Grieving a loss? Here's what to do.
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- Опубликовано: 15 дек 2022
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Don’t let them go. Keep them in your heart. Don’t forget that they’re always with you. I miss my best friend every single day. I hope to whoever is grieving to stay strong. You are not alone!
I lost my mom 9/19/23 I’m broken. It hurts so bad. I can’t eat or sleep. I should have spent more time with her instead I took time for granted. I love my mom. Me and my 3 sisters are heartbroken. It was unexpected. The worst news to get on the phone while I am at work. Today me and my 3 sisters had to sign a paper for an agreement for mom to be cremated. I had to pick out a urn today for when they cremate her. This is the worst pain I have ever felt in my life and I am 40 years old. My wife and kids are my saviors without them I would have been done with life.
I lost my dad 25 hour after you losing yours 😢
Prayer to you and family I lost my mom 9/10/23 we are hanging in there .my dad is my main concern they were highschool sweethearts married 44 yr. I pray those who loss a love this year can continue to manage and some day soon find some peace and health and healing way to cope . I feel your pain wholeheartedly ❤
I pray your doing well!! I empathize with you friend!! It’s ok!! Right now my wife and kids are what I have now too!! There my everything!! Sending Love and prayers your way ❤
@@jefferylawrence9812 who did you lose recently?
I lost my dad less than a week ago… I’m so broken and shattered and have no idea how I’m gonna be able to withstand the day of his funeral when we cremate him… 😔🕊️
Much better advice than what my parents gave, that being, "its been over a week now, why aren't you over it," and, "can you stop crying as loudly, some of us are trying to sleep?"
Yup, that is probably the opposite of what someone should say. I’m sorry you experienced that 😞
What kind of family is that? That’s horrible I’m sorry you had to deal with that.
Wow I’m sorry you had to deal with that
Sorry for your loss, praying
Im sorry for your lost and for how horrible your parents are😢
Sending you lots of love and healing ❤🙏🏼
For last 3 months I just want stay in bad and cry. Life became overwhelming and I am falling in pieces. I feel like constantly beaten.
Lost my husband - learning to live with half a heart. 💔
sending love ❤ if you’re ever looking for like minded people i’ve spoke to some amazing guest on the podcast here
I never want to let go..
I just lost my grandpa, and the only thing I’ve been doing is cry. He really meant a lot to me, and now… he’s gone. 😭
I realize how little time I have to spend with my grandparents, I wish you all the best. Everyone will deal with loss in their life.
I lost my dad in Jan 2024...i love him so much it hurts badly
I lost my husband one week ago I am beyond heartbroken and with so much guilt at times I don’t want to live no more the anxiety is killing me I never imagine this day would ever come God please help me to survive my mind is winning the war
How are you doing?
More ppl need this
Very true very true
Tomorrow I bury not only my only friend but the first one I ever made and I'm at a complete loss I've lost the only person I could talk to
I lost my younger brother whose body had to wait almost a year to be shipped for burial. Next my dad and a cousin. Last week my cousin’s fiancé who who are both my friends and grew up with me. I’ve been trying to block all the memories and feelings. But this last brought everything back. I’m overwhelmed, emotionally broken and feel cursed and abandoned by God. It hurts so bad. 😢
Praying for you! ❤
So sorry for all your losses. I lost 3 loved ones in about a year. Although it’s heartbreaking 💔 my Faith believes they are RIP with God
especially when they see we are doing things that makes us happy until we all meet again ... they are our Angels. Bless You and yours. 🙏❤️🕊🌎✨
How are you holding up, brother?
Hi how are you holding up?
It's been over a year now!! I am very old... i wish I had words to tell how losing Paul has been for me...but...there are no words.. Paul died.
I pray your doing well!! Sending love your way ❤
Thank you. It is powerful to see and hear you say - it’s ok. I’m being honest for what I need to be in he moment. It helps not to fight it. To embrace the memory or put it away. Seeing my friend today helped too so I can see how strengthening my relationships is helping me ❤
You don't let go to a point you remember and cherish them.The ones you lost will always be a piece of your heart forever.Thier spirit will always be there to whisper to you.This is a informative post.
I lose my husband March 1,2023. The Holidays are painful. God is helping me through this. 😢
you got this!
Lost my mom when I was a JR In highschool back in 2017. Took me 6 yrs to move on. 2024 I'm 24 now and looking back I was lost without her in this world as a grown man. Knowing that same love I received will never come around in a day of my life. I accepted and now I can see clear now.
I lost my best friend today 💔
He was only 14
I thank you for this video
I'm so sorry. I lost my sister last week 💔
My grandpa died last night, I'm still crying
Thank you❤
U made my day thank you 🙏
My auntie died in 2020 and we still don’t know why it was so sudden. She was only 26 R.I.P I will always remember making tik toks together and playing on the trampoline. I’m 12 now and I can’t believe I only knew her for 8 years 🪦
My oldest son died on March 12, 2024. I want to rest right now and tend to my plants. I don't want any more flowers... I just want to rest and not be rushed to do anything.
What if everything in your life reminds you of your loss? Because everywhere I look It reminds me of him.
Do the things you love to make him proud. Don't dwell on the past you cannot control.
@@bikeguyhk Its easier said than done.
@@Makki4Nothing My mom is currently dying. I know it my friend. You're not alone.
@@bikeguyhk True, but at the age that I am in, death shouldn't be one thing in my life.
@@Makki4Nothing Stay positive pal I'm here with you. Just back from the hospital seeing my ailing mother... The pain 💔 is unbearable... I know.
It’s so hard trying to maintain. Lost my son January 29th and my husband February 19th of this year 2024. I hurt so badly . I pray to God for some relief and I know it’s in His time. But Oh how I miss them both 💔💔
@ginacap100 🙏 rooting for you
I lost my grandma wen I was around six and I’m 14 now and I still can’t get over it
My cousin passed away October 30 2023 he was only 20 years old he died from congenital Heart failure he died from a heart attack.😢💔😭
I NEED ADVICE. You're saying it's okay if i use distractions. Yet they're saying because I'm having Contrast PTSD, i shouldn't be avoiding the pain. I CANNOT HANDLE THE PAIN RIGHT NOW! WHY won't they let me just ignore it, at least for a year? I lost my best / only friend to COVID. This year my mom. And now my husband is dying. PLEASE! WHY do i have to face the loss of my MOTHER, the ONLY person who was willing to LISTEN to me? PLEASE advise.
How are you? I’m so sorry
I lost my boyfriend in a car accident back in December 2023. It hurts so much. He was my world and I felt like he was the only person who truly listened and understood me. I wish for him to come back everyday.
This is gonna be a long journey for you I lost the love of my life in 2007 I’m still in pain like it was last year I’m afraid of getting that close to someone again but remember we too are here but a short time also so live the best you can so you have lots of good stories to tell him when y’all reunite ❤
Praying for God to guide and keep you in these days of sadness. Lord help us walk this new road that we would not have chosen and thank you for people like this person to help guide us, Amen.
I lost my fiancé to a car accident several years ago. At first I had a plethora of friends and family members supporting me. But after a month? They stopped calling me or coming over. They had lives to live and I wasn’t moving on fast enough.
I got the message: I was dragging them down. So I isolated myself. 13 years later and I’m still alone and never talk about him because nobody cares.
I feel right now I will be like you. My son died a week ago.
This is hard. I will try.
Lost 3 of my four grandparents and just don’t know how to handle it anymore
One of my friends died on Friday. I had seen her the previous Saturday when I went to go attend another friend’s funeral. It’s been a really rough couple of weeks.
But what happens when you lose your mum to a heart attack, and the person who has been helping me through it - my uncle (her brother) also dies of a heart attack 4 days ago. Both with zero warning and in good health and only 3 months apart?
I've gone from staying strong for the sake of making my mum proud to completely numb. Logically thinking about it, I need to be careful to not turn cold hearted. But I just dont give a f-ck about anything at the minute. Life can be so brutal I can't even believe this has happened..
I know some people have been through even worse than this but maybe people are just stronger and more resilient than I am. I just don't care about anything anymore and I'm either awake and struggling to sleep or asleep and struggling to wake up. Part of me feels like I'm ready to snap and part of me just thinks what's even the point
lost my grandma exactly one month ago 😢
I just lost my brother and I’m honestly broken
I lost my mom who was everything for me and she was my heaven since her death I am alone no one been there for me my sibling every one of them Moved on busy with their life so
no one there when I need them but Allaha
I lost my closest cousin yesterday 10/13/2023. It hurts to know i couldn't spend more time with him. Feels like things could have been different.
My rabbit died yesterday and ive known her sjnce as long as i can remember and poeple say its just a bunny get over it but when they say that it makes me angry and i couldnt sleep at all last night i havent been happy since sunday i really miss her
Of course we grief about our animals and I have lost plenty over the last 20 years. They are part of the family and will be missed the same as a person at least in my family that's the case. 🫂
I was eating chocolate when i was called to see my father. I didn't know he died.
Since then, I've been eating excessively. I eat when I'm stressed, angry, hungry, etc
I do the opposing I can't eat I have to force myself, just had a great loss Oct 1 2023 and I'm forcing myself to eat so o don't waste away to nothing, I need to keep my muscle
I lost my uncle yesterday (28/04/24) due to cancer, and its sad cuz i only saw him for like 10 days total in my entire life and his poor kids are so young i feel like they havent had enough of him. He let too early
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It’s hard. The words MOVE ON, I’m starting to despise. Talking about it with certain ppl isn’t helping. Im finding out who doesn’t really relate or bother to understand. Don’t know if talking about it is helping. It’s so much.
Please make a video on 'How to deal with Obsessive Slowness'?
God I miss my grandfather so much. I was so not ready to lose him
Interesting. Thank you!
Lost my dad
We are not same anymore
Thank you for this video!
Sharing my / " your favorite moments with other family members helps !! 😊❤
I agree.. unfortunately, I lost my family along with my parents.. They pretty much deserted me when my mother died and after the day of remembrance for Dad, I don't hear from anyone. No holiday invitations, nothing. This is not the family I grew up with. 😢 It's very hard to move on with life when there's no one to share the grief/memories with. I'm stuck on that day 5 yrs ago & can't move on by myself.. don't want to. No reason to.
Thank-You!! 😢
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Thank you ❤
When i was 12 years old one of my closest friends died suddenly. The shock of realising she could just pass the whickly without any knowledge of qn underlying condition scared me for too long.
Thank you
My FiL is terminal and is in end of life care. Thanks for this.
What to do when you don’t have extended family nearby to help? Unpacking 2nd move after death of hoarder LH. It’s a bit overwhelming
Y’all I lost my uncle today and I just can’t breathe. How tf am I supposed to watch him being buried 6ft into the ground when I saw him yesterday, when he was alive? HOW? How tf did he die? How tf am I supposed to feel as if everything’s normal when the man I’ve always seen when visiting my cousins is now GONE? HOW.
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hii Doctor Ali could u tell me something about the psychological aspect of Ad tech, targeted advertising and how companies might be able to collect ampel data on us to predict or know our behaviour pattern ( some advertisement that are recommended to me on youtube makes me feel like youtube got in my head and knew what i was thinking of )
Wait, why would you wanna strengthen existing relationships? So you could experience even more loss later?
When i told my mother that my bf unalived himself, she said how weak he was to do that, and she hopes i’m not too weak to do it too😢
Sheesh😢
That’s not ok. 😢
that’s not okay to say! even though i’m a stranger from the internet, if you ever need to talk, i’m here! i’m no stranger to grief and loss… i lost my best friend to a drug overdose and it was/still is so painful to overcome but it does get better with time.
I lost my aunt on the 11th of November 2023. Today as I’m writing this comment and we are heartbroken
Me too
Lost my dear aunt this year just before i moved to a new country
As im writing this im practically drowning in grief. I hope you are doing better than I am
So common sense
does this count for dogs?
After just losing mine, I would say absolutely yes. Loss and grief is what it is. It's down to the relationship and emotional bond. Lots of people have a stronger relationship with their animals than they do other people in their life. 💔
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Im finding life so hard right now and cant talk about it