Relationships with adult children are eye opening. I see them for about 2 hours every 2 months, or 12 hours a year. I've moved on. I remind myself they are happy, functional, and supporting themselves.
I agree totally with what he said and it’s always been my belief that you can’t make yourself love someone or make them love you. I stayed in a very unhappy marriage for 20 years trying to make myself love a man I didn’t love and felt guilty for not reciprocating the emotion. I felt responsible for his happiness, but he was so selfish, he didn’t care that I was so unhappy being with him. When I got sick and started to gain weight, suddenly, he didn’t love me anymore and left me for, quoting his words, “ a size 10, drop dead gorgeous model, and I was built like a brick shithouse!” I then lived with bitterness and resentment for having wasted the best years of my life, with a horrible man, I didn’t love, just because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings!! How stupid was I.
Thanks for the “chop liver” question. I could totally relate! It was nice hearing the Doctors’ opinion. Thank you so much! Bless your heart Chef AJ, I liked your common sense suggestions too.
Jealousy is a death knell to a relationship. Assuming both partners are behaving and adult, when one person has an unrealistic or irrational jealousy, it something that needs immediate attention. A sign can be when dating. If one person curtails your old friends and social life, be aware.
I'm so thankful Dr. Lisle has opened my mind to the problem with pharmaceutical drugs for the brain. Love hearing their take on depression, so enlightening
I have tremendous respect for Dr Lisle but I am confused about his answer to what causes depression. He says it is competitive stress. Naomi Judd disclosed that she was a survivor of childhood sexual abuse . I would have thought that that would cause depression, it must change how you feel about yourself and others. Wouldnt that lead to depression?
pass. After Lisle's stance on what schizophrenia is, I now doubt him. He's spot on when it comes to why eat the way we do, but his opinions on topics outside of that will be ignored by me.
@@joanowens7941 Lisle is FAR from a great psychologist. He is THE EXPERT at food psychology, but elsewhere? Mmm....it's a no from me. The thing that gets me is that he's SO confident on points that I know he's wrong. Frankly, he would do much better to stick to food and it's effects on the human mind.
Relieved to see others with doubts about this approach to psychology. I also think the "pleasure trap" is spot on. However, I cannot believe nurture has no part to play in who we become. Lisle appears to put our problems solely down to our personality traits. I look forward to reading the new book and seeing how this is justified.
Jyotish Vedic Astrology is way more precise and accounts for a lot Psychology as Jen describes the initial portion of segment cannot compare in my experience
It was difficult trying to listen to Lisle stumble and fumble trying to answer a question in relation to how to handle jealousy. Stories about pianos, dogs, being in the forrest were part of the answer merry go round. Finally he gave 2 answers >> he said he did not know how to handle jealous, the other answer was to become more competitive. When he defined jealousy he actually gave the definition of being envious instead of that for jealousy, I could not watch the remainder of this video. We really have to be careful whom we make our gurus.
Relationships with adult children are eye opening. I see them for about 2 hours every 2 months, or 12 hours a year. I've moved on. I remind myself they are happy, functional, and supporting themselves.
“Feelings are a prescription for action”. Love this!!
I agree totally with what he said and it’s always been my belief that you can’t make yourself love someone or make them love you. I stayed in a very unhappy marriage for 20 years trying to make myself love a man I didn’t love and felt guilty for not reciprocating the emotion. I felt responsible for his happiness, but he was so selfish, he didn’t care that I was so unhappy being with him. When I got sick and started to gain weight, suddenly, he didn’t love me anymore and left me for, quoting his words, “ a size 10, drop dead gorgeous model, and I was built like a brick shithouse!” I then lived with bitterness and resentment for having wasted the best years of my life, with a horrible man, I didn’t love, just because I didn’t want to hurt his feelings!! How stupid was I.
He’s gone, Start rebuilding your life with joy, hugs🌷
Thank you so much Chef AJ for making this happen. You are awesome.
My pleasure
Optimal overlap at minute 31 and the Cheap Trick reference is so rich. And Dr. Howk is brilliant as always! Amazing.
Glad you liked it!
Thanks for the “chop liver” question. I could totally relate! It was nice hearing the Doctors’ opinion. Thank you so much! Bless your heart Chef AJ, I liked your common sense suggestions too.
my two favorite doctors! love them :)
Jealousy is a death knell to a relationship. Assuming both partners are behaving and adult, when one person has an unrealistic or irrational jealousy, it something that needs immediate attention. A sign can be when dating. If one person curtails your old friends and social life, be aware.
When is Dr Lisle's new book going to come out?
I'm so thankful Dr. Lisle has opened my mind to the problem with pharmaceutical drugs for the brain. Love hearing their take on depression, so enlightening
Hi Chef AJ! Love your content!
Hey, thanks!
Always interesting :) thank you so much
My pleasure!
Love this, thank you Chef AJ!
My pleasure!!
Love your colorful top. Very flattering.
I have tremendous respect for Dr Lisle but I am confused about his answer to what causes depression. He says it is competitive stress. Naomi Judd disclosed that she was a survivor of childhood sexual abuse . I would have thought that that would cause depression, it must change how you feel about yourself and others. Wouldnt that lead to depression?
pass. After Lisle's stance on what schizophrenia is, I now doubt him. He's spot on when it comes to why eat the way we do, but his opinions on topics outside of that will be ignored by me.
I disagree with him a LOT but when he's not offending me, he's so damn perfect.
@@joanowens7941 Lisle is FAR from a great psychologist. He is THE EXPERT at food psychology, but elsewhere? Mmm....it's a no from me. The thing that gets me is that he's SO confident on points that I know he's wrong. Frankly, he would do much better to stick to food and it's effects on the human mind.
@@joanowens7941 I have a degree in psychology myself, and some of the things he comes out with leave me speechless....in a bad way!
His answer to jealousy was stumbling, fumbling and unacceptable.
Relieved to see others with doubts about this approach to psychology. I also think the "pleasure trap" is spot on. However, I cannot believe nurture has no part to play in who we become. Lisle appears to put our problems solely down to our personality traits. I look forward to reading the new book and seeing how this is justified.
Are they a couple?
19:55 "psychology is a subset of biology..."
Jyotish Vedic Astrology is way more precise and accounts for a lot
Psychology as Jen describes the initial portion of segment cannot compare in my experience
It was difficult trying to listen to Lisle stumble and fumble trying to answer a question in relation to how to handle jealousy. Stories about pianos, dogs, being in the forrest were part of the answer merry go round. Finally he gave 2 answers >> he said he did not know how to handle jealous, the other answer was to become more competitive. When he defined jealousy he actually gave the definition of being envious instead of that for jealousy, I could not watch the remainder of this video. We really have to be careful whom we make our gurus.
What would your answer be?