As a woman I 100% agree of what you said. This is what majority of women and some men don't realize. Gentleman, do not lower or compromise your standards for the mistakes of a woman. Do not fall into the trap. Ladies, always remember young choices become adult problems. If you are broken, well don't expect another man to fix that. He cannot and will not. Think before you sleep around because a man is going to screw you, only if you let him.
Who said single moms are broken to begin with? My sister married a rich guy who had no criminal record. He was great until about 3 years into the marriage. He ended up beating my niece and putting her in a coma. Shame on you for suggesting any woman is less of a human for having the courage to leave a situation like that.
@@takeemout4357 I know truth hurts and that’s why you’re disagreeing. This is the problem, Some women can’t acknowledge.And she’s pertaining to single mothers not married. Some single mothers are so desperate for having a man instead of focusing in their child.And because of desperation, They don’t even know their putting their children in danger that can lead to abuse/molestation.
@@tatasonfelix oh, so you calculated your % from comments that were mostly written by frustrated and disappointed men who only told their part of the story? Great logic! Those % must be pretty accurate then!
@@blkghostxx how about this one? A couple of years ago, there was one on PoF that said she had 4 kids by 4 baby daddies, currently pregnant with a 5th and "looking for a relationship"... of course I was like 🤮, but I wanted to ask her why she was single so I did. She said that she didn't need a man draining her energy or something like that...I then replied "well it sure sounds like you got no problem with em draining in you..." she then blocked me. The end.
You just described my situation exactly. Was with her for 6 years. I became very close to her son. From 5 to 11 years old I was the man who taught him how to swim how to build and taught him the rights and wrongs. I even home schooled him for a bit. The woman constantly put me down and disrespected me. In the end she easily found someone else and I was replaced immediately. I was very close to her family as well. When she met this new guy and they started dating she told her entire family to block me and cut off any communication with her son. 6 years poring into her and her son and it took a very charismatic new guy to brain wash her. Call it a blessing in disguise but not being able to see or communicate with my best bud is heartbreaking.
Man same here I’ve been around six years her some is six he runs over me and doesn’t listen at all as a father and as his figure I’ll try to discipline him but every time I try to be a father she come in the room as a superhero when he do wrong and we get into a big argument I get kicked out and everything on top of her other two baby daddies calling from jail and sending letters to our home I told her I don’t respect that they respect me as a man she says she’s not going to change it because her daughter wants to bond with her dad which is understandable I respect that but what I don’t respect is a man that been gone for 10 years or men they haven’t been around in his kids life at all and i’m pouring out my pain in everything to raise these kids is he constantly letting these man come around keeping in contact but not doing anything at all not coming to see their kids some of them is in jail so they can’t but when they was out they didn’t do anything at all so I’m trying to be the main take the big step on telling her that we don’t need them around because I’m the only real father that been around for six years but that still is a problem she said she didn’t want to change anything because I’m not their dad what do I do she has three other baby fathers that don’t do anything but try to keep in contact with her what do I do
Not all single moms are bad but the baggage is still the same regardless. I would rather be single than date another single mother just because I don't want her problems becoming my own. My life is stress-free and I intend to keep it that way.
@@jonnyfranco7 no problem bro. Trust me you’ll regret it if you stay. Find a good woman with no kids no matter how long it takes. Be the king of your own kingdom.
"Young, single, beautiful woman with no kids looking for man with no kids like you" he said... until that "man" gets that wonderful woman pregnant, and there you have another single mom... because most man don't have what it takes to be responsible for their actions.
@@JustMe54328 I read your comment and misunderstood at first. I agree. Abstinence is the best choice because many people are having sex just to have sex and don't have the maturity, financial preparation to take the posible consequences. Not just pregnancy but also STDs.
I get your point, but women need to take accountabilities as well. In fact, it's more on women because no man can have unprotected sex with a woman without her consent or else that will be count as crime. There are 12 methods of contraceptives for females while there aren't much for males except condoms and vasectomy. Men will lie a ton and give all sorts of promises just to get laid because sex doesn't come easy for men vs women. Your body is your temple so you make the rules that will protect yourself the best. If my daughter has a boyfriend and they're sexually active, I would emphasize on safe sex on both sides and if they wanna do it unsafely then get a ring from the guy first. Period. Also in the case you described, the women can still legally claim child support and make the man take financial responsibilities. My question is, why choose such a man in the first place. Again, take some accountability woman.
@@yuvan6499 This comment here is so funny to me. You said you will make your daughter get a ring first?... what a ring does? What assurance does a ring gives to a woman? And about forcing a man to pay child support by the law HA! have you seen how many many rather not declare taxes, or work or even go to jail instead of paying taxes. Have you seen how many man after they divorce, they don't want to pay for the kids they made in "holy marriage". And I'm talking about good woman that are educated, decent, faithful. Not low life woman that have bad intentions.
@@Michu507 Have you been to a divorce court?. A ring which technically I meant official marriage document which benefits divorced women through alimony, child support and also shared inheritance. Also, when a man gives a ring, that means he wants to build a family with his girl so talking about assurance, these are plenty much. Don't ever assume that a man that wants to have sex also wants to build a future with that woman. Also there are stats where most child born out of wedlock are degenerates to the society so there's a clear difference between having a child before marriage vs after. By the state law, men who refuses to pay for child support can be jailed so question is, does a woman hold no accountability on the type of partner she choose?. If she choose a bum who has no work, whose fault is that?. If she choose unlawful partner who doesn't pay his taxes whose fault is that?. Are you telling me that woman rather have sex first before knowing about these things about their partner?. Whose fault is that?. Likewise like a good man that are educated, decent and faithful will ensure that his lineage is well taken care off.
@@yuvan6499 Don't take my comments personal. I get your point. But you also are making too many assumptions. When I say that a ring does I mean that a ring doesn't guarantee anything. My friend's parents got a divorce, he is a lawyer. They had 4 kids, 3 of them had autism and he left them for another woman (younger). A marriage of 21 years. He played the system and pay only $175 of child support for each special need kid of his. Now they are adults but the mom had a huge challenge. My dad had 20+ kids outside his marriage. He married multiple times and put a ring to all of them. He lie to all of them and took care of none of his kids. I've been sadly to divorce court (ongoing) and my soon to be exhusband and I where engaged for 2 years before we got married. We had our daughter almost 2 years into the marriage. During the relationship he needed help with his work and ask me to stop working to support him 😒... I did. Because I thought I could trust my husband and it was his business I saw it as supporting my family and since I had the 💍. As soon as everything went great for him (thanks to my help) he had no problem abandoning his marriage and not paying for his own business taxes and debt. He is also playing the system by telling the court that he is not working while he lives at a luxurious apartment and just got a brand new car (leaving me with the debt of his other car, his business car). The ring did nothing for me. I still have it 🤣 . Is just a remaider of when a man doesn't have word 😭. And I get woman also can be wrong also. But my father had 20+ kids and I know my dad is not the only one. While a man can make 20+ kids in a month a woman can make only 1 baby in 9 months and they all where lied to by him. If you see a woman you like only for sex. Would you be upfront and tell her is just for sex and not make her believe she is something special to you? Because if that's the case I bet it will be a lot less meaningless sex happening out there and she haves the choice of saying no thank you. Like many of my stepmothers.
what if the children are significantly different ages? For example let's say the father has grown children... Is it okay for him to date a woman that has a toddler?
I always just think people with kids should stick to dating other people with kids and people without kids should date other people without kids otherwise it's an uneven relationship.
@@rich.a Single dads aren’t prizes 😂 you have baggage and drama that childless women aren’t interested in. Most women prefer a childless man not a single dad.
@@MelaniaRose who told you that ???? Women don't care about many kids you have but we care. I got kids and I would never never do a relationship with a single mother "yak". Don't mind pumping and keep it moving
I, as a single man with no kids, started seeing a single mom. Everything was actually great and very respectful, she introduced me to her little girl, still great! But one day on a Thursday afternoon, I get a text saying “blah, blah, blah, I don’t know what I want and I don’t know where I’m at right now, I’m so sorry”. So as you said, I felt like an accessory. It went from GREAT to a text break up with no real explanation. This really and truly hurt me. So, what you said in the video rings true.
My man translation hey I am going back to my ex a father of my child. We getting back together. So I’m going to leave you , thanks for filling in my void and sad ness. I myself dated a girl with kids there is nothing but a disrespectful behavior from a woman…
@@Blkknowitall She didn’t go back to her baby daddy for sure. But…what ever it is, I’ll never know unless she contacts me again down the road. Which I’m not holding my breath on. Could it be that her feelings were getting real and she was getting cold feet? Could it be she found another man? Who knows. But what I do know is if she contacts me again or any other single mother for that matter, I will not be as nice, will be extremely direct, and come with my own agenda too. If they can play games on us, might as well play the game back (as sad as that sounds). Protect yourself with your self interest, because they are…
@@BayouRambler it's normal that you are sad. It will pass. Also be happy because you dodged a bullet. If that happened the way you said she can be capable of something worse. Can you imagine you spent years of your life. You sacrifice, provide and much more and all is lost when things didn't worked out. She did you a favor brother
Easy! She found a better options to replace you! A better provider. Single moms are extremely hypergamous women. Never date them, or be in a LTR with them. You will have your heart broken soon or later.
I’m a single mother with two teens- divorced after 15 years. Still, I would never put a man through the burden of being with me; I always tell Them…..go find a “free” woman. I have no drama in my life, but I feel any man deserves better than this; and my children need to grow up peacefully. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s life. It’s too precious. If I ever date again, it will be when the boys are adults- which is not far now, but not yet….. Your video is on point! Hats off!
@@sharamusicashe didn’t put a limit on herself; she set a respectable boundary in consideration of her children and those who might be affected dating her. Sounds like a good woman who will attract a good situation in the future instead of creating wreckage now
@@sharamusica It has nothing to do with being a douchebag. Men that are good and bad don't want single moms. We want our own family with our own bloodline.
Don’t let anybody bully or guilt trip you into dating single moms. Especially if you don’t have kids yourself. It’s not your fault these women had children with losers. Putting a woman first in your life who will not put you first in her life has the potential to derail your life and stop you from achieving your goals. Never mind these women and achieve your goals then chase women.
@@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 Widows are actually different. Widows are more intelligent than the average single mom because she was smart enough to have children with a man she’s married to.
I broke all my rules and dated a single mom...I broke up with her last night after she told me that at one point she wanted to make things work with her baby daddy...never again!!
@@lovemylife8572 yup...it absolutely killed me but I'm now talking to a girl 11 years younger than her...no kids no drama, I can make spontaneous plans without the lame excuses of a baby sitter..life is good! Always upgrade!
My husband died when my son was 9 months old. I didn’t date for 2 years. When I did start dating, my biggest fear was a pedo would see me as an easy mark. Young, desperate, lonely. I wasn’t any of those. I dated men who tried to step into my sons life on the first date. Hard no. I met, dated and married my husband when my son was young. We have 2 more kids. 17 years later, I’m thankful everyday that he was willing to date a single mom. We have built a wonderful life.
You're not considered a single mother if your husband died, you're a widow. Single mother is a term reserved for women who became separated from the biological father of their children for whatever reason other than death.
If you are a man dating a single mom, there will ALWAYS come a day when you tell the child to not talk like that, or don't act that way, and you will be told "Don't tell him that, you're not his dad." And from that moment on, the child will never respect you.
@@joim3480 The state of mind is determined by the biological relationship. Even if you marry the single mom, even if you legally adopt the child, she will never let you be the full father.
We are not all like that. If I bring another man into my children's lives it is because I want them to have a good male role model. I won't bring a man into their lives if I don't want him to have that leadership role. I am a firm believer that a man is the head of the home, and I want him to be a father figure to my children. Not just some guy that I'm seeing that has no say in anything. And to see so many mothers agreeing with this crap because they believe a man should not be in that role is disheartening, because it makes me ashamed that my fellow women have become something that we were never supposed to be.
From experience, I know this to be true. Although, there 'is' a caveat. For that first 18 months or so, she'll treat you respectfully and like a king. Won't even get fat! The moment she feels you are too invested to walk away, the benefits of being in a relationship suddenly come to a screeching halt. Whatever benefits you got for that limited time... well... you'll be paying for it for the rest of your life. 👀
@@leighmiller7047 then go to the child's father hes the REAL father. Go be with him with to take responsibility to them support them financially and morally. Chase the real father NOT on dating another man that forcing to take care your child when they're not the real father.
As a woman going through a divorce now... he's 100% correct. I tried dating and it was horrible! I'm so busy cleaning, cooking, bathing and taking care of my babies that I don't have time for a honeymoon stage. This is why there is growth in a relationship! You meet, fall in love, it's all about each other and then together you decide to grow and start a family. In that decision you are both agreeing to make a sacrifice to raise kids together! If you start dating a man without children he still wants and craves that honeymoon stage that he will never get. Resentment usually takes place towards the children. It's hard moving forward after marriage with kids involved.
Well, you could always dump your kids in the foster system when you get tired. I wonder if the majority of men who were abandoned by their mothers would then grow up to learn to respect women enough not to do wrong by them and then decide to be devoted husbands and fathers. Hmmm, I wonder🤔
@@biblethumper8088 Kevin Samuel's alluded to your perspective to a degree. He basically told single mothers that it would be better to give them away than for them to EXPECT a man to raise another man's kids! He said that a single man doesn't benefit whatsoever from dating a woman with kids...I AGREE WITH HIM!
@@unapologetic1413 it's TRUE. Neither does a single woman benefit from dating a man with kids. As a mother, my children will never date the opposite gender with kids. That's just a messy situation. If a woman wants to raise her children by herself, she's free to do so, but that's really not her responsibility to take on. And shes inadvertantly teaching her children that a father is not needed if she can do it on her own.
I noticed in reading the comments a few single mothers agreed with what you said, the majority though resorted to attacking you, using shaming tactics and cursing you out for speaking on your standards of not dealing with single mothers. You really sent them into their emotions by speaking the truth on this matter.
As a single mom, I actually looked up why guys don't want to date a single mom, because I've been trying to date and I've been having problems with it. I found that really only other single dads are the ones that are going to work out for single moms. They understand, I understand, everybody understands what's going on, and everyone can be happy. I think if you're going to date as a single mom, you should find another single dad, and compartmentalize that part of your relationship from the rest of your lives. For like a really long time. The kids don't need to know about it. You get a babysitter, mom has errands to run. Dad has errands to run. And you spend time with someone that you can appreciate and who appreciates you. Everyone has needs that need to get met. I appreciate this video and I know it gets hate.
I 100% agree with you. I’m not sure why women would want a man who isn’t a father to be around her kids anyways? I don’t have any but I’ve seen my brothers and friends change when they had theirs, it’s as if they look at kids differently now or something. I think single dads is the way to go. You said it best, everyone knows what’s going on. Thank you for commenting, I really do appreciate it 🙏🏼
@@TheRedpillExperiment I dated one guy who didn't have kids, and he kept complaining that he went into like start from scratch and I was like well I'm sorry that's just not how it is. And things were not good. I am an independent woman and I make my own money and provide for my kids, and I have no reason to do anything else. No one else is going to take care of you but yourself.
@@TheRedpillExperiment I wanted to add, too, that I have noticed a change and men when they become Fathers, as well. I've only ever dated one other guy who wasn't a single dad and it didn't go very well. There wasn't good communication. He was resentful. We cared about each other and we loved each other (kind of) but it just wasn't going to work out because we didn't have more information.
@@gillianba4240 Very true! It’s hard because they man wants to come in and be the leader and man of the house. In the start from scratch scenario, take care of your pregnant wife and go through labor with her, see your little baby and have your little family you can take care of and it works. It doesn’t work like that when it’s another mans family and single dads understand that because he’s in the same situation.
@@TheRedpillExperiment mature women will agree with you on that, and I do. This is the hard situation for people to be in. And the bottom line is that if you are a single mom, you need to date a single dad because they are the only ones that are going to be like on par with you
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I agree, I am 35 years old and I never been in a serious relationship before. And seeing how relationship today end up I'd made a decision not get into one. Specially women with kids, no matter how beautiful the mother is or how innocent the kid are. It's just not for me, my life is already complicated I'm going to complicate it even more... Love is not worth it anymore!
I'm the exact same or I've been in "relationships" for max 3 months at a time...I realize that I am not cut out to be their shrink or psychologist; I thought they were adults and could handle their own problems...I chose to be single, it is much more peaceful; if I want to have "fun" I can easily find a woman, no problem - the best of both worlds.
Trust me men, It's not a road you want to go down. Great in the beginning, mentally horrific in the end. Stay away at all costs, don't make the mistake I've made more than once.
So am I doomed because my husband died? I’m doing my best with my two little boys and one with special needs. This video gives me sad hope for my future. We aren’t all bad.
@@allisonyogi405 No you’re not doomed & nobody is saying single mothers are bad it’s just a preference . There are plenty of men who will still date you, also you have single dads out there. It’s just not in a man’s best interest that doesn’t have kids to date single moms most of us want to start our own family & experience that along with building & working towards marriage with a woman that hasn’t experienced any of it before. Like I said there are guys who have no problems dating single moms. Also my condolences to your family about your husband but since you were married with a kid/kids and are a widow you have a way better chance than a woman who is a baby momma (wedlock). Good luck
@@allisonyogi405 Guys who don’t have kids and who want to commit to a women don’t want to be in a situation where they feel like they’re the second choice. Single mothers should date single fathers. It’s hars, but it’s true! When you as a man date a single mother it can destroy you mentally, it can make you feel neglected because the mother will always pick the child (and this is normal because mothers should do that) and that’s also the reason why you shouldn’t date them when you don’t have kids yourself and forget spending time alone, because chances are the kids will be there with you. Then you also have the planning and what not when you 2 want to be alone. You need a baby sitter and so on.
A lot depends on the age of each person..if you're a 45 year old man without kids you probably don't want any, but 75% of women your age already have kids, so it's either date a single mother or be alone.
@@lonewolf4429settling down on single morher would leas to cheating That's why I know someone he married former single but then HE cheats her. I think he just married her for rebound, Plan B while he still looking someone more compatible with him.
I’ve dated 2 single mothers and they both ended up wanting to “take a break” only to find out they both went back to their abusive baby daddies. I know not all single mothers are like this, but I will never again date a single mother.
Nah if you are rich hide your all things in trust 0on paper in your name and pump all single mothers give them new baby and leave that’s what rich people do like me we are 5group friends millionaires we pump them and dump them and these beta male raise our semen do same like us you will feel like ruler
@@oldhag2881 unfortunately, you have already gone down a very bad path if you are a single-mother. If you are a single-mother, you obviously didn't care enough. Your child is 20 times more likely to end in jail when he grows older. Why? Because you cared little enough for the child to keep the daddy in his life. Gj. But hey! At least we are living in a time where it is wrong to judge you for it! Don't worry everyone is on your side! Simple mistake. Can happen to anyone.. No shame in that..🤦♂️
I once dated a single mother and during one of our many fights she said “my daughter comes first” or some silly variation of that. I replied “ye no shit, and my left arm comes first too”. I meant that my limbs are as important to me as her kid is to her. It’s a no shit statement. But what she really meant by that when she said my kid comes first is “you come last”. I was behind literally everyone on the planet on her totem pole of people.
@The demon Doctor Well I can understand that she can’t let her kids just do whatever they want and not keep them in check. That would piss anybody off. But I’m sure there were other things as well that probably made it worse too.
Your child isn't a leftover to you. She isn't to me either since I don't have that sort of relationship or interest in you. But to a man who does, she is, and there's no way around it. Same as your daughter comes first, most men aren't going to put your child above themselves or see her as anything more than all the other kids we see on the daily.
You forgot this : the kids gonna call their biological father "dad" and call you uncle, but you pay 100%, he pays zero 😂. He's above you in the hierarchy, you are the least important person in the system, except for when it comes to money you pay it all 😂😂😂
He’s right about finding someone with no kids. When I was single I never dated guys with kids because I didn’t want the drama. Plus I didn’t have any, and figured if I did want some one day I want it the kid to be our first. I waited for the right guy who was actually my best friend for years lol. Starting a family with someone who doesn’t have kids already is wonderful. No drama, no wondering, it’s just peaceful.
you mean he wanted you for years while you were getting your back blown out by other men...congratz judging by your picture you're not a real catch he's a simp
I agree with this. Just keep all your money and die with it in your grave, never ever donate it to charity or to a lifelong partner or to anything but yourself. Sounds like a life where you really WIN! LOL
I made the mistake of dating a single dad and abandoned me with our baby and made me a single mom. So it's both side...as a young single woman I should never date a single dad...please someday make a video about reasons why single woman with no kids should never date single dads!
Yess. My daughters biological daughter basically did the same thing. However he was forceful and took advantage to get me pregnant in the first place and I found out too late in. Now everyone would think that I should've had an abortion or done an adoption. But there are multiple factors that played into why I decided to keep her. I admit that 4 years later, I have some serious issues that I need to work on, and therapy. But I love my daughter very much. And the life I imagine and will make happen is being single, happy, giving my daughter a deserving and happy fulfilling life and I do not intend to or expect to date anyone at the moment or maybe for the rest of my life.who knows, only time can tell.
why did you all choose men with no morals? seems to be something women expertise in? same old stories men here on every date with women. can guarantee not once did your own moms intervene in your chaos & dysfunction
I wholeheartedly agree with you! I grew up in a catholic household & went to parochial school. I made the mistake & dated a single father in my younger years. I was single, no children, going to college & working. Your video had the same scenarios but reversed! His 3 year old child was disrespectful and saw me as a threat to his “ family”. His ex wife left him for another man. I saw the red flags and ran away! Older and wiser now. Now I’m a single mom myself, ex husband left me for another woman. I won’t date a man that has never been married or no kids. It wouldn’t be fair to put someone in that situation. 😊
“She got together, SPREAD her legs for the wrong guy, and now she’s a single mom”. WOW. I’m not sure any of the ladies commenting watched this video long enough to come to this part. Are your lady single and childless lady friends aware you speak like this? A hard pass in my world.
For real though, seriously disgusting this guy actually thinks he's giving some sort of message with this video when he's just promoting toxic thoughts and even untrue thoughts. I can tell you when I was a single parent to my daughter I met a wonderful man who treated her as his own and we never had any issues with me having a child in the mix. We been together for years and even had our own together. This point of view of this video is from an insecure unstable guy who apparently feels threatened, a real man would never feel or talk this way period.
@@ashleythebutterflymystic1990 you are the exception...most single mothers treat their children's fathers as nothing more than an ATM...i know because i'm one of them.
Whatever you said, is very true. My mom and dad have their own kids they had before they met and whenever they argue about the kids each person takes their own child's side. I'm one of their kids together. My siblings and I (the one's who they had together) barely get noticed or get attention. we are now being forgotten as the parents are giving them other kids who they've had before moral support so they feel 'enough'. They always fight everyday. i know relationships have their moments but when those moments are everyday it's becomes a case.And sometimes I get called the mistake when in actual fact their relationship is the mistake. them meeting each other is the mistake. so don't ever date single moms or single dads. if you think just because y'all both single parents you might understand each other, you wrong. It's just going to affect you and the children you gon birth after.
Just don’t do it! Even if she is amazing and what not, you will probably end up regretting it! If you do indeed decide to date a single mother then keep this in mind. You will barely spend time alone with her. Her kid will always come first (this is normal) but for a guy it can feel destructive when you are with a lady who doesn’t care as much for you as you do for her. So yes her kids will get most attention. Then you have the ex usually it’s some crazy guy who could get you into trouble. Then you also gotta deal with the fact that when the kid is annoying (which kids can be) you cannot do much since you’re not the dad and don’t you dare to tell her how she should raise the child and do you really want to raise another man’s child? Probably not. Guys like I said don’t do it! If you found a nice girl with kids and you don’t have kids I strongly suggest you to quit it! Because you will deeply regret it! Again don’t date single mothers! And of the single mothers out there who get angry by this message, I am just spitting true facts!
The reason she's single is because she put the kids first. This is a modern world mistake that exists because it " Sounds" , noble and correct. The truth however is all together different. Parents that put each other first do nothing but good for their kids as the marriage is usually much healthier. Healthy parents, healthy kids. This sets the standard for those kids and usually puts them at a better chance of having a healthy home life of their own. In the end there can never be a truly healthy home by putting the kids first....
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Dude, how old are you? Probably an old hag. Dont expect to get hot women in their early 20's like you said...you hit the wall too:))) so you should settle down for less or die alone and bitter.
I was on the opposite side ...dating single father with difficult kids ... 5 years of worst nightmare...drama 24/7 ... every trip he's on the phone fighting with ex about kids...when spending time together only talk about kids... I don't remember one relaxing happy moment...it has to be some circus going on all the time ... I became sponge to absorb his complaints....can't even believe I suffer for 5 endless years trapped in the bubble of negativity and misery 💔😢
@@arianalushtaku4329 If you want the things you just listed in a guy then you'd better not any of the things the person you are replying to listed in a woman or you are out of that man's league.
I’ve been a single mom for the passed three years. I was married for 7. This is on point. This is the brutal truth it hurts me to listen to it but it’s true.
Single parents that are reading this and feel down, I promise this isn't always the case, this is just the experience for some people. There is someone for everyone and there are real solid people out there that are willing to build an empire with you, even if your child(ren) have a different father. This thinking is also incredibly misogynistic. Implying a women is no good just because she has children. Did you make a similar video about single dads?
Thanks ❤️ I’m literally in tears right now from all the videos about men should not date single parents. It hurts to hear this because I chose to stay and my child’s father didn’t . I’m sitting here thinking I’ll never get married but then I thought about my mother that died when I was four . She left my dad for being abusive but got married to my step dad that always married women with kids and he’s still in my life even though my mom passed away two days after their huge wedding. My god mother was a single parent to her daughter and now she’s married to my rich and successful god father living the life. Their best lives with 2 kids they had together that are now studying to be a pediatrician and the youngest one studying business or something like that. And I could go on…. I guess I needed to hear all of this ❤️🤞🏽
A real friend will tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear.There are some men out there who are willing to marry single mom.But those are very few.Dont give them false hopes.Its better to prepare for the consequences.
I was a single father, and there was no way I was dating a single mother. I’ve certainly hung out with 5X my fair share, but that’s it. And I’ve met several women with whom I hit it off, but they opted out once I divulged that I had a kid. And I was never once offended.
I somewhat agree but not really. A grande majority of my friends who are not married and have no kids are financially less successful than my friends who have children. In fact, more of my friends who are single moms own their own homes, businesses, and are extremely responsible as compared to my other childless friends in their mid-30s that are a comparatively large sub-group that lives with their own parents. Granted millennials in general are living more often at home. I do have a variety of friends who are childless and dating who are successful in finances and career. However, partake in much riskier behavior such as recreational drugs or a partying lifestyle. I think relationships should be based on the intent of a person's heart because you really can't place your market value solely on whether or not the person has children. What if she has 1 child, what if the child is grown or over 18, there is something to be said about a person's future beyond 45. It seems like you are only referring to sex but not marriage or dating. You mentioned "fucking" a child's mother. That says one thing: sex is the end goal/it's the forefront? Keywords: beautiful and young not successful, kind, godfearing, or smart. Listen to your keywords: beautiful, and young. LOL. Good luck.
Uh the data doesn't suggest what you're saying though lol good stuff you can always find a liar in the comments. If anyone wants to see the data just Google single mother home owners. Guess what guys they're still horribly behind single men home owners. So yeah what you're saying is bs according to the stats and not what you see LOL and thanks for the truth that wasn't truth
Stats also show that more men are business owners than women it's a slightly better percentage but still disproves your bs lies. Go take your feminist propaganda somewhere else. It's always crazy to see these type of comments like they don't think we know how to do a simple Google search. You can say whatever you like but single mothers are going to be alone mostlikely forever and there is no upside to it event though you're making it sound good
Tht cute but it doesn't change the fact of y would a man involved his life, time and money and even move into a house with two randoms kids and a woman.
The ROI raising another man’s child/children is zero… I’m investing in his legacy, not mine. Secondly, the idea that another man has unrestricted access to my wife is not happening… and he will have unrestricted access.
If she had a child out of wedlock she's sure not worth it. If she was married chances are she initiated the divorce, why did she throw the kids' father out ?
exacly she put him out!! more you out den out more they wanna stay there! she don’t want door completely close for you wiht that great woman! i sure she let you because you are not for her you are to inmature!!! to hurt taking like that, ridiculous that shows every thing of you! i am glad she let you!! you are not e gut man o figure for his child!!!
I really doubt that she crushed his heart. More like opened his eyes. Dating people with kids sucks, nobody wants to. Your kids are annoying. Deal with it lol
I have been in this situation twice, once for four years and once for 2yrs and both times I didn’t obviously learn my lesson and faced the same outcome. When a woman is raising a child on their own they often do not leave space for a partner or male influence as they have to fill that gap themselves. Right or wrong that is what happens and the result is the child is “always” exalted and the opinions or effort on behalf of a partner is obstructed, because “ I am a single parent”. As a result you can never form a true partnership that can conquer not only relationship issues but also raising a child issues and therefore it’s a nonstarter. I think you are correct although sounds a little jaded and sounds like you’re coming from a very hurt place but I would love to hear more in-depth conversation on your thoughts!
It Seems to me that you are Choosing the wrong women. You probably went for their bodies and the SEX. The Sex hooked you and you got involved rather quickly like people are doing these days, without giving themselves Enough Time to know each other. You aren't a Saint, You wanted to Tap that ASS as Soon as You got the Chance and make the Stupid Mistake of being Shallow and only going for a woman for what She looks like, without building any depth to the relationship like Other Cultures around the World do.
@Energia Viva single mothers are nightmares I'd never date a woman with kids I ain't trying to take care of her mistake baggage from another man I pass
I am a single mom and I have no desire bringing a man into my son's life. I put all my energy into my son and myself. I grew up with a stepfather and it wasn't fun. It was like living with a stranger. My mom and him had a baby and it felt like my brothers and I didn't exist anymore. He never really talked or play with us or tried to connect with us. My mom was always on his side and never on ours. When my brothers and I were old enough we moved out. My mom's desicion to bring this man into our life wasn't wise and I'll never do that to my son. I have a good relationship with my son's dad and he sees my son every single day.
Please stay along till your bby will be adult. Dont spoil life of a stupid omega-man who agree to make any deel with a single mom. Thank you in advance.
@@salmanjackson92 Thank you, I will do that. My son and I have an amazing bond and I am keeping it that way. I'll be 57 when my son is an adult so I probably won't be looking for a man at that age, but that's ok, I like my own company.
My stepdad who later adopted me was and is the hero of my life. Hands down the best person I ever met in my life. God sent. Has my up most love, respect and gratitude. My bio dad could NEVER compete with him. Please don’t generalize
@@michaeltren4910 You just contradicted yourself. How do you spend $500/wk (assuming you’re talking about the mom’s kids) and then say you hit it and quit it? You have fallen into the trap and being played lol
@@cantseeshadow you’re assuming I’m talking about the moms kid’s. I’m saying I spend 500 a week on me, which means I have a lot to give and I do when I use to date single moms
This honestly sounds like someone speaking out of pain, and I don't agree with some things he says, but do agree with others: Ex:You should never feel obligated to pay for a single mom's kid's food/shelter/entertainment. As a matter of fact you should never give anything to anyone unless it's coming from the heart and because you WANT to. Not just because you're dating her so you think that's what you should do. This only creates an expectation, whether materialistic OR emotional in them. As a single mom, I will not even let you around my kids unless we have established this and I trust you enough. Next: Not all single moms take their kids' side just because they are their kids. It is important to remember we have the job of making sure our kids feel safe and heard but most single moms I know, know when to call their kids out and when to stick up for them. So it LARGELY depends on the woman. Next: Personally I feel unless the guy is abusive it manipulative and it's a normal breakup, it's better for the kids to have closure as well. A quick dinner or lunch or some way to say goodbye that doesn't involve traumatizing the kids and instead they see that breakups happen and people can still be civil...ideally. THAT SAID... You should not expect to be the priority in anyone's life unless you are a child and that person is your parent or are married. So, if you want to be the center of attention, If you don't want to spend money, and yo fear getting attached, make that clear from the beginning. Or don't entertain that girl at all. And finally, SINGLE MOMS ARE NOT ALL THE SAME!!
I agree so much with you. I have a teenage son and he is such a jerk sometimes and he does not get his way all the time and I have sided with guys in the past I have dated plenty. This guy sounds like he’s had some horrible experience in the past and is choosing to take it out on ALL single moms sadly.
He’s right!! Did you know in many counties around the world, regardless of religion, if the parents remarry after divorce with children, the children end up living w grandparents and parents visit them there? Most countries don’t believe in stepparents!! This is why you see women stay single until their children are grown, so they don’t deal w this dynamic!
I’ve never even really commented on a video. Coming across this just doesn’t sit well. I completely understand all the challenges that come with dating a single mother, however, these are the same problems you will encounter with your own family you create. The difference is they aren’t your blood. If a woman is put together and raising her children right, has a cordial relationship with the father if at all then I don’t really see why the “problems” he’s speaking about. Like, thumbs down. I think maybe make a video on wasting time dating someone that isn’t truly in the place to be dating and has issues they haven’t worked on vs don’t date a single parent… especially if you want children one day, what’s the issue. Anyway, be blessed!
@@carolinaanthony4142 single moms are people too lmfao, you saying, “ wE NOt tAkINg sINgLe mOMs SEriOusly”, is gross because you’re acting like they’re not worthy of respect. That’s rude behavior and no one should tolerate that attitude. Just because someone doesn’t have kids doesn’t make them better as a human lol
🌬️💨💨💨 NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOTHER FELLAS!!! Yes, I'm a woman with NO KIDS and I agree 100% with this video! MOST WOMEN will NOT put you first, but they'll want you to spend your money on their kids without giving you FULL PARENTAL RIGHTS! Not only that, the kids (especially if they're teenagers) will not fully accept you and may disrespect you! How do I know this??? I've seen so many women around me with entitled attitudes who feel like men are obligated to commit to them. In actuality, men just want to SMASH & PASS single mothers without a commitment.
@@unapologetic1413 no I ask because you spoke facts dear, hey I'm 37 no kids by choice so I fully agreed with you. So I had to ask how old is this female speaking facts not to many females do that these days 😂😂😂👍👍👍💯💯💯
@@211reid Thank you sweetie. Congratulations on being single with no responsibilities of raising kids. Kids can be a blessing for those who want them, but I love the freedom of NOT having the responsibility of a child and EVERYTHING that comes with it.
If you ever noticed every single mom dating profile she will say she has the best and smartest kids in the World. Basically she is trying to validate for her mistake and Also telling you that you will never be her first choice in a man. But she wants you to save her and take care of her kids who will never respect you.
Single men if a woman is single and tries to get you to meet their children please run and not look back. The most fucked up situation is that a married woman wants me and I told her countless times to back off.
My younger brother just started dating a single mom he's 25 she's 26 2 kids,he has no kids I feel like he's in a hurry to settle down, he's young tall handsome can get any girl, tempted to send him this video
@@thejessman1460 the worst thing's my parents already telling him those are his kids,but good thing she has anger and jeoulous issues and his already tryna dump her 🤞
I'm in my later 50's, just started dating a 35 year old woman never married with 2 teenage boys. She has her own home, doesn't appear desperate for a man, seems fun to be around. I'm building a home a few blocks away from her. So my question to everyone with experience dating single mothers could a relationship work where we never live together? I don't want to live at her house and I'd never have any woman move in with me at this point in my life but honestly I'm thinking this could actually work? I guess time will tell. I dated single mothers as a single father in my late 20's and instinctively knew I'd never marry one. For me the fact that I couldn't love another's child the same as mine seemed unfair to those children so I avoided it. But I'm at a different point in my life now. Marriage doesn't make sense any more with anyone but I could see myself having a committed relationship with the neighbor lady! Ha ha, sounds funny but it makes sense to me.
If it makes sense to you, and you talk to her about it and she agrees, then try it out and see if it works. Let her know totally how you feel about it. I do think it could work. If neither of you want marriage, I can see the relationship working where she wouldn't have to move in. But talk to her and see.
@@stewartmullings1552 thanks for the input. TBH it's still in the early stages with this woman to bring up future plans so I'll have to see how things progress. This woman loves her home/yard and appears to be doing well in her current situation. As for myself I'm a busy person and enjoy coming home to unwind having my place to myself. With any hope she's thinking similar things as myself and we can both get what we want.
It’s very sad to see people having children for very selfish reasons without thinking about the effects of the children not having 2 parents…. Not being financially stable, not in love with themselves…….
@@emiitchi4232 Thats a fucked up joke man... Children are innocent. Their moms fuck-ups is not on them. But single mothers should be left alone.... The effects of females becoming single moms is bad for many of us men though... Its sad that many probably has to spare up money for years to search through asia to find a loving and willing younger woman all because too many westernized women had to have that baby with a guy which didnt work out early in life... Btw: im against that idea that 30 year old women is used up with destroyed eggs too... 30-33 Is fine. As long as she makes a commitment and dont already have children.
In Muslim communities, we don’t have a single motherhood crisis. The relatively few single mothers in our communities are either widows, or women who were lawfully married, conceived children, and whose marriages later ended through lawful divorce. All of us were conceived through marriage, and all of us know who are fathers are. You and your children deserve the same. Brothers: embrace Islam-the last bastion of unapologetic masculinity left standing in this world, and the last one with a chance of surviving.
I was delusional. My ex had two kids to different dads. She told me she loved me and always will. Daughter got worse moved in the daughters boyfriend. Banged in front of the two year old baby my girlfriend justified it because her granddaughter is two and wouldn't remember and i want my daughter to make her own mistakes. I had a real problem with it a i should of left her for her poor parenting but i was in love and thought i could teach those kids some morals. Daughters boyfriend missed the bus for work because he was out selling. I told him his lack of perpetration is not an emergency for me and find another sucker. My girlfriend is like i should of known my kids can't relie on you for anything. I said yep. Got sent home day before Christmas eve and that was that. I blame myself for being a simp for not seeing the huge red flags. The manipulation worked and i thought i was loved. I mostly blame myself for being a sucker and not going with my gut instinct
Single moms are like used cars. You get the scratches. Smoke stained seats and the mileage with worn out parts. LoL -welcome to being a babysitter -welcome to hearing about the “bad ex” -welcome to a drained wallet -welcome to drama with any kid -welcome to less time with the woman -welcome to stress stress stress Guys just don’t do it. I made the mistake. Please listen to all of use that never knew better for the sake of your sanity. Don’t go for the low hanging fruit. It wastes your time. The moms and the kids involved
@@JAyala-se4st they are low hanging fruit. Thats why some guys almost always go for them because they think they got a shot. But play stupid games, win even dumber prizes.
In general, if you're a dude and don't agree with what this man just told you in this video, something seriously wrong with you. Avoid that trap, remember if you meet them, they will try to trap you, doesn't matter how beautiful and hot they are, avoid at all costs.
My boy married a single mom, FIRST DAY he met her daughter he heard " I dont like you , my mom should be with my dad " he has heard that once a week now for 5 years. Yea that's what I need in my life.
Don't blame the men, the blame lies in the judicial system. Single mom with kids will get a percentage of every man she marries and in some cases, like Canada, she gets money for dating a guy more than a year. Single moms are not worth the financial risk. Even prenuptial is not held up in the court system, they always find a way to discriminate against the man and make him give her money for the rest of his earning career. A young guy that wants his DNA to move on, should avoid single moms as if they can't bear his children, he'll be divorcing her and paying her. The divorced guy is probably already paying support for his children, again even if he doesn't want kids with this new woman, he'll end up paying for both his and her kids even if she cheats and leaves him.
@@TheRedpillExperiment it still hurts. Cause I can see and still remember her smell, and she was crazy in bed. Got me whipped. Now she went with him and I know theyve already been doing it...and I lost my mind a bit and havent been able to get over it
@@profound369 There are other women out there brother! I know it’s hard and I’ve been exactly there. Go workout or do something physical and take it out there, it will make you better.
@@profound369 she wasn't ever yours... it was just your turn. In time, hopefully sooner than later, you'll see how lucky you were that she left you. You'll see that it was just a very temporary moment and that was all. I been there, years ago. Never since and never again. But I couldn't take them seriously now anyway, even if I tried. In my book, they belong to whoever they had kids with.
Over the Christmas break, my girlfriend and her kids were staying with me. They got sick with covid, I took care of them for 5 days, cooked cleaned groceries ect. I subsequently got sick with covid as they got better. While in bed the kids were going crazy, screaming breaking things, jumping up and down making noise blasting music. I asked them to be quieter several times, their mother didn't seem interested in having them quiet down. She asked if they should leave, I told them yes since I had work the following week (from home). She went on a speel afterward about families not leaving each other and me being at fault. She then broke up with me. That's how much these single moms care, if you get sick 1 time you're done unless you can entertain them at every waking moment. I usually get down on myself after a breakup, as you can imagine that didn't happen this time. Good riddance, never again dating a single mom
So you ASSume all woman who are mothers are like this lady ? Wow you are dumb as heck. I don't let my kids act that way period. I'm married and my struggle my entire marriage has been my husband being the one not wanting to discipline the kids.
Exactly what I noted mentally whilst listening to this video. I felt dismayed but then I realized a young man's perspective, rather jaded at that, is not the same as that of an older man who perhaps has seen and done it all, and only wants now to settle down.
As a former single mom, I agree!!!! Being young and dumb with my Hs/college BF, we had an oopsies. After 6 years together- broke up when she was 3 months. I’m very lucky in that, despite being a bad BF- he is the most AMAZING DAD. We sat down and said- we need to break the cycle and give her the best chance. We need to get along and show her she was made out of love so we both split the week and worked together until he remarried when she was 10. I made an effort, FORCED his wife to love me. I, on the other hand, chose to remain single. I said, “I’m a woman, she’s a girl & I need to protect her and my needs are no longer relevant bc I brought a human into this world.” So I remained single until she was 16. My now hubs of 11 years didn’t meet her until 2.5 years of being together and when she was at college. I look back and think- why would I want a single man to be brought into a situation where I’m going back and forth, lugging a kid, putting her 1st, working and building a company, rushing to her games, rushing to cook her dinner, study, and then running back to work? By the time she left home, I was single, successful, & not old. My hubs was a single, very successful, model looking, kind, protective man who tells me he admired the fact I put my life on hold (I did have pity parties for myself) to make sure my kid had the best shot at life. My kid is in med School, is so so kind, (sometimes she’s so kind and patient I actually asked her once what she was thinking when she was in a situation that should’ve made her angry but didn’t bc I needed to learn that) & made it to her mid 20s without Preggo! My ex and I are the first to break the horrid cycles in our families with her. So If I were a man, I would question a woman who would bring a person near their kids in this day and age without knowing them for a few years. -There are other things I think of like, my hubs doesn’t get a woman who he shares the “First kid with,” like I’m the spoils of war. Or another reason I waited is bc I couldn’t have her choosing which siblings she wants to spend time with.
I know a guy that did date a widow, her husband was killed in Afghanistan, leaving her with a 6 month old baby. Well, he lived in that man's shadow, every single decision or opinion was offered to him in the light of what the deceased military hero would have done, said or even thought. The new guy became an afterthought that could never compare to the hero that died in his prime, and will forever remain perfect in her mind, and in the minds of the grandparents of that kid. It is never worth it, it is a game the new guy cannot win, even when the other guy got blown to pieces in a country 3,000 miles away.
Hey guys I dated single moms two times and I can totally say that it was the worst things I did like…ever. It was so bad for my mental health and I really regret on waisting my time like that. Pls think guys pls don’t put yourself in the situations I put myself into. I don’t want to go in detail out of respect.
Why you don't date single moms....the kids from other dudes come before you. So basically the mistakes and lingering memories of the other dudes come before you. Any single mom who tries to sleaze her way into my life, my answer is simple: Give up the kids and we might have something to talk about.
Damn my dude nailed it! So true I was seeing a single mom for 4. Fuck, I'm glad I dipped out when I did. It costs so much money and fucks you financially. We were seeing for eachothrr for 2 years but the last 5 months she started telling me to pay for her kids shit.... I was like yeah no I can't... I wanna build with someone not lose every single dollar lol. She called it off and saved me the trip of fighting thank God. However I do miss her at times but not her kids
Pay for her kids?? that only obligated if you are both married but if you both NOT married before, why pay for her kids? she must go to her baby daddy and chase him instead. Glad you got out of her relationship.
It costs $250,000 to raise a child. The median income for single mothers is $48k but it's $102k for married families. Single mothers have a poverty rate that is 6 times the national average and 62% of them are on food stamps. Children raised in fatherless homes make up; - 90% of all homeless and runaway children - 85% of children with behavioral problems - 71% of High School drop outs - 70% of youths in State ran institutions - 71% of pregnant teens - 75% of adolescents in drug treatment centers
When i was a child and my parents divorced, my sister and i were not her priority. Her priority was her boyfriend. So, either you're screwed over by parent's or screwed over by relationships, as an adult. In the end, nothing matters.
I agree! I’m a single mom, I don’t have appropriate time for a full relationship, it wouldn’t be fair. My friend though did find a new man, they only meet up on the weekend, they both have their own place. It works great. I don’t appreciate the last bit, where you basically say these women made bad choices and it’s theirs to deal with the consequences. Where there are children, there is also a father. Now, they may have their children a few days a week, or they just up and left completely. So, watch your mouth a little when talking about single moms.
Your advice is priceless. Short story, one day at work single and guy talking, then guy asked me my advice, " Should I date her?" I immediately said run! right in front of her face. To be fair I then turned to her and asked. Does he know your kids father? What is your relationship with the father? Then I ask the young man, are you willing to take care of someone else kids? He said, " I really didn't give it much thought". Then I said to her if your child get out of hand can he discipline you child. " she said no" By then the young man began to understand where this was going.
Everything you said was true I was a simp and dated single mothers and it was one of the worst things I've ever done never ever do it if you have no kids.
Good video, good message I think. I had a longterm relationship which was VERY TOXIC. Am single now, and worked my ass off to do my homework on the inner life stuff. Faced my addictions and coping mechanisms. Faced my issues between me and my honored parents. Learned to FORGIVE them. I am in my late 40's but with an inner peace I award everybody else! I'm not in a hurry or hunting. Why should I? Making moves too fast will screw things up. When a mom had to divorce, she has to do her homework as well. Why didn't she see she took the wrong guy? Blind spots? Unsolved issues? Not even begun to waken up from her blindness? Same with men of course. Why did he leave his wife for another one? If you are the next, than big change the same thing will happen when he moves to the next next ;) My view is this: Do your homework FIRST! The cleaner your own heart is, the better you see the spots and the red flags during dating. The lighter your mind is, the better you see the darkness in the other. Be aware of manipulation. If a date manipulates, move on! Same with dominance or intimidating. These are ways to control you,which has its roots in unsolved childhood fears. Oh one tip: if a man or woman has a problem with porn, put on your running shoes and RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! Check if somebody you date had done his or her homework. I wish everybody the love and connections needed, but it's better to be your own best friend first. What I heard in this video, that has always be my feeling. I never should be married to a mom with kids, UNLESS eventually - when she is a widow. At the end of the day, it's better to be alone with peace in your heart than to live with a partner who is always mocking and criticizing.... Build your life on a rock, not on wetsand. One man in history claimed to be that rock. That's Jesus. At least He is my rock I'm building on. Sorry for rambling here, but I thought to encourage somebody with this lol :)
A ”billion” single women, who find you attractive, are interested in you, live somewhere close to you where its feasible to date you, and your personalities are compatible? Lmao keep dreaming 🤣🤣🤣
As a woman I 100% agree of what you said. This is what majority of women and some men don't realize.
Gentleman, do not lower or compromise your standards for the mistakes of a woman. Do not fall into the trap.
Ladies, always remember young choices become adult problems. If you are broken, well don't expect another man to fix that. He cannot and will not.
Think before you sleep around because a man is going to screw you, only if you let him.
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WISDOM
Who said single moms are broken to begin with? My sister married a rich guy who had no criminal record. He was great until about 3 years into the marriage. He ended up beating my niece and putting her in a coma. Shame on you for suggesting any woman is less of a human for having the courage to leave a situation like that.
@@takeemout4357 I know truth hurts and that’s why you’re disagreeing. This is the problem, Some women can’t acknowledge.And she’s pertaining to single mothers not married. Some single mothers are so desperate for having a man instead of focusing in their child.And because of desperation, They don’t even know their putting their children in danger that can lead to abuse/molestation.
@@takeemout4357 well your sister married a punk, didnt she?
Why don’t parents date parents. Child free people belong together 😕.
I agree!
Because most men are childless. It’s a small portion of men having children with a big portion of women.
Parents should get back together with the baby daddy or momma really. Unless they were just crazy and abusive or something.
Yes that’s good on paper, it’s never a good bet for the man. He has more responsibility than a woman would
@@verginonethe woman always does more and has more responsibilities in a relationship.
As a single mom, he’s not lying. Save yourself the headache.
Atleast your honest. Many single moms in the chat are angry when they hear the truth.
Respect for saying the truth!
@@lauris5275 true!
Most single moms should stick to cats.
That may sound humourous at first, but the truth leaps out at you when viewed objectively.
Much respect for your honesty.
99% of men who dated or married single moms NEVER wanna do it again. That tells the whole story.😊
never ever again it destroyed me ! f single moms! lol
Where did you pull that statistic out of?
what is the source of your statistics?
@@polpol1005 check the comments as an example. How many men who did it are recommending it?🤔🤔
@@tatasonfelix oh, so you calculated your % from comments that were mostly written by frustrated and disappointed men who only told their part of the story? Great logic! Those % must be pretty accurate then!
dating a single mom is like continuing somebody else's saved game...
And when you start from their continue,they don't have any armor or weapons,or money.
ROFL
Literally thought the same thing lol
Don't forget they also left the controller on one bar of battery life!
Also have 0 money in the inventory screen…
Dating a single mother is like doing time for a crime that you did not commit.
GOLD
Couldn't have said it better myself!
Read my comment above and tell me what you think
But , y’all don’t even wrap up … y’all nasty
A king dating or live with a single mom is like picking up another man crap, depends how many craps does that mom has.
I just got out of a relationship with a single mother of 2 kids. Never again
We live and learn! Just gotta make sure to learn on those ones, I've been there
Appreciate it
Me too never again fr
My heart goes out to you you did the right thing because those children are never yours
@yardley moise can you tell my cousin, he’s currently dating a single mom with two kids.
I'm starting to see an *increase* in pregnant women w/ profiles on dating platforms. If there was ever an example of a huge Red Flag
Hahaha 🤣 yeah that is a huge red flag for sure! Swipe left!!!
Yep I saw a woman on tinder 7 months pregnant looking for a relationship
@@blkghostxx shameless
@@blkghostxx how about this one? A couple of years ago, there was one on PoF that said she had 4 kids by 4 baby daddies, currently pregnant with a 5th and "looking for a relationship"... of course I was like 🤮, but I wanted to ask her why she was single so I did. She said that she didn't need a man draining her energy or something like that...I then replied "well it sure sounds like you got no problem with em draining in you..." she then blocked me. The end.
@@howdydo2108 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
You just described my situation exactly. Was with her for 6 years. I became very close to her son. From 5 to 11 years old I was the man who taught him how to swim how to build and taught him the rights and wrongs. I even home schooled him for a bit. The woman constantly put me down and disrespected me. In the end she easily found someone else and I was replaced immediately. I was very close to her family as well. When she met this new guy and they started dating she told her entire family to block me and cut off any communication with her son. 6 years poring into her and her son and it took a very charismatic new guy to brain wash her. Call it a blessing in disguise but not being able to see or communicate with my best bud is heartbreaking.
😢😢😢😢😢 if everything u said is true ur an angle
He will find you again
When your good to someone
They remember it
Man same here I’ve been around six years her some is six he runs over me and doesn’t listen at all as a father and as his figure I’ll try to discipline him but every time I try to be a father she come in the room as a superhero when he do wrong and we get into a big argument I get kicked out and everything on top of her other two baby daddies calling from jail and sending letters to our home I told her I don’t respect that they respect me as a man she says she’s not going to change it because her daughter wants to bond with her dad which is understandable I respect that but what I don’t respect is a man that been gone for 10 years or men they haven’t been around in his kids life at all and i’m pouring out my pain in everything to raise these kids is he constantly letting these man come around keeping in contact but not doing anything at all not coming to see their kids some of them is in jail so they can’t but when they was out they didn’t do anything at all so I’m trying to be the main take the big step on telling her that we don’t need them around because I’m the only real father that been around for six years but that still is a problem she said she didn’t want to change anything because I’m not their dad what do I do she has three other baby fathers that don’t do anything but try to keep in contact with her what do I do
@@goldiilouierich8414 leave
the ones who love so unconditionally without benefits are the fools.
Not all single moms are bad but the baggage is still the same regardless. I would rather be single than date another single mother just because I don't want her problems becoming my own. My life is stress-free and I intend to keep it that way.
But she keeps chasing me crying and guilt tripping the shit out of me to stay.
@@jonnyfranco7 RUN. That’s not your responsibility
@@shinobiblade2558 thank you
@@shinobiblade2558 man you told me this at the perfect time tysm
@@jonnyfranco7 no problem bro. Trust me you’ll regret it if you stay. Find a good woman with no kids no matter how long it takes. Be the king of your own kingdom.
Stay away from single mothers. This is coming from a guy that married one. Save yourself some headache. Don't do it.
did you get away ? need advice bro
thanks bro
I stay away from any woman even a single one with no kids. They are all headaches.
@@user-ky5dy5hl4d what a sad life lol
@@Jay-sk5hj I am sorry that you are living a sad life. Mine is not.
"Young, single, beautiful woman with no kids looking for man with no kids like you" he said... until that "man" gets that wonderful woman pregnant, and there you have another single mom... because most man don't have what it takes to be responsible for their actions.
@@JustMe54328 I read your comment and misunderstood at first. I agree. Abstinence is the best choice because many people are having sex just to have sex and don't have the maturity, financial preparation to take the posible consequences. Not just pregnancy but also STDs.
I get your point, but women need to take accountabilities as well. In fact, it's more on women because no man can have unprotected sex with a woman without her consent or else that will be count as crime. There are 12 methods of contraceptives for females while there aren't much for males except condoms and vasectomy. Men will lie a ton and give all sorts of promises just to get laid because sex doesn't come easy for men vs women. Your body is your temple so you make the rules that will protect yourself the best. If my daughter has a boyfriend and they're sexually active, I would emphasize on safe sex on both sides and if they wanna do it unsafely then get a ring from the guy first. Period.
Also in the case you described, the women can still legally claim child support and make the man take financial responsibilities. My question is, why choose such a man in the first place. Again, take some accountability woman.
@@yuvan6499 This comment here is so funny to me. You said you will make your daughter get a ring first?... what a ring does? What assurance does a ring gives to a woman? And about forcing a man to pay child support by the law HA! have you seen how many many rather not declare taxes, or work or even go to jail instead of paying taxes. Have you seen how many man after they divorce, they don't want to pay for the kids they made in "holy marriage".
And I'm talking about good woman that are educated, decent, faithful. Not low life woman that have bad intentions.
@@Michu507 Have you been to a divorce court?. A ring which technically I meant official marriage document which benefits divorced women through alimony, child support and also shared inheritance. Also, when a man gives a ring, that means he wants to build a family with his girl so talking about assurance, these are plenty much. Don't ever assume that a man that wants to have sex also wants to build a future with that woman. Also there are stats where most child born out of wedlock are degenerates to the society so there's a clear difference between having a child before marriage vs after.
By the state law, men who refuses to pay for child support can be jailed so question is, does a woman hold no accountability on the type of partner she choose?. If she choose a bum who has no work, whose fault is that?. If she choose unlawful partner who doesn't pay his taxes whose fault is that?. Are you telling me that woman rather have sex first before knowing about these things about their partner?. Whose fault is that?.
Likewise like a good man that are educated, decent and faithful will ensure that his lineage is well taken care off.
@@yuvan6499 Don't take my comments personal. I get your point. But you also are making too many assumptions.
When I say that a ring does I mean that a ring doesn't guarantee anything. My friend's parents got a divorce, he is a lawyer. They had 4 kids, 3 of them had autism and he left them for another woman (younger). A marriage of 21 years. He played the system and pay only $175 of child support for each special need kid of his. Now they are adults but the mom had a huge challenge.
My dad had 20+ kids outside his marriage. He married multiple times and put a ring to all of them. He lie to all of them and took care of none of his kids.
I've been sadly to divorce court (ongoing) and my soon to be exhusband and I where engaged for 2 years before we got married. We had our daughter almost 2 years into the marriage. During the relationship he needed help with his work and ask me to stop working to support him 😒... I did. Because I thought I could trust my husband and it was his business I saw it as supporting my family and since I had the 💍. As soon as everything went great for him (thanks to my help) he had no problem abandoning his marriage and not paying for his own business taxes and debt. He is also playing the system by telling the court that he is not working while he lives at a luxurious apartment and just got a brand new car (leaving me with the debt of his other car, his business car). The ring did nothing for me. I still have it 🤣 . Is just a remaider of when a man doesn't have word 😭.
And I get woman also can be wrong also. But my father had 20+ kids and I know my dad is not the only one. While a man can make 20+ kids in a month a woman can make only 1 baby in 9 months and they all where lied to by him.
If you see a woman you like only for sex. Would you be upfront and tell her is just for sex and not make her believe she is something special to you? Because if that's the case I bet it will be a lot less meaningless sex happening out there and she haves the choice of saying no thank you. Like many of my stepmothers.
I think single moms should date single dads.
what if the children are significantly different ages? For example let's say the father has grown children... Is it okay for him to date a woman that has a toddler?
I’m a single dad and um no screw that. Maybe if the guy has full custody I’d agree
I feel the same way, single parents are better off dating each other, single men without kids are an easy target for horny single moms
Hell to the no
That's actually fair.
I always just think people with kids should stick to dating other people with kids and people without kids should date other people without kids otherwise it's an uneven relationship.
Yeah, I agree with that.
@@rich.a Single dads aren’t prizes 😂 you have baggage and drama that childless women aren’t interested in. Most women prefer a childless man not a single dad.
@@MelaniaRose exactly but when men speak these FACTS on single moms he's a misogynist and he's disrespecting single moms
@@MelaniaRose who told you that ???? Women don't care about many kids you have but we care. I got kids and I would never never do a relationship with a single mother "yak". Don't mind pumping and keep it moving
I agree
I, as a single man with no kids, started seeing a single mom. Everything was actually great and very respectful, she introduced me to her little girl, still great! But one day on a Thursday afternoon, I get a text saying “blah, blah, blah, I don’t know what I want and I don’t know where I’m at right now, I’m so sorry”. So as you said, I felt like an accessory. It went from GREAT to a text break up with no real explanation. This really and truly hurt me. So, what you said in the video rings true.
My man translation hey I am going back to my ex a father of my child. We getting back together. So I’m going to leave you , thanks for filling in my void and sad ness. I myself dated a girl with kids there is nothing but a disrespectful behavior from a woman…
@@Blkknowitall She didn’t go back to her baby daddy for sure. But…what ever it is, I’ll never know unless she contacts me again down the road. Which I’m not holding my breath on. Could it be that her feelings were getting real and she was getting cold feet? Could it be she found another man? Who knows. But what I do know is if she contacts me again or any other single mother for that matter, I will not be as nice, will be extremely direct, and come with my own agenda too. If they can play games on us, might as well play the game back (as sad as that sounds). Protect yourself with your self interest, because they are…
@@BayouRambler it's normal that you are sad. It will pass. Also be happy because you dodged a bullet. If that happened the way you said she can be capable of something worse. Can you imagine you spent years of your life. You sacrifice, provide and much more and all is lost when things didn't worked out. She did you a favor brother
She went back to the father of her kids. Most of these single mothers only date other men because the fathers of their kids don’t want them
Easy! She found a better options to replace you! A better provider. Single moms are extremely hypergamous women. Never date them, or be in a LTR with them. You will have your heart broken soon or later.
I’m a single mother with two teens- divorced after 15 years. Still, I would never put a man through the burden of being with me; I always tell
Them…..go find a “free” woman. I have no drama in my life, but I feel any man deserves better than this; and my children need to grow up peacefully. I don’t want to ruin anyone’s life. It’s too precious.
If I ever date again, it will be when the boys are adults- which is not far now, but not yet…..
Your video is on point! Hats off!
That’s sad to put limits on yourself
@@sharamusicashe didn’t put a limit on herself; she set a respectable boundary in consideration of her children and those who might be affected dating her. Sounds like a good woman who will attract a good situation in the future instead of creating wreckage now
@@GP-gt4bo then all she has to do is not date a douche bag and her kids won’t experience a wreckage. Pretty common sense
@@sharamusica It has nothing to do with being a douchebag. Men that are good and bad don't want single moms. We want our own family with our own bloodline.
Are u serious! Wow
Don’t let anybody bully or guilt trip you into dating single moms. Especially if you don’t have kids yourself. It’s not your fault these women had children with losers. Putting a woman first in your life who will not put you first in her life has the potential to derail your life and stop you from achieving your goals. Never mind these women and achieve your goals then chase women.
What if she was a single mom because her husband died 🤔Is that her fault 🤔
@@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 Widows are actually different. Widows are more intelligent than the average single mom because she was smart enough to have children with a man she’s married to.
@@7ElevenAlphaCentauri she still a single mother. She can remarry.
@@damnkevindeaderthanamf6068 at the end of the day your still putting her first when she can’t do the same for you
@@jakeali206 There's a reason you have BALANCE
I broke all my rules and dated a single mom...I broke up with her last night after she told me that at one point she wanted to make things work with her baby daddy...never again!!
Same here
@@lovemylife8572 lesson learned 😔
@@wgp8ntballer I can't forget her bro I'm trying my best hope everything goes fine
She said the same thing to me I don't know it's true or not but she said the exact thing
@@lovemylife8572 yup...it absolutely killed me but I'm now talking to a girl 11 years younger than her...no kids no drama, I can make spontaneous plans without the lame excuses of a baby sitter..life is good!
Always upgrade!
You’ll never get me dating a single mum no way they’re a burden, single mum hindrance, blockade.
I’m staying single, so I have my freedom.
My husband died when my son was 9 months old. I didn’t date for 2 years. When I did start dating, my biggest fear was a pedo would see me as an easy mark. Young, desperate, lonely. I wasn’t any of those. I dated men who tried to step into my sons life on the first date. Hard no. I met, dated and married my husband when my son was young. We have 2 more kids. 17 years later, I’m thankful everyday that he was willing to date a single mom. We have built a wonderful life.
You're not considered a single mother if your husband died, you're a widow. Single mother is a term reserved for women who became separated from the biological father of their children for whatever reason other than death.
Hi 🌷🌷
Only took two years to start replacing him? Oof
If you are a man dating a single mom, there will ALWAYS come a day when you tell the child to not talk like that, or don't act that way, and you will be told "Don't tell him that, you're not his dad." And from that moment on, the child will never respect you.
True
@@joim3480 The state of mind is determined by the biological relationship. Even if you marry the single mom, even if you legally adopt the child, she will never let you be the full father.
We are not all like that. If I bring another man into my children's lives it is because I want them to have a good male role model. I won't bring a man into their lives if I don't want him to have that leadership role. I am a firm believer that a man is the head of the home, and I want him to be a father figure to my children. Not just some guy that I'm seeing that has no say in anything. And to see so many mothers agreeing with this crap because they believe a man should not be in that role is disheartening, because it makes me ashamed that my fellow women have become something that we were never supposed to be.
From experience, I know this to be true. Although, there 'is' a caveat. For that first 18 months or so, she'll treat you respectfully and like a king. Won't even get fat!
The moment she feels you are too invested to walk away, the benefits of being in a relationship suddenly come to a screeching halt. Whatever benefits you got for that limited time... well... you'll be paying for it for the rest of your life. 👀
@@leighmiller7047 then go to the child's father hes the REAL father. Go be with him with to take responsibility to them support them financially and morally. Chase the real father NOT on dating another man that forcing to take care your child when they're not the real father.
As a woman going through a divorce now... he's 100% correct. I tried dating and it was horrible! I'm so busy cleaning, cooking, bathing and taking care of my babies that I don't have time for a honeymoon stage. This is why there is growth in a relationship! You meet, fall in love, it's all about each other and then together you decide to grow and start a family. In that decision you are both agreeing to make a sacrifice to raise kids together! If you start dating a man without children he still wants and craves that honeymoon stage that he will never get. Resentment usually takes place towards the children. It's hard moving forward after marriage with kids involved.
Well, you could always dump your kids in the foster system when you get tired. I wonder if the majority of men who were abandoned by their mothers would then grow up to learn to respect women enough not to do wrong by them and then decide to be devoted husbands and fathers. Hmmm, I wonder🤔
@@biblethumper8088 Kevin Samuel's alluded to your perspective to a degree. He basically told single mothers that it would be better to give them away than for them to EXPECT a man to raise another man's kids! He said that a single man doesn't benefit whatsoever from dating a woman with kids...I AGREE WITH HIM!
@@unapologetic1413 it's TRUE. Neither does a single woman benefit from dating a man with kids. As a mother, my children will never date the opposite gender with kids. That's just a messy situation. If a woman wants to raise her children by herself, she's free to do so, but that's really not her responsibility to take on. And shes inadvertantly teaching her children that a father is not needed if she can do it on her own.
@@biblethumper8088 All facts! You make excellent points! I don't have kids and I will not date a man who has children...no thanks!
Yeah, her needy 17-19 year old children sabotaged our dates… there will be no real intimacy most of the time.
Dating a girl with a kid is like playing story mode on another dudes saved game.
I am a single mother who is NOT looking to EVER date or marry for these exact reasons ! You nailed it ! Btw I am not offended it’s the truth 100% ✌🏼
We must protect you at all costs
I never date a woman with kids and I'm a man without kids
@Jaques Parker none thank God 😂😂😂😂😂
I am a man with kids and I won't date a single mother
That's how it be girl, you gotta focus on those kids. I have three. We made them and they're our responsibility.
When it comes to single mums avoid it like the fucking plague.
Single mums will cause nothing but grief and drama.Also,why the hell would you wanna be last on her list of priorities !!
Thank you sir
I noticed in reading the comments a few single mothers agreed with what you said, the majority though resorted to attacking you, using shaming tactics and cursing you out for speaking on your standards of not dealing with single mothers. You really sent them into their emotions by speaking the truth on this matter.
Do not care what they say or what their feelings are. Don't date them. Case closed
You won't be first, but your resources will be.
@@Rbhawk3rd lol!
@@Rbhawk3rdVERY TRUE!
As a single mom, I actually looked up why guys don't want to date a single mom, because I've been trying to date and I've been having problems with it. I found that really only other single dads are the ones that are going to work out for single moms. They understand, I understand, everybody understands what's going on, and everyone can be happy. I think if you're going to date as a single mom, you should find another single dad, and compartmentalize that part of your relationship from the rest of your lives. For like a really long time. The kids don't need to know about it. You get a babysitter, mom has errands to run. Dad has errands to run. And you spend time with someone that you can appreciate and who appreciates you. Everyone has needs that need to get met. I appreciate this video and I know it gets hate.
I 100% agree with you. I’m not sure why women would want a man who isn’t a father to be around her kids anyways? I don’t have any but I’ve seen my brothers and friends change when they had theirs, it’s as if they look at kids differently now or something. I think single dads is the way to go.
You said it best, everyone knows what’s going on.
Thank you for commenting, I really do appreciate it 🙏🏼
@@TheRedpillExperiment I dated one guy who didn't have kids, and he kept complaining that he went into like start from scratch and I was like well I'm sorry that's just not how it is. And things were not good. I am an independent woman and I make my own money and provide for my kids, and I have no reason to do anything else. No one else is going to take care of you but yourself.
@@TheRedpillExperiment I wanted to add, too, that I have noticed a change and men when they become Fathers, as well. I've only ever dated one other guy who wasn't a single dad and it didn't go very well. There wasn't good communication. He was resentful. We cared about each other and we loved each other (kind of) but it just wasn't going to work out because we didn't have more information.
@@gillianba4240 Very true! It’s hard because they man wants to come in and be the leader and man of the house. In the start from scratch scenario, take care of your pregnant wife and go through labor with her, see your little baby and have your little family you can take care of and it works. It doesn’t work like that when it’s another mans family and single dads understand that because he’s in the same situation.
@@TheRedpillExperiment mature women will agree with you on that, and I do. This is the hard situation for people to be in. And the bottom line is that if you are a single mom, you need to date a single dad because they are the only ones that are going to be like on par with you
I dated a single mom. It was my first relationship. She left me for my friend. Shits fucked up.
Will never date a girl with a kid again.
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I agree, I am 35 years old and I never been in a serious relationship before. And seeing how relationship today end up I'd made a decision not get into one. Specially women with kids, no matter how beautiful the mother is or how innocent the kid are. It's just not for me, my life is already complicated I'm going to complicate it even more... Love is not worth it anymore!
I'm the exact same or I've been in "relationships" for max 3 months at a time...I realize that I am not cut out to be their shrink or psychologist; I thought they were adults and could handle their own problems...I chose to be single, it is much more peaceful; if I want to have "fun" I can easily find a woman, no problem - the best of both worlds.
I’ve tried. NEVER date a single mom with kids. Single mother with kids is a curse on any man unlucky enough to meet them.
Trust me men, It's not a road you want to go down. Great in the beginning, mentally horrific in the end. Stay away at all costs, don't make the mistake I've made more than once.
So am I doomed because my husband died? I’m doing my best with my two little boys and one with special needs. This video gives me sad hope for my future. We aren’t all bad.
@@allisonyogi405 No you’re not doomed & nobody is saying single mothers are bad it’s just a preference . There are plenty of men who will still date you, also you have single dads out there. It’s just not in a man’s best interest that doesn’t have kids to date single moms most of us want to start our own family & experience that along with building & working towards marriage with a woman that hasn’t experienced any of it before. Like I said there are guys who have no problems dating single moms. Also my condolences to your family about your husband but since you were married with a kid/kids and are a widow you have a way better chance than a woman who is a baby momma (wedlock). Good luck
⚠ Never swim where other men have drowned. Single moms avoid them at all cost.
@@allisonyogi405 Guys who don’t have kids and who want to commit to a women don’t want to be in a situation where they feel like they’re the second choice. Single mothers should date single fathers. It’s hars, but it’s true! When you as a man date a single mother it can destroy you mentally, it can make you feel neglected because the mother will always pick the child (and this is normal because mothers should do that) and that’s also the reason why you shouldn’t date them when you don’t have kids yourself and forget spending time alone, because chances are the kids will be there with you. Then you also have the planning and what not when you 2 want to be alone. You need a baby sitter and so on.
Why would a man go down that path of dealing with a single mother when he can pursue a woman without children and create his own family.
A lot depends on the age of each person..if you're a 45 year old man without kids you probably don't want any, but 75% of women your age already have kids, so it's either date a single mother or be alone.
Most men nowadays have become desperate.
@@lonewolf4429 date someone younger. I am 45 and I don't go above 30 year old women anymore for this reason
@@lonewolf4429settling down on single morher would leas to cheating That's why I know someone he married former single but then HE cheats her. I think he just married her for rebound, Plan B while he still looking someone more compatible with him.
dating single mother means you are expected to put food on the table and you eat last.
I’ve dated 2 single mothers and they both ended up wanting to “take a break” only to find out they both went back to their abusive baby daddies.
I know not all single mothers are like this, but I will never again date a single mother.
Nah if you are rich hide your all things in trust 0on paper in your name and pump all single mothers give them new baby and leave that’s what rich people do like me we are 5group friends millionaires we pump them and dump them and these beta male raise our semen do same like us you will feel like ruler
@Timmy Tran I got dislikes on reddit for pointing out that young single-mothers tend to be irresponsible.. And I mean it sounds like I ain't wrong 😂
98% of single mothers give the rest a bad name.
@@oldhag2881 unfortunately, you have already gone down a very bad path if you are a single-mother.
If you are a single-mother, you obviously didn't care enough. Your child is 20 times more likely to end in jail when he grows older. Why? Because you cared little enough for the child to keep the daddy in his life.
Gj.
But hey! At least we are living in a time where it is wrong to judge you for it! Don't worry everyone is on your side! Simple mistake. Can happen to anyone.. No shame in that..🤦♂️
@Timmy Tran no they are not all like that , just speak on the single mothers you know
I once dated a single mother and during one of our many fights she said “my daughter comes first” or some silly variation of that. I replied “ye no shit, and my left arm comes first too”. I meant that my limbs are as important to me as her kid is to her. It’s a no shit statement. But what she really meant by that when she said my kid comes first is “you come last”. I was behind literally everyone on the planet on her totem pole of people.
Hopefully you didn't stay there much longer
@@kendrawinchester2349 yeah, they're fools. Either way, not meant to be.
@@kendrawinchester2349 yeah i had an so called friend like this , i am completely cut her off. because of my family saw something
@The demon Doctor Well I can understand that she can’t let her kids just do whatever they want and not keep them in check. That would piss anybody off. But I’m sure there were other things as well that probably made it worse too.
Your child isn't a leftover to you. She isn't to me either since I don't have that sort of relationship or interest in you. But to a man who does, she is, and there's no way around it.
Same as your daughter comes first, most men aren't going to put your child above themselves or see her as anything more than all the other kids we see on the daily.
You forgot this : the kids gonna call their biological father "dad" and call you uncle, but you pay 100%, he pays zero 😂. He's above you in the hierarchy, you are the least important person in the system, except for when it comes to money you pay it all 😂😂😂
if the kid calls you uncle, you are great. they will call you by your name
he pays zero = lies,,,,of course the bio dad pays or else its prison...the mother is the one who pays nothing.
He’s right about finding someone with no kids. When I was single I never dated guys with kids because I didn’t want the drama. Plus I didn’t have any, and figured if I did want some one day I want it the kid to be our first. I waited for the right guy who was actually my best friend for years lol. Starting a family with someone who doesn’t have kids already is wonderful. No drama, no wondering, it’s just peaceful.
you mean he wanted you for years while you were getting your back blown out by other men...congratz judging by your picture you're not a real catch he's a simp
Why is it they will always come first but if the dinner bill comes they think of u first?
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣
@@TheEdawg77 well said we'll said. Strong woman
Don't get married don't have children don't cohabitate. Keep your money in your pockets guys
Nha that being selfish
I agree with this. Just keep all your money and die with it in your grave, never ever donate it to charity or to a lifelong partner or to anything but yourself. Sounds like a life where you really WIN! LOL
I made the mistake of dating a single dad and abandoned me with our baby and made me a single mom. So it's both side...as a young single woman I should never date a single dad...please someday make a video about reasons why single woman with no kids should never date single dads!
Yess. My daughters biological daughter basically did the same thing. However he was forceful and took advantage to get me pregnant in the first place and I found out too late in. Now everyone would think that I should've had an abortion or done an adoption. But there are multiple factors that played into why I decided to keep her. I admit that 4 years later, I have some serious issues that I need to work on, and therapy. But I love my daughter very much. And the life I imagine and will make happen is being single, happy, giving my daughter a deserving and happy fulfilling life and I do not intend to or expect to date anyone at the moment or maybe for the rest of my life.who knows, only time can tell.
why did you all choose men with no morals? seems to be something women expertise in? same old stories men here on every date with women. can guarantee not once did your own moms intervene in your chaos & dysfunction
A female with name Samuel? You sure? Also I never date a single mom ever
Not many single dads but single moms are at 98% compared to single dads. What a stupid comparison
I wholeheartedly agree with you! I grew up in a catholic household & went to parochial school. I made the mistake & dated a single father in my younger years. I was single, no children, going to college & working. Your video had the same scenarios but reversed! His 3 year old child was disrespectful and saw me as a threat to his “ family”. His ex wife left him for another man. I saw the red flags and ran away! Older and wiser now. Now I’m a single mom myself, ex husband left me for another woman. I won’t date a man that has never been married or no kids. It wouldn’t be fair to put someone in that situation. 😊
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“She got together, SPREAD her legs for the wrong guy, and now she’s a single mom”. WOW. I’m not sure any of the ladies commenting watched this video long enough to come to this part. Are your lady single and childless lady friends aware you speak like this? A hard pass in my world.
For real though, seriously disgusting this guy actually thinks he's giving some sort of message with this video when he's just promoting toxic thoughts and even untrue thoughts. I can tell you when I was a single parent to my daughter I met a wonderful man who treated her as his own and we never had any issues with me having a child in the mix. We been together for years and even had our own together. This point of view of this video is from an insecure unstable guy who apparently feels threatened, a real man would never feel or talk this way period.
@@ashleythebutterflymystic1990 you are the exception...most single mothers treat their children's fathers as nothing more than an ATM...i know because i'm one of them.
Whatever you said, is very true. My mom and dad have their own kids they had before they met and whenever they argue about the kids each person takes their own child's side. I'm one of their kids together. My siblings and I (the one's who they had together) barely get noticed or get attention. we are now being forgotten as the parents are giving them other kids who they've had before moral support so they feel 'enough'. They always fight everyday. i know relationships have their moments but when those moments are everyday it's becomes a case.And sometimes I get called the mistake when in actual fact their relationship is the mistake. them meeting each other is the mistake. so don't ever date single moms or single dads. if you think just because y'all both single parents you might understand each other, you wrong. It's just going to affect you and the children you gon birth after.
Just don’t do it! Even if she is amazing and what not, you will probably end up regretting it! If you do indeed decide to date a single mother then keep this in mind. You will barely spend time alone with her. Her kid will always come first (this is normal) but for a guy it can feel destructive when you are with a lady who doesn’t care as much for you as you do for her. So yes her kids will get most attention. Then you have the ex usually it’s some crazy guy who could get you into trouble. Then you also gotta deal with the fact that when the kid is annoying (which kids can be) you cannot do much since you’re not the dad and don’t you dare to tell her how she should raise the child and do you really want to raise another man’s child? Probably not. Guys like I said don’t do it! If you found a nice girl with kids and you don’t have kids I strongly suggest you to quit it! Because you will deeply regret it! Again don’t date single mothers! And of the single mothers out there who get angry by this message, I am just spitting true facts!
The reason she's single is because she put the kids first. This is a modern world mistake that exists because it " Sounds" , noble and correct. The truth however is all together different. Parents that put each other first do nothing but good for their kids as the marriage is usually much healthier. Healthy parents, healthy kids. This sets the standard for those kids and usually puts them at a better chance of having a healthy home life of their own. In the end there can never be a truly healthy home by putting the kids first....
Ten Lies that Women think Men also believe:
1: Men will forgive their promiscuous past.
2:Men aspire and love being Stepfathers.
3: The men that they friendzoned will always be there for them as a back up plan. After they’ve been pumped and dumped by the Chads and Tyrones.
4: Men want partnerships and don’t want to be the leaders of their relationships.
5: That men will accept them as they are. Regardless of their age, weight or parental situation.
6: Men don’t have standards.
7: Men care about a women’s income and education.
8: Having a degree and a high paying job will increase a woman’s SMV (Sexual Market Place Value)
9: That being fat is the same as being curvy.
10: Men will always find them attractive at any age or size. Even when they’ve hit the wall.
Dude, how old are you? Probably an old hag. Dont expect to get hot women in their early 20's like you said...you hit the wall too:))) so you should settle down for less or die alone and bitter.
If most men think that way, that's a very good reason to friendzone all of them. You deserve your incel status.
I was on the opposite side ...dating single father with difficult kids ... 5 years of worst nightmare...drama 24/7 ... every trip he's on the phone fighting with ex about kids...when spending time together only talk about kids...
I don't remember one relaxing happy moment...it has to be some circus going on all the time ...
I became sponge to absorb his complaints....can't even believe I suffer for 5 endless years trapped in the bubble of negativity and misery 💔😢
Better times ahead now!
Yes indeed!!
Happily single and in love with my 🐕!
What kind? I love dogs! Unfortunately mine went with the ex and went down hill after that 😔
I’ve been looking again though!
@@TheRedpillExperiment Yorkie
@@nevea.4621 Hahaha NO WAY! That’s what I’m getting!! My last was a mini schnauzer
NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOM!!!!
You were warned.
Hopefully, these men will listen!
Exactly
She will NEVER pass up an opportunity to remind you that they're not your children, and your authority is very limited.
No single moms and no overweight ladies.
no single dads no short guys no broke guys ✔
@@arianalushtaku4329 If you want the things you just listed in a guy then you'd better not any of the things the person you are replying to listed in a woman or you are out of that man's league.
@@gsxr1189 I'm not a single mom neither a overweight woman and I would never be
@@gsxr1189 exactly
@@arianalushtaku4329 when do women ever get witn such a guy
I’ve been a single mom for the passed three years. I was married for 7. This is on point. This is the brutal truth it hurts me to listen to it but it’s true.
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What's the truth
Hey gorgeous 👋
How are you doing ❤❤❤
Hello 👋 How are you doing...hope to get more chat with you if you don't mind
Single parents that are reading this and feel down, I promise this isn't always the case, this is just the experience for some people.
There is someone for everyone and there are real solid people out there that are willing to build an empire with you, even if your child(ren) have a different father.
This thinking is also incredibly misogynistic. Implying a women is no good just because she has children. Did you make a similar video about single dads?
Thanks ❤️ I’m literally in tears right now from all the videos about men should not date single parents. It hurts to hear this because I chose to stay and my child’s father didn’t . I’m sitting here thinking I’ll never get married but then I thought about my mother that died when I was four . She left my dad for being abusive but got married to my step dad that always married women with kids and he’s still in my life even though my mom passed away two days after their huge wedding. My god mother was a single parent to her daughter and now she’s married to my rich and successful god father living the life. Their best lives with 2 kids they had together that are now studying to be a pediatrician and the youngest one studying business or something like that. And I could go on…. I guess I needed to hear all of this ❤️🤞🏽
@Mai 🥰❤️😘 thanks love
Thank you 💕
A real friend will tell you what you need to hear not what you want to hear.There are some men out there who are willing to marry single mom.But those are very few.Dont give them false hopes.Its better to prepare for the consequences.
@@DontTakeItLiteral Nah, single mothers are the reddest flag
I was a single father, and there was no way I was dating a single mother. I’ve certainly hung out with 5X my fair share, but that’s it. And I’ve met several women with whom I hit it off, but they opted out once I divulged that I had a kid. And I was never once offended.
Wicked Man you are
You use ladies
Was? Are you married now?
Yes, I am. Not to my oldest’s mother, though.
@@MamaWhit87 single
sounds hypocritical to me
I somewhat agree but not really. A grande majority of my friends who are not married and have no kids are financially less successful than my friends who have children. In fact, more of my friends who are single moms own their own homes, businesses, and are extremely responsible as compared to my other childless friends in their mid-30s that are a comparatively large sub-group that lives with their own parents. Granted millennials in general are living more often at home. I do have a variety of friends who are childless and dating who are successful in finances and career. However, partake in much riskier behavior such as recreational drugs or a partying lifestyle. I think relationships should be based on the intent of a person's heart because you really can't place your market value solely on whether or not the person has children. What if she has 1 child, what if the child is grown or over 18, there is something to be said about a person's future beyond 45. It seems like you are only referring to sex but not marriage or dating. You mentioned "fucking" a child's mother. That says one thing: sex is the end goal/it's the forefront? Keywords: beautiful and young not successful, kind, godfearing, or smart. Listen to your keywords: beautiful, and young. LOL. Good luck.
This comment is the truth they don't want to face. That's why is not popular. But you are correct.
Agree 100%
Uh the data doesn't suggest what you're saying though lol good stuff you can always find a liar in the comments. If anyone wants to see the data just Google single mother home owners. Guess what guys they're still horribly behind single men home owners. So yeah what you're saying is bs according to the stats and not what you see LOL and thanks for the truth that wasn't truth
Stats also show that more men are business owners than women it's a slightly better percentage but still disproves your bs lies. Go take your feminist propaganda somewhere else. It's always crazy to see these type of comments like they don't think we know how to do a simple Google search. You can say whatever you like but single mothers are going to be alone mostlikely forever and there is no upside to it event though you're making it sound good
Tht cute but it doesn't change the fact of y would a man involved his life, time and money and even move into a house with two randoms kids and a woman.
The ROI raising another man’s child/children is zero… I’m investing in his legacy, not mine. Secondly, the idea that another man has unrestricted access to my wife is not happening… and he will have unrestricted access.
The second one is a big issue that is not talked about often and I completely agree with you.
Correct, you are investing in a kid while the dad has the time of his life chasing girls… the girls YOU should be dating!
Sounds like some Kevin Samuels
I was dating a single mother too and i agree NEVER AGAIN IT'S HELL ON EARTH AND FOR WHAT? NOTHING BUT BS
LOL @ Hell on Earth 🤣😂🤣
get out not your responsibiltiy
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I wouldn't do it either.
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If she had a child out of wedlock she's sure not worth it. If she was married chances are she initiated the divorce, why did she throw the kids' father out ?
Damn she crushed your heart. I'm sorry for your loss. I hope you find a stronger bond.
EXACTLY‼️😳
exacly she put him out!! more you out den out more they wanna stay there! she don’t want door completely close for you wiht that great woman! i sure she let you
because you are not for her you are to inmature!!! to hurt taking like that, ridiculous that shows every thing of you! i am glad she let you!! you are not e gut man o figure for his child!!!
@Saint Jude lol that guy is just telling the truth.
@Saint Jude most single mothers are just after the free money from the support check
I really doubt that she crushed his heart. More like opened his eyes. Dating people with kids sucks, nobody wants to. Your kids are annoying. Deal with it lol
I have been in this situation twice, once for four years and once for 2yrs and both times I didn’t obviously learn my lesson and faced the same outcome. When a woman is raising a child on their own they often do not leave space for a partner or male influence as they have to fill that gap themselves. Right or wrong that is what happens and the result is the child is “always” exalted and the opinions or effort on behalf of a partner is obstructed, because “ I am a single parent”. As a result you can never form a true partnership that can conquer not only relationship issues but also raising a child issues and therefore it’s a nonstarter. I think you are correct although sounds a little jaded and sounds like you’re coming from a very hurt place but I would love to hear more in-depth conversation on your thoughts!
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Absolutely agree with you. You will never be cut out to conquer relationship issues which under normal circumstances builds a lifelong foundation.
It Seems to me that you are Choosing the wrong women. You probably went for their bodies and the SEX. The Sex hooked you and you got involved rather quickly like people are doing these days, without giving themselves Enough Time to know each other. You aren't a Saint, You wanted to Tap that ASS as Soon as You got the Chance and make the Stupid Mistake of being Shallow and only going for a woman for what She looks like, without building any depth to the relationship like Other Cultures around the World do.
Id never date single.mother ever worst experience ever and a living nightmare I also have no kids
@Energia Viva single mothers are nightmares I'd never date a woman with kids I ain't trying to take care of her mistake baggage from another man I pass
I am a single mom and I have no desire bringing a man into my son's life. I put all my energy into my son and myself. I grew up with a stepfather and it wasn't fun. It was like living with a stranger. My mom and him had a baby and it felt like my brothers and I didn't exist anymore. He never really talked or play with us or tried to connect with us. My mom was always on his side and never on ours. When my brothers and I were old enough we moved out. My mom's desicion to bring this man into our life wasn't wise and I'll never do that to my son. I have a good relationship with my son's dad and he sees my son every single day.
That step person your mother married is a dusty.
Please stay along till your bby will be adult. Dont spoil life of a stupid omega-man who agree to make any deel with a single mom. Thank you in advance.
@@salmanjackson92 Thank you, I will do that. My son and I have an amazing bond and I am keeping it that way. I'll be 57 when my son is an adult so I probably won't be looking for a man at that age, but that's ok, I like my own company.
Where’s the father at? Does he see his kid ?
@@MichaelOBrien71 My son's dad sees my son almost every day.
My stepdad who later adopted me was and is the hero of my life.
Hands down the best person I ever met in my life. God sent. Has my up most love, respect and gratitude. My bio dad could NEVER compete with him.
Please don’t generalize
Does he have biological kid with your mom now?
You're 1000% correct
Yippp
"Your $10 fast food run just turned into a $40-$50 bill". This is so profound. Every aspect of your life would be like that.
Lol that’s peanuts, I spend 500 every week on food and still have a lot left over. A lot of single moms do hit on me.
@@holdencaulfield9470 hey man, all I do is hit it and quit it, it does suck when you miss the little kids tho. They’re so innocent.
@@michaeltren4910 You just contradicted yourself. How do you spend $500/wk (assuming you’re talking about the mom’s kids) and then say you hit it and quit it? You have fallen into the trap and being played lol
@@cantseeshadow you’re assuming I’m talking about the moms kid’s. I’m saying I spend 500 a week on me, which means I have a lot to give and I do when I use to date single moms
Yup said that to my bf + he got defensive.
This honestly sounds like someone speaking out of pain, and I don't agree with some things he says, but do agree with others: Ex:You should never feel obligated to pay for a single mom's kid's food/shelter/entertainment. As a matter of fact you should never give anything to anyone unless it's coming from the heart and because you WANT to. Not just because you're dating her so you think that's what you should do. This only creates an expectation, whether materialistic OR emotional in them. As a single mom, I will not even let you around my kids unless we have established this and I trust you enough. Next: Not all single moms take their kids' side just because they are their kids. It is important to remember we have the job of making sure our kids feel safe and heard but most single moms I know, know when to call their kids out and when to stick up for them. So it LARGELY depends on the woman. Next: Personally I feel unless the guy is abusive it manipulative and it's a normal breakup, it's better for the kids to have closure as well. A quick dinner or lunch or some way to say goodbye that doesn't involve traumatizing the kids and instead they see that breakups happen and people can still be civil...ideally. THAT SAID...
You should not expect to be the priority in anyone's life unless you are a child and that person is your parent or are married. So, if you want to be the center of attention, If you don't want to spend money, and yo fear getting attached, make that clear from the beginning. Or don't entertain that girl at all. And finally, SINGLE MOMS ARE NOT ALL THE SAME!!
Your comment confirms that single mothers are definitely all the same.
Single moms are ALL the same, that's the problem. You know one, you know them all.
I agree so much with you. I have a teenage son and he is such a jerk sometimes and he does not get his way all the time and I have sided with guys in the past I have dated plenty. This guy sounds like he’s had some horrible experience in the past and is choosing to take it out on ALL single moms sadly.
He’s right!! Did you know in many counties around the world, regardless of religion, if the parents remarry after divorce with children, the children end up living w grandparents and parents visit them there? Most countries don’t believe in stepparents!! This is why you see women stay single until their children are grown, so they don’t deal w this dynamic!
I’ve never even really commented on a video. Coming across this just doesn’t sit well. I completely understand all the challenges that come with dating a single mother, however, these are the same problems you will encounter with your own family you create. The difference is they aren’t your blood. If a woman is put together and raising her children right, has a cordial relationship with the father if at all then I don’t really see why the “problems” he’s speaking about. Like, thumbs down. I think maybe make a video on wasting time dating someone that isn’t truly in the place to be dating and has issues they haven’t worked on vs don’t date a single parent… especially if you want children one day, what’s the issue.
Anyway,
be blessed!
best comment so far
Facts
Nah we not taking single moms seriously
@@carolinaanthony4142 single moms are people too lmfao, you saying, “ wE NOt tAkINg sINgLe mOMs SEriOusly”, is gross because you’re acting like they’re not worthy of respect. That’s rude behavior and no one should tolerate that attitude. Just because someone doesn’t have kids doesn’t make them better as a human lol
"cordial relationship" nonsense...most single mothers view the father as nothing more than an ATM
🌬️💨💨💨 NEVER DATE A SINGLE MOTHER FELLAS!!!
Yes, I'm a woman with NO KIDS and I agree 100% with this video! MOST WOMEN will NOT put you first, but they'll want you to spend your money on their kids without giving you FULL PARENTAL RIGHTS! Not only that, the kids (especially if they're teenagers) will not fully accept you and may disrespect you!
How do I know this??? I've seen so many women around me with entitled attitudes who feel like men are obligated to commit to them. In actuality, men just want to SMASH & PASS single mothers without a commitment.
How old are you
@@211reid In my 30's. My exact age isn't important.
@@unapologetic1413 no I ask because you spoke facts dear, hey I'm 37 no kids by choice so I fully agreed with you. So I had to ask how old is this female speaking facts not to many females do that these days 😂😂😂👍👍👍💯💯💯
@@211reid Thank you sweetie. Congratulations on being single with no responsibilities of raising kids. Kids can be a blessing for those who want them, but I love the freedom of NOT having the responsibility of a child and EVERYTHING that comes with it.
@@unapologetic1413 agree
If you ever noticed every single mom dating profile she will say she has the best and smartest kids in the World. Basically she is trying to validate for her mistake and Also telling you that you will never be her first choice in a man. But she wants you to save her and take care of her kids who will never respect you.
Single men if a woman is single and tries to get you to meet their children please run and not look back. The most fucked up situation is that a married woman wants me and I told her countless times to back off.
My younger brother just started dating a single mom he's 25 she's 26 2 kids,he has no kids I feel like he's in a hurry to settle down, he's young tall handsome can get any girl, tempted to send him this video
Send it!
Tell him to run!
@@thejessman1460 the worst thing's my parents already telling him those are his kids,but good thing she has anger and jeoulous issues and his already tryna dump her 🤞
DO IT.
@@elmuchachochulodechihuahua6287 hopefully he gets outta there and never does it again
I'm in my later 50's, just started dating a 35 year old woman never married with 2 teenage boys. She has her own home, doesn't appear desperate for a man, seems fun to be around.
I'm building a home a few blocks away from her.
So my question to everyone with experience dating single mothers could a relationship work where we never live together? I don't want to live at her house and I'd never have any woman move in with me at this point in my life but honestly I'm thinking this could actually work?
I guess time will tell.
I dated single mothers as a single father in my late 20's and instinctively knew I'd never marry one.
For me the fact that I couldn't love another's child the same as mine seemed unfair to those children so I avoided it.
But I'm at a different point in my life now.
Marriage doesn't make sense any more with anyone but I could see myself having a committed relationship with the neighbor lady!
Ha ha, sounds funny but it makes sense to me.
If it makes sense to you, and you talk to her about it and she agrees, then try it out and see if it works. Let her know totally how you feel about it. I do think it could work. If neither of you want marriage, I can see the relationship working where she wouldn't have to move in. But talk to her and see.
@@stewartmullings1552 thanks for the input.
TBH it's still in the early stages with this woman to bring up future plans so I'll have to see how things progress.
This woman loves her home/yard and appears to be doing well in her current situation.
As for myself I'm a busy person and enjoy coming home to unwind having my place to myself.
With any hope she's thinking similar things as myself and we can both get what we want.
@@Golden-ui5um Best of luck, man. Is your kid around the same age as hers?
@@stewartmullings1552 she has teenagers, my 3 are older living on their own.
Sounds like you enjoy pain! Hey some dudes love pain! 🤯🤯🤯🤡🤡🤡🌍🌍🌍
It’s very sad to see people having children for very selfish reasons without thinking about the effects of the children not having 2 parents…. Not being financially stable, not in love with themselves…….
Could always kill the baby couldn’t we
@@emiitchi4232 Thats a fucked up joke man... Children are innocent. Their moms fuck-ups is not on them. But single mothers should be left alone.... The effects of females becoming single moms is bad for many of us men though... Its sad that many probably has to spare up money for years to search through asia to find a loving and willing younger woman all because too many westernized women had to have that baby with a guy which didnt work out early in life... Btw: im against that idea that 30 year old women is used up with destroyed eggs too... 30-33 Is fine. As long as she makes a commitment and dont already have children.
Hi ❤❤😍🌷
In Muslim communities, we don’t have a single motherhood crisis. The relatively few single mothers in our communities are either widows, or women who were lawfully married, conceived children, and whose marriages later ended through lawful divorce. All of us were conceived through marriage, and all of us know who are fathers are. You and your children deserve the same. Brothers: embrace Islam-the last bastion of unapologetic masculinity left standing in this world, and the last one with a chance of surviving.
I’m soon taking my shahada to join brother 💪🏽💪🏽☪️
I was delusional. My ex had two kids to different dads. She told me she loved me and always will. Daughter got worse moved in the daughters boyfriend. Banged in front of the two year old baby my girlfriend justified it because her granddaughter is two and wouldn't remember and i want my daughter to make her own mistakes. I had a real problem with it a i should of left her for her poor parenting but i was in love and thought i could teach those kids some morals. Daughters boyfriend missed the bus for work because he was out selling. I told him his lack of perpetration is not an emergency for me and find another sucker. My girlfriend is like i should of known my kids can't relie on you for anything. I said yep. Got sent home day before Christmas eve and that was that. I blame myself for being a simp for not seeing the huge red flags. The manipulation worked and i thought i was loved. I mostly blame myself for being a sucker and not going with my gut instinct
I m single 😍😍❤❤🌷🌷🌷🌷🌷
Single moms are like used cars. You get the scratches. Smoke stained seats and the mileage with worn out parts. LoL
-welcome to being a babysitter
-welcome to hearing about the “bad ex”
-welcome to a drained wallet
-welcome to drama with any kid
-welcome to less time with the woman
-welcome to stress stress stress
Guys just don’t do it. I made the mistake. Please listen to all of use that never knew better for the sake of your sanity. Don’t go for the low hanging fruit. It wastes your time. The moms and the kids involved
Y’all broke dats why , and lonely
@@JAyala-se4st they are low hanging fruit. Thats why some guys almost always go for them because they think they got a shot. But play stupid games, win even dumber prizes.
@@JAyala-se4st why would someone raise a kid that isn't his?
@@JAyala-se4st and single moms are rich? 😂
Very well stated !
In general, if you're a dude and don't agree with what this man just told you in this video, something seriously wrong with you. Avoid that trap, remember if you meet them, they will try to trap you, doesn't matter how beautiful and hot they are, avoid at all costs.
Dating a single Mom is being a 100% simp.
Exactly
Dr. Laura wrote probably a few books where she advised single mothers to never remarried because of the screwup the kids. It’s 100% true.
My boy married a single mom, FIRST DAY he met her daughter he heard " I dont like you , my mom should be with my dad " he has heard that once a week now for 5 years. Yea that's what I need in my life.
One day she will get mad at him and a false accusation will be lodged against him.
@@misterm5325 yeah... Damn...so that dude goes on to marry the woman with that up front?? Thats just ultra dumb.
I've heard it over and over again. don't date single mothers, my older brother told me don't date single mothers. well I did and learn the hard way. 🥴
Damn my prayers are with you… always be there for your family not someone else .. keep it mind of that just moved on your brother told you right ..
Don't blame the men, the blame lies in the judicial system. Single mom with kids will get a percentage of every man she marries and in some cases, like Canada, she gets money for dating a guy more than a year. Single moms are not worth the financial risk. Even prenuptial is not held up in the court system, they always find a way to discriminate against the man and make him give her money for the rest of his earning career. A young guy that wants his DNA to move on, should avoid single moms as if they can't bear his children, he'll be divorcing her and paying her. The divorced guy is probably already paying support for his children, again even if he doesn't want kids with this new woman, he'll end up paying for both his and her kids even if she cheats and leaves him.
I appreciate this. I got left for the baby daddy and wont date another single mom
Good idea! It never ends well.
@@TheRedpillExperiment it still hurts. Cause I can see and still remember her smell, and she was crazy in bed. Got me whipped. Now she went with him and I know theyve already been doing it...and I lost my mind a bit and havent been able to get over it
@@profound369 There are other women out there brother! I know it’s hard and I’ve been exactly there. Go workout or do something physical and take it out there, it will make you better.
@@JBS2018 he was never saying he wanted to be with her till he found out she had a boyfriend
@@profound369 she wasn't ever yours... it was just your turn. In time, hopefully sooner than later, you'll see how lucky you were that she left you. You'll see that it was just a very temporary moment and that was all. I been there, years ago. Never since and never again. But I couldn't take them seriously now anyway, even if I tried. In my book, they belong to whoever they had kids with.
Over the Christmas break, my girlfriend and her kids were staying with me. They got sick with covid, I took care of them for 5 days, cooked cleaned groceries ect. I subsequently got sick with covid as they got better. While in bed the kids were going crazy, screaming breaking things, jumping up and down making noise blasting music. I asked them to be quieter several times, their mother didn't seem interested in having them quiet down. She asked if they should leave, I told them yes since I had work the following week (from home). She went on a speel afterward about families not leaving each other and me being at fault. She then broke up with me. That's how much these single moms care, if you get sick 1 time you're done unless you can entertain them at every waking moment. I usually get down on myself after a breakup, as you can imagine that didn't happen this time. Good riddance, never again dating a single mom
So you ASSume all woman who are mothers are like this lady ? Wow you are dumb as heck. I don't let my kids act that way period. I'm married and my struggle my entire marriage has been my husband being the one not wanting to discipline the kids.
“Marriage is a young man’s disaster and an old man’s comfort “. Starship Troopers the book 📚
Exactly what I noted mentally whilst listening to this video. I felt dismayed but then I realized a young man's perspective, rather jaded at that, is not the same as that of an older man who perhaps has seen and done it all, and only wants now to settle down.
Books are so much better!!
As a former single mom, I agree!!!! Being young and dumb with my Hs/college BF, we had an oopsies. After 6 years together- broke up when she was 3 months. I’m very lucky in that, despite being a bad BF- he is the most AMAZING DAD. We sat down and said- we need to break the cycle and give her the best chance. We need to get along and show her she was made out of love so we both split the week and worked together until he remarried when she was 10. I made an effort, FORCED his wife to love me.
I, on the other hand, chose to remain single. I said, “I’m a woman, she’s a girl & I need to protect her and my needs are no longer relevant bc I brought a human into this world.” So I remained single until she was 16.
My now hubs of 11 years didn’t meet her until 2.5 years of being together and when she was at college.
I look back and think- why would I want a single man to be brought into a situation where I’m going back and forth, lugging a kid, putting her 1st, working and building a company, rushing to her games, rushing to cook her dinner, study, and then running back to work? By the time she left home, I was single, successful, & not old. My hubs was a single, very successful, model looking, kind, protective man who tells me he admired the fact I put my life on hold (I did have pity parties for myself) to make sure my kid had the best shot at life. My kid is in med School, is so so kind, (sometimes she’s so kind and patient I actually asked her once what she was thinking when she was in a situation that should’ve made her angry but didn’t bc I needed to learn that) & made it to her mid 20s without Preggo! My ex and I are the first to break the horrid cycles in our families with her.
So If I were a man, I would question a woman who would bring a person near their kids in this day and age without knowing them for a few years.
-There are other things I think of like, my hubs doesn’t get a woman who he shares the “First kid with,” like I’m the spoils of war. Or another reason I waited is bc I couldn’t have her choosing which siblings she wants to spend time with.
Never date a single parent , periodt!
then you gonna die alone too
@@tonyebiere551 there are plenty of people with no kids...
@@tonyebiere551 highly doubt it.
@Terie sure is, and I live up to that name too
Why? What's wrong with it?
I know a guy that did date a widow, her husband was killed in Afghanistan, leaving her with a 6 month old baby.
Well, he lived in that man's shadow, every single decision or opinion was offered to him in the light of what the deceased military hero would have done, said or even thought.
The new guy became an afterthought that could never compare to the hero that died in his prime, and will forever remain perfect in her mind, and in the minds of the grandparents of that kid.
It is never worth it, it is a game the new guy cannot win, even when the other guy got blown to pieces in a country 3,000 miles away.
Hey guys I dated single moms two times and I can totally say that it was the worst things I did like…ever. It was so bad for my mental health and I really regret on waisting my time like that. Pls think guys pls don’t put yourself in the situations I put myself into. I don’t want to go in detail out of respect.
Why you don't date single moms....the kids from other dudes come before you. So basically the mistakes and lingering memories of the other dudes come before you. Any single mom who tries to sleaze her way into my life, my answer is simple: Give up the kids and we might have something to talk about.
Damn my dude nailed it! So true I was seeing a single mom for 4. Fuck, I'm glad I dipped out when I did. It costs so much money and fucks you financially. We were seeing for eachothrr for 2 years but the last 5 months she started telling me to pay for her kids shit.... I was like yeah no I can't... I wanna build with someone not lose every single dollar lol. She called it off and saved me the trip of fighting thank God. However I do miss her at times but not her kids
Pay for her kids?? that only obligated if you are both married but if you both NOT married before, why pay for her kids? she must go to her baby daddy and chase him instead.
Glad you got out of her relationship.
It costs $250,000 to raise a child. The median income for single mothers is $48k but it's $102k for married families. Single mothers have a poverty rate that is 6 times the national average and 62% of them are on food stamps.
Children raised in fatherless homes make up;
- 90% of all homeless and runaway children
- 85% of children with behavioral problems
- 71% of High School drop outs
- 70% of youths in State ran institutions
- 71% of pregnant teens
- 75% of adolescents in drug treatment centers
When i was a child and my parents divorced, my sister and i were not her priority. Her priority was her boyfriend. So, either you're screwed over by parent's or screwed over by relationships, as an adult. In the end, nothing matters.
I agree! I’m a single mom, I don’t have appropriate time for a full relationship, it wouldn’t be fair. My friend though did find a new man, they only meet up on the weekend, they both have their own place. It works great.
I don’t appreciate the last bit, where you basically say these women made bad choices and it’s theirs to deal with the consequences. Where there are children, there is also a father. Now, they may have their children a few days a week, or they just up and left completely. So, watch your mouth a little when talking about single moms.
Your advice is priceless. Short story, one day at work single and guy talking, then guy asked me my advice, " Should I date her?" I immediately said run! right in front of her face. To be fair I then turned to her and asked. Does he know your kids father? What is your relationship with the father? Then I ask the young man, are you willing to take care of someone else kids? He said, " I really didn't give it much thought". Then I said to her if your child get out of hand can he discipline you child. " she said no" By then the young man began to understand where this was going.
Everything you said was true I was a simp and dated single mothers and it was one of the worst things I've ever done never ever do it if you have no kids.
Exactly! Never date single mother's fellas!
⚠ Never swim where other men have drowned. Single moms avoid them at all cost.
Dude how about all that lost time. My God. Horrible. And they couldn't care less
Good video, good message I think.
I had a longterm relationship which was VERY TOXIC. Am single now, and worked my ass off to do my homework on the inner life stuff.
Faced my addictions and coping mechanisms.
Faced my issues between me and my honored parents. Learned to FORGIVE them.
I am in my late 40's but with an inner peace I award everybody else!
I'm not in a hurry or hunting. Why should I? Making moves too fast will screw things up.
When a mom had to divorce, she has to do her homework as well.
Why didn't she see she took the wrong guy? Blind spots?
Unsolved issues? Not even begun to waken up from her blindness?
Same with men of course. Why did he leave his wife for another one?
If you are the next, than big change the same thing will happen when he moves to the next next ;)
My view is this:
Do your homework FIRST!
The cleaner your own heart is, the better you see the spots and the red flags during dating.
The lighter your mind is, the better you see the darkness in the other.
Be aware of manipulation. If a date manipulates, move on!
Same with dominance or intimidating. These are ways to control you,which has its roots in unsolved childhood fears.
Oh one tip: if a man or woman has a problem with porn, put on your running shoes and RUN FOR YOUR LIFE! Check if somebody you date had done his or her homework.
I wish everybody the love and connections needed, but it's better to be your own best friend first.
What I heard in this video, that has always be my feeling. I never should be married to a mom with kids, UNLESS eventually - when she is a widow.
At the end of the day, it's better to be alone with peace in your heart than to live with a partner who is always mocking and criticizing....
Build your life on a rock, not on wetsand.
One man in history claimed to be that rock. That's Jesus. At least He is my rock I'm building on.
Sorry for rambling here, but I thought to encourage somebody with this lol :)
for REAL when i read a profile and see the whole "the kids come first" i laugh then swipe left. your broken lol.
Ill never date a single mom again
The real reason is There are Billions of other women that DONT have kids.
A ”billion” single women, who find you attractive, are interested in you, live somewhere close to you where its feasible to date you, and your personalities are compatible? Lmao keep dreaming 🤣🤣🤣
Single moms be like "these stretch marks are my tiger stripes"
Yeah, now Google how down male tigers are with raising another tiger's kids.