Это видео недоступно.
Сожалеем об этом.
How to Destroy Your Approach Anxiety & Social Fear | Sasha Daygame | Full HD
HTML-код
- Опубликовано: 14 авг 2024
- Conquer inner trauma and Become the Ultimate Alpha Male with the Complex PTSD Masterclass. Save $100 now 21university.c...
-~-
Subscribe Now : t21c.com/12YTr3X
Full Length Videos : the21convention...
Get Training with Sasha : the21convention...
Visit Sasha : www.sashapua.com/
Everyone has social fear whether it’s talking to beautiful women or public speaking. Learn about the causes of social fear and how to overcome these sticking points.
In this video you will learn,
- How to internalize new beliefs.
- The source of approach anxiety.
- The biggest secret to removing fears.
About Sasha:
Sasha Daygame was introduced to the “self help” field by none other than Mystery of VH1’s The Pickup Artist, in the late 1990’s. Although exposed to the theories of social dynamics at a very young age, Sasha focused his time and energy building his skills as a stand up comedian for the next decade. Around 2006, after reading The Game, he decided to finally take his dating skills into his own hands got heavily into self improvement, and seduction. Sasha spent thousands of hours chatting up beautiful women in the UK, Europe and overseas. Eventually he developed his own unique system - a method which has been described as “insane fun” and revolves around completely eradicating pre-conceived social fears first, and then meeting beautiful girls soon after!
Sasha discovered this direct mindset in 2009 and his results improved dramatically - and he has been singing the praises of a direct approach to meeting women ever since! Sasha is renowned for getting amazing results for his students, and regularly trains clients who travel from around the globe to attend his courses. Much of Sasha’s teaching centers around honesty and authenticity. In 2010, Sasha put together the world’s first “Direct Dating Summit” bringing together the world’s best Direct Dating coaches. This was hailed by attendees as a “completely life changing event.” Alan Roger Currie claimed is was “the best event I’ve ever seen in my life” (Direct quote.) Sasha is one of the top dating coaches in the world, and has a strong following in the European seduction community.
Attention men, you can attend #21CON here : the21convention.org
Watch speeches before they hit RUclips: 21studios.com/21u
Donate to 21 Studios: www.paypal.me/21c
Become a channel member: t21c.com/21sytm
Follow us on Twitter: twitter.com/21convention
Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/21convention
Follow us on Minds: www.minds.com/21studios
Follow us on Gab: gab.ai/21Studios
I think what most guys still don't realize is that in order to get girls on a consistent level and in a healthy way, you mainly have to core change yourself, and not try to change the women's opinion about being with you. And you DO already change yourself by every single cold approach you because you're tackling approach anxiety, which is in my opinion actually the fear of changing yourself! I think the result of longterm pickup is basically transforming you into an alpha male. Just adding some thoughts here, GG!
Absolutely
trying to overcome approach anxiety? I just walked around the mall and shopping area while listening to this guy. use his advice to start off slowly by just simply making eye contact while walking by people and saying hi to warm up. go into stores and talk to the women workers, they are much more social when they are working. bath and body Works was packed with women and they were all interested in me because I was the only male in the store and I was simply making for a fun conversation. had about 3 or 4 different women talk to me while I was there. work on engaging them emotionally with eye contact, smiling and inquiring into their advice/experience with the products, weather, etc. it felt amazing and once you break the seal for the day, you can keep it going at other stores and even just around the shopping areas.
same here haha
I feel like talking to old people and normal hired guns doesn't help me. I try to talk to the hotties, much more scary, but much more giving. GOtta be effective!
hey congrats man! thanks for the inspiration! I'm not even close and havent started but I know that I need too do it
The way you eliminate approach or any anxiety is by getting into the state of indifference. That is, having an ABSENCE of concern. You're fine if you have it, you're fine if you don't. You love to see it coming, you love to see it go. You have no attachment to any outcome.
Now for you to be able to be like that, you have to already be fulfilled within yourself.
Operation Rise this is so true... I have done all these things naturally, but because I’m currently not where I need to be in my life i don’t feel ready to approach.
llewsedwod so have you started in the last 10 months
@@BobbyMakepeace you know, you look like a guy who listens to pearl jam.
I seriously believe this just may be the one final video I needed that will change my life drastically.
This is PRECISELY what I needed and exactly what I was looking for.
THIS IS IT!
My BIGGEST fear was "the audience," in other words, the people around watching, listening and judging.
I fear messing up mostly on my commute to work or any place where I will be forced to ride or stay with the same audience that I screwed up in front of until I reach my stop.... then I have some time to get away from it - until the next day when I have to transport with those same people again! Yes, I have my car, but I cannot increase my chances of meeting people if I go back to using my car and isolating myself....
How has your journey been this you posted this comment
1. The people don't care
2. They won't remember unless you shit your pants and accidentally kill someone or something
3. You approaching is ALWAYS POSITIVE IN THE EYES OF THE GIRL YOU APPROACH. If she seems to react badly, it is just her biology showing you "here is where you were WEAK" so that you can become strong. The first few hundred girls you approach (even the ones you FUCK) are your stepping stones and unknowning teachers on your way to greatness. You talk to them FOR YOU, not for them, they do not matter and as soon as you understand that, they will chase you, because now you matter to them.
@@Rpgreat
I agree with number 3.
It's a myth that the audience is unaware, uninterested.
.
Except for the grandmas/grandpa's maybe. Everyone else, it's the most interesting thing happening/happened all day.
.
Tell me that u don't listen, watch, judge etc when u see it.......
@@jeffreyd508 Agreed, it's a feel-good BS people like to tell themselves
I have recently put my ego down- or at least enough to seemingly become truly extraverted and it is an amazing feeling
I just drew a picture of a pretty girl on the subway, gave it to her and told her she was beautiful. It was automatic. She was so happy.
Genius
Thank you Sasha for that speech.I was ordering delivery the other day,the guy on the phone asked me for my phone number and I went "I dont give my number to strangers" and he went mental.Life seems so much fun when you amuse yourself by messing with other people.
Love it that's the spirit lol
Hopefully if the delivery driver cant find your house...since they cant call you, you dont get what you ordered. Why the do people these days get pleasure with fucking with people? Sounds like you love your life..
Lol, I would have laughed out loud.
Thank you!!! Thank you!!! Thank you, Sasha!!! I just started dealing with my AA, talking to girls, being terrible at it and yet loving every second. Took me YEARS to get this far, so I can't thank you enough for such an inspiring video!
This guy got me to do my first cold approach
What happened?
@@insanoibro6331 Apparently, he was killed by the girl!
Anyway I agree on the point that making fun of yourself is the GREATEST thing in the world. I'm literally immune to anything bad people saying to me, it usually end in that I'm the much more cooler guy and I can even turn many things around in the other persons direction. The thing is that you don't have to take yourself seriously in any way. This opens up everything ! You can practise that for example by taking a day in the week where you answer anything with a joke or something that you find funny in that situation. Everyone should really try this. It gets you so far, it's awesome.
Watched the content, went out picked up a model, totally worth it...
Are u serious ? u advice me go out and try this !?
@@Muathalshareef2 What part of his advice isn't worth trying?
@@brap82 Nothing. This shit doesn't work. Don't waste your time.
@@brandon9638 fuck you loser stop killing peoples hopes just because you are not putting the work
@@brandon9638 fuck you loser stop killing peoples hopes just because you are not putting the work
Incredible talk. one of the few talks i keep coming back to because it makes me go out and do shit every single time
Need to watch these during lockdown as I am losing my socializing skills. Got a get out.
I was like this in 2014 during my junior year of high school. Had everything he's talking about down pat. Some years after though I started having the fear he talks about in this video and I don't know why it came back. I've been trying to get back to the way I was, but I can't for some reason. I honestly think it's because I was young and didn't really have much to think about but school really and that was it. I think as I got older I began to get in my head more and think about where my life is going now that I'm out of high school. I keep making excuses for myself like me going back to having fear is me growing and maturing, but honestly 2014 was the best year of me being myself and not giving a fuck what anybody thought. Seeing this video is gonna help me get back to that.
Here's what works for me. Follow the "three second rule". That means within three seconds of seeing someone you are interested in, go up and speak to them. Say anything: ask for directions, say you like her hat, comment about the weather, ask where she got her shoes, tan, dress, where's a good place to eat. Be genuine, don't come up with some clever tricky line - because you may flub it, and it may seem not genuine. They key is to do it within three seconds, because it will be spontaneous, natural, and you won't be worrying about what she may think. Just do it. Once you establish a line communication - you can take it in what ever direction you want. I'm not a big fan of "you so beautiful" compliment because it sounds phony, sounds like a pickup line, and builds up her ego. A genuine compliment about "how great that dress looks on you, where did you get it". is good if it is a unique dress.
"women crave magical movie moments" gold!
okay so i paused the video halfway trough, sat in my room, fear was overwhelming me, i tried to make fun of my ego, i went infront of my mirror made all the facial expressions that i hate, i just made fun of everything that i´m really afraid of, went outside, had my backpack in my hand and swinging it around, because that´s not normal, and then for the first time in my entire life i actually asked 10 girls "you know what time it is?". that´s the first time i ever had any progress, and the only thing i did was killing my ego, i even made up this beat and singing in my head "kill the ego, kill kill the ego", sounds sooo so random and weird, but it worked thank you Sasha
Tobias Hansen 😂😂😂 that’s funny ( in a good way) 🤣
Go up to someone say hey then pause look them in the eye say never mind and walk away
LoL
George Carlin
He's absolutely ridiculous, absolutely hillarious. But the wisdom is second to none.
I once approached a woman in the jobcentre who was working as a volunteer in the IT room. I did this in front of like 3 people.
I was nervous as fucked but it worked, went on 3 dates afterwards. :P
GOOD JOB MAN !
Hey Samuel, what did you say to her lol. That's terrific the job centre of all places, think i tried in there once
@@explosivediarrhea4671 Yeah approaching always gives: experience, conquers fear and gives a fucking HIGH, such a RUSH baby. Then the fact that the more you do it, the more kinky, mega hot sex you WILL have with loads of cute little 20 year old women :D
Samuel xD Townson j
@@98Ashb OP never delivers
When I've been isolated for long I warm up my doing socially uncomfortable things from home. Like calling friends, reaching out to strangers online. Then I take it to low-level face-2-face interactions with harmless people (old, mom-woman, kids), eventually, I get to a socially confident state to talk to anyone! Hot girls included.
''Keep pushing your boundaries till you are death.'' Sounds crazy but its so damn true.
Boys, did a real in-public approach @ my gym
And she was 17! Let's goooo! (I'm 26)
But yeah, she let me know that and no number but shoot. I feel good boys! I've been at times in my life where you don't have that anxiety and when you get there your results increase 10 fold. You gotta get used to it.
This advice is really good because there are practical actions steps you can take to improve your social self-confidence. Some of the ideas, like being weird deliberately, is not so good. You can ease the social tension by not being weird, but being naturally self confident.
Go up to someone with a mouth full of cookies and say "Got milk"?
!save
Did you see his name??
Hay cat boy ask want cream?
I didn't really expect much to be honest, but Sasha makes a lot of good points here. It's about taking small, realistic steps with talking to people and giving people compliments until it becomes easy. I don't think the anxiety ever fully goes away, but it definitely does get easier.
Is it me or does the audience questions seem more like trolls than people I would expect at a 21 convention for men bettering themselves (ref the first 2 questions)
at 2:21 you can see him thinking ''fuck, they are not laughing at my joke, now what?!''
hahahahaha
But amazing video man, makes so much sense at this motivates me to go on the street and talk to girls. Wish I had seen this video before.
Lunarvrr Haha I noticed the same thing it was like crickets chirping. People just didn't know that was the punch line.. But yeah Sasha day game is the shiz nit. His videos have helped me so much lately!! He's a boss
I saw him telling the exact joke before and people laughed . Maybe they didnt realize it was the punch line
But the joke wasn't bad
It’s his social fear haha 😛
My fear is not starting a conversation and asking her for a date but, my fear is if she wants to, then what? What do I do? Shit my pants from anxiety?
Sasha is the men
i agree with the movie moment thing. i was doing blind parkour in a park and met a girl this way. i chatted with her a moment and shook her and complimented on how delicate her hands felt. when i came back to chat with her after i was done with my line, i opened my eyes i chatted with her some more and asked for her number. we hung out a few times but i was never really attracted to her. but her narrative of me must've been interesting enough she told her roomates she had a "cutemeet". she later invited me over to her place for some "hot apple cider". I did NO work because i wasn't interested in her, which made her chase me pretty hard.
the next girl i met and dated for a few months i met outside of my work walking around. she had a headache so i offered to walk her to my car and give her a blue pill. matrix jokes aside, she was 9 years older than i and we had mind blowing sex. i HIGHLY recommend learning this skillset - total emotional trip. i'm still newbie, but looking forward to my next encounters.
Obviously recorded before the mee too movement 😜
I wonder if social anxiety or shyness, any anxiety, is something genetic, we are born with of if it is learned, practice, developed, it does bother me a lot on how it's only men who have to get it handled and overcome it
It may be genetic but it can be overcome I have seen it in people who overcome it. The only thing that really works is confronting social situations one but at a time. Take the more simple ones and build it up.
And some women do have social anxiety to the point where it cripples them
It doesn’t matter. It could definitely be genetic, but the more confident you become in your purpose in life and the more you work towards that, then the less social anxiety you’ll have. Exercise is also very important. Sometimes if you’re just unhealthy, drinking too much alcohol or drugs, or using too much pornography- then these things have actual phsyiological effects on heart rate and nervousness, sort of like how marijuana brings out paranoia in people. So being healthy is huge. Working on life goals. Learning about self improvement and implementing it. All these things will remove 90% of anxiety over time.
I helped myself by looking at strangers in the eyes until they look away. Once they do the second look, I let them see me look away. Try it, over and over.
Elaborate ? Why look away? How does this process help?
@@Edward-tc5up Do you have a problem looking people in the eye? If so this is just practice.
I think approach anxiety is a matter of maturity, not number of approaches. I have done 20,000 approaches in the last fourteen years. In the first nine years, anxiety was with me with every approach. However, when I turned 35, all of the sudden, I was no longer nervous about approaching women.
What am I saying? Never give up. Never stop. 98% of aspiring pua's are no longer in the game three years later. Be the 2% who have made a life out of it. Never stop. Your well being and future happiness depend on it, whether you become a womanizer, or use your skills to find the wife of a lifetime.
Ty for the tips. Now I wait to 35 before talking to girls.
Worth watching again after years ago
I met my wife like this
Amazing!!! Heck ya
I really like the presentation, amazing!!
Excited to work on ur amazing game.
Thank you 21studio & shash!!!
This is great content. Thank you.
I embaress myself every day. It's so much fun. I can't stop. It itches to stop. Regular social interactions are so...mundane. I have a bit of a history now but sometimes I don't want to be a clown and I don't want people to expect it. If I have an idea I want to express I usually express it.
Go out, pay your dues, get results. The guy hitting home runs is batting a thousand.
Sasha brings that element that so many guys lack in their interactions with women, and that is play. Most men cannot be playful unless it's in a crude way with other men. Women love a lighthearted nature. For dicks sake make them laugh and stop being so freakishly serious. It's creepy. Good shit Sasha.
AFter a day of severe approach anxiety I find myself here! I think its more than ego. Its mainly childhood traumas, how you were brought up! I do fear approaching women when there are people close behind them. One of my fears is someone actually being a whiteknight thinking the girl is in distress if I approach while being nervous!
The gym and combat sports dude. Had that same issue about 3 years ago. It is a fear that disappears when ya just flipped a dude a foot taller than you in judo last week.
haha should of grown a mustache a long time ago. looks dope!
The more I watch Sasha the more I love him.
Found this in 2020 and besides my bias, this is really good content.. I encourage people to absorb this..
great energy and philosophy
Man, credit to this lady for staying with him, I watched the first minute of him and found him intolerable.
Great presentation! Last half great information.
Great lessons! I initially wasn't going to listen to this because it was too long. But I did anyway and it was worth every minute!
So you see at 56 you can still teach an older dog new tricks! Oh yeah! 👍😂
Nice sneakers 👟
Realize what you want to be better at then work on that. "REALIZE" is a big part of it. You can't change it until you realize it. Be who you want to be!
It’s weird seeing another Sasha person other than me
I talked to a guy in changing room at my local fitness center about basket ball yesterday. he was in his underwear. needless to say it was quite awkward...
That's gay.
I'm curious if this is destroying your ego or just having self-control of your ego? It seems to me like it's the latter. If so, what makes impulsive decision making better than caution and vigilance? For instance, it may be better to practice being respectful towards others rather than acting completely careless. Respect takes a certain level of conscientiousness and restraint.
fuck yeah, he has a similar vibe like tyler. Love it.
'So like I work in a School and there's this Hot Girl and I smacked her on the ass and now I got a meeting with the Boss'. Did anyone else have a WTF moment?
+Victor Crosswalk The Next Day? lol. Must have been a reeaallyy slow day.
Pick up is not about sexually abusing girls...
What the fuck are you talking about? Did you even watch the video?
Its easier than he makes it out to be. Merely decide in advance you do not intend to ask a girl out. Then go talk to her as a practice. You cant lose a game you dont play. Then when you have removed all this self inflicted pressure about can you score, or whatever, you can go have fun chatting. It can hilarious to say whatever you want with no consequences. Eventually dates will happen anyway.
incredible video
I disagree with people who saying that you need to be good looking , I am good looking guy but that doesn't help me ,I think its all confidence.
confidence seems to be the most important aspect- i've only recently became confident and so don't know the extent though
@@infinitewarr1or699 ugly, short and fat but confident? how many fat ugly short guys pick up girl randomly on the street and fuck them and close the deal each night?
could i go to jail if i ask girls on dates like stop them and just ask them? sasha please help me with this question
If I have to bring up all my weaknesses before a conversation we'd probably never get to the conversation
This guy is just great!!!!
Many thanks
This is amazing. You are so wise.
Best talk ever 🙌
Seek out awkward situation ... and don't give a shit! (26:00)
Yup, Sasha Daygame really walks the talk ... with his Man Buns, Zappa Facial hair!
But this is HIS style ... something that he finds congruence with! Not for me though. I prefer the more quiet and understated style, so my confrontation with ego and awkwardness is more "inner" ... just go for it! and do it!
He is RIGHT about ego
video summary: go around and keep overinflating women's ego. As if it wasn't already big enough....
Al P - Hey, another extension of the movement with books,tapes and DVD's trying desperately to get more guys to approach women, since women prefer that advantage.
They do not like that more and more guys now wait to be approached to make certain that the women are actually interested.
@@enniswhalen2428 Good luck with waiting to be approached by women
@D P - I certainly understand your point.What you will find are women who ACTUALLY have an interest.
You have no idea what women want
@@VarunPrasadoneplusone who cares what women want? SIMPS :)
Great,that helped me a lot , deserved sub ...
Why give a fuck what anybody thinks? They don't pay your bills. Doing your own thing is the least you owe to yourself.
gotta fight for it
Freaking awesome, Sasha!
Cool story man bun
42:20 that is when weirdos get the whole thing wrong
This is really good content, but speed it up 1.5x is halarious. Life coach on speed 😂😂
it is all about your ego..just destroy it and everything will be ok
i was realy cool .... didn't give a fuck what people think .... had a good life but when hit 16 i started giving a fuck ..... asking people if i can take my own shit and things like that ....
now i am Trying to delete that way of talking to another way wich is the idgaf
Asian parents be like, "if you dont follow our dream and be our puppet, you are dead to us"
i did mushrooms and it killed my ego...i was able to talk to a girl i was drooling over...
Wow, you do everything I do .
Not true if you live in a small city. People are very interested what other people are doing.
This guys solution to destroy approach anxiety: Bring a whoopee cushion into an elevator and start farting when people walk in.
Genius.
Even after approaching ~450 women this year mostly during the day I still have "approach anxiety".....kinda like jumping off a high diving board but the more you do it the more fun it is. I've had more dates in one year than I've had in previous years...sex too. :)
I’ve been told I’m a good looking guy but it still doesn’t help your right about it all man , just shut that guy off because once that ego isn’t talking, anything is Litteraly possible because no ones judging you and you only realize that when the ego isn’t talking . It’s the best feeling in the word .
Great video! :D
In so many ways ego inhabits us .
2:22 lol the joke didn't stick
What are thooooooose!! Great speech by the way, need to get the courage to put this in practice!
+Donzulu677 It's way easier said than done. You never regret an approach after it happened even if it didn't go the way you wanted.
+A.C. Tilly This is a great way to look at it, thanks so much
+A.C. Tilly So true, so easy to keep walking when you see a girl you want to talk to but you instantly regret it afterwards.
+A.C. Tilly So true, so easy to keep walking when you see a girl you want to talk to but you instantly regret it afterwards.
haha hahaha what are those lllollolol
Weird questions but great content
This guy is hilarious but very knowledgeable.
Taking shrooms really killed my anxiety
You said something very good about the EGO. Thank to your explanation, I broke up with my girlfriend that was treating me as a fucking idiot and now I am ready to know hornier girls. Fuck that !
I think for the mega shy introverts they should create more stages smaller baby steps instead of 4 stages there should perhaps be more super easy baby steps, they need a slower easier more gradual ease into it than normal people
What’s up Sasha! I’m so far I’ve had good results implementing this stuff and totally see where it’s headed. One question I would have had for you if I was there ... direct stuff with a girl when she is at work? Not a co-worker but just a girl at a cash register or something. I thought I’d for ask your opinion/thoughts on this. Peace!!
Thanks Sasha, this video helped me to meet my current girlfriend. I approached her at the bus stop and she’s a total babe, and really cool, so thank you! She thanks you too.
Dude looks like Adam Sandler on ayahuasca..
True bro I am Indian here 99 times u get rejected
What do you do when you never have anything to say?
Yea, this guy didn't address the specific problem you're talking about. If you don't have anything to say, quiet your mind and just say whatever the f*ck, but believe in your self, like you're chilling with an old buddy. This video is about deciding to pull the trigger and approach, which sort of attacks the general problem from another direction.
Limitless.