This guy is incredible. He tells his story so confidently, he is not a victim, he has nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, its the abuser who holds the shame, thats the way it should be. Well done for being so open, i'm sure you're helping millions of people out there. Thank you x
You don’t understand how important your voice is to all men out there. So many boys and men will keep these things inside of them bc of gender roles but NO!!!! They need to know it’s not okay and it’s not right and that they deserve justice!!! You are literally a gem❤
A big thank you for sharing my story. I cannot believe it's been 10 months since this was posted and people are still watching it and feeling inspired by it. A big thanks to you Unfiltered Stories.
I suddenly feel motivated and empowered to speak about the abuse that I endured as a child. Suddenly I don't feel embarrassed anymore suddenly I don't feel shame or a like a victim.... suddenly I to..... HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY.. thank you Jeremy for your inspiration and words of healing and courage. Speaks volumes to the work your doing yo help survivors like myself who live/ with this unspeakable trauma every single day.
the fact that even the abuser's own lawyer thinks he did it says volumes. its annoying how the law doesnt consider that a child whos going through abuse DOESNT KNOW how to collect evidence. his actions and the abusers actions should both be considered. a man doesnt just knock on someone's door and accuses them of being a pedophile
@@katlamb4606mental health repercussions. It literally changes your DNA and mind chemistry. Memory is stored in our DNA/ mind and body. Also if a child remembers birth marks and other intimate details. There may be ample ways to prove it you just need to want it bad enough
Unfortunately even if the system believes him, enough evidence wasn’t provided, and they cannot change the law. That’s why often times they will find another crime to lock the perpetrator up for.
You got bpd ? If so. Pray to God. And either here or in heaven you'll be perfect, not that you aren't right now haha. You know what I mean. God is real. So is good. So is pure love.
I used to work at a large train station in my city. I was walking through a crowd on the platform one day, heading for the stairs to go down to the lower levels. When I approached the stairs, my abuser was there- right at the top of the stairs. We locked eyes and I just completely froze. I beat myself up about it now, and wish I'd confronted him. I think about how easily I could have just pushed him down the concrete stairs. But when you are face to face with your abuser, you just never know how you will respond. It is hard to have any control over your fear. I have so much admiration for this man, and anybody else who can confront their abusers. But like you- I don't think I ever could. You have my utmost love, respect and empathy. Whatever helps you tackle another day is the right thing to do. Hang in there. ❤
I'm proud of you for eventually telling your parents, friends and especially talking to others about your story. You were brave and fed up with keeping the info to yourself. You did the right thing
I'm currently 25. I was around 10 years old. It never got to actual abuse, but he said and did things you just don't say and do to a child. And it ended up leaving serious marks mentally. I wouldn't want to confront him as I don't want anything to do with him, but I highly admire you for doing so.
You are brilliant! Your articulation, determination and pursuit for justice is incredible. Keep doing what you do, speak the truth and shame the devil. Your testimony is helping so many, especially our youth. You're golden.💖 What an amazing support system you have, it really makes the world of difference!💛 P.s. I would love to have you as a keynote speaker at one of my events!
I first encountered Jeremy's story at an open mic night in King's Cross several years ago. He got on the stage and started speaking and the whole room was silent because it was something different and unexpected, but there was so much support for the fact that he had shared this with us and also a strong sense of appreciation for his message of speaking out and not being afraid to do so. I think there should be more space and opportunity for people to speak out without judgement or shame or feeling they have to filter or sanitise what they need to say. I think it's very important that people hear how this impacts people as children and continues to impact them into adulthood and the way the justice system is failing (and sometimes criminalising) the victims of abuse. Just based on the well-known cases of child abuse and paedophilia, in the UK alone, and the way very high profile people seem to get away with it, without being made accountable, it is sensible to assume that children are still not being adequately protected from abuse and giving people a space to speak about it on big platforms is a step forward .
You definitely sent a shiver up his wife’s spine. You have a lot of courage. However, as someone who went through a similar situation, I never told my parents and you have validated why. I have already been hurt and I didn’t want to hurt my parents by telling them. Maybe I made a mistake but the person who hurt me all those years ago is dead. My deepest sadness was when my own daughter turned five years old and it reminded me of myself at that age and all I kept thinking over and over again was how can anyone do that to a child.
Respect to you for speaking out those people who have done this to children are disgusting and they need to be held accountable for his actions im sure you speaking out will give others the courage to speak out
You're a very honest and a quality chap. I hope you stay protected and people realise that this filth is still prevalent and people need to closely monitor their children.
Jeremy, I am so impressed with your courage to report the abuse and release your pain. I'm certain that the abuser, though he seems to have gotten away with it, will never be able to 'forget' now.
Not just sexual abuse but even any injustices done to us during our childhood is buried for a while and as we mature it does for sure come back again W shave to deal with it It just won’t go away Never
I'm so glad to hear a man open up about his experience with CSA, especially a man of color. our communities have a tendency to stigmatize issues like this and push them under the rug, so I'm happy to see this great vulnerability and storytelling
This guy is phenomenal. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so brave. This was incredible to listen to because of the realness of the story and your stark authenticity. You may have well saved many lives who have been traumatised by their own story. I love the lateral thinking which you put into positive action with your Something2Say movement and the fruits it has borne. What you have done and still doing is incredible inspirational and an healing balm to others. To all abusers of every form and shape. We will not go silently into the night!
A friend of my parents did something when I was 12 or 13 when they weren't home. I was so ashamed and scared ... a few days later I told a trusted neighbor who told my parents. That man vanished. I still don't know what happened to him 44 years later and I'll never know now because my parents passed on years ago. I think whatever did happen to him in the fall of 1980 was final and with extreme prejudice.
What a fantastic bloke, he is seriously inspiring and motivating. To have gone through all those horrible experiences and yet you’re still positive- god bless you.
You are a brave, courageous man! Thank you for sharing your traumatic story. May you be an inspiration for other men to heal from this horrid abuse. This happens too much to children and is heartbreaking. You are an amazing man!!💜
All I kept thinking was that poor boy, it judt goes to show we must heal our inner child to finally move on to become strong adults. I hope you have healed your inner child and this never happens to anyone again. Well done for finding that strength
Thank you so much for sharing. My nephew molested my daughter from the time she was 4 until she was 10. She opened up about it like 4 years ago after another child said he told her something inappropriate. She realizes now how it affected my life growing up and her teenage years.
Things also happened to me as a child, because my mother was a single one. Having to take care of my older brother and I. One of my cousins took care of me, the one that had children around Same age as me. my brother stayed with the better cousin so he was in better care than I was. Being a child , decisions were being made for me , I don’t blame my mother for them, but I went through pre abuse myself because my cousin didn’t treat me that well and her husband used to touch me and act inappropriate towards his own daughter and me. I didn’t know if that was right, I was confused so I let it slide. But then as I was getting older it started to become more worse for me. This person did other things that my mother doesn’t even know about. A situation almost happened to me , back when I was 16. If it wasn’t for my cousins “Son” walking in , the worst would’ve happened to me. I ended up telling my mother, and things really got serious….. moral of the story cousin stood with him and all this caused isolation. Nothing ever go resolved and mom still doesn’t know the other half of it. But now I’m 25 years old and I’m Married . My husband is very supportive, he understands me and what I went through. Although nothing was done about it, I’ve managed to put it in the PAST. I had to forgive and forget just for my own sanity I’ve also Talked to God about it and has gave me more peace on that regard.
Your voice is crucial to the healing of souls so many men live with trauma and punish themselves! Thank you so much for sharing Your movement is amazing and so inspiring! Absolutely amazing
Yes, we have feelings of our own, it hit me very badly too when I was around 25, the shame, the anger, the guilt of realising the weird things that I've done when I was little after the sexual abuse, I was 5, he was 24, a teacher and now a very religious man. I started to speak up and be direct about it, then my mother wanted to groom me into thinking it's normal and said that men has needs and it happened to many, and told me that I don't need to tell anybody, because my abuser is her nephew.
Thanks for sharing and doing this amazing work! I had the same trauma with a family member. Unfortunately my mother was way too distraught bc he was on her side of family. I never spoke to her again about it, but I had an amazing therapist. I was able to forgive my abuser after a few years of therapy. I’m finishing a degree in psychology and I have one in counseling. I’m gonna work with children and have been bringing domestic violence and sexual abuse awareness in a church ministry.
Very powerful and inspiring for others who have gone through this especially since we loose our voice in a way either no one believes us or were terrified to tell. I recently looked up my abuser too and saw he has felony charges after me and is now living free in Georgia. I think about confronting him or letting people know all the time but don’t know where to start. But I think I’ll be more angry if he dies and is never held accountable in anyway and I deal with the repercussions my entire life is not fair.
Thank you for sharing your story. I was also a victim of sexual abuse. As a parent now I teach my kids how someone can be inappropriate towards them and to speak out.
Thank you for having the courage for telling us your most traumatic experience. You are brave and strong, you will be in my prayers. I pray for happiness for you in this world and hereafter
You suppressed the abuse but after a while it always come back trust me I know the more you suppress it the worst, it can even cause anxiety. Im glad you got it off your chest and started to heal. They always try to target the shy quiet kids with busy or absent parents too that's also why I was targeted as a child
Am so proud of you! Thank you for sharing it but more than anything, thank you for following it through with the confrontation. I hope to have that strength some day.
I’ve always thought about knocking at the door of my abuser (my aunt), but never had the courage to do so. I was also afraid that she will slam the door at my face and that would make me even more angry. I’ve never forgotten the physical abuse she inflicted on me like name calling, putting my head into the soup, denying me to step outside to play, finally pushing my dad down the 10 step stairs and me watching this happen… I was just six years old… I was throwing up so often while living with her. This nightmare continued for the whole six months. Throwing up stopped when my dad took me away from her. I still carry this pain and this rage against her. I don’t k ow how to let it go. I cannot afford a therapy. Even if I did, I still think the best option to release this anger would be to confront her and yell out all the rage I hold against her in my gut…Please watch your children and don’t leave them to be raised by your relatives. Many times you won’t even find out what happened…
I am sorry this happened to you by a family member and at such a young age...It sounds like that woman is evil and does not deserve not even your grudge. Maybe there are online support groups you can join and they may talk about how you can learn to be at peace with what happened. What if you confront them with others who support you? If she did things that can cause her to be punished by law I would open up a case against her. May you heal ❤. You and no one deserves what has happened to you.
Go and confront her. She will deny it, but you finally can speak! For me it was the other way around. I grew up in a terrible environment. When I was 11 I had the opportunity to live at my aunt's family. And for the first time I had a normal and healthy family life. But I would have needed therapy too. At that time I already decided to end my life because of my past.
What an amazing man. How he speaks out about what happened. I imagine so many men and boys could not even begin to talk about it. But none of them should have any shame as they didn’t do anything wrong.
Superb.. Bravo.. THANK you for sharing authentically. It's easier to take council with a veteran. Remind the children that they can be abused by relatives, family members, even boyfriends and husbands. Teach them how to document evidence even if they don't want to report it. They don't have to report to DOCUMENT it. Superb clarity, THANK you so much!! ❤
WOW thank you for being so brave and having the courage to share your story. Blessings to you! So many lives are being touched by your story and is giving them the strength to open up. There is healing when you open up instead of staying silent
I’m so sorry to hear about this abuse. You seem to be such a lovely person. I hope now that you have outed him you are living your best life. Keep the knocking on the door in your conversation. I would have done the same.
Just makes me sad that your mum was not aware.. Parents can be so caught up with paying for bills and providing for children, that abuse can be happening under their roof, and they can't see it..
Sadder part is ppl like this choose vulnerable families like this & groom them as much as they do the kids. So most times even if the kid tells they are not believed or its downplayed or swept under the rug.
I got assaulted by someone when I was too young and it made me hyper sexual :( but it makes me sad cos little me was acting out due to the trauma of it and trying to say that I got SA’d but that didn’t work cos I was quiet (due to being neurodivergent) it still haunts me sometimes but I’ve been trying to heal from it and sometimes news stations talking about topics that remind me of it makes me sad again about it. It happened when I was 6 and I remember it all.
Kudos to you Jeremy. And more power to you. How do we protect our children ? I feel worried for my child. He is also 8. Please elaborate more on steps to prevent this from happening to our kids.
Also let him know that no one is to touch him privately nor be alone with him. Let him know he must come to you immediately if anything like that happens and telling doesn’t mean he’s done anything wrong.
Che bravo! Complimenti!! And it is so important and necessary what you do! Break the silence. You said, they are just a bunch of people. There is always too much fear involved... you are helping to gain courage and public awareness. Big kudos 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🌱
I'm so sorry you went through this. But look how strong you are today and how you are able to help others because of your experience. Thank you for sharing your experience. Sending healing energy.x
I'm sorry went through such situation. The knee touching and slow progress... Saw an episode of Different Strokes making light of groomers process it's eerie how grooming progresses from light comunication, invites, gifts/deals, "play", touch etc. especially when it's done by an individual that tries to keep deeds unknown and keep peace with the people in the environment, continue on. If ever to have a child I think that episode is great tool to explain why need to watch for people, anyone and by anyone that includes even relatives, suspicious acts etc. As it's not as simple as people saying to look out for the random stranger that is handing out candy or rapid agressive turn of event.
🎯 That is your truth, why would you delete anything? You were the victim, but he was making you the criminal. You are a healer, because you have your own healing journey. Kudos. ❤
What phenomenal young man. I'm sorry that happened to you and the police dropping the ball. However, you have made a difference I'm sure in the lives of young people, whether they are male or female. Stay strong.
Honestly, I've seen so many cases like this of parents offering their friends temp accommodation for whatever reasons and things go south. Similar thing happened to me, when I was younger, my dad would often help out his friends looking for temp accomodation. One such dude would put his arms around me and try to get close to me, I felt so uncomfortable. But thankfully, my mom was a stay at home so nothing worse happened. But to this day, my parents have no clue and are oblivious.
Thank you so much for trying to protect our children! If I can help, count me in. God says to protect the children and rightfully so. Love our children
I’m glad that your parents believed you, they are obviously distraught by it but, some narcissistic parents either don’t believe you or they blame you for it.
Oh my gosh 😮the way you explained everything it’s as if you snatched the words out of my heart 😢that’s exactly how it feels. it’s just devastating I haven’t heard anybody explain it the way you did thank you 🙏 for sharing I’m so sorry 😞 for you
Your accent is cool. Weldon man. You fought and won for yourself. Some terrible things happen to you so you can be the voice for others who can't. Bad things happen to good people, the flesh can hurt but the soul can heal if you turn it around for good like you are doing. Someone, a child will listen to you and heal. I bless God for you brother.
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Yes...I identify with this guy so much.
We teach our kids about stranger danger, but its usually those that we allow in our circle that are the main predators.
Yes unfortunately u can’t even trust family
Calld blind trust
Absolutely
Exactly
So true, as a parent really makes you think a million times
This guy is incredible. He tells his story so confidently, he is not a victim, he has nothing to be ashamed of. In fact, its the abuser who holds the shame, thats the way it should be. Well done for being so open, i'm sure you're helping millions of people out there. Thank you x
Totally agree with the shame should always be on the abuser
Thank you so much for your support ❤
He's definitely a VICTIM
@@created_by_the_divine_83 he definitely isn't. Shame on you.
@@lacyyy79 so you're saying this man isn't a victim of sexual abuse? YEAH OK SHAME ON YOU FOR SHAMING ME! USE YOUR BRAIN!
You don’t understand how important your voice is to all men out there. So many boys and men will keep these things inside of them bc of gender roles but NO!!!! They need to know it’s not okay and it’s not right and that they deserve justice!!! You are literally a gem❤
AMEN!!!!!
Absolutely!!!💖💖💖💖
A big thank you for sharing my story. I cannot believe it's been 10 months since this was posted and people are still watching it and feeling inspired by it. A big thanks to you Unfiltered Stories.
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I suddenly feel motivated and empowered to speak about the abuse that I endured as a child. Suddenly I don't feel embarrassed anymore suddenly I don't feel shame or a like a victim.... suddenly I to..... HAVE SOMETHING TO SAY.. thank you Jeremy for your inspiration and words of healing and courage. Speaks volumes to the work your doing yo help survivors like myself who live/ with this unspeakable trauma every single day.
Jesus said the truth will set you free🙏💫
Go Lacy ♥️
Speak your truth we are on your side
me too!! i feel the exact same. the more i watch the closer and closer i get. just getting it out in the open seems like it would bring so much relief
As a south asian I've got say that I'm so proud of you! I pray that God will help you get the justice that you deserve!
South Indian!not Asian !
@@bishbash4111india is in asia, silly
This man has such tremendous strength, I wish him the best!
the fact that even the abuser's own lawyer thinks he did it says volumes. its annoying how the law doesnt consider that a child whos going through abuse DOESNT KNOW how to collect evidence. his actions and the abusers actions should both be considered. a man doesnt just knock on someone's door and accuses them of being a pedophile
But how would you prove it, tho?
@@katlamb4606mental health repercussions. It literally changes your DNA and mind chemistry. Memory is stored in our DNA/ mind and body. Also if a child remembers birth marks and other intimate details. There may be ample ways to prove it you just need to want it bad enough
Unfortunately even if the system believes him, enough evidence wasn’t provided, and they cannot change the law. That’s why often times they will find another crime to lock the perpetrator up for.
My sister and I had a break through today when we came to tram with our own abuse when we where children and we cried so much.
Lpl😊
You got bpd ? If so. Pray to God. And either here or in heaven you'll be perfect, not that you aren't right now haha. You know what I mean. God is real. So is good. So is pure love.
@@rafaypirzada5061 Amen 🙏🏼 I believe that to be true God love is perfect.
@@confessionsofaborderline God bless you sister.
Sending continuous healing and love your way 💜
Its brave to confront your abuser. I never could. X
You show bravery too by sharing in your way, support and consideration for others.
you do what you have to do to get peace of mind.
@@EllaBella-76 No shame on you. It was a fact. It was a criminal offence on their part. Period.
@@EllaBella-76 this sounds terrible. I'm so sorry . I wish you happiness and peace. Xx
I used to work at a large train station in my city. I was walking through a crowd on the platform one day, heading for the stairs to go down to the lower levels. When I approached the stairs, my abuser was there- right at the top of the stairs. We locked eyes and I just completely froze. I beat myself up about it now, and wish I'd confronted him. I think about how easily I could have just pushed him down the concrete stairs. But when you are face to face with your abuser, you just never know how you will respond. It is hard to have any control over your fear. I have so much admiration for this man, and anybody else who can confront their abusers. But like you- I don't think I ever could. You have my utmost love, respect and empathy. Whatever helps you tackle another day is the right thing to do. Hang in there. ❤
I'm proud of you for eventually telling your parents, friends and especially talking to others about your story. You were brave and fed up with keeping the info to yourself. You did the right thing
Wow!! You went from “engineer” to your “true calling “ this is called listening to your soul. Thank you from humanity ❤❤❤❤❤❤
Yes! Only JESUS can do that!! Turn our mess into a message and our test into a testimony! 🌹🙏🤗🕊🙌 GLORY!
Such a handsome man, beautiful eyes ❤ I'm very sorry for your pain, I'm glad you are sharing your story ❤
I'm currently 25. I was around 10 years old. It never got to actual abuse, but he said and did things you just don't say and do to a child. And it ended up leaving serious marks mentally. I wouldn't want to confront him as I don't want anything to do with him, but I highly admire you for doing so.
Respect to you for being brave sharing your story to help others.
You are brilliant!
Your articulation, determination and pursuit for justice is incredible. Keep doing what you do, speak the truth and shame the devil.
Your testimony is helping so many, especially our youth. You're golden.💖
What an amazing support system you have, it really makes the world of difference!💛
P.s. I would love to have you as a keynote speaker at one of my events!
I first encountered Jeremy's story at an open mic night in King's Cross several years ago. He got on the stage and started speaking and the whole room was silent because it was something different and unexpected, but there was so much support for the fact that he had shared this with us and also a strong sense of appreciation for his message of speaking out and not being afraid to do so.
I think there should be more space and opportunity for people to speak out without judgement or shame or feeling they have to filter or sanitise what they need to say. I think it's very important that people hear how this impacts people as children and continues to impact them into adulthood and the way the justice system is failing (and sometimes criminalising) the victims of abuse.
Just based on the well-known cases of child abuse and paedophilia, in the UK alone, and the way very high profile people seem to get away with it, without being made accountable, it is sensible to assume that children are still not being adequately protected from abuse and giving people a space to speak about it on big platforms is a step forward .
You definitely sent a shiver up his wife’s spine. You have a lot of courage. However, as someone who went through a similar situation, I never told my parents and you have validated why. I have already been hurt and I didn’t want to hurt my parents by telling them. Maybe I made a mistake but the person who hurt me all those years ago is dead. My deepest sadness was when my own daughter turned five years old and it reminded me of myself at that age and all I kept thinking over and over again was how can anyone do that to a child.
Respect to you for speaking out those people who have done this to children are disgusting and they need to be held accountable for his actions im sure you speaking out will give others the courage to speak out
You're a very honest and a quality chap. I hope you stay protected and people realise that this filth is still prevalent and people need to closely monitor their children.
Jeremy, I am so impressed with your courage to report the abuse and release your pain. I'm certain that the abuser, though he seems to have gotten away with it, will never be able to 'forget' now.
This is so inspiring. Jeremy's passion is palpable and I just want to hear him talk more.
Bring the darkness to light! Many many people have gone through similar situations! Thank you for your courage!
Whatever happens in the dark will always come to light! You're amazing 👏
Not just sexual abuse but even any injustices done to us during our childhood is buried for a while and as we mature it does for sure come back again
W shave to deal with it
It just won’t go away
Never
I'm so glad to hear a man open up about his experience with CSA, especially a man of color. our communities have a tendency to stigmatize issues like this and push them under the rug, so I'm happy to see this great vulnerability and storytelling
This guy is phenomenal. Thank you for sharing your experience and for being so brave. This was incredible to listen to because of the realness of the story and your stark authenticity. You may have well saved many lives who have been traumatised by their own story. I love the lateral thinking which you put into positive action with your Something2Say movement and the fruits it has borne. What you have done and still doing is incredible inspirational and an healing balm to others. To all abusers of every form and shape. We will not go silently into the night!
A friend of my parents did something when I was 12 or 13 when they weren't home. I was so ashamed and scared ... a few days later I told a trusted neighbor who told my parents. That man vanished. I still don't know what happened to him 44 years later and I'll never know now because my parents passed on years ago. I think whatever did happen to him in the fall of 1980 was final and with extreme prejudice.
What a fantastic bloke, he is seriously inspiring and motivating. To have gone through all those horrible experiences and yet you’re still positive- god bless you.
You are a brave, courageous man! Thank you for sharing your traumatic story. May you be an inspiration for other men to heal from this horrid abuse. This happens too much to children and is heartbreaking.
You are an amazing man!!💜
All I kept thinking was that poor boy, it judt goes to show we must heal our inner child to finally move on to become strong adults. I hope you have healed your inner child and this never happens to anyone again. Well done for finding that strength
Thank you so much for sharing. My nephew molested my daughter from the time she was 4 until she was 10. She opened up about it like 4 years ago after another child said he told her something inappropriate. She realizes now how it affected my life growing up and her teenage years.
Sadly this guy will do this all his life.
Press charges!!
You are not alone. I have been there and I know how you feel. You are lucky you told someone but I didn’t or I couldn’t . 😢
You Stay strong ❤
The same thing happened to me, I pushed the memories away until they became overwhelming.
I hope that you're doing okay, and you have support! 💛
I'm so glad that these hurt people are speaking their truth.
They are so strong.
I don't understand how some people's conscience just does not work.
You are a remarkable speaker! You were meant to speak your truth. I hope you inspire other victims to speak up ❤
Things also happened to me as a child, because my mother was a single one. Having to take care of my older brother and I. One of my cousins took care of me, the one that had children around Same age as me. my brother stayed with the better cousin so he was in better care than I was. Being a child , decisions were being made for me , I don’t blame my mother for them, but I went through pre abuse myself because my cousin didn’t treat me that well and her husband used to touch me and act inappropriate towards his own daughter and me. I didn’t know if that was right, I was confused so I let it slide. But then as I was getting older it started to become more worse for me. This person did other things that my mother doesn’t even know about. A situation almost happened to me , back when I was 16. If it wasn’t for my cousins “Son” walking in , the worst would’ve happened to me. I ended up telling my mother, and things really got serious….. moral of the story cousin stood with him and all this caused isolation. Nothing ever go resolved and mom still doesn’t know the other half of it. But now I’m 25 years old and I’m Married . My husband is very supportive, he understands me and what I went through. Although nothing was done about it, I’ve managed to put it in the PAST. I had to forgive and forget just for my own sanity I’ve also Talked to God about it and has gave me more peace on that regard.
This needs to be talked about in schools...it let's those who are being abused know that this is not ok.
Absolutely!!
Great storyteller. Wish you much healing and strength
Your voice is crucial to the healing of souls so many men live with trauma and punish themselves! Thank you so much for sharing
Your movement is amazing and so inspiring! Absolutely amazing
Yes, we have feelings of our own, it hit me very badly too when I was around 25, the shame, the anger, the guilt of realising the weird things that I've done when I was little after the sexual abuse, I was 5, he was 24, a teacher and now a very religious man. I started to speak up and be direct about it, then my mother wanted to groom me into thinking it's normal and said that men has needs and it happened to many, and told me that I don't need to tell anybody, because my abuser is her nephew.
I hope you don't obey your mother. This woman is not worth to be called a mother.
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Thanks for sharing and doing this amazing work! I had the same trauma with a family member. Unfortunately my mother was way too distraught bc he was on her side of family. I never spoke to her again about it, but I had an amazing therapist. I was able to forgive my abuser after a few years of therapy. I’m finishing a degree in psychology and I have one in counseling. I’m gonna work with children and have been bringing domestic violence and sexual abuse awareness in a church ministry.
What do you do if you think abuse is going on with someone you know
@@margieneal6764Gatehr evidence and report to the police.
Or just report for investigation
@margieneal6764 try to to make them comfortable to trust you and open up to you. They the only person that can report the criminal.
Forgiveness means the criminal will continue to do this to more children
@@margieneal6764 Children can call childline to report abuse.
Incredible video . Bravo ! You're very courageous . We all need people like you in this world ,people that change it for the better . Thank you .
Very powerful and inspiring for others who have gone through this especially since we loose our voice in a way either no one believes us or were terrified to tell. I recently looked up my abuser too and saw he has felony charges after me and is now living free in Georgia. I think about confronting him or letting people know all the time but don’t know where to start. But I think I’ll be more angry if he dies and is never held accountable in anyway and I deal with the repercussions my entire life is not fair.
What a beautiful soul. Thank you for your hard work and strength.
You are a brave guy and I think it's awesome to see men come forward and become a face and a voice of bravery as a man who's been assaulted.
God bless you!!! Thank you for being so strong; this is going to save so many children and encourage to speak up!
Thank you for sharing your story. I was also a victim of sexual abuse. As a parent now I teach my kids how someone can be inappropriate towards them and to speak out.
Thank you for having the courage for telling us your most traumatic experience. You are brave and strong, you will be in my prayers. I pray for happiness for you in this world and hereafter
You suppressed the abuse but after a while it always come back trust me I know the more you suppress it the worst, it can even cause anxiety. Im glad you got it off your chest and started to heal. They always try to target the shy quiet kids with busy or absent parents too that's also why I was targeted as a child
So true. You're a gem.
Am so proud of you! Thank you for sharing it but more than anything, thank you for following it through with the confrontation.
I hope to have that strength some day.
I’ve always thought about knocking at the door of my abuser (my aunt), but never had the courage to do so. I was also afraid that she will slam the door at my face and that would make me even more angry. I’ve never forgotten the physical abuse she inflicted on me like name calling, putting my head into the soup, denying me to step outside to play, finally pushing my dad down the 10 step stairs and me watching this happen… I was just six years old… I was throwing up so often while living with her. This nightmare continued for the whole six months. Throwing up stopped when my dad took me away from her. I still carry this pain and this rage against her. I don’t k ow how to let it go. I cannot afford a therapy. Even if I did, I still think the best option to release this anger would be to confront her and yell out all the rage I hold against her in my gut…Please watch your children and don’t leave them to be raised by your relatives. Many times you won’t even find out what happened…
I am sorry this happened to you by a family member and at such a young age...It sounds like that woman is evil and does not deserve not even your grudge. Maybe there are online support groups you can join and they may talk about how you can learn to be at peace with what happened. What if you confront them with others who support you? If she did things that can cause her to be punished by law I would open up a case against her. May you heal ❤. You and no one deserves what has happened to you.
@@damamen1 -thank you for your kind words…
Go and confront her. She will deny it, but you finally can speak!
For me it was the other way around. I grew up in a terrible environment. When I was 11 I had the opportunity to live at my aunt's family. And for the first time I had a normal and healthy family life.
But I would have needed therapy too. At that time I already decided to end my life because of my past.
@@mofi2342 / yes, that would be the best idea because since then I have an issue with speaking up and standing up for myself.
@@LilyRose-theOne be prepared that she will react negative. If you expect the worst, it won't hurt you that much.
👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿congratulations on you're bravery💟Thank you for speaking out📣don't ever stop🕊Love Your Energy
What an amazing man. How he speaks out about what happened. I imagine so many men and boys could not even begin to talk about it. But none of them should have any shame as they didn’t do anything wrong.
This man is brave to face the person who abused him I know I wouldn't be able do it I hope this will help others
Superb.. Bravo.. THANK you for sharing authentically. It's easier to take council with a veteran. Remind the children that they can be abused by relatives, family members, even boyfriends and husbands. Teach them how to document evidence even if they don't want to report it. They don't have to report to DOCUMENT it. Superb clarity, THANK you so much!! ❤
You are a fantastic speaker! Thank you for sharing your story ❤
many things are better left unsaid
WOW thank you for being so brave and having the courage to share your story. Blessings to you! So many lives are being touched by your story and is giving them the strength to open up. There is healing when you open up instead of staying silent
Thank you so much for being the voice of so many. I really admire you for your courage and for thinking about other victims. You're God send.
You are doing a great job, please don't stop. There are so many kids going through this and you can help many many kids and this needs to stop now.
Your not a victim. You are a victor👏👏💪
I’m so sorry to hear about this abuse. You seem to be such a lovely person. I hope now that you have outed him you are living your best life. Keep the knocking on the door in your conversation. I would have done the same.
I really needed this! Thank you 🌻
You are amazing....its one thing to be abused and its another to be so open about it in this age and day....kudos
You are absolutely AMAZING! Thank you 🧡
Thank you for sharing your story. It will help a lot of men. Sexual abuse is so rampant in our society on a global scale. God bless you ❤
Just makes me sad that your mum was not aware.. Parents can be so caught up with paying for bills and providing for children, that abuse can be happening under their roof, and they can't see it..
Sadder part is ppl like this choose vulnerable families like this & groom them as much as they do the kids. So most times even if the kid tells they are not believed or its downplayed or swept under the rug.
What a courageous intelligent guy!
This is by far my biggest fear In life is for one of my kids to go through this 💔
I got assaulted by someone when I was too young and it made me hyper sexual :( but it makes me sad cos little me was acting out due to the trauma of it and trying to say that I got SA’d but that didn’t work cos I was quiet (due to being neurodivergent) it still haunts me sometimes but I’ve been trying to heal from it and sometimes news stations talking about topics that remind me of it makes me sad again about it. It happened when I was 6 and I remember it all.
Kudos to you Jeremy. And more power to you. How do we protect our children ? I feel worried for my child. He is also 8. Please elaborate more on steps to prevent this from happening to our kids.
What? Home school and escort them most places. duh
Also let him know that no one is to touch him privately nor be alone with him. Let him know he must come to you immediately if anything like that happens and telling doesn’t mean he’s done anything wrong.
Thank you for speaking out
Che bravo! Complimenti!!
And it is so important and necessary what you do!
Break the silence. You said, they are just a bunch of people. There is always too much fear involved... you are helping to gain courage and public awareness. Big kudos 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽🌱
Thank you for sharing your story. There must be other victims. I hope they come forward.
I'm so sorry you went through this. But look how strong you are today and how you are able to help others because of your experience. Thank you for sharing your experience. Sending healing energy.x
I'm sorry went through such situation.
The knee touching and slow progress...
Saw an episode of Different Strokes making light of groomers process it's eerie how grooming progresses from light comunication, invites, gifts/deals, "play", touch etc. especially when it's done by an individual that tries to keep deeds unknown and keep peace with the people in the environment, continue on.
If ever to have a child I think that episode is great tool to explain why need to watch for people, anyone and by anyone that includes even relatives, suspicious acts etc. As it's not as simple as people saying to look out for the random stranger that is handing out candy or rapid agressive turn of event.
God bless you, brother. Keep speaking to strengthen others who need it. ❤
🎯 That is your truth, why would you delete anything?
You were the victim, but he was making you the criminal.
You are a healer, because you have your own healing journey. Kudos. ❤
What phenomenal young man. I'm sorry that happened to you and the police dropping the ball. However, you have made a difference I'm sure in the lives of young people, whether they are male or female. Stay strong.
Im so frustrated for you being charged like that when hes the actual criminal this whole system is fucked
Im 60 Jeremy, everything you say is so so true. I was 5 years old.
Honestly, I've seen so many cases like this of parents offering their friends temp accommodation for whatever reasons and things go south. Similar thing happened to me, when I was younger, my dad would often help out his friends looking for temp accomodation. One such dude would put his arms around me and try to get close to me, I felt so uncomfortable. But thankfully, my mom was a stay at home so nothing worse happened. But to this day, my parents have no clue and are oblivious.
Well Done! so proud of you! Hope you get the justice that you deserve one day soon.
Thank you sharing your story.
Thank you so much for trying to protect our children! If I can help, count me in. God says to protect the children and rightfully so. Love our children
It’s true. It needs to come out…. Keep up the good work
That’s right! *“They’ve just other people.”* 🇨🇦
I admire this strong man for standing up to his disgusting abuser. 👏
Thank you for speaking out ❤️ ‼️
Love his energy !
I’m glad that your parents believed you, they are obviously distraught by it but, some narcissistic parents either don’t believe you or they blame you for it.
Oh my gosh 😮the way you explained everything it’s as if you snatched the words out of my heart 😢that’s exactly how it feels. it’s just devastating I haven’t heard anybody explain it the way you did thank you 🙏 for sharing I’m so sorry 😞 for you
I have received strength from your story!
I applaud you in your work!!!
That was the best description of grooming that I've heard
When you turned the age of your abuser, it came crashing down. The body never forgets.
Your accent is cool. Weldon man. You fought and won for yourself. Some terrible things happen to you so you can be the voice for others who can't. Bad things happen to good people, the flesh can hurt but the soul can heal if you turn it around for good like you are doing. Someone, a child will listen to you and heal. I bless God for you brother.
Wonderful man
Amazing, such an empowering story. I don't know him, but I'm so proud. Good for you mate!