🙀
Weird but like, I relate, and also, I wanna be friends with you, but also I don't wanna be friends with you because we would both hate being friends 😂
This is exactly what I was thinking lol
Lmao
That's why "internet friends" are the best 😁👍
Lol you guys are funny 😄🤣😂😅
@@guacgirl Hahaha exactly!😅😅😅
Girl, we do not all enter the world alone. I'm a triplet. Lol.
She is correct to a point u enter and leave this world alone, even being a triplet u entered alone because the three did not come the exact time, it comes minutes apart, never at the same minute.
Hah! A fun entrance you got there @ARi
😆
By that logic, people who die in mass murder, war etc don't die alone because another person died near them. What she means is you still couldn't mind read your triplet siblings, even in the womb, in that sense we are all alone and we all die alone. We are all alone in our minds and only operate with the rest of the world using our trust, beliefs and communication which can all be flawed.
What’s that like?
Solitude taught me who I am. And not who I thought I was, or had to be in order to be liked.
thats good perspective
I misread that as "in order to be killed" 😂😂
Why I’m struggling being alone ?:(
💯💯💯👍👍👍
Being alone makes you get further in life at a much faster pace, as long as you have a few focused friends ,you are good to go.
"SCARS FROM A FEW HUMAN INTERACTIONS " Perfect title for the book of my life so far hmmm
i love eating out alone. i didn't know it wasn't a ""normal"" thing until a while after i got really used to it. that and going to movies alone. its so much more fun tbh
Yeah I love movies alone bc no one to talk and make eating noises next to you during the movie or make you feel awkward when you cry at the sad parts 😂😅
I tend to talk a lot during movies. So I purposely wait until the movie has been shown for so long that no one buys tickets. And I have the theater to myself, so I can fully express whatever emotion I’m feeling during the movie 😁
Sounds pretty sad miss. Expand your movements so you can meet more people and learn how to make friends. Its not cool having no friends at 50. its a very very boring long life. we cant use social media to supplement this emptiness which what i see alot of young people doing.
@Blake Danforth looooooll bro you actually said it! I couldn't have said it better. The fact people have mobile phones is why they believe in this logic
Holy shit ima do this
The moment I stopped accepting unsolicited “advice” from “friends” was when I started accepting myself and loving myself more. You’ve got a good head on your shoulders!
I worked in a call center in my early 20’s and one of the older ladies told me “Live alone for at least a year.” And I’m glad I did it. Didn’t have roommates or a live-in-boyfriend. Learned a lot about myself.
Solitude is priceless, we need time to know and love ourselves. Good word.💛✨
I found myself being alone because all of my friends had never grew up. They basically stopped growing after high school, also because they don't fu***ing read.
I found myself also in same situation, but for the opposite reason most of my friends did grow up but are caught up in the rat race of work or live for their kids; when I run into them I see the life sucked out of them like they are on auto pilot
@@Marbella125 that's so sad
@@Marbella125 Crazy!!!
@@Marbella125 wow someone said it! People are so obsessed with “chasing a bag” and not realizing you are actually slaving
Omg when you said “I see you did a little somethin with your hair” I squealed cause I did do something different with my hair 😭
Jordin Kelli same! I was like: girl! How you know?😱🤣
Jordin Kelli same!! She knows
Same here! just got my hair chopped. Its nice that she noticed lol
Literally me too I had just finished doing my hair and sat down lmaooo
me with my bonnet on
Yes. Most people are draining. Esp when your energies are needed because of work, family, and just trying to survive. Stress kills, and I believe it. In the space I am in now everything is peaceful. If one can’t be in my life to ADD happiness to it please stay away.
@Kiki Well said!! 🙌🏾
PREACH AND KEEP ON PREACHING.
You hit the nail bang on the head.
And for me...that includes FAMILY children and all!!!
Used to be excluded from everything growing up, i was a really awkward person. Got used to be alone and focused on hobbies and passions i can do alone and now i wouldn't have it any other way.
Another only child that doesn't like people. Yep.
My new favorite channel.
Only Child here!! I have become VERY antisocial since I've hit middle age! Wouldn't have it any other way!!
HULLO and welcome!
I am one of those too 🙋♂️ Can't really say I dislike people though. Growing up I learned that people must be taken in small doses, like most good food. Then they're enjoyable and stay good for your health.
@@lavedadavis818 same here, except around close friends or family.
I LOVE being alone. So much peace, self reflection and growth.
Yeah
🤣FUNNY, PPL THAT ENJOY BEING ALONE WILL NEVER GET WITH OTHER PPL THAT ENJOY BEING ALONE, CAUSE THEY WANT TO BE ALONE.
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 ...🌝👍💯
Growth yes
@@drinkwatereatmelons7048 Yup! Lol That's the point. A lot of us are quite anal and like doing things a certain way, so it may interrupt our natural flow and make us unnecessarily uncomfortable. We aren't always alone, we just don't allow people to penetrate our sacred world.
There was heavy squirrel activity in this video lol
Umm...they didn’t want us playing basketball either. Now it’s mostly black, I’m black, and I don’t watch it. I guess I should huh. Help me with my guilt and tell me to start watching.
Glad I found your channel! ♡
I had those friends. They’re still haters, but not in my circle anymore. Go be miserable somewhere else! I’ve felt pressured to make more friends but Kelly is giving me confidence to be alone more often
Being alone is very peaceful, you will have a inner peace that others won't understand, not everyone can handle being alone...
I love that she gets complete strangers involved and that people are so nice to actually do it 😂💖
Really?? I thought she was joking! Lol 😂
@Anonymous 2020 lmaooo why?!
I would be afraid they'd steal my camera, that says a lot about me but also some about society lol
@@kristacousins9502 Give them a disposable camera for photos, which I believe Kelly did in the video. Not sure what you'd do about wanting someone to record a video of you...
I’m a loner, too. I have a couple of close friends. Anytime I’ve mistakenly been in a group of friends, I’ve had to pull myself out because all my life, I’ve been burned by “friendships” and realized it’s just people in general that I just can’t be around anymore. I mentally cannot handle it. Any circle of girls I’ve been involved with has been full of cliquey behavior, jealousy and competitiveness. I’m happier alone.
You're entire comment resonates with me!!
OMG! She is me ..the way she feels about humanity i feel the same. Of course I'm not an only child but I feel where she's coming from.
I do 1 on 1 friendships better. Never groups of women unless coming together for a service, celebration or tragedy. Very low tolerance for cattiness.
Am alone need gf 💑💑😍❤❤
"I don't really like people.... But I like the Stampede" IM HONOURED I AM ELITE OMG WE ARE ELITE STAMPEDE ARISE WITH ME WE ARE LEGENDARY!!!
WE ARE THE CHOSEN ONES
@@carlyplunkett5574 YES WE ARE
How did you get so friggin insightful so young ? I’m 57 and it’s taken me my whole life to discover some of the things you spoke about . You are an amazing young woman . And I’ve learned from you . No matter where you go or what you do in life you are a true success and one of a kind . Thanks for sharing these wonderful thoughts of yours with the world .
ikr she’s so smart. im 15 and learning so much from her
Thank you for tuning in!!
I'm 36 and she has taught me a lot too. She's incredible.
^same lol. MAN I wish I knew all that at her age.
transitioning my mindset from dreading being alone, to choosing solitude when necessary quite literally changed my entire life... like imagine not being able to be comfortable with yourself alone, when you're stuck with yourself till you die...?
I thought there was something wrong with me but you made me feel normal about prefering being on my own to wasting time and energy on pointless friendships. Thank you Kelly
When Kelly says “I just don’t like people that much” you can tell she’s not just saying it because people always say that, she really means it lmao
I felt that as well. I wonder why?
Same
“I’d rather be alone than be with people who make me feel alone.” i say this so much.
I enjoy being alone. I've learned that I am my best friend. I'm not going to intentionally upset myself. I've gone out to eat by myself numerous times, to the movies, to the nail salon, vacation getaway, and etc.
Wow how was it like to travel alone??
@Dominique Haywood You're awesome!!!
@Queen Bby it's like a breath of fresh air. Being able to do what you want. When you want to. Nobody telling you I'm bored and I'm ready to go home. You leave when you feel like leaving.
I love being alone, it's mentally healthy, less interruptions, more mindfulness. 😌
"if you get a knot feeling in your stomach when you're about to tell your friend about this new thing you wanna do, that's probably not your friend" I felt that oh so deeply in my chest and that is the gospel truth. It's crazy how our body tells us when something just ain't right.
I grew up as an only child and my daughter is also an only child. I love being alone, I enjoy my own company. It is so much more relaxing and peaceful than being in a problematic relationship
who else here is super introverted and has already mastered the art of being alone lol. thank you kelly for always providing great content and inspiring so many small youtubers like myself!
Me
"A man can be himself only so long as he is alone, and if he does not love solitude, he will not love freedom, for it is only when he is alone that he is really free."
Some extrovert, somewhere in the world, is responding to this quote with, "well, actually...."
LimeGreenWolf some introvert is responding about what they assume an extrovert would say
@@terrycrews1760 And there it is.
This lockdown just made me realize I'm bad at maintaining human relationships in general 😅
Same. I’m ok with it.
You know that 💯
I agree. Calling, texting, I just can't keep up. Everyone expect something from you.
Sameeee.... I don’t even have any contacts in my phone anymore
@@raschiddeeon ...🌝👍
i’ve mastered the art of being alone. I definitely feel lonely sometimes but it’s for the best! 💕
Im a "loner" too, but over the years I've learned one thing...where never alone cuz God and his angels are always guiding and helping us. And evil spirits always trying to attack us.
I do believe that angels 😇are here to guide us.
You are so right 😍
Very true
🤣 like living in an anime... you are living the dream man. are you the MC or SC. 🤣
@Puertecitos68 he was there to tell us these events were going to happen. Persecution was prophesied in the bible.
Kelly said "I don't need friends, they disappoint me"
LOL I CAN SEE KELLY DOING THE MOVEMENT AFTER
HOW did you know about my posture ?......
She knew I did something with my hair too
Yeah, I slouch a lot. It’s hard to stick your chest out and keep it there for a long time.
I sat straight immediately
🤣🤣 thanks for the comment i sat up before the part came lmao
I sat up straight real quick😂
"because we enter and exit this world alone."
Word 🙌