Dr. Doug Lisle on Do We Have Free Will, Closing Open Loops, Borderline Personality Disorder, & MORE!
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- Опубликовано: 15 июл 2024
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In today's live Q & A Dr. Doug Lisle answers viewers questions on Borderline Personality Disorder, what personality types are more susceptible to the Pleasure Trap, how to close loops on traumatic events, how to stop snacking and grazing after dinner, how to help others who complain about their health issues but refuse to make any changes and more.
To get your questions answered personally by Dr Lise you can book a private consultation or sign up for my email list at www.ChefAJ.com and when we send out the weekly email on Sunday announcing the guest line-up, submit your questions.
Dr. Douglas J. Lisle, Ph.D.
Dr. Doug Lisle is an evolutionary psychologist and co-author of The Pleasure Trap: Mastering the Hidden Force that Undermines Health and Happiness. He and his colleagues (Jennifer Howk and Richard Seidel) have developed a revolutionary method for approaching life challenges and improving self-confidence and self-esteem. They describe their approach as Esteem Dynamics - an approach with clinical insights derived from evolutionary psychology.
Central figures having major influence on the development of Esteem Dynamics include Richard Dawkins, John Tooby and Leda Cosmides, David Buss, Robert Trivers, Steven Pinker, and Geoffrey Miller. All of these individuals are considered world-leading theorists in evolutionary theory and human psychology. Somewhat surprisingly, insights from these trailblazers has yet to reach mainstream clinical psychology, and thus major advances stemming from some of the world’s greatest thinkers have yet to be systematically applied to problems of helping people improve their lives. Esteem Dynamics is the first such effort, and weds Dr. Lisle’s 30-years of clinical experience to the deep insights into human nature only recently available via evolutionary psychology.
Dr. Lisle received his undergraduate education from the University of California, San Diego. He completed his Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology at the University of Virginia, and was then appointed Lecturer in Psychology at Stanford University. His research and clinical interests include health and wellness, self-esteem, relationship satisfaction, the treatment of anxiety and depression, the genetics of individual differences, and optimizing achievement motivation. In addition to his work with Esteem Dynamics, Dr. Lisle lectures widely on health and wellness.
Dr Lisle is available at selected days and times for a one-to-one, personal phone consultation:
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VIDEO CHAPTERS
00:00 Guest introduction and email Q & A including Borderline Personality Disorder
0:17:00 Continued email Q & A including on the Pleasure Trap and Closing Open Loops
0:41:25 Continued email Q & A including Making Health Changes/Snacking/Grazing and if we have Free Will
1:09:42 Final thoughts and show wrap 
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This is now my favorite interview and I watch many. Dr Doug is brilliant. He helped me close a loop in one session with him ( my son died from a medical treatment for his cancer and I couldn’t stop questioning why did I let the neurosurgeon do what he suggested, could I have done anything differently type of thing) so Dr Doug really helped me with that.
On a professional note- I am a psychotherapist and just listening to Dr D and Jen has made me much better, much more effective at helping my clients.
Huge gratitude for you AJ and for Dr D and for this interview in particular. Just excellent.
What an awesome comment. I'm sorry for your loss but so glad you've found your way past the self-blame. I have my own losses and mistakes, and I hope I can find my way to being okay, too. You give me hope 🤗💜💙
@@tiffanyhackerspace8377 ❤️Thank you Tiffany for what you said. I’m sorry you’ve been through pain and loss of your own. I believe I’ll never really arrive at some completely healed place per se, but I’m getting better at “Managing my inner environment” (to quote Michael Singer) and so because of that- I’m feeling more peace these days. But it’s always a work in progress. One thing I know to my core, there is good reason for hope even in the face of the unthinkable. I wish you all my positive intentions for your healing journey. Taking just the one next right step helps me not to connect so many dots down the line. Have a great weekend:)
For anyone who likes what Dr. Lisle or Dr. Howk have to say, I really can't encourage you enough to subscribe to their Living Widsom Library and tune into their Beat Your Genes Podcast.
Their evolutionarily-informed clinical insights have transformed my life. A lifetime subscription to their service was probably the best $100 I've ever spent.
I can’t even express how beyond stunned I am by Dr. Lisle every time over and over again. I deeply admire both of u and the knowledge u r putting out there. I could listen for hours with no end! Thank u from the bottom of my heart ♥️
Thank you so much
Doug is literally aging like fine wine. So handsome with the stubble
What a nice comment
Dr. Lisle’s answer to the question about personality disorder was really thought provoking. I have very close personal experience of living with and dealing with personality disorders. In my experience, I felt like Dr.Lisle was so spot on when he said the typical therapist will begin the session with tell me about your childhood and family of origin. After going that path, and remember you are paying for this session in time and money, you realize they are not getting anywhere close to changing anyone’s personality or dealing with anything better. All you are doing is living with the same problems you had before you are just short of a couple hundreds dollars and time you took away to go through those sessions. I also found his idea interesting that the best you can do to live a functional life is to see if you can live in an environment conducive to your personality trait. So if I interpreted that right, let’s say you are a person with OCD about cleanliness and you choose to be a surgical nurse. Well now your personality is so best suited to your job, it’s not in the way it’s the best you could ask for. You excel at your job because of your personality trait! That is some amazing idea! Dr. Lisle is a genius!
This old man is golden. He is a national treasure.
I was diagnosed with Bipolar disorder and thank God they never tried to give me medicine. And I haven't had another manic or depressive episode and it's been 12 years
Happy for you, stay strong Elizabeth 💪😊
I think personality is changeable. The more we become self aware and have insight, the better the chances of changing and growing.
Loving Dr. Lisle rocking the whiskers! Looking great! Both of you ♥️
it's always amazing to listen the wisdom of Dr Lisle. Wonderful Chef AJ, thank you
Glad you enjoyed it
Lol! I love this guy! I have the sucker triad! And I have been marked as a sucker target, however, I am highly ethical and I live first do no harm to self or others, so it is more difficult to exploit me than they think. Also, never underestimate a man’s ability to underestimate a woman. 😊
‘’Fruit “ loops. Gotta love Chef AJ.
Omg I love this! 1st answer. It's not a disorder it's a personality variation :)
Oh my gob AJ. The exact same thing happened to my sister in your minute 39. She was on target to graduate with a 4.0 in HS. The gym teacher gave her a B. We suspect he was wanting the runner up, a male, to be valedictorian. My sister is very muscular, athletic. This was in the mid 70s that she graduated from HS. She went on to be a very successful director at a huge company that makes household items but to this day I’d say she’s very jaded. The alcohol is getting the best of her,plus being stuck in a low carb Atkins world. She wanted to go to college and be an engineer. She has a gender neutral name. The college(also well known) would send all her admissions correspondence to MR (name). Things have changed, but we have a way to go.
DITTO!!! Dr Doug is THE BEST GUY on the internet! :) ...."I can’t even express how beyond stunned I am by Dr. Lisle every time over and over again. I deeply admire both of u and the knowledge u r putting out there. I could listen for hours with no end! Thank u from the bottom of my heart ♥️"
Absolutely fascinating as always, and such valuable insights. Sometimes it can be hard to hear, but it’s always helpful once you come to terms with how it all works - or doesn’t work.
Yes, hard to hear if you were the child of a mother with BPD. So she had free will in all those incidents of abuse? Ok, that's your take on it.
I love watching interviews with Dr Lisle. He is such a joy and he is very smart. Thank you for sharing AJ !!
Our pleasure!
This is internet gold thank you, right, time to white knuckle it!
Thank you for this borderline pd explanation. I have an adult kid with a diagnosis of BPD at approx age 20 now 28. This explanation helps me understand.
After a very long wait...cannot wait to work with these two at TRUE NORTH!! Here I come! xoxoP
Such a brilliant man!
Thank you for bringing the wonderful Dr. Lisle to us!
Our pleasure!
Thank you so much! This was wonderful, and so very helpful. ❤️
Always interesting to have Dr Lisle on 😌 thank you so much 💜
Glad you enjoyed it!
Nice explanation of how we think. Thank you for your tips
Loved 🥰 this one ☝🏿 Chef 👩🏻🍳 AJ, thank you 🙏🏻 guys for this !
Free Will explained to the light of P-E in how the unconscious adaptive runs CB assessments and the add of new information and eventually feedback loops through experiments is brilliant!
Love from the Netherlands 🇳🇱
I knew and saw before my own eyes a person who stopped taking Lithium - she went from a regular girl in our college exchange student program abroad to looking wierd to the unsuccessful suicide attempt (fire dept got her to the hospital in time) in an apt, where she lived alone (some of us lived in the same building and was wooried abuot her... checking in a lot). I do not believe all psych meds are useless. This all happened in just a few weeks.
This is a very sad and common phenomenon that the withdrawals from highly addictive psychopharma harmaceutical medications is very dangerous and often fatal. There is a growing international movement to obtain careful, valid, efficacious withdrawal oversight for dangerous and highly profitable pharmaceutical corporate products.
Another reason to not be put on medication’s in the first place. This is the reason especially in teenagers. There’s usually a disclaimer on these type of drugs to not discontinue this fast Because of this. That doesn’t necessarily mean that the medicine that they are taking is great. It just means that it could cause an issue if Discontinued fast.💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻
a suggested inscription for the walls of True North 14:50 "we cannot [successfully] medicate a personality"
I love this, Dr. Lisle! THANK YOU! Following the food plan now. I agree about the idea personality being on a continuum. At the same time, i want to make a clarification for the audience about terminology (ie OCD versus OCPD). People with OCD should absolutely work in dirty kitchen if their obsession is contamination (as a form of exposure therapy). What you are referring to is an obsessive personality disorder (i e. OCPD) cleanliness and i 100% agree they would be better off working In a cleaner environment.
Nice way of explaining our choices.
Its all about cost benefit decisions!
I rarely fall into the pleasure trap since my brain has been trained to think of the long-term consequences!
I am more like Alan!
Thanks!
THANK YOU!!!!
Never miss one if these Q&A sessions 👏🏻😊❤️
This scares me, because both of my marriages started out so happy with guys that were generous and attentive, but ended up with me having to get out because of abuse. How can I even begin to trust myself or risk another relationship. Seems I’m doomed to be with someone destructive or stay single. I don’t like either option.
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I find this information very interesting, though a bit hard to swallow. Perhaps there is room for both evolutionary psychology and say, psychodynamic principles? I give Dr. Lisle a lot of credit for his strength of conviction, and I do plan to read The Pleasure Trap. Interesting perspective.
The king
Chef AJ who is Justine Afriz? the friend Dr Lisle mentions at around 1:03:50 who has developed a 28- day program?
Always love Lisle's interview . He is a very insightful man. Wisdom do increase with age😉
I do feel he is a bit too cynical and deterministic at time. But I think that's also part of his own charming characters :p
Dr. Lisle wouldn't "label" you to treat you - he would just treat you. A "regular" psychologist / psychiatrist would slap a label on you, give you a PILL and see you a few months later to refill your prescription. Stay away anyone who wants to slap a label on your forehead!!!
Listening to Dr Lisle often feels as if someone has sent me a life raft. That’s a bit dramatic, I know.
Do I need to be a patient of his to get to spend some time swapping observations and thoughts with him? I met with him once, years ago and met him again whilst at a McDougall workshop. when I heard him mention Nathaniel Branden a month or so again, I came to a screeching halt. I was such a fan of Ayn Randy and NB for years….haven’t heard his name mentioned in decades.
37:25 what our nervous system (NS) is...... open loops are the NS trying to extract all the lessons from a past loss/experience SO THAT WE CAN AVOID REPEATING THE SAME "MISTAKE" or experience
I could find ZERO on Robert Clement, Blueprint. Link to resource would be great.
Oh no…I’m a walking pleasure trap…….
Who is the Author of the “The Blue Print” that Dr Lisle mentioned please
Robert Plomin
This guy is amazing , What his zodiac sign
Hahaha, nice joke
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AJ: 🙋♀ Longtime viewer question ⁉ I cant find the last Dr. Lisle / Dr. Goldhamer Interview ? Can you help me how to find ? 🙏
If you go to my RUclips and use the search filter you should be able to find it.
@@CHEFAJ Thanks AJ -- just bought your newest book ❤ That mushroom thing looks addictive 😋 Just found it "the back to the future" title 😊🙏
The link to the video Perfect Personality? I’m sure I have viewed it but can’t remember where to find it.
You can check on his website, esteemdynamics.com
Just viewed it again and omg it is so good! The collection of Public Lectures is like a Masterclass, they’re so informative! And by the way, I am an astrologer, lol, but a highly innovative one who has scrapped Western Astrology and studied Vedic (even more patriarchal than Western) and Hellenistic (the foundations of patriarchal philosophy here) and I am decolonizing it because it will carry whatever science, philosophy or metaphysics you bring to it. Originally, I see that it is a calendar, a map, and a mnemonic template for carrying and conveying copious amounts of information about the natural world, and the cultural world view of the practitioner in a time before writing when information was conveyed orally. So, essentially, I can load mine with this awesome stuff because weirdly, we also have 6 continuums built into the structure. I’m so grateful to run across Doug and Alan and The Pleasure Trap and Chef AJ and all the experts you bring to our attention! I see so many good things flowing from your actions in the world, thank you for Being and sharing that with all of us 💜🌿
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