As a foster mom that has taken in two newborns from the hospital, I can tell you the moment I held both of the babies for the first time, I loved them (and continue to love them) just as much as I love my biological son.
For real. You see it almost hit those two monsters in the face. They realized during her testimony what it meant to truly love a child, and they never did.
You always hear bad stories about foster parents just getting kids for the money; but in this case, this woman and her husband seem like they truly loved the children under their foster care. It's so sad that the baby wasn't allowed to stay with her.
@@vernonclayson2193 second chances for these kind of people should not exist. No one followed up , they should have never left the baby in their care, that's an easy decision.
“He liked to be held at all times when he wasn’t asleep” my god that just broke my heart. I bet his foster mom would have held him for months and months straight if that’s what Dylan wanted. Shame on everyone who helped put this baby back in the clutches of these monsters.
@@Barzins1 I held my daughter for just a few minutes, before I began haemorrhaging from the trauma of the birth. I was transfused for 48 hours and sedated. When I was taken off sedatives, I couldn't see my baby in the room. I went crazy and accused the staff of putting her up for adoption. They calmed me down and wheeled her in. The relief I felt was overwhelming. That rush of love I felt when she was born came back instantly. I was in hospital for 8 days and never took my eyes off her. These parents put drugs before their child's wellbeing. I don't understand why he was given to them.
She can't use her drug addiction for an excuse because I watched a video on RUclips of some street worker and Asian lady she was a street worker beautiful woman .turned her baby into the fire hall because you're allowed to do that you're not going to get in trouble you don't get in trouble you drop baby off and you leave you should watch that story it's absolutely tear jerking but for a street worker to be loaded on dope and have a child and turn that child in so make sure that child is safe this thing has no excuse.
And that is the reason why his mother hurt him as she did, bc he kept crying when he was awake and she lost her nerves when she was high or on withdrawal. I don't even wanna know how she threw him around in anger. Unbelievable what that poor little baby had to go through, he had a good place and was loved, but they ripped him away. And for what?😡😡😡
I had her as a teacher. She was by far one of the best teachers I’ve ever had. I was absolutely heartbroken when I saw how she was during this whole situation.
It takes a very special person to teach 2nd graders especially with such patience and compassion. I only wish my son has this kind of teacher. You’re absolutely lucky and it shows just how much you adore this precious woman.
The parents don’t care about any of this training as they are too guilt ridden, angry and drug deprived. It is a very very complex event.20+ years as a drug exposed baby RN.
I don't want the government telling healthy, well adjusted people how to care for their children. BUT. a baby, born addicted?? Those parents need all the classes and drug treatments before ever getting a baby back. Disgusting.
Yep, I totally agree. I had read more information about this case on Google and part of the article did mention that this Child Services in Ohio, mishandled baby Dylan's case and whoever was in charge, didn't do the right protocol procedures to keep baby Dylan away from his parents. The mom, Jessica was tested positive with meth in her system the day she gave birth to Dylan, so he was born with meth in his system. This foster mom was actually more than upset that Child Services told her she has to give the baby back to the father, Daniel, he already had a criminal record and did drugs too. All I've ever heard is that Child Services say they're always overwhelmed with thousands of cases, in each state. Not everyone can handle working with a overload of cases of each employee, some quit because it's just too much, stressful and can even be an emotional roller coaster because these employees are told to basically take short cuts just to get a kid in someone's custody and they go on to the next case. Also, too many young girls, young women are on drugs, abused, take no responsibility after having a baby, getting arrested multiple times, other foster parents just want the money they receive that's for the child but they pocket the money for their personal use and a lot of foster parents are abusive too... Not this lady, she's an Angel! But children get sent to several foster homes in one year up until they're 18 years old. And some of those kids grow up feeling messed up, depressed and turn to drugs and alcohol because of the abuse they endured. But the Child Services doesn't do anything to make things better with the system. And that's what baby Dylan was, let down by those parents and the system, even their son who was 14 at the time, was taken away and sent to foster care, I'm glad he was one of the witnesses who was able to take the stand against his parents.. R.I.P. baby Dylan
The actual parents failed this child, CPS maybe failed to step in when it was necessary?, but there is no doubt, that these two monsters doomed that little life from the beginning, with their drink & drugs, and set forth a chain of horrific events that they should BOTH die for, no question. Sentence was far too lenient IMO.
@@BS-dq1kz my adopted mother described her. She had me for three months, from the hospital to my adoptive mother's arms. I wish i knew more because looking at my coming home pictures, i was so content and happy. She took good care of me. ❤
that is really wild when you think of it. to burn every single vacation day on the spot. hopefully would have received some sort of maternity leave or whatever after, as she said she intended to take off longer. still, amazing.
Teachers that have worked a long time often bank a lot of time, and if I’m not wrong, flma can kick in as well. When I was 18, in college, I had my first son, and my mom who was a teacher took six months out of work to help me take care of him. We needed it, because he cried and cried and cried so much. It took his dad, myself and my mom caring for him to even be able to get enough sleep to halfway function. Surprisingly that didn’t prevent me from having anymore children.
I know it’s heart breaking. I hope she continued to foster babies/kids after this. I sure hope this traumatic event didn’t change her mind and heart about fostering. He’s her guardian angel now.
My Purest Prayer is that God, Jesus, 🛐 Our Holy Mother Mary Took Sweet Dylan and his Soul to Heaven well before any pain to his physical body.🙏🏼 🌺Ms. Bowling is sent 🕊by God to fulfill 💗His Holy Plan💗 💖Your Love is💖 🥀Amazing🥀
“His Mamaroo.” That’s a special baby rocker that gently swags from side to side and is known to soothe babies who are weaning from addictive substances. This lady loved Dylan with her whole heart.
Only a mother remembers exactly how much her baby weighed :( this poor poor woman :( she deserved that little boy, and he deserved so much more than he was given
It is a shame I honestly hadn't really considered dylan was sooo close to growing up with a mom who absolutely loved him....that makes it even that much more tragic.
Why the hell would CPS take the baby from a loving nurturing environment and hand deliver him to the chaotic residence of these two known drug addicts? After all...the baby was born addicted.
My name isn't Vern Clayson. I'm Sandra Schulzkump. Vern was my Dad. Anyway~ I have a degree in social work. The #1 priority that sends kids like this to the drug addicts is "keep the family together. " The system needs to change so that all the procedures and protocols say KEEP THE CHILD ALIVE AND WELL~ stop the family together crap that prevades every tricking thing done in these cases..,
@@Gilliebeany This child was "united" with a family that loved and wanted him...could raise in a nurturing...healthy environment. How many times do these scenarios have to repeat themselves before CPS "gets it"? That is the problem I am having.
Because all the foster mom can think about is all of the milestones he could've met, and who he would've become. All the "parents" can think about is prison. Selfish to the end.
Because they put Dylan in a crate. With 18 rocks. 3 locks. Zipties and 6 layers of wrapping of duct tape and plastic. Then threw off the well. And thats how they can be there. Theyre cold blooded
@@belindabaker4185 I understand your point, fully, believe me, I have seen some horrible things. We're women though. She a disgrace. I'm tired of ppl using drugs, or mental illness for excuses. They have moments of " surreal" lack of a better word. She's a pos.
I don't care for that bio mother at all. I don't think it's just the drugs. There are people that are addicts that still have a heart & would never hurt & or kill a baby. I think she's a mean person. She did seem annoyed & also I noticed her smirking at certain times! It's terrible! Then I think of the Rosenbaum case & those 2 little girls would have been better off with their bio mom & cps could have gotten the mom help. Instead they gave those 2 sweethearts to that wicked-evil monster that abused both & killed one. Cps is a ridiculous, nasty system & there are many MANY people that consider cps to be a child trafficking ring. It's so sad!!!! This foster mother Is AMAZING & she should have had baby Dylan for longer. The cps workers gave him back after 12 days. Out of everyone in the baby's life, his foster mother seemed to love & care about his well being more than everyone else combined! If he was still with the foster mother, he would be ALIVE & thriving. Why did the parents even fight to get him back?
@@goldierule1350 You wanna bet for more money in her welfare check, & food stamps. That's why she fought to get him back. Look at both of them. Would you give them jobs? I wouldn't. More kids, more welfare monies, & that leads to having more money for drugs. Dylan never mattered to either of them. He was a dollar sign. I thought that very same thing. If the foster mother still had him, he'd be alive today How many more kids have to die, before cps realizes they're signing those childrens' death warrant. Just cause they got pregnant, had the baby in their stomachs for 9 months, doesn't make her a " mom, or a mother " All the case workers should be let go, stripped of 'degrees' served jail sentences.
When asked if baby Dylan had drug withdrawals I couldn't stop crying. Arms shaking, legs jerking, wanting to be held whenever he's awake....it hurts me so so much. When my babies wake up I will hold, kiss, laugh and hug them. For baby Dylan.. For baby Dylan 💞 👼
Look at how different the moms cry...the foster mom is truly heartbroken! That's how a real mother cries at the loss of their baby! I can't stop crying!
My thoughts EXACTLY! Her emotion is so genuine and she is heartbroken for the baby. The bio Mom cries about herself, the old "poor me" act. She wants to be the victim so badly is disgusting!
Oh yes the monster mother was definitely crying....but for herself! That’s why she could stop herself when it came to yelling at the prosecutor during her cross examination. I definitely blame this mother and father...BUT...I blame our system even more! Our system is broken and outdated
People need more than 12 days to get off hard drugs and get their lives together. Minimum 6 months should be a federal requisite for any child born with hard drugs in their system.
Even if she got money from it... I would dare say its not enough to cover the cost of all she bought, some of those things can get really expensive, and she GAVE THEM TO THE PARENTS, not even asked the parents if they needed them, she only wanted to know how dylan would grow and loved him as her own child
This kills me.. I have twin two month old foster babies. I've had them since their first week bc of the same things and both parents abandoned them. I'm praying and hoping they don't come back and take my loves..
@@veronicam2159 I would if I could. Trust me but foster parents have no rights to our littles even if we have had them from birth. They will be going to their fathers ex girlfriend and we don't like it but have no chance of winning our case and if we do fight DCS will shut us down for going against them. that's just how the system works. It's a terrible system but I can't stop for now knowing there are littles out there that will only know love from us taking them for a little while.
Exactly, i have been clean 13yrs and 12days is not enough time to do detox plus IOP..or any other recovery...But the sperm donor was getting his other son's urine to pass the test..
The person that made the decision to return Dylan to his drug addict parents, should be fired. They are in the wrong line of work. No discernment whatsoever. Dylan was being loved and cared for in foster care and he’s returned, only to be found dead in the bottom of a well. Heartbreaking and absolutely could have been prevented!!! This is unacceptable. God please change the system. 🤦♀️☹️🤬
God can't change the system only a revolution would or civil war.its not like our government doesn't know it's broken it would take all the little people
My wife and I took a baby into our lives when he was 6 months old. He's now nearly 10. We spent years going through the courts with CPS. Although we have our own kids that are grown up adults now our little boy is with me. He's such a caring, boy, exceptionally witty and very well loved and cared for. My heart absolutely bleeds for Ms Bowling. She clearly loved little Dylan.
Any woman can grow a child in her womb. It takes a special woman to grow one in her 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭. That’s EXACTLY what this sweet lady did for Dylan. Family isn’t measured by 𝐛𝐥𝗼𝗼𝐝; it’s measured by 𝐥𝗼𝐯𝐞. SHE was his mom in every way that mattered. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@ Andrea Bowling, if you ever read this comment, please know that you did everything that you could do to save this child, and baby Dylan is looking down on you from Heaven - and God is proud of the love that you gave to this baby!!! Please do not feel guilty for giving the child back to CPS to give to his drug-driven parents when you disagreed with the decision of the state! Andrea, I am sorry for your pain, your loss of your foster son (you were the best mother that Dylan could have); I am sorry for your heartache, & discomfort! God is with you! May God comfort your heart and give you peace! Much love & respect to you! 💜
You reached out & said exactly what I was thinking, @Andrea Bowling, if you do see this, thank you for showing that little man the love he deserved, if only for a short time, you did your best xx
I feel totally the same. Dylan knew true love in your care, he was loved and nurtured by you. I would say every person seeing these videos has nothing but the utmost respect for you as do I. I am so sorry for your loss and just know your grief is felt the world over. Xxx
My heart broke when she said she took off 12 days but she wanted to take more days off work and she started to cry. I'm sure the "what ifs" hit her hard. I'm so glad dylan got to experience love from a real mom.
While everyone else was filled with anger and the desire to maul those 2 demons, this lady was overflowing with sadness and the wish that she could have saved baby Dylan's life. That's love.
She knew. The way the foster mother described how she handed Dylan over to his father, describing each of his belongings as if they were the most precious things in the world because HE was the most precious thing in the world, it tells me she knew she was handing this baby that she loved over to his eventual murderers and there wasn't a thing she could do about it. I can't even begin to imagine the kind of pain and fear and guilt that woman was feeling at that moment. It must have been intolerable.
Agreed... This baby should never have been reunited.... Or _at least_ not until things had proven over an EXTENDED period of time, that the birth Mother would stay clean. It was crazy how quickly they reunited this little baby. I really feel that the "system" should also be held accountable.
@@PipenFalzy Really?!? A baby that you personally knew (even if for a few days) is brutally murdered by the people who are supposed to love him most; knowing he'd be still alive if you were still fostering him. Would you be all cheerful talking about him in court?
Oh Lord, when she said “I told them if I could be involved... to maybe let me know milestones he reached”.. that hurt. I hope she can heal from this. I know the pain will never leave fully, but I hope she finds comfort knowing that Dylan definitely knew she loved him and he’s watching her from heaven
I will have to say the cameraman is very respectful when she needs a minute to collect herself, the judge is so kind also, he knows when it’s been pushed too far. Bless all those who were effected by such a monstrous act.
24:04... When she tries to say his name while looking at his picture... my heart just broke for her... Thank you mama for being strong and testifying for Dylan. 💔
This testimony was painful to listen to and also watching the foster mother break down was heart wrenching. She suspected this child was in danger and it killed her to hand him over. May God bless her and grant her peace.
Dylan was given back to the wrong mother and it should have been Ms Bowling all along. He would have been a healthy 1 hr old at this time. So heartbroken for her
As a child care provider myself, it is so easy to love a baby and to get attach to one. I can't imagine how she felt to have to give him back and then learn that he was murdered.
I dont care what anyone says, this foster mama was Dylan's mama. She lost her baby boy on March 28th. His life was short and brutally unfair. May he find peace in death.
@@c.2538 Well, he went through withdrawal for the first couple years. Drug effects are rarely permanent. What really caused suffering the worst was the alcohol - he had learning disabilities and struggles a bit socially now. His speech center was so damaged he talked like a baby and he was almost 4. A good speech pathologist helped him heal and he has normal speech now. Get support early if you take a baby that has been exposed to alcohol. It makes all the difference in the world.
@@c.2538 drug withdrawals in a baby can last up to a few months. They will be restless and crankier than other babies. Although alot of babies will be over withdrawals before leaving the hospital.
@@c.2538 drug withdrawals are detected after the first 3 days. It depends on what drugs and how much. But yes, like what was mentioned, alcohol is probably the worst.
@@c.2538 One of my siblings was born addicted and he's the most stable, intelligent, and healthiest one of us 4 who were adopted. Being born addicted isn't a life sentence 🙌
After my parents divorced which was terrible of course I was 12 years old my father married a woman from Pike County Ohio which is down in Southern Ohio not far from where these folks are. My stepmother was all about the Bible going to church on Sundays and Wednesdays and she took care of infants and the elderly, she did a lot of community service. This woman really reminds me of my step-mom. God bless her heart she just passed away a year and a half ago. I'm almost sixty now. She was perfect for my father. She loved my father as he was and provided a great life for him.
That's what I'm saying too....very awkward and seems like they don't know what they want to ask or what their strategy is. Did they really go to law school??? I would not be happy if they were my attorney.....
As awful as this is for Andrea Bowling, it is good to know that that little boy was loved and nurtured by someone during his short sojourn on this earth. Blessings to her and her family.
Are you? Do you think it's rather odd that baby Dylan somehow fit into a milk crate with 18 large rocks, tons of plastic wrap and duct tape, an anchor and not one but 2 blankets etc? Is that just a little odd? Milk crates are not big enough for all of that. Then when his mother testified she didn't potentially know the real details of how the baby was killed. Maybe her confession was literally saying what CPS wanted her to say not to take the other child or children and place them in a home so abusive an abusive home of origin sounds great. I'm skeptical of the state's story because it does not rationally add up.
Omg I feel so awful for this foster mom. I'm sure she believes that he would be alive today if she still had him in her care... Jessica is a very sick and twisted person, drugs or no drugs
Your right. I know mothers on drugs that are gentle amd over compensate for the guilt they feel when caring for their children. She is a poor excuse for a human. Poor foster mother.
Exactly! I really feel that even without drugs, she would still be a monster! There are so many different stories about good people that become addicts for various reasons & they are not evil people. I believe that jessica was most likely an awful person even before using drugs!
💔💔💔 she gave him a bible. What a loving woman. What a blessing she is to so many families and children. God bless you and all you do Mrs. Bowling. You are doing the Lords work. You are a beautiful inspiring woman. I’m sorry your heart is so broken. Praying for you
Nice to see this little boy had at least 12 days of warm , loving, consistent , appropriate care during his short life. Bless this woman and her service . 🌹
Dylan deserved that motherly love and her warm heart as his mother. My heart absolutely breaks for her. You can tell she truly cared for that baby as if he were her own 😭
This poor foster Mom will carry this pain forever. I hope she understands how much she did for baby Dylan even if it were only 12 days. Bless you for being his mama if only for a short time. 💔🙏
THAT WOMAN IS THE ONLY PERSON CRYING FOR THAT CHILD!! Oh my god! The parents didn’t shed a tear during her testimony of his withdrawal. Wooow. Wowowowow
Only *Twelve* *Days* to determine the parents fit?! CPS needs to revamp their guidelines. I don't see how these ppl even passed a drug test in *TWELVE* *DAYS*
Their older son gave the father his urine because the father asked him for it. Im assuming they went in to the bathroom with them because thats just policy and standard in cps cases, so somehow he managed to pull it off. Then if im not mistaken, the mother didn't pass any drug tests, so the baby was given to the father, and the mother wasn't suppose to be staying there. The father, of course, let her stay there because #1 i think she wore the pants in the relationship and he just did whatever she wanted or what she said, and #2 he worked and needed her to keep the baby. I havent seen all the videos of this trial yet and I've not seen them completely in order, but I believe that's what has been said so far from what I have seen. The son was around 13 or 14 when the father asked him for his urine, and he testified in court and was 15 at the time of his testimony. He admitted that his dad asked for him to pee in a cup for him and give it to him.
Dear god the baby was with someone who cared and they gave him back to two monsters the coroner said that poor child had broken bones everywhere in his tiny body if they left him with this loveing foster mom he wouldnt have been broken and thrown away like garbage.
I was signed up & going through the training to be a foster mom w/ the FULL & COMPLETE understanding that re-unification is the ultimate goal. During training, we were told that there are & will be instances when a child may be harmed or unalived even. Still I wanted to move forward with/ training, be my best self to try & help w/ kids. During my own training it became very apparent to me that CPS/CFS/DCFS/DFS, etc. is often the part of the process that "drops the ball" w/ these kids. I understand they become overwhelmed, short-staffed, too much going on w/ 1 case, etc. So I decided that if the agency isn't doing their part to ensure the safety of kids in the system, how am I going to be able to count on their support if needed? In the end I decided that I don't think I could handle it if a child was harmed/unalived after being w/ me for awhile so I decided against being a foster mom. IMO, the system is what is killing the desire to become a foster parent. Ms. Bowling was an angel sent to help Dylan. She loved him more than his birth parents. I believe that Dylan only felt love for 12 days in his entire life. I hope that brings some peace & comfort to her after this terrible tragedy.
A teacher AND a foster parent. Taking on one those roles alone requires a special kind of person, but taking on both of those roles and doing the best you possibly can in both because you legitimately care about and want to help all the children you possibly can makes you a friggin angel!
He was 5.4 lbs when she got him but only 4.5 lbs at autopsy. Im so grateful this woman was not in the court while the forensic pathologist covered all the injuries dylan suffered. She is so sensitive this would have broke her
It is always a judge's decision to put the child back with the bio family in fact it is their absolute goal to put a child back with its own family. Don't you dare blame social workers of which I was one who beat our heads against a brick wall bloody to try and keep children safe and the judge says within 48 hours they can go back to their parents and a lot of them end up dead! So talk to you legislators and your judiciary before you blame a social worker. Dr. Elizabeth MD Ph.D Ph.D
Elizabeth Shaw The social workers are the gateway between the children the bio family & the judge the Judge will always consult with CPS & DO EXACTLY WHAT THEY RECOMMEND JUST BECAUSE YOU DID YOUR JOB DOESNT MEAN OTHERS DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JOHNSON CHILDREN 1996 CAMDEN NJ MOST IMPORTANTLY ME
As a former foster mom, teacher, protective service worker, day caregiver, mom of 7 & now, a grandma of 9, (tired just thinking about it)...it’s heartbreaking to see the extremely devastated F.M.. There are many cases like this...please pray for all the innocent kids, parents, and foster parents...and trust your gut if you think a child’s in trouble. ♥️
Jude Christenson I’m a mom of 8 children, 14 grandchildren... never was a foster parent ...don’t know how you managed that as well but I admire you! My heart is breaking for this sweet foster mom, but thank God for women like you both!
As a NICU nurse, I was crying this whole video. So many times in my career we have discharged babies home to women that we knew is a horrible situation and decision but CPS has the ultimate say. Women get a chance after chance regardless it seems to be that they want to keep these vulnerable babies with their birth father regardless of how disgusting they are.
So many children are given back to their birth parents and they are murdered in a short time, I see it as their fault as to why this baby is dead, shame on you!! RIP 😢 little man!!!
Family reunification is a disgusting policy. I am so upset at our systems. My ex husband isba drug addict and has severe mental health issues that are untreated (like psychosis and both suicidal/homicidal Ideation). It took me TWO YEARS to get full custody of our kids!!!!! Thankfully he is do messed up he could pay for supervised visits. But if he could've, I don't think my kids would be alive today. I just won full custody with him having 0 visitation rights thank God. But our justice system hurts kids, not protects them
My heart goes out to this angel of a woman!!! In just 12 days she showed this poor child more love and care than his parents ever did!! There's a special place in heaven for this baby and this woman!!! I feel she will be the " mother" he is waiting on in heaven... God bless her and baby Dylan!!
I really appreciate the camera person switching focus to the parents or even the Ohio plaque when the foster mom was breaking down. No one wants to be shown at such a venerable time with such raw emotion. Well normal ppl don’t but the sorry excuse for a mother, Jessica, didn’t seem to mind crying on camera. So fake. But back to the camera work...kudos to a very professional job!! 👏 👏 👏
It really displayed the contrast in emotion. Hearing her choke on her tears while looking at the stone faced birth “mother”. I noticed they cut the audio of her crying too. She deserves all the respect in the world.
It breaks my heart. Dylan could have had a loving mom and home but it was stolen from him. And she's 41. I literally thought she was younger. She's gorgeous
I bawled when the foster mom started crying. I cannot imagine how heartbroken she is. She cared for that baby, she loved that baby like he was her own for twelve days only to have to give him to the parents and then they did what they did. 😢
My heart breaks for all that poor baby endured invitro and once born and returned to his parents God bless this lady- who gave him love. He is in God's loving arms now!
@@JoJo-hg7tg in that amount of time he maybe passed one drug test. In my state they have to pass multiple and take parenting a d drug classes as well as pass home inspections. My brother is in the process of adopting a child hes fostered since birth for the last year and a half all of that should be standard 12 days is sickening.
I love him and I never met him. A lot of the people in this comment section love that innocent little man far more than the people who gave birth to him. I can tell that you love him too. This is so heartbreaking.
My heart breaks seeing the heartbreak this woman is going through. She loved and cared for that baby more than his own parents. At least this little guy was loved for those short 12 days. Such a failure on the system.
God has a special place for her in Paradise, I'm sure. She has such a big heart. It baffles me how the biological parents don't shed a tear except for themselves. And yet this foster mom weeps for that baby she cared for and loved for 12 days.
Andrea Bowling is truly an amazing woman! Not only has she taught kids for nearly 20 years but she really looks out for the kids knowing some kids need more help and attention. She is also a foster parent, going through extensive training and classes to help even more children. Truly an angel among us!
Her testimony was very moving. I’m in tears. God Bless this woman. If they would have let her keep the baby he would be happy, healthy, fed, l loved, and given all necessities and beyond. 🥺❤️💔🙏🏼
Sitting here watching this sickening trial looking at my 6 month old son wondering how ANY mother could do harm to their child, there are no words. Rip baby boy 💙
Aw I bet your baby has grown so much! I am watching my 5 month old preemie (4 month adjusted age) sleep while I watch this. It is heartbreaking. My baby came early via emergency c section, because of low amniotic fluid.
@@r.coffman1431 I'm watching my 6 month old peacefully sleep at 3.30am after giving him a bottle. He's my 7th baby and I have nurtured and adored all of them. This breaks my heart.
This all could have been prevented had he just stayed with this loving foster parent. I feel bad for the 15 year old son. I hope he lands in a good situation.
My heart is broken for this precious little boy and the beautiful soul Andrea Bowling. Such a sad situation, I hope she still finds the strength to continue to foster after such a horrible ordeal. RIP Dylan.
Omg were the drug addicted so called 'parents' made to do classes, training, take medical and physical tests, drug tests and have home inspections done within 12 days?!? Doubt it!! All social services/CPS over the world should be done away with and restructured..to save the innocent children..no more should die!! I'm sure the foster mum feels terrible guilt for giving him back and thinking she didn't protect him, not knowing what would happen :(
mrs Bowling you are an amazing woman! Dylan got to experience love, kindness and what a true mother feels like. keep your head up beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss
My heart goes out to this grieving mother. By mother, I mean Andrea who was the only mother that Dylan had ever been loved by. This woman is amazing and if the system wasn’t so broken, she could have raised him but instead the system failed him miserably. She did what she could and she tried. I really hope and pray that she doesn’t carry any burden for this.
It’s so mind blowing how a woman who only had this baby for 12 days cares more about him than his own Mother.
As a foster mom that has taken in two newborns from the hospital, I can tell you the moment I held both of the babies for the first time, I loved them (and continue to love them) just as much as I love my biological son.
Dear gods, don’t call Jessica a mother! There is no way that word applies to her.
For real. You see it almost hit those two monsters in the face. They realized during her testimony what it meant to truly love a child, and they never did.
It's not suprising that she's emotional about him. But It's horrible that his own parents are not. 😟
You always hear bad stories about foster parents just getting kids for the money; but in this case, this woman and her husband seem like they truly loved the children under their foster care. It's so sad that the baby wasn't allowed to stay with her.
Why isn't CPS on trial for sending this precious baby back to incompetent, very damaged, evil people?!!
Because the primary goal is to keep the family together. The system needs to change to KEEP THE CHILD ALIVE AND WELL.
CPS in Ohio is garbage and they’ve been sued many times!
That’s another trial not this one daaaa
@@vernonclayson2193 second chances for these kind of people should not exist. No one followed up , they should have never left the baby in their care, that's an easy decision.
@@vernonclayson2193 I agree. There are cases where a child should never go back.
“He liked to be held at all times when he wasn’t asleep” my god that just broke my heart. I bet his foster mom would have held him for months and months straight if that’s what Dylan wanted. Shame on everyone who helped put this baby back in the clutches of these monsters.
It’s heartbreaking. Just heartbreaking. I can’t get over the sense of loss.
@@Barzins1 I held my daughter for just a few minutes, before I began haemorrhaging from the trauma of the birth. I was transfused for 48 hours and sedated. When I was taken off sedatives, I couldn't see my baby in the room. I went crazy and accused the staff of putting her up for adoption. They calmed me down and wheeled her in. The relief I felt was overwhelming. That rush of love I felt when she was born came back instantly. I was in hospital for 8 days and never took my eyes off her. These parents put drugs before their child's wellbeing. I don't understand why he was given to them.
Totally agree!!! My heart is broken :(
She can't use her drug addiction for an excuse because I watched a video on RUclips of some street worker and Asian lady she was a street worker beautiful woman .turned her baby into the fire hall because you're allowed to do that you're not going to get in trouble you don't get in trouble you drop baby off and you leave you should watch that story it's absolutely tear jerking but for a street worker to be loaded on dope and have a child and turn that child in so make sure that child is safe this thing has no excuse.
And that is the reason why his mother hurt him as she did, bc he kept crying when he was awake and she lost her nerves when she was high or on withdrawal. I don't even wanna know how she threw him around in anger. Unbelievable what that poor little baby had to go through, he had a good place and was loved, but they ripped him away. And for what?😡😡😡
I had her as a teacher. She was by far one of the best teachers I’ve ever had. I was absolutely heartbroken when I saw how she was during this whole situation.
It takes a very special person to teach 2nd graders especially with such patience and compassion. I only wish my son has this kind of teacher. You’re absolutely lucky and it shows just how much you adore this precious woman.
WOW!!!!
@@Mataylor17I can't even get through listening to jer testimony without crying along with her. What a beautiful soul.
Reach out to her! I'm sure she'd love to know how you're doing!
As a teacher-- bless you for posting this. I hope she sees it because it means the world to know that our students root for us.
It blows my mind that to be a Foster Parent you require all of this training etc. But, why don't we require bio parents the same?
The parents don’t care about any of this training as they are too guilt ridden, angry and drug deprived. It is a very very complex event.20+ years as a drug exposed baby RN.
Wow, that is a question of the decade ... very astute question!
I don't want the government telling healthy, well adjusted people how to care for their children. BUT. a baby, born addicted?? Those parents need all the classes and drug treatments before ever getting a baby back. Disgusting.
@@Chericherry4 they should never get the baby back IMO
Literally what was thinking
CPS fails another child....😢
Yes. No suprise, I did some work with them. Terrible!
Yep, I totally agree. I had read more information about this case on Google and part of the article did mention that this Child Services in Ohio, mishandled baby Dylan's case and whoever was in charge, didn't do the right protocol procedures to keep baby Dylan away from his parents. The mom, Jessica was tested positive with meth in her system the day she gave birth to Dylan, so he was born with meth in his system. This foster mom was actually more than upset that Child Services told her she has to give the baby back to the father, Daniel, he already had a criminal record and did drugs too. All I've ever heard is that Child Services say they're always overwhelmed with thousands of cases, in each state. Not everyone can handle working with a overload of cases of each employee, some quit because it's just too much, stressful and can even be an emotional roller coaster because these employees are told to basically take short cuts just to get a kid in someone's custody and they go on to the next case. Also, too many young girls, young women are on drugs, abused, take no responsibility after having a baby, getting arrested multiple times, other foster parents just want the money they receive that's for the child but they pocket the money for their personal use and a lot of foster parents are abusive too... Not this lady, she's an Angel! But children get sent to several foster homes in one year up until they're 18 years old. And some of those kids grow up feeling messed up, depressed and turn to drugs and alcohol because of the abuse they endured. But the Child Services doesn't do anything to make things better with the system. And that's what baby Dylan was, let down by those parents and the system, even their son who was 14 at the time, was taken away and sent to foster care, I'm glad he was one of the witnesses who was able to take the stand against his parents.. R.I.P. baby Dylan
Parents failed another child. That bothers me more.
Many times CPS can only do so much... the are WAY down in the Totem Pole when it comes to taking the child away from Parents.
The actual parents failed this child, CPS maybe failed to step in when it was necessary?, but there is no doubt, that these two monsters doomed that little life from the beginning, with their drink & drugs, and set forth a chain of horrific events that they should BOTH die for, no question. Sentence was far too lenient IMO.
I’m adopted This woman is an angel. I don’t remember my foster mother, but I loved her my whole life. I’m 52 now.
That’s so sweet.
❤️❤️❤️
@@BS-dq1kz my adopted mother described her. She had me for three months, from the hospital to my adoptive mother's arms. I wish i knew more because looking at my coming home pictures, i was so content and happy. She took good care of me. ❤
God bless you always 💕🙏
@@Bella-uy6lc thank you 🙏🏼
Wow this lady took 12 days off from work to care for this child.... She literally gave up her vacation days to make sure this child was cared for
Bless her
that is really wild when you think of it. to burn every single vacation day on the spot. hopefully would have received some sort of maternity leave or whatever after, as she said she intended to take off longer. still, amazing.
Teachers that have worked a long time often bank a lot of time, and if I’m not wrong, flma can kick in as well. When I was 18, in college, I had my first son, and my mom who was a teacher took six months out of work to help me take care of him. We needed it, because he cried and cried and cried so much. It took his dad, myself and my mom caring for him to even be able to get enough sleep to halfway function. Surprisingly that didn’t prevent me from having anymore children.
I highly doubt she was thinking it was vacation time...as a mother it's just sick days taking care of their child!
This woman is an angel. Gosh she would have been a wonderful mother to dylan
OMG. I'm only at the beginning and I'm reading comments to catch up and I'm already heartbroken.
I know it’s heart breaking. I hope she continued to foster babies/kids after this. I sure hope this traumatic event didn’t change her mind and heart about fostering. He’s her guardian angel now.
@Christine Rankin I so agree, this woman is a saint. You can see the love on her face. I just wish she would learn how to say with withdrawing:*
@@kd5499 you really care about that when they're having a trial over a murdered baby who cares how she said it.
My Purest Prayer is that God, Jesus, 🛐
Our Holy Mother Mary
Took Sweet Dylan and his Soul to Heaven well before any pain to his physical body.🙏🏼
🌺Ms. Bowling is sent
🕊by God to fulfill
💗His Holy Plan💗
💖Your Love is💖
🥀Amazing🥀
“His Mamaroo.” That’s a special baby rocker that gently swags from side to side and is known to soothe babies who are weaning from addictive substances. This lady loved Dylan with her whole heart.
They sooth all babies. It mimicks the movement of the womb. I am surprised his neck was strong enough to be able to sit in it.
Very expensive too! She loves him
Her heart is broke ☹️
Yes and those are pricy so he was loved n she had support with her friends n family they put everything that dylan needed for in one day.
@@r.coffman1431 qLo
Did anyone else start tearing up when this precious women did?
Immediately. Couldn’t hold em back
Me definitely so much love from this woman and the egg donor showed no remorse
Yesss😪
Literally cried my eyes out...
As soon as she said she wanted to take more than 12 days off to take care of him...
Only a mother remembers exactly how much her baby weighed :( this poor poor woman :( she deserved that little boy, and he deserved so much more than he was given
Matthew 11:30
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
It is a shame I honestly hadn't really considered dylan was sooo close to growing up with a mom who absolutely loved him....that makes it even that much more tragic.
I don’t understand why the dad didn’t just let her keep the Baby. If he was such an inconvenience for the “parents” why not just let him go ugh :(
Yes - he definitely deserved far better
The only Mother Dylan ever knew. Prayers and blessings for this loving MOTHER.
Yes the only true love and nurturing he ever got was from his Foster mother..
Dylan bio mom was a Mother but Andrea was the only true Mom
I totally agree.
Omg this video made me so sad, she really was the only person who showed true love to that baby ❤️😭
Why the hell would CPS take the baby from a loving nurturing environment and hand deliver him to the chaotic residence of these two known drug addicts? After all...the baby was born addicted.
Well said . . . my exact same questions!
That is the foster system. It’s horrible.
My name isn't Vern Clayson. I'm Sandra Schulzkump. Vern was my Dad. Anyway~ I have a degree in social work. The #1 priority that sends kids like this to the drug addicts is "keep the family together. " The system needs to change so that all the procedures and protocols say KEEP THE CHILD ALIVE AND WELL~ stop the family together crap that prevades every tricking thing done in these cases..,
The main goal is to reunite families
@@Gilliebeany This child was "united" with a family that loved and wanted him...could raise in a nurturing...healthy environment. How many times do these scenarios have to repeat themselves before CPS "gets it"? That is the problem I am having.
She’s 41 !? What a beautiful woman . Inside and out ❤️
Looks like drugs and evil will age a person. I'd swear they're ten years apart
Jessica was only 1 year younger at the same time. Look at the difference.
Her face when the lawyers ask her stupid questions. Love her.
How is it that She’s up there crying her eyes out over baby Dylan but his own PARENTS are sitting there straight faced?!? Evil people!!
Because all the foster mom can think about is all of the milestones he could've met, and who he would've become. All the "parents" can think about is prison. Selfish to the end.
Because the parents didn't love him and killed him and she cared And loved him.
I am crying with this amazing woman. I have a toddler son and I would risk my entire life for that boy.
Devils
Because they put Dylan in a crate. With 18 rocks. 3 locks. Zipties and 6 layers of wrapping of duct tape and plastic. Then threw off the well.
And thats how they can be there. Theyre cold blooded
When the foster mother begins to cry on the stand, the human incubator actually looks annoyed, & bothered by the foster mother's tears.
Alliecatt Minto
She's been drugging so long she doesn't even know these kind of feelings.
So sad.
@@belindabaker4185 I understand your point, fully, believe me, I have seen some horrible things. We're women though. She a disgrace. I'm tired of ppl using drugs, or mental illness for excuses. They have moments of " surreal" lack of a better word. She's a pos.
I don't care for that bio mother at all. I don't think it's just the drugs. There are people that are addicts that still have a heart & would never hurt & or kill a baby. I think she's a mean person. She did seem annoyed & also I noticed her smirking at certain times! It's terrible!
Then I think of the Rosenbaum case & those 2 little girls would have been better off with their bio mom & cps could have gotten the mom help. Instead they gave those 2 sweethearts to that wicked-evil monster that abused both & killed one. Cps is a ridiculous, nasty system & there are many MANY people that consider cps to be a child trafficking ring. It's so sad!!!!
This foster mother Is AMAZING & she should have had baby Dylan for longer. The cps workers gave him back after 12 days. Out of everyone in the baby's life, his foster mother seemed to love & care about his well being more than everyone else combined! If he was still with the foster mother, he would be ALIVE & thriving. Why did the parents even fight to get him back?
I thought Jessica looked sad, not annoyed.
@@goldierule1350 You wanna bet for more money in her welfare check, & food stamps. That's why she fought to get him back. Look at both of them. Would you give them jobs? I wouldn't. More kids, more welfare monies, & that leads to having more money for drugs. Dylan never mattered to either of them. He was a dollar sign.
I thought that very same thing. If the foster mother still had him, he'd be alive today
How many more kids have to die, before cps realizes they're signing those childrens' death warrant. Just cause they got pregnant, had the baby in their stomachs for 9 months, doesn't make her a " mom, or a mother " All the case workers should be let go, stripped of 'degrees' served jail sentences.
When asked if baby Dylan had drug withdrawals I couldn't stop crying. Arms shaking, legs jerking, wanting to be held whenever he's awake....it hurts me so so much. When my babies wake up I will hold, kiss, laugh and hug them. For baby Dylan..
For baby Dylan 💞 👼
Not just for baby Dylan but for you own babies.
@@NelehLove9313 this^^💚
Thank you momma❤
For Baby Dylan 👶
Look at how different the moms cry...the foster mom is truly heartbroken! That's how a real mother cries at the loss of their baby! I can't stop crying!
DITTO, Foster mother had real emotions and real tears for Baby, unlike defendant crying for herself.
See now that is real crying about poor Dylan from Andrea, as opposed to self-indulgent self-pitying crying by mother.
Yes she had me crying with her. That was Real pain. And the mother sat there looking like she was trying not to fall asleep.
Yes!
My thoughts EXACTLY! Her emotion is so genuine and she is heartbroken for the baby. The bio Mom cries about herself, the old "poor me" act. She wants to be the victim so badly is disgusting!
Yes Carrow he would still be alive if he was with her !
Oh yes the monster mother was definitely crying....but for herself! That’s why she could stop herself when it came to yelling at the prosecutor during her cross examination. I definitely blame this mother and father...BUT...I blame our system even more! Our system is broken and outdated
People need more than 12 days to get off hard drugs and get their lives together. Minimum 6 months should be a federal requisite for any child born with hard drugs in their system.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
More like 6 years I stan this!!
Aweh :( she’s so shocked when he asked if she was reimbursed. Like “no why would I want my money back” :( my heart breaks for her
His line of questioning was just overall pointless….
She’s a teacher. Teachers know when you pay out of pocket for the kids you do it FOR the kids and expect nothing in return.
Even if she got money from it... I would dare say its not enough to cover the cost of all she bought, some of those things can get really expensive, and she GAVE THEM TO THE PARENTS, not even asked the parents if they needed them, she only wanted to know how dylan would grow and loved him as her own child
This kills me.. I have twin two month old foster babies. I've had them since their first week bc of the same things and both parents abandoned them. I'm praying and hoping they don't come back and take my loves..
I hope all is going well got you and your babies.
@@BS-dq1kz thanks unfortunately my sweet babies will be leaving me soon. I pray they remain safe
@@courtneycarlisle182 why? To who? Fight for them
@@veronicam2159 I would if I could. Trust me but foster parents have no rights to our littles even if we have had them from birth. They will be going to their fathers ex girlfriend and we don't like it but have no chance of winning our case and if we do fight DCS will shut us down for going against them. that's just how the system works. It's a terrible system but I can't stop for now knowing there are littles out there that will only know love from us taking them for a little while.
God bless you ❤️
12 days, they went from unfit to fit in 12 days. R u kidding me? Its automatic 6 months here in Virginia.
They certainly didn’t dry out in 12 days, especially if she’d been using all the way through pregnancy
California here too months at the very least
Exactly, i have been clean 13yrs and 12days is not enough time to do detox plus IOP..or any other recovery...But the sperm donor was getting his other son's urine to pass the test..
It s ridiculous I cannot understand it at all
Megan Perkins That's what Dylan's foster Mom was saying!
"He's clean in 12 days, Really?"
The person that made the decision to return Dylan to his drug addict parents, should be fired. They are in the wrong line of work. No discernment whatsoever. Dylan was being loved and cared for in foster care and he’s returned, only to be found dead in the bottom of a well. Heartbreaking and absolutely could have been prevented!!! This is unacceptable. God please change the system. 🤦♀️☹️🤬
I feel more action should be taken than getting fired and they can just turn around and get another job
God can't change the system only a revolution would or civil war.its not like our government doesn't know it's broken it would take all the little people
R C That person has to follow the protocol.
I think they should be found guilty in culpability of this baby’s death period.
Of course! That goes without saying.
My wife and I took a baby into our lives when he was 6 months old. He's now nearly 10. We spent years going through the courts with CPS. Although we have our own kids that are grown up adults now our little boy is with me. He's such a caring, boy, exceptionally witty and very well loved and cared for. My heart absolutely bleeds for Ms Bowling. She clearly loved little Dylan.
Thankyou for all.that you did for your boy ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Any woman can grow a child in her womb.
It takes a special woman to grow one in her 𝐡𝐞𝐚𝐫𝐭.
That’s EXACTLY what this sweet lady did for Dylan.
Family isn’t measured by 𝐛𝐥𝗼𝗼𝐝; it’s measured by 𝐥𝗼𝐯𝐞.
SHE was his mom in every way that mattered. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
This comment made me cry. Well said.
@ Andrea Bowling, if you ever read this comment, please know that you did everything that you could do to save this child, and baby Dylan is looking down on you from Heaven - and God is proud of the love that you gave to this baby!!! Please do not feel guilty for giving the child back to CPS to give to his drug-driven parents when you disagreed with the decision of the state! Andrea, I am sorry for your pain, your loss of your foster son (you were the best mother that Dylan could have); I am sorry for your heartache, & discomfort! God is with you! May God comfort your heart and give you peace! Much love & respect to you! 💜
You reached out & said exactly what I was thinking, @Andrea Bowling, if you do see this, thank you for showing that little man the love he deserved, if only for a short time, you did your best xx
Amen
I feel totally the same. Dylan knew true love in your care, he was loved and nurtured by you. I would say every person seeing these videos has nothing but the utmost respect for you as do I. I am so sorry for your loss and just know your grief is felt the world over. Xxx
"Mom" doesn't seem to appreciate her REAL pain over Baby Dylan
Well said. May you have peace
My heart broke when she said she took off 12 days but she wanted to take more days off work and she started to cry. I'm sure the "what ifs" hit her hard. I'm so glad dylan got to experience love from a real mom.
I am too.
That just wounded my heart when she said that
Broke my heart
CPS dropped the ball and it cost this sweet child his life. You went above and beyond Andrea. Thank you & RIP Dylan🙏
They often do.
All too often CPS fails children!
Now that's a mother, his true mother... His fate was sealed the moment he was taken from her.
Why couldn’t they just give him up for adoption. She seems to be someone who would have given him an amazing life.
Right, and had a great support system of family and friends. He really could have had an amazing life.
Selfish
Matthew 11:30
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
I know so f’ng sad uhggg 😡😔😔😔🥺
Bc they would've had to relinquish their 15yo son too. Dad's clean free urine hookup would've disappeared.
Cps need to be held accountable too. They had a duty of care.
They had a duty to Protect supposedly,
Its Gabriel Fernandez all over again thanks to cps
Frrrrrrrr
The director of DCFS stepped down cuz of this case. Not enough ! DCFS should be charged with the neglect that caused Dylan's death.
Yes!!! Exactly!!!!
While everyone else was filled with anger and the desire to maul those 2 demons, this lady was overflowing with sadness and the wish that she could have saved baby Dylan's life. That's love.
She knew. The way the foster mother described how she handed Dylan over to his father, describing each of his belongings as if they were the most precious things in the world because HE was the most precious thing in the world, it tells me she knew she was handing this baby that she loved over to his eventual murderers and there wasn't a thing she could do about it. I can't even begin to imagine the kind of pain and fear and guilt that woman was feeling at that moment. It must have been intolerable.
What a beautiful life Dylan would have had with this beautiful lady💙😪
Agreed...
This baby should never have been reunited.... Or _at least_ not until things had proven over an EXTENDED period of time, that the birth Mother would stay clean. It was crazy how quickly they reunited this little baby. I really feel that the "system" should also be held accountable.
♥️🙏
I think she's emotionally unstable, she hardly even had the baby.
@@PipenFalzy Really?!? A baby that you personally knew (even if for a few days) is brutally murdered by the people who are supposed to love him most; knowing he'd be still alive if you were still fostering him. Would you be all cheerful talking about him in court?
It’s like Matilda & Miss Honey...
Oh Lord, when she said “I told them if I could be involved... to maybe let me know milestones he reached”.. that hurt. I hope she can heal from this. I know the pain will never leave fully, but I hope she finds comfort knowing that Dylan definitely knew she loved him and he’s watching her from heaven
😢😢😢😢😢😢😢😢
Oh I'm bawling !
I'm not sure if she would ever want to foster another baby after this.💔😭
@@elizabethkoobs1060 yeah I can totally see how this would make someone afraid to foster again :(
@@tinabahena1254Yes. She's probably ended up having PTSD because of this.
I will have to say the cameraman is very respectful when she needs a minute to collect herself, the judge is so kind also, he knows when it’s been pushed too far. Bless all those who were effected by such a monstrous act.
The judge has to take a recess when a witness is crying to prevent an appeal issue. I like this judge he's extremely good.
24:04... When she tries to say his name while looking at his picture... my heart just broke for her... Thank you mama for being strong and testifying for Dylan. 💔
This testimony was painful to listen to and also watching the foster mother break down was heart wrenching. She suspected this child was in danger and it killed her to hand him over. May God bless her and grant her peace.
🙏 for Ms.Bowling
My heart is so broken for her and poor little Dylan. God Bless her, RIP Baby Dylan
AMEN.
Awful. The same thing happened to my aunt in the 90’s and it still bothers her to this day. I pray that this sweet lady finds peace again.
Dylan was given back to the wrong mother and it should have been Ms Bowling all along. He would have been a healthy 1 hr old at this time. So heartbroken for her
So heartbreaking listening to her. You can see clearly how much she loved him. At least for those few days, Baby Dylan felt real love. 💔😢
Jennifer Marie when she described his withdrawal symptoms was crushing, he had a very short life and it must have been brutal
Breaks my heart..I'm so 😢 sad. Baby Dylan 🙏❤
As a child care provider myself, it is so easy to love a baby and to get attach to one. I can't imagine how she felt to have to give him back and then learn that he was murdered.
At least he had her-if only for a few days. I am saddened and outraged. She should have been given the chance to keep him...
I dont care what anyone says, this foster mama was Dylan's mama. She lost her baby boy on March 28th. His life was short and brutally unfair. May he find peace in death.
This is a real Mom. My heart broke for her. She was able to provide him with unconditional love and devotion for the short time he was with her.
God bless you Andrea... at least baby Dylon was loved, if for only 12 days he definitely new love from you....thank you..🤗
I agree she is an amazing woman great heart bless her may the little ones rest in peace may the little boys and her blessed be to them all
Beautiful words
She loved him dearly for that 12 days
That's very true. Some people will live and die never knowing what it's like to be loved.
I also fostered a drug-addicted baby. They really suffer. One of them is now my son and poor guy has been down a hard road recovering.
How so? We’re beginning an adoption process & I’m reluctant to be open to drug afflicted pregnancies
@@c.2538 Well, he went through withdrawal for the first couple years. Drug effects are rarely permanent. What really caused suffering the worst was the alcohol - he had learning disabilities and struggles a bit socially now. His speech center was so damaged he talked like a baby and he was almost 4. A good speech pathologist helped him heal and he has normal speech now. Get support early if you take a baby that has been exposed to alcohol. It makes all the difference in the world.
@@c.2538 drug withdrawals in a baby can last up to a few months. They will be restless and crankier than other babies. Although alot of babies will be over withdrawals before leaving the hospital.
@@c.2538 drug withdrawals are detected after the first 3 days. It depends on what drugs and how much. But yes, like what was mentioned, alcohol is probably the worst.
@@c.2538 One of my siblings was born addicted and he's the most stable, intelligent, and healthiest one of us 4 who were adopted. Being born addicted isn't a life sentence 🙌
This foster mother is a genuine, caring soul. She did the best she could.
"I gave him a bible" .
Broke my heart 💔💔
I knowww! omgggg!😭💔
I weeeped
Maybe now they’ll read it.
"And I gave him a Bible..." broke my heart!
After my parents divorced which was terrible of course I was 12 years old my father married a woman from Pike County Ohio which is down in Southern Ohio not far from where these folks are. My stepmother was all about the Bible going to church on Sundays and Wednesdays and she took care of infants and the elderly, she did a lot of community service. This woman really reminds me of my step-mom. God bless her heart she just passed away a year and a half ago. I'm almost sixty now. She was perfect for my father. She loved my father as he was and provided a great life for him.
God and His Word are the only Hope for these parents. This foster mother is wonderful and I am proud that she is my sister-in-Christ.
May the Lord Jesus Christ bless her and keep her, for she is a true woman of God.
@@eddielaura j
Yes😭😭😭
His questions are awkwardly phrased .
OMG yes! I am just watching this now and he is awful.
That's what I'm saying too....very awkward and seems like they don't know what they want to ask or what their strategy is. Did they really go to law school??? I would not be happy if they were my attorney.....
Omg, thank you! 😆
He’s a creep IMO
The teacher is better spoken than the attorney. And many of his questions seemed irrelevant.
Seeing her crying makes me cry, she's an absolute angel.
As awful as this is for Andrea Bowling, it is good to know that that little boy was loved and nurtured by someone during his short sojourn on this earth. Blessings to her and her family.
Who cares about witch bowling?!?
@@domdom1304 your comment makes no sense 😑
@@domdom1304who cares about you
This is why as a foster parent we are so skeptical of speedy reunification’s. This isn’t the first time something like this has happened.
Thanking for pointing this out! I’m sure it happens a lot
Are you? Do you think it's rather odd that baby Dylan somehow fit into a milk crate with 18 large rocks, tons of plastic wrap and duct tape, an anchor and not one but 2 blankets etc? Is that just a little odd? Milk crates are not big enough for all of that. Then when his mother testified she didn't potentially know the real details of how the baby was killed. Maybe her confession was literally saying what CPS wanted her to say not to take the other child or children and place them in a home so abusive an abusive home of origin sounds great. I'm skeptical of the state's story because it does not rationally add up.
@@savevlad6912 it was two milk crates tied together. Look up the pics
@@savevlad6912 babies are also very flexible. Imagine how cramped they are in the womb…
@@savevlad6912 It was 2 crates put together and Baby Dylan was only around 5 pounds. Baby blankets are also very thin.
Omg I feel so awful for this foster mom. I'm sure she believes that he would be alive today if she still had him in her care... Jessica is a very sick and twisted person, drugs or no drugs
Lisa Gangell YES!!
Your right. I know mothers on drugs that are gentle amd over compensate for the guilt they feel when caring for their children. She is a poor excuse for a human. Poor foster mother.
@@bari2883 u r totally right! Me too there are a lot of mothers that have addictions but still would never harm their kids
Exactly! I really feel that even without drugs, she would still be a monster! There are so many different stories about good people that become addicts for various reasons & they are not evil people. I believe that jessica was most likely an awful person even before using drugs!
@@goldierule1350 yep me too. He looked so tiny how could you hit something so defenceless?
Her testimony brought me to tears. Strong compassionate woman like her are the true pillars to our society
💔💔💔 she gave him a bible. What a loving woman. What a blessing she is to so many families and children. God bless you and all you do Mrs. Bowling. You are doing the Lords work. You are a beautiful inspiring woman. I’m sorry your heart is so broken. Praying for you
Nice to see this little boy had at least 12 days of warm , loving, consistent , appropriate care during his short life. Bless this woman and her service . 🌹
She feels like she lost her own child. Bless her...
Dylan deserved that motherly love and her warm heart as his mother. My heart absolutely breaks for her. You can tell she truly cared for that baby as if he were her own 😭
This poor foster Mom will carry this pain forever.
I hope she understands how much she did for baby Dylan even if it were only 12 days.
Bless you for being his mama if only for a short time. 💔🙏
THAT WOMAN IS THE ONLY PERSON CRYING FOR THAT CHILD!! Oh my god! The parents didn’t shed a tear during her testimony of his withdrawal. Wooow. Wowowowow
Only *Twelve* *Days* to determine the parents fit?! CPS needs to revamp their guidelines. I don't see how these ppl even passed a drug test in *TWELVE* *DAYS*
They probably did not accompany them to the bathroom so I doubt it was even her urine.
Only takes 2/3 days for most drugs to leave the system. Also I think they used the older sons urine for tests.
Their older son gave the father his urine because the father asked him for it. Im assuming they went in to the bathroom with them because thats just policy and standard in cps cases, so somehow he managed to pull it off. Then if im not mistaken, the mother didn't pass any drug tests, so the baby was given to the father, and the mother wasn't suppose to be staying there. The father, of course, let her stay there because #1 i think she wore the pants in the relationship and he just did whatever she wanted or what she said, and #2 he worked and needed her to keep the baby. I havent seen all the videos of this trial yet and I've not seen them completely in order, but I believe that's what has been said so far from what I have seen. The son was around 13 or 14 when the father asked him for his urine, and he testified in court and was 15 at the time of his testimony. He admitted that his dad asked for him to pee in a cup for him and give it to him.
Convicted felons get treated more STRICTLY verses these two scumbags.
Meanwhile I was late on immunizations and had an open investigation for a full 30 days
Make it make sense
Baby Dylan had 12 days of caring, loving hands from this generous, sweet woman!
What an incredible human. I’m glad this baby was in her care for the time that he was. I’m glad he knew her love.
Dear god the baby was with someone who cared and they gave him back to two monsters the coroner said that poor child had broken bones everywhere in his tiny body if they left him with this loveing foster mom he wouldnt have been broken and thrown away like garbage.
carrie harrell I know it is terrible. It is very hard to break babies' bones so he must have been thrown so hard 💔
This foster mom fell in love with this tiny baby! RIP baby Dylan!🙏
My heart is so broken for her. She is so distraught, and distressed. Can you blame her!?
I was signed up & going through the training to be a foster mom w/ the FULL & COMPLETE understanding that re-unification is the ultimate goal. During training, we were told that there are & will be instances when a child may be harmed or unalived even. Still I wanted to move forward with/ training, be my best self to try & help w/ kids. During my own training it became very apparent to me that CPS/CFS/DCFS/DFS, etc. is often the part of the process that "drops the ball" w/ these kids. I understand they become overwhelmed, short-staffed, too much going on w/ 1 case, etc. So I decided that if the agency isn't doing their part to ensure the safety of kids in the system, how am I going to be able to count on their support if needed? In the end I decided that I don't think I could handle it if a child was harmed/unalived after being w/ me for awhile so I decided against being a foster mom.
IMO, the system is what is killing the desire to become a foster parent. Ms. Bowling was an angel sent to help Dylan. She loved him more than his birth parents. I believe that Dylan only felt love for 12 days in his entire life. I hope that brings some peace & comfort to her after this terrible tragedy.
Well said ‼️❤️🩹
Beautiful lady inside and out , may god grant her peace eventually
It takes a special person with a calling on their life to be a good teacher.
A teacher AND a foster parent. Taking on one those roles alone requires a special kind of person, but taking on both of those roles and doing the best you possibly can in both because you legitimately care about and want to help all the children you possibly can makes you a friggin angel!
He was 5.4 lbs when she got him but only 4.5 lbs at autopsy.
Im so grateful this woman was not in the court while the forensic pathologist covered all the injuries dylan suffered. She is so sensitive this would have broke her
Andrea Bowling is Dylan's real mother. Period. 💕
Reunited with the drug using birth parents after only 12 days. I have questions!! CPS needs to explain this mess.
inexplicable
Dad passed the test =(
@@courtneycoley8487 bc he used his sons urine
It is always a judge's decision to put the child back with the bio family in fact it is their absolute goal to put a child back with its own family. Don't you dare blame social workers of which I was one who beat our heads against a brick wall bloody to try and keep children safe and the judge says within 48 hours they can go back to their parents and a lot of them end up dead! So talk to you legislators and your judiciary before you blame a social worker. Dr. Elizabeth MD Ph.D Ph.D
Elizabeth Shaw The social workers are the gateway between the children the bio family & the judge the Judge will always consult with CPS & DO EXACTLY WHAT THEY RECOMMEND JUST BECAUSE YOU DID YOUR JOB DOESNT MEAN OTHERS DO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! JOHNSON CHILDREN 1996 CAMDEN NJ MOST IMPORTANTLY ME
As a former foster mom, teacher, protective service worker, day caregiver, mom of 7 & now, a grandma of 9, (tired just thinking about it)...it’s heartbreaking to see the extremely devastated F.M.. There are many cases like this...please pray for all the innocent kids, parents, and foster parents...and trust your gut if you think a child’s in trouble. ♥️
Jude Christenson I’m a mom of 8 children, 14 grandchildren... never was a foster parent ...don’t know how you managed that as well but I admire you! My heart is breaking for this sweet foster mom, but thank God for women like you both!
The world needs more people like you
Diane Sullivan Thank you, Diane. God bless you!
mish izzzle Thank you, what a nice thing to say! God bless you!
28:47 is how you pretend you care and you’re crying but you’re faking it and failing at doing so
As a NICU nurse, I was crying this whole video. So many times in my career we have discharged babies home to women that we knew is a horrible situation and decision but CPS has the ultimate say. Women get a chance after chance regardless it seems to be that they want to keep these vulnerable babies with their birth father regardless of how disgusting they are.
So many children are given back to their birth parents and they are murdered in a short time, I see it as their fault as to why this baby is dead, shame on you!! RIP 😢 little man!!!
I can’t imagine how hard that must be. I’m on the other side in psych. If only we could stop these monsters from ruining these kids.
Family reunification is a disgusting policy. I am so upset at our systems. My ex husband isba drug addict and has severe mental health issues that are untreated (like psychosis and both suicidal/homicidal Ideation). It took me TWO YEARS to get full custody of our kids!!!!! Thankfully he is do messed up he could pay for supervised visits. But if he could've, I don't think my kids would be alive today. I just won full custody with him having 0 visitation rights thank God. But our justice system hurts kids, not protects them
My heart goes out to this angel of a woman!!! In just 12 days she showed this poor child more love and care than his parents ever did!! There's a special place in heaven for this baby and this woman!!! I feel she will be the " mother" he is waiting on in heaven... God bless her and baby Dylan!!
Omgosh, she has me crying so that I can feel her pain and her grief.
And the biological mother looks at her with utmost indifference.
right?? she looks like she’s inconvenienced having to listen to FM’s testimony! what a sick egg donor
I really appreciate the camera person switching focus to the parents or even the Ohio plaque when the foster mom was breaking down. No one wants to be shown at such a venerable time with such raw emotion. Well normal ppl don’t but the sorry excuse for a mother, Jessica, didn’t seem to mind crying on camera. So fake.
But back to the camera work...kudos to a very professional job!! 👏 👏 👏
Matthew 11:30
For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light.
So shocking to see her breaking down, and then panning to the biological parents and they just look so guilty. How could people be so evil.
Agreed! So nice!
It really displayed the contrast in emotion. Hearing her choke on her tears while looking at the stone faced birth “mother”. I noticed they cut the audio of her crying too. She deserves all the respect in the world.
Monster parents are dropping crocodile tears, I don’t believe they fell anything for their baby they killed
It breaks my heart. Dylan could have had a loving mom and home but it was stolen from him.
And she's 41. I literally thought she was younger. She's gorgeous
I was thinking the same, she does look younger
Y'all 41 isn't "old"!
I bawled when the foster mom started crying. I cannot imagine how heartbroken she is. She cared for that baby, she loved that baby like he was her own for twelve days only to have to give him to the parents and then they did what they did. 😢
Whomever decided to allow dylan to be reunited Should ALSO be held accountable!
The father passed the drug testing unfortunately.
My heart breaks for all that poor baby endured invitro and once born and returned to his parents
God bless this lady- who gave him love.
He is in God's loving arms now!
@@JoJo-hg7tg in that amount of time he maybe passed one drug test. In my state they have to pass multiple and take parenting a d drug classes as well as pass home inspections. My brother is in the process of adopting a child hes fostered since birth for the last year and a half all of that should be standard 12 days is sickening.
@@JoJo-hg7tg He used his other son's urine. look for other videos.
@@Salvadorzin1 , yes, I'm aware that is how he passed the U A drugvscreen
This breaks my heart. What a terrific woman who had the heart to love a baby when nobody else did.
I love him and I never met him. A lot of the people in this comment section love that innocent little man far more than the people who gave birth to him. I can tell that you love him too. This is so heartbreaking.
@@fallbackbee9170 THIS
My heart breaks seeing the heartbreak this woman is going through. She loved and cared for that baby more than his own parents. At least this little guy was loved for those short 12 days. Such a failure on the system.
This foster mother has such a big heart. God bless her. 💖
God has a special place for her in Paradise, I'm sure. She has such a big heart. It baffles me how the biological parents don't shed a tear except for themselves. And yet this foster mom weeps for that baby she cared for and loved for 12 days.
This woman was more of a mom than the mom. Bless her heart. We so badly need good people like her in this world.
Andrea Bowling is truly an amazing woman! Not only has she taught kids for nearly 20 years but she really looks out for the kids knowing some kids need more help and attention. She is also a foster parent, going through extensive training and classes to help even more children. Truly an angel among us!
Her testimony was very moving. I’m in tears. God Bless this woman. If they would have let her keep the baby he would be happy, healthy, fed, l loved, and given all necessities and beyond. 🥺❤️💔🙏🏼
The teacher doesn’t even look old enough to have been teaching for 18 years.
She most love it so much. She isn't aging. I feel her pain
She's in her 40s
Sitting here watching this sickening trial looking at my 6 month old son wondering how ANY mother could do harm to their child, there are no words. Rip baby boy 💙
dionne 32 same!!! How could any mother do this? I love my baby boy more than anything
Aw I bet your baby has grown so much! I am watching my 5 month old preemie (4 month adjusted age) sleep while I watch this. It is heartbreaking. My baby came early via emergency c section, because of low amniotic fluid.
@@r.coffman1431 I'm watching my 6 month old peacefully sleep at 3.30am after giving him a bottle. He's my 7th baby and I have nurtured and adored all of them. This breaks my heart.
I agree i was watching this as I was just holding my 7month old tight
This all could have been prevented had he just stayed with this loving foster parent. I feel bad for the 15 year old son. I hope he lands in a good situation.
Daniel Groves ,jr. Is now living with his grandparents.
Andrea is an amazing woman!!! Thank God for her! Seriously, who’s knows how many children she has saved and or helped
My heart is broken for this precious little boy and the beautiful soul Andrea Bowling. Such a sad situation, I hope she still finds the strength to continue to foster after such a horrible ordeal. RIP Dylan.
Omg were the drug addicted so called 'parents' made to do classes, training, take medical and physical tests, drug tests and have home inspections done within 12 days?!? Doubt it!! All social services/CPS over the world should be done away with and restructured..to save the innocent children..no more should die!! I'm sure the foster mum feels terrible guilt for giving him back and thinking she didn't protect him, not knowing what would happen :(
The poor foster mother had to give him back. She had no choice. How gutting.
The foster mom genuinely looks sad . More the his real mom ever did.
that’s the truth.
She really wanted to adopt him and give him a great life. The system failed this child.
Shes not surprised because she knows how effin poor the so called child protection is.Poor women and baby.
The “mom” only ever felt sorry for herself. This woman was Dylan’s mother. She will grieve the loss of him for the rest of her life.
Imagine the life baby Dylan could have had if he was kept with his foster mother.
“Why are you not surprised there was no record of your call?”
“....I’m just not.”
Oof. That’s some subtle shade at CPS
mrs Bowling you are an amazing woman! Dylan got to experience love, kindness and what a true mother feels like. keep your head up beautiful. I'm so sorry for your loss
As a foster mother I know how frustrating it is to not be able make decisions on the children we take care of. My heart breaks for this strong woman!
This made me cry, I just had a baby December 16th of 2020 and I couldn’t imagine what that lady is going through... this breaks my heart
My heart goes out to this grieving mother. By mother, I mean Andrea who was the only mother that Dylan had ever been loved by. This woman is amazing and if the system wasn’t so broken, she could have raised him but instead the system failed him miserably. She did what she could and she tried. I really hope and pray that she doesn’t carry any burden for this.