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  • Опубликовано: 25 фев 2023
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    I’m not trying to just throw out some blanket statement of like “think positive thoughts and positive things will happen” BUT I really have come to believe that the most significant difference between successful people and nonsuccessful people comes down to one simple thing…and that is mindset.
    A simple mindset shift can change not just my day, but my week, my month, the course of my year, and yes...even my life. I'm sharing the ones that I think have made the biggest impact to my life, in aspects from career to home.
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Комментарии • 275

  • @chrysvest4746
    @chrysvest4746 Год назад +484

    In your 20’s you worry about what people think of you. In your 30’s you mostly stop caring what others think of you. In your 40’s you realize people aren’t thinking about you. 😂

  • @ms.krueger2660
    @ms.krueger2660 Год назад +18

    You are pregnant? Congratulations!! 🦋🌸. --I have always been a negative person. I’m 58. The last 10 years or so I finally realized I have to stop overthinking. Accept what happens. Don’t dwell on what might happen. Take life one day at a time and be happy with what you have and who you are!! Wish I had done that a long time ago. I was in a wreck 5 weeks ago. Totaled my van. Instead of looking at the negative parts of the situation, I am looking at the positive. The only part left was the drivers seat. I was only hurt by the airbag and seatbelt on my chest and stomach. I am OK. I am thankful God saved me.💜🦋-. A few years ago I would have fell apart. I would have dwelled on it. I would have worried about all I lost. -Instead I am happy. I am alive.

  • @bobbigoodwin2671
    @bobbigoodwin2671 Год назад +36

    My most recent mindset shift is if I really want to do something just do it. I was asking others first “ hey would you be interested in this activity today or what are your thoughts about doing this”. I was frustrated and angry at others for not joining in. Now I say “ I’m doing this today, join me if you like” most will join me but if not I still I’m happy to be doing what I planned.
    I decided that I can just be me.

    • @MomCat03
      @MomCat03 Год назад

      Yes, I’m newly divorced with Ana cult child with Aspergers and other issues, been trying to get him on board to make NEEDED changes and adjustments to our day…it’s been impossible, I too am adhd, we stay up when we should sleep, my ex was on a backwards schedule, so we were too…after almost 2 years of trying, and failing with my son, I decided just yesterday, I’m going to do what I need to do to make necessary positive healthy changes, then once I have succeeded, it’ll be easier for him to join in. But enough waiting on others, my ex took 22 years from us both, he was toxic as ever, it’s time for ME to live MY life after a life of service to others…life is short, need to do what makes you happy my dad always said! So I’ll be the role model he deserves and we will put the past behind us!

    • @MomCat03
      @MomCat03 Год назад

      Omg, stupid auto correct, meant to say with an adult child with Aspergers, you tube wouldn’t let me edit…hope this gets read!😃

  • @bebedanz5163
    @bebedanz5163 8 месяцев назад +1

    I am almost 81, and I really loved this podcast. I have been bogged down in a declutter, but today I feel inspired to keep working. Thank you.

  • @womanofacertainage5892
    @womanofacertainage5892 Год назад +42

    Holy awesome, Kallie! When you talked about exercising to be strong and healthy, rather than for looks, I actually started tearing up. Yep! Same here. I used to do it for losing weight or looks but now, in my late 50s, I see others around me aging, getting weak and unhealthy and out of shape. Naturally we will start losing muscle mass starting around 30 but it really accelerates around menopause (50-ish) for women. I want to age WITH STRENGTH and grace and so I'm back in the gym, weight-lifting and it feels amazing. I don't care as much what I look like as I do about my health and strength and balance. Thanks for this video -- what a lot of great wisdom! XO!

    • @lmack6596
      @lmack6596 Год назад +1

      YES!! 💪💕😃

  • @melindamorgan1736
    @melindamorgan1736 Год назад +161

    WOW!! This talk checked all the boxes for me. I, at age almost 78, have been really trying to put your mindset shifts into action in my mind. It can be empowering but more difficult the older you get. I’m going to play this particular video occasionally to try to keep myself on track. Thank you so much for sharing with us all your insights!!

    • @debraraby4376
      @debraraby4376 Год назад +5

      Well said!

    • @holycats321
      @holycats321 Год назад +6

      You just encouraged me immensely. Go get em!

    • @ingrid2543
      @ingrid2543 Год назад +4

      Truth

    • @rrhines3151
      @rrhines3151 Год назад +12

      At 67, I too feel it’s wiser to not get “stuck” in old mindsets! Easier said than done but this video has prodded me to keep moving forward with a more open mind ❤ Great advice!

    • @Jessalyn032
      @Jessalyn032 Год назад +5

      I am 41, working on so many of these! Saving this video too!

  • @lupitaochoa9529
    @lupitaochoa9529 Год назад +63

    Your section about exercising to make sure your body can do certain things is a conversation I recently had with my son. He is working to become a personal trainer and is using mom for practice. When he asked what I wanted out of a plan, my immediate response was, “I want to be able to wipe my own butt well into my old age.” 😂 TMI for some, I realize, but talk about a mindset shift!
    Thanks for all your videos. I really do get so much out of them.

    • @sharon7382
      @sharon7382 Год назад +4

      I know what you mean! Watching mom and aunt struggle with arthritis and mobility issues in later life drove the point home.

    • @terrirojas
      @terrirojas Год назад +3

      You are right on! I care for my mom (86) and she still can, but I think about that for my aging self all. the. time. 😜

    • @msaijay1153
      @msaijay1153 Год назад +5

      I thought about that when I was waiting to be seated at a restaurant. I saw a lady get out of a car in and she took such a long time to get out of the car. She wasn't old, maybe in her 50s. I realized that I need to make changes now (mid 30s) if I don't want to be in the same situation..

    • @terrirojas
      @terrirojas Год назад +3

      @@msaijay1153 I'm 47 and pulled my back already this morning just putting on my workout pants! 🙄

    • @butterflynerd0078
      @butterflynerd0078 Год назад +2

      I actually think this is a really great goal :) it might sounds silly to some but thinking about it from a mobility and independence perspective, it’s important!

  • @kiraannstanford720
    @kiraannstanford720 Год назад +12

    I hear you on the “body breakdown”! I’ve had 6 kids in 9 years, and I am 35. Older bodies and many pregnancies really does a number. I find that the best exercise is not exercising. I bike because it’s fun. I play sports and run around outside with my kids. We go on walks to burn energy and get out of the house. I totally agree that exercise should never be to lose weight. It’s all about being healthy and feeling good.

  • @Nancydrew1011
    @Nancydrew1011 Год назад +7

    Something I’ve been doing is keeping track of the things I get “ right” day to day… instead of how I failed to get things done on time or perfectly!

    • @softsophisticate
      @softsophisticate Год назад

      That is such a great idea - thanks for that. If something is important enough, it will get done eventually.

  • @Sorchia56
    @Sorchia56 Год назад +3

    What others think of me is none of my business! My Nana taught me that very early on. One of my all time favourite lessons. Right up there with ‘do it now, properly, and let it go’.

  • @tarski7420
    @tarski7420 Год назад +53

    Awesome video, thank you so much. Loved every point, especially #1. Another mind shift that has helped me lately is “something is better than nothing.” I tend to be all-or-nothing, whether it’s exercise or decluttering/cleaning, etc. But now I’m seeing how even doing a little makes a big difference over time. Love all your videos, and love how you’re always so genuine :)

  • @glrinc7756
    @glrinc7756 Год назад +14

    My husband had heart surgery when we were both in our 50's. I knew he was not going to be able to do the physical things he used to, so I decided to exercise to stay stronger physically for the both of us. We are now in our 60's and I have hung onto that same mindset. When I was younger it was all about looks. Now it's about living with more strength and physical freedom. Great points! Thanks!

    • @Romans828girl
      @Romans828girl Год назад +2

      That is awesome. I'm 55 and you are an inspiration to me. We are not in great shape. I had not thought about it in terms of freedom. Wow.

    • @glrinc7756
      @glrinc7756 Год назад +1

      @@Romans828girl I don't do a heavy workout, but I figure every little bit helps. :)

  • @theresapittman205
    @theresapittman205 Год назад +4

    From By Samantha March I learned ‘2-a-days’ for when you’re giving yourself grace. If you skip an important habit 2 days in a row, you can’t skip the 3rd. If you indulge in a habit you’re trying to get out of 2 days in a row, you can’t do it on the 3rd. I’ve been pretty rigid with exercising every day for the past 2.75 years, and I need to cut myself some slack because it’s obviously a habit now, and was trending a little disordered. So this technique is helping me skip a day or eat something not on my plan for the day. I know BSM was trying to create new habits, but I kinda repurposed it for what I need.

  • @renee6524
    @renee6524 Год назад +30

    All great tips. My favorite is not letting society dictate paths to success. There is no one size fits all and no time line. Also, some have more difficult hurdles and may not look successful to society when in fact they are incredibly successful. Success has different meaning to others and what you feel is important might not be applauded by others and vice versa. If we all have the same idea life would be dull. Also, you can change any time your goals are not serving you or you have a desire to go a different path.
    Have you considered doing a Q&A catch up in honor of reaching your one million subscribers?

  • @debbiekelly-snow3868
    @debbiekelly-snow3868 Год назад +5

    It’s really hard to get motivated when you don’t want to do a specific task. You’re right in that you just have to make yourself do it!

  • @PowerToolsWithThread
    @PowerToolsWithThread Год назад +1

    When you take care of your body for HEALTH, all of a sudden, not only exercise, but eating/self-care/numbers-at-the-doctor, become the reason. This is the key to a long healthy life my friend. Amen sister!

  • @christinasabo3617
    @christinasabo3617 Год назад +5

    Starting my week with one of your motivational videos has made Mondays so much more productive. 🙂

  • @ThriftandSip
    @ThriftandSip Год назад +3

    When I would go over to a fellow mom friends home and it was clean I used to think “wow she has her life together way more than me.” Now I see it as “ she worked her butt off cleaning since she knew people were coming over “ 😅😊

  • @legallyoverton
    @legallyoverton Год назад +4

    Caveat to number one-taking breaks can be the only way some people can do things, and that’s totally valid. Also, an exhausted mom that goes to bed with a messy living room is still a great mom (know you didn’t mean it like that, but I could see some moms taking it that way). I envy you! Three kids! So blessed! ❤

  • @AllTheButtons87
    @AllTheButtons87 Год назад +1

    Years ago I developed the mindset of understanding what people think of me is not about me. It has been extremely helpful. I find that the less f***s you give the better you feel lol.

  • @karenrich9092
    @karenrich9092 Год назад +6

    Congrats on the new little lottery ticket! That's what my mother-in-law said when we had our first. She said being a Grandma was like winning the lottery, hence lottery tickets. Good luck with another healthy baby.
    Thanks for this video. I really needed to hear it today.

  • @taraisfluffy
    @taraisfluffy Год назад +11

    Would love a video about how you hope to build self esteem in your kids. It's something that weighs on my mind a lot. Hoping that it will help them avoid peer pressure and stupid decisions. Love this vid!

  • @susanmarie3425
    @susanmarie3425 Год назад +4

    I try to remind myself of the saying: Which is more important: What I want right now, or what I want the most? If what I want the most is to feel healthy but what I want right now is candy, I need to think for a moment about my next move. To this end, I try to ask myself whether I'll be happy about it if I took the "what I want right now" option. Will I be happy I ate that candy bar? Sometimes the answer is yes, but usually it's no.
    Easier said than done, but I've gotten better at it.

  • @juliaw7515
    @juliaw7515 Год назад +6

    The other day I was watching a video by Natalie Bennett, a q&a with her husband, and she said something about how it wasn’t about who was fulfilling a task, because it‘s never gonna be a hundred percent fair, but she sees it as everyone helps the home - somehow this makes me feel so much better about household tasks. I also heard Joshua Becker mention that if a thing needs to be done it might as well be him who does it - I try to say this to myself a lot of times and it helps, too😊

  • @bellegold2956
    @bellegold2956 Год назад +4

    Watching your channel has had an amazing impact on me I cleaned my house for the first time in 6 months on Thursday

  • @aliciaamond8148
    @aliciaamond8148 Год назад +2

    I've learned boundaries.
    1.) You don't have to tell every detail or anything at all when it comes to your life. And same vice versa
    (My pastor told me 9/10 our problems are because of our mouths. That we don't keep quiet or we talk too much. Just learn to listen and don't say anything. Or in other words think, think, think and then don't say anything.)
    This helped me so much with not sharing much info.
    Also, knowing who your audience is. Don't assume that if you are close to someone that they need to know everything.
    2.) This goes especially towards parents. They don't need to know everything.
    3.) Learning that others try to control your life, and it's not their place. There are boundaries.
    Especially when dealing with Narcissists.
    Like it's okay to say "no" or you don't want to.

  • @perpetualautumn6773
    @perpetualautumn6773 6 месяцев назад

    Wow, these are great!! I always wondered why other people are so motivated and I never “feel like it”. So glad to hear that no one “feels like it”, so refreshing to hear!!

  • @mariekastler5391
    @mariekastler5391 Год назад +2

    Your tips have Already helped me after, maybe, 6-8 months! 5 Minute Clean and doing "something that tomorrow me will thank me for" have been game changers and made me more than ready to adopt "you're Never going to feel like it" and "the ill disciplined are slaves to their moods and their passions". That last resonates Too much with my personal history and your reframing is falling on fertile ground. THANK YOU!
    PS, you look So Darling as you make human #3!
    Working out is like if saving for retirement gave you more $$$ TODAY! Of Course, it's worth doing!!!

  • @janelleetsitty36
    @janelleetsitty36 Год назад +2

    I really didn't care about ppl thought of me ever since my 20's, teenage years, yes, but in your 50's doesn't matter even more; too exhausting. A waste of my time.... but, this was definitely a good listen. I started hit yoga, pilates a few years back and increased to going 4 days a week for two years. I have a treadmill and run on those off days giving myself Saturday off for rest. I have made it a routine to rise at 5am is where I make sure my kitchen is clean, do any laundry and such before my 6am class. Then off the work 5 days a week. So, I've instilled this routine fur a consistent 2 years. Yes, I do it for body and mindset, looking slim at my age can be challenging, but I do it for my mind, body & soul. I have two sons 27 and younger one coming up on 24, the years fly by.... So, good luck to you and yours and with that new addition, its going to be a fun ride. Motherhood was by far the best time in my life. Shout out from the Bay Area of California 😎🌴

  • @christinedeutsch8249
    @christinedeutsch8249 Год назад +3

    I keep hearing these same truths from so many places.
    Your presentation of them is real, easily relatable & done without the sense of shaming I usually feel when I’m told what I “should” be doing & “how” I should be doing it.

  • @trishpipkins
    @trishpipkins Год назад +21

    Excellent video AS ALWAYS. The most recent mind shift that's been a game changer it's stopping negative self talk. So many people do it & don't realize how detrimental it is. It is a form of self harm. Stopping it has really changed me as a person in so many positive ways. I highly recommend looking into it and trying to change that inner dialogue.

    • @HeronCoyote1234
      @HeronCoyote1234 Год назад +3

      I have to keep reminding myself of two things.
      Would you let someone talk to a friend the way you just talked to yourself?
      (Family member, usually parent), get out of my head. (We all have those negative tapes of what our parents told us as children, or even adults.)

    • @serenabryan1364
      @serenabryan1364 Год назад +2

      How did you do it? I am so mean to myself.

    • @HeronCoyote1234
      @HeronCoyote1234 Год назад

      @@serenabryan1364 I ask myself if I would let someone else speak to a friend of mine like that. And I realize most of our negativity comes from the familial tapes in our heads.

    • @trishpipkins
      @trishpipkins Год назад +2

      @@serenabryan1364 I ccarried a tiny notebook with me & when I caught myself saying something negative I marked it off and then changed it. So if I dropped a spoon and called myself an idiot I would say to myself "That's not true. I'm human. We all make mistakes. It was an accident." People use talk negatively to themselves because they either feel if they don't do it, no one will and they won't achieve their goals or they deserve to be punished. In my case it was both. However it prevents us from achieving our goals and no one should be punished for making mistakes. I started looking up self compassion prompts and doing those. And like someone else mentioned, I try to talk too myself the way I would my own mother, sister, child, husband and friend. Since I've been treating myself better I've achieved so many goals I struggled with FOR YEARS!

  • @evasochocki5209
    @evasochocki5209 Год назад

    This is exactly the conclusion that I have come to recently. Doing exercises for better health and getting stronger has been the best motivation.

  • @gailagilliland3268
    @gailagilliland3268 Год назад +1

    Kallie, you are an incredibly wise woman for your age to say that if we say “such and such about someone says more about us than them.” I think by now, in my 78th year of life, I have learned these lessons. For God’s sake I certainly hope so! Good for you. Developing yoga practices while pregnant. Maybe I have never developed the right motivation. So scratch that one for me. I think I’ll quit while I’m ahead. ❤️
    Three Babies in four years. I knew I could never do it and I’m so glad I didn’t have to try. I had wicked postpartum after my second baby and of course I had his older brother running around. I wish you and your hubby much love and success with this new birth and bringing the child home. I am glad that you have fresh choice. I’ve tried it and it wasn’t quite as simplified as I would want. I think today they have more easy menu items than when I was buying the dinners. ❤

  • @dianethompson6804
    @dianethompson6804 Год назад +3

    I'm going to save this and listen to it every now and then.
    I'm retired, and I get so lazy! When you have a job and raising children, you know that you have to get things done when you have the time! When you have all the time in the world--doing house cleaning and dishes isn't a priority!! The old Scarlett O'Hara " I'll think about it tomorrow". Or in my case I'll do it tomorrow! And like you said tomorrow I don't feel like it either! Especially dusting--i hate dusting!!
    Thanks for the motivation.

    • @bethupton385
      @bethupton385 Год назад

      I can so relate to this

    • @nicmiller7905
      @nicmiller7905 Год назад +1

      Dusting makes fun with a feather-duster (and it is very quickly done with it, because you leave everything in its place, you don't.have to moove anything)

  • @nancyoffenhiser4916
    @nancyoffenhiser4916 Год назад

    A good friend of mine said my recliner should have police caution tape around it, because if I get in it after I get home from work nothing is ever going to get done!

  • @Cheeries1077
    @Cheeries1077 Год назад +12

    Love this video. I really like the last point, that is the one I really implement a lot. Judging others and knowing what others think of me isn’t really important. I try to focus on me and tell my daughter this also. Good self esteem too. 😊

  • @amylee5893
    @amylee5893 Год назад +2

    A mindset that I think is very important when being motivated to do things or stick to new habits is to do things for you not for other people. Habits and actions won’t stick if you only do them or feel like you should do them for other people. Do the action for you because you want to do it or for it to be done. Then you won’t be frustrated about it not being done when you don’t do it or wait for someone else to do it. Plus your motivation to do it will be higher and it will be more likely to get done.

  • @kendra15150
    @kendra15150 Год назад +22

    Love all of these! I’ll definitely be revisiting this video. Thank you! You have been helping me find peace in my life instead of overwhelm for the last 3 years by helping me focus on small changes I can make to form habits that have literally changed my life 💖 I can’t say it enough. Thank you, thank you, thank you!

  • @MindiiSimii
    @MindiiSimii Год назад +3

    I needed to hear these things. They are things I know, things I am working on, but things I struggle with. I have prayed a lot to overcome these things.
    Sometimes you just need someone to confirm that what you are thinking is correct. Then, you can be that much more confident in how you move forward.

  • @rbodhoo9840
    @rbodhoo9840 Год назад +10

    Happy Sunday ❤so happy to see this video 🎉 your amazing and always so inspiring super thanks always for these amazing videos! You always make my day! All 6 of these greatly helps me shift my mindset in my daily life.

  • @idajanemiller1629
    @idajanemiller1629 Год назад

    I have been overwhelmed with running a house, mother of 6, and seeing to the needs of my special needs son. How and where…. I will be listening to this video again. God bless.

  • @deborahdyer265
    @deborahdyer265 Год назад +5

    Just what I needed today! You make me feel that I'm sitting over a cup of coffee with you and sharing what we need. Thanks for your hard work that helps us to do our own hard work!

  • @StitchingWithLove
    @StitchingWithLove Год назад +4

    What a wise woman you are. Loved this video and your message.

  • @lmack6596
    @lmack6596 Год назад

    I love all these comments about stop caring about what other people think. Especially people you don't even know. Having said that, I do think you look fabulous in this video. Beautiful and strong. 💪💕

  • @prodriveress
    @prodriveress Год назад

    Whether you think you can or you can’t.. your right. (Henry Ford.) Believe you can and you will.

  • @snashley
    @snashley Год назад +2

    One of the 4 Agreements is what comes to mind when considering other people's judgements. K is right, don't take it personally! I like her analogy on the lens of each individual 👀 We can be so hard on ourselves, it's a shame.

  • @user-cr9ce9zy9g
    @user-cr9ce9zy9g Год назад

    Kallie you are so inspirational. This will be a video that I come back for over and over. Thank you for this content.

  • @lynnern57
    @lynnern57 Год назад

    Oh boy, that last one is so true! I’m 65 and finally realized all this about 20 years ago. So freeing and better for my mental health.

  • @jessguzman7676
    @jessguzman7676 Год назад

    Yes, correct and your attitude towards everything you do and want to do!

  • @joannamalak1772
    @joannamalak1772 Год назад

    I think you're my favorite RUclips channel that I watch.

  • @elaineburroughs5471
    @elaineburroughs5471 Год назад +1

    I have not finished the video yet the begining made me pause and go for an hour of cross-country skiing 🙂

  • @amandahart4891
    @amandahart4891 Год назад +1

    I literally didn’t feel like working out this morning. Now I’m off to get dressed and get it done. Future me will thank me.

  • @mayraperez-ferrara5679
    @mayraperez-ferrara5679 Год назад

    I love that you say you used to think. "Really, just put it out into the Universe & it will provide it...Because (you) always believed you were in control of your life & if you work hard..." The way I see it is, "Putting it out there IS the way to get it." Don't get me wrong, you still have to do work, it isn't just say or write it & forget it because it will somehow happen. We ARE in control & all deserve happiness, & love!

  • @rebeccaheidi
    @rebeccaheidi Год назад +1

    I always "what makes or breaks a situation? Your attitude

  • @theresamoser2432
    @theresamoser2432 Год назад +4

    WOW! I am saving this and listening to it every week. This is so in lightning in so many ways. Definitely checked all the boxes ❤

    • @Deci_Bella
      @Deci_Bella Год назад +1

      The word is "enlightening".

  • @sabaarshad7747
    @sabaarshad7747 Год назад

    We believe in even prayers God wants us to be consistent. I was very disciplined before I was stuck by my illness. Now it hurts a lot as everyday of my life is different all depends how much strength mental as well physical I have.

  • @HaulARita
    @HaulARita Год назад

    I agree, I'm never going to feel like it. I just have to push to get that start.

  • @jillievanilli1767
    @jillievanilli1767 Год назад

    I was just thinking today that I tend to be too judgmental and that it causes unnecessary stress so I am stopping that behavior!!!!!

  • @StrawberryPhys
    @StrawberryPhys Год назад +1

    Love this Kallie! You are learning so much at a young age. I wish I heard these things when I was younger. These things are always a great reminder. 😁💜 Your can't choose your emotions but you can choose how to react to them.

  • @ruthhesson8599
    @ruthhesson8599 Год назад +1

    Guilt is a wasted emotion. You can’t change what happened-only learn from it.

  • @joanneholcomb3844
    @joanneholcomb3844 Год назад

    Love this! I especially love the part about exercise. I have always tried but hated it. Now I walk my dog 40 minutes every day around a local conservation area. We love it. And I do it and look forward to it!

  • @ZainabJamaly
    @ZainabJamaly Год назад +1

    Hey Kallie! Great video as always. I follow these 3 step thing of which you have completed the first step.
    1st step is giving others the benefit of doubt as you said, when someone does something that seems offensive they might not have meant it that way. Giving them the excuse until you know for sure.
    2nd step is, to do good to those that have hurt you or wronged you. These steps are actually in them selves processes so for this one you start building from your first step and that is that when you learn to give excuses for others you start asking them if they need help. Example: you invite someone and they decline in what you feel was abrupt or even rude 1st step you excuse them for there behavior thinking maybe they were in a hurry or something was going on. 2nd step you call them back at another time to ask how they are and often they, if close to you, will apologize up front and sometimes they don't realize how they came off and didn't intend it that way at all. (This has happened to me, and it's very freeing) and the goal is here to become empathetic and also reach a place where what others do won't reflect in your actions
    And lastly 3rd step is to give thanks for everything you have. So you start with the thinks that make you happy, ones you are used to that you'll find yourself giving thanks about the normal things that might seem forgotten, and the goal is to reach a place of gratitude where you can't be wronged, where every failure becomes a lesson and every misstep becomes a dance. Basically to learn to find the positive in even the hardest situations and obviously sometimes it won't be instant or even possible but the thought is to have that support system to get through then.

  • @dianakroenke4013
    @dianakroenke4013 Год назад

    Once again thanks not a mind shift or maybe journaling getting it off my chest onto paper brings an insight into what's troubling me helping me to function better and focus

  • @Mert358-x2j
    @Mert358-x2j Год назад +3

    THANK YOU! THANK YOU! THANK YOU! I've been following you for over a year and this is the BEST video to date. I loved the part where we all have our own way of doing things not necessarily right or wrong. Much ❤️

  • @sharonfonseca7506
    @sharonfonseca7506 Год назад

    Giiiiirl! This video was awesome! Short, sweet, useful! Discipline is my biggest takeaway. As a mom, I don’t want my kids to discover what I have at age 40!

  • @kathyesargent9088
    @kathyesargent9088 Год назад +1

    Congratulations on 1 million🎈🎈🎈🎈

  • @stepfaniecoperude6769
    @stepfaniecoperude6769 Год назад

    All the truths everyone hopefully learns growing up. Always good to hear them from another's perspective too. I found you a few months ago and enjoy your videos. Thank you!

  • @efjproductions4326
    @efjproductions4326 Год назад

    WONDERFUL ADVICE! thank you.

  • @lindseymartinson-dk7zf
    @lindseymartinson-dk7zf Год назад

    I totally understand the need to exercise with kids. I had 3 kids in the span of 5 years ending at 40 years old and boy did it take it's toll. Wouldn't trade it for the world, though. You got this mama!

  • @andreea.andreea
    @andreea.andreea Год назад

    Usually motivational coaches talk one hour about only one of these ways to develop the mindset, you have talked about multiple in a couple of minutes in one video... talking about efficiency 👍. I will watch until I will manage it Thank you for your valuable and always practical input! Hope you will keep them comming :)

  • @misss827
    @misss827 Год назад

    Yes! Yes! Yes! I love this so much. For me it helped, to listen and think with the heart, instead of my brain. This might be helpful for people, who are quick thinkers, using their thoughts a lot.

  • @antiantipoda
    @antiantipoda Год назад

    Exercise is for function. I was "lucky" to figure this out in my early 20's when my shoulder refused to work for me. I had a decade of tendinitis, until a doctor figured out the cause - not computers, strangely - but a defect on my bones. The prescription: exercise for strength and flexibility. Always.
    I am in my mid forties now and I can walk, carry weight, work like a champ. These days I am walking 8 km (5 miles) every day. I have been harvesting guavas all over the neighborhood and all the reaching, pulling, balancing has caused me no pain. I am so effing proud of myself.

  • @luzsandoval8244
    @luzsandoval8244 Год назад

    You are awesome. I wish you were my friend when I was a young lady. Different times. God bless you and your family.

  • @janet9524
    @janet9524 Год назад

    I like the talk through reasoning you do with cleaning and decluttering. It helps me alot.

  • @janrankin2457
    @janrankin2457 Год назад +1

    Thank you for all your inspiration. You have helped me many times to get motivated. Congratulations on your third baby. Have a wonderful day

  • @dr.minnettefrancis-haden5216
    @dr.minnettefrancis-haden5216 Год назад +1

    I incorporate all of what you mentioned in my life and the lives of my clients and patients! My life's mantra is The Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have done unto you!!!💯👩🏾‍⚕️😊

    • @Deci_Bella
      @Deci_Bella Год назад

      Except that what you want for yourself may not be what others want for themselves.

    • @Romans828girl
      @Romans828girl Год назад

      @@Deci_Bella Everyone wants respect, to be heard. Everyone needs kindness, to be shown the benefit of the doubt. Most people could use a friendly smile. Honesty. Compassion. There are some things that are universal, that it's safe to assume a total stranger would appreciate it. You're more likely to be able to be more specific with people you're close to, because you know them and their preferences. The Golden Rule is about treating people as valuable, the way you want to be treated.

    • @Deci_Bella
      @Deci_Bella Год назад

      @@Romans828girl I always cite the example of religious proselytizing when I hear about the "golden rule". It's a common occurrence on NYC subways. Those people are probably convinced that they are doing good, they are certainly doing good as *they* see it, but if it were up to me I'd have them all arrested and fined. And exponentially increasing fines for repeated offenses.

    • @Romans828girl
      @Romans828girl Год назад

      @@Deci_Bella If people are trying to share their religion with others that are not receptive to it, I don't think they're really practicing the Golden Rule very well. Nobody likes to be approached and badgered with something they're not interested in. If you want to evangelize for Jesus or for essential oils or for your political party or whatever you're into, you're only gonna annoy people and you're not gonna accomplish anything if you don't learn to approach people respectfully and pay attention to their words and body language, and leave them alone if they want to be left alone.

  • @catnipbarbie
    @catnipbarbie Год назад

    Love, love love this video!!!

  • @carlashdo2569
    @carlashdo2569 9 месяцев назад

    So right on!

  • @sainaasainaa4077
    @sainaasainaa4077 Год назад +1

    Thank you dear

  • @pamelaruth6909
    @pamelaruth6909 Год назад

    Thank you!!!!!! The last concpt hit home!! My DIL has a tendency to act quiet, or sharp or ignore me in a conversation. Right away I ask my husband what did I do?????? Now I will work hard on thinking I'm fine she must be dealing with something in her life. Thank you again. TFS and take care..........

  • @AbbyMoneyhun
    @AbbyMoneyhun Год назад

    Deciding to watch every video you post has positively impacted my life 🥳🤗❤

  • @carolinerambles3885
    @carolinerambles3885 Год назад

    Back to rewatch and set myself up for a better day 💓

  • @amykrupa-wyckoff4601
    @amykrupa-wyckoff4601 Год назад

    Truly thankful I found your channel not long ago, really appreciate all of your content, it has been so helpful. Thank you! Have a blessed day!

  • @missa7160
    @missa7160 Год назад

    Spot on !!

  • @evasusankova906
    @evasusankova906 Год назад

    Genius. Thanks! 🙏

  • @annyg1757
    @annyg1757 Год назад +1

    Fabulous tips❣️. I needed this perspective...thank you.🥰

  • @katiepope8746
    @katiepope8746 Год назад

    This is exactly the content that has been elevating my life. I too have been repeating, I’m not going to want to do that later, either. Haha Thanks! Life changing.

  • @aussiemelinda
    @aussiemelinda Год назад

    👋 Hey Kallie! Just wanted to drop by and say thank you for sharing your amazing Mindshift Secrets with us 🤗! I’ll be adding your tips to mine. It is fascinating the impact on what you think has on your life. My
    first rule is, "It doesn’t have to be perfect, it just has to be done" 🙌. I used to get so caught up in perfectionism but now I remind myself of this all the time. And my second rule is, "It doesn’t matter where I start, it’s where I finish" 🏋️‍♀️! I've been using this in my workouts and it's helped me get started, which is the hardest part.
    I appreciate all the time and effort you put into creating your content and helping us improve our lives. Also, congrats on your upcoming new baby! Wishing you all the very best ❤️.

  • @nicolerinaldo9546
    @nicolerinaldo9546 Год назад

    One of your best videos!! So much great information. I am listening to it again!! Thank you. 💜

  • @Muminsudbury
    @Muminsudbury Год назад

    **One of your Best Videos!
    I have been following you for years, you have had some great content, but this one truly was timely and informative. Well done.

  • @connieryder2979
    @connieryder2979 Год назад

    Re: More than one path aka like belly buttons, everyone has an opinion. Love this line of thinking and want to add that educating oneself on a topic, learning from others, and using that information to forge your own path isn’t the same as doing what everyone else is doing. One way is mindless (doing what everyone is doing) and the other is mindful.

  • @cindycam9651
    @cindycam9651 Год назад

    Thank you!! Love this as a new way forward!

  • @tgayer1
    @tgayer1 Год назад

    Thanks so much for your wisdom and encouragement!

  • @eml818-l3b
    @eml818-l3b Год назад

    Love your video! I also live FETCH!

  • @susantaylor1359
    @susantaylor1359 Год назад

    Happy Sunday. Thank you so much for this video. Need to hear this message. I will be replaying this video again. Thank you

  • @butterflynerd0078
    @butterflynerd0078 Год назад

    I love this video and would love more of it :)

  • @electricmushyy
    @electricmushyy Год назад

    SOOO many great quotes in this video! And you always give the best advice! Thank you 😊

  • @heathermorehouse3366
    @heathermorehouse3366 Год назад

    Funny thing is I had Fetch for awhile too. I have over 41,000 points. I was doing my weekly receipts when you started talking about Fetch.

  • @melfuz
    @melfuz Год назад +1

    Aweeeesome video! Sitting around waiting for motivation... ✋🙂
    Guilty

  • @audrinkaa
    @audrinkaa Год назад

    Swedish house cleaning and this episode are my favourite :)