Virginia Father Dies By Suicide After Child Dies In Hot Car
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- Опубликовано: 15 ноя 2024
- Chesterfield police say a distraught father shot himself after discovering he'd left his 18-month old son in his car while at work. WWBT's John Hood reports.
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I can't even imagine the father's pain when he realized what happened. Very sad.
I'd do the same. I couldn't live with that. I'm in Phoenix and a mom driving a street cleaner for work had her little girls and they crashed and they both little girls died. I would be done with life
@@jenivettebigham7060 yup
I still don't understand how you could forget a child in a car when it's hot
I imagine it's a similar pain to a situation where a mother aborts a child where the father didn't want the child aborted.
@@Theslowone450 extremely easy because children are usually very animated while they're with you so when it is quiet you believe they're not in the car.
I'm praying for the mother, who lost a child and a spouse, both by tragedy...God help her.💔
Yes, I feel for her and hope she had life insurance on him and mortgage insurance on that big house. Apparently, he was to have taken the child to daycare, but drove directly to work and then they called after 11 am to ask why the child wasn't there. Sad.
@Earth Crusader f off don't exploit this tragedy to push YOUR religion!!!
Ameen
So your doing nothing? God is Santa Claus for grownups.
Sooo painful. We pray God gives her healing in the midst of this disaster
I'm an automotive technician. I've seen the major advances that technology has brought to cars in the last several years. Of all the dumbest things that car manufactures have stuffed into these rolling technological marvels, it astounds me that they haven't made a simple alarm that goes off and can't be turned off by the remote, when it detects movement or sound coming from a hot car.
As a father myself....i cannot fathom the pain of knowing that a simple mistake killed my son or daughter.
May God comfort this man.
Pretty obvious stuff, yes.
I’ll give you a hint, it starts with “money” and ends with “money”.
FWIW most car makers now offer or are making standard “rear seat reminders” where the car detects an open event from the back door prior to engine start. The car will then chime and visually warn you on the dash to check your rear seat when you shut off the vehicle.
invent it... make you a trillion! well. maybe a million?
My mom just bought a car that will beep if it senses someone in the back
I couldn’t agree more. Something that is a requirement to even pass safety standards for every single vehicle, period.
That poor father was so devastated at his error he couldn't live with it. The poor child was so loved it broke his Dad's heart and will to live due to the unintended mistake. God Bless them both
I love my headphones and because of that never leave them in the car 😄
Excellent choice for him
Imagine being the mother and wife. My heart aches for her.
Why would you say this?
@@ToniHunterOne She's saying how devastating the wife feels losing a husband and child.
I don't feel sad for the wife. She already experienced a happy life and I don't pity her. I pity only the baby. The baby could grow up and experience life. But it didn't.
@@purple.requiem grosss!
@@mariesong729 the wife is probably enjoying her life without her son. I prefer to grieve for children then some adults who are still living rn
When people are worked like dogs, and without mercy 💔
People are tired, people are exhausted, work, work, work, and work some more, or people belittle you. We live in world, where society has taught everyone that work is more important than family. Poor guy probably exhausted from everyday hustle of a slave, forgot his child wasn't dropped off at day care 🙁
Yep & people are becoming unhinged...💔😞💔
I agree with these comments. This is so, so sad. Matthew 24, Mark 13, Luke 21
If we removed Trust funds(monies made through the deaths of Indigenous People and slaves) and the companies that have been built on them, there would be such a change in dynamic of wealth ( literally only Caucasians).
-COMANCHE NATION
I’m willing to bet that he was not the one that usually dropped the child off at daycare. Used to his daily work grind and made the most horrible of mistakes, so sad.
well said
Dear God. I hope the other parent is surrounded by love and support.
AMEN
Amen
Amen, i watch alot of these videos, bt honestly, my heart broke for the mother of the baby 🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽
What a horrible thing to go through. He made a simple mistake with terrible consequences. Everyone watching this who has a small child needs to take heed and realize that even when you think it could never happen to you, it could. Stuff happens, people get tired and forget. We must all be aware that anyone can make a mistake like this, and we must be vigilant.
@@zaidabuffkins6149 and the wife of the father ?
I cannot even imagine the horror this man went through when he realized what he had done. It is absolutely heartbreaking.
He was all about himself, clearly a bad p4rent and didn't want to suffer consequences for his actions so he offed himself
If the m0thr was financially dependent on him, then she's going to be on the streets sooner or later. That's why you can't depend on them for survival
He brought the body inside, mourned, grabbed the gun, and made a very sad walk to the woods
How dafaq do u 4get u left the baby in the car??? WTF?
@@evanbrad7327 lack of sleep. The baby wakes up every 2-3 hours to be changed and fed. Depending on the baby it may go back to sleep within 1-2 hours. Cycle repeats. The parents are seriously sleep deprived. Especially if they don't have family staying to help them through the first months with cooking and cleaning. Making sure parents nap when baby naps.
@@HazelJuanitaMillanHoffman he was 18 months
More likely he stays up too late or doesn't sleep well. Either way we all were him, never forgot. Parents need to put kids first
I had my son 7 years ago, I was really young. His presence was always always on my mind. As I get older and fall into the same routines, I see how it’s possible to forget/thinking you’ve checked it off the checklist in your head. My friend once came over to drop something off. Her oldest got out and followed her inside. We ended up sitting and talking. Mid sentence she goes “oh my god the baby!” And ran outside. It happens and it’s so scary. I also think “why didn’t I think to ask where the baby was” she was a stay at home mom with no help. I’ve never seen fear like that in someone’s eyes before. My heart dropped. Thank god the baby was sleeping and it had only been a little over 30 mins. She cried on my couch for a while after that.
That's very disturbing, but thanks for sharing it. All life's problems seem less important now hearing a parent go through the worse lost imaginable.
Yeah a lot of people are unforgiving in the comment section. But I could only imagine the everyday stress a modern mother has to deal with and it sucks. I bet she still things about that day. Hope she can forgive herself.
Maybe babies should be allowed to ride in the front seat with facing the seat in the event that the air bag couldn't smother them if there was an accident
Thank you for sharing this hits home to always help out when we can
Life is so fast paced anymore. People in general have so much on their plates. Life is stressful in general. This wasn’t intentional I’m sure but very sad for the child and father. They both suffered in different ways. Very heart breaking.
So sorry this happened. Everyone, please follow the left shoe reminder. Anytime you have a kid in the car, leave your left shoe in the back seat. Inconvient but your kid will thank you.
Oh that’s a good idea!!!!!
Never heard of that, but I will absolutely do that! I have a 5 week old and j wouldn't know what to do without her. A little annoyance is so worth the life of my child
@@SherbearDixon you won't forget your kid in the car. When your child is your number one priority then it's impossible to do something like this.
Right! People are delusional.
@@saramarshall2957 it happens more than you know.
This is all just so awful. Losing a baby period is unbearable. But dying in a car is one of the most painful and traumatizing ways for a baby to die. The guilt and regret he felt must have been insurmountable. Now this family has lost a baby and a father. God bless them 😔
Not as bad as you might think. My mother left me in car often when I was younger in a very hot state mid summer. Of course, I was old enough to get out of car if I chose to (but I was very anxious child so even if I thought I might die I wouldn’t, and she’d get back just then like clockwork). But anyways, you start off just uncomfortable and sweating, a little thirsty, then you get tired and kind of confused, then you start feeling a little nauseous and falling asleep. I imagine you die somewhere in that time you fall asleep. Not that bad of a death. Not that any death is good, just that it’s not that bad if it’s anything like my experience. Worst part is breathing in hot air. Feels suffocating.
@@catheriney6209 Sorry Catherine. I wish you happiness
@@catheriney6209 it is as bad as you might think actually. What you describe sounds like mild beginning stages of heat stroke. It triggers neurological dysfunction, nausea, disorientation/delirium, seizures, fast heart rate. Ur brain starts to lose oxygen, organs fail, ur body temperature rises and ur pretty much cooked alive while suffocating, gasping. w cardiac arrhythmia. Def not as simple as falling asleep. Children, seniors, and pets are at highest risk.
@@triinomial UPS driver died from plastic steel UPS truck due to heat. UPS truck is open to the side, but its like you are inside of plastic can. If the car is locked under the heat, you are going to die painfully.
@@triinomial that's exactly why it isn't that bad. Delirium and loss of consciousness happen before and real suffering can happen. People heat stroke all the time with only mild symptoms before hand
I lost my youngest son 11 years ago to congenital heart disease I never before felt like I did at that time I felt like I had no reason to live except I had 3 other children they’re the only reasons I’m still here ! My heart goes out for the other family members
I also lost my child from CHD. 💙💜
Sorry for both of your loss.
God bless you.
My deepest condolences for your loss😢
@@jamiedecker7853 my condolences for your loss
Imagine finding him lifeless. The shock alone would rip you up and some people don’t have a strong survival instinct. He didn’t. He showed the world he could not live without his child. So sad. I hope the mother heals and finds peace.
I just couldn't imagine the pain, guilt, and sorrow this father felt knowing what he had done that he could never forgive himself. That the only way he could think of stopping his pain and guilt was to take his own life 😥
May light shine upon his wife, family and friends.
My heart hurts for them.
We all need to take a deep breath and slow down! We are all under so much stress! There has to be a different way we can't go on like this.
I hope that his family can forgive him and heal their hearts. I have 2 kids and just thinking about it breaks my heart. 😥💔🙏
This is so painful, to imagine the baby's suffering and then the anguish of the father .What has happened to us?This world our lives are so messed up We have to have reminders for almost everything now, we are all over done, over busy, over stimulated, over worked over accomplished, but hardly a moment in the day to enjoy and love each other our kids our friends our pets
I have reminders, alarms and appointment book. Without them I do not think I could keep track of all that is going on in my life, there is just so much going on.
So true.
Yes. You’re right
So true...the rush to go nowhere.
Wow that hit hard! 😞 It’s sadly true!
I'm so sorry for them, especially the father and that poor baby. This is why my truck has the feature to remind me to check the back seat, it goes off every single time I turn it off and I'm forever grateful and appreciative of that. My heart and prayers goes out to the family.
This is so sad Lord Bless this .an and hi Famiy
Very many women have left their child on top of the roof of the car especially SUVs. Things like this can easily happen when you're doing too many things at the same time.
@@TruckTaxiMoveIt Especially when there's a change in routine.
@@TruckTaxiMoveIt I agree, that is why we should set our children as our main priority.
How can you leave your child . That’s the stupidest thing I ever heard
Heartbreaking. Obviously the father couldn't live with himself after making a mistake. Of course it was a mistake.
It don't matter it don't matter once that father lost his kid the way he lost his kid it was over
How are you so sure it wasn't intentional? People murder their own children, it happens all the time
@@ghostwalk2446 A murder suicide is, of course, possible but exceedingly rare.
@John Brower It's awful all around but I question the father's drug status when he forgot about his baby?
@@matthewsocal2540 You again. Pathetic.
My heart breaks for the family.... I can't even begin to imagine how the dad felt leaving work, finding his baby, and taking his baby home knowing he had passed... the amount of guilt and despair he must have felt...... I hope he and his baby are at peace, together. Such an awful tragedy 💔
I just want to cry this is so heartbreaking...I can just imagine he could’ve been preoccupied or stressed with getting to work, and completely forgetting baby was in back of car, oh I cannot even fathom that baby’s mommy getting that tragic call. This is in fathomable. That baby suffered and there’s no fixing this situation.
It’s devastating!
@@stephaniepapaleo9001 That's what I was thinking, that maybe it wasn't his normal routine to drop baby off at daycare and the baby could've been sleeping, making it possible for dad to forget if he were stressed and preoccupied. A lot of speculation of course, but gosh my heart goes out to him. So sad.
No excuse! We both know where the dad ended up.
@@traption4617
With his baby if he wanted to hurt his own child he will care about himself
@@jojoahmd123 no, that's innocent baby is in heaven being cared for.
What is selfish coward, leaving that poor woman to deal with both at once.
I used to be extremely absent minded and I used to have this recurrent thought that one day I would give birth and walk out the hospital without the baby because I forgot I'd given birth. I used to also be afraid of leaving the baby on the roof of the car or on the sidewalk or something, such was the extent of my forgetfulness. My sincerest condolences to the family, especially the mother of who lost both child and partner in the same day. Sad.
I would imagine your fear of doing it would help prevent such an slip.
When my son's children were small I feared the same for him and them.
Why would the baby be on the ROOF of the car?
@@lucylucy2171 I’ve definitely seen a Hollywood movie where they set the baby on the roof while unlocking the car manually- before the key fobs were common- and the car would runaway with the baby on top. But yeah, these days not too many reasons to put the baby on the roof. Lol.
Not to he rude. But maybe you shouldn't have kids.
I'm so sorry for what happened to this family praying for them 🙏
Prayer: How to do nothing and still think you're helping!
@@matthewsocal2540 Maybe you should crack open a law dictionary and learn what the word "murder" means.
@@justinwheeler5614 More than you do to help people.
@@truefact4439 yes, because talking to your conscience ignorantly believing it to be a supreme deity and supplicating for intervention rather than intervening oneself is something.
RIP LITTLE ONE 🕊
RIP MAN🕊
Prayers for both families 🙏
Poor guy was on autopilot like most of us in society plus exhausted. The fact he killed himself tells how incredibly horrible he felt. Sorry for both of them.😔
Yes, and accidents happen ... and tragedy is real.
That’s really heartbreaking I can’t imagine the pain the baby was in and the father was in. May they both Rest In Peace my heart goes out to the mother 💔
Aww man. He probably loved the kid so much too. I can't say I wouldn't have tried the same thing knowing I couldn't live with myself. At the end of the day, his heart didn't mean it man. He made a mistake. A big one, but it happens all over the country. Doesn't make it OK. It's just important too understand how easily this can happen. Stay up, people. Pay attention. I have 2. I'll always pay attention and these stories reinforce that.
How easily this can happen!?? What are you talking about! How can you forget a child in the car that you were just occupying!? Your own child. The child that you put into the car. How does anyone just forget that?
Forgetting a phone, wallet happens on a rare occasion but another human being that you put in the car and was driving in the car with to your destination!!???? How stupid do you have to be???
This is sad accident guys
Another sad PSA, it would be helpful if there was some sort of safety feature in the vehicle to prevent this from happening. Maybe an alarm system connected to the car seat and computer of the car to set the alarm off so atleast people nearby would know.
@Waking Up This was really nice where is that from
@@mercurialmagictrees some newer cars have the feature. My 2018 chevy before I get out does like the seat belt ding and a message pops up on the screen "please check rear seat" . It does it if one of my back doors of the car were opened right before starting or right after and never opened again prior to turning off my car.
My heart is broken.
The fathers love just overwhelmed him with such grief!!!!!.
Wish i could help out somehow to that family!!!!!!
Im a 53 year old male with tears 😢 😪 for this stranger!!
I'm a 52 year old woman who feels like you heart broken tears in my eyes
Me, too. You just know that Dad felt so bad. He didn't want his boy to be alone. Bless you, for your compassion. I truly believe that every genuine emotion given helps ease their souls.
Heartbreaking situation!!! My deepest sympathies go out to the family!
The love a parent has for a child explains it all!
Suicide is a selfish act. He left his wife (if they were still married) and his entire family. It is selfish.
@@shaggydawg5419 The man's heart was broken. At that point he was a dead man regardless. He knew that nothing was going to bring his own soul back so he chose to leave his body early.
@@shaggydawg5419is it really selfish? remember not everyone has the same level of pain tolerance as you do. His baby died due to his negligence . I doubt he was rational enough to think whether his action(suicide) was selfish or not. As a father, I wish he was able find a way to forgive himself but I also get why he took his life. You just have to be a father to understand that.
@@cx4482 Suicide is not about love, really. It's about escaping unbearable pain, loss, and shame. God bless this child and his father, and may his mother find peace.
@@shaggydawg5419 What was he to do with such unbearable loss and guilt? And think of his shame? How does one parent face another with that crime of negligence? Yes, suicide was a selfish act. I don't know that I could have allowed myself to survive that kind of horrific oversight, however. That teases the threshold of sanity.
This just destroyed my heart. I can't imagine the anguish the father went through and now the mother and remaining family having to go on...
I'm sorry, this is MORE than a mistake!! To forget about your child.... unfathomable!! Makes no sense in my world!!!
Couple of times I drove past the day care straight to office and on the way realized what am I missing to do. Then remembered my daughter sleeping off in matter of few minutes from home and had to drop her off, was a funny incident until now. What kind of a grave mistake I could have created ? I know I’m not alone, but this is something that can definitely happen, this is not those parents leaving the kids alone in the car in gas stations or cvs or pets in the mall etc, this can happen to anyone on a bad day. So sorry about the loss
I admire your honesty and so happy you were able to realize she was there with you
It is impossible for me to comprehend as a father of an adult, when he was a baby it never ever ever ever slipped my mind that he was with me
@@StarrTile you’ve never been exhausted to the point you forgot your own name or age? I can empathize with these parents, because these types of mistakes happen when you’re overworked, exhausted, and stressed to the point you forget everything.
@@Joyish94 NO ! Especially with a child, he was everything to me and I cherished his existence, how could I forget something so important ??? A human ? My car keys, forgot to lock my door, forgot to take a shower before bed, blah blah blah, but never a child, especially when I'm specifically taking him to a daycare
Agree. It can happen to anyone. I had a close call when my daughter was little, too. Got distracted and thrown out of routine with a sleeping child in the back. Fortunately for me, everything turned out fine. However, when I read or hear of something like this happening, it sends shivers down my spine of what could have happened.
Fifteen years ago, I was with my then 14-month-old baby boy in my E-150 Econoline van when I remembered that I wanted to get a quote for window tinting for that vehicle. I stopped at a tint shop but had to wait 25 minutes for the shop's owner to help me since she was on an important phone call. After she finished her call, she came to me and asked what she could help me with... I said I was wondering if you could give me a quote to tint my van windows? I then turned around to show her my van, and I then realized that my son was in the running van with the air conditioner On.
I almost died right there, realizing that I had forgotten entirely that my baby boy was even with me. The shop owner realizing my distress, said, “It's okay, sir; your baby's fine. He's sleeping with the air conditioner On.”
Folks, it didn't matter what she said to me then. To this day, I feel like I failed my wife and my baby at that moment as a father. 😢😢😢
The poor father of this story was on autopilot. I can't even imagine the pain the he must have felt driving his poor baby home one last time. I hope that God can show this father some mercy for what he felt he needed to do after the loss of his baby.
May they both RIP.
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Heartbreaking, I can't imagine the father's pain after finding the baby. God bless the mom and family 🙏🏼
I can't imagine an 18 month old baby who can walk agonizing in the extreme heat crying and screaming..
@Atheistme No blessing in my mind. Just quietly, cooly over now. I hope they are together, daddy and son, without trauma, in peace. Surely, somewhere, if not in life, there must be love and mercy for the innocent. Do our babies and children, all over the world, not suffer enough already? God grant them peace.
His pain did not last long because he soon decided to end things by killing himself
If I accidentally caused my baby's death... I could not live with that either. Unimaginable nightmare.
This is really really sad...
This is heartbreaking! So sad.
All will be healed by the son of man..
You feel bad for a man who killed his baby? What's your problem?
@@Dontcare_at_all she didn't say what part was heartbreaking you're just assuming.
This is so sad. Sometimes you just don't know what goes on in someone's head.
@@JoeBuck207 Do not politicize this. Your comment is completely unrelated to this situation. We're all human and we all suffer the pain of loss.
@@JoeBuck207 can you stay you are very heartless
@@JoeBuck207 America is the laughing stock of the world since dumb as a rock Donald Trump was elected president 🙄
@@JoeBuck207 typical comment from a heartless sociopath supporter
Pretty sure it was a bullet.
You can tell he really loved his child and it’s sad he lost his life. I wish parents that do leave their children in hot cars purposely actually care about their children as much as he did.
What?
Indeed. There'd be a lot less of them. 😂
If he truly loved the kid, he wouldn't have forgotten it was there, and left it in a hot car to die for THREE hours. He killed himself because he didn't want to go to jail.
Dying in a hot car is a terribly painful death. Cooper Harris pulled plugs of his own hair out of his head while raging against the growing intense heat, like being left in an inferno, when his father left him in a hot car all day long in HotLanta.
He obviously didn’t care enough to check the back seat before getting out.
Poor father really couldn’t live with that level of grief
I don't understand how you could ever FORGET you're child is in your car!!! Never!!!
Lord, Jesus..this is heartbreaking. God help his spouse
God is fake
God help ?!?? If that’s whom their looking to for help…helps never coming
@@nakyummm9880 the one and only Lord Jesus will come back soon and he is always there ready for our response but where are the people responding to him? They are mocking him and ignoring him….he died for our sins on the cross and rose to be with God his father. He can change anyones life.
@@nakyummm9880 Hopefully she can find comfort in some form, either through her religion or from other people or a therapist, something to help her get through such an awful loss. No matter what route she takes, it won't be easy, but hopefully she will find a way to the other side of the intense part of grieving.
It’s really sad that he felt he had to end his life because he knew exactly what was going to happen over this devastating accident. The way that he would be raked over the coals and even potentially prosecuted. Over a horrific accident. We make mistakes because we are human. We’re tired, we’re spread too thin, and we make mistakes. This is devastating.
I don't think that he even thought about the consequences of dealing with anything, I think that he was more upset by the fact that he forgot about his child and couldn't accept the fact that he made a mistake
I don't think he cared how others would judge him. He couldn't handle the guilt of the mistake he made. Which is completely understandable.
This coming from a modern woman is shocking...
Don't you try to justify the death of a baby. It's horrible what happened but you being tired doesn't give you a pass, if you have a child their life comes before yours. I doubt the father was thinking about himself and what would happen to him, he was probably more heartbroken than anything.
The consequences, I could live with. The mental anguish, I could not. Having something happen to your child is a parent’s worst nightmare, but if you did that, it makes it a million times worse. It would feel nearly impossible to go on with life. I’m sure he wasn’t trying to escape consequences, and that he was trying to escape the mental torture of the guilt and overwhelming sadness.
The mother is somewhere in terrible pain
That was one mistake that he couldn’t live with. So sad.
*NEVER LEAVE KIDS ALONE IN A HOT CARS!*
Why didn’t parents just get their kids out of their car and then walking to grocery shopping together or somewhere? What lazy parents!
What a ridiculous comment
So so sad 😭 We all need to slow down !!! Live is hurry hurry hurry rush rush rush stress stress stress !!! It’s easy to forget a lot of stuff . We need to slow down our minds so we don’t mess up .prayers for healing to the family.
❤❤❤❤ yessss!!! Ssid it all right there
New parents can sometimes forget they have a new baby . It sounds crazy but I witnessed it myself. My family babysat our landlady’s baby. The lady was a nurse that had a full time job and was attending school after work for a higher degree. She was came on time to get the baby except one evening . She came home and went about her pre child routine and fell asleep. We knew she was home as we heard her movements. Later in the evening she came to get the baby and in tears . She was so tired she forgot her baby.
I can never forget a child that I have. Impossible that’s ur whole life
@AtheistmeShe was maybe sleep deprived as she worked full time as a nurse then headed straight to school after work, add to that late night studying. She was also over 40 with a new baby . Her mind didn’t catch up with her new life.
Beep boop perfectly said! People who make those comments which are A LOT here really need to realize they’re not as perfect as they think. They might not be making those mistakes but as a parent I’m certain they are far from perfect no matter how great a parent you want to be you’ll end up making mistakes
They don’t forget to lock the house and the car. Something very dissociative has to go on in the mind that certain small numbers of new parents do this. Birth control is definitely an option for subconscious wanted-unwanted baby in the way of a busy life. They remember that wallet though and cell phone. They remember to turn that car off. Subconscious priorities must align with conscious priorities.
N S how do you know they don’t forget those other things? Do ppl not lose their phones and wallets and even their keys when they’re sleep deprived? You’re trying to make this into rocket science when it’s something you’ll never understand how you’ll be when you’re so sleep deprived. Have you ever worked so hard or slept so little that ppl think you’re crazy literally. For a while I was working night shift full time going to college right after work full time and then babysitting my infant niece so my sister could go to her evening class. I would get only a couple hours of sleep every day and trust me sometimes I felt so physical sick and felt I was going crazy. You’re forgetful you’re not yourself you’re only trying to better yourself and be good to your loved ones.
This is very traumatizing. When my kids were little I used to talk to them during our car rides even tho they were babies I still communicated with them like my little friends that couldn't talk. I would also reach back and hold their hand from time to time. These interactions keep your baby on your mind. Im so sorry for their loss
❤️❤️so sweet good tip
Same with my little brother 🥺
So important to do things like that. There are also things like spiral cord tethers that keep the parent physically connected to the child, so that they can't get out of the car without feeling the tug of the tether to remind them to get the chid.
Same, I did this with my 2 girls when they were babies and now they’re both teens- and I still reach back on hold their hands. They’re the biggest blessings in my life. I can’t imagine what the father felt, but clearly he couldn’t live with himself after- God bless them both and the families who lost them 🙏
Still don’t understand how this happens. I’ve never forgotten my dog in the car, how could you forget about a human?
This dad knew he made a tragic mistake and he payed it by taking his own life .. my condolences 💐 to the family .. and may the father and child rest in heaven for eternity
I don’t think suicide or accidentally killing your kid gets you into heaven…..
How does shooting yourself "pay it"? Notice he didn't lock himself in a hot car? The baby "paid it", dad's a coward
Dad and baby are together now.
@@nickz5986 Don't judge.
@@tebollenbacher Well let's hope their car priveleges have been revoked
So terrible….😪😪😪
Poor father & baby, soo heart breaking for his family
If I accidentally left my child in the car, I would take my life too.
Car makers should make a alarm that sends off a siren detector for any form of life in a car after it is locked or the door is closed.
Such a tragedy in all our Hearts 😔
I'd shoot my self in a second if I found out I left my 3 year old sister in the car and she died. The pain is too much
I pray that you would not take your life. It solves nothing. Seek counseling. Seriously.
All I read was the title and I am crying. OMG. Imagine being happy with your baby in the morning and just hours later, your baby is dead and you're getting ready to take your own life. While I really could never understand how anyone could forget their baby in a car, I guess it happens. Since I live in AZ, a sitting car can get up over 130 degrees in direct sun. The steering wheel and/gear shift is often too hot to the touch. One day, thinking about one of these cases, I was leaving somewhere middle of an AZ summer and simply got in my car and sat there with the windows up to see how long I could stand it. It was horrible!! I couldn't breathe and got panicky. I had to get out of the car while it cooled off. If you live in a hot place, no matter where you walk in a parking lot, check the cars you pass for kids and animals. This has to be one of the worst ways to die. I hope this dad is with his baby So, so sorry for both of them😥
If you are that happy with your baby, HOW do you forget they are in the car with you?
@@youtubesucks1499 A lot of times it’s when somethings out of routine.
Mom usually drops baby at daycare but today dad was asked to do it.
You drive to work on auto pilot (did you ever get somewhere & not remember how you drove there?)
The babies face backwards and they’re so quiet ,
Even if you look in the backseat or the mirror you don’t see the baby just a car seat.
It only takes one time.
I like the way you write.
No one has a perfect brain. I think all parents should take preventive measures so that this does not happen. Write a note in your car or workplace, set alarms on your phone. Create a system with your partners to remind each other to check the back seat. People asking how is this possible, too many things are possible and as much as we think it won't happen to us, we simply don't know. We need to do our best to make sure we take care of one another. My heart goes out to the family and friends.
Kim, thank you for your compassion for this family. I'd gone 3 years with only 3-6 hours of sleep, supervising 31 kids and 45 staff round the clock, as a therapist and I was fine until I crashed. I went to work, meetings, and night classes. I prepped for the next day, went to bed, and slept through two obnoxious alarm clocks, three blaring phone calls, and my doorman banging on my door for 30 minutes. I woke up just before he called the police for a welfare check. I was bewildered. It felt like a blackout. I had no memory of sleep or rest or dreaming. It was 12:00 pm when I woke up. I made it to work 45 minutes later with no plausible excuse. Everyone was great to me, but I realized that if I had crashed while responsible for a group of unregulated, nonverbal autistic teenagers at risk for self-injury, I would have been 100% responsible for their safety. Just because I was able to do it for years without flaw did not make it best or even good practice. That was 35 years ago and it was a chilling lesson for me. My staff flawlessly covered for me and protected the kids.
Parents don't have the systems in place for "backup" that you described and they are necessary. Most of the child deaths we hear about today occur from abuse, neglect, or parental mental health issues that require family and community support...from the get-go. Many parents just need "nanny-type" reminders to help them through the work, school, and family day. We have the technology and support services, and even the resources to make it possible to provide preventative support to all of our families. We can give it in kindness before tragedy or neglect occur. Kim, in my observation over all these years, I'm frightened that in the USA we believe children are property and therefore subject to family dominance and control. If love is not the cohesive glue within a family, maybe we need, as a society, to reevaluate our motives.
So if your brain is so screwed up you have to set an alarm and write yourself a note : DON'T LET BABY DIE IN A HOT CAR.
Maybe they shouldn't be a parent. Just saying.
Exactly! You can never take too many precautions. Amen!
I thought it would never happend to me. Well it didn't happen with my 1st child but with the 2nd one it's just too overwhelming and the lack of sleep threw me off. Good thing before I entered the store, I had a vague memory of putting my child in the car and so I went back and check my backseat and she was there sleeping. I thought I left her at home with her Dad because my husband had a day off that day.
@@camryl13 Yeah, did your mom or grandma leave a baby in the car?
No. Why? The baby was never a "clump of cells".
I could forget cancer. A clump of cells.
Who forgets a baby?
A wonderful life?
People who see a baby as a cancerous cell....
How the heck do even forget you have a baby?! Makes no sense!
Only because this man took his own life, people have sympathy towards him. If he didn't, they would chastise him for the rest of his life for being a horrible absent-minded parent.
Heartfelt is to the family 🙏
What a heart breaking story, this hurts my heart so badly. I'm sure if it was me in that situation I'd do the exact same thing as this poor father. I hope he's at peace now.
May resurrection morning be in a twinkling of an eye for this daddy. The angels will place this baby back in his father's arms as Jesus looks the dad in the face and says, "it's ok. I made up the difference for your mistake. Enjoy eternity with me forever more."
Oh no. How sad. I feel it's safe to assume that he was probably exhausted and overworked and this is what happens when we don't have adequate care in this country
You hit the nail on the head. There is no way he would forget a baby in a car unless he is overworked, stressed and exhausted. A lot of us feel like that on the daily basis.
What????
Hello Joanna
Nah bro, he wasn't fit to be a parent. That's it
This is an uppity neighborhood you want to come on down to where I live and talk about how hard things are we don't leave our babies in the car.
Absolutely gut-wrenching to hear this. I wouldn't have been able to live it either. My heart goes out to his family and friends
How incredibly sad 😭 poor baby poor Daddy poor momma this is unbelievably heart breaking
That is just unbelievably heartbreaking. I'm so sorry for this whole family.
He must have loved that little guy so much… pains my heart. 💔🙏
I can’t imagine the pain that father must have felt. So much so he had to take his own life. Absolutely devastating. My heart and soul go out to the mother, the family.
This sad for everyone involved 💔
This story is heartbreaking, sending love and prayers to the family
This poor man and family. It’s so easy when you are sleep deprived to forget even majorly important tasks like getting your child out of the car. 😿
Yeah, I tend to be forgetful -- and yes, even important stuff -- so I can sympathize with this poor guy. 😥
Where did they say he was sleep deprived?
@@autumn1768 They didn't, but I suppose it's a fair assumption that the parents of _any_ 18-month-old is going to be sleep deprived.
@@Milesco I guess. Last night I went to sleep at 10pm and woke up at 2:30am unable to sleep. It’s currently 630pm…to say I’m sleep deprived would be generous. But I still take care of my foster kids 🤷🏻♀️ I wish I could use being tired as an excuse to neglect them…NOT!
@@autumn1768 He is the parent of a baby…he WAS the parent of a baby…He was sleep deprived!!
My heart and prayers go out to this family. How terribly heartbreaking.
I taught my 18 month old how to get out of her car seat on her own and how to open another door which does not have child lock. She's 4 now and we still did the drill just last week.
These things are important in case of an emergency.
Rest in peace little angel. This is a sad story.
Incredibly sad accident. 💔
As a social worker in FL for many years, I worked with dozens of families that left a child in a car. Fortunately the child was discovered by people passing by before serious injury could occur. People don’t realize how common this is, it’s just most cases don’t make the news. In nearly every case I worked with there was a change in the family’s regular routine that resulted in the child being forgotten. My heart aches for this dad and the entire family.
Cars need some sort of alarm or signal to remind people that an infant or child is still in the car, maybe even a sensor in the car seat, something that flashes silently every few seconds that the driver can see, they have an Amber Alert when a child goes missing, why can't there be some sort of an alert for baby in your car, this case is so very sad on many levels, ugh!
Yes ofcourse there should be an alert to remind rhese kind of situations.
For the beneft of people we are going to launch an app very soon to prevent such scenarios
Wow. Heartbreaking. My heart goes out to the wife/mom and their families. Rip.
That's a real dad!!! My heart stands and mourns with his family 🙏🙏
really? he left his family and wife and you think he's a real man? I understand his extreme grief but killing himself is really selfish. It sounds more like he doesn't want to go to prison.
@Duffelbag Drag U sound like a perfect human being!!!!!
Nowadays, just about every car has dark tinted windows, which makes it difficult for passers-by to even notice children trapped in hot cars in order to possibly rescue them.
I feel bad for that mother
Lost 2 loved ones, tbh i would do the same if i lost my child (if i was a parent) because it going to hurt me so much
I'm so sorry hope they're together in heaven together
This absolutely breaks my heart.
Here is a suggestion for parents or caretakers,you can take one of your shoes off and put it in the back seat with the baby/kid,if you actually forget about the child, you will notice your shoe is off when you get out and have to look in the back seat where the child is to retrieve the shoe
He loved his kid the guilt was too much
Folks use the phrase “your child is supposed to outlive you” and his man took it to heart literally. Can’t imagine the pain that his family feels, having lost the two souls.
It's a hard thing to say what you'd do in a situation you weren't in and place yourself in someone else's shoes, but I never understand how people forget their baby in the car. I know people get preoccupied and can be forgetful, etc. but especially when my daughter was a baby and young child, idk how to explain it, but she was such an integral part of my life I couldn't imagine going to the grocery store for instance and just getting out of the car totally forgetting that she's with me. Like, even before she could talk and interact, I would be talking to her and glancing at her in the rear view mirror while driving somewhere, just her being present with me was at the front of my mind no matter what the destination or purpose for driving somewhere.
Regardless, it's always so tragic when stuff like this happens and I hope the family finds some peace.
Exactly. If ur attentive parent at all times checking on ur child. How do u forget them.....for HOURRRSSSSS?
Exactly and they always say my son my daughter it's everything to me it's my life. I have a 10 month old granddaughter. After she was born I started making safety precautions around the house.
I have thought the same thing - how can anyone forget there is another human being in the car with them, especially a helpless child who is depending on you to protect and care for them. Such an absolutely heartbreaking story
Because if you are not used to dropping them off and the baby falls asleep, you're headed to work in workmode. Don't judge this family- they have lost enough.
@@princesslamour1985 you say forgetting "FOR HOURSSSS" like it's an activity he intentionally did. Forgetting is simply the absence of remembering. Out of sight, out of mind as the saying goes. Its going to happen much more often in work centric-unconscious culture like ours
Our family friend rolled over on his baby while they were sleeping and suffocated him. Once the EMTS said the baby was gone he ran back in his house and shot himself in the head smh sad situation
I'm so sorry. How tragic.
That father really loved that baby.
Prayers to their souls and everyone else who is deeply affected.
This was obviously not typical negligence. This father was absolutely distraught. After having my son, I used to envision those same sort of scenarios…. Leaving him in the car, not checking on him while he was eating, leaving him in the bathroom for too long… in my mind, all of the possibilities ended with the same result.. me dying with him.
How can you forget your child in the backseat? Seriously! It’s not excusable!
I am so sorry for everyone involved.
I'm trying to understand how this is happening over and over again. How do you forget your children are in your car?
It is not forgetting the child in the car so much as not realizing he did not go to the daycare. It is not difficult to have the previous days memory in your mind and think it was what you did today especially when you do something everyday. Most likely in his mind he dropped the child off at the daycare but he was just remembering the day before.
Buckle a teddy bear in the front seat if you have a child in the car. My deepest condolences and sympathies to his wife, family and friends,😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
If you require anything to remind you that you have children, you shouldnt have children.
Or maybe put one shoe in the backseat….
@@soundcrash5810 Finally, someone with a brain! Exactly, if you're too dumb to remember having a child, give the child to someone smarter!
Sometimes people are absent minded usually it doesn't end in a accidental death,
@@soundcrash5810 Overwork, lack of sleep, overstress, illness, family/work pressures, doing too much, stretched to the limit any and all can cause a person to make a mistake. If you have never driven home or to work and do not remember the trip? The preventable death compounded by self inflicted punishment. Tragedy all around.
My heart is breaking for this family
Dear God please give their family peace.
I am at a loss as to how you can forget your child is in the car. I just don’t understand.
His love for his son was so strong he couldn’t bare to live without him.
He felt tremendous pain 🥲
Very devasting... I remember when I had my 1st baby I would forget so many things because I was tired, stressed, and depressed so it makes sense how an accident like this could occur... may they both rest in peace and may God take the dad and reunite him with his son
I'm so sorry...
This is too much for us to bare, think of his emotions, how as a nation can we ever heal, when each day we have to heal all over again, we're not getting any down time.
God bless this baby & it's grieving father who could not handle this tragic accident.
God bless us all!
☮🧡🙇🏼♂️
Anyone can heal with God because
Philippians 4:6-7 states-
"Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus."
lol What?
Bare them cheeks
He was in unbearable pain on top of being put in jail with this grief and noway to cope. How awful 😞
Bless them all
It just keeps getting darker and darker out 😔. Tragic and heartbreaking
Heartbreaking I will be praying for the family.
Omg so horrible this absolutely breaks my heart. I will be praying for the mommy and family 😭😭🙏🙏❤❤
That's love, and loss taken to its limits.
I can’t imagine forgetting my child in the car. How can I forget my child?