Why I don't want a "comfortable" life

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  • Опубликовано: 5 янв 2025

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  • @beatscatmommy1735
    @beatscatmommy1735 10 месяцев назад +26

    I used to get hair extensions, acrylic nails and lash extensions and straighten my hair w keratin! It took a LOT of effort to maintain this Look until I traveled to Europe and realized wow I was living in a bubble in Beverly hills!
    I came back and took off my nails, lashes and hair extensions...I started appreciating myself the way I was and am. I don't need ALL what the media and Social media was telling me I needed din order to look beautiful.
    Now I save time money and have learnt to love ME!

  • @WarriorByNature
    @WarriorByNature Год назад +286

    Sophie, I'm so grateful for you. I'm an African American woman on a self identification journey, and your content creates a safe place of knowledge. I'm an Army Combat medic dealing with trauma from war, your content makes me safe. I am a 2x stroke survivor, your content gives me hope for my future. Keep shining your light❤Keep going ❤Thank you. F. Powell

    • @mastandstars
      @mastandstars Год назад +5

      I think her content is just beautiful. Recently I read a book titled The Nature Fix and there was a chapter in there regarding women dealing with trauma from their service.

    • @sha9181
      @sha9181 Год назад +11

      ohh my goodness gladd you found a space to feel safe. I hear the struggles you been through and so proud of how far you have come! Always make sure to take care!

    • @anneonorton
      @anneonorton Год назад +9

      I hope you heal sis, you’re a warrior! May God bless you ❤

    • @Starrynights10101
      @Starrynights10101 Год назад +9

      I am not American, i am African. But I want to say thank you for your service. As an African I truly appreciate my African-American sisters (and brothers too) as your stories are one of overcoming systemic challenges which is similar to our stories as Africans. All those people in your life are truly blessed to have been in your presence. You did all the work to heal others, you now deserve to heal yourself or reach out to others to help heal you. I’m sending you so much light.

    • @beautywithinsherry7141
      @beautywithinsherry7141 Год назад +4

      I wish you peace and health and happiness on your journey.

  • @acrobaticanna
    @acrobaticanna 9 месяцев назад +4

    Definitely find joy in the mundane! My Mom says “..find joy in every interaction with every person you come in contact with during each day!”

  • @FatemeLife
    @FatemeLife Год назад +121

    It is not that we have a “short time“ to live,
    but that we “waste“ much of it. ❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад +10

      Yess! Such an important reminder

    • @Iksvomid
      @Iksvomid 11 месяцев назад

      Life feels never ending.

    • @Odette-n1m
      @Odette-n1m 10 месяцев назад +1

      Life feel complete but it wasted if you unhappy, like me, i spend numerous time thinking whether i like it or not if i join activities forcibly, but instead i cooperate with it trying to not spoil the mood with everything i gain.

  • @Gwynnie_B
    @Gwynnie_B Год назад +55

    “We didn’t always have the means to get everything we wanted but we always had enough for everything we needed. This is what I considered comfort.” That really resonated with me. Thank you Sophie for your video they are always so thoughtful and thought provoking I often write down quotes or save them to rewatch. Thank you.

  • @exploringmindfully
    @exploringmindfully 11 месяцев назад +9

    A quote that resonated with me so strongly from this video is "It's not just about the end goal, but who we become." I feel that it's so often forgotten especially this time of year, when we are reminded of the need for new goals in the new year. And yet, by the end of the year, we are not solely thinking about what we've checked off but how we feel because we've done those things, and whether our daily habits reflect the changes in our routine. Your words are a warm reminder that reflection while still actively pursuing a goal only serves to enhance the journey in reaching that achievement. Thank you for another thought-provoking video Sophie 💓

  • @anneonorton
    @anneonorton Год назад +19

    I grow up in Brazil and had a very neglected childhood, when I moved to the US at 19 I had a completely different life, I got so much there and started to consume a lot. A year ago my husband and I decided to move to Italy and life is very different here, we’re not even allow to buy much from the supermarket it is mostly what we need. It’s being a life lesson, to realize that sometimes the emptiness inside of us tell us that we need to be surrounded by people and have a lot.

    • @Prizzy999
      @Prizzy999 11 месяцев назад +1

      I'm italian and I say welcome to my country, I hope you're living your best life here 😊 yeah life in Italy is very different from the US and Brazil, but italian people are addicted to compulsive shopping too unfortunately, although things have started to change since the pandemic. Our economy isn't great at the moment and wages are among the lowest in Europe so we can't spend too much as in the past. But I think it's actually a good thing, we all should start spending only for what it's really necessary and not just to fill the voids.
      Ciao a presto 😊

  • @agnieszkam8594
    @agnieszkam8594 Год назад +16

    I think balance is the right word - not too much 'stuff' but we shouldn't deprive ourselves of anything either 🤗

  • @crystalhopper1
    @crystalhopper1 11 месяцев назад +14

    This is a phenomenal video. It has such an important message that I think a lot of people could benefit to hear. I really do wonder how much this excess of comfort contributes to so many of us feeling depressed and purposeless. There's truly nothing like the feeling of accomplishing something challenging or pushing yourself to see what you're made of

  • @lisas2359
    @lisas2359 Год назад +7

    Your last point really resonated with me. It's so true that good things require effort. When things are too easy and I suddenly have days filled with free time, I tend not to spend them in ways that enrich my life or make me feel fulfilled. Conversely, when I spend my days slowly and lovingly working away to serve my family and striving towards my goals, I feel a sense of accomplishment and meaning that even the most relaxing days can't beat.

  • @leah.waghorn
    @leah.waghorn Год назад +11

    Totally relate when you spoke of reaching for the phone when one has an immediate question or interest. There is immediate gratification and comfort everywhere in the first world. I enjoyed this video 💛

  • @boonchengyu8506
    @boonchengyu8506 Год назад +3

    I think our definition of comfort will keep evolving as we age and enter new phases of our lives. The key is to learn to change, adapt to and live with whatever planned or unexpected situation that comes along.

  • @felicefinesse7621
    @felicefinesse7621 11 месяцев назад +1

    Living a more intentional lifestyle is really the objective. You have the right to rewrite your story and even determine this is not how my story will end.

  • @ILikeBigCatsAndICannotLie
    @ILikeBigCatsAndICannotLie Год назад +9

    I grew up in an environment where discomfort was expected and was perhaps considered a virtue. I think this is where things are taken to the extreme for example where you don’t have clean clothes or adequate feminine protection not due to lack of resources but just trying to make it with as little as possible because it was somehow “virtuous.” I can’t began to understand why things were like that but I think that’s why comfort has a different meaning to me.

  • @juliaodonovan
    @juliaodonovan Год назад +6

    I added that book to my Barnes & Noble wishlist! This video made me think of one of my favorite terms, sisu. It's a Finnish word that can be translated many ways, but the way I often think of it is "resilience". We can all cultivate our own sisu 💚

  • @poppycalliope
    @poppycalliope Год назад +9

    Sophie you are a breath of fresh air. So grateful for your content and everything you do ✨️💌

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад

      Aw thank you so much 😍❤️

  • @tiffanycraig8353
    @tiffanycraig8353 Год назад +42

    I just finished the book this week and I’ve got to say that this video really resonated what I read and what a great way to start the new year 2024. Thank you.

  • @cuet3
    @cuet3 Год назад +1

    My life has changed since that i'm addict to get over my comfort zone, addict to feeling that came to me after this, feeling of growth. This make me feel alive.

  • @garydomingo3363
    @garydomingo3363 11 месяцев назад +1

    Yes, you are right, we need balance, too much comfort is not good, but too much discomfort is not good either. The most important things is being grateful of the most basic things in life. We should be thankful to God just breathing and able to sleep good and being able to move and have our being. Being grateful, being purposeful and being generous of what we have and just enjoy what we have and all that God has given us.

  • @marieobligacion8226
    @marieobligacion8226 Год назад +4

    Love this so much! This is so important to reflect on our lives of constant comfort, and instant gratification. There is so much value in doing things on our own, if it's realistic for you and your lifestyle. Our lives are so automated, from the dishes to our foods (delivery). Although, there is nothing wrong with that, I wonder what could we be missing out on if we spent a little bit more time doing things that requires effort, rather convenience. For example, walking to the grocery to instead of driving, or maybe cooking more often with our loved ones than just doing take-away food. Yes! I love how the book you mentioned acknowledges the implications that comfort has on our well-being and mental health. Thank you for adding so much value and wisdom on RUclips!

  • @Realmikesambo
    @Realmikesambo Год назад +3

    Love love your topic of this video chat. You have a calm and shows with your lovely natural body and long hair. I feel the goals in life are what you listed and also to remove toxicity. Peace and love to you.

  • @WarriorGoddessSubliminals
    @WarriorGoddessSubliminals Год назад +7

    Thank you Sophie, so inspiring. I play your videos repeatedly to keep me company when I’m home ❤🇦🇺

  • @ivory-mist
    @ivory-mist Год назад +44

    I love how articulate and soothing your videos are, I always learn something new ❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад +1

      So happy to hear that 🫶

  • @Svenja_Schaefer
    @Svenja_Schaefer 6 месяцев назад

    I like this idea of a not so comfortable lifestyle. Some months ago I watched the blue zones docu on Netflix and it really inspired me in several ways. One of it is to question the longterm benefit of comfort.

  • @judipryde9043
    @judipryde9043 11 месяцев назад +2

    New subscriber here! I love your channel and your message. I am retiring at age 56 in May and want nothing more than to clean out my house of what I've been neglecting for so long. Stuff that has piled up in the hopes that one day I'll use it "when I have more time". Life is too short to continually trip over the clutter of the past. Literally and figuratively! ❤

  • @robertashaffer3950
    @robertashaffer3950 Год назад +2

    Thank you Sophie. I always take away numerous things from your videos. All of them to better myself and my life. I am grateful to you, 🙏

  • @AcidGlow
    @AcidGlow 11 месяцев назад +1

    I read that in Japanese, Misogi is related to "purification". So I can see how this can be used in cleansing your life from stress, new changes, starting over etc. Interesting.

  • @Mar-ME-s3h
    @Mar-ME-s3h Год назад +5

    Your videos are a dose of calm mixed with inspiration & food for thought. Thank you 🌸🌞

  • @OTDMike67
    @OTDMike67 11 месяцев назад

    Your wisdom, and your calm spirit and voice bring me great joy. Thank you. Thru what you say, I am learning to let go of things and materialism, and to hold on to my relationships

  • @nataliastimamiglio8411
    @nataliastimamiglio8411 Год назад +1

    Sophie, I'm genuinely grateful for the content you generate. Thank you for the positive impact!

  • @sheenalee7602
    @sheenalee7602 11 месяцев назад

    I first discovered your channel last year when I was on maternity leave with my first child. I have been hooked ever since. Your videos are so calming and peaceful and they help me relax and also learn about achieving peace and balance in my life. I, too, also have a problem with Googling everything that pops into my mind. This year I'm trying to cut back on distraction and work on focusing and staying in the present moment.

  • @margarettownsley9500
    @margarettownsley9500 Год назад +1

    Thank you Sophie for your quality videos I’m going to watch it again as I’m so distracted at the minute my mind keeps running away to circumstances around me over the last 3 weeks I wish I could get consistent peace so I could live in the present moment

  • @familytorres1473
    @familytorres1473 11 месяцев назад

    Nice Point of wiew of you Malama, sometimes our lifes are going so faster, we usually we dont have time to stop and Watch what is happening around us

  • @rexwine
    @rexwine Год назад +1

    I listened carefully to your video. I'm no one special. Just interested. Sometimes people don't realize how little they have to do to accomplish things. The joy is seeing how you got somewhere in the end without figuring out all the methods. You are young enough to reap maximum benefits.

  • @DeJuanEvans-s6j
    @DeJuanEvans-s6j 11 месяцев назад

    I DESERVE and will bring forth a comfortable LIFE for myself

  • @KIM69064
    @KIM69064 11 месяцев назад

    Finally, I found someone who can relate to me. Thank you Sophie for making this video.

  • @jumalo79
    @jumalo79 Год назад +6

    I really apreciate this content... Simple words but thought-provoking. Thanks ❤

  • @tanyalazurka
    @tanyalazurka Год назад +2

    Thank you! Your video made me tear up and brought new wave of inspiration.

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад

      🥹❤️ aww thank you. Happy to hear that!

  • @minnafrancis6347
    @minnafrancis6347 11 месяцев назад +2

    Hi Sophie, would you be able to do a healthy eating /living video? Slow Eating mindsets.
    I admire you a lot and I watch your videos as a reference to live slowly & Mindfully..xx

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  11 месяцев назад

      Thank you so much for suggesting!

  • @amw3952
    @amw3952 11 месяцев назад +1

    You have such a beautiful calm soul and I really appreciate your content:)

  • @Sahana1991
    @Sahana1991 Год назад +3

    What an awesome topic, I am taking misogi with me..❤Lovely narration Sophie

  • @Klara_is_finding_herself
    @Klara_is_finding_herself Год назад +15

    Such an inspirational video for the beginning of 2024 🩵 Happy New Year, Sophie 🎉 ✨️ 🎊

  • @vindolanda6974
    @vindolanda6974 11 месяцев назад

    Of course we should include some physical discomfort in our life and things to take us out of our material comfort. But I would challenge a bit. I think that the term 'comfortable life' for most people means a life largely free from stress: work stress and money stress. And your videos are the very epitome of that comfortable life. I started watching you when I was going out of my mind with work stress and long hours and dreaming of a quiet and slower life. The freedom and time to relax, to think, to take a hike on a mountain, to sit on a beach, are a comfortable life I would love to have.

  • @pythonpeng7018
    @pythonpeng7018 11 месяцев назад

    I can't believe that so many people like this video. I have no idea of how I get comfortable to watch this., except when I am lonely and get bored.

  • @sandys6379
    @sandys6379 Год назад +2

    Hiking is just the best!

  • @juliettedeville
    @juliettedeville 11 месяцев назад

    Loved this particular video and the message it carried among all your very good, very thought-provoking content ^^ Keep going Sophie !

  • @renierovinitha1286
    @renierovinitha1286 Год назад +8

    Love you so much for the content you create ❤

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад +1

      Thank you for watching 😍❤️

  • @lovelifementoring5399
    @lovelifementoring5399 Год назад +2

    Always so much simplicity ❤ thank you

  • @lilianokereke6244
    @lilianokereke6244 11 месяцев назад +2

    Thank you for the video...

  • @ritchiewong16
    @ritchiewong16 Год назад +6

    Aloha Sophie 👋,
    I hope things have been off to a great start for you this year.
    As much as it’s nice to live a comfortable life, what I think is most important is the awareness that there’s a difference between appreciating the life you get to live and getting too comfortable to a point where you end up taking life for granted.
    Mahalo for the video, and sending you lots of love!!! ❤️❤️❤️🤗

  • @hyehan1296
    @hyehan1296 Год назад +1

    소피씨 오늘비디오도멋진내용잘봤어요 돈이다해결하면 행복할거란생각으로앞만보고달려왔지만 정신적인 나의주관과 생활철학이없으면 어떤것도 끝까지 만족을 주기 어려운거 잘알고 있는데 다시한번 나를 돌아보는 힐링시간 고마워요

  • @marleneschick4768
    @marleneschick4768 11 месяцев назад +1

    so nice to meet you in person at Cafe Kopi! Congratulations again, on an excellent "channel."

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  11 месяцев назад

      It was so nice to meet you Marlene. Thank you for saying hi and thank you for your kind words :) I hope to see you around!

  • @analisamendmentblog
    @analisamendmentblog Год назад +1

    It sounds like a really interesting book. Thanks for the recommendation. I'm adding it to my ever growing list of books to read!

  • @rosedoenz5721
    @rosedoenz5721 11 месяцев назад

    Another wonderful video! Thank you Sophie for sharing this and for all your inspirational ideas! 🩷😘

  • @sangitashots6384
    @sangitashots6384 Год назад +5

    I was waiting for your video 😭 thank you. Love from India ❤

  • @blushwaves13
    @blushwaves13 Год назад +1

    Hey Sophie! Good to see you!!

  • @julie-zmb
    @julie-zmb 3 месяца назад

    I love that star on top of the tree 😂❤

  • @s.sflower
    @s.sflower Год назад +2

    Can you pls do a book recommendation video?😊❤

  • @mastandstars
    @mastandstars Год назад

    Excellent video Sophie. I really enjoyed The Comfort Crisis and have his new book on my tbr ❤️

  • @18thdandelion
    @18thdandelion Год назад +1

    For someone who is always seeking comfort, I think 'misogi' is something that spoke to me. Perhaps this year I need to put in more effort to 'deliberately seek discomfort' to grow. Thank you for this beautiful sharing.

  • @TheMennomilist
    @TheMennomilist Год назад

    I have not heard of the Comfort Crisis but it sounds neat. I love that life is our gym hehe. It is very cold where I live and I don't handle the outdoors too well because my ears are very sensitive due to former partial deafness (even with things on my ears if wind gets to them). I can't wait to be outside more in the warmer weather and to get in shape again (since pregnancy/postpartum got me out of the lovely shape I was).

  • @annetteaughney9182
    @annetteaughney9182 Год назад +1

    I absolutely love your videos!! Just recently found you. You are doing a great job❤😊

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад

      Thank you so much! That means a lot

  • @WisdomClarity
    @WisdomClarity Год назад +3

    People should want a comfortable life. Just not the American dream life of over excess.

  • @kromatic3610
    @kromatic3610 Год назад

    such a thoughtful video. I really want to read this book!

  • @bernadettemary2135
    @bernadettemary2135 Год назад +1

    great video. in christianity a period where we may give up comfort every year is during lent. for example through fasting or giving up something that indulges us (like social media or shopping).

  • @Kellykerk_
    @Kellykerk_ Год назад

    Read this book too & definitely enjoyed it! I love you videos so much wish there were more

  • @ChiChikepe
    @ChiChikepe 11 месяцев назад +1

    Soothing voice

  • @DC-fw7ie
    @DC-fw7ie 11 месяцев назад +1

    You would enjoy “Digital Minimalism”. Great book 👌🏽

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  11 месяцев назад

      Yes! I really enjoyed it ☺️

  • @canopus0898
    @canopus0898 Год назад

    Such a beautiful vid you've done, as always.
    Very, very glad for understanding every time more your videos you release.
    Thank you a lot for my long way to the top to learning English, and very, very awesome you are still learning Portuguese and that you like hiking like me.
    And Happy belated New Year also!!! Hahaha...
    See you later, Sophie!!!

  • @caitlinryder898
    @caitlinryder898 Год назад

    I'm going to have to read this book! Appreciate the recommendation

  • @tiffanycraig8353
    @tiffanycraig8353 Год назад +1

    Also, can’t help to notice, but I am loving your new hairstyle

  • @zunairbirds3984
    @zunairbirds3984 11 месяцев назад

    Beautiful sharing ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sanjayprakash471
    @sanjayprakash471 Год назад

    Lovely video and very helpful like all of your videos. Thanks for sharing. I will look into the book

  • @booknerd4317
    @booknerd4317 11 месяцев назад

    I was working hourly at a remote job and thinking this will work….I’ll go under my fiancés health insurance when we get married. And have more time to enjoy nature and animals. I felt like I was settling and could do so much more with my brain. And then took a full time job making more money than him and turns out I’m much happier with focus, projects and the fast pace world of corporate life… I luckily still get to work from home 4 out of the 5 days. I don’t feel so lost. I don’t buy things and am saving for a house in a beautiful area. I like the simple life and enjoy nature but still need health insurance and a full time job for my mental health. Along with working 50 hours a week I actively read books and have 3 dogs and take care of my bed ridden mother.

  • @ron1195
    @ron1195 Год назад +1

    I really motivated watching always all your videos. Happy Happy New year. Filipina here in Spain☺️

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад

      Aw thank you! Happy new year ❤️

  • @kusumchettrie
    @kusumchettrie Год назад

    You're an inspiration😍🧿
    Love from Sikkim❤

  • @binghoh5285
    @binghoh5285 11 месяцев назад

    Wonderful life observations. Hope to meet you in person if you are ever in Kuala Lumpur 😊

  • @tomlambert915
    @tomlambert915 11 месяцев назад

    "doing the dishes manually" made me laugh. my mother used to tell everyone she had a dishwasher. it was my dad.🤣

  • @mackenziebecker8393
    @mackenziebecker8393 Год назад +2

    My favorite days include you 🤗

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад

      Awww ❤️😍 that's so sweet

  • @ivyWulfCarnivore
    @ivyWulfCarnivore Год назад

    You are such a wonderful person ❤

  • @beatscatmommy1735
    @beatscatmommy1735 10 месяцев назад

    Have to mention AG1. It has lots of Oxalates and it can increase chances of kidney stones and per my doctor orders I can't take it. It affects my kidneys.

  • @gastronomee_
    @gastronomee_ 11 месяцев назад

    fellow young creator here, thinking and reflecting on the same things you touched on. go you! rooting for you.
    for anyone reading this - i share recipes and relevations as a young person in their 20s navigating this sometimes stupid, sometimes wonderful thing called life. if you're seeing this, i think it's for a reason. hope to see you around.

  • @ajohonly3721
    @ajohonly3721 11 месяцев назад

    Amazing tips 🙏

  • @OrientalExotics
    @OrientalExotics Год назад +1

    Soft sand between toes are one of the most relaxing feelings. 🙏✨️💯🏝

  • @pinkypanchal3439
    @pinkypanchal3439 11 месяцев назад

    Such a wonderful content

  • @esraaalnatsheh9350
    @esraaalnatsheh9350 11 месяцев назад

    Nice video, thank you ❤

  • @chrisoulalakkas7935
    @chrisoulalakkas7935 Год назад +2

    Never forget that money is infinite, but your time is finite.

  • @vylam3997
    @vylam3997 11 месяцев назад +1

    You have such beautiful hair

  • @adamnaughty
    @adamnaughty Год назад +1

    I just got that book

    • @MalamaLife
      @MalamaLife  Год назад

      Interesting read. Hope you like it too

  • @Aplaceformermaids
    @Aplaceformermaids Год назад

    So many great messages!

  • @vitran4141
    @vitran4141 10 месяцев назад +2

    If her examples is uncomfortable… then I really don’t know what comfort is. Her whole life is more comfortable than 80% of normal people. Who sits at home in some tropical area and makes RUclips video for a living.

  • @dcktater7847
    @dcktater7847 Год назад +1

    Controlled discomfort may be good. Discomfort from must? It sux AF.

  • @ievadubura2102
    @ievadubura2102 Год назад +1

    Thank You for video! For me misogi is challenge:))

  • @yoondao8474
    @yoondao8474 10 месяцев назад

    loveee ❤️❤️❤️

  • @alittleheavenonearth
    @alittleheavenonearth 11 месяцев назад

    We can have all the comfort , money , you name it. But there will always be an emptiness in our lives if God isn’t part of it. He can never be replaced with anything ❤

  • @truly-alive
    @truly-alive 11 месяцев назад +1

    actually ,you means comfortable is not real comfortable .just a easy way to live ...to pass time

  • @nisha_esha_2010
    @nisha_esha_2010 Год назад +1

    Nice video ❤

  • @borjanalubura-winchester2670
    @borjanalubura-winchester2670 10 месяцев назад

    I wonder what camera do you use to film your videos? Thank you:)

  • @apryl_dy
    @apryl_dy Год назад

    I'm not the only one.

  • @narutosd8178
    @narutosd8178 11 месяцев назад

    Love it