Why We Sulk and How Not To
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- Опубликовано: 20 сен 2024
- We get into sulks for reasons we should strive to understand and - gently - correct.
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“Sulking is a highly distinctive phenomenon within the psychology of love. Crucially, we don’t just sulk with anyone. We reserve our sulks for people we believe should understand us but happen on a given occasion not to. We could explain what is wrong to them of course, but if we did so, it would mean that they had failed to understand us intuitively and therefore, that they were not worthy of love. A sulk is one of the odder gifts of love…”
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*walks away sulking because of something said in this video*
knerf999 the question in do you believe school of life?
Hey. What's wrong? Come on, tell me.
it's nothing :(
hahahaha hilarious
knerf999
People sulk because they are required to whiff someone else’s smelly farts
And their own. People go out to eat and they think they can eat whatever
They want. Then they go over to someone’s house and let out smelly farts.
When they do, I let out a fresh batch of smelly farts but do not inhale.
I swear, School of life fixes more relationships than therapy and it's free on the internet... Who would have thought how much of an impact a youtube channel could have on all of our lives here.
Natalie Haddad +
Natalie Haddad Very true
that's so true
and not only relationship problems
Natalie Haddad
Hello, Natalie. I concur with your assessment. By any chance, would you happen to be related to Ari-Ben Haddad de Castillo?
I first read this as why we suck and how not to
Me too. Tiny type makes for some hilarious misunderstandings. Also, Why We Suck is apropos for this video.
Srushti patil what happened to you is perhaps a Freudian slip
+sudhirps
You had to edit your comment. Welcome to sucksville.
Yeah, I know. We forgot to capitalize the name on the sign.
hahaha
I can clearly see the next Video School of Life Video:
''why we suck and how not to''
MinionNoMore
This works very well with friendships too
Friendships are relationships too! :P :)
School of Life. Please, for the love of God, make a video on loneliness and how to deal with it. For a person who enjoys social company, it is quite unbearable for me to be not around people I can talk to or have a laugh with or share a few drinks with.
Fd as Some people are very extroverted the draw energy from people, social situations and active settings. I'm the exact opposite but I respect the nature of those that are, its totally natural. I would suggest learning to have fun alone and be comfortable with being alone at times, its possible, just work at it.
Get out there, and start doing things solo. Learn to enjoy your own company. It takes time, but worth it. There are plenty of times I go to bar/restaurants solo, and then spark up conversations with the bartenders/other patrons. People are drawn to other people who are comfortable with themselves :)
Being extroverted and alienated is so damn boring
I am both introverted and extroverted but
ive been isolated from friends and family due to my circumstances.
I do love my precious alone time
to amplify my inner world, but it gets lonely after a while, i start to get a little stressed out that im not out there being the life of the party and talking to hot chicks etc
Fd as I'm the opposite of you
Read this at first as "Why we Shulk..." I was really feeling it..
Tony Taco It's not time yet.
Oh those Monado boys...
I'm immensely happy I found your channel. I've had relationships where I'm mostly left to figure out the other's thoughts and feelings when I usually dont know how to or even when. I always explain my side of the story everytime but all I get back is a "you should have picked it up when I..." etc. I get so frustrated and feel obtuse as a human being because of this but after I went through this channel I found out it is not abnormal to be like how I am....that I am not a romantic but a classic. And this case makes me feel a little better about myself so...thank you.
I also tried really hard to figure out why people were sulking and it always made me feel like a brute when I couldn't. One day I decided to stop trying and ignore the sulking until they decide to talk about it. While that worked sometimes, in some unfortunate cases it led to loosing some dear friends, so it's not a good strategy.
The School Of Life, a video about how to react to sulking would be of tremendous help.
bere georgiana just share the video with them :)
I relate to this video an insane amount, mostly due to how I was raised. My parents were constantly trying to pretend as though nothing was wrong and, when pushed, ended up passive-aggressively sniping at each other and getting into full-blown rows, often about topics that had nothing to do with the thing that upset them in the first place. On the plus side this has given me a deep appreciation for the value of talking things through, although on the minus side it has also made me far more likely to dislike someone if they take the 'you should be able to read my mind and tell me what's wrong' approach - I equate that with mindgames and manipulation and thus tend to steer clear of such people.
Yup
The best way to fix something is just talking
Got me out of so many issues, not even about love
Uh. The reason my husband and I understand each other better than other people is _because_ we've talked at length about the topics that are important to us and because we have spent so much time together that we've seen each other's experiences and the reactions we have towards them. We know how the other will react to something because we've seen similar reactions before. But as with everything, I'm always still learning.
i remember this thought from one of Alain's lectures and i loved it. while i was watching this video i realised that i understood what he said then, i fully agree with it, yet somehow i forgot to apply it.
i'd think 'yeah, naturally you should talk instead of just remaining silent, duh' when it struck me that i still do it quite often with my beloved.
thank you, my dears, forthe amazing content that keeps us thinking.
you're doing a public service with these videos
I find a lot of times when you try to explain why you're feeling sullen, it can end up being used against you. Instead of it being about understanding feelings, its about getting the upper leg.
thats why taking some time, space and a break is necessary. Which sometimes gets confused with sulking
This. 5 years too late. I don't feel like it's EVER about understanding. It is always about leverage. For me.
i like how you can make a profound discussion about seemingly common sense questions XD
maattthhhh His voice is so good he could have a video of him just reading "one fish two fish red fish blue fish" and you'd think you just heard some high work of literature.
Watch their video on dick pics. It's mind-blowing.
Thats the definition of philosophy
This was my favorite one. Admittedly, I was raised by someone who truly felt that I should be able to read their mind and it would piss me off. And now I do it to my partner. I sometimes don't realize that I haven't actually communicated how I felt, and maybe it is because a part of me is so used to be unheard or ignored that I simply revert to having internalized dialogue instead of just telling my partner what I want. A relationship can be a challenge to working on those issues. I just hope my partner doesn't give up on me. I know I can be a big pain in the tuckus bc I am complicated.
As Dan Savage would say, "Use your words." Some of the best, most-obvious advice really.
This animation is heart wrenching
This is so true and wise, thank you! And the next step would be to accept that even if you explain yourself in the kindest and clearest imaginable way, it is still possible that you won't be understood at all. That's why I love the dark comedy " After Hours" by Martin Scorsese! That poor guy who is trying to explain to everyone on his way what his simple problem is: He just wants to get home! And NOBODY understands him. But all those folks who don't " get it" are very lovable people too. They are just all locked up in their own world.... I mean the way we all are somehow. I don't want to give away the end of the movie, but you will see that the fact that he never gave up his hopes on communication will certainly get him to some place:-)
Well said, maybe the realization and acceptance that we might never understood each other is a form of understanding in itself, a part of intersubjectivity. Haven't seen After Hours yet, will check it out.
Oh please do watch that movie. It is excellent. You will laugh a lot! Have a nice weekend:-)
First, the video depicted incredibly well a pattern that always come back in my relationship. And then your comment just blew me away by being so accurate on my position in this relationship!! Accepting it is definitely the hardest part. I value communication so much and it's so hard to accept that, sometimes, it just doesn’t work. But I still believe that it's worth giving it a try. Oh and After Hours has been on my watch list for a while, your just made me really hyped about watching it! Thank you so much for writing this comment.
@@louisrobert6311 Hello Loius! Very sorry for my incredibly late reply! 2 years to be precise! But notifications of youtube often don't work and I have seen it just now, as I came back to this video. Thanks a lot for your very kind message. I wish you all the very best for 2022. Much love to you and yours.
I share so many of these videos. Possibly the best on youtube.
When you fail to meet that persons expectation of you, then goes on to berate you. Meanwhile you have no clue what you did to them. The berating is their way of explaining.
I've watched a lot of school of life videos and this one really hits the nail on the head
Absolutely on point. I always have this issue with the vibes i get from ppl not matching what they’re saying. After some time, they may then speak their truth. But I realize many people don’t really know how to speak their minds and if you’re a few steps ahead in your articulating capabilities, shower them with love and a lot of patience and don’t give up on them. You’ll get your answers eventually. People tend to hesitate to speak their minds freely because we live in a bloody judgmental world don’t we?
This applies to all sorts of relationships. Communication is key. People that you feel get you are just really observant and listen and ask questions.
You can sulk without having a relationship, I think you missed a big part in your video
a "relationship" is not exclusive to a lover; it can be with friends or family too. the underlying idea is that we don't feel we need to justify our emotions or reactions, but still deserve comfort from the people who are supposed to be there for us
TheDeliman you can use this in friendships too. If you take what he is saying and put it in another situation it still works
I’m sulking to society hahaha
this is genuinely eye-opening, something i didnt even realise i was doing, something that has been causing many issues with my friends and family, i didnt even know the true definition of sulking, now i do and i can begin working on it, thank you
This has really made me think about my own actions, thank you. 👍🏻❤️
I used to unconsciously expect that my lovers would fulfill what I had missed all my life. It took me many years to acknowledge this state of mind. After that acknowledgement, I realized how unfair I had been and since then my life is gradually changing for the better...
sulking is a natural reaction to inner thoughts and doubts that may surface when you or your partner feels a sense of insecurity or unbalance. The only reason we create the expectation of "our lovers reading our minds" is because of the level of trust and security we have developed towards them, not just simple because we believe they should be able to. it's like when we believe our parents know everything about us and know when something is wrong, it's just the initial thought that if they're as close to us as we think they are they should know how I'm feeling. Not saying sulking is the answer because it impairs our ability to communicate with our partners tremendously but, you shouldn't scold someone or make them feel like they're crazy for thinking that way. love these videos, they've definitely helped me self reflect on my own actions and reactions to different situations
"Marriage is the only adventure open to the cowardly." Voltaire
If only more marriages/relationships had brave people in them, their wouldn't be so much conflict. When we gain courage we go after what we want, we aren't afraid to ask for what we want from others. Too bad ordinary life doesn't allow us to gain courage. Being controlled by school/parents till we're at least 18, then off to college, then marriage/kids. Not much room there to spend some time alone, to take risks, to learn to trust ourselves before entering relationships.
Natalie Valle, you made a good point, if we only had the courage to boldly ask for what we need or want in a relationship we could skip a lot of sulking and long distance in relationships. Of course some never have the courage, they just go from person to person thinking they have not met the one yet that truly understands and accepts them. It's sad.
Rosemary Alexander Yes, lack of awareness. Understanding and awareness so key in life. We don't pause after a failed relationship and try to understand what went wrong, and why it did. A lot of blaming the other person, and moving on to the next. I lived like that from age 18-32, I noticed a pattern of neglectful/abusive/emotionally unavailable men, so then I completely stopped dating, and started focusing on fixing myself :)
***** Courage isn't always needed to get what you want. It takes courage also to ask your partner if something's bothering them, and to initiate a serious conversation with your partner to deepen understanding/intimacy. Compassion definitely, but courage is important too.
"Courage and compassion are two sides of the same coin. Compassion without courage is not genuine. You could have a compassionate thought or impulse, but if you don't do or say anything, its not real compassion." Daisaku
+Sherman Herritt Oh ok, well thanks for the info. And I wish you the best on your relationships(current/future) :)
Don't be so hard on yourself. Most of us are settling in at least one area of our lives. Every good/bad situation molds us into the person we are/going to be.
This is bittersweet because it helps me to cope with never being in a relationship, but explains within the context of a relationship
I feel that I'm sulking with all the world. There's nothing in this world, and even being understood means nothing when the problem can't be fixed. I haven't gone outside since I got home on Friday; called out today. Nothing's wrong has to be my answer, when really everything seems to be shit. It would hurt my parents too much if something happened to me, but it's infuriating sometimes that they're so young. I long for sweet release, but I can't go before they do. I'm not quite selfish enough...or maybe I just haven't the balls to go through with it.
2:55. "Those charming, early, lucky guesses about what our lovers feel shouldn't fool us for too long..." Words to build a relationship by..
That is one of the biggest reasons why lots of relationships fail even that both partners love each other. Honesty and speaking out our fears, problems, our expectations and everything is something very important in a relationship. That's why I believe I have a strong relationship, because me and my girlfriend understand very well that a relationship is not '' a soul mates beautiful story '', a relationship is something that, if we really care about, must be taken care of very carefully, and rationally..
communication is solution of most of the worldly and human problems. Dropping prejudice, assumptions and egos makes more receptive and understanding.
This gave me some much needed perspective about some difficulties in my last relationship, thank you for this! :)
I learned to sulk as a child. My parents were totally indifferent to my needs and I, as a child, did not have the ability to explain what I needed.
Now I am married to a person, who really does not care about anybody, as long as he is number one.
Try to explain to someone, who lives in his ego bottle, that I too occasionally need sympathy, that I too have moments where I need a friend or a soft loving word, is difficult.
Talking to a wall brings up all those sulking habits I thought I had left behind.
Yes, expecting mind reading is poison in a relationship but so is a refusal to really listen .
What is a successful relationship?
THIS HAS TO BE ONE OF THE BEST RUclips CHANNELS OUT THERE, AMAZING, THANK YOU!
In other words: good, cognizant communication between partners is vital to the longevity of the relationship.
I always wondered where the arrogance to think that the world should be able to read one's mind came from.
Raskolnikov Wouldn't you like to be fully understood without struggling to make the other person follow your chain thoughts?
Yeah, and I'd like a wad of cash every time I finish a meal. Getting mad at the person providing said meal for not presenting the money, however, would be ridiculous.
Raskolnikov 😂😂😂😂👏
Disney !
I think sometimes people gets their hopes high...
When a lover on early stages seemingly know what I want...and do those things without the need of telling them.....now that's a heavenly feeling
The feeling that someone do things for you..know you...understand you is beautiful
You guys have rescued us from movie nonsense
It's also synonymously referred to in the field of relational psychology as "stonewalling." John Gottman Speaks well to this.
"We get into sulks for reasons we should strive to understand and - gently - correct"
The most dangerous idea present is that entirely natural human behavior needs correcting. Much more appropriately than a progressive method of understanding, the answer is simple.. growing pains are what teach us best in life.
It's crazy how perfectly timed this came out.
This helped my daughter understand better why she sulks. Very helpful conversation starter
Sulking is something purely individual activity/phenomenon. And quite magical too.
Magical? what
I'm a serial sulker it's so difficult to not sulk when it's your go to defense mechanism.
I'm bitter towards love. My question is how bitter is too bitter?....bitter
Thank God for Spanish subtitles!!! I wanted to watch it again together with my girlfriend who doesn’t speak English and now I can 🎊💕
1:10 that piece of animation was absolutely fantastic in a metaphorical sense :)
straight to the feels
I understand EVERYTHING said .. . I see what I've been guilty of ... and how I've ended up alone...
theres also that thing where you dont want to tell them whats wrong because you are scared to hurt their feelings and you dont want them to feel bad that theyve done something wrong, often because we know the thing they did wasnt entirely logical to get upset about, when it probably was, but they didnt do it intentionally
Are they fucking telling me to talk to my relationship partner
How dare they
i used to sulk so much when i was younger. god i irritate myself lmao
upon understanding my character more as i got older, i realise i get hurt when someone doesnt understand me, the possibility that no one can understand me in general. also, explaining feelings that i probably didnt understand myself is too tiring
The best channel in the world!!! Should be taught in schools!!! beautiful animation
I found this video something I actually couldn't relate to, do so many really assume others are supposed to read their minds? No wonder people are so unreasonable when asked to explain things. I think it is linked in some ways to a lack of wanting to use effort which I can understand, for instance I might have a sulking reaction if I have to explain and repeat myself 3 times. People should learn to correct their expectations in all areas of life though not just this one. Expectation is linked strongly to anger, pain, and regret and while lowering your standards isn't some sort of answer, controlling expectation can be especially if you're only correcting it to be reasonable. Maybe I don't have this problem as I have frequently found I think differently from others around me that it takes constant explanation to describe my view.
I love this video! I totally agree. Expressing your thoughts and emotions is crucial to any kind of successful relationship.
I guess I'm a sulker myself. I'm often tired of being around myself. I'm doing my best to grow emotionnally, but I fail regularly, though I make steps, one after another. But inside I feel SO insecure, and AFRAID, and overwhelmed. I feel shame as well. I'm not a little girl and I'm, somehow, the spectator of my own childish behavior. When I receive an emotional situation that I suddenly can't bear / handle, I just feel the urge to remain silent, and alone, hiding myself in a mouse hole if possible, for sometimes at the moment I don't even understand what's going on under this wave of emotions.And I confess that when it comes to someone important to me (like my only chid for example, who just turned 18) I feel like I'm the child and she's the grown up. As a mother I've made all I could to teach her how to be strong emotionnaly, and also how to defend herself, because I intellectually understand what it takes, though I'm often incapable to apply those lessons to myself. I have been bullied and attacked many times and in many ways in my life, including sexually. And I find it hard to be just respected. I didn't want her to live that. Sometimes, it sounds that I have succeeded a bit too much ;-)My personal tip : when the crisis is very decisive and matters, what I do is take some time to clear it up in my mind, and write the whole thing down, my messy feelings, for I'm way better at writing than at speaking, being the emotive kind : when people respond to me quickly, and sometimes with authority, loudly, perhaps agressively, I lose all my means, my thoughts being confused and I feel ridiculous, over being incapable. Also tears come quickly, and it's another reason of feeling bad, and ashamed, and small. Sometimes people think I'm crying on purpose. I swear I don't ! I swear I'd prefer by far not to, because it's another reason of feeling ashamed and wanting to disappear. Or even die. I just feel like sh*** In french, this incapacity to respond "du tac au tac" (immediatly) is called "avoir l'esprit d'escalier" (to have a "stairway mind" : you find the perfect answer / punchline two days, sometimes two years, after the argument). The opposite is called "avoir de la répartie". (btw I'm French).Sometimes it takes me days to write (and rewrite) it down, clear and simple. To organise my thoughts. Even to throw out parasite thoughts and intimate things that are not interesting for the other person but that I needed to express to myself. Also I have to deal with the bitterness of my negative thoughts like anger, envy or jealousy, etc. And the fear / fact of not being heard / understood. Or being just yelled at. Or deal with intentionnal bad faith. We have to face the fact that relationships are most of the time a question of power, gaining or losing ground, and who's the winner, who's the loser... But some wars musn't be fought. Some of them are useless. We just need time to "swallow down those ugly grass-snakes" as we say in french :-)When I am able to put things down writing them (just like now, actually), it just helps me to relativate, sort things, calm down, and then I'm able to speak for I took the opportunity to express myself without being interrupted by the person I have a problem with. Most of the times, I even don't need to give the letter to the person, because it helped me to take off the drama and to see how little, often ridiculous (even sometimes funny) the problem was.It's not a problem of intelligence ; it's a matter of handling emotions.Maybe all I (we) need in the moment is a silent cuddle instead of mistrust...Sorry for being so long, to whoever reads this.I know I'm the neglected, abandoned kind... I work hard on it, recently with the great help of this wonderful, intelligent channel. THANK YOU !
How could a video like this even get a single dislike? It's so damn true.
This got me thinking: Communication is important. How can we admit to someone else how we feel if we are too afraid to admit it to ourselves?
Honestly though, isn't it sulking is a sign of being immature? Being immature doesn't always mean negative, just not yet mature. If you get offended, you can't just sulk right away. You process it and assess if it's really an offensive comment. If it is, you find the right time to clarify it with the person who offends you. Locking the door and such, just not promising
communication the key to any relationship
Step 1. Grab hold of your Jimmy
Step 2. Ruffle till it cries tears of joy
Rinse and repeat(*Literally*)
Mate, you just summed up my life in two steps.
Lol... I'm loving how comical people can be in the comment section. XD I'm cumming with joy.
Gah.. I don't know how to be funny, but I try. >__
47chromeAKs I am female and do not have a "Jimmy." Further advice needed.
School of life, thank you! You are one of the best things on the internet.
Good job on the simple yet loaded graphics.
It's not that expect to be understood intuitively, I expect to be understood at all. Nothing feels worse than when you take the time to explain yourself and you are misunderstood no matter what you say. That often leads to a good sulk for me anyway.
i swear all of your videos seem to pop out to me exactly when i need them.
In other words, communication. That's the answer. I unfortunately lost an opportunity with a crush who liked me back by sulking too much. One day I move on, and then he does something I did not like and I sulk again. Expecting him to know what he did that made me upset.
There is even a saying "if you need to explain, there is no need to explain"
Essentially, instead of focusing on our hurt and sulking, open up and practice honest communication.
I met a girl on Omegle and we instantly hit it off on video chat, I managed to convince her to get Skype after hours of talking so we could continue and she obliged. We spoke every single day for 3weeks, day and night, we even watched as the other slept (im from the UK and shes from Australia with a 10hour time difference between us) we really shared a connection which i think we both knew was love but we never said it to be, we avoided that four letter word like it was the bloody plague but we both felt it everytime we looked at eachother, we'd usually described the feeling like being high on drugs. I really feel for this girl and every plan i made in my head for the future I included her in it, i pictured her with me in everything.
The day before yesterday is when she broke my fkin heart! said "Shes played out every scenario in her head and thought about it a lot, it could never work as we were worlds apart so why prolong the inevitable, our time together has messed with her head and her whole life in general because she couldn't get me out of her mind all day and always wanted to be home to call me whenever she was away" which I understood completely because I was going through the exact same thing, we were both neglecting everything else around us just to spend all day together. I really felt sick to my stomach and my chest felt tight and it was only getting tighter once i realised what she was saying. Long story short we stopped talking, she said she was going to delete her Skype account so she wouldn't be tempted to call but she hasn't and im the only person in her contact list. I haven't been made to feel this vulnerable since i was 15 years old!, this really hurts. But I understand why she did what she did when she did it and I respect her for having the balls to do it, iv decided not to text or call her despite itching to reach out to her, im gonna let her go.
Thank you for letting me vent, Im not usually a soppy bastard like this and i never want to be again.
Cool video btw :D - Subscribed
The pain of long distant relationships. You know, when I got into a long distant relationship before, I felt the same way you did. But the difference is we actually went for it. I remember, the day we decided we're gonna go for it we said "There's a 99.99% chance this is not gonna work, but I don't wanna live my life with regret, I never wanna ask that question to my self of what if, because like a poison it eats you up inside" of course as predicted we didn't make it, only lasted 3 months. But, we're at peace, we have closure, I hope you do as well.
this is just what I needed. thank you school of life.
School of Life why did you just do this now? Too late for me..
Ditto... *Sigh*
Leonie Sauter It is never too late. Never ;)
Luka Ojala
might not be too late for me and my life in general, but it's definitely too late for the relationship me and my partner destroyed with toxic and unhealthy behaviour like this..
Leonie Sauter same here, just dropped at tear
Same here pal
When love is no longer exists what rest is commitment
As always your videos are truly satisfying. More people should take a few minutes and watch them, their lives would be easier indeed.
I long ago came to terms with not being understood intuitivly, but even when lowerd my expectations and found the courage to direktly speak my mind and say what I want or rather need, my family doesn't Listen, they feel offended by wishes and needs, they then go on to tell me what they did for me, but never consider the things I ask for, they are angry at me and blame me, for not being thankful for all the things they did for me, even though I never wanted them to do these things and thanked them nontheless, in the end nothing changes and I am.left to be hurt again, because I still hope that one day they Listen to me and my needs, but every time I get hurt more instead
We sometime treat those we love the most the worst because we expect them to forgive us.
I don't even have a relationship, but I still find these videos invaluable
"Why we suck and how not to" -TSOL everyday implicit video title
I like that hole in the ground that was dug in the video because my husband always tells me I’m like a 🐰 digging a tunnel in the ground when I sulk. And he says ‘don’t go too far down. Let me know when you’re ready for me to come down n get you’ 😂
Exactly when I need it. Thank you.
That’s me. It gets it right on when and why I sulk.
Sulking also comes with an ego. Drop the ego, communicate and make compromises.
That's quite thoughtful , i've always fallen into this trap nearly in all my relationships
What a beautiful explaination! So relatable.
They don't really understand.. they create a pseudo image of each other, which always 'gets' them, even when they don't.. And after a while when the reality starts to emerge, that pseudo image breaks, and then they break up. Tell me if I'm wrong
This should go in RELATIONSHIPS.
we sulk because we have yet to accept the fact that our body, and most importantly our faces, are not merely tools of wordless expression, but they are also, and perhaps to a greater degree, tools of self-inspiration...instillment. When we begin to accept these notions, we will use our 'muscles of expression' for medicinal/therapeutic purposes, both inwardly and outwardly, rather than strictly as a nonverbal means of communication ;)
No this is an over simplification, I don't think sulking is actually a normal emotional response, sulking shouldn't be explained or justified, having a deep connection cannot be forced or constantly tested like that it's not part of a healthy relationship
This channel is the best of the best !!!
I need a video on how to get over hating other people. I've become such a hermit.. save me, school of life :'(
Imagine if all the world watched this channel on a regular basis keep guys
this video was surprisingly heart-warming
Narration is top notch 👌👌
if you are a good lover then you would feel bad and terrible for making that other special person worry and making them sad, smh u would be bound to breakup some day if ur so selfish
Absolutely brilliant 👏..
Spot on explanation given with subtle humour 👌
What is Sulking?
We sulk even when we are not in a relationship. Call that depression or whatever you may feel like. This video does not cover that aspect. In fact, i watched it precisely to understand that.
Thank you for your wise relationship advice. I study these videos in case I someday have a love relationship. They seem filled with useful advice.
if people did that... break up would never exist!
I really like videos like this as it made me feel so much better so often.