I’m in the process of training my family to accept that I am happy despite not walking the expected path. They may never come around but life is short and I’m just going to do me :) awesome video
Currently right now. Hitting the towards the end of my degree and trying to prepare myself to work as soon as I can. Trying to just get a full time job since I haven't been able to work when I came back this year from Japan. Also a weird period because it is such a unsure time, I want to work but don't want to be that kind of person to stop my part-time job once I am able to work in the industry. It's just a weird weird period. P.S I've never been this early!
You mention being pressured by parents for not being at a certain stage of your life. My traditional Chinese parents think I’m moving too far forward! I want to move in with my boyfriend, interstate in Australia soon, and I feel like every week, my parents try to convince me to not move out too quickly. I’m 24, am working full time and am very independent. They keep repeating that they are older and have walked that pathway before and they want me to not go down that pathway because there will be hard times. Time and time again I tell them, if I don’t experience and create these milestones, how will I learn what works and doesn’t work for me. Learning these life experiences will teach me how to navigate through life in a manner I would be comfortable with, and if something bad happens, I take it, fix it and learnt from it.
hi jenn i have always felt it especially being the oldest among my siblings and being a type a student . first year of college was the hardest .. i've witnessed failure for the first time in my life and it was a dark time from wich i am still recovering till now . it took a toll on my parents considering the fact it was the first time i failed to make them proud ... and the blame was put entirely on me .. , later on , i found out that i was dealing with depression and it led to an endless circle of doubt and fear , doubting my own skills, my previous accomplishments and the fear of facing it all alone for that my parents would'nt accept the fact that i was anxious and depressed and accused me of laziness. now thinking back i believe it was all age related pressure ... you have to graduate by the age of 21 or else you would be a failure ... you cannot take a year off ( at one time i begged them to take a year off ) life will pass you by and you will regret it later on . however , now , a law school graduate (on the 23rd of may 2018 and at the age of 21 ) i am happy to say i found peace and i am ready to tackle the next chapter . the pressure is still ubiquitous ( i have friends that already found jobs , others taking summer classes abroad in prestigious universities ..) but i won't let it stop me from living my moment , my time now and in the present . everyone's journey has its own pace and rythm ! thank you jenn for always shedding light on various important topics and for being an inspiration of mine
Congratulations! Achieve those goals of yours. As someone who also went to college later I completely understand the "better late then never" thought process. But really life is not that big of deal and I did way better at university the second time at a later age then when I went right out of high school. Good luck! 🙃
My mom didn't start till she was 24 and then got a $200k job doing what she loved, that she probably wouldn't have gotten if she started sooner. Everyone's timeline is different! You got this :)
By the time I get my Bachelors which is in 2 years, I would’ve taken a total of 8 years to attain it!! Either ways, I am proud of my journey and you should be too!
Dearest Jenn, I and a lot of your subscribers can agree that sticking to your channel and growing with you and your channel was the best thing we all could have done. I personally am fortunate to have looked to your channel for inspiration, ideas, and hope for my own life. I just turned 27 this year and it’s been an immense time of pressure especially as an Asian Pacific Islander living in a rural farm town (just 10 minutes from Davis). I was a transfer student myself and moved back home after graduation and have since not figured life out. It is hard at times to look toward optimism especially at our age when you feel stuck and from growth and success. Age has a lot to do with everything. It’s a tricky and difficult road but we only make the trip as smooth as we allow it to and I think that your channel and content like this and you have made all the difference in being hopeful for the future. I’m so glad to have stuck with you and your channel for all these years! Thank you, Jenn ♡
When you said you were 27 I just realised how long I have been subscribed in your channel. It made me smile because you’ve become a part of my life growing up. You influence me so much in a positive way Jenn. Honestly speaking, you’re the only YT channel that I always know that I love and will never get tired of watching. I love you loads Jenn! xxx
I'm from China. Age pressure is real. But gladly I live in Shanghai where there's a lot of women stay single and work hard! Really inspired by the SK II video. It's amaizing. Thank you Jenn!
I loved this so much and can relate on so many levels!! Being the same age, I also feel pressure to “get it together” with my career. Also learning to distance myself from how my channel performs too. So glad you shared this & thanks for always being real 💖💖
I've been watching since your days at UC Davis. Your genuineness, passion, vulnerability and authenticity is refreshing and you motivate me every day to strive towards my goals! I don't feel the societal pressures just yet as someone in their early twenties, but I know it'll be creeping up soon. However, as someone very driven by social media, I definitely do compare myself and I realise that does stop me from being myself and being truly authentic. I love you! You're an inspiration.
I just graduated college and going through this dilemma! Everyone is asking me what I’m doing now, and I’m in the process of building a stable self esteem. I am learning to ignore others and to make the choices that is healthy for myself mentally.
same.. I'll be 21 in October and I feel so much pressure because I want to be a videographer which is ''risky'' acording to my parents. So they want me to get a B.A in Video (education is a must in my house) but i feel like i have to prove them that i made the right choise like "you better make it out there or you wasted your parents' money" :(
What a coincidence because I'm studying writing and film too! Yes, that is a problem a lot of my classmates face. On the other hand, mine is not about education but about graduating, earning money and going on a gap year.
Avital Pikovski cool of your parents to push you that much and have faith in you! Don’t stress too much over proving them, otherwise you’ll always be second guessing. I mean.. they know that your trying really hard anyways.
As a recent under-graduate, I definitely needed to see this. It has only been almost 2 weeks since graduation and I already feel this amount of pressure to have interviews under my belt, job applications on job applications to be sent out, etc... it's nuts. I'm actually proud of myself for not comparing myself to my friends and other peers (although that is what I did like 48 hours straight, after I crossed that stage LOL T-T) because I forbid myself for falling into society's rat race of life where there are "deadlines" --- but you know what, f*** you society, I will live my life the way I want to and I will live it to the fullest without meeting the "criteria!"
This was a great video. I understand the pressure of feeling like I should be somewhere, I'm 29 turning 30 this year and sometimes I see the people I know getting married, buying a house, having kids and I'm just here carving out my career path. But I sometimes felt like I didn't do things in "right" order, I realized at 27 that it's okay that I'm not married, I have a great bf who supports me in everything I do, and that I will have my home one day; it's okay to take your time and be at your own pace in life. Great video Jenn.
I'm 23, having my bachelor's degree this year but I don't really know what next ... I feel inside like being 23 I should have figured out everything what to do next and It's mentally killing me inside .. Seeing my friends that they're in serious relationships, having kids already, knowing what do to with studies and jobs and all that stuff, I really feel consfused and stress out .. I know that I'm still young but the pressure is so big .. Thank you for sharing this kind of thins because your videos really made me feel better. Love you Jenn!
This was such an inspiring video! I literally stopped the vid and wrote it down on the memo "comparing is the game where you will always lose". This quote convinced me to be myself! I love you Jenn
that was such an inspiring video. i can feel your energy and self confidence and that makes me want to try and love myself more. i am so proud of who you are as a person right now. i really hope you are happy. you deserve it!
Thank you so much Jenn for this video I really needed it. I am currently 25 and I have been feeling like a failure because I'm still working on getting my college degree. I had to dropout of college after my freshman year because I was in am abusive relationship and dealing with court and everything else that came with finally getting out of it was just to much for my young self to do on my own. I took a year off and I have just been trying to put myself together ever since.
Thank you for watching, Jessica! I'm sorry to hear the bumps you've had in your life, but I'm glad you are working your way to be a stronger person. Rooting for you!
If anyone is struggling with age pressure I highly recommend looking into the life of Iris Apfel. At 96, this woman is a interior and fashion icon as well as a successful business woman (mostly taking off in the later years of her life). When asked what three words sum up her outlook on life she quotes "just one trip!" Great video once again Jenn, thank you ! xx
i enjoyed my life in the early 20s and got stuck in the middle of 20s. got lost and hopeless during 26-28. now i am getting much better after the course of thoughts. thx for ur vid. it was just a perfect moment to watch this.
I feel age-related pressure NOW, as a 22 year old. It seems like I am surrounded by people younger than me who are getting married, having children... While I just graduated from college and I am still living at home with my parents. I can't even imagine dedicating myself to one person for the rest of my life or being responsible for raising a tiny human into being an adult right now as a 22 year old!
I love this video so much. I'm definitely feeling some age pressure after having graduated from college and have not yet figured out what I really want to do.. and especially with social media it's hard to avoid seeing other people's success and wanting to compare with yourself. Thank you for making this!!
Jennifer Lai agree,social media has affected us much esp i think Instagram. We start to questioning our self because so much exposure you can see from others. I begin to deactive my account lately and learn more abt self love and more appreciated with what i have. I can surely feel happier and lighter :)
Yesssss!!! I love this! I am about to be a senior in college right now so I feel like everyone is expecting so much from me and I’m not super sure what I’m doing! Thank u my girl I needed this!
Asian parents be like “You’re not allowed to date when you’re still in school, not even college” but when you graduated they expected you to get married and have kids instantly :(
Greek parents are like : You can have a girlfriend but be careful and not get her pregnant / You can't have a boyfriend, you're too young. Go to university, finish it and then, have a family or start your career, and at the age of 25-27 they remember they want a grandchild! It's not the same for all of them or both of the parents!
I turn 21 tomorrow and feel it now more than ever, especially w social media. It’s the most calming and reassuring thing being reminded that we’re all on our own path & life’s not a race.
Thanks Jenn for the awesome video! I am 18 and I feel as though I need to be like every 18 year old, partying, with lots of friends, having the time of their lives. Honestly I feel like I'm 15 at heart, or maybe even less ! Being a introvert and timid person, I have always feel the pressure of not being enough. Of not being like the others, either too boring or dull to be with. The secret is that you have to get to know me and you'll see my true self. Don't worry, I have been working on my insecurities and shyness and I have progressed a lot. Each day I fight. But can't help to feel the pressure of society to be an extrovert, loud, and outstanding. Some don't accept you because that is all they have known. If there is any body here who can relate I would love you to like this comment to see that we are not alone, that they are a bunch like us and that we belong ! We are different, a minority for sure but just as special!
Thank you for the knocking sense in me and us and the community. We told ourselves, we are on a different path with others and we shouldn't compare but sometimes we always compare ourselves short and forgot to count the blessing. We should start comparing with our personal best not others. And your video came just right on time when I feel my "inner" cheerleader voice starts dying down.
I love, love when you become frank and open up about yourself as well as your journey. Such a long way you've come! I've one and a half years till I graduate from university, still figuring out more about myself... Meanwhile my parents are pushing me to go searching for new jobs and 'build-ups'in a future career. I'm taking advices from them too, because their experiences are somewhat from their lives, but I try to carry on searching for my authenticity by meeting new people and becoming deeply engaged with diaries&hobbies.
i swear, since turning 25 i've had a quarter life crisis every year. i'm 29 now, and have gone through going to college for the first time at 25, getting engaged at 27, and then realizing that neither were for me. i come from a kiowa family so i never felt the pressure to move out, but the pressure to marry and have kids is intense. i also have ehlers danlos syndrome, so my timeline has always felt even more rushed as i get older and moving around gets harder.it's hard to deal with sometimes, even when i sit myself down and tell myself that no one controls my timeline but myself and that should be centered around my happiness and my comfort, but there are always going to be difficult days. thank you for this video, it's encouraging :)
Time is priceless. So we need to enjoy every day of our lives and if something bothers - change it. You will regret if you don't make changes in your life than if you will say " I tried". Keep in mind that you cannot apply same rules to everyone, so everybody will live lives differently.
thank you so much! I needed this right now. and honestly you seem like the most on-track person (I know we only see part of you on here) so to hear you say you have had these worries really demonstrates how common it is. and I like how you said how different people worry about different things. for me, I'm in a stable relationship and don't plan on having kids, but the thing I worry about is my (non-existent) career. but I have friends who have great careers but are stressed because they haven't found a long-term partner yet. and we're both telling each other not to worry and think the other has it so easy!
could you do a video similar to this but talking more about how to handle the business side of branding yourself/the schedule you have to put in for your brand to work, etc? I really want to rely on my creative work as a living but not sure how to handle the business side of it at all! thanks so much xx
This video could not have come at a better time for me. Ive just come out of a really long relationship, and im nearly 26 and I feel the pressure to meet somebody straight away. Its crazy, its an invisible pressure yet its so strong!
Hey Jenn, I'm glad you talked about this. I hate that society puts so much pressure on age and success, its def overwhelming. I feel like ive dealt w some form of this my whole life. I just turned 29 and i love being this age and growing older but i also look young which has worked against me sometimes. i def feel i should be further along in my career than i am now and on top of that, it seems like some people dont take me as seriously bc i look so young but am actually older and havent accomplished much. It feels like forever since ive been in film and its just now that Ive actually made a short film that is getting some recognition and "success." its strange. but ive embraced that this is a marathon, not a sprint. Anyways, thanks for doing all that you do. From my perspective, i feel like youre right on track! Keep killin it!
I'm 22. I don't have a job, I have no money. Luckily, I have my parents but they are constantly making me aware of what a failure I am. My cousin, who I was extremly close with has a great job, earns so much money, drives, goes on holiday.. I can't help but cry. Idk what I did to become such a failure. I wish my life would flip upside down and I could soar but with this country and how its going (Brexit) I doubt it will get better.
Jenn you and I are the same age, Ive watched you since I was 18, its so refreshing to see how much you have blossomed into such a beautiful and compassionate human-being, I love your contagious smile and how you light up a room with your positive energy.
I’m 19 now & I feel like im in such an in between place. In between jobs, in between stages in my life & its strange. Im confused & really feel the pressure. But i know ill be ok because i have good people around me that don’t pressure me. I put it on myself.
This came so in handy, Jenn. I feel you are very good as a public figure but what makes you special is your true worries and frustrations and courage and persistence always speak to me!!!
Thank you for talking about this, Jenn! I'm only beginning my teens but I already feel age pressure especially since I'm the youngest in my family so I feel like I have to be at the same point as my older siblings when I reach their age. Love you!
I started my youtube channel when I was 27. I'm 31 now, and I'm still dead set on it being a success, but I still struggle with comparing myself with young creators. I'm so glad you made this video because this is *EXACTLY* how I'm feeling right now. I need to find a mentor like you. It's so hard to keep my eye on the ball while understanding that everyone's path looks different. I'm scared that I'm becoming irrelevant while at the same time not savoring the youth I still have! UGH. It's the worst. So, thank you.
This is my a very first comment, even though I have been following you long time, I love this video so much and it helps and means lots of young women out there who fighting for ageing issue. I have same age like you and recently I feel so blue because of my career and future career. This videos makes me feel calm and thinking more positive way of ageing. Thank you so much to make this videos and always sharing your positive thoughts and shining energy. XX
I need a friend like you, Jenn. You are so real/genuine/sweet. You are also really beautiful!! I have followed you throughout the years and I love your style and talk content. Please don't compare yourself to others. I've done it before and I sometimes get depressed. You have a loving man, supportive parents as well as us! 27 is sooooo young! You have so much to live for.
You're such an inspiration and a strong woman yourself, Jenn! I agree, we should all lead our own lives the way we want it to be, and not let others define what we should be doing at a certain age. Thank you for this encouraging video, love you! ❤️
Thanks Jen. I was just cried about this pressure .then I saw your video 5 min ago. What a coincidence. Angel Jen helps me smile for today. I'm 26 and feel pressured from social value. I still don't have a stable job etc. I have my own time.... Please world,, don't pressure me.
I love this video so much! I just turned 21 a couple of weeks ago and I've found that I'm worrying about how to start my business and that I'm not successful enough and I haven't even graduated college! Age pressure and success culture definitely impacts everyone at all ages. This has inspired me to take things as they are now rather than worry about all the things that I think I should you be. You're a great role model Jenn and I love your videos!😊
This really helped me! I'm in my early twenties and I've been having a lot of age pressure as well. Most of it is becuase of my own headspace but social media doesn't help either and I've been taking steps towards bettering myself and I just started a new job a month ago that I absolutely love and it isn't in a field I majored in. I mean it's still my passion and I am still working towards that goal but I really just want to enjoy what I'm doing right now as well. I keep getting pressure from my father mostly asking me when I'm going to go back to school and get a job in my field almost every time we speak. He's been asking me about my future since I was a junior in high school. It puts so much pressure on me and me getting this new job basically helped me do something I really enjoy doing as well and I didn't even know I would enjoy it but I do. And seeing younger people make millions these days makes me feel like I missed some mark I was supposed to hit. A couple of months ago I hit my lowest point but I slowly but surely crawled my way out of it and it's still a struggle but I'm definitely happier.
Thank you so much for posting this, Jenn. I have just started re-mapping out my life because at 29, though I’ve created a life that seems good (high paying job, own luxury apt, no debt), I found myself lonely and depressed. I’ve been unhappy and starting to panic that I am not living the life I want to live and so this is so refreshing to hear/watch. Thank you thank you!!!
I am graduating from my current major, but I realized I don't like it at all. So I applied the Second Bachelor and decided to "start over". It seems like I am 4 years left behind by peers but I am happier than ever and proud of my decision. I solidly believe that we all have our own different path and different definition to success and happiness.
This is just what I needed! I’m turning 26 soon, and trying to make career change and I can’t seem to stop comparing myself to others and where I “should” already be. I love how you said that you have to separate the success of your channel from your own well being. I feel like this is so needed for everyone, as my career shouldn’t be the end all of who I am as a person, but just a small piece of my life. Thanks for always putting out such genuine content! 💕💕💕
This was a much needed video for me Jen. I'm going to be graduating soon from university and already feel the pressure with other friends achieving so much in their undergraduate career. But I am hopeful for myself, and a firm believer too that everyone has their own path ❤️.
This resonated so much with me in my current situation. So many things in my life shifted in the beginning of the year including being out of work and it's been a struggle of either settling into another job that I hate or continuing in trying to find something I love doing. Thank you so much for sharing this very personal experience. I absolutely love how real you continue to be.
always love the content that you upload on your channel! you had some points that i could relate to and i love it :) esp the part where you tell us to stop comparing
Hey Jenn, thank you for talking about the topic of age pressure. I don't exactly look at it as something of much importance but nevertheless, there are things that I am trying to do for my "future self" which I have in mind. Really love this video. Inspiring and most of all pretty true. Thank you Jenn and have a great day
Thank you for filming this!! 28 and married and still struggling with this. The pressure is REAL and it’s hard not to compare yourself to other people and even your friends. And after watching this, it honestly gave me more strength and confidence in myself and just to be happy in the present. ❤️❤️
Thanks for making this video, Jenn! I'm so glad more people are talking about age pressures. With social media nowadays, it's so easy for comparison and to think you're "behind" when you see people your age - or even younger than you, be at a place you feel like you're "supposed" to be. Everyone has a different timeline because everyone has a different path. Thank you for reminding us that :)
This video is so relevant to me right now! i'm just about to graduate and am really confused about whether to continue my major or start something new or get a job or just do something else. I really hope every year in my 20s is as radical as yours so far! Loved this video so much :)
Thank you for this video Jenn! I turned 27 this month and only recently this year have I tried to be more understanding of where I am in my life and find faith in myself. It's very tempting to compare our lives to others and find our own lacking. But we have to find faith in our capacity to make the life we want no matter our age. Our mind is what makes us younger or older in the end. You inspire me to go after the life I dream about.
I was literally thinking about this before and then u uploaded this, spooky. I'm worried bc I'm 20 now and I had all these big plans to sort out what I wanted to do with my life this year but then right before the starts of 2018, last November, I got ran over and iv spent the last 6 moths learning to walk again and have been unable to work still another 3 months until I get off my crutches and I still have to build my leg muscle back up be I have a chicken leg, feel like I got majorly set back and I keep thinking that iv got a set amount of time to find my dream job and all this stress, feel like il be 30 in the blink of an eye 😰
I'm turning 20 this year, I've been trying to "grow up" fast and know who I am, know what career I'm striving for, have an awesome job like my friends, trying to be like everybody else and what society expects of me at my age, that I end up not enjoying the present. Hearing you say to stop constantly obsessing over where I need to be, because I'm going to be where I need to be eventually, and age doesn't define me, everyone grows at their own pace, really speaks to me. Thank you for being my inspiration! Your channel has grown beautifully!
After quitting my job, I was little bit pressured. Because I had plan to study in China for learning Chinese and my bf told me, “In your age, you should work in the office, not just study in abroad” and it made me feel so depressed. But, now I decide to go to Shanghai about 2-3 months later:) and I’m super excited. It is my precious life so I decide to take the pressure as part of experience as well. I hope no one get pressured because of age. Anyway, today is the youngest day of your life! Enjoy💕💕
Thank you Jenn!! 🙏🏻 I’m graduating and getting my bachelors degree soon, then turning 23 a few weeks after that. So I’m glad you posted this raw advice!
This video is so incredibly soothing Jenn! Thank you for touching on this subject. There is so much pressure to be doing certain things at a certain age and it just makes you feel like you’ve completely failed or you’re falling behind if you haven’t achieved those things yet! But comparing ourselves to others or allowing society to pressure us is completely insane because happiness and living your best life does not have an expiry date!! We are never in front of someone or falling behind because we have our own clock and that’s what we should focus on! 💕
Wow posting so early I couldn't even believe my eyes! I just want to let you know how much of an impact you make on the lives of your followers and don't ever let the negativity get to you. stay strong and amazing
I'm 28 and I can totally relate to this conversation! At different stages in my 20's I've felt pressure to partake in different stereotypical roles. Like, marriage, kids, buying a house, ect. I really admire watching women who do things their own way. Keep doing you, I love watching people grow and change on youtube! Its all part of life, and we need to embrace women, especially as we age! (since society seems to have an unspoken issue about older women) You're an awesome role model and I look forward to growing with you! 💗
Experiencing the same thing here Jenn. I'm 26 and almost everyone I know that age is popping out babies left and right. I just want to be a couch potato for a few more years, but these people are making me feel self-conscious. Side Note: You look like Julia Chow from JKfilms when you were younger.
So relatable!!! I loved this video such an important message for all of us young adults. I’m 25 and definitley hitting the quarter life crisis- seeing everyone already graduating, carving out their careers, getting engaged/married... I’m over here as a super super Senior for my Bachelor’s degree, but I took the longer and cheaper route (transferred from community college!) and changed majors twice. Not to mention working part time jobs while in school was so not easy. It’s cool to see everyone grow up yet difficult because it can get pressuring and I’ve always been questioning if I’m where I’m supposed to be right now. Social media has also made it tough with everyone comparing each other’s lives. But thanks so much Jenn, for reminding us that it’s okay to not reach certain milestones at a certain age. I’m also super thankful for my supportive boyfriend and family. We all have different paths and will eventually get to where we want to be soon! 🙈💞🌎
When I saw this pop up, I was readyyyy - I think this is something everyone goes through in so many ways. I love reading the comments below of those who are hitting turning points in their lives and feeling the pressure because I remember those times! I'm 27 too! And still feeling tons of societal pressure, job title / pay expectations, owning property, my 401K plans, and I'm very much single (but it took me a long time to realize not to be in a relationship for the sake of society - but when it's actually a true connection) It's tough with all the social content you see everyday of those who are doing 'better' than you or achieving goals that you wanted to do - so disconnecting is SO KEY and I needed that reminder. I feel like we are the same Jenn in some ways and it's kinda like talking about something real with a friend. Thank youuuu for always highlighting the topics that need to be heard.
I can relate to this so much and constantly struggle with the idea of achieving certain things at a certain age. Everything I thought would happen or should happen, didnt happen. I’m still figuring it out and doing my best not to compare myself to anyone. I’m gonna let go of my age and strive to live my best life ever everyday . Thank you for sharing jenn!
You going to community college help erase the stigma for me when I was trying to figure out where to go to college in 2014 when I was close to graduating high school. I've always held you to high esteem so I went the community college then transferring to university route. I struggle with lack of instant gratification and feeling like I hit plauteus. Seeing a lot of my friends graduating, getting engaged, getting married, having kids-all these "milestones" at a young age adds on pressure and I'm grateful you've expressed it eloquently. Thank you so much for your transperancy, Jenn.
Omg this happened to me at 22 when I graduated college. Everybody was getting jobs and had a legitimate plan. I could not find a job and had to move back with my parents. I was in a depression for a year. I finally found a job and I slowly started to rebuild myself. But in that year I cut off my friends and didn’t want to talk to anybody because I felt like a loser. I just turned 24 last week and omg how times have changed. Things do get better. You have to go through tribulations to appreciate the person you are today. Thanks for sharing Jenn ❤️
I’m 27 as well and you’re so right in reminding us that comparison is the thief of joy. Bc I’m not even remotely close to buying a home let alone moving out, I feel like I’m moving too slow in my career (even though I’m really not since I’m getting promotions). It’s been 5 years since I graduated college and I’m still not a licensed architect. There’s so much pressure out there but the heaviest pressure is self inflicted. Thank you for making this video! It’s a good reminder to just do your best no matter who/what/when.
Hi Jenn, I am 25 and having my quarter life crises. It was sooo good to hear that someone can say they went trough it too! I am struggling with so much expectations and for the first time in my life I dont know what to do. I am now in process of slowing down and all is good 😊
It really resonated with me when you said that "everyone is on their own paths". I have a tendency to compare myself to others that I see on social media and whatnot and I always find myself thinking...why am I coming up short?? I always have to bring myself back into the headspace that what I see may not always be the complete truth. Everyone is going thru their own thing as am I. Thanks for this vid Jenn!
It’s crazy to me that even though we’re living longer and the stages of our lives are longer, we still get pressured with these ridiculous old deadlines. I’m so glad the pressure made you into a diamond instead of crushing you.
Thank you so much Jenn, I am in tears. I just turned 27 yesterday and you hit all the points. Everyone around me is either engaged, married, or have kids. While I'm still struggling in my career, finding a bf, and trying to be happy. Thanks for cheering me up and tell me this is okay!!!
Everyone has a different timeline and journey. Is there a specific time in your life when you felt age-related pressure piling up? Tell me here!
we love you no matter how much time passes Jenn
I’m in the process of training my family to accept that I am happy despite not walking the expected path. They may never come around but life is short and I’m just going to do me :) awesome video
Currently right now. Hitting the towards the end of my degree and trying to prepare myself to work as soon as I can. Trying to just get a full time job since I haven't been able to work when I came back this year from Japan. Also a weird period because it is such a unsure time, I want to work but don't want to be that kind of person to stop my part-time job once I am able to work in the industry. It's just a weird weird period.
P.S I've never been this early!
You mention being pressured by parents for not being at a certain stage of your life. My traditional Chinese parents think I’m moving too far forward! I want to move in with my boyfriend, interstate in Australia soon, and I feel like every week, my parents try to convince me to not move out too quickly. I’m 24, am working full time and am very independent. They keep repeating that they are older and have walked that pathway before and they want me to not go down that pathway because there will be hard times. Time and time again I tell them, if I don’t experience and create these milestones, how will I learn what works and doesn’t work for me. Learning these life experiences will teach me how to navigate through life in a manner I would be comfortable with, and if something bad happens, I take it, fix it and learnt from it.
hi jenn i have always felt it especially being the oldest among my siblings and being a type a student . first year of college was the hardest .. i've witnessed failure for the first time in my life and it was a dark time from wich i am still recovering till now . it took a toll on my parents considering the fact it was the first time i failed to make them proud ... and the blame was put entirely on me .. , later on , i found out that i was dealing with depression and it led to an endless circle of doubt and fear , doubting my own skills, my previous accomplishments and the fear of facing it all alone for that my parents would'nt accept the fact that i was anxious and depressed and accused me of laziness. now thinking back i believe it was all age related pressure ... you have to graduate by the age of 21 or else you would be a failure ... you cannot take a year off ( at one time i begged them to take a year off ) life will pass you by and you will regret it later on . however , now , a law school graduate (on the 23rd of may 2018 and at the age of 21 ) i am happy to say i found peace and i am ready to tackle the next chapter . the pressure is still ubiquitous ( i have friends that already found jobs , others taking summer classes abroad in prestigious universities ..) but i won't let it stop me from living my moment , my time now and in the present . everyone's journey has its own pace and rythm ! thank you jenn for always shedding light on various important topics and for being an inspiration of mine
I’m 27 and just started college. I know I’m behind but better late than never.
HELL YES! YOU'RE LIVING AT YOUR PACE. YOU GOT THIS 👏👏👏
WithBrittany Congrats girl! You're doing amazing ☺️
Congratulations! Achieve those goals of yours. As someone who also went to college later I completely understand the "better late then never" thought process. But really life is not that big of deal and I did way better at university the second time at a later age then when I went right out of high school. Good luck! 🙃
My mom didn't start till she was 24 and then got a $200k job doing what she loved, that she probably wouldn't have gotten if she started sooner. Everyone's timeline is different! You got this :)
By the time I get my Bachelors which is in 2 years, I would’ve taken a total of 8 years to attain it!! Either ways, I am proud of my journey and you should be too!
Dearest Jenn,
I and a lot of your subscribers can agree that sticking to your channel and growing with you and your channel was the best thing we all could have done. I personally am fortunate to have looked to your channel for inspiration, ideas, and hope for my own life.
I just turned 27 this year and it’s been an immense time of pressure especially as an Asian Pacific Islander living in a rural farm town (just 10 minutes from Davis). I was a transfer student myself and moved back home after graduation and have since not figured life out. It is hard at times to look toward optimism especially at our age when you feel stuck and from growth and success. Age has a lot to do with everything. It’s a tricky and difficult road but we only make the trip as smooth as we allow it to and I think that your channel and content like this and you have made all the difference in being hopeful for the future.
I’m so glad to have stuck with you and your channel for all these years!
Thank you, Jenn ♡
Thank you so much for your support and taking the time out to write this message. It means the world to me.
Agreed and I’m new here 2 years later I enjoy all her new and old content even at my age and my younger cousin who is 17 absolutely lives for it too
When you said you were 27 I just realised how long I have been subscribed in your channel. It made me smile because you’ve become a part of my life growing up. You influence me so much in a positive way Jenn. Honestly speaking, you’re the only YT channel that I always know that I love and will never get tired of watching. I love you loads Jenn! xxx
I'm from China. Age pressure is real. But gladly I live in Shanghai where there's a lot of women stay single and work hard! Really inspired by the SK II video. It's amaizing. Thank you Jenn!
High five from Shanghai!
isn't RUclips blocked over there? how do you get around that? tell me your ways XD (last I heard VPN is also blocked)
you can use VPN to get on RUclips, haha
I loved this so much and can relate on so many levels!! Being the same age, I also feel pressure to “get it together” with my career. Also learning to distance myself from how my channel performs too. So glad you shared this & thanks for always being real 💖💖
Definitely great advice with a lot to come away with as far as feeling inspired! xoxo
but u are already so "togethered"!!! lollll love ur videos too really helps a lot on wellness and productivity!
I'm 32 and look up to u. Love ur genuineness I completely agree with u, we dont ever expire until we r dead.
ups, 32 here too! i would say marriage is a tricky business, still don't know if i want to do it or not, on this "kind of age".. LOL
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I've been watching since your days at UC Davis. Your genuineness, passion, vulnerability and authenticity is refreshing and you motivate me every day to strive towards my goals! I don't feel the societal pressures just yet as someone in their early twenties, but I know it'll be creeping up soon. However, as someone very driven by social media, I definitely do compare myself and I realise that does stop me from being myself and being truly authentic. I love you! You're an inspiration.
Well said Jenn! You hit the spot
Yes! This is my life!
I just graduated college and going through this dilemma! Everyone is asking me what I’m doing now, and I’m in the process of building a stable self esteem. I am learning to ignore others and to make the choices that is healthy for myself mentally.
This makes me happy! Keep listening to yourself!
Same 😢😶☺ 💜
I'm turning 19 and already feeling it! Nice to hear your experience and advice.
I hope this eases up the pressure for you. (:
same.. I'll be 21 in October and I feel so much pressure because I want to be a videographer which is ''risky'' acording to my parents. So they want me to get a B.A in Video (education is a must in my house) but i feel like i have to prove them that i made the right choise like "you better make it out there or you wasted your parents' money" :(
What a coincidence because I'm studying writing and film too! Yes, that is a problem a lot of my classmates face. On the other hand, mine is not about education but about graduating, earning money and going on a gap year.
Avital Pikovski cool of your parents to push you that much and have faith in you! Don’t stress too much over proving them, otherwise you’ll always be second guessing. I mean.. they know that your trying really hard anyways.
As a recent under-graduate, I definitely needed to see this.
It has only been almost 2 weeks since graduation and I already feel this amount of pressure to have interviews under my belt, job applications on job applications to be sent out, etc... it's nuts. I'm actually proud of myself for not comparing myself to my friends and other peers (although that is what I did like 48 hours straight, after I crossed that stage LOL T-T) because I forbid myself for falling into society's rat race of life where there are "deadlines" --- but you know what, f*** you society, I will live my life the way I want to and I will live it to the fullest without meeting the "criteria!"
You've got a great mindset already! Everything that is meant to happen will happen. Rooting for you!
Same here!
This was a great video. I understand the pressure of feeling like I should be somewhere, I'm 29 turning 30 this year and sometimes I see the people I know getting married, buying a house, having kids and I'm just here carving out my career path.
But I sometimes felt like I didn't do things in "right" order, I realized at 27 that it's okay that I'm not married, I have a great bf who supports me in everything I do, and that I will have my home one day; it's okay to take your time and be at your own pace in life.
Great video Jenn.
This is exactly what I needed to hear!
I'm 23, having my bachelor's degree this year but I don't really know what next ... I feel inside like being 23 I should have figured out everything what to do next and It's mentally killing me inside .. Seeing my friends that they're in serious relationships, having kids already, knowing what do to with studies and jobs and all that stuff, I really feel consfused and stress out .. I know that I'm still young but the pressure is so big .. Thank you for sharing this kind of thins because your videos really made me feel better. Love you Jenn!
HelpMeBelieve you are not alone
Had no idea that’s what what was going on when you were 25! Glad you’re in a better place now, bc I can tell :D
VAGABOND YOUTH Ahh Amy this video also reminded me on your words^^ "we are just here to figure it out" ..not to stress, that's what life is about ☺
Definitely in a better place now! 😊
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Sigh of relief.. I'm not alone! "Comparing is a game you will always lose"
This was such an inspiring video! I literally stopped the vid and wrote it down on the memo "comparing is the game where you will always lose". This quote convinced me to be myself! I love you Jenn
that was such an inspiring video. i can feel your energy and self confidence and that makes me want to try and love myself more. i am so proud of who you are as a person right now. i really hope you are happy. you deserve it!
I'm glad you found it helpful! Thank you for watching and yes, I am very happy. n_n
Thank you so much Jenn for this video I really needed it. I am currently 25 and I have been feeling like a failure because I'm still working on getting my college degree. I had to dropout of college after my freshman year because I was in am abusive relationship and dealing with court and everything else that came with finally getting out of it was just to much for my young self to do on my own. I took a year off and I have just been trying to put myself together ever since.
Thank you for watching, Jessica! I'm sorry to hear the bumps you've had in your life, but I'm glad you are working your way to be a stronger person. Rooting for you!
If anyone is struggling with age pressure I highly recommend looking into the life of Iris Apfel. At 96, this woman is a interior and fashion icon as well as a successful business woman (mostly taking off in the later years of her life).
When asked what three words sum up her outlook on life she quotes "just one trip!"
Great video once again Jenn, thank you ! xx
i enjoyed my life in the early 20s and got stuck in the middle of 20s. got lost and hopeless during 26-28. now i am getting much better after the course of thoughts. thx for ur vid. it was just a perfect moment to watch this.
I was so shocked bc u uploaded a video on a Wednesday, and at first i thought it was an old notification but nop, it’s a new video!
I CAN RELATE TO THIS SO MUCH! I’ll be 28 in August
I'll be 31 in August! :)
"Vanessa Blanco, that's true"
I feel age-related pressure NOW, as a 22 year old. It seems like I am surrounded by people younger than me who are getting married, having children... While I just graduated from college and I am still living at home with my parents. I can't even imagine dedicating myself to one person for the rest of my life or being responsible for raising a tiny human into being an adult right now as a 22 year old!
I love this video so much. I'm definitely feeling some age pressure after having graduated from college and have not yet figured out what I really want to do.. and especially with social media it's hard to avoid seeing other people's success and wanting to compare with yourself. Thank you for making this!!
Jennifer Lai agree,social media has affected us much esp i think Instagram. We start to questioning our self because so much exposure you can see from others. I begin to deactive my account lately and learn more abt self love and more appreciated with what i have. I can surely feel happier and lighter :)
Yesssss!!! I love this! I am about to be a senior in college right now so I feel like everyone is expecting so much from me and I’m not super sure what I’m doing! Thank u my girl I needed this!
Asian parents be like “You’re not allowed to date when you’re still in school, not even college” but when you graduated they expected you to get married and have kids instantly :(
So true 🤣🤣
what about american parents?
Yeah its sad :(
So TRUE!! even already 23 still treat like a baby oh you're too young to have bf now complete your uni first 😥
Greek parents are like :
You can have a girlfriend but be careful and not get her pregnant / You can't have a boyfriend, you're too young.
Go to university, finish it and then, have a family or start your career, and at the age of 25-27 they remember they want a grandchild!
It's not the same for all of them or both of the parents!
I turn 21 tomorrow and feel it now more than ever, especially w social media. It’s the most calming and reassuring thing being reminded that we’re all on our own path & life’s not a race.
Happy early birthday!
Thanks Jenn for the awesome video! I am 18 and I feel as though I need to be like every 18 year old, partying, with lots of friends, having the time of their lives. Honestly I feel like I'm 15 at heart, or maybe even less ! Being a introvert and timid person, I have always feel the pressure of not being enough. Of not being like the others, either too boring or dull to be with. The secret is that you have to get to know me and you'll see my true self. Don't worry, I have been working on my insecurities and shyness and I have progressed a lot. Each day I fight. But can't help to feel the pressure of society to be an extrovert, loud, and outstanding. Some don't accept you because that is all they have known. If there is any body here who can relate I would love you to like this comment to see that we are not alone, that they are a bunch like us and that we belong ! We are different, a minority for sure but just as special!
Thank you for the knocking sense in me and us and the community. We told ourselves, we are on a different path with others and we shouldn't compare but sometimes we always compare ourselves short and forgot to count the blessing. We should start comparing with our personal best not others. And your video came just right on time when I feel my "inner" cheerleader voice starts dying down.
I love, love when you become frank and open up about yourself as well as your journey. Such a long way you've come! I've one and a half years till I graduate from university, still figuring out more about myself... Meanwhile my parents are pushing me to go searching for new jobs and 'build-ups'in a future career. I'm taking advices from them too, because their experiences are somewhat from their lives, but I try to carry on searching for my authenticity by meeting new people and becoming deeply engaged with diaries&hobbies.
“comparing is a game you’ll always lose” - well said Jenn!!!
Age pressure... where do I even start? 🤔 Though self-inflicted pressure is also a thing, not only external pressure...
Justine Leconte officiel Can you PLEASE make a video on this? I look up so much to your insight, Justine!
omg i'd love to watch a video from you on this!!!
i swear, since turning 25 i've had a quarter life crisis every year. i'm 29 now, and have gone through going to college for the first time at 25, getting engaged at 27, and then realizing that neither were for me. i come from a kiowa family so i never felt the pressure to move out, but the pressure to marry and have kids is intense. i also have ehlers danlos syndrome, so my timeline has always felt even more rushed as i get older and moving around gets harder.it's hard to deal with sometimes, even when i sit myself down and tell myself that no one controls my timeline but myself and that should be centered around my happiness and my comfort, but there are always going to be difficult days. thank you for this video, it's encouraging :)
Time is priceless. So we need to enjoy every day of our lives and if something bothers - change it. You will regret if you don't make changes in your life than if you will say " I tried". Keep in mind that you cannot apply same rules to everyone, so everybody will live lives differently.
thank you so much! I needed this right now. and honestly you seem like the most on-track person (I know we only see part of you on here) so to hear you say you have had these worries really demonstrates how common it is. and I like how you said how different people worry about different things. for me, I'm in a stable relationship and don't plan on having kids, but the thing I worry about is my (non-existent) career. but I have friends who have great careers but are stressed because they haven't found a long-term partner yet. and we're both telling each other not to worry and think the other has it so easy!
Lovely!!
yessss, my girl Jenn bringing the realness once again ❤️
also what's up with you not being verified? was wondering about that
could you do a video similar to this but talking more about how to handle the business side of branding yourself/the schedule you have to put in for your brand to work, etc? I really want to rely on my creative work as a living but not sure how to handle the business side of it at all! thanks so much xx
Sure! I've never thought about doing it, but that would be interesting to share. (:
Jenn Im Yes yes yes !!!
Thanks for sharing Jenn. Your authenticity is contagious!
This video could not have come at a better time for me. Ive just come out of a really long relationship, and im nearly 26 and I feel the pressure to meet somebody straight away. Its crazy, its an invisible pressure yet its so strong!
Hey Jenn,
I'm glad you talked about this. I hate that society puts so much pressure on age and success, its def overwhelming. I feel like ive dealt w some form of this my whole life. I just turned 29 and i love being this age and growing older but i also look young which has worked against me sometimes. i def feel i should be further along in my career than i am now and on top of that, it seems like some people dont take me as seriously bc i look so young but am actually older and havent accomplished much. It feels like forever since ive been in film and its just now that Ive actually made a short film that is getting some recognition and "success." its strange. but ive embraced that this is a marathon, not a sprint. Anyways, thanks for doing all that you do. From my perspective, i feel like youre right on track! Keep killin it!
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I'm 22. I don't have a job, I have no money. Luckily, I have my parents but they are constantly making me aware of what a failure I am. My cousin, who I was extremly close with has a great job, earns so much money, drives, goes on holiday.. I can't help but cry. Idk what I did to become such a failure. I wish my life would flip upside down and I could soar but with this country and how its going (Brexit) I doubt it will get better.
SKAI LANTERN u are not a failure bc ur parents told u so
Jenn you and I are the same age, Ive watched you since I was 18, its so refreshing to see how much you have blossomed into such a beautiful and compassionate human-being, I love your contagious smile and how you light up a room with your positive energy.
I’m 19 now & I feel like im in such an in between place. In between jobs, in between stages in my life & its strange. Im confused & really feel the pressure. But i know ill be ok because i have good people around me that don’t pressure me. I put it on myself.
You are definitely in a transitional age right now, but I know you will find the right path for you!
Jenn Im Thank you Jenn x
This came so in handy, Jenn. I feel you are very good as a public figure but what makes you special is your true worries and frustrations and courage and persistence always speak to me!!!
Thank you for talking about this, Jenn! I'm only beginning my teens but I already feel age pressure especially since I'm the youngest in my family so I feel like I have to be at the same point as my older siblings when I reach their age. Love you!
I started my youtube channel when I was 27. I'm 31 now, and I'm still dead set on it being a success, but I still struggle with comparing myself with young creators. I'm so glad you made this video because this is *EXACTLY* how I'm feeling right now. I need to find a mentor like you. It's so hard to keep my eye on the ball while understanding that everyone's path looks different. I'm scared that I'm becoming irrelevant while at the same time not savoring the youth I still have! UGH. It's the worst. So, thank you.
This is my a very first comment, even though I have been following you long time, I love this video so much and it helps and means lots of young women out there who fighting for ageing issue. I have same age like you and recently I feel so blue because of my career and future career. This videos makes me feel calm and thinking more positive way of ageing. Thank you so much to make this videos and always sharing your positive thoughts and shining energy. XX
I need a friend like you, Jenn. You are so real/genuine/sweet. You are also really beautiful!! I have followed you throughout the years and I love your style and talk content. Please don't compare yourself to others. I've done it before and I sometimes get depressed. You have a loving man, supportive parents as well as us! 27 is sooooo young! You have so much to live for.
You're such an inspiration and a strong woman yourself, Jenn! I agree, we should all lead our own lives the way we want it to be, and not let others define what we should be doing at a certain age. Thank you for this encouraging video, love you! ❤️
Thanks Jen. I was just cried about this pressure .then I saw your video 5 min ago. What a coincidence. Angel Jen helps me smile for today. I'm 26 and feel pressured from social value. I still don't have a stable job etc. I have my own time.... Please world,, don't pressure me.
needed this this morning
I love this video so much! I just turned 21 a couple of weeks ago and I've found that I'm worrying about how to start my business and that I'm not successful enough and I haven't even graduated college! Age pressure and success culture definitely impacts everyone at all ages. This has inspired me to take things as they are now rather than worry about all the things that I think I should you be. You're a great role model Jenn and I love your videos!😊
This really helped me! I'm in my early twenties and I've been having a lot of age pressure as well. Most of it is becuase of my own headspace but social media doesn't help either and I've been taking steps towards bettering myself and I just started a new job a month ago that I absolutely love and it isn't in a field I majored in. I mean it's still my passion and I am still working towards that goal but I really just want to enjoy what I'm doing right now as well. I keep getting pressure from my father mostly asking me when I'm going to go back to school and get a job in my field almost every time we speak. He's been asking me about my future since I was a junior in high school. It puts so much pressure on me and me getting this new job basically helped me do something I really enjoy doing as well and I didn't even know I would enjoy it but I do. And seeing younger people make millions these days makes me feel like I missed some mark I was supposed to hit. A couple of months ago I hit my lowest point but I slowly but surely crawled my way out of it and it's still a struggle but I'm definitely happier.
Congrats on your new job and I'm happy you're doing what you can to find what brings you joy. (:
Thank you so much for posting this, Jenn. I have just started re-mapping out my life because at 29, though I’ve created a life that seems good (high paying job, own luxury apt, no debt), I found myself lonely and depressed. I’ve been unhappy and starting to panic that I am not living the life I want to live and so this is so refreshing to hear/watch. Thank you thank you!!!
I am graduating from my current major, but I realized I don't like it at all. So I applied the Second Bachelor and decided to "start over". It seems like I am 4 years left behind by peers but I am happier than ever and proud of my decision. I solidly believe that we all have our own different path and different definition to success and happiness.
This is just what I needed! I’m turning 26 soon, and trying to make career change and I can’t seem to stop comparing myself to others and where I “should” already be. I love how you said that you have to separate the success of your channel from your own well being. I feel like this is so needed for everyone, as my career shouldn’t be the end all of who I am as a person, but just a small piece of my life. Thanks for always putting out such genuine content! 💕💕💕
This was a much needed video for me Jen. I'm going to be graduating soon from university and already feel the pressure with other friends achieving so much in their undergraduate career. But I am hopeful for myself, and a firm believer too that everyone has their own path ❤️.
Needed to hear this again. I'm graduating college next month and I can't stop stressing about what the next step should be.
I just want you to know that you had and continued to inspire me to become a better person! 😍❤
This resonated so much with me in my current situation. So many things in my life shifted in the beginning of the year including being out of work and it's been a struggle of either settling into another job that I hate or continuing in trying to find something I love doing. Thank you so much for sharing this very personal experience. I absolutely love how real you continue to be.
always love the content that you upload on your channel! you had some points that i could relate to and i love it :) esp the part where you tell us to stop comparing
As a 25 year old male, I totally understand how the number 30 seems so scary.. thanks for this video Jenn, you are awesome
Hey Jenn, thank you for talking about the topic of age pressure. I don't exactly look at it as something of much importance but nevertheless, there are things that I am trying to do for my "future self" which I have in mind. Really love this video. Inspiring and most of all pretty true. Thank you Jenn and have a great day
Thank you for filming this!! 28 and married and still struggling with this. The pressure is REAL and it’s hard not to compare yourself to other people and even your friends. And after watching this, it honestly gave me more strength and confidence in myself and just to be happy in the present. ❤️❤️
So inspiring! Love you, Jenn 💕
Thanks for making this video, Jenn! I'm so glad more people are talking about age pressures. With social media nowadays, it's so easy for comparison and to think you're "behind" when you see people your age - or even younger than you, be at a place you feel like you're "supposed" to be. Everyone has a different timeline because everyone has a different path. Thank you for reminding us that :)
This video is so relevant to me right now! i'm just about to graduate and am really confused about whether to continue my major or start something new or get a job or just do something else. I really hope every year in my 20s is as radical as yours so far! Loved this video so much :)
Thank you for this video Jenn! I turned 27 this month and only recently this year have I tried to be more understanding of where I am in my life and find faith in myself. It's very tempting to compare our lives to others and find our own lacking. But we have to find faith in our capacity to make the life we want no matter our age. Our mind is what makes us younger or older in the end. You inspire me to go after the life I dream about.
I was literally thinking about this before and then u uploaded this, spooky. I'm worried bc I'm 20 now and I had all these big plans to sort out what I wanted to do with my life this year but then right before the starts of 2018, last November, I got ran over and iv spent the last 6 moths learning to walk again and have been unable to work still another 3 months until I get off my crutches and I still have to build my leg muscle back up be I have a chicken leg, feel like I got majorly set back and I keep thinking that iv got a set amount of time to find my dream job and all this stress, feel like il be 30 in the blink of an eye 😰
Oh my god. I'm so sorry to hear what happened to you. 😔Stay strong and I'm wishing for a full and speedy recovery for you.
omg, thank you so much !! means a lot coming from you
I'm turning 20 this year, I've been trying to "grow up" fast and know who I am, know what career I'm striving for, have an awesome job like my friends, trying to be like everybody else and what society expects of me at my age, that I end up not enjoying the present. Hearing you say to stop constantly obsessing over where I need to be, because I'm going to be where I need to be eventually, and age doesn't define me, everyone grows at their own pace, really speaks to me. Thank you for being my inspiration! Your channel has grown beautifully!
After quitting my job, I was little bit pressured. Because I had plan to study in China for learning Chinese and my bf told me, “In your age, you should work in the office, not just study in abroad” and it made me feel so depressed. But, now I decide to go to Shanghai about 2-3 months later:) and I’m super excited. It is my precious life so I decide to take the pressure as part of experience as well. I hope no one get pressured because of age. Anyway, today is the youngest day of your life! Enjoy💕💕
Thank you Jenn!! 🙏🏻 I’m graduating and getting my bachelors degree soon, then turning 23 a few weeks after that. So I’m glad you posted this raw advice!
You look so cute in the old videos and I’m legit having flashbacks of watching some of those back in the day lol 💔💔 so proud of u my lovely ✨✨✨
Thank you, Tia! Hope you enjoyed this walk down in memory lane. (:
This video is so incredibly soothing Jenn! Thank you for touching on this subject. There is so much pressure to be doing certain things at a certain age and it just makes you feel like you’ve completely failed or you’re falling behind if you haven’t achieved those things yet! But comparing ourselves to others or allowing society to pressure us is completely insane because happiness and living your best life does not have an expiry date!! We are never in front of someone or falling behind because we have our own clock and that’s what we should focus on! 💕
Wow posting so early I couldn't even believe my eyes! I just want to let you know how much of an impact you make on the lives of your followers and don't ever let the negativity get to you. stay strong and amazing
Thank you Cindy!
I'm 28 and I can totally relate to this conversation! At different stages in my 20's I've felt pressure to partake in different stereotypical roles. Like, marriage, kids, buying a house, ect. I really admire watching women who do things their own way. Keep doing you, I love watching people grow and change on youtube! Its all part of life, and we need to embrace women, especially as we age! (since society seems to have an unspoken issue about older women) You're an awesome role model and I look forward to growing with you! 💗
Experiencing the same thing here Jenn. I'm 26 and almost everyone I know that age is popping out babies left and right. I just want to be a couch potato for a few more years, but these people are making me feel self-conscious.
Side Note: You look like Julia Chow from JKfilms when you were younger.
So relatable!!! I loved this video such an important message for all of us young adults. I’m 25 and definitley hitting the quarter life crisis- seeing everyone already graduating, carving out their careers, getting engaged/married... I’m over here as a super super Senior for my Bachelor’s degree, but I took the longer and cheaper route (transferred from community college!) and changed majors twice. Not to mention working part time jobs while in school was so not easy. It’s cool to see everyone grow up yet difficult because it can get pressuring and I’ve always been questioning if I’m where I’m supposed to be right now. Social media has also made it tough with everyone comparing each other’s lives. But thanks so much Jenn, for reminding us that it’s okay to not reach certain milestones at a certain age. I’m also super thankful for my supportive boyfriend and family. We all have different paths and will eventually get to where we want to be soon! 🙈💞🌎
Jenn!! T__T
I am having the same pressure this year, I'm turning 27 soon and this video is exactly what I needed to hear! Age is just a number! Thanks Jenn
*I'm 21 and growing old still scares me*
When I saw this pop up, I was readyyyy - I think this is something everyone goes through in so many ways. I love reading the comments below of those who are hitting turning points in their lives and feeling the pressure because I remember those times! I'm 27 too! And still feeling tons of societal pressure, job title / pay expectations, owning property, my 401K plans, and I'm very much single (but it took me a long time to realize not to be in a relationship for the sake of society - but when it's actually a true connection) It's tough with all the social content you see everyday of those who are doing 'better' than you or achieving goals that you wanted to do - so disconnecting is SO KEY and I needed that reminder. I feel like we are the same Jenn in some ways and it's kinda like talking about something real with a friend. Thank youuuu for always highlighting the topics that need to be heard.
This video make me realise how long I have been subscribing to your channel 💕
Awww thank you for sticking around this long!
I can relate to this so much and constantly struggle with the idea of achieving certain things at a certain age. Everything I thought would happen or should happen, didnt happen. I’m still figuring it out and doing my best not to compare myself to anyone. I’m gonna let go of my age and strive to live my best life ever everyday . Thank you for sharing jenn!
Jenn love your reflexion about age! Love u
You going to community college help erase the stigma for me when I was trying to figure out where to go to college in 2014 when I was close to graduating high school. I've always held you to high esteem so I went the community college then transferring to university route. I struggle with lack of instant gratification and feeling like I hit plauteus. Seeing a lot of my friends graduating, getting engaged, getting married, having kids-all these "milestones" at a young age adds on pressure and I'm grateful you've expressed it eloquently. Thank you so much for your transperancy, Jenn.
I LOVE YOU JENN❤️❤️
Omg this happened to me at 22 when I graduated college. Everybody was getting jobs and had a legitimate plan. I could not find a job and had to move back with my parents. I was in a depression for a year. I finally found a job and I slowly started to rebuild myself. But in that year I cut off my friends and didn’t want to talk to anybody because I felt like a loser. I just turned 24 last week and omg how times have changed. Things do get better. You have to go through tribulations to appreciate the person you are today. Thanks for sharing Jenn ❤️
I’m 29 and I’m going to move to different country for new start ,
I’m 27 as well and you’re so right in reminding us that comparison is the thief of joy. Bc I’m not even remotely close to buying a home let alone moving out, I feel like I’m moving too slow in my career (even though I’m really not since I’m getting promotions). It’s been 5 years since I graduated college and I’m still not a licensed architect. There’s so much pressure out there but the heaviest pressure is self inflicted. Thank you for making this video! It’s a good reminder to just do your best no matter who/what/when.
Love you! ❤️❤️ so relate
I just turned 19, and this is one of the best videos I've seen in this year, thankyou!!
love you jenn thanks for keeping it real~
Hi Jenn, I am 25 and having my quarter life crises. It was sooo good to hear that someone can say they went trough it too! I am struggling with so much expectations and for the first time in my life I dont know what to do. I am now in process of slowing down and all is good 😊
Resolve me this : how can one fight age pressure while advertising for a brand that literally feeds on it?
It really resonated with me when you said that "everyone is on their own paths". I have a tendency to compare myself to others that I see on social media and whatnot and I always find myself thinking...why am I coming up short?? I always have to bring myself back into the headspace that what I see may not always be the complete truth. Everyone is going thru their own thing as am I.
Thanks for this vid Jenn!
It’s crazy to me that even though we’re living longer and the stages of our lives are longer, we still get pressured with these ridiculous old deadlines. I’m so glad the pressure made you into a diamond instead of crushing you.
Thank you so much Jenn, I am in tears. I just turned 27 yesterday and you hit all the points. Everyone around me is either engaged, married, or have kids. While I'm still struggling in my career, finding a bf, and trying to be happy. Thanks for cheering me up and tell me this is okay!!!