I had no problem with the no contact thing because of my immediate physical improvement- I was able to cut him out easily because only no contact showed me how much of a toll my abusive narcissistic ex had taken on me .... My breathing normalised, my panic attacks subsided, my tremors went away, I was free of body pain which kind of had me glued to the bed while I was living with him it was so bad. I couldn't believe it.... My soul and my body both started feeling younger and healthier. It was a no brainer when I listened to my body. ☺️
I left 1 year ago...my stress, depression, headaches, insomnia caused by sadness and heartbeating is gone now!!! Still sometimes panik attacks.. from the cptsd. Getting better slowly with good safe people around & sleep & avoiding stressful actions and situations.
I've physically collapsed from going from my mother's abuse to another narcissist who was abusive emotionally. I suddenly collapsed one night and have been unable to move more than a few steps at a time, since three years ago. Doctors so far can't find any reason. I'm dying inch by inch. I've had to go to the emergency room twice in the last year and they said it's like I'm 20 years older than I am. I also added internal tremors to the long list of things wrong with me--strong vibrations inside that go from my chest down to my feet. Fibromyalgis, chronic fatigue syndrome, sleep apnea, chronic insomnia, rapid heartbeat, etc.
Been out for 1 1/2 yrs now after a 7 yr relationship. Had chronic diarrhea for years...was on 3 blood pressure meds all at one time...would get bronchitis every 3 -4 months. Pneumonia once. Had several UTIs. Knots in my muscles and was so exhausted all the time from sleep deprivation. Most horrible time of my life. So glad to be out and getting my health back.
You are amazing, so much to my situation! He hated everything about me, but he still wants me around, I can't believe him, he is an only child from parents who push you to do better, cause they had good job's in their life, retirement now. One a school teacher the other an architect, very well off financially. We heard it every day. But no more! I got to the point, I started hateing them. They were not only part of our marriage, I felt like they were running it He ran to them every time the finance's were a problem, and he wanted something from them that I couldn't supply him usually money, he was lousy at managing our finances, but he would not let me help, you don't work, you don't need to concern yourself over them, and that was the way it was. I really like your videos. They opened my eyes wider, I see everything clear now. THANKS for your concern.
I cope by avoiding and withdrawing. And forget having a mate! Too much for me!
7 лет назад+7
Yes so true for me: I ended up with years of chronic fatigue/pain (Fibromyalgia), diabetes. It all started even before I was born and continues like a read line through my life.
This is so well said. I've been in and out of this relationship multiple times now. At least 4 times now & I recently I have had a child with this person. I know God makes no mistakes. As rare as it is I know God gave me this little angle to help strengthen me and give me the power i need to emd this toxic bond to her father. I feel so many up and down emoticons day to day. Coming to terms with leaving, coping during the financial struggles & living in the midst of the toxicity manipulations...God is my only refuge. I wish people could understand the level of severity emotionally abused woman deal with. And even the men too...and children. This is so so wrong. I don't know humans become so evil but I pray that God heals them quickly. This world needs us to be strong. Thank you for shinning a light on a subject that dismantled many families across the 🌎 world.
I had panic attacks, anxiety, chronic depression, inflammation, really bad reflux resulting in sleeping almost sitting, propped up with pillows for two years because undigested food would come back up to my mouth. Extremely low self esteem. Wanting to isolate myself, hypervigilance, adrenal exhaustion, general fear of life and people the list goes on
@@DrDeniseDart thank you Dr Denise, I have been seeing a psychologist for the past two years and I am doing so much better, almost all symptoms have gone now and I am going through a separation right now.
I thought I was going crazy, i was losing myself & didn’t understand why. Thank you for validating my experience, thank you for making feel understood again. We’ve been together for 2 1/2 yrs & I went against my gut & moved in with him hoping that this big change will fix his jealousy & insecurities issues . I realized that I was never the problem it’s was always him. I’m getting more comfortable not relying on him for anything & learning to live for myself. I’m reconnecting with the old me & figuring out what makes me happy.
My health during a 6 year long relationship. Chronic Fatigue, iron issues, kidney issues, 6 repeat miscarriages of unknown cause (3 previous healthy children and I was heavily tested to diagnose a cause), weekly migraines, warnings about my blood pressure, up and down weight gain, psoriasis diagnosis. Following discard suicidal ideation, pnuemonia that took 3 different drugs to treat, I lost my appetite, and then diagnosed with anxiety, Major depressive disorder, and PTSD. The discard was bad because they kept hoovering and baiting while in confusion and giving the hot cold cycles. I had a complete mental breakdown as he kept preying on me! I was only 32 at the time. The health consequences are significant. To go from complete functioning and no mental health or physical issues to suddenly BAM. My migraines I was plagued with for 6 years are suddenly drastically improved.
I need your next video! I left a year ago. I'm so much better. But I want to be completely free. I was terribly triangulated with his new gf and I obsess over if the ex-fiancé narc is treating her better. She's a covert narcissist too. I was hoping they'd be short-lived. It's been a year. I want to be free of giving a hoot who he's with and the outcome.
Michelle..me too. I want to be free emotionally. I want to stop obsessing about him and his new gf. This is the 2nd one he's had since I broke up with him last December.
This is THE most helpful collection of videos on this topic for me!! Also, I really like your short hair style. It's cute, feminine and professional all in one!
When i was with my abuser i would get panic attacks that were so bad that i would throw up and constantly felt sick i would start shakeing i would have headaches and chest pains and always drained i would get nerve pains it was very hard to escape the realtionship i tried to leave maybe 40 to 50 times before i met him i already had anxiety and ptsd from being raped he used that against me and acted like he was supportive but later became emotionaly abusive and later became physicly abusive and almost killed me i couldent take it anymore i was constantly in fear i am now still suffering but learning how to heal and cope i felt imprisoned and trapped for 4 and a half yrs i have finally gotten out and pray everyday that he will not co.e for me its hard but i work at this every single day im just so happy that i finally am finding the person that i lost that was myself
Hi, I just had some thoughts about anxiety associated with relationships with narcissists... want to share…. One of the problems with self-centered narcissists is that they assume you can read their minds and predict their wants and needs and not only that but also that you will always 100% fulfill their needs (even the unspoken needs, wants, desires) and that you will predict their needs correctly and fulfil them. I have gotten criticized for not assuming something about someone. Narcs and foolish people don't want to take responsibility for their own unhappiness, their own mistakes and for not communicating properly, so they blame it on others. Isn't that a form of abuse?.... the narcs will say something like "you made a mistake by not coming to my dinner party" (when in reality they never invited me and it was for their work colleagues, which I am not) - the mistake is theirs for not communicating, for not inviting, for assuming. It is really ANXIETY PROVOKING always being in a situation of the narc's expectation that I (someone) will always correctly predict the narc-person's needs, wants and desires and since relationships with narcs do not allow for "no" (boundries not allowed) the result is constant anxiety to correctly predict and fulfill the narcs needs, wants and desires, or otherwise constant nonconstructive criticism comes our way. That is the reality of being the child or spouse of a narc. Isn't good communication the most important aspect of a functional and healthy relationship? A dependent child with a narc parent has no choice, but as an adult, I want to be in relationships where the other person communicates well, effectively and responsibly in a timely manor.
yep when i had my first panic attack i thought i was going to die but now i know it will go away when i lay my body on a cold floor, face down an tell myself this shall pass. most off the time it will pass after 10 minutes, but after this i am really tired.
Your video's are so very helpful!! I am still recovering from years of emotional abuse by an ex-husband with OCPD, and I was diagnosed w/PTSD. I can't figure out why it's taking me so long to heal, and why I keep falling back into depression after all these years, but it is a huge impact. I had a couple of bouts of cancer, and know too well the physical impact you speak of. Please know how valuable your work is, and I thank you deeply for your insights! Especially because I can't get into my therapist when I really need help, and you are always available on RUclips. You are right on the money about these issues! YOU make a difference!! Sending you my sincere thanks
Hope you feel better soon. Thank you for the information today I look forward to learning more on Breaking the ties and healing I've been apart from my toxic partner one year and still can't stop thinking about him I need to know how to cut these emotional ties it's horrible and get on with my life thanks for your help
It's so painful. I hope you are staying connected with a good therapist. Healing takes time and a lot of hard emotional work. It's definitely worth it. YOU are worth it.
Dr. Glassmoyer. Thank you for the video. It helps so much to listen and get educated. Oh I am sorry to hear that you were not well but on the mend. Wish you well!!! Hope you will be fully recovered and back to enjoying full health and life...in no time.
Stress/cortisol causes inflammation - and so inflammation-related illness and disease is the result. For me it was diverticula disease - I held on to anger for a really long time. That was nearly two years ago since that hospitalised bout. 🙏
Thank you for incredible information. Unfortunately I’m having most of these physical issues except obesity. Would you make a video about mental health cares too ? How can we make ourselves healthy until we get rid of the relationship? Thank you
Hello. I'm finding your videos soooo helpful so I thank you. However, I have one question, why do you use two different names? Sometimes you introduce yourself as Denise Dart and others times another name which I can't quite get. Just curious 😊
I offer coaching and will be happy to talk with you about what that is and how it differing from counseling. I don't seem to have the option to private message you. Please send me a private message through my Facebook page and I'll get right back to you. facebook.com/dr.denise.dart
I had no problem with the no contact thing because of my immediate physical improvement- I was able to cut him out easily because only no contact showed me how much of a toll my abusive narcissistic ex had taken on me ....
My breathing normalised, my panic attacks subsided, my tremors went away, I was free of body pain which kind of had me glued to the bed while I was living with him it was so bad.
I couldn't believe it.... My soul and my body both started feeling younger and healthier.
It was a no brainer when I listened to my body. ☺️
Our bodies definitely tell us when something isn’t right. 💜
I left 1 year ago...my stress, depression, headaches, insomnia caused by sadness and heartbeating is gone now!!! Still sometimes panik attacks.. from the cptsd. Getting better slowly with good safe people around & sleep & avoiding stressful actions and situations.
I've physically collapsed from going from my mother's abuse to another narcissist who was abusive emotionally. I suddenly collapsed one night and have been unable to move more than a few steps at a time, since three years ago. Doctors so far can't find any reason. I'm dying inch by inch. I've had to go to the emergency room twice in the last year and they said it's like I'm 20 years older than I am. I also added internal tremors to the long list of things wrong with me--strong vibrations inside that go from my chest down to my feet. Fibromyalgis, chronic fatigue syndrome, sleep apnea, chronic insomnia, rapid heartbeat, etc.
Been out for 1 1/2 yrs now after a 7 yr relationship. Had chronic diarrhea for years...was on 3 blood pressure meds all at one time...would get bronchitis every 3 -4 months. Pneumonia once. Had several UTIs. Knots in my muscles and was so exhausted all the time from sleep deprivation. Most horrible time of my life. So glad to be out and getting my health back.
You are amazing, so much to my situation! He hated everything about me, but he still wants me around, I can't believe him, he is an only child from parents who push you to do better, cause they had good job's in their life, retirement now. One a school teacher the other an architect, very well off financially. We heard it every day. But no more! I got to the point, I started hateing them. They were not only part of our marriage, I felt like they were running it
He ran to them every time the finance's were a problem, and he wanted something from them that I couldn't supply him usually money, he was lousy at managing our finances, but he would not let me help, you don't work, you don't need to concern yourself over them, and that was the way it was. I really like your videos. They opened my eyes wider, I see everything clear now. THANKS for your concern.
I cope by avoiding and withdrawing. And forget having a mate! Too much for me!
Yes so true for me: I ended up with years of chronic fatigue/pain (Fibromyalgia), diabetes. It all started even before I was born and continues like a read line through my life.
This is so well said. I've been in and out of this relationship multiple times now. At least 4 times now & I recently I have had a child with this person. I know God makes no mistakes. As rare as it is I know God gave me this little angle to help strengthen me and give me the power i need to emd this toxic bond to her father. I feel so many up and down emoticons day to day. Coming to terms with leaving, coping during the financial struggles & living in the midst of the toxicity manipulations...God is my only refuge. I wish people could understand the level of severity emotionally abused woman deal with. And even the men too...and children. This is so so wrong. I don't know humans become so evil but I pray that God heals them quickly. This world needs us to be strong. Thank you for shinning a light on a subject that dismantled many families across the 🌎 world.
I had panic attacks, anxiety, chronic depression, inflammation, really bad reflux resulting in sleeping almost sitting, propped up with pillows for two years because undigested food would come back up to my mouth. Extremely low self esteem. Wanting to isolate myself, hypervigilance, adrenal exhaustion, general fear of life and people the list goes on
My heart goes out to you. Silvana, there is help available. You are worth doing what you can to help yourself heal. 💜
@@DrDeniseDart thank you Dr Denise, I have been seeing a psychologist for the past two years and I am doing so much better, almost all symptoms have gone now and I am going through a separation right now.
I thought I was going crazy, i was losing myself & didn’t understand why. Thank you for validating my experience, thank you for making feel understood again. We’ve been together for 2 1/2 yrs & I went against my gut & moved in with him hoping that this big change will fix his jealousy & insecurities issues . I realized that I was never the problem it’s was always him. I’m getting more comfortable not relying on him for anything & learning to live for myself. I’m reconnecting with the old me & figuring out what makes me happy.
My health during a 6 year long relationship. Chronic Fatigue, iron issues, kidney issues, 6 repeat miscarriages of unknown cause (3 previous healthy children and I was heavily tested to diagnose a cause), weekly migraines, warnings about my blood pressure, up and down weight gain, psoriasis diagnosis. Following discard suicidal ideation, pnuemonia that took 3 different drugs to treat, I lost my appetite, and then diagnosed with anxiety, Major depressive disorder, and PTSD. The discard was bad because they kept hoovering and baiting while in confusion and giving the hot cold cycles. I had a complete mental breakdown as he kept preying on me! I was only 32 at the time. The health consequences are significant. To go from complete functioning and no mental health or physical issues to suddenly BAM. My migraines I was plagued with for 6 years are suddenly drastically improved.
I need your next video!
I left a year ago. I'm so much better. But I want to be completely free. I was terribly triangulated with his new gf and I obsess over if the ex-fiancé narc is treating her better. She's a covert narcissist too. I was hoping they'd be short-lived. It's been a year. I want to be free of giving a hoot who he's with and the outcome.
You will be free! Look for the video no later than Friday xo
Michelle Carpenter me too. I still am being triangulated. I am ready to
Finally get on with my life too!
Michelle..me too. I want to be free emotionally. I want to stop obsessing about him and his new gf. This is the 2nd one he's had since I broke up with him last December.
This is THE most helpful collection of videos on this topic for me!!
Also, I really like your short hair style. It's cute, feminine and professional all in one!
Also left 1 year ago. Excited for next video as well.
Have not set eyes on the evil sob since January, but still struggling with health issues and psychological problems.
I get really sick when i think about our relationship.. I cant sleep well and eating
When i was with my abuser i would get panic attacks that were so bad that i would throw up and constantly felt sick i would start shakeing i would have headaches and chest pains and always drained i would get nerve pains it was very hard to escape the realtionship i tried to leave maybe 40 to 50 times before i met him i already had anxiety and ptsd from being raped he used that against me and acted like he was supportive but later became emotionaly abusive and later became physicly abusive and almost killed me i couldent take it anymore i was constantly in fear i am now still suffering but learning how to heal and cope i felt imprisoned and trapped for 4 and a half yrs i have finally gotten out and pray everyday that he will not co.e for me its hard but i work at this every single day im just so happy that i finally am finding the person that i lost that was myself
Hi, I just had some thoughts about anxiety associated with relationships with narcissists... want to share…. One of the problems with self-centered narcissists is that they assume you can read their minds and predict their wants and needs and not only that but also that you will always 100% fulfill their needs (even the unspoken needs, wants, desires) and that you will predict their needs correctly and fulfil them. I have gotten criticized for not assuming something about someone. Narcs and foolish people don't want to take responsibility for their own unhappiness, their own mistakes and for not communicating properly, so they blame it on others. Isn't that a form of abuse?.... the narcs will say something like "you made a mistake by not coming to my dinner party" (when in reality they never invited me and it was for their work colleagues, which I am not) - the mistake is theirs for not communicating, for not inviting, for assuming. It is really ANXIETY PROVOKING always being in a situation of the narc's expectation that I (someone) will always correctly predict the narc-person's needs, wants and desires and since relationships with narcs do not allow for "no" (boundries not allowed) the result is constant anxiety to correctly predict and fulfill the narcs needs, wants and desires, or otherwise constant nonconstructive criticism comes our way. That is the reality of being the child or spouse of a narc. Isn't good communication the most important aspect of a functional and healthy relationship? A dependent child with a narc parent has no choice, but as an adult, I want to be in relationships where the other person communicates well, effectively and responsibly in a timely manor.
yep when i had my first panic attack i thought i was going to die but now i know it will go away when i lay my body on a cold floor, face down an tell myself this shall pass. most off the time it will pass after 10 minutes, but after this i am really tired.
Thank you for being here for us.
You are so on point!!! Far above other specialists in this field. I’m so appreciative.
Your video's are so very helpful!! I am still recovering from years of emotional abuse by an ex-husband with OCPD, and I was diagnosed w/PTSD. I can't figure out why it's taking me so long to heal, and why I keep falling back into depression after all these years, but it is a huge impact. I had a couple of bouts of cancer, and know too well the physical impact you speak of. Please know how valuable your work is, and I thank you deeply for your insights! Especially because I can't get into my therapist when I really need help, and you are always available on RUclips.
You are right on the money about these issues! YOU make a difference!! Sending you my sincere thanks
Hope you feel better soon. Thank you for the information today I look forward to learning more on Breaking the ties and healing I've been apart from my toxic partner one year and still can't stop thinking about him I need to know how to cut these emotional ties it's horrible and get on with my life thanks for your help
I hope you feel better soon! you are a wonderful Therapist, Thank you for you time, you are a PRECIOUS lady.
Thank you! I am doing great 💜
after a decade of abuse I had GI problems got diagnosed with MDD and anxiety and PTSD one failed suicide attempt and a stay at the crazy house
It's so painful. I hope you are staying connected with a good therapist. Healing takes time and a lot of hard emotional work. It's definitely worth it. YOU are worth it.
Dr. Glassmoyer. Thank you for the video. It helps so much to listen and get educated. Oh I am sorry to hear that you were not well but on the mend. Wish you well!!! Hope you will be fully recovered and back to enjoying full health and life...in no time.
I'm glad you are feeling better!
Looking forward to your next video🙂
Thank you so much! The comment about our inability to control other´s behavior was especially helpful to me :)
You’re really neat Denise! I’ll watch more.
Stress/cortisol causes inflammation - and so inflammation-related illness and disease is the result. For me it was diverticula disease - I held on to anger for a really long time. That was nearly two years ago since that hospitalised bout. 🙏
Ooh. The accountability.
Thank you for incredible information. Unfortunately I’m having most of these physical issues except obesity. Would you make a video about mental health cares too ? How can we make ourselves healthy until we get rid of the relationship? Thank you
God bless this woman.
I love 💘 your videos.. They have so helped me. Thank you.
NEVER TAKE THEM GO FOR A MESSAGE OR WALK YOU ARE RIGHT STRESS WEIGHT SMOKING.
Thank u...I appreciate your help
thank you
Hello. I'm finding your videos soooo helpful so I thank you. However, I have one question, why do you use two different names? Sometimes you introduce yourself as Denise Dart and others times another name which I can't quite get. Just curious 😊
I remarried and changed my name 💜
@@DrDeniseDart congratulations!
Dear Dr. Glassmoyer, do you do counselling by Skype? Please private message me.
I offer coaching and will be happy to talk with you about what that is and how it differing from counseling. I don't seem to have the option to private message you. Please send me a private message through my Facebook page and I'll get right back to you. facebook.com/dr.denise.dart
Id like to do the same please. Im in this now. Idk what to do. Its torn me down im broken.