Hoarders ❤️ Living Room Reset | Cleaning Therapy | ADHD & Anxiety
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- Опубликовано: 4 фев 2025
- This Video is dedicated to Sam Watts who shared how cleaning feels peaceful and gives a sense of control in life. So today we’re going to finish Decluttering in this living room while using the Flylady Method!! I want to get this done so I wasn’t stressed about cleaning around the holidays! I also wanted to continue the conversation on how my ADHD and ANXIETY behaviors made cleaning stressful to me but so many others find peace and satisfaction while cleaning and Decluttering! It’s just another way for us to understand each other in hopes of bringing togetherness ❤️
#cleaning #home #anxiety
I love that you said Pepper is shopping the hoarded basement, that made me laugh out loud! She is so cute. I love that Tyler wants to help dust and clean with you, that alone must bring so much peace and joy and tranquility into your life. Thank you for sharing!
Thank you so so much!! Seriously I just loved your sweet message!! Yes, it makes me feel not alone when I clean, like now it’s a bonding moment 💕💕 Another positive spin on cleaning to add to my nervous system!! Lol
Wasn't that beautiful about Pepper? I know that special meow, my cat Moon does that too when she brings her toys into the lounge room. Too cute.
Oh wow Pepper is copying you and decluttering the basement 💞 oh it's so sweet! 😍😺
Love how Tyler is involved. Your efforts are really paying off.
Thank you so so much 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼 That truly means so much to my heart!!!
Pepper shopping in the hoarded basement 😂❤ xx
"Pepper shops in the hoarded basement"😍😍😍LOL Pepper saves quite a bit of money AND is being mindful of environment - "Reuse, repurpose, recycle"!🤣
I just watched the episode where you were so disappointed that this room slipped back a bit after the big declutter. You have come so far in your journey since then. Look how quickly you were able to reset the hottest zone in your house. And I only saw remnants of living in a busy household. No bags of collected random items. What a remarkable transformation in only 3 years. Your dedication in working at this is bearing fruit. Remarkable achievement.
I love you are living the example of bite sized chunks you can manage. My head has a hard time breaking down all the tasks. Thanks!
Awe, thank you so much my dear friend 🦄💜🌟💕🙏🏼
Cats just crack me up. They are so silly. Paper bags are so entertaining.
I’ve realized from watching my Mom, Grandma, and aunts that they keep tidy homes by remembering that it’s easier to keep up than to catch up. Flylady teaches that, too, and your ‘don’t put it down put it away’ fits in to that idea. You’re doing so well! 👏👏👏👏Bravo to you and Tyler - and Pepper, for bringing you ‘tossy tossy’ items from the basement! 😁💜💙💚💛🧡❤️🦄
Some years ago, my daughter gave me a beautiful birthday card. I pull it out every year. My daughter in law brought me a book from Paris. Nothing wrong with
keeping a few things that bring joy. Just set limits. One in, one out. Tina, Al's wife
Pepper shops in the basement 😂. Love it 😊
Ms. Heart, your videos have inspired and motivated me that a former hoarder can recover and get better with time. Thank you so much for your words of wisdom and care. I look forward to new videos every week, keep up the good work.
Pepper shops in the basement too, love it!❤️
I have been finding myself saying, a little more often now, “Don’t put it down, put it away.” #changingoldhabits
Ohhhhh, this makes my heart so so happy!! Yessss, I hope this is helping you too 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼💕
I told her that saying in the beginning !!😂 and it's true. 🌹
I love how authentic and honest this account is. I often feel intimidated by accounts that elude perfectionism. I struggle with ADHD too and I appreciate that you’re so forward about overcoming bad habits
sometimes we strive to be like other's when we need to strive to be ourselves. it's our journey in life and should be doing what works for use and at our pace. practice makes progress. your doing so well and progressing in your own way. love your videos.
I can't prioritize daily tasks unless everything is clean and minimalistic so my brain can see point A and point B etc, but when everything is clean and open and the room feels bigger, I can think clearer on what tasks to do, but I feel very very exposed because I'm not surrounded in my clutter. I feel accomplished after the clean but also uncomfortable. It's so confusing and frustrating. I've noticed sleeping in a small space like in a bed tent or bed canopy helps because I feel less exposed not seeing all the big empty spaces.
Love your videos! Can't wait for the next one, everytime! Good Job!! You are Magnificent!
After a long exhausting day of teaching, working out, and daughters year round swim team practice every night & sometimes grocery store I found it easier to take the extra 5 min to put my bag and purse away. Along with putting groceries away and getting homework & supper started. 10 extra minutes after arriving home kept our homes clutter under control. After supper we did dishes and finished homework. Bath and tv and then in bed by 9:30. If we failed to do it even one evening we had extra to do on Saturday’s chore chart. Was it exhausting? Absolutely. But mornings went easier. Life can be hard without a routine. After a couple of months it became second nature. Nothing is perfect but the example was worth it to my adult daughter now. Her job was school, swim & homework. She was home for 18 years and now I miss the busy days. Life is full of lessons.
Yea, your home looks very inviting. I saw that you didn’t have lots of bags in front of the black cubby like you used to have. You are really doing so well these days and it’s great that Tyler helps you too.
That’s so funny! One of my kitties brings me things from our basement too. 😂
Tyler is becoming a master of decluttering, cleaning and organizing. Is so great to have those habilities since childhood. You are raising an independent man. Is rhe second time that I've been amazed of how the three of you interact when cleaning. Is so cute. What before was a tortuous chore, now it seems a truly family time, you share a goal and work together towards it. Is so beautiful and the three of you are so cute.
Cleaning as family time is a great insight, because I remember in the last video she talked about dreading mundane tasks, because they took away from family time. Now both can be done together!
I love doing "don't put it down, put it away". I also love this tip I saw online a few years ago called "no wasted trips". Anytime you are going to another room or another part of the house, take as much stuff with you as possible that need to go to that room. If you are going to the kitchen for a snack, take as many things as you can find that need to go to the kitchen or near it. Always have something in your hands. That has been SUCH a big help for me 💖😊
I do this, too. I'm so glad you mentioned it!
Love it ❤
Awesome job Mrs heart and Tyler ♥️
Literally LOL'd at Pepper shopping the hoarded stash. Atta girl!
Miss Pepper is such an amazing addition to your family! ❤❤❤
Ohhhh I forgot you asked how cleaning made us feel in your last video! I’m with Sam - Cleaning is control. I have serious melt downs when things are cluttered or dirty, misplaced, a mess ect…I think I’m the opposite side of the compulsive spectrum. Cleaning and organizing is my therapy, but also what keeps me from loosing my mind.
Love that you recognize the decorating is joyful, but too many decorations are not. Such a healthy balance. 💛
Cleaning is TOTALLY my therapy! I say this as a therapist myself lol.
Watching your videos has given me so much insight into my mother's hoarding. She had extreme difficulty letting go of anything and it got worse as she got older. I never understood the why of it but when you talked about childhood trauma, it made so much sense. My mom's brother was declared MIA in WWII and soon after, she became very ill and had to have her thyroid removed. She was 14 at the time. I think those two events were the root cause of her hoarding.
One Suggestion - Moving all the games and school supplies to the shelves next to the fireplace - Moving all the photos into bins to sort. Getting rid of the school supplies and game shelves will reduce cluttering area and also less furniture in the home
or
Putting up the TV above the fireplace and moving the games cabinet in place of the existing tv cabinet - rearranging the couch to face the fireplace
I totally understand I’m messy but when I clean I feel amazing and love my home again. ❤❤❤
Ms Kitty is shopping the basement as well 😄
I come from a family of minimalists! I have OCD characteristics that cause extreme anxiety over clutter around the house. Weirdly though, that control stops when it hits my bedroom. My room was always something I could never keep on top of. So thank you for giving me the words of wisdom to be kind to myself. It encourages me to declutter parts of my room:)
I love watching you and pepper
I was a baby hoarder and have been a minimalist for years. I still struggle to let some things go sometimes but I will tell you over time I have found I get a real buzz out of the decluttering itself... Something so freeing about it that there are days I look around wishing I had stuff to get rid of bc I could use the purge therapy... I also love organizing and tidying in general. I wish I could say the same for cleaning but even though it's easier and more manageable now it's still never gonna be super fun to me to wash dishes and scrub floors. 🙄 Thanks for the content I really needed it today.
Today I rode the high of your last decluttering and FlyLady videos, and cleaned for about 20 mins in my bedroom and kitchen! It's not perfect, but it's much better. What you said about the ADHD shame hit me so hard, it's true. But we're healing! 💗
Perfection isn't attainable, so it makes a lousy goal. Better is attainable, no matter where you're starting.
@@darleneh608 Yes, exactly. Like Ms. Heart always says, progress :)
Awesome 👍🏽 Job
My kitty Storm likes to fish tissues out of the trash and bring them to us 😆Only tissues, nothing else out of the trash! I don't know why, but it's so funny.
Pepper is so darned precious!!! She’s bringing you toys from the basement - that’s too much! It’s like she understands the series about decluttering the basement! 😹 Your lantern display by the fireplace is very nice - just enough - I really like it - I’m usually not into a ton of thematic decorations but I like what you did there; it’s elegant.
Great vid! I love your Daily Time Blocking sheets! I do that on the notes app on my iPhone. Helps me with my adhd. Also ❤️ the FlyLady timer!! I’m a Ladybug macro organizer per the Clutterbug’s quiz. Once I found that out and learned how to macro organize, it was literally like a light at the end of the tunnel of my whole life! Really helped me. Thanks for your vids!!
Great job ….Tyler is a rockstar 😊❤️
Awe!!!! Thank you so very much 💜🦄🙏🏼🌟
I use „don‘t put it down, put it away“ when doing my daily tidy-up, it helps me to accomplish a task- thanks to you for sharing it with us❤❤❤
Haha yeah that's kitties finding things to play with or in this case since she is an indoor cat she brings you trophies to show her love. Good for her not running out the door. My cat would run outside and then cower as she was a house cat
Love it! I’m racking my shoe rack in my entrance today. Can I suggest that you move the bench in closer to the wall? That way stuff won’t end up down beside it. I’m trying to strategically block certain problem areas in my house and moving furniture so I can’t squirrel it is helping
(Viewing just 29 minutes after posting. Why does hitting it so close to the premiere make me feel this good? ✊😅)
I always enjoy and APPRECIATE your progress and motivation. 🧡🧡🧡🧡🧡
Awe, I absolutely LOVE your energy 🦄💜🌟💕🙏🏼 Thank you so so much for being my friend through all of this!!
❤This is so lovely! I have been struggling with ADHD and hoarding all my life, but never really identified that it was hoarding. As I'm finally making peace with these impulses and trying to keep forward momentum and make space for my life your videos, and especially your kind words, are so soothing to my heart and soul. Thank you so much for sharing your journey, it helps me believe change is possible for me as well. ❤❤❤
Wow! Your house really looks nice!
You are doing an amazing job. I hope you are proud of yourself. Also, Pepper really loves you. I love how he stays right with you as you clean and declutter.
Awe, thank you so so much for saying that 💕🙏🏼 I want to believe she knows how much I love her, so by you writing that it makes me feel like she knows it and loves me back! Thank you 😻❤️
Summer tote that's I call it.. Love decorating every holiday
don't put it down, put it away has changed me too!
You are so structured, cool! The time blocking thing seems awesome. Tyler is so sweet, he really wants to be in the videos. :) Your pumpkins are so cute!
good job, the system is working for you that is so good. big hug Ellen
Proud of you for always trying to figure it out 😺💜💜
Tyler is a very good duster! 👍💛🍁
I like the clothes pumpkin on your door ❣️
Omg you went through everything so quickly. Great to see Tyler helping too, well done Tyler 👏 Of course we can’t forget Miss Pepper either helping declutter the basement 🐈👏 Miss Heart ❤️ I love how you explain each step, it definitely helps stop the negative talk to ourselves. Stay safe and healthy. Mary, Joes wife 👏💪👍🙏💐🐈
Tyler is doing a great job helping out. This is really good for him to learn these skills. You are doing an amazing job!
You are getting it done! Your boys are learning by your good example! as well.
Looks fantastic congratulations 🎊 💜🦄🐈⬛
From randomly watching since I am a lot like Sam - thank you for sharing his thoughts- I can see a lot of changes and improvements. You are doing great! I have a daughter who I believe has ADHD and I will show her this video today and see if she could understand or relate. Since i am on the other side (but still wonder if I have ADHD as well) it is hard to understand but you explain it so well. Thank you :)
Why don't you remove the cubical unit out of the living room? Either make room for it in the basement or move each of the kids' stuff to their rooms. It's a space that is calling for clutter. If you eliminate it, everything will look more tidy and the area will look bigger. Another option is getting doors to at least cover the cubes, it will hide the visual clutter. You will feel a lot more organized and calm since you won't get to see it all the time, especially it's placed right next to the tv.
Just coming to your front door and seeing how pretty everything is looking is wonderful but, then getting cute little Ms. Pepper with that has made my day joyful 🥰👍
Awe!!! Thank you so so much!! Pepper has definitely brought so much love into our home 😻❤️😻❤️
It looks AMAZING!!!! Great job. 🎉👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Love the Halloween kitty sign you have It was cute
Great job dusting Tyler 🙂👍👋🌻
Beautiful!!
The second I hear “Pepper says” I know it is going to be a great video!
Greetings from Tokyo Japan. I own a cat too, and when I saw Miss Pepper bring some "gifts" from the basement, that made me laugh out loud, I guess all if not most house cats do that??
BTW you have a beautiful house. A beautiful house for a beautiful family! :)
You always motivate me to work on something in my house! Love your videos, Pepper and your boys are a wonderful addition when they show up. You are a wonderful mum to both animals and humans. Keep being you because you are awesome 🦄🐾❤
Love your videos!!!!! Great job!
Another great job! I wonder if you will be doing hoarding videos in a year - seems like you might be over that part by then, and just into decluttering! 💗
Nice job helping Mom Tyler!!!
ahaha it made me laugh to think of Pepper doing her own little "shop my hoarded basement" video :D so cute
Pepper is the best! I laughed so hard 😻
Awesome job! I think your livingroom looks so cozy and welcoming. I'm working on my HOT spot right now too.
Great Job looks nice
Congratulations! You're brilliant!
Awe, you are really so so sweet, thank you so much ☺️🙏🏼
Omg I can’t believe I missed that shout out before 😂….thank you so much you made my day ❤❤❤
I love your series and I know you didn't ask for ideas - so feel free to totally disregard - but as an organizer and an ADHD person myself, I wonder if swapping the bench and the cubby unit might work well? The cubby unit would be closer to the dining table , which seems like a great spot to quickly put away art and office supplies, and then the bench would be the first thing you see across from the front door and a spot to sit and put on shoes? The cubby could also have a small tray for incoming mail and keys.
Great job helping Mom, Tyler!
Pepper is just an adorable Kitty 😻
I’ve been watching your videos for so long now and it still hurts watching my father live like a happy little squirrel with his things, the flies, all if it. I’m grateful to you for understanding, I’m trying to but never have I ever seen till your videos.
He’s my Dad, I love him, I do not love the way he currently lives. Enough of this…On with the deputtering!
Greetings from Prague.
Miss ❤ I love your vids so much! Now Pepper is so much fun to watch watching you do things lol. Great work, I am here since the beginning and I am amazed and motivated by your progress. Good job :) Currently rewatching and catching up :) have a nice day
Love watching your videos! Had to go back to the first one and binge watch your progress. 💖
Have you ever thought about switching your dining room table with the cubicle? Your table always looks nice
Hello from Germany and hi miss heart. Good job, be safe
Your house looks great!
You guys are much improved!!! Wish you could get to where the messes don't get that bad.
My cat, Bender took one of my washie tapes and put it in her water dish.
GREAT JOB PEPPER
Wonderful video as always. :)
Thank you so much my beautiful friend 🦄💜🌟🙏🏼
Just catching up on your videos after a busy couple of weeks, now you have decluttered the 'Christmas cave' could you change its purpose and have all of your different seasons decorations stored in there so you know where everything is? Great video as usual
Oh, Time blocking sounds like something that could help me, too. I am curious. Habit tracker do not stick and with to do lists I always forget something or do not estimate the time rightly. I need to have time to go into deep work and time blocking could do it (but how can I organize it without falling into a loophole of following a passion for 10 days in a row and forget everything else?)
Hi there sweetie pie hope you are well I am sure your family and friends are very proud of you Happy Holidays love Pepper love from Eugenie your friend xxx 🌺🦊🍁💕🏡
I loove Pepper shopping the hoarded basement - giggled so much. Cats are so precious! I've also been thinking, you get given a lot of paper clutter from external sources... like, it keeps coming into your house in large amounts each week. I know a bunch of it is school stuff (unavoidable) and art work the boys have created, but are there any techniques to stop the paper clutter from entering in the first place? Or to lessen it before if gets in your hotspots? Maybe one of your viewers knows some good tips for stopping paper at the door. xox
Well, there's Paperkarma, an app that helps you opt out of receiving catalogs and junk mail (snail mail). Edited to try and make it clear that you specify ones you don't want to receive anymore. It doesn't opt you out of all of these, only the ones you tell it you want to stop.
That’s cute Pepper shopping in the basement lol. Why not have a recycle bin by your table to put flyers and advertisements right away so the bin on your table doesn’t fill up.
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You should do hooks above your bench!
As someone with ADHD *and* OCD, I want to remind you and everyone that OCD is absolutely *NOT* synonymous with “clean / tidy.” Using it in that way is like saying a person who misplaced their keys or showed up a minute late is “so ADD / ADHD.”
Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is not a term for someone who loves and enjoys keeping a clean home. OCD is a spectrum, just as ADHD is.😘
One person with OCD may spend all day wiping everything ~and I mean EVERYTHING~ down, over and over, and throwing too much away because they simply CAN’T have any specks and splatters or clutter of daily life or they just might succumb to their anxiety - whilst another may feel completely paralyzed with true perfectionism: unable to even start due to the overwhelming reality that it will never, EVER turn out the way our unrealistic standards expect it to, so why even bother trying. “I won’t do it right… I never do anything right…”
**(This has also played a part in my own struggle with hoarding disorder. Not only did I put my identity into so many objects, I couldn’t let go of any even if I tried, for in my mind, they wouldn’t be going to the “right” person. “No one will ever cherish this as much as I do…” )
My main point is that OCD is real, it’s awful, and it’s also a spectrum.
I really appreciate you starting up these conversations.♥️♥️♥️
…Just please be careful using a diagnostic term to describe a behavior.
~~Edited to add: This is the longest comment I’ve ever left you😅 - and it is meant with sooo much love and respect. I want you to know I can’t begin to tell you how proud of and inspired by you I have been all these years. PLEASE keep doing what you’re doing. ✊♥️)