One of my favorite quotes about religious narcs... A narcissist will carry the Bible in one hand and a knife in the other. It depends on the audience as to which hand you'll see.
@@michignamymichigan Yes!! Just disowned a sister as her actions were the opposite of what she presented on her page and now sending flying monkeys to gaslight me
Just left a church pastored by a narcissist who unfortunately also happens to be my landlord. I didn’t make a scene or anything, just left quietly. One week later (yesterday) I get certified mail that he’s raised my rent by $400 (40%). I was a pillar in the church and now none but a few friends will even speak to me. It will also probably cost me my government job too because there are many church members in the chain of command. It’s insanity, I only left because I couldn’t put up with his behavior (legitimately disqualified for ministry several times over) and some doctrinal errors. I left to attend another church where I could continue to grow but apparently I’m to be treated as an infidel. It’s incredibly sad, I’ve been in that church for more than 30 years since I was a child. At any rate I’m glad to be out of that heretical lordship cult of personality.
Its not a coincedence the latin root religio means "to bind" the mind. The whole idea is you get to use god as a proxy for yourself, you get to impose your interpretation of reality on other people and put all the heat from that onto an illusion. When you ask one of them a genuine question or poke fun at one of their religion's aspects and they rage at you its a dead giveaway.
Wicca "witchcraft" needs to stop being the scapegoat religion when people of different faiths act narcissistic. That in itself is a form of bigotry, discrimination and hate speech. There are people with good intentions and bad intentions that associate with all religions. Manifesting was originally known as spell casting until people of different faiths decided to rebrand it to feel comfortable using. Holistic healing like using natural remedies to heal was originally done by witches and has now become popular among all. Shadow work is now known as cbt and refraining your mindset in the therapy community. Candle magic is commonly used by many by placing a candle on a birthday cake and the birthday person making a wish and blowing it out. Energy healing /energy work has long been practiced by witches and many wise cultures over the years. There are many more examples. Although many claim to be victims of narcissists ab*se ... it's important to be accountable and not to perpetuate discrimination for other religions and cultures just because you are angry or have been wronged.
@@Jehucurliss2kings There are actually several evil spirits. Leviathan is a big stronghold spirit --very hard to be cast out of a person. It takes a real miracle ❤️🙏
My mother did this also while we stayed at a nunnery in Portugal where she was following an extremist religious group…I remember the beating till I actually stopped feeling anything and realized no one would help me. I think it was the first memory of dissociating. I still struggle against the religious use of guilt, 40+ yrs later!
My mother would tell me I had no relationship with God because I did not read the Bible, attend sermons, fast, or pray like her. She would use the Bible scripture and sermons to passively attack me. Either myself or my children were regularly labeled as demonic yet, she would throw a tantrum, stomp her feet, and march off like my toddler. It was constant guilt-tripping and threats of ‘God is going to punish you’ to keep us under her control.
I dated a narcissist who was a pastor, married four times. He was like a vampire with all those vulnerable women, going from church to church,. He was the star of the show every Sunday. What a perfect job fpr a vampire.
My ex used to stand up in church and sing my praises. When he was done I whispered If you do that again, I will stand up and tell them what you really think of me. He never did it again! Such a phony.
My God! You are on it!! That spirit will try to destroy a person. The narcissist person has a strong religious spirit. It also tries to make the other person look like the villain and they are the victim. All that spirit does is quote scripture. Making itself look so holy and so so much more.
If you are fasting for Ramadan I applaud you. You did not give up your religion. Sometimes after so much abuse people stop believing. I know you are such a good and kind person.
They be always talking about God but the main one doing the devils work behind closed doors doors it’s sad thank you 🙏 for helping people like me that experienced thier narc ways❤❤❤❤
Fifty-four years ago today I married a narcissist who I met through a church social group (that he organized) because I thought he was as religious as I was. We attended church together. We studied the Bible daily. After the trauma, physical abuse, and divorce, he left his Bible behind at the house when he moved out. I remember that moment. His family and I thought he was a Christian. He did a great job of fooling us all. Thank you so much for this video that focused on this important topic that provided what I needed to know. Hearing your personal experiences surely will help others.
Religion becomes a weapon to use for narcissists. The overall biblical concept of love and kindness is replaced by singular Bible verses that fit their whatever sick agenda is at that time. I’m never impressed by those that can spew out Bible verses in a moments notice. Always a red flag for me. It’s usually a mask for manipulation, meanness, and power. Actions speak louder than words. Watch their actions. Thank you, Danish, for sharing your painful experiences. You are helping so many understand what’s happening to them and that they are not alone.
Oh my word . This is so true! It is wonderful to know other people have also experienced the same as I did. They are the biggest scammers, very dangerous and they deceive so so many people. My ex Narc talked in such a calm manner, he could pull out any scripture at any moment and quote it!!! But he was addicted to these sites where women advertised themselves.You know what I mean.....
Every time I've known somebody who makes a production about God, and the Bible, and Jesus and about going to church...I've been burned by them. Every time. The Pharisees made a big production of how religious and "good" they were. Jesus said love in deed not in word. Talk is cheap, and I'm finally learning to be really careful of people who go on about what a good Christian they are. There are quiet humble Christians, but the abusers hiding behind it and just using God (they use everybody so I guess God is no exception), they give Christianity a bad name. I read a book that narcissism is more modern terminology but they are mentioned in the Bible, the Pharisees being a prime example.
Jesus, Danish. You have been through so much!! It's a miracle you turned out to be such an amazing person. G-d certainly must have had His hand over you. You seem to be a kind and decent human being. ❤️
I think God wants us to repent too because wounds can cause a lot of anger and resentment. Remember, God is a God of justice. Maybe not right now, but He promises it. Thank you, Sir for your channel to always be informed and strong. You are.
The religious narcissist I was dealing with misused scripture, was dogmatic, was actually ignorant. But even knowing that it was hard. I kept thinking "well, if she is so holy and perfect then why is this thing she is doing actually well, lying and stealing (but not in her mind, obviously)"
People see the way someone looks on the outside. God sees the way someone really is on the inside. Religious hypocrites can't fool God with fake piety and outward appearances because, to Him, they're like whitewashed tombs. "Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness." (Matthew 23: 27, KJV).
My narc housemate was trying to start a fight, and she started screaming at me, saying, "I'm Eve, the NEW mother of Jesus Christ. 😅 😂 🤣 👍 ... she's the most evil, manipulative, physically threatening, pathological liar I've ever met. I moved, and life is peaceful now. 😊
my brother who is the golden child in our family, highly praised by my narcissistic mother, is very religious. He goes to church every sunday, he always says that without church he would be lost. He is fasting several times a year, he gives money to charity and poor people, to priests and children in need. But, he has no heart. He is full of rage. He lies and cheats everyone, especially in business. He made so much money from stealing it from his business partners, millions of dollars, that the government of our country put him on the black list and was asked to present to court for several justice cases. However, my brother being the narcissist and spoiled rat that he is, he went on a trip to Spain with his family and ever came back. They moved there so that he could escape the law here and eventually avoid jail. My mother is still managing his business here. She is 82 now so she may not be afraid of going to jail at this age, but i think she is also not aware of the scams he is still forcing her to do in his name. You just nailed it with this video.
Isn't that something, all a façade, all over..... I go to church but it's to raid the donated books then pass on 📚 to others for free, unlike the church which tries to get you to pay. Goodwill here refuses to accept anymore books I pointed out to the cheapskate involved!
I have a criminal sister who secretly got POA of my elderly father with dementia and put her name on his accounts as sole beneficiary. It’s a nightmare what adult narcissistic siblings do to a family. I’m blessed to have two other sisters for support. She has declared war on all three of us for just trying to keep the inheritance equal. And yes, she’s in church every Sunday and always has a Bible verse. Hypocrite.
Sounds like my mormon father. He has always thought he was morally superior to everyone else including me. I made the mistake recently of being real with him and he's now in attack mode - trying to convince me his church isn't sexist and I was taught I could do anything I wanted even better than a man. Meanwhile, his whole life he's called women's periods "the curse". But guys he's totally not sexist! He's fathered an illegitimate child he abandoned and lied to me about being morally perfect his whole life but he thinks I'm morally inferior because I drink coffee.
I cannot forget when my narc dad would run up the stairs ready to shout and tell me off without asking me what happened or listening to my side he would always say I’m wrong even when I wasn’t I still have ptsd from loud noises
My ex husband always telling me that I can beat you because in surah Nisa Allah tells husband that he can beat her wife if she doesn't obey him. That time I literally started hating Muslim religion but now I understand what actually he did to me. Thank you so much Danish for always being there for us and making our lives peaceful by telling we were not wrong but they were demons and we did nothing wrong by leaving them.
Matthew 10:34-36 Not Peace, but a Sword “Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. 36 And a person's enemies will be those of his own household."
Thank you very much for this video. Both my parents are narcissists I realized a year or so ago. I would like to share a tiny tidbit from my own life before I walked away from home 13 years ago. I am a 37 year old Turkish female and a muslim. My parents raised me and my younger sister with the idea that we should be forever grateful to our parents because our mother gave birth to us. We were treated like slaves, we weren't allowed anything, not even our own thoughts and opinions. Whenever we "rebelled" they would regularly throw a Turkish Islamitic saying at us that says "the key to paradise lies under your mothers feet". And this made me doubt myself and our beautiful religion so much back then, but I always told myself that God does not condone abuse and we're no slaves, we are not supposed to put up with abuse eternally. Now years later I'm still trying to heal, I have many traumas and mental (anger) issues because of them. And 7 years ago I also learned that I'm autistic so that doesn't help much either. So I have a long way to go but lucily I am not alone. I have a boyfriend (husband) with whom I've been living with since past 11 years so he supports and helps me a lot.
I forgot to add, my parents treated me and my younger sister like trash while our youngest brother was allowed and got anything and everything he wanted. He was/is their favourite which made everything they did to us even more difficult for me to accept. There was a long time that I hated them for years, it's just recently that I realised that I no longer hate them. I am still angry at them sure, but no hate. I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive them though.
He is an ordained minister. That gives a narc the veneer of respectability and more importantly, ACCESS. He preyed on the women who pray. I'm finally healed. Thank you Jesus 🙌🏻 🌹
The hard part for me is that my adult children are still all living with in five miles from him. He loves to get them to act out his abuse towards me. I have two out of four kids who are even willing to text me. @AS-qi9sz
My narc ex is Hare Krishna, as am I. She was very knowledgeable in the scriptures which made me believe she was extremely spiritual so I trusted her completely. So my guards were always down and I ignored a lot of red flags.
So so true, so so true. My dad is a narcissistic missionary/pastor and was physically abusive on top of the emotional, etc. from JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Spot on. I have experienced a similar beating at the hands of my father and mother and they were both very religious Christians and narcissists. It doesn’t matter which religion they follow, if they are narcissists they follow their own religion in which they are gods consciously or unconsciously. God has nothing to do with abuse, God is love, freedom, truth, patience and good. People who believe in God behave accordingly. Thank you 🙏 Danish . God bless you❤
I married into a religious cult 24 yrs ago. The abuse they inflicted upon me using religion is unfathomable. After the 1st yr of continous abuse using religion, I completely lost faith in God. Just recently beginning this year, I have let the higher power guide me through life again. My healing journey helped me restore my faith not in any specific god or religion but the universe itself. Thanks to everyone like you Danish, my life is beautiful again once I understood narsissim and it's impact on one's life.
When I broke up with my ex, my ex's Christian friends said to me that I have trouble with the Lord and I was guilt tripping my ex for expressing my feelings, when I just said how cruel my ex that broke me up in the middle of relationship. It's so horrible. Made me think that expressing my feelings were wrong and God didn't love me. They made me so depressed. I was just trying to hold on the commitment but what they did to me was judging me and mocking me.
Religion was used as a club when I was young. It traumatized me into a lifetime of fighting depression. Religion ruined my mothers life but instead of turning away from it she embraced the cruelty in it. My father was worse in his own way. He reminded me that I was always defective and a sinner no matter what I did. At six I stopped eating because I wanted to die. I started hating Christianity as a young child. How could a god be so cruel? I now enjoy Eastern philosophy which says I am born perfect, not bad. I went on to marry two cruel narcissists. I am now free! You have helped me the last few years. Thank you!
Uggghhh, so true. My ex Narc. husband was always using service at church to look on the outside like he was superior and kind and dedicated. As if!! He was in leadership and on committee's, but surprise, surprise I caught him in a chat online, setting up a hookup with another married woman in our church, to meet to hook up, DURING the church service!!! You can't make this stuff up. As soon as I saw the messages I found out where this woman lived, and I showed up at her house, went right to her door and rang the bell. I told her I knew and if she didn't tell her husband I would tell him and show him the messages. I asked our minister to remove my husband from authority and committee's at the church, and they looked at me like I was the adulterer. They refused and continued to let him lead in the church. I told the minister that as his wife and as a member of the church I objected and was offended. Narcissists suck. They have no line they won't cross. It is not just the Muslim faith Danish. My father is a Christian and he also tries to use scripture to shame people into bowing to his whims and will. I don't fall for it. He was formerly an alcoholic for the majority of my childhood, running off to get drunk and run around on my mother. When he gave up the addiction to alcohol & women, he traded it for religion. He has used this to alienate most of the people in the family, including his 3 daughters.
My brother in law is a Narcissist pastor. He will be very careful not to expose himself to his friends and his church believers. But he has been continuously torturing my sister and now since couple of months, my sister is behaving odd like him and I think he has gaslighted her. Now I have no idea how to save my sister and her kids
My American narcisstic so called Christian aunt loved to use her scriptures against me. And later on a Coptic orthodox Egyptian ex-boyfriend who was also narcisstic. I'm really done with this so called 'religious' ppl.
My experiences with narcissistic religious types, especially those who consider themselves ‘leaders’, is that they think their religiosity sanctions their abuses. Not all youth group leaders are predators but predators often try to gain such positions in order to abuse. I remember one youth group leader who grabbed my ass during a retreat and said, “I’ve always wanted to do that.” I’d already been sexually abused as a little girl and my abuser terrified me, threatened me into keeping silent about it. I had communal narcissistic parents who I already knew didn’t want me reporting things like this to them. “You have to learn to fight your own battles. I can’t fight your battles for you.” These abusive religious figures gain cover from many corners. Be aware and help others be aware. Thanks.
You really nailed that one! I have been single and living alone for the last 10 years. I married a narcissist 25 years ago and went through 10 years of hell. Then I met a great woman but she died of cancer after 5 years of living together so I just stayed single and don't want to be hurt again. But in January when the weather was freezing I let a homeless woman stay with me for help her. She was ok at first but then the signs something was amiss began to appear quickly. She said she believed in God and prayed but I would cook dinner and I always say a silent prayer, sometimes a couple of minutes. She would just start eating. She said something about why it took me so long to pray sometimes and I told her I had some things to say. She just told me she would say "Thanks God." She was here 33 days so I got to know her better and she told me she walked with God and her name was different than her birth name. She is an addict and I tried to help her straighten up but she being a narcissist thought she knew better and left me for her new supply even though I begged her to stay. I get attached to people sometimes when I shouldn't. But I really wanted to help her. But she was only gone 25 days before she got busted with a meth pipe at the house I told her was not a good place for her. On her arrest sheet where it asks about religion it says "none." I thought I knew a lot about narcissist after my 10 year marriage but this woman taught me more in 33 days! Thank you God for escaping that one!
So true, my husband is a religious person he goes to every Saturday. He abused me gaslighted me rejected me and betrayed me with a family friend a married woman.
Sounds very familiar. Experienced this with both my biological father and an ex stepfather. My ex stepfather still leads the head position of the men’s ministry at church..where he coaches other men how to be great men….😢
I am so sorry that happened to you. Thank you so much for sharing this story. I had no idea that children that young even fasted for Ramandan. My entire life I heard, 'God is going to punish you' for every thing misstep. Funny how the narc parents can do whatever they want without consequences.
Oh my land we were on staff under a malignant narcissist senior pastor. Like those fired before us when we came to him with concerns of many things he was doing that were troubling. He promptly began the smear campaign against us and then fired us saying we retired. Told the body (congregation) not to call us and continues well over a year later to slander us and others. Praying for his repentance he has a 20 year history of this evil behavior. Many came to us and shared the treacherous things he'd done to them before and after us.
I was in a church & the pastor was a narcissist & intimidated his beautiful loving wife & had his teen son programmed to get beatings by a belt like it was normal, even beating him in the front yard of the house & all the neighbors could see him beat this boy & not just a little bit but on & on it went!!
@@deidraannemartinebates1602there is a term now for the folk who are abused by narcissists, the "echoist" & another word "echoism"!! When I read the characteristics of the echoist, they all fit me to the tee here!! This term has only come out in the last 8-10 years !!
Very familiar with this Danish. One of my family members was involved in a few religious cults which exacerbated their narcissism. I experienced severe pain and suffering in my life as a result.
My Christian narcissist father uses his prayers to verbally abuse others. He audibly prayed the "evil" out of me when I wasn't compliant or when I had conflict with him
The narcissist in my life had never been to church before meeting me. He latched on to the scripture that says a woman should OBEY her husband. Another thing he totally embraced about Christianity is that Christ saves you from your sin (which I do believe), but he took it to the degree that nothing he would do after 'becoming a Christian' would ever be judged. I was to obey him, but there were no rules for HIM. Win/win situation for him. I feel so bad your father was so horrible to you. These monsters really mess up your head, that's for sure.
My former Husband, who I help look after as a volunteer, has the most extreme form of Narcissism which is a 'Christ Complex'. He's convinced he's the second coming of Christ. He's a very complicated person. I Married him thinking how well he knows his Bible. Oh yes, he knows it so well but only so he can appear so godly in Christian circles. But it's all a great big con-trick. He's in reality very, very far removed from Christ. At the moment he thinks he's wearing a gold crown and is the King of Liverpool. He also thinks he's wearing the cloak of Elijah. Over the years I've been asked; "How do you cope with him? " I say; "There's only one way to cope with John, and that's never to meet him in the first place" .
I have been looking for a video that touches on 'religious narcs'. My husband used the Bible to remind myself and our daughters to always be submissive to the man/leader of the household and not to question why he does this/that. He really messed with our heads convincing us that his way was right/correct. This is why our marriage has failed after 22 yrs. So glad I finally woke up and broke away from that bondage. Thank you for this video and I am so sorry what happened to you & your sister. 😔
Glad that you made it through your childhood Abuse. God helped you become a survivor & now you have a platform to help others. God bless you & give you continued strength Danish❤Thanks for all you do ( I know a Muslim male Narcissist that uses religion to cover his evil deeds to people & continues in doing evil deeds to others- one day judgement will come for him).
Some "I pray for this'n that" comments have a strong narcicisstic Stench. My aunt is a Priester, I spend wedks with her and her over the top Christian family. None of them has ever said "I will need a few minutes to pray".
Thank you very very much for what you do on youtube !!! Every single video of yours is a dose of validation ! It truly is a miracle that you grew up so adequat and wonderful person after such a dark past ! You are very resilient,a good example for all of narcissist's survivors!
I believed the same: every Christian is nice, helps others, has love, time for your next, etc. The bitter experience, most christians in Europe love themselves! They are egoistic, self-centered, care only about themselves and their family. They don't bother about other christians. Indifference grew - Empathy decreased. Some of them give, but what they give, are only crumbs. [Besides, I live in a rich nation.] Though, the majority are not Narc., but only religious, with some exceptions of real Narc. among them. A lot of European christians who are singles feel very lonely. Why? Because love=agape has grown cold. Mathew 24.12.
They use worldly logic and shame based scoldings to control people. . Years ago, I learned that discipline and punishment are different especially once you have kids of your own. . One can really scar a child early on if all you do is punish but never correct them in love. So why do these kind of people whine and cry how they are the ones so mistreated? They are like an evil oppressive dictator. 💔
My story is similar. I prayed, as a child, that Good destroy my father. Only way to get out my home was to my narcissist grandparents who also uses word "God" for their needs. I get mad on God, as a child and declared myself as atheist for years. This fear lived in me for years. You bring so much clarity to me 💚
My dad had a perverted way of weaponizing religion. He sent his children off to church so he could be alone with only my mom every Sunday morning. He sent us to a church he hated because the congregation was dominated by horrible people and it was miserable to have to be in that church. There is so much more to that church, but that's a tangent too large for a comments section. While we were off to church with my dad's family he was sexually assaulting his wife, my mom. What I gather is that it was BDSM without consent or safety words. I didn't know this was happening to her, she even kept his dirty secret when they divorced. It was a girlfriend of his after their divorce who told my (adult) sister some of what he had done to my mom and was trying to do with this lady. My dad has complete manipulative control over my mom. He knew how to keep her under his control. Today she is tormented still by this abuse. (She is finally speaking about it with me) He would tie her down at the ankles, and every time he would tighten her left ankle too tight and when she told him it hurt her he would tell her she was fine. Now that she's at a minimum of 20 years since this abuse stopped she is dealing with painful low circulation in her ankle and foot. They are a constant deep purple color. She needs surgery to get adequate circulation back to her foot. I fear that she will end up at some point having to get that foot amputated. Her suffering was real while she was married to him. Her suffering is real more than 2 decades after their divorce, and is something she will always have to deal with the rest of her life. When I saw her foot it opened up a new level of rage towards my dad and this all knowing god with a plan for everyone and everything happens because it's god's plan. My dad used his family and church on Sunday to his benefit, and yet his enabling, religious family refuse to make him accountable for anything he did to me, my mom, my sister. I had to go no contact with his family long before I found out about my mom's foot, and it's going to stay that way!
Scarily and eerily similar to my Mom and golden child turning narc..my sister! I am figuring out that narcs realise from an early age that God is unquestionable, so for them the ultimate symbol of power....and showing the world that they are religious, it's a great shield they can use to shun all accountability and also wield power... Sorry for your story. We have to become the protectors as adults of our self that was hurt many years ago... And yes, it's not about a particular religion. I am a Hindu...
Somebody who finally spoke up about this! They use words to forgive themselves endlessly, but use the same words to condemn others. It's a never ending cycle.
My parents have made church their identity and it’s really concerning to me. Every time my mom says she loves me and asks me if I love her, I’m always hearing the underlying sense that she’s expecting something from me, but I know that deep down, I don’t owe her anything. It’s no wonder I don’t feel safe being around her.
Danish ! It brought tears to my eyes while listening to your story of childhood.I can very well imagine the horrible memories of mental trauma you faced😢 You are so brave.You faced narcissism of both parents and survived so boldly and have become wonderful human being and great motivator for narcissism abuse survivors.Hats off to you.God bless you with lot of strength n happiness in life 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
My ex wore his atheism on his forehead. Again, he said it because that was “trendy” but also to accept a religion would go against their behavior. My ex would not take me to church and told me he couldn’t respect me for becoming religious.
Then ....You Can Find The Religious NARCS Are WORSE They Never WRONG Regardless How EVIL They Act. Because They Claim Licenses To Do WRONG And Use Forgiveness For Their BENEFITS. Then Try To Guilt Trip OTHERS To Do IT.
Please please please, do a video on Narcissists Obsession with Virginity. My Narcissist Mother had this disgusting obsession over her children. You're doing gods work with your videos, Truly life changing & helps people feel that they are understood & not alone. Much love! ❤🩹Namaste ❤🩹
In this world today my number 1 priority would be encouraging my daughters to keep it! Nothing wrong with protecting yourself both physically and mentally sexual sin. From someone who wasn't protected, I would say, its the most important thing.
My nurcissist Muslim husband pray namaz five times daily and fasting one months but he has many girl friends and he drink alcohol which is banded in our religion. Sometimes I am confused how possible his religious activists and unethical working are going together.
@@TaTa-xd5yt I live in orthodox country. In our society people don’t like devorce and blame woman, leave woman,. As a University Professor I could not devorce my husband. People knowns he is like a monk. My nurcissist daughter always blame me and threat me If I devorce his father he will leave me. I have been waiting for 13 years for my son graduation. My son is a MIT student in USA. Now he has complete graduation degree. He is a angel and blessing in my life. He support me for devorcing his father. I have got American visa. Next Aguste I will devorce my husband and will stay in USA.
@@shewlykhan I'm glad things are getting better for you and that you're staying strong. You raised a good boy, not many parents have that. I hope things continue to go well for you and congrats on getting your visa!
Thank you, Danish! You’ve helped me immensely!!! There is no one like you, understanding this so deep and profound! You’ve answered so many questions that no “narcissism” teacher talks about.
What should I do if my mom tries to stop me from going to work by disconnecting my car battery again will cops tell this lady to leave it alone since I payed for it/ drove it from Cali to TX??
These are the worst because they are suppose to set the standard! Sorry you had to go through all you did! You are a blessing to us who lived this truth! Many Blessings to you Danish!!❤️
This is so true. I worked this out for myself over time. It was all fake and I worked it out when we went umrah. He couldn't wait to finish and it was all rushed. He never fasted, always pretended only. Didn't give up anything. For about 10 years I never saw anyone in his own family pray NEVER and I was around a lot, also in Ramadan. He used to take the piss out of me when I prayed and read quran and I couldn't understand why!
Yep, religion does not equal a good person. My narc showed me this! I gave up all religion and became super spiritual and doing that and being in touch with my intuition has freed me. First mentally and spiritually and FINALLY, physically. ❤ your videos. Thank you thank you.
what you told is all right about my current situation.i am being manipulated by my younger sister who has done various misbehavior but doesn't want to admit it. I was unable to rebuke her because his narcissistic nature traumatized me. I see she has inherited her narcissistic nature from my mother. she was very angry with me because I had revealed the truth behind his back. finally she found a famous Sufi teacher, studied the knowledge and attacked me every day with abusive words embroidered with the lessons she had just learned. representing the words she wanted to throw at me. every day she will send messages, videos of the teacher. he asked me to learn the knowledge. everything you said is very true(sorry im using google translate)
The narcs use the religion against you and they can easily jump from one religion to another i have experience from my ex only for the efforts thanks Danish God bless you and heal your soul greetings from Greece 😊
One of my favorite quotes about religious narcs...
A narcissist will carry the Bible in one hand and a knife in the other. It depends on the audience as to which hand you'll see.
🎯💯 perfectly put.
Couldn't agree more. 👏
Very true 💯
In my case, LITERALLY.
They are always the loudest in the room!!! and will have a page to create an audience, meanwhile their family and friends know them inside and out😂
The Narc I knew was very quiet and a bit Covert. Maybe when he drank it was different but i was not around him when drinking.
They have to be in control and keep everyone in their place. They are frightening. Be you, be safe.
@@michignamymichigan Yes!! Just disowned a sister as her actions were the opposite of what she presented on her page and now sending flying monkeys to gaslight me
@@michignamymichiganThey don't frighten me. I get angry and give them a nice mouthtful.
Narcs think they will never die. And their religion is a mask, like you rightly put.
Just left a church pastored by a narcissist who unfortunately also happens to be my landlord. I didn’t make a scene or anything, just left quietly. One week later (yesterday) I get certified mail that he’s raised my rent by $400 (40%). I was a pillar in the church and now none but a few friends will even speak to me. It will also probably cost me my government job too because there are many church members in the chain of command. It’s insanity, I only left because I couldn’t put up with his behavior (legitimately disqualified for ministry several times over) and some doctrinal errors. I left to attend another church where I could continue to grow but apparently I’m to be treated as an infidel. It’s incredibly sad, I’ve been in that church for more than 30 years since I was a child. At any rate I’m glad to be out of that heretical lordship cult of personality.
sounds like a fake religious narcissist I knew intimately.
They hide behind religion but their divisiveness is witchcraft.
Its not a coincedence the latin root religio means "to bind" the mind. The whole idea is you get to use god as a proxy for yourself, you get to impose your interpretation of reality on other people and put all the heat from that onto an illusion. When you ask one of them a genuine question or poke fun at one of their religion's aspects and they rage at you its a dead giveaway.
Wicca "witchcraft" needs to stop being the scapegoat religion when people of different faiths act narcissistic. That in itself is a form of bigotry, discrimination and hate speech. There are people with good intentions and bad intentions that associate with all religions.
Manifesting was originally known as spell casting until people of different faiths decided to rebrand it to feel comfortable using. Holistic healing like using natural remedies to heal was originally done by witches and has now become popular among all. Shadow work is now known as cbt and refraining your mindset in the therapy community. Candle magic is commonly used by many by placing a candle on a birthday cake and the birthday person making a wish and blowing it out. Energy healing /energy work has long been practiced by witches and many wise cultures over the years. There are many more examples.
Although many claim to be victims of narcissists ab*se ... it's important to be accountable and not to perpetuate discrimination for other religions and cultures just because you are angry or have been wronged.
Yep. The Jezebel spirit
150%
@@Jehucurliss2kings There are actually several evil spirits. Leviathan is a big stronghold spirit --very hard to be cast out of a person. It takes a real miracle ❤️🙏
My mother will spend all going and praying to Jesus but she is darkness and I am seeing it in my dreams. Narcissist are EVIL
Oh my! My husband saw the spirit of his dad and grandmother in a dream
@@iloveyougumi Narcissist are evil
@@mrdeshonline they are!
My mother did this also while we stayed at a nunnery in Portugal where she was following an extremist religious group…I remember the beating till I actually stopped feeling anything and realized no one would help me. I think it was the first memory of dissociating. I still struggle against the religious use of guilt, 40+ yrs later!
This kind of narcissist makes me so angry. They are hypocrites. I'm so sorry for the abuse you endured, Danish!! 😢 You're such a nice person.
These people walk into Church to be "seen" but they are evil in real life.
My mother would tell me I had no relationship with God because I did not read the Bible, attend sermons, fast, or pray like her. She would use the Bible scripture and sermons to passively attack me. Either myself or my children were regularly labeled as demonic yet, she would throw a tantrum, stomp her feet, and march off like my toddler. It was constant guilt-tripping and threats of ‘God is going to punish you’ to keep us under her control.
Please know thats she didn’t represent God in any way shape or form. To the contrary, such behavior’s likely grievous to God.
They bend their holy books to suit their own needs, wants, desires and agenda.
I dated a narcissist who was a pastor, married four times. He was like a vampire with all those vulnerable women, going from church to church,. He was the star of the show every Sunday. What a perfect job fpr a vampire.
Apparently 30% of pastors are full blown narc and another 60% have traits
My sister dated one of those. He put a knife to her throat and said "I could kill you right now". Last date.
My ex used to stand up in church and sing my praises. When he was done I whispered If you do that again, I will stand up and tell them what you really think of me. He never did it again! Such a phony.
Nice😊
My God! You are on it!! That spirit will try to destroy a person. The narcissist person has a strong religious spirit. It also tries to make the other person look like the villain and they are the victim. All that spirit does is quote scripture. Making itself look so holy and so so much more.
Amen!! I know it all too well.
The spirit of leviathan. A stronghold Spirit' of pure cunning deceptive evil.
The devil also knows scripture
It's only the victims of narcissistic abuse who understands the traits of narcissist better as they've experienced.
It’s all A SHOW. They are demons in meat suits. Thank you Danish! Strength 💪💪
Spot on!
Best definition ever ! Period!!! 👌🏾🔥🔥🔥
I like the expression…. Bible in one hand and knife in the other. It explains them perfectly
They want you to get over the abuse they have done by using God or the religion, and they continue to abuse you by using the religion
They find Jesus after they abuse you and hurt you
If you are fasting for Ramadan I applaud you. You did not give up your religion. Sometimes after so much abuse people stop believing. I know you are such a good and kind person.
Same here!
" but god know my heart " is how they always end the story when going crazy
Reminds me of Dr. Phil episodes when a liar is exposed, and they say, "Jesus knows I'm innocent!"
Bible says man's heart is deceitful.
Yes I agree with you I don’t know rather to laugh or not thier crazy
They be always talking about God but the main one doing the devils work behind closed doors doors it’s sad thank you 🙏 for helping people like me that experienced thier narc ways❤❤❤❤
Fifty-four years ago today I married a narcissist who I met through a church social group (that he organized) because I thought he was as religious as I was. We attended church together. We studied the Bible daily. After the trauma, physical abuse, and divorce, he left his Bible behind at the house when he moved out. I remember that moment. His family and I thought he was a Christian. He did a great job of fooling us all. Thank you so much for this video that focused on this important topic that provided what I needed to know. Hearing your personal experiences surely will help others.
the devil used scripture to tempt Jesus in His wilderness...
So true
Exactly & Judas was a disciple
Perfect
Religion becomes a weapon to use for narcissists. The overall biblical concept of love and kindness is replaced by singular Bible verses that fit their whatever sick agenda is at that time. I’m never impressed by those that can spew out Bible verses in a moments notice. Always a red flag for me. It’s usually a mask for manipulation, meanness, and power. Actions speak louder than words. Watch their actions.
Thank you, Danish, for sharing your painful experiences. You are helping so many understand what’s happening to them and that they are not alone.
Oh my word . This is so true! It is wonderful to know other people have also experienced the same as I did. They are the biggest scammers, very dangerous and they deceive so so many people. My ex Narc talked in such a calm manner, he could pull out any scripture at any moment and quote it!!! But he was addicted to these sites where women advertised themselves.You know what I mean.....
They are the biggest hypocrites!
Every time I've known somebody who makes a production about God, and the Bible, and Jesus and about going to church...I've been burned by them. Every time. The Pharisees made a big production of how religious and "good" they were. Jesus said love in deed not in word. Talk is cheap, and I'm finally learning to be really careful of people who go on about what a good Christian they are. There are quiet humble Christians, but the abusers hiding behind it and just using God (they use everybody so I guess God is no exception), they give Christianity a bad name.
I read a book that narcissism is more modern terminology but they are mentioned in the Bible, the Pharisees being a prime example.
My narc hubby is exactly what you explained
I agree totally! Watch their actions ..
Jesus, Danish. You have been through so much!! It's a miracle you turned out to be such an amazing person. G-d certainly must have had His hand over you. You seem to be a kind and decent human being. ❤️
I once read God sends us what he knows we can handle, isn't that something! Maybe that's our challenge, he knows yet we're learning....
I think God wants us to repent too because wounds can cause a lot of anger and resentment.
Remember, God is a God of justice. Maybe not right now, but He promises it.
Thank you, Sir for your channel to always be informed and strong.
You are.
They don't need a reason that has to do anything with reality to behave the way they do .
Yep! Only demonic plan in their spiritual verse make sense to them. Even though in reality in front of our eyes it's totally non sense and madness!
The religious narcissist I was dealing with misused scripture, was dogmatic, was actually ignorant. But even knowing that it was hard. I kept thinking "well, if she is so holy and perfect then why is this thing she is doing actually well, lying and stealing (but not in her mind, obviously)"
People see the way someone looks on the outside. God sees the way someone really is on the inside. Religious hypocrites can't fool God with fake piety and outward appearances because, to Him, they're like whitewashed tombs.
"Woe unto you, scribes and Pharisees, hypocrites! for ye are like unto whited sepulchres, which indeed appear beautiful outward, but are within full of dead men's bones, and of all uncleanness." (Matthew 23: 27, KJV).
That's why I also need Him from now. I can't do anything in this world without Him!!😮💨
It's a non sense. I've just realized it few days ago
My narc housemate was trying to start a fight, and she started screaming at me, saying, "I'm Eve, the NEW mother of Jesus Christ. 😅 😂 🤣 👍 ... she's the most evil, manipulative, physically threatening, pathological liar I've ever met. I moved, and life is peaceful now. 😊
my brother who is the golden child in our family, highly praised by my narcissistic mother, is very religious. He goes to church every sunday, he always says that without church he would be lost. He is fasting several times a year, he gives money to charity and poor people, to priests and children in need. But, he has no heart. He is full of rage. He lies and cheats everyone, especially in business. He made so much money from stealing it from his business partners, millions of dollars, that the government of our country put him on the black list and was asked to present to court for several justice cases. However, my brother being the narcissist and spoiled rat that he is, he went on a trip to Spain with his family and ever came back. They moved there so that he could escape the law here and eventually avoid jail. My mother is still managing his business here. She is 82 now so she may not be afraid of going to jail at this age, but i think she is also not aware of the scams he is still forcing her to do in his name. You just nailed it with this video.
Isn't that something, all a façade, all over..... I go to church but it's to raid the donated books then pass on 📚 to others for free, unlike the church which tries to get you to pay. Goodwill here refuses to accept anymore books I pointed out to the cheapskate involved!
I have a criminal sister who secretly got POA of my elderly father with dementia and put her name on his accounts as sole beneficiary. It’s a nightmare what adult narcissistic siblings do to a family. I’m blessed to have two other sisters for support. She has declared war on all three of us for just trying to keep the inheritance equal. And yes, she’s in church every Sunday and always has a Bible verse. Hypocrite.
@@lisaatkinson6276it is wonderful that you at least have some support in your family. I have none, i am completely alone.
They will receive a rude awakening if they think they can sweet-talk the Almighty on the Day of their Judgement.
Sounds like my mormon father. He has always thought he was morally superior to everyone else including me. I made the mistake recently of being real with him and he's now in attack mode - trying to convince me his church isn't sexist and I was taught I could do anything I wanted even better than a man. Meanwhile, his whole life he's called women's periods "the curse". But guys he's totally not sexist!
He's fathered an illegitimate child he abandoned and lied to me about being morally perfect his whole life but he thinks I'm morally inferior because I drink coffee.
My sister is married to a Mormon narc. But he will get drunk occasionally.
I cannot forget when my narc dad would run up the stairs ready to shout and tell me off without asking me what happened or listening to my side he would always say I’m wrong even when I wasn’t
I still have ptsd from loud noises
@xDanishBashir01-dl2ys hey danish so lovely to get your reply I appreciate this
@xDanishBashir01-dl2ys how do I text you?
My ex husband always telling me that I can beat you because in surah Nisa Allah tells husband that he can beat her wife if she doesn't obey him. That time I literally started hating Muslim religion but now I understand what actually he did to me. Thank you so much Danish for always being there for us and making our lives peaceful by telling we were not wrong but they were demons and we did nothing wrong by leaving them.
Matthew 10:34-36
Not Peace, but a Sword
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. 35 For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law. 36 And a person's enemies will be those of his own household."
Watch out for people who guard those institutions. Any institution should be suspect at this time. Spirituality is a personal journey.
Thank you very much for this video. Both my parents are narcissists I realized a year or so ago.
I would like to share a tiny tidbit from my own life before I walked away from home 13 years ago.
I am a 37 year old Turkish female and a muslim. My parents raised me and my younger sister with the idea that we should be forever grateful to our parents because our mother gave birth to us. We were treated like slaves, we weren't allowed anything, not even our own thoughts and opinions. Whenever we "rebelled" they would regularly throw a Turkish Islamitic saying at us that says "the key to paradise lies under your mothers feet". And this made me doubt myself and our beautiful religion so much back then, but I always told myself that God does not condone abuse and we're no slaves, we are not supposed to put up with abuse eternally.
Now years later I'm still trying to heal, I have many traumas and mental (anger) issues because of them. And 7 years ago I also learned that I'm autistic so that doesn't help much either. So I have a long way to go but lucily I am not alone. I have a boyfriend (husband) with whom I've been living with since past 11 years so he supports and helps me a lot.
I forgot to add, my parents treated me and my younger sister like trash while our youngest brother was allowed and got anything and everything he wanted. He was/is their favourite which made everything they did to us even more difficult for me to accept.
There was a long time that I hated them for years, it's just recently that I realised that I no longer hate them. I am still angry at them sure, but no hate. I don't think I'll ever be able to forgive them though.
He is an ordained minister. That gives a narc the veneer of respectability and more importantly, ACCESS. He preyed on the women who pray. I'm finally healed. Thank you Jesus 🙌🏻 🌹
Get away and NEVER LOOK BACK. GET COUNSELING AND MOVE FAR AWAY.
The hard part for me is that my adult children are still all living with in five miles from him. He loves to get them to act out his abuse towards me. I have two out of four kids who are even willing to text me. @AS-qi9sz
My narc ex is Hare Krishna, as am I. She was very knowledgeable in the scriptures which made me believe she was extremely spiritual so I trusted her completely. So my guards were always down and I ignored a lot of red flags.
So so true, so so true.
My dad is a narcissistic missionary/pastor and was physically abusive on top of the emotional, etc.
from JANESVILLE, WISCONSIN USA
Spot on. I have experienced a similar beating at the hands of my father and mother and they were both very religious Christians and narcissists. It doesn’t matter which religion they follow, if they are narcissists they follow their own religion in which they are gods consciously or unconsciously. God has nothing to do with abuse, God is love, freedom, truth, patience and good. People who believe in God behave accordingly. Thank you 🙏 Danish . God bless you❤
I married into a religious cult 24 yrs ago. The abuse they inflicted upon me using religion is unfathomable. After the 1st yr of continous abuse using religion, I completely lost faith in God. Just recently beginning this year, I have let the higher power guide me through life again. My healing journey helped me restore my faith not in any specific god or religion but the universe itself. Thanks to everyone like you Danish, my life is beautiful again once I understood narsissim and it's impact on one's life.
When I broke up with my ex, my ex's Christian friends said to me that I have trouble with the Lord and I was guilt tripping my ex for expressing my feelings, when I just said how cruel my ex that broke me up in the middle of relationship. It's so horrible. Made me think that expressing my feelings were wrong and God didn't love me. They made me so depressed. I was just trying to hold on the commitment but what they did to me was judging me and mocking me.
Religious rightiousness is a perfect disguise.
This video is bang on!!! Many of them are ministers, gurus, priests, mullahs and rabi. They’re attracted to the control.
Really good episode! My mother used to say "But does God want you to do that?" with disapproval as a way to crush my dreams and ambitions.
Religion was used as a club when I was young. It traumatized me into a lifetime of fighting depression. Religion ruined my mothers life but instead of turning away from it she embraced the cruelty in it. My father was worse in his own way. He reminded me that I was always defective and a sinner no matter what I did. At six I stopped eating because I wanted to die. I started hating Christianity as a young child. How could a god be so cruel? I now enjoy Eastern philosophy which says I am born perfect, not bad. I went on to marry two cruel narcissists. I am now free! You have helped me the last few years. Thank you!
Uggghhh, so true. My ex Narc. husband was always using service at church to look on the outside like he was superior and kind and dedicated. As if!! He was in leadership and on committee's, but surprise, surprise I caught him in a chat online, setting up a hookup with another married woman in our church, to meet to hook up, DURING the church service!!! You can't make this stuff up. As soon as I saw the messages I found out where this woman lived, and I showed up at her house, went right to her door and rang the bell. I told her I knew and if she didn't tell her husband I would tell him and show him the messages. I asked our minister to remove my husband from authority and committee's at the church, and they looked at me like I was the adulterer. They refused and continued to let him lead in the church. I told the minister that as his wife and as a member of the church I objected and was offended. Narcissists suck. They have no line they won't cross.
It is not just the Muslim faith Danish. My father is a Christian and he also tries to use scripture to shame people into bowing to his whims and will. I don't fall for it. He was formerly an alcoholic for the majority of my childhood, running off to get drunk and run around on my mother. When he gave up the addiction to alcohol & women, he traded it for religion. He has used this to alienate most of the people in the family, including his 3 daughters.
Same here !
Mine did the same !
Stay strong.
They are dirty.
❤
Wow 😮
My brother in law is a Narcissist pastor. He will be very careful not to expose himself to his friends and his church believers. But he has been continuously torturing my sister and now since couple of months, my sister is behaving odd like him and I think he has gaslighted her. Now I have no idea how to save my sister and her kids
My American narcisstic so called Christian aunt loved to use her scriptures against me.
And later on a Coptic orthodox Egyptian ex-boyfriend who was also narcisstic. I'm really done with this so called 'religious' ppl.
My experiences with narcissistic religious types, especially those who consider themselves ‘leaders’, is that they think their religiosity sanctions their abuses. Not all youth group leaders are predators but predators often try to gain such positions in order to abuse. I remember one youth group leader who grabbed my ass during a retreat and said, “I’ve always wanted to do that.” I’d already been sexually abused as a little girl and my abuser terrified me, threatened me into keeping silent about it. I had communal narcissistic parents who I already knew didn’t want me reporting things like this to them. “You have to learn to fight your own battles. I can’t fight your battles for you.” These abusive religious figures gain cover from many corners. Be aware and help others be aware. Thanks.
OMG!! I found that out early in our marriage and threw that in his face! You are absolutely right👍
Forgive those who hurt you. That will never make what they did right. What they did was wrong. Healing and forgiveness go together. God bless
You really nailed that one! I have been single and living alone for the last 10 years. I married a narcissist 25 years ago and went through 10 years of hell. Then I met a great woman but she died of cancer after 5 years of living together so I just stayed single and don't want to be hurt again. But in January when the weather was freezing I let a homeless woman stay with me for help her. She was ok at first but then the signs something was amiss began to appear quickly. She said she believed in God and prayed but I would cook dinner and I always say a silent prayer, sometimes a couple of minutes. She would just start eating. She said something about why it took me so long to pray sometimes and I told her I had some things to say. She just told me she would say "Thanks God." She was here 33 days so I got to know her better and she told me she walked with God and her name was different than her birth name. She is an addict and I tried to help her straighten up but she being a narcissist thought she knew better and left me for her new supply even though I begged her to stay. I get attached to people sometimes when I shouldn't. But I really wanted to help her. But she was only gone 25 days before she got busted with a meth pipe at the house I told her was not a good place for her. On her arrest sheet where it asks about religion it says "none." I thought I knew a lot about narcissist after my 10 year marriage but this woman taught me more in 33 days! Thank you God for escaping that one!
So true, my husband is a religious person he goes to every Saturday. He abused me gaslighted me rejected me and betrayed me with a family friend a married woman.
they always demanding respect without giving any back
Sounds very familiar. Experienced this with both my biological father and an ex stepfather. My ex stepfather still leads the head position of the men’s ministry at church..where he coaches other men how to be great men….😢
They are trying their best, they know that God Is good, but they fear God, but they lack the love of thy neighbor mandate by Jesús.
They are most certainly not trying their best. 🌺
@@miriamhavard7621 narcisist do go to church looking for supply, but at least they know they are wrong in their actions.
I am so sorry that happened to you. Thank you so much for sharing this story. I had no idea that children that young even fasted for Ramandan. My entire life I heard, 'God is going to punish you' for every thing misstep. Funny how the narc parents can do whatever they want without consequences.
Oh my land we were on staff under a malignant narcissist senior pastor. Like those fired before us when we came to him with concerns of many things he was doing that were troubling. He promptly began the smear campaign against us and then fired us saying we retired. Told the body (congregation) not to call us and continues well over a year later to slander us and others. Praying for his repentance he has a 20 year history of this evil behavior. Many came to us and shared the treacherous things he'd done to them before and after us.
I was in a church & the pastor was a narcissist & intimidated his beautiful loving wife & had his teen son programmed to get beatings by a belt like it was normal, even beating him in the front yard of the house & all the neighbors could see him beat this boy & not just a little bit but on & on it went!!
@@RonSafreed 😳 so grieving to hear. Thank God 2024 is the year of exposure these evil wolves are being exposed. Be well.
@@deidraannemartinebates1602there is a term now for the folk who are abused by narcissists, the "echoist" & another word "echoism"!! When I read the characteristics of the echoist, they all fit me to the tee here!! This term has only come out in the last 8-10 years !!
Yes, I experienced many such incidents. I can understand truly. I appreciate you are bringing it up.
I'm not even halfway through, and this is so DEEP!!!! 😮
Very familiar with this Danish. One of my family members was involved in a few religious cults which exacerbated their narcissism. I experienced severe pain and suffering in my life as a result.
I feel that the Narc that I know doesn’t even believe in God, he didn’t believe in the Devil….or Karma… How out of touch can one person be?
TEACH 💯 everything you say is so Correct
My Christian narcissist father uses his prayers to verbally abuse others. He audibly prayed the "evil" out of me when I wasn't compliant or when I had conflict with him
That's a way to control and disgusting behaviour, the audacity it felt , I can totally relate , that's my mother like
The narcissist in my life had never been to church before meeting me. He latched on to the scripture that says a woman should OBEY her husband. Another thing he totally embraced about Christianity is that Christ saves you from your sin (which I do believe), but he took it to the degree that nothing he would do after 'becoming a Christian' would ever be judged. I was to obey him, but there were no rules for HIM. Win/win situation for him. I feel so bad your father was so horrible to you. These monsters really mess up your head, that's for sure.
My former Husband, who I help look after as a volunteer, has the most extreme form of Narcissism which is a 'Christ Complex'. He's convinced he's the second coming of Christ. He's a very complicated person. I Married him thinking how well he knows his Bible. Oh yes, he knows it so well but only so he can appear so godly in Christian circles. But it's all a great big con-trick. He's in reality very, very far removed from Christ. At the moment he thinks he's wearing a gold crown and is the King of Liverpool. He also thinks he's wearing the cloak of Elijah. Over the years I've been asked; "How do you cope with him? " I say; "There's only one way to cope with John, and that's never to meet him in the first place" .
I have been looking for a video that touches on 'religious narcs'. My husband used the Bible to remind myself and our daughters to always be submissive to the man/leader of the household and not to question why he does this/that. He really messed with our heads convincing us that his way was right/correct. This is why our marriage has failed after 22 yrs. So glad I finally woke up and broke away from that bondage.
Thank you for this video and I am so sorry what happened to you & your sister. 😔
Thanks, you have very deep knowledge n you are clearing the doubts about behaviour of narcissist persons. I see your videos.
Glad that you made it through your childhood Abuse. God helped you become a survivor & now you have a platform to help others. God bless you & give you continued strength Danish❤Thanks for all you do
( I know a Muslim male Narcissist that uses religion to cover his evil deeds to people & continues in doing evil deeds to others- one day judgement will come for him).
Some "I pray for this'n that" comments have a strong narcicisstic Stench.
My aunt is a Priester, I spend wedks with her and her over the top Christian family.
None of them has ever said "I will need a few minutes to pray".
This was beautiful! I needed to hear this. Wish I could give 2 thumbs up.
Thank you very very much for what you do on youtube !!! Every single video of yours is a dose of validation ! It truly is a miracle that you grew up so adequat and wonderful person after such a dark past ! You are very resilient,a good example for all of narcissist's survivors!
I'm sorry for everything you have gone through and thank you for everything you are putting out here 🙏
He is so Amazing he transmuted his pain to help n heal others a true healer. ❤ 💯
I believed the same: every Christian is nice, helps others, has love, time for your next, etc.
The bitter experience, most christians in Europe love themselves! They are egoistic, self-centered, care only about themselves and their family. They don't bother about other christians. Indifference grew - Empathy decreased.
Some of them give, but what they give, are only crumbs. [Besides, I live in a rich nation.]
Though, the majority are not Narc., but only religious, with some exceptions of real Narc. among them.
A lot of European christians who are singles feel very lonely. Why? Because love=agape has grown cold. Mathew 24.12.
You put my mother into words. Your 100% correct. It is all for show. ❤
They use worldly logic and shame based scoldings to control people. .
Years ago, I learned that discipline and punishment are different especially once you have kids of your own. .
One can really scar a child early on if all you do is punish but never correct them in love.
So why do these kind of people whine and cry how they are the ones so mistreated?
They are like an evil oppressive dictator.
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I know exactly how that feels, the burning...in the legs
My story is similar. I prayed, as a child, that Good destroy my father. Only way to get out my home was to my narcissist grandparents who also uses word "God" for their needs. I get mad on God, as a child and declared myself as atheist for years. This fear lived in me for years. You bring so much clarity to me 💚
My dad had a perverted way of weaponizing religion.
He sent his children off to church so he could be alone with only my mom every Sunday morning.
He sent us to a church he hated because the congregation was dominated by horrible people and it was miserable to have to be in that church. There is so much more to that church, but that's a tangent too large for a comments section.
While we were off to church with my dad's family he was sexually assaulting his wife, my mom. What I gather is that it was BDSM without consent or safety words. I didn't know this was happening to her, she even kept his dirty secret when they divorced. It was a girlfriend of his after their divorce who told my (adult) sister some of what he had done to my mom and was trying to do with this lady.
My dad has complete manipulative control over my mom. He knew how to keep her under his control. Today she is tormented still by this abuse. (She is finally speaking about it with me) He would tie her down at the ankles, and every time he would tighten her left ankle too tight and when she told him it hurt her he would tell her she was fine. Now that she's at a minimum of 20 years since this abuse stopped she is dealing with painful low circulation in her ankle and foot. They are a constant deep purple color. She needs surgery to get adequate circulation back to her foot. I fear that she will end up at some point having to get that foot amputated.
Her suffering was real while she was married to him. Her suffering is real more than 2 decades after their divorce, and is something she will always have to deal with the rest of her life.
When I saw her foot it opened up a new level of rage towards my dad and this all knowing god with a plan for everyone and everything happens because it's god's plan.
My dad used his family and church on Sunday to his benefit, and yet his enabling, religious family refuse to make him accountable for anything he did to me, my mom, my sister. I had to go no contact with his family long before I found out about my mom's foot, and it's going to stay that way!
They can definitely quote scripture, follow legalistic religion, and not want to discuss their sins or past abuse, as they “are forgiven “.
Their sins are forgiven. Yours are not, according to them. They can also suffer from past trauma but tell you to get over Yours, it's in the past.
Scarily and eerily similar to my Mom and golden child turning narc..my sister!
I am figuring out that narcs realise from an early age that God is unquestionable, so for them the ultimate symbol of power....and showing the world that they are religious, it's a great shield they can use to shun all accountability and also wield power...
Sorry for your story. We have to become the protectors as adults of our self that was hurt many years ago...
And yes, it's not about a particular religion. I am a Hindu...
Somebody who finally spoke up about this! They use words to forgive themselves endlessly, but use the same words to condemn others. It's a never ending cycle.
5:21 I love this point. Fasting is not just from eating, you have to control everything.
Sad to hear about your childhood brother.
Ramadan Mubarak btw
My parents have made church their identity and it’s really concerning to me. Every time my mom says she loves me and asks me if I love her, I’m always hearing the underlying sense that she’s expecting something from me, but I know that deep down, I don’t owe her anything. It’s no wonder I don’t feel safe being around her.
I'm so sorry this happened to you. 🙏 You have amazing strength and kindness, thank you for helping us all Danish.
Danish ! It brought tears to my eyes while listening to your story of childhood.I can very well imagine the horrible memories of mental trauma you faced😢 You are so brave.You faced narcissism of both parents and survived so boldly and have become wonderful human being and great motivator for narcissism abuse survivors.Hats off to you.God bless you with lot of strength n happiness in life 👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼
They quote scriptire to say, respect ypr parents. But they dont quote that the scriptire also says to parents, do not provoke yor children to anger.
My ex wore his atheism on his forehead. Again, he said it because that was “trendy” but also to accept a religion would go against their behavior. My ex would not take me to church and told me he couldn’t respect me for becoming religious.
Then ....You Can Find The Religious NARCS Are WORSE They Never WRONG Regardless How EVIL They Act. Because They Claim Licenses To Do WRONG And Use Forgiveness For Their BENEFITS. Then Try To Guilt Trip OTHERS To Do IT.
Please please please, do a video on Narcissists Obsession with Virginity. My Narcissist Mother had this disgusting obsession over her children. You're doing gods work with your videos, Truly life changing & helps people feel that they are understood & not alone. Much love! ❤🩹Namaste ❤🩹
Narcissists can use anything as a weapon.
My mother used housework. Sounds like yours is using virginity.
Narcissists can use anything as a weapon.
My mother used housework. Sounds like yours is using virginity.
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IKR! Apparently i'm not the only one. @@sowmyaangel9787 😔☹😞😖😣
In this world today my number 1 priority would be encouraging my daughters to keep it! Nothing wrong with protecting yourself both physically and mentally sexual sin. From someone who wasn't protected, I would say, its the most important thing.
They go through all the motions, but they don't understand the spirit of the motions.
My nurcissist Muslim husband pray namaz five times daily and fasting one months but he has many girl friends and he drink alcohol which is banded in our religion. Sometimes I am confused how possible his religious activists and unethical working are going together.
Please divorce this man if you can, he shouldn't be your husband.😔
@@TaTa-xd5yt I live in orthodox country. In our society people don’t like devorce and blame woman, leave woman,. As a University Professor I could not devorce my husband. People knowns he is like a monk.
My nurcissist daughter always blame me and threat me If I devorce his father he will leave me.
I have been waiting for 13 years for my son graduation.
My son is a MIT student in USA. Now he has complete graduation degree. He is a angel and blessing in my life. He support me for devorcing his father.
I have got American visa.
Next Aguste I will devorce my husband and will stay in USA.
@@shewlykhan I'm glad things are getting better for you and that you're staying strong.
You raised a good boy, not many parents have that. I hope things continue to go well for you and congrats on getting your visa!
@TaTa-xd5yt Thank. I could not. My son is a angel but my daughter is a little narcissis.
@@shewlykhan That's still good, I think your daughter got those traits from your husband.😔
This is true. I know religious people who are fake.💯🙏
Thank you, Danish! You’ve helped me immensely!!! There is no one like you, understanding this so deep and profound! You’ve answered so many questions that no “narcissism” teacher talks about.
You nailed it brother.
I agree with you, totally. Thank you!!!!
Sounds like a sadist.
What should I do if my mom tries to stop me from going to work by disconnecting my car battery again will cops tell this lady to leave it alone since I payed for it/ drove it from Cali to TX??
Thank you for lumping ALL religious narcs together. Because, they're all the same!
These are the worst because they are suppose to set the standard!
Sorry you had to go through all you did!
You are a blessing to us who lived this truth!
Many Blessings to you Danish!!❤️
This is so true. I worked this out for myself over time. It was all fake and I worked it out when we went umrah. He couldn't wait to finish and it was all rushed. He never fasted, always pretended only. Didn't give up anything. For about 10 years I never saw anyone in his own family pray NEVER and I was around a lot, also in Ramadan. He used to take the piss out of me when I prayed and read quran and I couldn't understand why!
Yep, religion does not equal a good person. My narc showed me this! I gave up all religion and became super spiritual and doing that and being in touch with my intuition has freed me. First mentally and spiritually and FINALLY, physically. ❤ your videos. Thank you thank you.
what you told is all right about my current situation.i am being manipulated by my younger sister who has done various misbehavior but doesn't want to admit it. I was unable to rebuke her because his narcissistic nature traumatized me. I see she has inherited her narcissistic nature from my mother. she was very angry with me because I had revealed the truth behind his back. finally she found a famous Sufi teacher, studied the knowledge and attacked me every day with abusive words embroidered with the lessons she had just learned. representing the words she wanted to throw at me. every day she will send messages, videos of the teacher. he asked me to learn the knowledge. everything you said is very true(sorry im using google translate)
The narcs use the religion against you and they can easily jump from one religion to another i have experience from my ex only for the efforts thanks Danish God bless you and heal your soul greetings from Greece 😊