Ready to let go of the things that don’t matter? Use these quick links to catch the highlights: 1:41 - What inspired Mark to write the blog post that launched it all. 3:45 - What “not giving a f*ck” actually means (it’s not indifference!). 5:41 - The value of being OK with feeling bad sometimes. 7:56 - Why you should hope for a life full of “good problems.” 17:39 - Why certainty is the enemy of growth. 19:55 - How to make peace with criticism. 22:01 - What Mark has learned to not give a f*ck about in his life. What’s next? Watch this playlist to develop habits for success: ruclips.net/p/PLAxUz0wM51b9Xu5cBwKUPV2PjPF1wQmGN
I love how you really READ these books, Marie, and respond to what moves and touches you. I've read other interviews that are kind of interesting, but a shallower interaction because the interviewer is asking qauestions and giving the author a platform, but they didn't really read and engage with the book. So. Thank you!
Disappointment Panda is my hero: 'Don't hope for a life without problems, there's no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems'. That's what I need! Maybe Panda ruins the party for a while but then give so much power that you think: it was worth it to sacrifice one show. It's not important how many times you fall, what matter is that you get up one more time.
+Marni M - This book is literally none of the above. Have you read it? It's essentially just a glorified rant/preaching session in which he gives no practical advice whatsoever. Just writes some vague, conventional, armchair wisdom, and peppers it with enough profanity to make it seem edgy. This book was a complete wast of time and a total money grab.
@parasdox same for me accepting the truth changed my life entirely and made me a entirely different and successful person which I always thought I won’t be.
BEST dating advice ever. Being authentic requires real vulnerability and is hard...but you can't make genuine connections without it. It's especially hard if you "learned" as a child that your authentic self was not lovable.
I don't know how to put my appreciation for all that you have done into words. For a 17 year old who loses herself at times like me, you really are a life saver.
“You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and embarrassment to others.” This is so liberating for perfectionists like me who want to be liked by all
"You can't be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and embarrassment to others." Wow, keeping it real. Loved this episode so much! It's what I needed to hear and watch. Thank you, Marie and MarieTV crew! TOO good.
i like this a lot! when he talks about his dream about being a rock star, then he realizes he doesn't like to do the work , thats a big one for most of us. do we really like the process of becoming what we dream of becoming, all that is involved. and of course the part where he talks about feelings letting them just come and not giving a fuck about it not beating yourself up. thats awesome!
Certainty is enemy of growth! omg, I resinated with this one so badly :D Yes, some shit you just have to get through alone or by trying. Thank you for this reminder!
One thing I should definitely give more fucks about... simply put- MYSELF. I always put others first and take on their stresses and worries (it’s fine in doing so) but by doing that, I don’t focus enough attention on myself and what I want to do. So for sure, I should definitely give more fucks about myself, physically and mentally. One thing I should give 0 fucks about- what others think of me. I live my life, subconsciously, trying to impress other people, as I’m sure a lot of us do. Whether that’s posting a photo at 18:00 on a Sunday on Instagram because I know that will get the most likes, therefore in my head I have achieved something. Whether that’s going to the gym and lifting something beyond my capability with poor form because that’s and ego lift and people will think I’m stronger than I actually am. Long story short. I need to focus on myself first and learn to love myself first before I can love someone else :)
So happy to see Mark on my show! Loved his book, thinking of rereading it again 😝 One thing I should give more of a fuck about is nourishing the positive relationships in my life. I have so many great people in my life but I often hyper focus on the negative. One thing I should give less of a fuck about is what other people think of me, or what I ASSUME others are thinking of me. I swear it's like an automated reaction in my brain to assume x or y person is thinking horrible things about me. Thanks so much for your book Mark and thanks Marie for a great interview.
I just read it and I'm ready to read it again. I got it on audible now too so I can listen to it whenever I want. There are certain parts of the book I need to hear on certain days.
1. I should give more F to my value, to how I perceive myself, to who I am. 2. I should absolutely stop giving a F about what anybody could think of me. What I've learned from this episode : - Not giving a F means being comfortable being me. - I should always face the hard stuff. There's a personal satisfaction solving that problem. - We all have some hard stuff we do that we actually sadistically enjoy. Do that, that's your thing. - Always ask yourself "why ?". What you give your intention to must be worth it. - Be authentic. - Haters gonna hate. There will always be people criticizing. Cope with it. When you do things is actually when people start to talk. - Be comfortable with pain and hard stuff. Feel it. It's human. Then get over it. - Be strong. - Feel the fear and do it anyway. Thanks for all this knowledge !
This is a really insightful interview! I'm about halfway through Mark's book an I'm loving it so far. I can't wait to make a video about it when I'm done.
I was always a people pleaser always trying to avoid all sorts of conflicts but Mark's book totally changed my perspective....now I don't invite conflict but don't even fear to face one when needed to. Secondly, I have accepted that problems are never ending & it's only through solving problems that real fulfillment can be felt. Thanks a lot Mark ❣️
Mark Manson's book ingeniously describes the fundamentals of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and nonjudgmental acceptance. So inspiring! I have been recommending it to many of my clients. Thanks Mark and Marie!
I just doen one course on mindfulness. I want to talk to you about it.i feel ur the right person to talk so Can you please tx me on gamil . My gmail is vikram.more7@gmail.com
Fuck fuck fucking loved this book.....very eye opening, I have the audio version and listened to it twice in one week!! Great fucking interview. That's what I give a fuck about good helpful stuff like this. What I don't give a fuck about, bitchy people that don't do shit for them selves or even the "girlfriend" in the book that was all needy. Don't deal with those kind of people in my life, not worth the fucks!
The interviewer is so posed, classy and genteel, i wanna try it myself :p seriously, i ve always avoided my feminity and often acted 'vulgaire' on purpuse. To contradict stereotypes, i ve escaped a social mold then put myself in another mold i constructed myself.
Wow. This clarified so much for me about what I want to do with my life. Asking what activities I derive pleasure from the struggle is a clear starting place. Thanks for this!
It's not that you should stop giving a fuck and give up, but it's giving a fuck about what you love and enjoy and holding onto the priorities regardless of what other people think about it.
just waiting for the moment my brain understands and accepts all this. i need to listen to and expose myself to more of these videos than wasting time on sites like tumblr that are toxic in what they say about self growth (i.e. the only way to get better is medicine and these "neurotypical" advice and self help don't work etc.)
I think I need to stop giving a fuck about getting things done when I'm not in the right mindset or motivation, and instead start giving a fuck about what my intuition/heart is telling me!
When I first met Mark in 2014 at a conference I had already come across his work and writing and since then he's just gone on to become better and better. Yet he's still so down to earth when we meet up around the world. Real truth, raw and damn funny. I even asked to include a short piece from 'that' amazing article in my next book because it was so dear to my heart around freedom. Love that you had him on. He deserves to be heard (and to bring more laughs to the world)
"I wanted to create the most gruesome, offensive article that anyone has ever seen" - laughs in South Park. But seriously though, great direct approach to a topic everyone seems to tiptoe around.
this woman who does the moderation is incredible beautiful in my eyes. I think what makes her beautiful is how she connects with the guy and really cares about the answers, pays attention to him and picks up his threads of communication. On top, of course, her physical appearance is awesome.
Why give a fuck if someone "likes" or "dislikes" you/what you do or say.? Do you like you.... it you have something to say say it! What someone else says/thinks is only their opinion/perspective at the moment..... It should be of no value to you whatsoever, you can do the "greatest" thing in the world and people will hate it (you) If your life depends on others "likes" you are in trouble, you will never feel safe! Believe me I know, I was killing myself over it for 40 years. BUT I Like ME now. :D {Nothing you hear is fact... it's opinion. Nothing you see is truth... it's perspective}
I just realized that I really don't like the struggle of being a music producer. I just want the gigs, concerts and the fame. I don't enjoy the studio, I'm really fucking stupid. my passion is Programming and Information Technology. I really fucking fix everything on computers. fuck what am I doing with my life! EDIT: No sarcasm, I'm serious and Mark just hit me so hard.
Holly Casto: Hello. I am planning on purchasing this book. Can you tell me your personal experience of how this book made you feel and how interesting it was, please?
I needed this today! As an artist and business owner, I'm always trying to please everyone else. Taking care of yourself takes more work than pleasing others,. "Hope for a life of Good Problems!" I love that phrase!
I love to hear from this man,... I spent my precious 28 minutes hearing this interview.... there's a lot awesome truth of what he is sayin... I will read your book man..
I have made a 5 point rule after reading his book , hope u guys appreciate: 1. Take responsibility for your past present and future and thus dont depend unnecessarily on others and dont live in denial or play the victim card, consider pain as feedback.Remember that with great responsibility comes great strength. 2. Develop a deeper vision for seeing high values by overcoming fear of change by dropping ego/entitlement and remember that action can be motivation too (so shut up and just do it) 3. Good values make you process oriented and thus keep your feet grounded (oneness within is preserved) 4. When you one within you become committed and commitment is freedom.( As you avoid giving unworthy fucks) 5. When you are free you become part of a higher body and you live and die with fulfillment.
I love how we receive the messages we need to hear exactly at the right time when we need them most. I hung on every word of this with the intent of putting the advice into practical application for what fits in my own life. Thanks to both of you for reminding me of what’s truly important. It helps to hear that it’s okay to feel shitty but it’s also important to navigate our ways out of the shittiness. I’m ready to giv’r again!...and then fall on my ass…and then giv’r some more :).
I should give more fucks about designing my life how I see fit - no matter how much I tell myself "I can't do that". I should less fucks about people who aren't serving any true purpose in my life. I love his comments about looking at the root of your goal. That was a great exercise. Surprised at my findings!
Thank you so much for this video, it's so inspiring and motivating, I really enjoyed watching it! I'm a fashion photographer and I've recently started my RUclips Channel dedicated to my work, fashion industry and my life as well. In fact, a huge part of my life became much more public than it was before. And what I definitely shouldn't give a fuck about is the haters and all of the negativity that has appeared recently. I realise it, but sometimes it's quite hard to ignore although there are so many wonderful people who supports me 100% too. So, here's the thing: instead of focusing on our goals sometimes we're starting to pay attention to all of that silly things which simply distract us from our main goals. It's sad but I believe it's also possible to "grow over it". Thanks again for the interesting video, it made my day!
Nice conversation 👍 Good advice on how to find a balance and stay balanced in life. I like the advice of asking why. I do question the mention of money and it's relationship to anything else in this conversation about life balance. Why not collect a lot of money if you can while keeping a good life balance? If you are going to participate in the system than why not do it to a level that you are comfortable with. This conversation mentioned running with your strengths. Of course opinions are our own. But, maybe you don't want to participate in any particular social system, that should be respected too. No fucks given. Then the conversation can focus on actual life and social issues. A lot of this conversation is focused on social relationships. Mark wanted to be a rock star, traval and party, but was not fulfilled by that attention, rather he wanted to write and get his work into the social space of the group he is writing for, it's all social, he was focused on his social relationship. So I wonder if the advice and observations come from social experiences and a deep need to be socially acceptable. Mark's writing may say otherwise, by indicating that it's ok to be you and do it your own way, and that's true but that is also a very wide space, of course Mark does not say copy me but when advice is given I think people will evaluate the person giving it and wonder if they take their own advice. But even being anti social and focusing only on your self and your relationship to the non human world will have it's challenges of self actualization, there's little escaping your self in life. Acceptance of self and the things I can not change. It was mentioned that this book and writing is about finding meaning, that's an important thing. But, balance also has to be found and that balance means finding a way to live with and amoung others in your community and larger society. Of course that presumes that you want to get along with others; a different option is to not get along with others and get your way through stonewalling or rape, pillage, and plunder - historically this has been a very popular way of relating to others and has been effective, indeed war is this thing and is a multibillion dollar industry today. It's the shit sandwich I suppose, the recognition that you have to do or deal with social frustration to get what you want or need. But dose it have to be that way? I don't think so, a lot of it is dependent on the social space created at all levels. Compare the Ubuntu movement ideas to the current ideas of capitalism. Different social realities will manafest different meanings to the same events and while we are all human - culture colors our relationship to events, the meaning found in events, and our ability to find and live our meaning. At some point everyone comes to understand life and social relationships and history what you do with that understanding and if you can find meaning in it is up to you. My advice, life experience, and opinion is freely given for social awareness and hopefully benefit. Have a lovely day.
This year has been a breakthrough for me - I'm finally not giving a fuck about what my family thinks of me. My whole life I've been waiting for them to understand me, accept my work, and accept who I actually am rather than who they want me to be. I realized me trying to please them was also attracting people like them into my life (more psychopaths and narcissists), Letting go of their need to love me for who I am was the biggest release of negative energy I've ever experienced. I have deeper relations with others now because of it and Im finally able to have a deep sense of happiness and well being - also i now have the strength to stop trying to please all the haters in my life. there are many who scapegoat me, but now i can finally see through it all - what a blessing. I've never heard of Mark before today, but in the interview, i agree with all he shared, as it mirrored my experience this year. Thanks Marie for always inspiring and keeping it real!
Awesomeness. Pure awesomeness. What I need to give more of a fuck about is definitely becoming financially independent and settled sufficient, building a great business really. What I need to let of and not give a fuck about, is the condition of my house. I like things a certain way and I spend a lot of time in nit picky details. This time could be spent on my business. Much love peeps!
Read this book on impulse and it was so refreshing. Great interview. I appreciate how you dug a little deeper than a typical show in this type of format.
This book indeed knock some sense in me. I am a self help junkie and have surrounded myself with books about positivity. I believe a good follow up to this book would be Tom Rath’s, “How full is your bucket”.
Get a life purpose and comity to it and almost nothing else will matter, but your health and money, cause it supports your life purpose. I focus on very little and 90% of my life purpose, and so I have alot of peace 😊
So true about fear. Bravery is overcoming fear - not the absence of fear. If you do not feel fear you cannot over-come fear and in a very real sense can never be brave.
One of the best interviews, thank you Marie and Mark. Very refreshing and inspiring - it reframed my thinking about my "current problem"...now i rather think that it is "a life case", which needs to be sorted out. So - A) i have a power & B) I always can do something about it. Thanks!!!
I should really stop caring about what people might think of me and my ideas....I have a habit of seeking validation before I do anything.... so F**** jaja
My school teacher suggested me this book to read and told give this book to other fellows .Just bought this book last week. A must read book .Oh it means after two years ago his book reached to me.
Hello Marie and Mark, Just watched your interview and let me say it really couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m facing quite a bit of adversity and this week has been tough as a result. It’s been tough to get out of my head about this and keep it moving and this video really helped to put it all in perspective. I just ordered marks book cause I want more. Thank you so much and have a great day.
It was wonderful to turn on RUclips and see Mark’s face. I began following him back in 2012 when I first began my company. Now to hear and see him. Good to know perseverance and truth still works. Great interview.
I was really really in the pain before I started to read this book. I've got some guts that I can handle all the difficulties and problems around me by reading his book. Cheers! And thanks Marie, your interview with him is awesome, and I can feel how much you actually like his book and you asked interesting questions that the readers might want to question him. It was very meaningful 30 minutes watching this video.
Ready to let go of the things that don’t matter? Use these quick links to catch the highlights:
1:41 - What inspired Mark to write the blog post that launched it all.
3:45 - What “not giving a f*ck” actually means (it’s not indifference!).
5:41 - The value of being OK with feeling bad sometimes.
7:56 - Why you should hope for a life full of “good problems.”
17:39 - Why certainty is the enemy of growth.
19:55 - How to make peace with criticism.
22:01 - What Mark has learned to not give a f*ck about in his life.
What’s next? Watch this playlist to develop habits for success: ruclips.net/p/PLAxUz0wM51b9Xu5cBwKUPV2PjPF1wQmGN
Mark Manson is indeed one of the most enlightening motherfuckers I've ever seen in my life.
The Jas Perspective is skewed
HE IS DIFFERENT.................i love how he is thinking..........totally logical
Precisely :)
I am at chapter 6.. but loving it till now. Completely agree with Mark on all the point he has mentioned.
I love this book!
I fucking love your book Mark, thank you so much. Amazing book.
I love how you really READ these books, Marie, and respond to what moves and touches you. I've read other interviews that are kind of interesting, but a shallower interaction because the interviewer is asking qauestions and giving the author a platform, but they didn't really read and engage with the book. So. Thank you!
Well said
I need to give a zero fuck about how long it's taking me to work out what I give a fuck about!
"Don't try"
Charles Bukowski
That's all this giggly school boy has to say to make it easier to understand.
@@uncreativeranter it's also what mark Manson wrote in his book "the subtle art of not giving a fuck"
Disappointment Panda is my hero: 'Don't hope for a life without problems, there's no such thing. Instead, hope for a life full of good problems'. That's what I need! Maybe Panda ruins the party for a while but then give so much power that you think: it was worth it to sacrifice one show. It's not important how many times you fall, what matter is that you get up one more time.
How fabulous to be alive in a day and age where such humor, vulnerability and REALNESS are shared and celebrated. Super empowering. Thank you for this
Great information! 1. Asking the tough questions. 2. What other people think of me.
Fantasic
+Marni M - This book is literally none of the above. Have you read it? It's essentially just a glorified rant/preaching session in which he gives no practical advice whatsoever. Just writes some vague, conventional, armchair wisdom, and peppers it with enough profanity to make it seem edgy. This book was a complete wast of time and a total money grab.
@@scottk1525 Seems as if the majority disagree, 4400 amazon reviews at 4.5+ stars! lol Kindly fuck off!
@@scottk1525 Do you have any other suggestions, Scott?
Cheesy as this may sound, this was life-changing for me. Thank you both.
PARASDOX, it did sound cheesy, but I hope it’s true! I’m happy for you. Who gives a shit what others may think. 😀
@parasdox same for me accepting the truth changed my life entirely and made me a entirely different and successful person which I always thought I won’t be.
Love it 👍
Heck yea :)
I highly doubt it.
“When you try to be liked by everybody, you end up being loved by no one.” 21:30 starts at 20:00
BEST dating advice ever. Being authentic requires real vulnerability and is hard...but you can't make genuine connections without it. It's especially hard if you "learned" as a child that your authentic self was not lovable.
I would like to give less of a fuck about what people think about me and my brand, and more of a fuck about growing my brand!!
Jessica Hylton are we related? lol is your hylton family from Jamaica?
Samantha Salmon hey Samantha (this is my other account haha) YES!! Jamaica! Email me? Jessica@jessicainthekitchen.com
Jessica Hylton Yes Jessiker! Zero free fucks available! Yoo.
Jessica Hylton All the best...
Jessica Hylton This one word will help you..."START"
Love this guy - he's so real, funny and likeable. And yet he's not trying to be liked. There's something in that!
I don't know how to put my appreciation for all that you have done into words. For a 17 year old who loses herself at times like me, you really are a life saver.
“You can’t be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and embarrassment to others.”
This is so liberating for perfectionists like me who want to be liked by all
I am such a perfectionist
This explains a lot.
What a great fucking interview
"You can't be an important and life-changing presence for some people without also being a joke and embarrassment to others."
Wow, keeping it real. Loved this episode so much! It's what I needed to hear and watch. Thank you, Marie and MarieTV crew! TOO good.
fuck man, that quote has just given me an epiphany
AMBER J Amen 🙏🏻
That was my favourite quote in the whole book
Love it 👍
i like this a lot! when he talks about his dream about being a rock star, then he realizes he doesn't like to do the work , thats a big one for most of us. do we really like the process of becoming what we dream of becoming, all that is involved.
and of course the part where he talks about feelings letting them just come and not giving a fuck about it not beating yourself up. thats awesome!
Jjc213 yes. Reading that in the book kinda opened my eyes and then I shortlisted what I actually wanted to do.
Hits the nail on the head
I give zero fucks to what assumptions I make about others.
i also wanted to become a rock star then realize i couldn't even remember the words of the songs i was gonna sing. i didn't wanna do the work
I want him to be my therapist really
🙁
Lol
I can be your therapist. I'm serious. Email me: shees1993@rediff.com
Emotions are to be accepted and are signals for motion and change....they motivate you!
Yes! Inspiration and information!
tf???
oh my goodness, the " if they give me any sh*t for saying f*ck, sentence"
Certainty is enemy of growth! omg, I resinated with this one so badly :D Yes, some shit you just have to get through alone or by trying. Thank you for this reminder!
TheGogilily hola mami
One thing I should definitely give more fucks about... simply put- MYSELF. I always put others first and take on their stresses and worries (it’s fine in doing so) but by doing that, I don’t focus enough attention on myself and what I want to do. So for sure, I should definitely give more fucks about myself, physically and mentally.
One thing I should give 0 fucks about- what others think of me. I live my life, subconsciously, trying to impress other people, as I’m sure a lot of us do. Whether that’s posting a photo at 18:00 on a Sunday on Instagram because I know that will get the most likes, therefore in my head I have achieved something. Whether that’s going to the gym and lifting something beyond my capability with poor form because that’s and ego lift and people will think I’m stronger than I actually am.
Long story short. I need to focus on myself first and learn to love myself first before I can love someone else :)
So happy to see Mark on my show! Loved his book, thinking of rereading it again 😝 One thing I should give more of a fuck about is nourishing the positive relationships in my life. I have so many great people in my life but I often hyper focus on the negative. One thing I should give less of a fuck about is what other people think of me, or what I ASSUME others are thinking of me. I swear it's like an automated reaction in my brain to assume x or y person is thinking horrible things about me. Thanks so much for your book Mark and thanks Marie for a great interview.
I just read it and I'm ready to read it again. I got it on audible now too so I can listen to it whenever I want. There are certain parts of the book I need to hear on certain days.
Marie asks really great questions
1. I should give more F to my value, to how I perceive myself, to who I am.
2. I should absolutely stop giving a F about what anybody could think of me.
What I've learned from this episode :
- Not giving a F means being comfortable being me.
- I should always face the hard stuff. There's a personal satisfaction solving that problem.
- We all have some hard stuff we do that we actually sadistically enjoy. Do that, that's your thing.
- Always ask yourself "why ?". What you give your intention to must be worth it.
- Be authentic.
- Haters gonna hate. There will always be people criticizing. Cope with it. When you do things is actually when people start to talk.
- Be comfortable with pain and hard stuff. Feel it. It's human. Then get over it.
- Be strong.
- Feel the fear and do it anyway.
Thanks for all this knowledge !
This is a really insightful interview! I'm about halfway through Mark's book an I'm loving it so far. I can't wait to make a video about it when I'm done.
I was always a people pleaser always trying to avoid all sorts of conflicts but Mark's book totally changed my perspective....now I don't invite conflict but don't even fear to face one when needed to. Secondly, I have accepted that problems are never ending & it's only through solving problems that real fulfillment can be felt.
Thanks a lot Mark ❣️
Marie. ...who painted that picture in the background? ?
Its called "Blowgasm" by Michael Thomas. Really love his work! so Realistic with a hint of Jackson Pollock.
Mark Manson's book ingeniously describes the fundamentals of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and nonjudgmental acceptance. So inspiring! I have been recommending it to many of my clients. Thanks Mark and Marie!
I just doen one course on mindfulness.
I want to talk to you about it.i feel ur the right person to talk so Can you please tx me on gamil .
My gmail is vikram.more7@gmail.com
It's a very good introduction to ACT you're very right.
Love it 👍
They both have Buddhist roots. Mark had Buddhist roots growing up and the fundamentals of ACT have similar mindfulness and values based philosophies
Fuck fuck fucking loved this book.....very eye opening, I have the audio version and listened to it twice in one week!! Great fucking interview. That's what I give a fuck about good helpful stuff like this. What I don't give a fuck about, bitchy people that don't do shit for them selves or even the "girlfriend" in the book that was all needy. Don't deal with those kind of people in my life, not worth the fucks!
Repeating profanity every few words doesn't earn you brownie points.
JazzyJ ..... ok ha e you read the fucking book lmao
Yes! His book was one of the best things I've ever read. Love this conversation ♥
The interviewer is so posed, classy and genteel, i wanna try it myself :p seriously, i ve always avoided my feminity and often acted 'vulgaire' on purpuse. To contradict stereotypes, i ve escaped a social mold then put myself in another mold i constructed myself.
A healthy form of N G A F is knowing how to deal with situations with emotional intelligence
Wow. This clarified so much for me about what I want to do with my life. Asking what activities I derive pleasure from the struggle is a clear starting place. Thanks for this!
More f***s about my health and happiness & much less about the things that drag me down like the people who don't believe in me!!!!!
My school work/ my life and goals. I should stop giving a f*#$ about how people see me
100%
Sometimes it is how we think what people think about us that really bother us.
It's not that you should stop giving a fuck and give up, but it's giving a fuck about what you love and enjoy and holding onto the priorities regardless of what other people think about it.
just waiting for the moment my brain understands and accepts all this.
i need to listen to and expose myself to more of these videos than wasting time on sites like tumblr that are toxic in what they say about self growth (i.e. the only way to get better is medicine and these "neurotypical" advice and self help don't work etc.)
What a genius !
He must've been through a lot.
Yeahhh... if u read the book, you'll find out the reason why he is become really great now...
I think I need to stop giving a fuck about getting things done when I'm not in the right mindset or motivation, and instead start giving a fuck about what my intuition/heart is telling me!
When I first met Mark in 2014 at a conference I had already come across his work and writing and since then he's just gone on to become better and better. Yet he's still so down to earth when we meet up around the world.
Real truth, raw and damn funny. I even asked to include a short piece from 'that' amazing article in my next book because it was so dear to my heart around freedom. Love that you had him on. He deserves to be heard (and to bring more laughs to the world)
I'm a big fan of Mark...........but i have to say the lady who interviewed him was exceptional..........nice job
"I wanted to create the most gruesome, offensive article that anyone has ever seen" - laughs in South Park. But seriously though, great direct approach to a topic everyone seems to tiptoe around.
mf insider sounds like mother fucking insider xD
Loved this episode!
this woman who does the moderation is incredible beautiful in my eyes. I think what makes her beautiful is how she connects with the guy and really cares about the answers, pays attention to him and picks up his threads of communication. On top, of course, her physical appearance is awesome.
Delicious
Why give a fuck if someone "likes" or "dislikes" you/what you do or say.? Do you like you.... it you have something to say say it! What someone else says/thinks is only their opinion/perspective at the moment..... It should be of no value to you whatsoever, you can do the "greatest" thing in the world and people will hate it (you) If your life depends on others "likes" you are in trouble, you will never feel safe! Believe me I know, I was killing myself over it for 40 years. BUT I Like ME now. :D {Nothing you hear is fact... it's opinion. Nothing you see is truth... it's perspective}
I just realized that I really don't like the struggle of being a music producer. I just want the gigs, concerts and the fame. I don't enjoy the studio, I'm really fucking stupid. my passion is Programming and Information Technology. I really fucking fix everything on computers. fuck what am I doing with my life!
EDIT: No sarcasm, I'm serious and Mark just hit me so hard.
Love him! I'm reading his book right now. :)
thanks so much!! I'm planning on it as soon as I'm done.
Holly Casto: Hello. I am planning on purchasing this book. Can you tell me your personal experience of how this book made you feel and how interesting it was, please?
Holly Casto same but i just finished at page no. 203
His words really hit home. That book is amazing!
What an amazing book! Finished it last week...you have to read this!
I just bought marks book in Canada and here it's called "The subtle art of not giving a bleep. lol Or at least at costco it's called that.
I needed this today! As an artist and business owner, I'm always trying to please everyone else. Taking care of yourself takes more work than pleasing others,. "Hope for a life of Good Problems!" I love that phrase!
I love to hear from this man,... I spent my precious 28 minutes hearing this interview.... there's a lot awesome truth of what he is sayin... I will read your book man..
I have made a 5 point rule after reading his book , hope u guys appreciate:
1. Take responsibility for your past present and future and thus dont depend unnecessarily on others and dont live in denial or play the victim card, consider pain as feedback.Remember that with great responsibility comes great strength.
2. Develop a deeper vision for seeing high values by overcoming fear of change by dropping ego/entitlement and remember that action can be motivation too (so shut up and just do it)
3. Good values make you process oriented and thus keep your feet grounded (oneness within is preserved)
4. When you one within you become committed and commitment is freedom.( As you avoid giving unworthy fucks)
5. When you are free you become part of a higher body and you live and die with fulfillment.
Great job.
Just finished reading this book. Impressed with very genuine & real life learning lessons.
Love you Marie “if anyone gives me shit about saying Fuck need to shut the fuck up.”😆😆😆
I really like his book😍😍
I from Egypt and I wanna be a writer💙
I love how we receive the messages we need to
hear exactly at the right time when we need them most. I hung on every word of
this with the intent of putting the advice into practical application for what
fits in my own life. Thanks to both of you for reminding me of what’s truly important.
It helps to hear that it’s okay to feel shitty but it’s also important to
navigate our ways out of the shittiness. I’m ready to giv’r again!...and then
fall on my ass…and then giv’r some more :).
"if they give me Sh*t about saying f*ck..."
I should give more fucks about designing my life how I see fit - no matter how much I tell myself "I can't do that".
I should less fucks about people who aren't serving any true purpose in my life.
I love his comments about looking at the root of your goal. That was a great exercise. Surprised at my findings!
By far the most life-changing book I've ever read in my life! Thank you Mak Manson!
Wow, really impressed with Marie. Outstanding interviewer.
"If you are not a fan of the "f" word I need you to just shut off this episode"... I'm listening 😆
Thank you so much for this video, it's so inspiring and motivating, I really enjoyed watching it!
I'm a fashion photographer and I've recently started my RUclips Channel dedicated to my work, fashion industry and my life as well. In fact, a huge part of my life became much more public than it was before.
And what I definitely shouldn't give a fuck about is the haters and all of the negativity that has appeared recently. I realise it, but sometimes it's quite hard to ignore although there are so many wonderful people who supports me 100% too.
So, here's the thing: instead of focusing on our goals sometimes we're starting to pay attention to all of that silly things which simply distract us from our main goals. It's sad but I believe it's also possible to "grow over it".
Thanks again for the interesting video, it made my day!
To give zero fuck about how long things are taking to do. More of a fuck about the fact I am doing something that I truly believe in and love.
Mark Manson what a LEGEND.
As for the interviewer how cliche of you but you are a women so I guess its traditional... 😂
@ty darkness777 ok😊
He really sounds like Harvey from suits 🤔
Nice conversation 👍
Good advice on how to find a balance and stay balanced in life. I like the advice of asking why. I do question the mention of money and it's relationship to anything else in this conversation about life balance. Why not collect a lot of money if you can while keeping a good life balance? If you are going to participate in the system than why not do it to a level that you are comfortable with. This conversation mentioned running with your strengths. Of course opinions are our own. But, maybe you don't want to participate in any particular social system, that should be respected too. No fucks given. Then the conversation can focus on actual life and social issues. A lot of this conversation is focused on social relationships. Mark wanted to be a rock star, traval and party, but was not fulfilled by that attention, rather he wanted to write and get his work into the social space of the group he is writing for, it's all social, he was focused on his social relationship. So I wonder if the advice and observations come from social experiences and a deep need to be socially acceptable. Mark's writing may say otherwise, by indicating that it's ok to be you and do it your own way, and that's true but that is also a very wide space, of course Mark does not say copy me but when advice is given I think people will evaluate the person giving it and wonder if they take their own advice. But even being anti social and focusing only on your self and your relationship to the non human world will have it's challenges of self actualization, there's little escaping your self in life. Acceptance of self and the things I can not change. It was mentioned that this book and writing is about finding meaning, that's an important thing. But, balance also has to be found and that balance means finding a way to live with and amoung others in your community and larger society. Of course that presumes that you want to get along with others; a different option is to not get along with others and get your way through stonewalling or rape, pillage, and plunder - historically this has been a very popular way of relating to others and has been effective, indeed war is this thing and is a multibillion dollar industry today. It's the shit sandwich I suppose, the recognition that you have to do or deal with social frustration to get what you want or need. But dose it have to be that way? I don't think so, a lot of it is dependent on the social space created at all levels. Compare the Ubuntu movement ideas to the current ideas of capitalism. Different social realities will manafest different meanings to the same events and while we are all human - culture colors our relationship to events, the meaning found in events, and our ability to find and live our meaning. At some point everyone comes to understand life and social relationships and history what you do with that understanding and if you can find meaning in it is up to you. My advice, life experience, and opinion is freely given for social awareness and hopefully benefit. Have a lovely day.
She speaks so well, I'm impressed.
This year has been a breakthrough for me - I'm finally not giving a fuck about what my family thinks of me. My whole life I've been waiting for them to understand me, accept my work, and accept who I actually am rather than who they want me to be. I realized me trying to please them was also attracting people like them into my life (more psychopaths and narcissists), Letting go of their need to love me for who I am was the biggest release of negative energy I've ever experienced. I have deeper relations with others now because of it and Im finally able to have a deep sense of happiness and well being - also i now have the strength to stop trying to please all the haters in my life. there are many who scapegoat me, but now i can finally see through it all - what a blessing. I've never heard of Mark before today, but in the interview, i agree with all he shared, as it mirrored my experience this year. Thanks Marie for always inspiring and keeping it real!
Thank you Mark Manson! Been following your blog since 2013. Much love from PH
"i can say fuck,right?" 😂
This talk / interview gave me more confidence 🥰🌱
Awesomeness. Pure awesomeness.
What I need to give more of a fuck about is definitely becoming financially independent and settled sufficient, building a great business really.
What I need to let of and not give a fuck about, is the condition of my house. I like things a certain way and I spend a lot of time in nit picky details. This time could be spent on my business.
Much love peeps!
*What are you willing to suffer for?*
Greatest life advice from this episode.
Read this book on impulse and it was so refreshing. Great interview. I appreciate how you dug a little deeper than a typical show in this type of format.
This book indeed knock some sense in me. I am a self help junkie and have surrounded myself with books about positivity. I believe a good follow up to this book would be Tom Rath’s, “How full is your bucket”.
Thanks so much for the book recommendation Aileen! We're glad this video added value to your day.
- Team Forleo
Get a life purpose and comity to it and almost nothing else will matter, but your health and money, cause it supports your life purpose. I focus on very little and 90% of my life purpose, and so I have alot of peace 😊
I love you Marie! I'm one of the many many people inspired by your program. More power! :D
Thank you kindly ✍️
So true about fear. Bravery is overcoming fear - not the absence of fear. If you do not feel fear you cannot over-come fear and in a very real sense can never be brave.
Love this perspective Paul. If we're never challenged, how do we rise and challenge ourselves for more? Thank you for watching!
- Team Forleo
I love it when the author is such a unique individual, but also when the interviewer is too!
Big thanks !!! Great listening too 🙏🌟💖
Mark Manson does look like a Panda, no wonder he chose Panda as a superhero lol
BOOM 👊🏼❤️🙏🏼
One of the best interviews, thank you Marie and Mark. Very refreshing and inspiring - it reframed my thinking about my "current problem"...now i rather think that it is "a life case", which needs to be sorted out. So - A) i have a power & B) I always can do something about it. Thanks!!!
Love him, and Marie your dress is stunning, you are gorgeous!!
Hey,Mark
Let me tell you.
You did a great job !
He doesn't give a fuck.
Love the warnings Marie! Always classy 👏😍
I should really stop caring about what people might think of me and my ideas....I have a habit of seeking validation before I do anything.... so F**** jaja
I get more from him than I thought I would
My school teacher suggested me this book to read and told give this book to other fellows .Just bought this book last week. A must read book .Oh it means after two years ago his book reached to me.
People remember u are only succesful when u do the thing u love ......u are good at....!!!! #truth
Don't love the result. Love the process
When you find your enteleche your thoughts action and deed will align and the law of attraction will work
Hello Marie and Mark,
Just watched your interview and let me say it really couldn’t have come at a better time. I’m facing quite a bit of adversity and this week has been tough as a result. It’s been tough to get out of my head about this and keep it moving and this video really helped to put it all in perspective. I just ordered marks book cause I want more. Thank you so much and have a great day.
It was wonderful to turn on RUclips and see Mark’s face. I began following him back in 2012 when I first began my company. Now to hear and see him. Good to know perseverance and truth still works. Great interview.
I was really really in the pain before I started to read this book. I've got some guts that I can handle all the difficulties and problems around me by reading his book. Cheers! And thanks Marie, your interview with him is awesome, and I can feel how much you actually like his book and you asked interesting questions that the readers might want to question him. It was very meaningful 30 minutes watching this video.