I completely relate to this, the way she speaks and is so conscious of herself and her audience, the beautiful sadness in her eyes is something I rarely see in anyone but myself. it's true, I put my best self out there and when I can't I don't put myself out at all, so no one knows what I'm like when I'm not my best. It is extremely hard for me to let that guard down and let people see me when I'm vulnerable and needy because I am so easily disappointed. I get extremely passionate and self aware and if I feel misunderstood while I feel so excited it's absolutely devastating. I trust myself to love and appreciate my true oddness but it's nearly impossible to trust that anyone else even could. sometimes I do find people who can see me for who I am, and I can feel that but it is still very difficult to let myself believe that they don't think I'm a freak. I'd prefer for everyone to think of me as someone they like than to have any problems with who I am, it would hurt too much
sounds like you are ready for a breakthrough. ...watch charles bukowski - all the way - and move with courage into the world as your true self.... Respectfully - David - INFJ
Even the most socially active INFJ will always desire deep conversation.I think what shifts is the understanding that others perfer to hide behind Social graces,like children playing hide and go seek. INFJs are incredibly adaptable soooooo.... letting go is key. The social game INFJs seem to quietly win because, INFJs truly see behind the veil of it all.
"we adapt to our environment and it makes us lose sight of the person we really are..." thank you for putting that into words. Made me sob & my heart ache to hear. Deeply affecting reminder.
lol, i was doubting my type at first because of people that arent actually infj but say they are, seemed so different from me.. who are the other ones that seems like "real" infjs to you?
Jung said that Ni dominant types (INFJ and INTJ) live the most interesting lives,but also the most difficult lives. Both types share the same fear of being vulnerable and I think that is where the "protective" nature come from. Great video.
It's not a fear of being vulnerable. It's that we see how shallow people are and we have observed certain behaviors of certain people that help us to distinguish who is worth it and who's not. Don't cast your pearls to the swine.
This. This is the first video that i could 100% relate to!Thank you! :-) Things that i think are the most important to me: 1.writing writing is my medicine.I write a lot but idk,i couldn't show them to anyone,even my close friends.because it'll feel like they could see through me or the 'me' inside. 2.the sky i have such huge passion for the sky(especially),the universe,the entire world.I think about this a lot & constantly,but when i tell people about it,they can't seem to relate/feel as amazed as i do.It saddens me sometimes. 3.the idea of individuality the fact that we all have our own mind and thoughts and idea and interest ,etc.i crave deep conversations,i want to know them more and how they think,in hope that they can accept the 'real' me too. . :-)
Wow! You are such a beautiful gem. We are the most beautiful creatures on the planet... (maybe I'm a tiny bit biased). 😉 I LOVE deep thinkers! Most of the world is so terribly shallow. No one wants to connect, share fascinating information or honor our differences by coming to really understand one another. We need a safe place to come together and be accepted and loved for who we are inside. We need a comforting space where we can take off our many masks, come out of our shells and show our true selves, the souls that we wouldn't dare expose to the cruel, unfeeling, judgemental outside world. It's really encouraging to see others who feel and think like me.
Can 100% relate, WOW Such a good feeling to be reading things that actually are soo relatable to you and yess, I really agree with point 1! And 2! 3 is kinda hard, regarding Trust, but yeah, understand this really really good! :)
I never knew I was INFJ until I recently took a test and watched videos to verify how I am. As a male, being INFJ is very very rare and I understand what you mean by being a chameleon. In High School I was able to fit with the Jocks, geeks, nerds, and other groups and was liked by all but was always known as a reserved quiet type and loner. It's very interesting to know others like me.
Yes, yes, yes I can definitely relate. I really struggle with being my honest self around most people. Sometimes in the moment I won't ever realize it, but I tend to unconsciously tailor my opinions an response to the other person's expectations. And whenever I do reveal more, or have the courage to speak up, some people tend to be shocked and surprised. I am really really thankful, because I have one friend who I can talk to literally anything about and we later discovered that we're both INFJs. I feel so lucky to have her as my best friend because she makes it incredibly easy to open up my most honest opinions.
I wonder if it's more of an INFJ tendency to people please, to worry way too much about how other people see you, and to feel like you have to be Me Plus (default me isn't good enough). I certainly struggle with all of those. Here's some lessons I'm still trying to learn about those: 1. People pleasing: The more I try to *make* others happy the more I self-erase. My job is only to strive to bring an atmosphere everywhere I go that allows others to feel ok being who they are. If I hide this sacred inner self from others then they never really like me but they like my mask. That atmosphere is generated when I'm ok being myself. 2. Others opinions: I struggle so hard with this one. The best way (and hardest) to stop this is to be myself 100% of the time and get used to people disagreeing with me or not liking what I do. 3. Me+: We've all gotten the impression that we have to be me plus more confident, funny, engaging, intelligent, etc. If it's an external 'voice' then maybe reconsider how much time you spend with those people or find better people altogether. If it's internal, trace the origin of that rule/mantra/lesson, understand it with your current knowledge, and give that story a name. So when it pops into your heard you can say "Oh, that's just the ol' Me Plus story." Sometimes that alone will help, other times you'll have to reiterate the faults of the story. Sometimes it won't work and you'll have to work through those emotions/thoughts. One benefit of being myself regardless of any 'negative' emotions is: you find out what people will do when faced with your vulnerability. They may use that knowledge against you or use it to help understand you. I work to apportion my time with others to the degree that they treat me well when I'm vulnerable. Also, I tear up reading about INFJ. The feeling of being understood and knowing I'm ok the way I am is amazing :)
Oh my god! I think about this concept all the time. I can really relate to this. I usually only reveal some aspects of myself. I'm often afraid to reveal that I'm into some really abstract things. I like fitness & video games, but I'm into a lot of spirtual and philosophical things that many people would not understand.
Holy shit, I agree and relate to everything you said. From wanting to be the "real" you around friends to your opinions on social media. I also struggle with showing my true self to other people because like you said, I want to please people and talk about things that also interest them, so I'm hesitant to show them some of the things that I'm into. This may not be the best example, but I smoke weed and my opinions are that I am all for it because of the beneficial effects it has on me personally. I finally told my mom after hiding it for years and the reason I was hiding it was because I was afraid that she'd be disappointed, wouldn't trust me, or look at me differently now. But I just couldn't stand that she didn't know the "full" me and I wanted her to know because I wanted to better my relationship with her. I was talking to her about how I'm scared to let other people, like my cousins, know about things I'm into that they may or may not agree with. But I'm really trying to get better at sharing things about myself with people I care about even if they don't necessarily like it, because I want them to know my true self and to deepen my relationship with them.
Being authentic is the most attractive way to be. You come across as someone who is vulnerable and real and it's so refreshing to me. My biggest challenge in watching your videos is not getting pulled away from what you are saying because of your physical beauty and mannerisms. You absolutely do not need make up to be beautiful, and your spontaneous expressions come across as genuine. I don't know if other infj's value authenticity as much as I do, but you are showing me how to be real and it's sooooo valuable. You insights are spot on and describe me to a t as I'm still trying to sort out how to go about in the world.
Just listening to you I feel a fierce attraction to you, it's crazy. I just love hearing you think! Someone like me! Yes, be yourself. As an INFJ I do present a duality like you speak of, but its more like; meeting for the first time? You see the outside of my house. Becoming my friend? I show you the inside. I crave to show people the inside, but they have to be meaningful people... and I have so few of them.
Wow, this made me think a lot about the way how I've been all my life. I never thought about it that way, but I do have two sides to myself, the side of me that conforms to fit in and the genuine me. I never knew that I was an INFJ until recently and watching insightful videos like these have really helped me discover who and what I am. Thanks!
I love all your videos but this one is my favorite. As a fellow INFJ I love how honest and unfiltered you are here. I feel the same way with the card you show the world, I do that every single day. And when you said "I feel like no one gets the real me", my God did you nail it. Please keep making videos. I feel so much better knowing someone like you "gets it"
I relate so much to the filters. I have a very thick filter that very few get through, not even my own family have to the fulliest, except for my granny. Idk why I do this, but I guess it's because of trying to please other people, as you said. Maybe I'm trying to protect myself aswell. I takes alot of trust and "research" in the other persons charachter before I can try to open up. I always change my ways, depending on who I'm talking to, always find myself mirrowing their bodylanguage or way of talking. This phenomenom is so strange to me. Most people I meet think I'm extroverted, but they are just seeing the filter I'm putting on to...I don't know what I'm trying to do. I think I do it because more or less grow inner panic in small talk situations, I can't take it when the conversation is about to become uncompfortable or not fluid/normal. Although I hate small talking this panic forces me to talk ALOT, since the awkward silence is even worse... Wow this comment is so messy, but can anyone relate?
Hi Hanna! Your comment is a year old and I happen to read it today. I relate to the video and your comment. Nodding at the family situation. The only one that knows more about me is my mom and even so, there are times where she has said something about me that I didn't expect her to say to someone else. Because of that I still feel like there are certain topics I can't disclose to her and I have to word it and choose carefully which to talk about, but I really value my relationship with her because it's not many that I can be myself around even if there are parts I think are risky to reveal. I also think infjs don't share ourselves because it would be overwhelming to have many people that know how we think and do things. It would be too much people to be exposed to, too many people to feel like we lose ourselves when we form trust with them thus making it harder to unlatch since we formed a strong friendship. It would be too draining, and we value having a small group of people who we can be ourselves with. We're very selective when it comes to others and at the same time there are many people who don't do that, and in a sense I think we're very aware of how we come across and protect ourselves to avoid being hurt. I'm not saying that people who are very open are most likely to be hurt, but we infjs are more serious when it comes to the things we talk about since they reveal a lot about how we think and many people are not interested in deep topics to the extent that infjs take it due to extreme preference to intuition. Even if we're not being ourselves with even the people closest to us and feel bad about it, I think it's important to know that we can appreciate things in our interactions with others and reveal at least a little to them (even if it may be in the most subtle way). We're all human, and many people also have friends to talk about this and that. We all wear masks. I sometimes think we're searching for something or someone who we can unmask ourselves and them in order to be who we are without judgement and just listen for what it is instead of arguments because life is short and why should we only talk on the first layer of conversation and arguments and conflicts when we could just be ourselves and be free. In essence all humans search for it and we're all the same, but since infjs have a high preference for intuition and the way our brain uses processes, we look beyond we the mask and therefore live and approach life differently than most feeling like we're different.
THIS DESCRIBES ME EXACTLY! I totally feel you! As an INFJ I've learned to hide my core by being cautious about who I share it with and protecting my inner emotions by faking them on the outside. And I've become so used to adapting to my environments so quickly, I've lost sight of who I am. I just recently discovered my type, so now I'm trying to come to terms with myself, and figure myself out and straighten out the knots I've created by blending in, and adapting.
INFJ here.. I love Dr Phil too!! Everyone I've told scoff at me for it. I really relate to everything you say here. We want to be liked but we also want to be authentic. We don't want to appeal to shallowness but sometimes we realize it's the only way to relate to people. A constant game of reconciliation.
ENFP: Things important to me are: 1) working through my emotions. I repressed a lot when I was growing up and when that eventually backfired I learned about uncovering and processing my buried thoughts; it's changed my life. The part that you might like is that I share this with people at work (most of my socializing) and if they like it we get closer and if they don't we move farther apart; it's awesome. I don't need to worry about whether someone will like it because if they don't they're not good for me. Of course I need to keep it positive and brief so as not to overwhelm but that's understood. 2) I guess I've just found that I share what's really going on in my life and those who like it get more and those who don't get the kaibosh. It's really liberating because I'm finding all of these fun people at work that are receptive. Of course my intuition can generally tell me who won't be interested but not so great at who will so it's a pleasant surprise. Now I find I have about 10 people at work I can share surprisingly deep stuff with. Of course I've worked through all of it before I talk to them so I'm not burdening them, I'm kind of enlightening them with my personal discoveries but it's still something I want and need to share with someone. And spreading it out over 10 people keeps any 1 from being overwhelmed; it's really amazing. And then the more I do it the more I can see who likes what so I go to this person to share that stuff and another person to share other kinds of stuff.
Thank you for your thoughts. Your so right about what we show others when we meet new people and it's truly exhausting. Your making a difference, thank you!
I relate to you so much.... everything you said is so true. I also love Dr. Phil. I think us INFJs love to watch extroverts on tv because it gives us a perspective of who we wanna be :)
I find this to be insanely accurate. I have very different ways of relating to people, and because of that, certain friends only see certain sides of me. I find I have friends in genres. I have the friends i can joke with where share our similar senses of humor, I have childhood friends for when we feel nostalgic, and I have friends i can have deep meaningful conversations with, but wouldn't necessarily joke with them about stuff when I feel silly. No one has ever seen all sides, nor would they want all sides. I keep a lot for myself, and as close as I'd like to be to someone significant, I find that I always keep some kind of distance.
Wow. Your comment resonates with me so much. I've always noticed my friendship 'genre' thing and wondered if it's just me. I think only my family have seen almost all my different sides, and even then I'm not sure.
Seems like there are only a special few who get to see what's going on inside. The guard of social pleasantries and natural introversion seems to get in the way of opening up, letting out everything, and fulfilling what could potentially lead to more meaningful relationships. I just wish it were easier to connect because there are a lot of really awesome people I meet but never really get to know because I subconsciously stumble worrying about leaving a good impression vs. just being myself.
I would say it's kind of scary that I can relate to you so much. I agree with everything, I just don't really understand this pleaser thing. Like, I hate to disappoint the people I love, but I don't know if it's the same thing of being a people pleaser. About the many sides, thanks for putting it up! Most of the time, I feel like I don't want to show my "real" side to certain people because they wouldn't understand or even value this part of me, the part I consider my true self, which includes the stuff I love with all my heart (like you said about Dr. Phil) and that are too precious to me to be shared like if it was nothing -- because that's what I see, that to the most part of people these precious things are nothing, but to me they're the most valuable things in the world. I'm pretty sure you know what I mean, you've just put it up. Thank you! :) It's kind of a relieve to know someone feels the same way.
+Alana Hoffmann glad you can relate :) thanks for sharing. I think it's comforting for both of us to know that there are other people out there who struggle with the same problem of feeling like an alien whilst craving human interaction/approval to stay 'sane'
You are so kind. Wonderful video. Im definitely the Introvert. I think it's number two, the picture with out the glass of wine-🙃. This is the view I only show to very very few. Only when I have to make a stand, I do the wine picture thingy. It's my ###J coming out. Then, go back to one when When I'm done. The room is quiet, or my peers are, I can so relate. That's my two diametrical sides. The clarity and the visual aids of your insight, follow through, and execution are spot on. I'm not fake, like you and can't possibly put up a front. Either I recuse my self from the situation or go back into my shell. I have to be true to my ideals and if someone is morally wrong, my ###J comes out. Thank you for you concise and succinct explanation. You Rock lil lady 🤜⚡️🤛🏼
I'm writing this one year and a couple of months after you posted this video, and I've only seen five minutes of it so far, but I just had to stop and thank you for it... you know when you find someone who surgically describes everything you could intuitively conceive about your life but could never really explain? The first filter, the superstar, is how I behave to 90% of people 90% of the time, just everyone I'm not intimate with. That was a brilliant explanation. Thanks! But my defensive behavior is quite different though... I feel like I had to hide the way I wanted to have an emotionally open, sincere conversation behind a "tough guy" costume and that feels awful. It feels like I had to protect Fe from showing up because my sensibility would make me vulnerable, but that kills me on the inside. Maybe some of us are always displaying Ti or even some Te and acting critically while all they wanted to say on their insides is "I love you, boundlessly and spontaneously, but I don't think you'd be as open to it as I am." Can you relate to this?? I'm now feeling just as touched as you seemed to be halfway across the video. it's like if my introverted intuition had given a lecture to introverted thinking and extraverted feeling that started with universal gravitation and finished with spiritualism, and now they're having a toast for science and understanding in a french rooftop restaurant and looking at the stars- in other words, mr. Brain is extremely happy because he has finally realized what was happening with mr. Heart during all those years. Thank you. THANK YOU *thank you* !Thank you! ~thank you~ that was the best insight I've had in the decade.
I see that this was posted so long ago but I just wanted to say thank you! This was very insightful. I hope that you might consider making more videos soon.
Everything you said is right on . I'm an INFJ personality and I feel the same way. P.s. I love watching Dr. Phil as well . you are an inspiration thank you .
Your video helps me to do something that I try to evite, normally -because of the people pleasing. It is : 'coming out' regarding my strong esoteric interests. People don't know what the hell I am talking about. I very much like your experience that the people you really feel a connection to, are the 'just you'-version of your three pictures. (But I do still very prepare for a meeting with someone who I am going to be open with regarding these interests...) ♥️👍
This is an awesome video. I totally agree with having to put up a show in the beginning however it can be very tiring to know that you have to put out so much on the first meeting. It's alot of pressure. I wish I could always have alot of energy.
6:41 "I just never feel like they get the full.. me." Pretty relatable for me. Even my best friend. Although aside from my ex, he's probably seen the most of me out of anyone else.
I absolutely love your video and I completely relate. I know that every person and infj is different in their own unique ways, but I feel like I really relate to the way you communicate and carry yourself. It's very refreshng because i really can't say that about many people. Thank you so much for sharing this video. A nice quote for all my fellow infj's, "We have glitter on the inside." :)
I don't mean this in the way that INFJs aren't unique individuals, but when I watch videos by INFJs I often feel I'm watching a video of myself. I FEEL SO UNDERSTOOD!!! (I actually almost cried watching this video, because I felt so understood.)
Thank you! I enjoyed this post. I can relate. I’m 56 years old and recently discovered my personality type (infj of course). Life has been difficult but discovering about myself at least helps me understand why I am the way that I am. It doesn’t make the struggle any easier as of yet but now I endure with some understanding. Recently I decided to become active on FB. I think because I am an enigma so FB gives me a platform to reveal some of myself…not all. You cannot reveal all because although we struggle we also have a gift as visionaries. Not all will appreciate that side of us. With that said, I do FB on my terms. Perhaps because of my age, I really don’t care how many likes or dislikes I get because I feel like I have a mission in being out there. As a matter of fact, I am very selective as to whom I accept a “friends” on my FB page. And because infjs generally have a mission for the good of others, my post reflect just that. I aim for depth and meaning even if I’m just posting a song. On FB, you have the power to dismiss anyone who can disrupt that flow (DOOR SLAM). So in my initial post, I introduced myself as an introvert (I didn’t think that some would be ready for the infj concept yet. And besides…it’s almost like having a superpower so like Superman, it’s just best to keep your identity inconspicuous. Let it be seen in your actions). And stated that I did not care for “small talk”, and that I hoped that my posts would be meaningful to some if not all. Once you discover your vision (my Christian faith has helped me to see mine), embrace it! Use your gift for the greater good!
Hey thank you for your video so much. It was completely relatable for me as an infj and i agree with everything you said about social media. Hopefully we can all embody an armour of courage to just be ourselves because who else can we be. Everybody else is already taken. Yet it is also something I'm striving to be better at everyday. Let's do this
INTP here... Nice description...my partner is INFJ and this pretty much is her. She puts on her very Fe side in social situations but is quite the opposite when we're alone. You also have the exact eye movements she has when we're conversing...focus at the camera/person for a moment then turn away in search of your next idea (very Ni). And she very much dislikes social media for the very same reasons... she doesn't like insincerity or lack of authenticity.
Lol. I am INTJ and there are a lot of cross over and similarity to INFJ. Listening to you explain things reminds me of how I explain things. Tangent details like your 'food coma' statement it makes sense in our heads and pertains to the story we are telling because it fits the timeline of how we are recalling it and replaying it in our heads. Most people are like huh? I love your chameleon analogy too. Very fitting.
I am an INFJ male and I can relate to this a lot. I think we all can. Although it doesn't feel like it, people will like you for you. You are very genuine when you talk here and that holds more weight than any superficial small talk, or your appearance. You are attractive both in physical appearance (even without the makeup) and substance. I've had issues with myself over these same feelings. It wasn't until I met my wife and really let go of the mask that I was able to accept me for me. No matter how bad I felt, how bad I thought I looked, or how bad I thought my own mind is at times, she accepts me and loves me everyday. It taught me to not be so on guard all the time. Although begrudgingly I admit those feeling aren't completely gone, they don't impact my life as much. I'm not saying you should go out and lay it all on your significant other, but try to be a little more open with the people close to you. They might surprise you. Surround yourself with people who like the real you and you'll find you'll be more comfortable in your own skin.
Social media does suck in that it makes people artificial in order to get the attention. But I watched your video and you were sincere. So I appreciate that and I think more people than you imagine are aware of the artificiality and it damages the message. The more authentic, then the more powerful and more influential we are.
I can totally relate to everything you say in this video! :) I'm also a chameleon in social situations. Always been, and always felt bad about it because if I spend too much time with a certain group then that "role" gets more space than I'm comfortable with. Feels like I lose myself in the process, and that's when I need a timeout and solo time (faster than usual that is). ;) I also 100% agree with you about social media. I actually stopped using Facebook back in 2006 even, because I felt it was moving everyone in a superficial direction. It all became a race to showcase an exterior that would infuse envy in others. Even though I have access to an exterior very suitable for that, I never wanna put that on display for such a reason. I'm a lot more down to earth as a person, and value true, tangible things. However I'm, relative to the majority, "weird" in many ways. Like for instance I prefer to actually send physical Christmas cards to those I love. What's the actual value of a *click* on Facebook compared to receiving something physical you know that your friend or loved one actually spent time on? :) Thank you for the video!
I love your visual aid in trying to describe our 3 filters, and I can totally relate to this subject too. I also didn't realize until your video how my feelings about social media and the gap it's creating in relationships, makes me sad too! Thank you for your insights into being an INFJ. Also you looked great in this video ;-) ~ peace and love from a fellow INFJ ♡
I am an INTJ and I can really relate to INFJ's. Find an INTJ friend,because they will understand you and give you incite more so than Dr Phil could ever hope to. I think it takes an Ni type to really understand an Ni type.We share the dominant Ni which is a huge part of our personalities. INFJ's are rare (unfortunately) and they are the only type that gets me (once I open up a bit). I feel comfortable around INFJ's (the very few I have met) so I tend to open up and be my true self around them.
I understand so wholly all your points. I'm so glad i stumbled upon MBTI, it so nice to appreciate and understand that you share the same feelings as me in situations, socially, towards myself and inner conflicts. Thank you :)
As Veronica wrote, "Thank you for your candor." Seriously, this is one of the most honest videos I've seen on RUclips. I am an INFJ myself and I totally agree with everything you said. 😄 Cheers!
Yepp had to comment here too because I'm an infj lol! So glad you do these kind videos now yay!! It feels good to relate to people. I never knew anyone like myself. And would of never found you in the thousands of gamers or makeup queens! 👍🏼😊
Wow. SO relatable... Thank you for sharing! Some of the important things for me right now are related to spirituality (which is NOT something I can discuss with everyone unfortunately...), feeling "lost" (career related), having to do something meaningful and/or productive. Also, as AriaAriel mentions - the importance of having conversations where we can share our real opinions on whatever topic... And writing, yes! (And no, nobody ever sees my written thoughts lol)
Thanks so much for your video. I wasn't sure if I was an infp or an infj but I see soooo much of myself in you. Keep up the good work:) Nice to know I'm not alone.
Beautiful. Everything is relatable and I love how in depth you go, even giving examples :> And I hope we'll find the courage someday to be that first guy, and find a good balance between idealism and perfectionism.
I know how you feel... just say whatever is on your mind... I'm an infj so I understand the feeling after sharing your interests with others but I think it's pretty cool and nice of you to actually make this video.. I thought a lot about just writing a comment.. though you made a whole video... I'm very happy that I found this video...its feels nice finding someone who can understand.. thank you :)
You speak to me... I love this and I feel everything you said on this video.. keep up and keep being real.. it inspires me as an infj to be true to who I really am and to be as honest as you ❤❤
I think its quite tough being INFJ especially in our younger years... We know we are a little different than most and our ego will tell us that we are unique and special. But I have found as i'v got older the ego starts to dissolve and this has been a blessing and a relief... Boundaries become more important that people pleasing. The most important thing is to try and be as authentic to your personality type as possible, find out your strengths and weaknesses and work on them. Then one can attain enlightenment... Wishing you all well on your journies.
5:00 - Completely. We mirror to engage but only to aid in us understanding what makes them tick. Then we decide whether these are people we want to reveal ourselves to. We are naturally believe in the good nature of people but after having some bad experiences of people being deceitful, we do tend to be more circumspect to look for true signs of them being genuine.
I know what you mean with Dr. Phil. I'm always stunned how accurately he understands the problem and the solution. As an INFJ it would take me a lot of time and I sometimes find I get sidetracked by trying to pull all of it apart and looking at it from so many angles.The good news is as an INFJ watching Dr. Phil I also can easily see how he comes to his conclusion. So inside of me and other INFJs is the same answer as Dr Phil gets. It's just inside of us and we have to find it. Ocassionally as an INFJ I will ponder what Dr. Phil said and come to the conclusion that he was wrong. So we can do that also.
This relates to me so much.. I put on an act and the only way I've gotten over social anxiety is with joking around and playing a role so others will want to talk to me. But often times I am afraid to tell people about my real life when I go home, how boring I can be, what my interests are, because I am secluded and my interests are very diverse . I know some people are boring and some people have diverse interests but they also aren't afraid to make different friends whilst I want to be neutral with others so I can make any friends I want even if they don't have the same interests as me. Honestly, maybe more people do this in society but they don't notice that they are doing it or it doesn't bother them. I suppose this isn't a negative trait .
I am an infj too, I could relate to everything that you said! a few things that are important to me are. drawing (the literal holes to my soul), fashion and the makeup industry and finding self balance.
At 0.08 I thought i am sure you are much more cheerful and pleasant around people. It's just that now you think you are alone, but you are actually not alone. I had just finished watching your other video about 5 things. And then 10 seconds later you said the same thing. Lol. funny.
INFJs!! We need to learn how to self empathize with ourselves. gorwing up we felt invalidated because of our personality types most people do not know how to validate our needs. so we grew up invalidated. hence so many of us have low self esteem , anixety, low self worth or toxic shame about who we are. But we need to learn how to self validate and take care of ourselves so we can be an INFJ with confidence!! Believe me it is extremely powerful.
Putting up the superstar filter is your way as a INFJ of extracting everything you need/want to know about the "new" person. It's subconsciously strategic, and a very efficient way to get your subject 'moving' and 'talking'. Your problem is shifting gears into the "real me" once you're comfortable and feel you can trust the individual. My mother taught me a Dutch saying that we all need to hear, especially us INFJs. 'Normaal is gek genoeg.' Normal is crazy enough. She always encouraged me just to be myself, because that's where I was safest, and also would be the most comfortable. It's been good advise.
Thanks for the video. Idk if I'm INFP or INFJ but today I certainly feel INFJ. It's like, when I'm alone I know exactly what I want to watch or listen to, but around others, I want them to be happy with the choice. I'll see what they like and chose something off thier list that I also like. Or else I just kind of drown in anxiety wondering what they are thinking about my choices. This does make me feel inauthentic at times and that really bothers me because I want do very bad to be seen, and understood, yet I continue to self sabatoge, by letting my fear essentially take the wheel. It's always going to be this way. It's very comforting to know I'm not alone.
It's unlikely that you're being someone other than who you are. We interact with the world through feeling, and it's as difficult for us to not be genuine as it is for people to fool us by not being genuine. It's more likely that you're shaping your personality by holding back parts of who you are, but holding back different aspects of yourself in different situations. This can be exhausting. There was a point where I realised that people were actually quite accepting, so I was just myself more with them. The reward is that you don't need to shut down and disconnect quite so often. As a fellow INFJ, I see who you are and, if you feel the need to hide that from the world, you're depriving them of the wonder of knowing you.
I don't know why but even though iam an ENFP i can relate to some of what your going through btw .. YOU'RE REALLY BEAUTIFUL JUST LIKE THAT & WITHOUT MAKEUP & just hearing you doubt that makes me sure that the world has been infected PS: if i were anywhere near you i would give you an Iris and told you how gorgeous you are
If I get too specific, I'll write a book. ..and it's 2:30am. But.. I 100% related to what you said. ..From having "secret passions" and "guilty pleasures" that may seem shallow externally, or that you fear will be seen that way (Like Dr Phil) ..but that you are able to see a deeper meaning to. I relate in the way that I'm a musician and kind of a "purist" about it, so people are absolutely shocked at some of the random and downright saccharine pop music that's on my iPod or that I say influences my writing. Then there's the filter analogy. I've really been thinking A LOT lately about trying to be more mindful of seeing people through their own filter. I feel that it comes pretty naturally to me, but I sometimes take it for granted and don't do as well as I should. I still get wrapped up in my own interpretations sometimes. It's really important that I do better because it's something I want from others very badly and I can't stand being a hypocrite. The other side of the filter idea applies to myself insomuch that I feel my filter is more than slightly different than other people. It's close enough externally, but if you get to know me well, I'm a total alien. That's pretty INFJ, though, I suppose. I think a lot about how to me, "the sky is purple".. and I just pretend that it's blue so I don't freak everyone else out. But I know that it's actually purple. ..and I just want people in my life who I can trust to tell and will want listen to why I think so sometimes. Sometimes I get the vibe that people think that I just THINK I have a different perception and a deeper connection to myself and others. The people who actually see it and recognize it to be true are few and far between, but very dear to me. Not because it fuels my ego to be seen as special, but because it feels like they are the only ones who really see me at all. Everyone else just gets a hologram of varying depth and quality. Sometimes that's my fault, sometimes it's theirs, and sometimes it just "is what it is". If that makes sense..
Waaaaaahhhh!!! 😭 (gasps for air) Waaaaaaahhhh!!! 😭 I'm drowning in tears. You just gently poured out my soul, my very essence onto a page and I watched as it formed a beautiful portrait. With every word a new aspect of personality, of thinking, of feeling was displayed. It streamed down the page into a brilliant masterpiece full of vibrant colors and breathtaking detail. Simply profound. That paragraph reached into my core, my heart and soul, and made me weep like a small child. I have never been so beautifully, so compassionately and so accurately portrayed. And yet... you don't even know I exist.
You're very pretty, and I can relate. I'm one who have become bitter of the way I always try to step aside for other people, even how I feel and react about events, other people's actions, or even their own reactions to things. I've realized that I allow people to be who they are, and how they are at the moment, and believe in a future, but people don't return the favor and grace. This makes me angry, and I'm in that place at the moment. I don't know if you guys have experienced this, and if there's any tips, you could save my life.
when I’m meeting a new person, I get to know them and I’ve noticed that I tend to imitate their behaviour around them and like I just see what kind of person they are based on their sense of humour, interests, and just the way they communicate, and I imitate their humour etc to kind of get them to like me? not necessarily get them to like me but get them to feel like I understand stand them and like connect with them. does that make sense?
Hi been following you on and off for a little while I really liked the report why infjs like mbti. I am a 61male,young thinking poet,who has only recently discovered mbti, it appears I am a classic infj but am still not 100 percent convinced , I have taken the test 3 times and one was another type ,Intj that one but so close as to be,49/51? I have been fascinated with it,I have byested the whole family much to there amusement,keep up the good work VanRyan
This is a huge sign aka synchronicity, I'm so happy that I've come across this video. The last several months or so I've gotten really close to this guy. Prior to this we were close in a sense of individuals who've known each other for a long time but non of us ever disclosed any personal information. We are very different to say the least. His an MBTI is ISTP and LEO star sign, I'm an INFJ and VIRGO star sign. With that being said we come from total two different backgrounds. As an empathy we're aware that we can mimic other people's personality, that's why it comes natural to fit in any social spectrum at any given time. Although mimicking other people's emotions and personality comes natural it can be draining, it's all about them and accommodating their needs at your own expense too much self sacrifice. As time has passed he feels safe and freely to share his personal life with me. Even though we've gotten a lot closer , I still manage to keep my personal life off topic most of the time and if we touch on it, its never deep stuff unlike him. He misunderstands me so much maybe due to my lack of articulation, with that being taken into consideration. I feel like 70% of the time when we're talking it's always meanless small talk, I don't care for ( guilty of zoning out🙊🤔🌌☁️). Because he misunderstands me so much this has made me apprehensive about opening up a bit more. His a logical person he lacks emotional intelligence where as I'm both logical/ analytical and emotional intelligent. When we've an disagreement it's mostly because he only looks at things from logical point of view and he dismisses other logical point of views regarding the matter. For instance we could've an disagreement/ misunderstood because he refuses to accept that they maybe several logical point of views regarding the issue of at hand. He will come up with one or two logical explanation, whereas I maybe see things from all logical angle including his and emotional angle but he will refuse to consider my insights ( maybe because he misunderstands me) He knows how much of an ethical/ principled person I am , I always uphold myself to high standards/ values. He often asks me about my views on issues concerning family dynamics " what is good father". While we were talking about our hopes for the future, I was consciously aware that I was about peel away some layers to reveal a bit my true self. I told him that when I was growing up, I always felt different not normal, alienated from the rest the society I didn't fit in anywhere. His reply to me was it can't have been easy coming to London at 15 years from South Africa. Which is true it was difficult to adjust to life, that's not the case now I'm settled now and it wasn't relevant to the point I was making. I told him even when I was in SA I felt the same way, a change of geographic location had nothing to do with it. He then replied to me "does anybody really feel like they fit in somehow". What he said was logical, but he was still misunderstanding me. I tried to explain furthermore by giving scenarios but at the end he didn't reply. Even a change of subject would've been less painful, I feel like I just spilled guts to him for absolutely nothing. These filters work for us because people who can't really comprehend us old soul, it's a defence mechanism.
Your soooo not alone, young lady. As I hit my older years, I've learned and you will too, that you are A GIFT TO THE WORLD FROM GOD. But, that doesn't mean an easy life. However the best thing you will learn, is that most people are so self absorbed, that half of our worries never even cross their minds. Besides, You are cute as a little bugs ear. I notice a very PURE BEAUTY INSIDE YOU. Stop thinking start living.
Wow - this is a great video!! Thanks for making it. Lol, the infj just oozes out of you in this video...which I love! You have a very genuine and caring aura about you. It's very comforting and cool when I stumble on an infj video where the person talking seems to think and speak about the same things as I do. Don't be too hard on social media though :) ...afterall, it lets me meet and experience other fantastic infj's (like yourself). So far, I'm not aware of meeting any other infj's in 'real life' and we're hard to come by. I get your frustration with it though. Believe me when I say that we can "all" see clearly that you are very pretty with or without make-up. So try to strike down that worry if you can. It would be great to see a little bit of interactivity in your comments sections though. If I had one wish - it would be to read some responses from you in the comments. I'll definitely check out more of your videos, so keep up the amazing work. Love your casual style, insights and sincerity! Not a bad little artist either, hehe :P Are you a lefty too? Happy Holidays!!
solohouette Anytime Sarah. The praise was warranted :) I checked out your other 2 videos also. Good stuff! I enjoy public speaking and performing also - which is interesting considering how introverted I am behind the scenes (most 'acquaintances' don't know I'm introverted...only close friends and family do). It's a strange dynamic that sets up because I make friends super easy, get invited out a lot, and then have to find ways to say no to protect my 'recharge/repair' time. You and "Infj Sean" are really inspiring me to start making some youtube videos but I'm still a little afraid to. Revealing my inner world to 'the world' is an intimidating thought so i commend your bravery. Plus I don't really like seeing myself on cam since my face isn't perfectly symmetrical and it screams out to me (It's habituated when I see myself in a mirror but a webcam reverses the image so those details become really loud). One day I'd like to contribute to the infj community on here though. I'll stop the rambling crazy talk there, lol. But thanks for granting my wish and replying to me ;) Definitely love to see more of that on your channel and I think it'll boost it up even more. Really looking forward to your next video! PS - Ah, a 'righty', eh? Well no one's perfect hehe (only teasing). Mind if I ask your major? Mine was pyschology, minor sociology.
+Jake Bauer I don't intend on becoming famous on youtube..just enjoy the ability to connect with people and offer life lessons through experience. Making vids is a bit intimidating but it's not too bad. I'm a business major but my favorite subject is psychology!
+solohouette Oh, I forgot to mention a guilty pleasure of mine is watching Judge Judy. She's a semi-hero of mine, lol. For the same reason you watch Dr. Phil. :) PS - don't feel compelled to comment if your busy. I already got my wish after-all hehe...just forgot to post this little known fact about myself that mirrors one of yours.
Yes! I couldn't have said it better myself! Before I knew I was an INFJ, I used to describe myself as if there were "two of me" when explaining my thoughts/feelings to those close to me. In retrospect, i probably sounded like a total loon, but this video really assures me that SOMEONE gets what I mean. I've only just recently found my type and it's been such a revelation to finally understand that it's normal to feel how I feel. And that there are actually others like me! I've always felt like I was in the wrong world, but now I've finally found my people :)
We should form a INFJ justice league. Who wanna join??
Captain Planet I'm in!
Uncle lana is in boiii
I call dibs on Wonder woman! Lol
Is there still room for me?
I'm in.
I completely relate to this, the way she speaks and is so conscious of herself and her audience, the beautiful sadness in her eyes is something I rarely see in anyone but myself. it's true, I put my best self out there and when I can't I don't put myself out at all, so no one knows what I'm like when I'm not my best. It is extremely hard for me to let that guard down and let people see me when I'm vulnerable and needy because I am so easily disappointed. I get extremely passionate and self aware and if I feel misunderstood while I feel so excited it's absolutely devastating. I trust myself to love and appreciate my true oddness but it's nearly impossible to trust that anyone else even could. sometimes I do find people who can see me for who I am, and I can feel that but it is still very difficult to let myself believe that they don't think I'm a freak. I'd prefer for everyone to think of me as someone they like than to have any problems with who I am, it would hurt too much
Beautifully written..I found your words to be very touching :)
sounds like you are ready for a breakthrough. ...watch charles bukowski - all the way - and move with courage into the world as your true self.... Respectfully - David - INFJ
Natalie Nathan h
So true
I relate to this and an INFP 😢
Even the most socially active INFJ will always desire deep conversation.I think what shifts is the understanding that others perfer to hide behind Social graces,like children playing hide and go seek. INFJs are incredibly adaptable soooooo....
letting go is key. The social game INFJs seem to quietly win because, INFJs truly see behind the veil of it all.
"we adapt to our environment and it makes us lose sight of the person we really are..." thank you for putting that into words. Made me sob & my heart ache to hear. Deeply affecting reminder.
Youre one of the few INFJ youtubers I actually can relate to.
+cepesepe (being infj myself)
+cepesepe she's one of the few INFJ youtubers who seems to me like an INFJ
lol, i was doubting my type at first because of people that arent actually infj but say they are, seemed so different from me.. who are the other ones that seems like "real" infjs to you?
can't recall, but she fits my personal archetype for that character type, very much so.
pjc 73 Thinker of Everything maybe?
Jung said that Ni dominant types (INFJ and INTJ) live the most interesting lives,but also the most difficult lives. Both types share the same fear of being vulnerable and I think that is where the "protective" nature come from. Great video.
sounds logical, to compensate such "power", we have to have a "weak" spot, or a weak side/dark side
when did jung say that?
That's super interesting, am definitely going to check it out and find out more on this.
It's not a fear of being vulnerable. It's that we see how shallow people are and we have observed certain behaviors of certain people that help us to distinguish who is worth it and who's not. Don't cast your pearls to the swine.
This.
This is the first video that i could 100% relate to!Thank you! :-)
Things that i think are the most important to me:
1.writing
writing is my medicine.I write a lot but idk,i couldn't show them to anyone,even my close friends.because it'll feel like they could see through me or the 'me' inside.
2.the sky
i have such huge passion for the sky(especially),the universe,the entire world.I think about this a lot & constantly,but when i tell people about it,they can't seem to relate/feel as amazed as i do.It saddens me sometimes.
3.the idea of individuality
the fact that we all have our own mind and thoughts and idea and interest ,etc.i crave deep conversations,i want to know them more and how they think,in hope that they can accept the 'real' me too.
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:-)
Thank you for sharing! I can also relate to everything that you've described :)
Wow! You are such a beautiful gem. We are the most beautiful creatures on the planet... (maybe I'm a tiny bit biased). 😉 I LOVE deep thinkers! Most of the world is so terribly shallow. No one wants to connect, share fascinating information or honor our differences by coming to really understand one another. We need a safe place to come together and be accepted and loved for who we are inside. We need a comforting space where we can take off our many masks, come out of our shells and show our true selves, the souls that we wouldn't dare expose to the cruel, unfeeling, judgemental outside world. It's really encouraging to see others who feel and think like me.
Can 100% relate, WOW
Such a good feeling to be reading things that actually are soo relatable to you and yess, I really agree with point 1! And 2! 3 is kinda hard, regarding Trust, but yeah, understand this really really good! :)
The sky!!!!! THE. SKY!!!!❤️❤️❤️
It's so fascinating and beautiful! 😍
I never knew I was INFJ until I recently took a test and watched videos to verify how I am. As a male, being INFJ is very very rare and I understand what you mean by being a chameleon. In High School I was able to fit with the Jocks, geeks, nerds, and other groups and was liked by all but was always known as a reserved quiet type and loner. It's very interesting to know others like me.
Im in high school and this explains my life currently perfectly.
there are indeed 2 sides to every INFJ:
- the front side
- the back side
Yeah this is kinda late but LMFAO 😂😂😂
This is also kinda late but haha
Yes, yes, yes I can definitely relate. I really struggle with being my honest self around most people. Sometimes in the moment I won't ever realize it, but I tend to unconsciously tailor my opinions an response to the other person's expectations. And whenever I do reveal more, or have the courage to speak up, some people tend to be shocked and surprised.
I am really really thankful, because I have one friend who I can talk to literally anything about and we later discovered that we're both INFJs. I feel so lucky to have her as my best friend because she makes it incredibly easy to open up my most honest opinions.
I wonder if it's more of an INFJ tendency to people please, to worry way too much about how other people see you, and to feel like you have to be Me Plus (default me isn't good enough). I certainly struggle with all of those. Here's some lessons I'm still trying to learn about those:
1. People pleasing: The more I try to *make* others happy the more I self-erase. My job is only to strive to bring an atmosphere everywhere I go that allows others to feel ok being who they are. If I hide this sacred inner self from others then they never really like me but they like my mask. That atmosphere is generated when I'm ok being myself.
2. Others opinions: I struggle so hard with this one. The best way (and hardest) to stop this is to be myself 100% of the time and get used to people disagreeing with me or not liking what I do.
3. Me+: We've all gotten the impression that we have to be me plus more confident, funny, engaging, intelligent, etc. If it's an external 'voice' then maybe reconsider how much time you spend with those people or find better people altogether. If it's internal, trace the origin of that rule/mantra/lesson, understand it with your current knowledge, and give that story a name. So when it pops into your heard you can say "Oh, that's just the ol' Me Plus story." Sometimes that alone will help, other times you'll have to reiterate the faults of the story. Sometimes it won't work and you'll have to work through those emotions/thoughts.
One benefit of being myself regardless of any 'negative' emotions is: you find out what people will do when faced with your vulnerability. They may use that knowledge against you or use it to help understand you. I work to apportion my time with others to the degree that they treat me well when I'm vulnerable.
Also, I tear up reading about INFJ. The feeling of being understood and knowing I'm ok the way I am is amazing :)
Oh my god! I think about this concept all the time. I can really relate to this. I usually only reveal some aspects of myself. I'm often afraid to reveal that I'm into some really abstract things. I like fitness & video games, but I'm into a lot of spirtual and philosophical things that many people would not understand.
Holy shit, I agree and relate to everything you said. From wanting to be the "real" you around friends to your opinions on social media. I also struggle with showing my true self to other people because like you said, I want to please people and talk about things that also interest them, so I'm hesitant to show them some of the things that I'm into. This may not be the best example, but I smoke weed and my opinions are that I am all for it because of the beneficial effects it has on me personally. I finally told my mom after hiding it for years and the reason I was hiding it was because I was afraid that she'd be disappointed, wouldn't trust me, or look at me differently now. But I just couldn't stand that she didn't know the "full" me and I wanted her to know because I wanted to better my relationship with her. I was talking to her about how I'm scared to let other people, like my cousins, know about things I'm into that they may or may not agree with. But I'm really trying to get better at sharing things about myself with people I care about even if they don't necessarily like it, because I want them to know my true self and to deepen my relationship with them.
Being authentic is the most attractive way to be. You come across as someone who is vulnerable and real and it's so refreshing to me. My biggest challenge in watching your videos is not getting pulled away from what you are saying because of your physical beauty and mannerisms. You absolutely do not need make up to be beautiful, and your spontaneous expressions come across as genuine. I don't know if other infj's value authenticity as much as I do, but you are showing me how to be real and it's sooooo valuable. You insights are spot on and describe me to a t as I'm still trying to sort out how to go about in the world.
Just listening to you I feel a fierce attraction to you, it's crazy. I just love hearing you think! Someone like me!
Yes, be yourself. As an INFJ I do present a duality like you speak of, but its more like; meeting for the first time? You see the outside of my house. Becoming my friend? I show you the inside.
I crave to show people the inside, but they have to be meaningful people... and I have so few of them.
Wow, this made me think a lot about the way how I've been all my life. I never thought about it that way, but I do have two sides to myself, the side of me that conforms to fit in and the genuine me. I never knew that I was an INFJ until recently and watching insightful videos like these have really helped me discover who and what I am. Thanks!
I love all your videos but this one is my favorite. As a fellow INFJ I love how honest and unfiltered you are here. I feel the same way with the card you show the world, I do that every single day. And when you said "I feel like no one gets the real me", my God did you nail it. Please keep making videos. I feel so much better knowing someone like you "gets it"
Authenticity is everything! Always be true to your self!!
I relate so much to the filters. I have a very thick filter that very few get through, not even my own family have to the fulliest, except for my granny. Idk why I do this, but I guess it's because of trying to please other people, as you said. Maybe I'm trying to protect myself aswell. I takes alot of trust and "research" in the other persons charachter before I can try to open up. I always change my ways, depending on who I'm talking to, always find myself mirrowing their bodylanguage or way of talking. This phenomenom is so strange to me. Most people I meet think I'm extroverted, but they are just seeing the filter I'm putting on to...I don't know what I'm trying to do. I think I do it because more or less grow inner panic in small talk situations, I can't take it when the conversation is about to become uncompfortable or not fluid/normal. Although I hate small talking this panic forces me to talk ALOT, since the awkward silence is even worse... Wow this comment is so messy, but can anyone relate?
Hi Hanna! Your comment is a year old and I happen to read it today. I relate to the video and your comment. Nodding at the family situation. The only one that knows more about me is my mom and even so, there are times where she has said something about me that I didn't expect her to say to someone else. Because of that I still feel like there are certain topics I can't disclose to her and I have to word it and choose carefully which to talk about, but I really value my relationship with her because it's not many that I can be myself around even if there are parts I think are risky to reveal. I also think infjs don't share ourselves because it would be overwhelming to have many people that know how we think and do things. It would be too much people to be exposed to, too many people to feel like we lose ourselves when we form trust with them thus making it harder to unlatch since we formed a strong friendship. It would be too draining, and we value having a small group of people who we can be ourselves with. We're very selective when it comes to others and at the same time there are many people who don't do that, and in a sense I think we're very aware of how we come across and protect ourselves to avoid being hurt. I'm not saying that people who are very open are most likely to be hurt, but we infjs are more serious when it comes to the things we talk about since they reveal a lot about how we think and many people are not interested in deep topics to the extent that infjs take it due to extreme preference to intuition. Even if we're not being ourselves with even the people closest to us and feel bad about it, I think it's important to know that we can appreciate things in our interactions with others and reveal at least a little to them (even if it may be in the most subtle way). We're all human, and many people also have friends to talk about this and that. We all wear masks. I sometimes think we're searching for something or someone who we can unmask ourselves and them in order to be who we are without judgement and just listen for what it is instead of arguments because life is short and why should we only talk on the first layer of conversation and arguments and conflicts when we could just be ourselves and be free. In essence all humans search for it and we're all the same, but since infjs have a high preference for intuition and the way our brain uses processes, we look beyond we the mask and therefore live and approach life differently than most feeling like we're different.
THIS DESCRIBES ME EXACTLY!
I totally feel you! As an INFJ I've learned to hide my core by being cautious about who I share it with and protecting my inner emotions by faking them on the outside. And I've become so used to adapting to my environments so quickly, I've lost sight of who I am. I just recently discovered my type, so now I'm trying to come to terms with myself, and figure myself out and straighten out the knots I've created by blending in, and adapting.
INFJ here.. I love Dr Phil too!! Everyone I've told scoff at me for it. I really relate to everything you say here. We want to be liked but we also want to be authentic. We don't want to appeal to shallowness but sometimes we realize it's the only way to relate to people. A constant game of reconciliation.
ENFP: Things important to me are: 1) working through my emotions. I repressed a lot when I was growing up and when that eventually backfired I learned about uncovering and processing my buried thoughts; it's changed my life. The part that you might like is that I share this with people at work (most of my socializing) and if they like it we get closer and if they don't we move farther apart; it's awesome. I don't need to worry about whether someone will like it because if they don't they're not good for me. Of course I need to keep it positive and brief so as not to overwhelm but that's understood. 2) I guess I've just found that I share what's really going on in my life and those who like it get more and those who don't get the kaibosh. It's really liberating because I'm finding all of these fun people at work that are receptive. Of course my intuition can generally tell me who won't be interested but not so great at who will so it's a pleasant surprise. Now I find I have about 10 people at work I can share surprisingly deep stuff with. Of course I've worked through all of it before I talk to them so I'm not burdening them, I'm kind of enlightening them with my personal discoveries but it's still something I want and need to share with someone. And spreading it out over 10 people keeps any 1 from being overwhelmed; it's really amazing. And then the more I do it the more I can see who likes what so I go to this person to share that stuff and another person to share other kinds of stuff.
Interesting :)
@@claramercier7924 nice
Thank you for your thoughts. Your so right about what we show others when we meet new people and it's truly exhausting. Your making a difference, thank you!
A really great and honest video
Keep up the good work
Greetings from an INFJ psychiatrist
Idealseeker بتتكلم عربي ؟ 😮
Idealseeker so lucky to be working in psychiatry , I’m a clinical doctor and it’s not always fun.
I relate to you so much.... everything you said is so true. I also love Dr. Phil. I think us INFJs love to watch extroverts on tv because it gives us a perspective of who we wanna be :)
I find this to be insanely accurate. I have very different ways of relating to people, and because of that, certain friends only see certain sides of me. I find I have friends in genres. I have the friends i can joke with where share our similar senses of humor, I have childhood friends for when we feel nostalgic, and I have friends i can have deep meaningful conversations with, but wouldn't necessarily joke with them about stuff when I feel silly. No one has ever seen all sides, nor would they want all sides. I keep a lot for myself, and as close as I'd like to be to someone significant, I find that I always keep some kind of distance.
Wow. Your comment resonates with me so much. I've always noticed my friendship 'genre' thing and wondered if it's just me. I think only my family have seen almost all my different sides, and even then I'm not sure.
Seems like there are only a special few who get to see what's going on inside. The guard of social pleasantries and natural introversion seems to get in the way of opening up, letting out everything, and fulfilling what could potentially lead to more meaningful relationships. I just wish it were easier to connect because there are a lot of really awesome people I meet but never really get to know because I subconsciously stumble worrying about leaving a good impression vs. just being myself.
I would say it's kind of scary that I can relate to you so much. I agree with everything, I just don't really understand this pleaser thing. Like, I hate to disappoint the people I love, but I don't know if it's the same thing of being a people pleaser. About the many sides, thanks for putting it up! Most of the time, I feel like I don't want to show my "real" side to certain people because they wouldn't understand or even value this part of me, the part I consider my true self, which includes the stuff I love with all my heart (like you said about Dr. Phil) and that are too precious to me to be shared like if it was nothing -- because that's what I see, that to the most part of people these precious things are nothing, but to me they're the most valuable things in the world. I'm pretty sure you know what I mean, you've just put it up. Thank you! :) It's kind of a relieve to know someone feels the same way.
+Alana Hoffmann glad you can relate :) thanks for sharing. I think it's comforting for both of us to know that there are other people out there who struggle with the same problem of feeling like an alien whilst craving human interaction/approval to stay 'sane'
+solohouette what does INFJ stand for?
+Gordan m'gleb it's one of 16 personality types classified in the myers briggs system. it stands for introvert, iNtuitive, feeling, and judging
You are so kind. Wonderful video. Im definitely the Introvert. I think it's number two, the picture with out the glass of wine-🙃. This is the view I only show to very very few. Only when I have to make a stand, I do the wine picture thingy. It's my ###J coming out. Then, go back to one when When I'm done. The room is quiet, or my peers are, I can so relate. That's my two diametrical sides. The clarity and the visual aids of your insight, follow through, and execution are spot on. I'm not fake, like you and can't possibly put up a front. Either I recuse my self from the situation or go back into my shell. I have to be true to my ideals and if someone is morally wrong, my ###J comes out. Thank you for you concise and succinct explanation. You Rock lil lady 🤜⚡️🤛🏼
I'm writing this one year and a couple of months after you posted this video, and I've only seen five minutes of it so far, but I just had to stop and thank you for it... you know when you find someone who surgically describes everything you could intuitively conceive about your life but could never really explain? The first filter, the superstar, is how I behave to 90% of people 90% of the time, just everyone I'm not intimate with. That was a brilliant explanation. Thanks!
But my defensive behavior is quite different though... I feel like I had to hide the way I wanted to have an emotionally open, sincere conversation behind a "tough guy" costume and that feels awful. It feels like I had to protect Fe from showing up because my sensibility would make me vulnerable, but that kills me on the inside.
Maybe some of us are always displaying Ti or even some Te and acting critically while all they wanted to say on their insides is "I love you, boundlessly and spontaneously, but I don't think you'd be as open to it as I am." Can you relate to this??
I'm now feeling just as touched as you seemed to be halfway across the video. it's like if my introverted intuition had given a lecture to introverted thinking and extraverted feeling that started with universal gravitation and finished with spiritualism, and now they're having a toast for science and understanding in a french rooftop restaurant and looking at the stars- in other words, mr. Brain is extremely happy because he has finally realized what was happening with mr. Heart during all those years.
Thank you. THANK YOU *thank you* !Thank you! ~thank you~ that was the best insight I've had in the decade.
Your authenticity is very endearing.
Your videos are so insightful and I can relate a lot to it! Thanks and keep it coming!!:D
I see that this was posted so long ago but I just wanted to say thank you! This was very insightful. I hope that you might consider making more videos soon.
Everything you said is right on . I'm an INFJ personality and I feel the same way. P.s. I love watching Dr. Phil as well . you are an inspiration thank you .
Your video helps me to do something that I try to evite, normally -because of the people pleasing. It is : 'coming out' regarding my strong esoteric interests. People don't know what the hell I am talking about.
I very much like your experience that the people you really feel a connection to, are the 'just you'-version of your three pictures. (But I do still very prepare for a meeting with someone who I am going to be open with regarding these interests...)
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Yes I totally relate. Thanks for sharing. So many of your words ring true for me.
I love your honestly and that your able to share all of this online with so many people watching, I may not be able to do that. So great Job.
Less than 2% of the population... Rare birds, indeed... As a fellow INFJ, I appreciate your candor, your honesty, and sharing your insights with us.
This is an awesome video. I totally agree with having to put up a show in the beginning however it can be very tiring to know that you have to put out so much on the first meeting. It's alot of pressure. I wish I could always have alot of energy.
Be authentic....be you.....you are wonderful 🙏🏼❤️
6:41 "I just never feel like they get the full.. me." Pretty relatable for me. Even my best friend. Although aside from my ex, he's probably seen the most of me out of anyone else.
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I absolutely love your video and I completely relate. I know that every person and infj is different in their own unique ways, but I feel like I really relate to the way you communicate and carry yourself. It's very refreshng because i really can't say that about many people. Thank you so much for sharing this video. A nice quote for all my fellow infj's, "We have glitter on the inside." :)
I don't mean this in the way that INFJs aren't unique individuals, but when I watch videos by INFJs I often feel I'm watching a video of myself. I FEEL SO UNDERSTOOD!!!
(I actually almost cried watching this video, because I felt so understood.)
I absolutely relate to what you've been saying. Amazing comments on this video too.
Keep it up,
A fellow INFJ.
Thank you! I enjoyed this post. I can relate. I’m 56 years old and recently discovered my personality type (infj of course). Life has been difficult but discovering about myself at least helps me understand why I am the way that I am. It doesn’t make the struggle any easier as of yet but now I endure with some understanding. Recently I decided to become active on FB. I think because I am an enigma so FB gives me a platform to reveal some of myself…not all. You cannot reveal all because although we struggle we also have a gift as visionaries. Not all will appreciate that side of us. With that said, I do FB on my terms. Perhaps because of my age, I really don’t care how many likes or dislikes I get because I feel like I have a mission in being out there. As a matter of fact, I am very selective as to whom I accept a “friends” on my FB page. And because infjs generally have a mission for the good of others, my post reflect just that. I aim for depth and meaning even if I’m just posting a song. On FB, you have the power to dismiss anyone who can disrupt that flow (DOOR SLAM). So in my initial post, I introduced myself as an introvert (I didn’t think that some would be ready for the infj concept yet. And besides…it’s almost like having a superpower so like Superman, it’s just best to keep your identity inconspicuous. Let it be seen in your actions). And stated that I did not care for “small talk”, and that I hoped that my posts would be meaningful to some if not all. Once you discover your vision (my Christian faith has helped me to see mine), embrace it! Use your gift for the greater good!
Hey thank you for your video so much. It was completely relatable for me as an infj and i agree with everything you said about social media. Hopefully we can all embody an armour of courage to just be ourselves because who else can we be. Everybody else is already taken. Yet it is also something I'm striving to be better at everyday. Let's do this
INTP here... Nice description...my partner is INFJ and this pretty much is her. She puts on her very Fe side in social situations but is quite the opposite when we're alone. You also have the exact eye movements she has when we're conversing...focus at the camera/person for a moment then turn away in search of your next idea (very Ni). And she very much dislikes social media for the very same reasons... she doesn't like insincerity or lack of authenticity.
Lol. I am INTJ and there are a lot of cross over and similarity to INFJ. Listening to you explain things reminds me of how I explain things. Tangent details like your 'food coma' statement it makes sense in our heads and pertains to the story we are telling because it fits the timeline of how we are recalling it and replaying it in our heads. Most people are like huh? I love your chameleon analogy too. Very fitting.
I am an INFJ male and I can relate to this a lot. I think we all can. Although it doesn't feel like it, people will like you for you. You are very genuine when you talk here and that holds more weight than any superficial small talk, or your appearance. You are attractive both in physical appearance (even without the makeup) and substance. I've had issues with myself over these same feelings. It wasn't until I met my wife and really let go of the mask that I was able to accept me for me. No matter how bad I felt, how bad I thought I looked, or how bad I thought my own mind is at times, she accepts me and loves me everyday. It taught me to not be so on guard all the time. Although begrudgingly I admit those feeling aren't completely gone, they don't impact my life as much.
I'm not saying you should go out and lay it all on your significant other, but try to be a little more open with the people close to you. They might surprise you. Surround yourself with people who like the real you and you'll find you'll be more comfortable in your own skin.
Social media does suck in that it makes people artificial in order to get the attention. But I watched your video and you were sincere. So I appreciate that and I think more people than you imagine are aware of the artificiality and it damages the message. The more authentic, then the more powerful and more influential we are.
I can totally relate to everything you say in this video! :)
I'm also a chameleon in social situations. Always been, and always felt bad about it because if I spend too much time with a certain group then that "role" gets more space than I'm comfortable with. Feels like I lose myself in the process, and that's when I need a timeout and solo time (faster than usual that is). ;)
I also 100% agree with you about social media. I actually stopped using Facebook back in 2006 even, because I felt it was moving everyone in a superficial direction. It all became a race to showcase an exterior that would infuse envy in others. Even though I have access to an exterior very suitable for that, I never wanna put that on display for such a reason. I'm a lot more down to earth as a person, and value true, tangible things.
However I'm, relative to the majority, "weird" in many ways. Like for instance I prefer to actually send physical Christmas cards to those I love. What's the actual value of a *click* on Facebook compared to receiving something physical you know that your friend or loved one actually spent time on? :)
Thank you for the video!
Older INFJ here. Great video! 😊Be yourself, be yourself, be yourself! It’s what we’re here to do, and nothing will bring you more joy
I love your visual aid in trying to describe our 3 filters, and I can totally relate to this subject too. I also didn't realize until your video how my feelings about social media and the gap it's creating in relationships, makes me sad too! Thank you for your insights into being an INFJ. Also you looked great in this video ;-) ~ peace and love from a fellow INFJ ♡
I am an INTJ and I can really relate to INFJ's. Find an INTJ friend,because they will understand you and give you incite more so than Dr Phil could ever hope to. I think it takes an Ni type to really understand an Ni type.We share the dominant Ni which is a huge part of our personalities. INFJ's are rare (unfortunately) and they are the only type that gets me (once I open up a bit). I feel comfortable around INFJ's (the very few I have met) so I tend to open up and be my true self around them.
I understand so wholly all your points. I'm so glad i stumbled upon MBTI, it so nice to appreciate and understand that you share the same feelings as me in situations, socially, towards myself and inner conflicts. Thank you :)
As Veronica wrote, "Thank you for your candor."
Seriously, this is one of the most honest videos I've seen on RUclips. I am an INFJ myself and I totally agree with everything you said. 😄
Cheers!
Yepp had to comment here too because I'm an infj lol! So glad you do these kind videos now yay!! It feels good to relate to people. I never knew anyone like myself. And would of never found you in the thousands of gamers or makeup queens! 👍🏼😊
Thank you, that's great to hear :)
Wow. SO relatable... Thank you for sharing! Some of the important things for me right now are related to spirituality (which is NOT something I can discuss with everyone unfortunately...), feeling "lost" (career related), having to do something meaningful and/or productive. Also, as AriaAriel mentions - the importance of having conversations where we can share our real opinions on whatever topic... And writing, yes! (And no, nobody ever sees my written thoughts lol)
Thanks so much for your video. I wasn't sure if I was an infp or an infj but I see soooo much of myself in you. Keep up the good work:) Nice to know I'm not alone.
Beautiful. Everything is relatable and I love how in depth you go, even giving examples :> And I hope we'll find the courage someday to be that first guy, and find a good balance between idealism and perfectionism.
I know how you feel... just say whatever is on your mind... I'm an infj so I understand the feeling after sharing your interests with others but I think it's pretty cool and nice of you to actually make this video.. I thought a lot about just writing a comment.. though you made a whole video... I'm very happy that I found this video...its feels nice finding someone who can understand.. thank you :)
I totally can relate to you. I am an INFJ. Thanks for sharing your insight. Great video.
That video was relatable. Thank you for opening up. I know as an INFJ myself it is sometimes hard to do that.
I can totally relate to every single thing you said omg I feel like crying being an infj is hard (for me)
Very well done. Very well explained and honest.
You speak to me... I love this and I feel everything you said on this video.. keep up and keep being real.. it inspires me as an infj to be true to who I really am and to be as honest as you ❤❤
I think its quite tough being INFJ especially in our younger years... We know we are a little different than most and our ego will tell us that we are unique and special. But I have found as i'v got older the ego starts to dissolve and this has been a blessing and a relief... Boundaries become more important that people pleasing. The most important thing is to try and be as authentic to your personality type as possible, find out your strengths and weaknesses and work on them. Then one can attain enlightenment... Wishing you all well on your journies.
5:00 - Completely. We mirror to engage but only to aid in us understanding what makes them tick. Then we decide whether these are people we want to reveal ourselves to. We are naturally believe in the good nature of people but after having some bad experiences of people being deceitful, we do tend to be more circumspect to look for true signs of them being genuine.
"Quality over Quantity" is such an INFJ thing to say!
Man... I relate to this video in every way!!!✊☝ THANKS for sharing
I know what you mean with Dr. Phil. I'm always stunned how accurately he understands the problem and the solution. As an INFJ it would take me a lot of time and I sometimes find I get sidetracked by trying to pull all of it apart and looking at it from so many angles.The good news is as an INFJ watching Dr. Phil I also can easily see how he comes to his conclusion. So inside of me and other INFJs is the same answer as Dr Phil gets. It's just inside of us and we have to find it. Ocassionally as an INFJ I will ponder what Dr. Phil said and come to the conclusion that he was wrong. So we can do that also.
This relates to me so much.. I put on an act and the only way I've gotten over social anxiety is with joking around and playing a role so others will want to talk to me. But often times I am afraid to tell people about my real life when I go home, how boring I can be, what my interests are, because I am secluded and my interests are very diverse . I know some people are boring and some people have diverse interests but they also aren't afraid to make different friends whilst I want to be neutral with others so I can make any friends I want even if they don't have the same interests as me. Honestly, maybe more people do this in society but they don't notice that they are doing it or it doesn't bother them. I suppose this isn't a negative trait .
I am an infj too, I could relate to everything that you said! a few things that are important to me are. drawing (the literal holes to my soul), fashion and the makeup industry and finding self balance.
I can definitely relate a lot of what you talked about, thanks for posting.
At 0.08 I thought i am sure you are much more cheerful and pleasant around people. It's just that now you think you are alone, but you are actually not alone. I had just finished watching your other video about 5 things. And then 10 seconds later you said the same thing. Lol. funny.
you are such a sweet heart. also omf i love dr. phil just as much as you do!! btw its so great to hear you speak so genuinely, i love this stuff
INFJs!! We need to learn how to self empathize with ourselves. gorwing up we felt invalidated because of our personality types most people do not know how to validate our needs. so we grew up invalidated. hence so many of us have low self esteem , anixety, low self worth or toxic shame about who we are.
But we need to learn how to self validate and take care of ourselves so we can be an INFJ with confidence!! Believe me it is extremely powerful.
Putting up the superstar filter is your way as a INFJ of extracting everything you need/want to know about the "new" person. It's subconsciously strategic, and a very efficient way to get your subject 'moving' and 'talking'. Your problem is shifting gears into the "real me" once you're comfortable and feel you can trust the individual. My mother taught me a Dutch saying that we all need to hear, especially us INFJs. 'Normaal is gek genoeg.'
Normal is crazy enough. She always encouraged me just to be myself, because that's where I was safest, and also would be the most comfortable. It's been good advise.
Brilliant quote. In public, I live a shadow of my true self.
Another fantastic video! Fellow male INFJ and can totally relate :)
You are really beautiful. Not just pretty but in the way you move etc, showing great personality. I love INFJ women, wish I knew one (I’m INFJ male).
Thanks for the video. Idk if I'm INFP or INFJ but today I certainly feel INFJ. It's like, when I'm alone I know exactly what I want to watch or listen to, but around others, I want them to be happy with the choice. I'll see what they like and chose something off thier list that I also like. Or else I just kind of drown in anxiety wondering what they are thinking about my choices. This does make me feel inauthentic at times and that really bothers me because I want do very bad to be seen, and understood, yet I continue to self sabatoge, by letting my fear essentially take the wheel. It's always going to be this way. It's very comforting to know I'm not alone.
Absolutely agree! I think this is a perfect part 2 to what I tried to say on the "My Head is Spinning' video LOL! Huge Hi Five.
It's unlikely that you're being someone other than who you are. We interact with the world through feeling, and it's as difficult for us to not be genuine as it is for people to fool us by not being genuine. It's more likely that you're shaping your personality by holding back parts of who you are, but holding back different aspects of yourself in different situations. This can be exhausting. There was a point where I realised that people were actually quite accepting, so I was just myself more with them. The reward is that you don't need to shut down and disconnect quite so often. As a fellow INFJ, I see who you are and, if you feel the need to hide that from the world, you're depriving them of the wonder of knowing you.
I don't know why but even though iam an ENFP i can relate to some of what your going through
btw .. YOU'RE REALLY BEAUTIFUL JUST LIKE THAT & WITHOUT MAKEUP
& just hearing you doubt that makes me sure that the world has been infected
PS: if i were anywhere near you i would give you an Iris and told you how gorgeous you are
Does that flower have a special meaning for you?
If I get too specific, I'll write a book. ..and it's 2:30am.
But.. I 100% related to what you said.
..From having "secret passions" and "guilty pleasures" that may seem shallow externally, or that you fear will be seen that way (Like Dr Phil) ..but that you are able to see a deeper meaning to. I relate in the way that I'm a musician and kind of a "purist" about it, so people are absolutely shocked at some of the random and downright saccharine pop music that's on my iPod or that I say influences my writing. Then there's the filter analogy. I've really been thinking A LOT lately about trying to be more mindful of seeing people through their own filter. I feel that it comes pretty naturally to me, but I sometimes take it for granted and don't do as well as I should. I still get wrapped up in my own interpretations sometimes. It's really important that I do better because it's something I want from others very badly and I can't stand being a hypocrite. The other side of the filter idea applies to myself insomuch that I feel my filter is more than slightly different than other people. It's close enough externally, but if you get to know me well, I'm a total alien. That's pretty INFJ, though, I suppose. I think a lot about how to me, "the sky is purple".. and I just pretend that it's blue so I don't freak everyone else out. But I know that it's actually purple. ..and I just want people in my life who I can trust to tell and will want listen to why I think so sometimes. Sometimes I get the vibe that people think that I just THINK I have a different perception and a deeper connection to myself and others. The people who actually see it and recognize it to be true are few and far between, but very dear to me. Not because it fuels my ego to be seen as special, but because it feels like they are the only ones who really see me at all. Everyone else just gets a hologram of varying depth and quality. Sometimes that's my fault, sometimes it's theirs, and sometimes it just "is what it is".
If that makes sense..
Waaaaaahhhh!!! 😭 (gasps for air) Waaaaaaahhhh!!! 😭
I'm drowning in tears. You just gently poured out my soul, my very essence onto a page and I watched as it formed a beautiful portrait. With every word a new aspect of personality, of thinking, of feeling was displayed. It streamed down the page into a brilliant masterpiece full of vibrant colors and breathtaking detail. Simply profound. That paragraph reached into my core, my heart and soul, and made me weep like a small child. I have never been so beautifully, so compassionately and so accurately portrayed.
And yet... you don't even know I exist.
You're very pretty, and I can relate. I'm one who have become bitter of the way I always try to step aside for other people, even how I feel and react about events, other people's actions, or even their own reactions to things.
I've realized that I allow people to be who they are, and how they are at the moment, and believe in a future, but people don't return the favor and grace. This makes me angry, and I'm in that place at the moment.
I don't know if you guys have experienced this, and if there's any tips, you could save my life.
when I’m meeting a new person, I get to know them and I’ve noticed that I tend to imitate their behaviour around them and like I just see what kind of person they are based on their sense of humour, interests, and just the way they communicate, and I imitate their humour etc to kind of get them to like me? not necessarily get them to like me but get them to feel like I understand stand them and like connect with them. does that make sense?
stunning beauty with an aura of vulnerability. One of the greatest things ive ever experienced. My hearts loves you. ;)
Hi been following you on and off for a little while I really liked the report why infjs like mbti. I am a 61male,young thinking poet,who has only recently discovered mbti, it appears I am a classic infj but am still not 100 percent convinced , I have taken the test 3 times and one was another type ,Intj that one but so close as to be,49/51? I have been fascinated with it,I have byested the whole family much to there amusement,keep up the good work VanRyan
This is a huge sign aka synchronicity, I'm so happy that I've come across this video.
The last several months or so I've gotten really close to this guy. Prior to this we were close in a sense of individuals who've known each other for a long time but non of us ever disclosed any personal information. We are very different to say the least. His an MBTI is ISTP and LEO star sign, I'm an INFJ and VIRGO star sign. With that being said we come from total two different backgrounds. As an empathy we're aware that we can mimic other people's personality, that's why it comes natural to fit in any social spectrum at any given time. Although mimicking other people's emotions and personality comes natural it can be draining, it's all about them and accommodating their needs at your own expense too much self sacrifice. As time has passed he feels safe and freely to share his personal life with me. Even though we've gotten a lot closer , I still manage to keep my personal life off topic most of the time and if we touch on it, its never deep stuff unlike him. He misunderstands me so much maybe due to my lack of articulation, with that being taken into consideration. I feel like 70% of the time when we're talking it's always meanless small talk, I don't care for ( guilty of zoning out🙊🤔🌌☁️). Because he misunderstands me so much this has made me apprehensive about opening up a bit more. His a logical person he lacks emotional intelligence where as I'm both logical/ analytical and emotional intelligent. When we've an disagreement it's mostly because he only looks at things from logical point of view and he dismisses other logical point of views regarding the matter. For instance we could've an disagreement/ misunderstood because he refuses to accept that they maybe several logical point of views regarding the issue of at hand. He will come up with one or two logical explanation, whereas I maybe see things from all logical angle including his and emotional angle but he will refuse to consider my insights ( maybe because he misunderstands me) He knows how much of an ethical/ principled person I am , I always uphold myself to high standards/ values. He often asks me about my views on issues concerning family dynamics " what is good father". While we were talking about our hopes for the future, I was consciously aware that I was about peel away some layers to reveal a bit my true self. I told him that when I was growing up, I always felt different not normal, alienated from the rest the society I didn't fit in anywhere. His reply to me was it can't have been easy coming to London at 15 years from South Africa. Which is true it was difficult to adjust to life, that's not the case now I'm settled now and it wasn't relevant to the point I was making. I told him even when I was in SA I felt the same way, a change of geographic location had nothing to do with it. He then replied to me "does anybody really feel like they fit in somehow". What he said was logical, but he was still misunderstanding me. I tried to explain furthermore by giving scenarios but at the end he didn't reply. Even a change of subject would've been less painful, I feel like I just spilled guts to him for absolutely nothing. These filters work for us because people who can't really comprehend us old soul, it's a defence mechanism.
Your soooo not alone, young lady. As I hit my older years, I've learned and you will too, that you are A GIFT TO THE WORLD FROM GOD. But, that doesn't mean an easy life. However the best thing you will learn, is that most people are so self absorbed, that half of our worries never even cross their minds. Besides, You are cute as a little bugs ear. I notice a very PURE BEAUTY INSIDE YOU. Stop thinking start living.
I love you ❤️. May everything good happen to you.
great analogy. you nailed it.
That was great! ... please continue. :)
Wow - this is a great video!! Thanks for making it.
Lol, the infj just oozes out of you in this video...which I love! You have a very genuine and caring aura about you. It's very comforting and cool when I stumble on an infj video where the person talking seems to think and speak about the same things as I do.
Don't be too hard on social media though :) ...afterall, it lets me meet and experience other fantastic infj's (like yourself). So far, I'm not aware of meeting any other infj's in 'real life' and we're hard to come by. I get your frustration with it though.
Believe me when I say that we can "all" see clearly that you are very pretty with or without make-up. So try to strike down that worry if you can.
It would be great to see a little bit of interactivity in your comments sections though. If I had one wish - it would be to read some responses from you in the comments.
I'll definitely check out more of your videos, so keep up the amazing work. Love your casual style, insights and sincerity! Not a bad little artist either, hehe :P Are you a lefty too?
Happy Holidays!!
+Jake Bauer thanks for the nice comment. you're right in that I should reply to more comments..I'll try to be better about that. and I'm right-handed
solohouette Anytime Sarah. The praise was warranted :)
I checked out your other 2 videos also. Good stuff! I enjoy public speaking and performing also - which is interesting considering how introverted I am behind the scenes (most 'acquaintances' don't know I'm introverted...only close friends and family do). It's a strange dynamic that sets up because I make friends super easy, get invited out a lot, and then have to find ways to say no to protect my 'recharge/repair' time.
You and "Infj Sean" are really inspiring me to start making some youtube videos but I'm still a little afraid to. Revealing my inner world to 'the world' is an intimidating thought so i commend your bravery. Plus I don't really like seeing myself on cam since my face isn't perfectly symmetrical and it screams out to me (It's habituated when I see myself in a mirror but a webcam reverses the image so those details become really loud). One day I'd like to contribute to the infj community on here though. I'll stop the rambling crazy talk there, lol.
But thanks for granting my wish and replying to me ;) Definitely love to see more of that on your channel and I think it'll boost it up even more.
Really looking forward to your next video!
PS - Ah, a 'righty', eh? Well no one's perfect hehe (only teasing). Mind if I ask your major? Mine was pyschology, minor sociology.
+Jake Bauer I don't intend on becoming famous on youtube..just enjoy the ability to connect with people and offer life lessons through experience. Making vids is a bit intimidating but it's not too bad. I'm a business major but my favorite subject is psychology!
Awesome! And I'm in the process of funding my start-up - so right now business is my fav subject.
+solohouette Oh, I forgot to mention a guilty pleasure of mine is watching Judge Judy. She's a semi-hero of mine, lol. For the same reason you watch Dr. Phil. :)
PS - don't feel compelled to comment if your busy. I already got my wish after-all hehe...just forgot to post this little known fact about myself that mirrors one of yours.
Yes! I couldn't have said it better myself! Before I knew I was an INFJ, I used to describe myself as if there were "two of me" when explaining my thoughts/feelings to those close to me. In retrospect, i probably sounded like a total loon, but this video really assures me that SOMEONE gets what I mean. I've only just recently found my type and it's been such a revelation to finally understand that it's normal to feel how I feel. And that there are actually others like me! I've always felt like I was in the wrong world, but now I've finally found my people :)
It really sounded like you were describing me. Good job with the video.
Thank you so much for making this video!