A relationship should provoke both people to become “better people”. Once either person stops considering each other, communicating or keeping secrets - the relationship will not work.
Gary Grant It's surprising Steve would pull guests like this to make a show. He should do a live show with RUclips viewers and have a grasp of what the world is saying. Not 3 ladies warming a couch. The audience is not comprised of people paid to talk.
I’ve changed from 18 to now 29. But it was never for my partner. It was for my own personal growth and maturity. Life has a way of teaching you lessons and shifting your thoughts as you get older.
Because you are laying the foundation for your future in all areas of your lufe. This isn't only about your partner. This is a core value you have more purity to see the truth because you aren't burdened by others' judgements and confusion. Always hold your values sacred. Never lose sight of you.
I love listening to Mr. Harvey because he shows how a relationship is give and take. You can tell both he and Marjorie have clear respect and boundaries in their relationship. Dope!
1:38 thank you Brooke, ladies don't treat your man like a counselor/psychologist/therapist. Easy way to run your relationship. Use your girlfriends or if you can afford it, a legit therapist.
I personally think that, we can be our own individual person within the relationship. We shouldn't have to exclude/change who we are to be able to have a partner, unless is a bad habit that affects the relationship. He can have his cigarette while she goes on with what she likes, etc and reunite to couplesome. Everyone is happy.
Lol my husband says i'm like a bloodhound . I don't mind if he has a beer after work but he like to test me to see weather I can smell it when he has. Sometimes it can be so late we about to go to bed then I'm like did you have a beer today? He cracks up laughing because he thought I wasn't going to catch the scent .
Really good answers 8/10 What happens when they don’t have your best interest what then? If your partner has your best interests at heart and want you to stop a bad habit, addiction or obsession with something you gotta be respectful However if you really crave something do it once or twice and not around them to get on their nerves (don’t hide it from them just be respectful and avoid any problems with them) You shouldn’t tell your spouse everything apparently their should be some stuff that you should keep to yourself but remember you are a team
I believe, Its not what you do when your with the person but what you do when your not around the person that really counts. Other wise who are you being honest to!?
I agree, majority of the guests on this show preach to lie and go behind your significant others back and I could not disagree more. I dont know if its just a generation gap, but Id want the 100% truth from my significant other. No holding back on details, no trying to go behind my back. Id just want a relationship based on truth.
Nsubuga Rajab no Tamar talks TOO MUCH, if she listened while she was trying to clarify with Brooke, she would’ve heard Brooke actually agreeing with her
I mean it depends. If your wife/husband tells you don't smoke its becaise they love you. Like Obama if he starts smoking because of the stress he will never stop.
what is it she expects me to change and why? and if she expects me to change, is she going to do the same for me? shortly after i got engaged to my ex it was like she wanted someone entirely different. she was pushing and pushing for me to change all kinds of things. the music i listen to, what i wear, the food i like, my friends. just one thing after another. some things were minor and i had no issue making the adjustment. others were a bit more drastic and require some valid reasoning as to why i should. and others were argument inducing. now i did make the attempt to try different things like food and music, but there's no way i'm dressing up like some hipster. I wear what I wear. Suit and tie or slacks and a collared shirt outside the house usually. but if i'm in chill mode at home or there's manual labors needing to get done i'm wearing my jeans, t-shirt and my favorite ball cap. Ladies, a bit of fair warning. Don't mess with a mans hat. It doesn't have to be an actual hat either. It could be his favorite show, his truck or his hobby. Every man has his thing that is his. Women have the same thing. You have your thing he has his. The stereotype about a woman changing her man and then not happy with him in the end has truth. You marry a man and then go about changing him. then you're all 'you're not the man i fell in love with.' Well no kidding.
It depends on the level of severity. If it’s a dealbreaker and I want you and I don’t feel like I would be losing myself I’ll stop it. I love my man but I’m not dependent on having a man so no I’m not going to change everything but as i said the severity of it and then communicating that to me, I got it
Hey. Steve & ladies.. Awesome topic. Here's a tip. Get you a water fall feature up in your lounge. That is far better than any air conditioning unit by far. Filters out all the dust, toxin and heat from not only your living room but can draw it out of your kitchen, bedrooms. So you can smoke yo wad ass cigars to content and she'll never know the difference. To Me. Personally. Fear in a relationship is an opportunity to find a medium solution for all. Trust in one another's abilities, to do right... God loves You, an So do I. God Bless You All...
No I'm not changing, what you see is what you get the body, personality, job that I had when we got married is exactly what you signed up for any improvement is up to me and should be thought of as a bonus and I'll give my husband the same respect, why would you go into a relationship expecting someone to change for you?
Because single life is different from married life and everybody has to make adjustment for each other, because life happens and forces in situation you din't prepare for so we have to adjust to support each other....we change for the good of each other
marriage is partnership not ownership. it’s always necessary to be prepared to bring some compromise or you live in fear and conflict, for me if i love i love them flaws and all, don’t love the person you think you can create.
Change for your partner ... - the problem is hardly anyone knows how to pick a partner. BEFORE you get married You should be completely honest who you are and they should be completely honest to in the event you think they are not being honest you end the relationship right their before you get married. The goal is to find someone you KNOW you are compatible with. So be honest and get someone who does maybe a very few things they you do not like then if and when they change or vis versa if and when you change it will not be that big of a deal cause it is only a few things you gotta deal with a person may be able to change a couple of things about themselves but not a lot they should not have to change a lot you all should have figured out before hand how things are between you two.
It really depends on what it is. Your mate might ask you to not do something and she/he is disrespecting you. So it always just depends on what they're asking. But you always have to change a little. That goes for men and women.
I don't believe you should change for someone else. If they love you they love you for who you are. I couldn't date a vegan even if we connected on most things because I do not agree with it and I will not change to a vegan lifestyle for her. You might think that's selfish but it's really not.
I tell everything. It was one of the initial agreements we set forth at the beginning of our relationship. We are supposed to, even if we think it can be detrimental, let each other know- like, not hide anything. I'm not supposed to play video games, I play video games, I say, "hey, I played video games". Or, "hey, you mind if I play some games?" (Stupid, but only an example), because the point is and was trust and to not fall into the trap of hiding and developing all of these secrets and secret behaviors that can be detrimental in the end. Something like pork, we'd tall about it. But I wouldn't be like, "yo, don't eat that ", unless it was like- something foul and like, a clear risk. Even though, pork is foul. Hahaj
I totally agree to have respect but people (married or dating) do not own people. So if you wish to do it privately in your alone time. However if it's a situation that involves telling other people about your problems in your relationship that has to stop.
Hell na. I ain’t changing for anyone. Let’s say I smoke weed and my woman doesn’t want me smoking weed. Well she can go somewhere else and let me do what I want. If you gotta change for your partner, then your partner isn’t right for you and wants to date someone else; that person should love you for who you are.
The things I want my man to change is his hygiene and the way he dress(style). Start slow and then he will get use to it. Don't nag about it. Show and talk about how the way he take care of his hygiene and the way he dress makes you feel good whenever you see him.
My ex boyfriend didn’t want me talking to other men. Boy, bye. If we were out n he went to the men’s room, heaven forbid I talk to a man while waiting for him. Nothing flirtatious just small talk. Needless to say I left running and never looked back.
First of all, you should never change yourself for other people. You should change yourself because it's for your own good. I agree that it shows huge respect to your partner, if you change yourself for them but always remember that you are the person who have the most responsibility of your own self.
It all depends if you love them enough to make that change. Odds are, if you won't make the change, either you don't love them enough or you just aren't a good fit for each other. But giving up pork is easy, so she should be able to do THAT much.
It truly depends on what it is. Bo one is allowed to smoke in my house. My daughter has allergies and smoking flared them up. I don't want my husband smoke period but I don't have the right to control him
THUS is why you end up divorcing, you can't change for a person you end up regretting having stopped doing something you like. Its the first thing you do when you break up. BE YOU if they gonna accept you then they are gonna accept you.
I agree with all of them respect while you guys are together but I will do it what I want I already been raised by my parents, but my grandmother did not want my grandfather to smoke IN the house because of smell and the smoke my grandfather was bread winner but he took his ass outside and smoked
Does that change when its something the spouse doesn't believe in that results in more permanent changes? My ex was addicted to getting Tattoos and I belive its bad to mark up your body. she refused t/o stop getting tattos and now she's my ex should I have been more accepting or was I right to stand by what I belived in situations can be different and somethings are worse than others it really just dends on the situation I think.
Having all three of these women on at the same time is not a good idea. It’s not a discussion, except among themselves (just the way women like it). Women like hearing only their viewpoint and opinions because it reinforces their bad life decisions. Notice how hard it is for Steve to get a word in edge-wise.
Hmmmm I need help everyone! So my girl and I have been together for 4 years now but we always disagreed on an issue: Me having female friends, talking on the phone with them or meeting up in public places to talk. We’ve talked about proper boundaries and I’ve implemented them but she still wants to me to stop talking with them entirely unless it’s in a group setting ,work or with my girlfriend. I feel like she’s projecting her insecurities on me and I’ve never cheated on her or anyone and keep it respectful when I talk with them. And it is isn’t very often! She even doesn’t want me to hang out with my brothers wife(my brothers wife was my friend and coworker and I got her and my bro together). Am I wrong to want to talk with other female friends occasionally? Or is she being insecure and controlling?
I don't agree with the "do it while your spouse isn't around thought process". If you agree not to do it then that should go for if they are around or not because if they found out it will cause conflict and trust issues.
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Everything you do for your partner should be done out of respect,
not because you’re scared of them.
Ajo Wong amen to that
It’s a reverential fear. Like we fear God.
It's fear to anger or displease the or hurt them not this fear of like am terrified
Exactly
I wish I had learned that as a little girl.
A relationship should provoke both people to become “better people”. Once either person stops considering each other, communicating or keeping secrets - the relationship will not work.
Gary Grant
It's surprising Steve would pull guests like this to make a show.
He should do a live show with RUclips viewers and have a grasp of what the world is saying. Not 3 ladies warming a couch. The audience is not comprised of people paid to talk.
I’ve changed from 18 to now 29. But it was never for my partner. It was for my own personal growth and maturity. Life has a way of teaching you lessons and shifting your thoughts as you get older.
Ewwww you ain't change that damn much. Put a shirt on.
If it benefits both of us. Then I think you should change. Im 17 years old. Why am I here commenting....
kimani 😂😂 this comment is super cute
Ncxwwwwww cute
bc you’re a human being with thoughts and opinions and you’re allowed to express them 🤷🏽♀️
To learn lol
Because you are laying the foundation for your future in all areas of your lufe. This isn't only about your partner. This is a core value you have more purity to see the truth because you aren't burdened by others' judgements and confusion.
Always hold your values sacred. Never lose sight of you.
Yes I agree. You need to show respect for your relationship if you truly value your relationship with your partner
Adrienne's bestie and Tamar being nice I love it. Tamar looking better these days. Keep it up and keep calm 😘
Ohmy gosh
Oh that’s Adrienne’s friend
But I remember Tamar saying she missed Adrienne around this time too.
I love listening to Mr. Harvey because he shows how a relationship is give and take. You can tell both he and Marjorie have clear respect and boundaries in their relationship. Dope!
Wait for next divorse
... nah we can work around that like she said 😂😂 you not bout to tell me I can't eat pork chops.
"Oh yes , oh glory" i died 😂😂😂
"Don't tell your spouse eveything ! And don't keep secrets too " #FACT#
Kathrine Fri Doesn't that contradict?
I dont get how that makes any sense! Isnt telling everything means theres secrets?
Nina Figueroa Homegirl got 60 "likes" so she thinks she said something right, lol
Qt Pie lol
@@ninaleyda2213 it doesn't make sense. It's literally saying hold secrets but don't hold secrets.
1:38 thank you Brooke, ladies don't treat your man like a counselor/psychologist/therapist. Easy way to run your relationship. Use your girlfriends or if you can afford it, a legit therapist.
It's all about compromise, u love that person so you do things for that person And vise versa.
My spouse telling me to not eat something?!!! Definitely NOT hun. Changing bad habits OFC like smoking but food !!!
While controlling food is strange... To be fair she said he wanted her to stop eating pork becuase of health reasons
Tamar!!! Right on time I clicked so fast ♥️💕. Ppl have no idea that divorce and co parenting is no joke not easy. Leave her alone ijs let her heal.
Naturalmom7 She got divorced? And do you know why she cut her hair?
She should heal in private then.
Hashem she cut her hair because she wanted to
Hashem - Only filed & she cut her hair for liberation.
she cut her hair for liberation from the oppression of the blonde, which Vince demanded
Steve Harvey always has nice suits and matching ties!
I personally think that, we can be our own individual person within the relationship. We shouldn't have to exclude/change who we are to be able to have a partner, unless is a bad habit that affects the relationship. He can have his cigarette while she goes on with what she likes, etc and reunite to couplesome. Everyone is happy.
Steve is so funny... He's scared of his wife 😁
Lol my husband says i'm like a bloodhound . I don't mind if he has a beer after work but he like to test me to see weather I can smell it when he has. Sometimes it can be so late we about to go to bed then I'm like did you have a beer today? He cracks up laughing because he thought I wasn't going to catch the scent .
Really good answers 8/10
What happens when they don’t have your best interest what then?
If your partner has your best interests at heart and want you to stop a bad habit, addiction or obsession with something you gotta be respectful
However if you really crave something do it once or twice and not around them to get on their nerves (don’t hide it from them just be respectful and avoid any problems with them)
You shouldn’t tell your spouse everything apparently their should be some stuff that you should keep to yourself but remember you are a team
I believe, Its not what you do when your with the person but what you do when your not around the person that really counts. Other wise who are you being honest to!?
I agree, majority of the guests on this show preach to lie and go behind your significant others back and I could not disagree more. I dont know if its just a generation gap, but Id want the 100% truth from my significant other. No holding back on details, no trying to go behind my back. Id just want a relationship based on truth.
Vince... Never ate pork???
No, she divorced him. New guy.
🤣🤣🤣 low key shade
The way Steve says Ceegar has me smiling. He is my 'retired player' uncle
"I'm scared of her ass. Imma just be real with it." 😂🤣😂🤣🤣😂😂
I thought Tamar was getting her own show
I think she has to prove herself before she gets millions of investments and time.
Stghe aeed Eshaq is watch Tamar all day every day. Just listening to her music had to come here again for her other talent
I think this is a part of the process, her panel sits with Harvey
me too 🐸☕️
She already had a 2 year platform on a panel show.
Tamar did good on this clip; she didnt take over the conversation... She got me with the Respect tho;-)
Julissa is so beautiful OMG
*_IKR?!! 106 & Park didn’t do her justice.. She looks stunning!!_* 🤩🤩🤩
I just love watch Steve Harvey show he is like everything to me, I wish one day I get to meet him love you Steve😍😍❤❤
Tamars legs are so beautiful! 🙏🏽
Tamar looks really good with short hair.
As long as you're will to change for them too.
#TAMAR talks facts
Nsubuga Rajab no Tamar talks TOO MUCH, if she listened while she was trying to clarify with Brooke, she would’ve heard Brooke actually agreeing with her
I knew he was afraid of her. No, he shouldn't.
Great question I'm kinda going through the same thing and was wondering if I'm doing the right or wrong thing but I now have my answer, thanks Steve!!
I mean it depends. If your wife/husband tells you don't smoke its becaise they love you. Like Obama if he starts smoking because of the stress he will never stop.
Tamar is funny
She's the best when she said a pork chop sandwich I was DEAD
Change for the better is always good
i love tamar she's great for tv they all did great
vince big ass trying to tell someone what not to eat is hilarious
Julissaaaaa😍🤗
what is it she expects me to change and why? and if she expects me to change, is she going to do the same for me? shortly after i got engaged to my ex it was like she wanted someone entirely different. she was pushing and pushing for me to change all kinds of things. the music i listen to, what i wear, the food i like, my friends. just one thing after another. some things were minor and i had no issue making the adjustment. others were a bit more drastic and require some valid reasoning as to why i should. and others were argument inducing. now i did make the attempt to try different things like food and music, but there's no way i'm dressing up like some hipster. I wear what I wear. Suit and tie or slacks and a collared shirt outside the house usually. but if i'm in chill mode at home or there's manual labors needing to get done i'm wearing my jeans, t-shirt and my favorite ball cap. Ladies, a bit of fair warning. Don't mess with a mans hat. It doesn't have to be an actual hat either. It could be his favorite show, his truck or his hobby. Every man has his thing that is his. Women have the same thing. You have your thing he has his. The stereotype about a woman changing her man and then not happy with him in the end has truth. You marry a man and then go about changing him. then you're all 'you're not the man i fell in love with.' Well no kidding.
Yassss to the pork chop sandwiches!!
Some bad behaviours YES but never change who you are. Alot of my ex gf expected me to change yet they would stay the same.
It depends on the level of severity. If it’s a dealbreaker and I want you and I don’t feel like I would be losing myself I’ll stop it. I love my man but I’m not dependent on having a man so no I’m not going to change everything but as i said the severity of it and then communicating that to me, I got it
Hey. Steve & ladies.. Awesome topic. Here's a tip. Get you a water fall feature up in your lounge. That is far better than any air conditioning unit by far. Filters out all the dust, toxin and heat from not only your living room but can draw it out of your kitchen, bedrooms. So you can smoke yo wad ass cigars to content and she'll never know the difference.
To Me. Personally. Fear in a relationship is an opportunity to find a medium solution for all. Trust in one another's abilities, to do right...
God loves You, an So do I.
God Bless You All...
I´m not asking for change....I´m asking to grow as a person.
One mistake is not to be yourself in a responsible manner.
Tamar needs her own show
Period
If it's not an addiction or nothing serious then no if its not something effecting the relationship
lol adrienne bailons "best friend" Julisa working with Tamar Braxton.lol.
No I'm not changing, what you see is what you get the body, personality, job that I had when we got married is exactly what you signed up for any improvement is up to me and should be thought of as a bonus and I'll give my husband the same respect, why would you go into a relationship expecting someone to change for you?
Because single life is different from married life and everybody has to make adjustment for each other, because life happens and forces in situation you din't prepare for so we have to adjust to support each other....we change for the good of each other
marriage is partnership not ownership. it’s always necessary to be prepared to bring some compromise or you live in fear and conflict, for me if i love i love them flaws and all, don’t love the person you think you can create.
You can def reserve things for yourself, but when it comes to hiding destructive behaviours that is a big no for me.
Good talks Tam 👍🏽💪
Julissa as in empirr girls julissa and adrienne right?
Dee Dee yes!
Dee Dee yes
as in Maxwell's ex
Ooh are they exes now?
they have been on and off for some time
Loving the cast uncle Steve
No man can’t tell me wat to eat😂 especially wen he look like Vince tlkn bout eat n healthy😂
Subbed so fast... Love Tamar
Change for your partner ... - the problem is hardly anyone knows how to pick a partner. BEFORE you get married You should be completely honest who you are and they should be completely honest to in the event you think they are not being honest you end the relationship right their before you get married. The goal is to find someone you KNOW you are compatible with. So be honest and get someone who does maybe a very few things they you do not like then if and when they change or vis versa if and when you change it will not be that big of a deal cause it is only a few things you gotta deal with a person may be able to change a couple of things about themselves but not a lot they should not have to change a lot you all should have figured out before hand how things are between you two.
I believe that u can't tell a person everything about u
This is my favorite panel!🙆👌🔥🔥🔥
It's about respect on both sides. I think if the president wants a cigarette he should have one.
Julissa did good. I was afraid she'd be a little intimidated w Tamar or Steve but no. 👏🏾
It really depends on what it is. Your mate might ask you to not do something and she/he is disrespecting you. So it always just depends on what they're asking. But you always have to change a little. That goes for men and women.
I love how they tryna say not telling the truth and hiding things is ok depending on what it is. Its never ok
I tell my man everything & he tells me everything
AMANDA EDWARDS you sure lol
Lol!
Sure ....
I don't believe you should change for someone else. If they love you they love you for who you are. I couldn't date a vegan even if we connected on most things because I do not agree with it and I will not change to a vegan lifestyle for her.
You might think that's selfish but it's really not.
I tell everything. It was one of the initial agreements we set forth at the beginning of our relationship. We are supposed to, even if we think it can be detrimental, let each other know- like, not hide anything. I'm not supposed to play video games, I play video games, I say, "hey, I played video games". Or, "hey, you mind if I play some games?" (Stupid, but only an example), because the point is and was trust and to not fall into the trap of hiding and developing all of these secrets and secret behaviors that can be detrimental in the end. Something like pork, we'd tall about it. But I wouldn't be like, "yo, don't eat that ", unless it was like- something foul and like, a clear risk. Even though, pork is foul. Hahaj
I totally agree to have respect but people (married or dating) do not own people. So if you wish to do it privately in your alone time. However if it's a situation that involves telling other people about your problems in your relationship that has to stop.
I think when you are married, you own each other
I love pork & chicken skin specially an extra fried hmm crispy yummy👌
Hell na. I ain’t changing for anyone. Let’s say I smoke weed and my woman doesn’t want me smoking weed. Well she can go somewhere else and let me do what I want. If you gotta change for your partner, then your partner isn’t right for you and wants to date someone else; that person should love you for who you are.
Oh glory ... love Tamar 🙌🏼🙌🏼🙌🏼
Somebody give tamar some pork chop😂😂
The things I want my man to change is his hygiene and the way he dress(style). Start slow and then he will get use to it. Don't nag about it. Show and talk about how the way he take care of his hygiene and the way he dress makes you feel good whenever you see him.
ndnadia9
SWEETIE...ARE YOU SAYING HE DOESN'T SHOWER??
Phillips Watson there are some man who don't take care of their hygiene. Whether shower or anything else.
My ex boyfriend didn’t want me talking to other men. Boy, bye. If we were out n he went to the men’s room, heaven forbid I talk to a man while waiting for him. Nothing flirtatious just small talk. Needless to say I left running and never looked back.
Yes, if you love them you respect them ...
Yep this is facts & I still miss cigarettes 🚬 to this day 😆💭 lol ...
First of all, you should never change yourself for other people. You should change yourself because it's for your own good. I agree that it shows huge respect to your partner, if you change yourself for them but always remember that you are the person who have the most responsibility of your own self.
Yeah ❤
It all depends if you love them enough to make that change. Odds are, if you won't make the change, either you don't love them enough or you just aren't a good fit for each other.
But giving up pork is easy, so she should be able to do THAT much.
It truly depends on what it is. Bo one is allowed to smoke in my house. My daughter has allergies and smoking flared them up. I don't want my husband smoke period but I don't have the right to control him
THUS is why you end up divorcing, you can't change for a person you end up regretting having stopped doing something you like. Its the first thing you do when you break up. BE YOU if they gonna accept you then they are gonna accept you.
Great job Tamar👏👏👏👏
Come through Brooke
Julissa has a beautiful small full frame, beautiful skin, hair, beautiful outfit, I mean EVERYTHING is beautiful about her
You can change your habits, but not your beliefs
nope, not stopping what I am eating for no men unless it's something that's going to hurt me like smoking
Tamar needa talk show
I agree with all of them respect while you guys are together but I will do it what I want I already been raised by my parents, but my grandmother did not want my grandfather to smoke IN the house because of smell and the smoke my grandfather was bread winner but he took his ass outside and smoked
Tamar looks F***n GOOD.
Something about going behind my partner back to do something weird. But I’m one of the few people who use ✨communication✨
Does that change when its something the spouse doesn't believe in that results in more permanent changes? My ex was addicted to getting Tattoos and I belive its bad to mark up your body. she refused t/o stop getting tattos and now she's my ex should I have been more accepting or was I right to stand by what I belived in situations can be different and somethings are worse than others it really just dends on the situation I think.
Never change who you are for anyone.
Oh glory 😁😁😁 I love Tamar
I love the Obama and tamar grow ur hair out.
Having all three of these women on at the same time is not a good idea. It’s not a discussion, except among themselves (just the way women like it). Women like hearing only their viewpoint and opinions because it reinforces their bad life decisions. Notice how hard it is for Steve to get a word in edge-wise.
Hmmmm I need help everyone! So my girl and I have been together for 4 years now but we always disagreed on an issue: Me having female friends, talking on the phone with them or meeting up in public places to talk. We’ve talked about proper boundaries and I’ve implemented them but she still wants to me to stop talking with them entirely unless it’s in a group setting ,work or with my girlfriend. I feel like she’s projecting her insecurities on me and I’ve never cheated on her or anyone and keep it respectful when I talk with them. And it is isn’t very often! She even doesn’t want me to hang out with my brothers wife(my brothers wife was my friend and coworker and I got her and my bro together). Am I wrong to want to talk with other female friends occasionally? Or is she being insecure and controlling?
I'm not changing my habits for anybody if you take somebody you take him or her as they are.
I think of its a bad habit and something within reason then it's fair to ask.
Idc... Be and do what pleases you. .period...
Why is Steve scared of his wife.sjocking
I don't agree with the "do it while your spouse isn't around thought process". If you agree not to do it then that should go for if they are around or not because if they found out it will cause conflict and trust issues.