Food and no food has the secret to all anxiety and mental issues. Your putting chemicals in your body you have no idea. Yes keto and fasting is great. Eat clean organic food that won't poison you.
I beat my literally crippling anxiety by just not caring anymore. When I’d feel a panic attack come on I just thought “whatever, this is the millionth one and I’ve made it through the rest”. Took me a LONG time to get that way, but I haven’t had a panic attack in getting close to a year now.
Fr, a doctor told me this strategy and it didn't fix my thinking about things that make me anxious, but it fully beat panic attacks for me. I rarely get them anymore(it's been around 6 years) and if I do have one it lasts for like 10 seconds and I don't react to it other than thinking that this is just a panic attack and I'm not gonna give it attention. I get like 1 a year now. Definitely fixed it.
For me, it was this and working as a cashier. I believe it was exposure therapy. I made myself do the anxious thing every day until it stopped bothering me
@@Dxrkknxghts it helps a lot with anxiety disorders especially, but not as much with more specific phobias/anxieties. If it's more specific, then there needs to be gradual exposure to that thing, to demonstrate to the mind that it's safe and ok.
@@subzoronltd7779 Yeah definitely. Exposure is a huge thing. Mine is a specific anxiety and exposure to it along with this panic attack strategy has helped me along so much.
It’s the fear of anxiety that is the problem, not anxiety itself. When I realised that anxiety is the same physically as excitement and that it’s just how you frame / perceive those feelings... things changed. Don’t fight against it, meet it with love, acceptance and open arms. Don’t ignore your thoughts, welcome them but don’t hold on too tight to any of them. Remember, you are the observer, not the thought.
In other words, Give Yourself a Break. I like what you said about anxiety and excitement. My son who had crippling anxiety did this same thing and he’s working and has his own place.
My anxiety used to be so bad that I thought that I wasn't able to do any sort of activity without first taking some kind of opiate/pain pill. Thank God I'm able to do things without now and have been sober for 1.5 years. Hallelujah! You all can do it too! I have faith and believe in you! ❤️
Please pray I can stay sober. If I relapse again I may die. Last year I went three months sober. This year 2 months then slipped up. Never been a daily user. It’s alway once a week I break. I know what I have to do please say a little prayer for me thank you
@@FromTheHood2TheWoods May The Grace Of Jesus Christ The Love Of Our Heavenly Father And The Fellowship Of The Holy Ghost Be With You And Your Family Forever Brother 🙏🏼
To anyone who is struggling right now: it doesn't have to be and it won't be like that forever. I used to be so anxious and depressed and I thought I would never experience anything new because I was so afraid. But the thought of not doing anything with my life terrified me too and that's what kept me going. I'm now much older, anxiety comes and goes but I'm happy and I meet new people and do new things all the time! 🥰 u can do it! ❤️💪🏼
Just be mindfull not identifying yourself with what the thought says , youre not what the though says youre going to be , cut the link, pratice not following the thought ,mindfully, youre welcome guys
How can I use exposure therapy and face the fear if by law they have made us not allowed to see people because of this corona virus going around, any other techniques?
@@djmurcs depends on the fear/anxiety. If its social, deconstruct what you really fear and establish the worst parts. If you fear others watching you, you could post videos on social media. Before doing so, you could set out some hypotheses of what you think will happen. Afterwards, you could sit down and evaluate what actually happened. Did what you fear actually happen? Etc. You could do this with other things too, if you fear looking sillyor embarrassed you could build up to posting silly posts online. These are some really simple ideas that may work online given the current circumstances. Hope this helps.
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Anxiety still annoys me and overwhelmes me a couple times a week. But I feel way better day by day from eating healthy and working out 5 days a week! Disciplining myself has helped greatly! It makes you feel like you’re in control!
@@icarus7552 Oh yes. Like depression and isolation and loneliness, which then leads to more depression, etc... it's a spiral going downward unless you can pull yourself out.
I need you to help me about my worry. For example: I always get afraid of loosing money in stock market and get anxious I will loose all my money. I always feel once I recovered my money I will be cool. Until I recover I live in anxious period. How can you advise
Past and future are merely a construction made up by humans. The only thing that really exists is this very moment and one should always try to experience it fully and conciously feel it.
@@factviews8474 - Is it really necessary to play the stock market? Your life is worth so much more than the things of this world. I think relationships are a major component to anxiety and happiness. Especially a relationship with the One. 🙏🏻
Things I found helpful in dealing with anxiety are: acceptance, be grateful for all the little things you have, focusing on breathing, meditation and outdoor activities. The most important of all is to be grateful. While anxiety puts us in a constant state of fear, gratitude gives us peace and joy.
This is too annoying,I have had minor ocd when i was more younger but It started around 1.5 years back. I was having fear that if i don't do this something bad will happen to family members or something bad will happen in general. Then it was number based theme, i mean i had thoughts to do things for a particular number of times and it was so annoying. Then since last few months some other things came like checking windows of room again and again that someone is not looking at me. And recently due to a fear that someone has tried to do something bad to me a thought again and again comes that something is coming from back some bad energy or something and I have to fight it and change my thought and it exhausts a lot, takes a lot of time and disturbs focus Can you please help in how to fight this and remove it.
Well done doctor, my personal experience to overcome from anxiety is to follow below steps 1. Deep breathing 2. Don't avoid fear 3. CBT practice 4. Positive affirmation These steps will developed new nuro patterns.
Currently doing all these. My psychologist said that I should celebrate my progress no matter how small they are. But there's this fear that I might go back from the start, it's like a fear over a fear...
Leonard, you are not alone. This used to be my life, now I'm a therapist, thanks to good therapists. There is good help and much hope. Reach out and Hang in there!!
Isn't this the most backasswards way of being. This is me in a nutshell. I am deathly afraid of being alone. But i don't want to be around anyone when i have high anxiety moments.
I think that isn't important for anxiety. Just because someones life is "good" and save it doesn't mean that you can't get mental health issues. The brain is too complicated for that logic xD
There might even be things you haven't processed/things your subconscious isn't okay with that you haven't realized yet. It's okay your feelings are valid and you can get through it. The only way out is through so just keep swimming :)
I've been having an extremely stressful and anxious period in my life. I've recently tried cold water therapy sitting for 2 minutes in a freezing cold pool of water in a mountain creek, afterwards I was a different person. I now take cold showers during my sauna sessions, I highly recommend it.
I've watched a lot of videos on anxiety. Never came across any that offers practical solutions like this one. Love the way you explain things. Makes a lot of sense. Gives me hope.
If you're interested in practical solutions, you may want to know that certain nutrient deficiencies can cause anxiety! Medications such as birth control can deplete magnesium and vitamin B6, both of which can lead to anxiety. Vitamin D deficiency can also cause anxiety! For vitamin D deficiency, you may want to plan a location in a sunny place, buy a sun lamp, or supplement with 2000 IU/d in the winter! Just make sure to check with your healthcare provider before beginning any supplements!
Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
I beat my sleep anxiety by saying: "fuck it, if I die of sleep deprivation, so be it." And my sleep actually normalized and I now can sleep decently. Beating anxiety is actually going on a downward spiral all the way in your mind, accepting it and living it.
This works. Many years ago a counselor told me when I’m having a panic attack say “bring it on”. Eventually I just started saying “fuck it I don’t care anymore” and it would make it stop. That that worked for years. Now I have developed severe OCD after a prolonged traumatic event and I can’t seem to get a grip on the anxiety/panic anymore, but for many years saying “fuck it” really did work.
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I known.. but the anxiety is real we have at least respect it cause it can happen to any one. I have it for 2 year ready .. guess what.! Now the anxiety create my apnea so when I have Apena attacked The Apena sent a electric signal a shock signal to the heart, Hurting my heart badly 💔.. thk to God 🙏 you not suffer of this. TKS..
Omg, you're fantastic! Thanks so much! ❤ 👌 👍 Notes 📝 0:14 Woah 3 steps to take control of your anxiety: 1:30 1:50 (If you want to change how your brain processes anxiety) *Three principles of anxiety #1. 1:56 What is anxiety? #2. 3:07 Disordered anxiety #2-a. 4:09 The second variation of disordered anxiety 4:40 What causes anxiety? The anxiety cycle 5:46 "Every single time that we avoid a threat and survive, our brain thinks, 'Let's do that again'". #3. 6:20 Avoidance feeds disordered anxiety 7:41 8:57 3 big steps to intervene anxiety: #3-1. 9:32 step1: Make an exposure hierarchy #3-2. 10:02 step2: Change your rules #3-3. 11:17-12:30 step3: Face your fears
Anxiety happens when you are trying to control the future instead of living for today. Another challenge is that there is no need to "be and do things perfect". Our imperfections is what makes us unique, we were born to stand out
I really hope everyone overcomes their anxiety! Whoever has it you can do it. I am working on mine and its been so hard. I’ve been anxious just for being anxious this past year. Especially with the pandemic it made it even worse because I was able to avoid going out and stuff. My brain has drove me crazy with it and I wouldnt ever wish this on my worst enemy. It really can be the worse thing ever and some days are the worst and can make you feel like you dont want to live at all. But i’ve been trying to be in control again and I know gradually I will make progress. I wish everyone below the comments who has anxiety, that one day you guys will overcome it. We can do it :)
@@tonjo575 well I’ve been to therapy and been working out and meditating. I’m making progress but some days are harder than others. I’m beginning to not fight with my inner thoughts as much and just learning how to breathe better too. Its a mental battle everyday but slowly i will get there :)
As a person suffering from anxiety disorder and panic attack, a few days ago when I was giving a lecture to participants, i got a.panic attack and started sweating..naturally this is very embarrassing and awkward feeling..However I persisted and still continued and completed that lecture...while the lecture did not go well as per expectation, however I was happy that despite my panic attack(extreme sweating) and the embarrassing situation, I continued to persist by giving the lecture...
The most practical and simplest video I ever came across on anxiety. I can understand where my problem was, I avoided anxiety and performed grounding activities, now I know what my exercise should be. Facing my fears a little by little.
I have been doing personal development for 6yrs now and I'm a certified Master Practitioner of NLP, Hypnosis and TLT and I must admit; it is one of the simple and effective video on anxiety I have come across in a very very long time! Bless your soul!! 💐👏
I was looking up the amygdala, and fell into this one. THERE ARE NO ACCIDENTS. This person is GREAT and giving over info, in understandable terms (with meaning). A true sign she understands the material thoroughly.
The brain is such an amazing organ. It's so cool how much it's able to change and grow. I love that we have the power to dictate how these changes can happen with a little effort.
Kayli G I use to assume situations would go terrible. The. One day I asked myself “what if it goes extremely well” I didn’t know so I had to go and try but the idea of it possibly going amazingly was motivating
@@mina0rahman have you heard if Dianetics? I know it's associated with Scientology and a lot of people she away from that, but Dianetics itself is essentially what she described here, but in more detail. I go to therapy and my therapist practically echoed what is said in this video and videos I've seen on Dianetics.
@@mina0rahman I hope you find a good counselor or something that helps and can feel better soon. Learning to meditate helped me a lot. And Jordan Peterson videos.
@@alegriart Yes, those who seriously injured me then lied & denied & covered-up after (doctors & their legal teams) traumatised me repeatedly & knowingly: torture & malice, I could've died but they didn't care, they only cared about themselves.
This video is the only video that seemed to actually help me! I get very anxious answering questions in class and reading to the whole class (books), my heart starts beating really fast, my palms get sweaty and my voice gets really shakey. I used to avoid talking in class at all means, but now Im going to face my fears and gradually improve my anxiety step by step by talking in class until I feel less anxious doing it. Thank you so so much, you have no idea how much this video aided me
Thank you, this video made me realize that I tend to blame my anxiety on the fact that I am introverted, highly sensetive and an empath and that way let my anxiety worsen. I just sent a message to my therapist explaining exactly that. And its a huge step for me because I always send short messages with no context. You might have actually sent me in the direction of recovery. Wish me luck!
"If it were easy you would have already done it." Thank you for acknowledging that. Sometimes the programming starts in the family of origin. And one knows that nothing else exists. And sometimes it's generated in adulthood, for ex, toxic work environments. You can't avoid it, and most are resistant to change. These settings generate anxiety.
that is so true.. it occurs from past experiences and becomes anxiety because you think it may happen again. Working with your how it all happened and resolve it will bring forth relief and decrease ypur anxiety
"When you experience something, and you don't die, your brain tells you it's safe" I genuinely laughed, because it's so simple, yet so true. I've denied myself a lot by falling into the cycle. However, by comparing something like comically exploding to the actual worst case of her saying no, it makes the concern feel trivial. Now I begin to feel like things like that aren't a real risk anymore.
When I feel anxious about anything going wrong I repeat to myself “You are lying to me” to any bad thought.💕most of the time it helps, along with providing solutions to these negative thoughts.
Anxiety is the tide and my life is a walk along the beach. It sometimes laps around my ankles, once in a while it feels as if I'm wading through it, but it helps to know it will go out again at some point. The trick is to learn how to side step that first wave, whether it's talking to someone or learning to help yourself by watching video's like this. Thinking this way helps me to separate anxiety from the core 'me', if that makes sense, and I can therefore 'own' it rather than let it engulf me. Find what works for you.
A great video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, daily morning sunlight walks, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
For anyone feeling down or as if the world has turned its back on you, please know that I might not know you or what you are going through, but I love you nonetheless. You are an amazing person and have the greatest gift the universe could provide, LIFE. I know, it is hard and sometimes it might seem easier to leave this place, but there is happiness out there if you look hard enough. It could take the shape of a man/woman, a endless grassy meadow filled with wild flowers, a Arizona sunset or a comfy couch with your favorite ice-cream and movie playing. There is something for everyone and yes, that includes YOU! Everyone deserves happiness, regardless if you think you are worthy of it or not. I love you, you are loved, spread the love and live a life of love ;)
Love this comment I deal with crippling anxiety and depression and sometimes I just want to end my life because I feel like I am so broken and unfixable. I have a lot of trauma from various sources growing up and because of that I deal with these mental disorders. I often get hyper fixated on a situation or stressor that it is all I can think about. For example I hated presentations in school and anytime a teacher mentioned that word my heart rate would increase dramatically. I would dread presenting every day until it happened and it was very frustrating. I have never liked speaking in front of large groups and in being in large crowds in general. I get over stimulated and usually would try to escape those situations or avoid them at all costs. I pretended to be sick on the day of the presentation so I could get out of it but that only delayed the inevitable. Right now I find most of my stress/anxiety is from financial struggles. It gets so bad sometimes that I give myself migraines and stop eating much at all. It also makes it very difficult for my family/loved ones because my moods can swing from 0 to 100 in a split second. It often leaves me feeling like a burden too those around me which leads to the depression. I just want it to go away.
This. Is literally. Therapy in a nutshell.. my god how did I not find you before... This is exactly what I'm working on with my clinical psychologist. It works guys, it takes a lot of work and time but it works. Thank you for the video.
Excellent presentation! When a young girl and woman (long ago), due some reasons, I had anxiety and real panic attacks in group situations. My face flushed really red, I lost my train of thought, I was gone. I was afraid of dogs, too, I had been bitten. In all of these cases I approached very logically. I never run away. 1) What´s the worst that can happen? (Eg I reasoned, the dog bites me, I will go and get help, that´s all.) 2) I decided I don´t care what other people think. - Even as a mature woman now, I am amazed at my brain´s own inner capacity to help me deduct and solve my problems (which were really serious). And heal them. Today, I have no such fears. My own brain healed them.
I wish they taught this in school. After feeling depressed and anxious for years, I didn't have much hope that I'd ever feel better. Now I feel more in control, and motivated to put this advice to use! I'm so thankful for this video ❤
Mental heath should be a subject in schools. At all levels to varying degrees. Maybe if children were given the knowledge upfront they could avoid some of the damaging behaviors that lead to anxiety later in life. Knowing what resources are available is paramount in schools too.
Best description about anxiaty I've ever heard. I'd get so much anxiety about driving that I didn't get my license till I was 30 years old and I still struggle when there's a lot of traffic. Anxiety sucks 😏
I have “general” anxiety disorder... SO many thing make me moderately anxious all the time, and other things that create severe anxiety. Most my anxiety is somatic now. But, doing this to one by one address things/places/situations/emotions that make me anxious would take more time than I have left! 😢
Thank God for neuroplasticity. Applying the tools I learnt from therapy and what I gathered from self-help. Anxiety is excitement for me this time. Suddenly, my body knows it’s okay. We can reframe our attitude towards anxiety and befriend it. 😃 Awesome video.
Thank you so much for this. Really one of the best explanations I've ever seen on this. The focus on how avoidance creates more anxiety is wonderful. But the confirmation that neuroplasticity works is the most important to me. I suffered extreme anxiety for years due to child abuse and neglect. After the crash of 2008 I went into a hardcore spiral. Daily CBT helped me overcome the worst of it. I kept doing it for a few years to overcome many fears and traumas - I believe I did 're-wire' my brain to be much less anxious. Working calmly through the corona-virus era proves that I did make substantial changes that are now benefiting me. Thanks for bringing this good news to other people. This really works.
@user-fn6lo1in4p No. Once can be enough. Watch Roland R Griffiths talk on this platform about his incredible research at Johns Hopkins. He is a Neuropsychopharmacologist who has had uniquely successful results with treatment resistant depressives..Not same thing but naturally there's a considerable overlap with anxiety and panic.
Taking mushrooms is what triggered my chronic anxiety 17 years ago. I was already prone to panic attacks but now I’ve had ongoing 24/7 anxiety with derealization since 2005. 🤷🏼♀️
Perfect example of getting over my fear of elevators (I got stuck in one when I was a teenager for three hours) I could hardly even look at an elevator for many years. Eventually, I moved into an apartment with a friend, and he lived on the 8th floor. Everyday I would walk up and down the stairs completely avoiding the elevator. This was so tiring. I took a leap of faith and used the elevator. Nothing happened. I eventually started using the elevator everyday. Now, I don’t even have a second thought when I use one. It’s not scary anymore, and even if I think about getting stuck again, it doesn’t scare me 🤷♂️
i use them but they still scare me and i'm always tense. elevator-vertigo combo :) worse the higher the floor. but there's no way i'm taking stairs to the 10th floor either. my luck is having to go to a high floor is very rare. and those glass elevators.. like hell i'm looking through. One day i'll have to go on a glass floor elevator to a reeeally high building and my soul will escape my body but i'll do it hahah
My friend got stuck in the elevator 7 times. I would NEVER take elevator with him, the chance we get stuck is high 😄😄And anyway he is scared of taking elevator till now, and also airplanes.
Honestly this video gave me the first step to heal from my anxiety and fearful thoughts , my anxiety disorder started in October 2019 and since then ,my life turned to a living hell , fearful thoughts of my past and anxiety .... and now i started to accept , imagine and interact with acceptance the fearful thoughts ..... since from the first hour of doing that my anxiety started to decrease . Accept your thoughts , accept your past , interact with the thought , believe that whatever happened was meant to happen , you done your best , believe that whatever thought your brain is giving you is to protect you , keep repeating the acceptance of whatever that fearful thought is telling you .. no matter what you have PTSD , OCD or whatever , they are all based on one thing ... FEAR ..... and to beat the fear you MUST face it , accept it with love and forgiveness , Imagine that fearful thought with its worst scenario and accept it , you`ll see a huge relief from anxiety , keep doing it till your brain will create new Neuro plasticity ....... that's the golden key .
Walnuts are a great brain food. Just thought I'd throw that out there. Magnesium really helps too. I just learned many people are deficient and it causes anxious feels. Vitamin D levels can be low too. It helped improve my seasonal affective disorder a lot.
@@TherapyinaNutshell I have to agree! IMHO it is not bound to the video format, but the way how you share your information. I notice how much "honest knowledge" (knowledge you tested out and not just taking it for granted) there is in your way of talking. This was very intriguing and now I have a bunch of information I can now put under test myself! Thank you for that!
Very true. Cognitive therapy is the only thing that will change chronic anxiety. I have dpdr and got rid of it once but it returned because I haven't stayed on top of my maintenance. This is a great video. When I think about the science of the brain and neuroplasticity, it gives me hope that I'll feel normal again. New subscriber to this wonderful gal.
Thank you so so much, this is the best advice i found so far on internet about anxiety. I have to do this and i will do this!! I will break free from this prison of fear
You have no idea how much I laughed and felt relief during this video. I have been going through a spiritual awakening for the past 4 months now and have been feeling pressure in my head for at least 2 months. I will definitely be recommending this video to anyone going through a spiritual awakening as well. Because clearly developing anxiety is a possibility and literally watching this video released so much of the pressure I have been feeling😭🙏🏽.
WOW I am 32 years and in the past 32 years I have been pushing Anxiety aside because I thought it was normal and it ruined my life, but haha that fact that coming here and watching the video and started to applying knowledge, My life started to change slowly, so it was not normal at all , you are great thank you for the video and We all going to overcome Anxiety!
That was the most simple and logical explanation about anxiety, even my mind couldn't say anything about what you said, more like "ok, she discovered our Strategie" 😂 Thanks for the explanation!
i have really bad social anxiety and it gets in the way of my every day life. i’m unemployed, have no friends or a relationship because of it and i’m over it. i’m tired of feeling anxious and terrified whenever I leave my house. like i get anxiety from even talking with my own family, i can’t keep living like this so this week i am going to start an exposure hierarchy and see if this helps me!
@@swirlingfudge hey, i’m feeling pretty much the same as when i posted this comment. my social anxiety is still pretty bad but im still working on it and hopefully getting a bit better slowly. thank you for asking
@@Lalabooey hello. What are u doing to help urself? Are u following a routine of sleep diet dressing well and exercise? Socializing is anyway difficult these days, how are u coping?
@@Lalabooey do you have anything that u r conscious about urself? Any physical feature? Any past trauma(fear of rejection, isolation, abandonment)? Or have u faced it everm
You are amazing! My daughter has severe anxiety about school and grades and this will help me in my working with her to overcome it. Now we BOTH will have a much better understanding and I am sure this will help us move forward. Thanks!
Definitely sharing this with my sister. I love her so much and want to see her be able to live life normally. 💗 I was able to conquer my anxiety and she's a lot like me with strong will power so I know that she can do it too. Just takes time and effort.
My anxiety at one point was so bad that I became agoraphobic. I was able to come back to a normal life, so you can change how you think, there is hope. I do have anxiety occasionally, it does affect my life to some degree. . I am so glad I found this channel so I can get another perspective on how to live a positive and happy life.
Heyy! How are you today? I developed extreme agoraphobia and anxiety in October and my life has been turned upside down ever since. I am optimistic most of the time and I am slowly exposing myself to... Well... The outside world. Hope you're doing better!
Yep, our society is all mixed up about mental health and anxiety, they essentially encourage avoidance in the name of empathy, but it can be really harmful.
great video on anxiety. It only happens when we are thinking of thoughts, which are leading to that anxiety , but if we slow down , breathe and reflect , we will figure out , none of that thought is true.
Writing therapy has helped my anxiety a lot. But it was writing about the actual source of my anxiety (scarred family relationships and gaslighting). This helped me confront the issue and retrain my brain on how to handle uncertain situations. Am still on the journey but it’s really helped me open up.
Last year I figured out that if channel my energy into doing something productive for myself, I don’t give anxiety a chance. I did this after every unpleasant and uncomfortable situation that I had to face. But recently realized and this video confirmed that I was avoiding the “problem” and not confronting it. This changed everything for me, I shifted from victim mentality to tackling those crippling thoughts head on.
Sometimes it is really difficult to differentiate between a trigger and anxiety. I've worked through both. We have to put conscious efforts in recognizing and acknowledging them. If we deny then definitely as you said being avoidant increases our anxiety.
To whoever's reading this - It's fantastic that you've finally found this video and you took away something from it Now actually do it, whatever scares you. You don't need to watch another one of these videos - you're done. Go on now
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Just started watching these and omg….they are helping me realize the root of my GAD. It’s been eye-opening to learn not only how to calm myself, but how/why I got here in the first place. Thank u so much for sharing ur wisdom and expertise. I’m in therapy and on medz, too, but ur videos have helped me make HUGE progress on my own, and frankly, given me hope. 🙏❤️
My mental health has improved this year, largely because of the work I am doing with my brilliant counsellor and partly because of my own online learning, particularly from videos like this from Emma and other RUclipsrs. Not only has it improved my wellbeing but I plan to train as a counsellor/therapist because I have developed such an interest by watching these kinds of videos.
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I cannot believe all the years trying to cure my cptsd, last night after applying this, my life is completely changed😱😱 i did it the whole night continuously with each of my reflex because you have made me understood about the anxiety cycle😱😱😱 who would've thought?!?! You are really a godsend!!! I was able to sleep and woke up with reflexes still, but i kept comforting myself saying it's okay that i have a headache/panic attack ( because these are the things that amp up my anxiety, and i used to keep trying to fix these symptoms not realising it was amping up the anxiety cycle ) - that's why they say when you understand something only then it can be cured!! Wow... This is better than those quantum healing because i didn't have understanding of those, but you have helped me understand logically about the anxiety cycle... I couldn't stress enough because that horrible theme of flashbacks is now gone lol because as i understood what is going on with me (my brain - my own neurology), i realised those flashbacks are just images that came up with the anxiety - but since i know how to cure that anxiety now, those flashbacks have little to no power except for when it first arose, and everytime i am relieved from it, it's rewarding and is like an accomplishment!! And i finally for once am having control over my emotions aka my life!! I am someone who never wants to burden anyone so i just bottled up my feelings and walked out as a happily depressed person (hence the flashbacks and anxiety that kept accumulating in the brain), but just by applying it last night (i was crying again the whole night having a splitting headache), i just understood!! I love your approach to the problem that is realistic and practice so i don't need to be "spiritual" to get it or seek a guru to help me "uplift" without knowing how to do it on my part... Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!! It really was like common sense until i started actively applying to each and every of my thought feeling emotion and reflex, and today i am starting to live and really start achieving my goals... In such a short time!! I need no affirmation videos, i just needed to comfort what's preventing me to live bravely (yes i can't even approach my goals before because i was always anxious and guilt ridden due to my upbringing, i never felt i deserved to be better and lived better as i was the family scapegoat/caretaker). But this has changed everything. I apply this continuously and i no longer need to engage in endlessly fixing myself to feel better. I just comfort myself when i feel anxious or other negative emotions, and then i could keep studying, developing myself into a responsible adult, achieve my goals and approach my once distant dreams :) (still far from it but i know i can because i know what my bondage is now :)) Thank you :)) i am so glad i bumped into this video :)) thank god!!!!!!!!!!!
@@saradevikam.508 when i have a flashback (memory or thoughts), i say to myself "it's okay" until "it's okay" becomes what i think about Remember to breathe when you say "it's okay", because it calms the body too. You can see this as befriending your thoughts, when they show up regardless of what it is, you can just accept them appearing and tell them it's okay :) you don't need to get into them nor entertain nor wrestle with them, just say "it's okay" until "it's okay" is all you think about ^^ When i have an emotional flashback (bodily emotionally overwhelmed, or physical symptoms like panic attack/fatigue/migraine) , i say to myself "I'm okay", or "it's okay I'm having a hard time, but so far i have survived 100% of such hard times, most of them were worse, so this is a piece of cake. It's okay :)" just anything factual and real that calms yourself and centers upon you being okay will be great to say~ Like if you once experienced being physically abused, and now you have a symptom, tell yourself you made it through the real deal, this remembrance/symptom in comparison is nothing but a piece of cake :) This technique is very important to me because my thoughts and feelings are stem from facts that i experienced in my reality for the longest time, and i need action from me to create a different life for me and my loved ones, so i need to stay bright and productive. When i was suffering a lot, couldn't even get out of bed, it was daunting, even self-care bodily didn't help me much because my brain was crippled. But now it's different because i am applying this to what cripples me most, and addressing what comes out from my brain with my brain power:) So, calming yourself is the most important for progressing into health. Some people use these soothing skills as defense mechanism or to enable denials, please don't fall into the trap. If something is actually wrong, it must be addressed. This is not about disregarding what's happening out there. This is about being a healthier version of you (a different reality than the messy one you have to deal with out there), so that you can create better and choose different options in life that is about being healthy and happy and productive. without your wellbeing first, it's impossible to create profound changes. So this is about being strong, clear, and capable of dealing with life issues from a healthy place :) Sometimes I'm worried people who are in abusive relationship or situation only use this to enable their misery so i have to put it here also. To be okay and to recover means being healthy enough to create a profound change in yourself/health, instead of to be stronger just to stay as a supply to problems and personal/relational miseries. I used to do that, i used to make myself "stronger" so i could still keep a relationship. But the truth is, the relationship was what weakened me. So i changed, and i got stronger just so i could keep my relationship with Me healthy. Meaning i had to say goodbye to people who didn't care about me even though i cared about them a lot. Practically, when i had to say no to an abusive relationship, to be healthy with me means i needed those healthy conditions to grant myself real safety first. So, my relationship with me is that i have to be healthy enough in my life that i can back myself up if someone threatens me using my factual weaknesses (financially physically mentally emotionally socially). My job is to strengthen those weaknesses so that i wouldn't be exploited by them anymore, nor be needy of any of it from someone else. This "it's okay" has solved the cognitive dissonance, gaslighting effects and other things being psychologically manipulated by others. So this soothing is the first step, the next step is to use the health and sanity you've gained to build a healthy relationship with yourself, with your unique life, to work on your goals, fitness, your "escape" from these bad situations. These all take energy and hard work! What i have found is, whatever i say to soothe me, must be regarding what i am experiencing, instead of externalising it to something outside my control. Let's say if you had a thought about a situation, maybe that situation isn't okay, maybe it's about someone else being abusive. All you need in this case, is to say to yourself that it's okay for you to think about such traumatic incident, it means you care and you don't want to create nor experience such things in your life. tell yourself that you're now okay, you can make changes, you're physically safe. You've made it through and you'll make it again. And Then, disengage with this person, even if not possible yet physically (same workplace/living place), you have to disengage with that person emotionally and mentally by using this "it's okay" technique inside your mind. It'd be hard at first but just be consistent, more consistent than anything else, then it will sink in. The most important thing about bringing yourself to feel okay is that you actually become okay by fact. And if you or someone you care about actually needs your help to change the situations, you will be able to do so :) never try to change someone else, change yourself and make it an eternal motto. If the thought of someone being abusive is something that's happening, and your body is feeling sick about it, you being weak in real time can do so little. So, when the thought comes up, it is being your best friend to tell you to create a positive change, so you must make sure you function at your optimum by being in the here and now, and then take positive actions to create wellbeing, or to end a bad situation from continuing. For instance, my friend told me that he has an addiction issue. I told him what actions he must take to stop it. I told him it's okay, i told him to take the steps to quit. But he kept himself in the addiction. I was frustrated. This time, I told myself it's okay, i tried all my best, and i have to stop interacting with him because he's using me as an enabler (if someone's addicted/has a problem and not taking active actions to change him/herself, all other things/people are nothing but enablers/supply). I used to make myself get healthy and keep helping him. But then i realised my approach was hopeless. Now i get healthy and then stopped being an enabler, i strive for my goals and my own happy life that is made of responsibility and trust with myself. If he doesn't want to be healthy, then we have to part ways. With an addict, there is no trust, no responsibility, no accountability. Just a chaos. And I wasn't able to see that until i got myself so sick and then healthier. You literally become addicted as a helper when you're with an addict. Same thing different form. So get out of there. So this is my lesson learned. Being healthy enough to create a healthy version of yourself, not so that you can bring anyone in (certainly not the addict), or chase someone else. It's not about any other person. it is to make yourself okay and healthy, and be the example for the addict or other people involved. All of these are personal work to do. Without this video, i was still in that toxic codependency cycle, because i was always trying harder to meet a wrong end. This is kinda in reverse because this all ends within me. And then i discovered my own tendencies just weren't working for me, and so i ended those patterns in myself also. It was very hard at first to stay in my own lane, because my brain was so used to those patterns. but i persisted because being the enabler was everything i wanted to get rid of. I don't want to be someone else's backup/something. I want to be my own self. so i kept going despite my habit of externalising my power. I hope you find this useful!! It's kind of repetitive but i figured that will help information sink in :) Many people are dealing with abusive situations nowadays so i incorporated that into this message just in case. :)
Love your video it helped me understand my anxiety better. Especially the relief response and be willing until your anxiety starts up. It is true avoidance makes it worse through exposure you can gradually heal. I prayed to Saint Jude to help me with anxiety and so quickly he came to my aid. I started going through exposure therapy. He basically had to rewire my brain and help me learn everyday issues of life that sometimes can't be avoided. I love Saint Jude he is a special and powerful Saint. He takes his miracle works very seriously and he's so loving. Please please please pray to Saint Jude for help with anxiety/agoraphobia!!
I watched this on a whim and thank God I did. My anxiety with school starting back up has been awful. I followed your tips and after one day I feel so much better. I feel productive with my work, and am taking this one day at a time. Finally going to check my email and order my textbooks. Thank you I'm so glad I found you!!
God brought me to you channel. I’ve been praying on the worry and fear that starts to take over when it comes to nursing school (I just recently started) and relationships. I’m able to run from relationships so I didn’t have to deal with that. But I can’t just run from my fears of failing nursing school. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you for sharing valuable information.
Wow let me know how it goes sis, and what are you learning in nursing so far. Remember God hath not given you a spirit of fear but of POWER , love and sound mind :)
Titose thank you. So far it’s going great. I pray two to three times a day everyday. I deactivated my social sites. I practice mindfulness and law of attraction techniques. I’ve just really guarded my energy and my self talk. I also just started my second semester of nursing school on Monday and my experience is much better because of my improved mindset. Thank you.
Same I am premed and I had to stop school this semester from fear of failing classes because I combined physics with micro.... I had no other option 😫😫. The first 3 weeks of school I had 2 very severe panic attacks, my blood pressure went up to 170 and heart rate was 154. My sister had to call 911, and those 2 times I ended up in the emergency room. I spoke to a psychiatrist and he told me to drop my classes because I need therapy.
Ive turned from a person with the mind-set "what's the worst thing that could happen? who cares, it won't" to one that worries. this helps me understand
Thank you for sharing! This has really helped me understand a loved one. I don't struggle much with anxiety, so I have struggled to understand someone I love who does have anxiety. Your sharing makes me feel like I comprehend more of why she is anxious and hurting. I feel more compassion for her and maybe I can be of more help. Thank you
Respect to you for seeking knowledge to better understand a topic you don’t personally experience. If a loved one of mine did that for me, I would be so grateful of the support. ✌️
Thank you for this informative presentation. My anxiety is taking care of my mom. My hands shaking, heart racing! I just can’t face her knowing the past bad experiences will come back!
My anxiety has been a thorn in my side for decades... I'm ashamed of myself for not being able to fix it in myself, because my children suffered as a result of it. I guess I am a LATE blumer, spiritually... A big hug for anyone who impathise with this 😃
@1socalshocker hopefully, thankfully the most high God is more forgiving than man, I pray our children of course, but I also pray patition even for us grown up Lost or disenfranchised out here trying not to give up. Please don't.... Someone loves you too.
I laughed haaard when the brain said, “let’s do that again!” Avoiding has been my default mode for a very long time. Thank you for this very helpful video.
This is so hopeful - neuroplasticity. I am studying to become a SOMA Breath therapist/coach, and currently lead SOMA Breath sessions which has been the thing which has MOST helped my anxiety, most helped my fatigue and most helped me to step into a new reality that is very beautiful:)
Great video! I am on a binge watching videos about neuroplasticity right now and this was an interesting and helpful approach to anxiety. Great work!
Awesome, thanks!
Food and no food has the secret to all anxiety and mental issues. Your putting chemicals in your body you have no idea. Yes keto and fasting is great. Eat clean organic food that won't poison you.
On doing Keto did anyone have any problems with Kidney stones or Gallbladder stones?
Apple cider vinegar or lemon in your water.
Been taking A.C.V & also Lemon juice as I've got a history of Kidney Stones
I beat my literally crippling anxiety by just not caring anymore. When I’d feel a panic attack come on I just thought “whatever, this is the millionth one and I’ve made it through the rest”. Took me a LONG time to get that way, but I haven’t had a panic attack in getting close to a year now.
Fr, a doctor told me this strategy and it didn't fix my thinking about things that make me anxious, but it fully beat panic attacks for me. I rarely get them anymore(it's been around 6 years) and if I do have one it lasts for like 10 seconds and I don't react to it other than thinking that this is just a panic attack and I'm not gonna give it attention. I get like 1 a year now. Definitely fixed it.
For me, it was this and working as a cashier. I believe it was exposure therapy. I made myself do the anxious thing every day until it stopped bothering me
I'm working on one month since having one still get anxious alot tho meds are helping congrats
@@Dxrkknxghts it helps a lot with anxiety disorders especially, but not as much with more specific phobias/anxieties. If it's more specific, then there needs to be gradual exposure to that thing, to demonstrate to the mind that it's safe and ok.
@@subzoronltd7779 Yeah definitely. Exposure is a huge thing. Mine is a specific anxiety and exposure to it along with this panic attack strategy has helped me along so much.
Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once. Breathe. You’re strong. You got this. Take it day by day.
U are right
Thank you.
my anxiety isn't like that, I have emetophobia soooo it happens when anxious thoughts come into my head
thanks..it helped..really thank you so much
@@ameliaelizaax2895 me too,well the part about anxious thoughts.There is hope for us yet!Hugs.🤗
It’s the fear of anxiety that is the problem, not anxiety itself. When I realised that anxiety is the same physically as excitement and that it’s just how you frame / perceive those feelings... things changed. Don’t fight against it, meet it with love, acceptance and open arms. Don’t ignore your thoughts, welcome them but don’t hold on too tight to any of them. Remember, you are the observer, not the thought.
Yeah you are so right
@@suriyasuriya-bz9ev i would say to fully accept the thoughts because that way they go away. What we resist persists
I love this x
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In other words, Give Yourself a Break. I like what you said about anxiety and excitement. My son who had crippling anxiety did this same thing and he’s working and has his own place.
My anxiety used to be so bad that I thought that I wasn't able to do any sort of activity without first taking some kind of opiate/pain pill. Thank God I'm able to do things without now and have been sober for 1.5 years. Hallelujah! You all can do it too! I have faith and believe in you! ❤️
Please pray I can stay sober. If I relapse again I may die. Last year I went three months sober. This year 2 months then slipped up. Never been a daily user. It’s alway once a week I break. I know what I have to do please say a little prayer for me thank you
@@FromTheHood2TheWoods May The Grace Of Jesus Christ The Love Of Our Heavenly Father And The Fellowship Of The Holy Ghost Be With You And Your Family Forever Brother 🙏🏼
Good for you I had that issue too
Do you remember how hard it was to be able to feel something uncomfortable without opiates?
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When your brain is learning about your brain
I kno right 🤤
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Learned
The brain named itself too 🤔
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"Do the things you are afraid to do" or "seek discomfort" are the 2 mottos that have helped me overcome my anxiety.
I have irrational fear of slow death/human loss and guys.
What about a roller coaster 😂
@@nylakhan5658 I tried that once, never again! 🤣🤣🤣
@@zildian1983 I suffer from anxiety I would really like to speak to someone as it affects my daily life.
@@nylakhan5658 what are your fears?
This lady has a calming down effect when she speaks
True
Agreed 👍
indeed, its a gift
Yes
Her words are really a calming effect on me, God
Bless U Doctor
To anyone who is struggling right now:
it doesn't have to be and it won't be like that forever. I used to be so anxious and depressed and I thought I would never experience anything new because I was so afraid. But the thought of not doing anything with my life terrified me too and that's what kept me going. I'm now much older, anxiety comes and goes but I'm happy and I meet new people and do new things all the time! 🥰 u can do it! ❤️💪🏼
• Step 1: Exposure yourself gradually
• Step 2: Change the way you see the situation
• Step 3: Face the fear
Just be mindfull not identifying yourself with what the thought says , youre not what the though says youre going to be , cut the link, pratice not following the thought ,mindfully, youre welcome guys
How can I use exposure therapy and face the fear if by law they have made us not allowed to see people because of this corona virus going around, any other techniques?
@@djmurcs face the fear of hunger. Fast. Face the fear of isolation, dread and illness. Its just how you choose to view it.
@@djmurcs depends on the fear/anxiety. If its social, deconstruct what you really fear and establish the worst parts. If you fear others watching you, you could post videos on social media. Before doing so, you could set out some hypotheses of what you think will happen. Afterwards, you could sit down and evaluate what actually happened. Did what you fear actually happen? Etc. You could do this with other things too, if you fear looking sillyor embarrassed you could build up to posting silly posts online. These are some really simple ideas that may work online given the current circumstances. Hope this helps.
Ryan A yes
Thank you! I've wasted twenty years going to five different therapists and not one of them ever mentioned these techniques. RUclips is such a gift!
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i’m so grateful for this comment section. key words: self acceptance and reassurance. thank you all for sharing your stories, it helps me truly.
Are you suffering in anxiety like me
Anxiety still annoys me and overwhelmes me a couple times a week. But I feel way better day by day from eating healthy and working out 5 days a week! Disciplining myself has helped greatly! It makes you feel like you’re in control!
Thanks for sharing! Makes my current experiences (overwhelm etc) feel less lonely
Avoidance feeds anxiety, so very interesting and true.
OH yes! very much so!
Anxiety creates avoidance too lol, it’s a paradox until you have a good mindset and take courage
@@icarus7552 Oh yes. Like depression and isolation and loneliness, which then leads to more depression, etc... it's a spiral going downward unless you can pull yourself out.
S W Like a rabbit hole lol, yeah it’s really awful
So true. Like feeding a monster. The more I pay attention to it, the more real it feels in my brain.
Matthew 6:34 “Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.”
I need you to help me about my worry.
For example: I always get afraid of loosing money in stock market and get anxious I will loose all my money. I always feel once I recovered my money I will be cool. Until I recover I live in anxious period. How can you advise
Past and future are merely a construction made up by humans.
The only thing that really exists is this very moment and one should always try to experience it fully and conciously feel it.
@@factviews8474 stop worshipping money
@@factviews8474 - Is it really necessary to play the stock market? Your life is worth so much more than the things of this world.
I think relationships are a major component to anxiety and happiness. Especially a relationship with the One. 🙏🏻
God Bless, protect, aid anyone going through anxiety 🙏❤️
Things I found helpful in dealing with anxiety are: acceptance, be grateful for all the little things you have, focusing on breathing, meditation and outdoor activities. The most important of all is to be grateful. While anxiety puts us in a constant state of fear, gratitude gives us peace and joy.
Thank u
This is too annoying,I have had minor ocd when i was more younger but It started around 1.5 years back. I was having fear that if i don't do this something bad will happen to family members or something bad will happen in general.
Then it was number based theme, i mean i had thoughts to do things for a particular number of times and it was so annoying. Then since last few months some other things came like checking windows of room again and again that someone is not looking at me.
And recently due to a fear that someone has tried to do something bad to me a thought again and again comes that something is coming from back some bad energy or something and I have to fight it and change my thought and it exhausts a lot, takes a lot of time and disturbs focus
Can you please help in how to fight this and remove it.
This therapists voice is warm and very comforting. I always feel reassured.
Well done doctor, my personal experience to overcome from anxiety is to follow below steps
1. Deep breathing
2. Don't avoid fear
3. CBT practice
4. Positive affirmation
These steps will developed new nuro patterns.
He man what is cbt?
@@ricoevangelista170 Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Currently doing all these. My psychologist said that I should celebrate my progress no matter how small they are. But there's this fear that I might go back from the start, it's like a fear over a fear...
Fear of abandonment, rejection and embarrassment while also pushing everyone away. It’s lonely out here 😞
Leonard, you are not alone. This used to be my life, now I'm a therapist, thanks to good therapists. There is good help and much hope. Reach out and Hang in there!!
I feel you :(
Isn't this the most backasswards way of being. This is me in a nutshell. I am deathly afraid of being alone. But i don't want to be around anyone when i have high anxiety moments.
I get it
I feel you
What scares me is that I have everything I could ask for in life and my family loves me but I still have anxiety...
callmehina it’s okay forgive yourself and work through your anxiety
Anxiety will be with you until you become calm
I'd get checked out you may need medication
I think that isn't important for anxiety. Just because someones life is "good" and save it doesn't mean that you can't get mental health issues. The brain is too complicated for that logic xD
There might even be things you haven't processed/things your subconscious isn't okay with that you haven't realized yet. It's okay your feelings are valid and you can get through it. The only way out is through so just keep swimming :)
I've been having an extremely stressful and anxious period in my life. I've recently tried cold water therapy sitting for 2 minutes in a freezing cold pool of water in a mountain creek, afterwards I was a different person. I now take cold showers during my sauna sessions, I highly recommend it.
Maybe freezing water calms the mind because the mind is distracted and focusing on the discomfort. Thanks for sharing this!
That’s awesome . Thank you so much for sharing. I’ve studiesd wim hoff . I’m happy for you .
Thanks for sharing
What the.....?
The cold water activates the vagus nerve.
Check it out for yourselves
This saved me from my biggest panic attack I've ever had. God bless.
"Your world shrinks". So true.
Sad but true
I've watched a lot of videos on anxiety. Never came across any that offers practical solutions like this one. Love the way you explain things. Makes a lot of sense. Gives me hope.
Polyvagal Therapy: e.g. Stanley Rosenberg, Deb Dana, Stephen W. Porges, Peter A. Levine
Europe Zacbol …
@Europe Zacbol She has a lot of videos on different grounding exercises. Try and see what works for you. If nothing helps, you could try meds.
If you're interested in practical solutions, you may want to know that certain nutrient deficiencies can cause anxiety! Medications such as birth control can deplete magnesium and vitamin B6, both of which can lead to anxiety. Vitamin D deficiency can also cause anxiety! For vitamin D deficiency, you may want to plan a location in a sunny place, buy a sun lamp, or supplement with 2000 IU/d in the winter! Just make sure to check with your healthcare provider before beginning any supplements!
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Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.
A lot of people have testified about this and I really want to give it a shot. I put so much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels
The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot,I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well
Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.
Dr.spores is the best, he's been my supplier for anything psychedelics.
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I beat my sleep anxiety by saying: "fuck it, if I die of sleep deprivation, so be it." And my sleep actually normalized and I now can sleep decently. Beating anxiety is actually going on a downward spiral all the way in your mind, accepting it and living it.
This works. Many years ago a counselor told me when I’m having a panic attack say “bring it on”. Eventually I just started saying “fuck it I don’t care anymore” and it would make it stop. That that worked for years.
Now I have developed severe OCD after a prolonged traumatic event and I can’t seem to get a grip on the anxiety/panic anymore, but for many years saying “fuck it” really did work.
I was at the store I had anxiety attack and I told my mom I gotta get outta here but then I thought "actually no" and then it stopped lol
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Check this to video this technique of meditation brings back the balance emotionally ,physically, spiritually..As well as You awaken your dormant energy
*snap* nice
I'm going to try this tonight!
I feel like I'm over coming anxiety just by watching this 😂
Lol
You are
That’s how programming starts.
I known.. but the anxiety is real we have at least respect it cause it can happen to any one.
I have it for 2 year ready .. guess what.! Now the anxiety create my apnea so when I have Apena attacked
The Apena sent a electric signal a shock signal to the heart,
Hurting my heart badly 💔.. thk to God 🙏 you not suffer of this.
TKS..
@@thomaslevy9985 hope you will get better soon
Omg, you're fantastic! Thanks so much! ❤ 👌 👍
Notes 📝
0:14 Woah
3 steps to take control of your anxiety:
1:30
1:50 (If you want to change how your brain processes anxiety)
*Three principles of anxiety
#1. 1:56 What is anxiety?
#2. 3:07 Disordered anxiety
#2-a. 4:09 The second variation of disordered anxiety
4:40 What causes anxiety?
The anxiety cycle
5:46 "Every single time that we avoid a threat and survive, our brain thinks, 'Let's do that again'".
#3. 6:20 Avoidance feeds disordered anxiety
7:41
8:57 3 big steps to intervene anxiety:
#3-1. 9:32 step1: Make an exposure hierarchy
#3-2. 10:02 step2: Change your rules
#3-3. 11:17-12:30 step3: Face your fears
Anxiety happens when you are trying to control the future instead of living for today. Another challenge is that there is no need to "be and do things perfect". Our imperfections is what makes us unique, we were born to stand out
I really hope everyone overcomes their anxiety! Whoever has it you can do it. I am working on mine and its been so hard. I’ve been anxious just for being anxious this past year. Especially with the pandemic it made it even worse because I was able to avoid going out and stuff. My brain has drove me crazy with it and I wouldnt ever wish this on my worst enemy. It really can be the worse thing ever and some days are the worst and can make you feel like you dont want to live at all. But i’ve been trying to be in control again and I know gradually I will make progress. I wish everyone below the comments who has anxiety, that one day you guys will overcome it. We can do it :)
i relate to this comment so much.....i have gotten so much intrusive thoughts bc I’m always home and my mind wanders when I’m not doing anything...
How you doing
Are u better?
@@tonjo575 well I’ve been to therapy and been working out and meditating. I’m making progress but some days are harder than others. I’m beginning to not fight with my inner thoughts as much and just learning how to breathe better too. Its a mental battle everyday but slowly i will get there :)
@@Nocheiii good job
You got this :)
As a person suffering from anxiety disorder and panic attack, a few days ago when I was giving a lecture to participants, i got a.panic attack and started sweating..naturally this is very embarrassing and awkward feeling..However I persisted and still continued and completed that lecture...while the lecture did not go well as per expectation, however I was happy that despite my panic attack(extreme sweating) and the embarrassing situation, I continued to persist by giving the lecture...
The most practical and simplest video I ever came across on anxiety. I can understand where my problem was, I avoided anxiety and performed grounding activities, now I know what my exercise should be. Facing my fears a little by little.
facing you fear and finding out the root cause will help you find relief
Overcome kr lyee??
I have been doing personal development for 6yrs now and I'm a certified Master Practitioner of NLP, Hypnosis and TLT and I must admit; it is one of the simple and effective video on anxiety I have come across in a very very long time! Bless your soul!! 💐👏
I was looking up the amygdala, and fell into this one. THERE ARE NO ACCIDENTS. This person is GREAT and giving over info, in understandable terms (with meaning). A true sign she understands the material thoroughly.
Noooo, you need ramen n sushi
The brain is such an amazing organ. It's so cool how much it's able to change and grow. I love that we have the power to dictate how these changes can happen with a little effort.
Step 1 exposure to what you fear step 2 willingness to be uncomfortable. Start small. Step 3 imagine the situation being ok.
Kayli G I use to assume situations would go terrible. The. One day I asked myself “what if it goes extremely well” I didn’t know so I had to go and try but the idea of it possibly going amazingly was motivating
I practiced all three steps when I was trying to get better. One year later, I only came out even more crippled, with PTSD.
@@mina0rahman have you heard if Dianetics? I know it's associated with Scientology and a lot of people she away from that, but Dianetics itself is essentially what she described here, but in more detail. I go to therapy and my therapist practically echoed what is said in this video and videos I've seen on Dianetics.
@@mina0rahman I hope you find a good counselor or something that helps and can feel better soon. Learning to meditate helped me a lot. And Jordan Peterson videos.
@@alegriart Yes, those who seriously injured me then lied & denied & covered-up after (doctors & their legal teams) traumatised me repeatedly & knowingly: torture & malice, I could've died but they didn't care, they only cared about themselves.
As a young adult going through a bout of crippling anxiety, these videos are increasingly helpful. Thank you so much
Emma’s videos are pretty awesome. Gives me more answers to the WHY’s. Glad google pointed me towards her videos.
This video and comment section is so wonderful! Look at humans trying to help one another. My heart feels such joy.
This video is the only video that seemed to actually help me! I get very anxious answering questions in class and reading to the whole class (books), my heart starts beating really fast, my palms get sweaty and my voice gets really shakey. I used to avoid talking in class at all means, but now Im going to face my fears and gradually improve my anxiety step by step by talking in class until I feel less anxious doing it. Thank you so so much, you have no idea how much this video aided me
Thank you, this video made me realize that I tend to blame my anxiety on the fact that I am introverted, highly sensetive and an empath and that way let my anxiety worsen. I just sent a message to my therapist explaining exactly that. And its a huge step for me because I always send short messages with no context. You might have actually sent me in the direction of recovery. Wish me luck!
I started learning piano at 27. Now 37, I can tell you it made me realize how much I wasn’t able to focus. (On learning anything)
Thank you so much for this! I’ve been hiding from my anxiety and stress for too long and I’m now physically exhausted
"If it were easy you would have already done it." Thank you for acknowledging that.
Sometimes the programming starts in the family of origin. And one knows that nothing else exists. And sometimes it's generated in adulthood, for ex, toxic work environments. You can't avoid it, and most are resistant to change. These settings generate anxiety.
that is so true.. it occurs from past experiences and becomes anxiety because you think it may happen again. Working with your how it all happened and resolve it will bring forth relief and decrease ypur anxiety
"When you experience something, and you don't die, your brain tells you it's safe"
I genuinely laughed, because it's so simple, yet so true. I've denied myself a lot by falling into the cycle. However, by comparing something like comically exploding to the actual worst case of her saying no, it makes the concern feel trivial. Now I begin to feel like things like that aren't a real risk anymore.
When I feel anxious about anything going wrong I repeat to myself “You are lying to me” to any bad thought.💕most of the time it helps, along with providing solutions to these negative thoughts.
Anxiety is the tide and my life is a walk along the beach. It sometimes laps around my ankles, once in a while it feels as if I'm wading through it, but it helps to know it will go out again at some point. The trick is to learn how to side step that first wave, whether it's talking to someone or learning to help yourself by watching video's like this. Thinking this way helps me to separate anxiety from the core 'me', if that makes sense, and I can therefore 'own' it rather than let it engulf me. Find what works for you.
A great video. Be careful what you feed your mind. To feel better reduce negative thoughts and overthinking. Avoid comparing with others, daily morning sunlight walks, reduce negative social media and avoid constipation as it affects the mind instantly. Your breathing is closely related to the brain [mind] and gives relief from stress-anxiety. To relax sit on a chair or lie down, neck straight, eyes closed and observe the sensations of your incoming--outgoing breath at the entrance of the nostrils for 5-10-15 minutes or more. Never meditate with expectations but with awareness. Don’t fight your thoughts. With daily practice the mind will relax. No deep breathing needed. Observe your breath sensations before sleep, in college, at work, taking a walk, when reading, etc.etc. Like me, make this a lifetime daily habit to have a better life. Best wishes--Counsellor.
Thank you for that. :)
Her asking me to sit with it until my anxiety decreases, just listening to it almost had me crying. 😢
For anyone feeling down or as if the world has turned its back on you, please know that I might not know you or what you are going through, but I love you nonetheless. You are an amazing person and have the greatest gift the universe could provide, LIFE. I know, it is hard and sometimes it might seem easier to leave this place, but there is happiness out there if you look hard enough. It could take the shape of a man/woman, a endless grassy meadow filled with wild flowers, a Arizona sunset or a comfy couch with your favorite ice-cream and movie playing. There is something for everyone and yes, that includes YOU!
Everyone deserves happiness, regardless if you think you are worthy of it or not. I love you, you are loved, spread the love and live a life of love ;)
Love this comment I deal with crippling anxiety and depression and sometimes I just want to end my life because I feel like I am so broken and unfixable. I have a lot of trauma from various sources growing up and because of that I deal with these mental disorders. I often get hyper fixated on a situation or stressor that it is all I can think about. For example I hated presentations in school and anytime a teacher mentioned that word my heart rate would increase dramatically. I would dread presenting every day until it happened and it was very frustrating. I have never liked speaking in front of large groups and in being in large crowds in general. I get over stimulated and usually would try to escape those situations or avoid them at all costs. I pretended to be sick on the day of the presentation so I could get out of it but that only delayed the inevitable. Right now I find most of my stress/anxiety is from financial struggles. It gets so bad sometimes that I give myself migraines and stop eating much at all. It also makes it very difficult for my family/loved ones because my moods can swing from 0 to 100 in a split second. It often leaves me feeling like a burden too those around me which leads to the depression. I just want it to go away.
This. Is literally. Therapy in a nutshell.. my god how did I not find you before... This is exactly what I'm working on with my clinical psychologist. It works guys, it takes a lot of work and time but it works. Thank you for the video.
Excellent presentation! When a young girl and woman (long ago), due some reasons, I had anxiety and real panic attacks in group situations. My face flushed really red, I lost my train of thought, I was gone. I was afraid of dogs, too, I had been bitten. In all of these cases I approached very logically. I never run away. 1) What´s the worst that can happen? (Eg I reasoned, the dog bites me, I will go and get help, that´s all.) 2) I decided I don´t care what other people think. - Even as a mature woman now, I am amazed at my brain´s own inner capacity to help me deduct and solve my problems (which were really serious). And heal them. Today, I have no such fears. My own brain healed them.
That is wonderful! I too believe my mind healed itself after much hard work.
I wish they taught this in school. After feeling depressed and anxious for years, I didn't have much hope that I'd ever feel better. Now I feel more in control, and motivated to put this advice to use! I'm so thankful for this video ❤
you got this. you can do it!
How are you feeling now?
Mental heath should be a subject in schools. At all levels to varying degrees. Maybe if children were given the knowledge upfront they could avoid some of the damaging behaviors that lead to anxiety later in life. Knowing what resources are available is paramount in schools too.
@@deannailiano4132 you right
People like you are so much needed in life of people suffering with mental health problems
Best description about anxiaty I've ever heard. I'd get so much anxiety about driving that I didn't get my license till I was 30 years old and I still struggle when there's a lot of traffic. Anxiety sucks 😏
Barbie latina same I cannot drive
My 22 year old son had so much anxiety when driving he quit 4 years ago.
Liz R at least he tried but I cannot drive for more than 10 minutes 😩😩😩
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I have “general” anxiety disorder... SO many thing make me moderately anxious all the time, and other things that create severe anxiety. Most my anxiety is somatic now. But, doing this to one by one address things/places/situations/emotions that make me anxious would take more time than I have left! 😢
Thank God for neuroplasticity. Applying the tools I learnt from therapy and what I gathered from self-help.
Anxiety is excitement for me this time. Suddenly, my body knows it’s okay. We can reframe our attitude towards anxiety and befriend it. 😃
Awesome video.
I suffer from depression and anxiety. I often thought "why is there no manual by nature on how my mind is working". now i found it. Thank you.
Thank you so much for this. Really one of the best explanations I've ever seen on this. The focus on how avoidance creates more anxiety is wonderful. But the confirmation that neuroplasticity works is the most important to me. I suffered extreme anxiety for years due to child abuse and neglect. After the crash of 2008 I went into a hardcore spiral. Daily CBT helped me overcome the worst of it. I kept doing it for a few years to overcome many fears and traumas - I believe I did 're-wire' my brain to be much less anxious. Working calmly through the corona-virus era proves that I did make substantial changes that are now benefiting me. Thanks for bringing this good news to other people. This really works.
Deeply investigate psylocybin and then safetly take it with assistance of therapist.
30 years of my trauma was gone in 4 hours. Love You all ❤
I'm doing Ketamine now
Do you have to keep taking it?
@user-fn6lo1in4p No. Once can be enough. Watch Roland R Griffiths talk on this platform about his incredible research at Johns Hopkins. He is a Neuropsychopharmacologist who has had uniquely successful results with treatment resistant depressives..Not same thing but naturally there's a considerable overlap with anxiety and panic.
Taking mushrooms is what triggered my chronic anxiety 17 years ago. I was already prone to panic attacks but now I’ve had ongoing 24/7 anxiety with derealization since 2005. 🤷🏼♀️
@@shaeli54 I’m sorry to hear this 😢 have you found anything that has helped ease your anxiety ?
Perfect example of getting over my fear of elevators (I got stuck in one when I was a teenager for three hours) I could hardly even look at an elevator for many years. Eventually, I moved into an apartment with a friend, and he lived on the 8th floor. Everyday I would walk up and down the stairs completely avoiding the elevator. This was so tiring. I took a leap of faith and used the elevator. Nothing happened. I eventually started using the elevator everyday. Now, I don’t even have a second thought when I use one. It’s not scary anymore, and even if I think about getting stuck again, it doesn’t scare me 🤷♂️
i use them but they still scare me and i'm always tense. elevator-vertigo combo :) worse the higher the floor. but there's no way i'm taking stairs to the 10th floor either. my luck is having to go to a high floor is very rare. and those glass elevators.. like hell i'm looking through. One day i'll have to go on a glass floor elevator to a reeeally high building and my soul will escape my body but i'll do it hahah
TenTonKoala same thing happened with me👍🏽
My friend got stuck in the elevator 7 times. I would NEVER take elevator with him, the chance we get stuck is high 😄😄And anyway he is scared of taking elevator till now, and also airplanes.
Honestly this video gave me the first step to heal from my anxiety and fearful thoughts , my anxiety disorder started in October 2019 and since then ,my life turned to a living hell , fearful thoughts of my past and anxiety .... and now i started to accept , imagine and interact with acceptance the fearful thoughts ..... since from the first hour of doing that my anxiety started to decrease .
Accept your thoughts , accept your past , interact with the thought , believe that whatever happened was meant to happen , you done your best , believe that whatever thought your brain is giving you is to protect you , keep repeating the acceptance of whatever that fearful thought is telling you .. no matter what you have PTSD , OCD or whatever , they are all based on one thing ... FEAR ..... and to beat the fear you MUST face it , accept it with love and forgiveness , Imagine that fearful thought with its worst scenario and accept it , you`ll see a huge relief from anxiety , keep doing it till your brain will create new Neuro plasticity ....... that's the golden key .
No more palpitations!! No more heart racing!! Goodluck everyone!!
How?
@@Julia-mq1zp just relax your eyes, like you were about to sleep. It works for me-)
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Walnuts are a great brain food. Just thought I'd throw that out there. Magnesium really helps too. I just learned many people are deficient and it causes anxious feels. Vitamin D levels can be low too. It helped improve my seasonal affective disorder a lot.
Eating a diet as free of chemicals as possible helps, too!
@@outdoorgal9602 so just eat nothing haha? everything is a chemical. literally everything
Jessica Burchell very true. Don’t forget K2 along Vitamin D protocol. It’s changed my life.
Jessica Burchell magnesium is key, nuts are good. Try Deez
@@anthonyramirez2576 I see what you did there haha
This was one of the most amazing vid about anxiety on youtube
Wow! Thanks :) It's always nice when someone takes the time to say something positive :)
@@TherapyinaNutshell I wanted to ask that when "I don't want to study" its becaz laziness sometimes and sometimes anxiety so how to handle that
@@TherapyinaNutshell I have to agree!
IMHO it is not bound to the video format, but the way how you share your information.
I notice how much "honest knowledge" (knowledge you tested out and not just taking it for granted) there is in your way of talking.
This was very intriguing and now I have a bunch of information I can now put under test myself! Thank you for that!
Very true. Cognitive therapy is the only thing that will change chronic anxiety. I have dpdr and got rid of it once but it returned because I haven't stayed on top of my maintenance. This is a great video. When I think about the science of the brain and neuroplasticity, it gives me hope that I'll feel normal again. New subscriber to this wonderful gal.
@@TherapyinaNutshellt
Iam watching it for first time i will do it later.I am a parkinson patient
£100s later on therapy and a free video on RUclips helps me more. Thankyou so much.
Thank you so so much, this is the best advice i found so far on internet about anxiety. I have to do this and i will do this!! I will break free from this prison of fear
You have no idea how much I laughed and felt relief during this video. I have been going through a spiritual awakening for the past 4 months now and have been feeling pressure in my head for at least 2 months. I will definitely be recommending this video to anyone going through a spiritual awakening as well. Because clearly developing anxiety is a possibility and literally watching this video released so much of the pressure I have been feeling😭🙏🏽.
WOW I am 32 years and in the past 32 years I have been pushing Anxiety aside because I thought it was normal and it ruined my life, but haha that fact that coming here and watching the video and started to applying knowledge, My life started to change slowly, so it was not normal at all , you are great thank you for the video and We all going to overcome Anxiety!
That was the most simple and logical explanation about anxiety, even my mind couldn't say anything about what you said, more like "ok, she discovered our Strategie" 😂
Thanks for the explanation!
i have really bad social anxiety and it gets in the way of my every day life. i’m unemployed, have no friends or a relationship because of it and i’m over it. i’m tired of feeling anxious and terrified whenever I leave my house. like i get anxiety from even talking with my own family, i can’t keep living like this so this week i am going to start an exposure hierarchy and see if this helps me!
Hope you are doing well with that good luck
Hey TypicalNora, how are you doing?
@@swirlingfudge hey, i’m feeling pretty much the same as when i posted this comment. my social anxiety is still pretty bad but im still working on it and hopefully getting a bit better slowly. thank you for asking
@@Lalabooey hello. What are u doing to help urself? Are u following a routine of sleep diet dressing well and exercise? Socializing is anyway difficult these days, how are u coping?
@@Lalabooey do you have anything that u r conscious about urself? Any physical feature? Any past trauma(fear of rejection, isolation, abandonment)? Or have u faced it everm
You are amazing! My daughter has severe anxiety about school and grades and this will help me in my working with her to overcome it. Now we BOTH will have a much better understanding and I am sure this will help us move forward. Thanks!
Definitely sharing this with my sister. I love her so much and want to see her be able to live life normally. 💗 I was able to conquer my anxiety and she's a lot like me with strong will power so I know that she can do it too. Just takes time and effort.
How did you conquer please share
Thanks for such a clear explanation of anxiety and how to manage it. Your communication and presentation skills are great. Really appreciated
My anxiety at one point was so bad that I became agoraphobic. I was able to come back to a normal life, so you can change how you think, there is hope. I do have anxiety occasionally, it does affect my life to some degree. . I am so glad I found this channel so I can get another perspective on how to live a positive and happy life.
Heyy! How are you today? I developed extreme agoraphobia and anxiety in October and my life has been turned upside down ever since. I am optimistic most of the time and I am slowly exposing myself to... Well... The outside world. Hope you're doing better!
The point about avoidance is a truly great one, crazy i haven't heard it elaborated on before!
Yep, our society is all mixed up about mental health and anxiety, they essentially encourage avoidance in the name of empathy, but it can be really harmful.
great video on anxiety. It only happens when we are thinking of thoughts, which are leading to that anxiety , but if we slow down , breathe and reflect , we will figure out , none of that thought is true.
My brain right now cause I’m watching how to rewire it .... “🤨”
Lol
A book that changed my life a long time ago: Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway
Author Joyce Meyer
No it was Susan forward
@@lifeann30 Do it Afraid
It's by Susan Jeffers. And it is garbage.
Writing therapy has helped my anxiety a lot. But it was writing about the actual source of my anxiety (scarred family relationships and gaslighting). This helped me confront the issue and retrain my brain on how to handle uncertain situations. Am still on the journey but it’s really helped me open up.
Last year I figured out that if channel my energy into doing something productive for myself, I don’t give anxiety a chance. I did this after every unpleasant and uncomfortable situation that I had to face. But recently realized and this video confirmed that I was avoiding the “problem” and not confronting it. This changed everything for me, I shifted from victim mentality to tackling those crippling thoughts head on.
Sometimes it is really difficult to differentiate between a trigger and anxiety. I've worked through both. We have to put conscious efforts in recognizing and acknowledging them. If we deny then definitely as you said being avoidant increases our anxiety.
To whoever's reading this -
It's fantastic that you've finally found this video and you took away something from it
Now actually do it, whatever scares you. You don't need to watch another one of these videos - you're done. Go on now
I wish I could afford therapy, this is heaven sent. Thank you 😞
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Just started watching these and omg….they are helping me realize the root of my GAD. It’s been eye-opening to learn not only how to calm myself, but how/why I got here in the first place. Thank u so much for sharing ur wisdom and expertise. I’m in therapy and on medz, too, but ur videos have helped me make HUGE progress on my own, and frankly, given me hope. 🙏❤️
My mental health has improved this year, largely because of the work I am doing with my brilliant counsellor and partly because of my own online learning, particularly from videos like this from Emma and other RUclipsrs. Not only has it improved my wellbeing but I plan to train as a counsellor/therapist because I have developed such an interest by watching these kinds of videos.
This was so useful for sensitive people or anyone with anxiety. Your detailed process was so helpful. 🙏
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I cannot believe all the years trying to cure my cptsd, last night after applying this, my life is completely changed😱😱 i did it the whole night continuously with each of my reflex because you have made me understood about the anxiety cycle😱😱😱 who would've thought?!?! You are really a godsend!!! I was able to sleep and woke up with reflexes still, but i kept comforting myself saying it's okay that i have a headache/panic attack ( because these are the things that amp up my anxiety, and i used to keep trying to fix these symptoms not realising it was amping up the anxiety cycle ) - that's why they say when you understand something only then it can be cured!! Wow... This is better than those quantum healing because i didn't have understanding of those, but you have helped me understand logically about the anxiety cycle... I couldn't stress enough because that horrible theme of flashbacks is now gone lol because as i understood what is going on with me (my brain - my own neurology), i realised those flashbacks are just images that came up with the anxiety - but since i know how to cure that anxiety now, those flashbacks have little to no power except for when it first arose, and everytime i am relieved from it, it's rewarding and is like an accomplishment!! And i finally for once am having control over my emotions aka my life!! I am someone who never wants to burden anyone so i just bottled up my feelings and walked out as a happily depressed person (hence the flashbacks and anxiety that kept accumulating in the brain), but just by applying it last night (i was crying again the whole night having a splitting headache), i just understood!! I love your approach to the problem that is realistic and practice so i don't need to be "spiritual" to get it or seek a guru to help me "uplift" without knowing how to do it on my part... Thank you so much!!!!!!!!!!! It really was like common sense until i started actively applying to each and every of my thought feeling emotion and reflex, and today i am starting to live and really start achieving my goals... In such a short time!! I need no affirmation videos, i just needed to comfort what's preventing me to live bravely (yes i can't even approach my goals before because i was always anxious and guilt ridden due to my upbringing, i never felt i deserved to be better and lived better as i was the family scapegoat/caretaker). But this has changed everything. I apply this continuously and i no longer need to engage in endlessly fixing myself to feel better. I just comfort myself when i feel anxious or other negative emotions, and then i could keep studying, developing myself into a responsible adult, achieve my goals and approach my once distant dreams :) (still far from it but i know i can because i know what my bondage is now :))
Thank you :)) i am so glad i bumped into this video :)) thank god!!!!!!!!!!!
What do u tell urself now when u get a symptom?
@@saradevikam.508 when i have a flashback (memory or thoughts), i say to myself "it's okay" until "it's okay" becomes what i think about
Remember to breathe when you say "it's okay", because it calms the body too.
You can see this as befriending your thoughts, when they show up regardless of what it is, you can just accept them appearing and tell them it's okay :)
you don't need to get into them nor entertain nor wrestle with them, just say "it's okay" until "it's okay" is all you think about ^^
When i have an emotional flashback (bodily emotionally overwhelmed, or physical symptoms like panic attack/fatigue/migraine) ,
i say to myself "I'm okay", or "it's okay I'm having a hard time, but so far i have survived 100% of such hard times, most of them were worse, so this is a piece of cake. It's okay :)"
just anything factual and real that calms yourself and centers upon you being okay will be great to say~
Like if you once experienced being physically abused, and now you have a symptom, tell yourself you made it through the real deal, this remembrance/symptom in comparison is nothing but a piece of cake :)
This technique is very important to me because my thoughts and feelings are stem from facts that i experienced in my reality for the longest time, and i need action from me to create a different life for me and my loved ones, so i need to stay bright and productive.
When i was suffering a lot, couldn't even get out of bed, it was daunting, even self-care bodily didn't help me much because my brain was crippled.
But now it's different because i am applying this to what cripples me most, and addressing what comes out from my brain with my brain power:)
So, calming yourself is the most important for progressing into health.
Some people use these soothing skills as defense mechanism or to enable denials, please don't fall into the trap. If something is actually wrong, it must be addressed.
This is not about disregarding what's happening out there. This is about being a healthier version of you (a different reality than the messy one you have to deal with out there), so that you can create better and choose different options in life that is about being healthy and happy and productive.
without your wellbeing first, it's impossible to create profound changes. So this is about being strong, clear, and capable of dealing with life issues from a healthy place :)
Sometimes I'm worried people who are in abusive relationship or situation only use this to enable their misery so i have to put it here also.
To be okay and to recover means being healthy enough to create a profound change in yourself/health, instead of to be stronger just to stay as a supply to problems and personal/relational miseries.
I used to do that, i used to make myself "stronger" so i could still keep a relationship. But the truth is, the relationship was what weakened me.
So i changed, and i got stronger just so i could keep my relationship with Me healthy. Meaning i had to say goodbye to people who didn't care about me even though i cared about them a lot.
Practically, when i had to say no to an abusive relationship, to be healthy with me means i needed those healthy conditions to grant myself real safety first.
So, my relationship with me is that i have to be healthy enough in my life that i can back myself up if someone threatens me using my factual weaknesses (financially physically mentally emotionally socially).
My job is to strengthen those weaknesses so that i wouldn't be exploited by them anymore, nor be needy of any of it from someone else.
This "it's okay" has solved the cognitive dissonance, gaslighting effects and other things being psychologically manipulated by others.
So this soothing is the first step, the next step is to use the health and sanity you've gained to build a healthy relationship with yourself, with your unique life, to work on your goals, fitness, your "escape" from these bad situations. These all take energy and hard work!
What i have found is, whatever i say to soothe me, must be regarding what i am experiencing, instead of externalising it to something outside my control.
Let's say if you had a thought about a situation, maybe that situation isn't okay, maybe it's about someone else being abusive. All you need in this case, is to say to yourself that it's okay for you to think about such traumatic incident, it means you care and you don't want to create nor experience such things in your life. tell yourself that you're now okay, you can make changes, you're physically safe. You've made it through and you'll make it again.
And Then, disengage with this person, even if not possible yet physically (same workplace/living place), you have to disengage with that person emotionally and mentally by using this "it's okay" technique inside your mind.
It'd be hard at first but just be consistent, more consistent than anything else, then it will sink in.
The most important thing about bringing yourself to feel okay is that you actually become okay by fact. And if you or someone you care about actually needs your help to change the situations, you will be able to do so :) never try to change someone else, change yourself and make it an eternal motto.
If the thought of someone being abusive is something that's happening, and your body is feeling sick about it, you being weak in real time can do so little. So, when the thought comes up, it is being your best friend to tell you to create a positive change, so you must make sure you function at your optimum by being in the here and now, and then take positive actions to create wellbeing, or to end a bad situation from continuing.
For instance, my friend told me that he has an addiction issue. I told him what actions he must take to stop it. I told him it's okay, i told him to take the steps to quit. But he kept himself in the addiction. I was frustrated. This time, I told myself it's okay, i tried all my best, and i have to stop interacting with him because he's using me as an enabler (if someone's addicted/has a problem and not taking active actions to change him/herself, all other things/people are nothing but enablers/supply).
I used to make myself get healthy and keep helping him. But then i realised my approach was hopeless. Now i get healthy and then stopped being an enabler, i strive for my goals and my own happy life that is made of responsibility and trust with myself. If he doesn't want to be healthy, then we have to part ways.
With an addict, there is no trust, no responsibility, no accountability. Just a chaos. And I wasn't able to see that until i got myself so sick and then healthier.
You literally become addicted as a helper when you're with an addict. Same thing different form. So get out of there.
So this is my lesson learned. Being healthy enough to create a healthy version of yourself, not so that you can bring anyone in (certainly not the addict), or chase someone else. It's not about any other person. it is to make yourself okay and healthy, and be the example for the addict or other people involved. All of these are personal work to do.
Without this video, i was still in that toxic codependency cycle, because i was always trying harder to meet a wrong end. This is kinda in reverse because this all ends within me. And then i discovered my own tendencies just weren't working for me, and so i ended those patterns in myself also.
It was very hard at first to stay in my own lane, because my brain was so used to those patterns. but i persisted because being the enabler was everything i wanted to get rid of. I don't want to be someone else's backup/something. I want to be my own self.
so i kept going despite my habit of externalising my power.
I hope you find this useful!! It's kind of repetitive but i figured that will help information sink in :) Many people are dealing with abusive situations nowadays so i incorporated that into this message just in case. :)
Love your video it helped me understand my anxiety better. Especially the relief response and be willing until your anxiety starts up. It is true avoidance makes it worse through exposure you can gradually heal. I prayed to Saint Jude to help me with anxiety and so quickly he came to my aid. I started going through exposure therapy. He basically had to rewire my brain and help me learn everyday issues of life that sometimes can't be avoided. I love Saint Jude he is a special and powerful Saint. He takes his miracle works very seriously and he's so loving. Please please please pray to Saint Jude for help with anxiety/agoraphobia!!
I watched this on a whim and thank God I did. My anxiety with school starting back up has been awful. I followed your tips and after one day I feel so much better. I feel productive with my work, and am taking this one day at a time. Finally going to check my email and order my textbooks. Thank you I'm so glad I found you!!
God brought me to you channel. I’ve been praying on the worry and fear that starts to take over when it comes to nursing school (I just recently started) and relationships. I’m able to run from relationships so I didn’t have to deal with that. But I can’t just run from my fears of failing nursing school. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you for sharing valuable information.
Wow let me know how it goes sis, and what are you learning in nursing so far. Remember God hath not given you a spirit of fear but of POWER , love and sound mind :)
Titose thank you. So far it’s going great. I pray two to three times a day everyday. I deactivated my social sites. I practice mindfulness and law of attraction techniques. I’ve just really guarded my energy and my self talk. I also just started my second semester of nursing school on Monday and my experience is much better because of my improved mindset. Thank you.
Same I am premed and I had to stop school this semester from fear of failing classes because I combined physics with micro.... I had no other option 😫😫. The first 3 weeks of school I had 2 very severe panic attacks, my blood pressure went up to 170 and heart rate was 154. My sister had to call 911, and those 2 times I ended up in the emergency room. I spoke to a psychiatrist and he told me to drop my classes because I need therapy.
I pray our Heavenly Father blesses you comforts you and helps you overcome your anxiety in Jesus name x
Same. God is so amazing ❤️🙏❤️❤️❤️
I'm scared to go for walks because I was almost taken while on one. I am traumatized and just starting to walk outside again. this helps.
You can do it!!!
Ive turned from a person with the mind-set "what's the worst thing that could happen? who cares, it won't" to one that worries. this helps me understand
Thank you for sharing! This has really helped me understand a loved one. I don't struggle much with anxiety, so I have struggled to understand someone I love who does have anxiety. Your sharing makes me feel like I comprehend more of why she is anxious and hurting. I feel more compassion for her and maybe I can be of more help. Thank you
Respect to you for seeking knowledge to better understand a topic you don’t personally experience. If a loved one of mine did that for me, I would be so grateful of the support. ✌️
Recently I have had a rebound in my anxiety and this video was a huge help to get me back on track!
Best way I've heard it explained. Anxiety turned agoraphobia the past 2 years
Thank you for this informative presentation.
My anxiety is taking care of my mom. My hands shaking, heart racing! I just can’t face her knowing the past bad experiences will come back!
Thank you. Simply acknowledging anxiety and embrace it not fighting it brings it down. Great teaching🙏
My anxiety has been a thorn in my side for decades... I'm ashamed of myself for not being able to fix it in myself, because my children suffered as a result of it. I guess I am a LATE blumer, spiritually... A big hug for anyone who impathise with this 😃
@1socalshocker hopefully, thankfully the most high God is more forgiving than man, I pray our children of course, but I also pray patition even for us grown up Lost or disenfranchised out here trying not to give up. Please don't.... Someone loves you too.
I laughed haaard when the brain said, “let’s do that again!”
Avoiding has been my default mode for a very long time. Thank you for this very helpful video.
This is so hopeful - neuroplasticity. I am studying to become a SOMA Breath therapist/coach, and currently lead SOMA Breath sessions which has been the thing which has MOST helped my anxiety, most helped my fatigue and most helped me to step into a new reality that is very beautiful:)