Jordan Peterson's Advice on Finding a Woman, Marriage and Having Children
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- Опубликовано: 1 июн 2017
- original source: • Q & A 2017 06 June
Psychology Professor Dr. Jordan B. Peterson gives advice on finding a partner to marry and have kids with. He underlines the positive aspects of marriage and raising children.
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So women will not only find me unattractive because of my asymmetrical face, they'll also think I smell like shit. Great news!
lift and build a carreer, suddenly you smell amazing
Maybe, but take a look at Bradley Cooper's eyes and Tom Cruise's front teeth. There are things that tend to make a difference, but they're mostly just a disadvantage as opposed to a death sentence. (Weak chin here) :p
Money smells good to any woman.
Nucking Futs it's not a hard and fast rule, we're talking about degrees here.
Just wear a leather jacket.. Girls like bad boys, plus it will smell like your wallet.
How to find the right partner:
Tell them the truth. Simple but brilliant.
indeed tell them the truth and if they are still willing to stay with you, well god damn you found a keeper.
NO. That will get you into serious trouble.You MUST ensure that she is telling YOU the truth also. This is how many men and women fall into the trap.
And don't be blinded by emotion.
Not that simple but still brilliant.
Mr Mr this is complete truth at it's core
Mr Mr
Yezzir. Can't agree with this more. It's a deadly trap, falling in love. It invariably corrupts you unless you have an IRON constitution.
But there is your Truth and the persons Truth and as we know Truth is a dangerous thing or can be.Are honesty and truthfulness the same thing
3:14 the truth is what we’re both seeking, that is why telling/speaking/acting/sharing your truth is so important because it’ll reveal inconsistencies and get you closer to the objective/ideal truth
I’ve been married 30yrs. My husband and I have annoyed the other into sticking around for so long by being brutally honest with one another in all things and trusting each other implicitly. He irritates me. I irritate him. He has so many foibles I could write a book. So could he. Sometimes we learn new crap about each other and sometimes we bore each other to tears. We argue and we disagree on stupid stuff. We’ve raised x6 kids and wish we were young and fit enough to raise x6 more. When he dies I won’t remarry. When I die he won’t remarry. (We’ll both go on mission most likely and annoy others!) Oh. And we agree on the big stuff. Always have.
haha! Love it!
my shitty ass wannabe wife didn't agree with me you can say those things to your significant other, and.. leave. over.. nothing (not infdelity). So i dated a marriot twat of a child who at age 40 just WANTED to be in love or hear those things, but ultimately had no integgrity. Sorry and beliees 2 different people, especially ones trying to soulmate should always agree. Freakishly sad abondoment skills. So, i'm happy to see (is it true?) that are women that know you're gonna argue like piss with someone you have a very intimate bond with. And it's not the end of the world. Now I don't know if you stay with him because he also for sure provides to your 6 kids, and if you would have put up with disagrreements, dull moments, mundanous of life, etc. FOR your partner. but you have no idea how many women live in the moment that they will not feel bad, about, falling, "in love" every 2-3 years.
Also toasts to you. She liked saying she was the one but she ain't it. very immature person imo. yes just my side, but you can imagine how I feel. I faught till the end. She knew I still loved her. She never doubted I was faithful. So frankly, I don't care what growing pains we were going through (oh ya, her impulsive need to threat to leave, give up, change her mind a day or two later, seriously consider taking steps back). It was fun. I dated an empty pit. And ya I just spent this much time talking ish about a person I cared for, precicely because I do and did and can write about my dissapaoointment for her more than any other person. :) take your successful bond that has all of life's problems not for granted. Even people who profess love and say they want it, leave it.
Earth is being severely overpopulated, yet people are still having 6 kids...
korpakukac corona: hold my beer
@@korpakukac how so?
Great points. I would add that, for most men, your best years for finding a partner (both in terms of your attractiveness and your emotional maturity) will be your early-to-mid 30s. Spend your earlier years studying, earning, acquiring experience, learning useful skills like cooking and planning a foreign holiday, dealing with any mental health issues you have (no matter how mild) and cleaning your room.
My father waited until his late 30s and ended up having an absurdly happy marriage, ultra-successful career, three successful/happy kids, and he's now having lots of fun in his retirement. As a man, you have the option of waiting very patiently for the right time in your life and the right woman. Use it.
Wise man ^^^
Myndir Hindsight being 20-20 I so wish that I had done exactly that. But now I'm dealing with what I have to deal with and trying to do the right thing. it's been a real struggle for quite a few years now but I'm hoping Jesus and the Holy Spirit will get me through it.
John Chinn,
That sounds like a big challenge. I've known earlier fatherhood to both make or break different men. It's very admirable that you're not backing down from the responsibility. I hope that your faith, love, and courage give you all the strength that you need.
Myndir what do you suggest for a woman in her early twenties?
Sophia Bel,
I'm not sure, having never had to think about life in detail from that perspective.
For a start, accept that things are going to be confusing for the next few years. (Minimum.) Life is horrendously confusing for almost everyone in their late teens/early twenties. There are so many new responsibilities to master. If you focus on the basics, then by your mid-to-late twenties things will start to make sense AND you'll be a stronger, wiser person.
Developing good mental health is one way to be attractive and do yourself a huge favour at the same time. The year I sorted out my self-esteem issues was the year I started getting asked out regularly by women. It will also make everything else (friendships, better familial relationships, improving your physical attractiveness, career success, developing hobbies and culture parenting someday...) MUCH MUCH easier.
Writing in a journal every day for a few months about the toughtest times in your life has been proven to have lasting positive effects. CBT, REBT, and variations thereof have a lot of scientific evidence behind them, and you can achieve a lot at a low price with self-help. Peterson's work on self-authoring makes a lot of sense to me and has helped me, though as far as I know it's still in the early stages of testing.
In terms of women-specific advice, I don't know much that isn't easily available elsewhere from better-informed people. However, I have read quite a bit of psychotherapeutic literature and I know that many women suffer from at least mild love-addiction: thinking that their worth depends on a man's approval. Love-addiction can cause anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem. Yet women become so much more desirable to the best sort of man (assuming you're heterosexual) when they have a deep and unconditional sense of self-worth. That's maybe obvious: of COURSE a good man is going to want a woman who values herself and has her shit together mentally, because then she enriches his life by being a part of it. Women who have conquered love-addiction also tend to have better taste, so this is a great dragon to slay.
If you'd like to know more about love-addiction, you might like the video of an Albert Ellis lecture called "Conquering the Dire Need for Love" on RUclips.
You can have an amazing life without marriage, wife and kids.
Jordan Peterson is saying that marriage is worth considering IF you find a good partner. But a bad marriage is much, much, much worse than being single.
and who wants an Amazing Life? Is good not good enough ?
In 20's: meeting women, traveling the world, working on $.
-- "You must be having the time of your life!!"
In 30s, 40s: meeting women, traveling the world, making $
-- "You are NOT happy. Settle down with a fat wife like the rest of us!"
@@-whackd except then there's your 50s and 60s and 70s, you die, you have no progeny and life has become pointless
@@feliDAdj Why can't a person's life have a point apart from raising kids? There are lots of important things out there in the world to focus on and give our lives meaning. Find something about society that you want to improve.
@@-whackd I don't mean to attack you if you're an older man without children, because of course childless people can be highly productive and be happy. Just think about what you'll feel on your deathbed and if you'll be satisfied with it all
"Because if you leave a back door open, man you're gonna use it, that's for sure"
The back door is open and exists in all 50 states. I have no idea if the back door is open and exists in every Canadian province. I assume it does. In which case, the concept of being "stuck" and "handcuffed" to your spouse, that is all just meaningless talk and totally unenforceable. I agree that you should be "stuck" to remove the open back door, but that is not how divorce law is. So, we don't really have marriage in the United States anymore.
I wouldn't, but I'm afraid that the woman would. It's easy for me to be loyal, I just can't really trust anyone.
@@paulcolburn3855 My thoughts exactly, in the light of the family law in US/CA is this talk essentially confirming that marriage is dead?
@@s0lidniy pretty much. Feminism (and its insistence on "no-fault-divorce") killed it, at least its dead in "The West." I can't speak for "The East."
Marriage is giving a woman a loaded gun and a list of all the ways she will benefit from shooting you, and then expecting she won't.
🤯 3:28 the man isn’t the boss and the woman isn’t the boss, the boss of the relationship is the combined persona that comes from seeking the truth together.... this concept is so beautiful. 😍
Christ?
right before this clip, Peterson told 3 stories about growing up and falling in love with his wife. They were super sweet, and even after 48 years of marriage you can see Peterson's eyes literally light up when he talks about his wife. It was super sweet to watch.
Raavek1 he said he knew his wife since he was 7 which is 48 years. He was not married for that long. He also mentioned they were discussing getting married when he was 28 if you would have paid attention.
Charlotte Bronte told better love stories.
And so did Jane Austen.
He cannot have been married 48 years. He was born in 1962...
48 years of marriage is an accomplishment for a 56 year old man.
He said that they've known each other for 48 years.
Dostoevsky one said, and I paraphrase, that children recharge us spiritually. I know Peterson is a fan of that writer and I thought of that when he was talking about children and family.
Is it really recharging or just inadvertent soul sucking?
@@imdjc4 not everything is a zero-sum game
That's why i love babysitting my cousins! It just reboots me and i feel so much better.
Thank you!
*HOW TO GET A SORTED 10/10 WIFE*
1. Save her dead father from the belly of a whale.
2. Crush the head of a snake in her yard.
3. Make sure she cleans her room.
Whats with the cleaning room?
So Noah and The garden of Eden? XD oh and Keep your room clean. So the Enemies are Temptation and Not running away from Responsibilities
she has to crush the snake's head. Not You. You just encourage.
So I did one and two , those were fairly simple. Having the hardest time with #3 though.
but my girlfriend loves snakes... if I did that im pretty sure she would dump me or be depressed for a very long time
God willing
To marry first and THEN start telling each other all the deep, dark, reprehensible truths, in that order, seems a horrible and absolutely suicidal idea to me...
well, peterson speaks to normal people, not some crazy motherfuckers, soo if you feel like you are soo corupt that the best thing for the other person is to run, than i think you might have a problem.
Agree. Disclosure should be done before marriage, not after
@@gilsai4990 Chill fanboy, you're being an asshole to a complete stranger for no good reason. He doesn't like you that much, trust me.
Welcome to arranged marriages!
@@visavis88 Disclosure is an ongoing process, You can live with someone for many years and still not know everything about them.
I'm not sure that it's the "contract" so much as the commitment that is important in this case, especially since the actual marriage can be undone so easily now days. You'd at least have to believe that your partner wont go out of his or her way to use your secrets against you otherwise you'll always hold something back.
I genuinely believe that you should find a person that makes you want to be better than you are. You find someone that you can put your hopes, dreams and faith into, and you know that no matter how shit a situation turns, they'll always have your back.
Before you find your missing piece, you need to do a lot of self-reflection and understand yourself.
Run
I stumbled upon this ..keep it going!
i have an asymmetrical jawline
fucking kill me
At least you have a jawline
if that's your first thought, you have bigger issues
I have a bsymmetrical jawline
INAUDIBLE SCREECHING i have asymmetrical hair cut please help
peterson is like the dad i never had
great advice; love how he is so direct... and willing to say what we need to hear rather what we want to hear
Trust
I had always dismissed girls growing up who I thought were quite boring or weren't super smart for interesting conversation. Then I realised those girls over-think everything causing psychotic arguments and put career ahead of family.
I got hitched with a nurse who was part of a large family who wants kids like her mother. She has artistic hobbies, our house looks fucking suave and I get along with her more so than any other. She's clumsy and as a result funny but confident and puts happiness ahead of being right. Changing my approach, realising I wanted to partner a mother rather than a drinking buddy helped me a lot.
More men need that mentality. Look for a potential mother to your children, not a fuck buddy....
Holy shit, this is me.
Thanks for this comment man.
Imperial Security some women are fun sex things. Why you think this is disgusting, is perplexing. It is the engine that drives humanity.
His last view words reveal he is an antisemite. Is it really that perplexing he likes to judge others and attack them?
I'm glad you backed down from the cream of the crop and settled for mediocrity. More alpha females for the rest of us, lol.
I am watching some of his videos and I have to say they should be tought in school! So educational and wise that I cannot express my gratitude enough for this kind of insights.So beautiful idea about the spiritual bond of the family which trascend the 2 persons and its based on the fundamental truth. This kind of education would have helped so much people not making big mistakes in life. Thanks again for your videos😊
Grand thanks.. And very merry Christmas
listen to doc love hes great
Advice on Finding a Woman:
1. Be attractive.
2. Don't be unattractive.
And 3. Stop being a gay
Both men and women want someone they find a attractive thou
@zadose lol majority of men aren't rich and have a woman the reason woman dont want you is because you bitter and a fool
3. $$$ 😅
1:23 and don't smell like her brother.
Been watching Jordan Peterson for the last 4 hours now. Love this guy!
He’s such a likeable chap - Definitely on my dinner guest list. I’d just sit him at the head of the table and treat him with kindness and respect he has earned.
This guy for President!
You know someone is good at what they do when it takes a handful of short videos for him to completely change your world view, built up in the twenty plus years that you've been self-aware and help you realize what's really important in life. Thank you, sir, for being a substitute father to us and thank you Bite-sized philosophy for making these vital clips so accessible to us all.
I love the logic of this man!
All makes sense.
Perfectly understandable
Yes true
Many men complaining about women, specially american women, but honestly are you trophy men? Are you loyal? Are you successful? Girls are what they are those days because they are hurt, because competition is high. If you want a traditional woman, be a traditional man yourself.
Thanks for sharing
This man makes having kids sound very appealing! I knew I wanted to have them but that's awesome
Oh my, this is all I wanted to communicate to the man I loved. What a wonderful statement "have someone that you can weave the rope of your being with, together to make your joint rope stronger". Love without trust is useless. Peterson always manages to articulate the soul, I hope everyone that needs to hear this does.
Thank You very much for the advice. Dr Jordan B Peterson. I will keep your advice at heart as I work hard on myself and reach my goals. Take Care Dr Peterson. I wish you well.
Jordon is such a insightful teacher, quite brilliant. The first part of this, regarding symmetry of the face I would question. Even more the T short thing. Real deep love is so much more than looks so and so much more than a perfect face being perfectly in symmetry. How can that balance against a persons heart, and your respect for them. Physical attractive takes you so far, but a depth of respect and a sense of compassion/love is what makes a relationship.
The cycle of Relationships and Romance:
1. Attraction
2. Bonding in Friendship
3. Commitment
4. Repeat
FRIENDZONE
I know that this isn't what you meant. I really do.
Buuut I prefer to look at it like you're saying that love simply gets renewed, reborn. Without breaking the commitment, you fall in love with your partner, again and again, whenever it feels like the flame is dying down.
Which I think is what actually happens in happy, successful relationships.
@@xArnold99x Forgiveness is Great but very hard!
I don't know if I want Kids, but I think its because I need to meet someone I know I can trust 100% & feel were are in a good settled place as a unit.
Thank you..this is a good advice!
Should you look or should you wait
You find an attractive woman then you realize they are clueless and have no futuristic approach in life. The hard part is to find someone you have things in common. Imagine ending up with a smoker when you don’t smoke 🚭
A good women: She is with you when you have nothing.
A good man: He is with you when he has everything
I agree in …..something ….
Meet as many women as possible and become great with women and then you have the ability to choose. The more women you meet the higher the chance you'll find a good woman. I think learning game is the solution as much as society is against that.
Me and my husband are opposite. He is very logical while I am very sensitive. At the beginning of our relationship, we had so many fights; "on and off" sort of thing. We got engage twice coz with the issue of trust. After 4 years of knowing each other's flaws, we become much more understanding, appreciative and loving with each other. In my conclusion, conflicts are not there to break you but it will teach you in knowing each other much better. It will guide you on how to become an amazing partner to your spouse. It will get you closer and much more connected. If you choose each other, no huge hurdles can tear you apart.
But you guy's core values were still similar? Y'all both wanted to have kids right?
@@gangstaelegantproductions2780 yes, we want to have even if we are already almost in our 40's. At the moment, I have problem of conceiving but my husband usually find options to solve this matter and we usually talk what is good for both of us...
He's right about trust. And I also agree when he says marry a woman you think would make a great mother. A lot of men don't think of that type of thing but, it's always been something that's been on the back of my mind. One of these days I really hope I find my wife.
I love you man
So true...So good!
There are two primary types of people: Those who grew up in environments where lying occurs and those who did not. If liars stick with liars, then both understand the nature of the other, and perhaps they can get along. Likewise honest people with honest people. But when liars and honest people mix, it is not sustainable.
spot on ! I never even thought about that.
I like that. Its important to note though that some people who grow up in an environment of liars don’t always become liars themselves
Regardless if that is true or not, Jordan says lying is bad and it infects your life. You shouldn’t lie.
And those of us who have only been lied to won't mix with anyone, we will raise our kids from surrogates. Women be damned.
This man is that little light that keeps your hope alive in a chaotic time like 2020 so far.
Thanks....
Women need to make themselves actually approachable. Every woman I've EVER approached in public in the last 20 years (in a very discreet and respectful manner) invariably results in her telling me she's already spoken for. In other words, she wasn't interested. These weren't Barbie Dolls that I talked with, in no way was I out of my league when approaching them.
I wish I was married to Jordan Peterson, or somebody like him.
Im a guy in real life and i admire Jordan
There are so many crappy sayings about life.. box of chocoates blah blah blah... But there’s one statement thats stands out all:
Life is a balance between holding on and letting go..
u pick anything or any event in ur life or any person for that matter u’ll see this statement fits in.. how much u wanna hold and how much u wanna let it go..
Im waaay better
@@loreenec8045 that's a girls name
@@spyrilleedinlarge5319 I do apologize for the confusion, but I value my privacy online is all.
Myself and my first and only girlfriend of 3 years now just had one of our bigger arguments. They're very rare for us to have. No yelling, name-calling, or anything else juvenile. We just talked through our disagreements openly and honestly and we both conceded grounds. I hate having to have these conversations, but part of me loves it because it forces me to understand just how functional we are. Even in the face of disagreement, annoyance, and stupidity, we can always talk to each other and figure it out. Plus I know I won't be due for another one of these for a while now ;) I guess I'm just trying to reinforce what the professor said. I trust her and she trusts me. It's only been 3 years and we're young, but trust has served us so well that I can't imagine actually fighting with her for any reason (but I recognize we likely inevitably will). I don't know if that helps, but yeah. Good luck on your relationships, people.
maybe for a Mestizo like you, but for Whites and Asians, Petersons advice will not work. Whites and Asians are far more risk averse, have lower sex drive, and are less social.
Poofters. Your relationships will be over soon
Also nearing three years on my first relationship. Good luck!
Wait till you get married :D
You love each other so much that you couldn't hurt them
This is sooooo timely...
Marriage requires love and love is build on mutual respect which in turn requires being truthful to each other.
“The boss is the mutual personality composed by the seeking of truth in both of them.”
Sex plays a big part in a healthy relationship, when a couple commit themselves to not have sexual intercourse until after marriage, then they will have a very healthy relationship due to the fact that they resist temptation because these days lots of people confuse lust with love, young people think that just because the sex is good the relationship must be good to, which is not the case at all.
That’s the answer I’ve been looking for. Now I get it. Thank You Jordan
I’m so grateful I randomly stumbled on Jordan Peterson’s videos, he’s amazing
As always, Dr Peterson is on point. My girlfriend is pregnant with twins. She is everything I could ever imagine. Before I met her, my ex wife left me, I was in a dark place. Then I met my girlfriend and she has never left my side. Has always helped me whichever way possible. I just hope I xan do the same for her.
"you should get married because if it works out you will become happy, and if it doesn't you'll become a philosopher"
-some smart greek guy probably
For all the women out there be honest about what you want. I would meet women that for me were 'it' but they only wanted 'a good time' Women need to have a goal - more so than men. Us males don't think in terms of calendars - we work to live - we're happy to swing in behind the goals of the woman we love. When I was about 14 my mother said to me that when I got older, ladies will want a man that wants to support a woman (whom may or may not want to have a baby) - that's all women really actually want. There's more than that of course, but I'll leave it at this...
I love this!! 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿
I'm sure at some point in history marriage wasn't even a word and people loved each other enough to be honest and trustworthy without a vow. Now thats real love, love that held nothing over your head.
Nah, people in the past married either because the marriage was arranged or for financial convenience. There wasn't much love, honesty, understanding or romance going on. The couples were sorta like roomates
@@nftmonkey4506 Or mainly due to geographical proximity. I think some just get married because of insecurities or it's what their friends do and they don't wanna be "one-upped".
@Ramon Garcia Aren't arranged marriages depressing though?
I just realized the origin story of Rick from Rick and Morty. Rick is actually Jordan Peterson who finally went insane.
Lol, brilliant.
Max Wooks But...I'm 14.
It's a satirical cartoon ffs. Stop being a moralist and let the boy watch his entertainment.
Max Wooks, sounds like you're the one that needs sorting. Get your head out of your ass
How do you know Rick and Morty is a waste of time? did you watch it?
Remarkable, thank you
Absolutely right.
no wonder i feel so empty. im living 1/3 of my life
HiveTyrant36 Same
Michael_S_K that is so true! Definitely have more interesting conversations after doing interesting things! And yes if you fill up your time with these kinds of things you’ll start to wonder how parents manage it all and have time for anything...
Find a hobbie or something that moves you....then you will feel good 👍
"If they're well behaved"...Now that's a very big "if", Dr. Peterson...
Raw Gameplay - There are a few genuinely difficult kids, but generally speaking, if the kids are jerks, it's a direct inheritance from lousy parenting.
Then quality parenting must be at an all time low.
@@zeveria7206 thats an understatement
It's on the parent mostly, how they act in front of kids and how they raise their kids
This is very good advice. I'm sending this video too my 3 sons .Thank you for making this video
Women like that are extremely rare.
3. Look for compatibility.
2. Build trust.
1. Be attractive.
Thank's Doc, I was having a hard time figuring that out.
What did you expect my dude? Contrary to PUA shit, if a woman finds you attractive she will give you all the leeway you need when talking to her. She'll laugh at your shitty jokes etc because she is sexually attracted to you. There is no magic formula.
Yeah but that's also kind of exactly the same thing that men do. It's fun to joke about but regardless of which side you're on being attractive opens a lot of doors.
enginesnblades well of course it does. Why wouldn’t it?
Take a chill pill jp knows what's good
1. be attractive
2. dont be unattractive
"For My hand made all these things, Thus all these things came into being," declares the LORD. "But to this one I will look, To him who is humble and contrite of spirit, and who trembles at My word.
He has a valid point about the necessity of a husband and wife both being in subjection to God (Eph. 5:21). It should be noted, though, that the Bible explicitly states that the head of the woman is the man (1 Cor. 11:3). A three fold cord is not easily broken (Eccl. 4:12): Man+Woman+the Logos.
He is right about scents!! When i was in high school i had a boyfriend who was devoted to me and not bad looking but slightly thick but his natural scent was so off putting to me that i knew it would not go anywhere. Later on in life i got myself into trouble by going crazy for guys whose natural scent made me wild and crazy!! Its all about phermones!! Up to now if your sweat doesnt smell good to me no matter how i try i just cant force myself, u need have the combination of good phermones and trust!!!
This video made me book my first facial surgery
How'd it go
Omg😂😂😂
You don't need to be a brad pitt to get a woman lol
I'd shop for a perfume after, if I were you
I did have a look at one of those studies. The relationship between the scent and symmetry was really poor. Like the line of best fit was barely more than horrizontal. If someone was to show you the scatter graph without the line of best fit you would really struggle to draw much conclusion. In other words there were tons and tons of guys who were ranked as attractive despite scoring low on facial symmetry.
Find someone who you can trust with anything.
And "anything" can be a lot of things.
"Honey, I broke the blender. "
"Dear, um, I just killed our neighbour."
"You know how I've had this lifelong battle with body dysmorphia, hun...?"
"... I'm thinking Mormonism might be the religion we need to follow."
If you two are not ready to deal with anomalies like these and many more, you may not be ready for marriage.
True
I think there needs to be a serial killer clause.
Seriously. Trust is number one. People need to get a little more Sapiosexual.
@@cameron.on.canvas thanks for teaching me that word. I google it and I'm a sapiosexual. Of course I also look at the physical, but if smarts isnot there, im not going for it, no no 😂
"Ok, we'll get a new blender."
"Ok. Off to jail with you. Sign this divorce paper. Your kids will grow up to be better than you."
"We'll do what we can to work through that nasty condition"
"Im not following that lifestyle."
You are fantastic!
Wonderful; thank you, Dr. Peterson.
He is just The Best
No matter how beautiful a woman is, once you know who that person really is, and the only way to really know who that person is, is to be handcuffed to her for life! Makes staying single seem so much more bliss!
Just make sure she looks good to you. Make sure she has good healthy habits. Exercises, reads, is politely and respectful to all she comes across. Make sure she makes her own money. This is a big one. A woman who makes her own money is with you because of your energy. Not your money. Make sure she is emotionally available and align to your personality. Make sure she can make you laugh and can talk to her for hours. She in that sense will become your best friend, your soulmate. Your energy. And at all cost avoid women who need $40 for the light bill listen to Cardi B, curse, drink hennesy, have some type of strong desire for cosmetic surgery and lots of ‘friends’ on their phone. That’s a waste of time and an insult to your time management skills.
Great advice cheers mate
I don't usually comment on youtube videos but from 2:25 to 3:00 was just beautiful, god bless Jordan Peterson
Jordan Peterson for Eternal Emperor of the Universe.
Count Dooku he's the only man who would deny the position if it was presented to him ironically.....
He'd be a better dark lord than Palpatine. Ain't that right Dooku?
Psycho Zebra
Well, Palpy got dooku killed. I think he got a right to be mad.
Someone drank ALL the kool-aid.
Honestly, if we colonize mars he should be the first president.
my word, this is what I yearn for (but a guy instead). also love how he hit the nail on the head about Biblical marriage. it's not oppressive of women, it's the mutual submission of each one to the other under God.
Great advice
I'm 26 and dont want kids right now because they financially ruin you. I don't particularly not want them but also have no pulling desire to make one.
1) Search for wife
2) Talk to divorced men who got thrown into the woodchipper by the family courts, and jail if they can't pay.
3) Make a better decision
Sorry Dr. Peterson. I didn't get married or have kids and I'm happy and free. Don't impose your goals and values on others, then tell them what they will like or not. Or regret or not.
Chris Ashcroft he didn’t tell you to get married. Why are you watching a video on choosing a partner when you don’t want to get married?
I will not comply
Jordan Peterson is the father figure and mentor all men want. God bless you Jordan.
He is so right!
I never had relationship and never understood why. Maybe there's something wrong with me but thinking about it is even worse.
And, for Aphrodite's sake, don't ever let your self-esteem be based on relationship success. Enjoy love and sex and marriage, but don't ever make them a condition of your self-acceptance. Follow that advice and you're more likely to have a lasting marriage, a more loving partner, and MUCH better sex.
The last part i didnt like. He said if a woman doesnt want to have kids, there is something wrong with her. Im 33 and i dont think i want to have kids. I find them cute but also very very demanding and i am glad i can give them back to my friends aftet playing with their kids for two hours i value freedom, quite time, travel and sleep. I dont think that makes me a bad person. People acually like me and i have many friends. I just dont want to give up my freedom.
Never say that's not my type.
This is from the recent Q & A. One of my favorite questions and answers so far, so I highly recommend checking out the full link in the description.
I know for a fact that many people here disagree with the message, which is why I put it here to discuss it.
Personally I find it refreshing to hear advice on this topic that is so rarely talked about in a serious manner.
Bite-sized Philosophy I cried when I heard this. My heart ached to hear someone, a hero I admire, say something so cruel, and so generic with such utter definitiveness. I am a very good woman, a conscientious healthy person, an asset to my relationship, friendships, community and family. Choice for no children does not make or break me. Truly heartbroken. Dangerously spoken.
lady, its an opinion, not an order. he may be intelligent, he may be right, but ultimately you decide what your life is and he won't even be there to judge you. don't be afraid of happiness, in whatever form you may find it. the Prophet once said : " work hard and diligently in the matters that benefit you,".
@@TheTrue32 same here...
@@TheTrue32 That's exactly what I thought too :(
I usually like Jordan Peterson's talks. But here he says you should first get married and then reveal the truth about yourself. That's a really stupid advice.
This guy is flipping amazing 🏆 he deserves to be nighted!! What an absolute god send for all young people looking for some sense in their life’s and you looking to develop themselves for the better 🌟🌟 I love you guys! You people are in the right place at the right time!!
Great advice.