the art of being alone
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 5 окт 2024
- Take the quiz at bit.ly/3ouUOog and get your recommendation. Use code AMANDAM to get 50% off your first order of Care/of.
I'm attempting to become more comfortable with being truly alone so today I present to you the art of being alone... in this video I'm taking myself on a date and being my own best friend/boyfriend and talking about friendships, loneliness, being alone, feeling alone, and all that jazz. If you find yourself alone more than usual I hope this shows you that it's possible to happy or a least slightly content alone :)
in the video:
text by Aristotle: Nicomachean Ethics
SparkNotes on friendship theory: www.sparknotes...
shirt: thrifted
music (not my own):
Strangers by Dog Trainer
Heart Shaped by Boosegump
ce que je ressens pour toi by Raphael Guattari
~socials~
instagram: / amandapanda767
twitter: / amanda_gordon12
depop: www.depop.com/...
tiktok: www.tiktok.com... 6772018427601257478&tt_from=copy&source=h5_m
spotify: open.spotify.c...
for business inquiries: amandagordon1010@gmail.com
FTC: This video is sponsored by Care/of
tags:
the art of being alone, taking myself on a date, how to be your own best friend, how to be happy alone, to anyone feeling lonely, being alone and happy, why I enjoy being alone, how to be comfortable being alone, loneliness, feeling lonely, being alone vs lonely
![KSI - Thick Of It (feat. Trippie Redd) [Official Music Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/At8v_Yc044Y/mqdefault.jpg)
![OsamaSon - ik what you did last summer [Official Music Video]](http://i.ytimg.com/vi/4DIQDnu3mr4/mqdefault.jpg)
being alone is literally so natural and honestly kind of good. like progressing forward by meeting new people is cool and all, but progressing forward by improving on yourself? even better.
edit: i- hello that's a lot of likes 😳❤️
totally agree
Yup! 👏🏿
Damn right
yes omg
I feel like you can appreciate loneliness more so when you aren't lonely all the time, it gets tiring out here..
I love being alone. No one to bother me, no one to give me bad energy.. just me & my thoughts. I got to know myself better over the years every single time I was isolated from the world. Of course I love my friends & family, but at the end of the day.. all I got is me & God.
"#..all I got is me and God". Nailed it sis
Ameen!
Me 2. I’m Asocial.
Same 🙏🏼
Right, it’s bad but the happiest I’ve ever been is when I thought I’d be alone forever. Like, when you actually accept the fact that you might be alone forever, it puts everything into perspective.
Loners never lonely we take care of ourselves mentally,physically,and spiritually. Thanks for 1k likes❤
Amen 🙏🏽
A that is true
do we tho
Yessir well said 💯👌🏾
Any tips tho
ok but why is nobody talking about how beautiful she is like dammmmn-
True
i was just gonna say that!
she my gf
@@moonlight-hu3gy nilay the fact that you are
TÜRK
@@ber0m406 I indeed am a TÜRK
“ A women who isn’t afraid to be alone , is a powerful women “
Heyy who is the girl on your profile pic?
@@keshi1955 honestly I don't know, I just like this character since it kinda matches my looks
@@keshi1955 i think it’s a marvel character based off of art style
Thank you:)
@@susiseas np
every time i’m surrounded by friends i crave being alone and every time i’m alone i feel so fucking lonely its so confusing :(
Girl I feel you🦋
that just means maybe the ppl in ur circle are not really the ones meant for u & when ur alone & u feel lonely, that just means ur in constant need of urself. idk ur life so idk how ur friends are really but either way, the feeling u get is ur soul telling to stop neglecting it. sit w urself & connect. u feel lonely & alone even w ppl around because u are not connected w urself, ur soul has feelings too & it’s trying to tell u that! u will b ok eventually, just remember to ask urself some in depth questions ab urself & write it down, trust me, once u write it down, all the answers will smoothly be written so easily. self realization is a great feeling, u will realize more about urself & what u truly want/need. i hope good things come ur way, u deserve unconditional love from others & urself. but pls put urself first, u will attract everything that is meant 4 u after u do so, i promise
@@ang3lite thank u
Sameeee
You need the right company. I haven’t found that company yet. Been living and being alone a year and being picky now. Good luck
uhhhh wowwwww thissss hittttt homeeeeee
💙
fancy seeing u here!
Dodie I just watched your vid
Thanks, Dodie, for introducing us to this lovely video
Thanks, Dodie!
The only thing I don't like about being alone is people viewing me as some sort of weirdo or a lost child because I prefer to be alone.
i hate that too. they look at you as if your an abomination or alien when you prefer to be that way.
if they can accept gays, lesbians then why cant they accept people who wanna be left alone without thinking they are miserable or weird
who cares..
their perception of you isn’t really you so it doesn’t matter at the end of the day you don’t need their validation 👍
@@asmrbye Me. I care.
They are the lost ones in reality.
I had a lot of accidental friends that I have now ghosted. They only talked to me about school related things or when they needed someone to vent to. I’m in college now and just want true and genuine friends that see me more as a “utility.”
were in the same boat
Same
Same, cheers to us
I feel you. I have been there too.
Do you really think gosthing someone is ok?
This is probably a wake up call for me, needing to realize it is okay to be alone and to not always depend on other people. To also not get so butt hurt when my friends for utility don't talk to me anymore after school ended which led to me feeling so lonely and empty. I get easily attached and maybe instead of fighting myself, I need to spend more time alone learning about who I am and focus on what I need. I need to make myself happy rather than depending on other people who I think will make me happy.
I relate to this a 100%
My motto is: live your life like you’ll be alone forever.
Same
Nadie merece estar solo, nadie.
i love your barold profile pic he’s v cool and i agree with you
I literally almost had a breakdown yesterday because of how lonely I felt and this comes now 😭
same ! except i did have a breakdown. amazing how these kinds of videos show up when you need them most.
@@morgan8389 ikr it's like they read your mind
@@nannimccheese exactly !
You are not alone, you are with God. I noticed that a lot of people in the comment sections feels alone and that’s okay. We are not alone because God is with us all the time. He is constantly protecting us and putting his hand over problems. You are loved, not alone, cared for, and you matter. I love you
@@goellemboyo3951 amen
We're never alone, we are with ourselves
Deep
We are always alone because we are always only with ourselves, even when we’re surrounded by people.
I don't like myself
@@tn420animations9 LMAO
14 year olds: 😭
why do I feel like I just finished watching a coming of age indie film? Loved this vid.
I have such good taste that youtube recommends this to me
Pls stop with this indie shit
Haha that’s so true that’s the vibe I hope to capture in my videos
@@feliciapattinson9591 who hurt you
@@feliciapattinson9591 if you got a problem with it. Don't watch the video
Another philosopher, Blaise Pascal, wrote: "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone."
And he was wrong
Pascal said something along the lines of “all of humanity’s problems stem from not being able to sit quietly in a room alone” obviously that’s hyperbolic but still the general idea is good and I think makes a solid case for meditation, because that’s basically the practise of being okay being alone and unoccupied.
I had to pause a little there because I was trying to remember when Pascal from Tangled said that
Honestly I rarely ever feel lonely. Sometimes I actually feel concerned of how i almost never feel lonely despite being alone so much of the time. The only times I feel alone is when I compare my life to others when I see them hanging out with a bunch of people and all that but it doesn't really last for long.
This whole comment is very relatable... I wonder, too.
Omg this is me or when my family says something about not having friends
Me too
omg same for me too!! I will be super content just chilling by myself and then I think "is it weird that i don't have friends? should i feel sad and lonely?" sometimes i end up crying but then i bounce right back to being my own bestie lol
@@renee187 same sis
i've definitely had unnecessary heartache over friendships for not recognizing them as friendships of utility/pleasure... like it felt wrong or too pushy to try to keep the friendship going after the thing that kept us together ended, but when the other person didn't do it either i'd feel disliked or even betrayed. it makes a lot more sense with this theory in mind!
also, your vibe here is my aspiration.
are you me? because this is exactly what i've gone through and what i'm realizing with this video
I saw this comment at the most perfect time
same except i’m completely aware of the fact the friendship is utility/pleasure and i know that it will always remain surface level. it’s painful😔💔
@@nuttytube869 that sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Omg same! Its why I suck at long distance relationships/friendships. I mean I'm sure if I reconnected with them we'd still be on good terms tho. But another part of me is like the phone works both ways you know? 😅
Black women fully sitting in their essense...learning, unlearning, growing....my favorite aesthetic. 💜
💖💖💖
Mine too🥰🥰🥰
i want more of this on youtube!! might start myself lol
💚💚💚🙋🏾♀️💯
@Tyrone Iheanyi-John you really didn't have to come here and be a troll🙃
Haha I felt like the thing about ‘no one asked for’ was self deprecation. Good on you for dropping it!
@Evan Hodge I thought I read self decapitation
ray
Perfect 👌
@Evan Hodge um ok???
I think a lot of people don’t understand that every single person on this planet is going to be completely alone at certain stages in their life. I also think that we’ve been conditioned to think that we shouldn’t be completely alone when were in our teens or 20s. But like, its your time. And its a very necessary thing to go through.
We have to be still and be able to grow in our stillness before moving on.
I loveee being alone. Like yes I’m distracting myself with activities or my phone but I think of it as doing what I wanna do. In this society where Most of my day is consumed by school or work I love taking time to watch the shows I wanna watch, eat the foods I wanna eat and do what I wanna do for even just a moment in time it’s powerful. That being said tho when analyzing friendships I think it’s important to think about what you can do to be a better friend to someone, show them that you care.
Yes! The amount of love I have for just being by myself is amazing. I get to do what I want and not have to feel uncomfortable when I just want to be by myself, because I already am. I’m not saying not being by yourself is horrible just that it’s okay to be alone. And trying to be a better friend a less selfish friend/person is also something I think the body needs from time to time.
I have this friend (we've been friends for about 3 years) and the way I knew he was a true friend was that we could sit in comfortable silence, reading individually, for hours. Also, it's a good sign if you don't talk every day, but when you join up together, it's like no time has passed.
I love to explore my city or go to a library, a cafè, or parks alone. There’s just things that i truly enjoy more if i’m alone, am i the only one? People always seem to be incapable to spend time alone, always needing someone else’s validation or approval. To enjoy being alone is the most powerful thing. ✨
I agree, its a different kind of focus. Remember to pray though for protection whenever you're out by yourself. You never know what's happening around you.
I agree
yess, i like going shopping alone as well. it’s just such a good feeling, and i don’t have to worry about keeping up a conversation. it’s really nice to be able to enjoy being alone.
Everything okay as long as you are previlaged.
When you are out of money, food , relationships you have to be dependent.
Life not same for everyone.
@@azad738 i understand that but i was just saying. though i get not everyone has the same opportunities as others, sorry if my word choices weren’t the best in the first comment:)
Literally was in tears earlier as I feel like I dont have a solid friend to turn to when I'm a bit down. so thankyou for this I found it extremely refreshing
i've been feeling the same lately!! you're not alone
I’m sorry that you and the person that replied feel this way. My advice wasn’t asked, but I just want to say, be selfish. Not in a unkind, malice way, but in a way that serves your peace and happiness first. I pray both of you attain the same love you give to others 10 fold 💜
As an introvert with social anxiety being alone is much easier for me than being with people. But anxiety also makes it hard for me to be alone with my thoughts so while being alone I also habe to constantly keep myself occupied with something.
i love being alone. im comfortable by myself and am most productive when i’m alone. just some days i wish i had someone to go out with, to laugh with, and to sleep next to🤷🏼♀️
the point about you not truly being alone when you are alone really struck me. i realised that even when im alone my mind is constantly occupied with miscellaneous things and im not really engaging with my thoughts at all. thank you for this video. the footage is beautiful and you are incredibly insightful
I don't feel lonely when I'm alone but when I'm around other people I never felt more like lonely in my life.
"the person is the benefit" made me think of my bestfriend
Name twin 🙂
@@benej9356 hiii TWIN
Being alone is so normal and natural for me. I would always get asked why I barely leave my room/house or why, in the middle of the party, I go outside or to a different room and just sit there. Idk, I kinda need to recharge(?). Being too long with people (especially more than one-two people at the time) makes me so tired... It's not that I don't like them, it is just too much for me, I feel overwhelmed. I am not being rude to them or anything, sometimes I feel gulity about being like that because I dont want them to think I dont want to hang out with them. I try to explain it to them but it doesn't make much sense when I say it out loud.
How do I truly be alone? I’m so used to just sitting on my phone, when I’m alone, so the idea of being alone without a phone scares me.
Same...but when im not i do my school work, exercise or just listen to music and sit in the garden...believe me its really peacful and relaxing. Also i see you are blink?👀
try out hobbies you can do aloneI. if they give you any sort of pleasure, even if they might be somewhat related to eletronics, it's one step closer to peace with yourself!! writing, reading books, mangas or webtoons or comics, opening pinterest and browsing, learning something you've always wanted to (ancient Egypt or knitting, whatever fits your boat!), watching documentaries, etc etc. These all might be related to phones somehow, but you can switch those for a tv or computer, or cut the phone completely
Books
@@nenes24 using technology isn't being alone at all. if you're staring at a screen you are not at a state of peace. i feel better advice would be to meditate, or to go outside for a walk (which really can also be a form of meditation) or to sit out at a park and read a good novel or write in a journal. entering your own world within your mind is what i consider being truly alone, being away from electronics, people. *@Jaykay’s Dimple* to truly be alone you have to detach, don't distract yourself with learning, mindlessly scrolling through the internet or watching a tv program. be "one with nature" as they say, let yourself absorb what comes naturally in this life
@@welpiguess i was also thinking ebooks or audiobooks when i answered....in a way that's technology and still fits the "distance yourself from yourself" criteria, but i get what you mean.
I used to be dependent on others to validate myself, but deep down I knew I was insecure and nobody understood me well enough to keep me around if they weren’t just using me. I always felt alone but growing up, I then realized that’s okay. I felt more free the more I spent with myself, as if I had nothing to restrain me and can enjoy anything without the care of judgement. I never was keen on being in relationships but believed I needed one to be happy when I was younger, and so glad i grew from the mindset to know my own self value. Being alone made me take pride on doing the things I love like watching anime, Art, writing, you name it. I don’t have to prove anything to anyone anymore to feel I have a purpose in today’s society and can always enjoy my own company whether I’m down in the dumps, happy, or want to go on special events. Being around others was life-draining and people were confusing when it comes to returning friendly sentiments, but again I can’t judge one for being human just like me who’s done no harm ☺️
You inspire me
I totally feel you on the self-hatred thing. It's like, maybe no one cares what I have to say, but if I'm self aware maybe they won't mind as much? I'm so glad you finally decided to own your content even if no one asked for it. The truth is most people aren't seeking out black girls for anything, so we just have to make our own way. Sometimes people don't know what they want until we place it in front of them. Don't know if I'm making sense, but yeah, I feel you. Love your "no one asked for this" content btw :)
@Teacup ty. It's important to know ourselves
@• I know I’m late to this but thank you. As a black women I appreciate it. Wish I knew more people like you!
I'm a hispanic who passes for white and I basically clicked on this vid for 2 reasons: a) it's about being alone as I always am, and b) the girl is black. Is that weird? Loved this video and topic. Lots of food for thought. Am subbing, have a feeling this channel is very good. Bless you
just a reminder that you are making sense and you know it:)
Why do you have to make this about race... everyone is alone
When I was a teenager I never thought of myself as an introvert, only now do I really understand how much I valued being alone with my thoughts. I love watching videos that speak to the importance of listening and digesting your own thoughts.
After i started enjoying my own company, i noticed i lost a lot of friends. You're standards get higher when you don't hate yourself lol
Oh my god :0 damn that’s a thinker
No they don't
Tbh if I didn't hate myself my standards would be low.
Very true, we put up with a lot more bull from people when we are in a bad place. We allow people to step on us during those difficult times...
I’ve been going through a pretty bad depressive episode lately and my birthday is in 5 days, which I’m probably going to be spending alone because my friends are busy. I’m trying to cope with and learn to appreciate being alone with myself and the feeling of loneliness that comes along with it. It’s been rough but hopefully I’ll begin to accept this soon enough
13:21 “after i spend a lot of time with myself and then i see other people i usually tend to be more fully present with that other person and really just try my best to appreciate the virtues they have” 🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯🎯 YES
idk if it’s just me but I just want to be alone. I wanna drop all my “friends” and be alone 🤩🤩 I really love being alone
I moved and did that. Lol it’s nice.
Definitely have been dealing with this in my life. It's been hard to make any friends in the 'goodness' category as everyone in my life seems to be temporary. It just takes time and effort, I think we need to somehow learn to be okay with all of that as people will always come and go in Life. We will all change bit by bit and eventually real connections are made along the way. Take care yall! 💙
so it’s not just me ? that made me feel better .. everyone i come across usually leaves out of my life at some point & i never have anyone permanent . it hurts bc everyone is like “ ppl come & go , it’s life “ but like DAMN everyone i meet gotta come & go ? 😂 but i’m trying to learn that it’s okay to be alone .
I felt this...damn I lost like two groups of friends and it hard keeping people
@@kingkb2566 sameeee haha
@@kingkb2566 ikr 🤣🤣🤣 I'm at the point where it's LUCKY to find at least that 1 PERSON who sticks by you
i feel like a big part of our twenties is trying to tackle what exactly it means to be on our own. Some people take those feelings and surround themselves without anyone, but for those of us who can't afford to do that it seems like we are all alone in that sentiment. It's hard out here, but it's so important to be content with our own presence.
how do you forget about the camera when you're filming yourself alone? i wouldn't be able to look like i was spending time with my self since i know the whole time im being recorded, which implies the presence of future viewers... it's an impressive skill to be able to forget that you're recording yourself!
Keep doing it and over time you become desensitized to it :)
honestly you don't for a while. People are gonna look at you weirdly but my experience just accept the awkwardness. Take your time to get use to it, maybe film yourself in public randomly as stress test.
yeah i'd be subconsiously posing n sitting at nice angles LMAOOO
I just always found myself alone, and I learned to enjoy being alone. It’s a wonderful feeling. It took years, but I am at a point in my life where I am content.
FINALLY, PEOPLE WHO UNDERSTAND MY NEED TO BE ALONE! I am comfortable eating out alone(before times), going to movies alone and just existing in my city Alone! I value my friends and family but WOW it's nice to just BE without worrying about anything
this makes me want to stay alive
I really asked for this sis! Your awkward black girl video inspired me to make one on the awkward black boy trope after realising people actually cared about my interests 🖤
That’s so cool I’m gonna go check out your video
@@Girlytheology thank you!
I just checked out your channel and I love it! You just earned a sub :)
@@yaelsafiya 🥰
Loved the video!!
When you said, "You'd rather hang with them then to be alone", I felt that on a different level because I am training myself to not this. My own company is enough.
i didn’t know about this theory about friendships before & this really really helped me get some clarity on my past relationships, thank you!
I love the theory about friendship. It took me a long time to learn that not all friendships are meant to last. Sometimes it's good to let someone go when the shared utility or pleasure ends. A friendship based on goodness doesn't work with everyone you meet and that should be okay!
yea, i'm a lecturer and students often have this thing to say something negative before answering a question or doing a presentation like 'here goes nothing' or 'i don;t know, i'm just trying' and i'm so frustrated. trying to get thru to them that that is not needed.
I would like to be a lecturer. I am planning to do my masters degree. Would you mind mentoring me? I would really appreciate.
@@aokookello5564 why you think i have any skills? :) what kind help you thin you need?
I thought if you are a lecturer, maybe you have some tips on qualifications etc
Well I see why
I remember back when I studied abroad in Australia-I would always travel alone and just focus all my energy on myself. Being alone at night on the streets. at the mall, on the beach. It was the best feeling ever. 🍄✨🌈
That sounds so nice :)
@@vivian4768 it really was, 🥺💖
I love to be on my own but I hate to feel lonely, its such a contradiction
that's my current situation but I'm trying to overcome it
Exactly. And when I take myself out on dates, it feels like I’m pretending to be happy that I’m alone. Like, I am, but it feels so forced? Idk how to word it out better
something someone once told me that has really stuck with me is that there are worse things in life than being alone. When you’re alone you get to appreciate and fall in love with things you normally wouldn’t even notice. You get to know yourself and fall in love with the little things you never knew about yourself before then. Hope that encourages someone!
I needed this. I'm a sophomore in uni and because my freshman orientation sucked I ended up having no friends 😔 I realized very quickly that I needed to get used to being alone and enjoy eating out by myself instead of being cooped up alone in my room. Still longing for friends but with this pandemic most of the clubs aren't open (in person)
i’m a sophomore in college too! i really thought college was gonna be the place where i would have so many friends and it’s been really
hard on me realizing that that might not be the case :/ i think i need to learn more about myself and treat myself as my own company sometimes (idk if that made sense)
Chloe man i guess we’re all going through this. i really just have to learn that myself is always the best company :)
Same
Yeah for sure being alone makes you realize more about yourself... and care more about yourself... no one will hurt you... as I am an introvert being alone for me is happiness plus I am a graphics designer... so most of the time is me + my computer + food 🙃☺
I've been pretty much alone for 6 years and its given me alot more time to work on self improvement. I think people think self improvement can be achieved quickly and that's there downfall. When we spend time alone we are really able to discover ourselves fully and can take time
True i only started feeling lonely 1 year ago when my friends started hanging out with other friend group so i ended up being 24/7 at home but rn i started to work on my self and use this time to find myself and what i want in my life
I wish to be alone as well . I don’t know why people automatically assume that when I’m alone I’m sad but I’m so happy when I have me time . My space to think. When im old enough I want to work and live alone and obsess over beautiful men alone . I just wish to be left all alone because it really don’t mean I’m lonely or depressed . I just don’t like talking to my family much so I stay most of the time in my room. You are really lucky
Exactly!!!! I remember when we went to irl school, i used to sit alone by my desk. And i remember that one time my friend wanted to sit next to me because she felt bad lol. I was enjoying my alone time, had lots of space to put my backpack and books, and didn’t get irritated by the existence of people.
I've been feeling disassociated from everything lately, this was much needed
All my friendships are based on goodness. I think that’s why I only have 2 friends. Tbh i want more friends because being in someone’s company makes me feel better (I simply like people). But I’m glad that I base my friends this way. I even cut out like 13 people because they were toxic or we just didn’t have that mutual connection of love with me. It’s one of my goals in life to have a solid friend group of like 8 people who all mutually love eachother as people. I wonder where I will ever find these people. :/ i constantly feel under appreciated, so I cant wait to find more people who like me as a person.
Same
Just found out I’ll be spending thanksgiving alone so this is perfect timing 😊
💕
stumbled onto this video and i'm moved to tears for some weird reason. i love and miss connections with people and being able to comfortably enjoy the wonders of the world and discover more about ourselves in the process. the life we live is really so amazing and beautiful.
When I read "the art of being alone", I knew the RUclips algorithm finally understood me lol. And within the first five minutes of watching this, I clicked subscribe :) You seem so intellectual and kind! Keep up the great work and I wish you many blessings.
being alone is so peaceful. it's my favourite way to be
ok first: can’t believe how pretty u are. second: u just inspired me to journal at the park tomorrow. i rlly been going through it. thank u
Growing up, I realized all my friends including my two best friends were actually utility friends, that after high school as the years went on, we hang out less and less and now we barely even talk let alone hang out anymore. I am currently struggling with loneliness and most of my time I spend it by myself. I absolutely adore it sometimes, because I get to listen to myself and think about stuff, but on the other hand, it’s depressing and the reason is that I am having a war with my past self. I feel like I am making backwards progress over the years of becoming more introvert, but also I am a better person than I was back then and I feel more true to myself. It’s honestly a weird feeling and at times it can lead to mental breakdowns, but it’s better to be by yourself than surrounded by fake people who see you as a utility :)
Such a peaceful vlog, NYC is really pretty this time of year :)
As an introvert, I definitely love spending time by myself. I think everyone should try (at least once) to do an activity by themselves. Before the pandemic, if my friends were busy, I'd go to the movies or even some concerts by myself. I feel like life is too short to wait around for the company of others, especially if it's an activity you truly want to do
"you have to truly enjoy being alone in order to enjoy someone else's company"
I relate to this so much because I genuinely love being alone and being with just myself, and I often notice that when I'm hanging out with my friends, I love just being there with them and talking to them like in the moment without any distractions. I find myself forgetting about my phone and social media or literally just anything because I enjoy being in their company so much and just talking with them that I get sad sometimes when they're not as invested or just when they get on their phones. I mean maybe it also has to do with my love language being quality time? I don't know lol but I just wanted to say my little two cents lol
Idk why but the way you talk to the camera really feels like you are talking to me btw I love this video
I find being alone therapeutic. I love going to my favorite book store and thrift store alone because it gives me some time to kind of reflect and appreciate the little things that brings joy to me; just finding happiness in me. Because I do find myself a lot of times relying my happiness on other people and that's not cute hahaha. Anyways, glad to see this video on my recommend page, thanks Amanda. 💖
Even though i'm technically consuming something, I love watching movies with myself! Just like not letting my phone distract me and letting myself get into all the emotions of the movie feels like real quality time :') one of my fav things
I just graduated and I know I'm never going to see my friends again, this makes me feel better❤
Wow when you went over your friendship based on goodness, it made me reevaluate how many friends that I have that fit that.
Both of my two really good friends moved away a few years ago, and now I feel like since then I haven't made a single friend. Some people to sit with, some people to "converse" with once in a while, but that's about it. Just unmemorable people
What you said about your intro is so refreshing! It's very good that you realised that. And we really want to hear what you have to say! ✨
i have 3 amazing best friends but I am naturally a lonely, introverted girl. i love coming across channels that make me feel seen and heard, to know that there are other people out there like me. it's like having another friend in a way. definitely subscribing
Wow this theory was really eye opening. I've never really felt like I had a friendship based on goodness, most of the friends i've made in my life are either from school or another extra curricular activity. I think I really wanted a best friend because I never really had that but I've come to realise the longest relationship you'll ever have is with yourself. So once i've made peace with myself completely I know that I'll be able to find friendship based on goodness too.
I appreciated this so much. Having started fresh in a new city I’ve been wondering whats been lacking from the new relationships I’ve formed. I think I’ve been desparate to label them friendships of goodness when plainly they are not.
I don't usually comment on videos, especially because this is my "business" account, but... I just wanted to say that I absolutely love and appreciate your videos. They are calming, thought-provoking, and inherently curious about the world, which are all qualities I've always appreciated in my life. You help me feel a little less lonely and your ideas are slowly helping me get through this difficult period in our lives. So, again, thank you. You are special.
- Rian
wow thank you so much Rian!
I’ve always felt shame for being introverted and wanting to spend most of my time alone. I’ve come to realize being alone isn’t the same as being lonely. Being alone has allowed me to learn so much more about myself. It’s my self care:)
this was so insightful. I was immediately able to identify that the friendships of mine that are struggling to stay afloat are simply relationships of pleasure/coincidence/are situational, and that helps me not to worry so much about why these friendships are fading
This video warmed my introverted soul😊. The visuals, the music and the message was so dope! Spending time with yourself is the best form of self care. Thank you 🙏🏾
I’m going through a breakup rn reasons being that my partner wanted to be alone and grow more and learn by himself and it’s tough because I think being alone again is scary especially when you have a person that you feel compliments your alone time like they’re just there but when your really alone it’s like 😳 it’s just me and sometimes it sucks but it’s also okay,.. idk my emotions are everywhere but this helped for the time being thanks😭
literally spent the last 8 months being in quarantine alone, so many ups and downs but grateful that i can push through 🙌
All I gotta say is you are VERY tough! I couldn’t do that
so proud of you !
I resonate with this video a lot. I’m constantly doing things alone, but I wouldn’t call myself lonely I enjoy my alone time to think. I’m always questioning my interactions with “friends”, contemplating what makes someone a friend and what I value in my friendships. Some of my friends are from college or volunteer programs or childhood, and I never wanted to force any friendship just bc of history. I value meaningful connections the most, which I why I don’t hangout with just anyone often, yet I still keep these other connections even though they aren’t as fulfilling. I’m working on transitioning the utilities and pleasure friendships into the goodness ones. And also working on being content with being fully alone, without my phone or these other distractions and fully present in the here and now.
Also my fav park I go alone to that I went to all summer was prospect park. Probably my fav place to just read and get connected with nature in the city :)
hearing u say “ladies and theydies” filled me w JOY
she's so pretty omg🥺
in my freshman year of college I would cry every weekend when i had to sleep alone in our dorm after my roommate went to her parents house. Like for the entire year. I was eventually able to learn to love being alone (4 years later) but I had to really figure out why I was scared to be alone. I was afraid of my independence, and my own thoughts. a creative outlet and a JOB (ugh) helped fill in the free time for me to learn to handle being alone in small doses.
Yeah. I often think about how the only reason I can stay sane at school is that I have youtube. And that’s prolly partially why I watch way too much RUclips
I remember one year I felt that I preferred RUclips to the company of others at college. Granted, I didn’t have many friends.
that thing you said at the end abt how being alone with yourself makes you better at listening to what other people say makes sooooooo much sense. i feel like some of it has to do with the fact that if you keep avoiding spending time with yourself you start perceiving yourself as annoying or something but when you actively try and be ~with~ yourself you might not think like that so when you meet other ppl you don't automatically assume that they're going to judge you, because you know yourself and you dont need someone else's opinion or perception of who you are.
Oh I'm so happy that I discovered your channel! You have a really calm and chill vibe, and I love these videos where you just share your thoughts on things you've learned. This video especially made me examine my friendships with people and think about how I treat others. I hope you have a lovely day, thank you for this video :)
Thank u so much ☺️
It’s crucial being able to be content with self and when you’re by yourself. It’s also just as crucial to seek meaningful relations with others.
this is so interesting!! i feel the same way about thinking that i am so good at being "alone" but i don't spend enough time away from youtube or netflix, etc. like even just brushing my teeth i need to listen to a podcast! so i'm not actually alone a lot of the time.
I cannot get over how CUTE you are. You're so pretty and your hair is awesome and your STYLE? This video also makes me want to go to NYC SO BAD
The minute you said "Aristotle," I immediately got Chidi Anagonye vibes
ayyyy you watch good place? btw your comment made me smile :)
The best I've ever felt was when I was by myself. Not trying to impress others or being around those who made me feel lonely. I am in that predicament again, but I will be changing that soon.
Think this should be applied to every aspect of your life. Within friendships, relationship, situations ships etc..
Literally yesterday Night I broke down,,I was at the rooftop of my apartment looking at the stars and crying mad for how lonely I felt, couldn't call family, didn't want to inconvenience them with my problems plus they couldn't really understand how I was feeling 😭, Amanda this is a beautiful video like yourself
“Mommy’s just chillaxing” 😂
I often just move from one fandom to another and look at my phone when I'm bored. When I read it's escapism, and I'm trying to stop that. I want to be alone with myself just as much, and I've learned many of these lessons the hard way. Thank you for making this video, it helped me gather my thoughts about this subject! Also, you're absolutely beautiful!
I relate to this so much. I'm still addicted to my phone but I've stopped stanning artists, instead I just appreciate their music. Still have a long way to go tho
I think I’m alone a lot but I’m constantly playing music in the background. Would you say that’s not being completely alone because it’s kinda like a distraction? Anybody’s input is nice 😁 I just wonder
I agree with you Jazzy! Especially if it's a song I like I'll pay more attention to it. Also feel like specific songs can prompt thoughts that don't really come if you were just sat in more silence :)
Try sitting in your room without any music and see how you feel. That’s my advice. I recommend the book “The untethered soul”. This has helped me understand myself and truly find happiness in the little things I do throughout my day.
@Edmundo Zaragoza that’s beautiful. You demonstrate self-discipline, self-awareness and self love.
@Edmundo Zaragoza this inspired me
I talk to my self
thank you for sharing these insights! i’ve had social phobia since i was very young, so i’ve struggled with friendship my whole life (late 20s now). sometimes i get really lonely because i don’t have anyone i can share my deepest emotions, fears, and hopes with. i’ve felt a lot of guilt when i stop talking to a friend. but it’s true that temporary friendships of utility and pleasure are ok and healthy and a natural part of life’s seasons. i’d never heard it expressed that way before. keep being you!