i know someone like those. when things don’t go his way, he falls apart and drinks heavily, and then goes “fuck it” and lives in filth. he could do so much better- he’s bright and can be charming. If he’d put half the effort into actually working on stuff as he puts into getting out of it, he’d be genuinely successful
Yeah, I feel like this and honestly it sucks, because it feels like people are constantly fucking us apart and since I had to go through a relationship with a girl I nearly betrayed and was indifferent to and fucked me up big time in terms of self-worth, because I realized later, she threw the shit back at me and she had BPD, so she manipulated me big time. I feel like I can't handle an interaction anymore, as if everything was the constant fight I had in my relationship and as if everyone is out to bite. Fucking relate to all he says in this. I can't stop accusing other people of what I am going through. At least I got my shit together and stopped drinking. Guess how this helped with the issue after 1,5 years of sobriety? It gets even worse with time. I feel like cutting myself of from everyone and that this is a fucking move I am not wanting to be part of. At least I know why and how shit happens but it's like I can't get out of hopelessness.
Doctor Vaknin, your videos need to be saved for posterity. No other psychology channel brings so much valuable information and improves our thinking in terms of quality. I am grateful to have come across your content.
This is 🏆. Narcs get off on getting OVER on people, even when they are capable of accomplishing a job in a socially + professionally acceptable manner, they ALWAYS prefer a shortcut, or a grift , even when the risk of loss ( they love risk) is high. This is often their downfall in both their professional and personal lives.
I've been watching your videos for quite a while now Prof. Sam, especially The Mind of The Narcissist. I would always shake my head and say It can't be THAT bad for them, can it? I do realize now that Yes, it is. I can't imagine the utter chaos that was going on inside his mind all day long. I have more compassion for my ex now than I did a year ago, compassion at a distance that is. He used to have to win at everything at all costs, but it really is a no~win situation for everyone involved.
This explains the system that has those in "power" needing to "win" capitalism by having a lower class instead of everyone having basic needs at no cost. They have to have extreme narcissists everywhere for the system to continue. Escape the matrix/mind of your oppressors folks, and return to who you are.
Ive never been able to understand how certain types of people just can not be happy even though for many happiness is fleeting because life is for the most part hard. Imagine being such a ungrateful negative person that no reality exists outside self interest that must be defended.
He is a narcissist..he's said this in some videos ..he's coined many terms used for narcissim- he teaches this as well..professor of psychology..so he's top notch narcissism expert
Narcissists are professional hypocrites. They (as a pattern) move the goal poasts to suit their advantage/convenience - because they stand for nothing, they have no code. The worst part about these energy vampires / predators: They don't do what they do to as a rebellion against being forced into bondage by god (and would therefore be more moderate and grateful for any handouts/mercy): they've signed up for the bondage, they adore the bondage - they just don't want to play fair or abide by any code (even of their own choosing) They trully are evil predators.
I really don't like the videos about destroying the narcissist. Wouldn't that be considered the need for revenge, and isn't that an issue? I get needing to deal with them, but they destroy themselves. we don't need to add to the pain.
For the most part I agree with you, though some acts are so egregious retaliation is unavoidable. Narcissists know right from wrong and at some point in life unscrupulous characters need to be shown there are consequences for their actions. Revenge can be an act of public service, in some circumstances it serves as a deterrent for future misdeeds.
Constantly destroying. Watching him hunting grandiosity, cutting of intimacy, under pressure by himself all the time, treated me like an enemy. Painful experience I went through.
Prof. Vaknin, thank you for the lecture! Can you elaborate on narcissist's role models and people they look up to? What goes on in that kind of relationship? I searched the channel and couldn't find anything
I would like to thank you for taking the time to make these videos. They cause a great deal of self-reflection in myself as I recognize a lot of these traits in myself. Thank you for holding up a mirror. That being said do you think this information could be used as a double edge sword some may use this as a weapon to damage others (and I admit I wanted to send daggers with this info but recognizing this in myself has stopped me, AKA throwing stones in a glass house) but it seems with genuine reflection you could recognize these traits within yourself. The world seems to be a self-reflection of ourselves, interacting with the world or collective conscious is affected by all those who participate, in as such a judgement on the world would be a judgment of oneself. All that being said I may be suffering from a cognitive dissonance and lack trust in myself. m ^...^ m
As a blue-collar worker, it's easy to be fooled by the idea that hard work leads to success. The economic system is structured so as to exploit people at the bottom while the surplus is reinvested in self-promotion of some owner or brand. As long as workers are treated as mere means to the ends of someone else's profit, the virtuous motives are disincentivised. Economic precarity leads to anxiety, bad judgement, and compulsive behaviour.
Wow!!! so to the point, my ex and her family act exactly alike. They think their blood is so pure that they don’t have any illnesses while they are popping pills to stay alive. 😂 ex thinks she is the exact reflection of God no job no money no talent but she is gonna become a billionaire “somehow.”
@ Prof. Vaknin, your contents are so well put together and so in depth. Everything is making sense now, I am liberated and will not let her take advantage of my kindness ever again. I literally ruined my life trying to work things out.
YESS!!! Another one and accurately what I would like. Yes indeed my favourite video🙂. So you think it is a determinism in their life, and if so, are they aware?
The ' teamwork' better aspect isnt an option when rhe narcissist(s) is using an imagined medical malady (that has no diagnosis after medical exams and labwork) as a tool for control and manipulation.
It may vary from person to person but usually there is a collapse, which is displayed through a tantrum or outburst and from recent experience with someone I suspect to be of that ilk, they become combative and aggressive.
Dear Prof. Vaknin, I did not understand this video...I gave him sex and services and still he would cheat on me .... Have I got sth wrong? Many thanks in advance !
Professor vaknin, could you please do an analysis video on Donald Trump and what is going on in America? His victory was not a surprise but the reality is still deeply disturbing. Will human idiocy and narcissism be the end of us all? 😢
@ oh, definitely! But I’m more interested in the collective psychological aspects of the attractiveness of such a candidate to so many people and what that says about the general psychology of the American society today..
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i know someone like those. when things don’t go his way, he falls apart and drinks heavily, and then goes “fuck it” and lives in filth. he could do so much better- he’s bright and can be charming. If he’d put half the effort into actually working on stuff as he puts into getting out of it, he’d be genuinely successful
Yeah, I feel like this and honestly it sucks, because it feels like people are constantly fucking us apart and since I had to go through a relationship with a girl I nearly betrayed and was indifferent to and fucked me up big time in terms of self-worth, because I realized later, she threw the shit back at me and she had BPD, so she manipulated me big time. I feel like I can't handle an interaction anymore, as if everything was the constant fight I had in my relationship and as if everyone is out to bite. Fucking relate to all he says in this. I can't stop accusing other people of what I am going through. At least I got my shit together and stopped drinking. Guess how this helped with the issue after 1,5 years of sobriety? It gets even worse with time.
I feel like cutting myself of from everyone and that this is a fucking move I am not wanting to be part of. At least I know why and how shit happens but it's like I can't get out of hopelessness.
Indeed.
Doctor Vaknin, your videos need to be saved for posterity. No other psychology channel brings so much valuable information and improves our thinking in terms of quality.
I am grateful to have come across your content.
This is 🏆.
Narcs get off on getting OVER on people, even when they are capable of accomplishing a job in a socially + professionally acceptable manner, they ALWAYS prefer a shortcut, or a grift , even when the risk of loss ( they love risk) is high.
This is often their downfall in both their professional and personal lives.
I've been watching your videos for quite a while now Prof. Sam, especially The Mind of The Narcissist.
I would always shake my head and say It can't be THAT bad for them, can it?
I do realize now that Yes, it is.
I can't imagine the utter chaos that was going on inside his mind all day long.
I have more compassion for my ex now than I did a year ago, compassion at a distance that is.
He used to have to win at everything at all costs, but it really is a no~win situation for everyone involved.
This explains the system that has those in "power" needing to "win" capitalism by having a lower class instead of everyone having basic needs at no cost. They have to have extreme narcissists everywhere for the system to continue. Escape the matrix/mind of your oppressors folks, and return to who you are.
They are such vile people . I remove myself as soon as they 'reveal.
Ive never been able to understand how certain types of people just can not be happy even though for many happiness is fleeting because life is for the most part hard. Imagine being such a ungrateful negative person that no reality exists outside self interest that must be defended.
I love how you investigate the. NPD in a whole new perspective. It's truly fascinating subject. Ty 🧡
He is a narcissist..he's said this in some videos ..he's coined many terms used for narcissim- he teaches this as well..professor of psychology..so he's top notch narcissism expert
Narcissists are professional hypocrites.
They (as a pattern) move the goal poasts to suit their advantage/convenience - because they stand for nothing, they have no code.
The worst part about these energy vampires / predators:
They don't do what they do to as a rebellion against being forced into bondage by god (and would therefore be more moderate and grateful for any handouts/mercy):
they've signed up for the bondage, they adore the bondage - they just don't want to play fair or abide by any code (even of their own choosing)
They trully are evil predators.
Omg you had me at that intro😂
I really don't like the videos about destroying the narcissist. Wouldn't that be considered the need for revenge, and isn't that an issue? I get needing to deal with them, but they destroy themselves. we don't need to add to the pain.
For the most part I agree with you, though some acts are so egregious retaliation is unavoidable. Narcissists know right from wrong and at some point in life unscrupulous characters need to be shown there are consequences for their actions. Revenge can be an act of public service, in some circumstances it serves as a deterrent for future misdeeds.
Constantly destroying. Watching him hunting grandiosity, cutting of intimacy, under pressure by himself all the time, treated me like an enemy. Painful experience I went through.
Prof. Vaknin, thank you for the lecture! Can you elaborate on narcissist's role models and people they look up to? What goes on in that kind of relationship? I searched the channel and couldn't find anything
Will do.
I would like to thank you for taking the time to make these videos. They cause a great deal of self-reflection in myself as I recognize a lot of these traits in myself. Thank you for holding up a mirror. That being said do you think this information could be used as a double edge sword some may use this as a weapon to damage others (and I admit I wanted to send daggers with this info but recognizing this in myself has stopped me, AKA throwing stones in a glass house) but it seems with genuine reflection you could recognize these traits within yourself. The world seems to be a self-reflection of ourselves, interacting with the world or collective conscious is affected by all those who participate, in as such a judgement on the world would be a judgment of oneself. All that being said I may be suffering from a cognitive dissonance and lack trust in myself. m ^...^ m
Excellent!
Thank you, Sam)❤️
As a blue-collar worker, it's easy to be fooled by the idea that hard work leads to success. The economic system is structured so as to exploit people at the bottom while the surplus is reinvested in self-promotion of some owner or brand. As long as workers are treated as mere means to the ends of someone else's profit, the virtuous motives are disincentivised. Economic precarity leads to anxiety, bad judgement, and compulsive behaviour.
Search the Civilization playlist.
dear dr Vaknin, is narcissist oriented more strongly toward one person or it is his attitude toward everybody?
The narcissist is antagonistic towards everyone, except those he happens to be idealizing at any given moment.
Wow!!! so to the point, my ex and her family act exactly alike. They think their blood is so pure that they don’t have any illnesses while they are popping pills to stay alive. 😂 ex thinks she is the exact reflection of God no job no money no talent but she is gonna become a billionaire “somehow.”
@ Prof. Vaknin, your contents are so well put together and so in depth. Everything is making sense now, I am liberated and will not let her take advantage of my kindness ever again. I literally ruined my life trying to work things out.
If narcissism was no longer a thing, would the world be in harmony? Are the narcissist the root to most of our problems?
Search the Civilization playlist.
Ah it's painful but it's shining the light on the dark face in the shadow eh
Thank you sir
Ha ha.. I could answer all those questions 🤯
38:24 amazing narcissism is another name for destructiveness
Do narcs mirror you cause they think thats the person you want?
Can you please give examples of mirroring?
@@OliviaSmith-r7i they mirror the other persons character, and things he or she believes in , so he or she thinks he found his soul mate,
YESS!!! Another one and accurately what I would like. Yes indeed my favourite video🙂. So you think it is a determinism in their life, and if so, are they aware?
What happens when to a narc when he is sent to prison
They lose all narcissistic behaviors.
The ' teamwork' better aspect isnt an option when rhe narcissist(s) is using an imagined medical malady (that has no diagnosis after medical exams and labwork) as a tool for control and manipulation.
He is jealous of me sleeping with my blanket "instead of him for warmth". How can someone be jealous of an inanimate object?
So grateful for your kind reply. ❤️
Professor. Vaknin, May I ask….Why did you choose Pulisic as the thumbnail? Do you believe he is a narcissist? Did you see him do the Trump dance?
любовь 🎉
What happens with the narc wen you expose their false selfse to the narc self and to other people?
Search the channel for "mortif" (mortification).
It may vary from person to person but usually there is a collapse, which is displayed through a tantrum or outburst and from recent experience with someone I suspect to be of that ilk, they become combative and aggressive.
Dear Prof. Vaknin, I did not understand this video...I gave him sex and services and still he would cheat on me .... Have I got sth wrong? Many thanks in advance !
Tolerance to a drug (supply) causes it to have dimishing returns
(Wahrhaftige, echte) "Liebe" und Zuneigung deinerseits wird vom N abgewehrt und abgelehnt. (Unbewusster) automatischer Abwehrmechanismus.
Watch more videos until you get it. What he did has nothing to do with you.
He considered either the sex or the services (or both) inadequate.
These narcs bunny hup from 1 to the next , a vicious cycle
Best intro ever 😂
Is there any chance that a narcissist could change?
Professor vaknin, could you please do an analysis video on Donald Trump and what is going on in America? His victory was not a surprise but the reality is still deeply disturbing. Will human idiocy and narcissism be the end of us all? 😢
It’s simple economics….Prices of everything increased under democrats, illegals came here and committed crimes, not too difficult to understand
In my opinion, he is a malignant narcissist.
@ oh, definitely! But I’m more interested in the collective psychological aspects of the attractiveness of such a candidate to so many people and what that says about the general psychology of the American society today..
Search the channel and also the vakninmusings channel. Read the sections about Trump here: www.narcissistic-abuse.com/faq19.html#trump
@@samvaknin Excellent interview. We’re so screwed.