I am so glad to hear that someone won't live the next 40 years of their life just thinking they are 'weird', or 'lazy' ... you will still struggle, but you are armed with knowledge! Good for you :) I got diagnosed at 51.
@@nikkynft4694thanks for the support man, I'm taking it in steps. At first I found it so difficult just to be 'normal' (by that I mean like my friends and people around me that don't have ADHD) but I'm working on it, and getting used to it and forgetting about my diagnosis is my next goal. It's taken a lot of time to even get to where I am right now, but I'm trying my best!
@@nikkynft4694 Thanks man, I'm trying my best. It's taken a long time to get to the mindset I have with my ADHD, and it hasn't been an easy journey, mostly because of the people I'm surrounded by not understanding the differences between me and them. I've been working on myself and trying to figure out how to feel 'normal' (by this I mean the same as the people that are around me) but I know it isn't right to try and fit in when I can't. I guess it'll just take some time for me to get used to it, so I can forget about it and just be me around others and not have any hindrances. Thanks for the motivation though!
@Cynthiamesser1251 - I am 48 yrs. old and was treated the same way. The struggle is real, but here I am continuing to push on. Keep at it and try your best to ignore the criticism. Those who place judgment onto others are miserable, imo.
A really good saying I once heard/read: Imagine everybody has to carry 100 marbles. Everyone got a backpack to put them in but people with ADHD don’t. So while everyone else can do the things they’re said to, people with ADHD trying as hard as they can to carry them marbles. Once they’re diagnosed and getting treated for the ADHD they get a backpack too, but it’s old and full of holes which means that everything still takes longer.
Healthy Gamer (DrK) made an analogy like that once, but with shells instead of marbles. That mind shift is so helpful. (The backpack can also be journaling, sunshine, exercise, etc, not just meds)
@@handle1196I think for many people adhd meds do work well. They are no magical pills which remove all bad things about adhd though, it’s more like support. You still have most of the same problems but less noticeable or at least more manageable (in my personal experience anyway).
This is so true. A normal job made me feel I wasn't accomplishing anything. I'm really creative and have to make and design. So I decided to be a jewellery designer full time and in my spare time I love DIY. Working from home I can choose what I want to do with my day. Whatever makes me happiest. I now supply over 20 stores with my jewellery I'm still undiagnosed.
YES! I got diagnosed with adhd as an adult but something that I still remember from my childhood, was my mom telling me I wasn’t trying hard enough- which I was! Fast forward to me taking something in uni I was actually interested in, I did much better.
I know this feeling so bad. Sometimes it's like you give your best but everyone else doesn't see. After sometime I started to give myself dopamine kicks if I'm not willing to do something. For example music while doing it or a Reward afterwards. It helps me very much to do things
I just got told by a doctor today to "finally kick my own ass to structure my day properly". Therefore I am grateful for this video, reminding me of how my ADHD brain works😅
One can help your brain with music, interest, coaching to yourself and connect with nature, movement..this is what i learned to do throughout my life. If i have good sleep i can manage. Please dont take this as non-validation...just personal experience, over 50, ..can relate to these videos..
Yes . Evryoane is blaming me that I am not doing anything and I even not trying , amd me knowing how heavy I am doing evrything , and just one God know hpw much work I am doing in this direction . Last week I cried badly someone again told that I am not trying to do . And I am doing more than anyoane else I know
It's not true. At ALL. You have a wrong job, bro. They should tell you to find a job that makes you excited, and you will never feel like a failure, never ever again.
Untreated and undiagnosed ADHD + child trauma has ruined my life. Now I'm in a state where I'm barely able to leave my room/apartment, I'm broke, I can't even get myself to the doctor/psychiatrist to get a diagnosis. Every day is the day I'm thinking about ending it all, because my dream has always been to help others and give things away, but I can't even help myself, and have nothing to give away. Please don't do what I did, and get yourself to a psychiatrist ASAP if you think something is wrong with you, even if the symptoms are minor.
That's one thing about adhd, so hard to do your own chores but when at someone else's place, wants to do it all! You still can definitely help others, you are giving them your help and company and sometimes that's all anyone needs.
It'll take long time, probably. It's actually even a phase if I understood Dr K There's a moment in life where you be like I'm done, out, move out, clear your head, try different things. Mine ended too early I think back at parents basement can't do shit again.
@@justineczarnobyl9987 catch is the salary on set job :) RIP. Love and hate my current job and if I go for something 100%, yeah salary drops twofold :/ YAY market value...
Just think through why do you do this job, what it gives etc every minor detail. It's funny when I went to health check up and they ask work hazards... I'm like none. You do work on PC, right? yes? So you have screentime hazard, eyesores.... dealing with customers, plague hazard etc. The problem is figuring out the minor details, for example I like to assist people with PC fixing, but don't understand why sometimes I'm like, yup let me take a look at it and other times nah, not this time. Just recently 1h before closing some dude came in was like PC didn't read the new SSD meanwhile I start the machine it bootlooped instead and I was like well shit :/ Whole ordeal took an hour, hopefully the pc stayed working. WTF was wrong with me, we're basically closed and I was like let me see that shit didn't even ask what he specifically wants and I didn't even ask for money, just fixed it and hoped he didn't steal anything from store. Time insentive? 1h to fix, perhaps.
It has taken me 51 years to find out I have adhd. Got bullied, at school, and at home. Had domestic violence all my life and so many suicide attempts. Jesus called me and now I don't care anymore because He loves me just the way God made me. Roll on when I go home to my King Jesus.
Is there a way to get your 50 life lessons in a folder so I can access them for my partner and not search through your amazing and incredibly extensive video library?
Just a suggestion, when paying bills be happy for the electricity that has allowed you to live in comfort, the water to drink and shower, the gas to cook, the rent to give you shelter. Now if you can come up with something to help me with doing housework, I’d be really grateful hahaha.
Me, constantly burnt out from working at a 9-5 job that i hate so i can live 👀 how tf am i supposed to make it so I want to do this? Im sorry but this doesn't feel like very helpful advice
Does anyone w ADHD not really cared about sex and would feel like something was wrong with you, since you couldn't get your brain to shut up. I dunno how to explain it while ones hundred things are on my mind
Bro as a teen with adhd, your videos have helped me cope with the differences that i see between myself and people around me
I am so glad to hear that someone won't live the next 40 years of their life just thinking they are 'weird', or 'lazy' ... you will still struggle, but you are armed with knowledge! Good for you :) I got diagnosed at 51.
@@wdoyle73amen to all of that. I just got referred for evaluation. I'm 69. A lifetime of not fitting in. But still, knowledge is power.
Don’t cope, get good, cover the gap between you and others, no excuses
@@nikkynft4694thanks for the support man, I'm taking it in steps. At first I found it so difficult just to be 'normal' (by that I mean like my friends and people around me that don't have ADHD) but I'm working on it, and getting used to it and forgetting about my diagnosis is my next goal. It's taken a lot of time to even get to where I am right now, but I'm trying my best!
@@nikkynft4694 Thanks man, I'm trying my best. It's taken a long time to get to the mindset I have with my ADHD, and it hasn't been an easy journey, mostly because of the people I'm surrounded by not understanding the differences between me and them. I've been working on myself and trying to figure out how to feel 'normal' (by this I mean the same as the people that are around me) but I know it isn't right to try and fit in when I can't. I guess it'll just take some time for me to get used to it, so I can forget about it and just be me around others and not have any hindrances. Thanks for the motivation though!
“Trying to run a marathon in sand” -bro, you described it perfectly. I feel like this every morning.
If only it hadn't taken me 50yrs since high school to know why I struggled so hard and was criticized so much 😢
42 and thinking the same thing!
60 and yer 😊 it’s been a bloody hard slog
57yrs old. Boy, normal things are so hard to do!
@Cynthiamesser1251 - I am 48 yrs. old and was treated the same way. The struggle is real, but here I am continuing to push on. Keep at it and try your best to ignore the criticism. Those who place judgment onto others are miserable, imo.
I'm right there with you. Being criticized for 60 plus years is rough on your esteem. And I'm left handed to boot.
A really good saying I once heard/read:
Imagine everybody has to carry 100 marbles. Everyone got a backpack to put them in but people with ADHD don’t. So while everyone else can do the things they’re said to, people with ADHD trying as hard as they can to carry them marbles. Once they’re diagnosed and getting treated for the ADHD they get a backpack too, but it’s old and full of holes which means that everything still takes longer.
Healthy Gamer (DrK) made an analogy like that once, but with shells instead of marbles. That mind shift is so helpful. (The backpack can also be journaling, sunshine, exercise, etc, not just meds)
So adhd medication doesn't work well?
@@handle1196I think for many people adhd meds do work well. They are no magical pills which remove all bad things about adhd though, it’s more like support. You still have most of the same problems but less noticeable or at least more manageable (in my personal experience anyway).
@@handle1196It depends on the person, and usually it works best in combination with other strategies
@@handle1196 I took Ritalin for a few years and it helped from the outside but it made my brain slower somehow and I felt like a robot.
This is so true. A normal job made me feel I wasn't accomplishing anything. I'm really creative and have to make and design. So I decided to be a jewellery designer full time and in my spare time I love DIY. Working from home I can choose what I want to do with my day. Whatever makes me happiest. I now supply over 20 stores with my jewellery
I'm still undiagnosed.
You are absolutely amazing for sharing your experience and helping others along the way. 👍🏽
YES! I got diagnosed with adhd as an adult but something that I still remember from my childhood, was my mom telling me I wasn’t trying hard enough- which I was! Fast forward to me taking something in uni I was actually interested in, I did much better.
Omg. Darn dopamine.
Thank you
I know this feeling so bad. Sometimes it's like you give your best but everyone else doesn't see. After sometime I started to give myself dopamine kicks if I'm not willing to do something. For example music while doing it or a Reward afterwards. It helps me very much to do things
You are helping me so much. You should write a book or ebook with everything that you learned about ADHD and how to manage it.
I just got told by a doctor today to "finally kick my own ass to structure my day properly". Therefore I am grateful for this video, reminding me of how my ADHD brain works😅
One can help your brain with music, interest, coaching to yourself and connect with nature, movement..this is what i learned to do throughout my life. If i have good sleep i can manage. Please dont take this as non-validation...just personal experience, over 50, ..can relate to these videos..
Yes . Evryoane is blaming me that I am not doing anything and I even not trying , amd me knowing how heavy I am doing evrything , and just one God know hpw much work I am doing in this direction . Last week I cried badly someone again told that I am not trying to do . And I am doing more than anyoane else I know
When food is bland, you can either spoil it or make it spicier. Same with boring things. Make em ... spicy...
You have a soothing voice
yes! 50th one! we made it! i’ve been dying to finally check that
Being like this in a.d.d is a hassle. I can't concentrate without meds and I have a hassle trying to concentrate even after taking the meds.
Truth!!!
Wow awesome info!
Thank y so much for your videos. Very helpful ❤🙏🏻
thank you
This is why I stopped trying 😂 I need to get diagnosed
yes you do… it changed my life
It's not true. At ALL. You have a wrong job, bro. They should tell you to find a job that makes you excited, and you will never feel like a failure, never ever again.
Untreated and undiagnosed ADHD + child trauma has ruined my life. Now I'm in a state where I'm barely able to leave my room/apartment, I'm broke, I can't even get myself to the doctor/psychiatrist to get a diagnosis.
Every day is the day I'm thinking about ending it all, because my dream has always been to help others and give things away, but I can't even help myself, and have nothing to give away.
Please don't do what I did, and get yourself to a psychiatrist ASAP if you think something is wrong with you, even if the symptoms are minor.
That's one thing about adhd, so hard to do your own chores but when at someone else's place, wants to do it all! You still can definitely help others, you are giving them your help and company and sometimes that's all anyone needs.
If you have adhd and also depression you dont enjoy enything so there's no inrerest in anything 😭
What if you can't figure out what you want?
It'll take long time, probably. It's actually even a phase if I understood Dr K
There's a moment in life where you be like I'm done, out, move out, clear your head, try different things. Mine ended too early I think back at parents basement can't do shit again.
Kinda off topic but I made the likes 1K I feel so happy lolll
Well - here’s the thing - paying debt will never be stimulating - consequences of late diagnosis - not much hope 🤷♂️
This has gotten worse. Opiates seemed to help like crazy. Now, on top of that I have had another monkey on my back. Oh mi! This made me cry
How do you do this 'build interest' for holding down a job?
You don't. You change the job to one, that makes you excited.
@@justineczarnobyl9987Yes, we have to feel excited daily and the best way is to be self employed.
@@justineczarnobyl9987 catch is the salary on set job :) RIP. Love and hate my current job and if I go for something 100%, yeah salary drops twofold :/ YAY market value...
Just think through why do you do this job, what it gives etc every minor detail. It's funny when I went to health check up and they ask work hazards... I'm like none. You do work on PC, right? yes? So you have screentime hazard, eyesores.... dealing with customers, plague hazard etc. The problem is figuring out the minor details, for example I like to assist people with PC fixing, but don't understand why sometimes I'm like, yup let me take a look at it and other times nah, not this time. Just recently 1h before closing some dude came in was like PC didn't read the new SSD meanwhile I start the machine it bootlooped instead and I was like well shit :/ Whole ordeal took an hour, hopefully the pc stayed working. WTF was wrong with me, we're basically closed and I was like let me see that shit didn't even ask what he specifically wants and I didn't even ask for money, just fixed it and hoped he didn't steal anything from store.
Time insentive? 1h to fix, perhaps.
Just thinking I could earn money to get meds, go to a psychiatrist, and buy foods for my two cats.
Yes just... I need to pay the bills and keep my house...
It has taken me 51 years to find out I have adhd.
Got bullied, at school, and at home. Had domestic violence all my life and so many suicide attempts.
Jesus called me and now I don't care anymore because He loves me just the way God made me.
Roll on when I go home to my King Jesus.
Hi! Praise God for your faith in our Blessed Lord 🙏😊
Is there a way to get your 50 life lessons in a folder so I can access them for my partner and not search through your amazing and incredibly extensive video library?
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I hate paying bills and doing housework😅
Just a suggestion, when paying bills be happy for the electricity that has allowed you to live in comfort, the water to drink and shower, the gas to cook, the rent to give you shelter. Now if you can come up with something to help me with doing housework, I’d be really grateful hahaha.
@@sharlesb7735 I usually sing a happy song and the woodland creatures come and help
Me, constantly burnt out from working at a 9-5 job that i hate so i can live 👀 how tf am i supposed to make it so I want to do this? Im sorry but this doesn't feel like very helpful advice
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Ja ich will aber nichts machen
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happen😢
How tho?????
I have ADD SOMEONE HELP 😭😭..IN SUFFERING Y'ALL
Please be first
What about ADHD and sex? Or ADHD and (having) children
Does anyone w ADHD not really cared about sex and would feel like something was wrong with you, since you couldn't get your brain to shut up. I dunno how to explain it while ones hundred things are on my mind