"I CAN DO HARD THINGS" 👏👏👏💪💪💪 This is my new motto. Thank you so much for the straight forward, helpful videos! Exactly what I need to hear right now and full of things I can actually start using now! 👏👏👏
@@TherapyinaNutshell Hi I'm Sabrina I have an important question to ask you by chance would you be able to get ahold of me? So I can talk to you please?
@@nayanashettymeena3038 me too. When I have spasm and I immediately get scared that I will need to have severe diarrhea, and then it happened. I tried to hold and "face the fear" but diarrhea will not disappear and will release in loose form. I know it must not be wrong food, the spasm or pain turns solid into loose stool.
I have a fear of writing comments, so here I am doing so. My irrational fear that everything I do is being judged and the constant avoidance of taking initiatives is ruining my life. I’m so grateful for these tips, they make you realize not to avoid but to sometimes make yourself comfortable. I love the analogy of comparing your fears to the muscle building. I hope I can leverage these tips and become better soon. :)
I get nervous putting comments too, thank you for being brave enough to share, you never know who can benefit from your perspective on your experiences and what you have to say 😊
10 Skills to Beat Anxiety: Summary 1. Choose something that matters more Why do you want to beat anxiety? "He who has a Why, can endure any How" 2. Practice Willingness Anxiety is not fun, but its not dangerous. Learn acceptance of the physical sensations. Practice meditation and mindfulness. Apps: 'Headspace' or 'Stop Breathe & Think' Book: Get out of your Mind and Into your Life 3. Build Emotional Muscles Make facing your fears a normal part of your life 4. Let go of perfectionism My goal is to learn and grow from my experiences. Let go of comparison as your source of self-worth 5. Let go of believing "I can't handle it (Anxiety)" Let go of the idea you need to be able to do things without looking like you're having a hard time. This is uncomfortable and I don't like this, but I CAN do hard things. 6. Change how you perceive situations Replace unhelpful thoughts with a more rational helpful thoughts 7. Do one small step every day Break down your fears into teeny tiny little steps. Write down your goals and accomplishments. 8. Stay with your fears until you calm down Or for a set amount of time. Rate your anxiety as a number out of ten, and stay until that number halves. 9. Get Support eg. take a friend with you while you go to the dog park 10. Be compassionate with yourself Practice patience and gentleness with yourself
That definition of anxiety is perfect. “Anxiety is not caused by a lack of caring but it’s being paralyzed for caring too much.” That is so true. Hearing this confirmation is extremely helpful! Thank you so much!
@@Coinmancer when you think about it, anxious people have some of the strongest minds. When you look at it from this perspective, anxious people's minds are so strong as they are powerful enough to convince their own brain that they are in danger. Although it's not beneficial to think in the sense of worst case scenarios and anxiety. If you were to change how you use the fear and power of anxiety (that we give it) think of what crazy and amazing things we could do if we used our brains in another way?
Thank you. I’ve never cried so much and so hard my entire life after learning that I should accept how I was feeling in the moment and understand that everything will be fine and okay like you mentioned in the video. Snot, tears and drools everywhere on my bathroom floor. I feel like new now. I just wanted to seriously thank you for exiting and making these videos, I would have probably never understood how to cope with my anxiety. THANK YOU THANK YOU!! ❤️❤️I love you so much for this and I hope good blessings and tidings come your way soon 🙏🏾🧡🧡🧡. I honestly wish I could kiss you on the forehead but since COVID is here and all haha anyways THANKS a BUNCH 😇😇😇❤️ Take care beautiful Soul.
I feel that so much man, me too. Her videos are kind of making us realize we’re not crazy and it’s normal and we need to push through it. I think it would be cool if us people with anxiety had a discord and a Snapchat group where we all talk
Hi you all. There is a channel for panic if u guys wanna check it out. It is "panic free TV" which has pretty good recommendation on how to solve ur panic attacks
I've been denying my anxiety for 55 years. That ends today. Thank you for explaining the anxiety cycle and how to rewire my brain from chronic anxiety to peace that passes understanding, confidence and joy.
This is NOT therapy, this is magic. If you listen and do everything she says, you will start feeling much better in a couple of days. Her method is so simple, yet extremely effective. Thank you.
I get anxiety because of everyone telling me chronic anxiety causes health issues. So every time I feel anxious, it becomes a whole day and night of heart racing with obtrusive thoughts. I began to fear anxiety and feeling anxious at all. 😭 God, I would love to have you as my therapist.
This is INCREDIBLE. There are countless videos on anxiety all over RUclips, but this is presented in such a straightforward, yet detailed way that it stands out above the rest.
My anxiety was based on One only thing: self-worth. After unlearning and re-learning new beliefs about myself I discovered my old long repressed Anger. When people say 'The Truth will make you free' in my case it's actually Anger will make me free.
Agnie, The only permanent way to beat anxiety is meditation because meditation reprogrames the mind and helps you relax without stress. On Google search engine enter "alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" and do the simple meditation for 10-15 minutes twice a day or even more. This can also be done sitting on a chair. Lot of negative thoughts will come but anxiety and stress will reduce in a few days. To know the benefits enter "Benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation " on Google search. Do the above meditation regularly. Do not stop. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Best wishes.Shyaaam-Life Coach.
@@shyaaammeneen63 look for videos on youtube or research the" triune brain system" as this will make these types of therapies ten times more powerful ,I am a life coach and I sue the biology to back up the threrapy like in this video ,which is extremely good , follow me if you want #mindwoods #instagram
look for videos on youtube or research the" triune brain system" as this will make these types of therapies ten times more powerful ,I am a life coach and I sue the biology to back up the threrapy like in this video ,which is extremely good , follow me if you want #mindwoods #instagram
@@indiana30 Triune brain system is for those who want to learn and go into research on that topic. It is important to be practical. I am guiding all those with anxiety and panic attacks with a basic alternate nostril meditation which is practiced all around the world. There are other advanced forms of meditation. Happy hormones like serotonin and dopamine are released with meditation. Kindly read about meditation and the brain on Google search.Best wishes.Shyaaam Sir--Mentor
Thank you!!! I thought I would have to have this anxiety always. just listening to your talk lowered my anxiety. I shared this with others I know who struggle with anxiety. Thank you.
I've been having such a terrible time for almost two months now and you don't know how much your videos are helping me to improve my situation. Thank you SO SO much
I been on medication for about 1 year now. Honestly the medication made me feel worst before I could feel normal again. I never had a traumatic event. I was always smiling with a great sense of humor so I have no Idea what trigger it. As a teen I did martial arts and lots of meditation but nothing could get me ready for this. My first anxiety episode was at 33 and I was hospitalize. They couldn't find nothing wrong with me. My Doctor said I had some form of anxiety. Since I been exercising again and meditating on a whole different level! I try to be more aware of my surrounding and turn of the light in my room when ever I feel overwhelm. I don't like living with anxiety but I don't let it control me either and its so hard to do. I sometime start crying out of no where but when my tears are all gone I feel brand new I feel better. Life is beautiful and anxiety perhaps has humble me. Its like learning how to walk again. Thank you for this video.
I'm going through exactly the same thing right now at 35. Life was awesome and I was waking up excited to learn and do new things. Loved to lift weigths (still do) and started meditating this year. Then something happened and now reality itself is scary and every minute can seem like a lifetime. It's always comforting to see I'm not alone...atleast bitcoin is doing well 😊
I love weightlifting as well. Exercise can help especially cardio. Make sure to read the fine print on the label of supplements. I had to get rid of a lot of things I was taking like coffee and certain supplements that were affecting my blood pressure and trigging my anxiety. Chamomile tea helps in the morning and in the night. I’m here to help bud if anything. Sometimes the best source is talking about it.
@@wickedcrypto6004 That made me smile, man :) I've been having the same blood pressure issues connected with the anxiety/panic. I actually only started drinking coffee over the last year and I stopped it the day this all started since I knew it would just make things worse. The most "real" I feel during all of this is when I'm lifting, without a doubt. Going to try and get some sleep now, but I'll hit you up for sure. Thanks the awesome reply!
Wow. Your videos are wonderful, especially for people who can't afford therapy, or unable to take the first steps. Thank you. I find this extremely helpful, and I hope others do too.
Thank you so much for this! I’ve been hiding from my anxiety and stress for too long and I’m now physically exhausted and hurting (headaches and more). I’m ready to take this journey
i CAN do hard things, i do them constantly, and i overcome them. Usually, the things i was most anxious about wind up coming and going without being even half as harrowing as my anticipatory anxiety made them out to be... but it rarely registers as a success for me, or as a "facing my fears" kinda moment - i just feel haggard after, and judge myself for how hard the thing was for me emotionally, when it clearly shouldn't have been. I guess the step i am missing is giving a judgement free space for my feelings. instead i just get angry with my own emotions most of the time. as if my feelings were an annoying weeping child and i wanna has as little contact with as possible... thanks for the thought provoking videos.
Thank you for actually going in depth on the stuff youre saying. i cant tell you how many videos ive gone through where the host will hold their "solution" until the very end, telling you everything thats wrong with you, only to not give a solution at all and tell you to get a subscription for a service or something. these videos of yours, on the other hand, are actually very informative and helpful!
Really needed this; my anxiety and depression is caused majorly by my perfectionism and comparison....and every time I think about my mistakes/failures and what I don't have, I just cry no matter where I am. Grounding techniques, prayer and mindfulness really help me get calm but I now have more ideas from you! Thank you. 😊
Emma that's very helpful I have had ptsd for 11yrs ,have had emdr but symptoms still rule my life daily ,I don't feel I have a life anymore.your videos have given me some hope that this can be beaten ..thankyou
You might not be able to beat it don’t think in those terms think in its okay if it happens I’ve done this before breath get grounded you’ll always have a trigger but you don’t always have to have the same reaction. Just my opinion I’ve had Cptsd all my life only now am I learning quality mental health care is hard and expensive and I can’t afford it
@@mariad7262 For more relief sit on a chair or on the ground and do the simple alternate nostril breathing meditation twice a day for 5-10 minutes for relief from anxiety as it reprogrames the mind. This is practiced all over the world. Watch the videos on Google search. Inhale-exhale slowly and feel the relaxed feeling flowing in your mind and body. . Negative thoughts will reduce. Make meditation a daily habit and enjoy life. Shyaaam Sir-Mentor-Counselor.
Sometimes there is no support. This happened to me. I survived a nightmare in 2013 that, if I described it to you, you'd think that I was crazy. I'm lucky to have survived it.
Found you last night and you had 30k subs, now it’s morning and you’re at 31.3k. Since I started watching your videos 20 minutes ago you’ve gone up another 200. Congrats on hitting the algorithm
Your calmness and not bringing anything negative into it is amazing. That is what anyone struggling needs, positive focus not "but can cause this". Thank you for your education and guidance. Very comforting personality. :)
I went through cognitive behavior therapy a few years ago and decided to do a refresher. These videos helped me review everything, give my brain a good wash, and check into myself on a meta-level. Thanks!
I can't thank you enough for these videos, they have helped me SO MUCH this past week, I have been struggling with my anxiety and your videos made me see it with a different perspective.
This is soooooo helpful! I am doubly appreciative that you use being afraid of dogs because that's my issue. What has also hurt is that owners are unlearned and have misbehaving dogs. Added to that rhe shame and judgement they spew as if something is wrong with your character because you prefer not to be around pets. Getting this education has made me so much more compassionate to others with any kind of anxiety or phobia. . .because we all probably have "something" we're managing.
Emma, thank you SO MUCH for these 10 practical, actionable steps for combating anxiety. You are very articulate and this is so helpful. I’m sharing with everyone.
Thank you so much for these videos! I had a major epiphany about my own anxiety spirals while watching these and the steps are really actionable and helpful. Hallelujah!
1)Choose something that matters more. Write down why you want to beat anxiety, why you want to experience it. 2) Practice willingness, allow physical sensations to be there and breathe into them. Sit with them. Active acceptance 3)Practice grounding techniques and build emotional muscles 4)Let go of perfectionism. I'm gonna keep trying and learning. Let go of looking perfect and be open to mistakes 5)Let go of belief, " I can't handle this anxiety" This is uncomfortable, but I can do hard things 6)Change how you perceive situations. Notice the thought and then replace the thought 7)Do one small step everyday. Exposure hierarchy. Start with smaller fears. 8)Stay with your fears till you can calm down, allow it to be uncomfortable for a cause . Be present , feel the emotions pass through, allow the number to reduce by at least half 9)Get support to help you face your fears. 10)Be compassionate with yourself. Celebrate small wins. We are caring too much. Let go, give yourself some love.
Thank you for making these kinds of videos as you help a lot of lives going through pain. I pray everyone who's going through hard time will heal and find happiness in this life. God bless us all 🙏
I had visitors over today for the 1st time since our lockdowns. I live in Melbourne, Au, where the lockdowns were some of the harshest in the world and I have Lupus & CFS (+ OCD). I can't clean like I'd like to, ie. to PERFECTION!! So, having friends over when the house isn't absolutely shiny and perfect + I didn't have much food to give them - this & the previous video helped me SO MUCH. I was VERY anxious beforehand but having them here, it was fine. It was actually very nice!!! Everyone ate, had something to drink and the children played (albeit, they fought over toys, which is completely normal!) I can't believe I was so scared 'til now!!! Love & thanks from Down Under Xxoo
this may so silly, i have been diagnosed with PURE 0 OCD, and I am afraid to be excellent, because it means I have to look inside of myself, I have helped everyone else over the years, but watching these videos are helping me to build the tools to better myself which in turn means I will be a better human
This two part series was so helpful! Thank you so much for these steps! I am going to practice and come back with an update a week from now. I’ve been having major anxiety and now I know I can beat this!
You should be getting millions of dollars for those courses that you're offering, I can't really tell right now whether it's changing me or not but I will get back to you in a couple months keep doing what you're doing you're helping so much me and everybody else that's got a anxious mind or depression etc... Keep going angel you're good doing somebody's work whichever one that you believe in he or she sat down when put the our brains, for me it got me through my childhood and now it's running my life so thank you very much
I have been suffering with social anxiety for a very long time now, it just feels like everytime I get into a new friendship I can’t feel comfortable about myself in that friendship because of feeling inferior or more dumb than the other person I’m with. I don’t know what I can do to fix that, the rabbit hole is already really deep but this video was helpful and I appreciate that ❤
I WAS doing little by little every night, and I was feeling really great about it. Out of nowhere, I woke up 3 days ago with absolute panic and now I'm having daily, all day, again. It just feels like there's no way out. 30yrs and yet the last 3 days fellas like the worst it's never been. I just can't do this anymore
Thank you for another helpful, practical, down to earth and encouraging video for people like myself that are overly concerned with thoughts and consumed by them. Your point about exercising tolerance in the midst of anxiety is very helpful, God bless you and your efforts in helping so many with your material
I am reparenting myself as the parent(s) I deserved. Not the mean and punitive ones that demanded perfection from a child. It's taken me a very long time to get this and, I'm still struggling at times to do this. However, it is worth treating myself as a special and good friend because, I am that to my friends already! Why not to me too? Thanks for sharing your talks with us. I'm getting so much more out of your videos than the bimonthly therapy sessions I have. I'm definitely a subscriber!
Somehow RUclips always knows what to recommend. I have always had a fear of not looking perfect. Adopting a growth mindset has been very difficult for me, but I know that given time, failures and experience, it will get easier. Thank you for sharing these tips for addressing anxiety! ❤
Wanted to say a big, thank you! I have suffered with debilitating tinnitus for about 20 years and watched your video and I have been able to get it from a seven down to the lowest that it is ever been almost where I don’t notice it! That’s a big deal :-) thank you
Thank you for the helpful video! This information was a lot more helpful to me than the months I've spent over the years with multiple therapists spouting the same emotional baggage. I find actionable advice like this so much better than a therapist validating my problems.
Very helpful video, thank you. I see parallels with what Jordan Peterson has written in his books. Slay the dragon to get the gold = face the fear to reap the rewards. 'Treat yourself as someone you are responsible for helping' = be compassionate with yourself. When experts in mental health say similar things which make sense everyone should take notice. This video provides us with the right questions to ask, we just need to take it upon ourselves to find out the answers.
Thank you so much for the help and advice on how to manage anxiety, I have been trying to fight it, and I'm attending therapy, but have not found it as helpful as watching your videos, maybe I haven't given it enough time yet, and I was not exactly clear on what I was struggling with when talking with my therapist. You are very knowleagable about it, and calming, and for the first time I feel I'm not alone in how I feel. My family / college lectures, even therapists don't seem to understand how bad it is, Which makes me feel worse. It's debilitating. I'm attending college, and in my second last year, and anxiety is around doing my college work and also social interactions with competitive and intimidating classmates, who seem to have played on my struggles.I used to love the work, and was able to do it, with a normal amount of anxiety. but since dealing which the situations with class mates it has worsened, and now even when their not around (covid 19 working from home). It seems to just flare up every time I try to do my college work. I've had to get extensions to finish exams, and the more time that passes the worse It becomes. I now fear not being able to finish at all, but I just keep trying and nothing is happening, so I end up distracting myself from the feelings by watching t.v or going for walks/eating. I tried to hide how I was feeling feeling and not appear vunerable. When I have talked about it, it has made me feel worse because I don't feel I got the understanding I needed, and felt they thought it was my own fault and problem, and the way in which the classmates were affecting me, was ultimately in my control. I have a lot of responsibility outside college as a single parent to a teenager, and Im also in a newish (2.5yrs) relationship for the first time since my daughter was a baby. Achieving the college degree means a lot to me and I have tried a few times over the years, but haven't succeeded. thanks for all the tips! I'm not going to let this beat me!!
Siobhan Dermott, The only permanent way to beat anxiety is meditation because meditation reprogrames the mind and helps you relax without stress. On Google search engine enter "alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" and do the simple meditation for 10-15 minutes twice a day or even more. This can also be done sitting on a chair. Lot of negative thoughts will come but anxiety and stress will reduce in a few days. To know the benefits enter "Benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation " on Google search. Just sitting still on a chair without moving is also a great experience. Do the above meditation regularly. Do not stop. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Best wishes.Shyaaam-Life Coach.
Oh my God I just literally watched two of your videos now and I have been going through insane panic attacks, heart palpitations, and anxiety for the past three weeks and my heart palpitations and panic attacks just stoped, I figured out what the problem is and told myself it's OK and that I can handle this and go through it and survive, anxiety is still there but one I can manage and be able to be functional, thank you so so much
I am finding your videos super helpful! I lost a really good counselor a couple years ago and have yet to find someone who fits for me. Taking what I learned from her and using your videos as reminders and building on my foundation of tools and knowledge. If I may make one suggestion; to replace clean/dirty anxiety with motivating/ unmotivating anxiety or something to that effect. Thank you so much for your clear precise explanations that are easy to follow without guilt. You are so easy to listen to. Thanks again for all you do!! 🙏
This is by far your most important video. I will be watching this over and over again. Reminds me of a story in the back of the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous called "Acceptance Was the Answer"
Really like the advice on giving credit and love to yourself each time you feel less anxious about something . I have felt more motivated and little more confident in recent months -thank you so much Emma!🌷
Thanks lot for these lessons. I still need to practice. I have a lot of fear for MRI and CT scan machines. I suffer headaches and once I was in one of them I was very ill after the experience. I was so traumatised and still suffer from this fear even today. The last time I went to do CT scan, my wife had to be with me in the radiation room and I struggled through it. I will use the exercises and hopefully one day I can overcome my deep fear of these machines. Thank you again. Much appreciated indeed.
This reminds me of when my doctor told me I have Lyme and that I should learn more about it. So I did. The first thing the book talked about was ticks. And to sum it up basically ticks are everywhere and are unavoidable. They are around in winter time too! I freaked out. But I took a step back and realized I was at a cross roads. If I took the path of fear it would controle my life. I wouldn't go outside or into forests. And I would live in fear. Or I could take the other path and accept that there is nothing i can do to avoid ticks and worrying about them won't help. I can take precautions like having someone search my scalp after being in a forest and that would be responsible. And I can enjoy myself in forests and the outdoors. Well I took the second path🙂 I am so glad I did. After that I understood that when new fears arrive it is up to me to either allow the fear to controle me or to think rationally amd realize I don't have to be afraid. And that it is ok to be afraid but don't let it controle you! This saved my life when I was being bullied by a nurse to do a procedure I didn't want. She was trying to make me afraid so I would do as they wanted. I told her I would think about it and call back with my decision. You see her bullying had backfired. It made me want to do the opposite even MORE. But I realized that was not wise either. So I allowed the emotion to run its course then when I was calm I carefully thought through the choices I had. I thought about what my future would look like in each path and decided that I was going to tale my path. The one I found. So I called back and informed them that I would not be doing the procedure. And that was that. Then I did my path. And I am better because of it. I did a diet and am better now. No need to remove my colon because I healed the ulcers with a liquid nutritional diet from the book "The Flare Stopper System" I am 100% healed. No more ulcers! So yes it pays off to take a step back and really think about how fear will impact your future. And make the best choice! You can do it!
I have just now realized how many choices I have made out of fear and avoidance , but of course I can't go back in time. But I hope it's not too late, thank you for your video!
This is an amazing video. I am watching it after I woke up early due to anxiety. 3 days back I have left my handsome paying Job to pursue Business. Now I am scared what will happen next. I have tried business 3 time earlier in my life and scared what if this happens, what is that happens again. Which actually is making me anxious. I will try to follow your tips. Even by watching your video my brain muscles calmed and anxiety went away time being. Thank You
i am very grateful for these tips, just the idea of everything is solvable soothes me down so much, and your reassurance with the actions to take simplifies the process for me!
I can't begin to tell you how helpful you are and came to me at the right time! I am going to take your online class! I am all about self-help in a positive way ! I have so much to learn and finally someone who can help so our lives can move forward and stay in control! TY! I am so happy to have found you here! You're aa true asset to society, and the world needs to find your site right now and just listen, practice and listen some more! ;) I'm all in here! ;)
Hello Good morning I wanted to share this experience I have had for many years . All your tips are extremely helpful & im very grateful I came across your videos I can’t stop watching them & smiling . I’ve suffered from anxiety for many years , I have two kids & all I want is to give them a great life go places , and meet new places , but my anxiety has been taken over me . I have this problem when I panic I forget how to properly breath and it gives me a panic attack. I have been better at my breathing , but I always keep having these episodes of thinking i might go through it again & I avoid places so I won’t have to go through that experience again. It’s very scary to feel like I’m forgetting how to breath I think I make it worse when I panic or I’m driving or I’m with my kids. I would love to know any tips from anyone or yourself that I can do to help my breathing when it happens . Thank you ♥️
Ah... I see... Perfectionism, is it? Yes, now that I think about it, I've been unreasonably and unnecessarily trying to be perfect lately. I'm basically in a desperate situation where I can no longer fail. That's why I've been trying so hard to be perfect. But since I crave for perfection, I can no longer tolerate literally any of my flaws. That also prevents me from doing hard things, which what I used to do on daily basis. Since I can no longer tolerate failure or mediocrity, I've been unconsciously avoiding doing hard things because I will likely to fail. My fear of failure is so intense that it makes me dysfunctional. I see... Thank you for the insight! ❤️
Thank you for these videos my 11 yr old is struggling. I want to show him these which I feel will even help him understand his counseling sessions better
i've been socially anxious throughout childhood, when i was 26 i decided to join package travels with strangers. i tried to do it every month as long as my budget can allowat first i couldnt sleep for nights before the travel, but eventually i become comfortable with people. i also took a frontline job where i need to talk to customers.. it really helped, ive changed so much for the past 6 yrs, until the pandemic and lockdowns happened. i somehow lost the momentum.. now i'm going back to building this social confidence again but yes i am totally different now than 6 yrs ago.
1. choose something that matters more - write down WHY you want to beat anxiety 2. practice willingness - changing your rules - its okay to feel anxious sometimes instead of I want to avoid anxiety - method: meditation + mindfulness (sit with experience, thought, emotions) - training for distress tolerance - Calm and soothe body with - practice grounding & self-regulation activities - self-regulation activities 3. build emotional muscles - the more you practice the smoother and faster and stronger the neuroplasticity will become 4. let go of perfectionism - replace with growth mindset - I’m going to keep learning and improving and it involves messing up at times 5. Let go of belief of ‘I can’t handle it’ - linked to perfectionism - idea of doing something without looking like its difficult/uncomfortable - replace this thinking with ‘yes it is uncomfortable, but I CAN do these things’ 6. change how you perceive situations - intervening at the THOUGHT-level - replace ‘this dog is gonna kill me’ → ‘most dogs are safe, that dog looks nice’ - works as preventative (before the situation) - start with ****Cognitive Distortions:**** catastrophising, mental filtering, black/white filtering 7. do one small step everyday - write down a fear exposure hierarchy - baby-steps - write down goals/accomplishments 8. stay with fears until you calm down (or set amount of time) - allow yourself to be uncomfortable for a cause - rank the anxiety after out of 10 - the better the acceptance of emotions → the more likely the anxiety decreases - stay in it until it halves or for X mins - give self credit after - DO NOT: say ‘if I get too anxious I’ll leave’ 9. get support - help face fears - friends, therapist, accountability 10. be compassionate with self - give self-credit - count your wins no matter how small
Breathing deeply in thru nose and out thru mouth helps take the edge off my anxiety. I have a breath ball app too but I still love to listen to your videos
#9 and taking baby steps were techniques I used to get over my driving anxiety. I never realized they were legitimate techniques at the time; it was just something I started doing once I found a friend that would keep me company and go on road trips with me. I knew I had to face my anxiety or else I'd never improve. I wish I had the same courage to "face my fear" for my phobia.
#3: I made a folly and AVOIDABLE mistake that now has my entire future at risk. (I found these videos because of my new physical panic attacks.) I will push through , grow, and learn from my mistakes.
I have been having a really awful time recovering from dehydration and covid that depleted my magnesium to the point that I had over 10 symptoms including dementia and I’m only 25. To top it all off I got severe anxiety at the very end until I started taking magnesium supplements. Now it’s hard leaving my home, I get really anxious even being in my own living room but I know that over time I will get better and stronger than before! With God and Jesus by my side anything is possible 🙏🏽💙
~ Magnificent ~ My Heartfelt Thank You ~ I Suffer From Debilitating Anxiety ~ I am Currently Reading Claire Weeks Books And I am A Member Of Vacate Fear On Facebook ~ Your Methods Are So Similar And Literally A Lifesaver To Me ~
@@MindsetSpeakers For more relief sit on a chair or on the ground and do the simple alternate nostril breathing meditation twice a day for 5-10 minutes for relief from anxiety as it reprogrames the mind. This is practiced all over the world. Watch the videos on Google search. Inhale-exhale slowly and feel the relaxed feeling flowing in your mind and body. . Negative thoughts will reduce. Make meditation a daily habit and enjoy life. Shyaaam Sir-Mentor-Counselor.
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This is my new motto. Thank you so much for the straight forward, helpful videos! Exactly what I need to hear right now and full of things I can actually start using now! 👏👏👏
Awesome! So glad you find it helpful!
Hi Kayla how are you
@@TherapyinaNutshell Hi I'm Sabrina I have an important question to ask you by chance would you be able to get ahold of me? So I can talk to you please?
How can i get in touch with you ! My anxiety is connected to IBS and need a help !
@@nayanashettymeena3038 me too. When I have spasm and I immediately get scared that I will need to have severe diarrhea, and then it happened. I tried to hold and "face the fear" but diarrhea will not disappear and will release in loose form. I know it must not be wrong food, the spasm or pain turns solid into loose stool.
I have a fear of writing comments, so here I am doing so. My irrational fear that everything I do is being judged and the constant avoidance of taking initiatives is ruining my life. I’m so grateful for these tips, they make you realize not to avoid but to sometimes make yourself comfortable. I love the analogy of comparing your fears to the muscle building. I hope I can leverage these tips and become better soon. :)
I get nervous putting comments too, thank you for being brave enough to share, you never know who can benefit from your perspective on your experiences and what you have to say 😊
Yay yay good job keep moving 👏
For some reason I get nervous too. Thanks for encouraging me to write.
I don’t know you but i’m proud of you for taking the first step. May you overcome your anxiety. 🙌🏻
I welcome your comment 🙌☺️ I’m proud of you for facing your fears!
10 Skills to Beat Anxiety: Summary
1. Choose something that matters more
Why do you want to beat anxiety?
"He who has a Why, can endure any How"
2. Practice Willingness
Anxiety is not fun, but its not dangerous.
Learn acceptance of the physical sensations.
Practice meditation and mindfulness.
Apps: 'Headspace' or 'Stop Breathe & Think'
Book: Get out of your Mind and Into your Life
3. Build Emotional Muscles
Make facing your fears a normal part of your life
4. Let go of perfectionism
My goal is to learn and grow from my experiences.
Let go of comparison as your source of self-worth
5. Let go of believing "I can't handle it (Anxiety)"
Let go of the idea you need to be able to do things without looking like you're having a hard time.
This is uncomfortable and I don't like this, but I CAN do hard things.
6. Change how you perceive situations
Replace unhelpful thoughts with a more rational helpful thoughts
7. Do one small step every day
Break down your fears into teeny tiny little steps.
Write down your goals and accomplishments.
8. Stay with your fears until you calm down
Or for a set amount of time.
Rate your anxiety as a number out of ten, and stay until that number halves.
9. Get Support
eg. take a friend with you while you go to the dog park
10. Be compassionate with yourself
Practice patience and gentleness with yourself
A big thank you for this summary!
TY!!!
Thankyouu
Thanks Kai :)
Thanks
That definition of anxiety is perfect. “Anxiety is not caused by a lack of caring but it’s being paralyzed for caring too much.” That is so true. Hearing this confirmation is extremely helpful! Thank you so much!
Yes and I would like to add it is not the sign of a "weak mind" but rather a super powerful mind that makes a lot of impact
Made me cry so much. I am not exaggerating, tha k you
@@Coinmancer when you think about it, anxious people have some of the strongest minds.
When you look at it from this perspective, anxious people's minds are so strong as they are powerful enough to convince their own brain that they are in danger. Although it's not beneficial to think in the sense of worst case scenarios and anxiety. If you were to change how you use the fear and power of anxiety (that we give it) think of what crazy and amazing things we could do if we used our brains in another way?
Thank you. I’ve never cried so much and so hard my entire life after learning that I should accept how I was feeling in the moment and understand that everything will be fine and okay like you mentioned in the video. Snot, tears and drools everywhere on my bathroom floor. I feel like new now. I just wanted to seriously thank you for exiting and making these videos, I would have probably never understood how to cope with my anxiety. THANK YOU THANK YOU!! ❤️❤️I love you so much for this and I hope good blessings and tidings come your way soon 🙏🏾🧡🧡🧡. I honestly wish I could kiss you on the forehead but since COVID is here and all haha anyways THANKS a BUNCH 😇😇😇❤️ Take care beautiful Soul.
Hope you're doing well❤️
I wish I could hug you. 💕
More power to you, hope you're still doing well
I feel that so much man, me too. Her videos are kind of making us realize we’re not crazy and it’s normal and we need to push through it. I think it would be cool if us people with anxiety had a discord and a Snapchat group where we all talk
Hi you all. There is a channel for panic if u guys wanna check it out. It is "panic free TV" which has pretty good recommendation on how to solve ur panic attacks
I've been denying my anxiety for 55 years. That ends today. Thank you for explaining the anxiety cycle and how to rewire my brain from chronic anxiety to peace that passes understanding, confidence and joy.
This is NOT therapy, this is magic. If you listen and do everything she says, you will start feeling much better in a couple of days. Her method is so simple, yet extremely effective. Thank you.
I get anxiety because of everyone telling me chronic anxiety causes health issues. So every time I feel anxious, it becomes a whole day and night of heart racing with obtrusive thoughts. I began to fear anxiety and feeling anxious at all. 😭 God, I would love to have you as my therapist.
This is INCREDIBLE. There are countless videos on anxiety all over RUclips, but this is presented in such a straightforward, yet detailed way that it stands out above the rest.
Finally, a help channel that is likeable and easy to understand with a coach who doesn't complicate,already complex issues-Thank you.
My anxiety was based on One only thing: self-worth. After unlearning and re-learning new beliefs about myself I discovered my old long repressed Anger. When people say 'The Truth will make you free' in my case it's actually Anger will make me free.
Agnie, The only permanent way to beat anxiety is meditation because meditation reprogrames the mind and helps you relax without stress. On Google search engine enter "alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" and do the simple meditation for 10-15 minutes twice a day or even more. This can also be done sitting on a chair. Lot of negative thoughts will come but anxiety and stress will reduce in a few days. To know the benefits enter "Benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation " on Google search. Do the above meditation regularly. Do not stop. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Best wishes.Shyaaam-Life Coach.
@@shyaaammeneen63 look for videos on youtube or research the" triune brain system" as this will make these types of therapies ten times more powerful ,I am a life coach and I sue the biology to back up the threrapy like in this video ,which is extremely good , follow me if you want #mindwoods #instagram
look for videos on youtube or research the" triune brain system" as this will make these types of therapies ten times more powerful ,I am a life coach and I sue the biology to back up the threrapy like in this video ,which is extremely good , follow me if you want #mindwoods #instagram
@@indiana30 Triune brain system is for those who want to learn and go into research on that topic. It is important to be practical. I am guiding all those with anxiety and panic attacks with a basic alternate nostril meditation which is practiced all around the world. There are other advanced forms of meditation. Happy hormones like serotonin and dopamine are released with meditation. Kindly read about meditation and the brain on Google search.Best wishes.Shyaaam Sir--Mentor
Ah right ! Cool ! 😎
Thank you!!! I thought I would have to have this anxiety always. just listening to your talk lowered my anxiety. I shared this with others I know who struggle with anxiety. Thank you.
Awesome! It's normal and natural to feel some anxiety, that won't go away, but the disordered anxiety can be resolved :)
I've been having such a terrible time for almost two months now and you don't know how much your videos are helping me to improve my situation. Thank you SO SO much
I been on medication for about 1 year now. Honestly the medication made me feel worst before I could feel normal again. I never had a traumatic event. I was always smiling with a great sense of humor so I have no Idea what trigger it. As a teen I did martial arts and lots of meditation but nothing could get me ready for this. My first anxiety episode was at 33 and I was hospitalize. They couldn't find nothing wrong with me. My Doctor said I had some form of anxiety. Since I been exercising again and meditating on a whole different level! I try to be more aware of my surrounding and turn of the light in my room when ever I feel overwhelm. I don't like living with anxiety but I don't let it control me either and its so hard to do. I sometime start crying out of no where but when my tears are all gone I feel brand new I feel better. Life is beautiful and anxiety perhaps has humble me. Its like learning how to walk again. Thank you for this video.
I'm going through exactly the same thing right now at 35. Life was awesome and I was waking up excited to learn and do new things. Loved to lift weigths (still do) and started meditating this year. Then something happened and now reality itself is scary and every minute can seem like a lifetime. It's always comforting to see I'm not alone...atleast bitcoin is doing well 😊
I love weightlifting as well. Exercise can help especially cardio. Make sure to read the fine print on the label of supplements. I had to get rid of a lot of things I was taking like coffee and certain supplements that were affecting my blood pressure and trigging my anxiety. Chamomile tea helps in the morning and in the night. I’m here to help bud if anything. Sometimes the best source is talking about it.
@@wickedcrypto6004 That made me smile, man :) I've been having the same blood pressure issues connected with the anxiety/panic. I actually only started drinking coffee over the last year and I stopped it the day this all started since I knew it would just make things worse. The most "real" I feel during all of this is when I'm lifting, without a doubt. Going to try and get some sleep now, but I'll hit you up for sure. Thanks the awesome reply!
God I’d love to have a therapist like you , your so talented at your profession . God bless xo
I feel the same way!
Me too
I said the same. Shes very rare.
Same thought.
I wish I could have a therapist like her too. She makes total sense to me.
I overcame my social anxiety using exposure therapy. This is a great introduction.
this channel is amazing!! these are the most informative videos about anxiety that i've ever been able to find! thank you :)
Thanks :)
I thought the same. Its explained so good, authentic and understandable 😊
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Yep brilliant stuff. Congrats!
I agree! This is the best I've felt in a long while.
Wow. Your videos are wonderful, especially for people who can't afford therapy, or unable to take the first steps. Thank you. I find this extremely helpful, and I hope others do too.
Thank you so much for this! I’ve been hiding from my anxiety and stress for too long and I’m now physically exhausted and hurting (headaches and more). I’m ready to take this journey
I do that too try hide but it finds me because it still there
i CAN do hard things, i do them constantly, and i overcome them. Usually, the things i was most anxious about wind up coming and going without being even half as harrowing as my anticipatory anxiety made them out to be... but it rarely registers as a success for me, or as a "facing my fears" kinda moment - i just feel haggard after, and judge myself for how hard the thing was for me emotionally, when it clearly shouldn't have been.
I guess the step i am missing is giving a judgement free space for my feelings. instead i just get angry with my own emotions most of the time. as if my feelings were an annoying weeping child and i wanna has as little contact with as possible...
thanks for the thought provoking videos.
Thank you for actually going in depth on the stuff youre saying. i cant tell you how many videos ive gone through where the host will hold their "solution" until the very end, telling you everything thats wrong with you, only to not give a solution at all and tell you to get a subscription for a service or something. these videos of yours, on the other hand, are actually very informative and helpful!
Really needed this; my anxiety and depression is caused majorly by my perfectionism and comparison....and every time I think about my mistakes/failures and what I don't have, I just cry no matter where I am. Grounding techniques, prayer and mindfulness really help me get calm but I now have more ideas from you! Thank you. 😊
Emma that's very helpful I have had ptsd for 11yrs ,have had emdr but symptoms still rule my life daily ,I don't feel I have a life anymore.your videos have given me some hope that this can be beaten ..thankyou
You might not be able to beat it don’t think in those terms think in its okay if it happens I’ve done this before breath get grounded you’ll always have a trigger but you don’t always have to have the same reaction. Just my opinion I’ve had Cptsd all my life only now am I learning quality mental health care is hard and expensive and I can’t afford it
@@mariad7262 For more relief sit on a chair or on the ground and do the simple alternate nostril breathing meditation twice a day for 5-10 minutes for relief from anxiety as it reprogrames the mind. This is practiced all over the world. Watch the videos on Google search. Inhale-exhale slowly and feel the relaxed feeling flowing in your mind and body. . Negative thoughts will reduce. Make meditation a daily habit and enjoy life. Shyaaam Sir-Mentor-Counselor.
Here is my blog on how spirituality can reduce our anxiety. drarifmaghribikhan.blogspot.com/2020/12/anxiety-drarif-maghribi-khan-kashmir.html
How are you now
Dealing with varying levels of anxiety for the last 2 years and this is the best video that I've watched till date
Sometimes there is no support. This happened to me. I survived a nightmare in 2013 that, if I described it to you, you'd think that I was crazy. I'm lucky to have survived it.
Found you last night and you had 30k subs, now it’s morning and you’re at 31.3k. Since I started watching your videos 20 minutes ago you’ve gone up another 200. Congrats on hitting the algorithm
I was having anxiety the whole week, and the timing in which I found this video! Such simple words and precise to the point!
Your calmness and not bringing anything negative into it is amazing. That is what anyone struggling needs, positive focus not "but can cause this". Thank you for your education and guidance. Very comforting personality. :)
I went through cognitive behavior therapy a few years ago and decided to do a refresher. These videos helped me review everything, give my brain a good wash, and check into myself on a meta-level. Thanks!
I can't thank you enough for these videos, they have helped me SO MUCH this past week, I have been struggling with my anxiety and your videos made me see it with a different perspective.
These are my new morning affirmations. This is like therapy omg
Yessssss
This is soooooo helpful! I am doubly appreciative that you use being afraid of dogs because that's my issue. What has also hurt is that owners are unlearned and have misbehaving dogs. Added to that rhe shame and judgement they spew as if something is wrong with your character because you prefer not to be around pets. Getting this education has made me so much more compassionate to others with any kind of anxiety or phobia. . .because we all probably have "something" we're managing.
Emma, thank you SO MUCH for these 10 practical, actionable steps for combating anxiety. You are very articulate and this is so helpful. I’m sharing with everyone.
Thank you so much for these videos! I had a major epiphany about my own anxiety spirals while watching these and the steps are really actionable and helpful. Hallelujah!
1)Choose something that matters more. Write down why you want to beat anxiety, why you want to experience it.
2) Practice willingness, allow physical sensations to be there and breathe into them. Sit with them. Active acceptance
3)Practice grounding techniques and build emotional muscles
4)Let go of perfectionism. I'm gonna keep trying and learning. Let go of looking perfect and be open to mistakes
5)Let go of belief, " I can't handle this anxiety" This is uncomfortable, but I can do hard things
6)Change how you perceive situations. Notice the thought and then replace the thought
7)Do one small step everyday. Exposure hierarchy. Start with smaller fears.
8)Stay with your fears till you can calm down, allow it to be uncomfortable for a cause . Be present , feel the emotions pass through, allow the number to reduce by at least half
9)Get support to help you face your fears.
10)Be compassionate with yourself. Celebrate small wins. We are caring too much. Let go, give yourself some love.
Thank you for making these kinds of videos as you help a lot of lives going through pain. I pray everyone who's going through hard time will heal and find happiness in this life. God bless us all 🙏
I had visitors over today for the 1st time since our lockdowns. I live in Melbourne, Au, where the lockdowns were some of the harshest in the world and I have Lupus & CFS (+ OCD). I can't clean like I'd like to, ie. to PERFECTION!! So, having friends over when the house isn't absolutely shiny and perfect + I didn't have much food to give them - this & the previous video helped me SO MUCH. I was VERY anxious beforehand but having them here, it was fine. It was actually very nice!!! Everyone ate, had something to drink and the children played (albeit, they fought over toys, which is completely normal!) I can't believe I was so scared 'til now!!! Love & thanks from Down Under Xxoo
this may so silly, i have been diagnosed with PURE 0 OCD, and I am afraid to be excellent, because it means I have to look inside of myself, I have helped everyone else over the years, but watching these videos are helping me to build the tools to better myself which in turn means I will be a better human
I usually don't write comments plus this video is four years old . But still wanted to thank this Creator for this educational content. Thanks so much
This two part series was so helpful! Thank you so much for these steps! I am going to practice and come back with an update a week from now. I’ve been having major anxiety and now I know I can beat this!
Any update?
Did it help? Do you still suffer from anxiety?
You should be getting millions of dollars for those courses that you're offering, I can't really tell right now whether it's changing me or not but I will get back to you in a couple months keep doing what you're doing you're helping so much me and everybody else that's got a anxious mind or depression etc... Keep going angel you're good doing somebody's work whichever one that you believe in he or she sat down when put the our brains, for me it got me through my childhood and now it's running my life so thank you very much
I have been suffering with social anxiety for a very long time now, it just feels like everytime I get into a new friendship I can’t feel comfortable about myself in that friendship because of feeling inferior or more dumb than the other person I’m with. I don’t know what I can do to fix that, the rabbit hole is already really deep but this video was helpful and I appreciate that ❤
Your voice is so calming.
I WAS doing little by little every night, and I was feeling really great about it. Out of nowhere, I woke up 3 days ago with absolute panic and now I'm having daily, all day, again. It just feels like there's no way out.
30yrs and yet the last 3 days fellas like the worst it's never been. I just can't do this anymore
are you feeling better now? ❤
Thank you for another helpful, practical, down to earth and encouraging video for people like myself that are overly concerned with thoughts and consumed by them. Your point about exercising tolerance in the midst of anxiety is very helpful, God bless you and your efforts in helping so many with your material
I am reparenting myself as the parent(s) I deserved. Not the mean and punitive ones that demanded perfection from a child. It's taken me a very long time to get this and, I'm still struggling at times to do this. However, it is worth treating myself as a special and good friend because, I am that to my friends already! Why not to me too?
Thanks for sharing your talks with us. I'm getting so much more out of your videos than the bimonthly therapy sessions I have. I'm definitely a subscriber!
Thank God for you. Listening to you feels like a ton of weight has been lifted off of me
Somehow RUclips always knows what to recommend. I have always had a fear of not looking perfect. Adopting a growth mindset has been very difficult for me, but I know that given time, failures and experience, it will get easier.
Thank you for sharing these tips for addressing anxiety! ❤
Wanted to say a big, thank you! I have suffered with debilitating tinnitus for about 20 years and watched your video and I have been able to get it from a seven down to the lowest that it is ever been almost where I don’t notice it! That’s a big deal :-) thank you
Emma, you are a genius. There so much gold in these 10 pointers. I’m so grateful to you. Fergus.
Thank you for the helpful video! This information was a lot more helpful to me than the months I've spent over the years with multiple therapists spouting the same emotional baggage. I find actionable advice like this so much better than a therapist validating my problems.
Even though this is 3 years ago you have no idea how much just listening that's just help me thank you so much
Í don’t have enough words to thank you!
You are a wonderful person and colleague!!
Amazing work!
Very helpful video, thank you. I see parallels with what Jordan Peterson has written in his books. Slay the dragon to get the gold = face the fear to reap the rewards. 'Treat yourself as someone you are responsible for helping' = be compassionate with yourself. When experts in mental health say similar things which make sense everyone should take notice. This video provides us with the right questions to ask, we just need to take it upon ourselves to find out the answers.
I can handle it. I can do hard things . Something really clicked in this video for me. THANK YOU!
Your videos mam' are PURE GOLD
Thank you so much for the help and advice on how to manage anxiety, I have been trying to fight it, and I'm attending therapy, but have not found it as helpful as watching your videos, maybe I haven't given it enough time yet, and I was not exactly clear on what I was struggling with when talking with my therapist.
You are very knowleagable about it, and calming, and for the first time I feel I'm not alone in how I feel. My family / college lectures, even therapists don't seem to understand how bad it is, Which makes me feel worse. It's debilitating. I'm attending college, and in my second last year, and anxiety is around doing my college work and also social interactions with competitive and intimidating classmates, who seem to have played on my struggles.I used to love the work, and was able to do it, with a normal amount of anxiety. but since dealing which the situations with class mates it has worsened, and now even when their not around (covid 19 working from home). It seems to just flare up every time I try to do my college work. I've had to get extensions to finish exams, and the more time that passes the worse It becomes. I now fear not being able to finish at all, but I just keep trying and nothing is happening, so I end up distracting myself from the feelings by watching t.v or going for walks/eating.
I tried to hide how I was feeling feeling and not appear vunerable. When I have talked about it, it has made me feel worse because I don't feel I got the understanding I needed, and felt they thought it was my own fault and problem, and the way in which the classmates were affecting me, was ultimately in my control. I have a lot of responsibility outside college as a single parent to a teenager, and Im also in a newish (2.5yrs) relationship for the first time since my daughter was a baby. Achieving the college degree means a lot to me and I have tried a few times over the years, but haven't succeeded. thanks for all the tips! I'm not going to let this beat me!!
Siobhan Dermott, The only permanent way to beat anxiety is meditation because meditation reprogrames the mind and helps you relax without stress. On Google search engine enter "alternate nostril breathing meditation videos" and do the simple meditation for 10-15 minutes twice a day or even more. This can also be done sitting on a chair. Lot of negative thoughts will come but anxiety and stress will reduce in a few days. To know the benefits enter "Benefits of alternate nostril breathing meditation " on Google search. Just sitting still on a chair without moving is also a great experience. Do the above meditation regularly. Do not stop. Life is meant to be enjoyed. Best wishes.Shyaaam-Life Coach.
Oh my God I just literally watched two of your videos now and I have been going through insane panic attacks, heart palpitations, and anxiety for the past three weeks and my heart palpitations and panic attacks just stoped, I figured out what the problem is and told myself it's OK and that I can handle this and go through it and survive, anxiety is still there but one I can manage and be able to be functional, thank you so so much
You are one of the best therapists. I wish you were my therapists. 🤗
"It won't always be this hard" is such a helpful mantra. ❤
I am finding your videos super helpful! I lost a really good counselor a couple years ago and have yet to find someone who fits for me. Taking what I learned from her and using your videos as reminders and building on my foundation of tools and knowledge. If I may make one suggestion; to replace clean/dirty anxiety with motivating/ unmotivating anxiety or something to that effect. Thank you so much for your clear precise explanations that are easy to follow without guilt. You are so easy to listen to. Thanks again for all you do!! 🙏
This is by far your most important video. I will be watching this over and over again. Reminds me of a story in the back of the big book of Alcoholics Anonymous called "Acceptance Was the Answer"
Really like the advice on giving credit and love to yourself each time you feel less anxious about something . I have felt more motivated and little more confident in recent months -thank you so much Emma!🌷
Thanks lot for these lessons. I still need to practice. I have a lot of fear for MRI and CT scan machines. I suffer headaches and once I was in one of them I was very ill after the experience. I was so traumatised and still suffer from this fear even today. The last time I went to do CT scan, my wife had to be with me in the radiation room and I struggled through it. I will use the exercises and hopefully one day I can overcome my deep fear of these machines. Thank you again. Much appreciated indeed.
brilliant. I learnt ACT years ago and keep coming back to it
Thank you so much... I've been suffering like this ever since I was kid... Thank you so much...
This reminds me of when my doctor told me I have Lyme and that I should learn more about it. So I did.
The first thing the book talked about was ticks. And to sum it up basically ticks are everywhere and are unavoidable. They are around in winter time too!
I freaked out. But I took a step back and realized I was at a cross roads. If I took the path of fear it would controle my life. I wouldn't go outside or into forests. And I would live in fear. Or I could take the other path and accept that there is nothing i can do to avoid ticks and worrying about them won't help. I can take precautions like having someone search my scalp after being in a forest and that would be responsible. And I can enjoy myself in forests and the outdoors.
Well I took the second path🙂 I am so glad I did.
After that I understood that when new fears arrive it is up to me to either allow the fear to controle me or to think rationally amd realize I don't have to be afraid. And that it is ok to be afraid but don't let it controle you!
This saved my life when I was being bullied by a nurse to do a procedure I didn't want. She was trying to make me afraid so I would do as they wanted.
I told her I would think about it and call back with my decision.
You see her bullying had backfired. It made me want to do the opposite even MORE. But I realized that was not wise either. So I allowed the emotion to run its course then when I was calm I carefully thought through the choices I had.
I thought about what my future would look like in each path and decided that I was going to tale my path. The one I found.
So I called back and informed them that I would not be doing the procedure.
And that was that. Then I did my path. And I am better because of it. I did a diet and am better now. No need to remove my colon because I healed the ulcers with a liquid nutritional diet from the book "The Flare Stopper System"
I am 100% healed. No more ulcers!
So yes it pays off to take a step back and really think about how fear will impact your future. And make the best choice!
You can do it!
I have just now realized how many choices I have made out of fear and avoidance , but of course I can't go back in time. But I hope it's not too late, thank you for your video!
Thank God for this angel. Where have you been all this time?
This is an amazing video. I am watching it after I woke up early due to anxiety. 3 days back I have left my handsome paying Job to pursue Business. Now I am scared what will happen next. I have tried business 3 time earlier in my life and scared what if this happens, what is that happens again. Which actually is making me anxious. I will try to follow your tips. Even by watching your video my brain muscles calmed and anxiety went away time being. Thank You
i am very grateful for these tips, just the idea of everything is solvable soothes me down so much, and your reassurance with the actions to take simplifies the process for me!
I can't begin to tell you how helpful you are and came to me at the right time! I am going to take your online class! I am all about self-help in a positive way ! I have so much to learn and finally someone who can help so our lives can move forward and stay in control! TY! I am so happy to have found you here! You're aa true asset to society, and the world needs to find your site right now and just listen, practice and listen some more! ;) I'm all in here! ;)
Thank you for putting up these videos. So helpful when we're desperate in the moment and can't get someone to talk to immediately.
This information is GOLD thank you so much for sharing your education and compassion. Priceless
Hello Good morning
I wanted to share this experience I have had for many years . All your tips are extremely helpful & im very grateful I came across your videos I can’t stop watching them & smiling . I’ve suffered from anxiety for many years , I have two kids & all I want is to give them a great life go places , and meet new places , but my anxiety has been taken over me . I have this problem when I panic I forget how to properly breath and it gives me a panic attack. I have been better at my breathing , but I always keep having these episodes of thinking i might go through it again & I avoid places so I won’t have to go through that experience again. It’s very scary to feel like I’m forgetting how to breath I think I make it worse when I panic or I’m driving or I’m with my kids. I would love to know any tips from anyone or yourself that I can do to help my breathing when it happens . Thank you ♥️
Ah... I see... Perfectionism, is it? Yes, now that I think about it, I've been unreasonably and unnecessarily trying to be perfect lately.
I'm basically in a desperate situation where I can no longer fail. That's why I've been trying so hard to be perfect. But since I crave for perfection, I can no longer tolerate literally any of my flaws.
That also prevents me from doing hard things, which what I used to do on daily basis. Since I can no longer tolerate failure or mediocrity, I've been unconsciously avoiding doing hard things because I will likely to fail.
My fear of failure is so intense that it makes me dysfunctional. I see...
Thank you for the insight! ❤️
I love the idea of sharing mishaps on a regular basis 🤗
Thank-you
Thank you for these videos my 11 yr old is struggling. I want to show him these which I feel will even help him understand his counseling sessions better
I'd go for it. My sons have gotten a lot from videos like this and say these kinds of things should be taught in school. 👍✨
i've been socially anxious throughout childhood, when i was 26 i decided to join package travels with strangers. i tried to do it every month as long as my budget can allowat first i couldnt sleep for nights before the travel, but eventually i become comfortable with people. i also took a frontline job where i need to talk to customers.. it really helped, ive changed so much for the past 6 yrs, until the pandemic and lockdowns happened. i somehow lost the momentum.. now i'm going back to building this social confidence again but yes i am totally different now than 6 yrs ago.
I refer a lot of my patients to psycologists as a Chiropractor. People underestimate the power of psychology and coping strategies. Love this!
For muscle pain
Many thanks for sharing this on the internet. It is very helpfull
1. choose something that matters more
- write down WHY you want to beat anxiety
2. practice willingness
- changing your rules - its okay to feel anxious sometimes instead of I want to avoid anxiety
- method: meditation + mindfulness (sit with experience, thought, emotions) - training for distress tolerance
- Calm and soothe body with
- practice grounding & self-regulation activities
- self-regulation activities
3. build emotional muscles
- the more you practice the smoother and faster and stronger the neuroplasticity will become
4. let go of perfectionism
- replace with growth mindset
- I’m going to keep learning and improving and it involves messing up at times
5. Let go of belief of ‘I can’t handle it’
- linked to perfectionism - idea of doing something without looking like its difficult/uncomfortable
- replace this thinking with ‘yes it is uncomfortable, but I CAN do these things’
6. change how you perceive situations
- intervening at the THOUGHT-level
- replace ‘this dog is gonna kill me’ → ‘most dogs are safe, that dog looks nice’
- works as preventative (before the situation)
- start with ****Cognitive Distortions:**** catastrophising, mental filtering, black/white filtering
7. do one small step everyday
- write down a fear exposure hierarchy - baby-steps
- write down goals/accomplishments
8. stay with fears until you calm down (or set amount of time)
- allow yourself to be uncomfortable for a cause
- rank the anxiety after out of 10
- the better the acceptance of emotions → the more likely the anxiety decreases
- stay in it until it halves or for X mins - give self credit after
- DO NOT: say ‘if I get too anxious I’ll leave’
9. get support
- help face fears - friends, therapist, accountability
10. be compassionate with self
- give self-credit
- count your wins no matter how small
Emma McAdam, you are caring for the world and for people.
You are quite amazing, thank you. We are very fortunate to have this channel.
Breathing deeply in thru nose and out thru mouth helps take the edge off my anxiety. I have a breath ball app too but I still love to listen to your videos
All these steps adds to my anxiety
#9 and taking baby steps were techniques I used to get over my driving anxiety. I never realized they were legitimate techniques at the time; it was just something I started doing once I found a friend that would keep me company and go on road trips with me. I knew I had to face my anxiety or else I'd never improve. I wish I had the same courage to "face my fear" for my phobia.
Perfection is something I have been plagued by since I was a child...I so would love to squash this.❤️
#3:
I made a folly and AVOIDABLE mistake that now has my entire future at risk. (I found these videos because of my new physical panic attacks.)
I will push through , grow, and learn from my mistakes.
Thank you!!!
Hi!! Thank you so much for making these videos!!! I only wish I had more thumbs ups to give!
Thanks :)
Really a bang on video. Already feeling so better. Thank you for these videos. Very helpful ❤
I've never had or have anxiety but I get it so much...and those steps help in life in whole... as each of us has meh times xxx
I have been having a really awful time recovering from dehydration and covid that depleted my magnesium to the point that I had over 10 symptoms including dementia and I’m only 25. To top it all off I got severe anxiety at the very end until I started taking magnesium supplements. Now it’s hard leaving my home, I get really anxious even being in my own living room but I know that over time I will get better and stronger than before! With God and Jesus by my side anything is possible 🙏🏽💙
Baby steps! I love that you placed Bill Murray in the video.
~ Magnificent ~ My Heartfelt Thank You ~ I Suffer From Debilitating Anxiety ~ I am Currently Reading Claire Weeks Books And I am A Member Of Vacate Fear On Facebook ~ Your Methods Are So Similar And Literally A Lifesaver To Me ~
You have no idea how much im grateful for these videos 🙏
Thank you. I am going to get on a short one mile freeway tomorrow.
I did it. The breathing so helped me and I bought your course on Udemy.
Latina Speaker good job! How’re you now?
@@MindsetSpeakers For more relief sit on a chair or on the ground and do the simple alternate nostril breathing meditation twice a day for 5-10 minutes for relief from anxiety as it reprogrames the mind. This is practiced all over the world. Watch the videos on Google search. Inhale-exhale slowly and feel the relaxed feeling flowing in your mind and body. . Negative thoughts will reduce. Make meditation a daily habit and enjoy life. Shyaaam Sir-Mentor-Counselor.
Wow... this whole series of video is awesome. Thank you so much ❤❤❤
For me doing hard things is living every day.
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you are brave for doing it again everyday. I felt that way once too and I look back and see the bravest version of myself.
I just wanna let you know I’m proud of you and you can do it just keep pushing through! Don’t let anxiety control you! Is what I tell myself too.