@@terraneaux Not true at all and I'm sorry that's your takeaway from this. The point of this video is to tell guys "I hear you and I'm feeling it too". I wrote this originally as a poem to myself. But thanks for checking it out!
@@RealFeelsProject Someone else's comment on reddit about this video: "This is not a video about support, I'm honestly a little confused how you could think of it that way. Like, you talk about loneliness as...a jealous rage? While you are talking in the first person, presumably inhabiting this shared, empathetic headspace with the viewer, you point out how angry it must make them that another man "Has" that woman, language that you make clear in other videos is objectifying and wrong, and so therefore the mentality that you "get," that you're "empathizing" with is also wrong. You also say that getting a relationship is "hard work" and that if they got what they wanted they wouldn't be happy with it, they need to be "inspired to put themselves on the line". You're very clearly making the case that the reason that they're single is because they deserve to be. That they haven't grown enough yet, and that their loneliness is therefore childish. Like a kid who wants it to be Christmas every day. I get that you're trying to change the behaviour of men, but the tool you use in this video, and, I will say, in the video about objectification you posted a while back isn't support. It's shame." You've been swimming in toxic misandry/masculinity for so long that you can't imagine the idea that men don't deserve shame just for existing as men (and that women don't deserve to be lauded just for existing as women). Men are fed a constant diet of shame, told that their existence is a burden on the people around them they most atone for, and so on, basically from birth, and your solution is "guys just need a bit more shame and then they'll be happy with their lot!" It won't work, but it might get you attention from toxic women in your life by performing benevolent sexism/white knighting and psychological self-mutilation.
Bluntly, you don't get it. I'm not single but I have had my problems in the past. You're a feminist, so you're more likely to feel that seething, toxically masculine rage towards other men for existing and having female attention than the average guy. Most guys aren't blaming particular people (except possibly their parents and childhood authority figures for traumatizing them and socializing them poorly. They are mad at *society* and the social environment which says they are worthless, and the only way to have worth is to have female attention. The solution, of course, is to realize that attention from women doesn't mean anything in and of itself. That, however, is not a message that feminism will ever promote, because it involves telling women they aren't morally superior to men, their vaginas aren't magic, and they don't determine the moral value of men by how much attention they give them.
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 Bluntly, racists will frequently say they don't hate minority group x; they will say they just need them to accept the reality of their morally inferior nature. Feminists say the same thing about men. But we know what that really means, right?
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 Feminists have less regard for male well-being than the general population; they are more willing to see harm being done to male bodies than a random non-feminist person. So yes, it is about that, or else feminism has a lot of housecleaning to do. Looks like this channel thinks that links showing that data are verboten, however.
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 There really isn't any projection in the above comment. It shouldn't be news to you, but in case you didn't know: being a self-proclaimed feminist doesn't mean you actually care about dismantling gender roles or respecting consent. Harvey Weinstein was a self-proclaimed feminist, he even tried to use his previous philanthropic contributions to show he was an ally to women™. Seeing as you rushed to defend feminists in the most comically insincere manner possible, you seem to be cut from the same cloth as Harvey Weinstein.
This guy’s takes on so many things is so often wrong.
Would love to hear specific feedback!
Yeah no its nothing that deep i just really like being alone lol 😂
Just trying to hold some space for dudes who are in the single struggle
You're more interested in talking *at* men than having conversations with them, because you view other men as something fundamentally inferior.
Why are you deleting links pointing to research showing that feminists have *less* regard for male well-being than the general population?
@@terraneaux Not true at all and I'm sorry that's your takeaway from this. The point of this video is to tell guys "I hear you and I'm feeling it too". I wrote this originally as a poem to myself. But thanks for checking it out!
@@RealFeelsProject Someone else's comment on reddit about this video:
"This is not a video about support, I'm honestly a little confused how you could think of it that way.
Like, you talk about loneliness as...a jealous rage? While you are talking in the first person, presumably inhabiting this shared, empathetic headspace with the viewer, you point out how angry it must make them that another man "Has" that woman, language that you make clear in other videos is objectifying and wrong, and so therefore the mentality that you "get," that you're "empathizing" with is also wrong.
You also say that getting a relationship is "hard work" and that if they got what they wanted they wouldn't be happy with it, they need to be "inspired to put themselves on the line". You're very clearly making the case that the reason that they're single is because they deserve to be. That they haven't grown enough yet, and that their loneliness is therefore childish. Like a kid who wants it to be Christmas every day.
I get that you're trying to change the behaviour of men, but the tool you use in this video, and, I will say, in the video about objectification you posted a while back isn't support.
It's shame."
You've been swimming in toxic misandry/masculinity for so long that you can't imagine the idea that men don't deserve shame just for existing as men (and that women don't deserve to be lauded just for existing as women).
Men are fed a constant diet of shame, told that their existence is a burden on the people around them they most atone for, and so on, basically from birth, and your solution is "guys just need a bit more shame and then they'll be happy with their lot!"
It won't work, but it might get you attention from toxic women in your life by performing benevolent sexism/white knighting and psychological self-mutilation.
Bluntly, you don't get it. I'm not single but I have had my problems in the past. You're a feminist, so you're more likely to feel that seething, toxically masculine rage towards other men for existing and having female attention than the average guy. Most guys aren't blaming particular people (except possibly their parents and childhood authority figures for traumatizing them and socializing them poorly. They are mad at *society* and the social environment which says they are worthless, and the only way to have worth is to have female attention.
The solution, of course, is to realize that attention from women doesn't mean anything in and of itself. That, however, is not a message that feminism will ever promote, because it involves telling women they aren't morally superior to men, their vaginas aren't magic, and they don't determine the moral value of men by how much attention they give them.
Sounds like you are trying to project something. It shouldn't be news to you, but in case you didn't know: Feminism is not about hating men.
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 Bluntly, racists will frequently say they don't hate minority group x; they will say they just need them to accept the reality of their morally inferior nature. Feminists say the same thing about men. But we know what that really means, right?
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 Feminists have less regard for male well-being than the general population; they are more willing to see harm being done to male bodies than a random non-feminist person. So yes, it is about that, or else feminism has a lot of housecleaning to do. Looks like this channel thinks that links showing that data are verboten, however.
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 There really isn't any projection in the above comment. It shouldn't be news to you, but in case you didn't know: being a self-proclaimed feminist doesn't mean you actually care about dismantling gender roles or respecting consent. Harvey Weinstein was a self-proclaimed feminist, he even tried to use his previous philanthropic contributions to show he was an ally to women™. Seeing as you rushed to defend feminists in the most comically insincere manner possible, you seem to be cut from the same cloth as Harvey Weinstein.
@@schonlingg.wunderbar2985 Yes it is because it blames all men's problems on men. The whole thing is pure gaslighting.