Julia Kristina Counselling, it's working! I kind of was doing this before but since I watched this video, I am saying Stop it, knock it off, cut it out with more conviction and it is working. This has greatly shortened the time I'm in that stinkin thinkin mode.
I am :) And another great tip (I think) - that I got from a therapist once - when you have these thoughts (negative/anxiety thoughts) - look at your balcony door, or your entrance door - and say out loud (that's the best thing to do, otherwise - just say it in your mind, works too) - I see you, I hear you, now you have to go out on the balcony, and stay there. And then we can talk, tomorrow. Now I tried this - after feeling overwhelmed with negative thoughts and anxiety, and it worked. Not just once, or twice, - it worked several times. It is the easiest method I have come across, to help deal with anxiety. It's respecting your own thoughts and feelings - while at the same time, telling them in a respectful manner, that yes, I will listen and take care of you, but right now I am not able to do so. Tomorrow, we can have that talk.
The way you describe it, our thoughts are habitual, like taking the same route across a field or through the woods, and creating a pathway. The nice thing about a pathway is that it's familiar and tends to be easier: the grass has been worn down, you can see where you are stepping, branches that would poke you in the eye have already been removed, etc. So, when you say to yourself "Stop!" this requires you to find another way. This requires you to forge another path. This is going to require work, breaking off new branches, watching out for uneven ground. Anyone who does any serious hiking is grateful for the fact that someone else already established a path. I wish everyone well, as you create new paths that better serve you. As always, watch out for bears and snakes.
The biggest battle we all have is not with someone else but with our innerself.The day we conquer ourself is the day we have started living.Thank you julia.I am practicing the formula.It does work..Sometimes it keeps coming back but then again i make a point to battle it out.
I have been struggling with this since I was 10 so you can imagine my pathways are now highways and creating new pathways that are more productive and healthy is an uphill battle and sometimes it feels like a lost cause. But my kids are worth all the effort. thank you for posting.
Stop works for me! It took years of practice ! Make it a habit and we have choice in mindfulness! We can control our thoughts or our thoughts can control us!
I got so excited when I saw this title! ... ugh! those thoughts can really take over and are so hard to shut down! I actually say 'stop' out loud to myself and it seems to work.... although it does get me looks at times lol. I do this when grief creeps up on me as well. Thanks!!
I often find myself saying "Hi thought. You can hang out if you want but I'm not going to give you any energy., I have a lot of stuff I have to do today." It's amazing how this can fairly quickly become your default reaction to these kinds of thoughts. Not sure I like the term 'shutting it down', because that kinda implies fighting the thought rather than (as you say) not giving it the time of day, but it's just semantics really. Great video!
Of course it works like this!! I don’t know how I didn’t put this together before. When I quit smoking, years ago, I used to visualize my brain making new pathways, creating new ones to break the habit. I contribute that to how I quit successfully. I’m really excited to use this same technique with negative thoughts. I’ll give it a try for sure! Thanks 😊
I love it! Yes! I use to smoke too and at the time I couldn't imagine not smoking - it was so ingrained into my being. It's been 6 years since I quit and it's not at all part of who I am anymore.
I love the phrase "neurons that fire together, wire together". We have to starve the negative thoughts of the firing that keep them stuck in our mental routines.
Yes indeed Julia thanks for the great advice it totally is a mindset, I tell myself when these non productive thoughts come up to myself STOP THE B.S. WHY ARE YOU THINKING THIS WAY IT WORKS!!!!!!
Every video I picked about mental health on RUclips is almost the same but you are different Julia. You get the message across very clear. The black and white effect helps me to focus I am thankful I stumbled upon this channel. Thank you
Absolutely. The more often you consciously pay attention to the negative s*** that comes up in your head and consciously tell yourself you're not going to engage it, over time you start to shift your own psychology so that it doesn't come up so much. Our brains are wired via those neural pathways, and this is how we can consciously change how they flow. This is about taking control of this process instead of just letting it happen (because it will happen no matter what). Thank you for sharing!
@@juliakristinamah sometimes it is hard to try to stop thinking about it sometimes when I'm happy it comes after me the next day and I have been thinking about this almost r months and sometimes I give up trying and I have asked help but sometimes or most of the time it does not work and I cant control my mind from thinking about this
Hi Julia, I must say that for the majority of my life, I created an extensive negative feedback loop of unproductive and destructive thoughts towards myself that at times spiraled out of control, which I was not very proud of. What I am, however, proud of now and going forward is that through my own research by listening to knowledgeable resources on the subject, valuable coaching from many people very dear to me, combined with reading books and taking care of my self with balance through awareness, I have substantially decreased my negative thoughts of myself and my life has been much fuller and brighter. My comment to your video is that it is very true advise and I thank you tremendously. I still have “itsy bitsy gremlins” from time to time and I am, however, working on challenging and negating them through awareness of my needs at the moment. Thank you Julia!
I came across this video just right on time. Few minutes before watching this, some uncomfortable thought came thr my mind. It was eating me up. I prayed over it and surrendered it to God. This video piece is like a message sent from The Higher Universe. Thank you. I subscribed to your channel. "The Work" by Katie Byron is very helpful too. Thank you once again..Blessings💕💕💕
I am highly emotional and I'm in a situation where I have my only choice is to do this right now. It's hard but it's getting easier. It works! When I'm alone I take the time to find the fear. Then I talk lovingly to myself until I realize the fear is a lie. ❤
I’m actually so happy that this bye Felicia technique is an option because I’m getting tired of this cycle of negative thoughts I’m always dragged into when I just want to enjoy my day. Thank you for this video
Thank you 😊 I just started watching your videos, I’m going through terrible bouts of panic and anxiety and you have really helped me.., i will continue to watch your videos EVERYDAY!! Thanks again!! 😃
I’m reading a book right now called “Winning the War in Your Mind “ right now that talks about this topic! Love to hear you talk about it in another example!
I’m definitely open with your way of thinking Julia you make places like my mind which is most of the time a internal war zone more calmer and your advice is simply and effective,your videos truly help people like me each and every day thank you 🙏
Thank you so much! I feel like I'm at a low point in my life and bad thoughts are constantly popping up. It is hard to shut them out. But you are right. You just got to say STOP, and it will help. I am looking at my thoughts as well and some are past mistakes, so I see a positive at least since I do think about them. And that is i can change and strive to be better and get out of the hole i dug myself in. I am binging your videos. I just discovered them and they help. Thanks again
YES, I am with you, Julia! I do my best to avoid negative thoughts. I never tried to say "STOP" Out loud but one thing I did and it helps a lot is I named the "owner of the voice" Cruella De Vil, LOL I used to say: Cruella, go sweep the driveway!!! (Instead of telling ME what I was doing wrong at times). one thing I love to do is to put MUSIC on. SO if the negative thought comes when I am in the car, I find a song I like and sing along. The hardest part for me is when negative thoughts come to my mind when I am going to bed, or wake up early for some reason. I am going to use this technique to just say "STOP". I love that you explained how we can program ourselves to have these negative thoughts coming easily. One more reason to make them STOP now. Thank you!!!
This video really speaks to me! I am going to use the strategy to eliminate some of my negative thoughts that persistently nag at me. Thank you for such an insightful video.
Julia..I love your video! I have listened to this video several times! I had a brother that told me all my growing up years that I was ugly and I would grow up to be nothing! This has held me back in areas of life..hate to say..Even ad a 55 year old woman..these thoughts have come and have held me back..I hate it!
I have had to use that trick and is literally the only way to gain control back. Especially when one is naturally passionate, thoughts can become tortuous if not shutdowned on time. Thank you Julia 😉👍🏼
Listening to your video I discovered some clingy negative thoughts that I have started to believe as I gave them more attention. Definitely I will try this technique
It rarely happened to me ... which I've watched many videos of the same person (like you julia) .. this is simply a great work you're doing .. and believe me in our country a one-hour session requires the patient to pay (which equals to 120 US dollars) ..and you are offering great videos FOR FREEEE !! ... thanks again
i gotta say is that you are helping me out with my life and um im still struggling some issues with family but ill get it thru eventually . and your making feel like i won 60$ im telling you man like you are an inspirational person man keep on updating you are doing great!!
Synchronicity working overtime ! I’ve had reoccurring negative thoughts( about a person) daily . I’ll definitely use this ‘tool’ from now on . Shut it down 👍🏻 Thanks .
Your counsel on this subject is Spot On ! Thank you for putting these videos on RUclips!! As a Christian I memorized these Bible verses that help me with those stinking negative thoughts. .For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds. We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every Thought captive to obey Christ, 2 Corinthians 10:4-5 ESV Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, Think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart]. The things which you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things [in daily life], and the God [who is the source] of peace and well-being will be with you. PHILIPPIANS 4:8-9 AMP.
That is a perfect description “unrelenting Gremlin lIke thoughts” I could be feeling good and then the “Gremlin” will try to drag me down with irrational thoughts or take something that I know what it meant, but it takes it out of all context and tries to use it to make me feel awful!
I'm with you! OmG, "bye Felicia" really did the trick for me! As a non native speaker I'd never heard it before and had to google it 😁, but now it rocks my world... Thank you so much!
Well, certain thoughts are a little trickier to deal with, but sometimes just not engaging the thought - Acknowledging it's existence and choosing not to entertain it or spiral down in it.
I'm with you! I'm having this struggle with negative thoughts...but the biggest one is a negative reaction before anything has happened. Short, short, short version is whenever a certain situation at work arises, and this is on a daily basis, I will immediately feel hostile, defensive, just overall not in a good place. And then the situation goes by rather pleasantly and I tell myself "Oh, you idiot! Don't think like that anymore, you made it feel unpleasant for no reason!"....and then I do it again. I am aware of these thoughts and know I am capable of stopping or changing them but I feel like I have conditioned myself to react like this and it's getting myself to stop anticipating and going to that "bad place in my head" instead of letting it play itself out. Thanks Julia!
Wow, I used similar tactics a couple of hours ago prior to watching this video, it was the right thing to do. I had to do an in-class presentation a few hours ago and my anxiety was building and building waiting to present for my group, something I was not happy about doing. I felt I was headed for a disaster presentation, a poorly prepared off the cuff group report, and I was the last to present off a chain of incredible prior presentations by my classmates. I was outside myself and could not focus and the thoughts of bad presentations past that had as you say Junia "etched themselves" a quick path into my thoughts. I knew that in order to at least function properly I had to admit it was not going to be great but I was determined to not make it a disaster and found ways to shut down the almost panicked state I was in. One thing I did was recognise where we went wrong as a team and explained honestly and up-front what we could have better and talk about the aspects we had attempted but failed to get to fruition, but I also asked myself is this really worth all the anxiety and I said no. That freed my mind just enough to relax so I could focus on getting the opening sentence out, then things went relatively smoothly thereafter. On my way home and coming down from a disaster averted high, I began to feel negative again. Now after watching your video, I recognise that my brain can work against me. I can take action on my thoughts in these moments and at the very least not let them become disasters. Thank you for this Video Julia, much appreciated.
Thank you Julia. I'm with you. That really works Julia. I have a suggestion which is "Why don't make your video coloured?". You will be much more beautiful than what you already are Julia.
So true. But just like you can get stuck with those negative thoughts all your life, shouldn't it be possible to do the exact opposite? Not easy, just possible. 😊 I think we give too much power to negativity. Maybe work on balancing it out. Just like you pay close attention to negative thoughts and become immersed in those, do the same when ever you have positive thoughts and feelings. That way you'll be able to obtain some sort of balance so life doesn't feel like a big ball of "gross" all the time. (Speaking from experience)
I am hoping this will help me with my projecting. Sometimes I find myself when I have had a bad moment that I project onto others who do not deserve it. Now that I am more aware of it more I will try this thought process.
Are you with me? Let me know below!
Julia Kristina Counselling I’m with you! Thanks for this!
yess Stacy!!
Julia Kristina Counselling, it's working! I kind of was doing this before but since I watched this video, I am saying Stop it, knock it off, cut it out with more conviction and it is working. This has greatly shortened the time I'm in that stinkin thinkin mode.
I am :) And another great tip (I think) - that I got from a therapist once - when you have these thoughts (negative/anxiety thoughts) - look at your balcony door, or your entrance door - and say out loud (that's the best thing to do, otherwise - just say it in your mind, works too) - I see you, I hear you, now you have to go out on the balcony, and stay there. And then we can talk, tomorrow.
Now I tried this - after feeling overwhelmed with negative thoughts and anxiety, and it worked. Not just once, or twice, - it worked several times. It is the easiest method I have come across, to help deal with anxiety. It's respecting your own thoughts and feelings - while at the same time, telling them in a respectful manner, that yes, I will listen and take care of you, but right now I am not able to do so. Tomorrow, we can have that talk.
I am with you
The way you describe it, our thoughts are habitual, like taking the same route across a field or through the woods, and creating a pathway. The nice thing about a pathway is that it's familiar and tends to be easier: the grass has been worn down, you can see where you are stepping, branches that would poke you in the eye have already been removed, etc. So, when you say to yourself "Stop!" this requires you to find another way. This requires you to forge another path. This is going to require work, breaking off new branches, watching out for uneven ground. Anyone who does any serious hiking is grateful for the fact that someone else already established a path.
I wish everyone well, as you create new paths that better serve you. As always, watch out for bears and snakes.
That is exactly right Natasha - And it's funny because I've used an analogy very similar to that in the past ;-)
Natasha Mudford that was such a nice analogy! ☺️
I love your analogy, I hike all the time, and love creating my own path
With you on this. Recurring negatives are the bane of my existence.
I am with you julia.its shut down.game over with not serving thoughts
I'm with you Julia, and all the people watching this !!
The biggest battle we all have is not with someone else but with our innerself.The day we conquer ourself is the day we have started living.Thank you julia.I am practicing the formula.It does work..Sometimes it keeps coming back but then again i make a point to battle it out.
Building a healthy relationship with ourselves is no joke, and does take time and work, that's for sure! One step at a time - that's all we can do.
I have been struggling with this since I was 10 so you can imagine my pathways are now highways and creating new pathways that are more productive and healthy is an uphill battle and sometimes it feels like a lost cause. But my kids are worth all the effort. thank you for posting.
I was laying on the ground earlier thinking about why I'm so unlucky and I never get what I want so negative. This video is an answer prayer
Isn't it cool how the right messages come into our lives often at the exact right time?
Stop works for me! It took years of practice ! Make it a habit and we have choice in mindfulness! We can control our thoughts or our thoughts can control us!
I got so excited when I saw this title! ... ugh! those thoughts can really take over and are so hard to shut down! I actually say 'stop' out loud to myself and it seems to work.... although it does get me looks at times lol. I do this when grief creeps up on me as well. Thanks!!
Yes! Love that you say stop out loud - that is awesome.
effective but the looks can be unique.
I often find myself saying "Hi thought. You can hang out if you want but I'm not going to give you any energy., I have a lot of stuff I have to do today." It's amazing how this can fairly quickly become your default reaction to these kinds of thoughts. Not sure I like the term 'shutting it down', because that kinda implies fighting the thought rather than (as you say) not giving it the time of day, but it's just semantics really. Great video!
Love this self talk Brady! 'Do what you need to do, but I've got a life to live so I won't be paying you any attention.' Love it.
Julia I am with you... That thought does not deserve my attention... That thought does not deserve my attention ...
Julia I'm with you! Thank you so much for this information. I have been battling negative thoughts wondering how to stop them!
Of course it works like this!! I don’t know how I didn’t put this together before. When I quit smoking, years ago, I used to visualize my brain making new pathways, creating new ones to break the habit. I contribute that to how I quit successfully. I’m really excited to use this same technique with negative thoughts. I’ll give it a try for sure! Thanks 😊
I love it! Yes! I use to smoke too and at the time I couldn't imagine not smoking - it was so ingrained into my being. It's been 6 years since I quit and it's not at all part of who I am anymore.
"Oh I'm DEFINITELY w/ You!! In Full Agreement"
I love the phrase "neurons that fire together, wire together". We have to starve the negative thoughts of the firing that keep them stuck in our mental routines.
Yes indeed Julia thanks for the great advice it totally is a mindset, I tell myself when these non productive thoughts come up to myself STOP THE B.S. WHY ARE YOU THINKING THIS WAY IT WORKS!!!!!!
So glad it connected!
Every video I picked about mental health on RUclips is almost the same but you are different Julia. You get the message across very clear. The black and white effect helps me to focus I am thankful I stumbled upon this channel. Thank you
Absolutely. The more often you consciously pay attention to the negative s*** that comes up in your head and consciously tell yourself you're not going to engage it, over time you start to shift your own psychology so that it doesn't come up so much. Our brains are wired via those neural pathways, and this is how we can consciously change how they flow. This is about taking control of this process instead of just letting it happen (because it will happen no matter what). Thank you for sharing!
Absolutely! Thanks for your comment Nancy - great to have another psych junkie here ;-)
@@juliakristinamah sometimes it is hard to try to stop thinking about it sometimes when I'm happy it comes after me the next day and I have been thinking about this almost r months and sometimes I give up trying and I have asked help but sometimes or most of the time it does not work and I cant control my mind from thinking about this
This is one of the most difficult things to overcome, I work everyday at this one.
Hi Julia,
I must say that for the majority of my life, I created an extensive negative feedback loop of unproductive and destructive thoughts towards myself that at times spiraled out of control, which I was not very proud of. What I am, however, proud of now and going forward is that through my own research by listening to knowledgeable resources on the subject, valuable coaching from many people very dear to me, combined with reading books and taking care of my self with balance through awareness, I have substantially decreased my negative thoughts of myself and my life has been much fuller and brighter. My comment to your video is that it is very true advise and I thank you tremendously. I still have “itsy bitsy gremlins” from time to time and I am, however, working on challenging and negating them through awareness of my needs at the moment.
Thank you Julia!
I came across this video just right on time. Few minutes before watching this, some uncomfortable thought came thr my mind. It was eating me up. I prayed over it and surrendered it to God. This video piece is like a message sent from The Higher Universe. Thank you. I subscribed to your channel. "The Work" by Katie Byron is very helpful too. Thank you once again..Blessings💕💕💕
I am highly emotional and I'm in a situation where I have my only choice is to do this right now. It's hard but it's getting easier. It works! When I'm alone I take the time to find the fear. Then I talk lovingly to myself until I realize the fear is a lie. ❤
I’m actually so happy that this bye Felicia technique is an option because I’m getting tired of this cycle of negative thoughts I’m always dragged into when I just want to enjoy my day. Thank you for this video
Thank you 😊
I just started watching your videos, I’m going through terrible bouts of panic and anxiety and you have really helped me.., i will continue to watch your videos EVERYDAY!!
Thanks again!! 😃
I’m reading a book right now called “Winning the War in Your Mind “ right now that talks about this topic! Love to hear you talk about it in another example!
This makes so much sense, I have to try this.
I am with you! Look at it. Challenge it! End it! End it now!
Hi Julia , I have recently started watching your videos and will do it regularly to make myself more positive and rejuvenated. Thank you !
Thank you Julia for all your time and love in helping me over come negative thinking I am with you
I’m definitely open with your way of thinking Julia you make places like my mind which is most of the time a internal war zone more calmer and your advice is simply and effective,your videos truly help people like me each and every day thank you 🙏
Thank you so much! I feel like I'm at a low point in my life and bad thoughts are constantly popping up. It is hard to shut them out. But you are right. You just got to say STOP, and it will help. I am looking at my thoughts as well and some are past mistakes, so I see a positive at least since I do think about them. And that is i can change and strive to be better and get out of the hole i dug myself in. I am binging your videos. I just discovered them and they help. Thanks again
Julia I’m with you! Not always easy to shut it down, but I will keep practicing to break this habit.
YES, I am with you, Julia! I do my best to avoid negative thoughts. I never tried to say "STOP" Out loud but one thing I did and it helps a lot is I named the "owner of the voice" Cruella De Vil, LOL I used to say: Cruella, go sweep the driveway!!! (Instead of telling ME what I was doing wrong at times). one thing I love to do is to put MUSIC on. SO if the negative thought comes when I am in the car, I find a song I like and sing along. The hardest part for me is when negative thoughts come to my mind when I am going to bed, or wake up early for some reason. I am going to use this technique to just say "STOP". I love that you explained how we can program ourselves to have these negative thoughts coming easily. One more reason to make them STOP now. Thank you!!!
Great explanation. Those grooves are so deep they need to be filled in.
This video really speaks to me! I am going to use the strategy to eliminate some of my negative thoughts that persistently nag at me. Thank you for such an insightful video.
You saved my life and now I am aware of my surroundings
So true. I’m passing this on to a friend in desperate need.
Super! Let me know how they like it.
Im with you Julia. Shut it down shut it down. I don't think i can do that
Julia..I love your video!
I have listened to this video several times!
I had a brother that told me all my growing up years that I was ugly and I would grow up to be nothing! This has held me back in areas of life..hate to say..Even ad a 55 year old woman..these thoughts have come and have held me back..I hate it!
I have had to use that trick and is literally the only way to gain control back. Especially when one is naturally passionate, thoughts can become tortuous if not shutdowned on time. Thank you Julia 😉👍🏼
You know I'm passionate, so you know this is one I've struggled with too. #inthistogether
Listening to your video I discovered some clingy negative thoughts that I have started to believe as I gave them more attention. Definitely I will try this technique
Let me know how it goes!
Mental health is healing thanks to you. Thank you.
It rarely happened to me ... which I've watched many videos of the same person (like you julia) .. this is simply a great work you're doing .. and believe me in our country a one-hour session requires the patient to pay (which equals to 120 US dollars) ..and you are offering great videos FOR FREEEE !! ... thanks again
i gotta say is that you are helping me out with my life and um im still struggling some issues with family but ill get it thru eventually . and your making feel like i won 60$ im telling you man like you are an inspirational person man keep on updating you are doing great!!
Synchronicity working overtime !
I’ve had reoccurring negative thoughts( about a person) daily .
I’ll definitely use this ‘tool’ from now on .
Shut it down 👍🏻
Thanks .
Shut it down! Yasss!
Your counsel on this subject is Spot On ! Thank you for putting these videos on RUclips!!
As a Christian I memorized these Bible verses that help me with those stinking negative thoughts.
.For the weapons of our warfare are not of the flesh but have divine power to destroy strongholds.
We destroy arguments and every lofty opinion raised against the knowledge of God, and take every Thought captive to obey Christ,
2 Corinthians 10:4-5 ESV
Finally, believers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable and worthy of respect, whatever is right and confirmed by God’s word, whatever is pure and wholesome, whatever is lovely and brings peace, whatever is admirable and of good repute; if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, Think continually on these things [center your mind on them, and implant them in your heart].
The things which you have learned and received and heard and seen in me, practice these things [in daily life], and the God [who is the source] of peace and well-being will be with you.
PHILIPPIANS 4:8-9 AMP.
You give me so much confidence. I am glad i found this channel.thankyou julia😀😀
That is a perfect description “unrelenting Gremlin lIke thoughts” I could be feeling good and then the “Gremlin” will try to drag me down with irrational thoughts or take something that I know what it meant, but it takes it out of all context and tries to use it to make me feel awful!
You opened my eyes that we choose our reality. thank u
I'm with you! OmG, "bye Felicia" really did the trick for me! As a non native speaker I'd never heard it before and had to google it 😁, but now it rocks my world... Thank you so much!
Thank you. This changed my life.
I am with you Julia , you are awesome. Thank you for being you ❤️
I'm with you Julia Kristina
I'm With YOU!
I am with you on that one!! But I think it’s easier said than done... how to actually shut it down??
Well, certain thoughts are a little trickier to deal with, but sometimes just not engaging the thought - Acknowledging it's existence and choosing not to entertain it or spiral down in it.
Julia, I am with you.
I am with you! Most of my thoughts aren't helpful recently
BYE Felicia! 👋🏼 I love it.
Awesome!
I'm with you, Julia! Thanks for all your videos!
Yasss!!
Very helpful Julia!! Thank you
so glad it connected.
Yes, Julia, I am with you!
Awesome Debbie! So glad to be on this journey with you.
Dear Julia ❤️
You are lovely 😊
Thank you for your wonderful wonderful work to heal people heal
God bless ya
You are so kind Grace! God bless you too.
Always being beaten by these negative thoughts thanks for the beautiful video
Really glad you liked it. I hope you can start beating them soon.
Love the “bye Felicia”!!!
Julia Im with you! The scripture I love on this topic, 2 Cor 10:5 "taking every thought captive..."
Elisa Bark Hey you are right ⛪
@@steviemcintyre9718 😇It just came to me when she was talking!!
Love that. We need to be the stewards of our thoughts, not the slaves to them.
Thanks for this wonderful Video. It is a game changer. I am with you.!!!
Yasss! So glad Mansoor.
Julia I am with you..
I will focus and recognize when a negative thought drops in.
I'm with you! I'm having this struggle with negative thoughts...but the biggest one is a negative reaction before anything has happened. Short, short, short version is whenever a certain situation at work arises, and this is on a daily basis, I will immediately feel hostile, defensive, just overall not in a good place. And then the situation goes by rather pleasantly and I tell myself "Oh, you idiot! Don't think like that anymore, you made it feel unpleasant for no reason!"....and then I do it again. I am aware of these thoughts and know I am capable of stopping or changing them but I feel like I have conditioned myself to react like this and it's getting myself to stop anticipating and going to that "bad place in my head" instead of letting it play itself out. Thanks Julia!
This deffinetly helps. Thanks!
I love this..bye felicia!! This is so insightful and spot on!!
Wow!!
Julia I’m with you!
I am with you...
Thanks again, I will do this. Thanks again for sharing your knowledge.
It is so my pleasure! I'll keep showing up for you all because you all keep showing up for me.
Thank You again for your teachings
I am with you!
Yes you are!! So glad.
Julia I am with you
I'm going to try doing this one Julia the next time it happens your videos do help me a lot thank you & have a great week.
I have a very unhelpful thought so I'm going to just shut it down.. thank u
I'm with you.
Got it Julia! At night I learned myself to think: 'Put it on the nightstand. Of it's still there in the morning, I can cope with it then.'
I am with you.
Julia, Am with u.
Wow, I used similar tactics a couple of hours ago prior to watching this video, it was the right thing to do. I had to do an in-class presentation a few hours ago and my anxiety was building and building waiting to present for my group, something I was not happy about doing. I felt I was headed for a disaster presentation, a poorly prepared off the cuff group report, and I was the last to present off a chain of incredible prior presentations by my classmates. I was outside myself and could not focus and the thoughts of bad presentations past that had as you say Junia "etched themselves" a quick path into my thoughts. I knew that in order to at least function properly I had to admit it was not going to be great but I was determined to not make it a disaster and found ways to shut down the almost panicked state I was in. One thing I did was recognise where we went wrong as a team and explained honestly and up-front what we could have better and talk about the aspects we had attempted but failed to get to fruition, but I also asked myself is this really worth all the anxiety and I said no. That freed my mind just enough to relax so I could focus on getting the opening sentence out, then things went relatively smoothly thereafter. On my way home and coming down from a disaster averted high, I began to feel negative again. Now after watching your video, I recognise that my brain can work against me. I can take action on my thoughts in these moments and at the very least not let them become disasters. Thank you for this Video Julia, much appreciated.
Thank you Julia. I'm with you. That really works Julia.
I have a suggestion which is "Why don't make your video coloured?".
You will be much more beautiful than what you already are Julia.
SO glad it connected with you. Thanks for your suggestion: I do the black and white so my videos stand out and are easier for people to find.
I'm with you. I look forward to your video.
Yesss!!
Easier said than done.....especially when you have had it all your life....constantly
So true. But just like you can get stuck with those negative thoughts all your life, shouldn't it be possible to do the exact opposite? Not easy, just possible. 😊
I think we give too much power to negativity. Maybe work on balancing it out. Just like you pay close attention to negative thoughts and become immersed in those, do the same when ever you have positive thoughts and feelings. That way you'll be able to obtain some sort of balance so life doesn't feel like a big ball of "gross" all the time. (Speaking from experience)
I’m with you!!
Yes
Oh Im with ya!!!!
Very important tool. Thanks Julia.
So so glad it connected.
Julia dear I’m with you
I'm not there yet but I'm doing therapy and group, but not making much progress. Maybe someday I can do this. Thank you for your videos.
With you! Going to get pass this. Not helpful so I'm not allowing it to distract me!
I’m with you Julia 😊
I am hoping this will help me with my projecting. Sometimes I find myself when I have had a bad moment that I project onto others who do not deserve it. Now that I am more aware of it more I will try this thought process.
Thank you Julia, you are helping my state of mind.
I'm definitely with you, thank you, thank you, thank you 😊
Thank you, I am with you!
Honor, I am so glad to be on this journey with you.
Yes I am with you!!
Yes i am with you on this. You are right