Wow, so I actually have big problems in all of those aspects, and I am not feeling too optimistic about solving any of the problems in the nearest... long time.
I need to get off the junk food and back to the gym. I've been on a month or so long bad eating streak. Odd thing it all started with me drinking coffee again. I am doing good however being more social. Thanks to "meet up" groups in my area. I've also joined a small group at my church that meets weekly.
I completely agree with everything you’ve said here. I am chronically ill. A chick interrupted by autoimmune disease, Rheumatoid Arthritis specifically. I have faith, I do art. I am a social person who’s sickness has gotten in the way of who I am. Please Julia Kristina, what steps do you have for me. Please..and thanks.
1.Biologically take care of your body Move every day. Proper food. Respect your body!!! Its essential for solid mental health. 2.psycho . Respect and take care of mental health, mindfulness, grounding exercises, engaged, rewarding. Therapy, join a group, heal the past, respect your psyche. 3. Social self, eye to eye real conversation with people, genuine a honest, human connection is vital to survival. Deal with relationships. Get out into people. Close connected mutually respecting supportive relationships. 4. Spiritual self. Deeper meaning , higher power, why am I here? Motivation? Take care of your soul along with the vessel the body. What gives you meaning and purpose? Mindfulness exercises. Wow this was amazing!!!
I like being by myself more than being with others. I find that I am my best friend. Others have wounded me so sometimes it’s easier and less painful to hang out with me. I am an extrovert at times and yet I like being alone😃I’m weird lol!
Being alone is not a bad thing - it's good! And we do also need relationships - not with people all the time, but 1 or 2 good quality people in our lives goes a long way.
I can relate to this 100%, people scare me, I’ve been hurt too much it’s hard for me to go into anything with trust, I like being with people but I also don’t because I’m really sensitive and their comments hurt
I've been neglecting facing my problems and hiding at home. I used to think hiding behind my mobile screen and talking thorough message is better than actually talking with the person face to face and eye to eye. I'll work on that. Thank u for the beautiful video🙏 Love and happiness to you❤️
It's really difficult to make friends as adults but when you make one that will be better than all your childhood friendships.. you can try superficial friendship too but don't overshare or expect from them, learn to observe and reciprocate accordingly
I think that you can not guarantee that the social relationship are mutual. Many times we give, we are open, we set boundaries, but the other part is not interested and you keep trying hard to get a good relationship. This is why , I think emotionally strong person can be enough by themselves and carry on life. If eventually you develop true relationship is good , but not granted, even with all efforts. I am confident about my point, it is my experience. But nice video.
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE??????????!!!!!! I can’t believe I never found you before. Your material is LIFECHANGING!!! I’m going to listen to you EVERY MORNING fir the REST IF MY LIFE!!!! THANK YOU ♥️
I have been trapped for repetitive thoughts which happened many years before and controlling me over 3 years and wasted my life and taking antidepressants and also it is coming 😔 Now i know the reason it is coming because of sitting idle ..Thank u so much for letting me know
When you mentioned 4 dimensions at the beginning, I automatically thought "physical, mental, emotional, spiritual." But then I thought "but social is really important, too." So I was delighted that you combined mental and emotional into psychological. Might I add, though, that financial is also very important? Many people experience much stress due to poor finances. Learning to be thrifty as a life-style can prevent a lot of stress. I feel like I am on the opposite end of the people-pleasing spectrum from you. I never cared what anyone thought about me personally, but I do care about doing a good job at whatever projects I attempt. You come across as someone who has had to overcome having too much of a people-pleasing mindset, and that's what you seem to be encouraging others to do. Especially women, who tend to be more p-p than men. (In the book/movie Room, the young abducted lady gets angry at her mom for teaching her to always be nice to people when she was a child. She figures that if she had been meaner, she would not have been abducted!) My mom remarried after my dad died... her new hubby is hyper-chatty and doesn't give her much quiet time. They go on road trips a lot... I asked how she deals with his constant chatter... she says she pulls out her checkbook and pretends to balance it and he automatically shuts up. Personally, I think that is riduculous: she should not have to pretend anything. Asking for 10 minutes of Quiet Time is totally reasonable. As for which of the 4 dimensions do I struggle with? Definitely social. I am an introvert and PROUD OF IT! (Read the book Quiet by Susan Cain if you need validation as an introvert.) I don't like to waste valuable time socializing with people who are shallow or negative or whose values are far off from mine. It is difficult finding real live people that I actually want to connect with! I enjoy your videos! Keep up the good work!
I will continue to work on my physical self to help improving my mental self, which I know will help build more confidence to allow me to then shift to social self
What if it's a facial feature that I'm so traumatized buy but can't afford to pay for any cosmetic surgery 😭😭 When this pandemic is over I will work hard and pay for this, I would be a 1000% more confident about my self 🙏
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 3 months ago about self development. Now I have 230 subs and almost > 90 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I completely agree with this. I go biking and do strength training 3 days a week. I'm 40 and I feel great physically. I read the bible every night before bed and go to church. The one thing I have always lacked was social skills. I have always been shy and I don't drink so going out and meeting new people has always been challenging for me. Of course I have a small group of friends but meeting new people is a struggle.
I am working on journaling a lot more actively. Try to get out for a walk as much as possible, and am working on rebuilding positive self-talk. It helps.
Hi Julia, I've been in my head for few days this week, because it's been so busy, so monotonous, and I was also not sleeping properly. I've been obsessive, irrational, paranoid and really crazy. I had a full night of sleep yesterday, went for a morning walk and now I'm listening to your vids, it's helping me to get out of my head, restore my sanity and return to a healthy place in my mind. Thank you!!
I've been listening to your videos (I'm a mom, so listening while doing other stuff is my only option) for the past two days straight and I can honestly say that I've found my person! I connect, respect, and admire you so much! These videos have changed my whole life for the better. I recently went through a heavy bout of bipolar depression and scared the hell out of my friends and family when switching antidepressants. Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom with us! I am so grateful to have found you!
I hear a lot about moving the body & I work on social, spiritual but your the first one I have heard talking about a healthy mind. So that's where I am going to start.
Thank you for this film julia kristina. I am falling short on relasionships. I am not really good at making friends/lovers. My only serious relationship/love affair, is with Mrs. Solitude. She is the objective sister of Mrs. Loneliness ,the subjective cousin of aunt Isolation. They all suffer from a chronic cold, even in the summer. It feels cold and secure. Grandpa , Lost cause , came to visit, he got sick too. It feels like a family. And, its raining again.
Thank you for the video. I watch all your videos. Being single and staying alone and in my 50s it is really hard making friends and having social contact. At work most people are married and are busy with families over weekends. I have tried a few things but it does not seem to work. Loneliness cant be explained as they think it is just being alone. I have been divorced for 16 yrs and battle with this the most. I think it is maybe the town I live in as well - not sure. I have learnt a lot from your videos. They really help. Thank you.
Your right! I know of a friend who loves to walk and work out and raised children who went into military training and didn't break much of a sweat going thru it... And he's really grounded...
This is just what I needed to hear today! Thank you. I am going to start with trying to make connections with other people. I am 57 and I kind of walled myself in at home and only see my husband. It is really hard to push myself to get out, but today I had to do some things on my own and I feel much better emotionally for it. My confirmation was your video! LOL! Thanks again!
Well I've had more interaction the last two days. One of the days was not by choice but I digress. Today I turned on RUclips and started listening to some music. Danced to a little bit of Rock did a little bit of two-step dancing. Not a couch potato by choice. I don't sit around munching. But the complex PTSD gets me down and along with that;MS also has its hooks in me. I will spend some time this afternoon with my granddaughters. Making that effort! Something has to change! Don't want to sound like an insincere groupie but this video has really helped. What sustains me is my faith in God.
We are so fortunate to have found you to learn So much about ourselves. I found listening to this video over and over to learn How to live. I also shared it with my daughter in law. Thank You so much for sharing This valuable and empowering information.
While focusing on other areas of life I’ve neglected my social needs and will be intentional about meeting those. Thanks for the nudge in the right direction.
Farhana, how are you? I was reading through the comments and yours stood out to me as many others do🙏I hope your in a emotionally better.place from your.last comment? Hope your well.and safe? Sending hugs from me
I do understand my main issue is social as I have now live humans that associate with and only one person that might possibly be a friend but it's more of me holding on for dear life as they ignore me. The people that I can get a long with, find common interests and the people I would like to engage with don't like me and the other option is the people I struggle with mightily on so many issues. I've been pretty much isolated for nearly four years now. I refer to it as the community/city shun, that I've accepted my position and all but given up on any type of social bonding. I don't dwell on it, I've struggled but gaining more and more acceptance to what it is and quit asking why.
Thanks Julia I’m going to start on the physical part today I’ve been neglecting my physical well-being I use the excuse that I’ve got too much work to Wrong excuse thanks again
It is a tough one to make a non-negotiable, but I know when you do you will wonder how you ever neglected that part of yourself before! Keep me posted on how it all goes.
I have ignore my health the most, and the pain of when the people you love the most ignore you. I have been neglected and felt left out from my own blood relationships..It is traumatic for me..I will come out of this and invest in my health qnd consentrate on my body and healing.
Take care of yourself..love yourself enough to Not let yourself struggle and in pain. You worth your love.. Its a day to day struggle to me too to get myself together is a decision every single day
I am having a lot of anger issues, I am annoyed by even small things that shouldn't not be an issue, I feel very dull and emotionally very weak although I never had any breakup at all and I always have friends to talk about and I also overthink about the issues which doesn't have any direct link with my life. After watching this i came to know I have been ignoring all the things has been said in this video, it's simply to the point and I can connect myself with it very easily. Now, I will try to fight myself as this scenario has been created by myself only.
Julia, you are so correct about these 4 dimensions. I was in healthcare and witnessed many sad stories due to neglect of caring for oneself. Thanks for your insight and sharing.
I know that on days when I don't get enough sleep (like yesterday) my mood is hit really hard. Also when I eat well (vegetables/nourishing foods) my body almost thanks me with the energy. When I did Tony Robbins Life and Wealth Mastery (highly recommended) we did a cleanse that included a few days of green juices/omega 3 oils only, followed by days of salads and toppings (which included hummus and other beautiful foods). I felt WAY better after doing it (especially since at the time I wasn't taking care of my body as well as I knew to and energetically (both physical and emotional) it was taking a toll. The event impacted me so much that today the same salad concept (I've got a photo of my typical breakfast) has become routine to me. That, and I got sober 7 months ago (that part is an even a bigger factor). Today I feel like a different person, not just physically but emotionally.
Julia Kristina, thanks for all your videos I'm so grateful that I found you on RUclips, you can not imagine how useful has been every single video, advice, message you have given through your Channel, I've been so sad for many things in the last months finally I discovered your channel and I can understand many things going on my life and how to get over of them. Thanks again!
Thanks so much for this video... Biological, Psychological Social & Spiritual, I don't think I ever had these all at the same time. Tomorrow, back to run/walk before work. I must make habits of all four. I truly believe you are who you are what you do "most' of the time...
I am on the soapbox with you. Computers have done damage. I hate texting especially. What about talking? Wow. I am so glad I came upon you. I made a point of looking up how to be emotionally strong vs how to get over fear/anxiety. Trying to be mindful of positivity.
I F N Love you Julia. You are a Major Contributor of Healthy Personal Growth and a Huge part of my Recovery. I know that this is an older video I'm actually already up to date on the others. I watch other psychology and personal coaching videos like Dr. Christian Conte this way I get a male and female perspective on things. It is indeed a BRUTIFUL WORLD. And everybody has ISSUES. Thank you so much for your time.
I have PTSD, depression, and an eating disorder (bulimia and binge eating disorder)... As I was beginning to watch this, I'll admit I was triggered. It's hard hearing these things sometimes. When you grow up believing you're an inherently a bad person, hearing these types of things can bring up intense feelings of shame and just brushing them aside doesn't work, not for me, not Instantly... but I've been working myself for quite a few years now. This video was extremely validating because it reminded me I Am working on some of these things, everyday, wholeheartedly. I'm at a point where after I feel the shameful feelings, I can stay calm and, listen to the rest of what someone has to say, essentially sit with those uncomfortable feelings longer. I remind myself, things don't have to black and white, its not all or nothing :)... I want to make a commitment to take the bus rather than a rideshare to keep my body moving longer, I want to try and do this a bit more often. As much as I nourish and respect my psychological and social part of me, I am that person who watches a lot of Netflix and eats fried foods. I can't be ashamed of that, I'm reminded by my own counselor that this is a survival mechanism, I use up most of my mental and emotional energy during the day (with my job mostly) so learning to balance that out is something else I am working on, so that when I am home I am not completely drained. Thank you Julia Kristina
*This was a great RUclips recommendation. You really speak my language. In this pandemic climate I've neglected the physical aspects of my emotional life. I have to find ways to work on it. I strongly resonate with the other parts you mentioned too. Thank you. 😊*
I am ready! :) I have realised how much I have abandoned the dimension of people connections. I have been so busy recovering from the effects of my emotionaly abusive mother and keeping my body healthy and finding my spiritual path... al these are now on the right track... but I am so lonely! I got divorced, I have lost my " friends", cut myself from my family by creating bounderies and I am so busy practicing my spiritual excercises that I have "no time" to make friends, I really cut everyone off. I do realise that this is not good , I am out of balance, it will take some time to build a mutually supportive, benificial and inspiring network... I am ready to start. THANK YOU FOR ALL THE INSPIRATION YOU GIVE TO ME, JULIA KRISTINA!!!! I am sending hugs to you from Budapest.
My previous favorite social group I played DND with just hit me up the other day asking if I wld like to join their new session. This made me feel so good becaue I felt so happy in my life having that group, more happy than I have been since freshman year of college dorming with great friends...only thing is my dnd group is 6 hours away in my home town. But i'm visiting my family and them soon so that will be a great time I look forward too. Haven't found a supportive friend group where I currently live but maybe one day or hopefully I move back soon enough.
Thank you so much Julia!! Your videos are brilliant , very helpful, you are very talented and highly intelligent lady!That's absolutely true! When people eating properly, enjoying sports, dancing, reading books, and connecting (not on line) in real life with nice people, that's a great contribution to our mental health to have joyful mind! I'm always telling to my son, that, sports and academics go parallel with each other in our life's forever!❤
I have neglected it all now it time to take my broken pieces and rebuild. Daddy’s girl Grief and devorce after 15 years and laid off all within 6 months really sucks.
I have been going through serious stress , thank you for letting me understand the process of emotional control , these 4 aspects are what I am going to focus now . On a daily basis
I live in a big city, but it is difficult to get group therapy. Even if it were readily available, I would not seek it. I find when I speak about my illness that I dwell on how much damage it did to me in the past and turn hopeless. I also do not want to write books, articles, and/or blogs about my experience and give advice. I want to recover and enjoy the life I have left. (I am almost 55.)
I have to deal with the sudden loss of my mom to covid in December and nobody came because of the rules. I had it myself. After that all I could do was stay at the home alone and now it is May and barely no social events. I also had to deal with stress of the estate and moving. Very few people are social these days it seems or people have gotten used to staying at home
Hello. I have just subscribed to your channel and so far you have helped me soo soo much!,, I just wanted to take the time out to tell you this and say thank you x
Whats more important for me at the Moment is calming down, Meditation and sleeping as much as my Body needs it. No Work,no attention towards others and noone close to me or my Body. Its very healthy.
A big part of my life is my living situation ever since I was little I would go back and forth between the mom &dads house..I choose to live with my mom and visit my dad ..I never got homesick before I am older now and I do get homesick (@friends houses and at my dads)..why is this ?? ..I feel like to become a better person I need to figure out how I am feeling and why ..so I can come the best person I am supposed to be
Thank GOD, finally finally a video that actually is so clear and made sense to me. You made it so much easier to understand and didn't only told to do it, but u told how to do it and what are the steps we should take. 😌💖. Thank you so much.
Wow love to listen to your tips.People will break your spirit and will hurt you emotionally many times.It's really up to us to take out our bad mental habits and take responsibility to keep going and develop a tougher mentality
Much wisdom from Julia Kristina many good points. I'm interested in whether she's a Christian or what spiritual system she follows? 4 good aspects given to be emotionally content and healthy. Thanks for sharing, blessings from Glasgow Scotland over the pond, Gary.
What 80's you tube are you doing?? I've been doing the 20 min. workout with Bess Motta!! She 'sings' the exercises in a sing song that cheers me up 🙂 I just wish there were more videos recorded.
When I am not physical for a couple days, (maybe not going out much and majority stuck in the house) I start to feel a little unmotivated. I feel like getting physical activity and getting out of your own bubble is very important and I would have a very hard time believing otherwise. 🙂
Think I can add some practical inspiration to your wonderful video. I would add that this is not an emotional strength square, but a tetrahedron. That way you can choose a core strength, one you have a good mastery on (it is the one aspect you don't worry about), and work on the other 3... it's actually a great way to know who you are, and a good way to choose your next life adventure. The emotionally weakest arena is where the most emotional satisfaction can be gained, keeping in mind that you can use your strongest core to hold you emotionally centered as you progress; your emotional core is your motivation, much stronger and more consistent than willpower. Had to say this, I think you may have scared the introverts by suggesting that you must socialize to be emotionally strong, but most will understand your point is not about quantity, but quality of those relationships.
I've never watched your videos before but I had this one turn up in my suggestions and now I instantly subscribed. I've often been questioning myself why I'm so emotional weak its like this is what I needed to know and hear. I've been neglecting all four of them. I do it because I feel like I'm not deserving of it basically and there's no point. I'm trying to convince myself that if not for myself then I need to start looking after myself for other people so I can be of some use to them. Idk if it'll work but thank you for this.
I agree with all of your 4 points. But on the spiritual area, I would have to say it depends on what kind of spiritual or religious group one is part of. I have seen many people damaged by their religious group that it took years to recover. I am one of them and it was liberating to get out of the abusive Christian cult I was a part of. I'm still a Christian but I don't fellowship with the cult church I used to be in.
I connected because I make an effort to exercise every day. I also have made more effort to set personal boundaries, be conscience of what I eat, my brother who deals with depression walks by the creek for an hour each day, I now listen to self-help psychology videos on You-Tube and have a subscription to your postings. Thank you you are making a difference in my life.
Studies show that physical activity has real benefits for combatting depression. Additionally, psychologist Matthew Lieberman has shown that people are neurologically wired to connect with other people. We are indeed inherantly social beings...it is deeply rooted in our evolution.
I could definitely use some improvement in the eating department as well as the social department. I kind of sit in my house most of the weekend. I fall back on food as a source of comfort.
Which ones are you doing great with and which are you going to give more attention to?
Julia Kristina Counselling I am taking care especially of bio & spiritual dimensions... but so poor as to psico & social dimensions...very bad ☹️
Wow, so I actually have big problems in all of those aspects, and I am not feeling too optimistic about solving any of the problems in the nearest... long time.
I finally found a Trauma therapist so I'm saying goodbye to all coaches who saved my life. This hurts.
I need to get off the junk food and back to the gym. I've been on a month or so long bad eating streak. Odd thing it all started with me drinking coffee again.
I am doing good however being more social. Thanks to "meet up" groups in my area. I've also joined a small group at my church that meets weekly.
I completely agree with everything you’ve said here. I am chronically ill. A chick interrupted by autoimmune disease, Rheumatoid Arthritis specifically. I have faith, I do art. I am a social person who’s sickness has gotten in the way of who I am. Please Julia Kristina, what steps do you have for me. Please..and thanks.
1.Biologically take care of your body
Move every day. Proper food. Respect your body!!! Its essential for solid mental health.
2.psycho . Respect and take care of mental health, mindfulness, grounding exercises, engaged, rewarding. Therapy, join a group, heal the past, respect your psyche.
3. Social self, eye to eye real conversation with people, genuine a honest, human connection is vital to survival. Deal with relationships. Get out into people. Close connected mutually respecting supportive relationships.
4. Spiritual self. Deeper meaning , higher power, why am I here? Motivation? Take care of your soul along with the vessel the body.
What gives you meaning and purpose? Mindfulness exercises.
Wow this was amazing!!!
I jog most mornings on the beach. Eat well and watch good RUclips's like you. Also stand up for myself now. I'm feeling very good.. : ) Happy
Yasss!!! GOOD for you respecting yourself.
Standing up for myself only gets me more verbal abuse.
love.
You are so so correct when I started moving my body I am so much more calm my emotions are not all over the show ,🙌
I am going to start jogging from today
Absolutely true. I went through hard time last year. What helped alot was/is sticking to some excersies that contain body move. That is really good.
One of the main reasons I have started doing yoga
I like being by myself more than being with others. I find that I am my best friend. Others have wounded me so sometimes it’s easier and less painful to hang out with me. I am an extrovert at times and yet I like being alone😃I’m weird lol!
Being alone is not a bad thing - it's good! And we do also need relationships - not with people all the time, but 1 or 2 good quality people in our lives goes a long way.
Julia Kristina Counselling I do have a few good quality people so I’m good!
I was like you and I want to be like you
Same !!!!
I can relate to this 100%, people scare me, I’ve been hurt too much it’s hard for me to go into anything with trust, I like being with people but I also don’t because I’m really sensitive and their comments hurt
I've been neglecting facing my problems and hiding at home. I used to think hiding behind my mobile screen and talking thorough message is better than actually talking with the person face to face and eye to eye. I'll work on that. Thank u for the beautiful video🙏 Love and happiness to you❤️
It's often more convenient to connect online than in person, but purely online isn't enough for our emotional health - we need the 3D people too ;-)
It's really difficult to make friends as adults but when you make one that will be better than all your childhood friendships.. you can try superficial friendship too but don't overshare or expect from them, learn to observe and reciprocate accordingly
I think that you can not guarantee that the social relationship are mutual. Many times we give, we are open, we set boundaries, but the other part is not interested and you keep trying hard to get a good relationship. This is why , I think emotionally strong person can be enough by themselves and carry on life. If eventually you develop true relationship is good , but not granted, even with all efforts.
I am confident about my point, it is my experience. But nice video.
WHERE HAVE YOU BEEN ALL MY LIFE??????????!!!!!!
I can’t believe I never found you before. Your material is LIFECHANGING!!! I’m going to listen to you EVERY MORNING fir the REST IF MY LIFE!!!!
THANK YOU ♥️
I have been trapped for repetitive thoughts which happened many years before and controlling me over 3 years and wasted my life and taking antidepressants and also it is coming 😔 Now i know the reason it is coming because of sitting idle ..Thank u so much for letting me know
Julia you are the best therapist I ever encountered ,helping me so much with my 'crap'.THANK YOU!
When you mentioned 4 dimensions at the beginning, I automatically thought "physical, mental, emotional, spiritual." But then I thought "but social is really important, too." So I was delighted that you combined mental and emotional into psychological. Might I add, though, that financial is also very important? Many people experience much stress due to poor finances. Learning to be thrifty as a life-style can prevent a lot of stress.
I feel like I am on the opposite end of the people-pleasing spectrum from you. I never cared what anyone thought about me personally, but I do care about doing a good job at whatever projects I attempt. You come across as someone who has had to overcome having too much of a people-pleasing mindset, and that's what you seem to be encouraging others to do. Especially women, who tend to be more p-p than men. (In the book/movie Room, the young abducted lady gets angry at her mom for teaching her to always be nice to people when she was a child. She figures that if she had been meaner, she would not have been abducted!)
My mom remarried after my dad died... her new hubby is hyper-chatty and doesn't give her much quiet time. They go on road trips a lot... I asked how she deals with his constant chatter... she says she pulls out her checkbook and pretends to balance it and he automatically shuts up. Personally, I think that is riduculous: she should not have to pretend anything. Asking for 10 minutes of Quiet Time is totally reasonable.
As for which of the 4 dimensions do I struggle with? Definitely social. I am an introvert and PROUD OF IT! (Read the book Quiet by Susan Cain if you need validation as an introvert.) I don't like to waste valuable time socializing with people who are shallow or negative or whose values are far off from mine. It is difficult finding real live people that I actually want to connect with!
I enjoy your videos! Keep up the good work!
I will continue to work on my physical self to help improving my mental self, which I know will help build more confidence to allow me to then shift to social self
Good for you Doug - it is definitely all connected.
What if it's a facial feature that I'm so traumatized buy but can't afford to pay for any cosmetic surgery 😭😭
When this pandemic is over I will work hard and pay for this, I would be a 1000% more confident about my self 🙏
This is one of the channels that gave me the courage to start my RUclips channel 3 months ago about self development. Now I have 230 subs and almost > 90 hours of watch time. I know it’s not comparable with others but I’m still proud I started because I’ve been learning so many lessons that I couldn’t have learned without getting started in the 1st place.
I completely agree with this. I go biking and do strength training 3 days a week. I'm 40 and I feel great physically. I read the bible every night before bed and go to church. The one thing I have always lacked was social skills. I have always been shy and I don't drink so going out and meeting new people has always been challenging for me. Of course I have a small group of friends but meeting new people is a struggle.
I need to work on my spiritual connection 🙏🏻💜
I sometimes let myself neglect this one too. Let's commit to working on this one- K?
I am working on journaling a lot more actively. Try to get out for a walk as much as possible, and am working on rebuilding positive self-talk. It helps.
I've been neglecting my body, but now that the weather is better I can improve on that.
Hi Julia, I've been in my head for few days this week, because it's been so busy, so monotonous, and I was also not sleeping properly. I've been obsessive, irrational, paranoid and really crazy. I had a full night of sleep yesterday, went for a morning walk and now I'm listening to your vids, it's helping me to get out of my head, restore my sanity and return to a healthy place in my mind. Thank you!!
I've been listening to your videos (I'm a mom, so listening while doing other stuff is my only option) for the past two days straight and I can honestly say that I've found my person! I connect, respect, and admire you so much! These videos have changed my whole life for the better. I recently went through a heavy bout of bipolar depression and scared the hell out of my friends and family when switching antidepressants. Thank you for taking the time to share your wisdom with us! I am so grateful to have found you!
Daisy, good for you for taking charge of your mental wellness. YOU are doing better because YOU sought out help. Really happy to have you here.
watching your videos is one of the best way to be emotionally strong
Put this in people's "Recommended" RUclips!! Please and thank you! And as always! Thank you so much and much Love!
i think spiritual is the foundation of the other 3 aspects.
I hear a lot about moving the body & I work on social, spiritual but your the first one I have heard talking about a healthy mind. So that's where I am going to start.
Thank you for this film julia kristina.
I am falling short on relasionships.
I am not really good at making friends/lovers. My only serious relationship/love affair, is with Mrs. Solitude.
She is the objective sister of Mrs. Loneliness ,the subjective cousin of aunt Isolation.
They all suffer from a chronic cold, even in the summer.
It feels cold and secure.
Grandpa , Lost cause , came to visit, he got sick too.
It feels like a family.
And, its raining again.
When we repair our relationship with Allah, He repairs everything else for us 💜
Thank you for the video. I watch all your videos. Being single and staying alone and in my 50s it is really hard making friends and having social contact. At work most people are married and are busy with families over weekends. I have tried a few things but it does not seem to work. Loneliness cant be explained as they think it is just being alone. I have been divorced for 16 yrs and battle with this the most. I think it is maybe the town I live in as well - not sure. I have learnt a lot from your videos. They really help. Thank you.
Your right! I know of a friend who loves to walk and work out and raised children who went into military training and didn't break much of a sweat going thru it... And he's really grounded...
This is just what I needed to hear today! Thank you. I am going to start with trying to make connections with other people. I am 57 and I kind of walled myself in at home and only see my husband. It is really hard to push myself to get out, but today I had to do some things on my own and I feel much better emotionally for it. My confirmation was your video! LOL! Thanks again!
So glad it connected - and GOOD for you!
Well I've had more interaction the last two days. One of the days was not by choice but I digress. Today I turned on RUclips and started listening to some music. Danced to a little bit of Rock did a little bit of two-step dancing. Not a couch potato by choice. I don't sit around munching. But the complex PTSD gets me down and along with that;MS also has its hooks in me. I will spend some time this afternoon with my granddaughters. Making that effort! Something has to change! Don't want to sound like an insincere groupie but this video has really helped.
What sustains me is my faith in God.
Making social connections. I enjoy my company so much but recently I just noticed I’ve been pushing away people who would try to get close to me.
I do the same
We are so fortunate to have found you to learn
So much about ourselves. I found listening to this video over and over to learn
How to live. I also shared it with my daughter in law. Thank
You so much for sharing
This valuable and empowering information.
While focusing on other areas of life I’ve neglected my social needs and will be intentional about meeting those. Thanks for the nudge in the right direction.
Im going through a very tough phase of my life n im just hanging on to your video julia.love ❤
Sending you love Farhana.
Farhana, how are you? I was reading through the comments and yours stood out to me as many others do🙏I hope your in a emotionally better.place from your.last comment? Hope your well.and safe? Sending hugs from me
I do understand my main issue is social as I have now live humans that associate with and only one person that might possibly be a friend but it's more of me holding on for dear life as they ignore me. The people that I can get a long with, find common interests and the people I would like to engage with don't like me and the other option is the people I struggle with mightily on so many issues. I've been pretty much isolated for nearly four years now. I refer to it as the community/city shun, that I've accepted my position and all but given up on any type of social bonding. I don't dwell on it, I've struggled but gaining more and more acceptance to what it is and quit asking why.
Thanks Julia I’m going to start on the physical part today I’ve been neglecting my physical well-being I use the excuse that I’ve got too much work to Wrong excuse thanks again
It is a tough one to make a non-negotiable, but I know when you do you will wonder how you ever neglected that part of yourself before! Keep me posted on how it all goes.
I have ignore my health the most, and the pain of when the people you love the most ignore you. I have been neglected and felt left out from my own blood relationships..It is traumatic for me..I will come out of this and invest in my health qnd consentrate on my body and healing.
Take care of yourself..love yourself enough to Not let yourself struggle and in pain.
You worth your love..
Its a day to day struggle to me too to get myself together is a decision every single day
I am having a lot of anger issues, I am annoyed by even small things that shouldn't not be an issue, I feel very dull and emotionally very weak although I never had any breakup at all and I always have friends to talk about and I also overthink about the issues which doesn't have any direct link with my life. After watching this i came to know I have been ignoring all the things has been said in this video, it's simply to the point and I can connect myself with it very easily.
Now, I will try to fight myself as this scenario has been created by myself only.
Julia, you are so correct about these 4 dimensions. I was in healthcare and witnessed many sad stories due to neglect of caring for oneself. Thanks for your insight and sharing.
Oh man, we, as a culture, need to get better at respecting these vessels of ours.
I know that on days when I don't get enough sleep (like yesterday) my mood is hit really hard. Also when I eat well (vegetables/nourishing foods) my body almost thanks me with the energy. When I did Tony Robbins Life and Wealth Mastery (highly recommended) we did a cleanse that included a few days of green juices/omega 3 oils only, followed by days of salads and toppings (which included hummus and other beautiful foods). I felt WAY better after doing it (especially since at the time I wasn't taking care of my body as well as I knew to and energetically (both physical and emotional) it was taking a toll. The event impacted me so much that today the same salad concept (I've got a photo of my typical breakfast) has become routine to me. That, and I got sober 7 months ago (that part is an even a bigger factor). Today I feel like a different person, not just physically but emotionally.
Julia Kristina, thanks for all your videos I'm so grateful that I found you on RUclips, you can not imagine how useful has been every single video, advice, message you have given through your Channel, I've been so sad for many things in the last months finally I discovered your channel and I can understand many things going on my life and how to get over of them.
Thanks again!
Hi pau, How are you feeling? Hope you are doing well.
Thanks so much for this video... Biological, Psychological Social & Spiritual, I don't think I ever had these all at the same time. Tomorrow, back to run/walk before work. I must make habits of all four. I truly believe you are who you are what you do "most' of the time...
I would agree J Giza - so much of how we feel is about the parts of ourselves we decide to bring out on a daily basis.
emotional strength forever!
I just wanna say this video really helps. Thankyou!
I am on the soapbox with you. Computers have done damage. I hate texting especially. What about talking? Wow. I am so glad I came upon you. I made a point of looking up how to be emotionally strong vs how to get over fear/anxiety. Trying to be mindful of positivity.
I F N Love you Julia. You are a Major Contributor of Healthy Personal Growth and a Huge part of my Recovery. I know that this is an older video I'm actually already up to date on the others. I watch other psychology and personal coaching videos like Dr. Christian Conte this way I get a male and female perspective on things. It is indeed a BRUTIFUL WORLD. And everybody has ISSUES. Thank you so much for your time.
I have PTSD, depression, and an eating disorder (bulimia and binge eating disorder)... As I was beginning to watch this, I'll admit I was triggered. It's hard hearing these things sometimes. When you grow up believing you're an inherently a bad person, hearing these types of things can bring up intense feelings of shame and just brushing them aside doesn't work, not for me, not Instantly... but I've been working myself for quite a few years now. This video was extremely validating because it reminded me I Am working on some of these things, everyday, wholeheartedly. I'm at a point where after I feel the shameful feelings, I can stay calm and, listen to the rest of what someone has to say, essentially sit with those uncomfortable feelings longer. I remind myself, things don't have to black and white, its not all or nothing :)... I want to make a commitment to take the bus rather than a rideshare to keep my body moving longer, I want to try and do this a bit more often. As much as I nourish and respect my psychological and social part of me, I am that person who watches a lot of Netflix and eats fried foods. I can't be ashamed of that, I'm reminded by my own counselor that this is a survival mechanism, I use up most of my mental and emotional energy during the day (with my job mostly) so learning to balance that out is something else I am working on, so that when I am home I am not completely drained. Thank you Julia Kristina
*This was a great RUclips recommendation. You really speak my language. In this pandemic climate I've neglected the physical aspects of my emotional life. I have to find ways to work on it. I strongly resonate with the other parts you mentioned too. Thank you. 😊*
I am ready! :) I have realised how much I have abandoned the dimension of people connections. I have been so busy recovering from the effects of my emotionaly abusive mother and keeping my body healthy and finding my spiritual path... al these are now on the right track... but I am so lonely! I got divorced, I have lost my " friends", cut myself from my family by creating bounderies and I am so busy practicing my spiritual excercises that I have "no time" to make friends, I really cut everyone off. I do realise that this is not good , I am out of balance, it will take some time to build a mutually supportive, benificial and inspiring network... I am ready to start. THANK YOU FOR ALL THE INSPIRATION YOU GIVE TO ME, JULIA KRISTINA!!!! I am sending hugs to you from Budapest.
GOOD for you for all the healing and growth you've already done! You're amazing Gabriella.
Thank you
Faith and learning
I really enjoy the way you speak English. I am improving my English skills. Thank you so much.
Biological and Social Self are the ones we often forget about. This is truly a wake-up call.
This is very helpful :) thank you for your knowledge.
Moving my body. It's been huge challenge but I have 3mnths going to the gym. It's challenging but I am enjoying it now.
Thanks so much . I'm so thankful I found your channel this July past few days. Life changing info conformations etc Thanks God bless you
My previous favorite social group I played DND with just hit me up the other day asking if I wld like to join their new session. This made me feel so good becaue I felt so happy in my life having that group, more happy than I have been since freshman year of college dorming with great friends...only thing is my dnd group is 6 hours away in my home town. But i'm visiting my family and them soon so that will be a great time I look forward too. Haven't found a supportive friend group where I currently live but maybe one day or hopefully I move back soon enough.
Thank you so much Julia!! Your videos are brilliant , very helpful, you are very talented and highly intelligent lady!That's absolutely true! When people eating properly, enjoying sports, dancing, reading books, and connecting (not on line) in real life with nice people, that's a great contribution to our mental health to have joyful mind! I'm always telling to my son, that, sports and academics go parallel with each other in our life's forever!❤
My inner self. Definitely. That's the one.
It's such an important one that so many of us struggle with! One little step at a time.
Social dimension.
That’s the one I’ve been neglecting and start working on from today.
That was the best informative clip I have seen to becoming more emotionally stronger. Thank you.
I have neglected it all now it time to take my broken pieces and rebuild. Daddy’s girl Grief and devorce after 15 years and laid off all within 6 months really sucks.
I have been going through serious stress , thank you for letting me understand the process of emotional control , these 4 aspects are what I am going to focus now . On a daily basis
I think I am doing well on physical , psychological and spiritual domain
Although I socialise often I don't make strong emotional bond with people !
It takes time and effort to make good close friends hani - and you don't need many. 1 or 2 good ones will do the trick!
We are spiritual beings having a spiritual experience. When you take care it….you became emotionally strong.
I live in a big city, but it is difficult to get group therapy. Even if it were readily available, I would not seek it. I find when I speak about my illness that I dwell on how much damage it did to me in the past and turn hopeless. I also do not want to write books, articles, and/or blogs about my experience and give advice. I want to recover and enjoy the life I have left. (I am almost 55.)
I have to deal with the sudden loss of my mom to covid in December and nobody came because of the rules. I had it myself. After that all I could do was stay at the home alone and now it is May and barely no social events. I also had to deal with stress of the estate and moving. Very few people are social these days it seems or people have gotten used to staying at home
Thank you doctor :) your videos always help me stabilize my thoughts and my mood
Thank you for the four important points.
i can listen your voice all day♥️
I’ve been lacking in all 4 dimensions working on all 4 at the same time 💫
You know now and that’s how we improve on ourselves. Which area is your priority ? :)
I have just started watching your videos 😊🌼and it has been sooo amazing this one here is my favorite 😍 ❤️ stay blessed Julia!!
Hello. I have just subscribed to your channel and so far you have helped me soo soo much!,, I just wanted to take the time out to tell you this and say thank you x
Whats more important for me at the Moment is calming down, Meditation and sleeping as much as my Body needs it. No Work,no attention towards others and noone close to me or my Body. Its very healthy.
A big part of my life is my living situation ever since I was little I would go back and forth between the mom &dads house..I choose to live with my mom and visit my dad ..I never got homesick before I am older now and I do get homesick (@friends houses and at my dads)..why is this ?? ..I feel like to become a better person I need to figure out how I am feeling and why ..so I can come the best person I am supposed to be
Great info :) Yes - our body is meant to move!!
so glad it connected - and yes, yes, yes to the body moving!
Excellent. Spiritual, Physical and social in that order.
Keep us posted on how it goes!
Great video and the guidance is so easy to understand and follow :) Thank You!
Thank GOD, finally finally a video that actually is so clear and made sense to me. You made it so much easier to understand and didn't only told to do it, but u told how to do it and what are the steps we should take. 😌💖. Thank you so much.
Thank you I will move more
Nicely explained.appreciated
Thank you! I needed that today
Thanks for confirming what i believed
Wow love to listen to your tips.People will break your spirit and will hurt you emotionally many times.It's really up to us to take out our bad mental habits and take responsibility to keep going and develop a tougher mentality
Much wisdom from Julia Kristina many good points. I'm interested in whether she's a Christian or what spiritual system she follows?
4 good aspects given to be emotionally content and healthy. Thanks for sharing, blessings from Glasgow Scotland over the pond, Gary.
Great video! Thanks for sharing!
What 80's you tube are you doing?? I've been doing the 20 min. workout with Bess Motta!! She 'sings' the exercises in a sing song that cheers me up 🙂 I just wish there were more videos recorded.
Thanks Julia.
Absolutely. Thanks for being here.
thanks for sharing this info. very useful
Thank you.
When I am not physical for a couple days, (maybe not going out much and majority stuck in the house) I start to feel a little unmotivated. I feel like getting physical activity and getting out of your own bubble is very important and I would have a very hard time believing otherwise. 🙂
I love it! Thank you so much for this video!
“Happy are those conscious of their spiritual need”
I agree about the 1st thing
Think I can add some practical inspiration to your wonderful video.
I would add that this is not an emotional strength square, but a tetrahedron. That way you can choose a core strength, one you have a good mastery on (it is the one aspect you don't worry about), and work on the other 3... it's actually a great way to know who you are, and a good way to choose your next life adventure.
The emotionally weakest arena is where the most emotional satisfaction can be gained, keeping in mind that you can use your strongest core to hold you emotionally centered as you progress; your emotional core is your motivation, much stronger and more consistent than willpower.
Had to say this, I think you may have scared the introverts by suggesting that you must socialize to be emotionally strong, but most will understand your point is not about quantity, but quality of those relationships.
Absolutely about quality - always about quality.
I've never watched your videos before but I had this one turn up in my suggestions and now I instantly subscribed. I've often been questioning myself why I'm so emotional weak its like this is what I needed to know and hear. I've been neglecting all four of them. I do it because I feel like I'm not deserving of it basically and there's no point. I'm trying to convince myself that if not for myself then I need to start looking after myself for other people so I can be of some use to them. Idk if it'll work but thank you for this.
I agree with all of your 4 points. But on the spiritual area, I would have to say it depends on what kind of spiritual or religious group one is part of. I have seen many people damaged by their religious group that it took years to recover. I am one of them and it was liberating to get out of the abusive Christian cult I was a part of. I'm still a Christian but I don't fellowship with the cult church I used to be in.
Amazing video!
Hit all the important points.
Agree to every word
SO glad it connected.
Good advice , I always follow the 80 20 diet
thank you, very insightful
Awesome Larry. Which part connected with you most?
I connected because I make an effort to exercise every day. I also have made more effort to set personal boundaries, be conscience of what I eat, my brother who deals with depression walks by the creek for an hour each day, I now listen to self-help psychology videos on You-Tube and have a subscription to your postings. Thank you you are making a difference in my life.
Studies show that physical activity has real benefits for combatting depression.
Additionally, psychologist Matthew Lieberman has shown that people are neurologically wired to connect with other people. We are indeed inherantly social beings...it is deeply rooted in our evolution.
I could definitely use some improvement in the eating department as well as the social department. I kind of sit in my house most of the weekend. I fall back on food as a source of comfort.
I'm starting with my health. I never learnt to swim, have done two lessons so far, gonna stick with it!