Thank you for sharing. So much resonated with me. I have entirely dropped off my skin routine - something that has been so beneficial to me- not just skin deep as they say. I’m 67, and have gotten so many compliments on my skin- that boosts my confidence all around. I take pride in what I do for me. It just seems that last few months have been even a struggle either everything. It has coincided with some health issues and just not feeling like myself. To hear another woman echo almost everything im currently feeling helped me so much today. Thank you for the support, advice, helpful hints and suggestions in turning those negative feelings around. Hope the tummy gets better!
I’m glad you’re feeling better. I try not to be so hard on myself and if I’m in a slump and feeling tired and low energy I just stay home and heal and watch movies, read a good book and fix myself something healthy to eat. A walk and doing my daily affirmations also helps. We all have these times but it’s important to remember that we are human and we often fall ill and I just go with it and take a break from my busy life. Sometimes life sucks but it can also be great. Hope that helps! ❤
My hubby had a stroke and I am his only caregiver. I have totally stopped taking care of myself and that includes doing my skincare and makeup. Which I love so much! I loved what you said about being gentle with yourself. I think we need to not be afraid to put ourselves first in so many ways. Loving ourselves helps us love others more I think, too!
Such a calm voice you have. I can listen to you for forever. I hear you. In my 50s and I often let myself have days to be lazy and meh. No point getting hard on myself for those few days or even 2 weeks max, Then, boom, I am back on track, sometimes amazing even myself. I think it's good to take a step back and have that time to be self aware about where and why things are going the way they are. You are not alone. By the way, I love your necklaces, gives me an idea on layering my necklaces. Thank you, and happy week ahead!
Kiki, thank you for talking about this subject. I think we all have experienced feeling like this. The fact that you feel proud, even little things, is good for positive reinforcement. We are our own biggest critics. I have to work on that. My therapist always tells me, "You need to be kinder to your Inner Child". 😊
I like the being proud of yourself for the little things you accomplish. I read a book called The Pleasure Trap- it talks about food and evolutionary psychology and why it's so difficult to resist modern junk food- but anyway one thing that the author talks about is your internal audience and how when you make positive steps your internal audience is happy with you and it's easier to continue.
I feel your walk connumdrum. I’ve had recent success with walking daily, but not lengthy routes. Choosing frequency over distance is really working for me. The task seems less imposing. It also helps when temps rise and I can’t tolerate the heat. A shorter walk fits more easily into mornings on hot days.
I love these sessions, Kiki. They resonate so much. I recently came across an article about Revenge Bedtime Procrastination and it so makes sense. There is also something about the female experience 55+ that is deep and real and sharing about it helps tremendously. And for whatever it’s worth, here’s my contribution to the post-it self coaching: Your mindset while in the wilderness determines how long you stay there.
Thanks Kiki. When your earlier video came out, I realized that I had been neglecting my beauty routine too. Also. Like you, I've been doing better, not perfect, but better. Thanks for both videos.
This makes me feel better about walking! I'm 62 and still work full time. I get up at 5:30 every morning to do my skincare and makeup, then really need to push myself out the door to take a walk in the afternoon after work. Some days is easier than others. I too live in So CA and I hate being cold and or hot so I make excuses that it's too one way or the other. I think I'll just take a shorter walk I very much enjoy my skincare routine, it's relaxing to me so I never miss yet that exercise thing... I wish I could do things any time of the day, yet until I am retired I have to stick to a routine
If it were not for the fact that my dog is sooo slow - I'd take my walks when it's cold - in fact, back when I had a dog who wasn't slow - we did walks early in the am & I had to wear mittens! But, yes, tell yourself a shorter walk - I bet once you get out there, you'll like it so much, you'll go longer than you planned!
Isn't that Tula great?! Tummy is on the mend - I think my microbiome was off - too many prebiotics in my diet and no probiotics. I'm now try to eat equal portions of both (been mixing sauerkraut with my cauliflower, for instance) and learning a little about this whole thing. When I'm starting to feel even slightly off - I take Bio-K which is a probiotic - it's really a fascinating subject!
@@TheHoodedLid would love a video on this subject! I’m confused by pre-pro- biotic foods and eat mostly same foods I love. Yogurt, tofu , refried beans, vege / banana / iced coffee/ repeat!! When I lived in Santa Barbara I ate fruit 4/5 times a day . Miss that freshness !
Thank you for sharing Kiki. I have an alarm ⏰ on my phone to ring every day at 10:00 pm to wash my face, jut in case I fall asleep. If I don’t do that I feel so bad about myself. This is like a night routine for me and gets me ready for sleep. Take care Kiki ❤🌹
Thank you for sharing. We all go through different phases, for whatever reason. And no phase lasts forever. That's what I always tell myself when I'm going through a difficult phase. It helps! And it's true, no phase lasts forever. I could never go to bed with makeup or sunscreen on. No matter what time it is or what state I'm in. My bed is my clean space, I want to go to bed with a clean face and body. That's important to me, so I don't think about it, I just do it. Wish you all the best and enjoy your videos.
I love these real world heartfelt talks. I learn from others' challenges. I know I need easy simple and streamlined skin care and makeup/hair. I have fallen so many times off of so many wagons I no longer get shocked. Every time it's because work or family are the main priorities and my own priorities fell away. I had to learn to put on my own oxygen mask before helping others, so to speak. I started scheduling my workouts with a trainer or a gym like they were dental appointments. Not negotiable. Then I added small skincare routines that I could do before or after a shower. The main thing is sunscreen. Always and forever. The rest is gravy. Sending you love 😍
I agree with the others, thanks for sharing. Your skin looks lovely with the westman atelier products, my favourite. Glad to hear you’re feeling better.
I am so sorry to hear you've been unwell. I hope you feel 100% soon. Thank you for sharing. Two large working dogs keep me walking at least an hour a day. To stay on track with my evening skincare routine, I literally do it at 6 pm!
Feel better. I had flu like symptoms & they were allergies. I know your on west coast & I'm on east where everything is blooming & grass /tree pollen is high. Just a thought.
Been off my game for a bit as well, Kiki. I have been serving on a non-profit board and I think while I am busy, I am a bit too busy not enjoying my hobbies. Haven’t played my guitar for 8 months and haven’t painted in 6 months. When I do have time, I just want to sleep or zone out. But I did some retail therapy the other day and found some fun flattering clothes. It was a nice pick me up and my youngest daughter took me out for brunch today. Wore one of the new outfits and felt great. Now I am relaxing and enjoying the weather and reminding myself how fortunate I am and I have choices. Doing Beats Stewing.😊
Kiki glad youre feeling better. I wish i had a zipp My NEWA radiofrequency device broke thats the 2nd on in 4 years. Not happy. Ive been a bit of a slump my estranged adult daughter had her wedding, i wassnt invited and April was just a yucky month so i was a bit haphazard with everything. Hopes for happier days ahead. Im am off to Costa Rica Wednesday and not back til end of the month. Im dropping out of town and leaving the troubles behind .
Yay, Grace! I have a beagle, too (Molly)...13" so kind of small and about 22 lbs. I've had beagles all my life and without exercise, they can get rowdy in the house. The walks are for her, but doesn't hurt to keep me moving , too.
100% for me - the walks are for her (she must sniff every inch) 1st - but I'm getting some exercise as well. When I change into my walking leggings, she sits right in front of the door waiting for me!
Hi. Might you have Lyme disease? Many people have it and don't know. Took my sister a year to get a diagnosis. Could just be a bug tbough. Or maybe SIBO in the gut? Blessings to you in healing! I like the face info I get from your talks.
I think it was a microbiome issue - too much prebiotic foods and no probiotic. I've been much more careful about balancing out what I eat and supplementing with probiotics.
For me, walking is easier if I play a little mind game with myself. If I want to do 30 minutes, I think of it as 15 minutes, I set a timer and head out and then I turn around once it goes off and head back. Just doesn't seem the same if I think of it for 30 minutes straight. Kind of dumb, but it works. 😅
I'm a side sleeper - I just imagine all my yummy products rubbing off on my pillowcase - which is why I want to have it on a few hours before going to bed.
I'm wondering if part of this is skin type. I think you've mentioned that your skin is on the dry side and I'm 59 but still tend to get oily. For me, washing my face is something I actually WANT to do early in the evening only because I can hardly wait to wash off that feeling of oiliness! This is just a theory but my guess is I would be more like you if my skin was drier. My sense is you're doing everything right and feeling less motivated now and then is perfectly natural!
I find this concept of not doing skincare really alien. Did anyone read the book THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS? This was not in the movie, it was a thought that Clarisse had when she saw the room of the last girl taken. I read this book sometime in the 80s and the movie came out in like 1991, so a LOOONG time ago. I remember Clarisse remarking on all the skin care items of this disappeared girl who was a “large” girl (I always thought I was gigantic, I’m not, but we see things differently when we are young). Clarisse (the FBI agent, for anyone who doesn’t remember) thought to herself about the girl’s beautiful skin: “Use it!!” IOW if you’re a size 14 and have beautiful skin, use that as your best feature. Remember when Harry said Ginny had nice skin? (I don’t remember in which Harry Potter). Skin is SO important. For me it’s like brushing my teeth. I can’t go downstairs in the morning or go to sleep at night without taking care of my teeth and my skin.
Thank you for sharing. So much resonated with me. I have entirely dropped off my skin routine - something that has been so beneficial to me- not just skin deep as they say. I’m 67, and have gotten so many compliments on my skin- that boosts my confidence all around. I take pride in what I do for me. It just seems that last few months have been even a struggle either everything. It has coincided with some health issues and just not feeling like myself. To hear another woman echo almost everything im currently feeling helped me so much today. Thank you for the support, advice, helpful hints and suggestions in turning those negative feelings around. Hope the tummy gets better!
I'm so glad to know this video has been helpful. Today - just do one thing. Baby steps. xo
I’m glad you’re feeling better. I try not to be so hard on myself and if I’m in a slump and feeling tired and low energy I just stay home and heal and watch movies, read a good book and fix myself something healthy to eat. A walk and doing my daily affirmations also helps. We all have these times but it’s important to remember that we are human and we often fall ill and I just go with it and take a break from my busy life. Sometimes life sucks but it can also be great. Hope that helps! ❤
My hubby had a stroke and I am his only caregiver. I have totally stopped taking care of myself and that includes doing my skincare and makeup. Which I love so much! I loved what you said about being gentle with yourself. I think we need to not be afraid to put ourselves first in so many ways. Loving ourselves helps us love others more I think, too!
P.S. I hope you feel better soon! ❤
Such a calm voice you have. I can listen to you for forever. I hear you. In my 50s and I often let myself have days to be lazy and meh. No point getting hard on myself for those few days or even 2 weeks max, Then, boom, I am back on track, sometimes amazing even myself. I think it's good to take a step back and have that time to be self aware about where and why things are going the way they are. You are not alone. By the way, I love your necklaces, gives me an idea on layering my necklaces. Thank you, and happy week ahead!
Kiki, thank you for talking about this subject. I think we all have experienced feeling like this. The fact that you feel proud, even little things, is good for positive reinforcement. We are our own biggest critics. I have to work on that. My therapist always tells me, "You need to be kinder to your Inner Child".
😊
There's a line in a Joni Mitchell song, "no one's harder on me than me." I think that's true for many of us!
I like the being proud of yourself for the little things you accomplish. I read a book called The Pleasure Trap- it talks about food and evolutionary psychology and why it's so difficult to resist modern junk food- but anyway one thing that the author talks about is your internal audience and how when you make positive steps your internal audience is happy with you and it's easier to continue.
oh, I like that!
I feel your walk connumdrum. I’ve had recent success with walking daily, but not lengthy routes. Choosing frequency over distance is really working for me. The task seems less imposing. It also helps when temps rise and I can’t tolerate the heat. A shorter walk fits more easily into mornings on hot days.
Yep! Good for you!!
I love these sessions, Kiki. They resonate so much. I recently came across an article about Revenge Bedtime Procrastination and it so makes sense. There is also something about the female experience 55+ that is deep and real and sharing about it helps tremendously. And for whatever it’s worth, here’s my contribution to the post-it self coaching:
Your mindset while in the wilderness determines how long you stay there.
Oooh this is good! Thanks! ❤
Thanks Kiki. When your earlier video came out, I realized that I had been neglecting my beauty routine too. Also. Like you, I've been doing better, not perfect, but better. Thanks for both videos.
This makes me feel better about walking! I'm 62 and still work full time. I get up at 5:30 every morning to do my skincare and makeup, then really need to push myself out the door to take a walk in the afternoon after work. Some days is easier than others. I too live in So CA and I hate being cold and or hot so I make excuses that it's too one way or the other. I think I'll just take a shorter walk I very much enjoy my skincare routine, it's relaxing to me so I never miss yet that exercise thing... I wish I could do things any time of the day, yet until I am retired I have to stick to a routine
If it were not for the fact that my dog is sooo slow - I'd take my walks when it's cold - in fact, back when I had a dog who wasn't slow - we did walks early in the am & I had to wear mittens! But, yes, tell yourself a shorter walk - I bet once you get out there, you'll like it so much, you'll go longer than you planned!
I finally bought the Tula SPF that u love. You’re right! Hoping you are better and stronger every day . Sending love to you and Grace ❤❤
Isn't that Tula great?! Tummy is on the mend - I think my microbiome was off - too many prebiotics in my diet and no probiotics. I'm now try to eat equal portions of both (been mixing sauerkraut with my cauliflower, for instance) and learning a little about this whole thing. When I'm starting to feel even slightly off - I take Bio-K which is a probiotic - it's really a fascinating subject!
@@TheHoodedLid would love a video on this subject! I’m confused by pre-pro- biotic foods and eat mostly same foods I love. Yogurt, tofu , refried beans, vege / banana / iced coffee/ repeat!! When I lived in Santa Barbara I ate fruit 4/5 times a day . Miss that freshness !
Thank you for sharing Kiki. I have an alarm ⏰ on my phone to ring every day at 10:00 pm to wash my face, jut in case I fall asleep. If I don’t do that I feel so bad about myself. This is like a night routine for me and gets me ready for sleep. Take care Kiki ❤🌹
Thank you for sharing. We all go through different phases, for whatever reason. And no phase lasts forever. That's what I always tell myself when I'm going through a difficult phase. It helps! And it's true, no phase lasts forever.
I could never go to bed with makeup or sunscreen on. No matter what time it is or what state I'm in. My bed is my clean space, I want to go to bed with a clean face and body. That's important to me, so I don't think about it, I just do it. Wish you all the best and enjoy your videos.
I love these real world heartfelt talks. I learn from others' challenges. I know I need easy simple and streamlined skin care and makeup/hair. I have fallen so many times off of so many wagons I no longer get shocked. Every time it's because work or family are the main priorities and my own priorities fell away. I had to learn to put on my own oxygen mask before helping others, so to speak. I started scheduling my workouts with a trainer or a gym like they were dental appointments. Not negotiable. Then I added small skincare routines that I could do before or after a shower. The main thing is sunscreen. Always and forever. The rest is gravy. Sending you love 😍
I agree with the others, thanks for sharing. Your skin looks lovely with the westman atelier products, my favourite. Glad to hear you’re feeling better.
I am so sorry to hear you've been unwell. I hope you feel 100% soon. Thank you for sharing. Two large working dogs keep me walking at least an hour a day. To stay on track with my evening skincare routine, I literally do it at 6 pm!
Oh - I went through a period several years ago where I would wash and do skincare once the sun went down. I think that's ideal! Good for you!
I struggle too Kiki.
I always try to stay in routine, but sometimes I am just tired. Always love skincare and makeup!
Feel better. I had flu like symptoms & they were allergies. I know your on west coast & I'm on east where everything is blooming & grass /tree pollen is high. Just a thought.
I think it was an imbalance with my mircobiome. Getting back on track with probiotics!
Been off my game for a bit as well, Kiki. I have been serving on a non-profit board and I think while I am busy, I am a bit too busy not enjoying my hobbies. Haven’t played my guitar for 8 months and haven’t painted in 6 months. When I do have time, I just want to sleep or zone out. But I did some retail therapy the other day and found some fun flattering clothes. It was a nice pick me up and my youngest daughter took me out for brunch today. Wore one of the new outfits and felt great. Now I am relaxing and enjoying the weather and reminding myself how fortunate I am and I have choices. Doing Beats Stewing.😊
Yay! Sounds like you had a great day - Happy Mother's Day!
Kiki glad youre feeling better. I wish i had a zipp
My NEWA radiofrequency device broke thats the 2nd on in 4 years. Not happy.
Ive been a bit of a slump my estranged adult daughter had her wedding, i wassnt invited and April was just a yucky month so i was a bit haphazard with everything. Hopes for happier days ahead. Im am off to Costa Rica Wednesday and not back til end of the month. Im dropping out of town and leaving the troubles behind .
Have a great trip - the perfect was to hit the re-set and re-commit to taking care of yourself!
@@TheHoodedLid am trying to do that.
Yay, Grace! I have a beagle, too (Molly)...13" so kind of small and about 22 lbs. I've had beagles all my life and without exercise, they can get rowdy in the house. The walks are for her, but doesn't hurt to keep me moving , too.
100% for me - the walks are for her (she must sniff every inch) 1st - but I'm getting some exercise as well. When I change into my walking leggings, she sits right in front of the door waiting for me!
I hope you feel better
Baby steps - esp when you're feeling under the weather. You'll get there - and look good doing it!
Thank you!!
Progress not perfection! May sound cheesy, but it's such a good rule for many things in life!
I think you’d make a great therapist, Kiki!
Awww....thank you, Kaz!
I too have fallen. I need to jump back on!!
You can do it!
Hi. Might you have Lyme disease? Many people have it and don't know. Took my sister a year to get a diagnosis. Could just be a bug tbough. Or maybe SIBO in the gut? Blessings to you in healing! I like the face info I get from your talks.
I think it was a microbiome issue - too much prebiotic foods and no probiotic. I've been much more careful about balancing out what I eat and supplementing with probiotics.
For me, walking is easier if I play a little mind game with myself. If I want to do 30 minutes, I think of it as 15 minutes, I set a timer and head out and then I turn around once it goes off and head back. Just doesn't seem the same if I think of it for 30 minutes straight. Kind of dumb, but it works. 😅
That's a good trick, too!
I've been interested in the ZIIP HALO for a bit. I may take the plunge. I'd also like to get a red- light device.
If you do get it - 10% off with my code! I love me some red light, too!
I do my skin care. Before bed it still works whilst you’re sleeping
I'm a side sleeper - I just imagine all my yummy products rubbing off on my pillowcase - which is why I want to have it on a few hours before going to bed.
I'm wondering if part of this is skin type. I think you've mentioned that your skin is on the dry side and I'm 59 but still tend to get oily. For me, washing my face is something I actually WANT to do early in the evening only because I can hardly wait to wash off that feeling of oiliness! This is just a theory but my guess is I would be more like you if my skin was drier. My sense is you're doing everything right and feeling less motivated now and then is perfectly natural!
I couldn’t even get through the ziip 30 dayer
Have you thought about putting red light mask on before getting out of bed
I couldn't imagine waking up and staying in bed - lol.
I find this concept of not doing skincare really alien. Did anyone read the book THE SILENCE OF THE LAMBS? This was not in the movie, it was a thought that Clarisse had when she saw the room of the last girl taken. I read this book sometime in the 80s and the movie came out in like 1991, so a LOOONG time ago. I remember Clarisse remarking on all the skin care items of this disappeared girl who was a “large” girl (I always thought I was gigantic, I’m not, but we see things differently when we are young). Clarisse (the FBI agent, for anyone who doesn’t remember) thought to herself about the girl’s beautiful skin: “Use it!!” IOW if you’re a size 14 and have beautiful skin, use that as your best feature. Remember when Harry said Ginny had nice skin? (I don’t remember in which Harry Potter). Skin is SO important. For me it’s like brushing my teeth. I can’t go downstairs in the morning or go to sleep at night without taking care of my teeth and my skin.
Thank you for sharing your struggles. We all have them. It’s great to hear your little reminders and ways to motivate. ❤