Ruining my life gave me hope as well after dealing with covert religious narcissists. I followed Dr. Ramani for 2 years and she woke me up to what the heck I was experiencing. thanks for sharing
same of me I was in religious Covert narc for so long ,without my knowledge that he is narcissist when he almost drain me up 😢thankfully I able to survive it
Don’t blame yourself, from experience I am here to tell you covert on my opinion are the most hard one to spot , I don’t know about the religious one but I can immagine , much love
Another way a narc controls time is how the time is spent is what the narc wants all the time. Most of the time its fun so you dont mind but they dont like to go out of their way for you or if the help you ask for won't garner up any supply or its not image worthy. They will be late for any activity or event thats important to you. They will include you in their life enough to make you think you're a part of it but if you observe they pick and choose where they want you placed like a game piece.
I noticed the narc began to just "keep me around" while they did things in their house. I got confused like, why am I here? Why did you invite me over to ignore me while you're clearly busy? I eventually just ghosted and never talked to them again. It was so weird and I have no desire to argue or explain their BS to them.
Great conversation. It is incredible to see this topic becoming so mainstream. I'd like to see some discussion about the relationship between this abuse, complex trauma and addiction, suicide and other tragic deaths
Never met more evil in my life then the x narc. The amount of pain and trauma this evil b* caused me in 12 months is more then my 51 years in this earth. Pure evil
Yessss, slow burn... It's like as you are faced with the facts... You have no choice but to take on the painful truth that you have to let go of somebody you loved because they are abusive and not going to change.
Approach avoidance is one thing I learned big time! Thank you so much Dr. Ramani! Your knowledge sharing and videos have saved me from two narcissistic relationships. The last one was extremely brief and I picked on the signs EARLY
Just amazing listening to Dr. Ramani go through the list... I was told when I would talk about my problems that I was "dumping on him" that he is not my dumpster… when I had a list of stuff I had written out to talk about (because that's the way he would talk about stuff only if I wrote it out first) said it sounded like I was giving myself a pity party.... I'm really trying to forgive myself still for lowering my standard So so far below what I knew I wanted and what I knew I needed and kept asking for but kept getting denied...so ridiculous. I would keep trying and trying, but he played on that too and told me every time I would break up with him that I just gave up and that's why I was divorced twice. I would remind him that he had never been married so at least I had tried... One of the moments I would actually stand up for myself... But I was told to "stop trying to wear the pants in the relationship" ..UGH. I cringe when I think back to some of these things that I would walk away from so fast now.. Freaking Neglectful lazy d-bag.
Dr Ramani is amazing literally saving my sanity … 2 months fresh out of a relationship with a narcissist and she is really helping me with my healing journey .. forever grateful
I became aware in 2016. I am only now ending it. We meet in 2012. I’m going to be 60 in July. PLEASE DON’T RUIN YOUR YOUNG LIVES! You have the Internet now! TEACH YOURSELVES AND HEAL!!! My so called Boomer generation is at a huge disadvantage but I’m hoping I can find happiness these last 20odd trades of my life left on earth
I became aware in 2010 🤷🏿♀️ they were trolling me on twitter about my privacy with taunting posts about having dirty feet then over 10 years later tried the same thing on ig & got called out for it 🤷🏿♀️ I have no regrets for not dealing with people who insult me. Idc what A list celeb they run to for help or what D list celeb they use to mimic me ✌🏿the broke Ravarieres are nothing but opportunists who are bitter because they dropped out of college & didn’t get the American Dream
Actually no I lied 😢 I became aware in 2013 after I had both my kids & moved to NY. Btw I was struggling while they were hacking my phones & making posts on ig about me having dirty feet & being a single mom. Ironically Tankhead tells a fake story about Rihanna recording in his studio with dirty feet then ironically again Akil Ravariere makes a post behind Justin LA blog about washing dirty feet before getting in his bed 🤷🏿♀️ like I said they are broke opportunists who dropped out of college & refused to make an honest living for themselves. They are complete weirdos who anyone should stay away from & nobody better not ever come around playing in my face again on their behalf & attaching my life story to them. Idgaf who they ran to so they could clout chase ✌🏿 ISWIS & there’s no insult you could say about me that would hit harder than being an obsessed delusional stalker
There is no such thing as unconscious behavior at a narcissist! They know exactly what they’re doing all the time! How to know that? When they behave different between people and situations!
Such i dont know what is exactly, kindness, and empathy reasons and clearly never planning for me. And, narc boss can such a over the salad of decade relationship right now. When narc boss he was something was forever of married and limerently like of empathize manipulation of scums. Lexia I tried to hopefully movies in a theatres of Ghostbusters Frozen Empire. And do this movie was limerented? He can penalty, overcheating the relationship again!!! And/or on air relations. I complication the bacon of narc boss deal to without it. I really actual the finite of relationships to surprisingly perspective and I unlikely fish market again. When I never planning discarded to I had no longer make the therapist rage anymore to probably start the whole of therapist!!! I NEVER THERAPY ANYMORE. I ALWAYS DISCARDED. Thankyou I Appreciation With It.
We’re all by now really well aware of nars and toxic ones over all…. Now! Where’s the place to go to start healing? …We don’t need at this point to learn more about those of any form of toxic going on… … most important right now… how and where can we survivors go to start healing? Thank you Karen in west palm beach Fl
It's interesting.You said sometimes we stay in a relationship for safety.I'm curious what you mean by that... Because I personally experienced the feeling of being unsafe once I left the relationship which is what led to me running back several times... I felt like he was the only one I was safe with-- which is so ridiculous when he was the 1 abusing & manipulating me.
Have you ever seen someone oscillate between vulnerable and grandiose or malignant and also display traits from the other categories because that's what I'm finding as you describe them... Vulnerable neglectful, grandiose. And. Self-righteous for sure. I see traits from all of them in my ex.
Dr Ramani has brushed on that topic in her videos and podcast episodes. How I've come to understand it is that "normal" or healthy ways of communicating and solving problems do not work in relationships where there's narcissistic abuse.. Narcissists don't see a need to change their ways.
Can you make a video about people who don’t move on & drag out the dumbest most irrelevant things? Say example a woman compliments a man then over time he abuses her consistently to change her outlook on him totally so he tries to remind her of an outdated compliment to spark some feelings of guilt or empathy 🤔 what do you call this absurd behavior? Please note it doesn’t just happen in romantic relationships either
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Ruining my life gave me hope as well after dealing with covert religious narcissists. I followed Dr. Ramani for 2 years and she woke me up to what the heck I was experiencing. thanks for sharing
same of me I was in religious Covert narc for so long ,without my knowledge that he is narcissist when he almost drain me up 😢thankfully I able to survive it
Don’t blame yourself, from experience I am here to tell you covert on my opinion are the most hard one to spot , I don’t know about the religious one but I can immagine , much love
I believe in the God of miracles and they can change. God can help them.
Thank you for helping educate society about Narcissistic Abuse with the GOAT, Dr. Ramani. Spreading the word is key to avoiding these types of people!
Dr. Ramani rock and rolls. With insight and truth z
Another way a narc controls time is how the time is spent is what the narc wants all the time. Most of the time its fun so you dont mind but they dont like to go out of their way for you or if the help you ask for won't garner up any supply or its not image worthy. They will be late for any activity or event thats important to you. They will include you in their life enough to make you think you're a part of it but if you observe they pick and choose where they want you placed like a game piece.
I noticed the narc began to just "keep me around" while they did things in their house. I got confused like, why am I here? Why did you invite me over to ignore me while you're clearly busy? I eventually just ghosted and never talked to them again. It was so weird and I have no desire to argue or explain their BS to them.
Great conversation. It is incredible to see this topic becoming so mainstream. I'd like to see some discussion about the relationship between this abuse, complex trauma and addiction, suicide and other tragic deaths
Never met more evil in my life then the x narc. The amount of pain and trauma this evil b* caused me in 12 months is more then my 51 years in this earth. Pure evil
Yessss, slow burn... It's like as you are faced with the facts... You have no choice but to take on the painful truth that you have to let go of somebody you loved because they are abusive and not going to change.
25:59 definitions
31:29 erratic grandiose
31:55 narc abuse
32:52 fallout
34:14 phenomenon
46:29 generational
50:04 how they’re made
51:47 kids needs
55:04 inconsistent
59:27 empathic kids
1:01:43 fawn response
1:03:44 relationship dynamic
1:06:12 who do you love them?
1:09:37 don’t let chemistry blind
1:11:45 soothing
1:12:30 their hurtful jokes
1:13:10 narc parents
1:15:18 empathy vs entitlement
1:17:02 entitlement is core
1:18:19 processing for others
1:19:59 safety trauma bonds
1:21:31 gray rocking
1:28:11 they want you to react
1:29:52 picking battles
1:31:30 survivor
1:33:56 you make them threatened
1:36:31 dating red flags
1:41:17 future faking
1:43:38 attachment styles
1:45:16 self help
1:45:53 grief
1:47:30 it’s not you
1:50:00 radical acceptance
1:51:14 trusting
Approach avoidance is one thing I learned big time! Thank you so much Dr. Ramani! Your knowledge sharing and videos have saved me from two narcissistic relationships. The last one was extremely brief and I picked on the signs EARLY
Just amazing listening to Dr. Ramani go through the list... I was told when I would talk about my problems that I was "dumping on him" that he is not my dumpster… when I had a list of stuff I had written out to talk about (because that's the way he would talk about stuff only if I wrote it out first) said it sounded like I was giving myself a pity party.... I'm really trying to forgive myself still for lowering my standard
So so far below what I knew I wanted and what I knew I needed and kept asking for but kept getting denied...so ridiculous. I would keep trying and trying, but he played on that too and told me every time I would break up with him that I just gave up and that's why I was divorced twice. I would remind him that he had never been married so at least I had tried... One of the moments I would actually stand up for myself... But I was told to "stop trying to wear the pants in the relationship" ..UGH. I cringe when I think back to some of these things that I would walk away from so fast now.. Freaking Neglectful lazy d-bag.
God! There is beauty in the way u speak.. and I am talking about the host of this show... i am not yet talking about the greatness of Dr. Ramani.
Ramani is clarifying so much for me!... wow. Thank you
Wow this was such a good listen! Life changing. Thank you ❤
So glad!
I like the idea of "chemistry" as a red flag. 🚩
Lovely Dr. RAMANI from CAPE TOWN SOUTH AFRICA Renche Marais
Be sure to have a paper and pen available to take notes. Sos much in this interview.
I was aware of love bombing, I had no idea that I should also look for bombing in a friendship. Now I know.
Definitely love bombing in friendships
Dr Ramani is amazing literally saving my sanity … 2 months fresh out of a relationship with a narcissist and she is really helping me with my healing journey .. forever grateful
I became aware in 2016. I am only now ending it. We meet in 2012. I’m going to be 60 in July.
PLEASE DON’T RUIN YOUR YOUNG LIVES! You have the Internet now! TEACH YOURSELVES AND HEAL!!!
My so called Boomer generation is at a huge disadvantage but I’m hoping I can find happiness these last 20odd trades of my life left on earth
Agree .. 40 yrs ago I thought they were just selfish AHoles wow and I thought my husband was bi polar ..
I became aware in 2010 🤷🏿♀️ they were trolling me on twitter about my privacy with taunting posts about having dirty feet then over 10 years later tried the same thing on ig & got called out for it 🤷🏿♀️ I have no regrets for not dealing with people who insult me. Idc what A list celeb they run to for help or what D list celeb they use to mimic me ✌🏿the broke Ravarieres are nothing but opportunists who are bitter because they dropped out of college & didn’t get the American Dream
Actually no I lied 😢 I became aware in 2013 after I had both my kids & moved to NY. Btw I was struggling while they were hacking my phones & making posts on ig about me having dirty feet & being a single mom. Ironically Tankhead tells a fake story about Rihanna recording in his studio with dirty feet then ironically again Akil Ravariere makes a post behind Justin LA blog about washing dirty feet before getting in his bed 🤷🏿♀️ like I said they are broke opportunists who dropped out of college & refused to make an honest living for themselves. They are complete weirdos who anyone should stay away from & nobody better not ever come around playing in my face again on their behalf & attaching my life story to them. Idgaf who they ran to so they could clout chase ✌🏿 ISWIS & there’s no insult you could say about me that would hit harder than being an obsessed delusional stalker
There is no such thing as unconscious behavior at a narcissist! They know exactly what they’re doing all the time!
How to know that? When they behave different between people and situations!
Such i dont know what is exactly, kindness, and empathy reasons and clearly never planning for me. And, narc boss can such a over the salad of decade relationship right now. When narc boss he was something was forever of married and limerently like of empathize manipulation of scums. Lexia I tried to hopefully movies in a theatres of Ghostbusters Frozen Empire. And do this movie was limerented?
He can penalty, overcheating the relationship again!!! And/or on air relations. I complication the bacon of narc boss deal to without it. I really actual the finite of relationships to surprisingly perspective and I unlikely fish market again. When I never planning discarded to I had no longer make the therapist rage anymore to probably start the whole of therapist!!! I NEVER THERAPY ANYMORE. I ALWAYS DISCARDED. Thankyou I Appreciation With It.
We’re all by now really well aware of nars and toxic ones over all…. Now! Where’s the place to go to start healing?
…We don’t need at this point to learn more about those of any form of toxic going on…
… most important right now… how and where can we survivors go to start healing?
Thank you
Karen in west palm beach Fl
It's interesting.You said sometimes we stay in a relationship for safety.I'm curious what you mean by that... Because I personally experienced the feeling of being unsafe once I left the relationship which is what led to me running back several times... I felt like he was the only one I was safe with-- which is so ridiculous when he was the 1 abusing & manipulating me.
Wow, it's like you described my ex -crazy to find that someone else had a pretty identical experience.
Have you ever seen someone oscillate between vulnerable and grandiose or malignant and also display traits from the other categories because that's what I'm finding as you describe them... Vulnerable neglectful, grandiose. And. Self-righteous for sure. I see traits from all of them in my ex.
I would like to hear more about Dr R. take on The Gottman method and narcissism
Dr Ramani has brushed on that topic in her videos and podcast episodes. How I've come to understand it is that "normal" or healthy ways of communicating and solving problems do not work in relationships where there's narcissistic abuse.. Narcissists don't see a need to change their ways.
OMG it got real when you said machu picchu
Yes!!! Because the vulnerable narcissist can hide behind a keyboard to gather his supply...
26:51
Dr ramani you have been my superpower for the last three years. Now I'm starting to feel that power on my own. You changed my life❤
Does this make me a narcissist?
Can you make a video about people who don’t move on & drag out the dumbest most irrelevant things? Say example a woman compliments a man then over time he abuses her consistently to change her outlook on him totally so he tries to remind her of an outdated compliment to spark some feelings of guilt or empathy 🤔 what do you call this absurd behavior? Please note it doesn’t just happen in romantic relationships either
I appreciate the content , not appreciated though having you tube premium and still having to put up with so much advertising 👎
??? You said all boomers are narcissists? Cmon
I am codependant
Yes!!! Because the vulnerable narcissist can hide behind a keyboard to gather his supply...
Yes!!! Because the vulnerable narcissist can hide behind a keyboard to gather his supply...