The Kids or Childfree Podcast | Episode 20: Christian Haefele on Choosing Childfree as a Man
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- In this episode, Keltie is joined by her husband, Chris, for a candid discussion about their decision to be childfree, and namely, how choosing childfree has been for Chris as a man.
The two of them discuss:
Chris's personal journey from ambivalence to confidently childfree
The role of personal and relationship development in their decision-making process, and how they navigated their decision as a couple
The challenges and potential resentment that can arise if one partner wants children more than the other
Topics such as societal pressures, financial considerations, and the desire to maintain their current lifestyle
How societal pressure and expectations around having children are different for men than women, plus Chris's personal experience with nosy questions and naysayers
Chris's feelings about getting a vasectomy and why he's chosen not to have one
The love they share for their childfree life together, and how they find and create deeper meaning and fulfillment
As mentioned in the show:
Find Christian on:
LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/christianhaefele/
Instagram: chris_ongram
Episode 10 with Ruby Warrington on Women Without Kids
Episodes 5 and 6 where Keltie shares her personal journey to being childfree
About Christian:
Christian Haefele is a mountain enthusiast, dog lover, and avid traveler who lives in Munich Germany, with his wife, Keltie, and dog, Shira. His hobbies include ultra-trail running, hiking, and stand-up paddle-boarding. When he's not adventuring, Chris loves enjoying a craft beer or two and cooking up delicious vegan dishes. Chris has previously lived in Vancouver, Canada, and he works in tech sales providing digital solutions to Germany's largest retailers.
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amazing!!! thanks for the conversation 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
You are most welcome - thanks for watching!
As a 45 years old french childfree guy, I just looked for new perspectives on being childfree and more generally the childfree subject and I must admit I incredibly enjoyed this podcast. As more I live my best childfree live, as more I see I was not alone to live with this true difference that is living and finding different purposes in live than having a family. Glad to see I am not the only guy in a more generally "feminine milieu". Nice to see the perspective of other man on this topic. I recognized myself in many answers. But also saw significant difference in others regarding this subject. The Main difference would probably be in the fact that I am the childfree "driver" in our couple and that my wife pretty much adapted to me and my thoughts about the topic... I will definitely listen to all your episodes. Super interesting. Thanks for doing such an incredible work.
A belated thank you for the thoughtful and lovely comment! If you'd consider coming onto the podcast, drop me a DM over on IG (@kidsorchildfree) - I'd love to hear more about your story!
@@KidsorChildfree Hi. this could be fun ! Seriously. I am actually very busy and not available but I could come back to you in a few weeks. I keep you posted. Best greetings from Los Angeles (where I am at this point) :)
@@sebastien5070 No rush! Enjoy LA. 🥳
Your approach to this situation has been very different than mine - and to each his own. Personally, I knew at 15 that I never wanted kids and had a vasectomy at 22. That put an end to the "if it happens it happens" ambivalence. Made dating/relationships very easy - either you're happy with no kids with me or you're happy moving on. No point wasting anyone's time - especially mine. Have never regretted it. As for the nosy people who need to know why you don't already/when are you going to have kids, etc., that's very simply and easily handled - "None of your business". That's your personal decision between the two of you, and nobody else is entitled to that information or to make their judgments about things that are absolutely none of their concern. Then again, maybe that's just me.
I love hearing someone be so clear about what they want - especially from a relatively young age! Thanks for tuning in. 🤗
People who choose a childfree life is very well-thought-out in most cases. There is a sacrifice either way. Like said in my video, We are in charge of the level of complexity we decide to invite into our lives. Great story and conversation! Enjoy your content!
Thanks so much for tuning in! I appreciate your feedback. 😊