When I look back over my life, every partner I’ve nurtured through times of strife, upheaval, debt, job loss etc has abandoned me and gone on to be successful with a woman who’s reaping the benefit of what I went through hell to create, not having contributed anything at all. And here I am, single, lonely and facing old age alone - no man even looks my way any more. If I had my life to do over, I’d leave THEM to deal with their sh*t and move on myself. Please learn from my mistakes.
You will find live still. No matter your age now. It will be someone good. That is the gentleman for you. I wish you God's love and care for you always. 🌞🤍💖
You could still find love, you just stopped looking. You could be like me and been so ugly your whole life that nobody's ever touched you or wanted to touch you
Its my choice I've never been happier and I'm definitely not lonely, I enjoy my kids, my family, my friends, my space, my job and being me, 😂... and I love it.... I just wish people would understand that its my choice and not over think that....why Do people find it difficult and over analyse its what makes me happy..... does anyone else see what I mean..?... the more I say its my choice the more people think its odd?...but its not for me....anyone else had this? I'm curious?....
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When people say they want love. What ever orientation is. Underneath the surface it means physical affection is what they want. Beyond any type of verbal love.
Im 34 years old and never been in a relationship. Ive said no to the wrong people who just want one thing and still haven't met the right person. I truly believe I will be single forever. Ive learned to accept it. Theres not someone out there for everyone. Some people are meant to be alone. I see some people married or in relationships and think how lucky they are to have someone who sees their potential and put in the effot.
50 years old and single my entire life.. I accepted my fate too. Guys say I should be happy. No worries or stress in dealing with the wrong woman. But those people have not lived more than half their life alone. Even singles would rather be single than take a chance with me. Hurts like F$%k, but i actually love myself too much to end it. I am normal look and behave like a normal human being. Maybe 1 day I will find out why everyone avoided me. Tll then, I am going to enjoy life the best way I can :)
I was single the first 33 years of my life. Now with almost 40 I'm happy married to an wonderful man and more than 5 years in a perfect relationship. It's never too late. My issue was that I couldn't trust men or people in general. First attempt was a disaster but then soon later it worked out. I always said it's better to be alone then with the wrong person. Still my mantra. All the best to you ❤
31, never even dated. I'm convinced I'll be single until death or way too late for me and I can't accept it. Yet it feels like true love will never happen. Like I was fated to be lonely and die single. I can say no to all the wrong people, but I'm convinced there is no one out there for me anyways. The best I may get is settling down with someone I don't hate.... And I literally CAN'T be one of those people who finds love at a way older age and will still be content. Good for people that do, but that will NEVER be me. And it's annoying when people still push the"aGe is jUst a Number" on me because it's not....
How and where did you meet them? Thing is, I made peace with being single but then I stopped hanging out and not caring about meeting new people, so I don't know if making peace with it it's a good idea for me...
I'm a man. I gave up when I turned 21. There's nobody for me. There's never anybody for me. Women are too shallow, they don't want someone ugly like me.
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I’ve said no to the wrong people for 5 years because I haven’t met a genuine real connection without all the dam red flags. It’s not about not being happy with yourself - I’m very happy with the woman I’ve become, accomplishments, self awareness and growth - it’s about feeling incredibly lonely and sad cuz you’re missing out on memories of having a family at 35+ years old that you’ve always desired. When you face that you’ll know how crushing it feels. You have to somehow deal with the grief and navigate it when it hits you like a ton of bricks. It’s very difficult to overcome if ever. To all the women out there that know what I’m talking about I pray for you too 🙏🏻 ❤️ and I guess we just have to take it one day at a time.
I'm 40+, refuse to settle for less but I wonder if I ever experience the love I've always craved for. I'm apparently an INFJ personality, longing for deep connections and meaning which are so difficult to find. Wishing you all the best❤
@ women like us who have depth are going to find it more difficult these days. It’s just facts. Our society has shifted drastically. Just keep being your awesome self 😊 and pray 💞
@@JDfaith2024 Thank you 🙏 Sorry for the late reply, my 🔔 don't work... You stated it very well, we are people of depth, seems like a rarity nowadays...
Omg Jennifer! My sentiments EXACTLY! I’ve been saying no for several years too and I just turned 34 no kids never married! Everyone I date nothing but 🚩🚩‼️ never in a million years did I think I’d still be unmarried but I’m coping as best as I can. When I say my prayers I also pray for other women who are battling this loneliness too! It’s certainly better being single than settling.
This is also great advice for those of us who love being in relationships with partners who don't reciprocate. Sometimes we can find ourselves being lonelier in a relationship with another human than we are being alone. Learn to love dating yourself and you'll no longer fear dying alone.
I think many of us have been there, feeling like love is just out of reach. It’s important to remember that being single can also be a time of incredible growth and self-discovery.💖✨
@@whodeenidog4 @whodeenidog4 Here are a few practical steps you can take: Consider your hobbies and look for related groups, join events, volunteer and set goals: start small-aim for one event a month, and celebrate each win! Remember, building connections takes time, so be patient with yourself.
People often think being single means being lonely and in pain, but that's not true for me. I've been single and celibate since 2001, after ending a 15-year relationship. We never lived together, and I’ve never experienced cohabitating with a partner. Before that I had fleeting relationships. Since then, I’ve had a couple of brief attractions, but nothing serious-just a brief and regrettable make-out session in 2009. The only times I feel lonely are when I listen to old songs that remind me of my parents and other relatives who’ve passed away. Regret creeps in not because I’m single but because I didn't spend more time with my mom and aunts. I lived and took care of my special brother and Dad for seven years before they passed in 2019 and last year. I love my Dad and brother and I don't hate men. But I see relationships as more trouble than they’re worth-having to cook, clean, and care for someone else doesn’t appeal to me. I love having my space to read, paint, and play the piano without interruptions. No kids, no partner-just me and my independence. I’m close with four other single ladies, though I rarely see them, even the two who live nearby. I don’t join clubs or socialize much-I'm pretty content on my own. I live in a rural area, in a big house and big lot with two Shih Tzus, seven turkeys, and ten cats. My neighbors, including my widowed sister, are blocks away. As a professor, I get my social fix from interacting with students and colleagues. By the time I’m home, I’m ready to unwind in peace and listen to the sound of crickets at night and I'm at bliss. I love my independence. If I ever want someone in my life, it’s more for support when I’m tired or when I think about growing old. Sometimes I'd wish for a partner when I need help with practical things like fixing the plumbing and roof or yard work. But I manage just fine. I’m not interested in sex or a relationship unless I'm watching a romantic drama, and even then, the feeling is rare. So when my divorced high school ex came back from the US and is trying to rekindle things, I told our mutual friend to not bother me with it. They say he's a good catch with that fat military pension, but honestly, the thought of living with someone isn't worth it-even for the money. Because overall, I’m happy, and adding someone else to the mix wouldn’t make me any happier-my happiness bar is already full. Sorry or the long comment but writing about this is validating what I feel. Thanks.
I was single for years and years so I built this great life for myself, I remember thinking one day how happy I was and the same day I met my soul mate …. Totally true story!
I've known a few people who got out of a bad relationship, and kept desperately seeking a new one. Once they gave up on that, started working on fulfilling their goals and desires, and became content with their lives, then a good partner came into their life. Just be patient and enjoy being with your friends or family and just yourself.
Honestly I'm feeling this right now, just to preface I haven't been in a relationship for over five years and honestly it never used to bug me but this past year has just taken its toll on me. In September I had to put down my eldest dog due to very aggressive cancer that took her ability to walk, in October my car caught on fire when I was on the freeway going to pickup my sister from work, and in December my youngest dog my baby died because she stopped eating out of grief and I couldn't help her cause I'm struggling financially. As I entered the New Year I realized how alone I really am.
I always remind myself that i may not be where i want to be in life or even where i thought i'd be, but i have faith that i'm where i need to be and where I'm meant to be. I also think of everyday every holiday, every birthday, or even every life event is one closer to finding someone I'm meant to share those things with. Especially with Christmas, maybe this will be the last one i spend alone.
Being able to enjoy your own company is a gift to both yourself AND whoever you choose to spend your life with. You are worth it! Learn to enjoy yourself and others will, too. 🧡
Was too focused on fulfilling the dream of my parents to be a doctor, never dated in medical school, I feel I sacrificed best time of my life for something I didn’t want, now when they ask me to think of getting married I just don’t care about it. Gonna be single for a long time.
Been single 8 years, I have found peace after many years of misery which resulted in poor health. I’m so glad I’m happy to be free and single because I am definitely a 1/10 in the looks department and no one would want me anyway.
Being alone was never something I could see myself doing, because I kept developing romantic feelings for certain guys. I tried to move on so I can learn to be happy as a single person, but my life got worse with every mistake I kept making by myself. Eventually I did move on, deciding not to look for love. That is, until certain past feelings of romantic love came back into my life and I came to the realization that I was meant to be with someone instead of being single. Besides, I alone decided that I wanted to be in s relationship even though I knew I was not guaranteed that I would get to be with someone I liked.
In the days I feel off and lonely I imagine a person I would like to be with and enjoy the comfort this thoughts give me, it is way healthier than engaging with someone with red flags and burn yourself down.
My flaw is i LOVE being alone. Ive had 3 long term relationships and i just dont like people in my space and honestly men are a chore and a headache. Its very peaceful single
I am single but not lonely. I have a lovely family of adult daughters. 3 granddaughters 1 in college. 1 in a junior in high schools d little 4 year old granddaughter. I am not lonely and have friends and people I see regularly. I enjoy my life as being well balanced between family, friends and alone time for me to do what I want to do.
Great advice. Unfortunately, by the time you realize they are the wrong one, you have started to go down the rabbit hole! Because of manipulation you don’t even see it coming. That’s what I would love to learn. How to spot the wrong one early on! I’m in my sixties. I should know better and I don’t want to waste any more precious time. But some people are so good at deception. You honestly don’t see it coming 😔😡
I want to get this off my chest. Seeing her in this video, I feel like I fall under her category as well. The type of boys I chase are very masculine in nature but the ones that I end up attracting are very feminine. I think by bringing a change in my approach and being more calm and turning every situation in a flirtatious way instead of taking offense, losing interest or picking a defensive stance will help me get better. Thank you for this video ❤
I'm honestly happy by myself. It would be cool to find a wife or a girlfriend, with whom I could share a life and support each other, but I stand on my own two feet firmly.
Wow, Daniel Radcliffe has gotten pretty smart since Harry Potter. Just kiddin'. I've always had the mindset, create a life you are happy with 1st - with or without a rel'ship. Then if you happen to meet someone, that's an additional bonus. That way, you make better partner selections (in a SENSIBLE/compatibility focused kinda way), plus you're well rounded enough to bring something to the table, hopefully resulting in a healthy, more balanced rel'ship.
I have been single since 2002. Plan on keeping it that way too, much happier and no drama! I don’t want a relationship and I don’t date or socialize, so that probably helps 😊
It’s okay to be single and not share your life with someone. I’d rather be single than share my life with the wrong person. I’m okay with being single. Honestly I’m not sure if a relationship is in my cards. That’s okay too.
I’ve been single all of my life, except a 7 year period where I had my first and only girlfriend. At 41 I am extremely single and lonely and I feel like as a man I am just not masculine enough or good enough for anyone, I feel like no one wants to be with me. With all of the rejections throughout my life I just feel like a loser now.
I am single by choice because I don't like to feel lonely. And the only time when I felt very lonely was always in a relationship. Now that I'm single and living solo, I never feel lonely. I am just amazed at how some people can feel literally opposite in the same situation...
Let’s define loneliness. To me that means you have no meaningful relationship with anyone. If you went on vacation you do nothing with anyone. I think having no friends is way worse than another having a romantic relationship. So I am not lonely. Also most of us are going to go in and out of romantic relationships anyhow. There is no control to how long it’s going to last. Even if you marry and have kids. To me it’s best to diversify your life. In no order. Self alone time. Friends . Family. Work. Hobbies. Spiritual rituals. Working out/staying in health dynamic. Travel. Read books. A romantic love will come in and out. So there is no point in locking our worth on that one dynamic in life.
Ive been single forever, ill be 30 in no time. Its hard to stop the unbearable pain. Its hard not to feel undesirable, I don't know how to rid myself of this pain
Wow! Thank you ! I’m literally heading out the door right now to my FIRST DATE NOW after ending a 3-year engagement at 58. I love Matthew Hussey! Love you so much Mel! This was the “head shake” I needed! ❤❤
Such a tough issue for so many of us. As I watch men my age (50+) go for much younger women, feels hopeless st times. Trying to keep good perspective but not easy at times as a woman who has been single for 20+ yrs.
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Im a 17 yr old guy and i dont know why it hurts so much that ive never had a gf, i constantly see guys my age with cute girls and i just think about how lonely i am, idk i know im young it just feels so shit, i wanna hug someone and not feel as if id make them feel creeped out or uncomfortable i want a girl to love me for who i am or fuck even for my looks i dont care. I get told by girls i meet online that im rlly cute and attractive but then irl ive never had a gf so idk who tf to believe 😭
It’s paradoxical really, if I don’t need anyone to make me feel like I’m “enough” but I’ve been single my entire life so it’s looking like not desirable to anyone 😊
I've been alone for a long time that i dont want to be in a relationship anymore. The only thing is that f society makes me think something is wrong with me
Don't waste your time on the wrong people. Watch Murriels wedding- when Muriel finds herself and just her confidence makes her so attractive and she don't need someone who no good for her!😊
He makes it sound like it’s lonely to be single, some people actually like their space and quiet moments. Some choose to be single by choice. I don’t see his stuff anymore cos he sounds like he knows everything while he’s not that open minded
It's unfortunate that society still says...Being single is not successful in life. Not everyone is meant to be two in this life and many, like me are very happy, solid to be fiercely independent. Love comes in many forms and single life comes to us all, younger or older. ❤❤❤
Two contradictory things can be true at the same time. I enjoy the peace and independence of single life, but I want an amazing partner to enjoy life with. I am really good at saying no to the wrong men though.
I’ve been single 5 year it’s not been a choice or has been a choice if that makes sense it’s been a very healthy self awareness 5 yrs of learning what I do and don’t want in my life the thing is with my age there are a lot of wounded men out there in the world and in my generation men don’t get help from maybe a ex wife having a affair etc it seems to be more women that get help so us women are getting better at communicating healing and knowing what they do want but my generation of men are still stuck in that I healing and feeling scared stage so us women are banging our heads against a brick wall being out in the dating game I’ve never thought about going for a younger man but seriously lately I think maybe I’m better off they have been hurt as much they are trying to be the cave man and holding it all in and they haven’t losted as much as men my age ❤️
❤ You'll find the right person faster, if can say 'no' to the wrong people quicker
Even the right person can turn into the wrong person especially if they betray you 😢
@@penniroyal4398Then they weren't the right person.
Amen
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It's also important to make yourself right for the right person
When I look back over my life, every partner I’ve nurtured through times of strife, upheaval, debt, job loss etc has abandoned me and gone on to be successful with a woman who’s reaping the benefit of what I went through hell to create, not having contributed anything at all. And here I am, single, lonely and facing old age alone - no man even looks my way any more. If I had my life to do over, I’d leave THEM to deal with their sh*t and move on myself. Please learn from my mistakes.
You will find live still. No matter your age now. It will be someone good. That is the gentleman for you.
I wish you God's love and care for you always. 🌞🤍💖
This is my life to a T! I am so sorry you have gone through the same thing.
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You could still find love, you just stopped looking. You could be like me and been so ugly your whole life that nobody's ever touched you or wanted to touch you
@@bingbongdingdong867 I am also now obese & not attractive any longer. For the best probably.
It’s not a failure to be single. It can be an active choice, to focus on happiness, with man or not 💕
I agree, I’m single and I love it . Just me and my daughter. Don’t want anything else.
Its my choice I've never been happier and I'm definitely not lonely, I enjoy my kids, my family, my friends, my space, my job and being me, 😂... and I love it.... I just wish people would understand that its my choice and not over think that....why Do people find it difficult and over analyse its what makes me happy..... does anyone else see what I mean..?... the more I say its my choice the more people think its odd?...but its not for me....anyone else had this? I'm curious?....
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When people say they want love. What ever orientation is. Underneath the surface it means physical affection is what they want. Beyond any type of verbal love.
Im 34 years old and never been in a relationship. Ive said no to the wrong people who just want one thing and still haven't met the right person. I truly believe I will be single forever. Ive learned to accept it. Theres not someone out there for everyone. Some people are meant to be alone. I see some people married or in relationships and think how lucky they are to have someone who sees their potential and put in the effot.
46 and single all my life. At this point it’ll be a MAJOR adjustment for me if I enter into a romantic relationship.
50 years old and single my entire life.. I accepted my fate too. Guys say I should be happy. No worries or stress in dealing with the wrong woman. But those people have not lived more than half their life alone. Even singles would rather be single than take a chance with me. Hurts like F$%k, but i actually love myself too much to end it. I am normal look and behave like a normal human being. Maybe 1 day I will find out why everyone avoided me. Tll then, I am going to enjoy life the best way I can :)
I was single the first 33 years of my life. Now with almost 40 I'm happy married to an wonderful man and more than 5 years in a perfect relationship. It's never too late. My issue was that I couldn't trust men or people in general. First attempt was a disaster but then soon later it worked out. I always said it's better to be alone then with the wrong person. Still my mantra. All the best to you ❤
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31, never even dated. I'm convinced I'll be single until death or way too late for me and I can't accept it. Yet it feels like true love will never happen. Like I was fated to be lonely and die single. I can say no to all the wrong people, but I'm convinced there is no one out there for me anyways. The best I may get is settling down with someone I don't hate....
And I literally CAN'T be one of those people who finds love at a way older age and will still be content. Good for people that do, but that will NEVER be me. And it's annoying when people still push the"aGe is jUst a Number" on me because it's not....
As soon as I made peace with myself being alone (28 years ago), I found my person. Wishing the best for everyone in the comments!
❤thank you❤
How and where did you meet them? Thing is, I made peace with being single but then I stopped hanging out and not caring about meeting new people, so I don't know if making peace with it it's a good idea for me...
Thank you ❤
how old are you now
how long you have been together
I'm a man. I gave up when I turned 21. There's nobody for me. There's never anybody for me. Women are too shallow, they don't want someone ugly like me.
Single for 7 years and happy, at peace. Grateful for friends and family.❤
The most important relationship that you'll ever have is the relationship that you have with yourself first.❤
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25 years single the Happiest part of my life. I do what I want & talk to whoever I want to.😂
I’ve said no to the wrong people for 5 years because I haven’t met a genuine real connection without all the dam red flags. It’s not about not being happy with yourself - I’m very happy with the woman I’ve become, accomplishments, self awareness and growth - it’s about feeling incredibly lonely and sad cuz you’re missing out on memories of having a family at 35+ years old that you’ve always desired. When you face that you’ll know how crushing it feels. You have to somehow deal with the grief and navigate it when it hits you like a ton of bricks. It’s very difficult to overcome if ever. To all the women out there that know what I’m talking about I pray for you too 🙏🏻 ❤️ and I guess we just have to take it one day at a time.
I'm 40+, refuse to settle for less but I wonder if I ever experience the love I've always craved for. I'm apparently an INFJ personality, longing for deep connections and meaning which are so difficult to find. Wishing you all the best❤
@ women like us who have depth are going to find it more difficult these days. It’s just facts. Our society has shifted drastically. Just keep being your awesome self 😊 and pray 💞
@@JDfaith2024 Thank you 🙏 Sorry for the late reply, my 🔔 don't work... You stated it very well, we are people of depth, seems like a rarity nowadays...
Omg Jennifer! My sentiments EXACTLY! I’ve been saying no for several years too and I just turned 34 no kids never married! Everyone I date nothing but 🚩🚩‼️ never in a million years did I think I’d still be unmarried but I’m coping as best as I can. When I say my prayers I also pray for other women who are battling this loneliness too! It’s certainly better being single than settling.
@ yes you’re definitely not alone ❤️
As long you're happy I think it doesn't matter.
We are socialized..to believe a relationship defines us... define yourself...attract sanity!!
This is also great advice for those of us who love being in relationships with partners who don't reciprocate. Sometimes we can find ourselves being lonelier in a relationship with another human than we are being alone. Learn to love dating yourself and you'll no longer fear dying alone.
I think many of us have been there, feeling like love is just out of reach. It’s important to remember that being single can also be a time of incredible growth and self-discovery.💖✨
I wish I could just find people to hang out with ! I know I have to get out and be where there are others but how??
@@whodeenidog4 @whodeenidog4 Here are a few practical steps you can take: Consider your hobbies and look for related groups, join events, volunteer and set goals: start small-aim for one event a month, and celebrate each win! Remember, building connections takes time, so be patient with yourself.
Amen! Enjoy discovering yourself, enjoy “me time” .. enjoying your own company is freeing!❤
I agree. I’m alone not lonely. I like being by myself rt now at this stage of my life. Desperate people end up in toxic relationships
People often think being single means being lonely and in pain, but that's not true for me. I've been single and celibate since 2001, after ending a 15-year relationship. We never lived together, and I’ve never experienced cohabitating with a partner. Before that I had fleeting relationships. Since then, I’ve had a couple of brief attractions, but nothing serious-just a brief and regrettable make-out session in 2009.
The only times I feel lonely are when I listen to old songs that remind me of my parents and other relatives who’ve passed away. Regret creeps in not because I’m single but because I didn't spend more time with my mom and aunts. I lived and took care of my special brother and Dad for seven years before they passed in 2019 and last year. I love my Dad and brother and I don't hate men. But I see relationships as more trouble than they’re worth-having to cook, clean, and care for someone else doesn’t appeal to me. I love having my space to read, paint, and play the piano without interruptions. No kids, no partner-just me and my independence.
I’m close with four other single ladies, though I rarely see them, even the two who live nearby. I don’t join clubs or socialize much-I'm pretty content on my own. I live in a rural area, in a big house and big lot with two Shih Tzus, seven turkeys, and ten cats. My neighbors, including my widowed sister, are blocks away. As a professor, I get my social fix from interacting with students and colleagues. By the time I’m home, I’m ready to unwind in peace and listen to the sound of crickets at night and I'm at bliss.
I love my independence. If I ever want someone in my life, it’s more for support when I’m tired or when I think about growing old. Sometimes I'd wish for a partner when I need help with practical things like fixing the plumbing and roof or yard work. But I manage just fine. I’m not interested in sex or a relationship unless I'm watching a romantic drama, and even then, the feeling is rare. So when my divorced high school ex came back from the US and is trying to rekindle things, I told our mutual friend to not bother me with it. They say he's a good catch with that fat military pension, but honestly, the thought of living with someone isn't worth it-even for the money. Because overall, I’m happy, and adding someone else to the mix wouldn’t make me any happier-my happiness bar is already full. Sorry or the long comment but writing about this is validating what I feel. Thanks.
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I admire you very much , thanks for your powerful words, I wish I could learn from you to be a strong woman too.
Thank goodness....someone that actually is on the same page...hoorah...made my day
I'd really like to be friends with you 😭❤
I feel exactly the same and thank you for sharing. Totally happy out to be single for the rest of my life. I'm in love with myself!
No time to be lonely as there is a lot to do in life - embrace it 🎉🎉🎉
I was single for years and years so I built this great life for myself, I remember thinking one day how happy I was and the same day I met my soul mate …. Totally true story!
Wow!!! Thanks for sharing ❤ God bless
But we are social beings. We heal in connection. We are not made to be lonely.
This doesn't mean to connect to anyone, just make good choices.
I've known a few people who got out of a bad relationship, and kept desperately seeking a new one. Once they gave up on that, started working on fulfilling their goals and desires, and became content with their lives, then a good partner came into their life. Just be patient and enjoy being with your friends or family and just yourself.
Be blissfully happy. It's your birthright.
Exactly! Quickly say NO to the wrong.
Honestly I'm feeling this right now, just to preface I haven't been in a relationship for over five years and honestly it never used to bug me but this past year has just taken its toll on me. In September I had to put down my eldest dog due to very aggressive cancer that took her ability to walk, in October my car caught on fire when I was on the freeway going to pickup my sister from work, and in December my youngest dog my baby died because she stopped eating out of grief and I couldn't help her cause I'm struggling financially. As I entered the New Year I realized how alone I really am.
I always remind myself that i may not be where i want to be in life or even where i thought i'd be, but i have faith that i'm where i need to be and where I'm meant to be. I also think of everyday every holiday, every birthday, or even every life event is one closer to finding someone I'm meant to share those things with. Especially with Christmas, maybe this will be the last one i spend alone.
Being able to enjoy your own company is a gift to both yourself AND whoever you choose to spend your life with. You are worth it! Learn to enjoy yourself and others will, too. 🧡
Was too focused on fulfilling the dream of my parents to be a doctor, never dated in medical school, I feel I sacrificed best time of my life for something I didn’t want, now when they ask me to think of getting married I just don’t care about it. Gonna be single for a long time.
Been single 8 years, I have found peace after many years of misery which resulted in poor health. I’m so glad I’m happy to be free and single because I am definitely a 1/10 in the looks department and no one would want me anyway.
Agree, been single 3,5 years. I like my life finally- it took a long time. I still want a partner but not just anyone ❤
Being alone was never something I could see myself doing, because I kept developing romantic feelings for certain guys. I tried to move on so I can learn to be happy as a single person, but my life got worse with every mistake I kept making by myself. Eventually I did move on, deciding not to look for love. That is, until certain past feelings of romantic love came back into my life and I came to the realization that I was meant to be with someone instead of being single. Besides, I alone decided that I wanted to be in s relationship even though I knew I was not guaranteed that I would get to be with someone I liked.
In the days I feel off and lonely I imagine a person I would like to be with and enjoy the comfort this thoughts give me, it is way healthier than engaging with someone with red flags and burn yourself down.
My flaw is i LOVE being alone. Ive had 3 long term relationships and i just dont like people in my space and honestly men are a chore and a headache. Its very peaceful single
I am single but not lonely. I have a lovely family of adult daughters. 3 granddaughters 1 in college. 1 in a junior in high schools d little 4 year old granddaughter. I am not lonely and have friends and people I see regularly. I enjoy my life as being well balanced between family, friends and alone time for me to do what I want to do.
That’s what I’ve become. Happy enough. Not blissfully happy. But happy enough that I can say no to some people
Matthew Hussey is brilliant ❗❗❗
I'm Single and I kinda Like it! Who knew 😊
Thank you.
Great advice. Unfortunately, by the time you realize they are the wrong one, you have started to go down the rabbit hole! Because of manipulation you don’t even see it coming. That’s what I would love to learn. How to spot the wrong one early on! I’m in my sixties. I should know better and I don’t want to waste any more precious time. But some people are so good at deception. You honestly don’t see it coming 😔😡
Matthew Hussey always explains it so well. ✨💖✨
Mel and Mathew having an interview together?! My morning couldn't have been better 🥰
Truth. Matthew Hussey is so common sense.💯👏🏾
I want to get this off my chest. Seeing her in this video, I feel like I fall under her category as well. The type of boys I chase are very masculine in nature but the ones that I end up attracting are very feminine. I think by bringing a change in my approach and being more calm and turning every situation in a flirtatious way instead of taking offense, losing interest or picking a defensive stance will help me get better. Thank you for this video ❤
I'm honestly happy by myself. It would be cool to find a wife or a girlfriend, with whom I could share a life and support each other, but I stand on my own two feet firmly.
Wow, Daniel Radcliffe has gotten pretty smart since Harry Potter. Just kiddin'. I've always had the mindset, create a life you are happy with 1st - with or without a rel'ship. Then if you happen to meet someone, that's an additional bonus. That way, you make better partner selections (in a SENSIBLE/compatibility focused kinda way), plus you're well rounded enough to bring something to the table, hopefully resulting in a healthy, more balanced rel'ship.
I gave Up a few years Back and since i accepted that im Just Not Made to be with someone i feel way less stress
Such profound advice for especially ladies and didn't expect it coming from a man.
The best episode on relationship advice ❤thanks so much for all you do 💜🙏we love you ❤
I have been single since 2002. Plan on keeping it that way too, much happier and no drama!
I don’t want a relationship and I don’t date or socialize, so that probably helps 😊
Best advice, I've heard on a long time!!!! I'm so there!
I love being single, my grandkids and my my life❤❤❤❤
I’ve come to love being alone only looking for someone cause that’s what obviously my family wants for me
Great advice 👏🏾 love it! I agree 💯 that loving yourself, stopping the self doubt and rumination is 🔑
Excellent advice! And it’s a powerful place to be. I am happier single than being with someone I’m not meant to be with
It’s okay to be single and not share your life with someone. I’d rather be single than share my life with the wrong person. I’m okay with being single. Honestly I’m not sure if a relationship is in my cards. That’s okay too.
I’ve been single all of my life, except a 7 year period where I had my first and only girlfriend. At 41 I am extremely single and lonely and I feel like as a man I am just not masculine enough or good enough for anyone, I feel like no one wants to be with me. With all of the rejections throughout my life I just feel like a loser now.
I am single by choice because I don't like to feel lonely. And the only time when I felt very lonely was always in a relationship. Now that I'm single and living solo, I never feel lonely.
I am just amazed at how some people can feel literally opposite in the same situation...
Let’s define loneliness. To me that means you have no meaningful relationship with anyone. If you went on vacation you do nothing with anyone. I think having no friends is way worse than another having a romantic relationship. So I am not lonely. Also most of us are going to go in and out of romantic relationships anyhow. There is no control to how long it’s going to last. Even if you marry and have kids. To me it’s best to diversify your life. In no order. Self alone time. Friends . Family. Work. Hobbies. Spiritual rituals. Working out/staying in health dynamic. Travel. Read books. A romantic love will come in and out. So there is no point in locking our worth on that one dynamic in life.
There is no loneliness a bubble bath candles a glass of wine and music can't solve. Pamper yourself. ❤️
True, so much beauty in pampering❤💜💙💝💖💖💖
I was. Thought i found the right person. Healing. 🙏😔🧿✨
Very well-articulated truth. Nice!
Ive been single forever, ill be 30 in no time. Its hard to stop the unbearable pain. Its hard not to feel undesirable, I don't know how to rid myself of this pain
Wow! Thank you ! I’m literally heading out the door right now to my FIRST DATE NOW after ending a 3-year engagement at 58. I love Matthew Hussey! Love you so much Mel! This was the “head shake” I needed! ❤❤
Such a tough issue for so many of us. As I watch men my age (50+) go for much younger women, feels hopeless st times. Trying to keep good perspective but not easy at times as a woman who has been single for 20+ yrs.
A Good Relationship w/Being Single May include Activities that’ll help a person to meet a Wonderful Like-Minded Partner! Consider: A Cooking Class; Serving at a Charity; Joining a hiking club; active at Church Group; College Class; Cake Decorating; Ladies, or Guy’s Group… I found one that does various Activities around town: Plays, sporting Events, Dinner Out per Vote & they Plan a Group Vacation for any Interested! Enjoy the Experience - And when Joyous, you’ll be Healthy & Draw People to you!
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This is a revolution!¡!!!!!!!!!!!!
❤❤❤ I GOTTA LOVE MY ELDER SELF!!!
im what i got!!!
Absolutely right, Matt!👍👍
That was so deep and powerful!!! THANK YOU!!!
I could have written this. Alrhough I have a 15 yr. old daughter and I won't like animals, I completely get what you are saying.
Thank you for this video. I feel better being single at 38. This is excellent advice :)
I LOVE MATTHEW!
Im a 17 yr old guy and i dont know why it hurts so much that ive never had a gf, i constantly see guys my age with cute girls and i just think about how lonely i am, idk i know im young it just feels so shit, i wanna hug someone and not feel as if id make them feel creeped out or uncomfortable i want a girl to love me for who i am or fuck even for my looks i dont care.
I get told by girls i meet online that im rlly cute and attractive but then irl ive never had a gf so idk who tf to believe 😭
It’s paradoxical really, if I don’t need anyone to make me feel like I’m “enough” but I’ve been single my entire life so it’s looking like not desirable to anyone 😊
Love you Mel Robbins, great work ma'am❤️❤️❤️ God bless
I've been alone for a long time that i dont want to be in a relationship anymore. The only thing is that f society makes me think something is wrong with me
Yeah I e been saying that for a long time 64 yrs old
Amazing advise! Thank you
My dearest auntie after an hard life, met at 70yo a schoolmate and... bang: 🎉😊 married 😊❤
Don't waste your time on the wrong people. Watch Murriels wedding- when Muriel finds herself and just her confidence makes her so attractive and she don't need someone who no good for her!😊
He makes it sound like it’s lonely to be single, some people actually like their space and quiet moments. Some choose to be single by choice. I don’t see his stuff anymore cos he sounds like he knows everything while he’s not that open minded
I’ve been saying no to everyone so I can expect things to shift really soon now 😉
Wow that last bit is powerful
Wow this is powerful
As a woman in her 30s i get judged a lot by society for being single. I either get told I’m “too picky” or “maybe she’s crazy”
I like that; that's good advice! ✓
I can't bear it anymore
I don't think, i know.
It's unfortunate that society still says...Being single is not successful in life. Not everyone is meant to be two in this life and many, like me are very happy, solid to be fiercely independent.
Love comes in many forms and single life comes to us all, younger or older.
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I doubt I'll ever find love again
Solid advice
Mel your hair looks great
The last phrase ❤
I love being single and having not too much to worry about but also I would love to build a family 😅 That’s strange and seems contradictory
Two contradictory things can be true at the same time. I enjoy the peace and independence of single life, but I want an amazing partner to enjoy life with. I am really good at saying no to the wrong men though.
Love this❤
This is beautiful ❤️.
Thank you 👍❤
Thank you I like this ❤
So no to the wrong people
LOVE THIS ❤
Exactly❤
I’ve been single 5 year it’s not been a choice or has been a choice if that makes sense it’s been a very healthy self awareness 5 yrs of learning what I do and don’t want in my life the thing is with my age there are a lot of wounded men out there in the world and in my generation men don’t get help from maybe a ex wife having a affair etc it seems to be more women that get help so us women are getting better at communicating healing and knowing what they do want but my generation of men are still stuck in that I healing and feeling scared stage so us women are banging our heads against a brick wall being out in the dating game I’ve never thought about going for a younger man but seriously lately I think maybe I’m better off they have been hurt as much they are trying to be the cave man and holding it all in and they haven’t losted as much as men my age ❤️
What if there isn’t anyone… ?
It is a wast of money and time being in a relationship or get married is a wast of money and time aswell .
Great advice
True