@@danilaroche1156 They're only hard if you're incompatible with each other. They're only "hard" because LIFE ITSELF is hard, but they (the person who let you go) was too much of a pussy to do life with you! It's called a break up because it was broken. For one reason or another, one party in the relationship decided that it wasn't worth it. YOU (the dumpee) wasn't worth it. If you take them back after they did that to you, how do you think your level of self esteem/ self-respect would be at??! Conciously rejecting you is NEVER a mistake. It was a conscious decison that said you were not GOOD enough to be with in their life! If you take back someone who had the gal to do that to you, good luck with your peace of mind/mental health and self-worth.
@@afrintayeba2981 yes.if you maintain your self respect and self love. .. you must truely move on... not care... walk away... the man will at least respect that you were not a mattress . Even the bad has feelings of regret
@@afrintayeba2981 it happened to me. He took me so much for granted that i just left and walked away... with mindset of... ( men will do anything not to loose someone they love). And it was very hard step to walk away. He stayed following me 8 years to apologise and i did not answer. Not because i was happy to see him run after ne no. But becayse the love in me for him ended. Had it not... i will definetely be back to him. You need to disconnect your heart from reality. It helps you move... he will not see you if you cry or connect. He will not appreciate your ebergy. He is now putting all his effort on another issue ( a woman). Regardless of wgat excuse. When he see you move on... his ego will de inflate somehow. If he is sincere and good he will be back... but u need to care for yourself because he is not there for you... at toughest moment. Do u really appreciate such a life partner?
Not to mention dangerous.. for your mental/emotional well being...I don't think it's really worth it any longer. Just focus on you, making money, and if you have /or want children, then do that. I'm 39. Ain't got no time for drama in my life, I'm too old for that shit. My 40 year old, papa's boy, white/Irish ex, video game playing asshole, immature, can just go to hell lol.
Who wants someone who walked away? This guy walked away from me. I was so hurt. He comes back 3 months later hoping to get back but it turned out a week later he says he doesn't know what he wants. What an asshole. I was leery & I was right. Don't ever take any one back.
They always come back. Problem is magically I don't want them anymore at that point. Even if I was SO in love with them and ready to marry them. Prince Charming turns back into a toad. I have no idea what kind of witchcraft it is or how it happens, but it does every time!
“They always come back” - do you think this applies to me, where I have not heard from mine in one year. I feel like I’m in the minority, my one not coming back makes me feel so worthless and discarded.
@@scarlettrose221 You are not worthless and you are not discarded. You deserve SO much better than him! Someone who will stay. Focus on yourself, move on and magic will happen. The one who truly loves you will appear. Sending you a big hug and I wish you all the best! 💕
@@scarlettrose221 if it wasn't him, it's someone better. Why would you want someone back who discarded you? Effff that! You're worth way more than that!
@@scarlettrose221 in reality, most relationships are not going to work out. Sometimes it takes a long time to heal from a breakup & that's totally okay. That does not make you worthless at all though. He simply wasn't meant for you. My best advice is reflect on any lessons you can learn from that relationship... it could be things about yourself, attachment styles, boundaries, communication, etc. So it may have ended, but there's STILL a lot if value to be found in that. When you can reframe your mindset around it from the hindrance of "it was a failure" to more like a tool & "it was a chance for me to grow", it can get WAY easier in the long run for this & any future relationships. Hugs 💗
just lean back and let go. don‘t text him!!! if he does, don‘t respond to every call or message. if you do, be warm but short. but never reach out first. they all come back😂
I'm going to disagree with if it ends horribly, he won't come back. My situation ended HORRIBLE. The worse of the worst, cops were called and all. But low and behold..HE CAME BACK. Only for us to end again. He was just using me. 🥴🤷🏾♀️ I feel so much better, knowing my self worth and that I don't have to take care of a grown boy! Ladies, Know Your Worth! 👑
I think he means if it ended horribly don’t consider this video as in tactics u should use explained for him to come back. Glad you got your self worth though good for you 👏🏽❤👸🏽
Yeah, I've had plenty of exes or past guy friends reach out years later to admit regret for not appreciating the chances they had at the time. Young guys especially like to think the grass is gonna be greener elsewhere plus tend to operate more on short-term decision-making... super impulsive & often learning the hard way while being too sure of themselves in the moment. But once the brain matures, they gain more life or social experience, many realizations can come about regarding past choices/ mistakes. Genuinely good women almost always leave some kind of permanent mark on the guys they come across, but it often takes them trying to replace her to realize she isn't replaceable. HOWEVER, there's zero point in caring whether or not he does try to come back. Don't waste energy on ppl who left you standing alone for whatever reason. If a guy reaches out to apologize for his past idiocy, gracefully accept, keep those boundaries in place & carry forth. It's his responsibility to live with the choices he made.
They usually come back unchanged to continue playing you. And you let them back in bc you miss them and want to lie to yourself they’ve changed their mind about you. Going thru this now and feel utterly heartbroken 💔
I second that notion. What's with the endless videos about all the things women should do to get men or get men to come back. I'm thinking men would be lucky to find me and probably should be watching videos on how not to lose me lol 😂❤
He didn’t leave but he was pulling away. I texted him and told him I cared about him but I needed to opt out of the slow ghost and wished him all the best. I don’t care either way.
I have to disagree. This whole thing about the guy coming back is a fantasy we girls like to believe. It all boils down to self-respect. A guy with high self-respect and with options that are better (better-looking) or equal as you, that he can build the same level of connection/chemistry with will NEVER come back. I've left many guys and never looked back. Some came back, some never did. When a relationship doesn't work out because he is pulling away, it means that he is not that into you and does not see you as being "The one". Accept this and move on with your life.
Not true. Dating a millionaire with plenty options. 10 days & he came back & told me he had a gift for me. 6k living room set & 4day vacation plans. They come back. & he was a dismissive narcissist
@@yshujh9372 it is not. If you weren't interested in the topic, you wouldn't be watching the videos. Being prideful, egotistical, and in denial would not help you in any way, not only on this, but any areas of your life. Not because it hasn't worked, it doesn't mean that it won't in the future. All my exes came back and the no contact was key. If you apply the concepts and strategies you either move on or you are ready to restart by the time they make it back.
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
I love this advice. This guy always affirms my choices. I don't date at all any more unless it is someone truly exceptional and I have verified that over a long time before even considering dating them. Less than one of 1,000 men are decent enough to be worth the time and energy.
In my experience if a guy ghosts or leaves you, it’s because you are in a different league and he knows it. He’ll choose the easier women he can manipulate. Especially if he’s got low self esteem, he’ll overthink how “hard” it will be to keep you and just bow out. Unfortunately, they’ll miss out on an amazing woman who loved them, challenged them and went with someone they can stay stuck with and never grow and evolve. 🤷🏻♀️ Live your best life!!!
A lot of men do try to come back at some point and it can happens years later. They learn the hard way that good women are not easily replaced. A man I had met 15 years ago tried to come back and admitted he regretted he didn’t make time for me, we were talking long distance, so he had traveled the world from Scotland to the US and couldn’t find anyone like me, it was hard for me but I'm glad I had moved on from him and didn't wait for him and kept my guard up. In general a lot of couples break up and get back together.
Unpopular opinion, but I wouldn't mind if he reaches out in the future. We did part ways, but it was peaceful and respectful. If he chooses to reach out, I am willing to listen, and possibly give another try, while definitely maintaining some boundaries.
Same. I fell in love with him even more during the break up (lol), because he handled it really mature and in empathetic way. He wasnt afraid of my and his emotions...
This is exactly what I did. I literally called him out on his bullshit behavior of all talk no action for a while. He doesn’t know that I know about his ex still being in the picture. When he said, you’ll be mine “one day” I laughed it off, i told him I don’t wait for no man. He sent me heart emojis a few weeks after that and I didn’t respond. it felt so powerful!!!!!! I know he regrets it. Thank you 🙏🏼
I don’t want a man who chooses to cheat me and play games put me in a third party situation.. i don’t need him !! Expired I need peace and to be alone..
‘I didn’t like the way things ended, are you willing to make it up to me?’ Test the spirit! Don’t just take him back without any works. Otherwise he’ll scratch his itch and be done with you again. You have that good kitty 😉 that he misses then DO NOT end up used and discarded. He has to pay some sort of price to gain access to you again. If you want a relationship with him (after he proves he is worthy) then insist on therapy, church, fasting and meditating on the good Word - help him grow, otherwise he won’t be able to break the pattern of being a doosh bag.
I can see your a follower of Christ. That's great. In my case, I wouldn't sleep with my man without marriage. I know he's missing me since our break up. I will take him back if he commits to Christ, wholeheartedly. Then we can marry. P.S. you misspelled douche bag. Keekeekee..
Unless there was abuse or they feel that you're a threat to their life and its better to have you away from them (like myself, he turned into a stalker and he needs to stay gone), they will be back or at the very least miss you even if it ended badly
I didn't even watch this and in gonna say the one thing is "nothing " and yes men are like boomerangs. I just listened...he's so right! Frame is everything.
@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984 they come back out of curiosity. My crush who refused to marry me reached out to me last week again after two years of no contact. So yeah, they always come back!
Framing was alright until I found out that he used me to cheat on his girlfriend and then I decided to tell her about it. He is a manipulator, so I guess I better let him go, even though I miss him deeply
You know it’s sad that we need “dating coaches” in USA! In Brazil and Latin America people are so open and dating is so natural and you don’t need none of this crap !!!!!!!!!
Some men here think they have hundreds of choices that's why. They also think that they can land a 25 year old with the snap of a finger even though they're 40. They are THAT delusional.
Something I appreciate about your videos is you don't do the clickbaity thing and spend 3/4 of it in preamble, only to start talking about the crucial parts at the end. Nice work. By the way, how's that Stoic's Guide to Relationships coming along ;)
The one thing I don't understand is why some men are the ones to initiate communication and did tell him at the onset I don't meet anyone online because I got hurt one time. He insisted, went through with communicating with him, and after about three months disappeared. Hence why I will no longer date. Some men nowadays just don't want commitment. I am done with that game. Long gone are the days of commitment.
I don't want my ex-husband back but I want to know what makes a man want to come back if it happens to be somebody I'm interested and he decides he wants to come back after he left. Just for my educational purpose.
Oh and he's blocked ....boundaries are in place. He emailed me and apologized but he's still blocked and the next time ge emails me I'm not responding...
Pray for me that he comes back to me. We're together for 6 years. I invested emotionally and financially in this relationship, and still love him. But he told he does not have any feelings for me anymore.
Exactly. They don’t “love us” they want to use us. Why do we see men constantly pursuing younger women when they have a good partner at home? Men don’t see us as people, just accessories for them
After dating for one year, he told me he is not ready to commit and he is emotionally unavailable. He was diagnosed with depression long time ago, today he broke up with me .. he told me that he is going through the worst time of his life and he is in a really bad place and he doesn’t want to keep me waiting for him to get better but at the same time he is putting himself out on tinder with great profile, telling people that he is a successful surgeon and he is looking for a long term relationship Am so sad , confused and I didn’t see that coming
Simple, just dont have s3x..hold out and instead suggest couple therapy..dont let him know u are replacing s3x with him with therapy..men hate therapy alone let alone as a couple.if he gets through at least 90 days of therapy and no s3x..then u knw he is there for a relationship
What makes me laugh is whether you make it easy or you make it hard for him, he's still going to get the same person you are in the end so what is point of all this for crying out loud. Men are like pants hanging on the rack in a store. If you try it on and it doesn't fit, you don't buy it & take it to the tailor. No. You put it back on the rack and walk out.
Early in our conversation he had asked me if it would be all right to stay in contact with me I didn't answer because we were just beginning to talk so I didn't answer that unfortunately after several conversations we came or he came to the conclusion that he wanted to just go move on and I basically told him thank you for everything you've done for me and I really enjoyed our time and that's how I left it so I don't know that he'll be
You have to let him leave. Hopefully he'll realize your a God send. If he doesn't..well you do t want to be with someone who doesn't share your values. If your a Christian marry another Christian. Period.
Im going through very tough situation from 4 months and hes blaming me for everything in every little argument he do break-up wd me . He always say to me that leave me and i start's begging to him to not to leave me if i let him go . He will come back to me?💔💔😭
Thx!! Can you do a video on how to respond or not to respond to flattery? This guy left me for his younger sons baby mama and texting me how he appreciates how awesome I am and ends his sentences in “❤”. It feels even more insulting and I’m holding my tongue because our sons are friends and so we stay in touch for this reason. Should I ignore it and continue texting like business only or should I tell him the hearts are inappropriate and make me uncomfortable?
Elliott, Another fantastic video. I would love to purchase your guide, is it available in hard copy?? I am old school and I really don't like to down load. I would be more than happy to send you the money. You are a superb coach!!!
What about a guy ( he was all in) that ghosted after three beautiful dates but after the third date we had a misunderstanding? Will a man like that come back around?
I'm surprised you didn't go into the third option that men have. If her frame is so believable, he may just figure. Oh okay, it's over time to move on. I understand a lot of guys. Do exactly what you said this is true. However, there is a certain subset of men. That will just not really care all that much if they are done also It has nothing to do with framing. It has to do with acceptance. If a man accepts your frame then it doesn't really matter he moves on
how do you apply this to the situation in which you are both friends, but you want something more and the other person tells you they are in an exclusive relationship and can't be romantic with you, after giving a ton of mixed signals? wouldn't it be different since you never got in a relationship, tried and it failed, my lady friend is suffering so much right now and she"s gone NC for 6 days- I'm pretty sure he expects her to run and contact him first.....she really likes him....
The right person for you will never put themselves in a position to lose you
I disagree. Relationships are hard and we all err.
@@danilaroche1156 They're only hard if you're incompatible with each other. They're only "hard" because LIFE ITSELF is hard, but they (the person who let you go) was too much of a pussy to do life with you! It's called a break up because it was broken. For one reason or another, one party in the relationship decided that it wasn't worth it. YOU (the dumpee) wasn't worth it. If you take them back after they did that to you, how do you think your level of self esteem/ self-respect would be at??! Conciously rejecting you is NEVER a mistake. It was a conscious decison that said you were not GOOD enough to be with in their life! If you take back someone who had the gal to do that to you, good luck with your peace of mind/mental health and self-worth.
People are not perfect! I hate stupid comments like this. This generation is so out of touch
@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984u must be a 12 year old. Everything worth having requires work. Who hurt u
@@yamomma5053 Don't be shy, tell us how you really feel. LOL
I feel like I don't want anyone to come back at this point.
Nice they come back and you even forgot their name. It happened to me😂
@@Spinnglish everytime they comeback??
@@afrintayeba2981 yes.if you maintain your self respect and self love. .. you must truely move on... not care... walk away... the man will at least respect that you were not a mattress . Even the bad has feelings of regret
@@Spinnglish how?..can he comeback?? He is already with someone else.
@@afrintayeba2981 it happened to me. He took me so much for granted that i just left and walked away... with mindset of... ( men will do anything not to loose someone they love). And it was very hard step to walk away. He stayed following me 8 years to apologise and i did not answer. Not because i was happy to see him run after ne no. But becayse the love in me for him ended. Had it not... i will definetely be back to him. You need to disconnect your heart from reality. It helps you move... he will not see you if you cry or connect. He will not appreciate your ebergy. He is now putting all his effort on another issue ( a woman). Regardless of wgat excuse. When he see you move on... his ego will de inflate somehow. If he is sincere and good he will be back... but u need to care for yourself because he is not there for you... at toughest moment. Do u really appreciate such a life partner?
Ugh, relationships, dating and love is really exhausting lol.
Totally
Oh yeah! A lot of work...almost as much as having an infant to take care of!
Bcuz of egos and insecurity.
If it doesn't feel fun and good, it's not love. Don't blame love, blame loving the wrong man.
Not to mention dangerous.. for your mental/emotional well being...I don't think it's really worth it any longer. Just focus on you, making money, and if you have /or want children, then do that. I'm 39. Ain't got no time for drama in my life, I'm too old for that shit. My 40 year old, papa's boy, white/Irish ex, video game playing asshole, immature, can just go to hell lol.
Ladies please know you've reached a New Level of Confidence when you realize your ex is not even your type anymore.
*HIS LOSS.* 🥂
Who wants someone who walked away? This guy walked away from me. I was so hurt. He comes back 3 months later hoping to get back but it turned out a week later he says he doesn't know what he wants. What an asshole. I was leery & I was right. Don't ever take any one back.
That's why you have to be ready with your standards and ultimatum otherwise you're allowing them to treat you like an option or revolving door.
Omg im angry read this 😢 im really sorry
They always come back. Problem is magically I don't want them anymore at that point. Even if I was SO in love with them and ready to marry them. Prince Charming turns back into a toad. I have no idea what kind of witchcraft it is or how it happens, but it does every time!
“They always come back” - do you think this applies to me, where I have not heard from mine in one year. I feel like I’m in the minority, my one not coming back makes me feel so worthless and discarded.
@@scarlettrose221 You are not worthless and you are not discarded. You deserve SO much better than him! Someone who will stay. Focus on yourself, move on and magic will happen. The one who truly loves you will appear. Sending you a big hug and I wish you all the best! 💕
@@scarlettrose221 if it wasn't him, it's someone better. Why would you want someone back who discarded you? Effff that! You're worth way more than that!
@@scarlettrose221 in reality, most relationships are not going to work out. Sometimes it takes a long time to heal from a breakup & that's totally okay. That does not make you worthless at all though. He simply wasn't meant for you.
My best advice is reflect on any lessons you can learn from that relationship... it could be things about yourself, attachment styles, boundaries, communication, etc. So it may have ended, but there's STILL a lot if value to be found in that. When you can reframe your mindset around it from the hindrance of "it was a failure" to more like a tool & "it was a chance for me to grow", it can get WAY easier in the long run for this & any future relationships.
Hugs 💗
@@paige8361 Thank you for the beautiful comment ❤️
just lean back and let go. don‘t text him!!! if he does, don‘t respond to every call or message. if you do, be warm but short. but never reach out first. they all come back😂
I'm going to disagree with if it ends horribly, he won't come back. My situation ended HORRIBLE. The worse of the worst, cops were called and all. But low and behold..HE CAME BACK. Only for us to end again. He was just using me. 🥴🤷🏾♀️ I feel so much better, knowing my self worth and that I don't have to take care of a grown boy! Ladies, Know Your Worth! 👑
Avoid the Dusties!
Yes I have had someone threaten to call the police on me (unfairly) and then try to come back before
NEVER EVER take back someone that hurt you. They just gon hurt you again but with extra sauce this time
I think he means if it ended horribly don’t consider this video as in tactics u should use explained for him to come back.
Glad you got your self worth though good for you 👏🏽❤👸🏽
Agreed, they will definitely come back
My experience: do Nothing😂 and Module: Never ever neveeeer Post sad quotes in Social Media!!!!! Live your life ❤
Yup. All of a sudden you live your dream life now 😂
Yeah, I've had plenty of exes or past guy friends reach out years later to admit regret for not appreciating the chances they had at the time. Young guys especially like to think the grass is gonna be greener elsewhere plus tend to operate more on short-term decision-making... super impulsive & often learning the hard way while being too sure of themselves in the moment. But once the brain matures, they gain more life or social experience, many realizations can come about regarding past choices/ mistakes. Genuinely good women almost always leave some kind of permanent mark on the guys they come across, but it often takes them trying to replace her to realize she isn't replaceable.
HOWEVER, there's zero point in caring whether or not he does try to come back. Don't waste energy on ppl who left you standing alone for whatever reason. If a guy reaches out to apologize for his past idiocy, gracefully accept, keep those boundaries in place & carry forth. It's his responsibility to live with the choices he made.
👍👍👍👍
They usually come back unchanged to continue playing you. And you let them
back in bc you miss them and want to lie to yourself they’ve changed their mind about you. Going thru this now and feel utterly heartbroken 💔
I’m not sure I want him back but the ego boost from him begging would be so satisfying and if not I still got my confidence
That sounds a bit high school Let the Lord Jesus lift your mood.
@@danilaroche1156hahahaha I want that too
We have to stop with this narrative!!! Move on and heal. Don't want anyone who doesn't choose you the first time!! ❤ God bless❤
I second that notion. What's with the endless videos about all the things women should do to get men or get men to come back. I'm thinking men would be lucky to find me and probably should be watching videos on how not to lose me lol 😂❤
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He didn’t leave but he was pulling away. I texted him and told him I cared about him but I needed to opt out of the slow ghost and wished him all the best. I don’t care either way.
This is such a good response
Same! 🥲 Did he come back?
I have to disagree. This whole thing about the guy coming back is a fantasy we girls like to believe. It all boils down to self-respect. A guy with high self-respect and with options that are better (better-looking) or equal as you, that he can build the same level of connection/chemistry with will NEVER come back. I've left many guys and never looked back. Some came back, some never did.
When a relationship doesn't work out because he is pulling away, it means that he is not that into you and does not see you as being "The one". Accept this and move on with your life.
So why are you here then?
Cause I'm subscribed to him and this video popped on my newsfeed?
Lol, what a stupid question
Not true. Dating a millionaire with plenty options. 10 days & he came back & told me he had a gift for me. 6k living room set & 4day vacation plans.
They come back. & he was a dismissive narcissist
@@yshujh9372 it is not. If you weren't interested in the topic, you wouldn't be watching the videos. Being prideful, egotistical, and in denial would not help you in any way, not only on this, but any areas of your life. Not because it hasn't worked, it doesn't mean that it won't in the future. All my exes came back and the no contact was key. If you apply the concepts and strategies you either move on or you are ready to restart by the time they make it back.
@@chiobabe2180none of that matters without a 💍… it’s still a traveling booty call or a call girl.
Great video! Unfortunately, my two-year relationship ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, and I still love him deeply. I can't stop thinking about him. I've done everything I can to get him back, but nothing has worked. I'm frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my best efforts, I can't get him out of my mind. I really miss him.
It's incredibly hard to let go of someone you love. I was in a similar situation when my twelve-year relationship ended. I couldn't let him go, so I did everything I could to get him back. I sought the help of a spiritual counselor, who assisted me in reuniting with him.
That's amazing! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I reach him?
His name is Fatherabulu, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can help bring your ex back.
Thank you for this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and he seems impressive.
I love this advice. This guy always affirms my choices. I don't date at all any more unless it is someone truly exceptional and I have verified that over a long time before even considering dating them. Less than one of 1,000 men are decent enough to be worth the time and energy.
In my experience if a guy ghosts or leaves you, it’s because you are in a different league and he knows it. He’ll choose the easier women he can manipulate. Especially if he’s got low self esteem, he’ll overthink how “hard” it will be to keep you and just bow out. Unfortunately, they’ll miss out on an amazing woman who loved them, challenged them and went with someone they can stay stuck with and never grow and evolve. 🤷🏻♀️ Live your best life!!!
But why would we want them back, they left. Screw them
Why are you here?
@@Handleisnotavailable1who are you? why are you messaging me? Get a job
@@Handleisnotavailable1 😂😂😆😆😆
@@cindychelsea784 lol they are "done" with their exes but, watching videos about how to get them back. Make it make sense.
@@cindychelsea784 and who tf are you?
Every guy has come back! Some even after 10 years and from the other side of the world. Begging!!!! They always do
Yeah of course they do.😆
@@calvinfatman7918 they do! And it happened again the other day actually
@@Lucynasarenko85 It must be your amazing character. Or maybe you have an incredible lady garden?
@@calvinfatman7918 probably both
A lot of men do try to come back at some point and it can happens years later. They learn the hard way that good women are not easily replaced. A man I had met 15 years ago tried to come back and admitted he regretted he didn’t make time for me, we were talking long distance, so he had traveled the world from Scotland to the US and couldn’t find anyone like me, it was hard for me but I'm glad I had moved on from him and didn't wait for him and kept my guard up. In general a lot of couples break up and get back together.
Just let him go. If he doesn't want you, he's always going to be looking out for someone better. Guys who really want a girl don't play games.
Unpopular opinion, but I wouldn't mind if he reaches out in the future. We did part ways, but it was peaceful and respectful. If he chooses to reach out, I am willing to listen, and possibly give another try, while definitely maintaining some boundaries.
Same. I fell in love with him even more during the break up (lol), because he handled it really mature and in empathetic way. He wasnt afraid of my and his emotions...
If you give him access to your body, money and home again, you don't have boundaries.
@hiddenname9809 fully agree. Fortunately, the person I am referencing did not take advantage of any of those things.
Men pull away behind the pressure of their own emotions too. It's so dumb. If he's afraid of feelings, I don't want him when he comes back.
This is exactly what I did. I literally called him out on his bullshit behavior of all talk no action for a while. He doesn’t know that I know about his ex still being in the picture. When he said, you’ll be mine “one day” I laughed it off, i told him I don’t wait for no man. He sent me heart emojis a few weeks after that and I didn’t respond. it felt so powerful!!!!!! I know he regrets it. Thank you 🙏🏼
I am sick and tired of being told how wonderful I am, what a great chance they lost when it was in their hand, etc after months. I am so over them
I don’t want a man who chooses to cheat me and play games put me in a third party situation.. i don’t need him !! Expired I need peace and to be alone..
‘I didn’t like the way things ended, are you willing to make it up to me?’ Test the spirit! Don’t just take him back without any works. Otherwise he’ll scratch his itch and be done with you again. You have that good kitty 😉 that he misses then DO NOT end up used and discarded. He has to pay some sort of price to gain access to you again. If you want a relationship with him (after he proves he is worthy) then insist on therapy, church, fasting and meditating on the good Word - help him grow, otherwise he won’t be able to break the pattern of being a doosh bag.
I can see your a follower of Christ. That's great. In my case, I wouldn't sleep with my man without marriage. I know he's missing me since our break up. I will take him back if he commits to Christ, wholeheartedly. Then we can marry. P.S. you misspelled douche bag. Keekeekee..
Unless there was abuse or they feel that you're a threat to their life and its better to have you away from them (like myself, he turned into a stalker and he needs to stay gone), they will be back or at the very least miss you even if it ended badly
Im here to say..it ended in an argument and he still tried to come back. .
Was it Stevie Wonder?
I didn't even watch this and in gonna say the one thing is "nothing " and yes men are like boomerangs. I just listened...he's so right! Frame is everything.
Men ALWAYS come back. Maybe not for patch up but to talk again.
Really? Because he is very pissed at me for telling his girlfriend that he is a cheater lol
@@raquela.3483 Yes, he will still come back at the most unexpected time 😉
What's the point of talking if it's not going to go anywhere. How stupid.
@@Goodwillwinoverevil1984 they come back out of curiosity. My crush who refused to marry me reached out to me last week again after two years of no contact. So yeah, they always come back!
And yes I blocked him and he still used another media to reach out to me!
Framing was alright until I found out that he used me to cheat on his girlfriend and then I decided to tell her about it. He is a manipulator, so I guess I better let him go, even though I miss him deeply
You know it’s sad that we need “dating coaches” in USA! In Brazil and Latin America people are so open and dating is so natural and you don’t need none of this crap !!!!!!!!!
Some men here think they have hundreds of choices that's why. They also think that they can land a 25 year old with the snap of a finger even though they're 40. They are THAT delusional.
Something I appreciate about your videos is you don't do the clickbaity thing and spend 3/4 of it in preamble, only to start talking about the crucial parts at the end. Nice work. By the way, how's that Stoic's Guide to Relationships coming along ;)
The one thing I don't understand is why some men are the ones to initiate communication and did tell him at the onset I don't meet anyone online because I got hurt one time. He insisted, went through with communicating with him, and after about three months disappeared.
Hence why I will no longer date. Some men nowadays just don't want commitment. I am done with that game. Long gone are the days of commitment.
you're making this more complicated than it needs to, IF a guy pulls away, ghosts or breaks up with you, go no contact period and focus on YOU period.
Exactly dont contact him at all. If he comes back keep your guard up.
My emotionally unavailable boyfriend ended our 7yrs relationship yesterday.. reasons he says that he can't meet my expectations.
Wow. Trash took itself out..never mind ❤
Great advice even if you do not want them back!
Very true, what others have said- if it ends or there’s a pull back, it’s not really a good way to end it either way…
Can you elaborate on this?
I know he’ll come back I just don’t know when. The thing is, I’m already so detached I don’t even think I’ll acknowledge him when he does come back
100%!! did he? I feel you
Just out of interested did he comeback?
I wonder why Elliot isn't married?
I don't want my ex-husband back but I want to know what makes a man want to come back if it happens to be somebody I'm interested and he decides he wants to come back after he left. Just for my educational purpose.
Oh and he's blocked ....boundaries are in place. He emailed me and apologized but he's still blocked and the next time ge emails me I'm not responding...
He said he wants to take a big step back. I don't even want him now
Pray for me that he comes back to me. We're together for 6 years. I invested emotionally and financially in this relationship, and still love him. But he told he does not have any feelings for me anymore.
Will he comeback after I called the police on him for abusing me, the police press charge on him and gave no contact order.
Lol he always comes back not sure why but this time I told him not to come back due to their inconsistencies and inability to prioritize...lol
The last thing I said to him is baby. I cannot allow myself to be treated this way
I think most f men just use women.
Exactly. They don’t “love us” they want to use us. Why do we see men constantly pursuing younger women when they have a good partner at home? Men don’t see us as people, just accessories for them
Most do but there are men who value women..
I pray a good, God fearing, integrous man finds you.
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I deleted the guy number because I want to follow through
After dating for one year, he told me he is not ready to commit and he is emotionally unavailable. He was diagnosed with depression long time ago, today he broke up with me .. he told me that he is going through the worst time of his life and he is in a really bad place and he doesn’t want to keep me waiting for him to get better but at the same time he is putting himself out on tinder with great profile, telling people that he is a successful surgeon and he is looking for a long term relationship
Am so sad , confused and I didn’t see that coming
Why would we want them to come back? If they leave they leave? Am I missing something?
if he comes back...how do you know if hes just saying he wants a relationship for real or just pretending to get the assets back?
If he's sincere he'd get intentional and propose marriage. Yes, you heard right.
Simple, just dont have s3x..hold out and instead suggest couple therapy..dont let him know u are replacing s3x with him with therapy..men hate therapy alone let alone as a couple.if he gets through at least 90 days of therapy and no s3x..then u knw he is there for a relationship
0:56 my situation matches both
Good work Elliot 😊
What makes me laugh is whether you make it easy or you make it hard for him, he's still going to get the same person you are in the end so what is point of all this for crying out loud. Men are like pants hanging on the rack in a store. If you try it on and it doesn't fit, you don't buy it & take it to the tailor. No. You put it back on the rack and walk out.
Early in our conversation he had asked me if it would be all right to stay in contact with me I didn't answer because we were just beginning to talk so I didn't answer that unfortunately after several conversations we came or he came to the conclusion that he wanted to just go move on and I basically told him thank you for everything you've done for me and I really enjoyed our time and that's how I left it so I don't know that he'll be
Back
There is no decent ending.
I agree it's unilateral decision.
if you leave please stay wherever you went 😆
What about if a guy lets you go, when he knew you wanted to wait until marriage to have physical intimacy? LDR
You have to let him leave. Hopefully he'll realize your a God send. If he doesn't..well you do t want to be with someone who doesn't share your values. If your a Christian marry another Christian. Period.
Im going through very tough situation from 4 months and hes blaming me for everything in every little argument he do break-up wd me . He always say to me that leave me and i start's begging to him to not to leave me if i let him go . He will come back to me?💔💔😭
Thanks!
This means a lot thank you
Thx!! Can you do a video on how to respond or not to respond to flattery? This guy left me for his younger sons baby mama and texting me how he appreciates how awesome I am and ends his sentences in “❤”. It feels even more insulting and I’m holding my tongue because our sons are friends and so we stay in touch for this reason. Should I ignore it and continue texting like business only or should I tell him the hearts are inappropriate and make me uncomfortable?
I wouldn't read too much into it.
Fuck the heart emojis. This is so manipulative
Hakan C is advising you
@2:14... 1 out of 5 is why I'm here watching this instead of chilling with him 😅😢😅
Elliott, Another fantastic video. I would love to purchase your guide, is it available in hard copy?? I am old school and I really don't like to down load. I would be more than happy to send you the money. You are a superb coach!!!
What if the blindsided me and said he didn't see a future after planning to move to me
What about a guy ( he was all in) that ghosted after three beautiful dates but after the third date we had a misunderstanding? Will a man like that come back around?
But In another video u said if you have a lot of fight he is a weak guy and he's gonna come back!
I'm surprised you didn't go into the third option that men have. If her frame is so believable, he may just figure. Oh okay, it's over time to move on. I understand a lot of guys. Do exactly what you said this is true. However, there is a certain subset of men. That will just not really care all that much if they are done also It has nothing to do with framing. It has to do with acceptance. If a man accepts your frame then it doesn't really matter he moves on
how do you apply this to the situation in which you are both friends, but you want something more and the other person tells you they are in an exclusive relationship and can't be romantic with you, after giving a ton of mixed signals? wouldn't it be different since you never got in a relationship, tried and it failed, my lady friend is suffering so much right now and she"s gone NC for 6 days- I'm pretty sure he expects her to run and contact him first.....she really likes him....
Hello, Will you be able to suggest timelines when it is right to move in ?
@1:10 ... you've got my attention. Seems like this message is for me ✅️
Low quality men come back. Ladies, run, fast and far!!!
Looking good with someone else
He came back and said he like me and I'm a cool person. That's it? Wow k
Acting and playing games will never work ever
Me clicking off at the 28 second mark 😭😭
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Well he’s not coming back then lol I talked about him so bad when he left lmao
Men always come back
No, no, and no. I am way too busy for this sh!t. I have a life not a video rendering of what one should look like.
He didn't tell us the one thing to do waste of time
I literally did. Lack of comprehension skills
Good Lord it takes you 30 years to get to the damn point!
So if a man is a manipulator, he won’t return?
Oh no, he still might. That's what's called the "Hoover maneuver" lol.
He probably will. Don't allow it unless he's found Christ Jesus and he's sincere.
Awesome Elliot! Love from Julie in California.
Watch “The wedding singer” and “50 First Dates” Adam Sandler’s characteristic is how men should be treating you. If not, it’s time to kick rocks 🪨
But In another video u said if you have a lot of fight he is a weak guy and he's gonna come back!