I think sometimes we also pick a hard subject to try to prove that we are smart enough to do it even if it is not right for us. Also, you might be a creative person and think that you will be great at graphic design but later realize that you are creative in other ways, not in graphics. Things like this can make it a challenge to discover what we really should be doing. For me, my calling was not easy to discover because it is not something that is taught in schools and not many people do it.
I'm feeling so much better about my non-linear path! I'm 54 years old and I'm still eliminating things and getting closer---but I think there may not be one "forever" calling, especially in this world. Getting rid of the judgement opens up a lot of energy
My biggest take away is that it is OK to try things! Particularly as someone around Marie's age, I grew up with the notion you were supposed to pick something to do for the rest of your life, but I always thought it was ridiculous to pigeon hole yourself. I still haven't figured out exactly what my "calling" is because like Marie, I have a million interests. So for the first time I'm giving myself permission to explore them ALL if need be. Thanks, Marie!
+EtherealLove I agree with you Ethereal. I also struggled because I was trying to pick one out of my many interests and skills to base my life on solely and that got me into some deep psychological stress. But I realized, with the help of two life coaches I engaged last month, that there is actually a unifying message that is unique to us and that connects all of our interests. I found that for myself and I'm really excited that I don't have to drop one talent for another but I can utilize them at different times depending on what I want to achieve at that time. I launched this Private Mastermind on Facebook where share knowledge and brainstorm ideas on how to turn our passion to profits while working part time. It's called The Side Business Network and feel free to come join the community. FB Link here: facebook.com/groups/sidebusinessnetwork
Lol! I was a mediocre accountant for about 7 months! I knew I HATED it by my Junior year in college but I've wrestled all my life with the 'don't give up' thing. People are demoralized for being quitters especially when you want to change from something esteemed in our society to something less conventional or less prestigious. But then when you finally quit at least half of your soon to be former colleagues are looking at you with total envy. Every time you quit from a place of knowing and confidence you will mostly be applauded for being brave and courageous. People root for you as the one who escaped!!!!
Having joy in what you choose to do is a powerful thing to remember. Why put yourself through so much suffering each and every day? Make the most of each day and that includes doing what you LOVE! Everyday is a gift. Receive it with thanks! Great interview Marie and Chris!
LOVE THIS EPISODE! Recently, I've given myself permission to explore all of my interests: creating my own skin care line, filmmaking, editing, screenwriting, meditating, mantras, learning French, blogging, gardening, yoga, and kickboxing! Will definitely ask myself whether they all bring me joy and if they are working for me! Keeping Joy, Money & Flow in mind also allows me to "quit" hobbies or jobs that just aren't serving me and don't bring me joy. THANK YOU!
thank you, it's hard to give up when you feel like you've already put a lot in to something, and it's not working or making you happy (or going that well) - expectations from family, friends and peers don't always help either! sometimes i find internalising other expectations (such as the university's) is what leads to our downfall so i try to make sure i carve out time for just myself to be sure i'm thinking about what i want and not what others think i should want!
This relates a lot to finding our career destiny through identifying our competitive advantage(s). I admire how Marie has found a creative way to converge all of her interests into the amazing work that she does on a daily basis. Awesome!
My biggest take away is "Give yourself permission to do a lot of different things without trying to force that focus too fast." It took me so long and so many life experiences, to figure out what I want to do with my life. Just like you, I had so many career paths in my mind to follow. Only if you allow yourself to dig into various pits can you discover the one with gold.
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This interview was really helpful! The part that resonated with me was about expanding your options at first to discover what you're good at, what brings you joy, and what's rewarding. I quit my boring desk job 2 months ago, and I've been saying Yes to a lot of things and getting involved in quite a few new endeavors, and I've been feeling like I need to focus myself more on just 1 thing. So hearing this interview is a relief for me. That I don't need to "force the focus too fast". Thank you!!!
Ah! Sitting in office thinking to quit, get out of here, I spotted a book - BORN TO RUN. And I was immediately so embarrassed! 25 and still discovering.. leaving everything in a year or few months. Why! Thanks for the answer. i think I'm eliminating and eliminating and moving closer to where I am meant to be - or what I am meant to do.
Great interview! Thing thing that stuck out to me is when it was mentioned that people that do what they love do what comes easy to them. I think it is so easy to overlook what comes easy to you and not pursue those areas. This is a great reminder to me and gives me a lot to think about since I am thinking of getting into a new career.
Hi Marie, what a fantastic episode. Both you and Chris provided so many thought-provoking moments and quotes. When I was a little girl, like you I couldn't just say one thing was my go-to career. In retrospect, I wanted to be an architect, a painter, a writer and a fashion designer. As I grew older (and learned math was not my strength) the adults around me frowned upon careers like artists or painters because they felt it didn't provide financial security. So I went to college for fashion design because I enjoyed sketching, I was ok but did not like sewing. So I dropped out and gave up at that point and since then have taken dead end administrative jobs. Five years ago, I launched a fashion blog and I enjoy it but still feel like there is more inside of me...which has led me to stumble on spirituality to find some answers. I mostly enjoy the writing these days. I journal and write for my blog. So, with no degree and no employment at this time I want to make sure I make the right choice and this is why I found you online. So thank you for the advice you give us all and the much-needed coaching.
Timely! I am 57 and STILL trying to find my niche. Listening to you and Chris has helped me realize that there still opportunity to find work that I am passionate about, AND make money doing so, AND, hopefully, recognize these opportunities when they present themselves. I've sold my former business, am in the process of selling my home an former business location in Indiana, and am moving to the gulf coast of Florida to start the next chapter of my life. I'm down loading Chris' book today. How about a program focusing on making career changes & choices later in life?
Hey Debra, this is a while ago, but congrats for making such daring changes... You're a badass! I'm wondering how you're doing since your comment and did you find a program or resources to help you in the process?
I get it...I am 48 years old and feel I have still not begun the career I was meant to do. I have spent the last 22 years working for my family business, NOT doing music which is what I have a degree in, and feeling trapped and obligated to keep our family business successful. It is entirely unfulfilling to me, yet it was the safe route right after college. I agree that a program for making career changes later in life would be fantastic. I could definitely make use of this wisdom.
"I always come back whenever I have a book" says it all. Chris is changing the world, and I especially appreciated his honesty as regards the impetus for appearing on this particular channel.
I just finished this video and I'm sobbing. I took this spring semester off from college to clear my head and re-organize my life and figure out what I want to do, and it's been so difficult. I went into college as a business major, but then rediscovered my love for creativity and fought so hard to be an art major, but even in art school, everyone tells you that you have to "pick one medium" and work with that and create a body of work only with that, and it's so creatively and eventually emotionally crippling. And now, 5 years later, I'm kind of regretting everything because what I really should've done was take this break a long time ago. And now, I have to decide if I'm ready to pay loans with this okay job in a field I'm not completely accustomed to or scramble to find a more stable and higher paying job with the little job experience I have or if I should just suck it up and take classes again in the Fall.
+Alexa “Lex” Marie I'm in the middle of the book and with out going into to much detail...Chris has a great story or two or three about people in your situation. The short response is to go ahead and pick that medium and even be okay with that one medium. You never know what that medium plus your past experience will lead to. There are lots of artists bringing multiple mediums together in one place. But you learn them one at a time for the most part. There are also people for example in your situation who say take the art classes but learn it's not for them. That's okay it might be something you use later or not at all or leave and come back to with a clearer head. Anyway just think of how It's main role in your life is to bounce you to the next opportunity more than anything else. You might find yourself taking a class with a future business partner or publisher who love to debunk the myth you can only take one medium at a time and now what's your help. Keep discovering your loves and your mediums - they will come together.
+Alexa “Lex” Marie If you have the money do her BSchool next year, it has changed so many people's lives! It is better than many business school programs when it comes to starting your own online or brick and mortar business in todays world- not things that worked a hundred years ago, or even a decade ago. Things are so different now, watch everything she does and save up for BSchool would be the best advice I could ever give someone. LIFECHANGING!
you are really brave! I have been working in IT for 8 years though I hardly enjoy it, but I don't have the guts to switch paths even after taking a break.. at least you have tried different paths out! I hope you have a good break now
I have suffered through jobs I should have left sooner, because quitting was like failing to me or so I was told. I didn't want to give up, so I talked myself into trying harder to make it work. Wish I had learned what you talked about in this video sooner in my life. At least I know now and can share it with others. Thanks.
I can relate to what you're saying CapeCodBelle. I also have held on to so many jobs because quitting was frowned upon, still is. We have to empower ourselves with the knowledge that now we know better and break the chains. :)
My biggest take away from this video was to just know when to stop doing something that just isn't flowing or tweak it a little and see where that takes you. It was exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you!!!
I struggle with this idea so much. A couple of years ago I found it very freeing to accept that there is no right path, there are many paths and it's more about deciding if the path I'm on is working for me at the moment or if I need to re-route.
If I could like this one thousand times I would. Hearing that it's okay to let it go and move on with something else, feel around is super supporting to hear. Thank you.
I love the confirmation that what I do as a Life & Career Coach is confirmed with the key points he makes in this book. I've written a blog post called "It's OK to be a quitter" and also tell my client to not limit themselves. The goal is to help people see all the possibilities and not close themselves off when exploring "what's next".
Chris is one of my favorite people! I read his first book, "The Art of Non-Conformity," which helped give my chosen life path all the more validation... I no longer felt like the lone wolf who bucked the system to do things her own way!
What a wonderful video. The biggest take away for myself is that it's okay to change things and walk away when things aren't working. I just recently started university and have been dealing with some slight depression the last few months. I realized not too long ago that I am not happy with my school nor the city I live in and am making some "tweeks" and rearranging the puzzle pieces to better fit my desires. The best part is to realize it's okay to make changes and not feel bad it!
I think I really needed to hear this today. to know that it is okay to quit something when it's absolutely draining you. 6 months ago I got a promotion, and man at first I was excited, but every single day of this job has taken me to the point of exhaustion. and every one keeps telling me don't give up, and the only reason I havent, is because it obviously supports me. but it's only keeping me alive...it's definitely not making me feel alive
Great stuff. I believe it all starts with finding your FLOW. Something that you are good at. For me, it took at least 25 years of working to start realizing what I am good at. I am not yet 100% sure but at least I can say that I am 70-80% sure. I just need to push forward to learn and get better at connecting with people. I can see that I am starting to feel joy with what I do. I guess the joy and money will grow once you open the floodgates more to get the flow going.
This video gave me so much clarity and answered hard questions I've been trying to figure out. I'm at that stage where I'm experimenting with a lot of things I like, trying to narrow my focus. Thank you for making me feel like I'm not alone on this journey.
Marie your channel has completely changed my life, between you and Gary Ve, I feel so much more confident in myself, I feel like if I just keep moving forward, thing are going to work out for me. I'm a hard worker, I'm determined, dedicated and unique. My time will come and I'm making changes NOW.
yes! love the part about quiting! i know when I was a kid I constantly quit my hobbies to try out something else and my mom was getting frustrated, because she didn't want her daughter to be a quiter. But that way I was able to see all those different things! Later I studied Art history and I didn't quit but instead of becoming an Art Historian started to study Architecture (which I am still doing) and it gives me so much joy and passion! I am glad I did quit that path and try not to let that little voice in my head (whispering: quiter!) get me down.
I want to thank you two for this interview. The best part for me was when Chris said that we don't have to find our niche right away and narrow our focus in the beginning. I can't tell you how much weight was lifted off of my shoulders when you two discussed that. I am working on a healthy lifestyle blog that I created 6 months ago, and I wasn't sure if I should just post recipes or workouts. A healthy lifestyle includes both and it includes a healthy mind. I enjoy all aspects of this so I will continue to write articles about this and possibly narrow it down eventually. I am going to stay on this path, and I thank you guys for making me feel more confident about that decision :)
The framework: "Is it working? Do I enjoy it?" This is actually very simple and true! I loved the simplicity of it, but the dificult part is to get it right and put in practice. I loved 100$ Startup book, it actually helped me a lot in deciding to give an opportunity and become an entrepreneur out of the college, and it has been 4 years now :) I'll be looking for Chris' last book in Brazil! Thanks Marie Forleo and Chris Guillebeau!
I had the amazing opportunity to listen to Chris and meet him on Friday! He is so encouraging and has amazing advice. thank you @MarieForleo for this interview!
I've been looking for this my whole life!!!!! Thank you, Chris Guillebeau, and thank you, Marie, for bringing us such joy in learning these valuable things!!!!!
so glad this is one of the first videos I clicked on this morning! So much value and so much truth, that I can't express how happy I am to hear this in words alone. I thought I was the only one who thought like this because I feel as though it's rare to meet open-minded people. More than anything I want people to want what they want and be true to themselves. Having quit school this semester that made me think about all my friends. Some wanted to go to school, others are going because their parents want them to go, and others are going for a degree their parents want them to go instead of going to school for their passion. My advice is that they should just go for the thing they are passionate about and be straight honest with them. Worst case scenario their parents kick them out. and that brought on an idea 💡💡💡. What if their was a shelter for not only college students who run the ricks of experiencing the worst case scenario, and then some. A shelter for all ages, races, and walks of life who want to do what they want to do, but struggle because their parents, their religion, or society banished them to the wayside. I think that would be awesome. and the goal would be to not only give these people a roof over their heads, but help, encourage, and teach them how to survive and achieve the goals they set for themselves.
Thank you Marie team and Chris Guillebeau! We as entrepreneurs get so inspired by your work and follow you up closely whenever we need to load on confidence, creativity and inspiration for our own Training and Lifestyle business here in The Netherlands.! The single biggest insight: Learning that giving up what isn't working for the things that do work better is a way of growing within and also in business, trying all faces of your gifts as a person or in a team, believing that if you fail on one project you can still succeed on others and keep going, we now plan to be surprised at every turn! Daniella Lopez.
I like hearing Chris say that you don't need to focus on one niche and try different things because you do hear the opposite. Chris' advice makes more sense.
I get so excited when I see a new video from you. I read his first two books, so I am thrilled to see this interview. I took notes while watching. My biggest take-away is to ask "What work were you born to do?" Thanks!
Thank you for your well filmed piece. In light of that, I've literally had dozens of carers spanning 100+ jobs, and have created a number of businesses, yet I've quit maybe once or twice. I have however, transitioned, transformed, and traded through the majority. Yes, this may simply be semantics, however, the word “quit” in our culture, carries an emotional mass that may be too dense. Through all of this, the word that has held, and continues to hold the most power for me is decision. Decide!
I've been 100% sure I wanted to do marketing since the fist time I heared the word. I was about 12 and I remember people asking me "Are you sure?", and I just kew it. Now I'm almost 21 and I'm still 100% sure, what is a blessing. I hope when I get my first job I'd still be 100% sure.
Great video, inspiring, currently working on a career change and I realized watching to is video, that my fears are very common among people who are not satisfied with their careers
You're absolutely right, Hugo. Fear and doubt are normal when you're taking a big leap of faith - you're not alone! Keep going. We're rooting for you every step of the way. So proud of you. 💪💪
My greatest takeaway is its okay to expand my options and do everything you can to have alot of different experiences, as you become more successful and experienced you limit.
I think I took away the fact that these are different processes or techniques we use to uncover what our nature passions are. Then use that as your work. Thanks!
I loved this interview! I have been so stuck for a while. I make attempts and then realize I really don't want to do it, but then I beat myself up over the fact that I wasted that time or $$ trying things out. I feel relieved after getting this great advice!
This video was another piece of media that gives me hope not to give up doing what I love to do. Just added this book to my reading list, so I'm excited to dig a little deeper into my own self-awareness. Thanks Marie and Chris!
One thing that I have learned is, get past the guilt, shame, and disappointment that others may throw at you for leaving a job you no longer want to work at. It is not their life. It takes courage to not worry about upsetting others in order to have peace of mind, which in turn frees you to look at your options, and then pursue what is right for you.
Your comment about the liberation of quitting was fresh and spot on. I am constantly accused of being "career ADHD", but I never leave things unfinished or half-assed so that anecdote was very validating for me! I would appreciate more information on how to find my calling. Recommended activities, mindsets, etc. that could help me "bump into" my vocation a little faster.
Hey Kaeli, this is a while ago, but saw your comment and since you were one of the few that asked a follow up question about how else they could help... I'm wondering are there more specific/bite-size questions that you'd want those activities and tools to help answer?
I'm taking in the tip about "expanding your options and then eliminating them". I think that's what I've done for so many years, and in some way I still do (although I really love my job). I think it takes courage to quit, as you said, as well as it takes courage to allow things to evolve. Ohh and the one about having the mindset of an entrepreneur even if you're not. that is HUGE. Thank you! Great opening for the weekend.
Quitting is a skill. I think that for the first time I accepted my choice to quit my job because it was no longer what I wanted and started to breathe.
Great! I love all interviews with Chris, he's awesome. I love the idea of not forgetting that we need to enjoy what we do, it's easy to forget that when we focus on money. Thanks. Chris I love your shoes !!
It's so nice to hear you saying that it's a good thing to expand our options before to select the one thing which gives us joy, money and flow. I've always believed in that idea but still so many people around me don't understand that "concept", so i keep talking about that from time to time because i thing it's so important to give ouselves time to explore all the options and to find happiness in our work : ) Thank you for all those priceless videos : )
Thank you both so much for this. I resonate with these ideas all the way. By my very nature, I passionately loved being diverse. I instinctively changed paths as I went along in my life, and trying out many things brought me great joy and great money and the freedom it gave me. The more I enjoyed the work, learned how to do it well put me in a constant state of flow and focus and as a result, inner and outer growth. Helen
My biggest take away is that its okay to quit something you are good at when you just don't feel its what you're meant to do. I feel so blessed to be working a job where my boss acknowledges my capabilities and would give me the level up. However, I am not happy and it took alot of courage to say I want to find something that Im meant to do when a lot of people would want to be in my position. but thats okay. We ought to be doing something that inspires us instead of living from paycheck to paycheck.
This video couldn't have come at a better time! Xx thank you so much! I have recently quit an idea I have been following for years and I have been grieving that path now and looking to move on. It's just me 're-arranging my puzzle peices'. That thing is now in the hobbies category and I am moving forward with exploring my options. I also am similar to you Marie, I dance, sing, act, teach yoga, and my day job is Barbering and I love spirituality and the concept of being a life coach. I also have a large interest in the human body and its mechanics, I'll be looking to going to uni for the first time in 2020 at the age of 29 by then. Wish me luck! Eeeeeeep lol
Nick William's wrote the Work We Were Born To Do in 1999, which is incredible. Sounds much like his ideas. He speaks of having a portfolio career, doing more than one thing you love. Each chapter helps you ask the valuable questions on money, creativity etc Has guided me a few times to make some realignments to my working life.
I love how you guys both agree on when to pursue things and when to move on. Right now I'm trying to figure out if my idea of starting a data analytics company will work out. I want to help people to see how analytics could help them in being successful. I just started a blog to generate ideas and feedback from my followerers on what they think is in demand. In this way I can gauge an idea of where i stand with my current passion and where there is a need in the market. Thanks for the great video Marie!
A great interview with lots of golden nuggets of wisdom, which makes your question a hard one Marie! Ok, I think the biggest insight for me is having 'joy', 'money' and 'flow' in what you do. It makes so much sense. I have found my passion as a property investor which currently provides me with joy and money. I am now working hard to get more experience for the 'flow'. Thanks :)
Thank you, am really inspired, many valid points were mentioned, the concept of never giving up, and the multi-passionate person, me myself came through all of this and I was searching for this one path to discover then that am good at more than one thing and I enjoy all of them, so I started to find a bigger umbrella to unite all my passions! Thank you :)
Sometimes the most valuable action that we can take is to quit. PDR - Plan Do Review. To quit or not to quit is often discovered in the review. Quiting can prove to be a positive ROI in the full scheme of our journey to our life's destiny.
Thank you so much for this. I really needed the encouragement. I am pretty new at this whole being a grown up thing and so far I am finding it insanely hard.
_"Eliminate ideas that don't bring you joy when you think of them"_ ... Golden - Thank you! ♥
I literally saw this comment at exactly the same time he said it - think the universe is telling me something 😂
I think sometimes we also pick a hard subject to try to prove that we are smart enough to do it even if it is not right for us. Also, you might be a creative person and think that you will be great at graphic design but later realize that you are creative in other ways, not in graphics. Things like this can make it a challenge to discover what we really should be doing. For me, my calling was not easy to discover because it is not something that is taught in schools and not many people do it.
So what you do?
Suzanna Kiraly good point!
I'm feeling so much better about my non-linear path! I'm 54 years old and I'm still eliminating things and getting closer---but I think there may not be one "forever" calling, especially in this world. Getting rid of the judgement opens up a lot of energy
Totally agree. The ability to be flexible is an amazing skill too
My biggest take away is that it is OK to try things! Particularly as someone around Marie's age, I grew up with the notion you were supposed to pick something to do for the rest of your life, but I always thought it was ridiculous to pigeon hole yourself. I still haven't figured out exactly what my "calling" is because like Marie, I have a million interests. So for the first time I'm giving myself permission to explore them ALL if need be. Thanks, Marie!
+EtherealLove I agree with you Ethereal.
I also struggled because I was trying to pick one out of my many interests and skills to base my life on solely and that got me into some deep psychological stress.
But I realized, with the help of two life coaches I engaged last month, that there is actually a unifying message that is unique to us and that connects all of our interests.
I found that for myself and I'm really excited that I don't have to drop one talent for another but I can utilize them at different times depending on what I want to achieve at that time.
I launched this Private Mastermind on Facebook where share knowledge and brainstorm ideas on how to turn our passion to profits while working part time.
It's called The Side Business Network and feel free to come join the community.
FB Link here: facebook.com/groups/sidebusinessnetwork
"Quitting is a valuable skill." THANK YOU!
I love where Chris says...Because life is short why not try to work towards something that is not just ok..but is amazing
Lol! I was a mediocre accountant for about 7 months! I knew I HATED it by my Junior year in college but I've wrestled all my life with the 'don't give up' thing. People are demoralized for being quitters especially when you want to change from something esteemed in our society to something less conventional or less prestigious. But then when you finally quit at least half of your soon to be former colleagues are looking at you with total envy. Every time you quit from a place of knowing and confidence you will mostly be applauded for being brave and courageous. People root for you as the one who escaped!!!!
YES to all of this!
Having joy in what you choose to do is a powerful thing to remember. Why put yourself through so much suffering each and every day? Make the most of each day and that includes doing what you LOVE! Everyday is a gift. Receive it with thanks! Great interview Marie and Chris!
LOVE THIS EPISODE! Recently, I've given myself permission to explore all of my interests: creating my own skin care line, filmmaking, editing, screenwriting, meditating, mantras, learning French, blogging, gardening, yoga, and kickboxing! Will definitely ask myself whether they all bring me joy and if they are working for me! Keeping Joy, Money & Flow in mind also allows me to "quit" hobbies or jobs that just aren't serving me and don't bring me joy. THANK YOU!
Marie, this is is by far one of my favorite interviews ever. It really is about experimenting and finding that one thing that is your life work.
thank you, it's hard to give up when you feel like you've already put a lot in to something, and it's not working or making you happy (or going that well) - expectations from family, friends and peers don't always help either! sometimes i find internalising other expectations (such as the university's) is what leads to our downfall so i try to make sure i carve out time for just myself to be sure i'm thinking about what i want and not what others think i should want!
Love that word: multi-passionate
Me too!
Yes, it's me, too. I'm a writer and yoga studio owner and yoga/meditation teacher. I have so many passions it's difficult to narrow my attention.
@@awarenessvillage same here 😐
This relates a lot to finding our career destiny through identifying our competitive advantage(s). I admire how Marie has found a creative way to converge all of her interests into the amazing work that she does on a daily basis. Awesome!
I am 48 and I think it is a great time to start joying, letting the money work hard and flow with my happiness. Thank you Marie.
My biggest take away is "Give yourself permission to do a lot of different things without trying to force that focus too fast." It took me so long and so many life experiences, to figure out what I want to do with my life. Just like you, I had so many career paths in my mind to follow. Only if you allow yourself to dig into various pits can you discover the one with gold.
+Anam Tahir Beautifully written!
+Marisa Bojiuc thank you so much dear! :) May I know what do you do for a living ? :)
Absolutely! I'm a journalist and the founder of Diamonds Mirror. We write unique profiles about people, brands and cultural perspectives that reach into the hearts of our readers.
+Marisa Bojiuc that's great! Awesome! I am a budding entrepreneur and just started off with my online marketing business :)
"Have the courage to experiment. Take time to figure it out for yourself". oh wow
This interview was really helpful! The part that resonated with me was about expanding your options at first to discover what you're good at, what brings you joy, and what's rewarding. I quit my boring desk job 2 months ago, and I've been saying Yes to a lot of things and getting involved in quite a few new endeavors, and I've been feeling like I need to focus myself more on just 1 thing. So hearing this interview is a relief for me. That I don't need to "force the focus too fast". Thank you!!!
Ah! Sitting in office thinking to quit, get out of here, I spotted a book - BORN TO RUN. And I was immediately so embarrassed! 25 and still discovering.. leaving everything in a year or few months. Why! Thanks for the answer. i think I'm eliminating and eliminating and moving closer to where I am meant to be - or what I am meant to do.
Great interview! Thing thing that stuck out to me is when it was mentioned that people that do what they love do what comes easy to them. I think it is so easy to overlook what comes easy to you and not pursue those areas. This is a great reminder to me and gives me a lot to think about since I am thinking of getting into a new career.
+CatReads VEry much as it's like "wow that's not hard, can't everybody do that!"
So true
"Eliminate ideas that don't bring you joy when you think of them"
I wish I'd had people like you influencing me when I was 20 years younger... *smiles*... wonderful conversation, two of my favorite people!
Hi Marie, what a fantastic episode. Both you and Chris provided so many thought-provoking moments and quotes. When I was a little girl, like you I couldn't just say one thing was my go-to career. In retrospect, I wanted to be an architect, a painter, a writer and a fashion designer. As I grew older (and learned math was not my strength) the adults around me frowned upon careers like artists or painters because they felt it didn't provide financial security. So I went to college for fashion design because I enjoyed sketching, I was ok but did not like sewing. So I dropped out and gave up at that point and since then have taken dead end administrative jobs. Five years ago, I launched a fashion blog and I enjoy it but still feel like there is more inside of me...which has led me to stumble on spirituality to find some answers. I mostly enjoy the writing these days. I journal and write for my blog. So, with no degree and no employment at this time I want to make sure I make the right choice and this is why I found you online. So thank you for the advice you give us all and the much-needed coaching.
Learning to quit! I take on too much and then feel frustrated I can’t do it all. Perfect timing. 🤯
Timely! I am 57 and STILL trying to find my niche. Listening to you and Chris has helped me realize that there still opportunity to find work that I am passionate about, AND make money doing so, AND, hopefully, recognize these opportunities when they present themselves. I've sold my former business, am in the process of selling my home an former business location in Indiana, and am moving to the gulf coast of Florida to start the next chapter of my life. I'm down loading Chris' book today. How about a program focusing on making career changes & choices later in life?
Hey Debra, this is a while ago, but congrats for making such daring changes... You're a badass! I'm wondering how you're doing since your comment and did you find a program or resources to help you in the process?
I get it...I am 48 years old and feel I have still not begun the career I was meant to do. I have spent the last 22 years working for my family business, NOT doing music which is what I have a degree in, and feeling trapped and obligated to keep our family business successful. It is entirely unfulfilling to me, yet it was the safe route right after college. I agree that a program for making career changes later in life would be fantastic. I could definitely make use of this wisdom.
The part about if it fills you with dread, its not for you, is my biggest take away. I'm glad I tuned in.
Knowing when something is not working anymore and the right time to move on from it.But as it was mentioned , it takes courage..
"I always come back whenever I have a book" says it all. Chris is changing the world, and I especially appreciated his honesty as regards the impetus for appearing on this particular channel.
I just finished this video and I'm sobbing. I took this spring semester off from college to clear my head and re-organize my life and figure out what I want to do, and it's been so difficult. I went into college as a business major, but then rediscovered my love for creativity and fought so hard to be an art major, but even in art school, everyone tells you that you have to "pick one medium" and work with that and create a body of work only with that, and it's so creatively and eventually emotionally crippling.
And now, 5 years later, I'm kind of regretting everything because what I really should've done was take this break a long time ago. And now, I have to decide if I'm ready to pay loans with this okay job in a field I'm not completely accustomed to or scramble to find a more stable and higher paying job with the little job experience I have or if I should just suck it up and take classes again in the Fall.
+Alexa “Lex” Marie Good luck!
Or maybe there is yet another, more empowering, option you haven't thought of yet?
+Alexa “Lex” Marie I'm in the middle of the book and with out going into to much detail...Chris has a great story or two or three about people in your situation. The short response is to go ahead and pick that medium and even be okay with that one medium. You never know what that medium plus your past experience will lead to. There are lots of artists bringing multiple mediums together in one place. But you learn them one at a time for the most part. There are also people for example in your situation who say take the art classes but learn it's not for them. That's okay it might be something you use later or not at all or leave and come back to with a clearer head. Anyway just think of how It's main role in your life is to bounce you to the next opportunity more than anything else. You might find yourself taking a class with a future business partner or publisher who love to debunk the myth you can only take one medium at a time and now what's your help. Keep discovering your loves and your mediums - they will come together.
+Alexa “Lex” Marie If you have the money do her BSchool next year, it has changed so many people's lives! It is better than many business school programs when it comes to starting your own online or brick and mortar business in todays world- not things that worked a hundred years ago, or even a decade ago. Things are so different now, watch everything she does and save up for BSchool would be the best advice I could ever give someone. LIFECHANGING!
you are really brave! I have been working in IT for 8 years though I hardly enjoy it, but I don't have the guts to switch paths even after taking a break.. at least you have tried different paths out! I hope you have a good break now
I have suffered through jobs I should have left sooner, because quitting was like failing to me or so I was told. I didn't want to give up, so I talked myself into trying harder to make it work. Wish I had learned what you talked about in this video sooner in my life. At least I know now and can share it with others. Thanks.
I can relate to what you're saying CapeCodBelle. I also have held on to so many jobs because quitting was frowned upon, still is. We have to empower ourselves with the knowledge that now we know better and break the chains. :)
My biggest take away from this video was to just know when to stop doing something that just isn't flowing or tweak it a little and see where that takes you. It was exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you!!!
I struggle with this idea so much. A couple of years ago I found it very freeing to accept that there is no right path, there are many paths and it's more about deciding if the path I'm on is working for me at the moment or if I need to re-route.
If I could like this one thousand times I would. Hearing that it's okay to let it go and move on with something else, feel around is super supporting to hear. Thank you.
I love the confirmation that what I do as a Life & Career Coach is confirmed with the key points he makes in this book. I've written a blog post called "It's OK to be a quitter" and also tell my client to not limit themselves. The goal is to help people see all the possibilities and not close themselves off when exploring "what's next".
Fail fast and move on! Quicker movement toward what works and brings joy, JOY!
I love what Chris Guillebeau does, I have been following him for years! Thank you for doing another interview with him Marie, you rock!
Chris is one of my favorite people! I read his first book, "The Art of Non-Conformity," which helped give my chosen life path all the more validation... I no longer felt like the lone wolf who bucked the system to do things her own way!
What a wonderful video. The biggest take away for myself is that it's okay to change things and walk away when things aren't working. I just recently started university and have been dealing with some slight depression the last few months. I realized not too long ago that I am not happy with my school nor the city I live in and am making some "tweeks" and rearranging the puzzle pieces to better fit my desires. The best part is to realize it's okay to make changes and not feel bad it!
I love you Marie :) u r simply the example of elegance , intelligence, generosity and humility 😀😀😀
"Winners give up all the time." WOOOW
It's ok to give up on some things... love this
I think I really needed to hear this today. to know that it is okay to quit something when it's absolutely draining you.
6 months ago I got a promotion, and man at first I was excited, but every single day of this job has taken me to the point of exhaustion. and every one keeps telling me don't give up, and the only reason I havent, is because it obviously supports me.
but it's only keeping me alive...it's definitely not making me feel alive
My favorite is the part about quitting!
Eliminate ideas that don’t bring you joy when you think of them. Quitting is a valuable skill
Great stuff. I believe it all starts with finding your FLOW. Something that you are good at. For me, it took at least 25 years of working to start realizing what I am good at. I am not yet 100% sure but at least I can say that I am 70-80% sure. I just need to push forward to learn and get better at connecting with people. I can see that I am starting to feel joy with what I do. I guess the joy and money will grow once you open the floodgates more to get the flow going.
This video gave me so much clarity and answered hard questions I've been trying to figure out. I'm at that stage where I'm experimenting with a lot of things I like, trying to narrow my focus. Thank you for making me feel like I'm not alone on this journey.
Marie your channel has completely changed my life, between you and Gary Ve, I feel so much more confident in myself, I feel like if I just keep moving forward, thing are going to work out for me. I'm a hard worker, I'm determined, dedicated and unique. My time will come and I'm making changes NOW.
yes! love the part about quiting! i know when I was a kid I constantly quit my hobbies to try out something else and my mom was getting frustrated, because she didn't want her daughter to be a quiter. But that way I was able to see all those different things! Later I studied Art history and I didn't quit but instead of becoming an Art Historian started to study Architecture (which I am still doing) and it gives me so much joy and passion! I am glad I did quit that path and try not to let that little voice in my head (whispering: quiter!) get me down.
I want to thank you two for this interview. The best part for me was when Chris said that we don't have to find our niche right away and narrow our focus in the beginning. I can't tell you how much weight was lifted off of my shoulders when you two discussed that. I am working on a healthy lifestyle blog that I created 6 months ago, and I wasn't sure if I should just post recipes or workouts. A healthy lifestyle includes both and it includes a healthy mind. I enjoy all aspects of this so I will continue to write articles about this and possibly narrow it down eventually. I am going to stay on this path, and I thank you guys for making me feel more confident about that decision :)
Go to Elizabeth Rider facebook page, she is a health coach and a friend of Maria and did BSchool
I am totally Multi-Passionate Too! Dancer, Choreographer, Coach, Entrepreneur, RUclipsr.
The framework:
"Is it working?
Do I enjoy it?"
This is actually very simple and true! I loved the simplicity of it, but the dificult part is to get it right and put in practice.
I loved 100$ Startup book, it actually helped me a lot in deciding to give an opportunity and become an entrepreneur out of the college, and it has been 4 years now :)
I'll be looking for Chris' last book in Brazil!
Thanks Marie Forleo and Chris Guillebeau!
I had the amazing opportunity to listen to Chris and meet him on Friday! He is so encouraging and has amazing advice. thank you @MarieForleo for this interview!
I discovered you this week, and this episode came at the perfect time of my life. Thank you.
I've been looking for this my whole life!!!!!
Thank you, Chris Guillebeau, and thank you, Marie, for bringing us such joy in learning these valuable things!!!!!
so glad this is one of the first videos I clicked on this morning! So much value and so much truth, that I can't express how happy I am to hear this in words alone. I thought I was the only one who thought like this because I feel as though it's rare to meet open-minded people. More than anything I want people to want what they want and be true to themselves. Having quit school this semester that made me think about all my friends. Some wanted to go to school, others are going because their parents want them to go, and others are going for a degree their parents want them to go instead of going to school for their passion. My advice is that they should just go for the thing they are passionate about and be straight honest with them. Worst case scenario their parents kick them out. and that brought on an idea 💡💡💡. What if their was a shelter for not only college students who run the ricks of experiencing the worst case scenario, and then some. A shelter for all ages, races, and walks of life who want to do what they want to do, but struggle because their parents, their religion, or society banished them to the wayside. I think that would be awesome. and the goal would be to not only give these people a roof over their heads, but help, encourage, and teach them how to survive and achieve the goals they set for themselves.
Do itttt I dare you. The shelter. It’s been 3 years. So who knows.
Thank you Marie team and Chris Guillebeau! We as entrepreneurs get so inspired by your work and follow you up closely whenever we need to load on confidence, creativity and inspiration for our own Training and Lifestyle business here in The Netherlands.!
The single biggest insight:
Learning that giving up what isn't working for the things that do work better is a way of growing within and also in business, trying all faces of your gifts as a person or in a team, believing that if you fail on one project you can still succeed on others and keep going, we now plan to be surprised at every turn!
Daniella Lopez.
I like hearing Chris say that you don't need to focus on one niche and try different things because you do hear the opposite. Chris' advice makes more sense.
The Joy | Money | Flow Mix. Priceless!
I get so excited when I see a new video from you. I read his first two books, so I am thrilled to see this interview. I took notes while watching. My biggest take-away is to ask "What work were you born to do?" Thanks!
Thank you for your well filmed piece. In light of that, I've literally had dozens of carers spanning 100+ jobs, and have created a number of businesses, yet I've quit maybe once or twice. I have however, transitioned, transformed, and traded through the majority. Yes, this may simply be semantics, however, the word “quit” in our culture, carries an emotional mass that may be too dense. Through all of this, the word that has held, and continues to hold the most power for me is decision. Decide!
I've been 100% sure I wanted to do marketing since the fist time I heared the word. I was about 12 and I remember people asking me "Are you sure?", and I just kew it. Now I'm almost 21 and I'm still 100% sure, what is a blessing. I hope when I get my first job I'd still be 100% sure.
Great video, inspiring, currently working on a career change and I realized watching to is video, that my fears are very common among people who are not satisfied with their careers
You're absolutely right, Hugo. Fear and doubt are normal when you're taking a big leap of faith - you're not alone! Keep going. We're rooting for you every step of the way. So proud of you. 💪💪
My greatest takeaway is its okay to expand my options and do everything you can to have alot of different experiences, as you become more successful and experienced you limit.
I think I took away the fact that these are different processes or techniques we use to uncover what our nature passions are. Then use that as your work. Thanks!
I loved this interview! I have been so stuck for a while. I make attempts and then realize I really don't want to do it, but then I beat myself up over the fact that I wasted that time or $$ trying things out. I feel relieved after getting this great advice!
This video was another piece of media that gives me hope not to give up doing what I love to do. Just added this book to my reading list, so I'm excited to dig a little deeper into my own self-awareness. Thanks Marie and Chris!
One thing that I have learned is, get past the guilt, shame, and disappointment that others may throw at you for leaving a job you no longer want to work at. It is not their life. It takes courage to not worry about upsetting others in order to have peace of mind, which in turn frees you to look at your options, and then pursue what is right for you.
Valuable advice! Yes, joy, money, and flow! 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Top tips. Experiment to find out what yields joy, money and flow while thinking like an entrepreneur.
The biggest thing I took from this is to try everything you want and then narrow it down from there. Quitting things to get to your favorite thing.
Try many thing to eliminate what's not right for you. I also love that it should be something you enjoy, has flow and profit!! #searching
Your comment about the liberation of quitting was fresh and spot on. I am constantly accused of being "career ADHD", but I never leave things unfinished or half-assed so that anecdote was very validating for me! I would appreciate more information on how to find my calling. Recommended activities, mindsets, etc. that could help me "bump into" my vocation a little faster.
Hey Kaeli, this is a while ago, but saw your comment and since you were one of the few that asked a follow up question about how else they could help... I'm wondering are there more specific/bite-size questions that you'd want those activities and tools to help answer?
It's ok to give up... I love this, a relieved
Do it, feel it and go with the flow that’s going to bring you money and jot and use that money to feed a part of your service.
I'm taking in the tip about "expanding your options and then eliminating them". I think that's what I've done for so many years, and in some way I still do (although I really love my job). I think it takes courage to quit, as you said, as well as it takes courage to allow things to evolve.
Ohh and the one about having the mindset of an entrepreneur even if you're not. that is HUGE.
Thank you! Great opening for the weekend.
Quitting is a skill. I think that for the first time I accepted my choice to quit my job because it was no longer what I wanted and started to breathe.
Great! I love all interviews with Chris, he's awesome. I love the idea of not forgetting that we need to enjoy what we do, it's easy to forget that when we focus on money. Thanks. Chris I love your shoes !!
Just fabulous training and ideas! Thank-you so much!!! LOVED the idea of "just giving up" on what doesn't work.
THANKS!!!!
Mike
It's so nice to hear you saying that it's a good thing to expand our options before to select the one thing which gives us joy, money and flow. I've always believed in that idea but still so many people around me don't understand that "concept", so i keep talking about that from time to time because i thing it's so important to give ouselves time to explore all the options and to find happiness in our work : ) Thank you for all those priceless videos : )
Really loved this episode! So good!!
"Take the courage to experiment."
Thank you both so much for this. I resonate with these ideas all the way. By my very nature, I passionately loved being diverse. I instinctively changed paths as I went along in my life, and trying out many things brought me great joy and great money and the freedom it gave me. The more I enjoyed the work, learned how to do it well put me in a constant state of flow and focus and as a result, inner and outer growth. Helen
Try different things.
It's okay to quit.
Keep trying and don't settle.
I loved to hear that it was OK to be multi passionate. I have too many interests to just pursue one. I love all of my babies equally. Lol.
quitting is a valuable skill - it takes courage
My biggest take away is that its okay to quit something you are good at when you just don't feel its what you're meant to do. I feel so blessed to be working a job where my boss acknowledges my capabilities and would give me the level up. However, I am not happy and it took alot of courage to say I want to find something that Im meant to do when a lot of people would want to be in my position. but thats okay. We ought to be doing something that inspires us instead of living from paycheck to paycheck.
Love what you do...you then just inspire!
This video couldn't have come at a better time! Xx thank you so much! I have recently quit an idea I have been following for years and I have been grieving that path now and looking to move on.
It's just me 're-arranging my puzzle peices'. That thing is now in the hobbies category and I am moving forward with exploring my options. I also am similar to you Marie, I dance, sing, act, teach yoga, and my day job is Barbering and I love spirituality and the concept of being a life coach. I also have a large interest in the human body and its mechanics, I'll be looking to going to uni for the first time in 2020 at the age of 29 by then. Wish me luck! Eeeeeeep lol
Nick William's wrote the Work We Were Born To Do in 1999, which is incredible. Sounds much like his ideas. He speaks of having a portfolio career, doing more than one thing you love. Each chapter helps you ask the valuable questions on money, creativity etc Has guided me a few times to make some realignments to my working life.
He says his "s" really hard but very informative and opened my aspirations going into work this morning!!
"You miss 100% of the shots you don't take". love it
Don't labour a dead horse. Change to a labour of love!
I love how you guys both agree on when to pursue things and when to move on. Right now I'm trying to figure out if my idea of starting a data analytics company will work out. I want to help people to see how analytics could help them in being successful. I just started a blog to generate ideas and feedback from my followerers on what they think is in demand. In this way I can gauge an idea of where i stand with my current passion and where there is a need in the market. Thanks for the great video Marie!
A great interview with lots of golden nuggets of wisdom, which makes your question a hard one Marie!
Ok, I think the biggest insight for me is having 'joy', 'money' and 'flow' in what you do. It makes so much sense. I have found my passion as a property investor which currently provides me with joy and money. I am now working hard to get more experience for the 'flow'. Thanks :)
Perfect timing! I can't wait to read the book.
Suuuch a great episode, Marie.
Thank you, am really inspired, many valid points were mentioned, the concept of never giving up, and the multi-passionate person, me myself came through all of this and I was searching for this one path to discover then that am good at more than one thing and I enjoy all of them, so I started to find a bigger umbrella to unite all my passions! Thank you :)
Sometimes the most valuable action that we can take is to quit.
PDR - Plan Do Review.
To quit or not to quit is often discovered in the review.
Quiting can prove to be a positive ROI in the full scheme of our journey to our life's destiny.
LOVE this interview and all those “nuggets of wisdom.”!
I love everything in this video!
OMG!!! Thank you so much Marie!! I finally got my answer to success!!
Thank you so much for this. I really needed the encouragement. I am pretty new at this whole being a grown up thing and so far I am finding it insanely hard.