coming clean (I'm Sorry)
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In January 2010, I decided I would quit tobacco. That being said, I would need to quit alcohol as well because it triggered my tobacco use. I didn't acknowledge my dependency on alcohol at the time as I was trying to solve the nicotine issue.
Alcohol is ingrained in what we do socially and is a hard habit to break. Drinking is a social activity that includes going to bars and restaurants, hanging out with friends, watching sports, listening to live music, and more. Alcohol occupies time, brings us together, and is relied on so heavily. Even if you're not drinking every night, when you go out on the weekends, much socializing revolves around alcohol.
After quitting in 2010, I had no alcohol for six months. I felt like I had control over my drinking, so I would still enjoy a glass of wine or bourbon once or twice a week. I was not getting drunk. But when the world shut down in 2020, my alcohol use ramped up. My wife and I would open a bottle of wine during the week, and my consumption started to escalate to the point where I felt like I was going in the wrong direction. I wasn't feeling as good as I used to and felt stagnant like my brain wasn't working right. I wasn't as happy.
I started to unpack what was different about me and why. I had a hard look in the mirror, realized that I was drinking too much, and thought of all the benefits I experienced when I quit drinking in 2010. I needed to stop and get out of my own way to change. I needed to accept the responsibility that I was doing something self-destructive.
Alcohol is like giving up a toxic friend. I used to drink because I felt like it would let me truly be me, and I would let my guard down. Ultimately, I realized I was a horrible drunk, and nobody wanted to be around me. I would do and say things that weren't necessarily consistent with who I felt I was or wanted to be. So, 30 days ago, I decided to quit and change things. It really impacted my life positively. I encourage every one of you to give up alcohol for the next 30 days. Even if you don't have a problem.
The starting point is the most significant difference between quitting in 2010 and now. I was a mess in 2010, getting blackout drunk and being very unhappy. My life back then was a disaster that I didn't realize. When I stopped making those bad decisions and drinking, I was more productive and made more money. I was better focused and had better relationships.
Over the last 30 days, my self-esteem has been better because I'm not beating myself up when I wake up after drinking. I don't have cobwebs in my head from drinking on the weekend. My mentality is clearer, and my emotions are more level because there are no more ups and downs from the alcohol's vicious cycles. I'm also more thankful and more grounded. Not drinking allowed me to step back, breathe deeply, and center myself. I've been a lot more aware of my surroundings and relationships.
Not drinking has allowed me to be thankful rather than constantly thinking about where I want to get or where I want to be. I didn't expect that. We are living in a crazy time where everybody is trying to be better and acquire more. Everyone constantly tries to fix what they perceive as broken or deficient, preventing them from truly embracing themselves. Sure, we should all strive to be better or achieve more, but not consuming alcohol allows you to be more present in your daily life and have a clearer mentality of who you are.
When you're continually masking how you feel with alcohol, you are prevented from honestly dealing with issues that have built up. I know I've talked about therapy a gazillion times, but when you quit drinking, it's an awakening. Your eyes are open, and you see life and the world differently. Many people utilize alcohol as a crutch to numb the pain and not deal with things. But we must deal with our issues to be truly happy and not continuously go through a vicious cycle.
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Hey alpha there are many choices that we have to make in life...some are easy and some are very difficult...but the most important one is giving your life and surrendering to God... Jesus Christ is the only way...I pray that you make that choice before time runs out...I love you brother... I'll be praying for you.
I just ordered some, I'm looking forward to trying it. Grazie Aaron. Stay well, sei un grande!!!
Thanks for this video. Everything you're talking about is what im going through but I'm still drinking EVERYDAY and struggling to stop. And all the thoughts you're talking about. It's like im not the man that I think or feel that I am ! Its crazy.
Again thank you!!! You will never know how much this helps.
I had a massive drink problem once but don't touch alcohol anymore knew i had to work on myself now i drink once every couple of months. Thanks Alpham.
I stopped drinking 13 years ago. Don’t miss it at all. Nothing like waking up feeling awesome on Saturday morning!
6 months sober here. Waking up feeling good on weekends is priceless
7 for me, quit smoking at the same time, cold turkey, don't miss it.
I've been clean from alcohol for around 2 months now! Good luck everyone!
Very good! It's a miracle we can stay clean for a day! One day at a time!
@@colexovitch Thank you! Yes! We got this! I'm trying to quit weed now as well, and it's extremely difficult 🙃
I’m currently 4 months no drinking. It really is a game changer
Alcohol was my best friend for over 20 years. However, it very nearly stole everything I cared about. I started trying to stop in 2014 and finally got sober March 11, 2022. It’s not always easy (but does get easier) but it’s worth it.
Don’t feel embarrassed. You’re trying to better yourself while helping others.
It’s good to feel embarrassed. The next step is to be courageous and give your testimony of how you were able to overcome. Good job on Alpha.
@@mudfan061Nope, never be embarrassed, that's the point your focus is too much ont the other person. Nobody, I repeat nobody is perfect. Try to better yourself, that's correct, but never be embarrassed
@@DonGivani I disagree
@@mudfan061 No worries Stalemate 👍🏼, everyone experiencing life in a different way....I see it more in a Stoic way
I had a drinking problem. It’s hard. Three years sober. Hang in there buddy.
How did you end it?
@@HamishCarpenter I had to cold turkey it. My last time I got hammered and my children witnessed it. I promised them I would quit. It’s hard, but it was worth it.
u sound like u need a drink
Thank you for sharing your story. You basically told mine. 11 years sober now.
Best thing I ever did.
Thanks for the reminder.
Rock on!
Madd respect to you Sir..i'll be the first to say you are NOT alone.
I’m 9 months sober this month! It’s been brutal at times especially around weddings and parties. I realized I had a problem on Christmas Day when it was 4 am and I was still pouring myself a drink. Haven’t had a sip since and I feel great
I had my last drink Dec 31 2019. I planned to try a dry January after years of beating myself up about my booze consumption. Dry January turned into dry February and I never looked back. Best decision I ever made.
Dude that problem runs in the millions of people but few make it to the other side alive your one of the very few alive to talk about it much respect due !!
I just randomly stopped drinking as I was having 2-3 beers couple days a week soon as I got home to mentally relax and then go catch up with my kids and wife. Started to feel like I had to do this after having a rough day at work to be more relaxed around everyone when I first stepped in the house. Started to become like everyday was a rough day and I was doing this regularly. Been two weeks so far and feel good about moving ahead without it.
You’re not alone!
Yup. I am the same way. I’m either in or I’m out. I have to STOP things that are damaging to me, with NO going back. Otherwise, I slowly get sucked back in. Alcohol is a poison and not necessary. Social and commercial pressures keep us at the bars. If you can figure out that drinking is a waste of time, money and detrimental to your health, you are on your way to stopping for good. Just stick to your own personal path and LEAVE DRINKING BEHIND!
Amen. alcohol is insidious. you can rationalize it, but you always end up in the same vicious cycle. It makes you really alone.
Proud of you man! After years of heavy drinking (I'm a 44 year old professional musician who's been in the industry for over 25 years), I completely stopped my consumption of alcohol a year ago and been hitting the gym since, putting on more muscle than I've ever had, and feel absolutely great. I still drink beer, but it's always non alcoholic beer simply because I love the taste and it feels good here in TX heat. Alcohol has resulted in very bad decisions over the years, fights, embarrassment, etc. I don't regret my life, but if I had the chance to be young again, I'd never touch alcohol. Glad to hear you are good 🤘🏼
1 year clean from heroin/fentanyl.. you've helped me so much alpha chin up💪
Bro how did you do it ,,, please let me know
No mistakes ever, only growth ☄️ i started prolonged fasting for a while now. Need my energy back
Damn straight
This is the video I wasn’t looking for , but the video I needed.
Truly open and honest. I have been sober for nearly 3 years come Sept 1st. Best thing I have ever done, it takes commitment. You've got this.
Keep going sir
This is a HUGE one. I'm currently in the process of a detox due to my own issues with drinking to self-medicate. Thanks for validating what many of us need to hear/perceive.
I've been struggling with alcohol again lately. I'm sick and tired of it. Love you bros
Hang in there bro. I definitely get it. In todays world sometimes that’s all we have as men as a vice smh
It's all good. Not the first video coming clean . Good for you mate
I’m right there with you. I stopped cold Turkey for two and a half years… I did lose a lot of party friends, but that was the time I was happiest. I was more creative. I went from producing 1 track a month to like 5 per weekend. Mental clarity was at an all time high, I was getting quality sleep, like actually dreaming. Conversations when around people were more genuine and meaningful… then my 11 year relationship ended and I started to drown it all with alcohol.
Time to remove it from my life again. If I need to have alcohol to have a good time or enjoy things, maybe it’s not that great to begin with. Heads up kings! Let’s go!
Your only human brother, talking about it helps. You've shown that you have control over your drinking by keeping sober. Keep fighting and keep it real bro 👍
Six months sober myself, it's changed my life! I started feeling like a new man immediately after I stopped my alcohol use (I binged from 20-30) add in some other lifestyle changes and BOOM completely new man in only a few months!
Alpha, you are not alone.Thank you for sharing.
Honestly love the real videos that alpha posts, makes the channel so relatable. Really appreciate the content alpha🍻
My daughter 25 years old just got sober. And I'm so thankful for that.
Currently drinking 6 packs Fridays and Saturdays and drinking a tall can in the middle of the week for the craving, I noticed I'm less social I have to force it, this video made it clear I should try to go clean before it gets worse
I never realized how blessed I am for no substance abuse
You are truly BLESSED
I completely agree. I have drank, smoked but never to excess.
Kevin we all know what your vices and some of them are truly grotesque
That’s lucky and rare to have honestly
Thank you. Im seriously in the process of cleaning myself up. I notice being well fed with healthy dishes helps a lot with cravings
Alpha, thank you for sharing.
I’ve been a fan of yours for many years and these types of videos where you bear it all and speak directly with us are truly inspiring to see.
humanising yourself and being introspective aren’t easy things, we’re all with you and you’re in my prayers.
Stay up, KING!
ANYTHING for views and to bring his channel back. Don't be fooled
Quitting for 30 days etcetera does not work, if you have or had a drinking problem you never touch it again. My Grandfather quit alcohol totally at age 25, and never touched any alcohol ever again until the day he passed away 31 years later, for that he has earned my utmost respect!
Former frat guy here… booze, pills, and nicotine have had a huge hold on my life. It’s never taken me away from responsibilities but it’s always been a big distraction. I’ve always hoped to be completely free
You do not need to be ashamed! We all have a vice but know I/we stand with you as you battle this. Take one day at a time!
I took 6 months off last year because it was easier to over consume and be a home body during Covid. I went back to very casual drinking this Feb, and then after my brother’s unexpected death, definitely drank more frequently. I am deciding to do another 6 month challenge to coincide with the New Year for much the same reason as Alpha.
You got this brother, never be ashamed for trying to become better!
Thank you for this video. I've probably watched your original video 5 times for inspiration to stop drinking. I've finally made the decision to quit completely, and I've never felt more emotionally, spiritually, and psychologically sound as I do right now. My eyes are open. Thanks again
As someone who is in the cocktail business and also a coach, I tell everyone who drinks to try going 30 to 60 days without booze. You’ll learn a lot about your relationship to alcohol during that time. Great and important video. Cheers! 🤙🏽
Just stumbled on your video. Actually saw your old one first. Just had my physical and I need to make some big changes especially with my relationship with alcohol. I know it will be tough but I have a lot to live for. Keep up the good fight.
Good on you, m8. 🎉
I've been sober 7 yrs ...I get it completely... Hello from Gatlinburg TN Smoky Mountains Park... You've got this 🏞️🌄🐻
This is one of the best videos you’ve ever done. This will definitely help someone Alpha!
Addictive personality here as well, never be embarrassed to admit you have a problem and definitely never be embarrassed for being the only one in the room not drinking, smoking, etc. Sobriety is great for so many reasons and sometimes people who never had a problem or can't admit they have one will never be able to understand it but they don't have to only you do.
Glad you overcame it. I personally also drank beer and alcohol at a young age due to adult's influence, but I've never let myself consume those to deal with the pain in my heart. I guess some people are just better at dealing with their emotions than others.
This is one of, if not the best video i've seen from anyone on youtube (or anywhere else, for that matter) in a really long time. This isn't anything to be ashamed of. Quite the opposite. Quitting drinking is the best thing I've ever done, and, although difficult, can return amazing dividends. Bravo, sir.
We have the same birthday, we have the same first name, and now I see that we suffer very similar issues when it comes to alcohol. Thank you so much for this…
wow. keep going man🦾
I so needed this Brother. ✊🏽
Thank you for sharing and allowing us to see behind the mask. My age is seventy five and I am clean and sober twenty five years. God gets the glory. My first attempt at sobriety was in 1992. Right after hurricane Andrew. I was in and out of AA for 6 years and did not get sober until April 14th 1998. It truly is One Day at a Time. Sometimes 1 hour at a time, and sometimes 1 moment at a time. Find a support group. Love and forgive yourself
Dude u might have just saved my life ur amazing love u and what u stand for
Thanks for this video. I have been struggling lately with drinking. I needed to hear this
I stoooed watching u couple of years ago after u took me out of a really dark place in my life. Thank you
I’ve had a long-standing terrible relationship with alcohol. I hate it. I want to stop I want control of my life. I hope I can be as strong as you are alpha and quit alcohol.
Once you learn to turn your will over to a Higher Power you'll learn you have no control. Game Changer
My wife and I do not drink, rarely if ever socially. We’re shocked at how much people drink alcohol. But I had to remind her that everything socially revolves around it just like you said. I cannot relate to this video because I was never a drinker. I get buzzed off of 2 sips literally. Then I get tired/sleepy. So I just avoid it. I’m proud of you for quitting it but I can see how hard it is to give up socially.
Thank you, I’m 18 and struggling with some relatable things and past pain. Glad we could Connect and hear you speak what’s true.
There's absolutely no judgment here, buddy. Your honesty is endearing. I'm scheduled to check in for my second outpatient program to deal with my addiction issues with alcohol in a little over a week. It sucks, but it's a disposition that I have to manage and take seriously. It'll eventually kill me if I don't take it seriously. It's particularly hard for me because, unlike you, I wasn't belligerent, but rather a happy drunk that was high functioning.
I quit drinking on June 23rd, 2023. Love it!
I just recently achieved 11 years sober. I was a blackout drunk getting into stupid situations. I was drinking for any reason really. Plus I was angry at the world, tons of anxiety and depression. Once I quit drinking and started seeing a therapist I became so much happier person. There’s help out there, you just got to make that first step…which is the hardest no lie. It’s worth it though
I just left rehab and this video really helped me
I had a drinking problem, now i just drink Pete and Pedro (nice ad in the middle of a serious topic)
You’ve come so far brother! We’re so proud of you!!
Remember alpha, if ur friendship revolves around self destruction (like alcohol) they are not real friends. Stay safe.
3 years sober tomorrow. Still workin on the dipping though. Great video.
I was a binge drinker as well. Got sober at 23, about to be 26 in October, probably wouldn’t have made it to 30. I would’ve never imagined the life and change removing one substance from my life could have. Learned more about myself in 3 years than I had in the prior 7 years of drinking. Since then, I managed to build 2 successful businesses, have never had stronger relationships, friendships, and respect. I always cleaned up well on the outside though, and not many people would or could ever tell, so thank you for speaking up about it, really nice to see a big influencer talk about a seemingly difficult conversation, but really positive change that most everyone should experience at least once. Thanks Alpha.
Well done my friend. The first step to the right road is realising you are on the wrong road. Thanks for your honesty… I hope it helps another viewer.
Just like you, Alpha. I too had an addiction to alcohol, and I depended on it to get me through the day because I wasn't willing to deal with my mind and emotion correctly. I was self-medicating due to the fact I hated my life, but I didn't know where to start. It was way easier to just drink than to look in the mirror and be real with myself. It's not easy guys, but it is realistic/doable. You don't need to quit right away, sometimes you just need to take baby steps. Eventually you start having a clearer and sound mind where you're much more in tune with your soul and mind.
I saved 500 bucks on going to see a shrink just by listening to you Alpha m you are a natural therapist , psychologist and your videos are always bang on
A shrink ?
I can tell you a lot about how to get rid of an addiction. I deal with it daily with my clients. You mentioned the triggers that "you created". If you quit but don't remove the triggers the habit will most likely return. Learning how to reassign those triggers to mean something totally different is the key to solving the problem for good.
I went thru the same thing. I am 5 and 1/2 years clean now. You dont need alcohol, and can learn to have fun with out it. But it does take some time, and for me, depending on the Lord.
Absolutely Alfa, not had a drop since Christmas day last year and feel better in my health both physically and mentally. More productive day and much more get up and go. Game changer.
My sobriety date is December 1st 2010, which is also my daughters birthday. Alcohol almost destroyed me and my family! I knew I couldn’t get sober on my own so I started going to AA meetings. In the beginning I quit drinking for my children because as a single father I had to be present for them. Then I realized I had to stay sober for myself as well! Alcohol and drugs destroy lives and families. Once one loses control over alcohol and drugs, nothing good will ever happen in their lives going forward. Just my 2 cents.
I’m coming up on 12 years sober. Best thing I ever did… also the hardest. I have friends who drink and so does my wife, but I know I can’t because it will take me down a path I can’t control. I have a better life now than I ever did when I drank… and no amount of fitting in, is worth throwing away the life I’ve built for myself.
I can't stop at one
Thanks for the transparency I'm almost 9 years clean off alcohol I'm super driven super addictive personality super passionate but I tell you what the best decision I've ever made I just bought all five of your colognes I got them today they're fire! keep up the great content🙏🔥
I love you more because of your honesty. Cheers to sobriety, friend. No substance can solve a spiritual problem
I’m trying to get myself straight too. I’m not a daily drinker. But, it’s when I drink I just drink too much. I say things I shouldn’t say. I hate it honestly. My entire social life revolves around food and drink. It’s crazy.
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Respect. I was an alcoholic for years and then eventually, I got into heroin. I had an 11-year battle with it and then when fentanyl started hitting the streets, I graduated to that. Even heroin wouldn't relieve the fentanyl withdrawals. I was clean several times, mostly forced sobriety from prison stints. Anytime I got out and stayed clean from opioids, I drank. Heavily. REALLY heavily, thinking I was fine. Eventually, I would relapse on heroin/fentanyl again. It was a vicious cycle. I was homeless, living on the streets, for 2 1/2 years.
I got clean from alcohol in July '21 and haven't had a drop since. Got clean from the opioids in November '21 and was clean a lil over a year, then relapsed December of last year, went to rehab, relapsed again in February of this year, went to rehab again, and have been clean again since. I hit 6 months clean again August 22nd. My life has been better again. In fact, I just got hired on as a mental health tech at a local hospital. Never would've thought that'd happen when I was banging 2-3 grams of fentanyl a day.
Really proud of you, Aaron! Keep it up!
Great vid alpha been sober going on 2 years. My newest addiction is self empowerment and the good far out weigh the bad. I’m crushing life now at 54 nothing is stopping me. Thanks for your transparency
Don’t be embarrassed Your a man Nobody is perfect I struggle with ptsd Alcohol does help numb the mental pain but in the end the pain is 2x as worse I’ve been through it all Keep your head up Don’t give up Thank you for the honestly
Alpha, holy crap you hit the nail on the head. I'm sitting here wondering what the hell are you doing. I'm tired of feeling like shit. The military and drinking went hand in hand and you know I'm just tired and too old for this mess. Thank you so much...
Been working out a lot and yes drinking makes me feel lazy in the morning just unmotivated. It’s a struggle , the social aspect especially.
one thing i noticed too is how much money i started saving. i can't believe how much money i threw away on booze.
Great video…this probably helped some people. Talking about the results from letting it go has been the most motivating for me and you nailed it. Awesome…
Ive watched probably all of your videos and fallowed you for a long time i can hear it in your voice at the beggining. Ive struggled my self and im a tradesman i burned out bad last year and the catalyst was alcohol. We need more real conversations like this between men and i respect you alot for making this video keep on keepn on brother
I don’t go out much as I don’t like being around drunk people. I played sport and we won a championship. They often meet up and lots of drinks flow. I can’t do it.
It's okay bro. I'm Bi too
Thank you, I needed to hear this! I'm struggling, but I know I need to change!
Great video Alpha! This came to be at a perfect time and I’m motivated to move forward without alcohol. Thank you and god bless to everyone!
I quit booze 4 years ago this nov 31st. It was a weakness and was developing into a problem after 25 years. I did it because my son was 2 and my daughter 1 and made a promise to my late Mum. I was determined to be a role model for my children. On Dec 1st I decided that was it. My Mum passed from a stroke the next year which made me even more determined to be a t total. I will never touch another drop. I too lost friends but I had nothing much in common with them but boozing. Stay stoic.
I know. I have been sober for 32 years, since I was 37. I never went to meetings because of work schedule, but I can tell you 12 steps work.I overhauled myself spiritually , emotionally and physically, took me three years to to do this but had to be sober to do it. I know there is a lot more for you to learn ,hope to God you will . But most important , you realized you have a problem. Wish you the best on this hard journey.
Glade you used your platform to help Its a big deal ,iam sober for 12 yrs , good job
Praise Be to GOD, congratulations on your 9 month sobriety. Your message is so important to those who are caught up in this addiction , me I'm 35 yrs sobor. To the new comer people, places, and things and letting go n let GOD. are things you have to steer clear of by the grace of GOD ONE day at a time. If you get through a full day without alcohol your winner.... It Does get better 👍😎
I also have an addictive problem 😔... this be the best video, I've watched thus far... Thanks Alpha👍🏾👌🏾
This is crazy, yesterday I told myself I am going to quit alcohol, and today after a workout at 5:30am, this video pops up on my RUclips suggestion
I used drugs (class A and B) in the same way. It is difficult when you constantly replace one addiction with another. Dealing with the underlying issues is the big deal.
Alpha, you have been the father I never had. This is not some soppy thing, just that I didn't have a reliable man to respect growing up. Finding you when I separated from my ex wife and started my therapy was perfect timing. Today you have my love for this strong moment. Explaining your weaknesses and your journey is the strongest thing a man can do. Thank you for this video, above all the others!
Alpha, I gotta say I really respect you for sharing this part of your story. Honestly, I struggle with my smoking green stuff -- I've really grown tired of the "smog in the noggin" feeling, but when I stop for a day everything starts to feel loud. Your story is proof that overcoming addiction is like flying an airplane; it's not just about getting airborne, it's about maintaining altitude and anticipating obstacles in your flight path. Thank you so much for being an honest role model.
Everything is an ad from Alpha. I’m over it. Every video dude, even the sincere ones.
You all good bro💪🏾💪🏾 you’ve give us a lot of wisdom and hidden gems 💎 💪🏾
Brother, it's a bold man who speaks truth.
This definitely was good to hear. I had to really curb binge drinking and have a healthy moderation