What do you do after cancer treatment?
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It sounds like a form of grief. Like you are going through a process grieving your experience. It’s a process of rebirth and finding your new normal after trauma. I suggest journaling if you’re not already. You’re doing so great and you are so smart and kind. We are all so proud of you!
Yes it’s exactly that! 🙏🏻
Weird, how perceptions can be different. I think of comments being more for other viewers (not just content creator) and I find it helpful, cause not all of us have a degree in psychology 😅
Just finished chemo #6 for endometrial cancer. And the first thing i thought of was to go to Vegas too! First time watching. My sweet niece sent me your video today 🙏🧡😘
That IS a sweet niece! 🙃 Best of luck on round 6! 💪🏻
Much love too you!
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illness, whether acute or chronic, forces you to grieve the plans (past and future) and ideas you had for your life and reassess. the world is made anew in this way again & again. this is one of the hardest parts of illness that people don't understand until they go through it.
Wonderfully put
Two-year breast cancer survivor here. Thank you for sharing your experience. I have made a lot of progress in processing my own grief, but I definitely still struggle. I find your videos very helpful and comforting.
so glad to connect with you
Ironically enough, I’m playing your video so that I’m not alone with my thoughts. I really relate to filling the silence and not wanting to be alone with my thoughts. I play podcasts/RUclips videos 80% of my day so that I’m not stuck with my own brain. You’ve challenged me to “easy madam perhaps today you really opt out mmkay”. Starting small I will try showering with playing a podcast and really sit with the silence or the thoughts/feelings that come with it.
I am so so so so glad that people are getting warned about this phase of the experience now. That's a newer thing, before it was really easy to feel lost and get really whalloped by the complex emotions and weirdness of that time after treatment when your brain finally has a moment to go "what the hell happened to me?" at the same time as you're celebrating being done but also adjusting to things being different now. I hope you continue to have support and guidance as you navigate this stage.
What I * am* happy about, is that it sounds like you’re conquering this, which is awesome. You’ve always struck me as a nice human, and I appreciate it when nice persons get to continue their niceness. My mom had cancer four times, four separate types of cancer, and kicked them all - but she also had military healthcare which I don’t. If there’s anything I take away from all of that, is that I want universal healthcare, so everyone CAN afford to get the medical care they need. Period.
"My ability to repress and move forward is pretty outstanding"-- I so feel that. Thank you, again, for sharing your experiences. They've helped me see into the experiences of my aunt going through the same treatment. This video, though, feels like it talks about the ubiquitous experience of our generation right now, so thank you for that too!
F*k around and find out... but make it purposeful and actually good for our path..going with the flow and learning as we grow...that ending really resonated with me.. this whole video spoke so deeply to me and where I am at in my own chaotic medical journey and struggle right now.. just still in the trenches and about to meet the next doctor that could change my life and fiiinally bring the healing i have so desperately been needing.
Here's to hoping I get to the point where I can also bring my head up out of the proverbial sand too and resurface in my own life.
Medical shit sucks on another level.
Proud of you Grace ❤
Please keep sharing your journey, it's helping more than you know 🙏
As a Nevada resident, I’m gonna absolutely make a shirt that says “If I’m gonna be a fucking lunatic I might as well be in Las Vegas.”
Yessss. I totally didn’t process treatment until after I was done. I was in survival mode. It’s a lot. This is all so accurate.
Thank you so so so much for sharing Grace. My mom is wrapping up her breast cancer journey and is in the same boat. Videos like this mean a lot to the both of us xoxoxo
Would recommend the book "It's Not Always Depression" by Hilary Jacobs Hendel for help with processing that complex cocktail of emotions you have going on Grace!
I loved this Grace. I went through a really toxic breakup and it took almost 6 months for me to fine feel okay in an empty room, what a great analogy
Yes, what DO you do after? I'm a stage IV melanoma cancer patient and I go through weird phases where everything seems fine for about six months or so, and then things pick back up again. I've been in this cycle now for five years!
Knowing when to chill, when to go into "lets just power through this" mode, and when I should be worried is exhausting.
After being in such a state of shock/powering though, I know it feels weird to have nothing happening. Try to enjoy this time, appreciate "normal" life, and do something fun! It's a milestone you've hit.
Thank you for the helpful insight! 💪🏻💖
I’m a melanoma survivor here! im sending you so much love and strength 💕
@@kendra09999 Thank you so much, Kendra! I'm so so thrilled to hear you're a survivor! Sending you love and strength right back! 💕
Stage 3 survivor here!! You've got this. Life sucks right now, but once you're done, you will feel like you are on top of the world.
I’m so so happy for you, Grace!!! I’ve never been close to enduring something like what you’ve been through, but I hope if I ever do, I’m able to face it with the poise you have!! 💜💜💜
Thank you!!
Been there with you when we were dressing to repress and with you while we are feeling our feelings and going through some major shit. I am so glad to be on the planet with you. You've always been good company during the hard parts. Enjoy Vegas!
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I just saw the clip of your voice over of all the things that need happen right now in Hank's video and wanted to pop over here and watch the whole thing.
I'm glad so glad you're post-treatment.
I was diagnosed with endometrial cancer in October of last year and was lucky enough that it was caught early enough, I didn't need to do radiation or chemo, just had a full hysterectomy. So I'm cancer free and I have no idea what to do with it.
I feel like I'm both in the fast lane and at a complete stand-still. And clearly, I don't have enough words or the right words or even decent words to describe it all.
I'm not who I am, but I'm exactly who I was, just maybe a little more. I want to do all and nothing, too. And I want to not feel all the feelings never and at once.
The whole process is...for lack of words, weird. Give yourself grace, pun only slightly intended. None of this is easy. Much love and peace.
P.S. I started using my own deck more afterwards as well. 💜
I was diagnosed around the same time as you and I watched your journey as I was on mine like a buddy doing this with me. But this part!! The after part!! It’s so crazy thanks so much for talking about this. It helps me find words for it too.
I don't know either. I'm still in cancer treatment with Keytruda and it'll probably take years. Positive is that it is so effective and doesn't have many side effects. Negative, the money and it will take forever to finish. So I'm kinda just chilling I guess
good luck
Sending positive vibes and support your way!! 🤗
Chill hard
Grace, that card hit me like a ton of bricks, too. My dad passed away January 2023 and I've been handling a bunch of heavy legal shit for that. I haven't ever had time to just sit and grieve. We're coming to the end of it now and I am genuinely worried about what's next for me. I don't know where my heart and head will go when I don't have "stuff to do." Anyway .. I'm so happy to see you smiling and thriving! You're doing the best you can and that's totally enough. ❤
Sending you lots of love 💓
This reminds me of my favorite quote, “Be still, listen to the silence and let your soul catch up.”
Wow love that
There’s a Basho quote, “Sitting quietly, doing nothing-spring comes, and the grass grows by itself.” similarly one of my favorites :)
Hi! I'm a long-time subscriber who unsubscribed during your burnout/podcast/master's hiatus. This video popped up in my recommendations yesterday which led me to binge watch your whole cancer journey, beginning to end. I just want to say that I found your cancer videos surprisingly positive and uplifting. Not the type of content I ever thought I needed in my life, but alas, I did. I'm glad you're alive, I'm glad you're back uploading, I'm glad I'm back as a subscriber. Thank you Grace for filming your cancer journey, and thank you algorithm for bringing me back here. 💛💚🧡
I have an “incurable “ cancer 3 years of treatment and recovery, 6 years on and I’m still cancer free. It’s hard and emotionally exhausting. It’s not something that goes, but you can get through it and someone like you will be fine. Don’t put pressure on yourself, just be.
Always a pleasure to see and hear you! I struggle with doing nothing, and fill any void with distractions too... Ya right, gotta work on that! To answer your question, how about doing one thing after the other, and congratulating yourself for it? Like this video, for example... GJ, you! GJ! 👍👍👍
You’re pretty cool, Grace. Thanks for being so honest. This is gonna help so many people understand that what they’re feeling is okay.
I am still in active treatment for breast cancer. Tomorrow begins my second week of radiation. I am nearly twice Grace's age, old enough you'd think to be able to take most things in my stride, but this experience has been a revelation. I have always thought of myself as an empathetic person, but I now know I hadn't a clue. There is no way to imagine the full impact, physical and emotional, of a cancer diagnosis until you receive one yourself.
"Congrats to everyone Who is early and who found this comment.. 🐼🐧,,,,,..
I’ve never had to deal with cancer, but I was born with Spina Bifida which leaves me wheelchair bound. So I’ve been at war with my body my entire life and sometimes life just feels like it’s too much to deal with as a normal functioning human, but add a limitation of not being able to walk and it’s just that much harder. What you’re feeling is normal. Very normal. The fact that you can talk about it, is improvement.
I enjoy listening to your brain. The reading was relevant to me because I start a new job on Monday. Wow! 👍
cancer survivor here, 4 years NED in august and i still dont know what im doing
Truly what DO you do. I finished chemo in December. January I found out it didn’t really work. So now I’m in the in between space of I’m not on chemo but I might have to be again in the future. Generally no idea what is going on!
"Let's get scared straight okay.... or gay I dunno." 😂
I'm so happy you have a support system...
When I finished leukemia treatment in February 2020, I launched myself into DOING things. I did a 50 hour volunteer training for a women's shelter. I got a temp job with the census. I traveled to Miami. I hosted friends. And then Covid hit. And I was in that empty room. I had to sit and wait and be patient. That post-cancer headspace comes and goes for me. Four years out it's definitely easier.
Holyyyy shit Grace this could not have come at a better time. I had a stem cell transplant in July and my jaw literally dropped when you said the thing about tunnel vision because that is essentially word for word what I said to my doctor at my last appointment where I also had a little emotional breakdown! I think we are grieving so many things - grieving that we went through such a horrible thing, grieving the sadness our loved ones went through, grieving the person we were before cancer, and for me at least, grieving people who didn’t make it. Non-cancer folks really underestimate how hard it is once you’re in remission and you’re just supposed to be a normal human now and it’s just not possible lol. Thank you so much for this video, every damn thing you said resonates with me so hard and I am having the exact same uncomfortable experiences. I really might need to invest in a tarot deck because I loved that!!
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Just so you know, saying this to be helpful and not an internet meanie, but what she’s using is not a tarot deck. You can still get one and I’d love that for you, but I don’t want you to be surprised or get something that’s not useful to you. If you don’t get this exact one I would recommend starting with an oracle deck. ✌️
I LOVE that Archetype deck!! I use it in my collective readings to call people out haha
niiiiice lol
Congratulations Grace!!!
You’re an mf-ing rockstar
Love to you and Elliot ❤ xx
this color blue looks amazing on you, grace!
Grace, your impact has been felt by all of us, we are all grateful for you. I know I am since I first saw you on attack of the show. It’s time you know that we support you for who you are and we love you :) have fun at Vegas you deserve it :)
Your looking great kiddo! Gooood afternoon from central Florida! Hope everyone has a great afternoon!
Wild, I've had the wild unknown tarot deck for a couple years.
The cards ALWAYS know!! Thank you for sharing, as always Grace!
"let's get scared straight, or gay. I don't know". I love that 🤣🤣
Hiiiii Grace I love this video I needed this in here for distractions from my depression :( thank you for the smiles laughs and life help
Watching your journey, Grace, and hoping beyond hope that my dad will get the same results. You're a little ahead, so it was a good process for me, seeing your stages and learning about what to expect. I am grateful that you decided to share this entire thing with us.
That being said.. CONGRATULATIONS!! I am so happy for you! You did it! You smashed it, you kicked it in the balls. Wishing for you to get through this phase with ease, and I'm sure you'll come out stronger on the other side. Being emotionally all over the place is never fun, but I know it always feels like you're made of stronger stuff after you get through it. You got this!
Thank you! Wishing you and your dad all the best!
GIRL, your cards have your number!! 😆My decks always read me SO HARD too 💗 But it sounds like they also have your back.
What a great card to pull for this video.
I love this. Always a relatable muppett. The empty room card is wild, that's my brain everyday. Please keep sharing these insights because I feel calm when I watch. Laughing is always a bonus too!! You rule Helbig!!
Ps - fucking around is quite often the answer and loving the old catchphrases making a comeback, I always wanted you to do a tee with ‘I don’t know’ on it
How do I know Grace is feeling better? so many un-bleeped fucks! glad you're feeling better, and will always appreciate you sharing this journey with us 😂❤
10 year survivor here, I related to so much of this still!!! The empty room card, just wow. And less seriously also cried at the bachelor
I was 19 when I was diagnosed with cancer. The hardest part is bein ok afterwards
Any time we have some major life-changing event happen to us (even something that might be otherwise positive, like getting married or having a baby), it seems we exit the acute phase of that experience with some expectation that things will go back to normal, or that we'll get "back on track," to use your vernacular. God knows that's happened to me, more than once, though I feel like it's probably more acute with you since that lil bitch of a tumor was in your physical body. But with something *this* life-altering, the track we were on before this experience has been dismantled, and we're on a new track now. I feel like The Empty Room is not only a cry for patience for that path to appear before you, but for carving out your own new path - professionally, personally, spiritually, whatever. Being okay with being uncomfortable is one of the weirdest parts of maturity, I feel like.
You *don't* know. And that's fucking amazing.
Wow this is wonderful
Your empty room can definitely include some Pony Games! Enjoy!!
new chapter, caught the voice say something about having a child, cool cool cool
Sometimes, the only thing you can do for yourself is cry.
Your body is still working on regulating, on getting back to “normal”, you aren’t doing nothing 😊 don’t put too much pressure on yourself if you can help it!
I’m also talking to myself. I’m giving birth in a few weeks and I cry all the time for all of the reasons.
Thank you for this!
You read the explanation of The Healer so convincingly, I would have never known you didn't retain it the first time 😂I think it goes without saying that you just went through was pretty traumatic, so it will take some time to get back to normal, whatever that is lol. I think you should try to take some time to feel it. Process it. It won't be easy, and you may cry more, but I think that's normal for everything that happened. You'll be ok. Just hang in there.
I really relate to the thing of trying to make up for lost time. It’s like pre cancer i was like « shit im so behind in life im doing life wrong shit shit », then cancer : « the only way of doing life right is to SURVIVE gurl », then post cancer « shit shit shit im doing life wrong, and now im even more behind »
Yes!!
I think you should make a shed load of videos, collab with the bodacious Mamrie and post the f out of them. Circuitous is one of my favourite words thanks to my satnav who hasn’t got a clue where she’s ever going. Let the shitty stuff creep in and increase your therapy if necessary, holding things in brings trouble in the future. Of course you are going to get emotional Grace, you have just faced your own mortality. When you feel anxious about doing anything have a bud and come online - I love stoned Grace and when you feel able to do stuff in the words of Nike ‘just do it’ Vegas with Elliot will be fab. Your intelligence and self awareness and exceptional humour keeps me/ has kept me happy for what seems like a lifetime. What I really want to know is are you still a ‘don’t touch me’ person ? And what I really really want to know is “have yo any plans to go to Vegas” ? You are inspiring ❤🇬🇧
I lived at a treatment facility for neurological disorders for 5 months in 2022. Leaving that and coming home was CRAZY. It took months to get reacclimated to normal life with my hubs and daughter. Thank you for sharing your journey! ❤❤
What was the treatment facility called? Also congrats on getting better!
@@jessieliana SPERO CLINIC in fayetteville arkansas ❤❤ It's crazy expensive (I spent around 80k out of pocket) but I no longer need a wheelchair or walker, I don't get sick with lights, sounds any longer. And my allodynia is completely gone. The clinic saved my life ❤❤❤
BTW GRACE Your short hair is making me want you to do a pixie haircut sooo bad. your face is gorgeous and fits short hair so well.
do it!
Absolutely LOVE the empty room acronym and will absolutely be using 😌 once again thank you for making my life better with your wisdom Grace ❤
You just suddenly feeling overwhelmed and crying sounds a lot like me in private for the last three or four years. The weirdest part is being so checked out and numb, you have to ask yourself “Am I sad right now? Or just cold and hungry? Did I not sleep last night? Or is this a passing thing?” I suppose there are ways to get back in touch with oneself, but drugs are expensive and therapy means going through an h.m.o., so … I suppose 3 a.m. crying jags it is! Wheeee! Thank God at least now most pornography is free.
I had cancer for almost twenty years. I promise you didn’t lose any time. If anything, you’ve gained years of life experience in only a few (terrible) months.
thank you for this!
Heads up (I'm sure someone has already told you, but just in case you need a reminder), you might go through a steroid crash as well. That might be contributing to some of your emotional "ringlets", rn. It's not all mental stuff you have to overcome like you did with cancer. Some of it is just chemicals leaving your body, and you have to patiently let the process happen. Just ride the coaster. You got this.
3 more treatments left. I am a little concerned about how I will do post treatments. Although the every 3 month CT scans are anxiety ridden, they do give me some piece of mind that the cancer hasn’t spread. Have a blast in Vegas and much love from Gensac, France.
Love everything about you and this video. Thank you for sharing❤
I am so happy to see you recovering well Grace! Thank you for taking us along this journey with you. I hope you have the best time in vegas!
I can't wait to see more cooking with Grace Videos!
love this energy from you grace. totally different but still the same as the girl I watched on the internet when I was freshly living on my own
So… you’re getting The Healer tattoo? Right? I feel like it’s necessary.
We don't know either - But you can play around with us.. -- Cheers
Wildly enough, my wife’s cousin just told us yesterday she was diagnosed with breast cancer, ended up learning my wife has it rampant through both sides of her family history. I’ve been following these videos like crazy but even more so now 😐
I’m so sorry her cousin is going through that - she’s lucky to have such a supportive family!
This hit different
Grace you have always been and continue to be a sigh of relief and a source of laughter, joy and knowledge on RUclips! I am so proud to see you done with treatment and bursting with the endless possibilities that arise after (once your brain says hey we're not dying anymore! fun!). Like you said, sit with the emptiness and you'll know, eventually.
May your star shine brighter.
God bless you.
It’s amazing what we can do when we have to. Your Grace and poise are remarkable, and you are a positive inspiration for so many people. Have fun in Vegas, Grace and Elliott. Stay sweet and take care. ♎️☮️
I get so excited when I get new Grace to watch!! Please f' around, and upload because you are my favorite 😊❤
My mum said once even after her divorce which she was desperate for, she grieved, when she had cervical cancer and survived she felt odd and she realised she was going through grief. she was grieving for her failed marriage yes she wanted to leave my not good dad and she made our lives so much better leaving him, she still grieved as it was a failure and she now had to start a new life.
You have survived you’ve peeked and seen the other side, I’ve been there myself, when you see your mortality and know, and you come out the other side you are not the same person, you are mentally different, don’t be worried if somethings you found funny you now don’t, some subjects you used to love you don’t now, things you used to use as a coping mechanisms might need to re worked. I know you love reality shows maybe you won’t anymore (just an example), just remember it doesn’t matter if you don’t like the old stuff you used to love, and if some friends can’t understand you anymore, they may say “you’re different” yes you are sorry they have to meet the new Grace she ain’t changing. You now have new triggers in your life. Sorry to go on.
But I’ve done all this and I hated that I stopped liking some things, I needed to do something different. Don’t ever blame yourself…also when it gets tough BE IN THE MOMENT, ground yourself, and remember sometimes even the silence has sound.
I love you truly do. I’m so happy you’re feeling you again. Remember be you, the you now. Embrace your trauma and know you beat it.😊❤. You look good and happy I love that. Cry, laugh, scream, shout, do what you want. We love you we back you. You have many soldiers behind you.
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I have not endured anything like you have in the past several months, but I am coming out of a situation that was emotionally draining and exhausting and challenging, and your last sentiment, "There's a lot of wisdom in that damn silence" really resonated with me. I am skilled at the art of sitting in the empty room because I've had to be. But this last couple months, I have hated that silence, even though I know it's necessary to sit with it. Today, while talking with my mom, I was reminded that sitting with the discomfort is so important, and with your video saying the same thing, it's all a very, very good reminder. So going forward, as the things settle down, I'm going to make an effort to sit in that empty room a bit more. Beautiful reminder, thank you so much. Have the greatest time in Vegas. Sending you all the love and hugs!
Not really a believer in the occult, but this Tarot deck is scary! 2 for 2. 😮
@ ab 4:00 when you played your thoughts I felt that so much that’s literally my brain 24/7
Grace, there's an old song by P!nk and one of the lyrics says "The quiet scares me couse it screams the truth". It's called Sober.
I need to know where those cards are from!
nevermind, i got too excited too early on. ty for the info in the vid!
Where do I get these tarot cards 😭😭😭❤️❤️❤️
you can get them on amazon! The Wild Unknown Archetypes Deck by Kim Krans
@@itsgrace you're the best thank you! They will be here tomorrow and I couldn't be more excited 😄
♥♥♥♥♥ Goose ♥♥♥♥♥, treats and tummy rubs.
For me, the post treatment was harder than the treatment itself, but also cause the context and my choices were all dogshit. It was september 2020, i agreed (stupidly, dumbly) to go right back into teaching with the pretext it was only a couple of hours here and there (plus the stress of preparing and organizing and following up and getting a brain back), i was growing so tired of living at my parents and hearing them bickering, and when i came back to my solitary home, quarantines stroke back, i was too exhausted to take care of myself or my appartment, and i had no one around to help me. It was such a fucked up experience and i so wish i could go back in time and get myself to actually take time off and get people to help me
So glad u here on earth ❣️🌍 yes family fights ugh 🙏💔
Loved hearing about this, so much wisdom
Thank you for sharing your journey. You are helping so many people… in so many ways!
After treatment has been the most confusing part of the whole process
Love you since 2010
Uh oh, the Empty Room resonated with me HARD. I haven't had cancer, but I have been dealing with a lot lately. Feelings! Yup.
Wow, Grace. First - continuing to send you healing thoughts and prayers - healing and growth for both body and soul.
Second - THANK YOU!! I so needed to hear the message of the empty room. Especially that "sit with the impatience" (youch!!) - thank you for sharing and discussing it. ❤
I think you should begin collecting stamps. Go to a few stamp shows and mingle with a really nice crowd of people. Or you could begin making pottery. How fun would that be?
So happy for you!!! ❤❤❤
The treatment period is a lot mentally and emotionally, and then the recovery period is a whole lot more, because of the feelings and thoughts you pushed away, suddenly you feel like you can breathe again, but no, here's all the stuff you wouldn't let yourself feel. I've found that taking all of that, one at a time, and processing it, has helped a lot. Let yourself feel, it's ok. You just went through an intense treatment. This is 100% normal, and yeah, it's weird picking your own life back up and going forward, but then you kind of have this thing looming over you. My brain injury has become a huge part of my life, and I find myself excited to tell people my story. It's all crazy, but time really does heal wounds. Enjoy Vegas, Grace, and I eagerly await your next update.
So close to home right now ... ! I graduated college in December and have been *struggling* with the job hunt since. Woke up spiraling and have been having a tough morning. Lack of external validation, lack of money, etc... Sitting with the empty room is uh, difficult. Right on the mark. Not quite as life-altering or grief-inducing as medical stuff but it has certainly been putting me through the ringer. Thank you for being so open about mental health stuff through your process !
Eat drink and be merry, for tomorrow we die.
My dad just finished his first round of chemo and radiation for brain cancer. Feels like we are in a holding pattern waiting for results
As an atheist, Tarot was such a great and helpful guide for me as a teen. ❤️ glad you’re finding it enjoyable AND helpful at this time when things are sort of floundering, and not in a cute little mermaid way. Have fun in vegas! 🍟🥂
I've been learning tarot recently and have been loving it. It's like having my own personal therapist. It really does just make you think about what you're currently going through, or what might be coming up that's causing you excitement or stress. No religion here either, but the cards are helpful for guidance!
Anyway, I love seeing your face in a new video pop up in my subscriptions, it's always a delight