21 Steps to Overcome Anxiety
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Thank you for this video.
Thank you for being so transparent. I find that when I open up about my anxiety as well it helps others including myself. Thank you for letting others care about you and caring for others in turn in such a beautiful and simple act.
Your story is very similar to mine, I thought I was having blood sugar issues because I was dizzy and sick and having vision problems but turns out it was anxiety. I have always been an anxious person but these were the first real physical symptoms. Once I realized this after talking to my doctor, it was easy to gain control again. Thank you for sharing - hearing similar stories and sharing helps.
Totally unrelated, you look ALOT like VSAUCE Michael, just slightly different
Thank you
“Every night I would go to bed and hope that everything would go back to normal the next day. It didn’t.” I felt that so much
I feel the same...In the evening I am full of hope but after waking up is so difficult even to get up..
exactly
Same!
Same here
You ain’t the only one I’m slowly losing people
“21 steps to overcome anxiety” *is immediately anxious about the number of steps to overcome anxiety*
Haha same. :[
What if 21 is not enough ? What's 22... ?
@Crazy Russian Diaries shits real bro, be struggling for life.
Came here to say just that.
Legit my first thought 🤣🤣
“I exercised to get my heart rate up, then panicked bc my heart rate went up”... LOL This is the most relatable thing I have heard! It happened to me! Literally thought I was the only one. Thank you!
Lucy Martinez I have been trying to do really good workouts but my heart rate gets too high and then I quit. Lol it sucks so bad sometimes
Happened to me at a concert. Let's say that really sucked.
SAME! LOL!
On the flip side, exercise forces you to breath deeply. In the midst of my worst years of anxiety and panic attacks, during which breathing becomes shallow, I'd often feel better just by walking.
Happen to me every time when I am trying to overcome anxiety by going to The gym 😋
Am I the only one who gets anxiety from mistakes that have been made in the past? Like they won’t leave me alone, they kinda haunt me every single place I go ☹️
elmundoparami Definitely not alone on that, I feel the same way. Just remember the past is the past for a reason!
idk how big of mistakes you are talking about, but i get this over even such little things that have happened and embarrased me even a little bit. like something no one else will even remember or didnt even notice. its horrible. let it be a small or a bigger thing, its weird and i always wonder if anyone else gets the same feeling or if im just very aware of everything and about making mistakes
OKAY SAME.. the regret of past choices constantly wears me down 🥺
If you find you're living in the last a little counselling is amazing to help you live with it, own it and move forward. I hope you feel better soon ❤
That’s not uncommon and fortunately you can work through it with some counseling as mentioned above. Compulsive and recurrent thoughts about things past can be debilitating regardless of how little importance the actual issue is. Free yourself from that and try counseling. Best of luck.
"I exercised to get my heart rate up and then panicked because my heart rate was up" hit me on another level🙌🙌🙌
*_“In an era of stress and anxiety, when the present seems unstable and the future unlikely, the natural response is to retreat and withdraw from reality, taking recourse either in fantasies of the future or in modified visions of a half-imagined past.”
― Alan Moore_*
@@sub.sa.3058 I think not only we put so much pressure on young people, adults also suffer a lot with it and it makes their kids (if they have some) anxious to begin with.
Pressure? What kind of pressure
So. damn. true.
ADS? DID I EXPERIENCE AN AD? Matt, i am diss- HAPPY THAT YOU ARE FINALLY DOING THIS! MAKE THAT MONEY AND DO THE BEST OF VIDEOS!
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I think it's kinda hilarious that I got an ad for Wish, the internet's ultimate unnecessary junk provider, on a minimalist's channel 😂
I got an ad for a movie with the rock in it
Anthony Weir i’m betting it was the new Fast and Furious lol
It was so strange
Love the honesty of this video, Matt. An incredible and powerful message, and beautifully presented, as always. Congrats to you and Nat with the new space; it all looks amazing!
I love both the youtubers
All the videos are super asthetic
I wanna learn how you make your videos
Happy to have you here with matt and us
I've seen some of your videos randomly and enjoyed them all. Also several people I know, who don't even have RUclips accounts, have actually shared some videos from your channel with me. You and Matt have no idea how far your content actually reaches. And it's awesome. Every now and then, a few more people discover the liberating way of life that's minimalism. By clearing ourselves from redundant stuff and affairs, we gain time for what really matters: taking care of our home, body, soul and the people around us through rest, laughter, cooking, reading, conversations and utter relaxation. Thank you for helping us navigate to the right direction.
wtf does he have anxiety about?? not making hundreds of thousands of dollars from his patreon?? lol
Love you, Sadia! Love the positivity that you and Matt are spreading in the youtube space. ❤❤❤
i purposely didn’t skip the ads BECAUSE IM SO HAPPY YOURE FINALLY GIVING YOURSELF CREDIT FOR YOUR HARD WORK
Kathryn Elizabeth don’t copy my comment 😤
Omar dude chill, i didn’t even see it lol. i usually don’t scroll through all the comments. i just found yours and they’re not even that similar
@@KathrynElizabeth_ lol im chill hahaha i'm just messing
Omar ohh sorry i thought u were being fr so i was like oml-💀😂
Kathryn Elizabeth Pro Tip: If you watch the first 5 seconds (I THINK) the content creator still gets paid :p
I’m crying while watching this. My anxiety has become so intense in the past few months. It feels like I’ll feel like this for the rest of my life. I feel like I’ve lost all control over myself & my life & I’m desperate to find ways to find at least a moment of peace. Thank you so much for sharing this video & speaking on something that many struggle with silently.
I’m rooting for you 💗
@kayman6y How are you feelin now?
"I exercised to get my heart rate up and then I panicked because my heart rate went up" hahah TOO REAL. I can't believe how many times ive felt that!
if your dying what would you say to the people you love. when you think your dying as i do 3x a week, it gives me the opportunity to say what i might otherwise not.
Thanks for doing this. I have been told for so long: “You’re such a worry wart.”... “You’re too sensitive.” ... “Just stop thinking about it.” People without chronic anxiety just can’t understand how it feels. To feel frozen in ice. To be a prisoner in your own mind and feel dread over things that will probably never happen.
For me, I had to stop saying it. Anxiety. Panic attacks. I had to stop making jokes about it in an attempt to normalize it. “I have crippling anxiety, haha”... For a long time, that was my only way of dealing with it, but all it did was make me label myself. I felt like I was worthless. I was nothing but a person controlled by what made her anxious. It was all I thought about. I would look back at things I’d done and think, “Wow I could never do that now... with my anxiety.”
It was my scapegoat for everything. “I can’t do it. It makes me anxious.” The more I did it, the harder it became to push myself to do anything at all. I didn’t want to leave the house for fear that someone would so much as look at me. But that is not all that I am. That is not what you will know me for. Even if anxiety was the reason, I had to stop saying it out loud. I had to own it and say, “I’m choosing not to do this thing because I let the fear win.” It wasn’t anxiety keeping me from living. It was my own self for letting it get that out of control. I never tried to fight it... so it continued to creep it’s way into every aspect of my life. I would dread going to bed because of the way my thoughts would haunt me once I closed my eyes. I would lay there and ruminate until there was an hour or two left to sleep.
I know this won’t work for everyone, so I’m not offering this as advice. I, personally, had to give myself some tough love in order to start facing things that terrified me. I remind myself during moments of anxiety or panic, “This is a bad moment. Not a bad day.” I started listening to guided meditation at bedtime. It gave me things to think about and took me away from myself.
To anyone who is struggling. You are strong enough. You are brave enough to take your life back. You can face what worries you and you will feel empowered. It won’t always be a victory, there are still bad days, but every moment you face it head-on makes you even stronger. I’m rooting for you.
So much love for this comment ! Especially your quote "“This is a bad moment. Not a bad day.” 💜
This... this hit me more than you can imagine, thank you for sharing to us such a beautiful and eloquently written message!
Kevin Flores And thank you so much for taking the time to read it. You’ve made my day brighter! I hope you’re doing well.
Bridget such a positive message... thank you for the amazing words
Thank you so much for such warm words.
Not sure why but your video bring me to tears....I just feel everything you say.... ✨ You think you are "sick", but you are NOT... its all in our head.
BlackPommes🌴 well...it’s called mental illness for a reason. It should be treated the same as any physical illness. From what I’ve learned is that one area of health effects the other. For example, If you don’t take care of yourself mentally, you lose some wellness in your physical health and other areas like spiritual health. Take care of ALL the parts of you and DONT label one as more important than the other. Take care of yourself love :)
@@lemonysnickers1777 true. ...that's why if a person is being abused (mentally) you can become physically ill.
That's why it's important to get away from abusive people.
R J exactly! Be safe!!
It brought me to tears too.
Oh cool Joshy dich hier zu finden 🍃 Hätte nicht gedacht, dass du auch ein Matt D'Avella Fan bist 🙃❤
I was diagnosed of breast cancer and undergoing chemo right now this video helped me alot.thank you. Youre a blessing. Much love from Philippines!
I know this is 3 months late but hope you're doing well 💪
Dalia Armada me too, I hope you are fine ❤️
I know we never and will probably never meet but I hope you beat it and are doing well now 💪
Hope you get out of that as a winner. Stay strong all the best ❤❤❤
Stay strong❤️❤️
I realized Matt's videos are like zen moments. The calmness and steady cadence of his narration, the muted tones, the music he chooses to score with, these are gifts by themselves. No wonder this is the only vlog I go back to consistently regardless of the topic.
same, it makes me feel calm and somehow better in the moment
This is going to help a lot of people, including me! When we see a massive creator with tons of success, we automatically assume that their life & mental health is perfect (or at least much better than ours).
You being so open about your anxiety paints a very realistic picture: mental health has very little to do with materialistic success. Therefore, we should not strive for success at the risk of our health, because so many of us gain one and lose the other.
Thanks for the tips, and best of luck moving forward with less self-judgment & more acceptance!
His openness and frankness are one of a kind. It really makes him and his insights very relatable to my life. Such a great creator
Sean Edwards I second this!!! It needs to be a normal thing to talk about
I’m with you, Sean!! Very happy other people feel the same way.
So true Sean
*ANXIETY*
Most often, fear of things that haven't occurred yet, fear of the future.
Compulsive thinking feeds the anxiety and the healthiest and long term way to deal with it is to cultivate mindful living.
Meditation is a great tool but the lifestyle has to be radically changed.
I totally agree. Meditation is not enough if the way of life is messed up.
just saw your video on it yesterday
@@AmjadAbboud Awesome. Hit me up if you have any questions.
And I totally disagree. Self awareness is all you need. Changing lifestyle is just changing skin, but the inflammation is still inside. Unfortunately self awareness is one of the most difficult things to achieve. That's why so many people, even succesfull, feel so bad inside in this world.
how can the lifestyle be radically changed to overcome anxiety?
Dance keeps me sane; I break out into while waiting for the bus because it feels like something I'm in control of. Dance like a fool, my dude.
Thanks for this
That's all I needed to do to overcome my anxiety.
matt d'avella: 21 Steps to Overcome Anxiety
me:
my anxiety: that's a lot of steps
I hate anxiety 😢
Phil Swift: That's a lot of damage
As a person with OCD I can definitely say that accepting the thoughts is a basic step to living with anxiety.. But also therapy!
That reaction of natalie of your dance moves is just the most healthy relationship expressions I’ve ever seen.
She didnt mess with you; she knew that was your moment for you and she left without bothering. Great 💕✨
These things help me with severe anxiety and panic attacks:
1) Yoga poses
2) Mindfulness after yoga poses
3) Reading spiritual books
4) body massage with oil
5) Avoiding alcohol, tea, and coffee.
6) Staying most of the time with friends and family than being alone.
7) watching funny videos on RUclips
8) Traveling even when local is great for mental health
9) Going into nature just makes me feel great
10) Playing with your dog and hugging etc helps too
11) Writing down about thoughts which cause anxiety helps
12) Google about "Cognitive behavioral therapy". This is very helpful
Rahul Bangar what if you don't have friends and its summer=playing ps4 6 hours a day
@@jespermaenpaa6772 join some sort of group or class near you it can be a gym yoga class dance class meditation class or anything else
I sure would love to muster the strength to travel alone. I've done it in the past, but it's been 2 weeks since I've been struggling with anxiety again and I feel so vulnerable. I'm afraid of flying and have had pretty bad episodes in the past and I just can't fathom traveling in this state.
Tea actually makes me feel more calm(warm tea btw) Also, wearing oversized clothing
@@allthrees3 body and head massage will help too
"I ran to get my heart rate up but panicked when it was up" - i felt that
It's 5am in the UK and I've been struggling to sleep because anxiety has got me all wound up and agitated. My heart feels tight and I know that it's fine but like the good lady in the video said, it's a pane of glass. I can see what I know to be true but I'm struggling to get there.
Your video has just helped me get there Matt. Thank you.
You've helped me to accept all the things I'm anxious for and also being grateful that I know what areas I am lacking in. To know that I can build new habits that will make me better in those areas.
And as a friend told me earlier today, stay positive. It will all work out. Take the steps towards your goal and you will get there eventually.
I pray everybody else struggling with anxiety and depression and stress finds their peace.
Wish you the same. I'm also in the UK.
What helped me with my anxiety was, just going outside and doing something that took me out of my house. Literally, sitting at Starbucks with the jazz playing helped me mentally calm down and just have a much better mental state.
Also, I would suggest that you write down somethings that trigger your anxiety. This is what helped me out as well!
Physical Activity: Swimming legit helped me deal with this and, a nice run on the treadmill.
Social Outlets: Sure, you can drink at home and have a great time. But, a nice vibe and a room full of awesome people may help also.
I really wish you the best with this! So many people deal with this and, they're too shame-filled to share how they truly feel with family and friends.
I'm not expert, but I find that my anxiety gets worse when I'm scared of getting anxious. If that makes sense....?
of course it makes sense, fear feeds anxiety.
It's called fear of fear. Try not to run away from the way you're feeling but accept it instead.
I work a sales job and love it immensely but I sometimes have severe panic attacks and most of my anxiety is specifically that I'm going to have another anxiety episode. You're not alone.
You may have heard this again and again but it is true. You Have to ACCEPT that anxiety is a part of you and that it's okay. Once you welcome it and make friends with it, the less you will be bothered by it and eventually and it wont bother you anymore. This is coming from a person who went through 3 years of bad anxiety and today I'm proud to say I have overcame it since then 2 years ago and it has become a friend, a part of me. I do still feel it (as i write this) but I have already accepted it so it does not bother me at all. Hope this helped :)
@@Yoruzako Not trying to be rude but, it seems like you're saying instead of trying to overcome the problem and fix it to accept it and become numb to it?
*there's nothing wrong with dancing! it releases dopamine making you happier. i have a tattoo that says don't stop dancing, girl in order to remind me to always be dancing*
Dancing is my number way of releasing a lot of stress and emotional baggage
"don't stop dancing, girl" ruclips.net/video/raUpjfiWRps/видео.html
Headspace helped me tremendously in overcoming my anxiety that blow out suddenly and lasted for a whole freaking year
Did You heal?
“Letting go” that’s something anxious people struggle to do but that’s one of things headspace teaches and that has been soooooo helpful to me. I’m so sorry for your struggle but you are certainly not alone. Anxiety sucks!!!!
2:51 the sentence 'to feel normal again' is what i have want to achieve for a long time. i was actually productive, confident, not lazy, always wanting to finish my work. One day I dont know why i all of the sudden spent more time on my phone and i eventually forgot to do my homework. The big feeling of guilt for not doing homework, spending too much time on my phone made me worried alot. I was getting the fear of not gonna be succesful soccer player, when i was feeling myself, feeling normal, i have strong belief every single day that i will make it as a soccer player, and then the world just seems like upside down for me. I started to sleep late, train less, more time on my phone and i kept feeling guilty on everytime i spent on my phone and being lazy. I hope this video will eventually help me get back on track of who i was.
how are you now bro, I'm going thru the same things rn.....and i wnna know ur side
You are such a humble person full of wisdom and honesty. A lot of youtubers are so full of themselves and narcissistic. I can actually say you are a great role model for all and I'm really glad to have come across your channel. Keep it up bro.
mehdi n such a hard thing to talk about. I’ve always had anxiety but my fiancé thought he was nuts cause he didn’t think guys had anxiety. So amazing of him to open up about this
@@JessicaBurgo I totally agree. It's hard to open up about especially when there is a fear that you could be labelled as someone 'crazy' or a 'lunatic'. I particularly enjoy his other advice as well like being a minimalist /reducing the temptations of being materialistic, being humble, avoiding distractions like social media etc.
mehdi n Agree and at some point you will need to accept that what others think of and/or the labels they’ve come up for you, is out of your control and you will not feed into by trying to change anyone’s mind. You do you and forget about everyone else. Hopefully you will get to a place when if you find out someone thinks your nuts you’ll simply smile and reply “yes, and...?” Acceptance is the key word and Matt hit it out of the park when he uses that word in this video. Best of luck.
Alice Moral Denis wonderful advice! :)
mehdi n There’s a popular saying that fits the topic.... “what others say about you is none of your business”. The more you adopt that philosophy, the happier you will be. Best of luck!
I can definitely skip buying a latte and just make my coffee at home today.
Donated. Thanks for the content and sending this my way, Matt. Best wishes.
thank you :)
I gotta be honest man. My life is kind of a mess. I shook it up hard trying not be comfortable doing the normal, but I'm utterly terrified, most of failing. Looking at you, one of the people that I look up to, whom I thought was doing great, but having struggles of your own, truly let's me (and others) know that we all have our own struggles. I just wanted to say thank you for having the courage to tell this story. I'm tearing up right now, but even though you don't know me, this message meant a lot at the time that I know I needed it most. Thanks Matt, you are a true hero in the world, and I wish we had more like you.
I recently got hit by bad anxiety upon retiring from my IT job. Still working through it much like you did...in therapy, exercising, meditating, eating well, etc...
Omg that Hypochondriac reaction is so relatable.... It's just so easy to blame it on health. We're all perfectionists and we think our lives are either completely awesome or completely suck with no in-between, and we forget that there are transitioning phases and mild lows in which, as you pointed out, it's healthy to let go, stop chasing control in everything. Be disciplined in pursuit your of goals, but let the chips fall where they may on the less important things (which are kinda hard to identify when you're a perfectionist).
P.S. 4:10 that thing about you feeling good when laying on the ground, that has scientific background, because your shoulders are narrowed all the time while sitting, as well as your hips being behind your back, and even in bed your hips are curved down because of weight, and both of these are anterior pelvic tilt positions (apt). Both narrow shoulders and apt are considered of feminine anatomy, and something funny about your body is that very often it emulates in your hormones physiologically what you are doing physically. That's why when you lay on the ground, your shoulders fall wide naturally, your hips get in front of your spine (posterior pelvic tilt), and you're overall relaxed you get a surge of testosterone, and testosterone has amazing benefits for your body and mind. Even if he doesn't realise it, that's why Jordan Peterson's 1st rule for life: "Walk with proper posture" is so so so important and good.
Predrag Grujic I’m such a hypochondriac... legit my #1 reason for anxiety
Laying on the ground gets your grounded and centered. But you just blew my mind with those facts
I also did the lying on the ground thing. It's incredibly reassuring to feel the slightly cold wood, carpet or stone.
I agree and I don't know the science behind it. But it works.
I'm give it a shot
He dances in the morning. Just knowing he dances every morning made me feel sooo much better lol
A point you raised... embracing the fear. It’s necessary. Acknowledge that you’re anxious and accept it. For real bro.
Man this video hit me. Especially the part about the apartment. I moved out of my family’s house at the (oldish) age of 25 to my own place. Also, I was a first year teacher. I had so much frustration, fear, panic and anxiety over all the change. I began to resent my apartment. Unable to sleep throughout the night, hated the way it looked, spent hundreds of dollars on “decorating” things, constantly had company over to avoid being alone, going back for sleepovers at my parents house, staying in my bedroom with the door unlocked all day, eating unhealthy (to the point that I gained 20 pounds and the oh so pleasant acid reflux). I was in a downward spiral. I cheated on my loving boyfriend crushing his heart and mine(he forgave me), I finally told my family about being raped by a coworker while I was still getting my degree, I told my mom about the abuse I endured with my stepfather, and teaching was so hard and parents were so mean that I ended up being sick and in the hospital for spring break. I just watched two of your videos and have instantly subscribed. You’re content is unmatched on RUclips. Thank you for all the stories you tell. Life is hard, but on the other side is always a light.
Yes! I am also someone who dances to forget about my worries. Dancing is when I'm more creative😂 Whether you overcome your anxiety or not, I know you will turn this challenging experience into something that will make you a better individual in the long run!
The mindset that you created through overcome anxiety, makes your art, work, life in general better, because the process teaches you so much. I feel this way.
I love your honesty. Honesty is strength. Honesty is truly helpful for making the world a better place.
First of all, sorry for my english, I'm italian mothertongue and I speak and write english very rarely. I understand every single symptoms that you talked about in this video. I had a very hard time in 2012, a lot of pression at college, no friends, no money. I clearly remember the first panic attack as a huge amount of fear. Every single muscle of my body was contracted, I cannot breathe, my heart was pumping very fast. A nightmare. I've made a judgment to myself. I wanted to heal from this. But I can't beacause anxiety is a useful state of mind. It helps you at work, in sport, in love. We are just a little bit more sensible about anxiety. And in certain period, when you are stressed and in your mind there are a lot of things you're thinking about; anxiety gain power. Now I can identify anxiety and symptoms. I haven't no more panic attack (since 2/3 years ago). I learned how to control my anxiety. Sometimes it's hard but not impossible. Mindfullness, working out, talking with someone about what is going on; these are the keys for the success. But the most important, for myself, is focusing about your passions and interesting, and share this with someone who you love ( I found a friend that helps me a lot). Thank you very much for your video. You have the power to understand your anxiety and I'm sure that the worse period it's over. And one day, not so far from now, you're remembering this hard time saying "I've done it !".
I still do suffer from anxiety but it was FAR worse. There would be days where I couldn't bring myself to the idea of going to college. There was nothing to fear, but it literally destroyed me mentally. Little things like going for interviews, meeting new people and trying new things were a challenge for me. I don't know why I suddenly got it but it was awful. My friends thought I was being anti social where it was a completely different story. I couldn't bring myself to talk to them about it. When I did however to some specific friends and family it was like a massive burden off my shoulders. I began to read loads in topics I have a particular interest in such as Science, genetic, astrophysics/Quantum mechanics and technology in general. Reading helped, takes you away from the hell that's goes on in your brain. I also adopted new breathing patterns when I sensed that I was going to have another episode, breathe in for 4 seconds, breathe out after 5 seconds. This is the new way in which I keep my sanity whilst hell breaks loose in my mind. There would literally be days where I would literally throw up, it was awful. All left in the past though 🙂🙂
Been there myself. Glad to see you on the other side.
Matt you’re the man. I know myself as well as countless other people needed this video and we can’t thank you enough for having the vulnerability and honesty to make these videos. Stay strong and keep looking up 🙌
I just want to say that I love your videos! You just need to watch them to learn new techniques and to hear some good tips. Thanks dude!
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Matt dancing and then seeing him talk seriously eye to eye got me crying
I cried at the part about laying on the floor because it resonated so much with me. It’s my first day back at work since a month off to “recover” from anxiety and I needed this video. Thank you
I have been dealing with anxiety for years, but recently it has decreased. I got the job I was looking for a long time, I finished college and I feel that everything is going as it should. There is still a way to go.
Juan Curmina What did you study in college?
@@Miquelalalaa I'm a lawyer my friend
Juan Curmina Did you study law or did you take the admission tests after college?
@@Miquelalalaa well I live in Mexico so I studied college here. Sorry, but I'm not familiar with the american educational system.
Juan Curmina Sorry perhaps I phrased my sentence confusingly. Which undergraduate course did you take? Do you have a degree in law, or another subject?
Matt, I've been really struggling lately, and life's been beating down on me with almost constant anxiety. I know I can overcome it, and so can everyone else facing it. I'm so glad that you posted this video, as I'm sure it will help a lot of us. Much love 😁
Man I have suffered with anxiety, the things you’re doing I never even thought about trying. Me knowing that God is with you helped me a lot. I prayed, and prayed, and prayed. And then It got to the point my pastors wife gave me a journal with what seems like hundreds of bible verses on the topic or anxiety and fear. And ever since I have worked through it and I don’t think about it.
step 1 identify when you judge yourself
step 2 acknowledge it
step 3 next time you're in the middle of judging yourself, say "naaah" (even if you dont mean it)
step 4 repeat.
it took me 5-7 months to see a noticeable change to my self esteem.
But stay self aware
Thanks
Thanks
There are so many videos where everyone pretends to be smart, where everyone knows that through 5, 7 or 21 steps you can overcome anxiety or fear... But in their way of speaking, presenting themselves or their video, you see that everything is somehow fake or overly made up and simple , and it's not like that. In this video, I saw an honest being and a pure soul, this video helps more than any educational work and presentation on this topic. Thank you, friend, from the bottom of my heart
Woke up this morning at 5am in full panic mode. I immediately jumped out of bed, recognized what was going on, took my medication for anxiety and started to do things to distract myself. I started scrolling RUclips and this video popped up. Never looked you up, hadn’t seen any of your vlogs. Your tips and advice are greatly appreciated. Learned a few things I’ll start tying. It’s difficult trying to explain anxiety to people that don’t suffer from it, but you get it. Thank you
It’s been almost 3 years from now. Serve Insomnia, depression , OCD , GAD you name it I had it. But Alhamdulillah I am almost out there but most imports I believe that THERE IS LIGHT ON THE OTHER SODE OF THE TUNNEL even though it seems dark a lot of times
I'm russian and your chanel helps me to learn english. Thank you so much. Your speach is rather good and understandable!
Man, this is so relatable. Every time my anxiety levels spike, just simply watching this video gives me HOPE that things will get better. Love you Matt!
Matt, during a bout of anxiety it really helps to quit coffee for a few weeks, trust me you must try it (it's different when you aren't anxious)
I was diagnosed with GAD 3.5 months ago and honestly I feel Im almost back to normal
Dont worry people, it does get better! As for now, let it pass. Dont fight it ! Learn from it and get motivated. Also avoid stressful situations and dont google any symptoms you feel you have(I would have been healed a month ago If it wasn't for Dr Google.)
Just remember, you will get stronger when "spring" returns :)
May i know how are you doing now?
This sounds like me. I always feel less stressed in the spring.
Thank you for using your platform and your voice to talk about this openly.
This is something I deal with on a personal level.
It’s time to peel off the stigma and it’s starts by talking about it openly.
Hey Matt! Do try avoiding caffeine and then notice any differences in anxiety levels. For a person like me, caffeine triggers anxiety! Take care :)
I was wondering about this and hoped that might come up in this video. I started a new job about a year ago now and have slowly started drinking more and more coffee (espresso really) to be able to come to work and function. I started experiencing a lot of the symptoms of depersonalization/derealization and decided to give up my coffee to see if that helps. I have been a lot less anxious lately but I'm only a week into the experiment so we'll see how it goes.
thebetatester800 this is a bit more extreme but that happened to me with smoking weed. I felt hella disconnected with people in general like everything I did was fabricated and remote. Then I dropped the habit for a month or so. I started drinking only water. And then I noticed a huge change in how I felt but my only problem left was my anxiety. But after the experience I could finally name what was bothering and it was anxiety. So I’m tryna work through that, and I feel like it gets easier the more you rationalize and accept your feelings.
I'm struggling to figure out my specific triggers -- how did you figure out yours was caffeine?
I couldn't help he didn't like this post.
Kylie Rose maybe just look at what your habits are (e. g. In this case the person drank a lot of coffee) and try to cut back on each one (not at the same time) and see what helps or what maybe makes the anxiety even worse
Man just the how you talk the music you use it just calms me down
This video is so great
I’m 15 years old and I had stress anxiety and all this comes mostly from school, i just can’t focus on the class, i was the best student of my class ( I’m still smart i know a lot of things that my friends don’t) until one day i just felt weird i lost interest for learning new things, i loved basketball i was the best player on my team and suddenly i quit my basketball team, i was staying on my room and just thinking for hours and hours i was stressed for my bad grades at school,
I had a lot of friends at school and they noticed that something was wrong with me, they missed that funny, smart guy that always helped them with anything they needed, now was they turn to help me
I feel so much better now specially now that Is summer time I had time to relax spend more time with family and feeling better
I wanted to thank you for this amazing video THANK YOU SO MUCH
sorry for this long essay 😂😊☺️🙏🏼
i suggest to search up Wonder bro he talks about accepting the thoughts and not following the thoughts i also suggest just to search up "everything is scary" it explains why you are being scared of things is simply just because you're highly sensitized and same this past month i was having like tiredness,fatigue and i was acting different too so yeah
I don't know why but every time a feel anxious, I feel bad or whatever I come here and I breath a little, I calm and everything seems to have a solution. Thanks Matt.
I have severe social and general anxiety. Things that help me cope: music, dancing, working on my own, give yourself structure. And like mentioned, accept anxiety, it’s extremely common and you are going to have bad days and that’s ok. Talk out as much as possible, it’ll save life’s.
This video is phenomenal, you should be really proud of it Matt
I’ve been struggling with anxiety for so long and as a 13 yr old when having anxiety I wanting to end my life in hopes that it would all end. I see a therapist for anxiety but all we do is talk. I really feel like I need more help but when I say something people just tell me to stop overreacting and just breathe. If anyone else is out there like me just know your not alone.
I can't explain how many panic attacks i've not been able to control because of therapists telling me to 'just breathe' when I think a panic attack is coming. That's not how anxiety works, and for someone with anxiety to think that they are supposed to be able to 'just breathe' and everything will be ok, made me feel less normal than I already did. I never wanted to end my life, but I was always scared there would be a day where I snap and just do it. I definitely feel you, I would try to just express everything going on to a therapist just so that it's out in the world and off your chest, but you don't always have to take their advice.
“Got my heart rate up and then panicked because my heart rate went up” literally me. Thanks for sharing. Such an important topic
Jessica Cunningham it seems the body-mind relationship goes both ways. When you panic, your heart rate increases. But if your heart rate increases through normal physical exertion, the mind reads that as a cue that a panic attack is under way and reacts accordingly. This has happened to me with an upset stomach or nausea. I have a bad digestive episode and I start to read that as panic, even if I know the cause.The association between body and mind are so inextricable that they’re almost impossible to separate or distinguish.
OMG Matt, I’m so glad you put this up, my 26 yr old daughter has struggle w anxiety/depression for years. Since starting college- just yesterday told me yesterday she feels her generation has been seriously affected by the social media revolution, and that there is a lot of dispair and hopelessness out there as a result. This is shocking to me, but explains why there are so many young people still living at home, maybe they can’t cope with today’s adults responsibilities. Best of luck to you-my heart goes out to everyone in similar situations to yours
suffered a panic attack recently when i was thousands of miles from home and i remember just wanting to be home (something i couldn't control) and all i need was to let go. applaud you again for your videos and your openness, thank you
also i love nat
This hasn't even been up for the length of time the vid lasts.
And I'm commenting.
Khalid Latif. Chill man Matt is going through stuff and your expecting long video’s. Just look at yourself. Imagine if you were in his shoes the amount of distraction anxiety puts on you is crazy so I don’t think that would be his number one priority.
@@maxwelllighitngtutorials5681 Duuuuuude that's not what I was implying! I'm just super keen to watch, and comment on, his vids. 👍
Maxwell Lighitng Tutorials , try again. Lol
@@maxwelllighitngtutorials5681 he meant he came as soon as received the notification, and commented before even finished watching :)
Here in quarantine after having like the worst days of my life. I'm still going to keep on forward
I forgot and skipped the Ad so I rewatched the Video.. this time to watch the ad till the end. 😂
You are strong enough to overcome anxiety. All love ❤
This is the Most accurate/relatable video on my anxiety that I’ve ever watched
I never comment, and I'm sure you won't see this, but I just want you to know that this video helped me so much. It made me feel normal again. Maybe it'll only last for an hour or two, but for that, I am grateful to you.
i love it! social media is very useful if you know how to use it! and since i found your youtube chanel i feel more productive, really!
*_I can't even imagine how you felt when the carbon monoxide detector went off... I just want to say thank you for being genuine, I can feel it through the screen and I am so so glad that you've started to feel better. Your videos are some of the BEST on RUclips, they truly help
Thank you so much for talking about this. The physical elements of anxiety are often overlooked and if you are not super educated on the topic or have access to a professional the situation can get very scary very fast. So again, thank you so much for sharing this! I hope your anxiety is already and will contintue to get better ☀
This is amazing that you are talking about this, RIGHT NOW. I am terrified, for no reason that I can explain, of earthquakes. I live in a high rise tower in Las Vegas, NV (I realize how crazy this sounds, but this was a barrier I thought would put me out of my comfort zone and overcome my fear). I was not home for the 6.4 earthquake on the 4th of July that made it to Las Vegas from Ridgecrest. I happened to be out of town. But I did get home in time (20 minutes or so) to experiment the 7.1 earthquake on July 5th. I was home. In my apartment. On the 23rd floor. It lasted for 45-50 seconds. I headed downstairs as soon as it felt safe to move, sat in the lobby for 45 minutes until I had the courage to go back upstairs. The after-shock came as quickly as I plugged my phone in. As the cable swung back and forth I thought to myself, "This serious isn't happening." 5.4 magnitude. 10-15 for this one. Everything moving stuff falling from the walls. Pure torture for me. Luckily my girlfriend is a stronger person than myself and kept calm, I didn't stay at home that night. I slept on the floor at my business. It has been a battle to feel comfortable at home with constant vertigo phases that I can't stop. Constantly checking if fluids are shaking, if wires are swinging. I can't for the life of me feel comfortable at home anymore. Just hearing you mention that vertigo is a sign of anxiety feels 100x better but as you say, it doesn't cure the problem. I am fortunate enough to run my own business and have free hours throughout the day, but still have clients that need projects completed. For these out hours, I force myself to sit at home, in the same spot where "it all happened" to try to break this feeling. It has been 4 days now and the vertigo doesn't seem to want to subside. I wake up every hour in the middle of the night for what seems like no reason, but my mind tells me that it's because the building is moving again. I seriously contemplate selling my home and moving back into a house (closer to the ground.) It just feels so irrational to do something like that, it makes me feel absolutely crazy. I thank you for this video. I've been fighting anxiety my whole life and this is the second spell of "extreme anxiety" that I've experienced. I frequently experience chest pains (what I can only imagine a heart attack feels like. It's awful). So this is just another step that feels like the wrong way, I just worry that things will get worse. But there is comfort in knowing "I'm not the only one" and this will help me to push through. I do believe things will get better. Back to the old way, I just hope it isn't months or even years for that to happen. Thank you for opening up and sharing your experience with this monster we call "anxiety."
I suffer from depression and anxiety but the depression at least for the moment has been left behind and anxiety has still keep pushing some times.For days or longer I do not know that it has returned until later, just like you , I dance to "get rid of" that and be in a more relaxed mood, that was inspired by Grey's Anatomy because they danced in sad moments, it also helps me to walk, listen to certain types of music, I like to drink a lot of water, as well as touch my violin and running, I think maybe this come back because I keep pushing my emotions on me and I have to learn how to express myself more, that's why all the above things work because they let me express myself. Thank you for your great content.
My meditation teacher (Tara Brach) taught me the following: when anxiety becomes physically debilitating:
Pause,
do a body sensation scan, toes to head,
Say “I have room for these thoughts and sensations, they’ll be gone soon”.
This will open the door to more thoughts, say “this too, I have room... this too” as they arise
**kicker: try to make the physical sensations bigger, like taking a deeper breath of stinky air, defy the sensations, grow them
This sounds nuts, but it works for me. I can only liken it to popping a pimple.
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An absolutely beautiful video, Matt. The honesty and genuineness of your videos has always made me feel so welcomed on your channel, and videos as personal as this only increase it. The ending about learning to accept it and to work through it is truly inspiring. Thank you.
Such an incredibly powerful message here. Thanks Matt
My doctor explained that anxiety is like a lot of dots outside of a circle. To get it back in the circle, you sometimes need medication for a sort period. Even if it’s natural medication. After handle (or not handle) it for a couple of months, I decided to take medication. I haven’t regretted of it, so far. I realized that after trying everything, or nothing, there was no other way to get better. Now I can tell that I almost feel myself again. I’m close. Hope you get better soon. Best, Karen
It's good to have youtubers like you for people who don't have friends... i feel better after watching this video
Currently reading “Turning the Mind into an Ally” by Sakyong Mipham. I could not recommend this book more
I just watched TWO ads before this video and I proudly clapped at Matt in my head as I let them play. 👏👏👏
(in reference to his last video)
Thanks for sharing Matt! A lot more people deal with this then most think
I remember watching this 3 years ago I appreciate this so much Matt! Thank you!
LISTEN, THE DANCING WORKS!! I discovered this at the beginning of the year when I was working through emotions around a break-up with my now ex-boyfriend. For me, it was a way to use all the emotions I was feeling. no matter how terrible and awful, to create something beautiful through movement. A chance to create anything at all when I was being consumed by all I was feeling. It was through creation that I rebuilt parts of myself I had lost or let go of.
I just read 'anxiety' and I clicked, thank u so much really 🖤
Cognitive Behavioural therapy was probably the best thing I went through. I have tried everything else, and I could not get through it without CBT.
Thank you for sharing such a personal topic with us. It is comforting to hear this advice from a personal role model, and reassures me that I can overcome my own troubles with anxiety.
Thank you so much to talk with us like you're talking with a friend. I feel less alone with my struggles
What baffles me about anxiety, is that each time it hits me, i logically know that im just exagerating , that i have been here before and i survived just fine, that things doesnt turn out to be so terrible like you imagine it, yet still it gets me each time . I swear as you were sayin that i was saying to myself just accept it, that was exactly what i said to myself yesterday when i was i the mids of it, it is what it is , see things as they are, that helps alot , thnx for sharing this video.
*Wow. I had no clue what this is like.*
Incredible story Matt. Stay strong, we are here for you 👍
Caffeine really makes my anxiety worse! I have to drink de caff as I can’t live without tea or coffee!!
same
Good for you mate! I have found that quitting coffee has helped a lot with reducing anxiety - worth a shot for sure!
I've a caffeine addiction, so this will be definitely hard for me. I've somewhat reduced my intake and almost don't smoke anymore but I keep wanting to go back.
I don't know if this will help anyone, but the way I finally overcame my anxiety was to stop judging myself for it. It took years to realize that whenever it did hit, I would have a reaction of "this shouldn't be happening" or "I should be more put together than this". Eventually I got to the point that when it would hit, I would have a reaction of "this is my anxiety, I know I hate it, but it will pass, and I'm going to be ok". It took years of practice but how we treat ourselves makes a big difference. I don't avoid it now, I accept it as part of myself and as a warning sign that I need to look at some part of my life or that I've let someone else take up a bit too much of my mental space. Great video.
I know very well your struggle. Breathing is easier when you lie down (specially if you are in a middle of an anxiety crisis or a panic attack) I learned that recently from the Reiky community. Love your channel. Kisses and hugs from Caracas, Venezuela