This is what Bi people in ‘straight’ relationships want you to know

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  • @Nick-eu5lb
    @Nick-eu5lb 5 лет назад +118

    This video was really cute. I decided to type something so that there’d be one positive comment on this video. If you’re bi, know that there is nothing wrong with you, and you shouldn’t have to hide who you are.

    • @mushroom_pluto6598
      @mushroom_pluto6598 5 лет назад

      Mate, omg this might make me cry. Thank you....

    • @SANS-fz5ut
      @SANS-fz5ut 5 лет назад +1

      Callie Their is much negativity is these comments

    • @ThanksIhateyoutoo
      @ThanksIhateyoutoo 2 года назад

      Unfortunately we do though. I know this is old, but being bi for most of us means being effectively gay since about two thirds of women immediately discount a man as a potential partner if they think he has ever done anything with another man. I still would not feel right not disclosing that since it matters to them, and a lie of omission is still a lie if you knew it might influence their opinion. I can't date guys because it feels like society won't LET you go back once you do. I can't date girls because I would feel like shit not disclosing it, but literally no women seem to show interest in me anyway (idk, i'm considered to be pretty chill, and It might sound conceited, but I would think I was pretty attractive if I wasn't me). This crippling double bind, and the fact that i never got to get started dating in high school (couldn't attend due to health issues, got ged instead) means that I have never dated, kissed, or had sex with anybody. I'm 24 now and of course lonely, but have no idea what to do. I have no idea how to even begin talking to women, much less any kind of flirting, and I feel like if I date a man that will be my only option for the rest of my life. I'm burying this frustration here even though it's old, but I have literally no one to talk to about it, and I had to get it off my chest because this problem has started to consume my every waking moment.

  • @ls-zo5tp
    @ls-zo5tp 3 года назад +45

    so happy i found this video. i'm bi (female) and together with a bi man. and he seems gay and i seem lesbian to most people. so a lot of people question us being together and sometimes think we are just friends so it can be quite hard. but we're happy together and that's all that matters. much love to everyone!

    • @nathaneylar4263
      @nathaneylar4263 3 года назад +4

      So y'all are swinger's huh..... Booooiiiii

  • @mushroom_pluto6598
    @mushroom_pluto6598 6 лет назад +86

    I Am Done With The Comments
    I Am NOT Straight
    And NOT A Lesbian
    I LIKE BOTH
    Get It Right!

    • @glenjones7597
      @glenjones7597 6 лет назад +7

      go creep back into the closet

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 лет назад +6

      Yeah sure 🤣🤣 bi people so funny I'm not GAY I'm not straight 🤣 what are you!! You can't be 2 thing's stop being in denial and leave the closet

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 лет назад +1

      @Lola Hollywood idk you tell me?

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 лет назад +1

      @Lola Hollywood ok did she answered your question?

    • @ahmedzone7022
      @ahmedzone7022 6 лет назад

      @Lola Hollywood maybe she is busy you know bi people can't decide who is better man or a woman

  • @notproudlysouthafricananym8508
    @notproudlysouthafricananym8508 4 года назад +23

    After 10 years of marriage i found out my husband came out to me im bi sexual he said. Being a SOUTH AFRICAN we a a very concervitave nation.24 years later.So i dont go around telling people. But ive realized you cant change a person. But my opinion is if you are bi sexual tell your partner before you get married

    • @notproudlysouthafricananym8508
      @notproudlysouthafricananym8508 4 года назад +7

      We still married

    • @alfonsoc.950
      @alfonsoc.950 2 года назад +1

      If he loves and desires you sincerly, and he was faithful, he doesn't owe you anything else, he didn't decieve you. If one was to blame is the biphobic woman who reject his bisexual man. If he was cheating it's a different story.

    • @jenalva8
      @jenalva8 2 года назад +3

      He absolutely does owe her that. This comment is ridiculous

  • @mikaylaharris8260
    @mikaylaharris8260 4 года назад +33

    really cute video! i loved both of the couples, was really helpful to see/hear this as a bi/pansexual woman in a hetero relationship

  • @kenfordbody4lyfefitness
    @kenfordbody4lyfefitness 2 года назад +9

    Bi is fine as long as the Bisexual person is not deceitful nor does it mean bi means I get to automatically be Polyamorous. Polyamory & bisexuality is two different things and two different conversations and agreement.

  • @Nadsow
    @Nadsow Год назад +4

    As a bisexual female I prefer dating bisexual men and women.

    • @user-dl1kr5ov1y
      @user-dl1kr5ov1y 6 месяцев назад +3

      Which is fine. There are also many lesbian women and straight men who aren't into bisexual women, which is also fine.

  • @pasta_girl124
    @pasta_girl124 4 года назад +38

    it’s really weird being in a heterosexual relationship when your boyfriend is bi and you’re pan. most people thought he was gay (he wasn’t he’s had one boyfriend and two girlfriends before me) and idek what people thought about me. it’s great though cuz we can fangirl over both boys and girls.

  • @clevernickname8095
    @clevernickname8095 4 года назад +12

    People are allowed to love whoever they want despite their gender. It's not dirty or wrong if the love is pure. What's wrong is all the judgmental people looking down on other's happiness. It's honestly sad and is you're biphobic I hope you can learn to let go of that hate

  • @aris6756
    @aris6756 4 года назад +42

    The sad part is that when you are bi pretty much no one accepts you lgbt or straight ppl 🙁

    • @shahilagh
      @shahilagh 3 года назад +7

      I don’t understand these people ...Even straight people can live without sex. Is sex their key life concern so that this is a matter of interest to you?!!!

    • @xiao1695
      @xiao1695 3 года назад +5

      @@shahilagh ...it my country I saw someone take a LGBT questions qna kinda thingy to the ppl, one most of them literally said-
      "No I think LGBT Marriages should stay illegal becuz they can't have kids and even if they get married they will not complete their lives becuz they did not have kids and having kids is a key to complete like"
      Wth-

    • @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20
      @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20 2 года назад +1

      Straight femboy too. You face homophobia from people assuming your gay and there are always the lgbtq people that can’t see past your straightness

    • @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow
      @TheBiggestMoronYouKnow 2 года назад

      bisexual whites are super problematic though....

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever Месяц назад

      ​@@TheBiggestMoronYouKnowso you're racist against white people. How nice

  • @kenfordbody4lyfefitness
    @kenfordbody4lyfefitness 2 года назад +7

    Most homosexuals are cool with bisexuals just not bisexuals who feel because they are attracted to both sexes NEEDS to get with both sexes simultaneously and most bisexual men are only “out” about the female they’re involved with, that’s what many gays have a problem with if we’re being 100% honest here.

  • @gregtoms1182
    @gregtoms1182 Год назад +4

    We need more Bisexual men please stand up

  • @resmensa8312
    @resmensa8312 6 лет назад +9

    hehehe... @ahmed zone
    of course you can be attracted to both male & female - it just doesn´t matter in this case. (in my opinion)

  • @ItsJustAndrew89
    @ItsJustAndrew89 4 года назад +17

    This is so inspiring 😊 some people like their coffee with milk, others like their coffee with milk and sugar. I like the good ol' milk and sugar in my coffee 😂 hope everyone understands themselves in my opinion.

  • @alexadrew5733
    @alexadrew5733 5 лет назад +36

    The amount of biphobia in this video is absolutely crazy wow

    • @SANS-fz5ut
      @SANS-fz5ut 5 лет назад +12

      Alexa Drew The comments are... horrible, they make me sick

    • @nivedhprem
      @nivedhprem 3 года назад +5

      i know right my god like people grow up and educate yourself

    • @noosphericaltarzan
      @noosphericaltarzan 2 года назад

      @@thedancemurderer15hellandh52 It's biphobic/transphobic if you match and are otherwise attracted to a person but then "discovered" your preferences don't match when you find out they are bisexual or transgender. You can sort of get away with this excuse with respect to transgender people who have not totally transitioned I suppose, and you simply have a preference for a specific sex organ, but when it comes to any other context the problem is in your head and therefore it's you, not the other person.

    • @user-dl1kr5ov1y
      @user-dl1kr5ov1y 6 месяцев назад +1

      ​@@noosphericaltarzanNo, honey, no one owes you a relationship or sex. If they're not into you, whatever the reason, that's it. Don't moan about it.

    • @noosphericaltarzan
      @noosphericaltarzan 6 месяцев назад

      @@user-dl1kr5ov1y LOL It's bi guys everybody actually wants. Straight and gays don't take care of themselves to the same degree as a distribution. Have a great time with the ball stink. Honey.

  • @krs227
    @krs227 4 года назад +1

    More people need to see this, yay!

  • @Blazeww
    @Blazeww Год назад +2

    Still counts as cheating.
    And your identity should be how you treat others and the kind of person you are not who you sleep with.

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever Месяц назад +1

      What counts as cheating? You're not making sense

    • @jamesmcgowan1769
      @jamesmcgowan1769 4 дня назад +1

      This is why being Bi+ can be hard, if you have an issue with someone because of their sexuality, it definitely sounds more like a you problem, and saying that Bi+ people are are more likely to cheat is biphobic, you wouldn't blame a straight guy or woman who ends up cheating on their partners on their sexuality 😒😒🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

  • @Patricruss
    @Patricruss 4 года назад +10

    I'm bi and I just assume that everyone is bi now. But I don't say it out loud lol.

    • @juliajade4173
      @juliajade4173 3 года назад +18

      In my opinion, that's a stupid mindset to have. I don't think you should assume anything at all.

    • @juliethomas377
      @juliethomas377 3 года назад

      @@juliajade4173 I agree

    • @candaceseitz7689
      @candaceseitz7689 Год назад +2

      Well you're wrong there I'm 💯 straight and proud 👏

  • @hove7008
    @hove7008 2 года назад +7

    If I were to be attracted to same sex and wanting sex with same sex I would have a feeling that I lack something in sex so, logically, that tells me that bisexuality is not safe for long term relationships where partner does not like to share you sexually.

  • @korruptedbezanji3301
    @korruptedbezanji3301 3 года назад +6

    Question, the main thing is that when it comes to marriage and your spouse is in love with another, what then?

    • @ErinDeNis
      @ErinDeNis 3 года назад +26

      What if a straight man marries a woman, but he is in love with another woman? If a person marries and they still have feelings for another, that has less to do with orientation and more to do with infidelity.
      Bisexual people can fall in love with one person and commit, if they are dedicated to the relationship. Bisexuality doesn’t equal infidelity.

    • @binghamguevara6814
      @binghamguevara6814 3 года назад +2

      @@ErinDeNis If you’re in a monogamous relationship and you tell your straight partner that your bi, what are you asking your straight partner to accept?

    • @qymeanjaishelaal1731
      @qymeanjaishelaal1731 3 года назад +6

      @@binghamguevara6814 Accepting them for who they are.

    • @binghamguevara6814
      @binghamguevara6814 3 года назад +2

      @@qymeanjaishelaal1731 be precise. What does that mean in terms of the relationship?
      Does it mean …
      a) you will be with your opposite-sex partner till the day you die
      b) you will possibly divorce your opposite-sex partner and will marry a same-sex partner
      c) you will bring a third “queer” ,or bi, person into the 2-person relationship

    • @juliethomas377
      @juliethomas377 3 года назад +13

      @@binghamguevara6814 bruh if a straight man marry a woman ,there is a chance they would live together till the end and there is a chance to divorce/separate for some reason...bi doesn't mean we are greedy and want everybody , we can live with one and fall in line be with one person till the end if we are in love just like a hetero person

  • @justicethedoggo3648
    @justicethedoggo3648 3 года назад +23

    I mean bi people should date bi
    Bcoz it's disappointing for straight people sometimes.

    • @Inspirit-gp4dp
      @Inspirit-gp4dp 2 года назад +1

      can you elaborate?

    • @OrbitalDeathRay
      @OrbitalDeathRay 2 года назад +14

      Sounds like a ‘you’ problem.

    • @justicethedoggo3648
      @justicethedoggo3648 2 года назад

      @@Inspirit-gp4dp yeah straight people should date straight people

    • @alfonsoc.950
      @alfonsoc.950 2 года назад +9

      It's your problem for being biphobic. Bisexual people don't owe straight people any explanation or confession.

    • @candaceseitz7689
      @candaceseitz7689 Год назад +1

      This is a dumb comment why can't a straight snd bi person be together?? If they love each other that's what matters and us straight people are ok with dating bi

  • @Whiteshadow13444
    @Whiteshadow13444 3 месяца назад

    I am bi male if you are bi female reply this coment and start conversation

    • @etcwhatever
      @etcwhatever Месяц назад

      Where are u from? Are you in Europe?

  • @keithm.3456
    @keithm.3456 5 лет назад +5

    Lewis Oakley today in a few years she will be Louise Oakley transgender woman

  • @raymondjblaze7761
    @raymondjblaze7761 2 года назад

    I am bisexual looking for a casual relationship with a female

    • @wkdgrneyes
      @wkdgrneyes 2 месяца назад +1

      YOU DONT NEED TO BE WITH A WOMAN LEAVE THEM ALONE AND FOCUS ON YOUR GUY

  • @emmajaynefischer
    @emmajaynefischer 4 года назад +5

    Daisy should break up with him and get with women.

  • @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20
    @moonjae-in12thpresidentofr20 2 года назад

    Straight femboy can relate to the “but your” and the “are you sure your/he’s”

  • @ericw9490
    @ericw9490 6 лет назад +13

    save them Jesus

    • @frogtownroad9104
      @frogtownroad9104 5 лет назад +13

      Jesus saves them 2000 years ago. Chill.

    • @pedropenailillo7418
      @pedropenailillo7418 4 года назад +3

      Yes please Jesus save me I soooo need your help right now Big J

    • @NayrAnur
      @NayrAnur 2 года назад +2

      Bruh, we're already saved.